How To Get Your Avoidant Ex Back
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- Опубликовано: 4 окт 2024
- If your ex is an avoidant person, you may have difficulty when the time comes to reconnect. They tend to be more stubborn, less able to admit their mistakes and more difficult to reach. But there are actually a few reasons that avoidant exes may be MORE likely to give you another shot if you’re able to break through these walls.
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I've listened to a billion videos about avoidant exes. NONE of them offered any hope for the future at all, as in the avoidant turning back and working with the person set aside. This avoidant person is forever hopeless for a relationship according to them. But....your video gave some hope!
I did put my foot down at almost the 6 month mark. That's where I finally showed self-respect and I really stood up to him about not showing up for the relationship. I also told him NO about being friends and walked away. Now we're in No Contact. You said all of this is necessary. Other "coaches" basically say this is the death knoll since the avoidant sees this as abandonment - the very thing they always fear. I felt I had absolutely no choice though if I was to have any value in his mind or mine own.
Awesome moves! Looks like you're on the right track regardless of how this turns out. And thank you for sharing your experience.
Against all odds me and my girlfriend got back together the other day! I owe it all to you!
Hey hey hey! I'm glad my it's all worked out for you. Now as what I always like to say, please keep in mind that getting an ex back does not mean the work stops there. You have to do more work to ensure your relationship stays healthy. Review my guide and/or watch these videos to help you further: ruclips.net/video/jjrOpxa-wfI/видео.html and ruclips.net/video/v9mVzh2NVAc/видео.html or from this advice here as well: ruclips.net/video/-OqYy_DqNJc/видео.html AND ruclips.net/video/8gc53SzHrac/видео.html All the best! :-)
How long did it take? How long was no contact and how long wore you together?
Best of the best mate
How?
Bro I can’t wait to be able to leave a comment like this
*A TIP* : To fully engage in a relationship, you need to get to know and love yourself.
Yes, it's important not to lose yourself in relationships! Some people forget that though but the no contact rule should allow themselves to slowly do that.
YO BRAD I JUST WANTED TO THANK YOU FOR EVERYTHING. Although I did not get my ex back, you encouraged me to work on myself and ive finally moved on! I hope your channel grows and you help millions of other people that are in the same situation i was in🤘
You're welcome, man! Loving yourself first is key to everything. And yes, stay tuned as I'll be expanding my channel to where viewers will have actually have a choice. I'm happy for you and rock on! :-)
I highly recommend a book called: Attached.
Brad After i followed all your tips after 3 weeks of no contact she contacted me today she told she missed me alot itseems Now we are back together stronger than before All this came thru bcz of you!❤ Thankyouuuuuu Brad....💯
Wow! That's awesome! Now as what I always like to say, please keep in mind that getting an ex back does not mean the work stops there. You have to do more work to ensure your relationship stays healthy. Review my guide and/or watch these videos to help you further: ruclips.net/video/jjrOpxa-wfI/видео.html and ruclips.net/video/v9mVzh2NVAc/видео.html or from this advice here as well: ruclips.net/video/-OqYy_DqNJc/видео.html AND ruclips.net/video/8gc53SzHrac/видео.html All the best! :-)
Guys I'm telling you ive tried everything he said and follow the no contact for 30 days and it really works. I've got my ex back. Thank you souch for all the tips and guide. And during this 30 days of no contact even if you don't get your ex back you'll feel better alone and enjoy your own company which eventually makes you happy and independent. So it's a win win situation. You either get you ex back like I did or you enjoy being alone and find another soul mate.
Please pin my comment. So that my brothers and sisters can see what you did for me❤❤❤❤❤
Would you be able to share with me
I'm so happy for you
I used to be in a relationship with an avoidant partner who always shared his thoughts and deep feeling only with both of his best friends and not with me, it’s got on my nerves
It's not easy dealing with one indeed. But if it's deliberate, chances are your ex is doing it purposefully to you. But that's why he remains an ex, right? Take care!
He is a real guy who helped a lot when i was suffering from breakup in 2020.
Thank you man you helped me a lot, I don't know how to thank you but the only way by which i can do right now is thank you man thanks a lot , from my bottom of heart you are a true relationship adviser.
Thank you man your concept of no contact , it was excellent it was the main which helped a lot and other advise also.
Please follow each and every step he is a true man.
Best of luck for anyone who is suffering from this pain.
Hey, man! Glad I was able to help. Thanks for coming back to share! :-)
This describes my current situation. I am now stuck between the decision to attempt getting them back or completely letting go. I do want to let him go, as much as I love him, because I can’t see a life with an avoidant partner.
I feel the same thing right now
I’m in the same boat
same
This is 100% my wife 😢 we've been together 23yrs and I'm so damaged from this relationship but I still love her..I could never understand but now it all makes sense
Great! Glad I've helped. If you need my further guidance, sign me up as your coach and let's figure out what we could do in your situation, at www.marriageguy.com/coaching
I like how carefully they edited the videos some years ago and how simple are they now.
Yeah, the The simpler, the better. It's the information conveyed that counts.
my ex had issues with two previous toxic relationships. Everything was great with her had an intense two months of pure happiness. at the end we had a small argument on something and probably ended in a misunderstanding on her part. she became instantly cold and distant even on our date the next day she was different. three days later she left with no explanations and had set up walls since the argument because of her past resurfacing. she decided, in my view, to run and avoid the problem.
i've tried to reach out 4 days after she left to tell her i was open to meet and talk about what happened. she said we needed time and would reach out when ready (which could be never). it's been two weeks into NC and wondering if her attachment style will hever tell her she was wrong for not communicating. Hopefully her therapist will shine a light in her thoughts.
My ex is even like this with her mom who she’s basically the closest to besides me. Exactly 2 months today since we initially went on a “break”. We live together and have pretty much since we started dating over 5 years ago. We still absolutely care about each other and I hope giving her the space doing my own work and knowing more about who she is will show her that we had something genuinely special.
Hi! Thanks for commenting. That's tough but looks like you two have a pretty solid foundation! This vid is for you, too. Do watch from start to end to not miss out on any tips: ruclips.net/video/4gTXF42Vnhw/видео.html Good luck!
It is not always due to being an “avoidant”, some genuinely realize they deserve and need better and have moved on. Not all come back. If your ex has always calmly and consistently refusing to come back, they have moved on. Now it’s time for you to also move on.
That's actually right. Not all relationships are meant to be salvaged and not every relationship can be salvaged or even worth the effort. During the no contact phase, it's the time to re-evaluate all that, with emotions taken out of the equation as much as possible.
Just hungout with my ex and she mentioned she thought we jumped into our relationship too soon and we both got scared and fucked it up, she also mentioned she isn't ready for a relationship to which I told her I wasn't either but I still wanted to date her, and if we want this to work we have to let go of the past to move forward and I asked if she is OK with that and keeping it casual, and she agreed. Old me would want relationship or bust, but I realize now that is just the neediness and insecurities talking.
Right. Never let your insecurities show even though it's a daunting situation to be in indeed. If you indeed both moved too fast and you trust each other, there's nothing wrong with slowing down. Just pace yourself and if she's worth it, then be patient. Good luck!
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Thanks brad for your valuable advices..from India ❤️
You're right! I appreciate the support. If it’s not too much to ask and if you haven’t done so yet, please like, share, and subscribe to my channel so you won't miss any of my upcoming videos. I'd really appreciate it, too! :-)
We used to talk every day, be together almost every week for a year and half. One day, we agreed spending the day together, he didn’t show up, and when I called him out, he said he wanted to step back and be friends. I told him many times no, but he said that if things were okay with me, there was no reason of not being friends. Honestly I dunno what to do… I’m so tired, because things were always so great.
Apply the tips here: ruclips.net/video/SWERv_y3c5w/видео.html
Some of my ex family had issue because I’m black and she’s Indian. Her mom was cool but everyone else that’s insignificant including friends and co workers influenced her. We talked she said we would work it out with her family but ended up engage with an Indian guy after meeting him for 3 weeks. The same guy she told me is her cousin.
Even when we first broke up she said no man ever treated her like I did. She came back and instigated talking getting back together then she snap and say I need to fully detach myself from you.
But I know she would be back. It’s not obsession it’s a feeling. A gut feeling due to us having the same dream at the same time when we were together and the details in that dream foreseen this
Having faith is good, just make sure you aren't blinded by your feelings. A healthy sense of optimism is needed indeed along with viewing the situation for what it is so as not to look at it with rose coloured glasses. This means you ought to have a balanced approach but cutting off contact will naturally help you with that, so try to stick to that rule for 30 days. One way to go about this is to not get too caught up with getting your ex back so you will allow for stuff to play naturally while playing your cards right , which is what my videos and/or my Ex Factor Guide is for. If you still can't help it, go ahead and sign up for my coaching program so I can guide you accordingly at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching but really try to have that sense of independence without your ex first. You need to be able to rely on yourself before you're in a position to get an ex back. Apply the tips here: ruclips.net/video/4Qe-4A-CpVY/видео.html but this is the overview of what needs to happen, it helps to review it: y2u.be/7JtmVbDkblw Good luck!
It's funny that my DA was the one that taught ME about how important COMMUNICATION is....now....she hardly communicates at all!!!
DA or not, communication is automatically ceased once a relationship breaks down. You both need to heal first.
Really a unique video I've never heard of this avoidant thing before. I believe now my ex matches this description. During our relationship I've texted her first way more often then she did.
Few days before she broke up with me I asked her what was happening because in my point of view not initiating contact was a sign of disinterest. I told her our relationship may not work in the long run.
Well, no contact is over. We've been chatting for a few months and I think she still likes me. The same thing goes on, she rarely reaches me out.
Based on this, is she really an avoidant person, Brad?
Enjoyed your content.
It's gonna take more than that for your ex to qualify as having an avoidant attachment style, man. Based on how you described it, it only looks like she's really not that interested in you, but I could be wrong. How long have you been in a relationship with her? Consider signing up for my coaching program so you can discuss this in detail with me and I can help analyze what's truly going on between you two. Best of luck!
@@BradBrowning We've been dating for one month and a half and we've been on a casual relationship for three months. How can I sign up? I wish I could but since dollar is not my country currency...that may cost more than I can afford =(
Thank you for this video. This is exactly what I needed right now!
Glad you found it helpful! Thanks for the support… please like and subscribe if you haven’t already: ruclips.net/user/bradbrowning”
These things don’t work. In the end they still dump you again. You can walk on eggshells all you want but ultimately the end result will be the same - discard and it will be worse than the first time because they know they can come back and you will have them back and cycle continues. I’m in the process of letting go and it’s hard.
It's never easy indeed. If you've been through many cycles with this ex and you're simply tired (I can't blame you for that), then in essence, the breakup looks like a blessing in disguise anyway for you to be free and get with the person you want and deserve. This may help you process or deal with the breakup accordingly: ruclips.net/video/7zp7SFbeCRU/видео.html but if you find you need more guidance on how to lead a more fruitful life without your ex, get my Beat the Breakup Guide at www.beatmybreakup.com Take care!
Hey Brad I'm a huge fan of yours and I just recently got broken up with from my fiancee of 8 years, and she moved out about this time last month. she says there was hardly any communication between us I immediately started to see a counselor to help with my issues and I go frequently and she does know that I go to counseling. The only problem is we have a 7 year old so the no contact is hard to do. I'm basically willing to do anything to win her back and for to come home and be a family again I scored a 74 on your break up quiz.
Hey thanks for the support. In your case, well in general it's going to be tougher than usual with kid/s involved and/or usually other responsibilities still tied to your ex, but it's best you do limited contact or what I call the dynamic "no contact" rule. Prepare for an uphill battle but if you play your cards right and depending on the extent of damage done, it can actually still be salvaged. Try to prevent things from getting even more awkward than it has to be by applying the tips here as much as possible: ruclips.net/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/видео.html AND ruclips.net/video/dDZrnNh8LOg/видео.html
@@BradBrowning ok will do sir, im actually watching 1 of your videos as I'm typing this, thank you so much
@@ramatahmed2622 slowly do a little better day by day I have my moments still I pray everyday, night, morning and through out the day also. I hope the energy im putting out is reaching her and I hope she sees the nessasry steps I'm taking to better myself so we can be back together again. I want my family back all together more than anything
Hello Brad, looking back it makes so much sense. Your description fit her almost 100%. You said it's important to be a bit more upfront with avoidant types. Do you think it would be a terrible idea to very carefully mention attachement types after a few in person meetings? I know one shouldn't talk too much about this stuff when trying to get back together. I'd just like to nudge her in the right direction so maybe she can realize this about herself. Thank you for your videos!
Good question!
How long have you known her and has she been diagnosed with it? If she hasn't, then I need you to tread carefully here because as I've said, there's a fine line between your ex avoiding you versus her actually have that disorder. There is a time to be upfront with these types, but generally not too early on. It's also possible that you can be too close to the situation to analyze stuff correctly. So since your situation may be unique, you'd benefit by working with me one-on-one so I get to learn more about the situation and therefore be more equipped to help you out, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Been almost 3 months now of no contact. Not only did he show up to a party he knew I was at 2 months in flirting and trying to get my attention now he’s liking and commenting on my social media more frequently. But no texts yet. He absolutely owes me an apology with how he ended things with me. 😢
Are you looking to get back together or just waiting for an apology? The latter is overrated and waiting for an apology may not be the best idea, consider moving on. If it's the former, however, then since it's been a few months since the breakup, it's best to consider the facts I've mentioned here first as this lets you determine whether there's still a real shot or not: ruclips.net/video/YVViZmY2x0I/видео.html and/or take the free quiz at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Good luck!
What about fearful/anxious avoidants? My ex gf most likely has that attachment style. She always emphasized how important freedom is to her, she hurt me in the past out of fear that I would hurt her, but she was also very affectionate and constantly showered me with love during the period when we had the most intense relationship and achieved incredible closeness.
Most people give it their best shot when in a committed relationship... which is why relationships can be so addictive. Hi there! How long were you two actually committed to each other with this avoidant ex? Sorry, although I'd like to offer a tip or two, there's simply too many elements to your situation that makes this too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Totally forgot Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style.
Posted here on one of my more recent vids: ruclips.net/video/u7B9rHNhgJE/видео.html Fearful Avoidant Attachment is also known as disorganized attachment style.
Brad you have exactly described my ex 💯💯💯! That’s how he broke up too. He really didn’t give me a solid reason other than that I’m a really good person and he should have let me off in 2017 already instead of dragging it until 2021. All he tells me is his family and friends don’t believe him when he tries to tell them that I’m a good person for him to be with.
So now he texts me all of a sudden with “how are you **”(addressing me the way he use to address me when we were in a relationship) and telling me how a video he saw on RUclips reminded him of me.
As excited I am to read the text from him, I decided to follow you advice and not respond. After and hour he called me!! Again I was crying inside for not picking up his call… did I do the right thing?
Yes, don't respond other than a few exceptions (posted here on a vid as well, check that out) if you're still in the 30-day no contact period. As to your ex texting you, that's what I call the "check-in" text and your ex is somewhat expected to send one or more of these sooner or later and I've got just the vid for that. Discussed that in one of the vids, including how to handle that kind of message, here: ruclips.net/video/VMAHVJ6tvSM/видео.html
@@BradBrowning I did watch that video ‘later’ and am reading your reply just now which is also pretty late. I did not respond to his text right away. But since he can check up on me through my daughter I decided to respond because I didn’t want him to think I was being weird/suspicious all of a sudden ( past 7 months I have been very responsive and so has he and we have been in contact constantly through phone and texts) but I had watched your video where you said to appear happy and un emotional ( I have been very emotional and honest about my heart break with him so far. Yeah, I wish I had come across your channel earlier. I have been going about it the complete opposite from what you advice😓) so I replied that I was just chilling since I have my weekend off and asked him how his paper work was going ( he’s preparing them to go to india for his green card interview) and I hearted the comment he made about the video on RUclips that reminded him of me.
He left my message on “delivered” and never responded back.
Hey Brad,
My ex is going through some things. She is having a tough time now. She told me that like 2 months ago and until now there was no sign of contact anymore. So my question is: Is it possible to blend and support her or is it a sign for me to move on?
Enjoy your day Brad!
Don't be an extremist. :-) Don't support her because you're not her boyfriend anymore. Just act cordial with her to try to open the lines of communication. Once you've already completed the full 30-day "no contact" rule and assuming you did it correctly, then the texting tips here will be a good starter: ruclips.net/video/XonMtLFo000/видео.html but make sure you tick off the checklist here first: ruclips.net/video/BAhMrmw3Sms/видео.html This means you take time focusing on the second phase and eventually the third phase when the time is right. This won’t happen overnight, of course, but it’s something you ought to continue to work on to the point where you’re gradually building attraction again. This is what my guide is for. Have you checked it out yet? It's too complicated to explain everything on here, but here's an overview of these phases and what to expect in each one: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html Good luck!
60 days of nc and still nothing! I canot connect to her cuz she blocked me in all socials and numbers
Hi brad, thank you so much for this video. My girlfriend broke up with me last week and I’ve been gutted. We were going great for so long and I then went to Canada for the summer. We decided to call a break on things as it would be hard on her being at home for the summer and staying in contact would be difficult. So for 7 weeks we did no contact and when I returned I text her to say I’m back! But she then said she no longer wants a relationship. Yes we had our issues at times but her reasons for no longer wanting it are all problems that could be easily fixed with simple communication. The more that I analyze the relationship the more I get the impression that she is an avoidant. I don’t really know what to do or how to get her out of this negative way of thinking about our relationship. Because we were great together and I think she’s lost sight of that and focused on the negatives
You're welcome. I suggest not to overthink because your ex is most likely lying about the reason of the breakup so try not to fall for that. Discussed that here: ruclips.net/video/ZuHWCWeG1xs/видео.html However, the bottom line is your ex has significantly lost attraction. Watch what I’ve explained here and watch the entire length of the video to gain full understanding, as well as know what to do: y2u.be/E9wG_ErBQoI It’s important to rebuild the attraction naturally so your ex will be amenable to working things out, eventually. This is what my guide is for but you can also learn the basic principles of my new version of my 3R system here and watch the vid til' the end so you don't end up missing the important points: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html and the golden rules here: ruclips.net/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/видео.html
You don’t break up with your girlfriend just because you going on holiday. I would do the same. You came back and text her you’re back.. of course she doesn’t want relationship. She’s not avoidant, she lost respect for you. You should kept the relationship going when you went on holiday.
What it means when a guy who isn’t my ex but he seems like the avoidant type says he need space, I told him I agree and he said “nothing crazy just some breathing room lol”
It probably means you ought to back off and let him make a move on you first. Relationships are like a game of chess, don't make a lot of moves without him reciprocating stuff!
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Sir I have BPD 🙆♀️😭😭😭
Not being clingy/needy is the hardest part for me but for love im willing to do this
Hi! I suggest you to take action on your mental health first. The rest will follow. Talk to a licensed professional about this, yeah? Take care!
I asked my FA long distance ex if we could meet for coffee and as friends - no expectations. He said he doesn’t think it’s a good idea and doesn’t think friends is for us. I don’t know what to do? I’m heartbroken.
That's not good but at least you tried? However, it's a mistake to try to meet up before re-establishing good rapport with an ex. Oftentimes I find with my clients, the mistake is they appear way too eager with their exes when it comes to reconnecting and end up shooting themselves in the foot because that kind of eagerness actually pushes an ex away. So did you appear too eager? ?Without knowing anything about your situation I obviously can't tell but if you're convinced you've done everything right though and still got no results, then it may be best to move on from this. You can also get my latest e-book Beat the Breakup at www.beatmybreakup.com to help guide you on what more to do during this grieving process. Take care!
The exact same happen to me with my ex
She ran away before we could even talk about the issue with our relationship
(was bad communication which we both felt)
But in her case, she’s also very persistent person who not so easily let down their opinion or admit their own mistake
What can I do in case she’s still so convicted there is nothing to solve ? Should I act differently?
PS. Great vid keep up the amazing content!
Sorry to hear. Look, the bottom line is your ex has significantly lost attraction. Watch what I’ve explained here and watch the entire length of the video to gain full understanding, as well as know what to do: y2u.be/E9wG_ErBQoI It’s important to rebuild the attraction naturally so your ex will be amenable to working things out, eventually. This is what my guide is for but you can also learn the basic principles of my 3R system here and watch the vid til' the end so you don't end up missing the important points: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html and the golden rules here: ruclips.net/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/видео.html
Your work here is very much appreciated thank you 🙏
Brother get us a big whole video bcz we need ur help, support
Hey, man! I've broken the tips into parts because most people don't like videos that seem to run forever, so be sure to check out my other vids as well! :-)
This is the video I was needing, I already knew your channel and I knew when I go through this sort of situation this is where to find answers.
Brad, I'm confused, in my case, she's not my ex, she said she didn't love me anymore out of anger and wanted to breakup, but she agreed to let me fix things and make her fall in love again... so she's not my ex, or is she? She still wants to keep in contact all day, but will put up many walls, as if she wanted to talk to each other as just friends. She is cold on purpose and it's too obvious, it's like she wants to make things hard for me.
She is your ex, man. It's a confusing time for you both indeed so try to give space. You both have to process the breakup first and go through all that pain and slowly let go of the bad memories...It is a process, but this is what the "no contact" rule is for, to help both of you move forward from that pain. A reconciliation with an ex means there will be a new (thus the old relationship be considered as over) relationship between you two where the lessons of the past are taken into consideration in order to resolve it to create a better relationship in the future. Does that make sense? Give your ex time to let go of the bad memories, however, this won't happen overnight and for sure takes time, so don't rush. Follow the tips on my other vids, especially this one: ruclips.net/video/FLeP1eRCkCk/видео.html Good luck!
You dont break no contact after 30.days. it takes 45-60 days for a person to make a decision
It's more complicated than that. Average time is 30 days but can go anywhere from 4 to 6 weeks in usual cases. If there's been some endless begging and/or refusing to cut off contact on your end, however, I usually suggest to give it more time, around 2 months or even more. Cheating instances are different if you've cheated, could be longer or shorter depending on how your ex reacts. Do take note that in some instances where the dumpee just couldn't take the hint and continually bugs their ex for months, there comes a time where the ex reaches a "breaking point" and confirms it's the right decision to break up and becomes hellbent in moving on from you. So the bottom line is the "no contact" rule is best applied when the breakup is still fresh. Discussed the importance of silence here: ruclips.net/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/видео.html Also don't forget to watch my other vids so you'll know what to do after the "no contact" phase, especially if you're not getting my Ex Factor Guide. Good luck!
Stay away from an ex lads if your not mentally strong about the break up
Right. The safest option is to always give each other space first to help you get your stuff together and not make the most common mistakes people do.
she gave me a reason abt why she broke up with me, like she felt overwhelmed and not being able to keep up with the relationship and slowly pulls away to the point of the breakup , we dated totally of literally the 10th month date. she broke up with me a month before the second breakup and begged to get back with me a day after she broke up with me the first time, i said yes and she eventually pulls away again leading to the second breakup which is the current breakup; she went totally radio silent after and its been a month and a half .
Your ex is most likely lying about the reason of the breakup so try not to fall for that. Discussed that here: ruclips.net/video/ZuHWCWeG1xs/видео.html However, the bottom line is your ex has significantly lost attraction. Watch what I’ve explained here and watch the entire length of the video to gain full understanding, as well as know what to do: y2u.be/E9wG_ErBQoI It’s important to rebuild the attraction naturally so your ex will be amenable to working things out, eventually. This is what my guide is for but you can also learn the basic principles of my 3R system here and watch the vid til' the end so you don't end up missing the important points: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html and the golden rules here: ruclips.net/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/видео.html
Thanks Brad for your video on an avoident ex which has really helped me understand how they can behave in a relationship. She has broken off or gone silent on me over the years on several occassions we have been together the reasons for which I had never understood till now. I carried out no contact and post that sent her a message along the lines you suggested. After one week she text me to say if I was around would I like to chat. I responded but did not reveal my emotions but instead kept the conversation light and humourous. She did however mention being friends again which I chose to ignore. She has been in contact a few times more on facetime I have maintained my approach but where should I go from here. Anyhow you have greatly helped in getting her back to the first stage of talking. Thank you
Hey you're welcome! It's never easy dealing with one and your patience will surely be tested! Try to follow the tips down to a tee or get my Ex Factor Guide to ensure you're on the right path. I wish you luck and stay strong, man!
Brad thanks for always been on point
I broke up with my ex months back and did NC, actually focused on myself and we ran into each other she told me she misses me and has gotten over me 10% out of 100…still I didn’t push for a relationship I just played it cool and offered lunch sometime if it was ok by her and still stayed my lane for 3 weeks working on my goal
Then I realized she’s changed her numbers and didn’t text me the new ones
Is this a way of her to get me to chase her? Cos I really don’t want to or it’s her finally giving up and trying to move on
I honestly am working on building myself n doing the best for i and my mom
Hi! You're welcome! How long has it been? Watch this first to help set your expectations: ruclips.net/video/82uUJ7kPXhE/видео.html and look out for the signs that your ex has moved on: ruclips.net/video/TnZzeEIPEik/видео.html If you see only one or zero signs, then this vid is for you: ruclips.net/video/9LC1ewgBkIQ/видео.html If the conditions are right, then make sure you tick off the checklist here as well: y2u.be/BAhMrmw3Sms It's important to rebuild the attraction naturally so your ex will be amenable to working things out, eventually. This is what my guide is for but you can also learn the basic principles of my 3R system here and watch the vid til' the end so you don't end up missing the important points: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html and the golden rules here: ruclips.net/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/видео.html
After of one month pleading and begging, my ex told me that she want to start a new life without me and ask to me to move on, is there a still a chance?
Take the free quiz to find out at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz To add, by begging, it shows how you're not respecting your ex's need for space and time at the moment. Can't you see? In other words, you're making it hard for your ex to be attracted to you again. Your best bet is still to cut off contact completely for around a month or even more in order to clear your heads. You'd increase your chances of getting your ex back if you've got your sh*t together than if you were doing the opposite of the no contact rule which is begging/pleading or negotiating/trying to woo your ex again. Well, there are a few rare who take their exes back if you beg/plead but it hardly ever lasts since these people are taking their exes back out of pity. So my point is, don't let your ex take you back out of pity, all right? Here are 5 keys you need to remember when it comes to this: ruclips.net/video/eZ6niCLUU6E/видео.html The best way to avoid that is to work on yourself and get your life together by having fun, hobbies, etc. and to stop chasing your ex. I've made numerous videos about the "no contact" rule and why it's important. Check those out. Also watch the stories here and try not to be a statistic: ruclips.net/video/1U_IOm8ofFo/видео.html
Bingo...She has avoidant behavior traits. Zero communication skills. She expects me to be a mind reader. P.s. after 5 years we went NC in November for 30 days. Got back. Never resolved issues. Broke up again 2 weeks ago. My thoughts this time it's probably for good.
Sorry to hear that. Yes, unfortunately this kind of dynamic isn't something that can be easily changed. Healing from this heartbreak though would take some time, especially if you see a future with her somehow, so stay strong. Take care!
My ex and I dated for 3.5 years and lived w each other for 2.5 years. She broke up with me and decided we needed separate living situations so we can both work on ourselves.. we shared a beloved pet and when she brought him over she said things like- I have anxiety about everything and is being hot and cold emotionally. We hugged for a while and when she left she told me she loved me so casually that it took me a second time to ask what? She repeated herself saying it again and left me super confused because it sounded like exactly the same way she would say that when we were together.. What do you think this means?? Thanks for your videos these are helping me get through all this
It means you guys need more time, especially your ex, because yes, a breakup tends to be confusing for both the dumper and dumpees alike. That kind of behaviour coming from your ex is somewhat expected after a fresh/recent breakup. That's why you ought to give it enough time where there's totally no contact between you and your ex for at least 30 days. A wide array of different emotions coming from an ex is somewhat expected when a breakup is still fresh and this includes the likelihood of your ex giving you mixed or weird signals. Watch this: y2u.be/siApAVtx8zE This is why I tell people to cut off contact for at least a month first and NOT deal with this ex. You both need to clear your minds first, all right? A breakup hurts both people in it regardless of who has done the breaking up. This is something I've discussed here, so watch it to learn a few tips to help you on how to go about it: ruclips.net/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/видео.html
This is exactly what I went through
Hey Brad. I am 20 and my ex and I have been together for around 2 years. I’ve seen alot of your videos, and I tried the no contact rule for 3 weeks, and asked for a meetup. But I felt very empty.
She said yes to meet up and we had a good time, laughing and all that, and walked pretty close.
But when I drove back to set her off at her house I asked why she broke up and kept asking and asking why I couldnt have a second chance if I changed. She said she has not been better since we broke up. And she has no plans on getting back together for 2022, but I cant seem to understand this… Because she took her decision just like that and has been thinking about it for 2-3 weeks without telling me…
That made me sad but what hurts me is that I know of the things I have done wrong, and could have done better like being too “unserious” and touchy. But I know that I love her.
Is the best thing to go into no contact again and give her space and time or how can I get her back. She wants me as a best friend but I really dont know what to do. Please help.
We also have a trip to Spain planned and we agreed to go, but she not as a couple but it is still over a month until that. She deleted her Snapchat memories with me aswell, but still seems to like me as a friend. I am so confused…
She said if I broke up with her a month or 2 ago she would be really sad, but now all the suddden so quickly she broke up? How does that work, and I am almost sure she isnt seeing others right now… please help Brad
Most breakups end abruptly, which I know doesn't help with your pain right now but it's the truth. Here's something that might help you make sense of it: ruclips.net/video/VQjVlDWxJ2o/видео.html Anyway, being needy or asking for a second chance... that was totally the wrong approach and I've talked about that here: ruclips.net/video/juhamVEwsxU/видео.html You ought to review this first: ruclips.net/video/L0hxYTCJ2hU/видео.html and in fact, apply the tips here first instead of taking the shortcut: ruclips.net/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/видео.html In the future, if you're still not sure about what you're doing, I really suggest you sign up for my coaching program so I can assess your situation properly and guide you accordingly at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
@@BradBrowning Thanks Brad, I just bought the ex factor guide program. I hope it works, thanks :D
Good video as I now know I have been with an avoident ex for the last 14 years!! I have done 45 days no contact so I text her 4 days ago but with no reply!!
If you've reached out to your ex only fairly recently, and assuming you've correctly employed the 30-day "no contact" rule, then that's a normal reaction from your ex. Here, watch this to help you understand things better: y2u.be/CP8FQlvDuVU But I would worry about what sort of messages have you been sending your ex? It's a different story if you've been trying for so long with all the right moves and still no progress. It just depends how this plays out really. Focus on the second and third phases instead. It helps to learn the basics here: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html and/or better yet, read my guide to guide you every step of the way, at www.breakupbrad.com Good luck!
My ex and I have been no contact for 10 weeks. But I miss him and want to get back together. He also has some of my stuff.
You can reach out to your ex after the 30 days straight of "no contact" period is over. In doing so, it's best to treat the situation with fresh eyes, so it's crucial to keep things fun and light and gently coax your ex into responding the same way. Here are the basics on what to do when it comes down to it. I also suggest you watch from start to the end and NOT skip any parts so you can maximize these tips: ruclips.net/video/7PcfGeJqUYo/видео.html including asking yourself these very important questions to ask yourself before starting the process: ruclips.net/video/t6I5k55pnCE/видео.html but if you need the step-by-step process on what to do, including what to text or say during the process, either hire me as your coach, refer to my other vids or get the 2.0 version of my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com
He was this kind of traits,and he was doing this again and again but I giveup now walked with silent
Sorry to hear that. I know how extra tough it can be for people dealing with it. Stay strong!
What’s the benefit to date these people? Asking for a friend!
It's purely subjective. If you know you have a good thing, play your cards right. But if it was a toxic connection, consider moving on for good. I obviously can't decide for you since every situation is unique. So cut off contact to gain some clarity.
it's been 4 months since we broke up and no contact since...neither of us have reached out I have no idea what to do
You could've reach out to your ex after the 30-days straight of "no contact" period is over. In doing so, it's best to treat the situation with fresh eyes, so it's crucial to keep things fun and light and gently coax your ex into responding the same way. Here are the basics on what to do when it comes down to it. I also suggest you watch from start to the end and NOT skip any parts so you can maximize these tips: ruclips.net/video/7PcfGeJqUYo/видео.html including asking yourself these very important questions to ask yourself before starting the process: ruclips.net/video/t6I5k55pnCE/видео.html but if you need the step-by-step process on what to do, including what to text or say during the process, either hire me as your coach, refer to my other vids or get the 2.0 version of my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com
Great advice... Thanks
Im dating a severe aviodant, she is an amazing person but evertime we argue she breaks up with me. We have broken up 21 times in 18 months 😂
Oh wow. Seems like there's been a breakup at least once a month? I don't know if you guys are trying to break the world record or something! Seriously though, consider the stuff I discussed on this vid. This one, too: ruclips.net/video/4gTXF42Vnhw/видео.html
my ex is avoident. She blocked me and put up a wall. 3 Month in NC. No response.
If you've reached out to your ex only fairly recently, and assuming you've correctly employed the 30-day "no contact" rule, then that's a normal reaction from your ex. Here, watch this to help you understand things better: y2u.be/CP8FQlvDuVU But I would worry about what sort of messages have you been sending your ex? It's a different story if you've been trying for so long with all the right moves and still no progress. It just depends how this plays out really. Focus on the second and third phases instead. It helps to learn the basics here: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html and/or better yet, read my guide to guide you every step of the way, at www.breakupbrad.com Good luck!
brad, my ex said she's dating someone else, but our friends say that she's only friends with this guy because they said she told them. but i think that it's a rebound
Try to put your focus elsewhere (best to put focus back to yourself) because your ex is likely rebounding and you're only wasting precious minutes of your life worrying about something that's out of your control. If anything, your ex is suffering, too, even though it may not seem like it. Discussed that here: ruclips.net/video/7KE6nb4-ndA/видео.html Watch this, too: ruclips.net/video/TBtb34gy6zw/видео.html This should hopefully get you back on track with what you ought to be doing during this time: ruclips.net/video/obBIttQSak4/видео.html
Hi Brad, I recently went through my break up with my girlfriend just over 2 months ago (she broke up with me). She exhibits much of these traits. I didn't speak with her for a week and ran into at my gym I work and we talked a week after the break. I went over to her house to drop somethings off and some gifts she gave me. During that time she was acting vulnerable but still felt she made the right decision in breaking the relationship. However because of the mixed signals she was giving me including hugging me for a long while. The next day I bought her a single flower and dropped it off at her house. The Day after she texted me asking me if dropped a flower off, I said yes, then she angrily texted me that she was in a vulnerable state, that she's shouldn't of let me in or hugged me and she was serious about the break up. She told me to respect her space. So after that I sent a message back saying I would respect her space. Then I preceded to unfriend her from Facebook and instagram and followed the no contact from there. 20ish days after she quit going to the gym I work at and after 60ish days of no contact or interaction I ran into her at a grocery store. From there I went up and said hi and she was kinda cold and awkward and seem a little caught off guard. I haven't spoken or sent her any messages since. Is this situation done?
My boyfriend broke up with me over some slight issues, I pleaded with him but he still didn’t want to listen, he was so angry and told me he doesn’t love me I eventually agreed and wished him well. We’ve been on NC for 3 weeks now, can he still come back to me despite his actions and anger ?
Redo the "no contact" rule and make sure you stick to it this time. But watch this first to help manage your expectations: ruclips.net/video/OzVymYnQFTk/видео.html Here's how you can tell you're doing the "no contact" rule properly: ruclips.net/video/f7zuXk-sVsI/видео.html It may help to make use of the clean slate template, which is a free version from a piece of my Ex Factor Guide. Watch this: ruclips.net/video/6K3xufEwEFg/видео.html The main goal is to bring your ex into an emotional neutral state by employing the 30-day “no contact” rule -- let your ex miss you and don't rush it. But in order to fully understand how this concept works, watch the free in-depth video on my website to learn some psychology techniques and understand how giving each other space for around a month can benefit you than otherwise, at www.breakupbrad.com
Hello Brad! My ex girlfriend of 8 years started dating another guy while the final weeks of our relationship. I still love her but I don’t know what to do. She doesn’t reach out or care to see how I’m doing. I don’t think her new relationship is a rebound. After 8 years with her she doesn’t even bother to see how I’m doing. I can’t even show her I’m doing great because she blocked me from everything. Thank you Brad for any advice.
Sorry, man, but chances are your girl has been at least emotionally cheating on you. Discussed that in depth here: y2u.be/7KE6nb4-ndA There's no easy way to say this but the answer is is to move on, especially if your ex doesn't seem to be regretting their actions and asking to get back together. Most of the time, a lot of people would move on, but a few would still fight for the relationship, so this all depends which side you're on and what your views are. But take into consideration about what I’ve mentioned here, too: ruclips.net/video/m27TLeyUmwg/видео.html There is no right or wrong answer here because it is your relationship and it's personal to you. Make sense? Anyway men and women cheat for different reasons, but if you think your ex is worth it and if there's been a genuine connection between you two before the cheating happened, then try to see the roles that you BOTH played that led to all this mess and see once and for all if it can be resolved or not, okay? Whatever the case, it's important you forgive yourself because no one's perfect, and forgive your ex too. Really take your time before deciding though and be sure not to make any hasty decisions from an emotional place but never force things with her if you can see she no longer wants to try. Take care!
My (avoidant) ex lost feelings and broke up 2 weeks after she was sexually assaulted. Week 5 of NC she drunk texted a mutual friend for hours crying abt how she’ll never find someone like me again. But sober she won’t admit feelings apparently and avoids talking about me completely, according to a mutual friend. Going into week 8 of NC. Any advice? Do I reach out?
Whoa did you mean she was sexually assaulted while in a relationship with you? Since your situation may be unique, you'd benefit by working with me one-on-one so I get to learn more about the situation and therefore be more equipped to help you out, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
I'm 28 yo male and hit it off amazingly with a girl and started hanging out everyday and learning everything about each other for a month and a half and everything was perfect and romantic then she started to act avoidant and backed away and ghosted me. Stopped responding to messages. So I immediately implemented no contact. Its been almost exactly 30 days and she contacts me asking about a deep secret I told her... About sleeping with someone's girlfriend a long time ago. I just moved to this town so she doesn't know anyone involved but she just sent a prediction on who it was. Is she trying to start shit or is this an attempt at an ice breaker. Caught me off guard because I feel that was probably a red flag to her and maybe one reason she backed away and if I answer wrong she may use it to insult me or just use it to get over me. I really still believe were perfect for each other so I was hoping she'd eventually contact me but not like this 😂 Maybe its an opportunity to clear things up with that past event or maybe I should just evade it or maybe I should ignore it and see if she follows up with more in the next few days 🤔
It's best to just tell her the truth, especially early on. Otherwise you'd have a problem later on regaining her trust IF you do get back together. The right woman for you will accept the truth!
@@BradBrowning That's true thanks! But do I break no contact to answer her random question?
Never reach out first if they broke up with you. They will use it as a weapon against you later. When things start being challenging they will think I will break up again and my partner will bail me out of it if I want to. Your behavior puts you in hands of dictator… you are planting a seed of a new run away by your DA partner. Let them invest and work or face the conveniences of losing you. DA is the worst partner for most of us, so you can get only a much better partner if you want.
If your ex has a tendency to do that, then that's definitely something to think about. However, not everybody operates that way and it's not fair to generalize all exes to be that way. So again this all depends on who you're dealing with, yeah? In your case, the breakup may be a blessing in disguise!
Can you do a video on pheromones? How to increase, what perfumes and etc?
There's no definitive study (with consistent, proven results) on that subject yet so that one's a bit controversial, I believe.
Hey Brad! The no contact rule is almost next to impossible for me with my (avoidant)ex because not only is there my daughter between us who he has raised since she was 3yrs old ( she’s 15 now) but also because he pays part of my bills and we have shared bank accounts, car, apartment etc.. also my family treats him like their own even though we were never engaged or married in our 11+yrs of relationship. My family has no idea about our break up and I’m afraid to tell them about it from the fear of them judging him while my ex is already in a bind with his family who have always created a lot of problems to keep us apart. I want to sign you up as my coach although it’s expensive for me but before I do could you please reply to this comment ?
It's going to be tougher than usual with kid/s involved and/or usually other responsibilities still tied to your ex, but it's best you do limited contact or what I call the dynamic "no contact" rule. Prepare for an uphill battle but if you play your cards right and depending on the extent of damage done, it can actually still be salvaged. Try to prevent things from getting even more awkward than it has to be by applying the tips here as much as possible: ruclips.net/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/видео.html AND ruclips.net/video/dDZrnNh8LOg/видео.html
@@BradBrowning Thank you Brad for replying. I have signed up for your coaching. I’ve had a pretty tough life as is and I have fought all my life for every little bit of what I have. I will fight for this too with your guidance and my prayers. It has been very very rough last 7+ months since the break up and while he keeps saying how bad he misses me and how hard it is for him to not imagine his future with me and my daughter, he also has been adamant about ending the relationship we have had so far. I’m in a lot of emotional turmoil and have wished multiple times to just end it all and never wake up from it. I hope talking to you will help me some and find a solution to this.
I read that he said somewhere that if using the 30 day rule you should talk to them when you need these things done but briefly and respectfully. Keeping conversations short and only talking about that issue nothing long or drawn out very short. I'm sorry just seeing your text it's, just seen this
Hey. Your situation resonates with me. I have an anxious attachment style, and would like to get my 19 yr relationship back with my DA ex. How did it go? Are you guys back together?
My ex blindsided me when he broke up after a few months.. and he denied having someone else and totally blocked me on everything.. but i just found out he has a new gf and it happened so quick.. almost like he was talking to her while with me.. any advice?
Hey Brad! I did the no contact strategy for 27 days and she contacted me. I thought it worked because she asked me for help when she had other people she could ask for. I tried to continue the conversation but she ignored that message. What is happening?
Watch and observe first if this is what's happening: ruclips.net/video/xAKxNWWygKY/видео.html
Hey Brad, My avoident and i have been having issues. He dose something that upsets me and i over react to things and he disappears or breaks up with me. I messed up during his military graduation and overreacted and he ghosted me. I love him and i wanna make this work, I went into no contact to give him space. He told his friends he sees us as "done" but hasn't said that to me. He is still in the military now, what should I do?
Edit: i texted him after the disagreement pretty much the same day "just let me know when you want to talk" the situation happened about 2 weeks ago
It's not a good time to talk about anything now that things are done. Make sure you go radio silence. If you get back into good graces, that's the time to talk things out, otherwise continue on your healing journey, okay? You both have to process the breakup first and go through all that pain and slowly let go of the bad memories...It is a process, but this is what the "no contact" rule is for, to help both of you move forward from that pain. A reconciliation with an ex means there will be a new (thus the old relationship be considered as over) relationship between you two where the lessons of the past are taken into consideration in order to resolve it to create a better relationship in the future. Does that make sense? Give your ex time to let go of the bad memories, however, this won't happen overnight and for sure takes time, so don't rush. Follow the tips on my other vids, especially this one: ruclips.net/video/FLeP1eRCkCk/видео.html Good luck!
I've been in no contact for like 65 Days. And I never stalk, but today I did. I saw she's been posting pictures alot and her comment section is full of flirting. She know I don't follow her, I usually put some WhatsApp status and she watches them immediately.(I don't watch hers at all).
Although she wished me HBD at 12 am and texted and called me.. I was impressed that she puts efforts to wish me.
Then I saw her post today and No... She didn't loose her pride.
I've decided to go radio silent and have blocked her everywhere.
She's trying to trigger me and make me break no contact.
Are you trying to move on or do you want her back? The no contact is supposed to last for only 30 days though, if you want her back? Once you've already completed the full 30-day "no contact" rule and assuming you did it correctly, then the texting tips here will be a good starter: ruclips.net/video/XonMtLFo000/видео.html but make sure you tick off the checklist here first: ruclips.net/video/BAhMrmw3Sms/видео.html This means you take time focusing on the second phase and eventually the third phase when the time is right. This won’t happen overnight, of course, but it’s something you ought to continue to work on to the point where you’re gradually building attraction again. This is what my guide is for. Have you checked it out yet? It's too complicated to explain everything on here, but here's an overview of these phases and what to expect in each one: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html Good luck!
Can i start no contact rule.
I haven't talk rudely
She left me becoZ she need space
Lol same this dude randomly came about he need space when I didn’t do anything bad to him
Hia Brad I have been watching your vids for years. I was a codependent mess at the start now 3 years post breakup I realize I am an Anxious type and I don't want to deal with his drama anymore. It's so lame. lol
Codependency is something you should avoid whether you're in a relationship or not, but especially if you're in a relationship. To avoid this from happening in the future, whether with your ex or with someone new, it's best to basically have a life outside the relationship.
My school is on quarter basis. Ten weeks per quarter. We dated in winter quarter, he broke up with me at the end of it. It’s been 9weeks since we broke up. I know I should’ve do this. But I enrolled in classes he’s taking and did sports he was doing. Even though he’s def not 100%of the reason why I did things. I happened to see him almost everyday in school. At first, I was trying to talk to him and was desperate. Toward the end of the quarter, I intentionally did not look at him at all. We act just like strangers. And he is avoiding as much as he can. He’s very avoidant even in the relationship. School is over in two weeks, meaning I will not see him for the entire summer(maybe not even next fall). Do I still have chance to get him back given that I didn’t and couldn’t now give him space at all?
Try to heal from this and enjoy the summer without your ex. Life is or will be taking you in two different directions at this stage. Watch this, too: ruclips.net/video/2CakOOSwIiY/видео.html&lc=Ugw4Ce3x9APUrYfz29N4AaABAg So whatever the case may be, act responsibly yet try not to take things too seriously for now since you two are in a period of growth and lots of changes, including preferences in attitude, personality, etc. Focus on your studies instead, all right? Take care!
Im unfriended on snapchat 3 months now by a avoidant i dated for 6 months, is she over me?
Whether or not someone's over you isn't determined by whether you got unfriended or whatnot on social media. Here's the vid for that: ruclips.net/video/ZyJRphwDca4/видео.html
My ex told me that we’re never going to be talking again. Is there a way around this?
Depends on what happened. Were you being needy during/after the breakup? You really need to stop all contact for at least 30 days and not push it. Being needy or too forceful for your ex to talk to you will only alienate them further. Here's what may going through your ex's mind and they seem they want nothing to do with you: ruclips.net/video/sd2Lx8uEni8/видео.html
hey brad, my bf just broke up with me because he said he feels lost and thinks it’s best this way. I asked if we should continue being friends or not block eachother on anything at least because i do love him . Should i do no contact ? or is there any tips im so lost and sad .
he wants to find himself and said time will tell if we get back together.
Sorry to hear that. It's a bad idea to be friends too early on though. Employ the 30-day "no contact" rule first. Here's how you can tell it's starting to work: ruclips.net/video/T4Sz6DiWRsQ/видео.html Though make sure you follow the tips here as well: ruclips.net/video/xgR03RcU8mw/видео.html AND some recent tips here: y2u.be/FLeP1eRCkCk Lots of folks seem to be oblivious about it, so here goes: the 30-day "no contact" rule, once COMPLETED, is just the first phase for most people (unless your ex sincerely wanted you back and it's shown in their actions). This would also help guide you on what to do after the "no contact" rule: ruclips.net/video/BAhMrmw3Sms/видео.html Anyway there are two more phases to go through if you want an ex back, and the third is to rekindle/rebuild the attraction with an ex. Learn the basics here: y2u.be/7JtmVbDkblw
Brad! My ex and I have been together for about 5 months. It was quite a short time, but our relationship was very intense, we met almost daily and did fun things many times. I would like to get her back, because there are feelings for her that I have felt for a very long time. She broke up with me a week ago and I haven’t spoken a word to her since. The reason was that she no longer felt for me like he did in the beginning. What would you advise me, Brad? Continue with the no contact rule in the same way or do you have any other suggestions?
Sorry to hear that. Although you obviously felt strong feelings for her, it doesn't seem to be truly mutual. Depending on what really cut the relationship short, it may be time to consider moving on from this. But don't rush. Always take the time to give each other space first, all right? Do a minimum of 3 weeks of "no contact" and see if you still want your ex and if your ex is receptive to contact AFTER that period. Watch this: ruclips.net/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/видео.html
@@BradBrowning thank you Brad!
are u guys still broken up?
Brad,I did all the things you said not too like begging and pleading and she is really avoidant with me,it's been a month she acts really awkwardly when around me and doesn't like talking to me what do I do
Redo the "no contact" rule and make sure you stick to it this time. But watch this first to help manage your expectations: ruclips.net/video/OzVymYnQFTk/видео.html Here's how you can tell you're doing the "no contact" rule properly: ruclips.net/video/f7zuXk-sVsI/видео.html It may help to make use of the clean slate template, which is a free version from a piece of my Ex Factor Guide. Watch this: ruclips.net/video/6K3xufEwEFg/видео.html The main goal is to bring your ex into an emotional neutral state by employing the 30-day “no contact” rule -- let your ex miss you and don't rush it. But in order to fully understand how this concept works, watch the free in-depth video on my website to learn some psychology techniques and understand how giving each other space for around a month can benefit you than otherwise, at www.breakupbrad.com
@@BradBrowning how do I get her to see me as a different person after the no contact if she wants nothing to do with me
Can you do a video about Fearful Avoidant attachment style, thanks !
The same tips apply, more or less. Since your situation may be unique, you'd benefit by working with me one-on-one so I get to learn more about the situation and therefore be more equipped to help you out, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Hey Brad, have noticed that you've been saying not to be friends with your Ex, but from the Ex Factor Guide it actually says that it's a good idea as women love having friends. Just wanted to know if your stance on this has changed?
I was considering contacting my Ex after NC to get 'closure' on things that occurred in our relationship/breakup and go forward as friends to follow through with the rest of the guide.
I mentioned the importance of being social with other people but nothing about being friends with your ex as your main goal. Be in talking terms, yes, but never to being friends, perhaps you misunderstood? Do take time to read the book again from cover to cover. As to asking closure, I understand how you feel and it's gut wrenching when you're trying to ask your ex for a really good explanation, but resist that! If you ask me, really, closures are overrated. If your ex broke things off with you and acts like it, trust me, you'd really want to give each other space as soon as possible. However, these may help offer a different perspective on things, as to what really happened in your relationship: ruclips.net/video/t6IX-pUnGZQ/видео.html AND ruclips.net/video/VQjVlDWxJ2o/видео.html
Please make a video about attention and avoidance
This vid is for you: ruclips.net/video/Xos3Z4h4HNE/видео.html
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What is an example of a way to start conversation after no contact?
This vid is for you: ruclips.net/video/jka4S6syZPs/видео.html
Hi Brad ,here is the situation ,we’ve been in a long distance relationship for almost 2years,we met in April and he told me he wanted me to move together ,but there’s one issue, I want to get married after living together,but it also depends on the situation after we live together,at first he said he was not sure about getting married and having kids,then after we talked about the flights,the next day he just told me he definitely didn’t want kids,and more doubtful about marriage ，he asked for space,3days later,as today, I got his email,he told me now he doesn’t want me to go to NY,and he wants to live by himself for a long period of time,and he won’t date anyone in a long period of time either,he appreciates his independence and freedom,doesn’t want to take responsibilities of marriage and kids,but when we just began to date,he wanted them,now he says he won’t respond my message my FaceTime,he choose to let me go,because he doesn’t want to waste my time,he knows I want a marriage and kids, I don’t know what to do now,should I just start no contact rule？
Definitely cut off contact and see if this is something you want to pursue. He could be absolutely right about it and is just being logical about the situation, so take time to clear your head first.
@@BradBrowning thanks for your advice,is he the typical DA attachment style "？or that’s just his excuse, I can’t figure out
Hey, this applies to my case. 1:1. My ex has already found someone else who she asked about intercourse, who will come to her home for 5 days. Now we also have long distance. And I did not do no contact and have been clingy. Is there anything that I can still do?
Never be clingy with an ex. A breakup is caused by a significant drop of attraction, so being clingy will only aggravate things further and that's what you'd really want to avoid here, okay?
Brad its been a year since we’re break up. i text her with my new number and still she block my new number. How?
I mean she continue block my number eventho its new
It's either she wants nothing to do with you for some reason or your text messages weren't effective. If you had a good history with her, I would worry about what sort of messages have you been sending your ex? It's a different story if you've been trying for so long with all the right moves and still no progress. It just depends how this plays out really. Focus on the second and third phases instead. It helps to learn the basics here: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html and/or better yet, read my guide to guide you every step of the way, at www.breakupbrad.com Good luck!
Hey Brad! We are talking to each other after a year of breakup...should I need to talk to him regularly???
Not really. Get a feel for things first. Watch this first to help set your expectations: y2u.be/82uUJ7kPXhE and look out for the signs that your ex has moved on: y2u.be/TnZzeEIPEik If you see only one or zero signs, then this vid is for you: ruclips.net/video/9LC1ewgBkIQ/видео.html If the conditions are right, then make sure you tick off the checklist here as well: y2u.be/BAhMrmw3Sms It's important to rebuild the attraction naturally so your ex will be amenable to working things out, eventually. This is what my guide is for but you can also learn the basic principles of my 3R system here and watch the vid til' the end so you don't end up missing the important points: y2u.be/aeGNPBdpnsI and the golden rules here: y2u.be/1kJ1ybuFIHE
Hello brad i need help. I break up last week with my Ex and she is all of sudden broke up with me and avoid to talk about it (she broke up with me without even telling me, she said it to a friend we had in common that we broke up).
I was a bit shock about it when my friend told me and tried to talk to it but it was too late she just block me from every social media. She used to lived with me for almost 4month and she made up like a cheap excuse saying her mom want her to go back home.
I found out today via my friend we had in commun that she broke up with me cause i was lazy (we just didn’t do a lot of things for 2weeks cause i was busy with school).
We were together for 6 month. What should i do
This may be a case of too much too soon. Things happen way too fast for you two, man. It's best to slow down a bit. Moving in together is a big decision one shouldn't take lightly. Try to give her space and avoid any drastic decisions.
This video is so timely lol
Glad you found it helpful! Thanks for the support… please like and subscribe if you haven’t already: ruclips.net/user/bradbrowning”
My ex girlfriend of 3 years and I separated in the middle of March (I’m 26 and she’s 29 and has two kids… the last year of the relationship was turbulent due to traits on both sides, which we have been actively working on) and she is in a reboundship (I believe it “begun” even before April… she told me she was drinking a ton after our separation and rain into this person (way younger, opposite of me, not a person shed even relatively consider building a relationship with) downtown… they’re posting sexual and romantic stuff all over social media when WE NEVER DID THIS and are both people who highly value our privacy… anyway!)… I’m blocked on Social Media so who even knows the story with all that (I cannot overthink it, nor is it my place to) but she became my mothers house cleaner (we live together currently, so I am also here in the house) and has remained in touch with my mother and even begun cleaning again on a weekly basis… she is clearly interested in me being around while she cleans (I’ve even specifically offered to be out of the house to offer us/her space - and did so the first two times she came back, FOR ME) and engage in meaningful dialogue. Even flirtatious at times (but, perhaps that’s also just a characteristic of hers)… We are having deeper and deeper conversations as time passes. Last time she cleaned I drove her home and we had a little chat and bite to eat (nothing fancy, just smoked a joint and had a snack in the car outside of her house before I dropped her off). She is a Fearful Avoidant and generally doesn’t open up to people easily (if at all), and has expressed how grateful she is for my presence and composure, “even during this time when things are so f***ed up between us”… she only mentioned this rebound chick to me last time I saw her, in a very nonchalant way… when I had the courage to ask her if SHE wanted ME to be sleeping with other people! She responded to this more emotionally than I expected and responded along the lines of: “she effing hates the idea of me being with other people but is in no place to tell me to do otherwise”… says we “obviously can’t sleep together because she has a girlfriend”… but made it clear (literally with her own words) that she wants to maintain our emotional bond and “doesn’t know where the future will take us but maybe we can try to be friendly and see where the next weeks/moths take us”… she tells me she loves me so much but “was so loyal and dedicated and is still hurt that she felt so neglected by me and needs to be selfish right now and take care of herself and feel better and normal again”… I know she’s going through a lot in life right now and is confused and might not even “know what she wants”… I care for her very much and we do have a very deep connection and relationship so I know she is hurting deeply from our fallout (whether she wants to / is able to admit it - yet - or not) and believe I’ve gone about things the right way thus far but wow I am on the ride of my life and would appreciate ANY insight/support!!! Regardless of “what happens” this girl is worth the patience and fighting the good fight!
If she is indeed fearful avoidant, you should know by now that this is tougher than usual. So are you willing to see this through? How's your interaction recently? Sorry, this is a bit too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
I did 30 days of no contact after he asked me for friendship and I declined. But he hasn’t reached out now. Earlier he was reaching out , but he wanted friendship only. What should i do now?
Friends or more appropriately, talking terms for now (if your ex isn't already in another relationship), but don't let that derail you, assuming you've done the first phase (30-day "no contact" rule) correctly and basically had set the stage for this second part. Since you've only recently reconnected, then don't expect your ex to warm up easily. Getting an ex back is a process. Whatever you do, make sure you don’t resort to doing the things here: y2u.be/jikW4YYC9yo Are you sure you're not trying to rush it? Setting a deadline is a good way to fail when it comes to exes, so I highly discourage it but also try to see you aren't just being strung along. What steps have you taken to get your ex back? Apply the tips here: ruclips.net/video/4Qe-4A-CpVY/видео.html It's time to re-assess those and see what's working versus what's not working. Sometimes, getting an ex back is like trying to fit a square into a circle, but oftentimes, chances are you're letting emotion dictate you and therefore end up making the wrong choices. Have you checked out my guide yet? It’s ultimately up to you to act (or not act, depending on which phase you’re in) on getting your ex back, but it helps if you read it to ensure that you’re on the right track. Check it out at www.breakupbrad.com
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Hi brad, I have been in a long distance relationship for 6 n half years with my ex. It's been almost a month she told me she want some space. I've been following the no contact rule since the break up. But before she left she told that she love me, she won't find somebody like me, she even told me somebody is in her mind but again she said she haven't done anything wrong again. She told me it will be fine if I fine somebody new in the process, she said it will hurt but it's fine. What shall I do.
Sorry to hear that. A long distance is not easy to maintain, especially if you two had a weak foundation where you don't get to spend time with each other much in person. Not to state the obvious, but the distance is often the main culprit. Watch/review and apply the pointers here first: ruclips.net/video/GQY4N04uvtA/видео.html and/or ruclips.net/video/5nfWRJRrnAs/видео.html However, if you believe your situation is unique and there may still be a chance between you two, then let's take a look at your situation in-depth via my one-on-one coaching session at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Huge fight
Over what?
@@BradBrowning came to his house early one morning. Caught him with another woman.
Heyy brad i had breakup last month im in not contact zone she comes in gym and she is noticing me and im acting that im happy without her and she is stalking me through her fake account i dnt knw she is dating someone or not she stalk me on insta and im posting story of having fun she always checks me story within hour what thats mean bro?And we had very messy breakup but still she worksout beside me sometimes
She could just be curious as to what you're up to. Unfortunately this doesn't necessarily translate that she wants you back, especially if she dumped you and not the other way around. Continue what you're doing but when you see her, apply the tips here: ruclips.net/video/dDZrnNh8LOg/видео.html
I feel this is my ex as she has a history of this with bf
Hello Brad!
So what you’re saying is that avoidant ex is never coming back by himsel? We have to break The NC rule? Others said that we must stick to The NC rule. Never ever break it. So … ? Any thoughts?😬
it’s been over a month, no contact isn’t working (we do go to school together so i still see him daily, but he barely looks at me, let alone talks to me) my ex hasn’t contacted me and i don’t believe he has much desire to talk. it didn’t end on bad terms, and i haven’t changed, so why is he acting like this?
i really wanna reconnect with him, even just as friends, but he acts as tho i don’t exist :( what do i do?
He may need more time to heal. Don't force it. Being friends isn't exactly a good idea this early on. This is something I talked about here: ruclips.net/video/pv_cjzhVKAY/видео.html
Maybe he dosent want
Let time do its part but don't wait around doing nothing. Be sure to take time to process the breakup as well and what happened but most importantly, become a better version of yourself. This vid is for you: ruclips.net/video/ECCZm_mqzKg/видео.html
@@BradBrowning i healed myself from reading and you videoes
But everyday he text me telling me about his daily routine i asked hik why he replied cz i trust you you are the only person i trust in life
@@BradBrowning he trust me he text me everyday
I dont know what does he want he tild me i love you as a friend
How about anxious in the relationship and avoidant after the breakup? 😢
Then chances are he's avoiding you and doesn't really have an avoidant attachment style. Employ the 30-day "no contact" rule first. Here's how you can tell it's starting to work: ruclips.net/video/T4Sz6DiWRsQ/видео.html Though make sure you follow the tips here as well: ruclips.net/video/xgR03RcU8mw/видео.html AND some recent tips here: y2u.be/FLeP1eRCkCk Lots of folks seem to be oblivious about it, so here goes: the 30-day "no contact" rule, once COMPLETED, is just the first phase for most people (unless your ex sincerely wanted you back and it's shown in their actions). This would also help guide you on what to do after the "no contact" rule: ruclips.net/video/BAhMrmw3Sms/видео.html Anyway there are two more phases to go through if you want an ex back, and the third is to rekindle/rebuild the attraction with an ex. Learn the basics here: y2u.be/7JtmVbDkblw
@@BradBrowning I haven’t been able to do the no contact for the 30 days we owe a home and was going to sell. We decided that I stay a year now, and then I asked him to fix my daughters car. He accepted and told me he doesn’t mind and always goes above and beyond verbally and make it a point to tell me all the things he’s been working on. He is seeing someone way younger than him but hugs me every time he sees me and sometimes gets teary eyed. 🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️ I’m really starting to finally let go after 5 1/2 months ☀️
NC works.
In more ways than one, yes. Thanks for dropping by!