For my fellow introverts out there: Just find an introverted girl that you vibe with. Someone you can be alone with. And someone you can be weird with.
Yeah honestly I’m an introverted girl and I feel like if I saw a guy come into a room and he was loud and talked to everyone and took up a lot of space when he was standing, I would not be interested. Just be yourself and I’m sure eventually you will find the right person for you. Edit: by be yourself I mean just don’t be creepy and don’t be a jerk
Summery: Step one: Exhibit value *Social proof *Confident Step two: Exhibit desire *Tell her that you find her attractive *Touch her Step three: non-neediness *Abundance mindset(knowing that you have other options available)
This right here is exactly what I've been doing. I have this feeling deep inside that my time to date anyone isn't now, I need to work on myself and THEN the right girl will come along. If she doesn't then at least I'll be happy of where I am in life and I'll be happy about who I am.
As a girl, I can confirm this is scarily accurate. Especially the touch part is very important for us, but not at the beggining. When you get to know a girl you can SLOWLY incorporate little forms of touch, and she will be crazy over you.
Hey also a girl here, a ton of the videos like this are BS this is the closest to accurate. But I think it’s on a gray zone…Some of it is wrong like how talking to a lot of girls will get you them. That’s just wrong! Don’t just talk to us to use us or get a gf easily. We know when you’re getting desperate trying to find a partner.
Honestly, this side of RUclips is weird for girls. You’ll see guys commenting about how girls have it so much better, how they can easily get a boyfriend. I’ve actually realized how confusing girls are, and I’m a girl.
I know how you feel. And I plan on changing that now. All you have to do is start talking to people. At first it will be extremely hard, and you may fail and be rejected. But if you keep doing it despite this, it will eventually get easier for you. The more you do anything the easier it gets. You can do it bro.
I mean, as much as this sounds like it should work, you need to understand that no two girls are the same and this *will not* work with everyone. Even if you make yourself desirable that doesn't automatically mean that the girl you like will like you back. It certainly works sometimes, but don't rely on this completely.
@@andrecarcausto2740 Changing yourself for what one girl find attractive is the problem. Changing yourself to be an overall better person is not a problem
That’s interesting. i love quiet people, people who standout and someone who doesn’t try to blend in with others. He’s different, like a fresh breath of air.
Suyokida Discipline creates freedom. They are way more people who don't know what their passions are than those who do,hence,they need to be disciplinary to reach their goal.
The best thing is to work on loving yourself and becoming the best version of yourself and being patient. That way you'll attract the right girl for you. All these tips may work but you may not get the right girl and she'll leave you after some time.
Simple. Just be different from everyone else. You don't have to dress the same, act the same, listen to the same music, etc just be your own person. Be the odd one out, even if you still end up single, the right one will come along. Be patient and be unique. Who cares what others say about you,. You got this, hang in there 👍
XweienX the story is not over there.. he could have spent 30 more minutes on say what you should do and what you shouldnt do. be yourself is very helpful tip if person who tells it knows how to back it up correctly.
XweienX What's the point of having a girlfriend who doesn't like the real you. Let say you make a very good first impression to her and she thinks you're pretty good, and when she really gets to know you. She probably won't like you. If you act like another person and she actually marry you. She probably will want a divorce since you're not what she thinks you are. If you just be yourself, you will get a girlfriend who will love you for a very long time.
Lavish Krish okay be extremely extroverted got it. Are girls not attracted to the guys who take time to think instead of just running their mouth about things they hardly know anything about?
This is really incredible. Watching this video explains to me 100% why I was rejected by this one girl I was sweet on for over a year. I constantly tried to do things or say things that she would appreciate. I was always there whenever she invited me over to her house. I tried to spend as much time with her as possible, to the point where my everyday was spent thinking of ways I could increase the interactions, and when we were together, I would again be too focused on acting a way that she might like. I bought her gifts for no reason. I was always texting her and trying to get reactions. Until one day, just a few weeks ago, I decided to ask her out, and I was placed firmly in the friendzone. Now I know why! Yay me!
Thanks dude for these videos. For years I've been too scared to even talk to girls, I've had depression for long periods of time. With all your tipps it seems possible for the first time for me to actually overcome my fears and anxieties and hopefully achieve happiness someday. I'm done feeling helpless, from now on I will start working on myself daily and improving little by little. It will probably take months before I get some success but I think I found my fighting spirit again. I'm also on the nofap challenge right now.
This is so true. Whenever a girl starts trying to reach out to me and I like her I never show the desire for her and take too long to the point where she stop giving effort on her part. I always keep second guessing my self and wait for things to happen when I am the one that needs to make things happen
I agree as well. I've made the mistake of taking too long in showing desire for a girl and when I finally did I was already placed in the no/friend zone. So I get it
*Be confident in who you are, but don’t be afraid to show vulnerability. When she sees that you’re comfortable in your own skin, it’ll make her feel more at ease with you.*
Oh, I suppose you have the proper psychology degree and research findings to back up your pretentious head-in-the-ass OPINION? Thanks for showing us how much of an egotistical douchebag you are.
I finally found out what my issue is in love. I'm always the needy guy and had no idea. I see why those girls don't really like me now. Thanks for this video. I learned a lot from it. I have been trying also talking to multiple women because I've been in many situations where I would talk to one out of respect for that girl but then she would just immediately walk right into another trashy mans' hands. Every time she did me this way too. I tell her I want to hang out and she will say maybe then put me off and ignore saying no a week later with a new horrible boyfriend who she later had her heart broken by. I'm sure she's still walking around the internet just being a...(not going to say that...you can figure that out for yourself).
from a 13 y/o girl (saying this makes me feel young whoa): guy who i may or may not like rn: • makes me laugh • laughs. • makes up random stories for fun (kidnapping toddlers and curb stomping them? it’s gruesome and sad but please note that these are late night convos) • says my name when talking to me. he doesn’t even need to. he just does. • asks me out in a joking tone. i asked him and his friend to give me their best pick up lines and i should’ve recorded it but eh. it was fun. he talks to probably a lot of other girls for fun at night with his friends. so it’s not a personal thing. but it’s still fun. im a quiet person and always get nervous whenever someone talks to me. in the first few minutes of talking on call with him and his 1-2 friends i always shake. i’m learning. and talking more. they were like my social exercise before school starts. we haven’t been calling for the past like 5 days cuz i’ve been going to bed earlier. they were inviting me to their calls for a few nights but now i guess they’ve figured out that i don’t respond these days. nights. i kinda liked them when i was 10-11. referencing to this vid, they’ve probably always been in the maybe zone. ANYWAY school starts tomorrow and it’s the LAST DAY OF THE SUMMER. IM GONNA GO LIVE. BYE EVERYONE, HOPE U HAVE A WONDERFUL LIFE
As a girl someone who talks to everybody makes me not want to be friends with and the guy with a lot of confidence just makes me mad for some reason cause usually those kinda people be bullying other people A way to make a girl like you is make it clear that you’re interested in her and only her but give her space and make her feel like she’s respected at least
hey man if you are introverted (im really introverted btw) you need to force yourself nad bring up the energy to talk more, and this way you learn how to properly talk to anyone. Its okay to be insecure about the things you say in social situation because im pretty sure everyone is a bit insecure when meeting someone new. so its important for you to keep in mind that if you act interested in a persons life they will like you and you will thus get more confident with talking. in the end your goal should be to be able to confidently say to yourself: yeah im a bit shy but you know thats just me and ive accepted it but its not gonna stop me from getting out there and talking to people because in the end if someone doesnt like me its fine there are always others who will like me and be interested in me
@@Scyborg832 right, you've gotta be a party guy, because she's a 5 year old child, and it's YOUR sole job to entertain her, because she's not grown and perfectly capable of doing that herself or anything.
wow i am really impressed with this video! I tried every step showed here and what you would expect! i was completely shut down from all of my social circle for being a weirdo! thank you Improvement Phill for your great ideas!
I see why I always end up coming across as needy. I don’t get crushes very often, but when I do I’ll dedicate my resources, if you will, to that person and try to spend time with them. So when it gets busy I always tend to try to cling to that first feeling I got when I began talking to that person, and try to keep that going, and I can see why it’s not only exhausting but also creepy too. I’ll heed this advice and try to expand my horizons in the future so when I do finally meet someone again, hopefully I won’t scare them off like I always manage to do.
hey, im not a girl but im a gay guy, and me and my girl friends stand by what im about to say- we dont care about all this stuff. confidence is attractive yeah, and excessive neediness isnt healthy, but you guys think WAY too much about this. literally just have a conversation with us. care about what we have to say. you dont have to try to act "alpha" to turn us on. just treat us like normal people, fr.
thank you! i hate that these videos reinforce the idea on boys that dating is like a game and women are prizes. its so much simpler. its just love and sex jeez
Wow..... This makes so much sense a girl liked me she thought i was awesome person because i have a lot of friends, and people generally like me because i'm a nice person. But what i was lacking was confidence with new people i've never talked to and didn't know what to say. Eventually this led to neediness through text and i messed everything up I: Now she hates me. But i learned from my mistakes haha
Why is everyone here so negative, you can do it guys. It's up to you most of the time, what you do is what will decide what happens. Especially change.
Us guys are easy to get. To catch a guy's heart, you have to give the vibe to him that "for you hun, and only you, i can be slutty forever" attitude. But just be careful though, don't make him jealous with other guys around because it would make it look like you are all over guys like a playa. No one likes players / playas
Damn. I was looking at guys who has sucess with girls and i just could not find what. But you video made it clear for me, i know guys that are ugly, not rich, and still they have plenty of friends and woman. The way they act and the way they look makes them seem to be of more value. This value is probably a mind set right? Because, today's values are different of the past and ''natural values''. Probably a biological thing
+TheGcaston It's about the mindset of having success and seeing yourself a success before it happens. I've seen how girls get so horny on whenever Vegeta from DBZ anime starts going on about his pride and dreams.
I guess I'm weird because all of these things turn me off big time (showing off status, having superfluous small talks, acting like a macho). I hate arrogant guys. Arrogance is not the same as confidence but there's a VERY thin line. I like rather introverted, intelligent and compassionate guys who actually think before they speak, and I love a great sense of humor. And I love when they know what they want in life and go for it, as long as it's meaningful. They know their own value and don't feel the need to put others down = confident. I found the last part of the video very interesting and accurate!
so you are saying if you see your girl flirt with someone else, you just leave her immediately and search for another girl without questioning her. Because thats asking Validation. and thats needy...
This is the real method that works. I haven't tried it but i can feel it that it works especially high value staff like social proof and confidence. thats like the foundation. when you have build that foundation make your move faster and remember don't be needy
Alright i'm only 15 and I probably don't know everything but what I can share is my personal experience. Everybody likes a confident person that can get along with people. I know most people are like oh they don't like me, girls only like douche bags, attractive guys, football players whatever. Although yes you could be the most attractive person ever. However your personality and the way you are is what ends up determining your types of friends or relationships with people. Think of it like this you see a really tasty looking cupcake and want it really bad and once you take a bite you see how it really is and you either say wow this is really good or I was wrong this cupcake actually sucks!. (although not every girl is the same) most girls would prefer a confident nice guy instead. I'm the type of person that when I walk to school I get lots of people saying hi to me. I'm not saying i'm popular i'm just saying that people like me because of the way I project myself towards others and people feel comfortable around me. Talk to many people and be friends with them everyone is different and has something interesting about them listen to them and make eye contact ( not for ever though cause it can be creepy ha ha) and show that your interested. Nobody would like it if they are saying something important to you and your not paying attention!. Also just because i'm friends with someone that's really popular doesn't mean i'm not going to say hello or treat the less liked people or gumpy kids in a bad way. (like the quiet shy kid in your class or the awkward person) This is probably how I built up my social skills and confidence ( I'm not the most confident person ever but I am confident in myself to the point were I'm not afraid to talk to strangers or bring my girlfriend flowers and gifts like today for valentines day). If your trying to get a girl get to know her like as your best friend, laugh have fun, spend time together, talk about things you both enjoy, respect her, and treat her well and work your way up to a relationship after. Don't just walk up to a girl and ask them if you want to be my girlfriend or something stupid. She's going to perceive you as some weirdo and probably not want to talk to you or be scared of you (most of the time not all people come will be like that:P) Also If you really want a girlfriend don't do it just to smash or have sex as the main reason for it. If that's what you want you know there's other people for that. If you made it this far thanks for reading and I hope this helped you somewhat :)
(I’m a girl) I watched this video to see if it’s true and almost everything is except the first one in my opinion. When I see a guy who has a lot of friends I almost never even look at that guy because i feel like a person who has many friends can’t really be trusted. There is more chance for me to look at a guy who is a bit of an outsider, because it’s more interesting to me and i feel like they have a story to tell.
GeekyNerd Right?? The worst thing is that people judge you so bad because of it. I mean just cus they fall for a hot fuckboy with no personality whatsoever
I have a friend who started dating a tall, handsome boy. Like everyone was jealous of her, even me. But then it turned out that he is a control freak and dates "weaker" girls so it's easy to control them. Then he broke up with my friend and started dating her cousin. Later she told me about how it really was in that relationship. Since that have I never been attracted to fuckboys. I want a kind, loving boyfriend and for the most part its often the nerds who are like that. I have just learned that it's the personality that matters the most. Btw nerds who everyone thinks are ugly can I find kinda cute and attractive so I have no problem with dating nerds. I'm also a nerd so it would be perfect for me ;)
dude, i have a crush and i always think " how to get the girl to like me " and this video appear and help me to repair my personality..... thanks man👍👍
I just stick around in a friend-zone for a few reasons: a) she has a cute friend(s) for me to meet (the main reason) b) genuinely like her company as just a friend (yes, it is possible for a guy and girl to be friends) c) get girl advice (usually girls suck at giving advice about other girls though)
This is a girl watching this: alot of girls r gonna be intimidated by a guy that seems over confident and is surrounded by ppl. Girls often feel like guys only like super confident girls that r super funny and can entertain the guy. So never just try and act all tough and cool cuz that’s just gonna make the girl feel threatend or like u don’t care. Just be nice to her, joke a little bit, make her feel wanted. If she doesn’t like u, just be her friend. Be there for her if she needs u. Haw deep conversations. Dude don’t focus on urself, focus on her.
This is madness. Would it kill women to start asking out men? From where I come from, young guys are terrified of taking the first step these days because of MeToo.
Comrade Bear Did you also forget that some girls have social anxiety and are afraid of rejection too? You guys always look at us as this overly confident species where we can get whatever we want. No, we get rejected, asking a guy out scare us and can be very hard for a lot of us, and some of us can be very insecure and self doubt ourselves so we don’t have the confidence to do it anyways. I know a lot of females actually who make the first move. But it doesn’t matter. Making the first move shouldn’t be depicted on your gender. If you like a girl, ask her out. If a women likes a guy then she should ask them out. I know that’s what you were indicating in your comment but I know a lot of females that have made the first move or that are trying to make the first mood. It’s not always the males
because of the social pressure men put on themselves none of this video is even accurate lmao, just be an authentic and caring person and we’ll like you lol
@@eeviefm I disagree, from my experience I feel like most of the information in this video is correct. A girl will in general only approach a guy like that when she is attracted to him (so he's attractive or wealthy etc). However, once that has happened personality, authenticity and compassion are definitely important. All relationships I've had weren't because I was approached, it was always me taking the first step, and if I hadn't I wouldn't have been in any relationship
Most videos like this sell some straight BS but this one is great! Adding girls to your friend group helps a lot in my experience. I don't have a girlfriend but now I can acknowledge what exactly I want from a relationship, and removing neediness/tunnel vision has helped me focus on many more important things in life.
Yup exactly usually the main reason we struggle is because we are intimidated or just afraid of potential rejection. Definitely is bad to ever ask someone out if you barely know her but if you and her have had some convos from time to time and she seems interested go for it. However, if you and her have become closer friends than asking her out will get you friendzoned
OK, so the reason why you are put in the friend zone is that she has a fixed idea of you as a friend. Someone who is nice, generally agrees with what she says, buys her things, lets her take control and make decisions, etc. The qualities of a friend. What you need to do is to change her idea of you. The easiest way to do that is to start working out if you don't already. Start touching her more (in a playful way). Maybe pull back a bit and don't reply to every text/facebook message. Valuing your time is important, you don't have to drop everything just because she says so. Have a backbone. Have a set of fixed values and morals that you are not willing to budge on. Start taking control and saying "Let's go here" instead of asking "where do you want to go?" You need to transition from friend material into boyfriend material. Then when you think she's started seeing you differently, leave a pause in the conversation but maintain eye contact and confidently go for the kiss. If she pulls away, say something like "sorry, I couldn't help it because you're so beautiful" and move on. But be aware that girls will test you and sometimes, they will say "let's just be friends" to see what your reaction will be. If you want to, you can screw with her and reply "I agree, why should we ruin this great friendship?" or even "I agree. Hey, I don't have to be attracted to every girl I know, right?" if you really want to screw with her. Also be aware that sometimes you just can't change a girl's idea of you and it is a lot easier to find a new girl and start over than it is to change how a girl sees you. However, it's not impossible.
ok i finished the video and um, yeah you will get A girl (tinder dates, random ppl) with these tricks, but you will not get THE girl (someone you genuinely care about) with them. sure you might have some fun with her, but you cannot hack your way into a girl's heart.
The thing is, befriending everyone etc is just really shallow and superficial. You'll lose yourself, trying to befriend everyone. I know girls will like it, but to me, the most important thing is confidence. You can only truly BE confident, instead of ACTING confident, if you are truly yourself.
"There is no better way to show a girl you desire her than to touch her" yes officer this video right here
😂😂😂😂😂😂
@@springtrap1796 wtf that's awkward af
@@myrez_ I'd rather be in an awkward situation that be in a jail cell lmao
@@PapiChuIo I don't think I'll be in jail for touching someone's shoulder
@@springtrap1796 That is creepy, like "can I touch you?" wtf man
'TOUCH IS VERY IMPORTANT IN GETTING INTO THE YES CATEGORY" it is also very important into getting into the restraining order category.
Candy works as well
Charles Mao-Rappell yuuuuup
Lmao yeah
Yeah like getting in jail.
Haha 😂 and depending where you touch her you might just get into the "sexual assault" category.
How I get a girl
1. Become friends
2. Become a best friend
3. Become her boyfriend
4. Wake up
@@jjoliv18 hahaha love you
@@jjoliv18
Hahah friend zoning
Can't I just not complete Step 4 this time?
4. *Get friendzone*
*watch as your 1000 hours of your life went down the drain*
😂😂 same 😅
For my fellow introverts out there:
Just find an introverted girl that you vibe with. Someone you can be alone with. And someone you can be weird with.
Oh, okay. I'll just do that, then.
Easier said then done, innit?
Ooh, might be under a rock
I'm an extrovert in love with an introvert. My chances were lost the moment I met them anyways so whatever.
Yeah honestly I’m an introverted girl and I feel like if I saw a guy come into a room and he was loud and talked to everyone and took up a lot of space when he was standing, I would not be interested. Just be yourself and I’m sure eventually you will find the right person for you. Edit: by be yourself I mean just don’t be creepy and don’t be a jerk
Summery:
Step one: Exhibit value
*Social proof
*Confident
Step two: Exhibit desire
*Tell her that you find her attractive
*Touch her
Step three: non-neediness
*Abundance mindset(knowing that you have other options available)
Thanks alot man.
Yeah being desperate will annoy boys and girls. Need to do it in moderation
Summary
How to get a girlfriend
Its a simple three step process
People in wheelchairs: 😔
Johhny joestar:
@@milkywaythecommenter3369 r/unexpected jojo
bro 🤣😭
This video is about get a gf. This video about girl like u
*cries in disabled*
Best thing you can do is just focus on yourself and your financial situation and be yourself at all times
Amen to that 🙏👍
Best comment 👌 1,000,000% agree with you on that one.
The perfect suggestion here..
Unless of course, you're a complete moron, in which case changing yourself would be preferable.
This right here is exactly what I've been doing. I have this feeling deep inside that my time to date anyone isn't now, I need to work on myself and THEN the right girl will come along. If she doesn't then at least I'll be happy of where I am in life and I'll be happy about who I am.
As a girl, I can confirm this is scarily accurate.
Especially the touch part is very important for us, but not at the beggining. When you get to know a girl you can SLOWLY incorporate little forms of touch, and she will be crazy over you.
Hey also a girl here, a ton of the videos like this are BS this is the closest to accurate. But I think it’s on a gray zone…Some of it is wrong like how talking to a lot of girls will get you them. That’s just wrong! Don’t just talk to us to use us or get a gf easily.
We know when you’re getting desperate trying to find a partner.
@@soup_sarah8590 Gotta agree with that, using others to get another is a bad thing.
ok, worst part is when.
worth mentioning that only works if there’s some attraction there. you won’t go crazy over it if the guy is ugly.
how do you touch anyone without being weird?
How to get a boy to like you.
Be a girl
Be alive
Done
why do you need to be a girl?
Are you saying only girls can have boyfriends?
@@Jollyjose251 My comment isn't that serious either chill I know he's just joking hahah
Chinxize4 because that’d be gay
@@A_Random_Rat lol that's the point
I'm a girl why am I even watching this
@@wesleyp3024 same 😂😂😂. I do be curious
Honestly, this side of RUclips is weird for girls. You’ll see guys commenting about how girls have it so much better, how they can easily get a boyfriend. I’ve actually realized how confusing girls are, and I’m a girl.
I'm a boy . I want to ask does these really works?
@@sm1pindwara195 It really just depends on the girl, these things don't work for all girls but there would be a few that these would work for
@@jennynightshade811 does this ever happended, that someone tried these on you and you caught him
Getting a girl is one of the hardest tasks of life, I can beat most of the hard videogames but I can't get a girl
you are what you think you are ;).
MouseRidingA Limo a beautiful soul
Bro, I'm sure you could press the right buttons to unlock one.
TheDuckSneezes are you just mocking me?
Ramiro 1992 no, I don't want it to go off that way bro.
Well, my problem is the social aspect. I have no friends.
Cheshire I feel you man.
I know that feel bro ;( i have no friends and no one likes me because i am very shy and its hard to do anything...
Thanks dude ;)
alex farrar those are wise words
I know how you feel. And I plan on changing that now. All you have to do is start talking to people. At first it will be extremely hard, and you may fail and be rejected. But if you keep doing it despite this, it will eventually get easier for you. The more you do anything the easier it gets. You can do it bro.
I mean, as much as this sounds like it should work, you need to understand that no two girls are the same and this *will not* work with everyone. Even if you make yourself desirable that doesn't automatically mean that the girl you like will like you back. It certainly works sometimes, but don't rely on this completely.
Athena Bassett if there are multiple girls you are communicating with like the video instructed odds are it will work on at least one
i agree, and PLEASE DO NOT CHANGE WHO YOU ARE, i have done it, do it for yourself and you will feel better all the time.
True.
But as a girl I have to agree with the video...
@@andrecarcausto2740 Changing yourself for what one girl find attractive is the problem. Changing yourself to be an overall better person is not a problem
Arifian Ace
Facts
When your homeschooled..
When my homeschooled what?
Lol this didnt age well
SWEET HOME ALABAMA!
When your antisocial...
@@shawarmageddonit I think he wanted say "When you are homeschooled
That’s interesting. i love quiet people, people who standout and someone who doesn’t try to blend in with others. He’s different, like a fresh breath of air.
I think what matters is someone who's authentic to themselves
I'm a girl. And I say yhhh. But like, also someone who has alife and knows what he wants.
1.Look Hot
2.Be Rich
3.Have Lots Of Friends
4.Be Smart
The P1 step number 2 is enough
Number 4 is a lie. The dumber you are, the easier it is to get money out of you. That'll improve your chances of getting girls.
The P1 oh and NOW being smart is attractive...
if u want more than a golddigger being rich wont help ya
Still working on #2 but 3/4 ain't bad right?
Indeed. The main key - confidence. A lot of confidence
In addition its also the self discipline towards your goals and dreams.
Or bravado, a lot of it XD
+Freedom Kingdom Donald Trump it if you have too hahaha.
Suyokida Discipline creates freedom. They are way more people who don't know what their passions are than those who do,hence,they need to be disciplinary to reach their goal.
wrong. Confidence + money
Anyone else watching this video thinking "Oohhh that's why I got friend zoned.
me
me
How do you know when you're in the friendzone anyways?
Jason John she gives the I just need some time
Jason John or something close to that
The best thing is to work on loving yourself and becoming the best version of yourself and being patient. That way you'll attract the right girl for you. All these tips may work but you may not get the right girl and she'll leave you after some time.
Or you will leave her
@@MisterDoctorLOL happened to me
Simple. Just be different from everyone else. You don't have to dress the same, act the same, listen to the same music, etc just be your own person. Be the odd one out, even if you still end up single, the right one will come along. Be patient and be unique. Who cares what others say about you,. You got this, hang in there 👍
So I'm just supposed to just remain different and wait... That's a wonderful way to die of old age and still be a virgin...
@@quantumvideoscz2052 yeah, it's wonderful
Finally. Something real that is not just the usual "be yourself" bullshit. Thanks for the video, mate!
XweienX
the story is not over there.. he could have spent 30 more minutes on say what you should do and what you shouldnt do.
be yourself is very helpful tip if person who tells it knows how to back it up correctly.
+Jason Bell
not completely true, you need guidance else you are lost
XweienX What's the point of having a girlfriend who doesn't like the real you. Let say you make a very good first impression to her and she thinks you're pretty good, and when she really gets to know you. She probably won't like you. If you act like another person and she actually marry you. She probably will want a divorce since you're not what she thinks you are. If you just be yourself, you will get a girlfriend who will love you for a very long time.
yup, everything goes down to science. Agree with that, the video is 10 quality, kudos my friend ! Wish I can invite you out on a beer.
being yourself correlates with having confidence
I totally agree with this guy.. I watched this video to see if what he's talking about is right.. and its ABSOLUTELY right!
User Name the girl isn't an "it" buddy 😂
REEEEEEEEEEEEEE
So u is a gold diggggggggerrrrrrr?
Lavish Krish okay be extremely extroverted got it. Are girls not attracted to the guys who take time to think instead of just running their mouth about things they hardly know anything about?
Senpai Lavish, show us da wae LOL!
This is really incredible. Watching this video explains to me 100% why I was rejected by this one girl I was sweet on for over a year. I constantly tried to do things or say things that she would appreciate. I was always there whenever she invited me over to her house. I tried to spend as much time with her as possible, to the point where my everyday was spent thinking of ways I could increase the interactions, and when we were together, I would again be too focused on acting a way that she might like. I bought her gifts for no reason. I was always texting her and trying to get reactions. Until one day, just a few weeks ago, I decided to ask her out, and I was placed firmly in the friendzone.
Now I know why!
Yay me!
Ricky Wheeler how sad
Ricky Wheeler wow! You did just about everything in the needy category. But we all learn somehow and it usually starts with us looking like fools.
@@westonpetersring well said...happened the same way to me.
Why do I felt like this is going to happen
Did you make love with her ?
Thanks dude for these videos. For years I've been too scared to even talk to girls, I've had depression for long periods of time. With all your tipps it seems possible for the first time for me to actually overcome my fears and anxieties and hopefully achieve happiness someday. I'm done feeling helpless, from now on I will start working on myself daily and improving little by little. It will probably take months before I get some success but I think I found my fighting spirit again. I'm also on the nofap challenge right now.
Keep on your work honey! The journey is amazing. But focus on accepting yourself. Live your life💕no one knows what will happen
This is so true. Whenever a girl starts trying to reach out to me and I like her I never show the desire for her and take too long to the point where she stop giving effort on her part. I always keep second guessing my self and wait for things to happen when I am the one that needs to make things happen
"Texting is for logistics only" -- Amen!
I agree as well. I've made the mistake of taking too long in showing desire for a girl and when I finally did I was already placed in the no/friend zone. So I get it
I use the D.E.N.N.I.S system:
Demonstrate Value
Engage physically
Nurturing Dependence
Neglect Emotionally
Inspire Hope
Separate Entirely
It’s all about the implication
Dude... Tf?
Who tf is Dennis?
Mr Flip-flop
Exactly?....
Im Dennis lol
*Be confident in who you are, but don’t be afraid to show vulnerability. When she sees that you’re comfortable in your own skin, it’ll make her feel more at ease with you.*
So you are telling me to be someone who I am not?! My acting skills are on point. I'll try my best.
I watch Filthy Frank girls dig me
Maks Dąbek filthy frank watches me dig up girls
+griggery kimothy Filthy Frank digs up girls watching me.
griggery kimothy necrophilia buddies?
Maks Dąbek among other things...
griggery kimothy what's your favorite pick up line? Mine is the classic "I eat ass."
So first I need to talk to people, and THEN I need to be confident? For fucks sake give me SOMETHING to work with.
Exactly.
Just start
Alex Wall
when do women go for strong confident men they always chase frail feminine boys
WATCH RSD
+n kn I'm a girl but I don't care what type of guy you are as long as if you're honest and you alone me to let you trust me best friend 😊
It's always the needy dudes complaining about the friendzone
Oh, I suppose you have the proper psychology degree and research findings to back up your pretentious head-in-the-ass OPINION? Thanks for showing us how much of an egotistical douchebag you are.
@@angelus_solus you look a little mad
I finally found out what my issue is in love. I'm always the needy guy and had no idea. I see why those girls don't really like me now. Thanks for this video. I learned a lot from it. I have been trying also talking to multiple women because I've been in many situations where I would talk to one out of respect for that girl but then she would just immediately walk right into another trashy mans' hands. Every time she did me this way too. I tell her I want to hang out and she will say maybe then put me off and ignore saying no a week later with a new horrible boyfriend who she later had her heart broken by. I'm sure she's still walking around the internet just being a...(not going to say that...you can figure that out for yourself).
from a 13 y/o girl (saying this makes me feel young whoa):
guy who i may or may not like rn:
• makes me laugh
• laughs.
• makes up random stories for fun (kidnapping toddlers and curb stomping them? it’s gruesome and sad but please note that these are late night convos)
• says my name when talking to me. he doesn’t even need to. he just does.
• asks me out in a joking tone.
i asked him and his friend to give me their best pick up lines and i should’ve recorded it but eh. it was fun.
he talks to probably a lot of other girls for fun at night with his friends. so it’s not a personal thing. but it’s still fun.
im a quiet person and always get nervous whenever someone talks to me. in the first few minutes of talking on call with him and his 1-2 friends i always shake. i’m learning. and talking more. they were like my social exercise before school starts. we haven’t been calling for the past like 5 days cuz i’ve been going to bed earlier. they were inviting me to their calls for a few nights but now i guess they’ve figured out that i don’t respond these days. nights.
i kinda liked them when i was 10-11. referencing to this vid, they’ve probably always been in the maybe zone.
ANYWAY school starts tomorrow and it’s the LAST DAY OF THE SUMMER. IM GONNA GO LIVE. BYE EVERYONE, HOPE U HAVE A WONDERFUL LIFE
This is too much good information coming in all at once. I might just explode!
+randomlygeneratedusername Lol
ok simp
"Cuz guess what, you took too God damn long" lol
D- Demonstrate Value
E- Engage Physically
N- Nurture Dependence
N- Neglect Emotionally
I- Inspire Hope
S- Separate Entirely
Um, what is "Seperate Entirely" apart?
watch?v=95Fx2aYQbQs
P- Perseveration
E- Engage Physically
N- Nurture Dependence
N- Neglect Emotionally
I- Inspire Hope
S- Separate Entirely
As a girl someone who talks to everybody makes me not want to be friends with and the guy with a lot of confidence just makes me mad for some reason cause usually those kinda people be bullying other people
A way to make a girl like you is make it clear that you’re interested in her and only her but give her space and make her feel like she’s respected at least
Just yesterday I quit being a loser and I am here to change and improve myself thankq to you I feel like am changing
Fuck I almost never show desire. My poker face is too strong :(
same dude that poker "blank" face i wear that everytime...lmao
one punch man same
Pole Vaulter lol i have the best poker face,idk how to react to certain situations
@@onepunchman8865 Pfp and username checks out
Lmao
I understand why I was rejected 21 times now. Thanks 😃👍
These points don't help if you're introverted af
Well you won't get a girl at all if you're an introvert in the first place.
Yes they do
hey man if you are introverted (im really introverted btw) you need to force yourself nad bring up the energy to talk more, and this way you learn how to properly talk to anyone. Its okay to be insecure about the things you say in social situation because im pretty sure everyone is a bit insecure when meeting someone new. so its important for you to keep in mind that if you act interested in a persons life they will like you and you will thus get more confident with talking. in the end your goal should be to be able to confidently say to yourself: yeah im a bit shy but you know thats just me and ive accepted it but its not gonna stop me from getting out there and talking to people because in the end if someone doesnt like me its fine there are always others who will like me and be interested in me
Introvercy and social awkawrdness, anxiety and asociality are different, but usually confused things.
@@Scyborg832 right, you've gotta be a party guy, because she's a 5 year old child, and it's YOUR sole job to entertain her, because she's not grown and perfectly capable of doing that herself or anything.
Omg this is the best day of my life I asked the person who I liked out and she said YES
Trust me she is nice hot and smart
It's been 6 years, but it's still the best video on youtube
cap
@@n1hil1sm yup
Pill this is too accurate.
jumpman1306 haha I'm near you on the graph! Hi!
@@ImprovementPill
Can you summarize it for me please?
man....I need these kinds of videos in my life... they are so straight and simple.... why didn't I discovered em early?
I love you guys!!!
All these things are true, but don't fake it till ya make it, learn it untill you earn it. You'll improve so much more.
wow i am really impressed with this video! I tried every step showed here and what you would expect! i was completely shut down from all of my social circle for being a weirdo! thank you Improvement Phill for your great ideas!
Where was this video when I was 14?! I can't believe you distilled it all into an 8 minute video. Bravo sir.
So... Are introverts screwed?
Yes
If you don't put yourself out there at least a bit.... yes.
Not all girls are the same. I'm a girl and I disagree with some of the things he said...😒
@@sweetsoul3169 tell us about it
No.
...
I'll let that sink in...
I've just been binge watching all of your content. It's all so helpful for a quiet person like me. Thanks so much.
there this girl that does not like me but she does like someone else
Just wanted to say thanks bro. You're one of my favourite RUclipsr. Just love your channel & every single video Coz its on point.
the fact that WERE ALL RIGHT HERE, OUT HERE, ON THIS KIND OF VIDEO, humors me more than the facts stated in the video itself
I see why I always end up coming across as needy. I don’t get crushes very often, but when I do I’ll dedicate my resources, if you will, to that person and try to spend time with them. So when it gets busy I always tend to try to cling to that first feeling I got when I began talking to that person, and try to keep that going, and I can see why it’s not only exhausting but also creepy too. I’ll heed this advice and try to expand my horizons in the future so when I do finally meet someone again, hopefully I won’t scare them off like I always manage to do.
hey, im not a girl but im a gay guy, and me and my girl friends stand by what im about to say- we dont care about all this stuff. confidence is attractive yeah, and excessive neediness isnt healthy, but you guys think WAY too much about this. literally just have a conversation with us. care about what we have to say. you dont have to try to act "alpha" to turn us on. just treat us like normal people, fr.
thank you! i hate that these videos reinforce the idea on boys that dating is like a game and women are prizes. its so much simpler. its just love and sex jeez
You’re not wrong, but you should keep this in the back of your mind because if you do the complete opposite you’re probably not gonna liked
Nah your gay, TGD 😄
This comment is for all the heart broken boys that get no girls 💔
Wow..... This makes so much sense a girl liked me she thought i was awesome person because i have a lot of friends, and people generally like me because i'm a nice person. But what i was lacking was confidence with new people i've never talked to and didn't know what to say. Eventually this led to neediness through text and i messed everything up I: Now she hates me. But i learned from my mistakes haha
Why is everyone here so negative, you can do it guys. It's up to you most of the time, what you do is what will decide what happens. Especially change.
I totally agree with the neediness part, have to adopt the abundance mindset if not I'll be hard on myself
Make one for how to get a guy to like you please :3
Us guys are easy to get. To catch a guy's heart, you have to give the vibe to him that "for you hun, and only you, i can be slutty forever" attitude. But just be careful though, don't make him jealous with other guys around because it would make it look like you are all over guys like a playa. No one likes players / playas
guillermo espino savage af
BreezyDatdude#Okc 2016 900 At least that savage is honest up front lol
suritaz I like you.
suritaz How to get a guy to like you........no clue.....I'm a guy......still No clue.....
When you said, "When someone needy expresses his desires, he becomes creepy."
I felt that.
A girl I barely know asked me if I want to go on a date with her
Guess I skipped a few steps
I like that his videos don't include his opinion about things, only the thing itself
Almost half of the things you’ve said not to do in this video I’ve been doing... no wonder I’ve never had a girlfriend 😂😂 Thanks for the tips
Damn. I was looking at guys who has sucess with girls and i just could not find what. But you video made it clear for me, i know guys that are ugly, not rich, and still they have plenty of friends and woman. The way they act and the way they look makes them seem to be of more value. This value is probably a mind set right? Because, today's values are different of the past and ''natural values''. Probably a biological thing
Improvement Pill But i mean, how does the body react to a concept like money? isn't these kind of reaction something that happens in the deep mind?
I think i got it, Thanks!
Improvement Pill can this help for middle school to because im a middle schooler
+TheGcaston It's about the mindset of having success and seeing yourself a success before it happens. I've seen how girls get so horny on whenever Vegeta from DBZ anime starts going on about his pride and dreams.
I guess I'm weird because all of these things turn me off big time (showing off status, having superfluous small talks, acting like a macho). I hate arrogant guys. Arrogance is not the same as confidence but there's a VERY thin line. I like rather introverted, intelligent and compassionate guys who actually think before they speak, and I love a great sense of humor. And I love when they know what they want in life and go for it, as long as it's meaningful. They know their own value and don't feel the need to put others down = confident.
I found the last part of the video very interesting and accurate!
youandme.vegan ♥ nice name
I bet your boyfriend is exactly all these things tho. Teheee
He never said to be arrogant. People confuse confidence and arrogance all the time but they truly are night and day.
so you are saying if you see your girl flirt with someone else, you just leave her immediately and search for another girl without questioning her.
Because thats asking Validation.
and thats needy...
This is the real method that works. I haven't tried it but i can feel it that it works especially high value staff like social proof and confidence. thats like the foundation. when you have build that foundation make your move faster and remember don't be needy
I normally don’t comment, but gotta say this has to be the most complete guide I’ve ever seen
sensacional video man, best channel on youtube
Alright i'm only 15 and I probably don't know everything but what I can share is my personal experience. Everybody likes a confident person that can get along with people. I know most people are like oh they don't like me, girls only like douche bags, attractive guys, football players whatever. Although yes you could be the most attractive person ever. However your personality and the way you are is what ends up determining your types of friends or relationships with people. Think of it like this you see a really tasty looking cupcake and want it really bad and once you take a bite you see how it really is and you either say wow this is really good or I was wrong this cupcake actually sucks!. (although not every girl is the same) most girls would prefer a confident nice guy instead. I'm the type of person that when I walk to school I get lots of people saying hi to me. I'm not saying i'm popular i'm just saying that people like me because of the way I project myself towards others and people feel comfortable around me. Talk to many people and be friends with them everyone is different and has something interesting about them listen to them and make eye contact ( not for ever though cause it can be creepy ha ha) and show that your interested. Nobody would like it if they are saying something important to you and your not paying attention!. Also just because i'm friends with someone that's really popular doesn't mean i'm not going to say hello or treat the less liked people or gumpy kids in a bad way. (like the quiet shy kid in your class or the awkward person) This is probably how I built up my social skills and confidence ( I'm not the most confident person ever but I am confident in myself to the point were I'm not afraid to talk to strangers or bring my girlfriend flowers and gifts like today for valentines day). If your trying to get a girl get to know her like as your best friend, laugh have fun, spend time together, talk about things you both enjoy, respect her, and treat her well and work your way up to a relationship after. Don't just walk up to a girl and ask them if you want to be my girlfriend or something stupid. She's going to perceive you as some weirdo and probably not want to talk to you or be scared of you (most of the time not all people come will be like that:P) Also If you really want a girlfriend don't do it just to smash or have sex as the main reason for it. If that's what you want you know there's other people for that. If you made it this far thanks for reading and I hope this helped you somewhat :)
Dili
TL,D fukin R
(I’m a girl) I watched this video to see if it’s true and almost everything is except the first one in my opinion. When I see a guy who has a lot of friends I almost never even look at that guy because i feel like a person who has many friends can’t really be trusted. There is more chance for me to look at a guy who is a bit of an outsider, because it’s more interesting to me and i feel like they have a story to tell.
Yeah, im kinda attracted to nerds and loners. I guess it just depends on who you are and what you like :)
I'm attracted to what's called ugly cute nerdy and loner guys because those guys are my type...... that's just my interest
GeekyNerd Right?? The worst thing is that people judge you so bad because of it. I mean just cus they fall for a hot fuckboy with no personality whatsoever
I have a friend who started dating a tall, handsome boy. Like everyone was jealous of her, even me. But then it turned out that he is a control freak and dates "weaker" girls so it's easy to control them. Then he broke up with my friend and started dating her cousin. Later she told me about how it really was in that relationship. Since that have I never been attracted to fuckboys. I want a kind, loving boyfriend and for the most part its often the nerds who are like that. I have just learned that it's the personality that matters the most.
Btw nerds who everyone thinks are ugly can I find kinda cute and attractive so I have no problem with dating nerds. I'm also a nerd so it would be perfect for me ;)
dude, i have a crush and i always think " how to get the girl to like me " and this video appear and help me to repair my personality..... thanks man👍👍
I just stick around in a friend-zone for a few reasons:
a) she has a cute friend(s) for me to meet (the main reason)
b) genuinely like her company as just a friend (yes, it is possible for a guy and girl to be friends)
c) get girl advice (usually girls suck at giving advice about other girls though)
may i also say, if u are a guy with LOTS of creepy friends, you should drop em. the kinds of friends you have say a lot about who you are.
What. This is so beta. Dropping out some of your friends just in order to look better in other people eyes? STUPID AF.
Step one: exhibit value
Step two: exhibit desire
Step three: non-neediness
This is a girl watching this: alot of girls r gonna be intimidated by a guy that seems over confident and is surrounded by ppl. Girls often feel like guys only like super confident girls that r super funny and can entertain the guy. So never just try and act all tough and cool cuz that’s just gonna make the girl feel threatend or like u don’t care. Just be nice to her, joke a little bit, make her feel wanted. If she doesn’t like u, just be her friend. Be there for her if she needs u. Haw deep conversations. Dude don’t focus on urself, focus on her.
This is madness. Would it kill women to start asking out men? From where I come from, young guys are terrified of taking the first step these days because of MeToo.
@isla yes thank u!
Comrade Bear The hell dude?
Comrade Bear Did you also forget that some girls have social anxiety and are afraid of rejection too? You guys always look at us as this overly confident species where we can get whatever we want. No, we get rejected, asking a guy out scare us and can be very hard for a lot of us, and some of us can be very insecure and self doubt ourselves so we don’t have the confidence to do it anyways. I know a lot of females actually who make the first move. But it doesn’t matter. Making the first move shouldn’t be depicted on your gender. If you like a girl, ask her out. If a women likes a guy then she should ask them out. I know that’s what you were indicating in your comment but I know a lot of females that have made the first move or that are trying to make the first mood. It’s not always the males
Dude I'm trying to transform myself into a chad with your videos wish me luck
thank you, worked perfectly on the first time
Why is it us men that have to take the first step in a relationship?! D: xD
Because men are designed to lead and women to receive
It could be the other way around sometimes I'm always the one to take a step 🤷🏻♀️
@@lushbear04_old same
because of the social pressure men put on themselves
none of this video is even accurate lmao, just be an authentic and caring person and we’ll like you lol
@@eeviefm I disagree, from my experience I feel like most of the information in this video is correct. A girl will in general only approach a guy like that when she is attracted to him (so he's attractive or wealthy etc). However, once that has happened personality, authenticity and compassion are definitely important.
All relationships I've had weren't because I was approached, it was always me taking the first step, and if I hadn't I wouldn't have been in any relationship
So i need confidence and social skills.. I'm so doomed
@@ImprovementPill your comment made me happy
@@ImprovementPill that gives me some hope lol
Most videos like this sell some straight BS but this one is great! Adding girls to your friend group helps a lot in my experience. I don't have a girlfriend but now I can acknowledge what exactly I want from a relationship, and removing neediness/tunnel vision has helped me focus on many more important things in life.
Yup exactly usually the main reason we struggle is because we are intimidated or just afraid of potential rejection. Definitely is bad to ever ask someone out if you barely know her but if you and her have had some convos from time to time and she seems interested go for it. However, if you and her have become closer friends than asking her out will get you friendzoned
How to actually get a girl: Find someone that you feel comfortable with and you like each other.. Don't force it! Worked for me
exactly, just be yourself, be passionate on what you like to do, love will then just come to you
I’m a girl but i’m watching it to see if it’s accurate
Video summarized in 3 words :
BE AN ALPHA
Came here from Practical Psychology :)
men, this is good stuff
THANK YOU THIS MADE ME GET A GIRL IN 5 SECONDS!!!! THIS CHANGED MY LIFE I'M SO THANKFUL!!!!!
spot on. i’m actively trying to rid myself of my narcissism problem.
i just fall in love with everyone who says my name ..
she told me she doesnt think we fit together, is there a way out of the friendzone?
super117knight Yes there is but you're better off finding another girl.
OK, so the reason why you are put in the friend zone is that she has a fixed idea of you as a friend. Someone who is nice, generally agrees with what she says, buys her things, lets her take control and make decisions, etc. The qualities of a friend.
What you need to do is to change her idea of you. The easiest way to do that is to start working out if you don't already. Start touching her more (in a playful way). Maybe pull back a bit and don't reply to every text/facebook message. Valuing your time is important, you don't have to drop everything just because she says so. Have a backbone. Have a set of fixed values and morals that you are not willing to budge on. Start taking control and saying "Let's go here" instead of asking "where do you want to go?" You need to transition from friend material into boyfriend material. Then when you think she's started seeing you differently, leave a pause in the conversation but maintain eye contact and confidently go for the kiss. If she pulls away, say something like "sorry, I couldn't help it because you're so beautiful" and move on.
But be aware that girls will test you and sometimes, they will say "let's just be friends" to see what your reaction will be. If you want to, you can screw with her and reply "I agree, why should we ruin this great friendship?" or even "I agree. Hey, I don't have to be attracted to every girl I know, right?" if you really want to screw with her.
Also be aware that sometimes you just can't change a girl's idea of you and it is a lot easier to find a new girl and start over than it is to change how a girl sees you. However, it's not impossible.
super117knight yeah but she must not of been the right one for you just need to look a bit harder man
super117knight There is a way to get out of the friendzone-don't be friends
Become a fucking billionaire and your done
im a girl and im watching this just to see what kind of anomalies boys think we are
ok i finished the video and um, yeah you will get A girl (tinder dates, random ppl) with these tricks, but you will not get THE girl (someone you genuinely care about) with them. sure you might have some fun with her, but you cannot hack your way into a girl's heart.
i completely agree with you
@@alitheiawest exactly
Brother the value of your videos is out of this world! Thank you from the bottom of my heart!
Demonstrate value
Engage physically
Nuture dependence
Neglect emotionally
Inspire hope
Separate entirely
So , hey there Introverts . We r screwed !!
😂😂😂, no. all i want in a partner iss these three things
1.being a great friend
2.being honest
3. being loyal
thats all i ask lmfao
The thing is, befriending everyone etc is just really shallow and superficial. You'll lose yourself, trying to befriend everyone. I know girls will like it, but to me, the most important thing is confidence. You can only truly BE confident, instead of ACTING confident, if you are truly yourself.
true
BROOOO THAT'S OPENED MY EYES.
that last one was fantastic. the abundance mentality