She Wandered Off
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- I've never been scared and proud at the same time before. It's time to upgrade our security and add some old school ding-dong sensors. Scary but I'm so glad Abbie pointed out this issue. I will continue to help her increase her independence but also keep tabs on her every movement. Now if the behavior of walking out the gate on her own continues, even with an alarm, we will have to extinct the behavior which sadly would mean latching the house doors so she can't get out of the house on her own. We will try to avoid that.
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She learned a lot more than you thought when she took the garbage out the other day.😂
Hahaha, she did indeed!
I was going to say the same about her going out to take the garbage to the binns.
I was thinking the same 😅 it's like a skill she needed her own time to execute, although not ideal a real learning experience for her.
@@just_heidiii& a situation where she needed to practice & apply what she’s learned 😁
So glad she just rang the doorbell and didn't just start walking around the neighborhood.
Same.
They been there a few years, everyone knows Abbie. She is fairly safe in her hood! She had her I pad so communication wasn't an issue.
I think Abbie is much more aware of a lot of things than many people think!
@@tabithiawhitehill8338no she would not be safe with how people are in this day and time..strangers drive through neighborhoods...
Amazing job Abbie! One thing you might want to think about is letting your police officers know about her wandering so if she doesn’t come home they will know where to go!
Yes & an ID bracelet or buy customized packages of temporary tattoos if that is a thing with info that she can show them that otherwise is hidden. Maybe on lower back?
Abbie!!! Great job for ringing the doorbell!!! I can only imagine how freaked you were though!! I was recently watch your older videos and just seeing how far she excelled in everything is just so heartwarming… time to work on the gates Dad!!!😂❤❤❤❤❤❤
Keypad on the gates is also a option
She uses her tablet to communicate she could figure out a key code by watching
Are you ever tempted to just watch and see what unfolds? What I mean is…. Watch from a distance where you can help. Just to see what she does on her own. Or even sending her into a shop.
Curious Asa, our youngest son was a sleep walker often. The first time he opened the side door to enter the garage I freaked out. We put a slide lock like in bathroom stalls on the top of all the exit doors in our home. Like you do with the pantry. Maybe from the back yard put a slide lock at the top of the wooden gate on the other side. She wouldn’t be able to put her hand over and slide the lever over to open it. Hope I explained it correctly.
My nephew is an 18 year old with autism as well. My sister’s house is like Fort Knox! But for great reasons! I can totally see scary😮 and super proud at the same time. I probably when have been in tears because she actually DID IT! Thanks for sharing because like you all have said in past videos…it can happen to anyone. Life happens….to all of us. People can learn from this! All the security in the world is no match for a child with autism in my opinion. They’re extremely smart. Some more than others. Just like all of us! Her ringing the door bell and you showing that and her standing there heck I was super proud and shocked myself. Makes me think that one day that my sister just may hear her son say mommy one day. ❤
My dad with dementia would wander off, so I put the latch on the outside of the gate, at the top so I could reach it from inside. He could have too, but didn't know it. But what was my surprise one day to see him walking down the road. He dug UNDER the fence and got out that way. Never a dull moment.
Went through dementia with my mother, she would wake up and just leave and before 3 others in the house realized she was gone, she'd be almost a mile away! We installed alarms on doors, a mat she slept on, dead bolt locks on doors. Very scarey to live through!
@@LoriCourtney Yes, you have to be always on the alert and coming up with solutions for the various problems as they arise.
your father dug under the fence?
@@jaytotheell Yes. The fence posts were about 7 feet apart, so the bottom of the fence wasn't super tight and could be pushed outward a little, but he did need to also dig in order to get his body through. I hammered in extra stakes after that.
Your daddy/daughter bond is so sweet and so natural. 💞
As Scary as it was, it has turned into an educational video for those who say…oh my kid wouldn’t do that, or it won’t ever happen to them. So thank you Asa for sharing it. You could have never shown any of it, and pretended it never happened and that Abby always stay inside the fence. I know you guys have worries that other people don’t have, but just know you are doing an amazing job! All of you are! ❤
This little lady…so scary but so great that she remembered how to get to the front to ring the doorbell… she will keep you on your toes
Her eloping was the first thing that came to my mind when I saw her open the gate in the last video..
Great job ABBIE ringing door bell so PROUD OF YOU
I’m so glad Abbie knew what to do! ❤
This is the scary thing that people aren’t living that don’t realize you never know that she could open the gate until she one day decided she wanted to leave and open the gate. You can’t be prepared for it and then you realize this is what we need to do.
She saw you getting sad and upset. Walked up held your back and leaned in for the kisses. She knows she scared you.
I noticed that too that was so cute
She is much more aware than many people think, especially with emotions!
So proud of Abbie for climbing the steps to the front door and ringing the bell.
I love how you jokingly call your house Fort Knox because of all the cameras and locks!! 😂❤💕💯I agree that you should reinforce everything to keep Abbie safe!!
Abbie has no sense of danger ⚠️ ⛔️and can easily get hurt because of her severe disabilities! 😭
Oh my goodness, amazing she's showing independence, but how scary at the same thing.
Your such a great Dad.
She learned something and improved her strength and dexterity!! She's never going to stop amazing you! On another note, I would hazard a guess that the turning from side to side when she's using the hose is a self-soothing or even a "stim" that she has associated with that "task". The feeling of squeezing the trigger, the way the hose starts almost pushing back against her hand, the noise of the spray.... Add that all up and it's a LOT of stimulation for what might look like a simple task. I could be way off, but because of how much of her body she is using, it just looks a lot like her "rocking", head banging, or bent neck stimming. I think if she wanted to just use her arms to move the sprayer, then that's what she would do, but since she twists at the waist and usually twists more than she actually needs to, it just looks more like soothing or stimming. And I said it before, I really try to remember what Asa says about giving people grace because he's absolutely right about that! (but I had a hard time getting through Costco today without going to jail!!)
Oh my heart Miss Abbie ❤ You are one smart young lady... And to Asa and Priscilla...Great job on teaching her the tools she may or may not ever need...BECAUSE like Priscilla said you neverrr know!!!
😘 Hugs to you all..
Way to go, Abbie! I am so thankful she thought to go to the front door. I'm pretty sure her chores and household activities helped her. 😊
I was soo worried that was gonna happen when you were showing us how well she was doing and teaching Abby how to open the gate to help with the trash and the groceries etc… of course you want her to learn things …. Maybe she just thought she were gonna go out there there and do something, and then she decided to go for a walk then circle around to the front door, but it is scary. I have a son with Autisim who was an escape artist when he was younger 💗💗💗
Ringing the doorbell is a big milestone for Abbie.
I appreciate the relatable experience and that Abbie was recognized for returning safely without leaving the property. 💖 She was sweet with the nose touch and all that too when her dad was explaining it. ☺ Our son had been trusted on the patio/balcony for years at various apartments, sensory time was nice out there to avoid mess.
One day when he was about 9 I went inside for about one minute or less, to then see him almost entirely over on the other side of our second-floor balcony railing! I was so scared. Thankfully he came back over right away when caught. Soon he had tried going upstairs to the loft in our apartment, over two safety gates, but we had always caught him and just thought he wanted to get into the litter boxes etc. One day he was hanging on the edge of the loft railing, which is about 22 feet high. Mini heart attack.
We had to block the stairs with a super tall gate and reinforce it with more locks even though we are renting. It wasn't until months later he tried to get out on the patio alone, thankfully I was sleeping in the living room as usual to guard him. Woke around 4 AM to the door opening. We got two kinds of safety lock for the sliding door which have helped. My husband complained because they do make it more time consuming to get out but it's necessary. Funny to see guests struggle to figure out the safety locks, but also gives them a small idea of what it's like to have to make every little thing more secure. Have to be really creative and as preventative as possible with these kids, often don't know to do something like that until a risk pops up suddenly.
Please tell Abby I'm so proud of her that was so beautiful she knew the ring the doorbell many blessings to you all ♥️🙂🙏🇨🇦
I’m glad she knew to ring the doorbell. Be careful and stay safe with Hurricane Debbie. I’m in Naples and we’re going to get rain and winds
Im so glad shes safe. Thank you for sharing. My son is a runner, a explorer. On the spectrum. A door bell to alert is a good idea. I might do that too.
My son Alexander who is autistic did something similar while we were grocery shopping my back was turned which he decided wander off and I am panicking where did he go. We found him in the floral department he loves flowers touched them ever so delicately. I hugged him so hard and told said thank you for staying in the store . Big hugs to Abbie 🙂🙂
Thank you for sharing, miss Abigail.I hope you are enjoying your evening.Sweet dreams mama 💜🙏🤚
So glad she came to the door and rang the bell…🥰
Yeah I understand how you felt. One day my autistic sister left the house, sometime later one of neighbours brought her back saying they had seen her quite a distance away from home dumpster diving for electronic ropes and trash. I'm glad Abby came back 👏🏽
Wow! That’s incredible!
Special needs teacher here, we use a carabiner for when the moderate students are in the playground. The severe needs students have an actual lock with a code we all know. (We have to hide the codes from the kids because they are all smart.) There’s nothing scarier than loosing a kid! Some parents pin GPS trackers on their kids because “runners” have taken off down the street from their homes when a parent is helping a different sibling. There are a lot of options and we’re always changing it up based on the child’s needs. Many people with neurodivergence don’t even see a door if it’s blocked by an exercise mat, towel or blanket.
True. I think it's due to lack of attention, our child is 11 and very clever and smart in many ways, but still has severe ASD and will not notice certain things, thank goodness. He has a habit of climbing into our plastic laundry baskets; which break as he is very tall and muscular. LOL I found out most times he will not notice them if we simply cover them with a white sheet! It at least helps.
I like the idea of a GPS tracker. We homeschool and so far I don't need one, though I do fear elopement when it comes to being out and about should something happen to me physically. I'll look into this. I saw watches and similar but our kiddo will not keep those on. I did sew recording devices into his pockets for public school because he had been abused by staff, I suppose I could do that for a GPS tracker!
Im so proud of you, Miss Abigail!!! ❤
You are very lucky to have alarms, etc. when our son was young, our doorbell rang, I opened the door and there he was. Scared the stuffing out of me, as he wasn’t that great at walking, had to open up two doors to get out and up two sets of stairs. All we could do at the time was ensure that the storm door and others inside doors were locked. Luckily, he never did it again.
So glad she rang the doorbell!! Way to go Ab! She is doing amazing everyday! 🥰🥰 Have a great Saturday everyone!!💚💚
Use a number panel. That way it can b in both sides of the gate an the others can b let in ❤😂🎉.
This is definitely one of these moments where parents say kids can’t do something and here come the kids doing that exact thing 🤣
I hope y’all made it to south Florida safely! Can’t wait to see your cruise adventures 😊 also I can’t imagine the fear that went through you and Priscilla seeing Abbie walk out the gate like that! You handled it well even though it was a scary moment
Great job, Abbie, for going to the front door and ringing the doorbell. 😊
Asa, I could see on your face the pride & also the fear reliving Abbie's venture. 😌
No matter how hard you strive to ensure any child's safety, the unexpected can happen. Like with Abbie suddenly deciding I will open the gate today and go out front after 6 years not doing so, thank goodness Abbie decided to ring the doorbell when she had had enough. As you say Asa time for a door chime that will alert the house when either gate is opened. It maybe her one adventure was enough, but it is better safe than sorry. Blessings.
Wow that was so lucky she came to the front door, I thought you had mentioned putting something on the gate in a previous recent vlog, when you mentioned she was now opening it, fate has now put it to the top of your list 😊
So relieved Abbie did the right thing and rang the bell ❤
I work in a long term care home. Some residents wear bracelets that set off an alarm when they go out front door. Called roam alert
I saw this coming since you were teaching her to open the gate
Great job Abbie!
Oh my that was scary. I am recalling a few videos ago when she was taking out the garbage and was having trouble opening the gate. Well, obviously she learned how to open the gate latch. I could just imagine your reaction when you saw her at the front door😮 like you said, so proud of her but at the same time scary. Maybe install a remote of code mechanism? That girl ceases to amaze me (and obviously you too).
My biggest fear is someone evil seeing an opportunity, I watch true crime on YT daily and follow quite a few cases that involve children.
I know Asa and Pricilla are all over this situation. It’s just there is way too much of that going around!
I cried seeing Abbie on video after ringing the bell! So super smart!
The memories of you teaching her to ring doorbells on Halloween came to mind and so glad also she did exactly what she needed to do. I would have more gray from that as well. She looked like she was contemplating getting out into an adventure the garbage out day. I saw it in her body language.
Maybe you can also build her in time a larger walk around the property that’s fenced and safe but has some things along the walk to entertain her and give her some fun going out for walks. I think she was hoping to get in the car and go for a snack but there was no driver so she contemplated walking but didn’t know how to get there so came back. She won’t to the edge of the driveway like she was going somewhere and then realized that wasn’t in her skill set and she turned back which was great to know she at least knew to come to the door. Maybe she was hoping you guys would get the clue to take her out for a ride and a treat. lol.
Hope your fence alarm is enough to keep her safe. Things happen so quickly it’s scary.
Amazing how far shes come. Shes learning to be more independent everyday and the boundaries of the backyard has gone a little further.youll adapt as always. Just goes to show youve taught her well. ❤
It’s nice to watch you all be such a sweet happy family. I can feel like it’s my family (all super far away now 😢)
The scary problem is her getting braver and go down the street so, yes better locks on gates.
they have keyless code pad lock for gate
I don’t think he wants to prevent her from going out. He just wants to know when the gate is open.
I was a teaching assistant for special ed for many years! You just never know when those "first time" things are going to happen. So many times of so and so has never done that before. I get it!
Beautiful family Abigail beautiful girl
Hi abbie and family,this was scary,i didn't know she know how to open the gate,she amaze us,im glad y'all got a camera and she is safe,hope y'all are having a wonderful saturday and stay safe out there🤗❤️🤗❤️🤗❤️🤗❤️
She did what you taught her..Dad went all gray today..😅😅
I am so glad she is ok anyone could have been hanging around but I am glad you have the camera on a round the house
As you said on other videos if she did not ring the doorbell and went a different way and you chased her she would think it's a game and keep doing it .very well done Abbie glad she knows now what to do and you were watch her
She is a pretty and smart girl. Never say that she is not. She learning the world alot❤. She is learning me everyday that you need to be happy in life, and keep fighting. And enjoy the Little things. En that everybody is pretty the way the are.
Abbie is lucky you are able to give her the security she deserves. She's obviously very happy in her life there. I think she went to the front door to show you she would do the right thing.
When my son was 3 ish he climbed out a window and wondered down the street. Luckily my husband came home as he seen him go over our hill in the road.... icing on it was he was in his birthday suit 😂. I was in the kitchen next to that room in our very small ranch style house. Didn't hear a thing. We got alarms for all the doors and windows that day!
Ugh the way she approached you to comfort you and be close to you when you become emotional 😢 she is so smart and emotionally sensitive in the best way.
I’m sorry, but if you mean 2:07-3:07, the hand signs Abbie is doing seem to indicate a desire for Asa or Priscilla to open the locked pantry and give her a snack. The three-fingers-to-her-lips sign indicates “snack”. The shaking of the hand may indicate “help!” or “please!” and her looking to Asa indicates that she is addressing Asa and the noises she did indicate frustration. In short, she is communicating “Dad, a snack [is what I want.] Please help me [with the pantry]!” and the noises indicate something like a groan that he is talking and not fulfilling her request. I don’t think Abbie understands English fluently, so I don’t think she understands how Asa was feeling.
Oh gosh-I had to fix myself a drink after watching that. It happened to me once. I have all the alarms, her bedroom door has a loud chime when opened, and a well trained German Shepherd that would alert me if she tried to leave. I still can’t sleep in my own bedroom. It’s hard.
Maybe time to teach Abbie how to pour water, spray water into cup/container. It'll be life skills. Love to see that happening on this channel and celebrate her success as well.
She knows how to pour water into a container. The problem is she was associating the hose with watering plants because that’s what she is used to doing with it
Could you put a key pad lock on the gates? We have one on the storm screen door. Maybe that would work. Abby that was wonderful you came to the door.
Have a safe trip!! Enjoy your cruise voyage!! ❤.
You could try a long throw lock (with double sided lock/cylinder so you can open/close from either side) or a rim lock (but the key for these are quite long and not very pocket friendly!). Your mind must have jumped through so many hoops seeing her on the door cam ‘huh?, wait what? Who? C**p! How? When? Is she ok? Relief, Pride etc. one of those exhausting 30s of realisation/relief that feels like you’ve run a marathon!
I’m so impressed she navigated from the back gate to your front door. Another invisible layer of learning/awareness she has gained over the past few years. She found herself alone and returned to home and knew she could access it by ringing the bell. Win for Abbie, few more grey hairs for you & Priscilla!
I know how bad and terrified you must feel right now. But like I said you don't know until you know. I have a naughty stick son who is now in his 20s and he is actually luckily grown out of a lot of those habits. But the amount of time that kids absconded when he was younger and the way he did things always changed. Just when you think you've got it sorted out he did something new and you had to start all over again. We had so many scares and police involved. Usually it involved him absconding from school while I was at work. So the school had a lot to answer for because there was many a time where he shouldn't have disappeared and he did. There was a couple of times he actually talked his way out with substitute teachers and I can't believe they let him get away with it. But like I said thankfully he has grown out of it living a productive life now as a 22-year-old. But I understand the terror and your heart jumping through your throat when it happens. I'm so glad she went around to the front door and rang the doorbell that's a big step. Don't feel like you need to justify this to anybody this is just what happens when you have kids on the spectrum.
Totally get the panick. My brother had the wanders when he was 16. Thankfully, he didn't go far. His fascination was our neighbours car.
Abby shes great kid but the weight is much
So proud of you Abbie angel since would help if she ever wondered off.
Aww, when she came in as you were talking, it was like she was saying, it's ok dad, I came back, I'm ok.
My grandson would wander when he was little. He is high functioning and when he comes to visit he still likes to walk around the backyard. When he was away at college he liked to go on adventures but I had a gps on his phone so I could keep track of where he was going. They have gps. Bracelets for kids with autism so if they wander off you can find them. It also sends an alert if they go beyond the boundaries you set.
Maybe also a “stop sign” might help. I feel your pain. I was just saying about my daughter the other day that you never know.
Hope you have a safe trip if you can, due to tropical storm 🌀 Debby.. Abbie smarter than you think.. glad she came to the front door.
So scary! Glad she figured out to come back around.
It was (no doubt) tough for you to realize *after the fact that Abbie had wandered, but I love the way that you dealt with it! (The proverbial-) "We" don't always DO in the moment what we would have liked........................"ya know?"😂😂😂🥰
Very smart to ring the doorbell! Maybe she wanted to go to Daley’s? She’s safe, that’s all that matters!
I heard my niece telling me about "air tags", 2 of my nieces kids (my great niece and nephew) are "flight risk", I don't know if you have them in Florida but we have them here in Nova Scotia. But yeah Abby!!!! And that's a learned behaviour from you guys in which Abby seen it so many times that she got a!!!! Also proud of her!!!!💜
Hi Asa and Priscilla, I am glad Abbie passed the test.😉 Does she have a button on her iPad that says mom's cooking, or let's go for a walk or play a game. Maybe she has cabin fever and needs to get out of the house. She is a teenager.
❤❤I absolutely love tgis family ❤️❤️🙏🏽.
Asa for packing outfits when travelling. I’m TOTALLY the same as you. I’m glad I’m not the only one
My niece chewed through the car seat straps?! My sister had to zip tie her in each time to do errands for years?! She is 22 this weekend and has managed to fly in her own out of the country and in the country. She is level 2. Very verbal. But was always isolated by need n preference. She homeschooled in the country. My sister& her dr did not think she would ever drive, work or fly alone. She does all 3 now! Masking though & then meltdowns & shut downs once home. My 18 yr old is level 1 & always homeschooled due to need. Also bad ADHD. She is slowly learning to drive. May take years due in part to anxiety and we are 10 month of Orlando, FL. I suspect our other 3 daughters are ASD as well as myself. Struggling to get diagnosed. Had an anxiety & depression DX by 16. Fibromyalgia by age 25. ADHD at 44. Now 46. I also gave a daughter named Abbey. Adore your family.
Parents can’t be there 24/7… just the way it is 💜
Sebastian Rogers is a 15 year old missing autistic child who vanished in the middle of the night and the mother who was home with him at the time is getting stalked, harassed, slandered because she didn’t expect her son to just leave the home. He’s still missing, since February 26, 2024 from TN. They don’t know if he ran away with absolutely nothing, got lured by an online predator from gaming online or what exactly made him leave the home that night.
2:40 I saw that as Abbie knocking on a door, I don’t know if you know anyone where you have to knock.
Or it could be stimming. I very occasionally do that one scrunching my hands up and shaking then while they’re tensed. The last time I did it I was in a lot of pain, baking and nothing was going right, I dropped the whisk from the mixer, so cake mix everywhere, I dropped a spatula which hit the cocoa powder that went everywhere…I’d not slept for two nights and I was so annoyed by those few hours. That was just before Christmas. I’m usually pretty placid by inanimate objects not behaving 😤 our chat d the others in the family know I’m not angry at them or going to be violent, as do the other children in my family as we share child care.
Blessing! We have the same worries and challenges with gates being “secured” but not locked from deliveries or unfamiliar people breaking the latches.
Been thinking about a tattoo (address & wife’s phone) since clothes aren’t even guaranteed & the GPS got h2o ruined.
Thanks for sharing. Seriously.
We have them on all our doors, because we have a pool. The alarms are pretty loud.
Our son when he was 8 got lost at Oakland Coliseum, after a A’s game. I was so scared, because the Bart station was right there,we had told the salf
Oh wow!!! So scary and so proud at the same time!!!!
I’m so proud of Abbie ❤😊
I am very organized my husband not so much but we have been married 49 years now so he has gotten a lot better and he likes it. So there is a chance it will rub off on Pricilla.
YOU need louder chimes when she leaves never letter go out alone. My non verbalson's are always in my sight.
🌸 💙💙💙 Have a wonderful trip!!! 😁
Your heart must have been in your throat…..so scary, but she did not bolt! Great job teaching her to ring the doorbell, she just wanted to change up her pacing routine!❤. So glad she stayed on the property!!❤️🙏❤️🙏
Abby is a smart young lady for having autism and she was so smart coming to the front door and ringing the door bell
I've been there- it's the worst feeling in the world. Especially when you have a system in place. But then they get older and figure things out
Put latch lock on top of gate (panels that are facing driveway) the ppl going out of the gate from backyard to where the cars are they reach their hand over top of door gate and unlock or lock
Hi from 1stie. Proud of you Abbie
Way to go Abbie! ❤