I am autistic, and I have a high sense of justice and morals and empathy, and it's like the whole world neurotypicals built is just completely based on lies, shallow bullshit, and stupid childish power games. It's like everything is so damn fake and I don't belong here in this cruel fake place.
But HEY THERE!👋😌 There's other people like you out here who very much need people like you to stick around! I totally relate. We are desperately needed here at this time to rebalance this energy. ❤🎉
Seems most, if not all corporations have narcisisits at the top and others along the way. It's difficult not to work for one. Try and find friends that aren't and spend more time with them. if you push to hard to get rid of your narc boss, you will end up fired.
For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.
This is the only comment with a touch of groundedness. Most of everything else I've read was emotionally expressed outrage. Weather anger or empathy it makes no difference. And I am empathetc and compassionate aswell.
Counter productive Counter intuitive Reverse psychology Over regulated = Monopoly Inflation is Taxation One model for all is stazi/communism If you register, you comply If you don't, your fined Tough TO CREATE SAFE HARBOR
@@MrGuitarTormentor Thanks, I am also angry. But I try to put it to good use. I live in Ukraine; which is fighting against a Narcississtic Autocracy. People here are dying for the truth that a much less Narcissistic {Autocratic} system is better, than a system that is highly Narcissistic / Autocratic. I know Russia has spent years trying to sell the ideals of Russian Autocracy { Political and Economic Narcissism } To the United States and other countries.
@@MichaelMarsh-dc4ww I am wrathfull aswell sir. I cannot offer you nothing more than my condolences and mental support. I am through unintentional apathy ignorant to many, or if they are any non-corrupt ways, through which I can aid you lot. Words hold breadth as longs as they are forged with action. The reason why I am like this is that I worked on my mental health and on shadow integration. So I make it certain to train both aspects. Both the human spirit and complete non-naivete and capacity to be very dangerous if there is such a neccesity. In this world you should always find the bad thing and maximise it through your sheer imagination. Then you can see what a magnum opus of evil is. And then know that it's even worse. I know it sounds jaded, yet I don't sacrifice my humanity and never will I, nor should I even have a thought of wanting to control another human being. I can only control myself.
Please watch "Europa the last battle" 12h documentary and "The protocols of the learned elders of zion" in order to understand what is really going on. Cheers.
Narcissistic tactics really improve your effectiveness in a debate. And its because the public is naive. All politicians get trained in such tactics and those that are naturally better at it excel in politics.
This is 100%, truth.. We have all the signs and signals.. Shame.. Our world rewards bad behavior, while good honest people are looked over and attempted to be manipulated and controlled. Take your power back, stop complying with evil.
I've said this for about ten years after I read or heard from someone that approx 1% of the population on Earth are psychopathic (CEO's, etc. but 1% of that 1% are the ones that will actually be like a serial ki.....). Love to hear your opinion as to why we have this problem? Child abuse (including most importantly prenatal traumas) and lack of love/touch wehn a baby more than genetics is my thought and epigenetics means the aforementioned would carry generationally.
Until you realize that the system labels sensitive people with a so-called personality disorder, while the real disorder in themselves is becoming more and more visible.
As a hypersensitive person I feel this the most at a theater or a place in a city with a volume that ten times too much and puts me at risk to go deaf and gives me extreme stress. It is not normal. I am not insane, the world is just too loud, stressful and cruel, selfish. The whole corporatistic profit system is designed to drive us insane and addicted to pills.
"It is hard to imagine a more stupid or more dangerous way of making decisions than by putting those decisions in the hands of people who pay no price for being wrong." : Thomas Sowell
That's a good quote. However, I very much disagree with Sowell's premise that this mostly applies to governmental positions. We've all seen how CEO's can effectively f* up a company and still get their golden parachute and just migrate to another company to do the same stuff.. Once you're high enough you can be as incompetent as you want and still end up winning.
The battle of good vs evil never ended, no matter how modern psychology gaslight us into a 'the abusers are the victims' mindset - and politics to divide us.
The first question by the woman was spot on. I am being targeted at work and constantly bombarded to the point of feeling traumatized, which leaves me weak and feeling exhausted and sick. And then on my days off it’s hard to present well at a new job interview, if I even am able to focus enough to fill out applications to better and improve my life. Which makes me more depressed….she’s right. I just need some space to right the boat but my income level doesn’t allow that. And I can’t compete with the narcissists. They constantly win. Despite many being thoroughly incompetent and obviously ruining the company, they get the promotions
Don't think of it as competing with them ever that is how they act not you they'll constantly try to drag you in and will make every little thing a competition and even do or say things to make you feel less than them. It could even be something you want like a muffin maybe a specific brand and you'll ask them where they buy it from, well even if you can get it at other places too they'll make you think you can only buy it at a specific place and they know you don't know you can get it at other places. They'll try to make you feel that they're better than you because they got that very specific brand as if it makes it a very special superior muffin to all the rest because they got it from that specific place. So then they'll manipulate you into feeling less than them and drive you into going to all that trouble and run around putting stress on yourself to find that very special muffin in that specific store because you want to feel just as good as them if not better and then you'll start to try and one up them just like they're always doing. Maybe ask your manager to only come to you personally or just text you what they want you to do and not let you know things through other people because you aren't getting the messages or the truth, and keep notes so you're sure what you're doing. It's the least you can do to take off some of the pressure until you find a new job. Just don't talk to those people you work with as and if you do keep it brief because you won't get any sense out of them i promise, they'll always lie to you or tell you or other people half truths making things very frustrating and confusing.
One of the most important things Richard is positing - among many - but one of the most important - is that ALL sense of superiority is always an inferiority complex.
I talk about it a lot and my Narcissistic bosses call me crazy. I don’t believe what they say because I see them hurting others all the time and their minions go along with it. I think denial is the biggest problem in our culture.
I agree.. It seems so obvious, yet many still can't seem to recognize it. We also have a problem with order followers, those who do everything they're told, with no ablity to think critically. God help us.
I've been married to a covert narcissist for over a quarter of a century. His psyche totally befuddled me, especially his rejection of his two totally innocent daughters from his first marriage. I believed erroneously that I could help him heal. I knew his parents were absolutely demented & the polar opposite of mine. I started researching tRUMP to try to understand his disruptive hateful CHAOS & stumbled upon Prof Sam Vaknin. I now know I was powerless to change the mental dynamic of my husband. I am finally living my best life now after 73 years on this beautiful earth. My next birthday is January 1, 2025 & I am determined to be mindful for every second of the time I have left to breathe.
When you realize you were the main character in someone else's story, it becomes clear why they were so invested in your every move. They built their narrative around you, but you've stepped into your own storyline now. You're the author of your life, no longer a character in someone else's plot. Keep living authentically, and let them figure out their next chapter without you at the center.
"The modern world" is just you with no tools to feed yourself so everything needs to be produced for you behind a curtain you can easily peak through and hear the screams behind. 36:12 stop caring about individuals. Indigenous people dont have this lament. Because they aren't disconnected from their consumption. Your consumption pattern is one of the most immoral and destructive in human history. I bet you vote.
I took all your courses. My family is all Cluster B, and I've been no contact for 2 decades. And yet, until very recently, I still had hope - or maybe training, as a therapist - that those people were just traumatized, misunderstood, salvageable. I'm done. Woke finally finished off my hope. I've been reshuffling the mental furniture in my mind, my moral system, my perception of evil. That's it. There's humans and vampires, and we are not the same. Thank you Hugs from Thailand
Same with my family -- immediate family, never had any relationships with any extended family because of narcissistic parents isolating us. Only been no-contact for about 6 weeks now. Still struggling with the guilt and shame feeling like I'm a terrible son and brother for doing so. Especially right now with the holidays going on and everyone talking about visiting their families. It helps to remind myself that the fact that I feel that guilt/shame while conveniently forgetting all the terrible betrayals they've inflicted on me over my entire life is strong evidence that I'm doing the right thing, as they've clearly severely impaired my emotional development. Wish they would stop trying to violate my boundaries by contacting me via email or my girlfriend, going around my blocking of their phone numbers. And of course they act as though nothing happened, no apologies or attempt to discuss why I did what I did -- just casually wishing us a "Happy Thanksgiving" or "Merry Christmas". Clear attempt to invoke guilt whilst violating boundaries...
What is woke, in your view? Which morals are important to you? And, who do you think exemplifies these morals (a leader that you like, a country that is well run, a person we all might know). The only reason why I ask is because I have been called 'woke' on several occassions, but im not sure. I dont see myself as a psychopath, quite the opposite. Are we saying 'woke' people are psychopaths?
_"reshuffling the mental furniture"_ love that quote! Although the version I stole had it as _"rearranging mental furniture."_ Which is better ;p Either way, it's a rhetorical gem.
This is an important discussion that we all need to have. Don't feed your children to a psychopathic machine that will raise them into adults with NPD as the highest virtue
We live within a society that rewards narcissistic behaviors. We are immersed in media and technology that rewards narcissistic behaviors. It is imperative that people emphasize, as Richard did, that even though a small percentage of the population is truly NPD, there does seem to be an increase in narcissistic traits in people, because of the systems we have in place that reward narcissistic behaviors. But it doesn't make 30% of the population NPD. It is important to draw the distinction between the truly irredeemable and the people who behave in ways our traumatized and mentally ill society reward. Thanks for all you do, Richard. Truly a crucial resource in dealing with narcissism. I am endlessly grateful.
As a whole Narcissistic behaviors create as much destruction as NPD. So in my eyes everyone might as well be classified as a Narcissist. Narcissistic traits are only productive when having to handle others' Narcissistic traits.
15:50 "we're way past enslavement, we are crop." It's a more insidious form of exploitation in which we are being harvested, in less overt ways - through things like consumerism, data exploitation, and emotional manipulation within larger systems.
'Crop', yes! Just listening to a radio talk show highlighting conscription. How dare the higher powers that be decide to 'harvest' our children to serve any purpose they like. You can bet your bottom dollar that the majority of those that decide this will spirit their children away to somewhere they can't be conscripted. Those fake farms, for example!
I am so afraid yes, yes you are right, i am rotting in my bed, by health is really bad and i am hopeless and depressed, why is not more people noticing this, it is scarily obvious how scary our ending will be
I'd say psychopathy ruled always. Since the ancient times, since before written history. It's only lately that we started obtaining tools to identify it. And weapons of mass destruction that allow these individuals to pull the entire humanity down with them if they fall.
Fascinating how Grannon's thinking has led him from a serious and nuanced examination of these personality disorders to an alarming recognition of the destructive implications of dominant narcissistic psychopathy in the leadership structures of nearly all social hierarchies.
And those NPD's and psychopaths seem to be born that way. I have a strongly narcissistic/psychopathic family. Even across generations you can see the empathetic people being born and trying to cater to the psychopathic people that have no empathy or extremely limited empathy. A great book on how people are born this way is The Nature and Nurture of Narcissism. It shows that empathy regions of the brain simply do not even light up on brain scans for some NPD's and Psychopaths. They simply do not have this brain Chemistry, from a very young age. Another great book on this is The Science of Evil. I would recommend reading them both. Finally, if we think of where humans came from, we developed empathy over hundreds of thousands of years. If you look at monkeys, they do not act together even when attacking. They all do things for themselves. Early humans were exactly like this and then some developed an understanding of other people and they were able to work together to defeat lions, etc. But, not everyone had to develop this as we went on to develop tribes. Some people in the tribe could be completely psychopathic, and in the wider tribe, they would be fine. They helped protect the tribe from other tribes, in a vicious way. They took from the tribe as well, I am not saying they are good people, just speaking of the evolutionary benefit. A great book on this is The Social Leap. I think my father has a strong malicious narcissistic personality disorder, bordering on psychopathy, he was never arrested but that is because I believe in the past the laws in my country were very lax. In America he would have been arrested a number of times, even as a kid. But he does very much like admiration, so I put him on the borderline between NPD and psychopathy. My mother liked that she could use his violent ways to control others. She even said this. He comes from a family of boys and she of girls so he was not violent with her but was with us, every day. Neither of them display much empathy, at all. In fact, just having my father not be insulting when I interact, is about the best I can do. I do believe he also has some form of aspergers though. He is still highly intelligent even with all the above points taken into account. Myself and my brothers left the country, but even though my younger brother and his wife are quite nice and caring, his daughter is quite scary and a bully. Gives off a similar vibe to my father, and insults people straight away, like even my brothers mother in law after not seeing her for about 10 months. Even at age 5 she says, why are you so fat. She just kicks off with insults immediately. She bullied her younger brother from the start. She bullies the whole family but my younger brother has a way of catering to NPD's. I would never have allowed her behaviour, but I'm not in their lives anyway. The point I'm making is that you don't need any trauma, you don't need abuse, some people are just born without a lot of the different forms of empathy. I believe we can see about 16 forms of it using brain scans. Our species did not need to have everyone develop the same and we have not. I believe that in the old days, these vicious people were put in their place more. People were farmers, they were stronger, they would challenge these people to a duel or a fight. Nowadays tolerance is glorified above all other traits. It's insane to me. As we allow injustices to be committed across the board. I have left the west. I'm not prepared to put up with this nonsense and not prepared to be mocked by weak people when I call it out.
black and white thinking or duality is a fallacy, beware, a curve Bell is a better start to explain myriad of characters we encounter in our daily lives.
Agree with this. Sadly we have allowed ourselves to be corralled into a situation where "offence" triggers a call to the authorities, with politicians supporting this by the implementation of "hate crime" legislation. Both justify this using "equality" as the excuse. The notion of "democracy" has shifted from a system that supports the views of the majority to one which persecutes the majority in the interests of the "protection" of minorities.
Do the rest of us really have thick skin though? I often initially take great offense internally to criticism and then analyze it later on when I'm alone to see if there's truth to what the person said and possibly the motivation behind it.
@@Quadster19I believe you are right, to a certain extent. I've never liked criticism directed at me either. But there are different kinds of criticism: constructive and destructive. When I was still immature, I couldn't distinguish between the too, and was therefore thin-skinned about how I received it. Only after maturity set in was I able to recognize the difference between the two. Constructive criticism is given with good intent, and a genuine desire to help behind it. Although it still bruises my ego a bit, it doesn't take me long to recognize that I've deserved it, and it becomes an opportunity for growth. Destructive criticism on the other hand is simply malicious and hateful, like the criticism the left has for the right. Either way, I try to always consider the source and not to overreact. I get better with that with age. Peace.
I strongly agree Richard. I think a vetting system needs to be put in place to make sure the person or people in charge are not narcissistic. The right people to be in charge would be very competent, compassionate, moral and selfless. Putting the whole first, not themselves.
4:05 the cruelty is done deliberately because it is boundary breaking, constant boundary breaking is done to diminish the victim and constantly assert your 'lower status'
I don't personally believe there's much afterthought to these things. You're just an object. Cruelty can be used consciously but often is also just what happens naturally when there's no connection. Of course the effect on you is that you feel lower than them. The mindfuck is that they're really just dragging you down to the level they're already at (but of course compensating greatly for, even to the point of occupying all their consciousness)
@@tjthrillajaw "these things" is very vague, what "things"? and "afterthought" is irrelevant, the cruelty is nothing to do with 'afterthought', it is a policy, or possibly a compulsion, to always double down, always reframe, always progressively breaking more and more boundaries...
@@tjthrillajaw no you are wrong, the effect on me is not that i "feel lower", i am connected to reality at all times and am not spellbound by the narcissist, i think that is the intention as the narcissist is ALL about 'feels' and how they 'feel' based on other people's opinions, actions and even private thoughts, .... they 'feel' it if they suspect you do not 'think' what they want....
I escaped a husband with full on undiagnosed NPD, DID and Alexithymia, spent 3 years doing the hard work to heal just enough to feel like I’m in one piece again, and now recognize the patterns within myself that attracted this type of person, worked on those, only to realize that I’m m in a society surrounded by emotionally, unaware broken people. Narcissism is an epidemic. And So many people are walking traumatized human zombies, trauma spewing their unconscious patterns onto others. At 56, it feels hopeless to imagine I will meet a man who is emotionally available, self aware, working on himself. It’s tragic.
I've learnt to sit back, wait watch and listen, to the people around myself. Make an informed decision on character, 11+ years living within 2 of a narsictic point of view, So I've enjoyed my life as a simple man with logic and laughter.
Plato, many years ago, wrote a book about how to build a society that is not ruled by tyrants. We still haven't acknowledged the extent of the problem.
Great lecture. I have said THIS since I was 11 years old, when I decided I didn't want to have kids on my own in this evil world. I had a psychopath as a father and a sort of sadistic brother, so I got to see all this close up. This lecture could as well have been my own. I have read all psychology I have found, and the more I have read the more depressed I have become. I'm an published author with a book about autism, I'm autistic myself, where I have a chapter about the opposite of us, the psychopathic people.
My ex always said he consider people making less than few million a year are stupid idiots, well… making few M a year is human traffickers, drug dealers and murderers most cases - thats what we all need to know about their mindset
We know now. We're realizing now that they're EVERYWHERE. Thankfully we can see them ALL now. 🎉 You all fighting for awareness and all your tireless work was ALL worth it. Yet it never ends. there are STILL too many people who cannot recognize a narcissistic psychopath when it’s staring them in the eye.
Amazing video A month ago, my partnership of five years came to an end. The choice to break up with the person I love is something that really gets to me. Even though it's all for nothing, I've done everything I can to get him back, and I couldn't imagine my existence without him. I've tried everything to stop thinking about him, but I still can't help but miss him and think about him often. I don't know why I am saying this here.
Saying goodbye to someone you love is difficult; I know this from my 12-year relationship ending. But I was unable to simply let him go, so I made every effort to get him back. I eventually sought aid from a spiritual counselor, who was able to help me regain his affection.
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As a child I always saw how wrong the world was. I never wanted to become like the rest and have struggled my entire life to NOT be like everyone else. I like your comment about "frame of reference," that says it all. Thing is, until people realise they need to work to HELP EACH OTHER, instead of personal gain, nothing will change. All the while the monetary system is in place, no matter what form it takes, the human race will remain trapped as we are now and have been for millenia. No one single person has any right whatsoever to be in power over others. People have forgotten that the system is there to serve the people, NOT the other way around, as it has become.Wake up and see the corruption of the banks, governments, the system is wrong, millions suffer and die in wars created by morons fighting over who owns what, when truth be told, no one can own anything!
I've had a regional manager in a large distributor company in electronics who was a narcissistic psychopath. Lack of empathy, micromanaging and gaslighting led to the ruin of the whole team beneath him. This lecture sums up a lot of his traits. Thanks for sharing it!
Finally! I have been trying to tell people about this for 50 years, and every time, they look at me as if I just said the moon is made of cheese or something. It feels like a redemption to hear someone else say this out loud! Thank you Richard!
You Nailed it Richard! You have a GREAT WAY of Teaching and Speaking Now after watching your videos for over 4 years. Much Love to you Brother. WHERE WE GO ONE WE GO ALL. I stand with you and other good men and women across the earth.
I agree, sir. I've been watching Richard for about that long, as well, and I think he's only getting better at what he's doing here. The ideas, communication, and scope of what he's doing... par excellence.
usually there was just a small percentage of people stuck in an infantile stage of psychological development (for probably biological reasons), but now we have an epidemic of people who didn’t develop because the conditions around them allowed them to remain underdeveloped. I predict that, if our societal/technological conditions don’t change, the percentage of people with acquired narcissism (and other issues that go in that box) will only grow and add to the baseline.
you said “pathology”, but wouldn’t infirmity describe psychopathy better? I know “-pathy” is in the name, but these are functional people. They are as sick as someone just missing a leg.
What I am really worried about is the generation made addicted to screens from a very early age by screen addicted parents. That's the proverbial dead mother, the emotionally absent mother. More and more people become emotionally attached to whatever content they consume. This generation will have a really hard time. How will they get supply and enablers when they can't deal with people? How do they build their fantasy in the real world when they have no idea how that works? It will be interesting. Maybe the narcs weaken themselves with their new inventions. Short term it works perfectly for them, but the next generations might struggle.
I often think about this. It causes me a lot of pain and existential dread. I can't bear the idea of having kids in this kind of world, I truly don't think I'll have any. Thanks for your confidence and courage to talk about such topics. Much appreciated. You're doing great work out here to educate the world. We need more people like you!
Canada is experiencing narc abuse in spades. We’re currently dealing with a leader in the middle of a bottled up narc wounding. Things are feeling very tenuous around here.
I live in New Zealand, but the first thing that springs to mind about Justin Trudeau, is _his bizarre eulogy for his father._ I sent the link to my mother, who's not nearly as partial to the conspiranoid perspective as I; she watched it and said she was creeped out too. The pauses, the intensity, the emphasis...it's like he's speaking to a secret subset of the audience. The odds that any of Pierre Trudeau's offspring would be much different than Justin were nevergood, ofc. Anyway, as a Kiwi victim of Jacinda Adern, I sympathize. *Fuck 'em!*
I had to run away. I’ve only known toxic dysfunctional individuals from parents, teachers “friends” boyfriends, employers ,friends again. My life has been destroyed by these people.
Sorry to read… well, but this is a bloody Reality for so many of us… we Need to Focus on developing our hearts from childhood on… much has to change inside and we have to put all our Energy creating such an inviroment where our hearts can thrive ❤
Ive been following you for years, Richard. You forced my brain to grow up and gtfo of a narcissistically abusive marriage. You are very much on point today and always. Thank you.
Thanks for this excellent talk Richard. I've been thinking these thoughts for a long time. People who are driven to hold such power are a certain "type" who desperately need to prove themselves & manipulate others. We are definitely witnessing this in our current crop of global "leaders" who want control over every living being, plant, and system on the planet, but exempt themselves from having to make any personal sacrifices! Mass non- compliance is the best solution!
It has felt like I’ve been living in George Orwell’s 1984, here in California. I am curious and question everything, recognize patterns and have predicted a lot here in the US. I have been trying to speak with my “liberal” family & friends, to have noticed the thought policing has become contagious and more adamant. I’m not conservative either, just a thinker. I love humans, regardless of their ideology, all depending on their personality. But I have just been noticing something illiberal happening to liberals (a generalization of course, and my sample size is only who I know), and it appears like a psychological operation has been successful. I hope people start questioning more. It’s so crazy. Social contagion is a word that comes to mind. I’m positive I’ve absorbed some social contagion too. I’m not immune. ☮️ & 💟 to the humans.
I agree completely. I don't know if the plan always was to turn them into aggressive drones or if it's just the desperate assertion of the self over others that's elbowing the would be altruism out of the way. There's a saying that the bad leftist doesn't love people, he just hates the rich. Or well, simply that he hates instead of loves. I've seen this in someone I used to consider a friend who went from antifascist to antiarab. We can see what part of the word remained intact there.
Also the antidote to social contagions as far as possible is also groundedness and boundaries. You have to literally feel your own truth deeper than the fear and distrust that spreads. Easier said than done. Peace.
Richard, this talk is revolutionary, my big brother in Recovery!! 🤯😱❤🎉🥳 Thank you so much. I can hear how far you've grown. I'm really enjoying this and it's making my stomach stop hurting so bad! Cause finally, someone is telling the actual truth. Healing sent to all of us on this path 🙏 ✨️.
I have a Masters in Public Policy. I think this discussion would be perfect for students or policy professionals. Extremely helpful, especially for policy makers. Those who write policy are usually in NGOs, they partner with law makers and persuade them to take bills to the floor for a vote. Lawmakers often don’t even read these bills. The sad thing is that the strings are being pulled by “invisible” hands. It’s a symbiotic relationship.
AFAIK the systemic political problems at the heart of this presentation are the subject of a new-ish political theory (hypothesis?) called _'Political Ponerology,'_ which aims to model, understand, & explain the tendency of political systems to preferentially filter & actively encourage / reward sociopathic / psychopathic behaviour, moreso the further up the power heirarchy., and for political, corporate, and other heirarchical systems of power to trend in the direction of same. I'm surprised not to have seen mention of it in the comments yet. Anyway, forgive me if I'm teaching my grandmother to suck eggs ;p
I’ve been listening to you for a few years now, (only as a reminder, when I see a red flag with someone) and my goodness, you’re still on the button. Seeing it now in politics/ government etc., Keep up the good work.
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I'm one of those blessed few who can actually see the Reptilian superimposed over a person, standing behind a person with their hands up to their faces pointing their fingers at their slave, or even full on Reps wearing a human 3D suit illusion. I've seen the clamshell cookers the Reps use to cook human babies. If you want to experience this, go skiing in Aspen CO.
Yes Brill! This is the core issue. Been thinking this a while! And actaully it is about focusing on ourselves and the narcissism within us as that is where they get their power from, using the narcissism in us. If we focus on them that will again supply them.
Same. My mother is a narcissistic psychopath and I always sensed something if OFF with her even as a child, I always felt she sees me as an object in her world that she wants to shape and use to the function and role she envisioned in their grandiose world view
So so happy to see this being discussed on a large scale! Many of us who have been manipulated and abused saw clearly first hand the agendas at play. We’ve been gaslit too many times… no more.
Amen, brother. I often wonder how different the world could be if we prioritized placing the right people in positions of power and leadership. Sociopaths are humans too and are entitled to the same basic human rights as anyone else, but they should be excluded from roles of influence and authority. Just as we wouldn't assign a job requiring acute hearing to a deaf person, we shouldn't entrust the creation of rules and laws-systems that deeply affect others-to individuals who lack empathy.
The importance of what the lady asking the second question is saying cannot be overstated ! If I understood correctly she was raising the point that the legal systems / institutions in our societies function more as mob rule, and normal people trying to do what is right / follow the rules are inevitably crushed / prosecuted / manipulated !
These people are at the top of everything. There’s a 8min video on yt called “Dark Triad: Toxic Leaders” by The Psych Collective channel and it explains that not only do they want to be at the top but they also aggregate. As in they bring each other up the ladder
Brings me back to Loevinger's 9 levels of ego. There is an endless war on control, and that control is pushing narcissistic traits, to be valued in society as a whole; the almost infantile-like mind, as Richard described.
Yep, educating about the nature of narcissistic psychopathy is absolutely essential to overcoming this, the single most catastrophic problem humanity faces, and schools are the place to start, as part of a broader general education in psychology. Imagine the backlash from the top, if this actually started to happen! Thank you for a great talk, keep up the pressure!
I've been surrounded by Cluster B types since childhood, right into my current life. I went no contact with my family 25 years ago. I now work to fight the energies you're describing here, in my field of studies. Have always sensed what you describe here, witnessed it, and experienced it. I've survived by keeping my head low, and my thoughts to myself. It's lonely, but that's where we're at. Thanks for the discussion. It's an important topic, well overdue.
Great stuff Grannon! I'll be posting this video on my social media (passive aggressively) in hopes that my boss will watch it and rethink his actions, pay back his debts to former employees, and heal from his addiction to growth, wealth, and power.
I am amazed how many people with narcissistic traits speak on narcissism. Don't mind the AI generated slides, but the way the speaker interrupts the audience (mostly women) while at the same time demanding not to interrupt them is astounding.
Once I started talking society and economics (aka politics), people started attacking me on my own channel. So best of luck to you! And I completely agree.
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Hi Richard, you appeared on my feed and boy I am so glad that you did. You are 10mins talking and you have mirrored on what I feel about all around us. I spent 15 or so years within a marriage that was literally killing me. For 5 of the 15 I was in denial of what it was I was dealing with. Then out of the blue after about 2 years of total silence from her she left. I have later found out that what I thought I married did not exist. This above all else is the most crushing blow of all that I literally have no real happy memories of the 15 or so years. I would argue that we are dealing with 1 to 5% of population has this disorder I sometimes feel that it is much higher. After studying this whole condition and understanding what I had been dealing with I am spotting the tell tale signs of the condition with people I deal with. I am so totally with you on the politician and it reminds me of what Billy Connolly said one time in a show that that fact that a politician wants to be on should bar them completely from ever being one. Super lecture and your last question and statement asked and answered my next question. Why is this not taught in schools?????????
Dr. Peter Salerno/Hare/Simon state per studies, that Narcissism is a) not compensatory b) not shame based and c) not caused by trauma but genetic. They inherently believe in their superiority foremost because of a genetic disposition.
'Many' wealthy people do move, behave and manage the less fortunate with that view of regal entitlement in their minds of 'actual proven by their $successful living amongst the cattle(us)' as due to a genetically superior predisposition.
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But what is the final solution to this religious rejection of conscience? this war on Christ
correction this world is run by demons and they come in the form of Psychopathic Narcissists get it right
@@EkonRekonthe worldwide party is coming......
Smart! $
Surely, it was a psychopathic narcissist who came up with, "no good deed goes unpunished."
I am autistic, and I have a high sense of justice and morals and empathy, and it's like the whole world neurotypicals built is just completely based on lies, shallow bullshit, and stupid childish power games. It's like everything is so damn fake and I don't belong here in this cruel fake place.
Same here
But HEY THERE!👋😌 There's other people like you out here who very much need people like you to stick around! I totally relate. We are desperately needed here at this time to rebalance this energy. ❤🎉
I feel the same way.
Seems most, if not all corporations have narcisisits at the top and others along the way. It's difficult not to work for one. Try and find friends that aren't and spend more time with them. if you push to hard to get rid of your narc boss, you will end up fired.
@@ScapegoatLoveWarrior❤ absolutely 💯
For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.
And isn't it becoming more and more recognizable, thank you for sharing. Keep your mind on what is above the noise, s33k the kingdom of God.
This is the secret societies.
Is it a Quote?
@playahayta421 ofc. Its from the bible.
and ignorant abusive trash as if evil humans do not make the choices to just be evil.
The more Narcissistic a system is, the less productive it is. All their energy and focus is put into putting on a show.
This is the only comment with a touch of groundedness. Most of everything else I've read was emotionally expressed outrage. Weather anger or empathy it makes no difference. And I am empathetc and compassionate aswell.
Counter productive
Counter intuitive
Reverse psychology
Over regulated = Monopoly
Inflation is Taxation
One model for all is stazi/communism
If you register, you comply
If you don't, your fined
Tough TO CREATE SAFE HARBOR
@@MrGuitarTormentor Thanks, I am also angry. But I try to put it to good use. I live in Ukraine; which is fighting against a Narcississtic Autocracy. People here are dying for the truth that a much less Narcissistic {Autocratic} system is better, than a system that is highly Narcissistic / Autocratic. I know Russia has spent years trying to sell the ideals of Russian Autocracy { Political and Economic Narcissism } To the United States and other countries.
@@MichaelMarsh-dc4ww I am wrathfull aswell sir. I cannot offer you nothing more than my condolences and mental support. I am through unintentional apathy ignorant to many, or if they are any non-corrupt ways, through which I can aid you lot. Words hold breadth as longs as they are forged with action. The reason why I am like this is that I worked on my mental health and on shadow integration. So I make it certain to train both aspects. Both the human spirit and complete non-naivete and capacity to be very dangerous if there is such a neccesity. In this world you should always find the bad thing and maximise it through your sheer imagination. Then you can see what a magnum opus of evil is. And then know that it's even worse. I know it sounds jaded, yet I don't sacrifice my humanity and never will I, nor should I even have a thought of wanting to control another human being. I can only control myself.
@@MichaelMarsh-dc4ww NK
The more awarenes people get about narcissism and psychopathy, the better.
Please watch "Europa the last battle" 12h documentary and "The protocols of the learned elders of zion" in order to understand what is really going on. Cheers.
Knowing that the vast majority of government officials are narcissistic is essential for the mental health of every citizen.
Doctors too
@paulcolin9926 Statisticas show that's true.
Narcissistic tactics really improve your effectiveness in a debate.
And its because the public is naive.
All politicians get trained in such tactics and those that are naturally better at it excel in politics.
Wow
That's not news though?
This is 100%, truth.. We have all the signs and signals.. Shame.. Our world rewards bad behavior, while good honest people are looked over and attempted to be manipulated and controlled. Take your power back, stop complying with evil.
I have , I walk when I see the signals, having lived with one for 26 years.
@@Raven4508 I did 18 years myself. God bless your soul. 🙏🏻
Demons among us. They only use human language to invoke emotional response. But they themselves are void of any true emotion.
I've said this for about ten years after I read or heard from someone that approx 1% of the population on Earth are psychopathic (CEO's, etc. but 1% of that 1% are the ones that will actually be like a serial ki.....). Love to hear your opinion as to why we have this problem? Child abuse (including most importantly prenatal traumas) and lack of love/touch wehn a baby more than genetics is my thought and epigenetics means the aforementioned would carry generationally.
agree
Until you realize that the system labels sensitive people with a so-called personality disorder, while the real disorder in themselves is becoming more and more visible.
Turning everything upside down has always been the modus operandi of dark forces...
As a hypersensitive person I feel this the most at a theater or a place in a city with a volume that ten times too much and puts me at risk to go deaf and gives me extreme stress. It is not normal. I am not insane, the world is just too loud, stressful and cruel, selfish. The whole corporatistic profit system is designed to drive us insane and addicted to pills.
What about depression being called an "adjustment disorder."
@@aurorerich Absolutely!
That's right you are so right
"It is hard to imagine a more stupid or more dangerous way of making decisions than by putting those decisions in the hands of people who pay no price for being wrong." : Thomas Sowell
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I need to remember this quote
Welcome to feminism!
That's a good quote. However, I very much disagree with Sowell's premise that this mostly applies to governmental positions. We've all seen how CEO's can effectively f* up a company and still get their golden parachute and just migrate to another company to do the same stuff.. Once you're high enough you can be as incompetent as you want and still end up winning.
The battle of good vs evil never ended, no matter how modern psychology gaslight us into a 'the abusers are the victims' mindset - and politics to divide us.
The first question by the woman was spot on. I am being targeted at work and constantly bombarded to the point of feeling traumatized, which leaves me weak and feeling exhausted and sick. And then on my days off it’s hard to present well at a new job interview, if I even am able to focus enough to fill out applications to better and improve my life. Which makes me more depressed….she’s right. I just need some space to right the boat but my income level doesn’t allow that. And I can’t compete with the narcissists. They constantly win. Despite many being thoroughly incompetent and obviously ruining the company, they get the promotions
On evenings and your days off, turn off your phone. Stop consuming media. Do some dishes. Listen to music. Go outside.
@@alexcaminiti listen to the bird singing instead.
Don't think of it as competing with them ever that is how they act not you they'll constantly try to drag you in and will make every little thing a competition and even do or say things to make you feel less than them. It could even be something you want like a muffin maybe a specific brand and you'll ask them where they buy it from, well even if you can get it at other places too they'll make you think you can only buy it at a specific place and they know you don't know you can get it at other places. They'll try to make you feel that they're better than you because they got that very specific brand as if it makes it a very special superior muffin to all the rest because they got it from that specific place.
So then they'll manipulate you into feeling less than them and drive you into going to all that trouble and run around putting stress on yourself to find that very special muffin in that specific store because you want to feel just as good as them if not better and then you'll start to try and one up them just like they're always doing.
Maybe ask your manager to only come to you personally or just text you what they want you to do and not let you know things through other people because you aren't getting the messages or the truth, and keep notes so you're sure what you're doing. It's the least you can do to take off some of the pressure until you find a new job. Just don't talk to those people you work with as and if you do keep it brief because you won't get any sense out of them i promise, they'll always lie to you or tell you or other people half truths making things very frustrating and confusing.
I’ve been exactly where you’re at. I’m semiretired now but I’m hoping to have a part time job, nothing super exciting.
LEAVE. I did.
It’s how the few control the many.
They can't win, not if you believe in divine providence and the power of good over evil!
@@theresaandrade5708 oh i see, someone is splitting
That would not be possible without the masses enabling them. Without that they would have no power at all.
@@theresaandrade5708 What reason do you have to believe they'll lose?
@@theresaandrade5708 Unfortunately, "they" created the religious systems that taught you to believe that.
One of the most important things Richard is positing - among many - but one of the most important - is that ALL sense of superiority is always an inferiority complex.
I talk about it a lot and my Narcissistic bosses call me crazy. I don’t believe what they say because I see them hurting others all the time and their minions go along with it. I think denial is the biggest problem in our culture.
I agree.. It seems so obvious, yet many still can't seem to recognize it.
We also have a problem with order followers, those who do everything they're told, with no ablity to think critically. God help us.
Not true, it’s just your cynism speaking. Bad behavior isn’t rewarded. It rather grants things by force aided by absence of care for the consequences
100%!
I often wonder who are worse, those minions that look away, or the baddies themselves.
Ah, the might makes right mentality. Gross.
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You left out all of the politicians!
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Exactly
Trump and Elon
If you cant see Trump is a psychopathic narcissist you are probably one.
My therapist reassured me that if I was afraid I was a narcissist and cruel to others then I was most assuredly not a narcissist.
I've been married to a covert narcissist for over a quarter of a century.
His psyche totally befuddled me, especially his rejection of his two totally innocent daughters from his first marriage. I believed erroneously that I could help him heal. I knew his parents were absolutely demented & the polar opposite of mine. I started researching tRUMP to try to understand his disruptive hateful CHAOS & stumbled upon Prof Sam Vaknin.
I now know I was powerless to change the mental dynamic of my husband. I am finally living my best life now after 73 years on this beautiful earth. My next birthday is January 1, 2025 & I am determined to be mindful for every second of the time I have left to breathe.
Happy Belated Birthday to you 🎉❤
When you realize you were the main character in someone else's story, it becomes clear why they were so invested in your every move. They built their narrative around you, but you've stepped into your own storyline now. You're the author of your life, no longer a character in someone else's plot. Keep living authentically, and let them figure out their next chapter without you at the center.
Amen and Amen 🙏👍👍👍🎉🎉🎉🎉!!!
This is the best saying I have seen so far, Thank you!
Well said 👍🏻
This is a really good comment. You hit the nail on the head.
Narcissist is very toxic
"the modern world is a materialistic death cult"
-Sam Vaknin.
Please don't quote a real malignant narcissist like Sam Vaknin😢
@@ivamlekarova4200 He may be a malignant narcissist, but he is telling the truth on this matter.
Sam Vaknin also supports I. the country that is responsible for the materialistic death cult together with their Western allies.
"The modern world" is just you with no tools to feed yourself so everything needs to be produced for you behind a curtain you can easily peak through and hear the screams behind. 36:12 stop caring about individuals. Indigenous people dont have this lament. Because they aren't disconnected from their consumption. Your consumption pattern is one of the most immoral and destructive in human history. I bet you vote.
@@ivamlekarova4200right? Why tf are people idolizing a narcissist? Clown show.
I took all your courses. My family is all Cluster B, and I've been no contact for 2 decades.
And yet, until very recently, I still had hope - or maybe training, as a therapist - that those people were just traumatized, misunderstood, salvageable.
I'm done. Woke finally finished off my hope. I've been reshuffling the mental furniture in my mind, my moral system, my perception of evil. That's it. There's humans and vampires, and we are not the same.
Thank you
Hugs from Thailand
Same with my family -- immediate family, never had any relationships with any extended family because of narcissistic parents isolating us. Only been no-contact for about 6 weeks now. Still struggling with the guilt and shame feeling like I'm a terrible son and brother for doing so. Especially right now with the holidays going on and everyone talking about visiting their families. It helps to remind myself that the fact that I feel that guilt/shame while conveniently forgetting all the terrible betrayals they've inflicted on me over my entire life is strong evidence that I'm doing the right thing, as they've clearly severely impaired my emotional development.
Wish they would stop trying to violate my boundaries by contacting me via email or my girlfriend, going around my blocking of their phone numbers. And of course they act as though nothing happened, no apologies or attempt to discuss why I did what I did -- just casually wishing us a "Happy Thanksgiving" or "Merry Christmas". Clear attempt to invoke guilt whilst violating boundaries...
@rowanalexander3051 same to you, Rowan ❤️❤️🩹💪
Yes, I also left the west. It seems demonic across the board.
What is woke, in your view? Which morals are important to you? And, who do you think exemplifies these morals (a leader that you like, a country that is well run, a person we all might know). The only reason why I ask is because I have been called 'woke' on several occassions, but im not sure. I dont see myself as a psychopath, quite the opposite. Are we saying 'woke' people are psychopaths?
_"reshuffling the mental furniture"_ love that quote! Although the version I stole had it as _"rearranging mental furniture."_ Which is better ;p Either way, it's a rhetorical gem.
This is an important discussion that we all need to have. Don't feed your children to a psychopathic machine that will raise them into adults with NPD as the highest virtue
We live within a society that rewards narcissistic behaviors. We are immersed in media and technology that rewards narcissistic behaviors. It is imperative that people emphasize, as Richard did, that even though a small percentage of the population is truly NPD, there does seem to be an increase in narcissistic traits in people, because of the systems we have in place that reward narcissistic behaviors. But it doesn't make 30% of the population NPD. It is important to draw the distinction between the truly irredeemable and the people who behave in ways our traumatized and mentally ill society reward.
Thanks for all you do, Richard. Truly a crucial resource in dealing with narcissism. I am endlessly grateful.
As a whole Narcissistic behaviors create as much destruction as NPD. So in my eyes everyone might as well be classified as a Narcissist. Narcissistic traits are only productive when having to handle others' Narcissistic traits.
What about maybe capitalism is inherently psychopathy as a system.
It's because the system is built by psychopaths. They built it to exclusively fit their wants and needs.
@@Kaa864 The alternatives that we've come up with are far worse.
@@Antonocon I’m fed up.
15:50 "we're way past enslavement, we are crop." It's a more insidious form of exploitation in which we are being harvested, in less overt ways - through things like consumerism, data exploitation, and emotional manipulation within larger systems.
Being a slave means being enslaved by these systems
Brilliant
Also the capture of our bodies as sources of endless profits for the pharma-medical cartels...
'Crop', yes! Just listening to a radio talk show highlighting conscription. How dare the higher powers that be decide to 'harvest' our children to serve any purpose they like.
You can bet your bottom dollar that the majority of those that decide this will spirit their children away to somewhere they can't be conscripted. Those fake farms, for example!
Thats merely capitalism... the question might be: is capitalism the choice of rouling narcissts? 😮
We live in Psychopathic Narcissistic epidemic!
The 5 % are in control. Pray people Pray.
@@johanvanspijkerMUAHAHAHAHAHA
Oh yeh. we have a fake PM who has NPD, Netanyahu, and he is basically leading my people and my country to their death.
why do you hate Jews?!
Do these go away? I find all of them are democrats around the planet.
We have entered the final stage of human existence, the era of psychopathy.
I am so afraid yes, yes you are right, i am rotting in my bed, by health is really bad and i am hopeless and depressed, why is not more people noticing this, it is scarily obvious how scary our ending will be
I'd say psychopathy ruled always. Since the ancient times, since before written history.
It's only lately that we started obtaining tools to identify it.
And weapons of mass destruction that allow these individuals to pull the entire humanity down with them if they fall.
Trump and Elon!
@@ob5023 you must be a woman
Fascinating how Grannon's thinking has led him from a serious and nuanced examination of these personality disorders to an alarming recognition of the destructive implications of dominant narcissistic psychopathy in the leadership structures of nearly all social hierarchies.
The most important dividing line is between empathetic human beings and narcissistic psychopaths.
@croneyr totally agree
And those NPD's and psychopaths seem to be born that way. I have a strongly narcissistic/psychopathic family. Even across generations you can see the empathetic people being born and trying to cater to the psychopathic people that have no empathy or extremely limited empathy. A great book on how people are born this way is The Nature and Nurture of Narcissism. It shows that empathy regions of the brain simply do not even light up on brain scans for some NPD's and Psychopaths. They simply do not have this brain Chemistry, from a very young age. Another great book on this is The Science of Evil. I would recommend reading them both.
Finally, if we think of where humans came from, we developed empathy over hundreds of thousands of years. If you look at monkeys, they do not act together even when attacking. They all do things for themselves. Early humans were exactly like this and then some developed an understanding of other people and they were able to work together to defeat lions, etc. But, not everyone had to develop this as we went on to develop tribes. Some people in the tribe could be completely psychopathic, and in the wider tribe, they would be fine. They helped protect the tribe from other tribes, in a vicious way. They took from the tribe as well, I am not saying they are good people, just speaking of the evolutionary benefit. A great book on this is The Social Leap.
I think my father has a strong malicious narcissistic personality disorder, bordering on psychopathy, he was never arrested but that is because I believe in the past the laws in my country were very lax. In America he would have been arrested a number of times, even as a kid. But he does very much like admiration, so I put him on the borderline between NPD and psychopathy. My mother liked that she could use his violent ways to control others. She even said this. He comes from a family of boys and she of girls so he was not violent with her but was with us, every day. Neither of them display much empathy, at all. In fact, just having my father not be insulting when I interact, is about the best I can do. I do believe he also has some form of aspergers though. He is still highly intelligent even with all the above points taken into account.
Myself and my brothers left the country, but even though my younger brother and his wife are quite nice and caring, his daughter is quite scary and a bully. Gives off a similar vibe to my father, and insults people straight away, like even my brothers mother in law after not seeing her for about 10 months. Even at age 5 she says, why are you so fat. She just kicks off with insults immediately. She bullied her younger brother from the start. She bullies the whole family but my younger brother has a way of catering to NPD's. I would never have allowed her behaviour, but I'm not in their lives anyway.
The point I'm making is that you don't need any trauma, you don't need abuse, some people are just born without a lot of the different forms of empathy. I believe we can see about 16 forms of it using brain scans. Our species did not need to have everyone develop the same and we have not. I believe that in the old days, these vicious people were put in their place more. People were farmers, they were stronger, they would challenge these people to a duel or a fight. Nowadays tolerance is glorified above all other traits. It's insane to me. As we allow injustices to be committed across the board. I have left the west. I'm not prepared to put up with this nonsense and not prepared to be mocked by weak people when I call it out.
black and white thinking or duality is a fallacy, beware, a curve Bell is a better start to explain myriad of characters we encounter in our daily lives.
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Absolutely agree. Trouble is, how do empathetic sane people with values, fight the narcs and psychopaths?
We need to re-popularize candor & honesty. Take a criticism, give a criticism. Unironically, 'thick skin' is how you identify a non-narcissist.
Agree with this. Sadly we have allowed ourselves to be corralled into a situation where "offence" triggers a call to the authorities, with politicians supporting this by the implementation of "hate crime" legislation. Both justify this using "equality" as the excuse. The notion of "democracy" has shifted from a system that supports the views of the majority to one which persecutes the majority in the interests of the "protection" of minorities.
I have thick skin. I can take accountability for my actions. I can apologize after I've done something wrong. Narcissists can not do this.
@@melisentiapheiffer3034they can pretend when needed
Do the rest of us really have thick skin though? I often initially take great offense internally to criticism and then analyze it later on when I'm alone to see if there's truth to what the person said and possibly the motivation behind it.
@@Quadster19I believe you are right, to a certain extent. I've never liked criticism directed at me either. But there are different kinds of criticism: constructive and destructive. When I was still immature, I couldn't distinguish between the too, and was therefore thin-skinned about how I received it. Only after maturity set in was I able to recognize the difference between the two. Constructive criticism is given with good intent, and a genuine desire to help behind it. Although it still bruises my ego a bit, it doesn't take me long to recognize that I've deserved it, and it becomes an opportunity for growth. Destructive criticism on the other hand is simply malicious and hateful, like the criticism the left has for the right. Either way, I try to always consider the source and not to overreact. I get better with that with age. Peace.
Finally, we're finally figuring this out. It's only been 10,000 years of abuse... Thank you Mr Grannon. you deserve a Noble prize👍 !
I strongly agree Richard. I think a vetting system needs to be put in place to make sure the person or people in charge are not narcissistic. The right people to be in charge would be very competent, compassionate, moral and selfless. Putting the whole first, not themselves.
And that would not be capitalistic . Time to grow up. We were lied to, Communism is the good stuff.
Protect this man at all cost!
oh we all know
4:05 the cruelty is done deliberately because it is boundary breaking, constant boundary breaking is done to diminish the victim and constantly assert your 'lower status'
I don't personally believe there's much afterthought to these things. You're just an object. Cruelty can be used consciously but often is also just what happens naturally when there's no connection. Of course the effect on you is that you feel lower than them. The mindfuck is that they're really just dragging you down to the level they're already at (but of course compensating greatly for, even to the point of occupying all their consciousness)
@@tjthrillajaw "these things" is very vague, what "things"? and "afterthought" is irrelevant, the cruelty is nothing to do with 'afterthought', it is a policy, or possibly a compulsion, to always double down, always reframe, always progressively breaking more and more boundaries...
@@tjthrillajaw no you are wrong, the effect on me is not that i "feel lower", i am connected to reality at all times and am not spellbound by the narcissist, i think that is the intention as the narcissist is ALL about 'feels' and how they 'feel' based on other people's opinions, actions and even private thoughts, .... they 'feel' it if they suspect you do not 'think' what they want....
@@DVDFRMN yes exactly they want you to be brainwashed by them and be their slave basically
Absolutely 👍
I escaped a husband with full on undiagnosed NPD, DID and Alexithymia, spent 3 years doing the hard work to heal just enough to feel like I’m in one piece again, and now recognize the patterns within myself that attracted this type of person, worked on those, only to realize that I’m m in a society surrounded by emotionally, unaware broken people. Narcissism is an epidemic. And So many people are walking traumatized human zombies, trauma spewing their unconscious patterns onto others. At 56, it feels hopeless to imagine I will meet a man who is emotionally available, self aware, working on himself. It’s tragic.
Well I'm sure you had your fun while it lasted.
Stay close to Yourself ,Protect Yourself...
Most will not be in a comfort zone, but will be comfortable with self and have knowledge.
they do exist. the best place to find one would be at a self-improvement seminar haha. maybe a joe dispenza meditation retreat. there is always hope!
Remember they are still the minority of people and you know what to be aware of.
Thanks to the lady who called it mobbing....EXACTLY
BOSTON ☘️
I've learnt to sit back, wait watch and listen, to the people around myself.
Make an informed decision on character,
11+ years living within 2 of a narsictic point of view,
So I've enjoyed my life as a simple man with logic and laughter.
Plato, many years ago, wrote a book about how to build a society that is not ruled by tyrants. We still haven't acknowledged the extent of the problem.
Do you remember the name of the book?
@@MayDay-yn3bw Yes it's The Republic
THANK YOU FOR SPEAKING THE TRUTH
Great lecture. I have said THIS since I was 11 years old, when I decided I didn't want to have kids on my own in this evil world. I had a psychopath as a father and a sort of sadistic brother, so I got to see all this close up. This lecture could as well have been my own. I have read all psychology I have found, and the more I have read the more depressed I have become. I'm an published author with a book about autism, I'm autistic myself, where I have a chapter about the opposite of us, the psychopathic people.
My ex always said he consider people making less than few million a year are stupid idiots, well… making few M a year is human traffickers, drug dealers and murderers most cases - thats what we all need to know about their mindset
Hang in there people.....changes are coming
yeah - but for the worse! We have seen nothing yet imo
Full on tyranny- yeah
…and they are?
@ elon musk, trump - at the top of the pyramid because they are sadly now directly impacting everything and everyone
We know now. We're realizing now that they're EVERYWHERE.
Thankfully we can see them ALL now. 🎉
You all fighting for awareness and all your tireless work was ALL worth it.
Yet it never ends. there are STILL too many people who cannot recognize a narcissistic psychopath when it’s staring them in the eye.
Maybe those are enablers!
@@theresaandrade5708everyone is an enabler/excuser until they have been abused by one
Especially with the covid tyranny their masks fell off. 😮
Thank you for bringing the darkness in to the light, because it will die in the light of truth.
Way more than 1 to 5% of the population
Yes
1 in 5 people.
Rubbish you're not a mental health professional the statistics are more like 1-1.5% of the population
More like 50% from my perspective!!
At least 50% out of... appearence society
Amazing video A month ago, my partnership of five years came to an end. The choice to break up with the person I love is something that really gets to me. Even though it's all for nothing, I've done everything I can to get him back, and I couldn't imagine my existence without him. I've tried everything to stop thinking about him, but I still can't help but miss him and think about him often. I don't know why I am saying this here.
Saying goodbye to someone you love is difficult; I know this from my 12-year relationship ending. But I was unable to simply let him go, so I made every effort to get him back. I eventually sought aid from a spiritual counselor, who was able to help me regain his affection.
It's interesting! How can I contact a spiritual counselor most efficiently, and how did you find one?
Father Obah Eze is a wonderful spiritual counselor who has the ability to bring back your ex.
He can assist you; he is Father Obah Eze, and he possesses immense powers.
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As a child I always saw how wrong the world was. I never wanted to become like the rest and have struggled my entire life to NOT be like everyone else. I like your comment about "frame of reference," that says it all.
Thing is, until people realise they need to work to HELP EACH OTHER, instead of personal gain, nothing will change. All the while the monetary system is in place, no matter what form it takes, the human race will remain trapped as we are now and have been for millenia.
No one single person has any right whatsoever to be in power over others. People have forgotten that the system is there to serve the people, NOT the other way around, as it has become.Wake up and see the corruption of the banks, governments, the system is wrong, millions suffer and die in wars created by morons fighting over who owns what, when truth be told, no one can own anything!
I've had a regional manager in a large distributor company in electronics who was a narcissistic psychopath. Lack of empathy, micromanaging and gaslighting led to the ruin of the whole team beneath him. This lecture sums up a lot of his traits. Thanks for sharing it!
Finally! I have been trying to tell people about this for 50 years, and every time, they look at me as if I just said the moon is made of cheese or something.
It feels like a redemption to hear someone else say this out loud!
Thank you Richard!
“They Live” the movie comes to mind.
A shtton of movies exist depicting our situation.
Most people still dont get it.
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Always wear your sunglasses!
Our society is so, bad people hide their lives even from those close to them.
You Nailed it Richard! You have a GREAT WAY of Teaching and Speaking Now after watching your videos for over 4 years. Much Love to you Brother. WHERE WE GO ONE WE GO ALL. I stand with you and other good men and women across the earth.
I agree, sir. I've been watching Richard for about that long, as well, and I think he's only getting better at what he's doing here. The ideas, communication, and scope of what he's doing... par excellence.
“The babylon system is a vampire”, Bob Marley.
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usually there was just a small percentage of people stuck in an infantile stage of psychological development (for probably biological reasons), but now we have an epidemic of people who didn’t develop because the conditions around them allowed them to remain underdeveloped. I predict that, if our societal/technological conditions don’t change, the percentage of people with acquired narcissism (and other issues that go in that box) will only grow and add to the baseline.
you said “pathology”, but wouldn’t infirmity describe psychopathy better? I know “-pathy” is in the name, but these are functional people. They are as sick as someone just missing a leg.
What I am really worried about is the generation made addicted to screens from a very early age by screen addicted parents. That's the proverbial dead mother, the emotionally absent mother.
More and more people become emotionally attached to whatever content they consume.
This generation will have a really hard time. How will they get supply and enablers when they can't deal with people? How do they build their fantasy in the real world when they have no idea how that works? It will be interesting. Maybe the narcs weaken themselves with their new inventions. Short term it works perfectly for them, but the next generations might struggle.
@@heiker1351It’s all VR with AI humanoid robots.
I often think about this. It causes me a lot of pain and existential dread. I can't bear the idea of having kids in this kind of world, I truly don't think I'll have any. Thanks for your confidence and courage to talk about such topics. Much appreciated. You're doing great work out here to educate the world. We need more people like you!
Your child may be the one who has the answers.
@@vickielucas5320 John Connor.
Be that person❤
Do not have a child with a narcissist
If you want to have children you should, live a life that goes against the mainstream and create a family that does good for the world.
Yes, I caught on to that fact many years ago.
They're throughout our society. The good and innocent suffer at their hands.
Canada is experiencing narc abuse in spades. We’re currently dealing with a leader in the middle of a bottled up narc wounding. Things are feeling very tenuous around here.
You're not alone in that scenario same across the pond
I live in New Zealand, but the first thing that springs to mind about Justin Trudeau, is _his bizarre eulogy for his father._ I sent the link to my mother, who's not nearly as partial to the conspiranoid perspective as I; she watched it and said she was creeped out too. The pauses, the intensity, the emphasis...it's like he's speaking to a secret subset of the audience. The odds that any of Pierre Trudeau's offspring would be much different than Justin were nevergood, ofc. Anyway, as a Kiwi victim of Jacinda Adern, I sympathize. *Fuck 'em!*
💯 Canadian 🇨🇦 here. Absolutely we have a narcissist psychopath (sadism) . He is lawless.
@LearjetpreacherNo!
Its the only explanation that makes sense, when you look at the sincere lack of empathy or common sense
I had to run away. I’ve only known toxic dysfunctional individuals from parents, teachers “friends” boyfriends, employers ,friends again. My life has been destroyed by these people.
This world is a nightmare personally handcrafted by Satan himself.
I agree, earth is an open-air asylum.
Sorry to read… well, but this is a bloody Reality for so many of us… we Need to Focus on developing our hearts from childhood on… much has to change inside and we have to put all our Energy creating such an inviroment where our hearts can thrive ❤
Side note, you look absolutely fabulous. LOVE your style!
Thank you Richard for your wonderful work through the years & your great humour & good looks 😉🥰😘Merry Xmas 2024 from Germany 🙋🏾♀️💖
Its a big club , and you aint in it 💯 😊
Ive been following you for years, Richard. You forced my brain to grow up and gtfo of a narcissistically abusive marriage. You are very much on point today and always. Thank you.
Brilliant. This makes so much sense. People are waking up to their reality.
THANKYOU FOR CLEARING THAT OUT. WE WERE NOT CRAZY, THEY WERE. THANKYOU FOR GIVING US HOPE 💯♥️
Thanks Richard for everything 🎉happy Christmas 🎄 😊
Thanks for this excellent talk Richard. I've been thinking these thoughts for a long time. People who are driven to hold such power are a certain "type" who desperately need to prove themselves & manipulate others. We are definitely witnessing this in our current crop of global "leaders" who want control over every living being, plant, and system on the planet, but exempt themselves from having to make any personal sacrifices!
Mass non- compliance is the best solution!
I lived with a Narcissistic Psychopath for a year. It changed my entire life and it wasn't a good change.
It has felt like I’ve been living in George Orwell’s 1984, here in California. I am curious and question everything, recognize patterns and have predicted a lot here in the US. I have been trying to speak with my “liberal” family & friends, to have noticed the thought policing has become contagious and more adamant. I’m not conservative either, just a thinker.
I love humans, regardless of their ideology, all depending on their personality. But I have just been noticing something illiberal happening to liberals (a generalization of course, and my sample size is only who I know), and it appears like a psychological operation has been successful. I hope people start questioning more.
It’s so crazy. Social contagion is a word that comes to mind.
I’m positive I’ve absorbed some social contagion too. I’m not immune.
☮️ & 💟 to the humans.
I agree completely. I don't know if the plan always was to turn them into aggressive drones or if it's just the desperate assertion of the self over others that's elbowing the would be altruism out of the way. There's a saying that the bad leftist doesn't love people, he just hates the rich. Or well, simply that he hates instead of loves. I've seen this in someone I used to consider a friend who went from antifascist to antiarab. We can see what part of the word remained intact there.
Also the antidote to social contagions as far as possible is also groundedness and boundaries. You have to literally feel your own truth deeper than the fear and distrust that spreads. Easier said than done. Peace.
You realize the elected president DT, who will be in office shortly, is a narcissist?
The one and only Mr Richard Grannon 🙏🏻
Richard, this talk is revolutionary, my big brother in Recovery!! 🤯😱❤🎉🥳 Thank you so much. I can hear how far you've grown. I'm really enjoying this and it's making my stomach stop hurting so bad! Cause finally, someone is telling the actual truth. Healing sent to all of us on this path 🙏 ✨️.
I have a Masters in Public Policy. I think this discussion would be perfect for students or policy professionals. Extremely helpful, especially for policy makers. Those who write policy are usually in NGOs, they partner with law makers and persuade them to take bills to the floor for a vote. Lawmakers often don’t even read these bills. The sad thing is that the strings are being pulled by “invisible” hands. It’s a symbiotic relationship.
AFAIK the systemic political problems at the heart of this presentation are the subject of a new-ish political theory (hypothesis?) called _'Political Ponerology,'_ which aims to model, understand, & explain the tendency of political systems to preferentially filter & actively encourage / reward sociopathic / psychopathic behaviour, moreso the further up the power heirarchy., and for political, corporate, and other heirarchical systems of power to trend in the direction of same.
I'm surprised not to have seen mention of it in the comments yet. Anyway, forgive me if I'm teaching my grandmother to suck eggs ;p
I’ve been listening to you for a few years now, (only as a reminder, when I see a red flag with someone) and my goodness, you’re still on the button. Seeing it now in politics/ government etc., Keep up the good work.
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Yes, and it is not a projection to say it...
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Painfully obvious here in California! Much love and merriment to you all ! 🎉🎄❤️🙏☮️🌎
Yea We are 🙏 praying for California in the clutches of a psychopathic narc
The headline speaks the truth. It’s demonic
I'm one of those blessed few who can actually see the Reptilian superimposed over a person, standing behind a person with their hands up to their faces pointing their fingers at their slave, or even full on Reps wearing a human 3D suit illusion. I've seen the clamshell cookers the Reps use to cook human babies. If you want to experience this, go skiing in Aspen CO.
Yes Brill! This is the core issue. Been thinking this a while! And actaully it is about focusing on ourselves and the narcissism within us as that is where they get their power from, using the narcissism in us. If we focus on them that will again supply them.
Been saying this for decades!!! My father is a psychopath so it was easy enough to notice who was in charge of the world.
Same. My mother is a narcissistic psychopath and I always sensed something if OFF with her even as a child, I always felt she sees me as an object in her world that she wants to shape and use to the function and role she envisioned in their grandiose world view
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So so happy to see this being discussed on a large scale! Many of us who have been manipulated and abused saw clearly first hand the agendas at play. We’ve been gaslit too many times… no more.
Richard, you’re doing the Great Work. Keep it up!
Amen, brother. I often wonder how different the world could be if we prioritized placing the right people in positions of power and leadership. Sociopaths are humans too and are entitled to the same basic human rights as anyone else, but they should be excluded from roles of influence and authority. Just as we wouldn't assign a job requiring acute hearing to a deaf person, we shouldn't entrust the creation of rules and laws-systems that deeply affect others-to individuals who lack empathy.
Every teacher, doctor, public servant, police officer, soldier, nurse should take test for narcissism. They may do so much harm
Excellent. Thank you. Everyone needs to hear and acknowledge this.
The importance of what the lady asking the second question is saying cannot be overstated !
If I understood correctly she was raising the point that the legal systems / institutions in our societies function more as mob rule, and normal people trying to do what is right / follow the rules are inevitably crushed / prosecuted / manipulated !
The age of awakening is finally here!!! ❤🎉🙌🙌🙌🎉❤
Lately I have been admitting to acquaintances that I mostly am hiding at home, and they admit the same. There is a lot to fear out there. ❤
Drop the fear and stand firm in your integrity.
These people are at the top of everything. There’s a 8min video on yt called “Dark Triad: Toxic Leaders” by The Psych Collective channel and it explains that not only do they want to be at the top but they also aggregate. As in they bring each other up the ladder
I appreciate you putting yourself out there Richard, and sharing your views, and thoughts.
You are not wrong
Pretty spot-on really…
How articulate 😂
Brings me back to Loevinger's 9 levels of ego. There is an endless war on control, and that control is pushing narcissistic traits, to be valued in society as a whole; the almost infantile-like mind, as Richard described.
My favorite vid so far.Thank you.This is like a fine wine
Yep, educating about the nature of narcissistic psychopathy is absolutely essential to overcoming this, the single most catastrophic problem humanity faces, and schools are the place to start, as part of a broader general education in psychology.
Imagine the backlash from the top, if this actually started to happen!
Thank you for a great talk, keep up the pressure!
And this is a real life example of how you shut down the narcissist 😂 love it!
Information is not truth. Most information is designed to confuse, not clarify.
True
I've been surrounded by Cluster B types since childhood, right into my current life. I went no contact with my family 25 years ago. I now work to fight the energies you're describing here, in my field of studies. Have always sensed what you describe here, witnessed it, and experienced it. I've survived by keeping my head low, and my thoughts to myself. It's lonely, but that's where we're at. Thanks for the discussion. It's an important topic, well overdue.
Thank you for this talk. Much appreciated.
Great stuff Grannon! I'll be posting this video on my social media (passive aggressively) in hopes that my boss will watch it and rethink his actions, pay back his debts to former employees, and heal from his addiction to growth, wealth, and power.
Hi Jimmy! Time to pay the piper. No more mangos y cocos!
I am amazed how many people with narcissistic traits speak on narcissism. Don't mind the AI generated slides, but the way the speaker interrupts the audience (mostly women) while at the same time demanding not to interrupt them is astounding.
Once I started talking society and economics (aka politics), people started attacking me on my own channel. So best of luck to you! And I completely agree.
Yes. They don't want to harm or understand why they behave so badly.
My algorithm put harm in my comment. Sorry.
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attack is confirmation. forge on!
Good vs Evil. Period
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Hi Richard, you appeared on my feed and boy I am so glad that you did. You are 10mins talking and you have mirrored on what I feel about all around us.
I spent 15 or so years within a marriage that was literally killing me. For 5 of the 15 I was in denial of what it was I was dealing with. Then out of the blue after about 2 years of total silence from her she left. I have later found out that what I thought I married did not exist. This above all else is the most crushing blow of all that I literally have no real happy memories of the 15 or so years.
I would argue that we are dealing with 1 to 5% of population has this disorder I sometimes feel that it is much higher.
After studying this whole condition and understanding what I had been dealing with I am spotting the tell tale signs of the condition with people I deal with. I am so totally with you on the politician and it reminds me of what Billy Connolly said one time in a show that that fact that a politician wants to be on should bar them completely from ever being one. Super lecture and your last question and statement asked and answered my next question. Why is this not taught in schools?????????
Stay strong. You're not a victim.
Dr. Peter Salerno/Hare/Simon state per studies, that Narcissism is a) not compensatory b) not shame based and c) not caused by trauma but genetic. They inherently believe in their superiority foremost because of a genetic disposition.
'Many' wealthy people do move, behave and manage the less fortunate with that view of regal entitlement in their minds of 'actual proven by their $successful living amongst the cattle(us)' as due to a genetically superior predisposition.