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How To Fix A Sexless Marriage With Your Husband
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- Опубликовано: 18 авг 2024
- Do you feel like you’ve always heard that, "Men want sex." Or, that it’s "always" on their mind? Maybe you’ve spoken with other women who say their husband is always ready, or even complaining that they aren’t getting enough. But you can’t seem to relate, because your husband is not interested in having sex.
You may wonder: “Is there something wrong with him?” “Does he care?” “Is there something wrong with me?”
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If you’re asking these questions, or feel frustrated by the lack of love-making in your marriage, you aren’t alone. We would like to share with you some specific research about this, but we would like to preface this- we are not saying that it’s your fault that your husband doesn’t want to have sex with you. That is NOT our intent. Rather, when we share what we found, be honest with yourself in evaluating whether these apply. (And If they do, don’t panic!) We’ll also share with you how you can turn things around so that you and your husband can enjoy lovemaking in amazing ways
And remember, there is a correlation between sexual and marital satisfaction. If the love-making in your marriage is going well, it is likely that your marriage is going well (and vice versa).
First, we will discuss the research on sexual attraction. In an online survey, when asked if anything significantly reduces sexual attraction to their wife, the number one cause was relationship problems (also issues in communication). The second cause according to research was that a wife have become overweight. (In saying this, we are in no way trying to hurt feelings or self-esteem, rather we want to state what we found in research.) The third cause was sexual techniques or skills (moreso that a husband wanted to do something sexual that the wife is unable/unwilling to do).
Next, we will discuss research on specific factors that negatively affected a husband’s sex drive. The number one reason was the wife’s sexual techniques. The second reason was a wife’s lack of desire to have sex. The third reason was a wife’s sexual inhibitions. (Husbands wanted their wives to be more confident in their body & sexuality.)
If any of the reasons mentioned from our research apply to your situation, don’t fret. There are ways you can improve and increase your husband’s desire to be with you sexually. There are ways you can increase his enjoyment while also increasing your enjoyment. And, there are ways to increase your own desire to be with your husband sexually. It will take work, but it’s doable. And, it can be fun.
If your relationship is what needs help the most, please visit www.marriagehelper.com for resources that can grow, fix, save, and enhance your relationship.
If the sex and intimacy itself is the main issue, Dr. Joe Beam has developed an online, educational course for the two of you to do together. It includes videos and assessments all geared toward igniting the passion in your marriage. Visit www.sparkyourmarriage.com to learn more.
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Part of the problem is that porn stealing original etamacy in an undefiled bed
well here is another story....it is not the wife...he wants a man
the reality is the husbands chose porn and then the negative happens in the relationship. their survey obviously didnt ask about the husbands porn addiction. hmmm...
So we watch porn instead of mating it's easier than mating gets job done in few minutes only and mating is hard
@@BulkyHealthyCat it affects your soul, it is cheating spiritually and physically and sets you to look at women in an unhealthy way for your mind and soul and thus this is setting you up. The woman notices and feels this that you are not properly invested and cheating looking at/ to others and of course it will be a complete turn off. I suggest work on this for your sake and your future wife's sake so that you won't cause problems in that area or bring problems into your relationship and then marriage. Build trust. No trust= no connection and rejection/ turn offs. Most women percieve/ feel this cheating /porn etc (because the proof is evident even if you try to hide it) and know that you are not invested where you should be so it makes them reject the person. So it could just become a nasty cycle that goes no where until you decide to. Don't bring this into a relationship when they never expected it or asked for it, same for women with their men. Goes both ways for men and women. You seek other women it leads to failure there is no sugar coating or denying it don't set yourself up for it but do everything you can to not go that route. Best of luck. Pray.
@@andreamoscoso4065 I don't look at others womans I'm shy
Men choose porn because it's superior in many ways.
Porn doesn't nag
Porn has more beautiful women in their physical prime
Porn is easier
Porn has more variety
Real women let themselves go
A ton more reasons but basically Porn has only marginalized women because women are doing less and less for their men.
1. Relationship problems. Yes this was me. The first time I didn't have drive to make love to my wife was because I felt guilty over having an emotional affair with someone at work.
Sex is a powerful tool in bringing intimacy to a marriage but it can also be terribly misused if not done out of genuine love and with a desire to please your spouse. That's my 2 cents.
sounds very honest. How did you if you did get past this guilty feeling causing this way? Did anything resolve that with your wife? What could she have done to make it not affect you this way? Did counseling help?
Did you ever tell her? Or did you just stop?
Also porn is the same, emotionally physically, spiritually and soul wise. I am glad you are honest in being honest I'm sure it helped to try to do something better. I hope all worked out for you and your wife.
~ For anyone else reading the comment section porn and also emotional investement to whatever degree in others affects your soul, it is cheating spiritually and physically and sets you to look at women in an unhealthy way for your mind and soul and thus this is setting you up for failure. The woman notices and feels this that you are not properly invested and cheating looking at/ to others and of course it will be a complete turn off. I suggest work on this for your sake and your future wife's sake so that you won't cause problems in that area or bring problems into your relationship and then marriage. Build trust. No trust= no connection and rejection/ turn offs. Most women percieve/ feel this cheating /porn etc (because the proof is evident even if you try to hide it) and know that you are not invested where you should be so it makes them reject the person. So it could just become a nasty cycle that goes no where until you decide to. Don't bring this into a relationship when they never expected it or asked for it, same for women with their men. Goes both ways for men and women. You seek other women it leads to failure there is no sugar coating or denying it don't set yourself up for it but do everything you can to not go that route. Best of luck. Pray.
One gets tired of approaching your spouse time and again, and every manner with which you make an approach, she rejects you totally with, "leave me alone, I'm not interested.???" Gets to the stage whereby you reluctantly, don't even bother anymore. (Guaranteed no 3rd party from the male side involved)
I feel like I'm not attractive anymore even if I'm 18 years younger :(
How in the WORLD can she be less sexually inhibited if he finds her physically unattractive??? She probably knows how he feels about her body so now she's self conscious. That literally makes NO SENSE.
So true
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My husband told me he isn’t in love with me anymore that why he can’t rise he says he no longer happy.
Marilyn but why
Not one word about pornography use. This is not current info.
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I do all these things to him and he still doesnt ask for sex, when i ask for sex it happen. But he doesnt ask for it and i’m so sad because of this!!! I need help!!
Hard to submit if u have to initiate.... Being invited is nice, not having to feel that u carry or plan everything and are not the only intentional one.
I truly appreciate the answers to this question.... even though they hurt to hear.
However, what if I am doing Every. Single. Thing. I will bend over backwards (literally - NO pun intended!) For my man. We've been together for over 25 years, as we are high school sweethearts. I'm so lost as to what I need to do to bring us back to the way we were....
Any advice would be so welcome. 🙏
Mine doesn’t watch porn. He is angry with me and disappointed and he doesn’t want to. It’s been along time.
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My husband was so guilty having sex with another woman in a different country so he went off sex i felt punished as we had happy life forc18 years til he did that. So I suffered and he died with prostate cancer and bone cancer. I nursed him til death. He was also hard to livecwith had three year old tantrums and never said sorry. All men love to cheat I don't know many who dont.
Is like I’m in that round so scary!
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You will experience a peaceful relationship henceforth.
Sad to hear your story and it's an incredible emphatic sacrifice you've done.
However... not all men "love to cheat".
He was probably into a porn addiction....
The problem is that as we get older, we become physically less desirable.
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Women become less physically desirable to their man and men in general as we get older, not men.
That's the problem in life. Its not equal. My husband is more physically desirable to me now, his entire body.
What would happen if there was only one male Grizzly bear and 7.8 billion female polar bears. What if you parachute dropped the bear into the North Pole
I totally agree with the points
I've watched several different videos on this subject and this one makes the most sense!
Yes... I agree.
Wait the men want the wife to be more confident in Her body yet are turned off if she’s over weight which most likely is caused by having their children 😒🙄
She should confidently find another romantic partner.
Within reason ... yes...
I think men should be mindful to appreciate that a woman has carried his children and she might not look like she's 21 anymore.
However ... there's no rule that a pregnancy makes you put on 35kg weight in the following years. That's not kids... that's sugar.
Well stop you right there. I guess I don't fit in because although I have gained some weight I was small when we married and he's always been this way it's not new it's not something that's changed except that we went from sometimes to nothing. And as far as techniques some of these men might want to look in the mirror because I can you, my husband doesn't do anything or go out of his way at all for me as far as technique okay. So I would say if technique is his issue then he might want to correct his own before he talks about anyone else. I think it's something else that wasn't even named in my case so I'll probably just don't fit in here.
Are we married to the same man? 🤔
Or did I type this one day and just don't remember? 😂
No but seriously girl, you and I are in the same boat here.
And idk about you but I'm attracted to my Husband because I love him. He's a goofy looking dude if I'm being honest. And not considered "attractive" by any standards.
But even if he gained 400 lbs I'd still be in love with him so I'd still be attracted, ya know?
My husband, on the other hand doesn't seem to know what "love" even is. He barely exists. It's like he's a robot who just goes to work, come one, sleep,repeat. He has no personality. Won't talk. Everything is my fault.
I feel like live with my Brother even though I've never had a brother or maybe a roommate? But I've neve had one of those either.
He's like a stranger to me. But I'm willing to get past that because I want more. He is just fine with our life the way ut is.
I am a bit overweight. I am very visual and he s scawny
Woman have to always stay looking young and hot. If she gains weight or get old looking then his eyes will start to stray. Otherwise an old dude can leave his wife for a younger hotter wife.
Old wives remedy to control erections: they could make them potent or not according to what was required in each case. No they could not have it all in this world. Tip:Don't tell the church.
Why would a younger woman want a geezer?
? Money/stability.@@TomikaKelly
@nickp4961 The average older man can't offer money/stability. What you're referring to are more affluent/wealthy older men and they are far and few between. The AVERAGE "old dude" (which is what most old dudes are) does NOT have a chance with the 21 year old Instagram baddie.
Mine was addicted to porn … so how do I fix that ? He says he’s no longer doing it but he has no sex drive now
Give him time
My husband don't want to do sex too I m newly married he did once in a month some time once in two month 😔
KIRAN RAMOLA I dunno what the hell is wrong with him if that’s you in the thumbnail lol. No offense
I married a head case thats why my dosent
similar case here
I’m married for 3 years until now never have sex he said his tired working and now have this virus 🦠 he said I’m selfish 🤧😪
@@roseann7623 omg ,he has some problem.
Yes but mine just stopped when we were 65, without explanatiomn, or. Apology we are no 74
I'm very sorry to hear that.
My fiancè is 27. He's so selfish about sex. It's always about him. When he wants, how he wants, only when he wants, which is probably once every two weeks. I'm the one who has to beg for it. I'm dropping him. Always never wants to let go of me, but I'm not going to be reeled back in by him.
At least he can blame it on being old. All honesty still doesnt excuse it but imagine this happening in your 20s
Look on the good side of things. You'll get more sleep time
I’m not even married but this is good still
Don't marry dude, it's simply not worth it
@@thomasjust2663 I’m curious, why did you watch this video if you advise him not to marry? 😬
First they create a problem then the get frustrated but why go do it outside some men get it all they want but they still go do it outside their minds are wicked
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The really sad thing is that i AM willing (positions, etc. and i am NOT overweight, my husband greatly desires me) is now i have major physical problems that are very real and greatly impact any position that we can do, and also now despite HRT and GYN visits, i now can't handle much penetration. Talk about not fair!!
Their problems go away because they die 🤣 Humans aren't carnivores 🙄
if i were your husband i'd sit down with you and explain that if you can't perform, i have to go out and find someone who fulfills my needs. i still love you, but i need sex one way or the other.
@@IRGhost0 Either stick it through these things can heal especially after being cut down there for childbirth and many women get a mesh placed down there sometimes its placed badly and will hurt so it will need to surgically or with therapy get fixed. If someone doesn't want to wait they should get divorced and not do that to someone and no the partner does not love them not in a real way not where it needs to be might be confused but still. Another thing be honest before a relationship/ marriage.
Being emotionally invested into someone else, emotionally thinking about someone else starting to invest in someone else like that, having an emotional affair not my words but from many honest people, it affects people (both sides).
Also porn is the same, emotionally physically, spiritually and soul wise. In being honest and trying, and taking the steps to get out of there and working with your wife/husband. I'm sure it helped to try to do something better.
~ For anyone else reading the comment section porn and also emotional investement to whatever degree in others affects your soul, it is cheating spiritually and physically and sets you to look at women in an unhealthy way for your mind and soul and thus this is setting you up for failure. The woman notices and feels this that you are not properly invested and cheating looking at/ to others and of course it will be a complete turn off. I suggest work on this for your sake and your future wife's sake so that you won't cause problems in that area or bring problems into your relationship and then marriage. Build trust. No trust= no connection and rejection/ turn offs. Most women percieve/ feel this cheating /porn etc (because the proof is evident even if you try to hide it) and know that you are not invested where you should be so it makes them reject the person. So it could just become a nasty cycle that goes no where until you decide to. Don't bring this into a relationship when they never expected it or asked for it, same for women with their men. Goes both ways for men and women. Many seek others or porn in the relationship stage which is cheating (this of course causes problems and alienates everyone) and so its at times brought into the marriage. Its not like it will go away with marriage. So make sure its not a thing anymore before getting into a relationship and then even worse into a marriage. Start right. Its precious years for both of you. Be honest and do all you can to not set yourself up. You seek other women it leads to failure there is no sugar coating or denying it don't set yourself up for it but do everything you can to not go that route. Best of luck. Pray.
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I had hysterectomy but was fine,itgink it might have put him off.
My husband don't want to sex with me after I became mother of his baby.he is so busy at work.he has to wake up early ..he used to go to bed early.he always feel tired.never feel attracted by me.may be I became ugly or unfit 😣
Do u like realationship?
Talk to him ... tell him 🤗
Same here.
Make time each week for marriage time. Whatever that might be. But plan for intentional time.
I need 10 years till I get married idk but I do it myself 😭🙄
Really?
@@donpaul9083 wait I forgot what I said
My husband is fat and he eats alot maybe he is tired
hope you'll have a video to upload of why wives don't want to have sex with their husbands...and 30 seconds later he says theres one already...
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Don't know if its applicable to you or your wife. I hope all the best for both. Hope it worked out and stay positive.
For others..
Being emotionally invested into someone else, emotionally thinking about someone else starting to invest in someone else like that, having an emotional affair not my words but from many honest people, it affects people (both sides).
Also porn is the same, emotionally physically, spiritually and soul wise. In being honest and trying, and taking the steps to get out of there and working with your wife/husband. I'm sure it helped to try to do something better.
~ For anyone else reading the comment section porn and also emotional investement to whatever degree in others affects your soul, it is cheating spiritually and physically and sets you to look at women in an unhealthy way for your mind and soul and thus this is setting you up for failure. The woman notices and feels this that you are not properly invested and cheating looking at/ to others and of course it will be a complete turn off. I suggest work on this for your sake and your future wife's sake so that you won't cause problems in that area or bring problems into your relationship and then marriage. Build trust. No trust= no connection and rejection/ turn offs. Most women percieve/ feel this cheating /porn etc (because the proof is evident even if you try to hide it) and know that you are not invested where you should be so it makes them reject the person. So it could just become a nasty cycle that goes no where until you decide to. Don't bring this into a relationship when they never expected it or asked for it, same for women with their men. Goes both ways for men and women. Many seek others or porn in the relationship stage which is cheating (this of course causes problems and alienates everyone) and so its at times brought into the marriage. Its not like it will go away with marriage. So make sure its not a thing anymore before getting into a relationship and then even worse into a marriage. Start right. Its precious years for both of you. Be honest and do all you can to not set yourself up. You seek other women it leads to failure there is no sugar coating or denying it don't set yourself up for it but do everything you can to not go that route. Best of luck. Pray.
Its Very Frustrating especially in a Long commited Relationship. U wonder big time. It was So Very Painful. Not mine nope not right
Wt happened
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You're so male focused. Oh poor guy. You're dissatisfied. I'm not any of those, he is. You need to listen to yourself
True..
You’re projecting.
cnt sleep and husband sleeps with open mouth, depression
Not sleeping wrecks complete hell on your entire life doesn’t it?? I’ve suffered with insomnia my whole life. I genuinely feel I’m going to die very young because of it
Sorry ?? Don't tempt me to say something bang out of order babe . 🤣
Thank you
Your sharing has been very valuables and helpful to many. 🌹
My wife hates any human contact. I cuddle with pillows every night with her on the other edge of the bed.
I have a hard time believing a woman would be in my shoes.
There are many
I'm in your position from day one of wedding the more I ask him to hug me he avoids it
@@abiraghav8516Why did you even get married?
Why do you found it hard to believe it? There are many. many of us wives who have been sexually deprived, no matter how young we were. Right from the start when we were in college, he often rejected any physical touch. I wish I had taken it as a red flag then and never married him.
I am crying in my pillow very often after I tried to initiate and he would make excuses or just fall asleep. He tells me that he still loves me and nothing is wrong, but he just has no desire to be with me. All he wants from me seems to be dinner, laundry, cleaning, childcare and listening to how his day at work was. I feel so sad and awful.
So there are women in your shoes, although it seems to be more frequently happening to men. (which makes it all the worse for us intimacy starved women) And it's embarassing to talk about this to your girl friends, because most of them just don't understand and will just assume that you are doing something very wrong, or that your husband's less of a man, which I don't want them to think either.
I will never watch another video from this site.
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He's on the down low
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"love making" is for bringing children into the world. Let's get real here. What's important is the sense of being partners in the bringing up of their children, and a mutual respect for one another.
For people who go through childbirth or physical problems or weight gain. Either stick it through, these things can heal especially after being cut down there for childbirth and many women get a mesh placed down there. Sometimes its placed badly and will hurt so it will need to surgically or with therapy get fixed. If someone doesn't want to wait they should get divorced and not do that to someone and no the partner does not love them not in a real way not where it needs to be might be confused but still. Also be honest before a relationship/ marriage.
Being emotionally invested into someone else, emotionally thinking about someone else starting to invest in someone else like that, having an emotional affair not my words but from many honest people, it affects people (both sides).
Also porn is the same, emotionally physically, spiritually and soul wise. In being honest and trying, and taking the steps to get out of there and working with your wife/husband. I'm sure it helped to try to do something better.
~ For anyone else reading the comment section porn and also emotional investement to whatever degree in others affects your soul, it is cheating spiritually and physically and sets you to look at women in an unhealthy way for your mind and soul and thus this is setting you up for failure. The woman notices and feels this that you are not properly invested and cheating looking at/ to others and of course it will be a complete turn off. I suggest work on this for your sake and your future wife's sake so that you won't cause problems in that area or bring problems into your relationship and then marriage. Build trust. No trust= no connection and rejection/ turn offs. Most women percieve/ feel this cheating /porn etc (because the proof is evident even if you try to hide it) and know that you are not invested where you should be so it makes them reject the person. So it could just become a nasty cycle that goes no where until you decide to. Don't bring this into a relationship when they never expected it or asked for it, same for women with their men. Goes both ways for men and women. Many seek others or porn in the relationship stage which is cheating (this of course causes problems and alienates everyone) and so its at times brought into the marriage. Its not like it will go away with marriage. So make sure its not a thing anymore before getting into a relationship and then even worse into a marriage. Start right. Its precious years for both of you. Be honest and do all you can to not set yourself up. You seek other women it leads to failure there is no sugar coating or denying it don't set yourself up for it but do everything you can to not go that route. Best of luck. Pray.
Not everyone wants to have children.
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Looking at the title..its EASY..IT MIGHT BE YOUR MOUTH AND ATTITUDE
We need open marriage, that old school stuff is clearly not working
I haven't had sex with mine in a year and less than 2-3 times a year for about three years.
OMG, I thought I was the only person not having sex. I have maybe once or twice a year. Sometimes I think about having an affair.
@@marypie5909 me too
@@marypie5909 Me three....
Same here
I must admit I find it strange that as men we take you ladies out wine dine you all spend every moment trying to impress you all have as much sex with you as we can when we can then get married and it stops the men don't want to know very confusing that is the idea of getting married to have time with you and enjoy each other not leave the other partner high and dry sorry but it's just not right
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