Yea my gf of 7 years left me 4 months ago. I begged and pleaded for about 3 of those months and I kinda drove her away more. We have a 2 year old son together. Is there any chance in this world i can get her back? I really cannot keep going like this. It's really too much for me. I've been with her since I was 17 years old. I wanted to hold on forever but she let go.
It happens when you least expect it if it happens.... just do you brother, I know there's not a lot of good women out there it's hard to find the same thing that you had with her. When the right time comes you'll find something even better! Stay strong!
@@VitorJTekkRodrigues it's been 6months here and she's already in a 2month relationship with another guy.. I even tried to commit suicide after losing her even after hearing this she still doesn't care and blocked me again cause I was talking about my past.. For me it's lost forever
On behalf of everyone that has these struggles and myself i have to say thank you u r a lifesaver. I'm only 1 female out if I'm sure a lot of people, but ur advice has guided me through some doubting times. Thank u for ur reassurance and help. I hope u go far in your journey to help people understand each other. :)
I broke up with my ex 11 months ago and I can't stop thinking about him, no I didn't cheat he was being a jerk and being disrespectful, he now has a new girlfriend and I can't stop thinking about him and I am still in love with him we stopped talking after he got his new gf which has been now 2 1/2 months. I thought I was ok but I am not and not sure what to do next, I have a new job and I am also looking into going back to school and I have started working out again to just keep my thoughts at bay.
Sorry to hear, but if you've waited 7 months or so before cutting off contact, it may already be a lost cause.Your best bet, however, is still to cut off contact and yes, it will work in a sense to where you get to clear your mind to be in a better position to deal with an ex when the time comes - instead of letting emotions overrule everything, risking things to get blown out of proportion even further. Make sense? But will no contact ALONE work to get your ex back? In some cases it may, but oftentimes not, because the no contact phase is only part one of the three-step process I teach in my Ex Factor Guide. Learn the basics here: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html I also made a quick vid to those who are seemingly lost and could use a reminder on what to do: ruclips.net/video/obBIttQSak4/видео.html
Fight for him well... don't give up I would say. But follow Brad's methods I have faith it will help as I'm in a really bad situation with my ex... ( no I didn't cheat ) my trust issues messed it up, now she's already dating and it hurts and sickens me... I really want her back... it's been a month and three weeks now 😔😔😔
Ur advice has a lot of positivity, at any time within a relationship (especially when things aren't going so well) it's encouraging to hear these things.
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Thanks brad your advice really help me.. I really appreciate it.. my ex gf is back with me she call me back and I followed your steps and we are getting married soon... your the best brad!!!!!
+Devanand Ramsamooj I'm happy for you, man! And You're welcome! Feel free to like, share, and subscribe to my channel so you won't miss any of my future videos. That would mean a lot to me! :-)
Had an awesome relationship. We connected mentally/physically/spiritually/emotionally very well. She knows I wanted to marry her, I gave her a promise ring. We mutually broke up to work on ourselves and then get back together when our drama was gone. She started a 2nd job. 30 days after that she broke up with me for some douche. She told me they've already talked about marriage. I told her I'd drop everything and marry her that day. She said it was too little too late. I'm really confused...
If she is that flaky about who she wants to marry, then you are really saving yourself from a lot of heartbreak down the road. Consider it a blessing in disguise and move on from your life.
Dude we in same boat... She now is dating a rich guy .. i laid my cards on the table to marry her also... Well she choosed the guy she dated for 3 weeks... We have 10 years together. Weve been a year apartment and funny she shared interest to me... Sad ... We are in this battle together
Man... The things you don't learn when you grow up without a dad and end up being raised by women smh... This rabbit hole led to u, and you've opened my eyes to sooooo many things I never even thought about lol... Thanks for putting these videos out
Hi Brad. My guy left a month ago after my anxiety got bad and we were in a push-pull situation for a couple weeks/months. (I lied to him out of fear, looked through his phone, a couple other small incidents that I immediately apologized for) He's a defensive, independent person who takes care of himself first. I realize (in horror) that I needed to fall flat on my face to learn not to act out in this way in relationships. We were very compatible, worked well together, had great compassion, and brought out the best in each other- but two intense souls that learned a lot from each other, and of course, went through tumultuous times together. I am at a complete loss. I have honored his request to "give him space" of a couple months and he has told me that "he doesn't think we were meant to be together" and not to wait. Knowing how logical this guy is, and how attracted to me he is (he acknowledged that it would be a lie if he wasn't), and how much he cares about me- I want to put in every effort to show I have changed and that he is either the catalyst to my change, or the end all be all. I realize that love is a choice- and I choose him- but I fear it was too late. He is determined to move on, has cut me off social media, but still smiles at me when we see each other at school and does not ignore me in that way. He says he thinks that maybe we were meant to be good friends. I see the reality that exists where we are more- but I don't think he'll be able to see my change and growth without time. He even refused to say "never" when I asked him to break my heart right then and there; he stated that he didn't know- it would have to be "years", though. I feel like if I give him space, he will realize what he's missing- but I'm afraid he'll find someone less anxiety-ridden and calmer than me, when in reality, we just had really, really shitty timing. Any tips?
Hey Jess! Don't be friends with him. This may be one of the cases where the “no contact” rule is actually an exception...but DON'T initiate random contact in any way and don’t make any unnecessary chitchats, all right?I've discussed it in these videos, as well as how to handle it: ruclips.net/video/zKhNHhEmYMg/видео.html and ruclips.net/video/ydeES3WU1Uc/видео.html but read my Ex Factor Guide so you'll have an in-depth view on how to go about it, what to do after each phase (there are three phases in total), including what to say, do or not do, etc. since good timing is essential at www.breakupbrad.com Okay? Take care!
I was in relationship with him only for about 5 months. It was my first genuine, relationship in which I ever got. First person to love. He? Loved me so much like i meant world to him. But i never knew why he brokeup suddenly telling me that " you have to make your friends understand" and he left me. It has been 4 years. Today I texted him in out of surprise cause i always missed and loved a little in somewhere. But i don't know if he's still the same.
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Brad, you are the man. My ex and I dated over 3 years ago. She just got out of a long term relationship, so I gave her a few months to heal from that. This video is going to help me try and rekindle our relationship.
Yes, it should. Make sure you don't force anything though and check out my other tips for more tips. Your situation is also very delicate so once you start to see some progress with your ex, then don’t go at it alone, especially if you're in doubt or don't know what to do next. Sign up for my coaching program so I can help assess your situation clearly, look at all the other factors at play and see things you might have missed, then guide you accordingly on a regular, ongoing basis at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Hi Brad, brief background. I've been with my ex for 3.5 years and he wants to marry me. I broke up with him coz I wasn't sure. After 7 months (July) he coupled with a girl 14 years younger, and totally my opposite. They're still together for about 4 months now. I went recently to his office just to see him quickly, bought him coffee (which will bring back memories to him) and left him a letter with everything I feel - without begging. He hugged me tight when I saw him. Just letting him know that I still love him should he wished to come back. But your videos are saying I should chill and just keep it as friends. I'm torn between keeping my cool or making an effort to show him that I really do love him. Okay so currently, his new gf of 3 months gave him an ultimatum to marry her, otherwise nothing physical will happen between them. This gives me a window to make a move :)
Yes, so play your cards right. Do away with writing letters stating your feelings since that won't help. Becoming too available can cause all sorts of problems, so try to strike the balance between being available and making yourself scarce. Okay? Anyway getting an ex back is a process, so there's no one-action solution for everything. Okay? The "no contact" phase is a good start, so do that first if you haven’t yet. If you have. then I'm glad you've completed it. There are two more phases to go with a few other steps in between. What I'm trying to say here is it's a 3-step process, and it's a bit complicated to explain it all on here, but I made an overview in the hopes of making people understand, so watch it here: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html or read my guide for the entire process. Good luck!
Thanks mans, thats great stuff. This is my situation, we broke up a year ago. If wasnt for this Corona Virus thing i'd manage to run into my ex or meet with her eventually.
I hear you, man. The pandemic does its number to new/blooming relationships or long-term relationships that became rocky before the virus caused a worldwide (or at least in many countries) lockdown. Nothing left to do but to use your time productively and change your perception for a bit and see this as an opportunity for a lot of things. Here's my stance on the matter: bit.ly/3bn8bPN
Hello Brad! Great Video btw. Here is the situation I am (other's feel free to chyme in, it would be interesting to hear your thoughts) in. My ex broke up with me over a text saying " that she wants someone who is going to make her their priority and make her feel like she's their everything" she also said that we would argue whenever we would go out and that we wouldn't go out enough she also said that we weren't getting what we wanted from each other and that she wasn't happy. let me fill you in a bit more on my actions that led up to this moment. I just graduated from college and moved back home. I wasn't sure what was going to be my next step career wise so i was deciding on whether or not to take some classes at a CC to apply to PA school. I was broke and would go see her whenever I had money to take us out. I fell into this phase of my life where I felt depressed because I was broke, didn't have a job, and didn't know what career i wanted to pursue. during this phase I didn't communicate with her for about 3 days and on the 4th day i got that break up text. It hurt like hell and to make matters worse nothing in life was going the way i wanted. at this point in my life I had no job, I was broke, I didn't know what I was going to do with my life, and i just got dumped over a text from a 3.5 year relationship. It's been 3 months now since I had any type of communication with her. I used the pain i was feeling and directed it to motivate me. I began to hit the gym, read books, and focus on my science pre-reqs. I lost 28lbs already and look a lot leaner than before (220lbs - 192lbs), i got a 3.5 gpa this semester, and I've been keeping my mind busy reading books and hanging out with friends. She hasn't contacted me at all. I do still have feeling for her and i would like to get her back but i don't want to do anything dumb and ruin my chances. she's intelligent and beautiful and is in her last semester of law school. Any suggestion to how i should intitiate contact with her?
Hey man, sorry to hear about the breakup. It's important to get other aspects of your life sorted first... your career for example, and find that happiness from within so the rest of the pieces can fall into place. Zoning out for days without letting your then girlfriend know what was going on may have very well alienated her , communication is key in having a successful relationship. You relate to each other, not alienate yourselves. :-) Perhaps try to communicate what you've been through instead? If she's no longer open to hearing your side though then don't force things. She's likely very upset, so use this time to set your life in order. An apology may be due, so watch and follow the tips here: ruclips.net/video/XwQpYmDKNnE/видео.html Good luck!
i broke up with my ex a 9months ago, and we was talking for so long, and i asked him and was begging him like something each and evry months and everytime he says im sorry, idont have any feelings for you. The past will never happen again. move on. but he says he has all my memories, and the memories are enough, but idont have that LOVE feeling. He is too strong in his decision. Its going be 9 months since the breakup. i really dont know what to do, im suffering each and evryday by thinking of him and his all words and memories :)
Begging will never work though. Attraction should be done naturally and organically. Your window of opportunity may have already passed. Discussed that here: ruclips.net/video/e3l5KWEpIpw/видео.html and especially if you see the signs here: y2u.be/k1myDIp0gSc
I bought the book on how to get your ex back. I decided during the no contact period I didn't want him back. I did try to contact him twice, but mostly out of loneliness. The ex contacted me. Now I am not sure what to do now. Thank for the video it helped.
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I've just started watching your videos, and now I'm hooked. You have a new subscriber, and pretty soon I'll be a customer. P.S. Nice shirt! Where'd you get it? I could probably get my ex back if she saw me wearing that! Lol
+Vv_an Bella You're welcome! Feel free to like, share, and subscribe to my channel so you won't miss any of my upcoming videos. I'd really appreciate it! :-)
It's common for relationships to encounter obstacles, but there is always a solution. My own marriage faced considerable issues, but with appropriate guidance, my husband and I worked through them and deepened our connection. Solutions are achievable if you're ready to work together. Stay hopeful-there's always a way forward.
That's great to hear. You're right. Every relationship/marriage is bound to run into a few obstacles. What's important is you don't become a part of that obstacle. I'm glad you're working things out with your spouse. If you need additional help, get me as your coach, at www.marriageguy.com/coaching
I just called my old girlfriend from 25 years ago, I never stopped loving her, she's in a 4 year relationship, I'm determined to win her back , I'm a thousand miles away in Florida, but so are her kids! I want her back because our time together was magic.
I'm all for fixing things with an ex or giving it another go but in your case, it's safe to say a lot has changed since then and to set your expectations accordingly. Since it's been more than a couple of decades since the breakup, it's best to consider the facts I've mentioned here first as this lets you determine whether there's still a real shot or not: ruclips.net/video/YVViZmY2x0I/видео.html and/or take the free quiz at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Good luck!
Lol my best friend was celibate till marriage. The husband found out he hated having sex and literally never came home and broke up over a long type out text.
Having standards is great, but make an 100% honest investigation if those are actually YOUR standards, and not those of your family, your friends or the religious belief you possibly didn't even chose yourself.
While it is very admirable that you are a virgin (I assume that you are) then I sincerely HOPE that you DO enjoy SEX AFTER you are "married" because IF you DO NOT then you will find MANY other girls that DO LOVE it and guess what ? YEP HE...will find them TOO...You MAY never find out about it too ! SO if ya want to keep him hard and happy you have best start to like to get laid or believe me he will find one that DOES !
If you play your cards right...which many fail to do. Once you've already completed the full 30-day "no contact" rule and assuming you did it correctly, then the texting tips here will be a good starter: ruclips.net/video/XonMtLFo000/видео.html but make sure you tick off the checklist here first: ruclips.net/video/BAhMrmw3Sms/видео.html This means you take time focusing on the second phase and eventually the third phase when the time is right. This won’t happen overnight, of course, but it’s something you ought to continue to work on to the point where you’re gradually building attraction again. This is what my guide is for. Have you checked it out yet? It's too complicated to explain everything on here, but here's an overview of these phases and what to expect in each one: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html Good luck!
What would happen if your ex girlfriend threatened to put a Protection Order against you...? That happened with one of my best friends since first grade, because I kept calling her over and over...
Your best bet is still to cut off contact completely for around a month or even more in order to clear your heads. You'd increase your chances of getting your ex back if you've got your sh*t together than if you were doing the opposite of the no contact rule which is begging/pleading or negotiating/trying to woo your ex again. Well, there are a few rare who take their exes back if you beg/plead but it hardly ever lasts since these people are taking their exes back out of pity. So my point is, don't let your ex take you back out of pity, all right? The best way to avoid that is to work on yourself and get your life together by having fun, hobbies, etc. and to stop chasing your ex. I've made numerous videos about the "no contact" rule and why it's important. Check those out. Also watch the stories here and try not to be a statistic: ruclips.net/video/1U_IOm8ofFo/видео.html
Hey Brad Me & my ex had this relationship of two & a half years untill this february. I betrayed her & hurt her in several ways.I begged to her for couple of months after breakup. Then finally did no contact period for 30 days in August. Finally texted her after a month. At first she said dont text me please but later we started talking.I asked her does she still loves me. She said yes but cant be with me,i said ok.We met in October.On the day,she started talking about our relationship & how i didnt trust her then started crying. I hugged her & asked her not to cry & kissed her on her forehead. Later clicked photographs.Then we went for the drinks there again she started crying. I hugged her & gave her my sincerest apologies While returning from the bar we were on the stairs and we hugged & kissed. .At night she texted & she loved the kiss. Next day again she texted & said i cant get that kiss off her mind. The day after I went to her house & stood outside at a distance & asked her to come to the balcony. She came i called her & waved at her & talked for 2 mins then hung up & went away. She texted it was the cutiest thing but really wish that i would have done that 8 months ago. I said its past & i cant do anything about it i am sorry. We talked for few days then one day she texted dont text me ever again we cant be together so no point of talking.I said okk & didnt text her since then. Its been 5 days now & didnt text her. She says feelings i have for you i cant have them for anyother guy .DO I STILL HAVE A CHANCE OF BEING WITH HER ?? What should i do next ?
Shaz Adams Hello Shaz, first of all, you need to forgive yourself and not berate yourself over this. Let go of the thought that you should've done that balcony act, she would've been still too angry with you at that time and it couldn't have worked -- as evident in your months of begging without getting any result. Second, watch this: How To Get Your Ex Back After Cheating (And Get Them To Forgive You) As you know after watchign the video, once sincere apology and then giving her space would've done the trick. You both need time and space and she needs to process her emotions alone, it can't be rushed. Now moving forward, it seems like she hasn't really forgiven you yet judging by the way she's hot and cold towards you. The best thing to do here is to wait for her to reach out to you so she can evaluate her situation without your interruption. If she wants to contact you, she will. Get my guide so you'll know how to act and avoid any more mistakes moving forward.
I need advice, I split with my after 3 years, two months ago, for two months I acted like I didn't care and kept contact minimal as we have a child together, now I'm trying to make a effort and she's having none of it because I left her alone for two months. I wasn't that I didn't care, I just was hurt and she's taken it as I don't care
Well, if she dumped you/initiated the breakup then you ARE supposed to leave her alone for two months... so that couldn't be it. I suggest to look at the roles that you've BOTH played that led to the breakup and if the issues have a chance to get resolved, and how to go about it. In most cases, the problems that led to the breakup can be resolved, but in some cases, it isn't. So take time to evaluate, okay? If you still need my help further on this, however, then you and I both ought to take a look at a lot of various factors at play, so sign up for my coaching program so I can help take a look at all the various factors at play including your overall relationship history, issue/s, among many other elements, and to find out what’s really going on, monitor your situation, and guide you accordingly on a regular, ongoing basis. Please check on availability first because I only have a limited number of clients I can realistically manage before I go into spontaneous combustion. :-) Here’s the link: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching Good luck!
HI brad, how do i get back my girlfriend? we just broke up after 2 years, after we broke up 3 weeks later she spoke with another guy and they are gonna be couple i think. How do i win her back? I know im the best guy and kindest guy she ever met, but we argued alot. How do i win her back if she have a new boyfriend?
I really tried to beg her to come back but she didint want because of that another guy. But i know that guy will not be as good as i am. How should i get her back? answer please, would appriciate it
You should never show him that you love him. Subtlety is key. Watch this: ruclips.net/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/видео.html Anyway you're on the right track, assuming you've done the first phase (30-day "no contact" rule) correctly and basically had set the stage for this second part. Be sure to check out my other videos for more tips on how to go about this,especially this: y2u.be/gUBNd6pDINM Since you've only recently reconnected, then don't expect your ex to warm up easily. Getting an ex back is a process. Look out for the signs that your ex has moved on, though: y2u.be/TnZzeEIPEik But evaluate things, too. Are you sure you're not trying to rush it? Setting a deadline is a good way to fail when it comes to exes, so I highly discourage it. What steps have you taken to get your ex back? It's time to re-assess those and see what's working versus what's not working. Sometimes, getting an ex back is like trying to fit a square into a circle, but oftentimes, chances are you're letting emotion dictate you and therefore end up making the wrong choices. Have you checked out my guide yet? It’s ultimately up to you to act (or not act, depending on which phase you’re in) on getting your ex back, but it helps if you read it to ensure that you’re on the right track. Check it out at www.breakupbrad.com
My girl broke up with me 10 months ago, we have been having problems because I didn’t communicate and I still talked to other girls because I thought I need other options. (clearly I was wrong) I had people in my ear telling me things like she’s to young for you , she’s 21 and I’m 33. She was very mature for her age. I met her at a church function and we hit it off right away. People didn’t think she was spiritual enough for me so I tried to find someone that was but never had a true connection like I did with her. She broke up with me 10 months ago. At first it didn’t hurt then I found out how much I missed her but it was a bit late she was talking to someone even had sex with someone else. We’ve been talking all these month I’ve tried begged even did all the things I didn’t do before. She says I’m the perfect guy I do all the things she ever wanted but she says it’s to late. We even went out for drinks one day and came home and had sex but still nothing. I’ve given her gifts been there for her in everything we even talked about maybe moving in to help her with school but she won’t budget. Now she’s living the night life and she seems happy. I haven’t really talk to her in 2 weeks. She text me about her passing some test about a week ago , I just Congratulated her told her I knew she could do it and that’s it. She use to watch all my I.G stories till I told her why she watches them if she don’t care I blocked her then unblocked her and now she don’t even look at them. I’ve offered to make changes in my life to make her happy and enjoy each other but nothing. Sometimes I see her struggle with bills , school and stuff but she says she rather work for it her self then have me help her. Lost for words ,still love there girl but trying to give her space. We have said bye to each other like 3 times and I just think she really moved on. She tells me all the time to move on. We have gotten into fights in arguments but we always stop talking for a couple of days and I always break it. She sometimes response right away but sometimes she don’t. We have gone on dates and hung out since the break up but she always tells me it’s hard for her to give in and give it a chance. She says she stop loving me and she don’t find me attractive Anymore but we always have a good time when we hang out. She use to spend the night all the time after we hung out but now she just goes home. Like I said Im doing the no contact rule but she did text me about her school and I just responded short and sweet. I really need help. I’ve tried dating after her and even told her (she was surprised ) but all I see is her. We dated for 2 years and 2 months from now will be a year since our break up. We have t really cut communications all these months till 2 weeks ago. Also wanted to mention she did try to give me a chance in the new year but she found out I had lunch with a friend and kind of said that was it. (Honestly it was really a friend) she just didn’t like her . She okay with her now and she knows we are good friends now but she did try to give me a chance 8 months ago but I blew it. Really need your help. Spend days and nights in bed think I wish she was here. Soon to be my birthday and I wish she was around. Sorry for the long comment.
The best thing to do right now is to admit you've effed up and try to be patient and sympathetic with what your ex is going through. By cheating, you're automatically putting the ball in your ex's court and have lost privilege to take your power back in all this. It's up to your ex now and how soon they can forgive you and move on from the incident, not necessarily from the relationship although some people do that. With that in mind, these may help: ruclips.net/video/f0F8q2IIgtE/видео.html AND ruclips.net/video/qnE192fUKxI/видео.html
Its been 2.5 yrs and he discarded me. We were together for 7.5yrs. He moved on eight away and I stupidly chased him for first few months but realized it was useless. My heart is still so very heavy. I genuinely loved him but he isnt receptive.
This video was very helping and thanks😃 but, it's been a year since my ex broke up with me cause I moved and before I moved I never told her goodbye😪 and she took it really hard as her friends told me.Then she went out with another guy to try to get me off her mind but they broke up in two weeks her friends told me.Now I moved back and I really love her still and its like she doesn't even know me and I want to get her attention and possibly get together with her but I don't know what to do? Can you help?
eric alvarez If she initiated the breakup, then you're not really obliged to tell her goodbye -- the breakup already sort of did that. :-) Seriously though, have you tried reaching out to her? Test the waters and make sure you don't come off strongly. This videos are for you: ruclips.net/video/uN_XAgHjaFM/видео.html and ruclips.net/video/Oj06Nl6AlEw/видео.html
Hey Brad! Appreciate all the videos, they've been so helpful. Months after our breakup, my ex and I are gonna meet at a store; he's going to help me pick some gear for my backpacking trip. He initiated the BU but checks on me once every other month (by email only) and even sends me pictures of his trips. This after being very very cold for a while and that I decided to go silent and focus on myself. Now....I know he cares about me but he's got a phenomenal EGO in him that I can picture him playing the "the tough man" when we meet. Any advice? Thx in advance
+Harris Cluddy You're welcome! :-) How was your interaction with him lately? Is he showing any signs other that he's interested to get back together (other than sending out emails to you)? Since your situation can play out in different ways, I suggest that you sign up for my coaching program at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching so I can put you on first priority as well and I'll have you sorted. The coaching program also helps me keep track of what's going on since, as you know, there's more to a situation that can go beyond one or two paragraphs... and I really don't want to make any wild guesses and/or give advice at the expense of your relationship. Make sense? Thanks for understanding!
Hey Brad. My girlfriend left me back in MARCH because of my insecurities , jealousy , restriction and i even betrayed her. After 5 months of pleading and begging i went on NO CONTACT PERIOD for a month or so. It helped me alot.. I am a better person and more happy. I still think that i should be with my ex but has also accepted the fact that there is a possibility that she may never come back. couple of days back i texted her and followed your instructions of how to get back in contact with your ex and stuff. I was the one to end the conversation as well. But in the end she said dont text me, I asked why she said i cant trust you and if we talk it ll be a problem for me. I said okk. after two or three days i texted her again. I dont know what happened she started comparing this anothher guy with me. First she said that guy is way more possessive than you are and the next moment she said his girl will be the most lucky girl on this planet. I said go ask him out then she said no. Conversation went a bit carrired away i guess and she started sayin that it wasn't her fault i betrayed her and ruined everything. I said i am sorry but i really am but its the past and nothing can be done. In the end i asked her do you still love me ? she said yes And then i ended the conversation. What should i do next ?? And how to get her back because i really love her BRAD. Looking forward for your help !!
shashank tripathi Hello there, it sounds like your ex is still emotional. Now looking at what you've mentioned, there's good and bad in this to be honest. It's a good thing that she's still emotional, but it's a bad thing that she can't seem to put the past behind. i.e: what you've done. In this case, you can't rush it and you have to be patient. Give her more space. Apologizing over and over again WON'T help, but make sure you give the most sincere apology you could muster. One apology will do. Two or more is considered annoying so make sure you don't do that. Get my Ex Factor Guide, I think it can benefit you to help you understand things. Otherwise, watch and learn from my videos, especially this one (so you won't repeat it) : 5 Mistakes That Ruin Your Chances of Getting Your Ex Back
Brad Browning Hey man...its been more than a month i am following you and it helped me a lot thanks for all your help man. Couple of days back i asked my ex out. I didnt call it a date , just a random meeting. Yesterday we met and things got emotional and even after 8 months of breakup she cried with her head on my shoulder saying how could you do this to me. I hugged her and stopped her from crying and kissed her on her forehead and cheek. She stopped crying and then we went to this bar and after a couple of drinks again things went emotional and started crying like hell. I again confronted her. I asked her do you still love me, she said yes, i asked do you want me to stop texting you, she said no i asked do you miss me, she said yes. We hugged and sat for rest of the time. When we came out we were on the stairs i hugged her and kissed her. We had that intimacy and romance and love which we used to have and then jst stood there hugging her. Finally we came out and on the way back she was quite i asked what are you thing she said the reason why cant we be together. Now she says we cant be together and misses me like hell help me out here Brad kinda worried now
Hey Brad, my name is Rhys. My ex and I broke up about a year ago, but we still keep in touch. This weekend when I visited her, I discovered she is with a guy that is bi-polar, and she has dated this guy before. I really do love her, as I have known since the day I realized she was the one I wanted. But she's determined to stay with this guy, and I'm worried about her safety. Plus, when I visited her, she got all moody and said she didn't want to be in a relationship with me, and I hadn't even said anything about that to her that day. I want her to come back to me, but I'm not sure if I should worry about this yet. I'm only 21 and she's only 19. She's very kind to me, but she'll occasionally get upset because of family issues. I really care about her, and I don't want her to get hurt because of this bad boy phase she's going through. Again, should I worry about getting back with her right now? And if so, what should I do? PS: At one point while I was talking to her, she randomly said how much she loved lavender, could that be a hint towards something?
Jokerfan45 Hi Rhys, if she's with someone else, then as harsh as it may sound, she is no longer your concern. She made a decision to be with that guy and she alone is responsible for her actions and/or choices. As to your question, no, you shouldn't be trying to break them apart because the more you do, the more she'll see you as the bad guy. I know it seems twisted but that's usually how it plays out. You're also in danger of landing in the friend zone and that's not a very good place to be in. Shift the focus from her to doing stuff that you like, follow your passion, go out with your friends. Basically just try to be happy again without her.
Two years after the relationship i still ha e strong feelings for her constantly thinking about her. A main reason was i wasnt the same person in real life then on the phone. advice would be appreciated please. Any symptoms which may suggest she likes me back would be great ive notice she sometimes looks at me whilst im not paying attension but i think that's not enough to know for sure. Help me Brad.
Your ex is most likely lying about the reason of the breakup so try not to fall for that. Watch what I’ve explained here and watch the entire length of the video to gain full understanding, as well as know what to do: y2u.be/E9wG_ErBQoI It’s important to rebuild the attraction naturally so your ex will be amenable to working things out eventually. This is what my guide is for but you can also learn the basic principles of my 3R system here and watch the vid til' the end so you don't end up missing the important points: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html and the golden rules here: ruclips.net/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/видео.html
I was with my ex 8 months and we spent like 20 hours together everyday we've been broke up for months she's been in new relationship for a month could this be a rebound I hope so
Thomas Woody It's never a good idea to be friends with an ex too soon after a breakup and this is especially true if she's dating someone else. Like what I always say, focus on yourself first. Watch this as well for future reference: 5 Mistakes That Ruin Your Chances of Getting Your Ex Back
I’m 62 years old and I left my ex 5 years ago. Tomorrow I’m going to ask him if I can move back in. We’re still good friends and we both need help. He needs shoulder replacement and he can’t manage on his own. I’m very unhappy where I live. It would also help us both financially. We still love each other very much. I’ll let you know how it goes.
it's been 5 months since my ex and I broke up. he inboxed me on fb 2 days ago telling me that he broke up with his girlfriend and wants to get back with me. But, during our period of no contact, I moved to South Carolina to attend med school at USC. I told him that I was going to be super busy until December. he said ok. but then deactivated his Facebook page. I wonder why.
It’s most likely just your ex’s way of coping. Anyway social media should be the least of your concerns. Focus on all three phases and, in time, as you learn to rebuild that attraction and re-attract this ex back to your life.. Here are the basics of all three phases to getting an ex back: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html and social-media wise, here (but then again, don't let it become your sole focus) : ruclips.net/video/D1GpR5MApQk/видео.html Good luck!
Whoa! I guess I won't have to tell you that that was a super sensitive issue, man. Your best bet is to follow the tips here: ruclips.net/video/XwQpYmDKNnE/видео.html and if you need my help further on this, however, then we ought to take a look at a lot of various factors at play, so sign up for my coaching program so I can help take a look at all the other factors at play and find out what’s really going on, monitor your situation, and guide you on a regular, ongoing basis at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Hi Brad, my ex & I have been broken up for almost a year now. 4 months after the break up he reconnected with one of his ex's the ex before me I believe & they actually got married a few months ago, but shortly after they got married, he has reached out to me on & off. He has expressed to me several times how much he misses me & he regrets his decision & realizes how easier things were with me. So is he just experiencing some nostalgia or do you think we still have a chance of getting back together in the future ? I'm so hurt & confused & just don't know what to think anymore 😕
He's likely experiencing nostalgia. But him already being married is a bit complicated. He has to get out of it first instead of dragging you to this mess. It's just too much trouble than its worth. So I suggest you stay back and continue living your life while he sorts his cr*p out with what he should be doing, okay? :-) You're also welcome to sign up for my coaching program if you're unsure how to go about this or you're planning to do something but not sure if it's a good idea or not, etc. but I would have to look a the situation as a whole in order to give solid advice, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
I fucked up really bad I lied about basically everything because I hated myself and didn't even belive in love and that reflected in how I treated her I cheated because I didn't think I was in love because I didn't think love existed and by the time I came to terms with how I felt it was far to late she was betrayed and neglected and she found someone who did care it's been 3 years since they got together in the wake of everything I did she knows how I feel but still can't trust me I love her so much i want to fix everything I did I want to make her happy I want to make her feel protected but she has someone who does that for her I want her back but I truly can't imagine she will want to be with me I know I should get over her but I seriously can't
It's very important to give it time to let whatever anger there is between you two, especially from your ex's side, subside. Sometimes it takes a month but oftentimes it takes longer. You simply cannot rush this. An apology is in order, too. These may help: ruclips.net/video/qnE192fUKxI/видео.html AND ruclips.net/video/f0F8q2IIgtE/видео.html
My ex and I broke up as we didn't see each other very often because she was busy all of the time. This video really helped, as I now know I shouldn't bring up why it ended in the first place. Thanks so much :)
Hi... it's been almost 1 year with me and him. But we were always in touch. And close. Even tho he was dating right away. But that didn't last. I feel stuck... I never moved on. I miss him badly. We started kinda dating again but it wasn't a good timing. Now we're like friends with feelings. He handles it well. I don't. We go out but... I want more. I'm usually the initiater. I feel weak. Drained. Sad... We have what it takes but he's not making a step. Even tho I know he still loves me... I feel so bad and I have no idea what to do at this point
You usually feel all those feelings now because you may have been doing all the wrong things. If you want your ex back, then keep track of what you've been doing to see if it's productive or not. Here are the top no-nos: ruclips.net/video/5tNRL7dWCTA/видео.html Have you checked out my guide yet? It may be time to revamp your techniques. Before anything else though, take the free quiz on my website to gauge your chances of getting your ex back. Answer as honestly as possible, at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Good luck!
my girlfriend still likes me and we still flirt with each other but she says she would date me later in life but we still tell each other we think each other are good looking and we compliment each other all the time. How do I get her to date me now. We are 14
Ask her to hang out, but if she refuses, then find some other girl who does. Whatever the case may be, act responsibly yet try not to take things too seriously now since you may be in a period of growth and lots of changes,including preferences in attitude, personality, etc. Focus on your studies instead, all right? Take care!
Had a fantastic 2 month relationship with no fighting and he dumped me randomly with no reason given. After 35d NC and improvement posted on FB I texted him and he ignored me after one friendly reply only. Ran into him a week after and we had a brief friendly chat and I said I hope we could be friends and he said 'no I don't think so' (wtf) then ran into him at a work function a few weeks after and he ignored me completely, laughing with some other girls. Absolutely devastated there's no reason not to be civil at least. I know he's probably a dick but he was never like this at all when we were together. He's been non stop flirting with this girl on FB meanwhile he used to like a year ago and I'm positive it isn't to make me jealous. He's just trying to get another gf and there is no justice in this world. (I am a med student and a model and he was sub par looking (though I liked him anyway bc his personality) What the hell was his reason to breakup and not be civil/friendly at least!?
He most likely doesn't see the relationship as seriously as you do. Someone who truly loves you won't ghost you like that, especially if you think things have been going well prior to that. Your impression of him may not hold any water since two months is really just a short period of time to know someone well enough. Consider moving on from this or at the very least, employ the basics here: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html Okay? Good luck!
I was in a similar situation except I was the one the cut my ex off cold turkey. The break up was 4 years ago through text message, and I never talking to him again. I realized recently that I broke up with him because I felt like he was "too good for me" and I was "saving him". I lost a good guy by being insure about myself. Mentally you too are on different levels of dating. I wouldn't waste my time on someone who will not give me the time of day. Move on girly. You'll find someone that wants what you want. Focus on Med School.
it's been 6 years for me. We are on good terms but we don't talk regularly. We talk like once every year or two over the phone. it was just recently his birthday so I texted him and we talked for a few days after that and it was so nice. I really miss him. I broke it off when we were in high school over stupid stuff which is a shame because hes such a sweet genuine positive guy and loved everything about me. ugh, i miss him.
The texting tips here will be a good starter: ruclips.net/video/uN_XAgHjaFM/видео.html This means you take time focusing on the second phase and eventually the third phase when the time is right. This won’t happen overnight, of course, but it’s something you ought to continue to work on to the point where you’re gradually building attraction again. This is what my guide is for. Have you checked it out yet? It's too complicated to explain everything on here, but here's an overview of these phases and what to expect in each one: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html Good luck!
We have 10 children. We’ve been separated for years but still sleep in the same bed, still go places together and have fun but he’s interested in his current online relationship. We never stopped living together. We’ve been together 27 years
Sorry to hear that. It's sad when that happens. Make sure you have your own thing going and try to give him space. Set some strong boundaries though. One way of showing that is to stand up for yourself and to limit contact with him. Consider moving out for the children's sake if that's not too much of a drastic move to you. Never ever chase and don't take any bs from your ex, yeah? Because if the connection is not genuine or if you got back together out of your ex being rejected by someone else, it will still end again sooner or later if you chase. Watch this: ruclips.net/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/видео.html Your ex has to learn lessons first but until then, it's pointless to fight for it, so let it go, and move forward until your ex proves themselves to you.
I have a unique situation. When we broke up I sent alot of horrible messages to her and she cut contact with me after it. She was already very upset with me prior but me lashing out made it worse. Please help me get her back, I miss her so much and I want another chance to be my best self
Redo the "no contact" rule and make sure you stick to it this time. But watch this first to help manage your expectations: ruclips.net/video/OzVymYnQFTk/видео.html Here's how you can tell you're doing the "no contact" rule properly: ruclips.net/video/f7zuXk-sVsI/видео.html It may help to make use of the clean slate template, which is a free version from a piece of my Ex Factor Guide. Watch this: ruclips.net/video/6K3xufEwEFg/видео.html The main goal is to bring your ex into an emotional neutral state by employing the 30-day “no contact” rule -- let your ex miss you and don't rush it. But in order to fully understand how this concept works, watch the free in-depth video on my website to learn some psychology techniques and understand how giving each other space for around a month can benefit you than otherwise, at www.breakupbrad.com
Hi Brad, I broke up with my ex a year ago and I still really love him, I really want him back but I don't know what to do. Since we started talking again for some months now, I see that he doesn't show interest in me, he had invited me some times for going out but I don't know what happens that he just cancels me all the time. I really love him and I would really appreciate if you can give me any advice. thank you.
A man flaking out on you is NOT a good sign. I suggest to back off completely and let him do the initiating this time, okay? Let him feel like he has to work to get what he wants, instead of giving it to him all the time, essentially spoon feeding him. Get busy with your own life and put this relationship in the back burner for now so you won't get taken for granted, all right? Good luck!
You're welcome and congrats, Kaushik! I'm glad my advice has affected you positively. Now please keep in mind that getting an ex back does not mean the work stops there. You have to do more work to ensure your relationship stays healthy. Review my guide and/or watch these videos to help you further: ruclips.net/video/jjrOpxa-wfI/видео.html and ruclips.net/video/v9mVzh2NVAc/видео.html All the best! :-)
My ex and I broke up 8 years ago. It was a mutual breakup, but we still remained friends for a while. The friendship ended when we had gotten into an argument, over something I don't even remember now, likely it was something really stupid. I didn't really miss her for the longest time, but in the last month or so, I'm just now starting to feel the effects of the breakup taking its toll on me. Neither one of us have dated anyone else in those 8 years. I've wanted to get back together with her, because I've realized how much of a strong connection we had. I hope I can repair the friendship we shared, but she too, has to want that as well. I hope for the best.
It does hit different when there's zero contact between you two and you start to accept the reality of things... but that's where healing starts and ironically when you've moved on a little is when you'll have it in you to actually get the confidence and strength to try and get your ex back. Right now she's lost attraction for you and it's a terrible idea to be friends with her. You ought to cut off contact for at least 30 days first. Silence is key and here's why: ruclips.net/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/видео.html If you continue being friends right away, the boundaries won't be clear and you're technically both free to date other people. Wouldn't it be pure torture if your ex dates a rebound in front of you because you're only "friends" now, don't you think? So it’s not a good idea, especially if you want this ex back. Watch these two videos so you’ll know why being friends won’t lead you anywhere you wanna be with your ex and how to get out of this trap, respectively at ruclips.net/video/pv_cjzhVKAY/видео.html and ruclips.net/video/sS4V4IOcOgs/видео.html but read my Ex Factor Guide since that’s much more detailed and so you'll know how to go about it, what to do after each phase (there are three phases in total), including what to say, do or not do, along with bonus materials for texting. Good luck!
@@BradBrowning Thank you for the feedback. my EX and I have gotten back to talking, but things have been slow. I don't know if we have to start off as friends again, before going back into a relationship, or if we can just jump back into the relationship.? This might take some time, but I'm glad we are talking again.
Brad, I commented long ago about an who lost all his trust in me and resulted in a really bad break up. After dating other people and starting to communicate again, we ran into each other 6 months later when I flew over to see some friends in the same area as him. 2 months has gone by and now we are really really close. I know were just friends but it honestly like were best friends again and nothing ever happened. I was supposed to leave a month ago but he practically begged me to stay cause he sees I'm happy here and I like it, so I did. We hang out almost everyday. He either comes over to my place or I to his and we cook for each other and watch a movie almost every night when were both free. One night I laid my head on his lap and he put his arm around me. We talk to each other about our current relationships and usually come to each other for advice or when we have a problem. He started acting awkward sometime after that, but at the same time in a close way. He'd tickle me and sometimes id see him stare at me and then just wave of flick me off to be funny. When were alone in the car he plays old music we use to listen to together and we both bring up good memories from the past. Im leaving going back home 6000 miles away tomorrow and he and I just spent my last night here together. We just hung out in his room and watched a movie. We laid together on his bed and when I was falling asleep he told me he needed his hug incase I left and he doesn't wake up to say goodbye. He hugged me so tight, we hugged each other laying there together like we used to and it was like we didn't want to let go. After that we both fell asleep as I waited to be picked up from his house and we cuddled the whole time. He threw his arm around me just how we used to sleep when we were dating. He'd hold me, leg interlock, and we even held each other. It was so nice and felt so right but also weird. When I was leaving he held me even tighter and said that I better come back. The only reason I say "weird" is just because IDK where we stand really. Truthfully Id take his friendship over nothing especially since the way we've been so close is just so amazing and unbelievable. But Idk if I'm just looking into it too much and maybe he's just a really good friend that'll miss me, or if theres something more. I would love to be with him again cause thats all I wanted before. But this all only happened the night before I left. We didn't do anything sexual, it was all innocent and romantic in a way because we both were ok with it happening. Did it just happen cause I was leaving? I don't know what to think. What should I do?
Elesiah Ann Malaga Hi there, I can't really keep track of the situation even if I want to, and the overall situation/progress needs to be taken into consideration so I can get a better view of the relationship in order for me to give an advice specific to your situation. I really wouldn't want to make any wild guesses at the expense of your relationship, so sign up for my coaching program at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching okay? Hope to talk to you soon! Take care!
My wife died in 2012 after 7 years she was my first everything. In 2014 I met my ex. She was only the second person I was ever with. In 2021 she broke up with me. I have some self esteem issues and depression issues. In 2022 I messed up because I didn't know how to break up with her. I had never broken up with someone. I didnt know how to give her space. I text and called everyday. I miss her everyday. I hate life without her. I love her so much.
I'm sorry for your loss. Maintaining a struggling relationship while also struggling with depression at the same time can be too much for most people and it appears as this has a taken a toll on your ex and your relationship. A relationship needs two healthy people in it in order for it to thrive. What you can do right now is work on yourself. Get the help you need first and don't expect a relationship to fix that for you. Once you're good and ready, the rest will fall into place. All right? Also do not downplay depression or any other type of mental disorder (if you've been feeling depressed for long periods of time) because that's a tricky one! Right now, stuff can just be way too draining for you both, so focus on you first. Okay? Take care!
Please advise? I had a relationship for 9years with this man, I was living in his home with his family and made the mistake of breaking up due to allergies from a bug infestation in the house. I got on medication so would love to be taken back but just lost my job. Told him, and while things were looking good before that.. I was desperate and pleaded for him to allow me back into his house to try again. I think he's fine seeing me if we're not living together but most of my stuff is still there. After I begged for him to give me a second chance and promised him that I would never do that to him again and that I would do anything for him, he said he doesn't think it's healthy to live together anymore and he asked for space. Whilest he was asking for time to think the past 3months... I thought occasionally seeing him would still be okay we had even had a date planned but now he wants space as in me giving him no contact, he says he has to want to want me again. Is he either stringing me along or is this salvageable? cause the past 3months when I was still working he was okay with me coming by to see my cat and hangout before the long drive back to my moms... who lives 2hours away from that place I was in. I love him...I regret what I did and how I broke it off but just want him back in my life. Currently working on myself , and on day 1 of full no contact, but I'm scared that it may not work.
Brad , first of all thanks for the awesome tips , me and my exgirl been broken up for months , did the no contact (about 45 days) , worked on my self and then reached out to her with something in reference to a good memory and kept it casual, had a good continuous response from her , "how are you" "whats new with you" "oh guess what happened to me the other day" "oh by the way my son says hi" etc. , we talked casually for 2months , brought her coffee to her job (she works 1st shift and I work 2nd) talked on her break , eventually my daughter's bday came up and I invited her and her 2 kids to come with anticipation, she ends up cancelling last minute and gave me a lame excuse smh , 2 mos after that incident she reaches out to me to see how I'm doing and to tell me her grandfather passed and hopes I'm doing ok , we been talking here and there and I've been keeping it casual and flirting to a minimum , I wanna ask her out to a fall amusement park with her children but I'm afraid of her cancelling on me again, she said over a conversation that she still wears my shirts and still got them (what do you think she mean by that?) have sent her every 2 weeks very small romantic gestures to let her know I think about her here and there , am I on the right path you think? I can use some advise man , please help!
You're welcome! Sorry to hear about the breakup though. You seem to be on the right path. As a general rule, keep track of what you've been doing to see if it's productive or not, as far as getting your ex back is concerned. Have you checked out my guide yet? It may be time to revamp your techniques. Before anything else though, take the free quiz on my website to gauge your chances of getting your ex back. Answer as honestly as possible, at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Good luck!
My ex and I broke up some fews day ago, I regret it and just find out how much I love her. She said she loves my friendship and wants me with her still, but wants to move on from our relationship. She also says she has internal problems and traumatic memories from our relationship that gives her restrain from reattaching to me... I miss her so much, talking to her as a friend is so monotone and ridiculous, I miss everything about our past, our affection and even our fights... It doesn't hit the same way as a friend... 💔 I want my baby back... I'll change for her... But I won't expect much of course
Hey man, this is why it's generally a bad idea to be friends with an ex and I always recommend to employ the 30-day "no contact" rule right after a breakup. If you want your ex back, then keep track of what you've been doing to see if it's productive or not. Here's a quick overview of what needs to happen: ruclips.net/video/ECCZm_mqzKg/видео.html Have you checked out my Ex Factor Guide 2.0 yet? It may help a ton, along with bonus texting materials to send your ex. Before anything else though, take the free quiz on my website to gauge your chances of getting your ex back, at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Good luck!
I promised I’d do anything to support our relationship and help him build our future together. He’s been so pessimistic and things I’m not capable of changing for the better in the future and kept saying that to end our relationship. I wish he could see how wrong he is with that kind of thinking, because I’m a fighter!
My ex and I have been divorced for 20 years but we both still love each other but he is engaged. I left him several times and hurt him very bad each time I left. he left me the first time and lived with his first wife for 2 months and I had a newborn. I had no dignity at all. I cried all the time and begged him to come back to me. He finally came back to me but then we separated every two years and we have two kids together. He had anger issues that were a big problem. I was young and I ran from my problems instead of facing them. I have been married twice since then and both were disasters. We ran into each other a few months ago and we were both very shaken by seeing each other. We are both every much in love with each other. We both have been through a lot of rejection intimitely lately. This was never an issue with us. We did not have intimacy problems. That was our strong point. He is afraid that I will leave him again and he said he couldnt take that kind of pain again. I asked him if I should give up and he couldnt tell me to give up but he will not have contact with me. I have cut off contact as well. I do not initiate contact ever.
You ought to be a little more subtle especially since it's been decades you've been separated. He might have felt pressured because you came on too strong, after these many years. Try to follow the golden rules here first: ruclips.net/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/видео.html
Hi Brad, we've been living together, even after the little incident. She's moving out tomorrow for peace of mind. We are married, and she says once we have some sort of friendship, we can date again and she said if I really want them, I can come and see them, she moved 2 min away from house, where we lived with my mum whom we looked after. I'm the gentleman that emailed you today, regarding the Order on your site.
delcio2012 Hey there, yes,!always give it enough time and space. Have you signed up for my coaching program? If so, then wait for my response if I haven't already (I can't verify here) since I believe that is a more detailed situation you've mentioned, and those things need to be taken into consideration for me to give a more accurate advice. Take care!
Hi Brad- My ex and I broke up three months ago. We were pretty serious, but I walked out on him because of his "I love you, but I am not sure I'm ready to commit". I want him back, and he has dated two different women since we did. He always kept communications, I did NC for a month and a half, but blew my chances by rehashing the relationship on chat, not believing him when he said he loved me, anger, etc. He still kept saying he loved me and we met twice. First time he was trying (eye contact, gazing, showing me our old photos, touching, holding hands) and I was aloof, second time it was the opposite, yet he still displayed cautious holding hands, twirling me on the street, and I kissed him at the end -he responded but it was cautious. He said he is changing to be better (for either me or a new relationship). He had tried to hide his dating, but it got to me, Now he is w/new girl and is keeping his distance because he wants to be "better than he was with me". He "wants me to be happy, and dating because I deserve it", yet texts me once a week with little notes about coffee, tv programs,and says he still thinks about "you, and us" but "I have to see where this relationship goes". I find myself making contact for the past couple of weeks, and I'm afraid 3 months is a long time, I used your program but now I don't know what should I do now. He said he will be a bit scarce to focus on his relationship, but wants us to be close. Please help :(
Mark GratiMd Hi Mark, it looks like your ex is trying to get the best of both worlds by dating someone new and keeping you on an invisible leash. Don't allow that to happen and cut off contact right away, unless you're ready to become an option, which I doubt. :-) Be strong and be firm with him. Stand your ground and show him that you indeed deserve better and of course, deserve to be number one in someone's life, by cutting off contact. If he asks why you want to cut off contact, tell him that you deserve someone who will make you a priority instead of an option, because admit it, a relationship is what you want from him, isn't it? He can't see your true worth if you stick around, believe me. In the future, learn to love yourself enough not to be treated this way, and especially not by an ex.
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Me and my ex of almost a year broke up 3 months ago and didn't talk at all...he broke up with me btw...I had a breakdown 2 weeks ago and texted him and he replyed and the next day I asked him if I could see him and talk and he agreed and he gave me a time but the time he gave me was 4:30 and it was 4:00 so that was not gong to work....I told him I was going to come to his dad's house later that night...he told me no....I showed up at his house and he came out and talked to me...talking to him I could tell he was hurting...he was a different person..he wouldn't look at me when we talked...he was so angry and he said he's mean to everyone now...He basically told me that I've been cut out...and it really upset me and after 2 hours of talking I was about to have a breakdown so I walked away from him and he texted me asking me why I walked away and I told him I couldn't deal with it and he was like you didn't have to walk away and he said he was sorry and he asked me if I wanted any water....idk why he was being so nice but it felt good...he hasn't been nice to me in awhile....so we continued to talk until the next day....we were talking about our relationship and I told him I couldn't deal with him cutting me out and I asked him if we could at least work on being civil and he said idk....and then out of nowhere he stopped replying....I sent him an apology text telling him I was sorry for everything and I got nothing back....idk what to do ....it's been 2 weeks since all that happened...he won't talk to me.....has he really cut me out for good? Will we ever talk again??? The thought of him cutting me out terrifies me...please give me some answers....
Hannah Wray It seems like you're clinging on to him for dear life, and that's not a good move at all. I suggest you find the strength to cut off communication instead just so you can get a hold of yourself because being clingy or desperate is only going to push him away and is not doing anything to help him be re-attracted to you. Make sense? Would you really want him to be with you out of pity? I guess not, so cut off contact for at least a month or more, until you're reached a state where you "want" him back instead of need him back Make sense? This isn't always easy of course, get my guide so you'll know how to go about this and let you understand why you ought to do the things you need to do at www.breakupbrad.com Watch this video too as it might help you: ruclips.net/video/5G1IRS-lCvc/видео.html
Me and my exgirlfriend have been officially broken up for a few months now but we were "trying to make it work". We were both exhausted and life started giving us both beatings and I was trying my best to keep us together but she decided two weeks ago that it was time for her to move on. She no longer trusted me because of some cheating that happened in the first few months, and I told a lot of really petty lies throughout. She said recently that she has no romantic feelings for me and then decided to tell me that she has found someone else. Right now they're in the honeymoon stage and it's nauseating to watch but I really want her back. We dated for two and a half years and I was convinced that this was the girl I wanted to spend my life with. We broke off contact recently because I realized that me talking to her was doing nothing productive. We still play the same online games and share so of the same friends. I want to disappear completely but that would mean giving up playing that game. I really want to get her back but what if she's too into her rebound? How do I even know if this is a rebound and she doesn't genuinely like this guy a lot?
Ryan Hurtt Only time can tell whether it's a rebound or not. But understand that there are clearly techniques you need to change since nothing has resulted in your both trying to make it work, like you said. Anyway it's best to focus on stuff you can control now rather than her rebound, which is counterproductive. I suggest that if and when you do converse, assuming you've completed the "no contact" phase, then keep things fun and light. Good luck!
Hi Brad. It's been 3 months already since we've broken up after a 3 year relationship. We've had contact here and there only under important reasons (bills) We had a talk the other day and she stated "we're taking a break" I stopped using all the social media because my mind keeps thinking she could be with someone else which is stupid because a lot of our mutual friends still thinks we're together and a lot of people that knows us, shops at the store where she works. This past Monday she came over my place so I can fix her car, we had a good time. We talked and laugh and we would flirt with each other, make eye contact. When I was done with the car, she couldn't hug me from the front but went and wrapped her arms around me from the back then gave me a kiss on the cheek and told me she love me. She said it helps that I don't talk to her so she can focus on her. Stating it is a slow process. What does it truly mean when she said "taking a break"?
I hate to say this, man, but taking a break ought to be considered as a breakup. What you did on social media was great though, continue NOT to stalk her, okay? Learn the basics here first, man: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html Good luck!
Hi Brad, just a follow up. I have been doing great on not going social media. I am starting not to care. Now the only problem I have now is cutting her off. What I mean by that is that she is still under my health insurance and my comcast bill is under her name. She should be coming by next week to pick up the money for comcast and that is when I need to grow a pair of balls and cut her off my health insurance and have her cancel the comcast bill. She said we arent together anymore because she needs to work on herself. Which to me I think is bullshit.I need to start being a man and put my foot down and put my feelings first from now on.
Bryan , my ex and I got a quick divorce when she said that she did not have any feelings for me anymore and wanted to get out . I was sad and complaining when the conversation started but I never wanted to hold her back . We signed a quick divorce ..... Meanwhile I have noticed the mistakes I made and I have been working on making myself a more capable man for myself and for everyone around me . We met each other a few days back , We had a good conversation - it went very well . She told me how she watched Some sport alone which introduced her to and how she would train in future . I told her about my new little achievements and she was happy for me . For some reason in our years marriage I grew a little less passionate about public affection . After an hour and a half of conversation , I stood up reached across the table and kissed her . The restaurant was closing , we went out and kissed each other while people were passing . It just happened naturally . We then talked . She mentioned how she would go back to our home country ( she had 3 failed relationships in the States , I being third , and she doesn’t like the job either . She wants to go back to our motherland and help poor ) . k ........ However , she told me never to block her on phone as she would want to reach me back for my thoughtful advices if she ever has roadblocks in her life ( she always respected my ability to analyze a tough situation and come up with answers ) . I agreed to it but it wasn’t an emphatic okay because I want her here with me if she wants to get the best of me . And then she reached and kissed me . She hugged me and cried a lot . She told me she loved me but wants to go back. We said a goodbye to each other as it was too late and currently both of us have our families here and we stay with them . What should I do next ? I would want to go meet her at her home next week when she is alone and have some intimate time for old time sake just like you mentioned in your vids . I have the confidence that it would happen naturally . Do you think it is a good idea ? If not what else could I do ? In addition , what can I do in near future . I do not want her to leave the country
Not sure, man. It's usually best to give each other as much time as you both need especially when a divorce's already in place. Watch this first: ruclips.net/video/HHkwa5tbNC0/видео.html
There’s been some ppl (really rare) that have been broken up for a decade or more and that’s some crazy shit. Especially if you both have children, that have gotten back together. It’s rare as hell.
Hi Brad, My ex and I broke up 4 years ago, we remained friends all that time and we keep casual contact like have dinner once in a while, chill or go do something together(like going to a festival or whatever) Recently I have im getting more and more feelings towards her, I have the idea that she also has some feelings for me as well, but she keeps distance not to get hurt again(by texting less and do more distant on whatsapp for example). I can tell this because, when I had a new girlfriend she contacted more and on regularly basis. Then my new girlfriend and I broke up and she started to contact me less often. However she still gives me signals when we are together for example; touching my leg sometimes when we sit next to each other or touch my hair or ear. Also keeps long eye contact and touches her hair when we talk(this is not all the time) or hold my hand and cuddle me when on a festival. I want to know how I can win her back because she is an amazing girl and I made a bad decision years ago, which I regret until this very day. Do you have any tips? Should I stop contact for a couple of weeks? For example we have set a date to go to multiple festivals upcoming months, should I just try to "ignore" her for a couple of weeks and act busy. Or should I just call her on a random day and say I made reservations for a movie, I can pickup you up at 19:00? Hope you can help! R-
+Reject B Was there cheating involved in the past? What have you done so far, to get her back? Staying friends in an attempt to get her back had been a bad idea though. Watch these two videos so you’ll know why being friends won’t lead you anywhere you wanna be with your ex and how to get out of this trap, respectively, at ruclips.net/video/yd6pvNVeHjI/видео.html and ruclips.net/video/sS4V4IOcOgs/видео.html
Their was no cheating, I stopped contacting her actually some time ago. I don't feel the need, and it's leading no where. If she wants contact she can text me. The only thing I did is sent her text before she went on holiday to wish her well (this I did not do when I was with her, or barely.) So this just shows her that I changed.
Psychiatric pacient, got insane, beated her up, she left, and now cured, i cry everyday for being punished for a crime I didn't make. I didn't ask to be born sick, To make things worst, it was about two weeks before I was gonna ask her hand. I still have the ring up to this day. I don't even think I deserve to be forgiven, I just want a chance to compensate her for the rest of my life, because there is no person that I love more in the world.
Hi, Gabriel! It takes a lot of courage to admit the things you've admitted, but kudos to you, man! Yes, nobody ever asks to be sick, but what matters more is you do something about it instead of refusing to seek treatment. I'm glad you've recuperated now. However, if these events have played out only recently, then she obviously needs time to heal herself. I'm sure she trusted you and being physically hurt like that will incur some trauma on her end, so let time do its job as well and don't force things, all right? Employ at least 30 days of the "no contact" rule and DON'T try to make her jealous. Anyway you're also welcome to sign up for my coaching program if you're unsure how to go about this or you're planning to do something but not sure if it's a good idea or not, etc. but I would have to look a the situation as a whole in order to give solid advice, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
I have a very unique situation. I'll be as brief as I can. My ex dumped me last January shortly after New Years. We were together for 5 years when she suddenly suggested we "take a break", saying she had been thinking about forming sexual relationships with people and didn't want to cheat on me. I've watched multiple self help videos and read articles about trying to swing things back in my favor but there is one snag. My ex and I still live together. Aside from the fact she is a general distraction from me being able to move on, So many of these self help options tell me breaking contact is the best way to evoke emotion in my ex, but we live together out of convenience, as we are having trouble with affording our own places currently. We both are now members of dating sites, but she is already out seeing people casually and even though it's been a while, this past year has been unmitigated hell and I still have no interest in anyone else. I've tried to break away from old habits of familiarity, but I've stumbled along the way and didn't stay true to them just because I already agreed that we would be friends. Things were complicated even further by the fact she had gotten pregnant with my child and decided to get an abortion. I really don't know what to do anymore. She recently even told me the reason she now spurns my sexual advances and submits to others is because she isn't romantically interested in me anymore, but she still loves me. She'll go out with other guys, but then, for example, when she went off to Jersey visit family, she happily kissed me multiple times on the way out! I'm so confused!!! Is there any way for me to live with and still nurture that disconnect enough for her to miss me, without being a jerk? Or have I thrown myself into a hopeless trap of my own design? We both work two jobs, so I thought that would be enough time apart to initiate her to miss me a little, but from what I can see, nothing is working! Should I stay with a friend for a while? If you can, please help, Brad... :(
DoriDoesVoices I'm sorry to hear that. Yes, living with an ex can be really daunting.It might really help if you can find some place to stay when the breakup had still been fresh, but granted that you've kept in touch and it's almost been a year,then the "no contact" might be less effective. I've mentioned this in my videos as well. Since the "no contact" is not really a viable option, then for now, I think it would help if you try dating other girls and see where that would lead. You don't have to get serious with any of these girls just yet, but go out with them and have fun. You simply have to take the focus away from the notion of getting back together and get back to being happy with yourself first. Watch this if you haven't already: ruclips.net/video/ydeES3WU1Uc/видео.html
Hi so basically what I'm trying to ask is that my ex left me because she thought I cheated on her when I truthfully never did. She thought this because she found dating apps on my phone that I forgot to erase before we were officially together. I went against all the no contact rules and made it worse for the next month by trying to get her to believe me after she broke up with me. It came to the point that her and her parents threatened to call the cops if I went to her house or work. Things even happened after the break up for like a month, for example I went to a bar with a friend and posted it on Facebook as well as added 3 girls on it. She saw this and blocked me on there and gotten even more mad. It eventually got to the point that I said "maybe I should block you but I still love you just so we have time apart" . She responded by saying she was going to block me first. She actually did block my phone after that. A week later with a friends phone I sent another apology but less detailed, we got nothing back. Now it's 4 months after that and I feel like I still have to say sorry for the things I did do and explain how I truthfully never did cheat on her with even more detail. I downloaded an app (she broke up with me for because she thought I was using it during our relationship but I wasn't because it was a virus on my phone ) recently to try and move on but I found her on it . When she saw me on it she blocked me. I went on a lawyer website and asked what could happen if I contact her and they said she might be able to call the cops so I should wait at least 6 months after last contact with her. So that would be in 2 months. My question for you is when should I contact her because I love her and still want her back. Also how should I contact her because she moved away to college. So should I make a fake Facebook account or send something with my iPad?
Sean Laera As you can see, it's never good to pressure someone regardless of what's happening. It's also not a good idea to keep repeating how sorry you are. Saying it once, or two at maximum should be enough, as long as it's sincere, that's the key. You should watch this if you haven't already: ruclips.net/video/XwQpYmDKNnE/видео.html You girl seems insecure to start with and you likely have confirmed it in her mind by making her even more jealous -- that's a bad move! :-) Get my guide so you'll have an idea what to do. If there's some kind of restrictive order though, it's best to let her contact you first while you go about your life and living it to the fullest. Sometimes, that works too because your ex can start to see how much she's missing and will start -- depending on what you've done to freak her out to the point of calling the cops -- to erase the negative memories.
She thought that I cheated on her when I truthfully never did. I never sent a bad text to her I was always trying to be nice. She never did call the cops or anything I'm just scared she might. Is there a specific time I should wait so she can't get the cops to do anything and that hopefully she will come back. I heard like 6 months after the last contact with her before.
Also I'm scared that she'll try to get a restraining order or call the cops because she blocked some of the basic communication forms. I can send an email with my iPad but I don't know how long I should wait. Also I want to send something for closure and am prepared if she doesn't come back after. I'm just scared that if she doesn't want to come back she'll call the cops even though the message will be very nice that would suck a lot because that would mean not only would she still not believe me but also she might try to screw me over for life. How bad are restraining orders if I go through with this and she does try to do something would I still be able to get good jobs. She never said she will call them I'm mainly scared because people told me she might.
LightYagami Thanks! All the tips are in the rest of my other videos on this channel, so take some time to watch those. How To Talk To Your Ex Again - Establishing Communication With Your Ex Otherwise, you can always check out my Ex Factor Guide which contains a detailed guide on what you need to do and the psychology behind it, as well as understanding what caused the breakup.
Brad my man i have a question, my wife left me because i lose interest in the relationship, i took her for granted n never wanted to try new things with her, i stick to a routine which i thou was the safest bet to make our relationship work n last many yrs, well my plan backfire and shes gone, she doesn't wanna hear my apologies or promises, we still talk but everytime i want to talk about getting back she tells me shes going to block me if i continue to insist, we have been together for 6 yrs, living together 5, and married for 3, no kids, shes 24 and im 27, she went back with her mom ( or thats what she says) and im alone in our apartment Some of my friends suggest shes seeing someone else, others say ( females) the she just probably wants some time off, take a break from my horrible routine and teach me a lesson
It's very important to give it time to let whatever anger there is between you two, especially from your ex's side, subside. Sometimes it takes a month but oftentimes it takes longer. You simply cannot rush this. An apology is in order, too. These may help: ruclips.net/video/qnE192fUKxI/видео.html AND ruclips.net/video/f0F8q2IIgtE/видео.html
Wow I had got a text from my ex and we broke up because of bad terms on my end tho... He stated that he still remembers EVERYTHING....but after years of us not being around each other he wants me in his life forever. I'm going to take that as a good thing
If it's been years that you've been apart,he must've missed you. I suggest you ought to take it slow, however and not rush into things. Test the waters first. Go by the golden rules here to help guide you in this journey: ruclips.net/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/видео.html
I don't think I'm a victim or have that mentality, she was my best friend, the love of my life, my rock she was everything to me, we went through so much together, at one point we were homeless living in hotels, I even had to go an visit her in a mental hospital, even though she's moved on I still love her and will till the day I die, I don't know how or what I'm gonna do but im just trying my hardest to keep my head up, it's hard when everywere I go I see her, I can't even listen to music, that's how bad this is.
It's gonna take a while before things will get better, that's for sure. Keep your head up! If you want her back, try to see if you can follow the basics here: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html but help yourself through this process, too... instead of letting circumstances control you. All the best!
Heyy Brad...Im Nikki...its been an year and half after me and my bf broke up...It was not his fault or mine...he explained to me about his financial issues and told me his family needs him and a relationship can not make things happen...and it was true...Then he told me'Nik prepare for the worst and ul get the best...' then he left...he talk once a while when we meet some where randomly but it extends for hours .... and when i look into his eyes i still see that...' i love you nikki' but he never says that...he was the only person who saw the real ME and was a cure for the depression i had for years....and now....i see him getting harder and trying on his career but im scared if he will get to harder that he will be ok to forget me ...or im afraid he already did...one and half year and hes still in here making me want him forever ....what should i do..... it feels tooo hard to handle...i need him back but i know i cant change things with him...thats not correct... plz help
Have you been actively trying to get him back? Keep track of what you've been doing to see if it's productive or not, as far as getting your ex back is concerned. Have you checked out my guide yet? It may be time to revamp your techniques. Before anything else though, take the free quiz on my website to gauge your chances of getting your ex back. Answer as honestly as possible, at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Good luck!
Brad , I dated my girlfriend for 5 years. We stayed friends immediately after for 18 months. To not sound mean, she literally has no one else in her life but me and her family, therefore we were always together!! We were never not except when she was working or when I was working. Now, I realized that I want her back but told me she can’t offer me more. Will NC actually work in this case ? I mean we were doing everything, shopping, movie nights, dinner nights, road trips, family gatherings etc….we never stopped
Hi Brad, so this past July I broke up with my ex of almost 2 years because he cheated on me while at college. We have talked regularly but argued a lot and he said I have pushed him completely away because I'm being too emotional and coming off as trying to control him and that his family doesn't want us together, so today I started the no contact rule. Do you think it's too late for this? He said we can't be together anymore because things aren't the same but I feel like he still hopes we will since he told me he still loves and cares about me
Sorry to hear that, Sarah. Your best bet is still to cut off contact COMPLETELY and yes, it will work in a sense to where you get to clear your mind to be in a better position to deal with an ex when the time comes - instead of letting emotions overrule everything, risking things to get blown out of proportion even further. Make sense? But will no contact ALONE work to get your ex back? In some cases it may, but oftentimes not, because the no contact phase is only part one of the three-step process I teach in my Ex Factor Guide. Learn the basics here: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html I also made a quick vid to those who are seemingly lost and could use a reminder on what to do: ruclips.net/video/obBIttQSak4/видео.html
Me and my ex broke up about a year ago and dated other people.. We have a 3 year old son together.. And I finally realized how much I love him and miss him and want him back and now he doesn't want me back and has a new girlfriend.. I don't want to move on because I want my family back :( he tells me he got over me and doesn't see me like that anymore.. But I don't think you just stop loving someone. If you love someone you always love them. Idk what to do :(
Have you been actively communicating because of your son? If so, then how was your most recent interaction? Try to see why you suddenly feel the urge to want him back. Watch this, first: ruclips.net/video/m27TLeyUmwg/видео.html
My ex and I broke up 7 months ago, but have talked, been intimate, and have hung out multiple times since then. She says she isnt talking to anyone but is "keeping her options open per se" and doesnt want a relationship with anyone right. Understandably, she wants to be happy alone because we had our fair share of issues. Shes clearly still attracted and has said she will never be alright with me being with someone else but understands if I need to do what's best for me. Not sure if shes talking to anyone else (although I'd be naive to think she isnt). I do my best to let her text me sometimes which she does and when we text, 99% of the time they have been positive. For the most part, if I stay calm and collect, and dont bring up relationship stuff we have a good time. She is aware I want to get back in a relationship but I've accepted taking things slow as long as 3+ months down the line she says shes talking to someone and wants to pursue that. I'd be lying if I wasnt concerned about her moving on. From what I mentioned, should I go no contact? Should I keep trucking and continue to woo her, taking it slowly? Is it a failed cause?
It may be time to put things into perspective because in over a 12 years spent as a relationship coach, I find that a breakup is often NOT just one person's fault, so look at the roles that you've BOTH played that led to the breakup and if the issues have a chance to get resolved, and how to go about it. In most cases, the problems that led to the breakup can be resolved, but in some cases, it can't. So take time to evaluate, okay? However, I have to warn you not to ask the reasons from your ex. This is what I've discussed here along with other stuff that might help you, so this is a must-watch: ruclips.net/video/zqAEi9PbEAA/видео.html Good luck!
I cried infront of my ex and shared everything with him. Now he's happy to know that I'm missing him and I'm sad because he's ignoring me and now I want him back. What should I do?
Hi Brad... I need your advice. I broke up with my ex boyfriend of 8 years and it's been almost a year since the breakup. We have a child together and after the breakup I met my now then husband. I have never stopped loving my ex boyfriend and I have been missing him so bad. We met recently to get closure and talk about his child and realised we still have feelings for each other. Do you believe there could be second chances? This is affecting me , I wish I was married to him.
Is he married as well? What is the status of your marriage? This is complicated. Since your situation may be unique, you can work with me one-on-one so I get to learn more about the situation and therefore be more equipped to help you out, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
HEY BRAD I HAVE A UNIQUE SITUATION. My ex and I dated for A YEAR AND A HALF, partially long-distance. He is like my best friend, we have a ton in common and can talk for hours, and there was a lot of love+affection and very little fighting in our relationship. We broke up over him lying to me about a big trip. I felt I had lost trust in him. We both cried a lot. He had said I did nothing wrong, but of course I didn't understand why he would break my trust. We had no contact for about a month and then he wrote me this long apology (he doesn't believe in apologies on principle, so this was a rare one) which catalyzed a friendship. For 2 months we talked more and more and more, until we were back at 1 hour phone calls and texting every day. He was even fixing things that had bothered me towards the end of when we were dating (like he would call when he said he called, no more empty promises. I got to calling him the King of Empty Promises cheekily by the end of our relationship -- we are both medical students so obviously we get busy, but it always was crummy that he constantly left me hanging). I got to this point where I was starting to catch feelings again, and in a combination of fear and pride, I sent a message to end our friendship. A little background, he went to Italy for a long time and I was going to join him in January 2018 -- I am still going there for 4 months, but we are obviously over now so its not quite the same. The jist of it was "This is hard but I think we should go our separate ways, I love our conversations and I hope you won't hesitate to help me with my Italian when I am in Rome for four months. I have a gut feeling that it is time to end this healthy friendship. I appreciate all the ways you've been treating me better. I know you'll do well in everything you're pursuing. IF YOU CHOOSE TO BLOCK ME ON SOCIAL MEDIA I WILL UNDERSTAND. Anyway this last year and a half has been beautiful, and always sweet honest and deep from my end. I hope you don't despise me for this, goodbye, and no it's nothing you said or did. I'm sure we will talk in a few months." AGAIN THE REAL REASON: I was scared of catching feelings again because I didn't know what he was feeling and I still didn't trust him (it was a huge lie that broke us up), and secondly I had this complex in my mind like "Girl, you don't even need him, just date other people and prove to yourself he is unnecessary in your life." I could tell my message confused, angered, and hurt him. His response was to the effect of: " you don't get to decide when we talk or don't. You're not even trying to hide the fact that you used me for help. What's the reason anyway? Some guy you're seeing doesn't like that you talk to your ex? Don't bother answering, I have my own stuff to think about now too and I don't even care." I panicked and lied: "some guy gave me an ultimatum okay?" then "I love talking to you about nothing and everything all day, I even thought about repairing us at some point. I just think you don't want me like that, and I have to move on it's healthier." HORRIBLE, I KNOW. DON'T KNOW HOW TO DIG MYSELF OUTTA THIS ONE. He hasn't read anything past that. I basically called and texted non-stop for a week, and then for 4 weeks, just kind of once in a while texted and called. He hasn't read any of it. He also hasn't blocked me. General timeline review: Relationship for 16 months --> breakup (July 21, 2017) --> apology from him (August 18, 2017 -- on our birthday, yes it's the same day) --> we start talking a lot (September 5th, 2017) --> I send this stupid message (October 25, 2017) So it's been 40 very long days. I've stopped trying to reach out now, because I figure space may be what he wants, but I don't know what to do. I want to repair our friendship and maybe more, plus I move to Rome in a month regardless. Please please help or direct me to a more relevant video to my wild situation. Also if you could explain why he isn't reading my messages now (does he really think I used him for Italian help... that was only two times?) and how I can fix this... I would really appreciate it.
Hey, Sarah... you're spamming! :-) Listen, I appreciate the time you took to write all this, and I would really love to help, but as what I've been telling anyone who posts super long comments, please try to keep your post short. I only have limited time to give free advice since obviously my coaching clients take first priority, and I'm trying to cover as many comments as possible. Feel free to sign up for my coaching program so I can prioritise your situation at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching Thanks for your understanding!
Well, Brad I see that your time is valuable but so is mine -- let me shorten my post so it is important enough for you to read. I doubt any of your clients is moving to a foreign country in a month in my circumstance. My ex and I dated for A YEAR AND A HALF, partially long-distance. We broke up over him lying to me about a big trip. I felt I had lost trust in him. We had no contact for about a month then 2 months we talked more and more and more, until we were back at 1 hour phone calls and texting every day. He was even fixing things that had bothered me towards the end of when we were dating. A little background, he went to Italy for a long time and I was going to join him in January 2018 -- I am still going there for 4 months, but we are obviously over now so its not quite the same. I got to this point where I was starting to catch feelings again, and in a combination of fear and pride, I sent a message to end our friendship.The jist of it was "This is hard but I think we should go our separate ways, I love our conversations and I hope you won't hesitate to help me with my Italian when I am in Rome for four months. I have a gut feeling that it is time to end this healthy friendship. All the best" His response was to the effect of: " *you don't get to decide when we talk or don't. You're not even trying to hide the fact that you used me for help. What's the reason anyway? Some guy you're seeing doesn't like that you talk to your ex? Don't bother answering, I have my own stuff to think about now too and I don't even care.*" I panicked and lied: "some guy gave me an ultimatum okay?" then "I love talking to you about nothing and everything all day, I even thought about repairing us at some point. I just think you don't want me like that, and I have to move on it's healthier." He hasn't read anything past that. I basically called and texted non-stop for a week, and then for 4 weeks, just kind of once in a while texted and called. He hasn't read any of it. He also hasn't blocked me. I've stopped trying to reach out now. I want to repair our friendship and maybe more, plus I move to Rome in a month regardless.
Okay Brad, I need a little advice. My ex and I were together for 8 months before having a nasty break up. I stopped all contact, and then he started dating some other chic not long after we broke up. We have been broke up a little over 3 months, so A few weeks ago I texted him telling him I was sorry to hear about his pet had died, and he answered the next morning, but nothing special because he was still with her. And just a couple days ago, he texted me telling me that he was a jackass and he couldn't be with this chic anymore because she wasn't me. The next day after this he asked to meet me to talk, we talked about a lot of things in the 3 hours we were together but he said he wasn't ready to get back together yet because he just got out of this relationship with this girl, and I respect that. Since then he has been keeping in contact with me, constantly. When we met up we talked about fun times we had, what we liked about each other and what we would do differently if we got back together, not to mention flirting back and forth. Think we may have a chance to get back together?
Jamie Rowe Hey Jamie, these are really good signs and I'm happy for you! Just make sure not to pressure him in any way as this stage is still very fragile, so you'd want to be careful, okay. A good trick is to end your conversation with him first and have other things going in your own life too :-) From what it seems though, things are looking up. Watch this video to see how many signs he has displayed so far: Does Your Ex Want You Back? 8 Signs To Look For or get a copy of my latest Ex Factor Guide since it contains very detailed instructions just to make sure you're on the right track with this.
My ex broke up 7 months ago, we have a child. She's been single entire time, claims she doesn't want a relationship just to co parent. I did 3 months no contact. She still don't want a relationship. I started talking to another girl probably a rebound relationship in hopes to make ex wife jealous. My wife told me in our last fight over messages that she did love me and still does but doesn't want a relationship, wants to work on herself. But it's been 7 months and I'm just lost
What really happened between you two, though? Look at the roles that you've BOTH played that led to the breakup and if the issues have a chance to get resolved, and how to go about it. In most cases, the problems that led to the breakup can be resolved, but in some cases, it isn't. So take time to evaluate, okay? Good luck!
Hey thanks for the advice brad! Great Chanel.. She broke up with me about 2 weeks ago.. And I started doing no contact last Thursday.. After I made the common mistakes first. I hope it works! It's gong to be so hard not to contact her.. But I hope she is missing me.. Thanks again keep up the good work
masta inc You're welcome! You're not alone, so stay strong and do the right things :-) She's bound to miss you, granted your relationship was serious or a long-term one, if you find the strength not to contact her and focus on your own life instead at this stage.
I broke up with him in the month of may and things were normal till june like we used to talk everyday.. then one day he said I can't be with you anymore the things I did with me bas changed me but after some days he blocked me and I'm still blocked.. and he told my best friend that he loves me but doesn't want a relationship.. what do I do now??
Unless you've done something really epic to mess up things, there's no reason to worry as much, really, because it could be due to the top 3 reasons I've stated on this vid: y2u.be/fjtv90o9bkI Blocking you could just be your ex’s way of coping so I wouldn’t worry too much about it if I were you, at least not initially. If you stay blocked after months though, then that’s another story, especially if you have no other means of communication or have no mutual friends. More about that on here: ruclips.net/video/5UT92IB5ugs/видео.html Anyway social media should be the least of your concerns. Focus on all three phases and your ex may naturally unblock you, in time, as you learn to rebuild that attraction and re-attract this ex back to your life.. Here are the basics of all three phases to getting an ex back: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html and social-media wise, here (but then again, don't let it become your sole focus) : ruclips.net/video/D1GpR5MApQk/видео.html Good luck!
Time heals nothing, just makes things worse, I've been in my room for a month an 4 weeks, completely destroyed, depressed, I'm just a shell of a person, she healed me made me a better person, showed me how to love myself again and even saved my life, we had our own place 2 cars jobs. Hobbies friends etc, and she gave up on me an walked out. Now what????
It won't heal you if you're stuck in the victim mentality and feeling like "you can't do anything about it" kind of attitude. You ought to help yourself, too. Time is a great healer, but you have to help yourself feel better as well, Nicholas. This may hopefully help: ruclips.net/video/01wvLSaS9_I/видео.html
Watch this first to help set your expectations: ruclips.net/video/OzVymYnQFTk/видео.html and look out for the signs that your ex has moved on: ruclips.net/video/TnZzeEIPEik/видео.html If you see only one or zero signs, then this vid is for you: ruclips.net/video/9LC1ewgBkIQ/видео.html If the conditions are right, then make sure you tick off the checklist here as well: y2u.be/BAhMrmw3Sms It's important to rebuild the attraction naturally so your ex will be amenable to working things out, eventually. This is what my guide is for but you can also learn the basic principles of my 3R system here and watch the vid til' the end so you don't end up missing the important points: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html and the golden rules here: ruclips.net/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/видео.html
if you love somebody never give up no matter the time fight for yours
That's what they say!
Do you have any happy ending story to share?
What if they have been dating someone for 5 months and gpt with them a week after breaking up lol
I feel 2give up...Loving somebody who's not love u back it's hurts a lot 😢
Yea my gf of 7 years left me 4 months ago. I begged and pleaded for about 3 of those months and I kinda drove her away more. We have a 2 year old son together. Is there any chance in this world i can get her back? I really cannot keep going like this. It's really too much for me. I've been with her since I was 17 years old. I wanted to hold on forever but she let go.
I'm losing my hope. It's been 3 months since the break up. I've changed, I'm improved, and I know she noticed... But she doesn't want to meet.
After 1 year of break up. We saw us again , so dont lost Ur hope Bro
It happens when you least expect it if it happens.... just do you brother, I know there's not a lot of good women out there it's hard to find the same thing that you had with her. When the right time comes you'll find something even better! Stay strong!
Maybe you're pushing it? Refer to this vid first: ruclips.net/video/Jzb18j7ZMPE/видео.html
Dude 3 months is too soon. You probably improved less than you think.
@@VitorJTekkRodrigues it's been 6months here and she's already in a 2month relationship with another guy.. I even tried to commit suicide after losing her even after hearing this she still doesn't care and blocked me again cause I was talking about my past.. For me it's lost forever
On behalf of everyone that has these struggles and myself i have to say thank you u r a lifesaver. I'm only 1 female out if I'm sure a lot of people, but ur advice has guided me through some doubting times. Thank u for ur reassurance and help. I hope u go far in your journey to help people understand each other. :)
Thank you!
I’m struggling
I broke up with my ex 11 months ago and I can't stop thinking about him, no I didn't cheat he was being a jerk and being disrespectful, he now has a new girlfriend and I can't stop thinking about him and I am still in love with him we stopped talking after he got his new gf which has been now 2 1/2 months. I thought I was ok but I am not and not sure what to do next, I have a new job and I am also looking into going back to school and I have started working out again to just keep my thoughts at bay.
Sorry to hear, but if you've waited 7 months or so before cutting off contact, it may already be a lost cause.Your best bet, however, is still to cut off contact and yes, it will work in a sense to where you get to clear your mind to be in a better position to deal with an ex when the time comes - instead of letting emotions overrule everything, risking things to get blown out of proportion even further. Make sense? But will no contact ALONE work to get your ex back? In some cases it may, but oftentimes not, because the no contact phase is only part one of the three-step process I teach in my Ex Factor Guide. Learn the basics here: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html I also made a quick vid to those who are seemingly lost and could use a reminder on what to do: ruclips.net/video/obBIttQSak4/видео.html
any update?
women do stupid things like this all the time
eurologic so true and i dont know why..
Fight for him well... don't give up I would say. But follow Brad's methods I have faith it will help as I'm in a really bad situation with my ex... ( no I didn't cheat ) my trust issues messed it up, now she's already dating and it hurts and sickens me... I really want her back... it's been a month and three weeks now 😔😔😔
Ur advice has a lot of positivity, at any time within a relationship (especially when things aren't going so well) it's encouraging to hear these things.
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Thanks brad your advice really help me.. I really appreciate it.. my ex gf is back with me she call me back and I followed your steps and we are getting married soon... your the best brad!!!!!
+Devanand Ramsamooj I'm happy for you, man! And You're welcome! Feel free to like, share, and subscribe to my channel so you won't miss any of my future videos. That would mean a lot to me! :-)
Had an awesome relationship. We connected mentally/physically/spiritually/emotionally very well. She knows I wanted to marry her, I gave her a promise ring. We mutually broke up to work on ourselves and then get back together when our drama was gone. She started a 2nd job. 30 days after that she broke up with me for some douche. She told me they've already talked about marriage. I told her I'd drop everything and marry her that day. She said it was too little too late. I'm really confused...
If she is that flaky about who she wants to marry, then you are really saving yourself from a lot of heartbreak down the road. Consider it a blessing in disguise and move on from your life.
Thank You
Dude we in same boat... She now is dating a rich guy .. i laid my cards on the table to marry her also... Well she choosed the guy she dated for 3 weeks... We have 10 years together. Weve been a year apartment and funny she shared interest to me... Sad ... We are in this battle together
Man... The things you don't learn when you grow up without a dad and end up being raised by women smh... This rabbit hole led to u, and you've opened my eyes to sooooo many things I never even thought about lol... Thanks for putting these videos out
Life is full of lessons. Use those to become a better version of yourself, yeah? :-) Take care and you're welcome!
Hi Brad.
My guy left a month ago after my anxiety got bad and we were in a push-pull situation for a couple weeks/months. (I lied to him out of fear, looked through his phone, a couple other small incidents that I immediately apologized for) He's a defensive, independent person who takes care of himself first. I realize (in horror) that I needed to fall flat on my face to learn not to act out in this way in relationships. We were very compatible, worked well together, had great compassion, and brought out the best in each other- but two intense souls that learned a lot from each other, and of course, went through tumultuous times together. I am at a complete loss. I have honored his request to "give him space" of a couple months and he has told me that "he doesn't think we were meant to be together" and not to wait. Knowing how logical this guy is, and how attracted to me he is (he acknowledged that it would be a lie if he wasn't), and how much he cares about me- I want to put in every effort to show I have changed and that he is either the catalyst to my change, or the end all be all. I realize that love is a choice- and I choose him- but I fear it was too late. He is determined to move on, has cut me off social media, but still smiles at me when we see each other at school and does not ignore me in that way. He says he thinks that maybe we were meant to be good friends. I see the reality that exists where we are more- but I don't think he'll be able to see my change and growth without time. He even refused to say "never" when I asked him to break my heart right then and there; he stated that he didn't know- it would have to be "years", though. I feel like if I give him space, he will realize what he's missing- but I'm afraid he'll find someone less anxiety-ridden and calmer than me, when in reality, we just had really, really shitty timing. Any tips?
Hey Jess! Don't be friends with him. This may be one of the cases where the “no contact” rule is actually an exception...but DON'T initiate random contact in any way and don’t make any unnecessary chitchats, all right?I've discussed it in these videos, as well as how to handle it: ruclips.net/video/zKhNHhEmYMg/видео.html and ruclips.net/video/ydeES3WU1Uc/видео.html but read my Ex Factor Guide so you'll have an in-depth view on how to go about it, what to do after each phase (there are three phases in total), including what to say, do or not do, etc. since good timing is essential at www.breakupbrad.com Okay? Take care!
I was in relationship with him only for about 5 months. It was my first genuine, relationship in which I ever got. First person to love. He? Loved me so much like i meant world to him. But i never knew why he brokeup suddenly telling me that " you have to make your friends understand" and he left me.
It has been 4 years. Today I texted him in out of surprise cause i always missed and loved a little in somewhere. But i don't know if he's still the same.
Ñishita Ghõsh any updates?
I second Zahraa, are there any updates on your attempt to reconnect after 4 years?
THAT WAS A REALLY GOOD VIDEO - BEST I HAVE SEEN ON GETTING YOUR EX BACK !
+Helena Hayes Thanks! Feel free to like, share, and subscribe to my channel so you won't miss any of my upcoming videos. I'd really appreciate it! :-)
I discovered a useful collection of videos that may help on Magic Returner Miracle
Helena Hayes great advice
Your advice has helped me a lot, especially this new video about being apart for a while. I'm grateful to have found you. Thank you. :)
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Brad, you are the man. My ex and I dated over 3 years ago. She just got out of a long term relationship, so I gave her a few months to heal from that. This video is going to help me try and rekindle our relationship.
Yes, it should. Make sure you don't force anything though and check out my other tips for more tips. Your situation is also very delicate so once you start to see some progress with your ex, then don’t go at it alone, especially if you're in doubt or don't know what to do next. Sign up for my coaching program so I can help assess your situation clearly, look at all the other factors at play and see things you might have missed, then guide you accordingly on a regular, ongoing basis at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Hi Brad, brief background. I've been with my ex for 3.5 years and he wants to marry me. I broke up with him coz I wasn't sure. After 7 months (July) he coupled with a girl 14 years younger, and totally my opposite. They're still together for about 4 months now. I went recently to his office just to see him quickly, bought him coffee (which will bring back memories to him) and left him a letter with everything I feel - without begging. He hugged me tight when I saw him. Just letting him know that I still love him should he wished to come back. But your videos are saying I should chill and just keep it as friends. I'm torn between keeping my cool or making an effort to show him that I really do love him. Okay so currently, his new gf of 3 months gave him an ultimatum to marry her, otherwise nothing physical will happen between them. This gives me a window to make a move :)
Yes, so play your cards right. Do away with writing letters stating your feelings since that won't help. Becoming too available can cause all sorts of problems, so try to strike the balance between being available and making yourself scarce. Okay? Anyway getting an ex back is a process, so there's no one-action solution for everything. Okay? The "no contact" phase is a good start, so do that first if you haven’t yet. If you have. then I'm glad you've completed it. There are two more phases to go with a few other steps in between. What I'm trying to say here is it's a 3-step process, and it's a bit complicated to explain it all on here, but I made an overview in the hopes of making people understand, so watch it here: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html or read my guide for the entire process. Good luck!
Thanks Brad, will watch the video :) Didn't know you would actually reply! How does your schedule allow that! Thanks much!
I don't need lots of sleep. 6-7 hours tops, will do. So sometimes I wake up early. Other times I stay up late! :-)
Thanks mans, thats great stuff. This is my situation, we broke up a year ago. If wasnt for this Corona Virus thing i'd manage to run into my ex or meet with her eventually.
I hear you, man. The pandemic does its number to new/blooming relationships or long-term relationships that became rocky before the virus caused a worldwide (or at least in many countries) lockdown. Nothing left to do but to use your time productively and change your perception for a bit and see this as an opportunity for a lot of things. Here's my stance on the matter: bit.ly/3bn8bPN
Hello Brad! Great Video btw.
Here is the situation I am (other's feel free to chyme in, it would be interesting to hear your thoughts) in. My ex broke up with me over a text saying " that she wants someone who is going to make her their priority and make her feel like she's their everything" she also said that we would argue whenever we would go out and that we wouldn't go out enough she also said that we weren't getting what we wanted from each other and that she wasn't happy. let me fill you in a bit more on my actions that led up to this moment. I just graduated from college and moved back home. I wasn't sure what was going to be my next step career wise so i was deciding on whether or not to take some classes at a CC to apply to PA school. I was broke and would go see her whenever I had money to take us out. I fell into this phase of my life where I felt depressed because I was broke, didn't have a job, and didn't know what career i wanted to pursue. during this phase I didn't communicate with her for about 3 days and on the 4th day i got that break up text. It hurt like hell and to make matters worse nothing in life was going the way i wanted. at this point in my life I had no job, I was broke, I didn't know what I was going to do with my life, and i just got dumped over a text from a 3.5 year relationship. It's been 3 months now since I had any type of communication with her. I used the pain i was feeling and directed it to motivate me. I began to hit the gym, read books, and focus on my science pre-reqs. I lost 28lbs already and look a lot leaner than before (220lbs - 192lbs), i got a 3.5 gpa this semester, and I've been keeping my mind busy reading books and hanging out with friends. She hasn't contacted me at all. I do still have feeling for her and i would like to get her back but i don't want to do anything dumb and ruin my chances. she's intelligent and beautiful and is in her last semester of law school. Any suggestion to how i should intitiate contact with her?
Hey man, sorry to hear about the breakup. It's important to get other aspects of your life sorted first... your career for example, and find that happiness from within so the rest of the pieces can fall into place. Zoning out for days without letting your then girlfriend know what was going on may have very well alienated her , communication is key in having a successful relationship. You relate to each other, not alienate yourselves. :-) Perhaps try to communicate what you've been through instead? If she's no longer open to hearing your side though then don't force things. She's likely very upset, so use this time to set your life in order. An apology may be due, so watch and follow the tips here: ruclips.net/video/XwQpYmDKNnE/видео.html Good luck!
thanks for the tips, i appreciate you doing this
Avi Yu You're welcome! Feel free to like, share, and subscribe to my channel so you won't miss any of my future videos. I'd really appreciate it! :-)
i broke up with my ex a 9months ago, and we was talking for so long, and i asked him and was begging him like something each and evry months and everytime he says im sorry, idont have any feelings for you. The past will never happen again. move on. but he says he has all my memories, and the memories are enough, but idont have that LOVE feeling.
He is too strong in his decision. Its going be 9 months since the breakup. i really dont know what to do, im suffering each and evryday by thinking of him and his all words and memories :)
Begging will never work though. Attraction should be done naturally and organically. Your window of opportunity may have already passed. Discussed that here: ruclips.net/video/e3l5KWEpIpw/видео.html and especially if you see the signs here: y2u.be/k1myDIp0gSc
I bought the book on how to get your ex back. I decided during the no contact period I didn't want him back. I did try to contact him twice, but mostly out of loneliness. The ex contacted me. Now I am not sure what to do now. Thank for the video it helped.
You're welcome! Hey, you never know who else can benefit, so if it’s not too much to ask and if you haven’t already, please like, share, and subscribe to my channel so you won't miss any of my upcoming videos. I'd really appreciate it!
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I've just started watching your videos, and now I'm hooked.
You have a new subscriber, and pretty soon I'll be a customer.
P.S. Nice shirt! Where'd you get it? I could probably get my ex back if she saw me wearing that! Lol
Dash Felton Aww thank you for the very warm support! :-)
thank you that was helpful 😊 i hope al get the ans i need from him sooner or later as per now i will keep off!
+Vv_an Bella You're welcome! Feel free to like, share, and subscribe to my channel so you won't miss any of my upcoming videos. I'd really appreciate it! :-)
great work with the videos!
Thanks, appreciate the support!
It's common for relationships to encounter obstacles, but there is always a solution. My own marriage faced considerable issues, but with appropriate guidance, my husband and I worked through them and deepened our connection. Solutions are achievable if you're ready to work together. Stay hopeful-there's always a way forward.
That's great to hear. You're right. Every relationship/marriage is bound to run into a few obstacles. What's important is you don't become a part of that obstacle. I'm glad you're working things out with your spouse. If you need additional help, get me as your coach, at www.marriageguy.com/coaching
I just called my old girlfriend from 25 years ago, I never stopped loving her, she's in a 4 year relationship, I'm determined to win her back , I'm a thousand miles away in Florida, but so are her kids! I want her back because our time together was magic.
I'm all for fixing things with an ex or giving it another go but in your case, it's safe to say a lot has changed since then and to set your expectations accordingly. Since it's been more than a couple of decades since the breakup, it's best to consider the facts I've mentioned here first as this lets you determine whether there's still a real shot or not: ruclips.net/video/YVViZmY2x0I/видео.html and/or take the free quiz at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Good luck!
Omg sex! That's the very reason we broke up..i still don't want to give it up 'til marriage hahaha!
Never compromise your standards or principles! Keep it up and I hope you find the right guy for you soon! :-)
Lol my best friend was celibate till marriage. The husband found out he hated having sex and literally never came home and broke up over a long type out text.
Stay strong dear, Am having trouble with my relationships bcoz of that I hope I find the right one
Having standards is great, but make an 100% honest investigation if those are actually YOUR standards, and not those of your family, your friends or the religious belief you possibly didn't even chose yourself.
While it is very admirable that you are a virgin (I assume that you are) then I sincerely HOPE that you DO enjoy SEX AFTER you are "married" because IF you DO NOT then you will find MANY other girls that DO LOVE it and guess what ? YEP HE...will find them TOO...You MAY never find out about it too ! SO if ya want to keep him hard and happy you have best start to like to get laid or believe me he will find one that DOES !
every video .. i mean every single word you say is so true ... just loved it .
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So my ex is going to a retreat for 3 months....can I still get him back after then???
If you play your cards right...which many fail to do. Once you've already completed the full 30-day "no contact" rule and assuming you did it correctly, then the texting tips here will be a good starter: ruclips.net/video/XonMtLFo000/видео.html but make sure you tick off the checklist here first: ruclips.net/video/BAhMrmw3Sms/видео.html This means you take time focusing on the second phase and eventually the third phase when the time is right. This won’t happen overnight, of course, but it’s something you ought to continue to work on to the point where you’re gradually building attraction again. This is what my guide is for. Have you checked it out yet? It's too complicated to explain everything on here, but here's an overview of these phases and what to expect in each one: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html Good luck!
What would happen if your ex girlfriend threatened to put a Protection Order against you...? That happened with one of my best friends since first grade, because I kept calling her over and over...
Your best bet is still to cut off contact completely for around a month or even more in order to clear your heads. You'd increase your chances of getting your ex back if you've got your sh*t together than if you were doing the opposite of the no contact rule which is begging/pleading or negotiating/trying to woo your ex again. Well, there are a few rare who take their exes back if you beg/plead but it hardly ever lasts since these people are taking their exes back out of pity. So my point is, don't let your ex take you back out of pity, all right? The best way to avoid that is to work on yourself and get your life together by having fun, hobbies, etc. and to stop chasing your ex. I've made numerous videos about the "no contact" rule and why it's important. Check those out. Also watch the stories here and try not to be a statistic: ruclips.net/video/1U_IOm8ofFo/видео.html
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Me & my ex had this relationship of two & a half years untill this february. I betrayed her & hurt her in several ways.I begged to her for couple of months after breakup. Then finally did no contact period for 30 days in August. Finally texted her after a month. At first she said dont text me please but later we started talking.I asked her does she still loves me. She said yes but cant be with me,i said ok.We met in October.On the day,she started talking about our relationship & how i didnt trust her then started crying. I hugged her & asked her not to cry & kissed her on her forehead. Later clicked photographs.Then we went for the drinks there again she started crying. I hugged her & gave her my sincerest apologies
While returning from the bar we were on the stairs and we hugged & kissed.
.At night she texted & she loved the kiss. Next day again she texted & said i cant get that kiss off her mind. The day after I went to her house & stood outside at a distance & asked her to come to the balcony. She came i called her & waved at her & talked for 2 mins then hung up & went away. She texted it was the cutiest thing but really wish that i would have done that 8 months ago. I said its past & i cant do anything about it i am sorry.
We talked for few days then one day she texted dont text me ever again we cant be together so no point of talking.I said okk & didnt text her since then. Its been 5 days now & didnt text her.
She says feelings i have for you i cant have them for anyother guy
.DO I STILL HAVE A CHANCE OF BEING WITH HER ?? What should i do next ?
Shaz Adams Hello Shaz, first of all, you need to forgive yourself and not berate yourself over this. Let go of the thought that you should've done that balcony act, she would've been still too angry with you at that time and it couldn't have worked -- as evident in your months of begging without getting any result. Second, watch this: How To Get Your Ex Back After Cheating (And Get Them To Forgive You) As you know after watchign the video, once sincere apology and then giving her space would've done the trick. You both need time and space and she needs to process her emotions alone, it can't be rushed. Now moving forward, it seems like she hasn't really forgiven you yet judging by the way she's hot and cold towards you. The best thing to do here is to wait for her to reach out to you so she can evaluate her situation without your interruption. If she wants to contact you, she will. Get my guide so you'll know how to act and avoid any more mistakes moving forward.
I need advice, I split with my after 3 years, two months ago, for two months I acted like I didn't care and kept contact minimal as we have a child together, now I'm trying to make a effort and she's having none of it because I left her alone for two months. I wasn't that I didn't care, I just was hurt and she's taken it as I don't care
Well, if she dumped you/initiated the breakup then you ARE supposed to leave her alone for two months... so that couldn't be it. I suggest to look at the roles that you've BOTH played that led to the breakup and if the issues have a chance to get resolved, and how to go about it. In most cases, the problems that led to the breakup can be resolved, but in some cases, it isn't. So take time to evaluate, okay? If you still need my help further on this, however, then you and I both ought to take a look at a lot of various factors at play, so sign up for my coaching program so I can help take a look at all the various factors at play including your overall relationship history, issue/s, among many other elements, and to find out what’s really going on, monitor your situation, and guide you accordingly on a regular, ongoing basis. Please check on availability first because I only have a limited number of clients I can realistically manage before I go into spontaneous combustion. :-) Here’s the link: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching Good luck!
HI brad, how do i get back my girlfriend? we just broke up after 2 years, after we broke up 3 weeks later she spoke with another guy and they are gonna be couple i think. How do i win her back? I know im the best guy and kindest guy she ever met, but we argued alot. How do i win her back if she have a new boyfriend?
Last time she said to me was "I dont have any feelings for you anymore" Answer please.
I really tried to beg her to come back but she didint want because of that another guy. But i know that guy will not be as good as i am. How should i get her back? answer please, would appriciate it
ParaAroi PlayNineD You ought to be watching this instead: ruclips.net/video/rXvU6PShWbg/видео.html
Sir my bf break up with me 3 months ago and today I call him he answer the call but talk like stranger . How I convenes him that I love him
You should never show him that you love him. Subtlety is key. Watch this: ruclips.net/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/видео.html Anyway you're on the right track, assuming you've done the first phase (30-day "no contact" rule) correctly and basically had set the stage for this second part. Be sure to check out my other videos for more tips on how to go about this,especially this: y2u.be/gUBNd6pDINM Since you've only recently reconnected, then don't expect your ex to warm up easily. Getting an ex back is a process. Look out for the signs that your ex has moved on, though: y2u.be/TnZzeEIPEik But evaluate things, too. Are you sure you're not trying to rush it? Setting a deadline is a good way to fail when it comes to exes, so I highly discourage it. What steps have you taken to get your ex back? It's time to re-assess those and see what's working versus what's not working. Sometimes, getting an ex back is like trying to fit a square into a circle, but oftentimes, chances are you're letting emotion dictate you and therefore end up making the wrong choices. Have you checked out my guide yet? It’s ultimately up to you to act (or not act, depending on which phase you’re in) on getting your ex back, but it helps if you read it to ensure that you’re on the right track. Check it out at www.breakupbrad.com
My girl broke up with me 10 months ago, we have been having problems because I didn’t communicate and I still talked to other girls because I thought I need other options. (clearly I was wrong) I had people in my ear telling me things like she’s to young for you , she’s 21 and I’m 33. She was very mature for her age. I met her at a church function and we hit it off right away. People didn’t think she was spiritual enough for me so I tried to find someone that was but never had a true connection like I did with her. She broke up with me 10 months ago. At first it didn’t hurt then I found out how much I missed her but it was a bit late she was talking to someone even had sex with someone else. We’ve been talking all these month I’ve tried begged even did all the things I didn’t do before. She says I’m the perfect guy I do all the things she ever wanted but she says it’s to late. We even went out for drinks one day and came home and had sex but still nothing. I’ve given her gifts been there for her in everything we even talked about maybe moving in to help her with school but she won’t budget. Now she’s living the night life and she seems happy. I haven’t really talk to her in 2 weeks. She text me about her passing some test about a week ago , I just Congratulated her told her I knew she could do it and that’s it. She use to watch all my I.G stories till I told her why she watches them if she don’t care I blocked her then unblocked her and now she don’t even look at them. I’ve offered to make changes in my life to make her happy and enjoy each other but nothing. Sometimes I see her struggle with bills , school and stuff but she says she rather work for it her self then have me help her. Lost for words ,still love there girl but trying to give her space. We have said bye to each other like 3 times and I just think she really moved on. She tells me all the time to move on. We have gotten into fights in arguments but we always stop talking for a couple of days and I always break it. She sometimes response right away but sometimes she don’t. We have gone on dates and hung out since the break up but she always tells me it’s hard for her to give in and give it a chance. She says she stop loving me and she don’t find me attractive Anymore but we always have a good time when we hang out. She use to spend the night all the time after we hung out but now she just goes home. Like I said Im doing the no contact rule but she did text me about her school and I just responded short and sweet. I really need help. I’ve tried dating after her and even told her (she was surprised ) but all I see is her. We dated for 2 years and 2 months from now will be a year since our break up. We have t really cut communications all these months till 2 weeks ago. Also wanted to mention she did try to give me a chance in the new year but she found out I had lunch with a friend and kind of said that was it. (Honestly it was really a friend) she just didn’t like her . She okay with her now and she knows we are good friends now but she did try to give me a chance 8 months ago but I blew it. Really need your help. Spend days and nights in bed think I wish she was here. Soon to be my birthday and I wish she was around. Sorry for the long comment.
The best thing to do right now is to admit you've effed up and try to be patient and sympathetic with what your ex is going through. By cheating, you're automatically putting the ball in your ex's court and have lost privilege to take your power back in all this. It's up to your ex now and how soon they can forgive you and move on from the incident, not necessarily from the relationship although some people do that. With that in mind, these may help: ruclips.net/video/f0F8q2IIgtE/видео.html AND ruclips.net/video/qnE192fUKxI/видео.html
Its been 2.5 yrs and he discarded me. We were together for 7.5yrs. He moved on eight away and I stupidly chased him for first few months but realized it was useless.
My heart is still so very heavy. I genuinely loved him but he isnt receptive.
This video was very helping and thanks😃 but, it's been a year since my ex broke up with me cause I moved and before I moved I never told her goodbye😪 and she took it really hard as her friends told me.Then she went out with another guy to try to get me off her mind but they broke up in two weeks her friends told me.Now I moved back and I really love her still and its like she doesn't even know me and I want to get her attention and possibly get together with her but I don't know what to do? Can you help?
eric alvarez If she initiated the breakup, then you're not really obliged to tell her goodbye -- the breakup already sort of did that. :-) Seriously though, have you tried reaching out to her? Test the waters and make sure you don't come off strongly. This videos are for you: ruclips.net/video/uN_XAgHjaFM/видео.html and ruclips.net/video/Oj06Nl6AlEw/видео.html
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I love you brad
Love you too! Thanks for watching! :-)
Hey Brad! Appreciate all the videos, they've been so helpful. Months after our breakup, my ex and I are gonna meet at a store; he's going to help me pick some gear for my backpacking trip. He initiated the BU but checks on me once every other month (by email only) and even sends me pictures of his trips. This after being very very cold for a while and that I decided to go silent and focus on myself. Now....I know he cares about me but he's got a phenomenal EGO in him that I can picture him playing the "the tough man" when we meet. Any advice? Thx in advance
+Harris Cluddy You're welcome! :-) How was your interaction with him lately? Is he showing any signs other that he's interested to get back together (other than sending out emails to you)? Since your situation can play out in different ways, I suggest that you sign up for my coaching program at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching so I can put you on first priority as well and I'll have you sorted. The coaching program also helps me keep track of what's going on since, as you know, there's more to a situation that can go beyond one or two paragraphs... and I really don't want to make any wild guesses and/or give advice at the expense of your relationship. Make sense? Thanks for understanding!
Hey Brad.
My girlfriend left me back in MARCH because of my insecurities , jealousy , restriction and i even betrayed her.
After 5 months of pleading and begging i went on NO CONTACT PERIOD for a month or so. It helped me alot.. I am a better person and more happy. I still think that i should be with my ex but has also accepted the fact that there is a possibility that she may never come back.
couple of days back i texted her and followed your instructions of how to get back in contact with your ex and stuff. I was the one to end the conversation as well. But in the end she said dont text me, I asked why she said i cant trust you and if we talk it ll be a problem for me. I said okk.
after two or three days i texted her again. I dont know what happened she started comparing this anothher guy with me. First she said that guy is way more possessive than you are and the next moment she said his girl will be the most lucky girl on this planet. I said go ask him out then she said no. Conversation went a bit carrired away i guess and she started sayin that it wasn't her fault i betrayed her and ruined everything. I said i am sorry but i really am but its the past and nothing can be done. In the end i asked her do you still love me ?
she said yes
And then i ended the conversation.
What should i do next ??
And how to get her back because i really love her BRAD.
Looking forward for your help !!
shashank tripathi Hello there, it sounds like your ex is still emotional. Now looking at what you've mentioned, there's good and bad in this to be honest. It's a good thing that she's still emotional, but it's a bad thing that she can't seem to put the past behind. i.e: what you've done. In this case, you can't rush it and you have to be patient. Give her more space. Apologizing over and over again WON'T help, but make sure you give the most sincere apology you could muster. One apology will do. Two or more is considered annoying so make sure you don't do that. Get my Ex Factor Guide, I think it can benefit you to help you understand things. Otherwise, watch and learn from my videos, especially this one (so you won't repeat it) : 5 Mistakes That Ruin Your Chances of Getting Your Ex Back
Brad Browning Hey man...its been more than a month i am following you and it helped me a lot thanks for all your help man. Couple of days back i asked my ex out. I didnt call it a date , just a random meeting. Yesterday we met and things got emotional and even after 8 months of breakup she cried with her head on my shoulder saying how could you do this to me. I hugged her and stopped her from crying and kissed her on her forehead and cheek. She stopped crying and then we went to this bar and after a couple of drinks again things went emotional and started crying like hell. I again confronted her. I asked her do you still love me, she said yes, i asked do you want me to stop texting you, she said no i asked do you miss me, she said yes. We hugged and sat for rest of the time. When we came out we were on the stairs i hugged her and kissed her. We had that intimacy and romance and love which we used to have and then jst stood there hugging her. Finally we came out and on the way back she was quite i asked what are you thing she said the reason why cant we be together. Now she says we cant be together and misses me like hell
help me out here Brad
kinda worried now
Hey Brad, my name is Rhys. My ex and I broke up about a year ago, but we still keep in touch. This weekend when I visited her, I discovered she is with a guy that is bi-polar, and she has dated this guy before. I really do love her, as I have known since the day I realized she was the one I wanted. But she's determined to stay with this guy, and I'm worried about her safety. Plus, when I visited her, she got all moody and said she didn't want to be in a relationship with me, and I hadn't even said anything about that to her that day. I want her to come back to me, but I'm not sure if I should worry about this yet. I'm only 21 and she's only 19. She's very kind to me, but she'll occasionally get upset because of family issues. I really care about her, and I don't want her to get hurt because of this bad boy phase she's going through. Again, should I worry about getting back with her right now?
And if so, what should I do?
PS: At one point while I was talking to her, she randomly said how much she loved lavender, could that be a hint towards something?
Jokerfan45 Hi Rhys, if she's with someone else, then as harsh as it may sound, she is no longer your concern. She made a decision to be with that guy and she alone is responsible for her actions and/or choices. As to your question, no, you shouldn't be trying to break them apart because the more you do, the more she'll see you as the bad guy. I know it seems twisted but that's usually how it plays out. You're also in danger of landing in the friend zone and that's not a very good place to be in. Shift the focus from her to doing stuff that you like, follow your passion, go out with your friends. Basically just try to be happy again without her.
Brad Browning Not quite what I meant by doing something, but you are right. Endless Possibilities for the future. Thanks Brad.
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Two years after the relationship i still ha e strong feelings for her constantly thinking about her. A main reason was i wasnt the same person in real life then on the phone. advice would be appreciated please. Any symptoms which may suggest she likes me back would be great ive notice she sometimes looks at me whilst im not paying attension but i think that's not enough to know for sure. Help me Brad.
Your ex is most likely lying about the reason of the breakup so try not to fall for that. Watch what I’ve explained here and watch the entire length of the video to gain full understanding, as well as know what to do: y2u.be/E9wG_ErBQoI It’s important to rebuild the attraction naturally so your ex will be amenable to working things out eventually. This is what my guide is for but you can also learn the basic principles of my 3R system here and watch the vid til' the end so you don't end up missing the important points: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html and the golden rules here: ruclips.net/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/видео.html
I was with my ex 8 months and we spent like 20 hours together everyday we've been broke up for months she's been in new relationship for a month could this be a rebound I hope so
Thomas Woody It's never a good idea to be friends with an ex too soon after a breakup and this is especially true if she's dating someone else. Like what I always say, focus on yourself first. Watch this as well for future reference: 5 Mistakes That Ruin Your Chances of Getting Your Ex Back
I’m 62 years old and I left my ex 5 years ago. Tomorrow I’m going to ask him if I can move back in. We’re still good friends and we both need help. He needs shoulder replacement and he can’t manage on his own. I’m very unhappy where I live. It would also help us both financially. We still love each other very much. I’ll let you know how it goes.
That's awesome!
Flirting is fun until someone catches feelings and it’s not quite what we wanted.
True.
it's been 5 months since my ex and I broke up. he inboxed me on fb 2 days ago telling me that he broke up with his girlfriend and wants to get back with me. But, during our period of no contact, I moved to South Carolina to attend med school at USC. I told him that I was going to be super busy until December. he said ok. but then deactivated his Facebook page. I wonder why.
It’s most likely just your ex’s way of coping. Anyway social media should be the least of your concerns. Focus on all three phases and, in time, as you learn to rebuild that attraction and re-attract this ex back to your life.. Here are the basics of all three phases to getting an ex back: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html and social-media wise, here (but then again, don't let it become your sole focus) : ruclips.net/video/D1GpR5MApQk/видео.html Good luck!
Same he turn off his dating site
My ex called and ask to see me but I was scheduled to work I wanted to called out sick but I choose to work :/
Carmen Maria Gonzalez You should have told him you have work that day and that you should have set up a date to see him
@@Maria-rw7dd You did the right thing! Choosing work over your old flame. Is he gonna pay your bills??? No! You're gonna pay your bills.
Told my ex that i knew why her first husband blew his brains out....how many decade's should i wait lmao. Yup i went there.
LMFAOOOOO
ROASTED
Whoa! I guess I won't have to tell you that that was a super sensitive issue, man. Your best bet is to follow the tips here: ruclips.net/video/XwQpYmDKNnE/видео.html and if you need my help further on this, however, then we ought to take a look at a lot of various factors at play, so sign up for my coaching program so I can help take a look at all the other factors at play and find out what’s really going on, monitor your situation, and guide you on a regular, ongoing basis at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Lmfaoo but like brad says.. you still have a chance to win her back no matter what😂 lol
Oh boy hehehe decades
Hi Brad, my ex & I have been broken up for almost a year now. 4 months after the break up he reconnected with one of his ex's the ex before me I believe & they actually got married a few months ago, but shortly after they got married, he has reached out to me on & off. He has expressed to me several times how much he misses me & he regrets his decision & realizes how easier things were with me. So is he just experiencing some nostalgia or do you think we still have a chance of getting back together in the future ? I'm so hurt & confused & just don't know what to think anymore 😕
He's likely experiencing nostalgia. But him already being married is a bit complicated. He has to get out of it first instead of dragging you to this mess. It's just too much trouble than its worth. So I suggest you stay back and continue living your life while he sorts his cr*p out with what he should be doing, okay? :-) You're also welcome to sign up for my coaching program if you're unsure how to go about this or you're planning to do something but not sure if it's a good idea or not, etc. but I would have to look a the situation as a whole in order to give solid advice, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
tell him to go fuck himself.
Aasha McCoy don't waist your time if hes disrecpectful to his new wife he will be that way to you he made his choice an it wasn't you move on
I fucked up really bad I lied about basically everything because I hated myself and didn't even belive in love and that reflected in how I treated her I cheated because I didn't think I was in love because I didn't think love existed and by the time I came to terms with how I felt it was far to late she was betrayed and neglected and she found someone who did care it's been 3 years since they got together in the wake of everything I did she knows how I feel but still can't trust me I love her so much i want to fix everything I did I want to make her happy I want to make her feel protected but she has someone who does that for her I want her back but I truly can't imagine she will want to be with me I know I should get over her but I seriously can't
It's very important to give it time to let whatever anger there is between you two, especially from your ex's side, subside. Sometimes it takes a month but oftentimes it takes longer. You simply cannot rush this. An apology is in order, too. These may help: ruclips.net/video/qnE192fUKxI/видео.html AND ruclips.net/video/f0F8q2IIgtE/видео.html
My ex and I broke up as we didn't see each other very often because she was busy all of the time. This video really helped, as I now know I shouldn't bring up why it ended in the first place. Thanks so much :)
MyAllFootball I'm glad it helped! Make sure to like and subscribe to my channel so you wouldn't miss any of my future videos! :-)
Hi... it's been almost 1 year with me and him. But we were always in touch. And close. Even tho he was dating right away. But that didn't last. I feel stuck... I never moved on. I miss him badly. We started kinda dating again but it wasn't a good timing. Now we're like friends with feelings. He handles it well. I don't. We go out but... I want more. I'm usually the initiater. I feel weak. Drained. Sad... We have what it takes but he's not making a step. Even tho I know he still loves me... I feel so bad and I have no idea what to do at this point
You usually feel all those feelings now because you may have been doing all the wrong things.
If you want your ex back, then keep track of what you've been doing to see if it's productive or not. Here are the top no-nos: ruclips.net/video/5tNRL7dWCTA/видео.html Have you checked out my guide yet? It may be time to revamp your techniques. Before anything else though, take the free quiz on my website to gauge your chances of getting your ex back. Answer as honestly as possible, at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Good luck!
my girlfriend still likes me and we still flirt with each other but she says she would date me later in life but we still tell each other we think each other are good looking and we compliment each other all the time. How do I get her to date me now. We are 14
Ask her to hang out, but if she refuses, then find some other girl who does. Whatever the case may be, act responsibly yet try not to take things too seriously now since you may be in a period of growth and lots of changes,including preferences in attitude, personality, etc. Focus on your studies instead, all right? Take care!
Focus on studies is the best option 😊. Thanks Brad
Had a fantastic 2 month relationship with no fighting and he dumped me randomly with no reason given. After 35d NC and improvement posted on FB I texted him and he ignored me after one friendly reply only. Ran into him a week after and we had a brief friendly chat and I said I hope we could be friends and he said 'no I don't think so' (wtf) then ran into him at a work function a few weeks after and he ignored me completely, laughing with some other girls. Absolutely devastated there's no reason not to be civil at least. I know he's probably a dick but he was never like this at all when we were together. He's been non stop flirting with this girl on FB meanwhile he used to like a year ago and I'm positive it isn't to make me jealous. He's just trying to get another gf and there is no justice in this world. (I am a med student and a model and he was sub par looking (though I liked him anyway bc his personality) What the hell was his reason to breakup and not be civil/friendly at least!?
He most likely doesn't see the relationship as seriously as you do. Someone who truly loves you won't ghost you like that, especially if you think things have been going well prior to that. Your impression of him may not hold any water since two months is really just a short period of time to know someone well enough. Consider moving on from this or at the very least, employ the basics here: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html Okay? Good luck!
I was in a similar situation except I was the one the cut my ex off cold turkey. The break up was 4 years ago through text message, and I never talking to him again. I realized recently that I broke up with him because I felt like he was "too good for me" and I was "saving him". I lost a good guy by being insure about myself. Mentally you too are on different levels of dating. I wouldn't waste my time on someone who will not give me the time of day. Move on girly. You'll find someone that wants what you want. Focus on Med School.
it's been 6 years for me. We are on good terms but we don't talk regularly. We talk like once every year or two over the phone. it was just recently his birthday so I texted him and we talked for a few days after that and it was so nice. I really miss him. I broke it off when we were in high school over stupid stuff which is a shame because hes such a sweet genuine positive guy and loved everything about me. ugh, i miss him.
The texting tips here will be a good starter: ruclips.net/video/uN_XAgHjaFM/видео.html This means you take time focusing on the second phase and eventually the third phase when the time is right. This won’t happen overnight, of course, but it’s something you ought to continue to work on to the point where you’re gradually building attraction again. This is what my guide is for. Have you checked it out yet? It's too complicated to explain everything on here, but here's an overview of these phases and what to expect in each one: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html Good luck!
We have 10 children. We’ve been separated for years but still sleep in the same bed, still go places together and have fun but he’s interested in his current online relationship. We never stopped living together. We’ve been together 27 years
Sorry to hear that. It's sad when that happens. Make sure you have your own thing going and try to give him space. Set some strong boundaries though. One way of showing that is to stand up for yourself and to limit contact with him. Consider moving out for the children's sake if that's not too much of a drastic move to you. Never ever chase and don't take any bs from your ex, yeah? Because if the connection is not genuine or if you got back together out of your ex being rejected by someone else, it will still end again sooner or later if you chase. Watch this:
ruclips.net/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/видео.html Your ex has to learn lessons first but until then, it's pointless to fight for it, so let it go, and move forward until your ex proves themselves to you.
I have a unique situation. When we broke up I sent alot of horrible messages to her and she cut contact with me after it. She was already very upset with me prior but me lashing out made it worse. Please help me get her back, I miss her so much and I want another chance to be my best self
Redo the "no contact" rule and make sure you stick to it this time. But watch this first to help manage your expectations: ruclips.net/video/OzVymYnQFTk/видео.html Here's how you can tell you're doing the "no contact" rule properly: ruclips.net/video/f7zuXk-sVsI/видео.html It may help to make use of the clean slate template, which is a free version from a piece of my Ex Factor Guide. Watch this: ruclips.net/video/6K3xufEwEFg/видео.html The main goal is to bring your ex into an emotional neutral state by employing the 30-day “no contact” rule -- let your ex miss you and don't rush it. But in order to fully understand how this concept works, watch the free in-depth video on my website to learn some psychology techniques and understand how giving each other space for around a month can benefit you than otherwise, at www.breakupbrad.com
It work on me
My ex came back to me
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Hi Brad, I broke up with my ex a year ago and I still really love him, I really want him back but I don't know what to do. Since we started talking again for some months now, I see that he doesn't show interest in me, he had invited me some times for going out but I don't know what happens that he just cancels me all the time. I really love him and I would really appreciate if you can give me any advice.
thank you.
A man flaking out on you is NOT a good sign. I suggest to back off completely and let him do the initiating this time, okay? Let him feel like he has to work to get what he wants, instead of giving it to him all the time, essentially spoon feeding him. Get busy with your own life and put this relationship in the back burner for now so you won't get taken for granted, all right? Good luck!
Hey Brad I just wanna thank you from the deepest of my heart.Your technique has shown its results thnx brother I'll always b great full to you.
You're welcome and congrats, Kaushik! I'm glad my advice has affected you positively. Now please keep in mind that getting an ex back does not mean the work stops there. You have to do more work to ensure your relationship stays healthy. Review my guide and/or watch these videos to help you further: ruclips.net/video/jjrOpxa-wfI/видео.html and ruclips.net/video/v9mVzh2NVAc/видео.html All the best! :-)
Hey Brad, your voice exactly sounds like my ex. lol :D
+MsSonu8 lol so much for trying to get your mind off your ex, then. Consider reading my Ex Factor Guide, instead at www.breakupbrad.com :-)
My ex and I broke up 8 years ago. It was a mutual breakup, but we still remained friends for a while. The friendship ended when we had gotten into an argument, over something I don't even remember now, likely it was something really stupid. I didn't really miss her for the longest time, but in the last month or so, I'm just now starting to feel the effects of the breakup taking its toll on me. Neither one of us have dated anyone else in those 8 years. I've wanted to get back together with her, because I've realized how much of a strong connection we had. I hope I can repair the friendship we shared, but she too, has to want that as well. I hope for the best.
It does hit different when there's zero contact between you two and you start to accept the reality of things... but that's where healing starts and ironically when you've moved on a little is when you'll have it in you to actually get the confidence and strength to try and get your ex back. Right now she's lost attraction for you and it's a terrible idea to be friends with her. You ought to cut off contact for at least 30 days first. Silence is key and here's why: ruclips.net/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/видео.html If you continue being friends right away, the boundaries won't be clear and you're technically both free to date other people. Wouldn't it be pure torture if your ex dates a rebound in front of you because you're only "friends" now, don't you think? So it’s not a good idea, especially if you want this ex back. Watch these two videos so you’ll know why being friends won’t lead you anywhere you wanna be with your ex and how to get out of this trap, respectively at ruclips.net/video/pv_cjzhVKAY/видео.html and ruclips.net/video/sS4V4IOcOgs/видео.html but read my Ex Factor Guide since that’s much more detailed and so you'll know how to go about it, what to do after each phase (there are three phases in total), including what to say, do or not do, along with bonus materials for texting. Good luck!
@@BradBrowning Thank you for the feedback. my EX and I have gotten back to talking, but things have been slow. I don't know if we have to start off as friends again, before going back into a relationship, or if we can just jump back into the relationship.? This might take some time, but I'm glad we are talking again.
Brad, I commented long ago about an who lost all his trust in me and resulted in a really bad break up. After dating other people and starting to communicate again, we ran into each other 6 months later when I flew over to see some friends in the same area as him. 2 months has gone by and now we are really really close. I know were just friends but it honestly like were best friends again and nothing ever happened. I was supposed to leave a month ago but he practically begged me to stay cause he sees I'm happy here and I like it, so I did. We hang out almost everyday. He either comes over to my place or I to his and we cook for each other and watch a movie almost every night when were both free. One night I laid my head on his lap and he put his arm around me. We talk to each other about our current relationships and usually come to each other for advice or when we have a problem. He started acting awkward sometime after that, but at the same time in a close way. He'd tickle me and sometimes id see him stare at me and then just wave of flick me off to be funny. When were alone in the car he plays old music we use to listen to together and we both bring up good memories from the past. Im leaving going back home 6000 miles away tomorrow and he and I just spent my last night here together. We just hung out in his room and watched a movie. We laid together on his bed and when I was falling asleep he told me he needed his hug incase I left and he doesn't wake up to say goodbye. He hugged me so tight, we hugged each other laying there together like we used to and it was like we didn't want to let go. After that we both fell asleep as I waited to be picked up from his house and we cuddled the whole time. He threw his arm around me just how we used to sleep when we were dating. He'd hold me, leg interlock, and we even held each other. It was so nice and felt so right but also weird. When I was leaving he held me even tighter and said that I better come back. The only reason I say "weird" is just because IDK where we stand really. Truthfully Id take his friendship over nothing especially since the way we've been so close is just so amazing and unbelievable. But Idk if I'm just looking into it too much and maybe he's just a really good friend that'll miss me, or if theres something more. I would love to be with him again cause thats all I wanted before. But this all only happened the night before I left. We didn't do anything sexual, it was all innocent and romantic in a way because we both were ok with it happening. Did it just happen cause I was leaving? I don't know what to think. What should I do?
Elesiah Ann Malaga Hi there, I can't really keep track of the situation even if I want to, and the overall situation/progress needs to be taken into consideration so I can get a better view of the relationship in order for me to give an advice specific to your situation. I really wouldn't want to make any wild guesses at the expense of your relationship, so sign up for my coaching program at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching okay? Hope to talk to you soon! Take care!
My wife died in 2012 after 7 years she was my first everything. In 2014 I met my ex. She was only the second person I was ever with. In 2021 she broke up with me. I have some self esteem issues and depression issues. In 2022 I messed up because I didn't know how to break up with her. I had never broken up with someone. I didnt know how to give her space. I text and called everyday. I miss her everyday. I hate life without her. I love her so much.
I'm sorry for your loss. Maintaining a struggling relationship while also struggling with depression at the same time can be too much for most people and it appears as this has a taken a toll on your ex and your relationship. A relationship needs two healthy people in it in order for it to thrive. What you can do right now is work on yourself. Get the help you need first and don't expect a relationship to fix that for you. Once you're good and ready, the rest will fall into place. All right? Also do not downplay depression or any other type of mental disorder (if you've been feeling depressed for long periods of time) because that's a tricky one! Right now, stuff can just be way too draining for you both, so focus on you first. Okay? Take care!
Please advise? I had a relationship for 9years with this man, I was living in his home with his family and made the mistake of breaking up due to allergies from a bug infestation in the house. I got on medication so would love to be taken back but just lost my job. Told him, and while things were looking good before that.. I was desperate and pleaded for him to allow me back into his house to try again. I think he's fine seeing me if we're not living together but most of my stuff is still there. After I begged for him to give me a second chance and promised him that I would never do that to him again and that I would do anything for him, he said he doesn't think it's healthy to live together anymore and he asked for space. Whilest he was asking for time to think the past 3months... I thought occasionally seeing him would still be okay we had even had a date planned but now he wants space as in me giving him no contact, he says he has to want to want me again. Is he either stringing me along or is this salvageable? cause the past 3months when I was still working he was okay with me coming by to see my cat and hangout before the long drive back to my moms... who lives 2hours away from that place I was in. I love him...I regret what I did and how I broke it off but just want him back in my life. Currently working on myself , and on day 1 of full no contact, but I'm scared that it may not work.
Follow the tips here: ruclips.net/video/XodgaAi8EbM/видео.html
Brad , first of all thanks for the awesome tips , me and my exgirl been broken up for months , did the no contact (about 45 days) , worked on my self and then reached out to her with something in reference to a good memory and kept it casual, had a good continuous response from her , "how are you" "whats new with you" "oh guess what happened to me the other day" "oh by the way my son says hi" etc. , we talked casually for 2months , brought her coffee to her job (she works 1st shift and I work 2nd) talked on her break , eventually my daughter's bday came up and I invited her and her 2 kids to come with anticipation, she ends up cancelling last minute and gave me a lame excuse smh , 2 mos after that incident she reaches out to me to see how I'm doing and to tell me her grandfather passed and hopes I'm doing ok , we been talking here and there and I've been keeping it casual and flirting to a minimum , I wanna ask her out to a fall amusement park with her children but I'm afraid of her cancelling on me again, she said over a conversation that she still wears my shirts and still got them (what do you think she mean by that?) have sent her every 2 weeks very small romantic gestures to let her know I think about her here and there , am I on the right path you think? I can use some advise man , please help!
Brad , I can use some advise on my situation
You're welcome! Sorry to hear about the breakup though. You seem to be on the right path. As a general rule, keep track of what you've been doing to see if it's productive or not, as far as getting your ex back is concerned. Have you checked out my guide yet? It may be time to revamp your techniques. Before anything else though, take the free quiz on my website to gauge your chances of getting your ex back. Answer as honestly as possible, at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Good luck!
+ Brad , thanks man I appreciate it
My ex and I broke up some fews day ago, I regret it and just find out how much I love her. She said she loves my friendship and wants me with her still, but wants to move on from our relationship.
She also says she has internal problems and traumatic memories from our relationship that gives her restrain from reattaching to me...
I miss her so much, talking to her as a friend is so monotone and ridiculous, I miss everything about our past, our affection and even our fights... It doesn't hit the same way as a friend... 💔
I want my baby back... I'll change for her... But I won't expect much of course
Hey man, this is why it's generally a bad idea to be friends with an ex and I always recommend to employ the 30-day "no contact" rule right after a breakup. If you want your ex back, then keep track of what you've been doing to see if it's productive or not. Here's a quick overview of what needs to happen: ruclips.net/video/ECCZm_mqzKg/видео.html Have you checked out my Ex Factor Guide 2.0 yet? It may help a ton, along with bonus texting materials to send your ex. Before anything else though, take the free quiz on my website to gauge your chances of getting your ex back, at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Good luck!
I promised I’d do anything to support our relationship and help him build our future together. He’s been so pessimistic and things I’m not capable of changing for the better in the future and kept saying that to end our relationship. I wish he could see how wrong he is with that kind of thinking, because I’m a fighter!
Give him silence and work on yourself instead. Watch this: ruclips.net/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/видео.html
Thank you, Coach Brad! 🥰💖
My ex and I have been divorced for 20 years but we both still love each other but he is engaged. I left him several times and hurt him very bad each time I left. he left me the first time and lived with his first wife for 2 months and I had a newborn. I had no dignity at all. I cried all the time and begged him to come back to me. He finally came back to me but then we separated every two years and we have two kids together. He had anger issues that were a big problem. I was young and I ran from my problems instead of facing them. I have been married twice since then and both were disasters. We ran into each other a few months ago and we were both very shaken by seeing each other. We are both every much in love with each other. We both have been through a lot of rejection intimitely lately. This was never an issue with us. We did not have intimacy problems. That was our strong point. He is afraid that I will leave him again and he said he couldnt take that kind of pain again. I asked him if I should give up and he couldnt tell me to give up but he will not have contact with me. I have cut off contact as well. I do not initiate contact ever.
You ought to be a little more subtle especially since it's been decades you've been separated. He might have felt pressured because you came on too strong, after these many years. Try to follow the golden rules here first: ruclips.net/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/видео.html
Hi Brad, we've been living together, even after the little incident. She's moving out tomorrow for peace of mind. We are married, and she says once we have some sort of friendship, we can date again and she said if I really want them, I can come and see them, she moved 2 min away from house, where we lived with my mum whom we looked after. I'm the gentleman that emailed you today, regarding the Order on your site.
delcio2012 Hey there, yes,!always give it enough time and space. Have you signed up for my coaching program? If so, then wait for my response if I haven't already (I can't verify here) since I believe that is a more detailed situation you've mentioned, and those things need to be taken into consideration for me to give a more accurate advice. Take care!
Hi Brad- My ex and I broke up three months ago. We were pretty serious, but I walked out on him because of his "I love you, but I am not sure I'm ready to commit". I want him back, and he has dated two different women since we did. He always kept communications, I did NC for a month and a half, but blew my chances by rehashing the relationship on chat, not believing him when he said he loved me, anger, etc. He still kept saying he loved me and we met twice. First time he was trying (eye contact, gazing, showing me our old photos, touching, holding hands) and I was aloof, second time it was the opposite, yet he still displayed cautious holding hands, twirling me on the street, and I kissed him at the end -he responded but it was cautious. He said he is changing to be better (for either me or a new relationship). He had tried to hide his dating, but it got to me, Now he is w/new girl and is keeping his distance because he wants to be "better than he was with me". He "wants me to be happy, and dating because I deserve it", yet texts me once a week with little notes about coffee, tv programs,and says he still thinks about "you, and us" but "I have to see where this relationship goes". I find myself making contact for the past couple of weeks, and I'm afraid 3 months is a long time, I used your program but now I don't know what should I do now. He said he will be a bit scarce to focus on his relationship, but wants us to be close. Please help :(
Mark GratiMd Hi Mark, it looks like your ex is trying to get the best of both worlds by dating someone new and keeping you on an invisible leash. Don't allow that to happen and cut off contact right away, unless you're ready to become an option, which I doubt. :-) Be strong and be firm with him. Stand your ground and show him that you indeed deserve better and of course, deserve to be number one in someone's life, by cutting off contact. If he asks why you want to cut off contact, tell him that you deserve someone who will make you a priority instead of an option, because admit it, a relationship is what you want from him, isn't it? He can't see your true worth if you stick around, believe me. In the future, learn to love yourself enough not to be treated this way, and especially not by an ex.
Brad Browning Thanks Brad. It makes absolute sense.
I liked your video because you were honest in your title. You shared some tips on making the Ex rekindle her love for you. Thank you.
You're welcome! If it’s not too much to ask and if you haven’t already, please like, share, and subscribe to my channel so you won't miss any of my upcoming videos. I'd really appreciate it! :-)
I wondering who would win in a Relationship Coach Face off, Coach Corey Wayne or Coach Brad Browning
+YoungBlaze Of Chitown Not really any doubt about that one, is there?? :-)
Corey wins hands down
Me and my ex of almost a year broke up 3 months ago and didn't talk at all...he broke up with me btw...I had a breakdown 2 weeks ago and texted him and he replyed and the next day I asked him if I could see him and talk and he agreed and he gave me a time but the time he gave me was 4:30 and it was 4:00 so that was not gong to work....I told him I was going to come to his dad's house later that night...he told me no....I showed up at his house and he came out and talked to me...talking to him I could tell he was hurting...he was a different person..he wouldn't look at me when we talked...he was so angry and he said he's mean to everyone now...He basically told me that I've been cut out...and it really upset me and after 2 hours of talking I was about to have a breakdown so I walked away from him and he texted me asking me why I walked away and I told him I couldn't deal with it and he was like you didn't have to walk away and he said he was sorry and he asked me if I wanted any water....idk why he was being so nice but it felt good...he hasn't been nice to me in awhile....so we continued to talk until the next day....we were talking about our relationship and I told him I couldn't deal with him cutting me out and I asked him if we could at least work on being civil and he said idk....and then out of nowhere he stopped replying....I sent him an apology text telling him I was sorry for everything and I got nothing back....idk what to do ....it's been 2 weeks since all that happened...he won't talk to me.....has he really cut me out for good? Will we ever talk again??? The thought of him cutting me out terrifies me...please give me some answers....
Hannah Wray It seems like you're clinging on to him for dear life, and that's not a good move at all. I suggest you find the strength to cut off communication instead just so you can get a hold of yourself because being clingy or desperate is only going to push him away and is not doing anything to help him be re-attracted to you. Make sense? Would you really want him to be with you out of pity? I guess not, so cut off contact for at least a month or more, until you're reached a state where you "want" him back instead of need him back Make sense? This isn't always easy of course, get my guide so you'll know how to go about this and let you understand why you ought to do the things you need to do at www.breakupbrad.com Watch this video too as it might help you: ruclips.net/video/5G1IRS-lCvc/видео.html
Me and my exgirlfriend have been officially broken up for a few months now but we were "trying to make it work". We were both exhausted and life started giving us both beatings and I was trying my best to keep us together but she decided two weeks ago that it was time for her to move on. She no longer trusted me because of some cheating that happened in the first few months, and I told a lot of really petty lies throughout. She said recently that she has no romantic feelings for me and then decided to tell me that she has found someone else. Right now they're in the honeymoon stage and it's nauseating to watch but I really want her back. We dated for two and a half years and I was convinced that this was the girl I wanted to spend my life with. We broke off contact recently because I realized that me talking to her was doing nothing productive. We still play the same online games and share so of the same friends. I want to disappear completely but that would mean giving up playing that game. I really want to get her back but what if she's too into her rebound? How do I even know if this is a rebound and she doesn't genuinely like this guy a lot?
Ryan Hurtt Only time can tell whether it's a rebound or not. But understand that there are clearly techniques you need to change since nothing has resulted in your both trying to make it work, like you said. Anyway it's best to focus on stuff you can control now rather than her rebound, which is counterproductive. I suggest that if and when you do converse, assuming you've completed the "no contact" phase, then keep things fun and light. Good luck!
Hi Brad. It's been 3 months already since we've broken up after a 3 year relationship. We've had contact here and there only under important reasons (bills) We had a talk the other day and she stated "we're taking a break" I stopped using all the social media because my mind keeps thinking she could be with someone else which is stupid because a lot of our mutual friends still thinks we're together and a lot of people that knows us, shops at the store where she works. This past Monday she came over my place so I can fix her car, we had a good time. We talked and laugh and we would flirt with each other, make eye contact. When I was done with the car, she couldn't hug me from the front but went and wrapped her arms around me from the back then gave me a kiss on the cheek and told me she love me. She said it helps that I don't talk to her so she can focus on her. Stating it is a slow process. What does it truly mean when she said "taking a break"?
I hate to say this, man, but taking a break ought to be considered as a breakup. What you did on social media was great though, continue NOT to stalk her, okay? Learn the basics here first, man: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html Good luck!
Hi Brad, just a follow up. I have been doing great on not going social media. I am starting not to care. Now the only problem I have now is cutting her off. What I mean by that is that she is still under my health insurance and my comcast bill is under her name. She should be coming by next week to pick up the money for comcast and that is when I need to grow a pair of balls and cut her off my health insurance and have her cancel the comcast bill. She said we arent together anymore because she needs to work on herself. Which to me I think is bullshit.I need to start being a man and put my foot down and put my feelings first from now on.
Bryan , my ex and I got a quick divorce when she said that she did not have any feelings for me anymore and wanted to get out . I was sad and complaining when the conversation started but I never wanted to hold her back . We signed a quick divorce ..... Meanwhile I have noticed the mistakes I made and I have been working on making myself a more capable man for myself and for everyone around me . We met each other a few days back , We had a good conversation - it went very well . She told me how she watched Some sport alone which introduced her to and how she would train in future . I told her about my new little achievements and she was happy for me . For some reason in our years marriage I grew a little less passionate about public affection . After an hour and a half of conversation , I stood up reached across the table and kissed her . The restaurant was closing , we went out and kissed each other while people were passing . It just happened naturally . We then talked . She mentioned how she would go back to our home country ( she had 3 failed relationships in the States , I being third , and she doesn’t like the job either . She wants to go back to our motherland and help poor ) . k ........ However , she told me never to block her on phone as she would want to reach me back for my thoughtful advices if she ever has roadblocks in her life ( she always respected my ability to analyze a tough situation and come up with answers ) . I agreed to it but it wasn’t an emphatic okay because I want her here with me if she wants to get the best of me . And then she reached and kissed me . She hugged me and cried a lot . She told me she loved me but wants to go back. We said a goodbye to each other as it was too late and currently both of us have our families here and we stay with them . What should I do next ? I would want to go meet her at her home next week when she is alone and have some intimate time for old time sake just like you mentioned in your vids . I have the confidence that it would happen naturally . Do you think it is a good idea ? If not what else could I do ? In addition , what can I do in near future . I do not want her to leave the country
Not sure, man. It's usually best to give each other as much time as you both need especially when a divorce's already in place. Watch this first: ruclips.net/video/HHkwa5tbNC0/видео.html
There’s been some ppl (really rare) that have been broken up for a decade or more and that’s some crazy shit. Especially if you both have children, that have gotten back together. It’s rare as hell.
The longer the time apart, the less likely it is to happen except some circumstances especially coupled with good timing and the right circumstances.
Hi Brad,
My ex and I broke up 4 years ago, we remained friends all that time and we keep casual contact like have dinner once in a while, chill or go do something together(like going to a festival or whatever)
Recently I have im getting more and more feelings towards her, I have the idea that she also has some feelings for me as well, but she keeps distance not to get hurt again(by texting less and do more distant on whatsapp for example). I can tell this because, when I had a new girlfriend she contacted more and on regularly basis. Then my new girlfriend and I broke up and she started to contact me less often. However she still gives me signals when we are together for example; touching my leg sometimes when we sit next to each other or touch my hair or ear. Also keeps long eye contact and touches her hair when we talk(this is not all the time) or hold my hand and cuddle me when on a festival.
I want to know how I can win her back because she is an amazing girl and I made a bad decision years ago, which I regret until this very day. Do you have any tips? Should I stop contact for a couple of weeks? For example we have set a date to go to multiple festivals upcoming months, should I just try to "ignore" her for a couple of weeks and act busy. Or should I just call her on a random day and say I made reservations for a movie, I can pickup you up at 19:00?
Hope you can help!
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+Reject B Was there cheating involved in the past? What have you done so far, to get her back? Staying friends in an attempt to get her back had been a bad idea though. Watch these two videos so you’ll know why being friends won’t lead you anywhere you wanna be with your ex and how to get out of this trap, respectively, at ruclips.net/video/yd6pvNVeHjI/видео.html and
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Did you ever end up getting back together?
Their was no cheating, I stopped contacting her actually some time ago. I don't feel the need, and it's leading no where. If she wants contact she can text me. The only thing I did is sent her text before she went on holiday to wish her well (this I did not do when I was with her, or barely.) So this just shows her that I changed.
No unfortunatly not at this moment.
Gives me time to work on myself ;)
Psychiatric pacient, got insane, beated her up, she left, and now cured, i cry everyday for being punished for a crime I didn't make. I didn't ask to be born sick, To make things worst, it was about two weeks before I was gonna ask her hand. I still have the ring up to this day. I don't even think I deserve to be forgiven, I just want a chance to compensate her for the rest of my life, because there is no person that I love more in the world.
Hi, Gabriel! It takes a lot of courage to admit the things you've admitted, but kudos to you, man! Yes, nobody ever asks to be sick, but what matters more is you do something about it instead of refusing to seek treatment. I'm glad you've recuperated now. However, if these events have played out only recently, then she obviously needs time to heal herself. I'm sure she trusted you and being physically hurt like that will incur some trauma on her end, so let time do its job as well and don't force things, all right? Employ at least 30 days of the "no contact" rule and DON'T try to make her jealous. Anyway you're also welcome to sign up for my coaching program if you're unsure how to go about this or you're planning to do something but not sure if it's a good idea or not, etc. but I would have to look a the situation as a whole in order to give solid advice, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
I have a very unique situation. I'll be as brief as I can. My ex dumped me last January shortly after New Years. We were together for 5 years when she suddenly suggested we "take a break", saying she had been thinking about forming sexual relationships with people and didn't want to cheat on me. I've watched multiple self help videos and read articles about trying to swing things back in my favor but there is one snag. My ex and I still live together. Aside from the fact she is a general distraction from me being able to move on, So many of these self help options tell me breaking contact is the best way to evoke emotion in my ex, but we live together out of convenience, as we are having trouble with affording our own places currently. We both are now members of dating sites, but she is already out seeing people casually and even though it's been a while, this past year has been unmitigated hell and I still have no interest in anyone else. I've tried to break away from old habits of familiarity, but I've stumbled along the way and didn't stay true to them just because I already agreed that we would be friends. Things were complicated even further by the fact she had gotten pregnant with my child and decided to get an abortion. I really don't know what to do anymore.
She recently even told me the reason she now spurns my sexual advances and submits to others is because she isn't romantically interested in me anymore, but she still loves me. She'll go out with other guys, but then, for example, when she went off to Jersey visit family, she happily kissed me multiple times on the way out! I'm so confused!!!
Is there any way for me to live with and still nurture that disconnect enough for her to miss me, without being a jerk? Or have I thrown myself into a hopeless trap of my own design? We both work two jobs, so I thought that would be enough time apart to initiate her to miss me a little, but from what I can see, nothing is working! Should I stay with a friend for a while?
If you can, please help, Brad... :(
DoriDoesVoices I'm sorry to hear that. Yes, living with an ex can be really daunting.It might really help if you can find some place to stay when the breakup had still been fresh, but granted that you've kept in touch and it's almost been a year,then the "no contact" might be less effective. I've mentioned this in my videos as well. Since the "no contact" is not really a viable option, then for now, I think it would help if you try dating other girls and see where that would lead. You don't have to get serious with any of these girls just yet, but go out with them and have fun. You simply have to take the focus away from the notion of getting back together and get back to being happy with yourself first. Watch this if you haven't already: ruclips.net/video/ydeES3WU1Uc/видео.html
Hi so basically what I'm trying to ask is that my ex left me because she thought I cheated on her when I truthfully never did. She thought this because she found dating apps on my phone that I forgot to erase before we were officially together. I went against all the no contact rules and made it worse for the next month by trying to get her to believe me after she broke up with me. It came to the point that her and her parents threatened to call the cops if I went to her house or work. Things even happened after the break up for like a month, for example I went to a bar with a friend and posted it on Facebook as well as added 3 girls on it. She saw this and blocked me on there and gotten even more mad. It eventually got to the point that I said "maybe I should block you but I still love you just so we have time apart" . She responded by saying she was going to block me first. She actually did block my phone after that. A week later with a friends phone I sent another apology but less detailed, we got nothing back. Now it's 4 months after that and I feel like I still have to say sorry for the things I did do and explain how I truthfully never did cheat on her with even more detail. I downloaded an app (she broke up with me for because she thought I was using it during our relationship but I wasn't because it was a virus on my phone ) recently to try and move on but I found her on it . When she saw me on it she blocked me. I went on a lawyer website and asked what could happen if I contact her and they said she might be able to call the cops so I should wait at least 6 months after last contact with her. So that would be in 2 months. My question for you is when should I contact her because I love her and still want her back. Also how should I contact her because she moved away to college. So should I make a fake Facebook account or send something with my iPad?
Sean Laera As you can see, it's never good to pressure someone regardless of what's happening. It's also not a good idea to keep repeating how sorry you are. Saying it once, or two at maximum should be enough, as long as it's sincere, that's the key. You should watch this if you haven't already: ruclips.net/video/XwQpYmDKNnE/видео.html You girl seems insecure to start with and you likely have confirmed it in her mind by making her even more jealous -- that's a bad move! :-) Get my guide so you'll have an idea what to do. If there's some kind of restrictive order though, it's best to let her contact you first while you go about your life and living it to the fullest. Sometimes, that works too because your ex can start to see how much she's missing and will start -- depending on what you've done to freak her out to the point of calling the cops -- to erase the negative memories.
She thought that I cheated on her when I truthfully never did. I never sent a bad text to her I was always trying to be nice. She never did call the cops or anything I'm just scared she might. Is there a specific time I should wait so she can't get the cops to do anything and that hopefully she will come back. I heard like 6 months after the last contact with her before.
Also I'm scared that she'll try to get a restraining order or call the cops because she blocked some of the basic communication forms. I can send an email with my iPad but I don't know how long I should wait. Also I want to send something for closure and am prepared if she doesn't come back after. I'm just scared that if she doesn't want to come back she'll call the cops even though the message will be very nice that would suck a lot because that would mean not only would she still not believe me but also she might try to screw me over for life. How bad are restraining orders if I go through with this and she does try to do something would I still be able to get good jobs. She never said she will call them I'm mainly scared because people told me she might.
Yes, time heal all wounds. All you have left are scars to remember the pain they inflicted on you.
That's a very negative way of looking at things. If you're still suffering from your breakup, please e-mail me and I will do my best to help you out.
Brad Browning
In this video you told us what to do... But we need to know how to do what you are explaining. Practical steps. Good Job Brad, keep the good work
LightYagami Thanks! All the tips are in the rest of my other videos on this channel, so take some time to watch those. How To Talk To Your Ex Again - Establishing Communication With Your Ex Otherwise, you can always check out my Ex Factor Guide which contains a detailed guide on what you need to do and the psychology behind it, as well as understanding what caused the breakup.
Brad my man i have a question, my wife left me because i lose interest in the relationship, i took her for granted n never wanted to try new things with her, i stick to a routine which i thou was the safest bet to make our relationship work n last many yrs, well my plan backfire and shes gone, she doesn't wanna hear my apologies or promises, we still talk but everytime i want to talk about getting back she tells me shes going to block me if i continue to insist, we have been together for 6 yrs, living together 5, and married for 3, no kids, shes 24 and im 27, she went back with her mom ( or thats what she says) and im alone in our apartment
Some of my friends suggest shes seeing someone else, others say ( females) the she just probably wants some time off, take a break from my horrible routine and teach me a lesson
It's very important to give it time to let whatever anger there is between you two, especially from your ex's side, subside. Sometimes it takes a month but oftentimes it takes longer. You simply cannot rush this. An apology is in order, too. These may help: ruclips.net/video/qnE192fUKxI/видео.html AND ruclips.net/video/f0F8q2IIgtE/видео.html
Wow I had got a text from my ex and we broke up because of bad terms on my end tho... He stated that he still remembers EVERYTHING....but after years of us not being around each other he wants me in his life forever. I'm going to take that as a good thing
If it's been years that you've been apart,he must've missed you. I suggest you ought to take it slow, however and not rush into things. Test the waters first. Go by the golden rules here to help guide you in this journey: ruclips.net/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/видео.html
I don't think I'm a victim or have that mentality, she was my best friend, the love of my life, my rock she was everything to me, we went through so much together, at one point we were homeless living in hotels, I even had to go an visit her in a mental hospital, even though she's moved on I still love her and will till the day I die, I don't know how or what I'm gonna do but im just trying my hardest to keep my head up, it's hard when everywere I go I see her, I can't even listen to music, that's how bad this is.
It's gonna take a while before things will get better, that's for sure. Keep your head up! If you want her back, try to see if you can follow the basics here: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html but help yourself through this process, too... instead of letting circumstances control you. All the best!
Heyy Brad...Im Nikki...its been an year and half after me and my bf broke up...It was not his fault or mine...he explained to me about his financial issues and told me his family needs him and a relationship can not make things happen...and it was true...Then he told me'Nik prepare for the worst and ul get the best...' then he left...he talk once a while when we meet some where randomly but it extends for hours .... and when i look into his eyes i still see that...' i love you nikki' but he never says that...he was the only person who saw the real ME and was a cure for the depression i had for years....and now....i see him getting harder and trying on his career but im scared if he will get to harder that he will be ok to forget me ...or im afraid he already did...one and half year and hes still in here making me want him forever ....what should i do..... it feels tooo hard to handle...i need him back but i know i cant change things with him...thats not correct... plz help
Have you been actively trying to get him back? Keep track of what you've been doing to see if it's productive or not, as far as getting your ex back is concerned. Have you checked out my guide yet? It may be time to revamp your techniques. Before anything else though, take the free quiz on my website to gauge your chances of getting your ex back. Answer as honestly as possible, at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Good luck!
Brad , I dated my girlfriend for 5 years. We stayed friends immediately after for 18 months.
To not sound mean, she literally has no one else in her life but me and her family, therefore we were always together!! We were never not except when she was working or when I was working. Now, I realized that I want her back but told me she can’t offer me more. Will NC actually work in this case ?
I mean we were doing everything, shopping, movie nights, dinner nights, road trips, family gatherings etc….we never stopped
Hi Brad, so this past July I broke up with my ex of almost 2 years because he cheated on me while at college. We have talked regularly but argued a lot and he said I have pushed him completely away because I'm being too emotional and coming off as trying to control him and that his family doesn't want us together, so today I started the no contact rule. Do you think it's too late for this? He said we can't be together anymore because things aren't the same but I feel like he still hopes we will since he told me he still loves and cares about me
Sorry to hear that, Sarah. Your best bet is still to cut off contact COMPLETELY and yes, it will work in a sense to where you get to clear your mind to be in a better position to deal with an ex when the time comes - instead of letting emotions overrule everything, risking things to get blown out of proportion even further. Make sense? But will no contact ALONE work to get your ex back? In some cases it may, but oftentimes not, because the no contact phase is only part one of the three-step process I teach in my Ex Factor Guide. Learn the basics here: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html I also made a quick vid to those who are seemingly lost and could use a reminder on what to do: ruclips.net/video/obBIttQSak4/видео.html
Me and my ex broke up about a year ago and dated other people.. We have a 3 year old son together.. And I finally realized how much I love him and miss him and want him back and now he doesn't want me back and has a new girlfriend.. I don't want to move on because I want my family back :( he tells me he got over me and doesn't see me like that anymore.. But I don't think you just stop loving someone. If you love someone you always love them. Idk what to do :(
Have you been actively communicating because of your son? If so, then how was your most recent interaction? Try to see why you suddenly feel the urge to want him back. Watch this, first: ruclips.net/video/m27TLeyUmwg/видео.html
My ex and I broke up 7 months ago, but have talked, been intimate, and have hung out multiple times since then. She says she isnt talking to anyone but is "keeping her options open per se" and doesnt want a relationship with anyone right. Understandably, she wants to be happy alone because we had our fair share of issues. Shes clearly still attracted and has said she will never be alright with me being with someone else but understands if I need to do what's best for me.
Not sure if shes talking to anyone else (although I'd be naive to think she isnt).
I do my best to let her text me sometimes which she does and when we text, 99% of the time they have been positive. For the most part, if I stay calm and collect, and dont bring up relationship stuff we have a good time. She is aware I want to get back in a relationship but I've accepted taking things slow as long as 3+ months down the line she says shes talking to someone and wants to pursue that.
I'd be lying if I wasnt concerned about her moving on. From what I mentioned, should I go no contact? Should I keep trucking and continue to woo her, taking it slowly? Is it a failed cause?
It may be time to put things into perspective because in over a 12 years spent as a relationship coach, I find that a breakup is often NOT just one person's fault, so look at the roles that you've BOTH played that led to the breakup and if the issues have a chance to get resolved, and how to go about it. In most cases, the problems that led to the breakup can be resolved, but in some cases, it can't. So take time to evaluate, okay? However, I have to warn you not to ask the reasons from your ex. This is what I've discussed here along with other stuff that might help you, so this is a must-watch: ruclips.net/video/zqAEi9PbEAA/видео.html Good luck!
I cried infront of my ex and shared everything with him. Now he's happy to know that I'm missing him and I'm sad because he's ignoring me and now I want him back. What should I do?
Watch this first: ruclips.net/video/8OdOmdTQDqE/видео.html
Hi Brad... I need your advice. I broke up with my ex boyfriend of 8 years and it's been almost a year since the breakup. We have a child together and after the breakup I met my now then husband. I have never stopped loving my ex boyfriend and I have been missing him so bad. We met recently to get closure and talk about his child and realised we still have feelings for each other. Do you believe there could be second chances? This is affecting me , I wish I was married to him.
Is he married as well? What is the status of your marriage? This is complicated. Since your situation may be unique, you can work with me one-on-one so I get to learn more about the situation and therefore be more equipped to help you out, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
HEY BRAD I HAVE A UNIQUE SITUATION. My ex and I dated for A YEAR AND A HALF, partially long-distance. He is like my best friend, we have a ton in common and can talk for hours, and there was a lot of love+affection and very little fighting in our relationship.
We broke up over him lying to me about a big trip. I felt I had lost trust in him. We both cried a lot. He had said I did nothing wrong, but of course I didn't understand why he would break my trust. We had no contact for about a month and then he wrote me this long apology (he doesn't believe in apologies on principle, so this was a rare one) which catalyzed a friendship. For 2 months we talked more and more and more, until we were back at 1 hour phone calls and texting every day. He was even fixing things that had bothered me towards the end of when we were dating (like he would call when he said he called, no more empty promises. I got to calling him the King of Empty Promises cheekily by the end of our relationship -- we are both medical students so obviously we get busy, but it always was crummy that he constantly left me hanging).
I got to this point where I was starting to catch feelings again, and in a combination of fear and pride, I sent a message to end our friendship. A little background, he went to Italy for a long time and I was going to join him in January 2018 -- I am still going there for 4 months, but we are obviously over now so its not quite the same. The jist of it was "This is hard but I think we should go our separate ways, I love our conversations and I hope you won't hesitate to help me with my Italian when I am in Rome for four months. I have a gut feeling that it is time to end this healthy friendship. I appreciate all the ways you've been treating me better. I know you'll do well in everything you're pursuing. IF YOU CHOOSE TO BLOCK ME ON SOCIAL MEDIA I WILL UNDERSTAND. Anyway this last year and a half has been beautiful, and always sweet honest and deep from my end. I hope you don't despise me for this, goodbye, and no it's nothing you said or did. I'm sure we will talk in a few months."
AGAIN THE REAL REASON: I was scared of catching feelings again because I didn't know what he was feeling and I still didn't trust him (it was a huge lie that broke us up), and secondly I had this complex in my mind like "Girl, you don't even need him, just date other people and prove to yourself he is unnecessary in your life."
I could tell my message confused, angered, and hurt him. His response was to the effect of: " you don't get to decide when we talk or don't. You're not even trying to hide the fact that you used me for help. What's the reason anyway? Some guy you're seeing doesn't like that you talk to your ex? Don't bother answering, I have my own stuff to think about now too and I don't even care."
I panicked and lied: "some guy gave me an ultimatum okay?" then "I love talking to you about nothing and everything all day, I even thought about repairing us at some point. I just think you don't want me like that, and I have to move on it's healthier."
HORRIBLE, I KNOW. DON'T KNOW HOW TO DIG MYSELF OUTTA THIS ONE.
He hasn't read anything past that. I basically called and texted non-stop for a week, and then for 4 weeks, just kind of once in a while texted and called. He hasn't read any of it. He also hasn't blocked me.
General timeline review: Relationship for 16 months --> breakup (July 21, 2017) --> apology from him (August 18, 2017 -- on our birthday, yes it's the same day) --> we start talking a lot (September 5th, 2017) --> I send this stupid message (October 25, 2017)
So it's been 40 very long days.
I've stopped trying to reach out now, because I figure space may be what he wants, but I don't know what to do. I want to repair our friendship and maybe more, plus I move to Rome in a month regardless. Please please help or direct me to a more relevant video to my wild situation. Also if you could explain why he isn't reading my messages now (does he really think I used him for Italian help... that was only two times?) and how I can fix this... I would really appreciate it.
Hey, Sarah... you're spamming! :-) Listen, I appreciate the time you took to write all this, and I would really love to help, but as what I've been telling anyone who posts super long comments, please try to keep your post short. I only have limited time to give free advice since obviously my coaching clients take first priority, and I'm trying to cover as many comments as possible. Feel free to sign up for my coaching program so I can prioritise your situation at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching Thanks for your understanding!
Well, Brad I see that your time is valuable but so is mine -- let me shorten my post so it is important enough for you to read. I doubt any of your clients is moving to a foreign country in a month in my circumstance.
My ex and I dated for A YEAR AND A HALF, partially long-distance.
We broke up over him lying to me about a big trip. I felt I had lost trust in him.
We had no contact for about a month then 2 months we talked more and more and more, until we were back at 1 hour phone calls and texting every day. He was even fixing things that had bothered me towards the end of when we were dating.
A little background, he went to Italy for a long time and I was going to join him in January 2018 -- I am still going there for 4 months, but we are obviously over now so its not quite the same.
I got to this point where I was starting to catch feelings again, and in a combination of fear and pride, I sent a message to end our friendship.The jist of it was "This is hard but I think we should go our separate ways, I love our conversations and I hope you won't hesitate to help me with my Italian when I am in Rome for four months. I have a gut feeling that it is time to end this healthy friendship. All the best"
His response was to the effect of: " *you don't get to decide when we talk or don't. You're not even trying to hide the fact that you used me for help. What's the reason anyway? Some guy you're seeing doesn't like that you talk to your ex? Don't bother answering, I have my own stuff to think about now too and I don't even care.*"
I panicked and lied: "some guy gave me an ultimatum okay?" then "I love talking to you about nothing and everything all day, I even thought about repairing us at some point. I just think you don't want me like that, and I have to move on it's healthier." He hasn't read anything past that.
I basically called and texted non-stop for a week, and then for 4 weeks, just kind of once in a while texted and called. He hasn't read any of it. He also hasn't blocked me. I've stopped trying to reach out now. I want to repair our friendship and maybe more, plus I move to Rome in a month regardless.
I appreciate you valuing my time to write this message to a stranger hoping for advice.
Okay Brad, I need a little advice. My ex and I were together for 8 months before having a nasty break up. I stopped all contact, and then he started dating some other chic not long after we broke up. We have been broke up a little over 3 months, so A few weeks ago I texted him telling him I was sorry to hear about his pet had died, and he answered the next morning, but nothing special because he was still with her. And just a couple days ago, he texted me telling me that he was a jackass and he couldn't be with this chic anymore because she wasn't me. The next day after this he asked to meet me to talk, we talked about a lot of things in the 3 hours we were together but he said he wasn't ready to get back together yet because he just got out of this relationship with this girl, and I respect that. Since then he has been keeping in contact with me, constantly. When we met up we talked about fun times we had, what we liked about each other and what we would do differently if we got back together, not to mention flirting back and forth. Think we may have a chance to get back together?
Jamie Rowe Hey Jamie, these are really good signs and I'm happy for you! Just make sure not to pressure him in any way as this stage is still very fragile, so you'd want to be careful, okay. A good trick is to end your conversation with him first and have other things going in your own life too :-) From what it seems though, things are looking up. Watch this video to see how many signs he has displayed so far: Does Your Ex Want You Back? 8 Signs To Look For or get a copy of my latest Ex Factor Guide since it contains very detailed instructions just to make sure you're on the right track with this.
My ex broke up 7 months ago, we have a child. She's been single entire time, claims she doesn't want a relationship just to co parent. I did 3 months no contact. She still don't want a relationship. I started talking to another girl probably a rebound relationship in hopes to make ex wife jealous. My wife told me in our last fight over messages that she did love me and still does but doesn't want a relationship, wants to work on herself. But it's been 7 months and I'm just lost
What really happened between you two, though? Look at the roles that you've BOTH played that led to the breakup and if the issues have a chance to get resolved, and how to go about it. In most cases, the problems that led to the breakup can be resolved, but in some cases, it isn't. So take time to evaluate, okay? Good luck!
Hey thanks for the advice brad! Great Chanel.. She broke up with me about 2 weeks ago.. And I started doing no contact last Thursday.. After I made the common mistakes first. I hope it works! It's gong to be so hard not to contact her.. But I hope she is missing me.. Thanks again keep up the good work
masta inc You're welcome! You're not alone, so stay strong and do the right things :-) She's bound to miss you, granted your relationship was serious or a long-term one, if you find the strength not to contact her and focus on your own life instead at this stage.
I broke up with him in the month of may and things were normal till june like we used to talk everyday.. then one day he said I can't be with you anymore the things I did with me bas changed me but after some days he blocked me and I'm still blocked.. and he told my best friend that he loves me but doesn't want a relationship.. what do I do now??
Unless you've done something really epic to mess up things, there's no reason to worry as much, really, because it could be due to the top 3 reasons I've stated on this vid: y2u.be/fjtv90o9bkI Blocking you could just be your ex’s way of coping so I wouldn’t worry too much about it if I were you, at least not initially. If you stay blocked after months though, then that’s another story, especially if you have no other means of communication or have no mutual friends. More about that on here: ruclips.net/video/5UT92IB5ugs/видео.html Anyway social media should be the least of your concerns. Focus on all three phases and your ex may naturally unblock you, in time, as you learn to rebuild that attraction and re-attract this ex back to your life.. Here are the basics of all three phases to getting an ex back: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html and social-media wise, here (but then again, don't let it become your sole focus) : ruclips.net/video/D1GpR5MApQk/видео.html Good luck!
It work on me
My ex came back to me
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Time heals nothing, just makes things worse, I've been in my room for a month an 4 weeks, completely destroyed, depressed, I'm just a shell of a person, she healed me made me a better person, showed me how to love myself again and even saved my life, we had our own place 2 cars jobs. Hobbies friends etc, and she gave up on me an walked out. Now what????
It won't heal you if you're stuck in the victim mentality and feeling like "you can't do anything about it" kind of attitude. You ought to help yourself, too. Time is a great healer, but you have to help yourself feel better as well, Nicholas. This may hopefully help: ruclips.net/video/01wvLSaS9_I/видео.html
I broke up my ex before 8 months ago. I still love him and I want to be him back please tell me what I exacted to do for take him back
Watch this first to help set your expectations: ruclips.net/video/OzVymYnQFTk/видео.html and look out for the signs that your ex has moved on: ruclips.net/video/TnZzeEIPEik/видео.html If you see only one or zero signs, then this vid is for you: ruclips.net/video/9LC1ewgBkIQ/видео.html If the conditions are right, then make sure you tick off the checklist here as well: y2u.be/BAhMrmw3Sms It's important to rebuild the attraction naturally so your ex will be amenable to working things out, eventually. This is what my guide is for but you can also learn the basic principles of my 3R system here and watch the vid til' the end so you don't end up missing the important points: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html and the golden rules here: ruclips.net/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/видео.html
My ex is now in a relationship with four girls at the same time!What should I do?