No, not everyone with HFA shows up early. Some of us procrastinate with our time. We're either prompt or a little late, since we put off leaving until the last minute. Because where we're going gives us more anxiety and we're trying to evade it
All of these symptoms are also present in those with Fearful Avoidant attachment style, which is formed by experiencing childhood trauma. It causes you to be hypervigilant and always on edge anticipating the next traumatic episode you will have to endure.
I have anxiety ... and you're right.... it feels like I'm always on the edge but too tired to do anything about it .... everything seems to be moving too fast....
I have high-functioning anxiety. The hardest part for me is not enjoying my downtime because I feel shame and worry if I'm not doing something, anything. The other thing is, it's hard dealing with random people while out and about, everyone looks at me strangely because I look worried all the time and because I tend to look at people a little too long to figure out what they are thinking about me which turns people off. So I tend to only go out if need be. The funny thing is, I used to be very out going in my teens and had a lot of acquaintances and friends.
Yeah people notice if you look too long or not enough. I tend to look away too much, social anxiety, because I'm thinking about what I'm saying. Sometimes they turn around to see what I'm looking at. I don't always do it, and meds help, but I worry about saying something wrong or stupid. I think I've always had varying degrees of anxiety/depression, partly from growing up in an authoritarian household. I was early generation ADHD/gifted, before they "invented" it. Too thinky. Zero validation. Curious what you feel may have contributed to yours, if you don't mind sharing. Totally understandable, if u do.
I scored a 9/10. Funny thing is I am always late. To everything, doesn't matter. I try but I get sidetracked fixing or cleaning something, avoiding the impending social interactions I'm about to have to fake. This explains why I don't generally make plans same day. I need time to cancel and reschedule a few times so I can stress out about it until i'm ready. Oh geez...
Have you been assesed for adhd and asd? I do this and I have both. Undiagnosed adhd and folks tend to have anxiety from masking all the time and just generally trying to fit into the neurotypical world. Worth checking it out! ❤❤❤
I'm often late because I get really stressed out about the idea of arriving to anything early so I try and arrive exactly on time but inevitably a lot of the time something comes up like construction on my way or I forget to grab something on my way out the door or whatever and I arrive late. Only usually a minute or two but that ALSO stresses me out a great deal, so it's just a whole thing.
This video literally just described who I am to the Tee it is so hard for me to enjoy anything my mind races non stop the worrying, the stress, the guilt and all that are spot on as well as the always being on time…Im 43 and I’m learning that I have to get some help for myself real soon
omg! same here with past trauma health issues family issues work stress financial issues and all of causes anxiety and depression I'm seeking for help too
it is never too late. i lost my whole childhood and early adulthood to anxiety. but healing is the key. as long as you are alive, it is always worth doing, my friend. ❤️
My anxiety has developed a personality on its own. It feels like it has moods. One day it´s "oh, today we´re coping" and the next day it´s like "nope, we´re not being stable today". Here are my tips to cope I learned over the years: - Mindfulness. - Watch your caffeine/sugar intake (really important). - Fact check EVERYTHING you worry about. How high is the chance it will actually happen? - Muscle relaxation and deep breathing techniques, nobody will notice you´re doing it in public. - Self-soothe with senses like taste, smell, visuals or repeatedly count from 1 to 5 to distract yoursellf until you´re calmer. - Opposite action. Do exactly what you are scared to do. I promise the world will not end. (Do only when FACTS tell you it´s unlikely to harm you). - Get your sleep under control even if you had to see a doctor about it. Tired anxiety is the worst anxiety
I have tired anxiety. My sleep pattern is so meesed up. Sometimes I'll get my schedule back but then something stressfull comes up and my routine gets ruined...again.
@@gerardinecizmar I know the struggle. There were times I had to take sleeping pills to fall asleep every night. I still have them when insomnia hits, but I try to only take them when I am in crisis.
@@TP-nx7uf Sometimes I take meds and I still am up until the morning. Right now I either have allergies or a cold and my mind is telling me I have something serious. People who don't have anxiety don't know how lucky they are. The overthinking is what's probably making me feel more ill. From someone who understands, I wish you well.
I’ve spend the last months maybe even years figuring out why I acted the way I do. I thought it might have been ADHD or ADD because I’am so restless and can’t stoping thinking. My mind literally doesn’t stop thinking. Watching this video, I relate to ALL this. While watching the video I was clenching my fists, because I’am just so tense. Then… I came to the symptom ‘clench your fists’. After watching this video I’am crying cause I’am sooo relieved I finally understand myself way better. Thank you for this video.
Have you ever sought help for what you’re going through? What you’re describing is so common and so many young people just don’t know how to handle it, but this affects all ages. Some people think if they talk to a therapist they’ll be labeled crazy which is so unfortunate.
@@deniseberman8633 yeah I’ve thought about help. But to be honest I’am kinda scared and embarrassed to tell my parents cause I know they know I struggle with stress a lot but they don’t know that it effects me this much. And I really don’t like talking about my feelings, whatever they might be. I do want to seek help, but idk…. Just gotta gather some courage I think
@@sterredeprieelle3146 No one is going to judge you. There’s nothing to be embarrassed about. This stuff does not go away on it’s own, why suffer? Professionals are there to help you.
This hits home deeply for me. Anxiety, discomfort, and pain are my daily meals. Talk therapy didn't do anything beyond asking me to declare hard boundaries and establish delegated responsibilities in my life. Which led only to fewer friends and unfinished critical financial and household tasks which I will procrastinate until I am fairly sure nobody is going to take care of anything unless I do everything. I don't get a day off, or even an hour off. It is a monumental challenge to stay positive most days on any level. I hope folks out there have better results with talk therapy than I have. Stay strong folks!
hello, I hear you. Anxiety makes life a living hell. You said it so well: 'Anxiety, discomfort and pain are my daily meals." Therapists that haven't lived through severe anxiety are useless.
For me, talk therapy doesn't really help me. I have to chunk every thing down and tell my brain that I need to rest so there would be lesser chatter going on in my head. A good physician can prescribe to you anti-anxiety meds. Good luck! I'm in bed because of this and chronic pain. 😔
I feel unsafe in the world. I can relate to all of these indicators....I overplan, prepare for all outcomes, like to show up a bit early...like staying in my known comfort zones....and feel like there is always something I should be "doing" instead of just being.
This guy's voice is so calming and friendly to me. He sounds like a friend who's saying, "it's ok. I understand. You're not alone. Do you want to talk about it?"
I’ve had Generalized Anxiety Disorder since childhood. The level is moderate to high for me according to my evaluation. I wouldn’t wish this on my worse enemy it’s no way to live.
This is exactly how I feel and experience things on a day to day basis, I just thought everyone dealt with it. Now I have a explanation of how what I feel and I never knew others experienced it too! Nice to learn more new information that is really helpful!
I can't be trusted alone due to my anxiety. I'm like a puppy. Only it's more self destructive. Sometimes I don't hit reply to the comments I write to. The illusion of people is sometimes good enough to make sure I don't overthink.
*Jesus Christ died on the cross for our sins, He was buried in a tomb, and He rose on the third day. We have all sinned and Jesus died for all of us because He loves us all, and took a punishment that we rightly deserve. We all deserve to go to hell, but Jesus Christ made a way out for us. God's wrath is on those who remain in their sins and do not believe in His Son, Jesus Christ. We must repent of our sins, be baptized in the name of Jesus Christ and live for Him with the help of His Holy Spirit, which leads us to live holy and righteous lives on this Earth. We live as saints (not sinners) to show our gratitude for the love He has demonstrated to us by taking up the cross. We must have faith (believe/trust) in Jesus Christ, and by the grace of God it will lead us to salvation.* "Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor homosexuals, nor sodomites, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God." (1 Corinthians 6:9-10) "Now the works of the flesh are evident, which are: adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lewdness, idolatry, sorcery, hatred, contentions, jealousies, outbursts of wrath, selfish ambitions, dissensions, heresies, envy, murders, drunkenness, revelries, and the like; of which I tell you beforehand, just as I also told you in time past, that those who practice such things will not inherit the kingdom of God." (Galatians 5:19-21) "Moreover, brethren, I declare to you the gospel which I preached to you, which also you received and in which you stand, by which also you are saved, if you hold fast that word which I preached to you-unless you believed in vain. For I delivered to you first of all that which I also received: that Christ died for our sins according to the Scriptures, and that He was buried, and that He rose again the third day according to the Scriptures." (1 Corinthians 15:1-4) "Repent, and let every one of you be baptized in the name of Jesus Christ for the remission of sins; and you shall receive the gift of the Holy Spirit." (Acts 2:38) "For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God." (Romans 3:23) "For scarcely for a righteous man will one die; yet perhaps for a good man someone would even dare to die. But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us. Much more then, having now been justified by His blood, we shall be saved from wrath through Him. For if when we were enemies we were reconciled to God through the death of His Son, much more, having been reconciled, we shall be saved by His life. And not only that, but we also rejoice in God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom we have now received the reconciliation." (Romans 5:7-11) "What shall we say then? Shall we continue in sin that grace may abound? Certainly not! How shall we who died to sin live any longer in it? Or do you not know that as many of us as were baptized into Christ Jesus were baptized into His death? Therefore we were buried with Him through baptism into death, that just as Christ was raised from the dead by the glory of the Father, even so we also should walk in newness of life." (Romans 6:1-4) "For if you live according to the flesh you will die; but if by the Spirit you put to death the deeds of the body, you will live. For as many as are led by the Spirit of God, these are sons of God." (Romans 8:13-14) "If you confess with your mouth the Lord Jesus and believe in your heart that God has raised Him from the dead, you will be saved. For with the heart one believes unto righteousness, and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation. For the Scripture says, “Whoever believes on Him will not be put to shame. "For there is no distinction between Jew and Greek, for the same Lord over all is rich to all who call upon Him. For 'whoever calls on the name of the Lord shall be saved.' " (Romans 10:9-13) "Nevertheless the solid foundation of God stands, having this seal: 'The Lord knows those who are His,' and, 'Let everyone who names the name of Christ depart from iniquity.' " (2 Timothy 2:19) "For the grace of God that brings salvation has appeared to all men, teaching us that, denying ungodliness and worldly lusts, we should live soberly, righteously, and godly in the present age, looking for the blessed hope and glorious appearing of our great God and Savior Jesus Christ, who gave Himself for us, that He might redeem us from every lawless deed and purify for Himself His own special people, zealous for good works." (Titus 2:11-14) "For the love of Christ compels us, because we judge thus: that if One died for all, then all died; and He died for all, that those who live should live no longer for themselves, but for Him who died for them and rose again." (2 Corinthians 5:14-15) “The Lord is not slack concerning His promise, as some count slackness, but is longsuffering toward us, not willing that any should perish but that all should come to repentance.” (2 Peter 3:9) *That was the Gospel message. Believe in the Gospel and obey the Lord Jesus Christ!*
As someone who's dealt with severe anxiety, agoraphobia and chronic pain for decades, it's SOOO hard to explain to others how I'm feeling inside! People think that because they don't _always_ "see" me in the throws of a full blown panic attack, or days that I walk better than others without my aides, that I'm not suffering on the inside or flat out call me a liar! They don't see how I isolate 95% of the time, or how I'm so uncomfortable with anxiety that I just want to shred my skin to escape the hell that's going on inside. They don't see the days that I physically cannot walk at all. Mental health is still an invisible ailment to so many, but that doesn't mean it's not real. We still need to function in the world after all! 🤷 JS
It's amazing how many people deny the presence of illness in others just because they see a brief reprieve. With people who don't have to worry about it, mental illness is often envisioned as something very loud and constant, when 99% is just the opposite.
Watching this at 5AM while procrastinating on a project that I need to submit by 8AM. I was supposed to have finished this the day before, but I didn't. Honestly, I'm tired of being worried all the time, especially when it comes to work. Everyday at work is a struggle. And I don't have anybody to tell what I feel, or maybe I just don't want to burden people with what I'm going through. Everything in this list, except for the "always early" part, resonates with me. I want to cry my eyes out, but I can't because my eyes would get swollen and people at work would make a big deal out of it. It feels like I can't even express my own feelings because people would be dissing on my personal life when they see my swollen eyes after crying. I know I need help, but I don't know how to get it. Pay is good with my work right now. But if there would be a better opportunity that won't mess with my mental health, I'd grab that opportunity. I wish people would be a bit more understanding.
I hope you can find a better opportunity. I'm sorry you're struggling. If it makes you feel any better, there are probably other people at your work who feel like this, too. Maybe you can talk to a friendlier co-worker, although I understand if you don't want to do that.
Is it the workload that is too great? If so then it is not your fault. You should spend some time updating your resume and posting it. That brings some peace of mind. In my last company I worked 9 hours a day at the office, when I got home from work, and on weekends. After 3 months I was on top of things but severely burnt out and riddled with anxiety. I started looking for a new job, did the quiet quitting thing, and 3 months later was outta there. Better pay, less workload, better people, better company. You need to work towards that goal. Updating & posting your resume is step one and it will feel good, trust me. Good luck. Contact me if you need to. I have been there!
Hey you’re enough just with what you do. Don’t stress about the little things, you are amazing at making things work even if you do procrastinate. Love yourself even if you are flawed. ❤
This is me, I almost cried because I genuinely felt like the video was describing me!! I didn’t even know this type of anxiety existed. Thank you for talking about this.
Same here. I just happened to stumble upon this video and it describes me perfectly. I might have finally found the disorder I have that no one sees completely or takes it seriously.
I’m diagnosed with generalized anxiety disorder. So many people think I have it all together, but my husband knows the truth and my struggles. As I’ve gotten older, it’s gotten worse 😞
I hear you, I am in the same boat. Try listening to thunderstorms while wearing a bluetooth sleep mask to fall asleep faster. Also, talk to yourself more. Instead of constant negative self -talk, try also talking through the cognitive distortion and acknowledging something good about yourself periodically. Takes practice but it helps. I wish you peace, love and joy.
Until I watched this video I had NO idea I had High Functioning Anxiety. I just thought I was conditioned to be on it all the time by my father and reinforced by the experiences I've had throughout my life. Thanks for illuminating my journey and existence!
Thank you for this, explains a lot and it helps to know there are plenty of others who have similar experiences. The term ‘high functioning’ does feel a little like a brag were one to say that this is something they suffer with though.
This is exactly what I am, how I am living. Always felt there was a screw loose but lived with this privately. What a revelation! Thank you! I shall probably still be anxious but at least now I have better insight. I am 68, was getting TIRED ! 🤣💜
This is me to a tee. I have had anxiety since I was a child. I’ve just learnt quirky ways to live with it but never really dealing with it. I wouldn’t wish it on anyone, its like someone else runs your life. I don’t feel like I could ever get rid of it.
Same! I actually noticed a few times where I wasn’t breathing while doing a task at work or just randomly throughout the day. It’s scary to think I’ve been doing this for years and not know it was related to anxiety.
Me realizing i don’t have regular anxiety but instead high functioning anxiety. I’ve always struggled with saying no and then having way too much on my plate to get everything done. It’s gotten me into a lot of trouble in the past. I hope that sometime soon i can afford to see a professional so i can work on these types of things
I agree about the preparing part. It's important for me to keep my anxiety low by making list of everything I need to do for that day or that week. And I stressed to my family how important it is to me to maintain and keep a schedule that I have laid out for myself. We are all much older now but my siblings don't understand why I can't be available for them at a moment's notice. Since childhood they have treated me like their insignificant other. And now that I'm older I will no longer tolerate them trying to control and push me around as they did as the youngest sibling of six. I was never important to them as a child so apparently they feel things should remain the same. Some people are best, for their own personal health, to keep a distance from certain family members.
@@spoilerman8975 Oh you're definitely not alone, my friend! I feel that I understand quite well, what you're saying here! And you said it very well, imao!
Oh my Goodness, YOU have summed up my life long struggles @ Spoilerman. Listen, friend YOU are not ALONE. I could not have said this better. Amazing grace!
i can totally relate. i lived with a narcissist for several years and have horrible PTSD then covid happened and i work in a grocery store, my roommates left the state, i had to move, and it just felt like my whole world collapsed. i'm so miserable these day and i'm just struggling through the pain. i just want something good in my life again. anxiety and depression are rough.
I find most these traits in me but I've learned to say no when needed. I do overthink etc. but what has helped is a really simple realization. In the movie "Some Like It Hot" there's a line "nobody's perfect" so be sufficient enough. While procrastinating, I get lot of other things done so when I delay other tasks, my big "problems" turn into creative solutions. Never underestimate the power of your subconscious... Ok, starting to overthink... Great video, thanks!
I can relate to almost all of these. I remember in high school, I always used to get to lessons super early because I was scared of being late. Then I would be scared that I was in the wrong place because no one else would be there yet.
Yes totally me. Glad to hear I have company. It gets easier as you get older. I have always been driven, over think everything and go crazy with worry. To cope I watch comedy shows, meditate & enjoy friends who I trust.
my jaw dropped when I heard that you may clench your jaw a lot. That is exactly me, along with everything else in this video, however i didn’t think it could be connected to anxiety
My therapist told me that he's never seen anxiety as severe as mine. It was such a relief to have someone notice. I've been diagnosed with everything but anxiety. He nailed it. His honesty was such a turning point in my life. 👍💜
Having watched these videos i now can understand what has been happening to me since a early age ,,i have always suffered from anxiety,i have seen experts to help me to find how i can reduce these feelings,tonight i feel a weight has been lifted as i find i can put a reason to the problems i have high functioning anxiety and felt every one of the symptoms in all 4 videos was aimed at me and understanding the problem takes all the guilt i have felt for 60 years has been a total waste of energy and time thank you all tomorrow is the start of my new life.
The cause of my anxiety is people in general because I can't please everybody,nothing is ever good enough ,I try real hard to do things very right and they still find fault, if I have things too good they are jealous or try to use me for the things I can do. Now that I am older I say no and try to relax more about things but that is hard and a struggle. I have to talk my self down and be my own best friend
10 out of 10. I didn’t even realize I was clenching my jaw & fists as I was watching until that one came up. My motto has always been hope for the best, expect the worst. If I lost my iPad with all my lists, I’d be in trouble. I get buyer’s remorse before I even buy something. Before we had renovations I filled out a whole notebook of everything that could go wrong. I love it when someone says just stop worrying so much. I feel like saying “oh my gosh I never thought of that, I’m cured!” 🤪
I show up early because the thought of being late puts extreme pressure on me. Also i need time to sit down and observe the environment and the people before an appointment or ill be sweating profusely from nervousness so i give myself time to calm down
I had never heard of high functioning anxiety before now. Thank you for the information. Everything was spot on for me. I don't know if it changes anything with my anxiety, but I always feel more information is better.
That's because they keep naming every other human trait a disease, so that big Pharma can money off of the freshly indoctrinated sheep and channels like these can run their shops
there were times that my fear of being late got so bad that .... for example, I was hired for a job and I started Monday next week. Over the weekend I would actually drive to and from the job just so I know the route and the time it will take. I might even drive a second time to be certain. Other people I know don't go through this ... they just leave Monday morning and are alright with that .... I could never consider that approach.
Same for me Robert, if it helps know that you are not alone in this. I think we just have to keep trying our best, and try not to discuss the issue with folks who think we should just 'relax and go with the flow'...as they just don't understand.
I think this tagged me perfectly. I'm a 61 year old male and when alone my emotions go nuts. I never have let anyone see me that way. Not really anger emotions but just empty feelings. I think about all the things I can no longer do physically. I feel all used up. Don't want to do anything anymore. I feel like life has beat me up but have no bruises that people can see. I have chronic physical pain and when alone emotional pain to the point that I just sit and cry. As a man I feel that I have failed.....
All points exactly like me! I took a Meyers-Briggs personality test and came up as an INFJ. It seems like INFJ people have those traits just like this video.
Same here, does that suggest IINFJ ‘s may be predisposed to HFA. Or maybe HFA and I INFJ are just different ways to describe the same personality types. Very Interesting
I always used to think that people say that people with anxiety become unorganized and unproductive but I am trying to be more and more productive in my daily life but I feel a pressure in my head all the time It feels like I am having burden on my head and on my shoulders all the time. But if I would have anxiety so I wouldn't be that productive. Today I got my answer. I have high functioning anxiety
Wow... I feel so validated especially with the last half. I thought everyone thought the way I did and I am just recently realized that is not true. I feel so alone and that is all my fault because I bottle things up inside and don't share them. And on top of it I prioritize everyone else over myself. This was just eye opening for me.
Wow! This describes my sister and I to a T. Our mother was completely crippled by anxiety all her life but she pushed us kids towards "success". Neither myself nor my sister know how to fail or how to relax. It's amazing there's a name for this relentless driving of ourselves.
This me!! I have been diagnosed with depression for over 35 years now (I am 63) and I have always wondered…….now this actually suits me!! All are ticked, yes I have learnt/adapted to a couple to enable me to live but at some stage I would have ticked and circled them all. Bob England
Someone commented that it gets better with age, but I disagree. It doesn't get easier as you get older, in my opinion. I'm in my early 60s, and these characteristics have followed me throughout life, from as early as I can remember back in elementary school to now. I'm seeing friends begin to slow down with work and retire, but I'm working more than ever. I'm overextended in so many areas of my life. I not only work close to 40 hours a week but watch my grandchild four days of the week (because if I don't, who will be able to care for her like I can?). I worry that if I or my husband stops working we won't have enough money saved or in retirement income to get us through the rest of our lives. And with four kids and a grandchild, I feel so many rely on us because the economy is crap where we live and none of our kids are able to afford a home here, even in their 30s and even working full time. So, no. I don't think it gets easier at all. I don't sleep well, I care too much about what others think, I'm constantly doing things (I work every weekend to GET AHEAD for the next week), I overplan EVERYTHING. When planning a trip, for instance, I will book three places to stay at, which, of course, were chosen after weeks upon weeks of researching and deliberating, before canceling two of them. But before I do, that I go over each detail of each place and compare and contrast them. Usually, they turn out to be nice trips, but shouldn't they be after all the time I've put into them? Still, when the slightest thing goes wrong, I blame myself. Also, I have a hard time enjoying myself. I'm always thinking about every detail and what's to follow that I can't enjoy myself in the moment. We all should start a club.
Have gaps of silence, that is no thinking for a few seconds. Do this, have gaps....then in time, your over thinking will become less and less. Silence gives space so that new ideas can enter your usual thinking. Gaps of silence help to stop all the same old same old ways of thinking and reactions to life. Silence is the gold of life. Be at peace, give this gift to yourself...🇦🇺🇦🇺🇦🇺🇿🇦🇿🇦🇿🇦
I have hfa. It was difficult to deal with a boss that didn’t get it. He said that I should be on drugs then.What? So intelligent that man was..Most people just don’t understand it.
I know nothing about all these fancy terms. All I knew was that I was terrified all the time. When I tried to talk about it I just got rebuffed. I was always being told to pull myself together, be like a man, stop being silly etc etc. I did not think of going to the doctor because I thought I would get the same treatment there. Then one day I had a massive panic attack in the street. I started banging my head on a wall and scraping my hands and arms till they bled. Someone called an ambulance and I was taken to hospital. I was seen by a psychologist who told me what my problem was. It was such a relief. Up to then I thought I was the only one. He got the doctor to give me a prescription for some tranquilizers (this was 40 years ago). I started to feel better immediately and I have not looked back since. When I got back to work, my boss who had called me a bloody nuisance apologised. Thank goodness things are so much better now and if you live in the UK there is a National Health Service. The short answer is, if you do not feel right, if you are struggling, do not fight it or try to deal with it on your own. Get help and good luck.
Yep, 9 out of 10 for me! Proud to say I never feel guilty about saying NO when I want to say NO and mean NO. Now to work on the other 9. To any fellow humans living in a High Functioning Anxiety existence, my hugs to you, you aren't alone, and it is manageable.
This definitely describes me, although I'm currently making some changes in my like. I decided that when I turned 50 I would no longer feel obligated to to things I don't want to do and have discovered the word NO and that I don't need to give an excuse. Just NO, typically fallowed by "but thank you". Needless to say family and friends are not happy about this. This was the 1st year in decades I didn't spend Thanksgiving alone in my brother's backyard for Thanksgiving. I simply said no thank you. My brother not bent out of shape and I had to explain that if he didn't drop it, I'd simply agree and then NOT show up like he does so often. He didn't like getting called out like this.
The Army instilled that in me. Not anxiety. But yes, now the reason I arrive early is in case I need to deal with an unforeseen situation, not because I was trained to.
HFA with ADHD is a treat. constantly thinking forward, so changing focus and what I'm doing, and just as I go to do it, my mind has already gone to something else and I forget what I was about to do -like now, it's highly likely I started this comment planning to say something else 😅
I relate to everything EXCEPT the arriving early part. I procrastinate getting ready…I am frequently late & really have to make an effort to be on time.
The first sign of anxiety I had was my brain being unable to shut off, which prevented me from sleeping. Then, it snowballed ... being overtired made the constant hamster wheel in my head to go into overdrive. Other signs showed up after that. A low dose of citalopram helped my mind shut down without making feel like I was in a fog.
I show up 1-2 hours before a meeting. Never seem to enjoy downtime, I feel like I should be doing something. When overwhelmed with work I avoid tasks I should be doing. Hmm, maybe it’s time to visit my local therapist.🤔
I was diagnosed with General Anxiety Disorder in 1999, but I am just learning about High Functioning Anxiety Disorder. I exhibit all of these symptoms except for the last one as I love variety and trying new experiences. Informative video!
"Clench your jaw." My cracked root can attest to this. 9 out of 10 for me. I prefer showing up slightly early, but not too much so. Though I used to regularly underestimate how much time I would need.
I’ve never considered this to be a thing, but I struggle with every single point on this list, barring emotion. I know emotion is important, and know my wife doesn’t mind when I express it. I just thought this was normal, as its all I know
A lot of what's described here remind me of how my ADHD tends to make me feel, but I was also diagnosed with an Anxiety disorder, so my anxiety is very comorbidity with my ADHD!
I thought I was just a perfectionist by nature until my therapist told me I had HFA and this is prolly the only video I’ve seen on the topic. Pretty accurate.
This is absolutely true. I have to take medications every day and every night. I have complex-ptsd, major depression, anxiety and ocd. I do all of these. I'm always on high alert mode. I know part of the reason I'm always on high alert mode is from the abuse I went through and high levels of stress and chaos all the time around me. Plus I had to live in very dangerous environments.
I totally relate to you, with your diagnoses and history. I have driven myself to physical harm and find a job that is low stress. I don't care what it pays. Downsize your belongings and surroundings. I have a great relationship with God. This is his world and he doesn't care if you slip up. Find a doctor who listens. I don't want perfection. I'm fine with just being good.
@@jzuk8769 Oh believe me I love Yahweh-YHWH and that's the most important relationship to me. I've donated a lot of stuff to charity and I'm trying my hardest to simplify my life as much as possible. The less things materiality is less stressful for me. I'm learning how to do self-care and working on myself spiritually, mentally, emotionally and physically well-being. I can't look into the future. I just have to take things one day at a time.
That is awesome. I find also praying for others, like us, helps me. My physical harm is that I inflict too much stress and inflammation on my body. I have loving brother that is so supportive. Thank you for sharing. I hope we both find peace and joy in our now more simplified lives.
I have all of these symptoms but one, and am already on anxiety meds for general anxiety. I didn't know about a specific one until I watched this. It explained my brain.
It is not so much our brain as it is the way we are taught to cope with the world.This is why magic 💊💊💊 s often turn tragic because society actually encourages us to follow destructive behaviors ....they are deemed to be more productive / profitable FOR THEM ....not us ....until we change this root cause & are no longer disposable gears in a giant machine that is grinding the natural world up into dust.( Getting analized & taking meds will not turn a lie into a truth )
Whoa most of these symptoms are literally me. I knew I had some form of anxiety and I honestly thought most of these were caused by my self esteem issues. it’s actually nice to find an answer.
This gave me anxiety watching it. I'm the opposite after I realized you live for the day, one day at a time and stop judging yourself against society's standard. Relax, chill tf out and just TRUST life will fall into place.
This describes me, and the one thing I can add to this list is not being able to enjoy a hobby. Since my mind always feels like it would be a waste of time, and I should do something more productive than just enjoy any hobby. Also my mind tells me if I don't get super advanced/professional with that hobby, it doesn't make sense to even start it in the first place. Really tiring and connected to the "not being able to relax" point.
Yup this is all me ..... especially overthinking and cant relax 😅 I've found journalling, meditation, using fidget toys and talking to my husband about what's on my mind helps loads. Using fidget toys really helps me relax and chill out -i would def recommend them 😊
I would imagine that alot of this anxiety we live with is brought on by our social and economic environment. Keeping up is impossible. At 49 I've just about tapped out. Especially now with all the insanity in "collective West". We're Living in a time of maddness.
Thank You Everybody for "like" my comment. It means a lot - not joking! I'm going through shitty stuff rn. So it actually feels good to know I'm not alone?. I know for sure that ppl w/ anxiety/depression fully have my back on this! TY!
If you seek out support for this you will most likely need to work on the root cause of this way of being in the world. It could also be ASD, ADHD: ones way of coping with fear of failure, not understanding and trying to fit in. It could also be a response to past traumatic experiences and at the time anxiety (fight/flight/freeze) was most likely helpful but now this pattern continues and the brain and nervous system have not found a way to turn of the “high alert” button and continue to get triggered by anything that was associated with the past experience. It is time to learn a felt sense of safety and “okayness” in order to begin to work on being able to regulate your own emotions and practice techniques to calm your nervous system. Social media is a huge contributor to anxiety and a felt sent of “rights” and “wrongs”. Notice what you are watching, what you are saying to yourself, notice what triggers you. Become an observer… not every alarm needs to be listened to at the same level of urgency. Your thoughts and feelings are like the counsel in your head always providing feedback and their thoughts but you get to decide if this is something that would be beneficial and helpful. Some environments will continue this cycle if you are in situations that cause on going feelings of being trapped, being judged and or being unsafe. Begin your journey of self discovery. There are people out there to support you and you are not trapped … but you are the one that needs to make the actual choice and work to find a different way of being and experiencing the world around you. 💞
I've got quite a few of these symptoms, except I wouldn't by any means call myself "organized". I also have a symptom of always feeling like I'm running out of time even though many things I feel this way about don't have a time frame. A lot of things I need to get done don't get done right away because of where I live and I have no transportation other than a bus that can get me to the closest town. I always feel like I'm stuck & I really hate that feeling. Unfortunately, people like ourselves get taken advantage by those around us, especially in the work force, because they already know you have a problem with saying "no", but they know you will move mountains just to get whatever it is that they asked of you done. Due to my transportation issues and my financial situation I can't go into town to get professional help I need so I am constantly struggling just gain back some of my sanity. But videos like this, help me out a little so I greatly appreciate them and the comments people post. Thank you all and good luck with whatever anxiety you're dealing with. Thank you again.
I think I mostly struggle with saying no bluntly, so I usually improvise my no. I most definitely overthink, even in conversations i overthink. My mind will be asking so many questions, especially when texting someone. Questions like, “does this sound cringy?” “Am i being too clingy?” “Am i being overbearing?” Things like that.
I am sure my husband has high functioning anxiety. He is a workaholic. Also a perfectionist. He has to look a certain way and Heaven help us if he can't get in a workout on any given day. He also hides his feelings really well and refuses to express anything negative - except directing anger towards the kids. He always has to have a project. His parents are the same. Can never rest. The anxiety is catching. I feel constant anxiety and very depressed because I cannot meet his standards and neither can the kids. They have full on anxiety. He wasn't like this when we first were together. I wish he didn't feel that he had to have the accelerator pedal down hard all the time. It is exhausting for all of us to live with. Even though he is super healthy, I fear I wil lose him to stroke or heart attack
And you’re right to worry, this is Type A personality. This is the worst mostly for all of those around him who will never measure up to HIS expectations no matter what great things you do. The families of the people who I know who are in these kinds of relationships are miserable. These kinds of personalities never think they need to seek professional help, they are perfect just the way they are! Shame on you for seeing their faults😆
@@theerealatm no. I told him at the time of purchase that i was concerned about the affordability of this house and he said that "I deserve it". He does. He works hard. I have repeatedly told him that I don't need to live in this house. We don't need to live in this neighbourhood. If there is any indulgence it would be that I would love to live in the country with a few animals but that is my dream and it is certainly not his. I don't buy designer clothes - the ones I have have holes and are years old. I rarely buy clothes at all because I struggle with my weight. I don't regularly go and have my hair done - never had it coloured, even though I am 48 - and barely have it cut. I don't get any beauty treatments. So I am not trying to look a certain way. I drive a 2006 station wagon and it does me and the kids fine. When we go away on holiday, I would rather go camping, truth be told. Or a little place. Not big flash hotels. The only thing that I guess I "demand" has been medical care. Since my breast cancer in 2018, I have had 6 operations, chemotherapy, radiotherapy and yes, I still do require scans and the like. His work provides us with medical insurance so i have been able to go private. I am thankful for that as the NZ public healthcare system is in bad shape. As for dates? Well.... The guy has worked crazy hours since we were at university together 25 years ago. Most of our time together has been spent with him in either his lab or his office and me doing my own thing, waiting for him to finish. We don't do date night. I love music and the arts and would love to go to concerts, plays, musicals, but it's not his thing so I don't push it. Hell I would even love to go out for dinner... but there hasn't always been family around to look after the kids. He hasn't wanted to leave the kids with a hired babysitter. I don't think he trusts them. So I have tried to be as unobtrusive and undemanding and supportive as I possibly can throughout our life together. I don't work. We made the decision for me to stay home and look after the kids and that is exactly what I have done. He has never had to get up to them during the night. He doesn't have to pick kids up from school, take them to activities, make their lunches, shop for them, or cook a meal for them. I try to do all the cleaning and housework. I do get tired. I know he feels the burden of finacially carrying the family. I want to work but my medical issues always get in the way of me getting on my feet again. So I would say that I bend over backwards to not be demanding. Maybe he feels differently. At the end of the day you are not hearing his side of the story.
I myself deal with very high anxiety and I used to have soooo many projects open, like I would be washing dishes then I get an attack so I go sweep the floor and so on...one of my "escapes" was caligraphy I would spend so many hours with me leaning on my elbows that I ended up getting tennis elbow and carpal tunnel. I got the surgery to fix it, but I couldn't use my right arm for almost a year (I had complations) and I had went right back to the bottom. But I bought a gaming computer and was able to get back out playing Red Dead Redemption 2. Still don't have full use of my arm and I had to find a different way to past my time. Now I depend on my PC to keep me out of depression.
I'm like this, and I thrive on it. I call it getting things done and picking up the slack. Embrace the stress and carry on! We need more people like this. It's NOT a "problem".
Stress is like a glass of water. Keep putting more in and it will overflow and not be able to function properly as a container should. Just because some people's glass started out fuller than yours, does not mean they aren't trying hard enough. Please develop more empathy towards those who are already suffering tremendously.
I just sent this to my husband because I never knew what I go through has a name. Hopefully this will give him insight to how I function. I'm sending it to him so he can understand how I am maybe in an effort to keep him from thinking I'm crazy. Smh anxiety working at its best as usual. I'm pretty sure it doesn't matter to him because he loves me for who I am but I'm always thinking I need to explain myself or possibly keep something from going wrong -_-
I've been diagnosed with Severe PTSD, I went to the doctors and talked with one of their counslers but in midst of all my emotions runnung through, the counslor asked me how dumb my kids were, then caught self and rephrased. But why say it if you weren't thinking it? So I haven't been back since and my story is rare but true and does not happen to everyday people. So now I just deal the best way I can.
Because of something, now I'm anxious to go out for a long time. Several hours (2-3 hours) are still fine, but more than that.... I'm always anxious but I think this reachs new level
No, not everyone with HFA shows up early. Some of us procrastinate with our time. We're either prompt or a little late, since we put off leaving until the last minute. Because where we're going gives us more anxiety and we're trying to evade it
Usually right to the last minute not before this is the only part I don’t have
I am never early I STALL
I agree. Same HERE
These are generalized guidelines, not absolutes. Individuality will always be the deviation & that's on a case by case basis obviously
I am always early, always ---and I tend to detest people that are late--seeing them as arrogant!.
All of these symptoms are also present in those with Fearful Avoidant attachment style, which is formed by experiencing childhood trauma. It causes you to be hypervigilant and always on edge anticipating the next traumatic episode you will have to endure.
Yeah i feel this is a big missing link for many who have this
I have avoidant attachment as a result of teenage trauma. My immediate family rejected me and bullied me and I developed social anxiety because of it.
Trauma survivor. This is true. I sabotage my own relationships so I can beat them to it
Which is the root of all anxiety and mental disorders (trauma and attachment issues)
@The mysterious Miss X welp, i'll just do that than. Super easy!
I wouldn’t wish anxiety on my worst enemy, anxiety feels like a killer mental disease. This video just really hit the nail with the hammer.
It’s awful, people get stuck, can’t move forward don’t know how to deal with it but there is help out there. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
I have anxiety ... and you're right.... it feels like I'm always on the edge but too tired to do anything about it .... everything seems to be moving too fast....
@@sohinidatta3978 but how do we fix it ? how do we counter it ?
I struggle with it. Its not the best feeling to go to
Sleep I will say.
i agree its horrible , hope your all doing well
I have high-functioning anxiety. The hardest part for me is not enjoying my downtime because I feel shame and worry if I'm not doing something, anything. The other thing is, it's hard dealing with random people while out and about, everyone looks at me strangely because I look worried all the time and because I tend to look at people a little too long to figure out what they are thinking about me which turns people off. So I tend to only go out if need be. The funny thing is, I used to be very out going in my teens and had a lot of acquaintances and friends.
I’m the same way tbh
I like 🙏
Try cbd
Its some kind of trauma that you are holding onto. Let go. Stop judging yourself. Let people do what they do. We only have control over ourselves.
Yeah people notice if you look too long or not enough. I tend to look away too much, social anxiety, because I'm thinking about what I'm saying. Sometimes they turn around to see what I'm looking at. I don't always do it, and meds help, but I worry about saying something wrong or stupid. I think I've always had varying degrees of anxiety/depression, partly from growing up in an authoritarian household. I was early generation ADHD/gifted, before they "invented" it. Too thinky. Zero validation. Curious what you feel may have contributed to yours, if you don't mind sharing. Totally understandable, if u do.
I scored a 9/10. Funny thing is I am always late. To everything, doesn't matter. I try but I get sidetracked fixing or cleaning something, avoiding the impending social interactions I'm about to have to fake. This explains why I don't generally make plans same day. I need time to cancel and reschedule a few times so I can stress out about it until i'm ready. Oh geez...
you might have adhd, me thinks
lmao this is me
Yep same 😅
Have you been assesed for adhd and asd? I do this and I have both. Undiagnosed adhd and folks tend to have anxiety from masking all the time and just generally trying to fit into the neurotypical world. Worth checking it out! ❤❤❤
I'm often late because I get really stressed out about the idea of arriving to anything early so I try and arrive exactly on time but inevitably a lot of the time something comes up like construction on my way or I forget to grab something on my way out the door or whatever and I arrive late. Only usually a minute or two but that ALSO stresses me out a great deal, so it's just a whole thing.
This video literally just described who I am to the Tee it is so hard for me to enjoy anything my mind races non stop the worrying, the stress, the guilt and all that are spot on as well as the always being on time…Im 43 and I’m learning that I have to get some help for myself real soon
omg! same here
with past trauma
health issues
family issues
work stress
financial issues
and all of causes anxiety and depression
I'm seeking for help too
Get help, it helps me. Things can get better
All the best 💕
Your not alone! Important to get plenty of sleep!
Weed helps me a lot with sleep and the anxiety but it’s the past trauma that runs the show daily
I was procrastinating by watching this. Now I'm worrying about the time I've lost already! I'm 54 and have felt like this since childhood.
it is never too late. i lost my whole childhood and early adulthood to anxiety. but healing is the key. as long as you are alive, it is always worth doing, my friend. ❤️
My anxiety has developed a personality on its own. It feels like it has moods. One day it´s "oh, today we´re coping" and the next day it´s like "nope, we´re not being stable today". Here are my tips to cope I learned over the years:
- Mindfulness.
- Watch your caffeine/sugar intake (really important).
- Fact check EVERYTHING you worry about. How high is the chance it will actually happen?
- Muscle relaxation and deep breathing techniques, nobody will notice you´re doing it in public.
- Self-soothe with senses like taste, smell, visuals or repeatedly count from 1 to 5 to distract yoursellf until you´re calmer.
- Opposite action. Do exactly what you are scared to do. I promise the world will not end. (Do only when FACTS tell you it´s unlikely to harm you).
- Get your sleep under control even if you had to see a doctor about it. Tired anxiety is the worst anxiety
I have tired anxiety. My sleep pattern is so meesed up. Sometimes I'll get my schedule back but then something stressfull comes up and my routine gets ruined...again.
@@gerardinecizmar I know the struggle. There were times I had to take sleeping pills to fall asleep every night. I still have them when insomnia hits, but I try to only take them when I am in crisis.
@@TP-nx7uf Sometimes I take meds and I still am up until the morning. Right now I either have allergies or a cold and my mind is telling me I have something serious. People who don't have anxiety don't know how lucky they are. The overthinking is what's probably making me feel more ill.
From someone who understands, I wish you well.
Very on point . Especially with the tired anxiety 😥 them having to go to work the next morning
Thank you
I’ve spend the last months maybe even years figuring out why I acted the way I do. I thought it might have been ADHD or ADD because I’am so restless and can’t stoping thinking. My mind literally doesn’t stop thinking. Watching this video, I relate to ALL this. While watching the video I was clenching my fists, because I’am just so tense. Then… I came to the symptom ‘clench your fists’.
After watching this video I’am crying cause I’am sooo relieved I finally understand myself way better.
Thank you for this video.
Have you ever sought help for what you’re going through? What you’re describing is so common and so many young people just don’t know how to handle it, but this affects all ages. Some people think if they talk to a therapist they’ll be labeled crazy which is so unfortunate.
@@deniseberman8633 yeah I’ve thought about help. But to be honest I’am kinda scared and embarrassed to tell my parents cause I know they know I struggle with stress a lot but they don’t know that it effects me this much. And I really don’t like talking about my feelings, whatever they might be. I do want to seek help, but idk…. Just gotta gather some courage I think
@@sterredeprieelle3146 No one is going to judge you. There’s nothing to be embarrassed about. This stuff does not go away on it’s own, why suffer? Professionals are there to help you.
@@deniseberman8633 yeah you’re right, thank you :)
This was my exact comment. This is very very similar to anxious and limbic adhd
This hits home deeply for me. Anxiety, discomfort, and pain are my daily meals. Talk therapy didn't do anything beyond asking me to declare hard boundaries and establish delegated responsibilities in my life. Which led only to fewer friends and unfinished critical financial and household tasks which I will procrastinate until I am fairly sure nobody is going to take care of anything unless I do everything. I don't get a day off, or even an hour off. It is a monumental challenge to stay positive most days on any level. I hope folks out there have better results with talk therapy than I have. Stay strong folks!
Do you believe in God?
you should look into anxiety coaching. it works a lot better for many people that try it.
You just described my life. Solidarity 💛
hello, I hear you. Anxiety makes life a living hell. You said it so well: 'Anxiety, discomfort and pain are my daily meals." Therapists that haven't lived through severe anxiety are useless.
For me, talk therapy doesn't really help me. I have to chunk every thing down and tell my brain that I need to rest so there would be lesser chatter going on in my head. A good physician can prescribe to you anti-anxiety meds. Good luck! I'm in bed because of this and chronic pain. 😔
I feel unsafe in the world. I can relate to all of these indicators....I overplan, prepare for all outcomes, like to show up a bit early...like staying in my known comfort zones....and feel like there is always something I should be "doing" instead of just being.
Feeling unsafe is at the root of all of this, I feel.
This guy's voice is so calming and friendly to me. He sounds like a friend who's saying, "it's ok. I understand. You're not alone. Do you want to talk about it?"
I agree and love his comforting voice.
I’ve had Generalized Anxiety Disorder since childhood. The level is moderate to high for me according to my evaluation. I wouldn’t wish this on my worse enemy it’s no way to live.
Only someone who _knows_ what it is first hand could utter such words of truth.
This video describes me 100%. Mental illnesses are so exhausting 🙁
Facts I'm here with you 😔💗
Facts, it gives me anxiety to even think about it, just like everything in life.
Same here! Been suffering over 50 years of this shit and several other issues!
This video literally describes most people. It's so vague, total BS.
This is exactly how I feel and experience things on a day to day basis, I just thought everyone dealt with it. Now I have a explanation of how what I feel and I never knew others experienced it too! Nice to learn more new information that is really helpful!
Ever try seeking professional help?
Me too.
I think spending too much time alone makes you over think. But it can also make you feel more comfortable by avoiding people.
I can't be trusted alone due to my anxiety. I'm like a puppy. Only it's more self destructive. Sometimes I don't hit reply to the comments I write to. The illusion of people is sometimes good enough to make sure I don't overthink.
Absolutely!
Yup...
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As someone who's dealt with severe anxiety, agoraphobia and chronic pain for decades, it's SOOO hard to explain to others how I'm feeling inside! People think that because they don't _always_ "see" me in the throws of a full blown panic attack, or days that I walk better than others without my aides, that I'm not suffering on the inside or flat out call me a liar! They don't see how I isolate 95% of the time, or how I'm so uncomfortable with anxiety that I just want to shred my skin to escape the hell that's going on inside. They don't see the days that I physically cannot walk at all. Mental health is still an invisible ailment to so many, but that doesn't mean it's not real. We still need to function in the world after all! 🤷 JS
It's amazing how many people deny the presence of illness in others just because they see a brief reprieve. With people who don't have to worry about it, mental illness is often envisioned as something very loud and constant, when 99% is just the opposite.
Really! Is that the case! Wow! I didn't know that! Thank you!
I sense sarcasm. If I'm right, that's pretty low. If I'm wrong I then I apologize. But that sounded very sarcastic. Not cool at all.
@@Oran_Lee ,agreed.
Kyote 10, you hit the nail right on the head. That's exactly how I feel! xo
Watching this at 5AM while procrastinating on a project that I need to submit by 8AM. I was supposed to have finished this the day before, but I didn't. Honestly, I'm tired of being worried all the time, especially when it comes to work. Everyday at work is a struggle. And I don't have anybody to tell what I feel, or maybe I just don't want to burden people with what I'm going through. Everything in this list, except for the "always early" part, resonates with me. I want to cry my eyes out, but I can't because my eyes would get swollen and people at work would make a big deal out of it. It feels like I can't even express my own feelings because people would be dissing on my personal life when they see my swollen eyes after crying. I know I need help, but I don't know how to get it. Pay is good with my work right now. But if there would be a better opportunity that won't mess with my mental health, I'd grab that opportunity. I wish people would be a bit more understanding.
I hope you can find a better opportunity. I'm sorry you're struggling. If it makes you feel any better, there are probably other people at your work who feel like this, too. Maybe you can talk to a friendlier co-worker, although I understand if you don't want to do that.
Is it the workload that is too great? If so then it is not your fault. You should spend some time updating your resume and posting it. That brings some peace of mind.
In my last company I worked 9 hours a day at the office, when I got home from work, and on weekends. After 3 months I was on top of things but severely burnt out and riddled with anxiety. I started looking for a new job, did the quiet quitting thing, and 3 months later was outta there. Better pay, less workload, better people, better company. You need to work towards that goal. Updating & posting your resume is step one and it will feel good, trust me. Good luck. Contact me if you need to. I have been there!
I know how you feel😣
Hey you’re enough just with what you do. Don’t stress about the little things, you are amazing at making things work even if you do procrastinate.
Love yourself even if you are flawed. ❤
Showing up way too early for work due to anxiety but showing up super late for hanging out with friends due to anxiety
This is me, I almost cried because I genuinely felt like the video was describing me!! I didn’t even know this type of anxiety existed. Thank you for talking about this.
Me too.
Same here. I just happened to stumble upon this video and it describes me perfectly. I might have finally found the disorder I have that no one sees completely or takes it seriously.
Me too
I’m diagnosed with generalized anxiety disorder. So many people think I have it all together, but my husband knows the truth and my struggles. As I’ve gotten older, it’s gotten worse 😞
@@jaredlalonde2078 i’d suggest therapy to figure out WHY her anxiety has become worse. meditation isn’t the answer imo. it masks what really going on.
I hear you, I am in the same boat. Try listening to thunderstorms while wearing a bluetooth sleep mask to fall asleep faster. Also, talk to yourself more. Instead of constant negative self -talk, try also talking through the cognitive distortion and acknowledging something good about yourself periodically. Takes practice but it helps. I wish you peace, love and joy.
Thank you everyone for your feedback. I’ll look into all suggestions.
@@jaredlalonde2078 i recommend magic mushrooms. Life changing
Same here. Even with all the tools I have to combat it ,It still makes life hell all day every day
I didint know where was a short documentary on me!
Accurate and on point. I approve!
Until I watched this video I had NO idea I had High Functioning Anxiety. I just thought I was conditioned to be on it all the time by my father and reinforced by the experiences I've had throughout my life. Thanks for illuminating my journey and existence!
Thank you for this, explains a lot and it helps to know there are plenty of others who have similar experiences. The term ‘high functioning’ does feel a little like a brag were one to say that this is something they suffer with though.
Knowledge is a powerful healing tool
This is exactly what I am, how I am living. Always felt there was a screw loose but lived with this privately. What a revelation! Thank you! I shall probably still be anxious but at least now I have better insight. I am 68, was getting TIRED ! 🤣💜
Did you seek professional help?
@Rosethehelper will dissociation pop up if it goes unchecked?
Not self diagnosing. But, literally everything in this video I deal with
All of them 😣
As do I
So true for me as well. Glad to know I am not alone.
@@kizz6920 you never are alone 💪🏼❤️💯
Me too!
This is me to a tee. I have had anxiety since I was a child. I’ve just learnt quirky ways to live with it but never really dealing with it. I wouldn’t wish it on anyone, its like someone else runs your life. I don’t feel like I could ever get rid of it.
Everyone of these were spot on for me. Sometimes I am so tense, I actually forget to breathe.
Same! I actually noticed a few times where I wasn’t breathing while doing a task at work or just randomly throughout the day. It’s scary to think I’ve been doing this for years and not know it was related to anxiety.
@@LyssieLysse it sucks!! Then of course it tenses my body up.
OMG! I do this too!😮
Me realizing i don’t have regular anxiety but instead high functioning anxiety. I’ve always struggled with saying no and then having way too much on my plate to get everything done. It’s gotten me into a lot of trouble in the past. I hope that sometime soon i can afford to see a professional so i can work on these types of things
I agree about the preparing part. It's important for me to keep my anxiety low by making list of everything I need to do for that day or that week. And I stressed to my family how important it is to me to maintain and keep a schedule that I have laid out for myself. We are all much older now but my siblings don't understand why I can't be available for them at a moment's notice. Since childhood they have treated me like their insignificant other. And now that I'm older I will no longer tolerate them trying to control and push me around as they did as the youngest sibling of six. I was never important to them as a child so apparently they feel things should remain the same. Some people are best, for their own personal health, to keep a distance from certain family members.
Well said 👏👏👏
@@sarahhurst701 thank you. It's important to feel that I am not alone
@@spoilerman8975 Oh you're definitely not alone, my friend! I feel that I understand quite well, what you're saying here! And you said it very well, imao!
Absolutely true… can relate to what you said….
Oh my Goodness, YOU have summed up my life long struggles @ Spoilerman. Listen, friend YOU are not ALONE. I could not have said this better. Amazing grace!
I do a lot of these. Having bad depression with this is hard.
Yes, the depression makes it so much worse
i can totally relate. i lived with a narcissist for several years and have horrible PTSD then covid happened and i work in a grocery store, my roommates left the state, i had to move, and it just felt like my whole world collapsed. i'm so miserable these day and i'm just struggling through the pain. i just want something good in my life again. anxiety and depression are rough.
Every time you say yes to something, you say no to something else. Remembering this has helped me to stop being a yes person.
I find most these traits in me but I've learned to say no when needed. I do overthink etc. but what has helped is a really simple realization. In the movie "Some Like It Hot" there's a line "nobody's perfect" so be sufficient enough. While procrastinating, I get lot of other things done so when I delay other tasks, my big "problems" turn into creative solutions. Never underestimate the power of your subconscious... Ok, starting to overthink... Great video, thanks!
Same here..u have written my words thnx
Very well said
Thank you 🙏
I can relate to almost all of these. I remember in high school, I always used to get to lessons super early because I was scared of being late. Then I would be scared that I was in the wrong place because no one else would be there yet.
Yes totally me. Glad to hear I have company. It gets easier as you get older. I have always been driven, over think everything and go crazy with worry. To cope I watch comedy shows, meditate & enjoy friends who I trust.
my jaw dropped when I heard that you may clench your jaw a lot. That is exactly me, along with everything else in this video, however i didn’t think it could be connected to anxiety
This was so terribly accurate, I subscribed.
Sometimes it’s immensely helpful to hear someone~properly~analyze anxiety.
My therapist told me that he's never seen anxiety as severe as mine. It was such a relief to have someone notice. I've been diagnosed with everything but anxiety. He nailed it. His honesty was such a turning point in my life. 👍💜
Honestly that would make me feel worse if I was told that.
@@luciad2567 a good therapist wouldn't say that to be fair
@@taliahjefferson4966 Sometimes it's important. Otherwise your friends and family won't take you serious.
Having watched these videos i now can understand what has been happening to me since a early age ,,i have always suffered from anxiety,i have seen experts to help me to find how i can reduce these feelings,tonight i feel a weight has been lifted as i find i can put a reason to the problems i have high functioning anxiety and felt every one of the symptoms in all 4 videos was aimed at me and understanding the problem takes all the guilt i have felt for 60 years has been a total waste of energy and time thank you all tomorrow is the start of my new life.
The cause of my anxiety is people in general because I can't please everybody,nothing is ever good enough ,I try real hard to do things very right and they still find fault, if I have things too good they are jealous or try to use me for the things I can do. Now that I am older I say no and try to relax more about things but that is hard and a struggle. I have to talk my self down and be my own best friend
10 out of 10. I didn’t even realize I was clenching my jaw & fists as I was watching until that one came up. My motto has always been hope for the best, expect the worst. If I lost my iPad with all my lists, I’d be in trouble. I get buyer’s remorse before I even buy something. Before we had renovations I filled out a whole notebook of everything that could go wrong. I love it when someone says just stop worrying so much. I feel like saying “oh my gosh I never thought of that, I’m cured!” 🤪
Great content! People should really understand that anxiety is a real issue
"Stop and smell the roses".....This is something I never do. And I always regret it when reflecting on road trips/vacations.
I show up early because the thought of being late puts extreme pressure on me. Also i need time to sit down and observe the environment and the people before an appointment or ill be sweating profusely from nervousness so i give myself time to calm down
So me 😢
Me too
This can be a super power. It drives productivity. This is mainly a problem in our safe, comfortable environment.
I had never heard of high functioning anxiety before now. Thank you for the information. Everything was spot on for me. I don't know if it changes anything with my anxiety, but I always feel more information is better.
That's because they keep naming every other human trait a disease, so that big Pharma can money off of the freshly indoctrinated sheep and channels like these can run their shops
there were times that my fear of being late got so bad that .... for example, I was hired for a job and I started Monday next week. Over the weekend I would actually drive to and from the job just so I know the route and the time it will take. I might even drive a second time to be certain. Other people I know don't go through this ... they just leave Monday morning and are alright with that .... I could never consider that approach.
I've done that. Even going so far as to walk it and count the steps.
I do that too.
I do that too. It helps me relief the anxiety of the unknown. If I go one day before I kind of know what to expect
Same for me Robert, if it helps know that you are not alone in this. I think we just have to keep trying our best, and try not to discuss the issue with folks who think we should just 'relax and go with the flow'...as they just don't understand.
Your not alone it's exhaust ing
Indecisiveness is my main issue
I think this tagged me perfectly. I'm a 61 year old male and when alone my emotions go nuts. I never have let anyone see me that way. Not really anger emotions but just empty feelings. I think about all the things I can no longer do physically. I feel all used up. Don't want to do anything anymore. I feel like life has beat me up but have no bruises that people can see. I have chronic physical pain and when alone emotional pain to the point that I just sit and cry. As a man I feel that I have failed.....
Your feelings are probably a lot more normal than you think..
All points exactly like me! I took a Meyers-Briggs personality test and came up as an INFJ. It seems like INFJ people have those traits just like this video.
I'm an INFJ and relate to these too
Same. INFJ here too.
100%
Yes! Is HFA a personality type? Are all INFJs anxious?
Same here, does that suggest IINFJ ‘s may be predisposed to HFA. Or maybe HFA and I INFJ are just different ways to describe the same personality types. Very Interesting
I always used to think that people say that people with anxiety become unorganized and unproductive but I am trying to be more and more productive in my daily life but I feel a pressure in my head all the time It feels like I am having burden on my head and on my shoulders all the time. But if I would have anxiety so I wouldn't be that productive. Today I got my answer. I have high functioning anxiety
Does High Functioning Anxiety make this video way more enjoyable at 2x speed? Yes it does.
😂😎👍
unfortunately everything in this video describes me exactly, this has caused me so much unhappiness
Wow... I feel so validated especially with the last half. I thought everyone thought the way I did and I am just recently realized that is not true. I feel so alone and that is all my fault because I bottle things up inside and don't share them. And on top of it I prioritize everyone else over myself. This was just eye opening for me.
Wow! This describes my sister and I to a T. Our mother was completely crippled by anxiety all her life but she pushed us kids towards "success". Neither myself nor my sister know how to fail or how to relax. It's amazing there's a name for this relentless driving of ourselves.
This is everything I experience! Have had HFA since I was a teen.
This me!!
I have been diagnosed with depression for over 35 years now (I am 63) and I have always wondered…….now this actually suits me!! All are ticked, yes I have learnt/adapted to a couple to enable me to live but at some stage I would have ticked and circled them all.
Bob
England
Someone commented that it gets better with age, but I disagree. It doesn't get easier as you get older, in my opinion. I'm in my early 60s, and these characteristics have followed me throughout life, from as early as I can remember back in elementary school to now. I'm seeing friends begin to slow down with work and retire, but I'm working more than ever. I'm overextended in so many areas of my life. I not only work close to 40 hours a week but watch my grandchild four days of the week (because if I don't, who will be able to care for her like I can?). I worry that if I or my husband stops working we won't have enough money saved or in retirement income to get us through the rest of our lives. And with four kids and a grandchild, I feel so many rely on us because the economy is crap where we live and none of our kids are able to afford a home here, even in their 30s and even working full time. So, no. I don't think it gets easier at all. I don't sleep well, I care too much about what others think, I'm constantly doing things (I work every weekend to GET AHEAD for the next week), I overplan EVERYTHING. When planning a trip, for instance, I will book three places to stay at, which, of course, were chosen after weeks upon weeks of researching and deliberating, before canceling two of them. But before I do, that I go over each detail of each place and compare and contrast them. Usually, they turn out to be nice trips, but shouldn't they be after all the time I've put into them? Still, when the slightest thing goes wrong, I blame myself. Also, I have a hard time enjoying myself. I'm always thinking about every detail and what's to follow that I can't enjoy myself in the moment. We all should start a club.
I am riddled with anxiety most of the time. It's kinda my oxygen, I suppose.
Have gaps of silence, that is no thinking for a few seconds. Do this, have gaps....then in time, your over thinking will become less and less. Silence gives space so that new ideas can enter your usual thinking. Gaps of silence help to stop all the same old same old ways of thinking and reactions to life. Silence is the gold of life. Be at peace, give this gift to yourself...🇦🇺🇦🇺🇦🇺🇿🇦🇿🇦🇿🇦
I have hfa. It was difficult to deal with a boss that didn’t get it. He said that I should be on drugs then.What? So intelligent that man was..Most people just don’t understand it.
It's crazy how all of these traits make a person a great employee haha
I know nothing about all these fancy terms. All I knew was that I was terrified all the time. When I tried to talk about it I just got rebuffed. I was always being told to pull myself together, be like a man, stop being silly etc etc. I did not think of going to the doctor because I thought I would get the same treatment there.
Then one day I had a massive panic attack in the street. I started banging my head on a wall and scraping my hands and arms till they bled. Someone called an ambulance and I was taken to hospital. I was seen by a psychologist who told me what my problem was. It was such a relief. Up to then I thought I was the only one. He got the doctor to give me a prescription for some tranquilizers (this was 40 years ago). I started to feel better immediately and I have not looked back since.
When I got back to work, my boss who had called me a bloody nuisance apologised. Thank goodness things are so much better now and if you live in the UK there is a National Health Service. The short answer is, if you do not feel right, if you are struggling, do not fight it or try to deal with it on your own. Get help and good luck.
Yep, 9 out of 10 for me! Proud to say I never feel guilty about saying NO when I want to say NO and mean NO. Now to work on the other 9. To any fellow humans living in a High Functioning Anxiety existence, my hugs to you, you aren't alone, and it is manageable.
Everyone has issues and problems! Some hide them better.
The slowness in which he's talking is making me anxious...
This definitely describes me, although I'm currently making some changes in my like.
I decided that when I turned 50 I would no longer feel obligated to to things I don't want to do and have discovered the word NO and that I don't need to give an excuse. Just NO, typically fallowed by "but thank you". Needless to say family and friends are not happy about this.
This was the 1st year in decades I didn't spend Thanksgiving alone in my brother's backyard for Thanksgiving. I simply said no thank you. My brother not bent out of shape and I had to explain that if he didn't drop it, I'd simply agree and then NOT show up like he does so often. He didn't like getting called out like this.
Blah blah Trumper.
He has given you anxiety 😅
@@pattycake1939
Me anxiety? No.
But Trump most definitely gives Democrats, progressives and leftists anxiety.
I'm willing to bet YOU are one of them!
FJB
@@nathankoroush7918
I'd rather not get that close.
"high-functioning anxiety makes you too early for everything"
ME: NO SUCH THING AS TOO EARLY
😂
The Army instilled that in me. Not anxiety. But yes, now the reason I arrive early is in case I need to deal with an unforeseen situation, not because I was trained to.
HFA with ADHD is a treat. constantly thinking forward, so changing focus and what I'm doing, and just as I go to do it, my mind has already gone to something else and I forget what I was about to do -like now, it's highly likely I started this comment planning to say something else 😅
I relate to everything EXCEPT the arriving early part. I procrastinate getting ready…I am frequently late & really have to make an effort to be on time.
The first sign of anxiety I had was my brain being unable to shut off, which prevented me from sleeping. Then, it snowballed ... being overtired made the constant hamster wheel in my head to go into overdrive. Other signs showed up after that. A low dose of citalopram helped my mind shut down without making feel like I was in a fog.
I show up 1-2 hours before a meeting. Never seem to enjoy downtime, I feel like I should be doing something. When overwhelmed with work I avoid tasks I should be doing.
Hmm, maybe it’s time to visit my local therapist.🤔
I was diagnosed with General Anxiety Disorder in 1999, but I am just learning about High Functioning Anxiety Disorder. I exhibit all of these symptoms except for the last one as I love variety and trying new experiences. Informative video!
"Clench your jaw." My cracked root can attest to this.
9 out of 10 for me. I prefer showing up slightly early, but not too much so. Though I used to regularly underestimate how much time I would need.
The worry begin from the day of your birth and never end until the day of your last breath. Human nature.😞🙏🙏🙏
I disagree. Do the best you can. There is no point in worrying xxx
I’ve never considered this to be a thing, but I struggle with every single point on this list, barring emotion. I know emotion is important, and know my wife doesn’t mind when I express it. I just thought this was normal, as its all I know
A lot of what's described here remind me of how my ADHD tends to make me feel, but I was also diagnosed with an Anxiety disorder, so my anxiety is very comorbidity with my ADHD!
I feel you.
I thought I had ADHD until I started therapy.
Same!
@@allisonisis you can also have therapy with ADHD 😅
@@SimoneEppler Yes, you can. But I discovered my "symptoms" were due to childhood trauma. 🤷
I thought I was just a perfectionist by nature until my therapist told me I had HFA and this is prolly the only video I’ve seen on the topic. Pretty accurate.
This is absolutely true. I have to take medications every day and every night. I have complex-ptsd, major depression, anxiety and ocd. I do all of these. I'm always on high alert mode. I know part of the reason I'm always on high alert mode is from the abuse I went through and high levels of stress and chaos all the time around me. Plus I had to live in very dangerous environments.
Sorry to hear what you are going through, may I know what medications are helping you?
I totally relate to you, with your diagnoses and history. I have driven myself to physical harm and find a job that is low stress. I don't care what it pays. Downsize your belongings and surroundings. I have a great relationship with God. This is his world and he doesn't care if you slip up. Find a doctor who listens. I don't want perfection. I'm fine with just being good.
@@jzuk8769 Oh believe me I love Yahweh-YHWH and that's the most important relationship to me. I've donated a lot of stuff to charity and I'm trying my hardest to simplify my life as much as possible. The less things materiality is less stressful for me. I'm learning how to do self-care and working on myself spiritually, mentally, emotionally and physically well-being. I can't look into the future. I just have to take things one day at a time.
That is awesome. I find also praying for others, like us, helps me. My physical harm is that I inflict too much stress and inflammation on my body. I have loving brother that is so supportive. Thank you for sharing. I hope we both find peace and joy in our now more simplified lives.
I also keep physically active and try to get adequate sleep. Best of luck and love to all that deal with these challenges.
I have all of these symptoms but one, and am already on anxiety meds for general anxiety. I didn't know about a specific one until I watched this. It explained my brain.
It is not so much our brain as it is the way we are taught to cope with the world.This is why magic 💊💊💊 s often turn tragic because society actually encourages us to follow destructive behaviors ....they are deemed to be more productive / profitable
FOR THEM ....not us ....until we change this root cause & are no longer disposable gears in a giant machine that is grinding the natural world up into dust.( Getting analized & taking meds will not turn a lie into a truth )
Most of these are me...except the procrastination. I finish all the projects before I can relax. Can't sleep good until jobs are done.
Whoa most of these symptoms are literally me. I knew I had some form of anxiety and I honestly thought most of these were caused by my self esteem issues. it’s actually nice to find an answer.
This is me - all day every day
This gave me anxiety watching it. I'm the opposite after I realized you live for the day, one day at a time and stop judging yourself against society's standard. Relax, chill tf out and just TRUST life will fall into place.
I’m definitely experiencing many of these symptoms.
This describes me, and the one thing I can add to this list is not being able to enjoy a hobby. Since my mind always feels like it would be a waste of time, and I should do something more productive than just enjoy any hobby. Also my mind tells me if I don't get super advanced/professional with that hobby, it doesn't make sense to even start it in the first place. Really tiring and connected to the "not being able to relax" point.
Yup this is all me ..... especially overthinking and cant relax 😅 I've found journalling, meditation, using fidget toys and talking to my husband about what's on my mind helps loads.
Using fidget toys really helps me relax and chill out -i would def recommend them 😊
I would imagine that alot of this anxiety we live with is brought on by our social and economic environment. Keeping up is impossible. At 49 I've just about tapped out. Especially now with all the insanity in "collective West". We're Living in a time of maddness.
I always expect the worse. People just say that I'm negative.
Me too.
Thank You Everybody for "like" my comment. It means a lot - not joking! I'm going through shitty stuff rn. So it actually feels good to know I'm not alone?. I know for sure that ppl w/ anxiety/depression fully have my back on this! TY!
This has me written all over it. Especially #2. Also it is easy to read me, but I keep things to myself.
If you seek out support for this you will most likely need to work on the root cause of this way of being in the world. It could also be ASD, ADHD: ones way of coping with fear of failure, not understanding and trying to fit in. It could also be a response to past traumatic experiences and at the time anxiety (fight/flight/freeze) was most likely helpful but now this pattern continues and the brain and nervous system have not found a way to turn of the “high alert” button and continue to get triggered by anything that was associated with the past experience. It is time to learn a felt sense of safety and “okayness” in order to begin to work on being able to regulate your own emotions and practice techniques to calm your nervous system. Social media is a huge contributor to anxiety and a felt sent of “rights” and “wrongs”. Notice what you are watching, what you are saying to yourself, notice what triggers you. Become an observer… not every alarm needs to be listened to at the same level of urgency. Your thoughts and feelings are like the counsel in your head always providing feedback and their thoughts but you get to decide if this is something that would be beneficial and helpful.
Some environments will continue this cycle if you are in situations that cause on going feelings of being trapped, being judged and or being unsafe.
Begin your journey of self discovery. There are people out there to support you and you are not trapped … but you are the one that needs to make the actual choice and work to find a different way of being and experiencing the world around you.
💞
I've got quite a few of these symptoms, except I wouldn't by any means call myself "organized". I also have a symptom of always feeling like I'm running out of time even though many things I feel this way about don't have a time frame. A lot of things I need to get done don't get done right away because of where I live and I have no transportation other than a bus that can get me to the closest town. I always feel like I'm stuck & I really hate that feeling. Unfortunately, people like ourselves get taken advantage by those around us, especially in the work force, because they already know you have a problem with saying "no", but they know you will move mountains just to get whatever it is that they asked of you done. Due to my transportation issues and my financial situation I can't go into town to get professional help I need so I am constantly struggling just gain back some of my sanity. But videos like this, help me out a little so I greatly appreciate them and the comments people post. Thank you all and good luck with whatever anxiety you're dealing with. Thank you again.
I think I mostly struggle with saying no bluntly, so I usually improvise my no. I most definitely overthink, even in conversations i overthink. My mind will be asking so many questions, especially when texting someone. Questions like, “does this sound cringy?” “Am i being too clingy?” “Am i being overbearing?” Things like that.
I am sure my husband has high functioning anxiety. He is a workaholic. Also a perfectionist. He has to look a certain way and Heaven help us if he can't get in a workout on any given day. He also hides his feelings really well and refuses to express anything negative - except directing anger towards the kids. He always has to have a project. His parents are the same. Can never rest. The anxiety is catching. I feel constant anxiety and very depressed because I cannot meet his standards and neither can the kids. They have full on anxiety. He wasn't like this when we first were together. I wish he didn't feel that he had to have the accelerator pedal down hard all the time. It is exhausting for all of us to live with. Even though he is super healthy, I fear I wil lose him to stroke or heart attack
And you’re right to worry, this is Type A personality. This is the worst mostly for all of those around him who will never measure up to HIS expectations no matter what great things you do. The families of the people who I know who are in these kinds of relationships are miserable. These kinds of personalities never think they need to seek professional help, they are perfect just the way they are! Shame on you for seeing their faults😆
Intervention time!
Are you pressuring him to do more for a lifestyle? "honey we need a bigger house, a better car, more dates..."
@@theerealatm no.
I told him at the time of purchase that i was concerned about the affordability of this house and he said that "I deserve it". He does. He works hard. I have repeatedly told him that I don't need to live in this house. We don't need to live in this neighbourhood. If there is any indulgence it would be that I would love to live in the country with a few animals but that is my dream and it is certainly not his.
I don't buy designer clothes - the ones I have have holes and are years old. I rarely buy clothes at all because I struggle with my weight. I don't regularly go and have my hair done - never had it coloured, even though I am 48 - and barely have it cut. I don't get any beauty treatments. So I am not trying to look a certain way.
I drive a 2006 station wagon and it does me and the kids fine. When we go away on holiday, I would rather go camping, truth be told. Or a little place. Not big flash hotels.
The only thing that I guess I "demand" has been medical care. Since my breast cancer in 2018, I have had 6 operations, chemotherapy, radiotherapy and yes, I still do require scans and the like. His work provides us with medical insurance so i have been able to go private. I am thankful for that as the NZ public healthcare system is in bad shape.
As for dates? Well.... The guy has worked crazy hours since we were at university together 25 years ago. Most of our time together has been spent with him in either his lab or his office and me doing my own thing, waiting for him to finish. We don't do date night. I love music and the arts and would love to go to concerts, plays, musicals, but it's not his thing so I don't push it.
Hell I would even love to go out for dinner... but there hasn't always been family around to look after the kids. He hasn't wanted to leave the kids with a hired babysitter. I don't think he trusts them.
So I have tried to be as unobtrusive and undemanding and supportive as I possibly can throughout our life together. I don't work. We made the decision for me to stay home and look after the kids and that is exactly what I have done. He has never had to get up to them during the night. He doesn't have to pick kids up from school, take them to activities, make their lunches, shop for them, or cook a meal for them. I try to do all the cleaning and housework. I do get tired.
I know he feels the burden of finacially carrying the family. I want to work but my medical issues always get in the way of me getting on my feet again.
So I would say that I bend over backwards to not be demanding. Maybe he feels differently. At the end of the day you are not hearing his side of the story.
I strongly believe that in these type of videos you can always find something to relate to, however, this specific video just hit 10/10 for me so....😂
I’m diagnosed and take medication for anxiety yet I found myself nodding to everything said 😂
I myself deal with very high anxiety and I used to have soooo many projects open, like I would be washing dishes then I get an attack so I go sweep the floor and so on...one of my "escapes" was caligraphy I would spend so many hours with me leaning on my elbows that I ended up getting tennis elbow and carpal tunnel. I got the surgery to fix it, but I couldn't use my right arm for almost a year (I had complations) and I had went right back to the bottom. But I bought a gaming computer and was able to get back out playing Red Dead Redemption 2. Still don't have full use of my arm and I had to find a different way to past my time. Now I depend on my PC to keep me out of depression.
I'm like this, and I thrive on it. I call it getting things done and picking up the slack. Embrace the stress and carry on! We need more people like this. It's NOT a "problem".
Stress is like a glass of water. Keep putting more in and it will overflow and not be able to function properly as a container should. Just because some people's glass started out fuller than yours, does not mean they aren't trying hard enough. Please develop more empathy towards those who are already suffering tremendously.
I just sent this to my husband because I never knew what I go through has a name. Hopefully this will give him insight to how I function. I'm sending it to him so he can understand how I am maybe in an effort to keep him from thinking I'm crazy. Smh anxiety working at its best as usual. I'm pretty sure it doesn't matter to him because he loves me for who I am but I'm always thinking I need to explain myself or possibly keep something from going wrong -_-
I hope he understands! Everyone deserves love 💗
@@ailynnmckae1130 thank you(: he was very supportive
I've been diagnosed with Severe PTSD, I went to the doctors and talked with one of their counslers but in midst of all my emotions runnung through, the counslor asked me how dumb my kids were, then caught self and rephrased. But why say it if you weren't thinking it? So I haven't been back since and my story is rare but true and does not happen to everyday people. So now I just deal the best way I can.
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Great, I have every single one of these symptoms.
We are exposed and vulnerable to the world, even more so now 😅
Because of something, now I'm anxious to go out for a long time. Several hours (2-3 hours) are still fine, but more than that....
I'm always anxious but I think this reachs new level