Turning Women On: How To Master Seduction, Power, Confidence & Charisma | Sadia Khan
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Welcome back to another thought-provoking episode of Impact Theory! Today we're diving into the complex world of relationships and social dynamics with the insightful psychologist, Sadia Khan.
In this eye-opening, hard to hear discussion, we examine how the allure of beauty on social media has transformed the landscape of modern relationships, often leading women to prioritize their appearance while men lose sight of relationship values that are important to selecting well.
Hear me when I say, there is NOTHING that has brought me more joy and wellbeing in my life than my 21 year marriage with Lisa. From material wealth to millions of followers, downloads, awards and sales, nothing has mattered more to me.
If you want to master life, you have to master pair bonding.
Sadia is a psychologist and relationship expert known for seemingly controversial viewpoints when it comes to modern dating and the roles men and women are taking. We unpack the negative implications of:
- Over-glorifying a single trait,
- The importance of core values such as honesty, integrity, respect, and care for your partner's well-being, and
- How manipulation can shape relationships for better or worse.
This conversation challenges societal norms and expectations. We talk about the value of monogamy, the misunderstood perceptions of feminism, and if the independent woman is creating her own roadblocks for true connection.
Wait till you hear Sadia’s view on women submitting to their men in relationships. Is it necessary? Is it a natural inclination for women? Why are women struggling so much with the idea of submitting to their male partners?
This episode isn't just about love and relationships; we’re going to expose the misconceptions often spread by 'red pill' content that’s targeting the weak and vulnerable men in need of healthier perspectives when it comes to women, love, and relationship power dynamics.
Your journey to a better understanding of human behavior and relationships starts here.
SADIA KHAN QUOTES:
“What social media has done is allowed women a platform to kind of showcase their body, their preferences, basically put themselves in the marketplace.”
“We have to start learning to reject rather than glorifying the one ingredient we like.”
“If I dilute my experience with you by also talking to Tom, Dick and Harry, what will happen is I'm wasting energy not realizing that you might be really bad for me, [...] it creates internal chaos, whereas internal consistency will allow us to know what's good and bad for us.”
“Feminism has taught women that catering and appreciating and showing love for your man is babying him and he should be a grown up and he should do it himself.”
“A secure, healthy woman is not attracted to men who treat her mean, she's attracted to a man who has a willingness to leave if she misbehaves too much.”
“Just because it doesn't hurt doesn't mean it's not a deal breaker.”
“When I talk about narcissistic women it is because we've tilted it where women are automatic victims and sometimes they are the narcissist in the relationship.”
“I always say to men that competition is not other men. It's her childhood. If it's totally chaotic, no matter how much stability you provide her, she'll find it very, very difficult to settle into that stable relationship.”
“When you meet a man who is such a safe bet and so secure, submission is a natural consequence, [...] You'd be missing out on a great connection simply because you want to maintain your independence. But independence is overrated.”
“I don't recommend ever being with a man that you can control. You become a woman that you don't like.”
“I don't necessarily know that the woman needs to submit, but the guy needs to lead.” Tom Bilyeu
“Good women are not attracted to money. They're attracted to the process of a disciplined, self-controlled man. But vacuous women are attracted to the outcome, not the process.”
“If you couldn't access her without money, then chances are any man with money can access her.”
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Arranged marriage does not mean someone forces you to marry someone. Arranged marriage means you recommend people that come from good family's and you chose each other who you like the most. So please stop spreading false meaning on what arranged marriage means.
Amazing , I dont know how much anyone Makes, I don't know why we would value it as a part of Our Worth...
..it's like a Woman's Beauty , outer..
Thank you for this interview! Watched every minute 🙌🏼 definitely pushing the envelope forward!
Tom, of course Elon is “smarter” than you. He’s an NPC in this simulation. 😂
There's a book called Casanova Playbook of Magnetism, and it talks from body language and conversaton starters to dark mind tricks and flirting through texts, it's the real deal
“if it takes money to get her, you are REPLACEABLE” - that quote did not fly over my head!
I mean, even in the great depression marriage rates plummeted. If a man cannot provide for a family (which is all about money), then a woman should not marry him to begin with. So my thoughts on that statement are mixed; yes a shallow woman who wants luxury over anything else should be avoided, but we have to face the facts that a guy has to be able to provide for a family.
i'd say that applies to "beauty" as well
She makes a fair point, but I think the converse is also true: If you have the money to "get her," then she is also replaceable.
Bro, if it takes money to get her she's trash - what is another word for girls that do things for money with men they don't really care about? It's called prostitution. So if you hear a female ask what you do for a living leave, she's not interested in YOU whatsoever, she is only interested in ehrself, and money. People like that are useless trash, and not wife-material.
Neither me
She had me at "we're replacing feminity with narcissisim" 🔥🔥🔥
She is absolutely brilliant. I was captivated in the first minute of her speaking. I will sit back and listen to this WHOLE THING...going to soak in every single thing she says. I know this is a must hear for everyone right now. 😮🤔😃✌️
😶😶👂👂👂👂👂👂👂😶😶
That is not a good trade - healthy vs toxic.
Yep!!!🎉😮
So interesting how her feminist ""sisters"" attack her physicality calling her an ""ugly slut"" and things at that level.
This is an hilarious unmasking of the actual ugly face of feminism as it truly is in its netherly crypt.
Underneath all the fake intellectual, high and mighty, system-sponsored, societally polished, washed-tomb, feminist Pharisee's facade, is discovered the demonically hideous high priestesses of Molochite-worshipping sacrificers of innocent babies to their Baal god of abortion and sodomite orgy death rituals.
Underneath it all are just plain old, foul-mouthed, female Jezebel dogs waiting to bare the hidden horror of their ROTTING SOULS.
Those she-servants of the Worm-king would rather burn in hell than surrender their souls to a loving and righteous, heavenly Father.
When will they learn?
He would forgive them if they were only humble enough to receive his gift of love.
Sadia is very friendly, and intelligent and brave and has a very sweet spirit and going in the right direction even if so far it has been somewhat coloured by muhammedism which also has its own dark sides unfortunately.
We can always pray that she and her eventual husband-to-be will find the true Spirit of Christ that is so lacking in our modern Western societies.
All the best parts of our Western culture were inspired by the words and Spirit of Christ Jesus to the point that we are STILL seeing the positive effects to this day even if the sun is setting on that as well because of the love so many are abandoning for lesser things of this world like temporal power and pleasure.
Yet there is a reason why her family moved to the West in the first place.
THEY SIMPLY THRIVED HERE AMONGST US PSYCHOLOGICALLY CHRISTIAN PEOPLE BETTER THAN THEY WOULD HAVE AMONGST THEIR OWN.
Facts.
🎯
The Wall comes for all!
Proverbs 31:30
“Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.”
That ‘s nice for a tee shirt but it’s vague as hell and doesn’t mention the woman’s criteria - the child bearers., nor does it cover the majority of people on earth who do not subscribe to the Jewish/Christian bible
@@Bronte866you don’t have to subscribe to the Bible to understand it/relate to something. The Bible saids thou shall not kill. I’m sure you can agree with that.
@@Bronte866also it’s pretty simple. It’s saying charm can be a distraction and beauty comes and goes. But a woman who loves God is rare.
How about if a man loves God?Doesn't mention about a man No does it??? Of course not
@@Bronte866just because one doesn’t believe doesn’t make a truth any less a truth
Thank you so much for having me i loved meeting you guys x
love your work so much. intelligent, articulate, brilliant and beautiful too. thank you.
So, now you know what he thinks 😅.
You ve got patience!
You were on fire ….absolutely brilliant talk❤
Your take on slavery was appallingly uneducated and your lack of reflection on you benefiting from your appearance over other women was truly cringe. I’m not sure if it’s valuable to watch other interviews of you at least being confronted by other women with more critical thinking skills.
@@Lafemmefutilego back to school
“A duty to one another’s well-being.” This is a gem.
But husband cheating because of his unmet needs is ok by this lady, in facts she goes further to blame the wife for not recognizing he4 husband is cheating… very confused lady…not to be taken seriously at all.
@@JmGmail"unmet" "NEEDS" not wants, needs. My ex could be furious with me, but she never once withheld sex. It's a need for 99% of people. You think it's okay to withhold it because the woman's needs aren't met, yes? Or you'd at least bring that up and say there must be a reason, right? Fair enough, but there are going to be negative consequences on either side when any duty we have to each other isn't met.
As someone whose ex-spouse cheated and abandoned our marriage, finances, and family, I can say that it is 100% his fault. But that would be less than honest if I didn't look at how I also impacted the relationship too. I tolerated far too much abuse, disrespect, and unhealthy boundaries, and therefore, it was almost inevitable he would take it to its natural conclusion; betrayal. It seems you misunderstood. Sadia is not condoning cheating, by either partner, but is advocating looking at what both contribute to the breakdown of the relationship. Whoever cheats is ultimately very broken and is coping from a place of trauma that is not the fault of the other partner. Looking at myself in the mirror through all that I endured was one of the most critical elements to my healing
@@JmGmail
Only men understand relationships in terms of duty. Women only understand relationships according to what benefits them at a given moment.
@@JmGmailwow. That’s what you took away from 3 hours of content. The saying goes Ignorance is bliss.
I love listening to Sadia Khan...she's so spot on. I love how she holds women accountable in such a gracious way.
more like holds everyone .... i love it
It's called sugarcoating critique, something u have to do with emotional beings
@@dante19890men are far more emotional beings than women..if this wasn't the case then men wouldn't commit the vast majority of crimes in the world since the beginning of time..both against women and other men
Also known as manipulation haha@@dante19890
@@dante19890like everyone isn’t emotional lol
Everything she said is the same way I looked at the internet when it first came out , and until this day I still don’t have a social media, 38 now , and this social media is destroying how we feel see and connect with one another, it separates us all at the end
And yet you are accessing RUclips in order to watch this clip 😅😅😅
@@dessstiny1the irony
Dude, you're on Social Media 😂🤣
Sadia Khan is a true modern woman with traditional values. Her intellect, insights, communication style, gentle yet firm demeanour makes her so wonderful to listen to. AND Her femininity, spirituality, intuition and beauty is appreciated by me too :) Great conversation -thankyou
She is full of crap. Notice how she shames women younger than her for naturally liking older menn
She's far from traditional
You articulated my sentiments exactly!!
Agree. She talks like a high class escort in a lot of her videos and has said she wouldn’t even look at a man without money (how unsporituai !!) she’s not a licensed psychologist and not trained - she’s been reported to authorities. She called me a slut and a hoe because I said women watch porn as well as men as she shakes men watching porn. She then made a hate campaign against me lying about me telling her followers that I hacked her instagram- she’s not mentally stable and I have all the proof if anybody wants to see it. She’s also suggested to users they have been neglected as a child. She’s damaging and immature
She is a breath of fresh air, although her views and own actions can be slightly confusing. She preaches many things that she does not either do or follow herself. Almost all of her views on religion and culture for example are very contradictory
I love how she corrected his definition of Boundaries; a boundary is NOT a punishment. It is simply explaining what/what not you will allow and the how the person who set the boundary will react if that boundary is crossed. It is a way to keep people in your life by clearly expressing how you will react to certain behaviour especially behaviour that challenges your peace/safety.
I like that
Yeah, but the problem is people like to use the "you're crossing my boundaries" argument for attempting to discuss your own boundaries.
@@medini2that’s when a discussion needs to be made because that person who says that may have a misunderstanding of what a boundary is
@@medini2that's because a lot of people are just shitheads and you shouldnt listen to them, do your own thing, obviously people will have boundaries and there are always rats and abusers.
But those petty hearted people should not dominate any narrative.
Choose yourself, and learn how to explain your wishes and wants in a non aggressive and oppresive way that allows combat and turns into a fight, for a man it's important to master the skill of being unmoved, because women rarely understand this skill, do not match her energy or it's not going to last.
If you have confidence in your own desires then you can make people accept those, even admire you.
Instead of being mad over the things they have been taught and how they think they will get their way.
Also, you can mold women, even ones that are broken, but sometimes it can be dangerous, a lunatic is not worth working on.
Key things to look out for are malignant lying and small acts of violence towards you, these people are capable of exploding, ignoring morals and do terrible things to others.
Tom just said that the smartest man is smarter than the smartest woman. Where's the data on that?
When it comes to relationships I always remember what my Grandfather told me.
" Looks fade, hunger doesn't. " 😄
Wtf does that mean?
Meaning be a good cook...
@@firecrackerNJ2CA yeah you should be a good cook so you can cook for yourself. A part of being an adult
@@LouLouLion no cook to your man. See wherr world is going. Men will be needed. More than ever. Support and love your man. You will need them at west more than ever
It means be a good digger and ignore your real desires
I don’t know why some of you are saying he is talking to much. This is the first podcast I’ve seen with Sadia where the interviewer is giving her any push back at all and I think the contrast he brought to the table was perfectly balanced and filled in a lot to of gaps over all. She clearly doesn’t shy away from it either.
This was one of the best interviews I’ve seen online. One, because Tom is a great interviewer and he asks the uncomfortable questions while checking for facts. Secondly, coz Ms. Sadia has awesome emotional intelligence, she answers the questions calmly and collected without wavering on her core values and beliefs.
Above all, both are able to articulate their views with respect for one another. Shout out to both of you 🫡🫡🫡
He also monopolizes the time his guests can speak and cuts them off of their thoughts that I'd like to hear the rest of. But otherwise it's a great podcast with excellent guests.
I love this woman. Her “ humanity” is breathtaking. The insights, the vulnerability, the silliness, the bravery, the openness. She puts herself out there. I don’t even have to agree with her, it’s just amazing.
she's a grifter
Even if you disagree with her, she is at least trying to be the communicator that women claim to be. She has some courage and worthy of respect.
woman?.
@@gdcskates She is not a woman?
I absolutely agree. She is like a wave, she is a force❤
I’ve seen her in many interviews and she is usually being asked the questions. Tom is a great but he dominated the conversation. However, Sadia is so gifted at what she does, she allowed Tom to be him while transforming herself to interviewer…and then masterfully playing off his responses to ask questions and build content! She just put on a master class! Credit to Tom’s sharing and transparency!!
Tom seems to always overload the conversation.
Loved Tom but have moved away from him for that reason.
Tom, interrupts and talks over people. Let's face it, he IS a self centered jerk.
I think it's my first time hearing her but I ran so fast to the screen in the first few minutes to see who she was and what her name is... she was spitting pure facts the whole time. An amazing interviewee, insightful and thoughtful
@@solvedfyishe’s just saying the things you want to hear - aka psychology 101/manipulation 101. Why do you think she’s so suddenly big, compared to the ones that truly speak of the truth? The algorithm has been programmed to make her look good.
When she spoke on the simple things to make a man melt for a woman are feminine qualities. We're supposed to attract to that. That's her super power! A man's appreciation is like a pat on the back for scoring. A woman's appreciation is fuel for me to keep fighting and playing the game! My family 😊
I totally feel this woman when she say women give women a hard time. I’m currently experiencing this at a new job I started. Women are cruel to other women that they are intimidated by. It’s ridiculous. This whole episode has been very informative as usual. Love this.❤️🔥
Be the change you wish to see! Stay you, beautiful you!
If the past and present system valued women.
The mothers were to provide the heir, continue the family name..
It's not longer ago we were 'kept' like children.
Maybe if that wasn't part of the history we would have less broken women.
Today's world valued women has ' sex appeal , beauty, etc., but it's based on biased expectations.
Modern girls self esteem where sisters, colleagues, and such feel competitive as to heal self esteem issues, the broken value systems.
I know women are really the worse for judgement of other women
Totally @Michelle-cn9zp I have seen this often. Severe cases at times. If you're pretty and well-liked, be ready for women to hate on you. Bullies at work are all too common sadly. Stay being you as chiched as it sounds. Keep living by your values.
Yes as a woman I completely related to what she was saying in regards to female managers. I haven't fared very well there either. It's like they have to assert their controlling dominance and prove themselves above you. It makes me wonder what their home environment is like if they feel the need to control at work. Perhaps do they have no control in other areas of their life?
This episode has been exceptionally stimulating already. But Sadia's "Awws", just sounds so particularly endearing to me.
And I am awed by her gentleness while questioning, and the clarity and the depths of her points of view, and her fearless intellectual persuasiveness.
Tom's passionate eloquence is such a delight to witness and to listen to.
Bravo to Tom and Sadia. This episode is indeed a class on its own.
Thank you, Tom and Sadia for the intellectual delights that you shared with us.
I love so much that she said, “He can get his own [tea, coffee, sandwich] but he likes when she does it. Just like she can pay the bill, but likes when he does it. ❤
tea coffee sandwich is cheap. bill are expensive.
@@BB-xx3dv lol yeah, men will pay every tea, coffee, sandwich and bill just to have and enjoy the small gesture beneath them. oh poor man.
Literally nothing new about that statement.
The difference is, women NEED the cooperation of men for survival, men don't need the cooperation of women.
I think the more modern issue is that both partners are paying the bills but he still expects to be served tea, coffee, and sandwich while giving nothing extra in return.
This is deep….. Fantastic. I’ve been single for the last 3yrs because I’ve seen my 7yr old daughter going through hell, living with her mother and her new boyfriend (not so new now). I live for my daughter with a safe home for her to get away. I don’t need to look for a new partner just yet. I just love receiving a smile or a giggle from my little peanut… until she spreads her wings. I’m here for her.
Everyone has a different story with different priorities.
PS: I’m a successful business owner.
There's nothing like a father's love... its biblical. 🫵😎
What i loved about this interview is
1. The level of honesty in Sadia in admitting her expertise is capped in some areas and is actually looking for more data to complete her own opinion on a subject by asking Tom.
2. Tom's honesty in sharing his personal experience and wisdom.
3. Sadia teaching the rules to a healthy relationship and Tom embodying that example.
In life one can learn to recognize toxicity but will continue to make the same mistakes due to an inability to create a new path to replace the toxic one. Seeing Sadia's theory come alive through Tom's real life experience and witnessing Tom sharing real steps towards a healthy partnership is priceless.
I have trained myself to be hyperaware of toxic patterns but I lack the ability to recognize what to replace them with, to recognize what the alternative should be and Tom brought such clarity to this subject for me and of course this was accomplished because his guest was Sadia.
The problem I see with arranged marriages is assuming that parents have good judgement themselves. Parents are not perfect.
Correct, its borderline slavery and cant be applied easily to a free society.
Amen!
Also, people change. Life is about evolving.
Based on my experience, the only reason the divorce rate is low is because of the huge social stigma a divorce presents within these cultures. If you are divorced, the chances of you getting another arranged marriage are effective zero. So they both stay with each other out of fear, and this breeds massive resentment.
I have uncles and aunties, who have been married for decades, have a nice home, children, but there is absolutely no romantic connection whatsoever, some sleep in separate rooms…
Arranged marriage just means arranged to meet the other person. The potential couple ultimately has the choice to be married or not. At least, that's what arranged marriages are like now. Back in the day I'm sure parents chose spouses for their children without push back.
How intellectually refreshing. Dr. Sadia Khan has my deepest respect in a world where truth and understanding is fashionably unpopular.
Still its a lot of stigma around arrange marraige. I mean you get beaten to a pulp if you disagree. You are also poor and have to take care of the family when the partner works 12 hour days. You cant apply it to a modern society with a great outcome, its borderline slavery.
Actually she is not a Dr.
I think this interview has a lot of really good points, but I feel like the interviewer is sometimes full of it. He says he’s never been jealous, but yet talks about experiences where he has wanted something someone else has.
Jealousy is resentment out of envy. If you want something others have without being negative towards them, you aren't jealous.
He's totally full of it. IDK how anyone can tolerate him
This level of maturity and wisdom in the conversation between these 2 people is astounding
The part you mentioned about really appreciating Lisa’s attractiveness and beauty while she is young just made me feel so emotional. As human beings it can become all too simple to take things for granted. The communication you two have in your marriage is similar to what I aspire to in mine.
simp
When Sadia talked about women being difficult in the workplace, that has also been my experience! Men had never been a problem to me. That’s been my personal experience as well!
Edit: I meant “women being difficult to other women” in the workplace.
Difficult in what way exactly?
@beedebawng2556 they sometimes feel they have much to prove and go crazy on the micro managing.
It's everyone's experience not just yours - more females in the workplace or any place = more problems.
Same thing goes for the gyms, problems problems - if we create only-female spaces and only male-spaces let's compare stats after a year or so and you will find and see just how problematic females are and all they do is fight, and disagree, and get jealous, and hurt, and bla bla, they love drama and they love attention, if they don't get it they get bored.
@@beedebawng2556 I meant to write “women being difficult to to other women in the workplace.”
Women tend be nasty to other women in the workplace. It can be bc you’re younger, attractive, come from a certain class/family/ethnicity/you’re intelligent/smart and especially if other people also find you attractive, and it used to get worse when they saw male colleagues chatting to me! I don’t know if it was a competitive thing, maybe! 🤔 I never stopped to ask. It’s crazy bc my then bf (now husband) was always very present and everyone knew him where I worked. The annoying thing is someone made something up about me and another male work colleague as a joke and my bf found out and that was a hurtful thing. It still blows my mind to this day. Women gossip and especially bring other women down if they feel threatened in some way. I never understood it bc I’m the youngest of 5 girls and I’ve always been cared for by my older siblings and I’ve always looked up to them and other women especially older women (still do) and 3/4 of times I wasn’t really appreciated. The same thing happened to me in school as well, all the way to high school.
As a guy, I don't want to work in a female dominated workplace. There are far to many risks, and those risks will affect my family. Accusations of impropriety can end up with loss of job and possible criminal record. These affect income, and that income will affect the family.
What a gem of a conversation ! When normal/regular people bring more than decades of TV moguls.
Dang she is gold.
I imagine the majority of women think like her, but are hesitant to admit it.
Plus she has the IQ and bravery to articulate it.
Thank you Sadia
No many of you type of folks may actually glean this, however ya'll rather and/or make the decision to want to treat women as objects who cannot think and behave for themselves so that women meet your needs solely and lastly you do not have to meet theirs 🤔🤔🤔
Total speculation
Imagine being the key word
No person is above anyone
You'll win once you finalize the manuscript, even close to it.
Sadie is amazing with her insights. Also she knows how to give time letting Tom talk. I really respect her.
I felt like Tom had most of the convo by himself, and could have had the rest of it. She lost me at God.
But I did not tune in to hear Tom talk. I want to hear the guest.
Is there a version of this chat that mutes Tom? I'd prefer to listen to that one.
Isn't the point for the GUEST to speak????
@@TheDionysianFieldsyou can’t have morals without God.
Tom you are the most sincere and bold man that I have seen on You Tube! Thank you to you and Lisa for sharing your life lessons with us. I wish you two healthy long lives!
I’m so glad you blew the top off the red pill pandemic. A couple years back I decided to listen to a few of these guys, and it didn’t take me long to figure out that they are hurt men that have not genuinely processed their life traumas, or pain from separation. I’ve recently hung out with an old friend that lives by the red pill community. That was the last time I saw him.
Men, take ownership of your life. If you lost a high value woman, do the work to bring yourselves up, not destroy her. Be the high value man, and a high value woman will find you. Hell, maybe even the one that left you.
"You should not be offended by reality, it truth offends you, you have a problem." Thank you Sadia Khan! I think this is the key issue that we as society face. When someone points out something where I made a blind (perhaps unknowing or unaware) compromise, I thank the person, even if it hurts. This is what it means to be a responsible adult. And yes, the more it hurts, the harder it is to look inside and face the truth, or, at least, take steps towards seeking it. Throwing a tantrum because compromised values or standards or actions were exposed is extremely childish. High time for our society to grow up.
It's such a relief to hear a woman say that it's not only natural for a woman to submit to a man, but it's also healthy. I have found that I truly do better in life with a man by my side. I am capable and can take care of myself, but it's stressful. Having a loving, caring partner whom I can trust makes all the difference in the world. In my last relationship I couldn't trust my partner. He had poor judgement and was deceitful. This was even more exhausting than trying to handle life on my own. Now I'm with a man I adore and trust and to whom I do submit (although that's not something he asks for). I have a huge amount of respect for him and I feel loved and cared for by the endless number of things he does to help make life easier for me. It's such a relief and I am so glad to know that I am fulfilling a natural role. Modern feminists would have women feel weak and backwards for wanting a man to help care for them. It's a breath of fresh air to have someone so articulately explain why it's good and natural for a woman to feel calmer and reassured with a good man by her side. Thank you Sadia.
Submit my ass
Amen. Help meet. ❤ Marriage with a compatible partner is a gift!!
Well said! You're lucky to have such a good man.
My husband and I submit to each other in various capacities. He is great at building and designing, for example. I am proficient at managing family money.
I feel that the arranged marriages came from long ago and it was for survival of the families. Well, that’s what I learned in college anyway.
It's almost ridiculous how insightful Sadia is. And someone of her caliber deserves the kind of probing questions you asked. Phenomenal content.
She reminds me of Esher Perel. She is so insightful too.
Not really. She's says she's non judgemental. That means she's not really telling you what she actually thinks. Women always say they're non judgemental so we don't judge them. Anyone with a brain is judgemental
No lie, i usually don't listen to women on relationship point of views. But this woman had some undeniable gems and true logical breakdowns
I TOTALLY agree that Honesty and Integrity are non-negotiables.
She so right about the shared values. One of the ways I knew my husband was for me was the way our families got along. And now that we have been married for a while I see all the ways we were raised similarly.
Yeah, it's too bad nowadays parents don't see this and leave all the responsibility to the young one. My parents never introduced me to other social circles,It made me feel like they were ashamed of me.
finally a woman that know a bitter truth is better than a sweet lie
Knowing and learning are two seperate things though, many people know driinking is bad for you but does that mean they don't drink? No, they will still go out and drink again next weekend. Did their previous hook-up lead to happiness or failure and depression? Did they learn something? Did they change? Unlikely, people don't change - they repeat the same mistakes. And they don't learn either - they blame everything and vereyone else for their own bad choices in life.
@roserevancroix2308 can't say I'm part of that group. I've never been a drinker, and those who don't learn from their mistakes are a lost cause and sadly they problem is a bigger pandemic than covid was
@@roserevancroix2308 I disagree. It's important to do things that are "bad" for us now and then. Alcohol is another way to shock the body, which we know that shocking the body is a large part of how it grows and adapts.
Plus, you're not boring.
@@roserevancroix2308 Adding to my last comment, I would say that the time to quit is the first time something no longer brings you joy. And for something like a hook-up, that could certainly be the very first time.
To continue doing something that leaves one feeling empty is certainly a sign of mental illness. And if that's your overall sentiment, I'm on board with you.
What she says is really interesting yeah. However she's soo seductive in her attitude. She's playing with him the whole interview. I would find it EXTREMELY uncomfortable. When men project their flirty energy to other women, we call them harassers. But on the other hand, it's the man's fault if he falls for her hostess-like manners, which she uses to try & take the upper hand in the conversation. Hats off to Tom for being so stoical!
As a new subscriber and an American Muslim, I would like additional Muslim guests with conservative and sensible values
I come from a very different background with different values and beliefs, but the things she talks about and how she goes about talking about it leaves me a lot of room to feel challenged. And I'm liking it
Sort of, but the whole God thing falls flat for me.
Tom is really a brilliant interviewer. I'm getting interested in this woman, I find her refreshing and brutally honest in her opinions. I've also watched some interviews with her but I think Tom is the first interviewer who is not afraid to ask her hard and uncomfortable questions. It makes for a very interesting interview. Thanks to both of you.
I think it is very dangerous for a person to grow up to "accept authority". I think that a responsible parent would teach their children to question authority, and ultimately to become their own authority. A society full of individuals who "accept authority" is an irresistible temptation to be expoited by someone who's power-obsessed.
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My wife is gorgeous but she has this entitlement attitude that she deserves all things given to her. She sometimes gets angry if I give her less than what she expected. I told her about this and thankfully she is changing.
I have a pretty thai gf but she does think she's a deity...In Thailand women think in terms of scarcity because most men there aren't well off and the regular girls that aren't working girls want relationships....They want certainty and stability... Every thing in the West is based on an abundance mindset...
She said so many things that Kevin Samuels used to say... especially the part about a marriage being more about duty than romantic love. Duty is the ultimate expression of love...Romatic love will fade long before duty to one another. Without duty there will be nothing left once Romantic love fade. Then we wonder why the divorce rates are so high.
I enjoyed this conversation for the most part and agreed with probably 90% of the points outlined. The area I have contention with is the focus on women having to understand that men require them, in a marriage, serving them food, getting their needs met domestically. This is difficult for a lot of women when we are working full time, being a mother full time, caring for the household responsibilities and men are required to have a job. This is absolutely ridiculous. Women would be able to handle all the responsibilities of running a home and family without the full time job they have to have to keep the family surviving. There is no mention of men changing their old style of work, come home be served and cared for and mowing the lawn once a week or shoveling snow. Men should also contribute to the running of the home and caring of the children, it would ease up time for a woman to concentrate some of her time to catering to her husband.
I am 60+ yo old woman. I have seen a lot of change because of feminism. I use to experience harassment as a 12 yo girl delivering papers, older men cat calling me or making sexual comments about me. As a teenager, I worked in a BBQ joint and my boss smacked me in the butt and I got fired because I told him not to touch me ever again. As a teenager up to my young adulthood, I was turned down for raises or promotion because the boy/man I was "competing" with was deemed more favorable because he was working towards raising a family. Things are not that way today but I can certainly attest to the fact that my experience may have been anecdotal but a lot of women experienced those types of things in the 50s, 60s, 70s and even the 80s.
100% agree
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Sadie is a breath of fresh air to our suffocating modern world. Thank you Tom for sharing your values that apply in your marriage as an example and making this interview very authentic and engaging.
He dominated the whole conversation, left her as a bystander
It’s a dialogue. Dr Sadia shared her insights as well.
Maybe you lack the ability to watch the entirety of this episode.
Just turn down the sound and look at her. Problem solved for you.
And cut her off to state his own thoughts on what she was talking about. I always appreciate his side of the subject but it irritating when he cuts guests off to do it. I want to hear the whole thought the guest has on the topic being discussed, not half of it.
Tom, Sadia, I want to say thank you to the both of you. This conversation is an answer to my life' struggle. Deep down I always knew what were my problems but I couldn't figure out how to say it out loud in a simple way and both of you just made it so much easier for me. Truly, thanks. Be blessed.
Be a dreamer not a radical dreamer, but take radical action, without action , dreams become fantasies
Sadia is one of the most intelligent women I have seen, the only young women I can really say I follow!
An influencer!
What a FANTASTIC INTERVIEW. I’ve watched multiple of Shadia’s interviews, and this is the best one so far. What wonderful questions and such insightful questions. Seems like you both forgot about the cameras in the room and were just having a conversation. What a gift, thank you both.
Husband can say you are fat, but he has to allow her the resources to change that.
Also, the fact that there are 20 somethings everywhere in various stages if undress, means you might be expecting too much from your wife. She wont look 20 again and she will sense your disappointment if you expect a 20 year old.
It comes down to not being with someone in order to feel completely whole, work on yourself and listen to your gut. It never lies
Very interesting interview.. She is quite a lady, very articulate, straight-talker, full of common sense.. fascinating mixture of Eastern and Western values.. and no sign of wokeness... Thank you !
I tried to watch but didn't find it interesting or informative.
Amazing!! I love how Sadia speaks so courageously against the overwhelming promiscuity that is so prevalent in todays culture. Thank you for having her on your show.
then why is she single and a serial dater?
She said she’s in a committed relationship.
Serial-dating to find her husband-potential to date seriously, is not what promiscuous means, which is often to change sexual partners outside of committed relationships; casual sexual dating @@Johnny_Savage
@@Johnny_Savageshe said she doesn’t believe (practise) in sex before marriage and is in a committed relationship. I’d say that relationship is sexless with a view for marriage. This is how authentic Christian’s and Muslims behave in the dating stages. Even divorcées revert back to this if they believe in their God and remain with same values.
Not me crying about wanting that sense of love and security that you have with your wife 😭 literally goals!
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Sadia is probably the guest I've had the hardest time *wanting* to listen to, which I think makes it that much more important to listen. I've disagreed with guests before, but I guess our ideas diverge in areas where I feel more strongly. Still, I was actually surprised by how much I do agree with some of what she says, or at least can arrive to a similar conclusion as her, even if for different reasons (like you, I find a lot of religious ideals line up with my own morals/habits that I have chosen for myself, but through science, observation, and coincidence rather than because of religious stories). I really appreciate that you can both agree and disagree and discuss with respect and nuance, not just back and forth shouting about feminist/tradition/whatever.
Feminism, it's an illusion to suck women into believe they can do anything a man can do. In reality feminism is simply a whip to crack on men. Let's see how long that whip of yours can keep cracking.
I remember watching Lisa’s podcast with Dr Ramani and Dr. Ramani mention that Tom is a good husband because he “cherishes” Lisa and that’s so true and I just wanted to mention that because I don’t know of Tom was ever aware of that but the way he conducts himself as a husband is valuable and men should strive to cherish their wives. Keep up the good work!
I have a finally come to terms (and OK with) being single, because I won’t ever be as beautiful, nor in shape as these women that men on my income level are desiring. So, I focus on my business, constantly working on being as healthy as possible, and vacationing solo. It’s a beautiful thing to be comfortable being single.
True... not to mention women who rely on their beauty will have a tough time in the next 5-10 years with the emergence of AI robots and female AI influencers and chat bots...
Just don't be overweight and you are good to go. Otherwise, anyone can always lose weight
@someone-ji2zb so far I've lost over 120 lb and I have 45 more to go. It's more than just being overweight. It's also going through the healing of childhood trauma. Many times people think it's just as easy as telling someone fat to just stop stuffing their face, but there's a lot of psychology behind it.
@someone-ji2zb I'm working with a nutritionist, a personal trainer, and a therapist. So I'm definitely putting in the work.
I am documenting the complete journey in my videos and shorts here on RUclips and all of your support is greatly appreciated. By this time next year, I'm going to be a completely different person physically, mentally, and financially. I even did a complete brand shift from the plus-size industry to high ticket coaching & mentoring. I'm listening to podcasts like this every waking hour of the day, simultaneously as I'm working, and one day I will be successful enough to be on one of these shows....rising like the Phoenix from the ashes of hell that I've been through.
Tom Always talks more than letting his guest talk
yeah, really annoying,! I don't know why he even has a guest come on if he's just going to do all the talking
Yes, I noticed that too. I would love to hear more from his guest. Otherwise, why are they even there?
I was about to post the same. Dude let the girl talk. Other than that, topic was interesting.
I see myself as a boss babe, very driven, masculine energy, I finally met a man who meets my energy and I trust so much so that when I’m with him I feel like I can step back and let him lead. It feels so good to be with someone who wants to take care of you. Boss babe is exhausting I felt like I carried the world on my shoulders, when I’m with him… I feel free. If men step up as worthy leader it organically happens.
Yeah men do better! Give always MORE
Love the way Tom talks about Lisa and to her. They have such a beautiful relationship. I 100% relate with Tom about being aggressive by boiling things down to its simplest thing.
Damn, this woman is absolutely spot on with so much and its clear she really cares and worries about the world. It's reassuring to hear someone such as her highlight the issues and be so clear and direct about them, particularly on the female side. I also love her inmediate explanation for the point of relationships, to have a shared purpose.
Very interesting discussion and couldn't have found it at a better time.
Absolutely relate to using religious teachings as a compass to weigh up things, rather than an absolute set of rules/laws.
Classy interesting woman with massive levels of integrity.
"Modern dating is just training for divorce." Pretty much.
I just love when Tom speaks about relationships and marriage particularly because he has a loving marriage with Lisa. Refreshing to hear. Thanks for bringing Sadia Khan, Tom.
I was gripped to this conversation the entire way through. I love it when intelligent people talk.
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Wow this conversation got real!! “How do you tell your wife she’s gotten fat?” and “How do you tell your husband he’s gotten weak?”
A very insightful conversation on how to navigate a long-term meaning for relationship, thank you to you both!! Definitely honesty and respect is key!!
I love her presentation, from softness in voice, mimic to sitting posture, says a lot
The western world has become misandrist. This is VERY refreshing. More people like this are getting a new voice in media because we all know that we need it, and moreover, people like Sadia are clear evidence that tradition, respect, values-based relationships and honesty do not disempower EITHER gender but rather create strength - we are like epoxy, need both parts to make the strongest bond.
Misandrist, indeed.
And the west happens to be significantly richer than non west (except Singapore, Japan, etc). Rich countries with democracy are misandrists , maybe
@@prajjwal1010 Such countries of the west became rich way before today's misandry.
@@funkspinna I believe this partly to be true, because of women working/voting etc. (Women's Liberation movement and Feminism) - adding second incomes to homes drives inflation which can actually force a nation into a wealthier state if managed properly. However I think there are quite a few other factors which make a nation/group of nations "Rich" - not the least of which is finishing two world wars in such a way as to take almost all the spoils, but other things like law and capitalism. I am no economist but I think it's all quite a bit more complicated.
@@prajjwal1010 could well be...
This is one of those life changing interviews. Kinda crazy that today was the best day of my life, not because I accomplished anything special, or a human gave me special love. I was just meditating throughout the day and I was filled with more peace and bliss than I've ever felt. Beyond a kundalini awakening and more. No reason, just God. Strangest thing, even though my guru-brother said it would happen, it was funny.
This is either going to save my marriage or break it. We just started talking again after 3 weeks of silence. I didn't say a word and she came back to me, but I need to say more, and I'm going to send this to her to really get her to understand what I'm feeling.
This is awesome I hope it works out for the greatest good with the least discomfort,
How is it going? I wish you all the best. I am in the s as me place, but it is my husband who left. Listen to her to have an understanding of how she feels, communicate with her. Get your woman back…she wouldn’t give you the time of day if she didn’t love you.🥰 ❤
"When you have someone who will run through the wall for you... there's nothing better than that."
This encompasses everything a relationship is at its core, healthy and whole. Complete in one another. How beautifully expressed. "Fear of loss" changes you... it makes you less confident, less you.
Holy shit man, I just learned a new word, that in turn taught me a new concept, which absolutely blew my mind; hypergamy. Women feel the need to date ‘equally’ or date ‘up’. They’ll never respect someone they date that’s ‘below’ them. 🤯 This answers it all for me. This is why I’ve ALWAYS had to figure out my career (and be established within it) before I could entertain the idea of marriage. But I’m 37 and technically a loser…should I give up trying to raise my value? Should I settle ‘down’? Meaning should I marry down instead of marry up? Omg, big time decisions, all I wanted was a podcast to listen to while I folded laundry…
This video is going to be my staple for relationships; it has so much valuable content! 😍
1:31:24 - OMG, I experienced something similar too. A so-called "friend" claimed that her husband was being unfaithful, manipulating their son, and engaging in verbal and physical abuse. It turned out that she herself was involved in S&M activities (which explained the bruises), and she was the one having affairs with men at swinging clubs. It was a harsh revelation. I will forever recall the initial meeting with her husband; my gut feeling told me he was a good person, and although I was perplexed, I trusted her story. This experience taught me that intuition is indeed reliable.
Sadia is the 💣 bomb! I love how honest she is and then she turns it around and interviews the interviewer 😅. She'sso classy and humble.
We're stoked you appreciated the conversation!
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When I was about 6-8. I used to ask my mom was she mad at me? Did i do something wrong? I always FELT like she was mad. Not at my junkie dad. Not at her job. At ME. 35 Years later. She is suing me for what my grandmother (whom mom low key hated) left me. And the truth has come tumbling out. She always resented the way my Gram loved me..Kids KNOW.
Yup. I grew up with my dad resenting me for my mom's family being from the wrong side of the tracks, and my grandmother resented me because my dad's family was affluent.
I always knew.
Dear Sadia Khan,
I appreciate you sharing your thoughts on modern dating, relationships, and the influence of social media. Your insights touch on important aspects of today’s relationship landscape, and I’d like to add a few different perspectives to the conversation.
1. Social Media and Relationships:
You’ve highlighted the challenges social media brings, particularly how it can foster superficial connections by emphasizing appearance. While that’s certainly a valid concern, I believe social media also has the potential to connect people in meaningful ways based on shared interests, values, and experiences. The abundance of options can be overwhelming, but it’s all about how individuals choose to engage with these platforms. When used thoughtfully, social media can help people connect with others who resonate with their deeper values and long-term goals, not just surface-level attractions.
2. Narcissism vs. Feminism:
You’ve raised an important point about the fine line between narcissism and feminism today. I see true feminism as a movement that empowers everyone-women and men alike-to live authentically and make choices that reflect their true selves, free from societal pressures. This empowerment includes the freedom to prioritize one’s appearance or to seek partners who value more than just physical beauty. It’s about finding a balance and allowing each person to define what matters most in their relationships.
3. Arranged Marriages and Shared Values:
You’ve made a strong case for arranged marriages, particularly in terms of the shared cultural and familial values they often support. However, it’s worth noting that shared values can also be found in relationships that aren’t formed through traditional structures. In our increasingly globalized world, people can-and do-find partners who share their values, even if they come from different backgrounds. What’s most important is mutual respect, open communication, and a willingness to grow together, regardless of how the relationship begins.
4. Monogamy and Limiting Options:
Your advocacy for monogamy as a path to deeper connections is compelling. That said, I believe the focus should be more on making intentional and thoughtful choices rather than on limiting options. In a world full of possibilities, the real challenge is to be clear about what one truly wants and to choose wisely. This doesn’t mean settling or narrowing one’s horizons but rather prioritizing what aligns with one’s core values and long-term aspirations.
5. Traditional Values vs. Modern Practices:
I understand your preference for traditional values, particularly those rooted in religious teachings. However, I also believe that modern practices, like casual dating or social drinking, can be meaningful if approached with mindfulness and personal responsibility. Everyone’s journey is unique, and what works for one person might not for another. The key lies in finding a balance that promotes well-being and aligns with one’s personal beliefs, whether they lean traditional or modern.
6. Religion and Relationship Values:
Your view on the role of religion in fostering stable relationships is appreciated. That said, it’s also possible to build strong, meaningful connections based on secular principles such as mutual respect, honesty, and commitment. While religion has historically played a vital role in transmitting values, today’s diverse society offers many different paths to fulfilling relationships.
7. The Challenges of Modern Dating:
You’ve touched on the difficulties presented by dating apps, where endless choices can lead to shallow connections. While this is indeed a challenge, it also offers an opportunity. By being clear about one’s intentions and setting firm boundaries, individuals can use these tools to find meaningful relationships. The key is self-awareness and a deliberate approach to building the kind of relationship one desires.
In closing, while your views resonate with many, it’s essential to remember that different paths can lead to fulfillment. Whether through traditional values, modern practices, or a blend of both, the most important thing is that individuals make choices that reflect their true selves and lead to healthy, fulfilling relationships.
Thank you for sparking this important conversation. I look forward to hearing more of your thoughts on these complex issues.
After trying many things I now find marriage to be freeing. That is I now have all this time to focus more on other things besides relationships.
Imagine the freedom if you discard marriage too!
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This was the best conversation I've ever listened to. The viewpoints were so respectfully stated, and the questions asked were very thought-provoking. I learned a lot through Sadia and Tom. Thank you!
Wow!! I thoroughly enjoyed the entire 3HRS and 30min of this Podcast.. I absolutely love her, and I loved the dynamic between the two of you! Thank you!
I need a woman like this in my life. Beauty, character and intelligence all in one package.
not many real diamonds in this world, but exists :D
Grow hair, dye that gray and get some muscle on you pal and you might be able to
I find that most men my own age have one foot in the grave and the other one also in the grave. They seem to have no care for how they look and have perhaps not been socialized to care a great deal about their look and persona. . These comments have many older men who are drooling over her -“THIS is what I want. I want a woman like THIS. “ Getting their groove on might mean taking a shower & putting on a new shirt. Sure, you want this woman, and it’s just bad luck you didn’t run into her so she could date you. This woman has her hair professionally colored & styled. She is wearing expensive cosmetics and has spent a lifetime learning how to apply them. She has a professionally done manicure. The suit she is wearing likely costs around $600. She has spent many hard, grueling years pursuing a university education. Her demeanor and manner of speaking didn’t just come to her by luck. Cary Grant spoke about practicing taking a cigarette out of it’s CASE & lighting it a million times in a mirror so he would look like perfection doing it. Not for films but for his personal polish. He looked breathtaking until the day he died and had his choice of mostly any woman he wanted. Because he was just lucky? A film star? Wealthy! No. He cared about how he looked, wanted to be polished and graceful because those were the type of people he wanted to be around. He colored his hair, he took care of his body ‘and stayed fit. He liked the way he looked with a tan. He kept up with fashion and only bought the best clothing he could afford. He did not go to university but kept himself well/informed of the world and read constantly. He made an effort to be a polished gentleman. The second I hear a man say, “ What women require is money,” I’m out of there as the man has just told me he is jaded and is not a good judge of character. Actually I suggest never saying something silly like that out loud to anyone. It’s such a bad look. So I agree with you that if almost any man or woman will bring to the table what they themselves want, you will have it.
Y’all just going to try and destroy/humble women like this. Stay away from them.
I love how my girl Sadia is blowing up now everywhere and on every major podcast.
This conversation has been very enlightening. They are covering everything. I’m learning what I’ve been doing wrong, but don’t feel comfortable telling my partner how he hurts me, so it builds up until I can’t stand it anymore and lash out. Your conversation is teaching me that I need to show more appreciation and pay closer attention to his queues. I hate it when he punishes me, so changing my behavior is necessary.
Tom, you were brilliant, mate! I really loved your perspectives throughout this conversation. The conversation comes alive at the 3-hour mark, and as a society, we need more conversations like this. Thank you both!
From what she's presented, she is in fact indeed genuine, she is a beautiful soul!
This lady has something of value to say 🙌🏾 . She just gave me a new appreciation for a Proverbs women really looks like.
Amazing how she answered so many questions in one interview. I wish everyone would watch this . Just found this channel . I’ll have to watch more of Tom’s videos .
I love how open she is about her faith in God and that being the leading factor to who she is and what she believes in. I can relate to that very much, especially as the only Muslim girl in my surroundings. It's liberating to know that you can be honest and straightforward about who you are and what your true values are even in a predominantly secular society without compromising anything and losing friends.
If you lose a friend for being yourself, they were never really a friend. You're doing yourself a favor by continuously being yourself
@@steel128 thank you! You're absolutely right
The internet has a lot to answer for. Too much choice. In the old days, you ended up with someone who you worked with, met at the sports club, or by joining groups. Now, it has got much more complicated and difficult. Glad I’m not young anymore.
Love her. Love the depth and the wisdom that people who are in touch with God have. You can always notice the difference.
I’m an ex Mormon. There is a legitimate healthy middle ground in life. For example, she mentioned with respect women covering themselves, fully up versus an only fans account. How about be modest and land in the middle. Modern world as many challenges to old ideas in religion. There is adaption to make a beautiful, non-extreme life.
As an ex muslim I agree
She has also suggested that, she dresses modestly but not to the extreme
Amazing episode. I had never heard of Sadia Khan, but I thoroughly enjoyed her perspective. Loved how you two clashed on many topics, but spoke throughout without any offense. It's always awesome to see.
How does someone put this lovely woman down? This conversation is absolutely terrific! I can honestly say, I agree with probably everything discussed here. Bless you!
The best interview I’ve seen explaining and taking a deep dive into Traditional Roles and Good Relationships.
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Love love Sadia Khan. have been watching a lot of her interviews lately and can't get enough of. We need more of her. Very brilliant and articulate. You go Girl. Thanks Tom for bringing her on your show.
I absolutely loved this episode! Took me 4 days to complete & well worth it. Sadia is an amazing woman and I can’t understand why she would receive hate! When she said she didn’t believe in the feminist movement I had to take a second and actually listen before I skipped that part and HONESTLY MY VIEWS ON THE FEMINIST MOVEMENT IS SHIFTING based on Sadia’s perspective and I absolutely love it. Please keep going Sadia we’re all rooting for you.
We just watched Tom's therapy session in which he vented and exercised his thoughts, feelings and beliefs that are within his paradise garden/marriage.
My man! Saying what needs to be said regardless of who won't be happy to hear it (Endocrine Disruption)🙏 And a FANTASTIC guest, as always.
What did he say about endocrine disruption? Just the plastic thing? (feminizing men)
@@TheDionysianFields alluding to the frog Atrazine study in relation to what's happening to us as humans
@@hyersapien Certainly an issue. I bet Tom addressed it more scientifically than Alex Jones.
I love her mindset about marriage. We need more women like this.
I'm a lesbian and she is SO RIGHT that a woman must feel desired and beautiful by her partner to be turned on. I was in a relationship once where the other person was always so fast sexually and then done. That relationship made me feel undesire-able because she never told me I was pretty or beautiful. It ended a few years later and that underlying issue was a big part of it. I later learned that she DID think I was beautiful and desirable (and I know she never could keep her hands off me and was definitely attracted to me) so I knew she liked being with me sexually, but I just wanted to hear her SAY the words, to reassure me and she never did that. Turns out it she had a hard time sharing her vulnerable emotions so she kept her strong feelings to herself. You can't do that. You've got to be real and vulnerable with each other. That's how you grow true intimacy. Women NEED that. At least I do.