It's a sad reality but there are simply those parents who don't care about their children. It's hard to believe but a very real reality: ruclips.net/video/3K01N4MMKOw/видео.htmlsi=6_YyL_yJpl9iAUSa
I understand. You're welcome. More to come tomorrow LIVE because there's so much I didn't say in this video. It's never easy to accept but once you do, you set yourself free in a lot of ways.
I love that you don’t try to minimize the trauma and suffering of us who were raised in neglect physical and emotional abuse among other loveless behaviors.
Hi Tamara. Evil & controlling parents are always impossible to have a normal conversation with. They only seem to care about their feelings. See 👀 you on the next one. ✌️ Peace, love Miss Janine🫶✨️🌴🧸💙🫂
Wow, you just described my parents and decades of my life with them. Therapy really helped me believe that it was really that bad, otherwise society and even people who knew us were telling me that it couldn't have been that bad or even happened at all. Thank you.
these people actually make me feel physically disgusted anymore, I think it's because I've had my boundaries violated too many times, and now my body reacts in pure disgust when my boundaries get violated (it's a very deep feeling of disgust too, I can physically feel it in my body and sometimes it takes a while to leave)
@@Anonymissus Yes! I get nauseated by these people. It is helpful in a way because it is my body reminding me to keep that person at arm's length, or further out.
My parents were absolutely that dysfunctional unity. My mother was jealous of me and made sure my father wouldn't be a supportive parent because it couldn't ever not be about her for a moment.
So, my mom divorced my Dad because he abused her. She didn't allow my brother to go to visits because he was abusive, yet I- the youngest daughter was forced to go by her-alone. Because he was alone now, SA happened along with all the other physical and emotional abuse. She would supply condoms and birth control and say she wasn't taking care of any babies so I better use it. She now says she didn't know so she kept herself out of jail with that lie. He got off with no punishment because the cops said he went to a lie detector test drunk and for some reason that was their rational for letting him off in the end even tho they told me they knew he did it. Everyone involved even the cops are purely driven by EVIL FORCES. This isn't just bad people. It's TRUE EVIL. I was a little girl used like a prostitute by my parents. Sickening. I always knew since i was very young if i only had been born a boy, i would have been safe like my brother and not abused sexually. Truly evil because the girl should be taken care of and protected more than the boy not used like a prostitute.
Around 11:00 yes, the school intervened and brought I guess it was caseworkers in and had us get family therapy. I never got a word in! My mother bold-faced lied 😔 I have forgiven her. She had a way worse upbringing than I did. She passed away in an unexpected and awful way about 8 years ago. I stayed by her side in ICU when they took her off life support and told her I love her and hope she is somewhere beautiful with no pain. I can’t bring myself to call her evil.
Oh my. I'm sorry you experienced this. It is difficult to use the word "evil" because of the connotations we associate with the word and the minimization of its importance in the world. But once we fully understand evil, the word itself becomes easier to use.
From what I’ve read and heard COVERT Narcissism has a murderous spirit and I ve seen this first hand in my family of origin. Long story but my family is literally evil and since I’m the appointed Scapegoat in my family I have felt the brunt of it . I’m the only one who spoke up and always asked questions. I was hated for this. Again too long of a story to get into here. I’m the eldest of 7 siblings was overtly & covertly treated horribly. I’ve read from ACES , Rough childhood Rough adulthood and this has been so true about my life. I went no contact from my family of origin 25 years ago. It is a sad reality but something I absolutely had to do. Ty for listening. Appreciate it so much.
growing up i always thought i hated small talk with strangers but after watching this video i realized it's because as a child every time i opened my mouth i was invalidated.
The first thing that came to mind, evil = something undeserved and harmful / something cruel. Maybe also indifference (not necessarily inaction), but maybe when parents ignore their children it could be called 'undeserved', Or maybe my mind revolves around the same universal principles of justice - proportionate response (undeserved harm) / treating others like you want to be treated (cruelty, self-entitlement with dehum*niz*tion) But is it possible for a non-arrogant person to do something evil with a good intention? Why some people fall in the trap of deh*ma*izati*n and support wars or mistreatment of certain groups of people? I don't know, but maybe there is some self-entitlement to this, irrational beliefs It's hard to come up with a good definition, because one person could be called evil and cruel for their disobedience, that triggered a hysterical response ('pain') of another person who 'did not deserve' such treatment. what a complete distortion...
I was a victim of an evil family. Now because of CHRIST JESUS I'm more than a Conqueror. I have very little to do with my DNA relatives except my offsprings. They've treated me & my children horribly! Now that The LORD has Blessed me they've wanted to be friendly to me. I have no reason to trust them ever at all!!!
Sad I missed this one. I'll timestamp my outbursts I describe evil as My Spawn Point "Mother" 3:42 Yes it leads to self devaluation. 4:30 my mom gilt tripped me because she was getting coke-notta-cola 5:52 yes it's like we feel we're not allowed to be praised or celebrated. It makes praise and receiving gifts uncomfortable. Oftin because we are wondering what it will cost us later. 9:45 evil is all you look for when it's all you have ever known. How do you know what life is supposed to be if you were always told differently 10:26 they plant little " time bombs" in your head to go off some random times in the future 16:00 i describe it as my mother created a new level of hell the devil looked around said hey what's this but when he looked in he backed away slowly and say oh no way am I touching that.
"parentified child" here. Comes down to acceptance based on conditional performance. Theologically, a false implication is that anything less than a perfect performance results in being abandoned by God.... Guilt, shame, fear, anger.... really a devaluation and dehumanization of the person Rather, Biblical truth is acceptance based on faith in Christ's grace, unconditional love for you, not on your performance.
I caught my mother creepingly watch me in my sleep once at around 5-6AM in the morning and no one believes me, i wouldn't put it pass me if this woman wanted to kill me
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It's a sad reality but there are simply those parents who don't care about their children. It's hard to believe but a very real reality: ruclips.net/video/3K01N4MMKOw/видео.htmlsi=6_YyL_yJpl9iAUSa
Invalidating children seems to do so much damage on it's own. No one deserves that kind of cruelty. 💔
This lady is a national treasure. Protect her!
thank you 😊 🙏
Evil is something deliberately wrong that happens with no proper consequence or correction
This is me. The invalidated childhood. I always felt marked. So that "evil" things could happen to me. Thank you for this topic, truly.
I understand. You're welcome. More to come tomorrow LIVE because there's so much I didn't say in this video.
It's never easy to accept but once you do, you set yourself free in a lot of ways.
I can relate, awareness and knowledge definitely helped heal my pain. How do you cope?
@@Lore788 I've gone No Contact with entire birth family. I had to. Then focused on myself. Which is not easy. Knowledge for sure helps.
@@TherapistTamaraHill Thank you.
This is Saturday's topic @Lore788.😉
I love that you don’t try to minimize the trauma and suffering of us who were raised in neglect physical and emotional abuse among other loveless behaviors.
😊we need to give it the attention it deserves.
Hi Tamara. Evil & controlling parents are always impossible to have a normal conversation with. They only seem to care about their feelings. See 👀 you on the next one. ✌️ Peace, love Miss Janine🫶✨️🌴🧸💙🫂
Wow, you just described my parents and decades of my life with them. Therapy really helped me believe that it was really that bad, otherwise society and even people who knew us were telling me that it couldn't have been that bad or even happened at all. Thank you.
These patterns are too familiar. I became allergic to lying, controlling manipulators. ☮️🙏❤️
"I became allergic...." Good one! I like that.
these people actually make me feel physically disgusted anymore, I think it's because I've had my boundaries violated too many times, and now my body reacts in pure disgust when my boundaries get violated (it's a very deep feeling of disgust too, I can physically feel it in my body and sometimes it takes a while to leave)
@@Anonymissus Yes! I get nauseated by these people. It is helpful in a way because it is my body reminding me to keep that person at arm's length, or further out.
@@Anonymissus 🎯
@@TherapistTamaraHill I really like that one! It made me laugh, lol. I needed that. Today was a day....
My parents were absolutely that dysfunctional unity. My mother was jealous of me and made sure my father wouldn't be a supportive parent because it couldn't ever not be about her for a moment.
So, my mom divorced my Dad because he abused her. She didn't allow my brother to go to visits because he was abusive, yet I- the youngest daughter was forced to go by her-alone. Because he was alone now, SA happened along with all the other physical and emotional abuse. She would supply condoms and birth control and say she wasn't taking care of any babies so I better use it. She now says she didn't know so she kept herself out of jail with that lie. He got off with no punishment because the cops said he went to a lie detector test drunk and for some reason that was their rational for letting him off in the end even tho they told me they knew he did it. Everyone involved even the cops are purely driven by EVIL FORCES. This isn't just bad people. It's TRUE EVIL. I was a little girl used like a prostitute by my parents. Sickening. I always knew since i was very young if i only had been born a boy, i would have been safe like my brother and not abused sexually. Truly evil because the girl should be taken care of and protected more than the boy not used like a prostitute.
I’m so sorry!
Around 11:00 yes, the school intervened and brought I guess it was caseworkers in and had us get family therapy. I never got a word in! My mother bold-faced lied 😔 I have forgiven her. She had a way worse upbringing than I did. She passed away in an unexpected and awful way about 8 years ago. I stayed by her side in ICU when they took her off life support and told her I love her and hope she is somewhere beautiful with no pain. I can’t bring myself to call her evil.
Oh my. I'm sorry you experienced this. It is difficult to use the word "evil" because of the connotations we associate with the word and the minimization of its importance in the world. But once we fully understand evil, the word itself becomes easier to use.
From what I’ve read and heard COVERT Narcissism has a murderous spirit and I ve seen this first hand in my family of origin. Long story but my family is literally evil and since I’m the appointed Scapegoat in my family I have felt the brunt of it . I’m the only one who spoke up and always asked questions. I was hated for this. Again too long of a story to get into here. I’m the eldest of 7 siblings was overtly & covertly treated horribly. I’ve read from ACES , Rough childhood Rough adulthood and this has been so true about my life. I went no contact from my family of origin 25 years ago. It is a sad reality but something I absolutely had to do. Ty for listening. Appreciate it so much.
Soul Unaliving
growing up i always thought i hated small talk with strangers but after watching this video i realized it's because as a child every time i opened my mouth i was invalidated.
This is good!!!!
❤🤗Always good to see you
Let’s go live because you are booked
🤗This will be live tomorrow too
Thank you in advance!
The first thing that came to mind, evil = something undeserved and harmful / something cruel. Maybe also indifference (not necessarily inaction), but maybe when parents ignore their children it could be called 'undeserved',
Or maybe my mind revolves around the same universal principles of justice - proportionate response (undeserved harm) / treating others like you want to be treated (cruelty, self-entitlement with dehum*niz*tion)
But is it possible for a non-arrogant person to do something evil with a good intention? Why some people fall in the trap of deh*ma*izati*n and support wars or mistreatment of certain groups of people? I don't know, but maybe there is some self-entitlement to this, irrational beliefs
It's hard to come up with a good definition, because one person could be called evil and cruel for their disobedience, that triggered a hysterical response ('pain') of another person who 'did not deserve' such treatment. what a complete distortion...
This has brought a lot of clartiy witin me ❤
That's so wonderful!
Great video tonight Tamara 👏🏻👌🏻
🤗 Thank you! I am glad this was helpful. There's so much more on this topic. I will try to cover tomorrow live.
I was a victim of an evil family. Now because of CHRIST JESUS I'm more than a Conqueror. I have very little to do with my DNA relatives except my offsprings. They've treated me & my children horribly! Now that The LORD has Blessed me they've wanted to be friendly to me. I have no reason to trust them ever at all!!!
Sad I missed this one.
I'll timestamp my outbursts
I describe evil as My Spawn Point "Mother"
3:42 Yes it leads to self devaluation.
4:30 my mom gilt tripped me because she was getting coke-notta-cola
5:52 yes it's like we feel we're not allowed to be praised or celebrated. It makes praise and receiving gifts uncomfortable. Oftin because we are wondering what it will cost us later.
9:45 evil is all you look for when it's all you have ever known.
How do you know what life is supposed to be if you were always told differently
10:26 they plant little " time bombs" in your head to go off some random times in the future
16:00 i describe it as my mother created a new level of hell the devil looked around said hey what's this but when he looked in he backed away slowly and say oh no way am I touching that.
Hi Cherrysjubilee, I thought about you tonight during the premiere. I will be talking more on this tomorrow live. Join me then!
Thank you Tamara 🙏
You are so welcome!!
Thanks❤
You're welcome! ❤
Everything you said is completely understood. Thank you. # survivor.❤
You're welcome!!
I believe the world is not as nice as I thought it was to be....seen it with my own eyes
So I do agree with that point there.
Wow this was very insightful. Thank you for sharing this. This brought me so much clarity, hope an understanding.
You're welcome! 🤗 I'm glad this brought you clarity and understanding! That's always the goal on this channel!
Hey T’amara checking in from Alabama ❤️🙏🏾
Hello! 🙋♀️
Yup. This is me.
😔I'm sorry
@@TherapistTamaraHill Thank you. 🌼
Yep me to.
💯
remember kids...evil spelled backwards is live ergo the human experience is evil...salute....peace
I’m cooking sweet potatoes 🍠
Hater of the intro though
My favorite food in the entire world (fried, baked, mashed, sliced, etc). My mom is over it!🤓
I totally understand if you are talking about the story I shared. If that's what you mean, I get that.
I’m at a 10
"parentified child" here. Comes down to acceptance based on conditional performance. Theologically, a false implication is that anything less than a perfect performance results in being abandoned by God.... Guilt, shame, fear, anger.... really a devaluation and dehumanization of the person
Rather, Biblical truth is acceptance based on faith in Christ's grace, unconditional love for you, not on your performance.
I caught my mother creepingly watch me in my sleep once at around 5-6AM in the morning and no one believes me, i wouldn't put it pass me if this woman wanted to kill me
She was at the least trying to get a rise out of you. So you would react then blame you for your reaction. I’m sorry!
Whoa! lots of parents watch their children when they sleep - nothing creepy. there's something peaceful about it.
Evil toxic parents are also controlling lack empathy.🥲
Always! They never have empathy and that's what makes them complicated. Most are cold and callous. I'll share some stories in tomorrow's live that.
@ Yes, it sad.🥲
I will join you in tomorrow’s live chat. Have a blessed evening!🙏💕
Thank you! You too!!
I'm a sufferer of this at the hands of evil parenting.
zero empathy
zero remorse
zero emotion