Narcissists also love and relish to kick you when you're down. They love to attack you when ,for whatever the reason, you're at your weakest. They're actually evil.
Yes Beautiful that's because they can't reach that high 😅 That's why the best defence is offence, to literally rise up to where they can't reach you any longer. Trust me, its easier said than done & I never thought it was possible, but when you're up high enough, you can actually forget about them completely 😅 it's AWESOME 🎉❤ 🥰 ✨️
and when you're succeeding and doing well, they'll remind you of every single real or perceived (ie: completely fabricated, or something THEY did) transgression you made in the past, even if it was decades ago-bring up something they did last week and the spiritual narcs will tell you to "be present" in the most passive aggressive, self righteously hostile manner possible. I wouldn't call them "evil" unless they're in positions of great power, then yes, they're the sickest evil, zero remorse or empathy for anyone else. It's like some kind of dark dense sickness has been unleashed into the world, and those with weak mental and spiritual immune systems are completely infected.
RUDE. Make your own RUclips channel instead of piggybacking on a Creator and hijacking their video that took extreme hard work, effort, time and money only to have it "time stamped" by some "editing" donkey. How would you feel if someone did this to you??? it's like you're saying "Don't bother watching the video, here are the main points." "You're welcome everyone" thinking you are "helping." NEWSFLASH - you're not. You're selfish and rude.
Try to find a relationship with God, Not Religion, Relationship & a spiritual counselor. I have come a long way with this after being to a Narc for 37 years
It's hard to accept that our 20 year marriage is coming to an end(quietly quitting it), it took 20 years and two teenage daughters to find out that I have been sleeping with THE enemy. That this is why I am at the point of suicide. I feel so trapped I can't go anywhere I don't have a job anymore and I don't want my daughters to think that I am the bad guy, for not only leaving their father, but leaving them with him. They do see how poorly he behaves but they still love him because he knows how to charm them. I am grateful that I understand that this is what is happening and I am working very hard on my path back to our Lord and Savior, God. It's just so hard to be around him lately now, that I know exactly what he is, and what he is doing to me. I actually feel physically sick when I'm around him and feel anxious when he gets home😢....I always thought that I am the problem in all of this and that my family is in this nightmare because of me. I grew up in a very unloving dysfunctional and now knowingly Narc home. I was always desperately looking for any kind of true unconditional love and desperately taking any scrap thrown my way. Here I am again, 53 years old emotionally drained and weak again, trying to pick up the same pieces of myself.. It is no longer about having hope. I am building up my faith that I am on the right track and where I need to be for now. I will be free one day.
I don’t care anymore about his silent treatment, the arguments, his jealousy, etc. I JUST. DO. NOT. CARE. I’m retired and have money, AAA, Medicare, friends across the state. I’m a solo female camper. I go without him while he sits home planning for the Apocalypse. According to him, I’ll go camping, the world will end, and I’ll regret not making it back home to him. What a joke. I have mastered the art of solo camping with my dog. It’s a joy and a pleasure to be in nature. Rain or shine, I’m happy. When he starts his abuse, I load up the SUV, my equipment, and my dog and we’re off to have fun. I’m gone sometimes up to two weeks at a time. Traveling across Texas. No contact the whole time. One time I returned home and he came out screaming and angry. Without a word, my sweet dog and I just got back into the SUV and took off again. I saw him in the review mirror shaking his fist. I was beautiful. The next time I returned, he didn’t say a word. I’m selling all my stuff and I’m going away forever.
I am sorry, dear. Went through the same abuse too and for 15y, I couldn't place my finger on it but am seperated 4y now I'm healing. Self education helps alot too. Please look up Prof. Sam Vaknin as well. Sending you much love and light. ❤❤❤
The "bitterness and resentment" part hit me HARD. So true! Seeing no return on your investment yet having to accept part of the blame for making a bad investment. It's the shame which brings the bitterness and resentment -- the profound shame of having been so careless with your heart.
Your statement hit me in the heart.😢 So true...my absolute anguish knowing that I chose to be with this person for the past 18 years. He's not verbally or physically abusive, but he has NEVER touched me in 18 yrs of being married. I feel so broken and worthless.
It hit me too. Mine was my church. I worked so hard and then the gossip started. I think the head priest is a narcissist. Sent the flying monkeys after me for years. Women would come up to my face just to give me a dirty look. Why didn't I leave before that. I needed them so badly. Going somewhere else now.
19, yrs married and in middle of divorce. He was soo detrimental to my health and our children's health, that the judge ordered lifetime restraining order for the 3 of us and gave me custody. The judge put him on a registry for violent offenders against women.. thank God the judge saw through him and how destructive he was to our kids. Free and healing now, it's still hard after 3 years separation
Similar … 10 years raised our children alone … 10 years lived in hell with him … 2+ years … Been working on healing … Finally the clouds are lifting I lost my family too He’s turned my Son against me … and abandoned our daughter who is a mess and so much for me to love unconditionally… as I’m afraid … she’s a budding narc too … there is nothing easy about this … and no real ending either …. Your only Choice is to become a warrior of self love
@@Gain-Health It really is like (The never ending story ). He turned my only son against me also and stops me from seeing my grand children. But when i hear your storys i feel less lonely✨🌎
It’s a hard pill to swallow when you learn about this. Most children are brought up, believing that family is everything, honor, your mother and father, be a peacekeeper. These are all noble things….. BUT…. These things do not apply to narcissist - they are used as weapons by them. It is 100% simple. They know that you believe those things and they use them like a battering ram.
He was the most karma ridden toxic person I ever met cloaked in charm and bs- he used many to try to destroy me and outside of shining I asked God the archangels to step in on my behalf and that was the key to my shift… they literally should be charged with attempted murder
YES YES YES I did die...I do not know who I am & who or what I'm turning into. Most days, I do not like me anymore. I'm having violent thoughts that I've never had before "HIM" I have numerous suicidal thoughts that is all new to me. I've NEVER ran from conflict because I always tried to find a way to help the situation become positive. I've also noticed I'm having problems remembering anything before "HIM"
I felt that murderous spirit...he was verbally violent, and stood over me and screamed like a lunatic....and then ran away, saying he had to get away from ME. Cripes. 6 years of this. I escaped almost two monhs ago. I still cry daily, but I'm surrounded by people who actually love me now.
There will come a day when you don't cry anymore. It will become a memory of nightmares, but you will also love and appreciate yourself more for how you endured, survived and began to grow stronger again in yourself. 💙 Wishing you the best on your healing journey. It's not linear. It'll be wavy for a while. You'll be alright. Blessings.
Have same M spirit in me now, God help me. Mine ex is wealthy politician, police dont help me. My ex is kind of Epstein. My ex sold my nude pictures on porn site. My ex tried to sell me to prostitution, My 3 devices are hacked. He pay for flying monkeys, stalking, harassing me in constructive way, almost nothing to prove. My health is in pieces, i hope i am not going to be disabled. I used to look like a model, now i am Ugly, bitter face, and overweight. Writing a book but not sure if i will finish, my motivation is poor.
That is the best thing you could possibly do for yourself, because without the healing of self, you’ll find the same kind of partner again I know this from experience much love for healing and light for you
Through my last narcissistic relationship i ended up in an emergency woman’s shelter, through the shelter i was able to get my own apartment. It’s the first time in my life im living alone, no housemates or partners or siblings just ME. I’ve never gotten a chance to know thyself in this way and i have taken this time to develop a disciplined practice around health, healing and spiritual development. At first it was very difficult to be alone, but in no time at all i felt so grateful to be alone. A few hungry spirits have tried to lure me out of this space, but i was surprised at my own strength to see them for what they are and graciously say “no thank you”. I refuse a relationship (even new friendships) until i feel i know thyself better 💛
Amen! Greater is He that is in us, than he that is in the world, and narcissism is demonic, so when you are weak, the Lord is strong. You can make it through! I’ve been with my narc 50 years, but discovered the covert narc 13 years ago, and I am a survivor. Thank you Jesus! Thank you Lord! With God all things are possible!🙏✝️☝️🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
What the government is doing now in these end times days is the same as what the Narc does, which is called Stockholm Syndrome. People are being controlled with the same symptoms the narc can do to the victim. Our Only Hope is Jesus Christ, because the world is coming to an end. They can destroy the body, but God can destroy both body and soul and cast you into hell, the lake of fire.
If the Lord only becomes strong in Jesus, the narc 😈 knows they cannot take Jesus from you. Our hope is in Jesus Christ, not in our demonic narc. Your strength comes from the Lord when you are weak… Press on!🙏✝️☝️💪🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
That's a great way of looking at it. God gave them the gift of life and they use it to be cruel to others. What a waste of a gift! 😞. I'll never understand these narcissists.
That’s what I was thinking last time I was talking to him. Imagine being born so beautiful, so talented, so athletic, so intelligent, so fearless with such a great deck of cards from the start, and the only thing that brings you joy is seeing the confusion and defeat on peoples faces while you’re torturing them with mind games. While the victims are unsuspecting people just trying to care about you. So sad 😞
😪 I’m an empath married to a frighteningly dark narcissist. I’m physically ill now from all the abuse - panic attacks, horrible anxiety, stomachaches every day. I had a bone marrow transplant in 2018 and my father was convinced that my cancer was a result of all the abuse I live with. I’m scared all the time. Working on getting out of this horrible situation. I don’t think I’ll ever trust a man again and that makes me so sad.
With GOD all things are possible. Find a trauma based therapist and a somatic therapist to release the trauma from the body. It’s stuck energy. That icky feeling is stuck trauma energy that needs to be released. You’ll love again but it will definitely take a very patient & empathetic man
Your gona be ok. You are safe and loved and have the strength that the hood lord gave you. We are warriors. You will get through this transition and GOD will send you support.
Just diagnosed with RA and I have been living with an abuser. The body is the creature of the mind. I regret waiting out to see what would happen. It has cost me my health. Now i am limited in another way. I have trapped myself in my body, my painful body. Please, learn to not wait. You are worth an infinite amount. Remember that.
Praise God for your sharing these revelations. Narcissistic abusers attract themselves to giving, compassionate individuals; then play on their guilt when they are called out. No one is ever emotionally or spiritually safe around them. One must have discernment of the Holy Spirit to steer clear of them!
forgive yourself and make sure it doesn't happen again stay away from people don't love themselves narcissist r ppl that r miserable hates themselves. u must learn yr lesson or it will for sure happen again cause sadly we live in a world full of unhappy people. Corinthians 5:11 But now I am writing to you that you must not associate with anyone who claims to be a brother or sister but is sexually immoral or greedy, an idolater or slanderer, a drunkard or swindler. Do not even eat with such people.
I've always said that "desperation" is the primary feeling I had for so long, during/after growing up with them. Being in the world completely alone, now, also causes desperation. God is good. He sends me what I need. ❤
Thanks for this. I shut down, a breakdown, couldn't function move or eat, it's taken lots of meds and a lot of alcohol and an awful divorce , but now I'm me again, no drink , not ill.
I have clung tightly to my spiritual beliefs. My spirit was very sick. I stayed alone to heal. I'm grateful for it, but very sad as to how sick my spirit really was. I only know how sick it was because of the phases of healing I have gone through and the phases of that horrible FOG lifting.
Amen!! By the end of my 36 year relationship with my high school sweetheart who is a covert narcissist, I was so sick . I was in a wheelchair, loving in complete darkness (literally) with a series of eye infections. After two years of being in and out of the hospital 24 times, I went blind in one eye and had to have it removed. The pain I endured those two years was like nothing I’ve ever experienced(and I’ve had three child births) I found out my narcissistic husband turned to his female boss as ‘support’. I finally found a sexual text that gave me my out. I ran like Kevin said. I was oppressed spiritually for all 36 years. I escaped and had no contact for 2 years. I am recovering, reclaiming and rebuilding by living with my parents and diving deep with God again. HE is the answer to my healing. Thank you for explaining this so clearly Kevin
@@erin6220 thank you for your response. We all suffer at the hands of narcissists. I’m sorry you were suffering, but I am so happy that you have figured it out at your young age. Most important thing is to learn what it is in your personality that was attracted to a narcissist. When we, look at ourselves and change, then we change our future. It was the best gift I could give my adult children and myself. I wish you all the best in your future endeavors. Respect Courage, strength, and wisdom.
I have 2 siblings. Our father trianguled the 3 of us. We don't have a good relationship. I decided to walk away in order to preserve myself. It's hard because it's not what l want. I'd rather have my siblings in my life, but they are manipulative, secretive, deceitful. Our father died last year. It was a mess. Mentally, l wasn't in a good place. I grieved a lot, for the death of both my parents. I also grieved for our non existent siblings relationship. I gave up the hope for them to be the ideal siblings, because they can't be. Their mindset is different to mine. The word family means something different to everyone.
I hear you…my father the same with same # siblings and was estranged from mother because of lies told about you. Then Married one..watched the lies, experienced the word salad, the unreliability, gunna nature (gunna do this, gunna do that, but nothing gets done), the torturous divorce process, the isolation and losing both ‘families’ from lies told about you. More peaceful on own with pets. Also, if you have clutter issues, (and I add weight issues to that) it is a trauma response (thanks to crappy childhood fairy for that insight), not you. It buffers you from anyone getting close. You don’t invite them to your messy home…and are always ‘tidying up’, never tidy.
This is the first time I’ve heard a coach explain narcissm as spiritual oppression but he is right. So basically that persons plan is to destroy you by crushing your spirit. Crushing your spirit is exactly like murder. Very well said sir. Thank you.
I've been abused by a NARC since I was 6 years old; I got married, divorced, and then met Narc number 2 at 32 years old; I'm now 63 and last year I ran; I don't think I have very much time to heal and know what its like to enjoy me as a free person, after 32 years living like a prisoner in my own home isn't something I thought I would escape, but I did it and now the hard work is now beginning; I have anxiety attacks and I rant at myself and tell my self that I'm pathetic, I'm useless, why did God create someone as useless as me; that's the hardest part of healing, you have to learn to love yourself, and that's my mount Everest, and I'm climbing it naked; at 63 years of age I'm hoping to be able to walk, drive and do other things without asking for permission. Any victim KNOWS there are good days and bad days but I hope WE ALL get to the top of our Mount Everest. My Narc never beat me, but my spirit IS sick, in fact I've wanted to die many times over, but I can't say anything because I'm being watched by my family, which sometimes feels just as bad.
I understand being watched, which silences you. In severe cases you are “disappeared” from the family, & the bad guys badmouth you in your absence. Silencing you and disappearing you come from their murderous impulses. They want to “kill” you in order to make your story die, leaving their lies in its place. Why? To make the bad guy(s) look good and make you the bad guy. They maintain their own status of goodness by “disappearing” the badness of the bad guys, so that their reputation stays unsullied as they associate with the white-washed and they disassociate from you. If this sounds convoluted, it’s because it is. (Th3-7th-24-0137E)
You need deliverance. Repentance, baptism, and born again with Christ. These creatures are demon possessed and they transfer demons onto us. May God bless you and set you free 🙏🏻❤️
i have had between 10-15 (family, bosses, colleagues, "friends")...it is epidemic. Reasons behind are negative soul attachments, interest economy, doggy dog life style, selflessness turns into greed, androidization of society = digital society (Archon's strategy)
This was probably the best description of how narcissistic abuse insidiously affects the victims. This is so powerful, Thank you so much for this. I know at least 10 people who need to watch this so they can begin to heal!
Thank you for that, Amandam4148! I never heard anyone connect hope to addiction. It's so TRUE! I've been holding onto false hope...& that keeps me tied to a narc. Thanks for opening my eyes! ❤
Hope + trust = disappointed and betrayal. Especially, with these emotionless encounters with a stranger,you didn't know at all. And he will be like that with anyone. Repeatedly!!
I hate to even say it but realizing my 23 yr old daughter is a narsasist ,it has been hell being abused by my own kid has been so emotionally confusing , just now this last year cutting ties for my own sanity I have to if I want to live and be there for my other children ! Having a narsist family member is one of the hardest things to go thru , 🥲
46 year old daughter of a narc father, breaking free. I am now honoring my soul and respecting myself. Working through the self-hate, parenting myself. I thank god that I saw the light.
As soon as my mother SAW that I finally SAW THROUGH her imposture, she destroyed my reputation, severed my from my whole family and tried to send me to a psychiatric hospital. That's how crazy their resentment can become, that's how hard they feel the need to destroy anyone who can expose them. I had to run to another country to escape her tentacles...
It’s very heartbreaking when your narc husband (40 years married!) abandons you physically, emotionally and spiritually, but still has the facade of being such a “nice guy” to everyone else in his life. I have been hoping his heart would change for four decades! I’ve developed high blood pressure, autoimmune issues and have pre-diabetic symptoms; on meds for all three. He has now convinced our 3 adult daughters that HE is the victim. So I’m estranged from my daughters and also our 7 grandchildren. He’s divorcing me, telling everyone that he’s tired of MY CRAP. The irony. I’ve gone through some unbelievable emotional suffering and yes, trauma, as a result of all the narcissistic’s classic evil behavior and actions. Through counseling, I’m learning to change my mindset from grief and sorrow to thankfulness that he will be gone, Lord willing, and I will finally be in peace.
This video is so spot on. I've had hope for years that if I just acted happier, nicer, if I became who my narc parents wanted me to be that things would get better and they'd treat me better. As an adult who's researched much about narcissism, I've learned that they will never change. To be in a relationship with them is making me sick spiritually, mentally, emotionally, and physically. I'm saving up money to see a therapist but I'm pretty sure I have CPTSD. I've also struggled with eating disorders restricting food and binge eating disorder for the past 11 years. I have adrenal fatigue as well. I've realized no contact is my only option to heal and become the real me.
Yes, the Silence! Night after Night. 😢 As if I didn't exist. I left. Took awhile but I made new friends, who cared about me. Caring giving, Reciprocal friendships. Take your time, Watch what people Do...before you trust what they Say. Bless your Journey 💜✝️
Thank you Margaret it means a lot when others know what you are talking about my son and I had to move hundreds of miles as he would have ruined our lives..@@margaretcantlon9960
Just got MYSELF out of a 6+ years relationship. I am on the road to recovery. I knew something was wrong, was missing and I finally figured it out. This person was acting in the same manner as my ex who was also a narcissist. At least, I was still strong enough to pull myself up and away. I am being my authentic self again Hope deferred can be a killer! Thanks for this video.
I knew someone like this for almost 25 years, it's such a huge relief she's gone. Beware the spiritual narcissists who preach about "love and light" and use spirituality as a weapon against you. Be honest, have faith. I can assure you, those who stir the shit pot end up licking the spoon. RUN!!
You're right, the spiritual narcissists are some of the more dangerous one. My sister is one of those and shes a vulnerable narc which makes her even sneakier. She calls herself a clairvoyant, but shes extremely evil. Also has sociopathic traits.. very dangerous
Yes, it is! Ask God to help you “Seek first the Kingdom of God” (His reality) and then listen for His input, constantly, and He WILL show you what is true.
I love how you use Biblical references. What better examples and words of wisdom from the most compassionate, wise and loving teacher to ever walk the face of the Earth. Thank you for extending his work.
I went through discard back in 2007. I had no idea about narcissism and I had to pick myself back up. No one could understand, even I couldn't understand why a man who gave me nothing could make me feel so low. I was so confused and did everything that discarded victims do. Looking back, he did the hoover, but luckily I was not interested anymore.
Wow never heard this before; dealing with a narcissist causes disease??!! This just spoke volumes to me. My ex hubs and son are both Narcissists~ I’m Exhausted physically, mentally and emotionally, my body is in so much pain (I wake up tired) & I feel empty inside from Giving and giving of myself so and receiving nothing in return.
This is so true !!!!!!!!!!! So TRUE .......I was near death ....and it was 2 years of asthma maybe longer ...could not breathe ...constantly on a nebulizer...felt poisoned and may have been ..but toxic people can posion with words too ...yes spiritual disease !!!..you're so right ...I got to this point of bitterness and resentment...i had never been so spiritually bankrupt!!! You have helped me GOD SEND❤God bless you...I'm now in constant warrior mode ..armored ..silent as a dove and smart as a serpent.....🌬💨🔥👊🙌🏻💪.....spiritual sickness that made my physical body so ill ....I was fighting for my life! Literally...this narcissistic round is with my adult daughter ...she's all of them IN ONE ...and my hardest to see the true colors ...and they aren't pretty...
That is me right now! My husband is an alcoholic and dose a lot of verbal abuse and than is so loving when he's not drunk! But my spirit is noum! And he doesn't remember what he's said to me! Help.
@43warriormode98: *Wow!* Ihr Kommentar könnte 1:1 von mir sein! Sie beschreiben es perfekt, wie mein Leben aktuell ist! Hatte einen Tumor und eine Blutinfektion und Atemnot. Ärzte wussten nicht wo es herkommt! ~~~ ABER jetzt heile ich und richte mich wieder auf! ~~~ Alles Liebe für Sie! Wir sind stark und die Narzissten können uns nicht besiegen! ; )
God please help me to allow your spirit to deliver me from bitterness so I can move forward in Christ my husband is a covert narcissist. I am called and chosen of God. I please o lord help me as you only know my issues and needs. 🙏🏼😭Help all of your children in Jesus name
I was abused by narcissistic parents and narcissistic teachers who literally isolated me in empty rooms for hours on end, it's taken me over 20 years to start to understand the damage these creatures have done to my soul.
I was "raised" by a narcissist, he was violent, spiritually and verbally abusive. This continued into adulthood, having my own children made me reaslise how evil he is. I cut him off, i began to heal. A year later i split with my narcissistic wife, i had already mourned the death of our relationship, the day we separated an oppressive weight lifted from me, I'm now married to a "normal" person who loves me and is at peace with me. I resonate with your message.
yes ma'am, in the 60's I was being groomed by my 2 older brothers for the 2 narcs I had children with, they set out to destroy their own children in order to get even with me because I left them, their entire family were narcs. one actually promised he would do just that If I ever left. She is such a mess I can't even help her. just like him. fortunately he met an early grave!! she still worships him, sad sad sad,
@@randy_cbc8811 Apparently Narcissism is a spectrum and we are all on that spectrum. I think we are in denial of that and don't want to look at ourselves for fear of what we may find. But there is a huge difference between 1% narcissism and 100% narcissism. Toxic narcissism is deadly and about control. Love bombing by someone you hardly know is a red flag.
I had a narcissistic father & younger brother & both abused me, my mother & baby brother & a pastor of a church & he really adored my narc. father & kicked my mother out of the church!! Then as a young man in my early employment I was around so many narcissistic workers & bosses!! Then working in a business with my baby brother, the narcissists we encountered!! I am 68 & have various health issues!!
Hi Sharon: It is my sincere hope the manner of my writing style did not cause you any distress. My intentions for using caps was for the purpose of emphasis only. Respectfully, Antoinette
@antoinetterandall2124 , Firstly, God bless your kind heart. 2nd, learn to be ok with offending others sometimes. 3rd, the bald man in the video is telling some deep facts like he always does.
Thank you Jatins for your kind words and support. You have read me well, as a general rule, I do not like offending people . . . and this is the first time that anyone has ever - openly come to my rescue. Thank you. I really appreciate it. You have made my day. Have a great day. I love this channel and the unique perspective presented. I will continue to watch and I will look for your posts in the comment section.
I had to let go with my own Mother after decades of hoping. The ruminating is the worst part of holding on. It took me having to have a raise my own child to really realize I was wasting my time. Good luck to everyone out there. It is a worth while process to let go.🌎☀️💙
i totally bounced back, even though my health is now reflecting some major stuff. but wow! i cannot believe how happy i have become after 7 years of FREEDOM!
The scene from The Matrix is a powerful analogy as it suggests that our spiritual well-being affects our physical and mental health, as they are all interconnected. If the spirit is unwell, it can affect our physical and mental health. This would call for holistic healing to address spiritual issues along with treatments for the physical and mental.
“It is the soul that is hungry, not the body” Caroline Myss and many other spiritual teachers have pointed at the spirits authority over physical health. Being spiritually healthy guarantees physical health, but being physically healthy doesn’t guarantee spiritual health. Most physical and emotional ailments begin in the spirit, or our energy systems depending on your terminology. Everything is spiritual in origin; everything is a manifestation and expression of the spiritual
I wonder when I will be free from this veil that covers my mind and thoughts since when I was hit hard by narcissist abuse. I feel I lost myself, can't recognize me!
Thanks for your encouragement. My first step was to at least give a name to what I went through from childhood. I don't know what should be the next step as no contact to aging parents is almost impossible. People would consider me as a monster and their smear campaigns have been so painful in the past. Moreover, despite going low contacts, they are dominating my thoughts. How can you stop living in the past?
Your first step to stop living in the past is to remember it and make sense of it. You have to first recognise it, not ignore or try forgetting it happened. You need a therapist trained in this to help you deal with it and make some sense of it, then learn from it, and start the healing process. It's takes time and alot of mental energy, but the end result is worth it. Iv Been there, but it can be achieved and it does get alot better x
I've managed to break free of the demons, and feel so much healthier all round. Having strength in belief, and, trusting your inner guidance is extremely important, letting go of the nonsense is so liberating. It took years for me, but I'm sure it can be done sooner with proper awareness of the scenario. Healthy self-love is the answer, loving oneself enough to not put up with it. Good luck, everyone.
Thank you so much , I just came across you video now and I now understand why I am the way I am, my husband is narcissistic and I am a very loving , caring and giving person and he is only for himself from looking at pornography after just getting married , always staring at other woman, and denying it , when I confronted him he would swear at me and make me feel like I was the bad person ,He now has dementia and I am having to look after him , I am so tired and drained of energy , I am 65 young and he is 76 , we married in 2015 , I am very Spiritual and always Praying for others who are suffering and I am Praying to God to help me have a better life and to be able to meet someone one day soon who would love me sincerely 🙏🏻
My mum was never so nasty to me as when I lost ( killed by a fox)my beloved she -cat, that I had bottle fed since she was a tiny baby... I really understood then... She pushed me towards the edge. It worked. I attempted suicide 6 months later. But, never to have any more contact with her after almost 60 years of abuse. It can take a life time to understand that your parent is an actual monster 😢.
Healing from full blown narcissistic personality disorder/sociopathy is challenging. It requires a level of self honesty that I have not been able to achieve in spite of 48 years of therapy, 12 step programs, and inventory. Denial is strong in a person who was a victim, became a perpetrator then reverted back to victim. Taking responsibility without beating up on your self is another gem.
And ESSENTIAL. Do Step 4 objectively, without self condemnation; asking God for His total help, and the courage to keep looking at whatever He shows you. He doesn’t want you to be consumed with guilt. He wants your freedom from every lie from the Pit which you were believing 🙏
You're the very first person I've witnessed with NPD who has owned up to it and is working on it, and I've been interested in learning about narcissism and personality disorders for 10 years. You deserve to be encouraged. Believe me, if you're taking responsibility for your actions, you deserve hugs and not to feel down on yourself. You're exceptional.
I developed an autoimmune condition from a psychopath partner in less then 2 years! I was perfectly healthy before I met him at the age of 36. This affected the whole hormonal system, causing other issues, like endometriosis.
I'm Christian and believe the Bible, and love Patristics and early Christian writings, but churches can be dangerous places, and people using twisted scripture. And sometimes about the social aspect, not God. It seems that every time I've met somebody who makes a big show of how Christian they are, they hugely stabbed me in the back.
Kevin, I listened many , lots of explanations of this matter, I undoubtedly know that you are the one who speaks from experience, not from books. You have all my respect for your hard work and authenticity! What you are working with , is the heaviest field of study and knowledge . Thank you 🙏🏻
omg I;ve watched so many youtubers about spirituality and narcissim but this guy is so different. Never heard of what he's saying before (spiritual disease, increase power by a narc on his own)!!!!!!!!!! this channel is a revelation!
Thank you for this. No one has explained to me what was happening to me and what he was actually doing the whole last 10 years but this is it. He studied my hopes and dreams and then promised to move where i wanted and even went to the schools and trainings and sabotaged it all. Discarded me upon selling our family home and he had someone else on the other side of the country and remarried after 30 years. He waited until last child went off to college to lure me, promise me, isolate, and abuse to the point that I left - he was “victim”. After 3 years of healing and no contact- i am seeing that i actually am the person that won her life back. Thank you so very much for this. I am so grateful. 🙏
So true, I am tired 53 feeling like 80... I understand now why I've kept in this cycle and I know now why I'm responsible after listening to Tim Fetcher...I've been in this cycle since I was born, then been married 3 times and all narcissists loooooong story! I failed, and mostly myself...I am angry with myself for putting up with this for so long I'm exhausted giving pretending having false hope!
I am self empowered even when struggling, my ex-husband couldn't ever let me enjoy my strength or anything that made me happy. Now in our divorce, he can't stop himself from trying to take my resources, he can't stop himself from trying to oppress me in the courts. I need opportunities for complete financial independence, but I've really built something, know I'll make something out of it soon. I'm so tired of using my energy fighting him, when I could be using it for so many other things. I work part time, work isn't even work because my job is just my job, but divorce is taking so much away from really going for things related to my highest good. I get so disgusted at times.
Well, this certainly hit the spot. Nailed it brother. All these years I've suffered oppression at the hands of a bitter, angry, soul. A verbally abusive narcissist. Thank you for this succinct identification of the problem.
I have left 3 yrs now and I’m still physically beat up… but spiritually & emotionally I am happier than ever ! Just want to heal from painful illness I got in a 35 yr covert narc marriage.
Sugar, my narcissistic husband died and my doctor's couldn't diagnose an illness for 10 years. It broke my heart that he had ruined my life and he wasn't even here anymore.
I have been suffering from what I thought was depression. But I told God that I am happy and to please tell me what is wrong with me. He gave me the word “oppression” then You immediately popped up on my screen. So thankful to God for sending you to me. 19 years of being married but not living with a AAA narcissist. He was an educated man but chose to drive long distance trucking.. I wonder why!
Never tell a Narcissist the things that hurt you. They will use whatever bothers you as a way to attack you.
Absolutely they will never forget your sacred secrets and use them as Leverage when you least suspect it..😮
Sick !
Hello iam new! This is helping me very much!
Thank you so much for sharing with all of us!!!
Yes
Narcissists also love and relish to kick you when you're down. They love to attack you when ,for whatever the reason, you're at your weakest. They're actually evil.
Yes, and hate it if you are happy for a moment.
So TRUE
Yes Beautiful that's because they can't reach that high 😅 That's why the best defence is offence, to literally rise up to where they can't reach you any longer. Trust me, its easier said than done & I never thought it was possible, but when you're up high enough, you can actually forget about them completely 😅 it's AWESOME 🎉❤ 🥰 ✨️
Then DO NOT BE WEAK. REFUSE TO BE DOWN. Stand up like a warrior.
When you learn to do this, Heaven will open up.
and when you're succeeding and doing well, they'll remind you of every single real or perceived (ie: completely fabricated, or something THEY did) transgression you made in the past, even if it was decades ago-bring up something they did last week and the spiritual narcs will tell you to "be present" in the most passive aggressive, self righteously hostile manner possible. I wouldn't call them "evil" unless they're in positions of great power, then yes, they're the sickest evil, zero remorse or empathy for anyone else. It's like some kind of dark dense sickness has been unleashed into the world, and those with weak mental and spiritual immune systems are completely infected.
1) Oppression
2) Desperation
3) Bitterness and resentment
4) Broken spirit
ABSOLUTE TRUTH
I was looking for you. ❤ Thank you
@Donna Andrews
RUDE. Make your own RUclips channel instead of piggybacking on a Creator and hijacking their video that took extreme hard work, effort, time and money only to have it "time stamped" by some "editing" donkey. How would you feel if someone did this to you??? it's like you're saying "Don't bother watching the video, here are the main points." "You're welcome everyone" thinking you are "helping." NEWSFLASH - you're not. You're selfish and rude.
Oh God! Create In Me A Pure Clean Heart!!!
@user-nq9qp4ht4u ice written out all these scripture verses you have given! Thank You for your input!!! Go With God and Be Blessed!!! 28:45
Satan's demons need a body to work through. Know this and pray them out. Amen
Narcissist are evil soul parasites ...
My God ….❤️
You cant pray them out if they enjoy their demons and wont let them go.........and they do...
@linda7279 but that is they're problem, ... pray for those creatures at least once is because we empaths are empaths ..
Could you include instructions for HOW to pray them out? Thank you.
The diabolical nature of these people is incomprehensible to someone with a good heart. I am still struggling spiritually. God help us all
Same here😢
Try to find a relationship with God, Not Religion, Relationship & a spiritual counselor. I have come a long way with this after being to a Narc for 37 years
@@marilynb6645 Yes hope is in Jesus Christ 🙏
They attack Empaths that's what we are Empaths but now we are EMPOWERED with the knowledge
It's hard to accept that our 20 year marriage is coming to an end(quietly quitting it), it took 20 years and two teenage daughters to find out that I have been sleeping with THE enemy. That this is why I am at the point of suicide. I feel so trapped I can't go anywhere I don't have a job anymore and I don't want my daughters to think that I am the bad guy, for not only leaving their father, but leaving them with him. They do see how poorly he behaves but they still love him because he knows how to charm them. I am grateful that I understand that this is what is happening and I am working very hard on my path back to our Lord and Savior, God. It's just so hard to be around him lately now, that I know exactly what he is, and what he is doing to me. I actually feel physically sick when I'm around him and feel anxious when he gets home😢....I always thought that I am the problem in all of this and that my family is in this nightmare because of me. I grew up in a very unloving dysfunctional and now knowingly Narc home. I was always desperately looking for any kind of true unconditional love and desperately taking any scrap thrown my way. Here I am again, 53 years old emotionally drained and weak again, trying to pick up the same pieces of myself.. It is no longer about having hope. I am building up my faith that I am on the right track and where I need to be for now. I will be free one day.
I'm in the bed right now in hermit mode. Sending love & healing to those in need. We are all one. ❤
I send you strength, sweet sister. You have a God given gift that this spirit hates because they cannot possess it themselves.
Also hermit mode after another mean narc attack of my ex a few days ago. This is torture. Evil. Big hug to all survivors.
Get strong pull out of it ❤❤❤
🙏🙇♀️
❤
I don’t care anymore about his silent treatment, the arguments, his jealousy, etc. I JUST. DO. NOT. CARE. I’m retired and have money, AAA, Medicare, friends across the state.
I’m a solo female camper. I go without him while he sits home planning for the Apocalypse. According to him, I’ll go camping, the world will end, and I’ll regret not making it back home to him. What a joke.
I have mastered the art of solo camping with my dog. It’s a joy and a pleasure to be in nature. Rain or shine, I’m happy.
When he starts his abuse, I load up the SUV, my equipment, and my dog and we’re off to have fun. I’m gone sometimes up to two weeks at a time. Traveling across Texas. No contact the whole time.
One time I returned home and he came out screaming and angry. Without a word, my sweet dog and I just got back into the SUV and took off again. I saw him in the review mirror shaking his fist. I was beautiful. The next time I returned, he didn’t say a word.
I’m selling all my stuff and I’m going away forever.
I am so happy for you. I can't wait to be free❤ I know your dog is happy too.
Strong and smart woman….excellent!!
Stay strong and safe you are brave 🙏trust in God
Wonderful, you won’t have a single regret. ❤
Girl, I couldn't quit laughing at your post. Not in a rude way, but just picturing it is so inspiring😅😅😅 You go girl!
No wonder I am so tired all the time 😭
Me to
It goes beyond just physical tiredness...it's emotional and spiritual exhaustion also
@@mariad3431 You are right.
I am sorry, dear.
Went through the same abuse too and for 15y, I couldn't place my finger on it but am seperated 4y now I'm healing.
Self education helps alot too. Please look up Prof. Sam Vaknin as well.
Sending you much love and light. ❤❤❤
Check your diet too, have a great day
The "bitterness and resentment" part hit me HARD. So true! Seeing no return on your investment yet having to accept part of the blame for making a bad investment. It's the shame which brings the bitterness and resentment -- the profound shame of having been so careless with your heart.
Your statement hit me in the heart.😢 So true...my absolute anguish knowing that I chose to be with this person for the past 18 years. He's not verbally or physically abusive, but he has NEVER touched me in 18 yrs of being married. I feel so broken and worthless.
Acceptance of the situation, learning of the lesson and better choices in the future can be healing!❤ sending much love and healing!
There is zero shame in innocence ❤️
“so careless with your heart” yes… 😢
It hit me too. Mine was my church. I worked so hard and then the gossip started. I think the head priest is a narcissist. Sent the flying monkeys after me for years. Women would come up to my face just to give me a dirty look. Why didn't I leave before that. I needed them so badly. Going somewhere else now.
So True! Only Narcissistic abuse victim can understand this...
Absolutely, I can't it happened to me
❤
100%!! Facts
Only only those that have the regrettable experience UNDERSTAND
True
19, yrs married and in middle of divorce. He was soo detrimental to my health and our children's health, that the judge ordered lifetime restraining order for the 3 of us and gave me custody. The judge put him on a registry for violent offenders against women.. thank God the judge saw through him and how destructive he was to our kids. Free and healing now, it's still hard after 3 years separation
Courage ! It's a long recouvery but you are lucky you got your kids. I lost my whole family 🐘
Similar … 10 years raised our children alone … 10 years lived in hell with him … 2+ years …
Been working on healing …
Finally the clouds are lifting
I lost my family too
He’s turned my
Son against me … and abandoned our daughter who is a mess and so much for me to love unconditionally… as I’m afraid … she’s a budding narc too … there is nothing easy about this … and no real ending either …. Your only
Choice is to become a warrior of self love
@@Gain-Health It really is like (The never ending story ). He turned my only son against me also and stops me from seeing my grand children. But when i hear your storys i feel less lonely✨🌎
Stay safe & well
@@kitty.k1924❤
Others to them, even their children are nothing but “supply”.
I have stopped giving my mother the supply
Especially their children
So sad but 100% accurate
It’s a hard pill to swallow when you learn about this. Most children are brought up, believing that family is everything, honor, your mother and father, be a peacekeeper. These are all noble things….. BUT…. These things do not apply to narcissist - they are used as weapons by them. It is 100% simple. They know that you believe those things and they use them like a battering ram.
@@mikelockhart5528 what makes me stock to my evil mother. "Children obey your mother".
He was the most karma ridden toxic person I ever met cloaked in charm and bs- he used many to try to destroy me and outside of shining I asked God the archangels to step in on my behalf and that was the key to my shift… they literally should be charged with attempted murder
Oh I can't count the time's I've said this exact same thing.
I agree😢
@@darleenmcbride8900me too
Me too 😨
YES YES YES I did die...I do not know who I am & who or what I'm turning into. Most days, I do not like me anymore. I'm having violent thoughts that I've never had before "HIM" I have numerous suicidal thoughts that is all new to me. I've NEVER ran from conflict because I always tried to find a way to help the situation become positive. I've also noticed I'm having problems remembering anything before "HIM"
I felt that murderous spirit...he was verbally violent, and stood over me and screamed like a lunatic....and then ran away, saying he had to get away from ME. Cripes. 6 years of this.
I escaped almost two monhs ago. I still cry daily, but I'm surrounded by people who actually love me now.
MATTHEW 11: 28-30 - Come to Me all you who are weary and burdened and I will give you rest.
Says the Lord JESUSCHRIST
Blessings.
There will come a day when you don't cry anymore. It will become a memory of nightmares, but you will also love and appreciate yourself more for how you endured, survived and began to grow stronger again in yourself. 💙 Wishing you the best on your healing journey. It's not linear. It'll be wavy for a while. You'll be alright. Blessings.
Keep your head up. It will get better. I promise
God bless you, I pray one day I can help other women realize this before I did 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
Have same M spirit in me now, God help me. Mine ex is wealthy politician, police dont help me. My ex is kind of Epstein. My ex sold my nude pictures on porn site. My ex tried to sell me to prostitution, My 3 devices are hacked. He pay for flying monkeys, stalking, harassing me in constructive way, almost nothing to prove. My health is in pieces, i hope i am not going to be disabled. I used to look like a model, now i am Ugly, bitter face, and overweight. Writing a book but not sure if i will finish, my motivation is poor.
Healing takes time. And I can't go into a relationship until I am healed again
That is the best thing you could possibly do for yourself, because without the healing of self, you’ll find the same kind of partner again I know this from experience much love for healing and light for you
Same. But I'm in so much emotional pain 😢
Through my last narcissistic relationship i ended up in an emergency woman’s shelter, through the shelter i was able to get my own apartment. It’s the first time in my life im living alone, no housemates or partners or siblings just ME. I’ve never gotten a chance to know thyself in this way and i have taken this time to develop a disciplined practice around health, healing and spiritual development. At first it was very difficult to be alone, but in no time at all i felt so grateful to be alone. A few hungry spirits have tried to lure me out of this space, but i was surprised at my own strength to see them for what they are and graciously say “no thank you”. I refuse a relationship (even new friendships) until i feel i know thyself better 💛
Absolutely 💯! I'm feeling like the next one would be worse😢
Facts.
Only God's Holy Spirit can heal restore your Broken Spirit. Break the chains that bind.Release the hold A Narassist has on you!!!
Hate and resentment will kill you, whereas anger can save you.
Angered transmuted to passion for happiness and a calm nervous system! ❤
So nicely stated.
Thank you
It depends what anger you have, positive or negative. Anger can create hate and resentment.
The lord is close to the broken hearted and he saves those who are crushed in spirit
Jesus came to set the captive free
Amen! Greater is He that is in us, than he that is in the world, and narcissism is demonic, so when you are weak, the Lord is strong. You can make it through! I’ve been with my narc 50 years, but discovered the covert narc 13 years ago, and I am a survivor. Thank you Jesus! Thank you Lord! With God all things are possible!🙏✝️☝️🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
What the government is doing now in these end times days is the same as what the Narc does, which is called Stockholm Syndrome. People are being controlled with the same symptoms the narc can do to the victim. Our Only Hope is Jesus Christ, because the world is coming to an end. They can destroy the body, but God can destroy both body and soul and cast you into hell, the lake of fire.
If the Lord only becomes strong in Jesus, the narc 😈 knows they cannot take Jesus from you. Our hope is in Jesus Christ, not in our demonic narc. Your strength comes from the Lord when you are weak… Press on!🙏✝️☝️💪🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
Amen
Imagine having been given the gift of life and use it to exploit other people aiming to take advantage of it. Great video, thank you.
That's a great way of looking at it. God gave them the gift of life and they use it to be cruel to others. What a waste of a gift! 😞. I'll never understand these narcissists.
That’s what I was thinking last time I was talking to him. Imagine being born so beautiful, so talented, so athletic, so intelligent, so fearless with such a great deck of cards from the start, and the only thing that brings you joy is seeing the confusion and defeat on peoples faces while you’re torturing them with mind games. While the victims are unsuspecting people just trying to care about you. So sad 😞
Narcissistic abuse is a heinous crime.
Don't have to imagine I live it
I'm sorry what I mean is my daughter uses my grandbabies as leverage against me
I was suicidal most of my marriage to a narcissistic man who belonged to a narcissistic church. God Saved and Freed me from Both of them! 😊❤
3:46 God save us from all from narcissistic people from all walks of life (Ameen)
@@wolfgang7812
Amen! Amen!
Jesus ,the Holy Spirit, read the word of God, meditate ,on the Wisdom within the pages. Puttingg on the full armor of God
"narcissistic church"🤣
@@mrdeshonline
It is Not funny Asshole.
😪 I’m an empath married to a frighteningly dark narcissist. I’m physically ill now from all the abuse - panic attacks, horrible anxiety, stomachaches every day. I had a bone marrow transplant in 2018 and my father was convinced that my cancer was a result of all the abuse I live with. I’m scared all the time. Working on getting out of this horrible situation. I don’t think I’ll ever trust a man again and that makes me so sad.
With GOD all things are possible. Find a trauma based therapist and a somatic therapist to release the trauma from the body. It’s stuck energy. That icky feeling is stuck trauma energy that needs to be released. You’ll love again but it will definitely take a very patient & empathetic man
And please leave this person
Your gona be ok. You are safe and loved and have the strength that the hood lord gave you. We are warriors. You will get through this transition and GOD will send you support.
Thank you for the kind words 💝
Your father is right. All diseases come from emotional trauma
Just diagnosed with RA and I have been living with an abuser.
The body is the creature of the mind. I regret waiting out to see what would happen. It has cost me my health. Now i am limited in another way. I have trapped myself in my body, my painful body. Please, learn to not wait. You are worth an infinite amount. Remember that.
I'm so sorry. I got ra too. It's awful
Me too😢
What is RA?
@@dollpartz4u rheumatoid arthritis
Recognizable, me too Reumatoid Artritis, Auto- immuum. Run if you can!
Praise God for your sharing these revelations. Narcissistic abusers attract themselves to giving, compassionate individuals; then play on their guilt when they are called out. No one is ever emotionally or spiritually safe around them. One must have discernment of the Holy Spirit to steer clear of them!
Resentment and bitterness did make me sick and I allowed myself to be used and abused. I am glad i recognized it!
forgive yourself and make sure it doesn't happen again stay away from people don't love themselves narcissist r ppl that r miserable hates themselves. u must learn yr lesson or it will for sure happen again cause sadly we live in a world full of unhappy people.
Corinthians 5:11
But now I am writing to you that you must not associate with anyone who claims to be a brother or sister but is sexually immoral or greedy, an idolater or slanderer, a drunkard or swindler. Do not even eat with such people.
I became suicidal and relapsed.I lived but I will never return to my prior state of mind.Thank God I made it out.
@@alwayspeace898😮😮😮😮😢😮
I've always said that "desperation" is the primary feeling I had for so long, during/after growing up with them. Being in the world completely alone, now, also causes desperation. God is good. He sends me what I need. ❤
Thanks for this. I shut down, a breakdown, couldn't function move or eat, it's taken lots of meds and a lot of alcohol and an awful divorce , but now I'm me again, no drink , not ill.
I am currently going through this, and I am looking toward the future reading. This comment gives me real hope. Thank you.
I have clung tightly to my spiritual beliefs. My spirit was very sick. I stayed alone to heal. I'm grateful for it, but very sad as to how sick my spirit really was. I only know how sick it was because of the phases of healing I have gone through and the phases of that horrible FOG lifting.
Gina you look nice
Amen!! By the end of my 36 year relationship with my high school sweetheart who is a covert narcissist, I was so sick . I was in a wheelchair, loving in complete darkness (literally) with a series of eye infections. After two years of being in and out of the hospital 24 times, I went blind in one eye and had to have it removed. The pain I endured those two years was like nothing I’ve ever experienced(and I’ve had three child births)
I found out my narcissistic husband turned to his female boss as ‘support’. I finally found a sexual text that gave me my out.
I ran like Kevin said. I was oppressed spiritually for all 36 years. I escaped and had no contact for 2 years.
I am recovering, reclaiming and rebuilding by living with my parents and diving deep with God again. HE is the answer to my healing.
Thank you for explaining this so clearly Kevin
@@erin6220 thank you for your response. We all suffer at the hands of narcissists. I’m sorry you were suffering, but I am so happy that you have figured it out at your young age. Most important thing is to learn what it is in your personality that was attracted to a narcissist. When we, look at ourselves and change, then we change our future. It was the best gift I could give my adult children and myself. I wish you all the best in your future endeavors. Respect Courage, strength, and wisdom.
I have 2 siblings. Our father trianguled the 3 of us. We don't have a good relationship. I decided to walk away in order to preserve myself. It's hard because it's not what l want. I'd rather have my siblings in my life, but they are manipulative, secretive, deceitful. Our father died last year. It was a mess. Mentally, l wasn't in a good place. I grieved a lot, for the death of both my parents. I also grieved for our non existent siblings relationship. I gave up the hope for them to be the ideal siblings, because they can't be. Their mindset is different to mine. The word family means something different to everyone.
I hear you…my father the same with same # siblings and was estranged from mother because of lies told about you. Then Married one..watched the lies, experienced the word salad, the unreliability, gunna nature (gunna do this, gunna do that, but nothing gets done), the torturous divorce process, the isolation and losing both ‘families’ from lies told about you. More peaceful on own with pets.
Also, if you have clutter issues, (and I add weight issues to that) it is a trauma response (thanks to crappy childhood fairy for that insight), not you. It buffers you from anyone getting close. You don’t invite them to your messy home…and are always ‘tidying up’, never tidy.
I don’t tolerate any bs now and dealing with it again in a highly toxic disorganized systems. I don’t play and we just leave! No more bs
me too, leave those hopelesx Garbage
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Same NO BULLCRAP ever again
This is the first time I’ve heard a coach explain narcissm as spiritual oppression but he is right. So basically that persons plan is to destroy you by crushing your spirit. Crushing your spirit is exactly like murder. Very well said sir. Thank you.
I was blind but now I see.😊 Thankyou
I've been abused by a NARC since I was 6 years old; I got married, divorced, and then met Narc number 2 at 32 years old; I'm now 63 and last year I ran; I don't think I have very much time to heal and know what its like to enjoy me as a free person, after 32 years living like a prisoner in my own home isn't something I thought I would escape, but I did it and now the hard work is now beginning; I have anxiety attacks and I rant at myself and tell my self that I'm pathetic, I'm useless, why did God create someone as useless as me; that's the hardest part of healing, you have to learn to love yourself, and that's my mount Everest, and I'm climbing it naked; at 63 years of age I'm hoping to be able to walk, drive and do other things without asking for permission.
Any victim KNOWS there are good days and bad days but I hope WE ALL get to the top of our Mount Everest. My Narc never beat me, but my spirit IS sick, in fact I've wanted to die many times over, but I can't say anything because I'm being watched by my family, which sometimes feels just as bad.
I understand being watched, which silences you. In severe cases you are “disappeared” from the family, & the bad guys badmouth you in your absence. Silencing you and disappearing you come from their murderous impulses. They want to “kill” you in order to make your story die, leaving their lies in its place. Why? To make the bad guy(s) look good and make you the bad guy. They maintain their own status of goodness by “disappearing” the badness of the bad guys, so that their reputation stays unsullied as they associate with the white-washed and they disassociate from you. If this sounds convoluted, it’s because it is. (Th3-7th-24-0137E)
I pray for the healing of your spirit 🙏🏼💛🙏🏼
You are free - God will not leave you. I’m 63 as well. I escaped in 2015. You will thrive.
Great Spirit will restore the years those demon narcissists destroyed. UBU
You need deliverance. Repentance, baptism, and born again with Christ.
These creatures are demon possessed and they transfer demons onto us.
May God bless you and set you free 🙏🏻❤️
THOSE NARCS ARE CRAZY ‼️And they love it ‼️ 1:38
Im so shocked by how many narcissistic figures have been so prominent in my life! Thank you for this information. 👍 ❤
Oh Helen me too ...do we have a "light" continuously on ...and how do we turn it off?
They look for us people with our temperament good people
i have had between 10-15 (family, bosses, colleagues, "friends")...it is epidemic. Reasons behind are negative soul attachments, interest economy, doggy dog life style, selflessness turns into greed, androidization of society = digital society (Archon's strategy)
You can't turn it off you have to confront them. Let them know you awe them. Call it out as it is
I hear ya plain and loud. 😢
This was probably the best description of how narcissistic abuse insidiously affects the victims.
This is so powerful, Thank you so much for this. I know at least 10 people who need to watch this so they can begin to heal!
Profoundly
Those dimples are amazing
Hope is what keeps any addiction alive. Let it go 🎈
Real Hope is rooted in God, it's not codependent. But hopium is addictive.
@@nadimjamal7367- YOU WIN ! The dictionary needs to get rid of Bootylicious and replace it with the "Hopium" !!
Thank you for that, Amandam4148! I never heard anyone connect hope to addiction. It's so TRUE!
I've been holding onto false hope...& that keeps me tied to a narc. Thanks for opening my eyes! ❤
Hope + trust = disappointed and betrayal. Especially, with these emotionless encounters with a stranger,you didn't know at all. And he will be like that with anyone. Repeatedly!!
That’s soooooo true. I drank for ~25 years and the day I let go and stopped hoping, I was free. No more drinking to numb.
My narc Dad destroyed his family but I think due to my faith I survived it x
I hear you. Same happened to us.
I hate to even say it but realizing my 23 yr old daughter is a narsasist ,it has been hell being abused by my own kid has been so emotionally confusing , just now this last year cutting ties for my own sanity I have to if I want to live and be there for my other children ! Having a narsist family member is one of the hardest things to go thru , 🥲
How did you survive it?
46 year old daughter of a narc father, breaking free. I am now honoring my soul and respecting myself. Working through the self-hate, parenting myself. I thank god that I saw the light.
If Satan cannot break you, he sends along a narcissist in his place….
Really ??? 12:44
@@vivianeprudentiabuelens9142YES, really🎯
Damn! So well put
True dat
Now that’s eye opening.
Having boundaries and standards is their kryptonite.
Have a line you won't allow to be crossed. Don't be unwilling to walk.
They only understand LOSS.
👏 me currently….inset boundaries and drew the line…and he now says I am manly and cold and dark and he doesn’t like it
" You can not sell dreams to someone who has walked through nightmare . ''
Yet I will
As soon as my mother SAW that I finally SAW THROUGH her imposture, she destroyed my reputation, severed my from my whole family and tried to send me to a psychiatric hospital. That's how crazy their resentment can become, that's how hard they feel the need to destroy anyone who can expose them. I had to run to another country to escape her tentacles...
So sorry I went though the same trauma. May God Give you the strength to heal.
@@estelled389help I’m new to healing ❤️🩹 my mom and I are no contact I’m heartbroken yet angry
It’s very heartbreaking when your narc husband (40 years married!) abandons you physically, emotionally and spiritually, but still has the facade of being such a “nice guy” to everyone else in his life. I have been hoping his heart would change for four decades! I’ve developed high blood pressure, autoimmune issues and have pre-diabetic symptoms; on meds for all three. He has now convinced our 3 adult daughters that HE is the victim. So I’m estranged from my daughters and also our 7 grandchildren. He’s divorcing me, telling everyone that he’s tired of MY CRAP. The irony. I’ve gone through some unbelievable emotional suffering and yes, trauma, as a result of all the narcissistic’s classic evil behavior and actions. Through counseling, I’m learning to change my mindset from grief and sorrow to thankfulness that he will be gone, Lord willing, and I will finally be in peace.
Have hope in God to heal and deliver you!
God bless you on your rode to a better life. Be gentle with yourself.❤
Prayers n hugs❤️. This is horrible.
May God bless you and keep you. May He give you His peace.
This video is so spot on. I've had hope for years that if I just acted happier, nicer, if I became who my narc parents wanted me to be that things would get better and they'd treat me better. As an adult who's researched much about narcissism, I've learned that they will never change. To be in a relationship with them is making me sick spiritually, mentally, emotionally, and physically. I'm saving up money to see a therapist but I'm pretty sure I have CPTSD. I've also struggled with eating disorders restricting food and binge eating disorder for the past 11 years. I have adrenal fatigue as well. I've realized no contact is my only option to heal and become the real me.
Yaassss…sooo spot on, we know it! Great comment. Peace e light to you!
I'll be damned if I'm going to be sick I rebuke that! Because I am God's kid.......
I'm so sorry that you have to deal with this sad realization. Healing and encouraging thoughts for you.
ME TOO
I have very very serious CPTSD, but It's all my faults let Demons into my life!!
This is killing also , any possible way with their words , acts . They kill you , destroy somone life is killing .
It can be SILENCE NO AFFECTION LOOKING DOWN REGARDED AS NO VALUE.
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Yes, the Silence! Night after Night. 😢 As if I didn't exist. I left. Took awhile but I made new friends, who cared about me. Caring giving, Reciprocal friendships. Take your time, Watch what people Do...before you trust what they Say. Bless your Journey 💜✝️
Thank you Margaret it means a lot when others know what you are talking about
my son and I had to move hundreds of miles as he would have ruined our lives..@@margaretcantlon9960
Just got MYSELF out of a 6+ years relationship. I am on the road to recovery. I knew something was wrong, was missing and I finally figured it out. This person was acting in the same manner as my ex who was also a narcissist. At least, I was still strong enough to pull myself up and away. I am being my authentic self again Hope deferred can be a killer! Thanks for this video.
You are of HIGH VALUE. Their silence is a blessing in disguise. You don't have to listen to their abuse. 💗🌺
I knew someone like this for almost 25 years, it's such a huge relief she's gone. Beware the spiritual narcissists who preach about "love and light" and use spirituality as a weapon against you. Be honest, have faith. I can assure you, those who stir the shit pot end up licking the spoon. RUN!!
You're right, the spiritual narcissists are some of the more dangerous one. My sister is one of those and shes a vulnerable narc which makes her even sneakier. She calls herself a clairvoyant, but shes extremely evil. Also has sociopathic traits.. very dangerous
My medicine is Prayer, Frequency & Lots of Laughter.! 😊❤
My Mother was an A+ narc. I went no contact 6 years ago and am still physically recovering from decades of abuse.
Genius Kevin. Thank you for applying scripture to these difficult painful situations. The truth is the real answer.
Yes, it is! Ask God to help you “Seek first the Kingdom of God” (His reality) and then listen for His input, constantly, and He WILL show you what is true.
I love how you use Biblical references. What better examples and words of wisdom from the most compassionate, wise and loving teacher to ever walk the face of the Earth. Thank you for extending his work.
1.Oppression.
2.Desperation.
3.Bitterness & Resentment.
4.Broken spirit.
I went through discard back in 2007. I had no idea about narcissism and I had to pick myself back up.
No one could understand, even I couldn't understand why a man who gave me nothing could make me feel so low.
I was so confused and did everything that discarded victims do.
Looking back, he did the hoover, but luckily I was not interested anymore.
This is all so ve4y true. Married for 58 years and beaten down so badly that I believe if I had not left when I did I would have died within a year.
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58 years is a lifetime
@taghazoutmoon5031 Sadly yes it is. I stayed for my family but they no longer seemed to care. I left.
Wow never heard this before; dealing with a narcissist causes disease??!! This just spoke volumes to me. My ex hubs and son are both Narcissists~
I’m
Exhausted physically, mentally and emotionally, my body is in so much pain (I wake up tired) & I feel empty inside from
Giving and giving of myself so and receiving nothing in return.
This is so true !!!!!!!!!!! So TRUE .......I was near death ....and it was 2 years of asthma maybe longer ...could not breathe ...constantly on a nebulizer...felt poisoned and may have been ..but toxic people can posion with words too ...yes spiritual disease !!!..you're so right ...I got to this point of bitterness and resentment...i had never been so spiritually bankrupt!!! You have helped me GOD SEND❤God bless you...I'm now in constant warrior mode ..armored ..silent as a dove and smart as a serpent.....🌬💨🔥👊🙌🏻💪.....spiritual sickness that made my physical body so ill ....I was fighting for my life! Literally...this narcissistic round is with my adult daughter ...she's all of them IN ONE ...and my hardest to see the true colors ...and they aren't pretty...
My spirit was dark and once again I shine ..Amen ❤
Hey Sister, love to hear from another survivor! Very similar story, and now 100 percent healed and happy, thank you Jesus!
That is me right now! My husband is an alcoholic and dose a lot of verbal abuse and than is so loving when he's not drunk! But my spirit is noum! And he doesn't remember what he's said to me! Help.
@43warriormode98: *Wow!*
Ihr Kommentar könnte 1:1 von mir sein! Sie beschreiben es perfekt, wie mein Leben aktuell ist!
Hatte einen Tumor und eine Blutinfektion und Atemnot. Ärzte wussten nicht wo es herkommt!
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ABER jetzt heile ich und richte mich wieder auf!
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Alles Liebe für Sie! Wir sind stark und die Narzissten können uns nicht besiegen! ; )
They remember- they tell the honest to God truth of how they feel when they have their liquid courage- full armor beautiful one💙@@aliciaoliverez9196
God please help me to allow your spirit to deliver me from bitterness so I can move forward in Christ my husband is a covert narcissist. I am called and chosen of God. I please o lord help me as you only know my issues and needs. 🙏🏼😭Help all of your children in Jesus name
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Jesus is a one word right now prayer I call on him all day Jesus ❤
I was abused by narcissistic parents and narcissistic teachers who literally isolated me in empty rooms for hours on end, it's taken me over 20 years to start to understand the damage these creatures have done to my soul.
I was "raised" by a narcissist, he was violent, spiritually and verbally abusive. This continued into adulthood, having my own children made me reaslise how evil he is. I cut him off, i began to heal. A year later i split with my narcissistic wife, i had already mourned the death of our relationship, the day we separated an oppressive weight lifted from me, I'm now married to a "normal" person who loves me and is at peace with me. I resonate with your message.
None of this was available in my day. anybody relate?
Always look forward boo
If you're near my baby boomer age, and saying that Narcissism was not recognized nor well understood as it is today, you are spot on right, Deborah.
Absolutely agree, so much more information available to us all these days. I was born early 60s and so much changed 👍
yes ma'am, in the 60's I was being groomed by my 2 older brothers for the 2 narcs I had children with, they set out to destroy their own children in order to get even with me because I left them, their entire family were narcs. one actually promised he would do just that If I ever left. She is such a mess I can't even help her. just like him. fortunately he met an early grave!! she still worships him, sad sad sad,
@@randy_cbc8811 Apparently Narcissism is a spectrum and we are all on that spectrum. I think we are in denial of that and don't want to look at ourselves for fear of what we may find. But there is a huge difference between 1% narcissism and 100% narcissism. Toxic narcissism is deadly and about control. Love bombing by someone you hardly know is a red flag.
They come in the form of obsessive friends as well.
I had a narcissistic father & younger brother & both abused me, my mother & baby brother & a pastor of a church & he really adored my narc. father & kicked my mother out of the church!! Then as a young man in my early employment I was around so many narcissistic workers & bosses!! Then working in a business with my baby brother, the narcissists we encountered!! I am 68 & have various health issues!!
Ugh, that church 😢 Shame on the churches that allow themselves infestations with narcs, destroy spiritual experiences & leave them with oppression!
▫️Excellent PERSPECTIVE
▫️Excellent TEACHINGS
▫️Excellent APPLICATION of the SCRIPTURAL references.
All caps is shouting
Hi Sharon: It is my sincere hope the manner of my writing style did not cause you any distress. My intentions for using caps was for the purpose of emphasis only.
Respectfully, Antoinette
@antoinetterandall2124 , Firstly, God bless your kind heart.
2nd, learn to be ok with offending others sometimes.
3rd, the bald man in the video is telling some deep facts like he always does.
Thank you Jatins for your kind words and support. You have read me well, as a general rule, I do not like offending people . . . and this is the first time that anyone has ever - openly come to my rescue. Thank you. I really appreciate it. You have made my day. Have a great day. I love this channel and the unique perspective presented. I will continue to watch and I will look for your posts in the comment section.
Oh, how I needed to hear this tonight. God used you to speak to our hearts. Blessings!!! Thank you !!!
I had to let go with my own Mother after decades of hoping. The ruminating is the worst part of holding on. It took me having to have a raise my own child to really realize I was wasting my time.
Good luck to everyone out there. It is a worth while process to let go.🌎☀️💙
i totally bounced back, even though my health is now reflecting some major stuff. but wow! i cannot believe how happy i have become after 7 years of FREEDOM!
Powerful teaching happens in this video!!! My heart is resonating with the spirit of TRUTH and the truth will set us free!!!❤🎉
The scene from The Matrix is a powerful analogy as it suggests that our spiritual well-being affects our physical and mental health, as they are all interconnected. If the spirit is unwell, it can affect our physical and mental health. This would call for holistic healing to address spiritual issues along with treatments for the physical and mental.
Yes reiki is amazing too.
“It is the soul that is hungry, not the body”
Caroline Myss and many other spiritual teachers have pointed at the spirits authority over physical health. Being spiritually healthy guarantees physical health, but being physically healthy doesn’t guarantee spiritual health. Most physical and emotional ailments begin in the spirit, or our energy systems depending on your terminology. Everything is spiritual in origin; everything is a manifestation and expression of the spiritual
I wonder when I will be free from this veil that covers my mind and thoughts since when I was hit hard by narcissist abuse. I feel I lost myself, can't recognize me!
You can do it!! I did at 70 years old after 50 years of living awful hell!!!!
Thanks for your encouragement. My first step was to at least give a name to what I went through from childhood. I don't know what should be the next step as no contact to aging parents is almost impossible. People would consider me as a monster and their smear campaigns have been so painful in the past. Moreover, despite going low contacts, they are dominating my thoughts. How can you stop living in the past?
Look up your beautiful attributes choose all of the ones that are you that's who you are!
Your first step is to walk away from them, trust me. Then the next step is to start learning to heal, then start following your own path!
Your first step to stop living in the past is to remember it and make sense of it. You have to first recognise it, not ignore or try forgetting it happened. You need a therapist trained in this to help you deal with it and make some sense of it, then learn from it, and start the healing process. It's takes time and alot of mental energy, but the end result is worth it. Iv Been there, but it can be achieved and it does get alot better x
I've managed to break free of the demons, and feel so much healthier all round. Having strength in belief, and, trusting your inner guidance is extremely important, letting go of the nonsense is so liberating. It took years for me, but I'm sure it can be done sooner with proper awareness of the scenario. Healthy self-love is the answer, loving oneself enough to not put up with it. Good luck, everyone.
Thank you so much , I just came across you video now and I now understand why I am the way I am, my husband is narcissistic and I am a very loving , caring and giving person and he is only for himself from looking at pornography after just getting married , always staring at other woman, and denying it , when I confronted him he would swear at me and make me feel like I was the bad person ,He now has dementia and I am having to look after him , I am so tired and drained of energy , I am 65 young and he is 76 , we married in 2015 , I am very Spiritual and always Praying for others who are suffering and I am Praying to God to help me have a better life and to be able to meet someone one day soon who would love me sincerely 🙏🏻
I pray for God to relieve you of him, in Jesus name.
Nursing home….drop him off m, get some rest and go live.
I totally understand the oppression of the spirit, it lifted when I went to university .
My mum was never so nasty to me as when I lost ( killed by a fox)my beloved she -cat, that I had bottle fed since she was a tiny baby... I really understood then... She pushed me towards the edge. It worked. I attempted suicide 6 months later. But, never to have any more contact with her after almost 60 years of abuse. It can take a life time to understand that your parent is an actual monster 😢.
Yes….it took me a life time too🙏🏻
It took me 48 years 😢
Yes narc mum took me 58 years 😢
Healing from full blown narcissistic personality disorder/sociopathy is challenging. It requires a level of self honesty that I have not been able to achieve in spite of 48 years of therapy, 12 step programs, and inventory. Denial is strong in a person who was a victim, became a perpetrator then reverted back to victim. Taking responsibility without beating up on your self is another gem.
Gosh, well, bless your heart and be encouraged because at least you're trying, which is more than most can say.
Your going to make it ! God Deliver This Beautiful Soul 🙏 Right Now In The Name of Jesus 🙏 AMEN
Amen 🙏
And ESSENTIAL. Do Step 4 objectively, without self condemnation; asking God for His total help, and the courage to keep looking at whatever He shows you. He doesn’t want you to be consumed with guilt. He wants your freedom from every lie from the Pit which you were believing 🙏
You're the very first person I've witnessed with NPD who has owned up to it and is working on it, and I've been interested in learning about narcissism and personality disorders for 10 years. You deserve to be encouraged. Believe me, if you're taking responsibility for your actions, you deserve hugs and not to feel down on yourself. You're exceptional.
Man I've been thinking of those same words lately I just feel spiritually sick from being infected by these narcs.
I developed an autoimmune condition from a psychopath partner in less then 2 years! I was perfectly healthy before I met him at the age of 36.
This affected the whole hormonal system, causing other issues, like endometriosis.
I feel you❤
Feels
@@conceptobject This has happened long time ago
Almost 10 years ago.
Chill 😅
LORD, thank you for getting these videos out for someone like myself. I honestly felt as though God was talking to me through you 🙏🏼 Praise God!
I cured me. They just made it so I couldn't ignore my issues anymore.
I'm not giving them any credit.
Absolutely true. My narc ex triggered my awakening , it was incredibly traumatic.
Where were people like you when I needed answers 50 years ago, 30, even 20 years ago? 10 years ago?
I am a void!
❤ You are worthy of love, and acceptance. Please remember your worth. Tell those dark spirits to LEAVE.
Pick up your pen and start noting.
This happens in churches and they use others and when vulnerable too!! Money is at church not God!
Yes, you have to get out of churches who are not following the Lord. Who are preaching and living a "different gospel" from the one in the Scripture.
Yes it does happen, especially the opression.
No paying tithes is biblical 😊
I'm Christian and believe the Bible, and love Patristics and early Christian writings, but churches can be dangerous places, and people using twisted scripture. And sometimes about the social aspect, not God. It seems that every time I've met somebody who makes a big show of how Christian they are, they hugely stabbed me in the back.
Kevin, I listened many , lots of explanations of this matter, I undoubtedly know that you are the one who speaks from experience, not from books.
You have all my respect for your hard work and authenticity! What you are working with , is the heaviest field of study and knowledge . Thank you 🙏🏻
omg I;ve watched so many youtubers about spirituality and narcissim but this guy is so different. Never heard of what he's saying before (spiritual disease, increase power by a narc on his own)!!!!!!!!!! this channel is a revelation!
I healed myself. I feel wonderful. 😊
HalleluYah! Praise Yah!🙌🏼
This was confirmation!
Come out from among them(narcissists,demons,devils)!!!
I can attest to this, Im born of Malignant Covert Narcissist Mother, it's no joke.
🏃♀️🏃♀️🏃♀️🏃♀️🏃♀️🏃♀️🏃♀️🏃♀️Run ..as fast n far as you can from these creature. do yourself a huge favor plan your escape Now.! 🕊️💛🙏✨
Thank you for this. No one has explained to me what was happening to me and what he was actually doing the whole last 10 years but this is it. He studied my hopes and dreams and then promised to move where i wanted and even went to the schools and trainings and sabotaged it all. Discarded me upon selling our family home and he had someone else on the other side of the country and remarried after 30 years. He waited until last child went off to college to lure me, promise me, isolate, and abuse to the point that I left - he was “victim”. After 3 years of healing and no contact- i am seeing that i actually am the person that won her life back. Thank you so very much for this. I am so grateful. 🙏
If you can make a plan to leave, please do that before your soul is completely destroyed
So true, I am tired 53 feeling like 80... I understand now why I've kept in this cycle and I know now why I'm responsible after listening to Tim Fetcher...I've been in this cycle since I was born, then been married 3 times and all narcissists loooooong story! I failed, and mostly myself...I am angry with myself for putting up with this for so long I'm exhausted giving pretending having false hope!
This definitely resonates with me because I have given so much that I'm empty inside.
I am self empowered even when struggling, my ex-husband couldn't ever let me enjoy my strength or anything that made me happy. Now in our divorce, he can't stop himself from trying to take my resources, he can't stop himself from trying to oppress me in the courts. I need opportunities for complete financial independence, but I've really built something, know I'll make something out of it soon. I'm so tired of using my energy fighting him, when I could be using it for so many other things. I work part time, work isn't even work because my job is just my job, but divorce is taking so much away from really going for things related to my highest good. I get so disgusted at times.
I understand. I have experienced this. Hopefully, it will be over soon for you so you can move forward with your life. ❤
Well, this certainly hit the spot. Nailed it brother. All these years I've suffered oppression at the hands of a bitter, angry, soul. A verbally abusive narcissist. Thank you for this succinct identification of the problem.
I have left 3 yrs now and I’m still physically beat up… but spiritually & emotionally I am happier than ever ! Just want to heal from painful illness I got in a 35 yr covert narc marriage.
Sugar, my narcissistic husband died and my doctor's couldn't diagnose an illness for 10 years. It broke my heart that he had ruined my life and he wasn't even here anymore.
🙏 We Will continue to Bounce Back.. like a cat.. land on there FEET!💪🤠
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 I've been saying this for years, especially the classroom bit. 👍🏽 Definitely looking to move/travel to heal.
I have been suffering from what I thought was depression. But I told God that I am happy and to please tell me what is wrong with me. He gave me the word “oppression” then You immediately popped up on my screen. So thankful to God for sending you to me. 19 years of being married but not living with a AAA narcissist. He was an educated man but chose to drive long distance trucking.. I wonder why!
"The narcissist hijacks your sense of hope" 🔥 Powerful!
I find this to be very helpful. Watching these types of videos has given me sanity and clarity away from the narcissist.