@@sadiapsychology Thank you for your feedback. You're right, that phrase was horribly put together. I will work on my English. Anyway, your right cheek has a brighter spot that is distracting from your great content
Exactly. Only choose women who choose you first and respect you. Most important dating/relationship lesson anyone needs to learn. Also, don't listen to what they say -- watch what they do. See the patterns early.
*When a woman feels safe and valued, she’s more likely to submit emotionally and physically. This doesn’t mean control, but rather, leading with confidence and making her feel supported in all aspects of the relationship.*
I completely agree, I’m 21, hella attractive and assertive, and have open optionality with women of my choice (no matter their age) compared to most men my age. It’s not about money/looks, you literally just have to be that type of man, No alpha male podcast/red pill bs, just spirituality, emotional intelligence, and authenticity.
@@Yay-hovah ngl, ur right😭but trust me it’s more about the qualities u have. I used to think I wasn’t attractive until I got out of high school even though girls were always showing interest in me I just thought they liked me because I was funny so I used to put them on a pedestal when they were attractive. I had low self esteem so I never really went any further with women until I got in the real world, the attractiveness is an EXTREME boost but it’s ALWAYS about your qualities as a person.
@@ryanw3259 u ever seen a 10 with a guy who girls wouldn’t consider attractive and has an average lifestyle? That’s what I mean by it’s more so your characteristics that matter. I’m pretty sure ur decent looking, just do self care and get confident in that. Don’t think what a woman wants in a man, think what u want in a woman and be that man for her.
High value Men and Women = Discipline+Religion+Self control+Respect+the style. The style is the Men. Feminisme creates low value Men and Women wich creates weak foundation unbalanced family its like having two Women in a house Not Husband and Wife Bless you Sadia for your content!
This is so perfectly explained BTW she is not the only psychologist to say that. We know high value equals morals it is said by many psychologist. The more immoral our behaviour the less self esteem we have and the more outrageous the behaviour becomes.
@@connorissa961 Nooo. Lol. If a certain caliber of woman doesn’t ever find you attractive then you will never experience her if you make her attraction to you an absolute prerequisite. Using terms like “consensual grape” is a feminized and gynocentric view of a male’s biological imperative.
Marriage is sacred and so as with all HOLY THINGS, the evil thing seeks to destroy. Now it's gotten to a point where everyone is suspicious of another, no one is willing to go the whole 9 yards to have a family. Yet we come from families, who had less of what we have to make it work today. Women chase love, so do men but the tests and trickery involved kills the fire. Normally, you meet an individual you are interested in, get to know them, CIA style, (their background, family, the works...) then make a decision to be in love. Any other way is just lust, pure animal pursuit and conquer, from both genders for different gains. Nothing but heart aches and broken kids comes from this set up. I will marry each time, nothing beats it if done right with a great partner. Don't miss single days...
"Key is for a man to be a person whose private self is congruent with his public self or women would live once they find out your fake vs real self." Wow that is so true
We don’t create desires, it’s some thing that just happens. You can still love someone without having any sexual desires. Caring and respecting someone make the best relationship. Attraction is not created or permanent it a feelings that we have no control over.
This is so perfectly explained BTW she is not the only psychologist to say that. We know high value equals morals it is said by many psychologist. The more immoral our behaviour the less self esteem we have and the more outrageous the behaviour becomes.
Women would definately respect a oerson who stands his ground but they are leured by powerful men who she may or she may not love. She is basically securing her and her offsprings survival. This is her instict as a physically weak being. At the same time she could physically submit to a strong willed man she cannot manipulate as she wants a healthy progeny. She cant help it, she is wired like that.
It's so interesting to listen to a woman talk about hypergamy. And then in her commercial says she's looking for the most super affluent as potential clients. Smile.
Maybe 6 months ago, I heard her say that most of her clients are men. I believe she lives in Dubai which is a very wealthy city. She speaks directly to her own journey in understanding her own needs and always seems genuinely curious of her male host's point of view. Not even considering her academic achievements, I respect and learn from her educated insights. I can listen to learn and leave the little that doesn't resonate. We all should receive in kind for the value we bring to the table.
Sadia is correct. I am a handsome older man. I had many, many girlfriends and most were live-in relationships. I have been married and divorced 3 times. I am basically a sugar daddy because it works for my lifestyle. I am willing to pay for sex and a short term relationship. Not just sex from a hooker. Why ? because women are all the same. I had older women and younger women from all over the world and at certain ages they want the same things. Marriage does not work for me, and women my age (50 ) are too jaded and act like female-men. They have used bodies and experiences most guys would not want to know about. So, I date and have sexual relationships with younger women who want to have fun. I do not have time to date just to figure a woman out. It costs money to date and get to know someone. It costs the same or less to hookup with a hot young one. Of course, young women need to be attracted to you, so you meet and get coffee. Then, if you are attracted to each other you go from there. There is no need to put them on an allowance or anything, because that is because of a marriage, basically. Every time I got divorced I had to start my whole life with nothing, because the men get screwed. I am tired of starting over each breakup. I build wealth now and spend a little fun with the young women and when they want to leave to start families I say goodbye. But, these goodbyes are bitter=sweet and not war. I can go on and on. but, men need to stay in shape and go after their dreams and not get married. I say that, yet I know the younger men will do it anyway.
perfectly said! We are in the same boat. I have also started 3 times. Stay in shape and keep dreamin' and leavin'. Whole-heartedly agree with you! thanks for sharing similar thought
Sadia is a grate example why women's advice to men hardly works. Women thinks that all other women have the same internal mechanism. In my experience women are lot more different to each other than men. She is explaining herself and there must be a lot of women, who works the same way, but I've seen (and dated) a lot of women who worked differently. My mother used to be the same. She used to give me hour long lectures about how women works, and I started to become successful when I ignored her ideas. I somewhat believe that women cant help their self and unconsciously try to sabotage men, when they give them advice. All female advice got me no further than the friendzone.
Depends on the 40 year old man. There are 40 year old people (men & women) that took care of themselves when young, and still do and they still look amazing well into their 40's+. But most people that age let themselves go, so she's probably talking about the majorty. Sadia is 36 but she looks like she's in her 40's. Is that bad? No cause she looks like a 40 year old that takes care of herself and I',m sure she'll look the same when she actually turns 40.
Sadia, while obviously a very beautiful and educated woman seems to live in a small bubble of the 1.5%. She may resonate with the most wealthy and glamorous of people. But like Matthew Hussey, nothing she says resonates with me as a matchmaker and dating coach in Chicago. I am fairly certain that my small following of 10,000 subscribers would also be unable to relate to any of her elite and jaded theories and viewpoints on love and relationships. It’s seriously feels to me like she is speaking another language.
Any 1 can be attractive it takes discipline to look after your body and a level of loving yourself that gives you confidence and self esteem this in itself puts you in a smaller pool of attractive people
Trump and Melania met over 20 years ago. How do you know she was not attracted to him? How do you know she isn't now? You simply don't have the necessary evidence to substantiate your claim that their intimacy is 'consensual gr8pe'. They've raised an impressive son Barron together for whom they did not hire a nanny, instead she spent every day with him as a stay-at-home mom. There's a lot of love in their family and while your theories are interesting and informative on one level, theories can only describe approximations of concepts and this is one case where your theory falls short of credibility. It's also rude and unprofessional to make a claim like this about someone else's relationship, to whom you have no relation be it personal or business. I bet they would happily welcome you with open arms if you were to meet them, and instead you say nasty things about them. You should apologize for saying that and I think you would be a happier person if you surrendered your pride
Man this woman is the prime example of no matter how logical or brilliant a woman is, she's just a woman at the end of the day. Consentual rape is the biggest oxymoron I've heard.
I just hate the fact there is so much goes on way before even having a chance in a relationship… all I want is loyalty and genuine love, things are so complicated now man
As it seems you look for the comments, I want to tell you than there is a significant amount of your videos that are poorly edited: parts that are repeated twice, your mkt pauses aren't matching well enough... it makes the video annoying to watch. Please make something about it and keep it up, thanks for the content!
That double life thing. I'm a man on the autistic scale, and I have a tough time unifying my private life with my neurodivergent masking self. It's a natural phenomenon where an autistic person basically camouflages their true selves in public (not necessarily on purpose mind you, it's an automatic response) to fit in socially. We tend to intensly focus on the behaviour and body language of other people, and sort of pick and choose certain things and build a fake persona as to what we think should be "normal" behaviour if that makes sense. And some of us mastered this so well you will never know we are on the spectrum unless we told you. So when we introduce people to our true selves that we conceal in private when the mask is off, some of us, including myself find it very difficult to maintain those relationships because people get shocked my camouflaged self is not my real self if that makes sense. I've actually scared a girl once I tried to date and felt bad because I took the mask off just a little bit to try and slowly introduce my real self to her. And as much as we would like to, there is nothing we can do about this as autistic people. It's a natural phenomenon that comes with the package of being on the spectrum. But because neurodivergent (normal) people don't understand autism they find is borderline psychopathic and alien. So according to this, if I were to take it seriously, I think it's almost impossible to find a girl who can comfortably live with basically 2 different people in one body..... one person at home and another out in the world..... which is a huge bummer.....
1:13 this is wisdom right here. Remember Trippie Redd? Rich, famous, even good looking at one point. Not only was he cheated on, dudes girl had a baby with another guy and said it was his.
When a woman manipulates me, I turn a blind eye and walk away. It is a very bad thing behavior and it is these kind of ladies that have emotional baggage that manipulate men because they have learnt it from their past relationship. Find a good woman who won't manipulate you but rather communicate your wrongs to you
Its easy to talk trash about other people. Who are we to judge another person's marriage? I find the whole Trump/Melania conversation to be clinging to rules that only exist in one's head, rather than reflective of what the actual condition of their marriage is... better to just be supportive and compassionate, instead of whatever this conversation was all about. Marriage used to be sacred. Now it just a contract with a bunch of psychological rules used to judge it. This episode was kind of off base in my humble opinion. I wish the best for them, as well as all married couples, especially since I am a married man working thru the challenges of making it work.
This reads like a study in bias from both genders. I don't think the guy realizes how many women absolutely loathe the man they are with and are constantly pretending. I think for Sadia especially as a beautiful woman this is obvious. On the other hand I don't think Sadia realizes how transactional women are even when they don't think they are being transactional. No woman is ever absolutely not transactional. You just want it minimized to the pont where she does not see it in her self.
Women will stay with a man that respect himself. Once a man has self respect it doesn't need a woman that will disrespect him, she will be always on guard. But when you get an insecure male that is also aggressive and she has to "submit" cause has no options in life, is that any good? Personally for me a relationship is more like a business than a love story, I would definitely go for successful women rather than lazy women that need a donkey to raise their children.
Around the 4:20 mark. Absolutely spot on for me. However.. what I think you’re forgetting is the, IMO… the “programming” that has taken place now, whereas woman who have been with these clowns that “buy” woman either with being their sugar daddy or paying them the 3.99/minute or whatever it is, have changed the psychology (even if only subconsciously), to where there is no way a woman even believes there are any high value man left and, if the very few that might still believe there are…isn’t able to provide financial “freedom”, she is never going to succumb to the lower level of living. One high value man’s opinion (hopefully I’m dead wrong)
Consensual rape is the most ridiculous term i’ver ever heard… the word “rape” means there is no consent… so “consensual rape” is redundant. It’s prostitution, plain and simple.
Not quite sure where this is going, but online dating dont give you the same hit as to be with someone in person. Some women like more spontaneous hangouts then formal dates, its too constraining and tense. Nothing to do with manipulation. I think this is just another unhelpful myth abt love like connection vs conflict💞💞✌
Sadia, you have to understand that men spend so much time and effort trying to attract high SMV women, that they don’t get to indulge the 10-20 years that high SMV people get to enjoy before seeking genuine connection. Calling it “irresponsible' sounds like virtue signaling.
What means to submit? A woman who fully submit to me make me feel insecure and the least she should do is to ease that burden. I'd also feel useless to be with a woman who doesn't want to use me for anything non-financial. Classy women who humble themselves for me are much more intriguing.
Well Sadia I'm gonna have to disagree with the fact that older guys can't get genuine desire from young women... I'm 32 and seem to be attracting more and more 18 to 21 year olds than ever before. I don't know why... Much more so than when I was in my 20's, like way more... And I have a low wage job as a waiter, so they know they can't use me for money. I find it amusing that even 13 to 18 year old teen girls are hitting on me on a weekly basis, leaving me their numbers and instagram on napkins and shit... I even had a woman say to me that her 13 year old daughter was infatuated with me. I also had a lot of girls confess to me that they feel attracted to older guys in ther 40's and 50's but they don't know how to attract them because they feel as the older guys are going to look at them as children, I'm talking about really youg girls here, like 18 to 21. Hell, I remember my own sister and her friends when she was in highschool having crushes on eachother's friend's dads... So, unless you look like complete shit, then no, being older doesn't exclude you from hitting it off with young girls... It's agains societal unwritten norms to act on it but there's definetly a ton of age gap attraction between the genders out there...
Anyone else think “submit” is the wrong word? Cooperate, that’s the right term. Submit sounds too much like “lost a fight and have to tap out before my arm breaks”
Try remaining married to a woman who’s had multiple stokes by 40, changing who they are and making them disabled, and you have multiple young children. Do you abandon them despite them needing you now more than ever, or do you stay out of the love you had? People don’t know how good they have it just by being able to make easy choices about who they want to be with.
Is it manipulate or take advantage of? If there’s *any* desire for manipulation, then she’s absolutely disqualified herself. Who the heck would tolerate that in a partner? You may stick around to make sure she is like that, then you start pulling back & start standing up for normalcy.
Dont take s###, gentlemen. Let her know that if she disrespects you in any way that you'll ditch her backside immediately, or worse if you're that way inclined. Never accept disrespect from your missus, ever!
I agree that there are some women who go for younger, poorer men. This is called hypogamy. These women are usually but not always financially independent. A friend of my sister’s divorced her husband and had a succession of young Indian boyfriends. It destroyed her family.
I’ve never chased or looked for love, the women in my life all searched and found me, and tried to get closer to me, cause they saw me as the catch and hard to get. Sadie gets it and is spot on ❤️🔥🙏
Women follow the men that tolerate there bs the most also. No matter if he is living a double life or not. Cause all women long to be catered by a God fearing man.
She's wrong regarding Men wanting a girl that's Sincerely attracted to him.... That was be torture as these Women would become stalkers, especially the mediocre ones..... My Rule is: ONLY go after the girls that inspire you as a Man, and always spoil them proper ..... Build your own fantasy of several what YOU consider "Inspiring girls" to be with..... Enjoy being a Man, lift weights, be Powerful
I'm as Ukrainian grew up in traditional culture can not agree more, besides traditional women can not feel protected with naive man which is woman's base core need🙃
Good day Sadia, I agree with you wholeheartedly but also believe that generalization can vary. The concept of women submitting to men is multifaceted, rooted in historical, cultural, social, and psychological factors. To understand why some women might choose to submit to men, it is important to consider various perspectives: Historical Context Historically, patriarchal systems have dominated many societies, wherein men held the majority of power and influence. These systems were often reinforced by legal, religious, and cultural norms that promoted male dominance and female submission. For centuries, women were often excluded from positions of power, denied educational opportunities, and their roles were primarily confined to domestic spheres. This historical context has left a lasting impact on societal structures and gender dynamics. Cultural and Social Influences Cultural norms and traditions play a significant role in shaping gender roles. In many cultures, traditional gender roles are deeply ingrained, with expectations that men should be leaders and providers, while women should be caretakers and supporters. These roles are often perpetuated through family upbringing, media portrayals, and societal expectations. Women may internalize these roles, believing that submission is a natural or desirable part of their identity. Psychological Factors Psychologically, some women might find comfort and security in traditional roles. The notion of submission can be associated with trust and reliance on a partner, which can be appealing in certain relationships. Additionally, societal conditioning can lead to the internalization of beliefs that submissive behavior is feminine and desirable, further influencing women's choices. Personal Choice and Empowerment It is important to recognize that submission can also be a personal choice made by women in consensual and mutually respectful relationships. In such contexts, submission does not equate to weakness or inferiority but rather to a dynamic that both partners find fulfilling. Some women may choose to submit as an expression of their love, trust, or preference for a particular relationship structure. This voluntary submission can be a form of empowerment, where the woman actively decides how she wants to navigate her relationships. Feminist Perspectives From a feminist perspective, the notion of submission is often critiqued as reinforcing gender inequality and perpetuating patriarchal systems. Feminists advocate for equality and challenge traditional gender roles that limit women's autonomy and opportunities. They argue that true equality can only be achieved when both men and women have the freedom to define their roles and relationships without societal pressures or constraints. Modern Shifts In contemporary society, there is a growing recognition of diverse relationship models and the importance of individual choice. Gender roles are becoming more fluid, and there is an increasing acceptance of relationships that do not adhere to traditional power dynamics. Many women are now empowered to pursue careers, leadership roles, and independent lifestyles, challenging the historical norm of female submission. In conclusion, the reasons why some women submit to men are complex and varied, influenced by historical legacies, cultural norms, psychological factors, personal choices, and societal changes. Understanding this phenomenon requires a nuanced approach that acknowledges both the constraints of patriarchal systems and the agency of women in making their own decisions. #TheUnassumingBillionaire
By the way Sadia. After a couple of months asking Karen Straughn if she was willing to help me save mens lives in 2011 and hwr saying no I denounced her as a grifter and a fraud in 2012. No men take her seriously any more. So. Are you willing to help me save mens lives or not? Its a simple question.
The gentlemen still feels like hypergamy rests in the man's accolades. He still thinks it's something you have to go out and acquire. When the woman, from her own lips, told you it is your character. And we see it all the time in pookie and Ray Ray.
I always prefer to use the Qur’an and Sunnah as evidence in everything. See what the woman said about our master Moses, who gave her water from the well. “One of them said, ‘Father, hire him. Indeed, the best one to hire is the strong and trustworthy. Verse (26) sourat safat. Muhammad peace upon him said: Marry someone whose religion pleases you. Religion combines all principles and morals, as well as Sharia law, meaning a respectable, responsible man. The question is: What are the means by which one can play this role.
If she was like that, she would be cut from the Pearl cloth and pretend to be on men’s side to further her own agenda. This is the opposite of a grifter. You may not want to hear this, but it will help you much more than pandering ever would
@@sadiapsychology Sadia, the vast majority of incels are married men with children. I was an incel for most of my 18 year marriage. And yes. We know you care nothing about such men. You slur them for their wife's refusal to have intimate relations. Talk about showing your hand..
@@sadiapsychology I am 60 Sadia. Attempting to use the term incel to me to slur me is laughable because it was true for much of my 18 year marriage. After I divorced my wife I dated about 20 laydees over an 8 year period. Talk about show your hand. You have not got the courage to even talk to a real man like me..
She is making it sound like that there is something which is perfectly conscientious 24*7. Even if attraction is there on all levels and both are same age (assuming he is financially rich too), Aren’t there some sacrifices made from both party’s where you don’t agree with the other person ? I think it’s called human nature, accomodating each other knowing we don’t all think and act the same all the time.
Consensual rape? Is she trying to imply that some women aren't intelligent enough to make their own decisions and hold accountability for their actions?
I think Tom Brady and Brad Pitt threw out the myth that being attractive and successful is all you need for a women to submit Women are bouquet of fleeting emotions. Not giving a fuck if a women wants you for you or what you have is pointles. They maybe attracted to you one day and not the next. The men who figure this out are the ones that do the best. Dump and pumps and no emotional investment is the best way to operate Most women have the internals of prostitution in their hearts so better to treat them the same and you won’t ever be dissatisfied .
I wish the world can get rid of prostitution and p0rn, poor women it is never their choice they actually are always trafficked and it should be illegal and women should be protected.
if a man behaves and do everything that's expected of him then she may you have to give to receive she won't submit unless he gives her a reason to nothing is free
I like Sadie Khan. She is a sensible human being. Bless her mama and papa too. It all adds up. However, I am not a fan of psychology or specifically, the school of psychology that is exclusively interpersonal. The term "submission" for me is indicative of a language style that reeks of BDSM. On a broader scale, it highlights the imperialist thinking embedded in the so called "individual psychology". Why would anyone require somebody else to submit? Submit to what? The term "submission" should never be in the same sentence as human relationship. Are interpersonal relationships now a war? All strategy and tactics? If so, a more transparent term is "surrender" 😂. In the West they say, "all is fair in love and war". Basically betraying the logic behind the confused language games. Relationships should be complementary not adversarial. Submission is fundamentally an adversarial term.
Clear it with yourself however you like, change the word to guided, change it again to influenced - pick whatever word you need to clear it with your tastes and sentiment, it doesn't matter, because it all means the same thing. The man steers the ship.
Ok so she cant concieve that some high value woman would want trump. Hes wealthy smart funny and a king. Obviously some high value women would want him and melania is one of them, how is that such a difficult premis to understand
As soon as a middle aged man 40-60 tells me “but I feel good and take care of my body and have a good body and I look good for my age” I see it as a 🚩 that they are not mature in relationships, are anxious, or always think they can do better and move on to the next woman. Run 🏃♀️
@@rosamoreno4794 i did. You said as soon as you hear a middle aged man say 'etc etc' that you see it as a red flag. You didnt say anything else. Your communication must be poor considering you wanted me to read something other than what you wrote
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great content, Why do you always wear your makeup wrong?
@@alfo454 English?
@@sadiapsychology Thank you for your feedback. You're right, that phrase was horribly put together. I will work on my English. Anyway, your right cheek has a brighter spot that is distracting from your great content
I’ve always thought that if a girl doesn’t respect you then she definitely doesn’t love you. They respect you first, admire you, then love you.
They love how you make them feel; don’t get it twisted
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Exactly. Only choose women who choose you first and respect you. Most important dating/relationship lesson anyone needs to learn. Also, don't listen to what they say -- watch what they do. See the patterns early.
Close, but no cigar! First, make a woman feel safe. If you can do that, all the rest will follow.
Editor seriously fkd up on this one. Several times two audio tracks playing at once. Why is no one commenting on this?
This particular part of the video is on her page and throws that other video clip of her in the video when editing I suppose
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*When a woman feels safe and valued, she’s more likely to submit emotionally and physically. This doesn’t mean control, but rather, leading with confidence and making her feel supported in all aspects of the relationship.*
Malonia is 54 everyone! she's not 24. She's not that young. 54! not 24!
She was when She met him😂
Yea, but $1000s of makeup.
Literally wth why use a 54 year old woman, sadia meant young women old men lol
Mutual desire is key 💯💯 !
If i want her way more than she wants me, relationship will not work.
The woman has to be more into you than you are.
I completely agree, I’m 21, hella attractive and assertive, and have open optionality with women of my choice (no matter their age) compared to most men my age. It’s not about money/looks, you literally just have to be that type of man, No alpha male podcast/red pill bs, just spirituality, emotional intelligence, and authenticity.
And don’t forget genetically. 😂
@@Yay-hovah ngl, ur right😭but trust me it’s more about the qualities u have. I used to think I wasn’t attractive until I got out of high school even though girls were always showing interest in me I just thought they liked me because I was funny so I used to put them on a pedestal when they were attractive. I had low self esteem so I never really went any further with women until I got in the real world, the attractiveness is an EXTREME boost but it’s ALWAYS about your qualities as a person.
Hella attractive refers to your appearance yes? Modern women are now visual. We can't all have top 1% genetics
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@@ryanw3259 u ever seen a 10 with a guy who girls wouldn’t consider attractive and has an average lifestyle? That’s what I mean by it’s more so your characteristics that matter. I’m pretty sure ur decent looking, just do self care and get confident in that. Don’t think what a woman wants in a man, think what u want in a woman and be that man for her.
Surely one of the best Sadia episodes ever. She has amazing insights into the interrelationships between men and women.
❤️❤️
Don't Call Me Surley
High value Men and Women = Discipline+Religion+Self control+Respect+the style.
The style is the Men.
Feminisme creates low value Men and Women wich creates weak foundation unbalanced family its like having two Women in a house Not Husband and Wife
Bless you Sadia for your content!
This is so perfectly explained BTW she is not the only psychologist to say that. We know high value equals morals it is said by many psychologist. The more immoral our behaviour the less self esteem we have and the more outrageous the behaviour becomes.
I’ll say the same thing I said to Vince. WHY, on God’s green earth does ANYONE want someone, who *doesn’t want them*?
How else would you have the experience?
@@Yay-hovah with consent
@@connorissa961 Nooo. Lol. If a certain caliber of woman doesn’t ever find you attractive then you will never experience her if you make her attraction to you an absolute prerequisite. Using terms like “consensual grape” is a feminized and gynocentric view of a male’s biological imperative.
Marriage is sacred and so as with all HOLY THINGS, the evil thing seeks to destroy. Now it's gotten to a point where everyone is suspicious of another, no one is willing to go the whole 9 yards to have a family. Yet we come from families, who had less of what we have to make it work today. Women chase love, so do men but the tests and trickery involved kills the fire. Normally, you meet an individual you are interested in, get to know them, CIA style, (their background, family, the works...) then make a decision to be in love.
Any other way is just lust, pure animal pursuit and conquer, from both genders for different gains. Nothing but heart aches and broken kids comes from this set up.
I will marry each time, nothing beats it if done right with a great partner. Don't miss single days...
"Key is for a man to be a person whose private self is congruent with his public self or women would live once they find out your fake vs real self." Wow that is so true
We don’t create desires, it’s some thing that just happens. You can still love someone without having any sexual desires. Caring and respecting someone make the best relationship. Attraction is not created or permanent it a feelings that we have no control over.
This is so perfectly explained BTW she is not the only psychologist to say that. We know high value equals morals it is said by many psychologist. The more immoral our behaviour the less self esteem we have and the more outrageous the behaviour becomes.
Women would definately respect a oerson who stands his ground but they are leured by powerful men who she may or she may not love. She is basically securing her and her offsprings survival. This is her instict as a physically weak being. At the same time she could physically submit to a strong willed man she cannot manipulate as she wants a healthy progeny. She cant help it, she is wired like that.
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It's so interesting to listen to a woman talk about hypergamy. And then in her commercial says she's looking for the most super affluent as potential clients. Smile.
Yep you don’t work for Brokies
@@sadiapsychology I guess we got a little too close to home there. Smile
Maybe 6 months ago, I heard her say that most of her clients are men. I believe she lives in Dubai which is a very wealthy city. She speaks directly to her own journey in understanding her own needs and always seems genuinely curious of her male host's point of view. Not even considering her academic achievements, I respect and learn from her educated insights.
I can listen to learn and leave the little that doesn't resonate.
We all should receive in kind for the value we bring to the table.
@@sadiapsychology Your contempt and entitlement are dripping...
@@wellnesspathforme6236 good ! I give plenty and plenty of free advice I give way more for free than 99% of humans so if that’s entitled GOOD
Sadia is correct. I am a handsome older man. I had many, many girlfriends and most were live-in relationships. I have been married and divorced 3 times. I am basically a sugar daddy because it works for my lifestyle. I am willing to pay for sex and a short term relationship. Not just sex from a hooker. Why ? because women are all the same. I had older women and younger women from all over the world and at certain ages they want the same things. Marriage does not work for me, and women my age (50 ) are too jaded and act like female-men. They have used bodies and experiences most guys would not want to know about. So, I date and have sexual relationships with younger women who want to have fun. I do not have time to date just to figure a woman out. It costs money to date and get to know someone. It costs the same or less to hookup with a hot young one. Of course, young women need to be attracted to you, so you meet and get coffee. Then, if you are attracted to each other you go from there. There is no need to put them on an allowance or anything, because that is because of a marriage, basically. Every time I got divorced I had to start my whole life with nothing, because the men get screwed. I am tired of starting over each breakup. I build wealth now and spend a little fun with the young women and when they want to leave to start families I say goodbye. But, these goodbyes are bitter=sweet and not war. I can go on and on. but, men need to stay in shape and go after their dreams and not get married. I say that, yet I know the younger men will do it anyway.
Your relationships are transactional. You actually sound a little bitter.
Correct. All laydees are the same everywhere. I am 60. I know this.
Agree
perfectly said! We are in the same boat. I have also started 3 times. Stay in shape and keep dreamin' and leavin'. Whole-heartedly agree with you! thanks for sharing similar thought
Exactly. The most expensive woman is your wife. Don't get married and you'll never be screwed.
So it's basically better for the guy if the woman wants him more than he wants her.
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About fish&fisherman,brutal
ly honest but it quite humorously makes the point!!!!
I be learning free game from her channel everything she saying is spot on. I luv these interviews.
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I be learnin that too
Sadia is a grate example why women's advice to men hardly works. Women thinks that all other women have the same internal mechanism. In my experience women are lot more different to each other than men. She is explaining herself and there must be a lot of women, who works the same way, but I've seen (and dated) a lot of women who worked differently. My mother used to be the same. She used to give me hour long lectures about how women works, and I started to become successful when I ignored her ideas. I somewhat believe that women cant help their self and unconsciously try to sabotage men, when they give them advice. All female advice got me no further than the friendzone.
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Bingo. Projection much?
Depends on the 40 year old man. There are 40 year old people (men & women) that took care of themselves when young, and still do and they still look amazing well into their 40's+. But most people that age let themselves go, so she's probably talking about the majorty. Sadia is 36 but she looks like she's in her 40's. Is that bad? No cause she looks like a 40 year old that takes care of herself and I',m sure she'll look the same when she actually turns 40.
Sadia, while obviously a very beautiful and educated woman seems to live in a small bubble of the 1.5%. She may resonate with the most wealthy and glamorous of people. But like Matthew Hussey, nothing she says resonates with me as a matchmaker and dating coach in Chicago.
I am fairly certain that my small following of 10,000 subscribers would also be unable to relate to any of her elite and jaded theories and viewpoints on love and relationships. It’s seriously feels to me like she is speaking another language.
Any 1 can be attractive it takes discipline to look after your body and a level of loving yourself that gives you confidence and self esteem this in itself puts you in a smaller pool of attractive people
@@shaunkhoza7039 yes!
Concur.
Trump and Melania met over 20 years ago. How do you know she was not attracted to him? How do you know she isn't now? You simply don't have the necessary evidence to substantiate your claim that their intimacy is 'consensual gr8pe'. They've raised an impressive son Barron together for whom they did not hire a nanny, instead she spent every day with him as a stay-at-home mom. There's a lot of love in their family and while your theories are interesting and informative on one level, theories can only describe approximations of concepts and this is one case where your theory falls short of credibility. It's also rude and unprofessional to make a claim like this about someone else's relationship, to whom you have no relation be it personal or business. I bet they would happily welcome you with open arms if you were to meet them, and instead you say nasty things about them. You should apologize for saying that and I think you would be a happier person if you surrendered your pride
Man this woman is the prime example of no matter how logical or brilliant a woman is, she's just a woman at the end of the day. Consentual rape is the biggest oxymoron I've heard.
This is pure gold...I will get the popcorn
Everything you're saying is 100% true true true... you know women, fullstop!
I just hate the fact there is so much goes on way before even having a chance in a relationship… all I want is loyalty and genuine love, things are so complicated now man
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As it seems you look for the comments, I want to tell you than there is a significant amount of your videos that are poorly edited: parts that are repeated twice, your mkt pauses aren't matching well enough... it makes the video annoying to watch. Please make something about it and keep it up, thanks for the content!
And wildly misleading titles.
I am so grateful to you Sadia for sharing your knowledge with all of us. You are a gem.
That double life thing. I'm a man on the autistic scale, and I have a tough time unifying my private life with my neurodivergent masking self. It's a natural phenomenon where an autistic person basically camouflages their true selves in public (not necessarily on purpose mind you, it's an automatic response) to fit in socially. We tend to intensly focus on the behaviour and body language of other people, and sort of pick and choose certain things and build a fake persona as to what we think should be "normal" behaviour if that makes sense. And some of us mastered this so well you will never know we are on the spectrum unless we told you.
So when we introduce people to our true selves that we conceal in private when the mask is off, some of us, including myself find it very difficult to maintain those relationships because people get shocked my camouflaged self is not my real self if that makes sense. I've actually scared a girl once I tried to date and felt bad because I took the mask off just a little bit to try and slowly introduce my real self to her. And as much as we would like to, there is nothing we can do about this as autistic people. It's a natural phenomenon that comes with the package of being on the spectrum. But because neurodivergent (normal) people don't understand autism they find is borderline psychopathic and alien. So according to this, if I were to take it seriously, I think it's almost impossible to find a girl who can comfortably live with basically 2 different people in one body..... one person at home and another out in the world..... which is a huge bummer.....
As an autistic guy, i understand your pain.
It's curable..
I think Sadia khan is best psychoanalyst of our times......I understood so much from her ......
Thank you Sadia! We love you!
1:13 this is wisdom right here.
Remember Trippie Redd? Rich, famous, even good looking at one point.
Not only was he cheated on, dudes girl had a baby with another guy and said it was his.
When a woman manipulates me, I turn a blind eye and walk away. It is a very bad thing behavior and it is these kind of ladies that have emotional baggage that manipulate men because they have learnt it from their past relationship. Find a good woman who won't manipulate you but rather communicate your wrongs to you
Fire your editor. Awful ads on top of the interview cuting in and out at bad timings.
The beginning isn’t true. If someone respects you it doesn’t matter how naïve you are, they want to protect you.
U are right 👉
Nadia is 💯 accurate she’s great!
i don't believe this because this is the main reason why they leave you. when they can't use you.
Men disregard Sadia faulty logic.
😢 being mean isn't the same as not being manipulated. There's nothing sexier than a nice man with boundaries. It's the perfect balance.
"No restrictions on sex means mean don't have to grow up." Wow that is bulls eye 👁
Its easy to talk trash about other people. Who are we to judge another person's marriage? I find the whole Trump/Melania conversation to be clinging to rules that only exist in one's head, rather than reflective of what the actual condition of their marriage is... better to just be supportive and compassionate, instead of whatever this conversation was all about. Marriage used to be sacred. Now it just a contract with a bunch of psychological rules used to judge it. This episode was kind of off base in my humble opinion. I wish the best for them, as well as all married couples, especially since I am a married man working thru the challenges of making it work.
Laydees don't submit Sadia. You all keep the divorce courts as your backup plan.
Men Prenuptial agreement is you main goal and become a passport bro.
@@oanling917 they are worthless.
If you guys keep going at that pace there won’t be a courthouse anymore left with people who want to play mental chess
@@DrJohannPryce Huh ?
Sadia ate the topic, chewed on it and spit some truth.
Never ask a fish how to catch a fish. Ask a fisherman
Asking fisherman who don’t know how to fish is not going to help
If fish could speak. Who can better tell what lure fish more?
@@Arsalan2323 exactly, these fish still want to be caught they just don’t want to be caught by the wrong type
Mrs.Khan isn’t your average fish- stop regurgitating something you heard Patrice O’Neil say 11 years ago, that’s disrespectful to his memory.
Perhaps we could start with defining the quality/type of fish
This reads like a study in bias from both genders. I don't think the guy realizes how many women absolutely loathe the man they are with and are constantly pretending. I think for Sadia especially as a beautiful woman this is obvious. On the other hand I don't think Sadia realizes how transactional women are even when they don't think they are being transactional. No woman is ever absolutely not transactional. You just want it minimized to the pont where she does not see it in her self.
On the flip side Older woman do like young Men as well.
Women will stay with a man that respect himself.
Once a man has self respect it doesn't need a woman that will disrespect him, she will be always on guard.
But when you get an insecure male that is also aggressive and she has to "submit" cause has no options in life, is that any good?
Personally for me a relationship is more like a business than a love story, I would definitely go for successful women rather than lazy women that need a donkey to raise their children.
4:20 the voices overlap, is this and editing issue or intentional? either way i did not understand what either voices were saying
Around the 4:20 mark. Absolutely spot on for me. However.. what I think you’re forgetting is the, IMO… the “programming” that has taken place now, whereas woman who have been with these clowns that “buy” woman either with being their sugar daddy or paying them the 3.99/minute or whatever it is, have changed the psychology (even if only subconsciously), to where there is no way a woman even believes there are any high value man left and, if the very few that might still believe there are…isn’t able to provide financial “freedom”, she is never going to succumb to the lower level of living. One high value man’s opinion (hopefully I’m dead wrong)
Consensual rape is the most ridiculous term i’ver ever heard… the word “rape” means there is no consent… so “consensual rape” is redundant. It’s prostitution, plain and simple.
Thank you! It’s low key shaming language.
She doesn't have to get burned. What if she puts on 100 pounds? Make her sign the contract and apply penalties for every extra pound she puts on.
This is very educational and spot on with my experiences.
Am handsome and make big money, talk, 666 etc. I have seen it play out this way many times.
Not quite sure where this is going, but online dating dont give you the same hit as to be with someone in person. Some women like more spontaneous hangouts then formal dates, its too constraining and tense. Nothing to do with manipulation. I think this is just another unhelpful myth abt love like connection vs conflict💞💞✌
Sadia, you have to understand that men spend so much time and effort trying to attract high SMV women, that they don’t get to indulge the 10-20 years that high SMV people get to enjoy before seeking genuine connection. Calling it “irresponsible' sounds like virtue signaling.
You need to prove to them that you are something they will never be!
The most charismatic and elegant woman I saw on the internet!!!
Spot on
gOSH i JUST ENJOY LOOKING AT SADIA....SO GORGEOUS!
Simps are gonna simp
She is right fellas.
What means to submit?
A woman who fully submit to me make me feel insecure and the least she should do is to ease that burden. I'd also feel useless to be with a woman who doesn't want to use me for anything non-financial. Classy women who humble themselves for me are much more intriguing.
Some good points. Some contradictions. Generally good advice
But when I say mutual desire is more important, it seems I am very egoistic and toxic.
Well Sadia I'm gonna have to disagree with the fact that older guys can't get genuine desire from young women... I'm 32 and seem to be attracting more and more 18 to 21 year olds than ever before. I don't know why... Much more so than when I was in my 20's, like way more... And I have a low wage job as a waiter, so they know they can't use me for money. I find it amusing that even 13 to 18 year old teen girls are hitting on me on a weekly basis, leaving me their numbers and instagram on napkins and shit... I even had a woman say to me that her 13 year old daughter was infatuated with me. I also had a lot of girls confess to me that they feel attracted to older guys in ther 40's and 50's but they don't know how to attract them because they feel as the older guys are going to look at them as children, I'm talking about really youg girls here, like 18 to 21. Hell, I remember my own sister and her friends when she was in highschool having crushes on eachother's friend's dads... So, unless you look like complete shit, then no, being older doesn't exclude you from hitting it off with young girls... It's agains societal unwritten norms to act on it but there's definetly a ton of age gap attraction between the genders out there...
Anyone else think “submit” is the wrong word?
Cooperate, that’s the right term.
Submit sounds too much like “lost a fight and have to tap out before my arm breaks”
Try remaining married to a woman who’s had multiple stokes by 40, changing who they are and making them disabled, and you have multiple young children. Do you abandon them despite them needing you now more than ever, or do you stay out of the love you had? People don’t know how good they have it just by being able to make easy choices about who they want to be with.
Is it manipulate or take advantage of? If there’s *any* desire for manipulation, then she’s absolutely disqualified herself. Who the heck would tolerate that in a partner? You may stick around to make sure she is like that, then you start pulling back & start standing up for normalcy.
Excellent. Great questions and answers. Thank you!
"No restrictions on sex means men don't have to grow up." Wow that is bulls eye 👁
Dont take s###, gentlemen. Let her know that if she disrespects you in any way that you'll ditch her backside immediately, or worse if you're that way inclined. Never accept disrespect from your missus, ever!
Facts 🎉
Does the same rule apply to middle-aged women who venture to the Gambia to meet younger men? If not, why?
I agree that there are some women who go for younger, poorer men. This is called hypogamy. These women are usually but not always financially independent. A friend of my sister’s divorced her husband and had a succession of young Indian boyfriends. It destroyed her family.
I’ve never chased or looked for love, the women in my life all searched and found me, and tried to get closer to me, cause they saw me as the catch and hard to get. Sadie gets it and is spot on ❤️🔥🙏
Women follow the men that tolerate there bs the most also. No matter if he is living a double life or not. Cause all women long to be catered by a God fearing man.
She's wrong that men with low self esteem don't care if it's mutual desire or not. Men with low self-esteem very much want mutual desire
She's wrong regarding Men wanting a girl that's Sincerely attracted to him.... That was be torture as these Women would become stalkers, especially the mediocre ones..... My Rule is: ONLY go after the girls that inspire you as a Man, and always spoil them proper ..... Build your own fantasy of several what YOU consider "Inspiring girls" to be with..... Enjoy being a Man, lift weights, be Powerful
Love Sadia ❤ SHE IS THE BEST ❤❤❤
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Nay…. I don’t want nobody submitting nobody… just wanna to live happily
I'm as Ukrainian grew up in traditional culture can not agree more, besides traditional women can not feel protected with naive man which is woman's base core need🙃
Good day Sadia,
I agree with you wholeheartedly but also believe that generalization can vary.
The concept of women submitting to men is multifaceted, rooted in historical, cultural, social, and psychological factors. To understand why some women might choose to submit to men, it is important to consider various perspectives:
Historical Context
Historically, patriarchal systems have dominated many societies, wherein men held the majority of power and influence. These systems were often reinforced by legal, religious, and cultural norms that promoted male dominance and female submission. For centuries, women were often excluded from positions of power, denied educational opportunities, and their roles were primarily confined to domestic spheres. This historical context has left a lasting impact on societal structures and gender dynamics.
Cultural and Social Influences
Cultural norms and traditions play a significant role in shaping gender roles. In many cultures, traditional gender roles are deeply ingrained, with expectations that men should be leaders and providers, while women should be caretakers and supporters. These roles are often perpetuated through family upbringing, media portrayals, and societal expectations. Women may internalize these roles, believing that submission is a natural or desirable part of their identity.
Psychological Factors
Psychologically, some women might find comfort and security in traditional roles. The notion of submission can be associated with trust and reliance on a partner, which can be appealing in certain relationships. Additionally, societal conditioning can lead to the internalization of beliefs that submissive behavior is feminine and desirable, further influencing women's choices.
Personal Choice and Empowerment
It is important to recognize that submission can also be a personal choice made by women in consensual and mutually respectful relationships. In such contexts, submission does not equate to weakness or inferiority but rather to a dynamic that both partners find fulfilling. Some women may choose to submit as an expression of their love, trust, or preference for a particular relationship structure. This voluntary submission can be a form of empowerment, where the woman actively decides how she wants to navigate her relationships.
Feminist Perspectives
From a feminist perspective, the notion of submission is often critiqued as reinforcing gender inequality and perpetuating patriarchal systems. Feminists advocate for equality and challenge traditional gender roles that limit women's autonomy and opportunities. They argue that true equality can only be achieved when both men and women have the freedom to define their roles and relationships without societal pressures or constraints.
Modern Shifts
In contemporary society, there is a growing recognition of diverse relationship models and the importance of individual choice. Gender roles are becoming more fluid, and there is an increasing acceptance of relationships that do not adhere to traditional power dynamics. Many women are now empowered to pursue careers, leadership roles, and independent lifestyles, challenging the historical norm of female submission.
In conclusion, the reasons why some women submit to men are complex and varied, influenced by historical legacies, cultural norms, psychological factors, personal choices, and societal changes. Understanding this phenomenon requires a nuanced approach that acknowledges both the constraints of patriarchal systems and the agency of women in making their own decisions. #TheUnassumingBillionaire
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By the way Sadia. After a couple of months asking Karen Straughn if she was willing to help me save mens lives in 2011 and hwr saying no I denounced her as a grifter and a fraud in 2012. No men take her seriously any more.
So. Are you willing to help me save mens lives or not? Its a simple question.
The gentlemen still feels like hypergamy rests in the man's accolades. He still thinks it's something you have to go out and acquire. When the woman, from her own lips, told you it is your character. And we see it all the time in pookie and Ray Ray.
I always prefer to use the Qur’an and Sunnah as evidence in everything. See what the woman said about our master Moses, who gave her water from the well. “One of them said, ‘Father, hire him. Indeed, the best one to hire is the strong and trustworthy. Verse (26) sourat safat. Muhammad peace upon him said: Marry someone whose religion pleases you. Religion combines all principles and morals, as well as Sharia law, meaning a respectable, responsible man. The question is: What are the means by which one can play this role.
Sadia. We are well aware you are just trying to grift off men by pretending to be concerned about us.
Not concerned about you incels
If she was like that, she would be cut from the Pearl cloth and pretend to be on men’s side to further her own agenda. This is the opposite of a grifter. You may not want to hear this, but it will help you much more than pandering ever would
@@marcusmcgraw3519 both of them are grifters Beta Brad...
@@sadiapsychology Sadia, the vast majority of incels are married men with children. I was an incel for most of my 18 year marriage. And yes. We know you care nothing about such men. You slur them for their wife's refusal to have intimate relations. Talk about showing your hand..
@@sadiapsychology I am 60 Sadia. Attempting to use the term incel to me to slur me is laughable because it was true for much of my 18 year marriage. After I divorced my wife I dated about 20 laydees over an 8 year period. Talk about show your hand. You have not got the courage to even talk to a real man like me..
the topic has been covered well but the video has bad seperation for ads.
she has good insight
I actually really believe Melania would still be with Trump if he lost everything
Sadia you mentioned this so how does impulsivity affect mens mental health?? And is it the same for women?
She is making it sound like that there is something which is perfectly conscientious 24*7. Even if attraction is there on all levels and both are same age (assuming he is financially rich too), Aren’t there some sacrifices made from both party’s where you don’t agree with the other person ? I think it’s called human nature, accomodating each other knowing we don’t all think and act the same all the time.
Consensual rape? Is she trying to imply that some women aren't intelligent enough to make their own decisions and hold accountability for their actions?
It is not about intelligence.
It is trauma controlling these woman's lives, trauma or psychopathy, a complete emotional detachment.
@@sybersandyjust don't blame women's actions on men.
We dont care anymore its over
I think Tom Brady and Brad Pitt threw out the myth that being attractive and successful is all you need for a women to submit
Women are bouquet of fleeting emotions. Not giving a fuck if a women wants you for you or what you have is pointles. They maybe attracted to you one day and not the next. The men who figure this out are the ones that do the best. Dump and pumps and no emotional investment is the best way to operate Most women have the internals of prostitution in their hearts so better to treat them the same and you won’t ever be dissatisfied .
Thats the truth unfortunately 💯💯💯💯 !
I wish the world can get rid of prostitution and p0rn, poor women it is never their choice they actually are always trafficked and it should be illegal and women should be protected.
The problem is the loose and fast way she's using the term rape to mean almost anything. Therefore for forcible rate is a little bit less rapey
Whoever edited this messed up on several parts of this video
if a man behaves and do everything that's expected of him then she may you have to give to receive she won't submit unless he gives her a reason to nothing is free
Today I learned I have ultra high self esteem.
"What traits make a man attractive?"
"Dhe had to be attracted!"
Wtf.
Who wants a partner whom is constantly attempting to fool and manipulate?
I like Sadie Khan. She is a sensible human being. Bless her mama and papa too. It all adds up. However, I am not a fan of psychology or specifically, the school of psychology that is exclusively interpersonal. The term "submission" for me is indicative of a language style that reeks of BDSM. On a broader scale, it highlights the imperialist thinking embedded in the so called "individual psychology". Why would anyone require somebody else to submit? Submit to what? The term "submission" should never be in the same sentence as human relationship. Are interpersonal relationships now a war? All strategy and tactics? If so, a more transparent term is "surrender" 😂. In the West they say, "all is fair in love and war". Basically betraying the logic behind the confused language games. Relationships should be complementary not adversarial. Submission is fundamentally an adversarial term.
I think you are interpreting the word "submit" to mean "surrendered" , I think it really means accepting the other person.
Clear it with yourself however you like, change the word to guided, change it again to influenced - pick whatever word you need to clear it with your tastes and sentiment, it doesn't matter, because it all means the same thing. The man steers the ship.
@@RaveSceneTribute'trust him' should be just ok :)
Ok so she cant concieve that some high value woman would want trump. Hes wealthy smart funny and a king. Obviously some high value women would want him and melania is one of them, how is that such a difficult premis to understand
The editing of the video got messed up 😢
As soon as a middle aged man 40-60 tells me “but I feel good and take care of my body and have a good body and I look good for my age” I see it as a 🚩 that they are not mature in relationships, are anxious, or always think they can do better and move on to the next woman. Run 🏃♀️
So if a middle aged man takes care of bis body and keeps young, that is a red flag for you?
@@ultime321 read all of the post, you are bypassing half of it. 🤦🏻♀️ That is you misunderstanding, I wonder how you communicate? 👎🏻
@@rosamoreno4794 i did. You said as soon as you hear a middle aged man say 'etc etc' that you see it as a red flag. You didnt say anything else.
Your communication must be poor considering you wanted me to read something other than what you wrote