I pray that my ex finds Jesus Christ, as his Savior, almost every night. God said to love your enemies. I don't FEEL love for them, so, I pray for them.
When I was a little girl I would worry myself sick that my mom was going to hell I still do but it made me sick as a child because even though she went to church and told everybody what a great Christian woman she was I could tell their was something very very wrong with her.
This is one of the most profoundly insightful and clear descriptions of narcissism that I have ever encountered. As a survivor of over 30 years of narcissistic abuse in my marriage and a lifetime of it with my family, I have explored narcissism for decades. Thank you for this video.
I agree you are right - i listen to everyhing you post and have thanks to the info you put out there ive been no contact with my narcissist since the last half of 2021 - presently i cant afford your sessions but will continue to watch all you videos
Exactly it started with Cain, and the whole world had grown wicked like it is today and is getting worse. That’s why Jesus it would be like the days of Noah. And that’s why they Bible tells us what people will be like lovers of selfs, it is nothing new only difference we have more technology. The Bible was warning us this would come many just don’t see how the two relate until you have experienced narcissistic abuse then things slowly start to come together in understanding. Thanks so much, Kevin because this unlike I’ve heard too even listening to Shaneen Madji.
@@sirena9167 yes! Him and Shaneen are my two favorites. It makes so much more sense when it’s explained biblically. I started seeing narcissism in the Bible and I got such validation when others did too.
I suspect there's some kind of spirit. The fact that all narcissists behave in a similar predictable fashion, it's almost like they're all somehow related 🤔
They are definitely good at keeping score of your wrongdoings even if they are perceived and not real. I could let things go or give my specific person the benefit of the doubt, but they used to literally write down everything to keep track of every time they felt rejected.
Kevin, it’s Leah from the phone appointment a month or so ago. Just wanted you to know I GOT AWAY and am safe with family. Thanks so much for your support and God bless you! ☮️💟☯️
Well done! But do not let your guard down. They will try their best to get back into your life. Avoid them. Go fully no contact, but be on guard always.
I have never thought or heard any pastor preach about Cain this way. But you are just spot on with these phases linked to a narc. Great job, Kevin. Thanks 🙏
It's a part, but this is a story that plays many times over the ages. Please pray from all who May become lost in the storm, please pray for us. I will remain among them as long as I am able. Please don't give up.
Pastors....99.9% are narcs themselves. Their congregations being their narcissistic supply😰. Matthew 23: 8-12But you, do not be called 'Rabbi';(Pastor, Reverend, priest etc etc) for One is your Teacher, the Christ, and you are all brethren. 9 Do not call anyone on earth your father; for One is your Father, He who is in heaven. 10 And do not be called teachers; for One is your Teacher, the Christ. 11 But he who is greatest among you shall be your servant. 12 And whoever exalts himself will be humbled, and he who humbles himself will be exalted. JESUS CHRIST MUST BE OUR ONLY PASTOR!!!
Jesus Christ said the greatest in the kingdom of heaven will live as servant, not as one who's a leader over the group. Most pastors do the opposite of what Jesus Christ said to do. I'm even wondering if Church is supposed to be set up the way it is since it's clearly set up to put the narcissist above Christians and mislead them. I don't think it was meant to be set up where one man stands at a pulpit on Sunday and every Christian just sits way down below the pastor listening. Looking at early accounts of the Church they would have many people in the Church give a speech about something in front of other Christians.
I agree with you. I’ve always felt Cain embodied “envy is as cruel as the grave.” Then, he took absolutely no responsibility for what he did. He demanded accommodations for his life when God could’ve just taken him out! The arrogance. But God isn’t willing that any should perish…so Cain is left to teach us lessons to live.
Narcissists turn that around too and try and make you feel rejected for mistakes or let downs, it’s gaslighting, and they project their shame, maybe in a way we do reject them too because they’re so repulsive
I recently went no contact with a narcissist family group . All I received from them was contempt, blame shifting, constant resentment, devaluation, rivalry and gossip. I’m grateful for your channel. I’m actually beginning to feel happy and free again. God help them all I can say.
Theyre basically a child having a tantrum that the other child got more presents than they did , at which point the mum sits them down and explains different values in the gifts and that noone is more valuable than the other. Then said child doesn't grow out of this and it becomes a monster wanting bigger and better all their lives..they grow a mask to hide the internal hissy fit but as an empath that's what I sense.
The more I think about, the more I feel sorry for narcissists. They will spend their whole lives in darkness, angry. I am kind of glad to have gone through it in my teenage years. Now, with this knowledge, I can structure the rest of my life (adult life) accordingly and protect myself against demons. I can and will protect my sanity. I don't even care if other people understand me or not. I don't care if I stand alone in truth. But I'm sure, those nars will meet their match one day and it will hurt. There cannot go 200 km/h in the wrong lane and not get hit.
Please I need help. I’ve been the scapegoat in my family for as long as I can remember. My Aunt especially doesn’t respect in any way and I managed to go no contact for 2 years. In the country where I live the job opportunities are very limited and we’ve been asked to leave in 4 months and now these people who have always shown me disrespect are now claiming they want to help me but I don’t trust them. This is just an opportunity for them to draw me back. My Auntie has a son abroad who she claims wants to come here for me because the job opportunities abroad are vast it has been 5 years since she told me that. Please I need help, anyone that can help me, I need your help. If you can help me get to America, so I can get a good job you’d change my life.
Just hop on a plane to Mexico, and cross illegally, saying you want asylum. Millions have done it. Then, when you get here, they will treat you better than they treat the Veterans, and the poor here! I am being sarcastic, but, it is true. They give those people free housing, free healthcare, free food, clothing, shoes, smart phones, and more, for breaking the law. Bad guys, here, can commit murder, and get away with it, if you claim to be of a certain political persuasion.
I once heard a Bishop say, "The first dysfunctional family was Adam & Eve." I agree that was the first of Narcissistism. It makes perfect sense. Thanks, Kevin.
@@Sky-sd2kv Eve was seduced by the Serpent. She agreed to it, he didn't force her. The Serpent was Cain's bio father. Then Adam also "partook of the fruit" (sex with Eve) right after seeing how it was done and produced Abel (heteropaternal twin of Cain).
Wow what a great message! i don't feel alone on this anymore !! i have made my research about narcissism in the scriptures! and came to realize that from the beginning there are only two types of people in this world ! there is a Cain or there is an Able.. two seeds.. God did not make things complicated! Amen'!
Yes Cain or Abel. The two (GENEtic) seedlines was written about and summed up specifically in GENEsis 3:15 and Psalm 58:3-5 see KJV or NKJV. Cain's offspring are also referred to as "serpents" and "vipers".....because the Serpent was Cain's father.
@@reesedaniel5835 I don't think one can conclude that Cain was the serpent's son from the Bible, since Genesis 4:1 clearly states that Cain was conceived through Adam having relations with Eve. That might be part of extra-Biblical material, but doesn't seem to mesh satisfactorily enough with the Genesis account. How do you reconcile the two? While "eating" can be a euphemism for sexual relations, it isn't always, otherwise we would all starve to death.
Very interesting. A Persian poet Hafez Shiraz says,if you can accept to lose what God wants you to lose ,then you can reach to the point that God wants a real human to reach . I believe these people use anything even evil side so they should be winning person. They should always be the winner,no matter what happens to others. They don't care about honesty and others rights. They can not lose and they should be winner. Thank you Kevin. These lessons from Bible is really interesting and helpful to me.
Thank you Kevin! Just sent this video to a friend. You really did put a brand new light on this story of the roots of narcissistic behavior. Everyone has childhood trauma to deal with, but not everyone becomes a narcissist. It is truly a protective mechanism gone wrong and then it seeks to punish others. When God was correcting Cain, as any loving parent will do from time to time, Cain did not receive the correction and change, but went in the opposite direction---he rejected the correction because he felt rejected and then every other bad thing followed. The Lord corrects all whom He loves. That is a word for all of us, to take God's correction as an act of love and then to change our behavior.
I had one "friend" who - I'm quite sure - was upset that I didn't put her as the #1 person in my life. I would have done almost anything for her. I had a network of friends before I met her and didn't feel the desire to cut ties with them. She was/has been part of a smear campaign, along with a troubled relative of mine, that could make one's head explode. Very difficult to accept what the blaring sirens and red flags were screaming for many years. I have FINALLY done this. I admit much of the problem has been my own for not acting on what my gut/the Holy Spirit was trying to pound into me.. Oh my! Thank you, Kevin!
Like most people, I am at a loss for words at the depth of evil that exists in our world today. As a Christian living in the U.S, the only things that give my husband & me hope are: our faith in Jesus Christ & the Bible. John 14:1-8, Jesus says, "Do not let your heart be troubled... Trust in God and also trust in me...." I encourage everyone who is reading this to put your full TRUST in Jesus Christ. He ALONE is our REFUGE & STRENGTH NOT a pastor, politicians, & the like. We are living in the last days and Jesus is coming back soon. Jesus told us that we'll recognize His followers by their fruits. The people that are pastors, leaders, or anyone who claim to follow Christ, can you see Christ in the way they live and speak? Remember that a person can say they believe in Christ and even recite scriptures, but they are worshipping Satan in plain sight and/or behind closed doors. Sometimes the best thing to do with people who are willingly doing evil is to cut off contact or show care for them from a distance. People who are truly repentant & sorry for their actions, it will be evident in the way they speak/treat you & others. And it will be consistent. You shouldn't have to question if someone means you well. If you have to question it, that is usually a sign that they are deceiving you. Matthew 7:15-16 says, "Watch out for false prophets. They come to you in sheep's clothing, but inwardly they are ferocious wolves. By their fruit, you will know them." Read the Bible for yourselves, so that you will be able to have a deeper relationship with Christ and know His will for your life. Reading the Bible, even if you only know a few things, God will teach you through His Holy Spirit to discern who the false teachers/Christians are and those who are true followers of Christ. 1 Peter 5:8 says, "Be self-controlled and alert. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaming lion looking for whom he may devour." We need Christ to help us during these dark times, as He ALONE is ALL POWERFUL🙏 Cry out to Jesus, seek Him, & read the Bible, as all of the darkness that exists today were predicted in the Bible. Matthew 24. Jesus said that during the last days, evil will increase, people will betray one another, hate everything that is good, & more. When Jesus returns, will you be ready to meet Him? Matthew 23:42-44 says, "Therefore keep watch, because you do not know on what day your Lord will return... So you must be ready, because the son of man will come like a thief in the night."
Like most people, I am at a loss for words at the depth of evil that exists in our world today. As a Christian living in the U.S, the only things that give my husband & me hope are: our faith in Jesus Christ & the Bible. John 14:1-8, Jesus says, "Do not let your heart be troubled... Trust in God and also trust in me...." I encourage everyone who is reading this to put your full TRUST in Jesus Christ. He ALONE is our REFUGE & STRENGTH NOT a pastor, politicians, & the like. We are living in the last days and Jesus is coming back soon. Jesus told us that we'll recognize His followers by their fruits. The people that are pastors, leaders, or anyone who claim to follow Christ, can you see Christ in the way they live and speak? Remember that a person can say they believe in Christ and even recite scriptures, but they are worshipping Satan in plain sight and/or behind closed doors. Sometimes the best thing to do with people who are willingly doing evil is to cut off contact or show care for them from a distance. People who are truly repentant & sorry for their actions, it will be evident in the way they speak/treat you & others. And it will be consistent. You shouldn't have to question if someone means you well. If you have to question it, that is usually a sign that they are deceiving you. Matthew 7:15-16 says, "Watch out for false prophets. They come to you in sheep's clothing, but inwardly they are ferocious wolves. By their fruit, you will know them." Read the Bible for yourselves, so that you will be able to have a deeper relationship with Christ and know His will for your life. Reading the Bible, even if you only know a few things, God will teach you through His Holy Spirit to discern who the false teachers/Christians are and those who are true followers of Christ. 1 Peter 5:8 says, "Be self-controlled and alert. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaming lion looking for whom he may devour." We need Christ to help us during these dark times, as He ALONE is ALL POWERFUL🙏 Cry out to Jesus, seek Him, & read the Bible, as all of the darkness that exists today were predicted in the Bible. Matthew 24. Jesus said that during the last days, evil will increase, people will betray one another, hate everything that is good, & more. When Jesus returns, will you be ready to meet Him? Matthew 23:42-44 says, "Therefore keep watch, because you do not know on what day your Lord will return... So you must be ready, because the son of man will come like a thief in the night."
@@-gordon3817 Yes, Yes, and AMEN, Sister! Yes, I love and pray, and even fast, for these folks, and for others - but mostly behind bomb-proof walls. I don't know if it is doing anything for them, but I know it helps me not to harbor bitterness towards them. Always hopeful! God bless you both!!!
There's a narcissist in my family tree who has had many falling outs with old friends, and now, he badmouths them behind their back every chance he gets. I guarantee you they most likely told him something he didn't want to hear, and instead of taking the advice, he took it personally, triggering the vindictive element within his personality. He's also the most insecure person I know. You can't tell this guy anything without him getting triggered.
The narcissist I've had the misfortune of getting to know a bit both attempted to assassinate my character to ANYONE with a nearby ear to hear their lies, fabrications &/or half-truths. Of course there were things I might've said or done differently that might or might not have lessened the vindictiveness.
There is most likely more than one, in your family. The one you mentioned, was the obvious one, maybe an overt narc. Probably some Covert floating around too.
Good word! My observation of this account in scripture as well as those I have dealt with is a lack of humility to be corrected. A lack of submission to the One greater than themselves. If someone is greater or better than them they look at it as a rejection. When in fact, they cannot accept their place and what they were created to be and their role in life. Satan was the same way .. he wanted to be like the Most High instead of doing what He was created to do. Thank you so much for all that you do for this community. You are so appreciated.
Yeah. Am And in true narc style, Cain's offering was intentionally sub standard. Abel's offering was the best if his Produce, Abel brought fat portions from some of the firstborn of his stock. Cain already knew his offering wasn't his best or first fruit. So typical. They do something out of pride, then when they feel shame, they blame their brother, who is righteous.
This pattern has continued centuries in dysfunctional families, and these traits ( getting ahead no matter what the cost, thinking of only self, ) are valued in society.The young child of narcissistic has their little beautiful self squashed., not validated for just who you are, have to be in their image or ideal of who you should be.
I got out!!! 🙌🏽🙌🏽Saturday night I went overnight and cleared my stuff and blocked him. He was beginning to show signs of violence. He’s on sooo many drugs (lsd, ectsacy, etc,etc)😳 I realized this is nothing to play with Before I blocked him I said “As I the Lord live, every knee will bow and every tongue confess to God “ then “I hope you heal”. I pray that he will find Christ, in the meantime I’m so thankful to be free❤ Appreciate your content brother. It’s helping so much 🙏🏽
You are on point ☝️ wow The Lord's Holy Bible 📖 is truly the book of Life and everything we need to know to live peacefully..... is in there xXx We all need to study the Bible, hardout ♥️🌼
When I tell you this was the single most POWERFUL video on Narcissism I have HAVE EVER had the pleasure to see? My GOD!!!!!!! This is soooooooo accurate and gives me such relief to know what to pray!!!! “We fight NOT against flesh and blood, BUT AGAINST PRINCIPALITIES!” Sheeeeeeesh!!! Started up a whole praise session!!! Thank you Most High for clarity!
Brilliant explanation👏 💯🎯 Mask, destruction, denial and victimhood. Envy is a form of hatred and there is where the destruction stems from.... people devoid of love...love to self and others...
Maria, Yes, envy, victimhood, and lot's of anger! I escaped 34 year's of that and got entangled with what I thought was a heaven sent partner, now 12 year's later and 4 year's apart, it was always obvious they both thought the planet rotates around their being! You could perform standing on your head, and it's never good enough, because they want to crush your head, cause it to implode with the verbal abuse, that I could never fathom or even think of saying to a being we allegedly love! They are definitely agents of the demonic realm!
This is amazing that this vid was in my recommended this morning! I woke up with a strong urge to look up the royal we after I’d been going through trying to understand why my twin had been abusive towards me all my life, causing me chronic illness and even trying to murder me ... thank you so much
Jane888.. we grow up thinking wouldn't it be lovely having a twin. This is a wakeup, and can't imagine what you went through as must be near impossible escaping a twin. Talk about the floor disappearing under your feet! I do hope you are on the healing path, that you are feeling comfort from Kevin and the royalwe family. Thank you for sharing
Like most people, I am at a loss for words at the depth of evil that exists in our world today. As a Christian living in the U.S, the only things that give my husband & me hope are: our faith in Jesus Christ & the Bible. John 14:1-8, Jesus says, "Do not let your heart be troubled... Trust in God and also trust in me...." I encourage everyone who is reading this to put your full TRUST in Jesus Christ. He ALONE is our REFUGE & STRENGTH NOT a pastor, politicians, & the like. We are living in the last days and Jesus is coming back soon. Jesus told us that we'll recognize His followers by their fruits. The people that are pastors, relatives, leaders, doctors, or anyone who claim to follow Christ, can you see Christ in the way they live and speak? Remember that a person can say they believe in Christ and even recite scriptures, but they are worshipping Satan in plain sight/behind closed doors. Sometimes the best thing to do with people who are willingly doing evil is to cut off contact or show care for them from a distance. People who are truly repentant & sorry for their actions, it will be evident in the way they speak/treat you & others. And it will be consistent. You shouldn't have to question if someone means you well. If you have to question it, that is usually a sign that they are deceiving you. Matthew 7:15-16 says, "Watch out for false prophets. They come to you in sheep's clothing, but inwardly they are ferocious wolves. By their fruit, you will know them." Read the Bible for yourselves, so that you will be able to have a deeper relationship with Christ and know His will for your life. Reading the Bible, even if you only know a few things, God will teach you through His Holy Spirit to discern who the false teachers/Christians are and those who are true followers of Christ. 1 Peter 5:8 says, "Be self-controlled and alert. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaming lion looking for whom he may devour." We need Christ to help us during these dark times, as He ALONE is ALL POWERFUL🙏 Cry out to Jesus, seek Him, & read the Bible, as all of the darkness that exists today were predicted in the Bible. Matthew 24. Jesus said that during the last days, evil will increase, people will betray one another, hate everything that is good, & more. When Jesus returns, will you be ready to meet Him? Matthew 23:42-44 says, "Therefore keep watch, because you do not know on what day your Lord will return... So you must be ready, because the son of man will come like a thief in the night."
🌹💔❤️ They all have said the same as I would have said.. 😢I’m SO sorry.. its Horrible to be treated this way.. and even when they try to kill you.. PLS, take care of yourself.. Lots of love from scandinavia ❤️
Wow such a great video, it was very thoughtful thought 👌 you are so right it’s the same behavior.. narcissist never accepts her/his fault, makes more stories and thoughts which not even related to what they have done wrong.. stories makers.. God bless you Sir, great work 👌😊
Thank you for explaining this through the bible. In my experience jealousy has been very prevalent in a narcissistic friendship. It’s too bad but better to find out the earliest possible
This is exactly who they are and how they operate step by step! I never really accepted the Jezebel spirit too much but I definitely seen it in Cain but not in as much depth you have discovered! Once again thank you and excellent excellent knowledgeable video.
This describes my sister perfectly. She held a grudge against my late husband for close to 30 years. She masked herself and refused to visit him right before he died. She finally admitted it then said she didn't say that! I'm no contact with her and the other toxic "family".
@@Sky-sd2kv The narc usually won't go through that dark night of the soul until they are weeping and gnashing their teeth on the way to hell. They just kick the bucket down the road their entire lives by projecting their junk onto others and abusing others.
That was one of the best explanation of narcissistic behavior. My sisters are the narcissists in my life and you described their behavior exactly. Thank you 😊 💓
I cut ties with my sisters. They are toxic to me. I am alone, but, I have my Bible, and Jesus! It took five mini strokes, diabetes, and porphyria, and much more, to make me realize, I had to get those toxic people, out of my life.
Fantastic post! I worked for over two decades hi level fashion - i was ALWAYS having fantastic photo shoots 'dropped' (rejected) it was the BEST spiritual education i had - as i knew my shoots were great. Published or not published i knew it was ok....Grundge barers = Narks.
They probably never will in this life, but one second after they die, they will get it WAY worse than any of us ever did and it will be ETERNAL.❤🔥🔥😈❤🔥🔥👹
@@reesedaniel5835 Yes but for the victims it would be far more better to see them pay in this life!! Don t get me wrong I m not talking about revenge but seeing them live their life and get away with everything they do or even mocking the victims is not easy!!! 🤔
God's word says..."Whatsoever (good or bad) you mete (give) out will be meted (given) back to you." It's a spiritual law of 'what goes around comes around'.
I've just lost my mother and my older sisters stole all her money , they literally took her to her bank to hand over all her cash and they said there was nothing left . They wouldn't allow me to have a single hat that she wore . I believe they have no guilt because they decided to believe I wasn't blood .
My sincere condolences for your loss. You are blessed to now know the truth of who your sisters are and can take steps to avoid becoming their victim. Seek the Lord.
That's tragic on so many levels. I'm so sorry for the loss of your mother. May happy memories of her be plentiful as your mourn, celebrate her life, or whenever you think of her.
Thank you so much for this! I’m new to the bible..but have been in this relationship with narcissist for 10 years ..still can’t see the light at the end of tunnel. Gives me hope
I do agree with other comment. Best thing to do is to leave the narcissist but is hard as u've been to long u get attached or thinking that u won't find anyone. God is greater than our hearts and your person is looking for u right now but as long us u with the wrong person, u busy not available for right men. And this narcissist that u with is shaking off and trying to get off your crown 👑 off your head. Remember u r Queen and u strong, u can do anything
Agree 100%. I would also add that the rejection is also seen as a relinquishment of their control over the offering and you taking it. Refusing an offer signifies individual choice/individuality separate from just seeing you as an extension of someone in their orbit. We all know they cannot handle loss of control or a person exhibiting individuality. So in this instance the refusal means they lost both the "control" and the "supply" they needed.
I was married to a covert narcissist and I totally agree with everything you said. That’s exactly what I learned and experienced from my situation which by praying and asking God to deliver me from this situation, in his mercy he did. I will always be so thankful 🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️
I also believe that that spirit feeds off th power of watching and producing th pain in their choosen victim s ..th more power you consume.. th more you want.. 😔that's why you have to walk away
You 100% nailed it brother. Before my dad passed away 13 years ago he warned me my mother is a control freak ,that was an understatement as my mother is a full blown narcissist, the abuse, manipulation, lies, the list is endless. My mother is now 83 years old has grown more manipulative with the narcissism. As I became born again 27 years ago i couldn't live with the guilt of putting my mother into a nursing home. I moved out several times but was manipulated into coming back. But when all is said and done i learned a lot like putting a stop to arguments as the scriptures declare in James 5:12 Let your 'Yes" be yes ,and your "No " no . ( I can testify to the fact that will stop an argument starting with a narcissist, it starves the narcissist and leaves them stumped. ) Brilliant teaching and video brother, liked, subscribed and shared. Blessings from Ireland in the name of Jesus Christ. ( Sorry I almost forgot to give Glory and praise to God for giving me the strength through the power of the Holy Spirit and know i have become a more mature christain through this living nightmare of a narcissistic relationship, look what Joseph had to endure before God brought him from the prison to the palace, i ain't expecting to end up in a palace but knowing one day i will be set free is enough to fight the good fight and keep the faith through prayer and not give up. Hallelujah)
Very powerful message the correlation with narcissistic behavior that Cain used against Able in Genesis 4 of the Bible is a great example! I look forward to hearing more from you thank you so much!
You are absolutely on point with the Cain / narcissism comparison. I haven't heard it in that context before but you connected all the dots and it makes total sense. Thank you for sharing your insights and helping with healing process through biblical references.
I wonder often what it was that set her against me; my first recollection of the beginning of the devalue stage was that I admitted one of my vulnerabilities to her. It's interesting that she managed to turn my vulnerability against me in front of others while, at the same time, she put on the mask of self righteousness.
That's exactly it. How cpmmon it has become that it's blended into society as if it were normal even I've recognized it growing up in hostile emviroment of drinkers. And beared witness even in people with differnt beliefs or different perspectives on politics or religion.
Thank You, Kevin! That was very insightful on a Bible story most christians(Myself included) that think: I've heard this story so many times, what else can I take away from it?' I'm so glad to be proven wrong! I will definitely need to study scripture & reflect on Your lesson, and work harder to apply it to myself from now on! It gives valuable insight into my own outlook and mentality that has plagued me since childhood, which I'm trying to change and grow past so I walk more closely with The Lord. I'm just so tired of being stuck in this cycle of emotional reaction and decision making. IMHO, It's gone on for far too long in my life. And I know I've hurt too many ppl around me thinking and interpreting this way. Thank You again for the valuable insight Kevin, I know The Lord was speaking through You in this video! Praise The Lord for convicting my wicked heart through this video!
Lobster. I am so impressed by your comment and your ability to see that the people who are being described in this video are you!! I believe only God can change a narcissist's thinking. As only God can take addicts out of their addiction. We cannot do this on our own. So amazing to see you admit that you are a narcissist. You are obviously on the road to recovery as admitting this fact is almost impossible for a narc to do. God bless you Lobster. Your heart is being changed by our sweet Lord. He is good!
I love how you explained that story! Thank you so much, it never sat right with me the teachings that go around saying that Jezebel and Ahab spirit are behind narcissistic spirit This really reasonated with my spirit
Yes Sure. Jezebel Spirit murders the believer by violating boundaries (her husband), Ahab Spirit the whining toddler getting a temper tantrum, victimizing. Jezebel the malignant, Ahab the covert narcissist.
@@Corinna_Schuett_GER Jezebel and Ahab were spiritual/biological descendants of Cain the father of narcissists..aka also narcissisits. These are just sub types of same category.
I stopped going to Church after being disappointed with Sunday school. Studying the Bible after so many years without a preacher helps. Cai was definitely the prime example of a narcissist. Thank you Brightest Blessings Trina
I had been spending some time understanding the spirit behind NPD. Came across many explaining it as the Jezebel spirit. Though no doubt that they carry some traits common to the character of Jezebel, but meditating ( and praying) one night, I felt the dots were not connecting without extrapolation. You hit the nail right on head, Kevin. It is way inline to what you've explained. Keep it up bro!
Jezebel was plainly a spiritual/genetic descendant of Cain so the "spirit of Jezebel" is just a sub category of narcissism. Cain is the father of all narcissists but their are sub categories and types, Jezebel is one of them.
I don’t qualify as a narcissist. But, I do understand that people may have the inability to separate rejection of self and the offering, because the idea is that the offering comes from the self. You may also have a recipient, who is intentionally working to triangulate. It can be a lot to ask of the gifter, to separate self and offering, when the recipient is masking their own intentions, especially if they’re a parent and if it is on a continual basis. This may describe my sister’s plight, although she was switched into the golden child role, only recently in life. Where my mother was concerned, perhaps, she was triangulated by life, for lack of a better phrase. Late and I’m sleepy. But, my mother was a Baby Boomer. They, very much, believed that, as long as you put in the work, you were going to get what you wanted in life. Maybe even more. That, if you didn’t get there, that was simply on you. For my mother, there was no accounting for things like social, political, global or other events. After all, from her perspective, as a black woman, she went through the 1960s and came out of it pretty badass. Beautiful (she modeled), smart, talented. As her eldest child, anything I could do, she could do better - until she found out that wasn’t quite true. I’ll note that I’m not as pretty, I’m overweight and I’m not as talented either. But, what she did as a hobby, I did as a career and she became dependent upon my skills. I won’t go any further with that but, in the end, the offering that was all she was, became clobbered by marriage and redirection into that which led to her downfall. Personally, I feel that, other than choosing what ended up to be a wrong path for her, she offered all she could, of herself, in life. What she received, in return, was a complete smack down. She didn’t know where to channel her rage and I looked like the most stable recipient of it. That, too, failed as I left her. This is why I have always felt that, while people speak of there being a god, one things for certain. That there is not fairness. Because we all know of people, who’ve done quite little and, even if by their low bar standards, they are not tortured. They’re quite comfortable. This alone, makes the separation between offering and self, quite murky and unfair to the human race. Because some do quite well and offer neither.
Yeah, one thing life taught me was that it doesn't pay to be good. All the people who I would consider selfish, careless, wicked, they seem to be quite happy and behave as if nothing happened. I stopped believing in karma for this reason. It was just me suffering at the end and having to rebuild, lol. I still don't want to be like them, but I know I'm getting nothing in return for that, as I never have. I'll be okay, though.
@@jordanferguson2254 yeah, I don’t believe in karma either. People just keep getting away with things and carry on with their lives, while some enabler whispers in your ear that God’s got this and vengeance isn’t yours. Heck, you won’t even have a nosebleed seat to vengeance, because it probably won’t happen, even once you’re dead and gone. The only “vengeance” I’ve gotten, is that my mother passed, in miserable conditions, before me and that my sister is suffering now. But, I, too, am suffering, because of what my mother began, in the first place. I am so sick of everything that I’m not only an introvert, but have become a misanthropist. I’m also working to leave everything behind to animal charities. Most would openly say, “That’s a waste!” Well, I can think of better ways to waste it…” Animals have been the best, most consistent contributors to my life, while humans have generally been a nightmare, intended or otherwise, in one form or another. Even people I know, who know that I, now, really have no family to leave anything to, because I’ve gone no contact with most, the others I don’t even know and the one I do is likely to pass before me, quite casually offer that I can leave everything to them. Yeah, don’t wait for it.
@@jordanferguson2254 Because sentence against an evil work is not executed speedily, therefore the heart of the sons of men is fully set in them to do evil. Ecclesiastes 8:11
@@jordanferguson2254 you reap what you sow. Karma is real because i have experienced it. When i was younger i wanted to be known and have meaningful connections to others i try to be a good friend to others because i wanted friends. But i was insecure so it was like not my authentic self i tried to show and be an upliftment to others but i wasnt really helping myself and really asking them about their day because i wanted to mean something to them but it wasnt really sincere and was manipulative because i also alot wanted people to look up to me and have followers. So i was trying to be a good person to get others to like me but it was very manipulative and i lied alot. The thing that saved me was when i just oneday decided to just be real and open up and it wasnt easy because i wanted to impress others and get validation and also wanted a friend because i never felt i fitted in school with others and just express myself and talk about how i feel to specific people in my life who gave me the space to do that. And im really thankful for them. I had deep and meaningful conversations i never had with anyone. They werent judging me or criticizing about what i say but were listening and adding their input. And it all started to grow because i wanted to be real and just wanted to be truthful. But like anything i had ups and down with them. But it was easier to tell the truth to them because i felt i had a real friend who cares about what i think and feel and would talk to me and be so open minded and i felt loved and so i was able to trust them and i never really had someone i can trust and talk to. They were also the first ones that let me be opened to the idea of god and jesus christ and i believe he is real and he saved me and i felt that my friends saved me too. They were the friends i met in middleschool. But the others that i tried to manipulate were online when i was trying to make friends. But i eventually stopped talking to all of them. But i recieved my karma in ways like just meeting alot of mean nasty people. I learned that i can actually be in my truth and i dont need to be afraid and that their are people that are for me and im not alone. And that im loved and wanted and appreciated even though i suffered alot from my parents and abuse from bullying that goes in school. And that i have a loving god jesus christ who died for my sins and my angels. But im still learning to take care of myself and believe in myself and have faith. So i wish that anyone who reads this will find something that i say helpful for them. And i dont want them to give up. You are all loved. Dont be afraid to make the first move and be honest and real with others, because its worth it. You are ALWAYS worthy of a loving truthful and meaningful and honest connection with yourself and others. Dont let the few people bring you down. You just need to take a chance and dont let the fear of rejection stop you with that someone you want a deeper connection with or to have a good friend. If you can be honest with you and learn to be okay with being real, you will find others who are like you and you will find those who want to be real with you. Be brave and be truthful. Love truth. Love jesus. And jesus loves you. Dont let society or anyone drain you or put you down with their lies and unreasonable expectations and their abuse. Think positively and believe in you. Try and have good thoughts only! Block out or disregard the negative thoughts. Dont let the devil and demons win. Dont talk down to yourself. I hope you all be healed in jesus name and do the work you need to do to bring yourself out of any negative situation or circumstances. I know you guys are so strong. I love you and i wish you the best always. And i wish you to be the best you can be always. 🙏❤🙂😊😘 You are not a failure or a loser, you are here for a reason, you matter so choose to see it that way. Dont say you dont. Thats a lie. Nothing is random. I dont care if school or others or society based on their expectations tell you your not worth it. Im here to tell you and i hope you listen because YOU ARE WORTH IT. Jesus definitely does. Your angels do too. Dont be scared. Explore and expand your mind. Feel your feelings dont suppress them and experience them. Its gonna be great and beautiful. You will be more than okay 😁. I definitely recommend reading the bible. Especially using the original texts with greek like the greek and english interlinear bible that i recently bought. I trust this version. I dont trust hebrew translation or any other bible. Just greek and english interlinear.
Man this was deep bro. I definitely agree. When you think about crimes where people were lured to their death and blood spilled in the soil ...it's too real
I often find myself wishing that God had destroyed Cain for murdering Abel. That would have ended the seedline of narcissists instantly. I guess he let Cain live and reproduce to teach His own people lessons that we would never have learned otherwise. But still, all the horrific suffering caused by these sub humans makes my skin crawl.
Totally agree that was some really good lesson I love to learn and see depth in the word of God, life is there. Thank you for sharing the treasure. Love Ruthie
I love the way some of these people love to have "a secret" as to why some things are happening in your life - smear campaigns, for example - and tell you things like. "there are just some things we may never understand in life" when you try to bring up some of the nasty things you know they did. These people are like quicksand mixed with tar. Even when you get out of it, it takes a little while to scrape off the sticky residue. (: But it is possible.
Kevin, thanks for this great analysis. Something I've been thinking about is that the Bible doesn't use the word "narcissist;" it uses "wicked." A description of wickedness can be found in Genesis 6:5, "every intent of the thoughts of his heart was only evil continually."
The amazing thing for me was i was just this morning thinking about the spirit of narcissism in the world today and wondering where in the bible I would find it. Then this afternoon your video showed up. Thank you Lord and thank you brother. Spot on 👍
I would've said Saul (king Saul, not Saul/Paul), but I love and agree with your take too! Your videos are extremely helpful, thanks for doing them. It's refreshing to hear believers talk about this, so many just justify abuse or tell people in church to continually put up with hurts.
I agree. I have reached out to pastors and church leaders over the decades for help and answers and never had one of them suggesting leaving. My current pastor has been the most understanding, but he is such a kind person, and fantastic husband and father himself, that I think he has trouble wrapping his head around how different and horrid someone can be behind closed doors when their church mask comes off.
I'm under this right now.. This is great that it can be explained through Jesus.. As I'm back in a great relationship with my Lord Jesus Christ again.. Just came accross this by chance.. Great Stuff.. God Bless all. Love from Australia. 🙏🏻💙
Classically taking things personally, having an entitlement mindset, rage from envy, deflection of responsibility, hypocrisy, fear, catastrophizing acting as if one was betrayed when really a routine interaction or routine refusal was done. Very well done correlation of Cain and narcissism here.
Why was kane's ordering rejected? So Narcissists are cowards, liar's, thieves. And it was the offering that was rejected not Kane?! Okay, did you realize that your friend was a Narcissist? I didn't know that my twin was a narcissist until we were 48 yrs old, because I just chocked it up to " That's just Terri" but it's so messed up when you realize you've been surrounded by Narcissists all my life, and I've lost my happiness, True Love, stability, everything because I was to ignorant to know that the people around me really don't care, or love me the way I loved them. Now 63 and I have no one in my life because they just wanted what they could get, they got it and shut the door in my face. I don't understand how family can do that so easily. I have no friends, and I don't want any either. When I was younger I thought it would be sad to die alone, so I made sure that no one would be alone as long as I was there. Lololol and now I'm next in line to go and I'm going to die alone. How sad.
Sherri ~ Your back story sounds exactly like mine... I'm 68, have no family or friends because they were ALL Abusive Narcissists that I Allowed in my life! Kevin has said this many times... "We have been hanging out with people and in places that we did not have any business with" They were not of the same ethical character as in what we as followers of Christ have & value. I believe that our childhood programming from the Abusive Narcissistic environment is what has caused us to stay in toxic situations with family and the "friends" we allowed in to our circle. The devil wanted to Destroy us through them... but... God! Our Heavenly Father has said Enough! And he opened our eyes! And now... we cannot Not see it! We know that we can never return to it even though the loss has been painful... We have to let them go and move forward on the Path our Father, who Loves us so Deeply, has chosen for us. 💕💕💕
Another 60+ here. I’m so sorry you experienced this and feel alone. It’s a gift to have our eyes opened and to remove those who have abused the s with bad behavior. May you find friends that are wonderful and become your chosen family. May you find joy and peace.
@@megboesch6297 Sounds like my story. 60 here. Family scapegoat. I was the independent kid. Termed difficult because I couldn't be controlled. I walked away 8 mos ago. My narc mom and brother were all I had, but they were always bullies. I learned more about them while my hubby was in the hospital for a long time. These cats were of no support. It often takes a crisis to truly see. their
Read the concept of scapegoat and you will understand it. A narcissistic family works like a cult. It's related to human sacrifices. A group doesn't work when there are problems among the members so they project their faults on someone, the innocent one to destroy or be left alone in the dessert. That way, the members of the group get together again. This happens in families, groups, societies, countries. The figure of the scapegoat is what gives sense to History and why it repeats itself since, eventually, there will be more unrest among the members and they will need another scapegoat.
Kevin, you nailed it! Wonderful lesson and something my younger self needed to hear years ago. This pattern of behavior and verbal abuse followed by a smear campaign is frightening to experience. And then to be told by the Narc after scorching the earth via a rage rant, “you aren’t the victim here, I am.” It’s toxic and crazy making. Thank you for validating reality and putting it into a Biblical perspective. Bless you and yours.
Exactly. The narc I just left ran the gamut from telling me he loved me and showering me with gifts to screaming at me to get out of his house if he got the teeniest bit of resistance (which he said was me being a “smart ass”) to telling me I’d never make anything of myself without him. We’ll see about that as he begged me to stay when I was mid-escape and I know his ego/false self is unraveling like a ball of string now. So glad I got away! Freedom! ☮️💟☯️
I have not met a pastor speaking so much truth the church need to hear for decades. Such truth, such realities and precision. We praise master Jesus Christ for His work in your life
I will say though, not everyone who faces rejection is a narcissist. Many like myself became a people pleaser and times I felt rejected if “my offering” was rejected. I did take it personally because I was so insecure. I didn’t want to confront in fear of being rejected. I wanted to be loved and accepted. I would never hurt nor make anyone feel bad. So, just because a person feels rejected because their offering was rejected doesn’t make them a narcissist. Right? But I see how many are narcissists and become jealous. My sister was always jealous of me because I got all the attention. And she became a narcissist and for years bullied me - I didn’t know how to stand up for myself and when I did she shut me down. I’m healed now and love her. But I don’t have a close relationship with her and I’ve accepted that and I’m healthy now, we’ll work in progress! So much healthier than I’ve ever been.
We don't HATE the narcissist. WE HATE HIS/HER BEHAVIOUR.
I pray that my ex finds Jesus Christ, as his Savior, almost every night. God said to love your enemies. I don't FEEL love for them, so, I pray for them.
When I was a little girl I would worry myself sick that my mom was going to hell I still do but it made me sick as a child because even though she went to church and told everybody what a great Christian woman she was I could tell their was something very very wrong with her.
Murdering spirit! It makes sense, narcissists kill people with words.
Narcissistic people kill with a thousand cuts
This is one of the most profoundly insightful and clear descriptions of narcissism that I have ever encountered. As a survivor of over 30 years of narcissistic abuse in my marriage and a lifetime of it with my family, I have explored narcissism for decades. Thank you for this video.
Yes it is!
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Excellent break down, Kevin. I love how the Bible tells what we need to know about narcissism. There is nothing new under the sun.
Amen, you better tell it so very true!
Yes and ALL things are common to man
I agree you are right - i listen to everyhing you post and have thanks to the info you put out there ive been no contact with my narcissist since the last half of 2021 - presently i cant afford your sessions but will continue to watch all you videos
Exactly it started with Cain, and the whole world had grown wicked like it is today and is getting worse. That’s why Jesus it would be like the days of Noah. And that’s why they Bible tells us what people will be like lovers of selfs, it is nothing new only difference we have more technology. The Bible was warning us this would come many just don’t see how the two relate until you have experienced narcissistic abuse then things slowly start to come together in understanding. Thanks so much, Kevin because this unlike I’ve heard too even listening to Shaneen Madji.
@@sirena9167 yes! Him and Shaneen are my two favorites. It makes so much more sense when it’s explained biblically. I started seeing narcissism in the Bible and I got such validation when others did too.
I suspect there's some kind of spirit. The fact that all narcissists behave in a similar predictable fashion, it's almost like they're all somehow related 🤔
Family of Satan 🙂
Truth
Because they ARE all somehow related....GENEsis 3:15/Psalm 58:3-5 KJV.
Yasssss… their memory of your “rejection” is like that of an elephant, never goes away, but they have amnesia when it’s something good you did/said🙄
Yasssss rhymes with Jazzzzz. Don't you mean...Yesssss???
@@megboesch6297 Yes. That is True. Narcs refuse to take accountability.
They are definitely good at keeping score of your wrongdoings even if they are perceived and not real. I could let things go or give my specific person the benefit of the doubt, but they used to literally write down everything to keep track of every time they felt rejected.
@@s.shumway3104 I record everything. So the Narcissist is screwed. Lol.
@Meg Boesch sounds like Cain is a chip off the old testament god himself lol
Kevin, it’s Leah from the phone appointment a month or so ago. Just wanted you to know I GOT AWAY and am safe with family.
Thanks so much for your support and God bless you! ☮️💟☯️
Congratulations 🎊
Well done! But do not let your guard down. They will try their best to get back into your life. Avoid them.
Go fully no contact, but be on guard always.
I have never thought or heard any pastor preach about Cain this way. But you are just spot on with these phases linked to a narc. Great job, Kevin. Thanks 🙏
It's a part, but this is a story that plays many times over the ages. Please pray from all who May become lost in the storm, please pray for us. I will remain among them as long as I am able. Please don't give up.
@@jameslynch8738 don't pray. You for know what cult god will respond.
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Pastors....99.9% are narcs themselves. Their congregations being their narcissistic supply😰. Matthew 23: 8-12But you, do not be called 'Rabbi';(Pastor, Reverend, priest etc etc) for One is your Teacher, the Christ, and you are all brethren. 9 Do not call anyone on earth your father; for One is your Father, He who is in heaven. 10 And do not be called teachers; for One is your Teacher, the Christ. 11 But he who is greatest among you shall be your servant. 12 And whoever exalts himself will be humbled, and he who humbles himself will be exalted. JESUS CHRIST MUST BE OUR ONLY PASTOR!!!
Jesus Christ said the greatest in the kingdom of heaven will live as servant, not as one who's a leader over the group. Most pastors do the opposite of what Jesus Christ said to do. I'm even wondering if Church is supposed to be set up the way it is since it's clearly set up to put the narcissist above Christians and mislead them. I don't think it was meant to be set up where one man stands at a pulpit on Sunday and every Christian just sits way down below the pastor listening. Looking at early accounts of the Church they would have many people in the Church give a speech about something in front of other Christians.
I agree with you. I’ve always felt Cain embodied “envy is as cruel as the grave.” Then, he took absolutely no responsibility for what he did. He demanded accommodations for his life when God could’ve just taken him out! The arrogance.
But God isn’t willing that any should perish…so Cain is left to teach us lessons to live.
"Am I my brother's keeper?" pretty well sums it up.
Narcissists turn that around too and try and make you feel rejected for mistakes or let downs, it’s gaslighting, and they project their shame, maybe in a way we do reject them too because they’re so repulsive
It’s just like when you don’t agree with something a person said and they take it personally and are not able to separate the two.
Theres a curse that comes with this behavior/action which is the very reason why I will never be involved with a narc
I recently went no contact with a narcissist family group . All I received from them was contempt, blame shifting, constant resentment, devaluation, rivalry and gossip. I’m grateful for your channel. I’m actually beginning to feel happy and free again. God help them all I can say.
Theyre basically a child having a tantrum that the other child got more presents than they did , at which point the mum sits them down and explains different values in the gifts and that noone is more valuable than the other. Then said child doesn't grow out of this and it becomes a monster wanting bigger and better all their lives..they grow a mask to hide the internal hissy fit but as an empath that's what I sense.
The more I think about, the more I feel sorry for narcissists. They will spend their whole lives in darkness, angry. I am kind of glad to have gone through it in my teenage years. Now, with this knowledge, I can structure the rest of my life (adult life) accordingly and protect myself against demons. I can and will protect my sanity. I don't even care if other people understand me or not. I don't care if I stand alone in truth. But I'm sure, those nars will meet their match one day and it will hurt. There cannot go 200 km/h in the wrong lane and not get hit.
They will meet their match in the Pit (tormenting demons and eternal fire) for all eternity.
Please I need help. I’ve been the scapegoat in my family for as long as I can remember. My Aunt especially doesn’t respect in any way and I managed to go no contact for 2 years. In the country where I live the job opportunities are very limited and we’ve been asked to leave in 4 months and now these people who have always shown me disrespect are now claiming they want to help me but I don’t trust them. This is just an opportunity for them to draw me back. My Auntie has a son abroad who she claims wants to come here for me because the job opportunities abroad are vast it has been 5 years since she told me that. Please I need help, anyone that can help me, I need your help. If you can help me get to America, so I can get a good job you’d change my life.
Just hop on a plane to Mexico, and cross illegally, saying you want asylum. Millions have done it. Then, when you get here, they will treat you better than they treat the Veterans, and the poor here! I am being sarcastic, but, it is true. They give those people free housing, free healthcare, free food, clothing, shoes, smart phones, and more, for breaking the law. Bad guys, here, can commit murder, and get away with it, if you claim to be of a certain political persuasion.
@@reesedaniel5835 No. Surely that's just vengeance?
I've noticed they are never happy ever.
The Devil was the first narcissist.
I once heard a Bishop say, "The first dysfunctional family was Adam & Eve." I agree that was the first of Narcissistism. It makes perfect sense. Thanks, Kevin.
@@Sky-sd2kv Eve was seduced by the Serpent. She agreed to it, he didn't force her. The Serpent was Cain's bio father. Then Adam also "partook of the fruit" (sex with Eve) right after seeing how it was done and produced Abel (heteropaternal twin of Cain).
Wow! I've never heard of that. 💜 @@reesedaniel5835
Wow what a great message! i don't feel alone on this anymore !! i have made my research about narcissism in the scriptures! and came to realize that from the beginning there are only two types of people in this world ! there is a Cain or there is an Able.. two seeds.. God did not make things complicated! Amen'!
@@Sky-sd2kv i did !! he is no longer in my life ! thanks to God!
Yes Cain or Abel. The two (GENEtic) seedlines was written about and summed up specifically in GENEsis 3:15 and Psalm 58:3-5 see KJV or NKJV. Cain's offspring are also referred to as "serpents" and "vipers".....because the Serpent was Cain's father.
@@reesedaniel5835 I don't think one can conclude that Cain was the serpent's son from the Bible, since Genesis 4:1 clearly states that Cain was conceived through Adam having relations with Eve. That might be part of extra-Biblical material, but doesn't seem to mesh satisfactorily enough with the Genesis account. How do you reconcile the two? While "eating" can be a euphemism for sexual relations, it isn't always, otherwise we would all starve to death.
Very interesting.
A Persian poet Hafez Shiraz says,if you can accept to lose what God wants you to lose ,then you can reach to the point that God wants a real human to reach .
I believe these people use anything even evil side so they should be winning person. They should always be the winner,no matter what happens to others. They don't care about honesty and others rights. They can not lose and they should be winner.
Thank you Kevin. These lessons from Bible is really interesting and helpful to me.
Thank you Kevin! Just sent this video to a friend. You really did put a brand new light on this story of the roots of narcissistic behavior. Everyone has childhood trauma to deal with, but not everyone becomes a narcissist. It is truly a protective mechanism gone wrong and then it seeks to punish others. When God was correcting Cain, as any loving parent will do from time to time, Cain did not receive the correction and change, but went in the opposite direction---he rejected the correction because he felt rejected and then every other bad thing followed. The Lord corrects all whom He loves. That is a word for all of us, to take God's correction as an act of love and then to change our behavior.
I had one "friend" who - I'm quite sure - was upset that I didn't put her as the #1 person in my life. I would have done almost anything for her. I had a network of friends before I met her and didn't feel the desire to cut ties with them. She was/has been part of a smear campaign, along with a troubled relative of mine, that could make one's head explode. Very difficult to accept what the blaring sirens and red flags were screaming for many years. I have FINALLY done this. I admit much of the problem has been my own for not acting on what my gut/the Holy Spirit was trying to pound into me.. Oh my! Thank you, Kevin!
Like most people, I am at a loss for words at the depth of evil that exists in our world today. As a Christian living in the U.S, the only things that give my husband & me hope are: our faith in Jesus Christ & the Bible. John 14:1-8, Jesus says, "Do not let your heart be troubled... Trust in God and also trust in me...." I encourage everyone who is reading this to put your full TRUST in Jesus Christ. He ALONE is our REFUGE & STRENGTH NOT a pastor, politicians, & the like.
We are living in the last days and Jesus is coming back soon. Jesus told us that we'll recognize His followers by their fruits. The people that are pastors, leaders, or anyone who claim to follow Christ, can you see Christ in the way they live and speak? Remember that a person can say they believe in Christ and even recite scriptures, but they are worshipping Satan in plain sight and/or behind closed doors.
Sometimes the best thing to do with people who are willingly doing evil is to cut off contact or show care for them from a distance. People who are truly repentant & sorry for their actions, it will be evident in the way they speak/treat you & others. And it will be consistent. You shouldn't have to question if someone means you well. If you have to question it, that is usually a sign that they are deceiving you.
Matthew 7:15-16 says, "Watch out for false prophets. They come to you in sheep's clothing, but inwardly they are ferocious wolves. By their fruit, you will know them." Read the Bible for yourselves, so that you will be able to have a deeper relationship with Christ and know His will for your life. Reading the Bible, even if you only know a few things, God will teach you through His Holy Spirit to discern who the false teachers/Christians are and those who are true followers of Christ.
1 Peter 5:8 says, "Be self-controlled and alert. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaming lion looking for whom he may devour." We need Christ to help us during these dark times, as He ALONE is ALL POWERFUL🙏
Cry out to Jesus, seek Him, & read the Bible, as all of the darkness that exists today were predicted in the Bible. Matthew 24. Jesus said that during the last days, evil will increase, people will betray one another, hate everything that is good, & more.
When Jesus returns, will you be ready to meet Him? Matthew 23:42-44 says, "Therefore keep watch, because you do not know on what day your Lord will return... So you must be ready, because the son of man will come like a thief in the night."
Like most people, I am at a loss for words at the depth of evil that exists in our world today. As a Christian living in the U.S, the only things that give my husband & me hope are: our faith in Jesus Christ & the Bible. John 14:1-8, Jesus says, "Do not let your heart be troubled... Trust in God and also trust in me...." I encourage everyone who is reading this to put your full TRUST in Jesus Christ. He ALONE is our REFUGE & STRENGTH NOT a pastor, politicians, & the like.
We are living in the last days and Jesus is coming back soon. Jesus told us that we'll recognize His followers by their fruits. The people that are pastors, leaders, or anyone who claim to follow Christ, can you see Christ in the way they live and speak? Remember that a person can say they believe in Christ and even recite scriptures, but they are worshipping Satan in plain sight and/or behind closed doors.
Sometimes the best thing to do with people who are willingly doing evil is to cut off contact or show care for them from a distance. People who are truly repentant & sorry for their actions, it will be evident in the way they speak/treat you & others. And it will be consistent. You shouldn't have to question if someone means you well. If you have to question it, that is usually a sign that they are deceiving you.
Matthew 7:15-16 says, "Watch out for false prophets. They come to you in sheep's clothing, but inwardly they are ferocious wolves. By their fruit, you will know them." Read the Bible for yourselves, so that you will be able to have a deeper relationship with Christ and know His will for your life. Reading the Bible, even if you only know a few things, God will teach you through His Holy Spirit to discern who the false teachers/Christians are and those who are true followers of Christ.
1 Peter 5:8 says, "Be self-controlled and alert. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaming lion looking for whom he may devour." We need Christ to help us during these dark times, as He ALONE is ALL POWERFUL🙏
Cry out to Jesus, seek Him, & read the Bible, as all of the darkness that exists today were predicted in the Bible. Matthew 24. Jesus said that during the last days, evil will increase, people will betray one another, hate everything that is good, & more.
When Jesus returns, will you be ready to meet Him? Matthew 23:42-44 says, "Therefore keep watch, because you do not know on what day your Lord will return... So you must be ready, because the son of man will come like a thief in the night."
@@-gordon3817 Yes, Yes, and AMEN, Sister! Yes, I love and pray, and even fast, for these folks, and for others - but mostly behind bomb-proof walls. I don't know if it is doing anything for them, but I know it helps me not to harbor bitterness towards them. Always hopeful! God bless you both!!!
There's a narcissist in my family tree who has had many falling outs with old friends, and now, he badmouths them behind their back every chance he gets. I guarantee you they most likely told him something he didn't want to hear, and instead of taking the advice, he took it personally, triggering the vindictive element within his personality.
He's also the most insecure person I know. You can't tell this guy anything without him getting triggered.
The narcissist I've had the misfortune of getting to know a bit both attempted to assassinate my character to ANYONE with a nearby ear to hear their lies, fabrications &/or half-truths. Of course there were things I might've said or done differently that might or might not have lessened the vindictiveness.
There is most likely more than one, in your family. The one you mentioned, was the obvious one, maybe an overt narc. Probably some Covert floating around too.
@@megboesch6297 Living that myself right now. Strange how they all stand out when you are educated on them.
@@megboesch6297 you are not alone
@@user-ie2kh7ng7l Your daughter is the problem. She is projecting her own faults onto you. See Matthew 10:37
WOW! What an eye opener. So the root is PRIDE.
This is my third year of recovery! Mainly I am o.k., BUT sometimes are very sad days inbetween! It feels like crawling out of a dirty filthy pit ...
💯💯This is straight from the Heavenly Father! Keep up the good work. Evil behavior that’s ready to destroy you more so psychologically today
Lovely explanation. Everything we need we can always find in a Bible
Good word! My observation of this account in scripture as well as those I have dealt with is a lack of humility to be corrected. A lack of submission to the One greater than themselves. If someone is greater or better than them they look at it as a rejection. When in fact, they cannot accept their place and what they were created to be and their role in life. Satan was the same way .. he wanted to be like the Most High instead of doing what He was created to do. Thank you so much for all that you do for this community. You are so appreciated.
Beautiful explanation. Complex Narcissism made simple..
Yeah. Am
And in true narc style, Cain's offering was intentionally sub standard. Abel's offering was the best if his Produce, Abel brought fat portions from some of the firstborn of his stock. Cain already knew his offering wasn't his best or first fruit. So typical. They do something out of pride, then when they feel shame, they blame their brother, who is righteous.
This pattern has continued centuries in dysfunctional families, and these traits ( getting ahead no matter what the cost, thinking of only self, ) are valued in society.The young child of narcissistic has their little beautiful self squashed., not validated for just who you are, have to be in their image or ideal of who you should be.
I got out!!! 🙌🏽🙌🏽Saturday night I went overnight and cleared my stuff and blocked him. He was beginning to show signs of violence. He’s on sooo many drugs (lsd, ectsacy, etc,etc)😳 I realized this is nothing to play with
Before I blocked him I said “As I the Lord live, every knee will bow and every tongue confess to God “ then “I hope you heal”. I pray that he will find Christ, in the meantime I’m so thankful to be free❤
Appreciate your content brother. It’s helping so much 🙏🏽
U are smart Girl! U just saved yourself from a whole lot of crap. Sending good vibes to your new life. Now u can have some fun 😉😏 ❤💙💜
Excellent example! Thanks for the video❤
You are on point ☝️ wow The Lord's Holy Bible 📖 is truly the book of Life and everything we need to know to live peacefully..... is in there xXx We all need to study the Bible, hardout ♥️🌼
When I tell you this was the single most POWERFUL video on Narcissism I have HAVE EVER had the pleasure to see? My GOD!!!!!!! This is soooooooo accurate and gives me such relief to know what to pray!!!! “We fight NOT against flesh and blood, BUT AGAINST PRINCIPALITIES!” Sheeeeeeesh!!! Started up a whole praise session!!! Thank you Most High for clarity!
Brilliant explanation👏 💯🎯 Mask, destruction, denial and victimhood.
Envy is a form of hatred and there is where the destruction stems from.... people devoid of love...love to self and others...
Maria, Yes, envy, victimhood, and lot's of anger! I escaped 34 year's of that and got entangled with what I thought was a heaven sent partner, now 12 year's later and 4 year's apart, it was always obvious they both thought the planet rotates around their being! You could perform standing on your head, and it's never good enough, because they want to crush your head, cause it to implode with the verbal abuse, that I could never fathom or even think of saying to a being we allegedly love! They are definitely agents of the demonic realm!
This is amazing that this vid was in my recommended this morning! I woke up with a strong urge to look up the royal we after I’d been going through trying to understand why my twin had been abusive towards me all my life, causing me chronic illness and even trying to murder me ... thank you so much
Jane888.. we grow up thinking wouldn't it be lovely having a twin. This is a wakeup, and can't imagine what you went through as must be near impossible escaping a twin. Talk about the floor disappearing under your feet! I do hope you are on the healing path, that you are feeling comfort from Kevin and the royalwe family. Thank you for sharing
Stay strong.
Sending you love and prayers. 🙏💕
Like most people, I am at a loss for words at the depth of evil that exists in our world today. As a Christian living in the U.S, the only things that give my husband & me hope are: our faith in Jesus Christ & the Bible. John 14:1-8, Jesus says, "Do not let your heart be troubled... Trust in God and also trust in me...." I encourage everyone who is reading this to put your full TRUST in Jesus Christ. He ALONE is our REFUGE & STRENGTH NOT a pastor, politicians, & the like.
We are living in the last days and Jesus is coming back soon. Jesus told us that we'll recognize His followers by their fruits. The people that are pastors, relatives, leaders, doctors, or anyone who claim to follow Christ, can you see Christ in the way they live and speak? Remember that a person can say they believe in Christ and even recite scriptures, but they are worshipping Satan in plain sight/behind closed doors.
Sometimes the best thing to do with people who are willingly doing evil is to cut off contact or show care for them from a distance. People who are truly repentant & sorry for their actions, it will be evident in the way they speak/treat you & others. And it will be consistent. You shouldn't have to question if someone means you well. If you have to question it, that is usually a sign that they are deceiving you.
Matthew 7:15-16 says, "Watch out for false prophets. They come to you in sheep's clothing, but inwardly they are ferocious wolves. By their fruit, you will know them." Read the Bible for yourselves, so that you will be able to have a deeper relationship with Christ and know His will for your life. Reading the Bible, even if you only know a few things, God will teach you through His Holy Spirit to discern who the false teachers/Christians are and those who are true followers of Christ.
1 Peter 5:8 says, "Be self-controlled and alert. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaming lion looking for whom he may devour." We need Christ to help us during these dark times, as He ALONE is ALL POWERFUL🙏
Cry out to Jesus, seek Him, & read the Bible, as all of the darkness that exists today were predicted in the Bible. Matthew 24. Jesus said that during the last days, evil will increase, people will betray one another, hate everything that is good, & more.
When Jesus returns, will you be ready to meet Him? Matthew 23:42-44 says, "Therefore keep watch, because you do not know on what day your Lord will return... So you must be ready, because the son of man will come like a thief in the night."
Oh geez your twin, I can’t imagine the pain. I get the sister/brother, but a twin that’s a whole different level!! Sorry.
🌹💔❤️ They all have said the same as I would have said.. 😢I’m SO sorry.. its Horrible to be treated this way.. and even when they try to kill you.. PLS, take care of yourself.. Lots of love from scandinavia ❤️
Wow such a great video, it was very thoughtful thought 👌 you are so right it’s the same behavior..
narcissist never accepts her/his fault, makes more stories and thoughts which not even related to what they have done wrong.. stories makers..
God bless you Sir, great work 👌😊
Thank you for explaining this through the bible. In my experience jealousy has been very prevalent in a narcissistic friendship. It’s too bad but better to find out the earliest possible
This is exactly who they are and how they operate step by step! I never really accepted the Jezebel spirit too much but I definitely seen it in Cain but not in as much depth you have discovered! Once again thank you and excellent excellent knowledgeable video.
This describes my sister perfectly. She held a grudge against my late husband for close to 30 years. She masked herself and refused to visit him right before he died. She finally admitted it then said she didn't say that! I'm no contact with her and the other toxic "family".
@@Sky-sd2kv The narc usually won't go through that dark night of the soul until they are weeping and gnashing their teeth on the way to hell. They just kick the bucket down the road their entire lives by projecting their junk onto others and abusing others.
That was one of the best explanation of narcissistic behavior. My sisters are the narcissists in my life and you described their behavior exactly. Thank you 😊 💓
Same here....everyone needs a scapegoat in society ...we get blamed for the dysfunctions
I’ve got a mother, brother, sister and sadly my only child.
I cut ties with my sisters. They are toxic to me. I am alone, but, I have my Bible, and Jesus! It took five mini strokes, diabetes, and porphyria, and much more, to make me realize, I had to get those toxic people, out of my life.
Fantastic post! I worked for over two decades hi level fashion - i was ALWAYS having fantastic photo shoots 'dropped' (rejected) it was the BEST spiritual education i had - as i knew my shoots were great. Published or not published i knew it was ok....Grundge barers = Narks.
Wisdom from the light! So eloquently spoken!! This video is for daily wisdom and wearing the armor of wisdom!
They absolutely deserve to go through to what they did to others!! 👍👍👍
They probably never will in this life, but one second after they die, they will get it WAY worse than any of us ever did and it will be ETERNAL.❤🔥🔥😈❤🔥🔥👹
@@reesedaniel5835 Yes but for the victims it would be far more better to see them pay in this life!! Don t get me wrong I m not talking about revenge but seeing them live their life and get away with everything they do or even mocking the victims is not easy!!! 🤔
God's word says..."Whatsoever (good or bad) you mete (give) out will be meted (given) back to you."
It's a spiritual law of 'what goes around comes around'.
I've just lost my mother and my older sisters stole all her money , they literally took her to her bank to hand over all her cash and they said there was nothing left . They wouldn't allow me to have a single hat that she wore . I believe they have no guilt because they decided to believe I wasn't blood .
My sincere condolences for your loss. You are blessed to now know the truth of who your sisters are and can take steps to avoid becoming their victim. Seek the Lord.
That's tragic on so many levels. I'm so sorry for the loss of your mother. May happy memories of her be plentiful as your mourn, celebrate her life, or whenever you think of her.
Thank you so much for this! I’m new to the bible..but have been in this relationship with narcissist for 10 years ..still can’t see the light at the end of tunnel. Gives me hope
I do agree with other comment. Best thing to do is to leave the narcissist but is hard as u've been to long u get attached or thinking that u won't find anyone. God is greater than our hearts and your person is looking for u right now but as long us u with the wrong person, u busy not available for right men. And this narcissist that u with is shaking off and trying to get off your crown 👑 off your head. Remember u r Queen and u strong, u can do anything
You have to go cold turkey. Even if it means moving, changing you phone number, your name, and getting off social media!
Agree 100%. I would also add that the rejection is also seen as a relinquishment of their control over the offering and you taking it. Refusing an offer signifies individual choice/individuality separate from just seeing you as an extension of someone in their orbit. We all know they cannot handle loss of control or a person exhibiting individuality. So in this instance the refusal means they lost both the "control" and the "supply" they needed.
I just had the displeasure of being in the presence of a narc
sociopath.
I was married to a covert narcissist and I totally agree with everything you said. That’s exactly what I learned and experienced from my situation which by praying and asking God to deliver me from this situation, in his mercy he did. I will always be so thankful 🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️
Thank you for this lecture
10:33 you just explained the projection they do to perfection. 👌 It's so enlightening Kevin, thank you. 💜
I also believe that that spirit feeds off th power of watching and producing th pain in their choosen victim s ..th more power you consume.. th more you want.. 😔that's why you have to walk away
You 100% nailed it brother. Before my dad passed away 13 years ago he warned me my mother is a control freak ,that was an understatement as my mother is a full blown narcissist, the abuse, manipulation, lies, the list is endless. My mother is now 83 years old has grown more manipulative with the narcissism. As I became born again 27 years ago i couldn't live with the guilt of putting my mother into a nursing home. I moved out several times but was manipulated into coming back. But when all is said and done i learned a lot like putting a stop to arguments as the scriptures declare in James 5:12 Let your 'Yes" be yes ,and your "No " no .
( I can testify to the fact that will stop an argument starting with a narcissist, it starves the narcissist and leaves them stumped. )
Brilliant teaching and video brother, liked, subscribed and shared.
Blessings from Ireland in the name of Jesus Christ.
( Sorry I almost forgot to give Glory and praise to God for giving me the strength through the power of the Holy Spirit and know i have become a more mature christain through this living nightmare of a narcissistic relationship, look what Joseph had to endure before God brought him from the prison to the palace, i ain't expecting to end up in a palace but knowing one day i will be set free is enough to fight the good fight and keep the faith through prayer and not give up.
Hallelujah)
Amen!
Thank you Kevin. You're on fire!🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
I agree! Great explanation!
Very powerful message
the correlation with narcissistic behavior that Cain used against Able in Genesis 4 of the Bible is a great example! I look forward to hearing more from you thank you so much!
I appreciate your no-nonsense and unique approach to your messages. Thank you, Kevin!
You are absolutely on point with the Cain / narcissism comparison. I haven't heard it in that context before but you connected all the dots and it makes total sense. Thank you for sharing your insights and helping with healing process through biblical references.
I consider myself agnostic, but truly, you do a great job with educating thru the Bible. I enjoy your channel so much.
I wonder often what it was that set her against me; my first recollection of the beginning of the devalue stage was that I admitted one of my vulnerabilities to her.
It's interesting that she managed to turn my vulnerability against me in front of others while, at the same time, she put on the mask of self righteousness.
That's exactly it. How cpmmon it has become that it's blended into society as if it were normal even
I've recognized it growing up in hostile emviroment of drinkers. And beared witness even in people with differnt beliefs or different perspectives on politics or religion.
What a wonderful explanation. I seem to be a magnet for narcissists! Will keep educating myself! Thank you so much for this video!!👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Wow....no pastor has ever brought forth this DEEP insightful truth. Boy...have you got it nailed. Thanks a million. Might join your group!!!
Kevin, that part you said about fear and projecting is spot on! Love your channel & vids.
Thank You, Kevin! That was very insightful on a Bible story most christians(Myself included) that think: I've heard this story so many times, what else can I take away from it?' I'm so glad to be proven wrong! I will definitely need to study scripture & reflect on Your lesson, and work harder to apply it to myself from now on! It gives valuable insight into my own outlook and mentality that has plagued me since childhood, which I'm trying to change and grow past so I walk more closely with The Lord. I'm just so tired of being stuck in this cycle of emotional reaction and decision making. IMHO, It's gone on for far too long in my life. And I know I've hurt too many ppl around me thinking and interpreting this way. Thank You again for the valuable insight Kevin, I know The Lord was speaking through You in this video! Praise The Lord for convicting my wicked heart through this video!
Lobster. I am so impressed by your comment and your ability to see that the people who are being described in this video are you!!
I believe only God can change a narcissist's thinking. As only God can take addicts out of their addiction. We cannot do this on our own.
So amazing to see you admit that you are a narcissist. You are obviously on the road to recovery as admitting this fact is almost impossible for a narc to do. God bless you Lobster. Your heart is being changed by our sweet Lord. He is good!
I love how you explained that story! Thank you so much, it never sat right with me the teachings that go around saying that Jezebel and Ahab spirit are behind narcissistic spirit
This really reasonated with my spirit
Yes Sure. Jezebel Spirit murders the believer by violating boundaries (her husband), Ahab Spirit the whining toddler getting a temper tantrum, victimizing. Jezebel the malignant, Ahab the covert narcissist.
@@Corinna_Schuett_GER Jezebel and Ahab were spiritual/biological descendants of Cain the father of narcissists..aka also narcissisits. These are just sub types of same category.
Great analisys, Kevin. Thank you 👋
I stopped going to Church after being disappointed with Sunday school. Studying the Bible after so many years without a preacher helps. Cai was definitely the prime example of a narcissist. Thank you Brightest Blessings Trina
I had been spending some time understanding the spirit behind NPD. Came across many explaining it as the Jezebel spirit. Though no doubt that they carry some traits common to the character of Jezebel, but meditating ( and praying) one night, I felt the dots were not connecting without extrapolation. You hit the nail right on head, Kevin. It is way inline to what you've explained. Keep it up bro!
Whatever "spirit" Jezebel and Cain had driving them, it originated with Lucifer.
Jezebel was plainly a spiritual/genetic descendant of Cain so the "spirit of Jezebel" is just a sub category of narcissism. Cain is the father of all narcissists but their are sub categories and types, Jezebel is one of them.
I wrote something about it being connected to Cain 2 years ago thank you for this confirmation
I don’t qualify as a narcissist. But, I do understand that people may have the inability to separate rejection of self and the offering, because the idea is that the offering comes from the self.
You may also have a recipient, who is intentionally working to triangulate. It can be a lot to ask of the gifter, to separate self and offering, when the recipient is masking their own intentions, especially if they’re a parent and if it is on a continual basis. This may describe my sister’s plight, although she was switched into the golden child role, only recently in life.
Where my mother was concerned, perhaps, she was triangulated by life, for lack of a better phrase. Late and I’m sleepy. But, my mother was a Baby Boomer. They, very much, believed that, as long as you put in the work, you were going to get what you wanted in life. Maybe even more. That, if you didn’t get there, that was simply on you. For my mother, there was no accounting for things like social, political, global or other events. After all, from her perspective, as a black woman, she went through the 1960s and came out of it pretty badass. Beautiful (she modeled), smart, talented. As her eldest child, anything I could do, she could do better - until she found out that wasn’t quite true. I’ll note that I’m not as pretty, I’m overweight and I’m not as talented either. But, what she did as a hobby, I did as a career and she became dependent upon my skills.
I won’t go any further with that but, in the end, the offering that was all she was, became clobbered by marriage and redirection into that which led to her downfall. Personally, I feel that, other than choosing what ended up to be a wrong path for her, she offered all she could, of herself, in life. What she received, in return, was a complete smack down. She didn’t know where to channel her rage and I looked like the most stable recipient of it. That, too, failed as I left her.
This is why I have always felt that, while people speak of there being a god, one things for certain. That there is not fairness. Because we all know of people, who’ve done quite little and, even if by their low bar standards, they are not tortured. They’re quite comfortable. This alone, makes the separation between offering and self, quite murky and unfair to the human race. Because some do quite well and offer neither.
Yeah, one thing life taught me was that it doesn't pay to be good. All the people who I would consider selfish, careless, wicked, they seem to be quite happy and behave as if nothing happened. I stopped believing in karma for this reason. It was just me suffering at the end and having to rebuild, lol. I still don't want to be like them, but I know I'm getting nothing in return for that, as I never have. I'll be okay, though.
Indeed.
@@jordanferguson2254 yeah, I don’t believe in karma either. People just keep getting away with things and carry on with their lives, while some enabler whispers in your ear that God’s got this and vengeance isn’t yours. Heck, you won’t even have a nosebleed seat to vengeance, because it probably won’t happen, even once you’re dead and gone. The only “vengeance” I’ve gotten, is that my mother passed, in miserable conditions, before me and that my sister is suffering now. But, I, too, am suffering, because of what my mother began, in the first place.
I am so sick of everything that I’m not only an introvert, but have become a misanthropist. I’m also working to leave everything behind to animal charities. Most would openly say, “That’s a waste!” Well, I can think of better ways to waste it…” Animals have been the best, most consistent contributors to my life, while humans have generally been a nightmare, intended or otherwise, in one form or another. Even people I know, who know that I, now, really have no family to leave anything to, because I’ve gone no contact with most, the others I don’t even know and the one I do is likely to pass before me, quite casually offer that I can leave everything to them. Yeah, don’t wait for it.
@@jordanferguson2254 Because sentence against an evil work is not executed speedily, therefore the heart of the sons of men is fully set in them to do evil. Ecclesiastes 8:11
@@jordanferguson2254 you reap what you sow. Karma is real because i have experienced it. When i was younger i wanted to be known and have meaningful connections to others i try to be a good friend to others because i wanted friends. But i was insecure so it was like not my authentic self i tried to show and be an upliftment to others but i wasnt really helping myself and really asking them about their day because i wanted to mean something to them but it wasnt really sincere and was manipulative because i also alot wanted people to look up to me and have followers. So i was trying to be a good person to get others to like me but it was very manipulative and i lied alot. The thing that saved me was when i just oneday decided to just be real and open up and it wasnt easy because i wanted to impress others and get validation and also wanted a friend because i never felt i fitted in school with others and just express myself and talk about how i feel to specific people in my life who gave me the space to do that. And im really thankful for them. I had deep and meaningful conversations i never had with anyone. They werent judging me or criticizing about what i say but were listening and adding their input. And it all started to grow because i wanted to be real and just wanted to be truthful. But like anything i had ups and down with them. But it was easier to tell the truth to them because i felt i had a real friend who cares about what i think and feel and would talk to me and be so open minded and i felt loved and so i was able to trust them and i never really had someone i can trust and talk to. They were also the first ones that let me be opened to the idea of god and jesus christ and i believe he is real and he saved me and i felt that my friends saved me too. They were the friends i met in middleschool. But the others that i tried to manipulate were online when i was trying to make friends. But i eventually stopped talking to all of them. But i recieved my karma in ways like just meeting alot of mean nasty people. I learned that i can actually be in my truth and i dont need to be afraid and that their are people that are for me and im not alone. And that im loved and wanted and appreciated even though i suffered alot from my parents and abuse from bullying that goes in school. And that i have a loving god jesus christ who died for my sins and my angels. But im still learning to take care of myself and believe in myself and have faith. So i wish that anyone who reads this will find something that i say helpful for them. And i dont want them to give up. You are all loved. Dont be afraid to make the first move and be honest and real with others, because its worth it. You are ALWAYS worthy of a loving truthful and meaningful and honest connection with yourself and others. Dont let the few people bring you down. You just need to take a chance and dont let the fear of rejection stop you with that someone you want a deeper connection with or to have a good friend. If you can be honest with you and learn to be okay with being real, you will find others who are like you and you will find those who want to be real with you. Be brave and be truthful. Love truth. Love jesus. And jesus loves you. Dont let society or anyone drain you or put you down with their lies and unreasonable expectations and their abuse. Think positively and believe in you. Try and have good thoughts only! Block out or disregard the negative thoughts. Dont let the devil and demons win. Dont talk down to yourself. I hope you all be healed in jesus name and do the work you need to do to bring yourself out of any negative situation or circumstances. I know you guys are so strong. I love you and i wish you the best always. And i wish you to be the best you can be always. 🙏❤🙂😊😘 You are not a failure or a loser, you are here for a reason, you matter so choose to see it that way. Dont say you dont. Thats a lie. Nothing is random. I dont care if school or others or society based on their expectations tell you your not worth it. Im here to tell you and i hope you listen because YOU ARE WORTH IT. Jesus definitely does. Your angels do too. Dont be scared. Explore and expand your mind. Feel your feelings dont suppress them and experience them. Its gonna be great and beautiful. You will be more than okay 😁. I definitely recommend reading the bible. Especially using the original texts with greek like the greek and english interlinear bible that i recently bought. I trust this version. I dont trust hebrew translation or any other bible. Just greek and english interlinear.
Bang on, Kevin. Exactly right. Thank you for sharing such great insights.
I'm beginning to think differently now following this. You're a highly intelligent insightful man. Thank you.
God bless all you do. 🙏
Man this was deep bro. I definitely agree. When you think about crimes where people were lured to their death and blood spilled in the soil ...it's too real
I often find myself wishing that God had destroyed Cain for murdering Abel. That would have ended the seedline of narcissists instantly. I guess he let Cain live and reproduce to teach His own people lessons that we would never have learned otherwise. But still, all the horrific suffering caused by these sub humans makes my skin crawl.
You are the best and have a clear accurate description of narcissism. Your style of communication will help many people. Thank you 💛
Wow, thank you!
Agree 100%. Jealous people will murder.
Totally agree that was some really good lesson I love to learn and see depth in the word of God, life is there. Thank you for sharing the treasure. Love Ruthie
Wow! Kevin I agree. Your analysis is brilliant. It makes so much sense, step by step. Thank you. God bless you❤❤❤
Interesting talk! Never heard this take on the story, but it's good.
absolutely brilliantly explained !!!! Thank you….
Good work, Kevin. Helpful. Thank you!
Oh my goodness!!! This is your best video yet describing so clearly what narcissism is!! I finally understand it!!! Thank you ☺️
I love the way some of these people love to have "a secret" as to why some things are happening in your life - smear campaigns, for example - and tell you things like. "there are just some things we may never understand in life" when you try to bring up some of the nasty things you know they did. These people are like quicksand mixed with tar. Even when you get out of it, it takes a little while to scrape off the sticky residue. (: But it is possible.
These people are more like 💩, and it takes time to wash away the smell once you've touched that.
"These people are like quicksand mixed with tar..." wrote Terri M.
Terri, that's a wonderful analogy.
Great Video Kevin! Thank you.
Wow! Never thought about Cain in the narcissist aspect. Good insight.
I Agree-Thank you for this Sound Teaching🌟
Kevin, thanks for this great analysis. Something I've been thinking about is that the Bible doesn't use the word "narcissist;" it uses "wicked." A description of wickedness can be found in Genesis 6:5, "every intent of the thoughts of his heart was only evil continually."
Makes lots of sense as always Kevin spot on👌⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
The amazing thing for me was i was just this morning thinking about the spirit of narcissism in the world today and wondering where in the bible I would find it. Then this afternoon your video showed up. Thank you Lord and thank you brother. Spot on 👍
I would've said Saul (king Saul, not Saul/Paul), but I love and agree with your take too! Your videos are extremely helpful, thanks for doing them. It's refreshing to hear believers talk about this, so many just justify abuse or tell people in church to continually put up with hurts.
I agree. I have reached out to pastors and church leaders over the decades for help and answers and never had one of them suggesting leaving. My current pastor has been the most understanding, but he is such a kind person, and fantastic husband and father himself, that I think he has trouble wrapping his head around how different and horrid someone can be behind closed doors when their church mask comes off.
I'm under this right now.. This is great that it can be explained through Jesus.. As I'm back in a great relationship with my Lord Jesus Christ again.. Just came accross this by chance.. Great Stuff.. God Bless all. Love from Australia. 🙏🏻💙
Classically taking things personally, having an entitlement mindset, rage from envy, deflection of responsibility, hypocrisy, fear, catastrophizing acting as if one was betrayed when really a routine interaction or routine refusal was done. Very well done correlation of Cain and narcissism here.
Why was kane's ordering rejected? So Narcissists are cowards, liar's, thieves. And it was the offering that was rejected not Kane?! Okay, did you realize that your friend was a Narcissist? I didn't know that my twin was a narcissist until we were 48 yrs old, because I just chocked it up to " That's just Terri" but it's so messed up when you realize you've been surrounded by Narcissists all my life, and I've lost my happiness, True Love, stability, everything because I was to ignorant to know that the people around me really don't care, or love me the way I loved them.
Now 63 and I have no one in my life because they just wanted what they could get, they got it and shut the door in my face. I don't understand how family can do that so easily. I have no friends, and I don't want any either. When I was younger I thought it would be sad to die alone, so I made sure that no one would be alone as long as I was there. Lololol and now I'm next in line to go and I'm going to die alone. How sad.
Because he was insincere with bad motives and intentions.
Sherri ~
Your back story sounds exactly like mine... I'm 68, have no family or friends because they were ALL Abusive Narcissists that I Allowed in my life! Kevin has said this many times... "We have been hanging out with people and in places that we did not have any business with" They were not of the same ethical character as in what we as followers of Christ have & value. I believe that our childhood programming from the Abusive Narcissistic environment is what has caused us to stay in toxic situations with family and the "friends" we allowed in to our circle. The devil wanted to Destroy us through them... but... God! Our Heavenly Father has said Enough! And he opened our eyes! And now... we cannot Not see it! We know that we can never return to it even though the loss has been painful... We have to let them go and move forward on the Path our Father, who Loves us so Deeply, has chosen for us. 💕💕💕
Another 60+ here. I’m so sorry you experienced this and feel alone. It’s a gift to have our eyes opened and to remove those who have abused the s with bad behavior.
May you find friends that are wonderful and become your chosen family. May you find joy and peace.
@@megboesch6297 Sounds like my story. 60 here. Family scapegoat. I was the independent kid. Termed difficult because I couldn't be controlled. I walked away 8 mos ago. My narc mom and brother were all I had, but they were always bullies. I learned more about them while my hubby was in the hospital for a long time. These cats were of no support. It often takes a crisis to truly see. their
Read the concept of scapegoat and you will understand it. A narcissistic family works like a cult. It's related to human sacrifices. A group doesn't work when there are problems among the members so they project their faults on someone, the innocent one to destroy or be left alone in the dessert. That way, the members of the group get together again. This happens in families, groups, societies, countries. The figure of the scapegoat is what gives sense to History and why it repeats itself since, eventually, there will be more unrest among the members and they will need another scapegoat.
This is spot on. Thank you
Kevin, you nailed it! Wonderful lesson and something my younger self needed to hear years ago.
This pattern of behavior and verbal abuse followed by a smear campaign is frightening to experience. And then to be told by the Narc after scorching the earth via a rage rant, “you aren’t the victim here, I am.” It’s toxic and crazy making.
Thank you for validating reality and putting it into a Biblical perspective. Bless you and yours.
Dawn Pokémon Trainer. You absolutely nailed it too, in everything you said.
Exactly. The narc I just left ran the gamut from telling me he loved me and showering me with gifts to screaming at me to get out of his house if he got the teeniest bit of resistance (which he said was me being a “smart ass”) to telling me I’d never make anything of myself without him. We’ll see about that as he begged me to stay when I was mid-escape and I know his ego/false self is unraveling like a ball of string now.
So glad I got away! Freedom! ☮️💟☯️
First of all, there are multiple spirits on a narcissist!! But this is a great comparison!
Absolutely yes. Exactly. Truth.
I have not met a pastor speaking so much truth the church need to hear for decades. Such truth, such realities and precision. We praise master Jesus Christ for His work in your life
Thank you for this brilliant analysis Kevin. God bless you❤
I will say though, not everyone who faces rejection is a narcissist. Many like myself became a people pleaser and times I felt rejected if “my offering” was rejected. I did take it personally because I was so insecure. I didn’t want to confront in fear of being rejected. I wanted to be loved and accepted. I would never hurt nor make anyone feel bad.
So, just because a person feels rejected because their offering was rejected doesn’t make them a narcissist. Right? But I see how many are narcissists and become jealous. My sister was always jealous of me because I got all the attention. And she became a narcissist and for years bullied me - I didn’t know how to stand up for myself and when I did she shut me down.
I’m healed now and love her. But I don’t have a close relationship with her and I’ve accepted that and I’m healthy now, we’ll work in progress! So much healthier than I’ve ever been.