@@Tania-rg7jp I think you’ll find it’s not healthy to eat one meal a day at all. That’s not enough to fuel an active body. There’s very little evidence to support the supposed benefits of intermittent fasting. I understand some people do this because of cultural or religious reasons - this video was not about that. This is not a healthy or safe way to lose weight. I think you’ll find abbey would agree with that
completely agree. I do bodybuilding and powerlifting and eat very similar to Blaire. Its my sport. I also eat more flexibly when I am not competing. You will find a lot of athletes have to eat in a very 'obsessive way'. I love food and love life. But I know If I told people about what I eat during a prep I would get roasted by this dietitian. Sick of people pretending they can eat 3000 calories and be 10% fat. Truth is-they don't!
@@riribeasley4741 it is enough if you get enough calories from it. Shit you can still gain weight if you ate 3,000 calories (unless you’re a body builder or sum) in that one meal every day. It’s all about the calories not the frequency you eat.
Havent started the vid yet but I'm finding out from the comments her and nick broke up??!! 💔💔💔💔 I feel like this one vid of hers I haven't even seen entirely misrepresents her channel. She used to make a lot of "eating like____" vids that were super well researched and would even get into how they dressed and acted. It wasn't REALLY about losing weight, at least that's not what it felt like. It was about being open and honest about how diet culture really affects women at that age. She would always point out how terrible she felt on the harder diets and would show us her body in an effort to be relatable. I found her when I was trying to maintain my disordered eating habits and I stayed with her because it actually made me feel good to see that These Diets Do Not Work. And because her channel just didn't support my disorder eating ideas???? I feel like this review of her video was a bit unfair and was definitely looking for things to find disordered. I am still working through the vid and trying have an open mind.. but knowing Blair, I just dont think it's accurate...
I just want to say thank you so much Abbey im 14 and you have really helped me on my anorexia recovery and helping me to reconstruct my relationship with food. You’re genuinely such a knowledgable, warm hearted person and I’m so glad I found your channel. My mum really likes you too. thank you for everything you do❤️❤️
Hi Ellie :) I also had anorexia at 14 . I am 26 now, and life gets so much better trust me x The thoughts will always be there but remember you are stronger than them.
Thank you, Abbey ❤️ Lately I’ve been finding myself having the same thoughts as Blair- “drink hot teas and soups when you feel hungry”, “don’t eat from restaurants because you can’t control how they prepare it” and this was a big wake up call for me. I appreciate your channel so much
I used to love Blair, but she has changed so much recently, and after this video of hers I had to say goodbye for my own recovery maintenance. I really hope she is okay.
I was really sick from celiac’s disease and then got my brain stuck in this weird mode where food was the enemy (not for weight reasons, but because accidentally eating gluten with celiac’s is awful- at least for me). So I realized recently I had gotten in the habit of eating around 700-1,000 calories/ day. The side effects are terrible. I’m building back up now and repairing my relationship with food. Food made me really sick for a long time because I was unaware of my allergies. All this to say: those calorically and nutritionally dense foods are my favorite right now. Ya girl adds olive oil to anything I can. I’m this week up to 1400 calories/day and continuing to build 🙌🏻
I'm dealing with a similar issue but I have gastritis and acid reflux. I can't have anything in the capsaicin family. I didn't learn that from my doctor but from a culinarian friend. No peppers or tomatoes for me for at least a few years if I manage to heal my stomach. For a year after my diagnosis, I struggled to find food to eat and got to the point where I would just starve because it was less painful than my stomach feeling like it was on fire from being set off. Also, the fatigue from it all... horrible. All my doctor told me was what to avoid, not any ideas of what to eat so it's been not fun. I finally feel like I'm figuring it all out though. I have been at a steady weight for about a year now, I'm eating well and I feel pretty good.
Food aversion/allergies must feel nearly impossible to navigate and they can certainly lead to disordered eating if one isn’t careful. I’m sorry you went through that but I’m so proud of you for figuring it out and making it a priority to fuel your body.
I changed my diet for health reasons and was accidentally undereating. I'd been used to eating smaller amounts of calorie dense unhealthy foods (lots of sugar and highly processed food). The healthier foods I switched to filled me up after 800-1100 calories. After noticing I was below my healthy weight range, I tracked calories and realized I needed to make more changes to my diet--and I countinued to keep track until I learned how to meet my daily caloric needs. I also found out those calorie dense healthy foods are my friend! I love using avocado oil, avocados, eggs, peanut butter, cashews, almonds and almond flour, meat, etc. It's really hard to gain back weight once you go below your healthy weight range, especially if you are used to eating smaller portions. It took effort and I still have to pay attention, but I was able to increase calories over time and make it back to a healthy weight. I did lose some muscle and haven't gained all that back yet, but I can work on that later. I don't regret changing my diet at all (my health has improved), but it was definitely a learning curve--it was rough being underweight (did not feel good at all).
@@0nly0NE. I experienced the same thing! I needed to cut out a lot of food due to food intolerances and felt awful. I couldn't figure out why - I thought I was doing my body a favour. And I did, BUT I wasn't eating nearly enough. Calorie counting was a big no no in my mind but it really helped me once I tried it. It helped me figure out the proper amounts of food I need to eat in order to not slip into a drastic calorie deficit. Lesson learned!
Wow, this is like exactly how I ate when I was in a bad place. I lost 30lbs and ended up underweight, tired, cranky and 100 times more anxious. Poor Blair, I hope she gets help :(
I did too after breaking up with my boyfriend of 6 years I went from 135lbs to 120 in a month and a half. I didn’t eat hardly anything at all, I over exercised every day, worked overtime, only drank alcohol and ate crackers occasionally.. it was very unhealthy but I was just too upset to eat. I remember feeling like my heart was literally going to give out and feeling on the verge of collapsing often. I have gained back 5 in the past 4 months, but the sad part is that was the only time I’ve ever felt confident about my body because I was able to tell myself no so easily.
These are pretty much all of the tactics that I used to use when I was struggling with disordered eating. I hope she manages to find a healthier way to view food
20 lbs in three months with these shenanigans? I lost 17 in three months decreasing added sugar, adding whole food, upping protein intake and making sure I eat enough to avoid binges. Her tips are disordered. I found focusing on health and vitality naturally leads to weight reduction without torture.
She probably would have a pretty hard time loosing any weight since she, to begin with, was not overweight and pretty small actually, so the weigh wouldn't naturally just drop with just some small adjustments
Abbey, have you ever done a video about your history with EDs before? You have always seemed so grounded, I'd be interested to know more about where you came from and how were able to get to the amazing place you're in today. 🙏
I just want to say that I really appreciate your approach and methods. In my youth, I had to see dieticians who told me to cut out certain foods or insulted my choices. I developed a chronic illness 5 years ago and was so nervous when at one point when I had to work with a dietician to figure out if I was having blood sugar spikes and crashes. Luckily, their approach was so much better than those I saw as a child. Your videos have been really helpful on my journey to change how I view food and they help me remember that my experience and food needs are more important than what others say to me.
Grateful for this video and glad for the sympathy and honest disappointment you showed in it. As a subscriber of Blair's, I was really saddened to see how she addressed the deleted video with her diet tips. I hope she's okay. I'm still rooting for her.
as someone who is in recovery, i honestly just feel bad for her. i used to be like this and i felt terrible all the time i literally lost my entire personality and was merely surviving. i feel for her but she shouldnt have posted that.
Dude, intermittent fasting FUCKED me up. Save yourself, because this turned me from someone that had always had a fairly easy time living in a healthy weight range into a a person with some serious binge eating issues…
I have done or still actively do many of the so called "Hacks" Blair suggested, the thing is, I have a bloody eating disorder, I have been diagnosed and am in therapy, fighting to overcome it. What she calls "hacks" are literally part of mine and so many other ED sufferers' behaviour, and the fact that she promotes this -even if she does not suffer from ED herself- feels so terribly wrong!! Thank you Abbey, for bringing attention to this quite problematic piece of information. As for Blair, I'm glad she was responsible enough to take the video down, hope she is doing quite alright and working on positively changing her mindset and approach to nourishment.
Tbh there are people (like me) who can just eat huge amounts of food with absolutely no hunger at all. I know what it feels like when I'm actually hungry. But boredom or sadness will create a similar craving for food in me and I can literally just eat on and on. So I have to say I can't agree with the point you made about your body needing food if you feel the need to snack. That's only always true in people who already have a healthy relationship with food.
From Blair's recent videos it seems that she was in a very abusive relationship during this time which would explain a lot. I'm not saying it excuses the danger but it makes sense now.
As someone who has struggled with actual food insecurity, her comments about not keeping food in the house or pretending to share with your kid... man that kinda felt like a kick in the balls
When, as a straight-sized person, you lose weight (note: you were already a healthy weight before) it can make some of us not want to lose that smaller size/more defined muscles/leaner look. I know it's not healthy but I suffer from that too. When my weight started averaging ~5-7 lbs lighter than "normal" I was obsessed with keeping it there. I didn't consider that an abnormally high activity level led to the unintentional weight loss. The activity level wasn't sustainable; therefore, neither was the low weight. It's hard to tell oneself, "but I was completely healthy at the slightly higher weight and who cares/is judging me?" I feel for her. I get where she's coming from. She's telling herself it's low-effort when she's just gotten used to the self-torture (in my opinion). She's adorable and needs to be more kind to herself.
I sometimes eat fries as a meal but it's because when I'm at restaurants I'm most excited about the fries so I usually blow through all of them and then have to just take the burger home... lol. but it's not all the time. I'm vegetarian and therefore normally pretty diligent about getting protein and variety
Same, i felt so judged (kidding...). If i eat the whole portion of fries and some other dish i'm so full it triggers my acid reflux. But since i love fries sometimes i treat myself to some, despite the fact that i know it's not a well balanced meal. I'm consistent enough about including proteins in the rest of my meals that i know it's not going to be a problem on the long run. I've vegetarian as well.
Soo... I have a question, Abbey. When you talk about hunger crushing combos for snacks, what if you're not really hungry? I think I've heard you say before that intuitive eating includes eating for some other reasons than hunger. But how do I know if my 'strategies' for late night eating is healthy and not a covert disordered voice in the back of my head? What I mean is I have a feeling that a lot of my cravings for snacks between meals is actually just wanting something in my mouth or textures that are comforting etc. Does eating popcorn or popsicles as a strategy at night cross that line? Because they're definitely not balanced, but I can't say I haven't just crushed three popsicles in a row at night instead of eating other high calorie things... Any insight?
Popcorn isn't bad for you. And depending on what goes on it or into it it's a pretty safe snack even late at night. Do you enjoy the 3 popsicles? Or the popcorn? Are you mindlessly eating them? Do you feel hungry actually or are you feeling bored? Do you just want to be doing something late at night? You can test these things slowly by doing something else or by eating a well balanced snack instead. Replace the popsicles/popcorn with yogurt with some yummy toppings - like berries and nuts or seeds or nut butter. See how that makes you feel. And finally consult 2 people: a therapist and a registered dietician. There's a lot you can figure out for yourself but getting help is always best.
Abbey can you please do more collabs with Greg Doucette. When you guys actually combined your powers it was amazing how much you agreed. You and Greg are 2 of the most respected content creators and it benefits everyone when you work together. Even if you don’t agree on everything, people learn from both points of view
Every time she gets hard boiled eggs from a restaurant they are hating her in the kitchen. Unless it’s on the menu already, she’s lucky they will even prepare it.
I know this is "old" now but... if "someone" finds themselves watching this very uncomfortably because they realize that they have literally been doing all of these on and off, mostly on for the last 10 years.... What should they do? is this really THAT bad? What if they are still fat anyway?
In my teens until 20 yo I was very much food obsessed and restricting to the degrees of 300 cal daily. During then my weight fluctuated between 108- 125 pounds. Then I gave up being skinny, and started eating healthy balanced food. Then I realized that my body was naturally lean especially when I follow Chinese cuisine. There’s a reason why Asians are mostly lean: clean food, mostly homemade, and portion controlled.
This may be a stupid question, but why is Blair so rich? All the shopping, traveling, eating out; that's very expensive and she's not that big of a youtuber. What gives? No hate, just curiosity
She used to be so relatable and just funny without trying too hard, you know, just great in general. I used to feel better after watching her videos, now I’m more uncomfortable, even anxious after watching them because you can just FEEL something is not right. I hope she recovers from this phase soon…
I constantly struggle to actually eat a healthy amount of calories because I get full very quickly, I eat when I'm hungry and don't intentionally restrict food I just try to reach for more nutrient dense foods and even with snacks barely hit like 1300 a day so I highly doubt she's eating over 1500 calories.
this reminds me of the way i started eating after the bulk of my bariatric surgery recovery was over and i hadn’t re learned food yet ☹️. really hope she gets better
She did post a follow up video where she acknowledged this video and said she was getting professional help on her diet. She's been a lot more honest on where she is and how she is trying to get healthier. This video was definitely a misstep for her. I saw it as harmful for both her and her viewers. Hopefully she is getting to a better place.
I honestly feel like you may be over analyzing her video a bit.. yeah some stuff she said may not be the absolute healthiest, and some of her methods might trigger eating disorders for others, but overall she didn’t really do anything in an unhealthy way. I personally can NOT do intermittent fasting because I was a binge eater and that triggers me to binge. BUT I am 100% the same way about snacks.. if I have a bunch of snacks in the house I will eat them because they’re there.. not because my body is hungry. So I try not to keep snacks in the house, and if I do get hungry I eat.. just not typical “snack” food. She is sharing methods that worked for her and may work for others.. and at the rate she lost weight she was definitely not in a 1,000 calorie deficit. That’s a healthy rate to lose weight and I think you made a lot of assumptions to make her methods seem more unhealthy than they are.
In the deep of my eating disorder, I also fasted like 20 hrs or more everyday, and ate basically only veggies for my carb intake. I also described this a effortless lol. Obviously this isn't sustainable so it only lasted a few months before I gave myself a break, and went back at it again. I guess I was confused, because even though my mind was always on food and I was starving, I loved the feeling of being hungry. Ngl the only people who describe this eating pattern as "low effort" have an eating disorder, bc the only thing keeping you going is the satisfaction you get from not eating.
I really do hope that she realized that her video was problematic. I worry that the storm of criticism overwhelmed her and that she will not learn any lessons from how potentially damaging the video was. She seems like a sweet young lady. I hate to see her falling into a way of eating that can rob her of her youth.
Hi Abbey! I've been following you for quite some time now, and I really enjoy your content❤️ it's been helping me having a healthier and more sustainable relationship with food. I was wondering if you could do video on recovering from an eating disorder like bulimia, anorexia, etc. I've been struggling with bulimia for more than a decade and I'm currently in the recovery stage of my life. I'd love to hear your thoughts about it
Abbey thank you for making the internet a safer (more informed) place. I genuinely am so grateful to have a source of great information from such a lovely person. I didn't understand the scope of my ED but thanks to your channel, I was able to find a dietician and get the (life saving) help I needed. Also your recipes are fucking amazing - I'll be happily eating that sheet pan balsamic rosemary chicken for the rest of my life ! :P You're the best xoxox
Personally, for me, IF works really well to actually curb my binge eating. If I eat breakfast, or really early on in the day.. it instantly turns all of my craving/hunger cues on. Which means I'm hungry and craving aaallll day. Where as not eating until between 3-4PM and just having a nice big meal, and maybe a snack (If I'm still hungry, which I'm usually not) Will keep me satisfied all night. And I'm basically never craving anything, or wanting to binge through the day. Where as if I start eating earlier, I'm just focused on food all day. Which definitely isn't good for me.. Rather than being able to just ignore it until late afternoon. I'm also Neurodivergent (Both ADHD and Autism..) And Dishes/cleaning up is extremely hard for me.. So only having to clean up after one meal is way easier on me than having to clean up multiple times a day.. Or be overwhelmed at the end of the day by 3 meals worth of dishes.
while im pretty sure blair was raised in the US, she's eastern european just like me and i can't help but think about all the sayings and expressions that are so normalised about dieting and being fat around here im basically recovering from ana alone (since may!) and seeing this just makes me think about my most recent relapse and how hard it still is to eat with people around, etc im not excusing her behaviour but i do understand that this is a 'coping mechanism' because that's what eds are all about, feeling like you are in control. she's in my heart and i hope she gets the peace she deserves
Okay, okay! I'm ringing I'm ringiiing! 😂😂🔔❤️❤️ I actually barely eat 1500 calories per day. I just can't do it. And no, I luckily don't have any ED, I just am not used to eat that much. I'm currently slightly overweight after being underweight most of my life (again - I wasn't used to eat much) And of course my body is lacking. It's fun trying to get some minerals, especially iron. One of the reasons I subscribed. You know way more about this stuff, like DUH. So I'm glad I'm here. Your videos are sometimes really funny, honestly 😁
This video is 2 yrs old but I am actually doing what Blair's doing unintentionally because i kept me sharp and focus on a daily basis. I am an intermittent fasting fan for so long. There are times when i eat 2 meals but most often its OMAD. I only eat when I am hungry or I eat at 12nn and 4pm. Depending on the amount that i consume earlier matters if will eat dinner at 4pm or not. Yes i drink lots of water, coffee during breakfast hours, light exercises and stretching but I go to bed earlier or not past 11pm. My meals contains protein, veggies carbs and fruits. It's balance and I cook most of my meals. I rarely order or buy readymade food. Also I always incorporate boiled eggs with every meal. It actually made me feel great for the longest time and kept my weight stable. I don't count my calories or even worries about it. It's still important for me to exercise though to keep in shape and maintenance blood circulation to stabilize my mood.
Ah! The truth comes out! You had an ED! Now you've got savior complex! The ONLY reason I suffered through your holier than thou video is to listen to Blair's advice.
It’s heartbreaking how she’s obviously in a dark place but I also think it’s so irresponsible for her to promote such disordered eating to her young female fans! Can’t wait for her to feel like her old self agains x
I was doing exercise for about 700 cal a day, with eating about 800 cal a day, not realizing it’s not good for me until I had so low energy that I almost couln’t stand up to loose weight. At lasted a month. Now that I have seen your video, I eat more and feel better. I also have to exercise less for now because I still feel a bit week…
Abby, I am a recovering orthorexic and your videos have been so helpful. Intuitive eating has done wonders for my relationship with food and my body. My current problems is I am now on a medication that has the side effect of being a mild/moderate appetite suppressant. I can't go off the medication and its making it hard to listen to hunger cues. Do you have any tips for this?
I'm so glad my videos have been helpful for you! I have a recent video about weight gain that you might find helpful: ruclips.net/video/EfXIliDwJOc/видео.html
Did you know that your words have the power to tear someone down? They can also be used to build someone up! Right now Blair just needs time to heal. The best thing we can do is offer encouraging words and prayers. 😊
Hey Abbey! I hope you see this... I've been following you for a while now and have absolutely loved every single one of your videos and the messages you convey in them. I struggled with food addiction and binge eating, which got really bad after my dad passed away 2 years ago, and as a result I've gained a lot of weight. Your videos have helped me go back to a time when I had a healthy relationship with food and when I ate everything I wanted without guilt, and yet was at a healthy weight. I've been eating intuitively for over a month now and I have even managed to lose a little bit of weight, just because my body is going back to its natural set point. But the diet culture mentality is SO prevalent in social media, amongst my friends and everywhere I look really...I've started to crack. There's a voice in my head screaming at me that unless I count calories and eat just 1200 a day (I'm 5'3, so that's what all the apps say I should eat in order to lose weight), I'll never go back to a healthy weight. I want to start having children soon, but my current weight puts me just bellow the obese mark and has caused me numerous issues like sciatica and back pain, so I don't want to do it unless I feel my body can handle it. It really breaks my heart because I feel like the only way to lose the weight in the foreseeable future would be to go on a restrictive diet and I really don't want to do that, especially now when I've just started to successfully repair my relationship with food. I would really appreciate any sort of guidance, or information about how I should approach this issue. Thank you so much for reading, I hope you have a great day!
I'd also like to add that I am a person who eats LOTS of nutritious foods, who loves fruits and vegetables and has grown up on a Mediterranean diet. For this specific reason, I feel like calorie counting is especially cruel. I'd have to restrict healthy, nutritious foods and worry about the amount of olive oil I use in my salad or how calorically dense the 400 ml of fresh pressed orange juice I have in the morning is...It honestly feels like a punch in the gut. If I hear "calories in - calories out" one more time I will snap. I feel very lost and hopeless.
Thank you for sharing. I have a recent video about weight loss tips that you might find helpful! ruclips.net/video/lDNbBQAHKdg/видео.html&ab_channel=AbbeySharp
Ahh man I just discovered Blair and I adore her she’s so funny 😭 this is disappointing I hope she gets better tho. She seems like a decent person just going through a lot. No one is themselves during depression
Woahhh... I had been watching Blair for a long time and I had stopped for awhile as I had just hadnt watched RUclips... I loved her as she seemed to have a very healthy relationship to food. I hope she's okay.
Blair has definitely gone through something after her breakup with her fiance because her videos do seem more chaotic and stressful than before. I am sure that stress of the breakup reflected in her eating habits
I agree. I used to watch her all the time and thought she was so funny and after they broke up she started changing and it was very hard for me to watch. I really hope she gets help
I feel more empathetic than enraged. Yes, she’s an adult that should 100% be held accountable for giving these bad advices. But I think she also needs a lot of compassion atm. Calling off an engagement/long term relationship breaks you as a person, I’ve been there, esp. when her ex is now somehow already engaged again and publicly said mean things about Blair. I truly wish her well.
Completely agree!! Adults don’t know it all and we all get wrapped up in our problems or life struggles but I think this calls for education, empathy, and support for her 💛
Yes this is such a good take... not to mention her ex is clearly intent on lambasting her and is *engaged again.* poor Blair has no home - the Internet is the only place she lives. She seems so lost, I feel for her.
Nik isn't REALLY engaged. If you know how he is you'd know how much of a troll he is. He hasn't even been "physically romantic" with his "fiance" yet. It's a gag. He LITERALLY did an entire video of how him and Blair ended. They agreed to go to therapy and instead SHE decided to go on a Yacht with Azzyland and called Nik and said, "Therapy is for losers and she will never go to a therapist. She has bashed him many many many times on her Instagram and videos. She used to be such a lovely person that seemed to have such good morals and values. Yes, I completely understand the heartbroken state she is in. But she literally CHOSE to NOT fix her relationship. All men aren't dog water and to "get over someone" you shouldn't get "under someone." (Her advice) She has an extremely young fan base and personally in her recent videos she is setting horrible examples to her younger impressionable audience. I have been watching her for years and she has changed. Not for the better and it's so sad. She smokes cigs now...its just....idk. I hope she finds herself again. She TRULY seems like a sweetheart and kind soul. She has always had issues with her body. There is absolutely nothing wrong with therapy. Therapy is like a workout for your mental. As important as it is to exercise and work on your physical, it is the same when it comes to your mental.
I feel horrible for Blair. She used to have such a positive bubbly humour and a zest for food and Life in general. It's so heartbreaking to hear about her breakup and how it seems to be affecting her. I'll also say as far as her describing her diet as low effort: it definitely is low effort to not eat until well into the day when your experiencing depression. It is so much work for me to actually get up and eat when I'm in a depressed state to the point where I literally will wait until I'm about to pass out to put something in my body. I hope that's not what she's referencing, but I do understand kind of turning that into an intermittent fasting mindset.
I can relate. I went through a phase of severe depression for around a year. And yes, I wouldn't get up and eat even the food was already prepared and available for me to eat (food available in college mess). I will get up when either when I'm extremely fatigued from lack of food and water. I wouldn't get up even to bring a glass of water. Hopefully I am over that phase. I went under clinical supervision to overcome that.
Yep, when I was depressed and felt lonley it used to take me until mid afternoon to muster up the energy to eat but then I would snack on chips until midnight.
When I hear Blair talk about her eating habits, it really sounds like the voice my eating disorder has in my head. The downplaying of her restrictive eating, using hot drinks/soup to reduce hunger and consume less calories, etc is just so familiar to me as someone currently struggling with anorexia. I don't think she posted this realizing how triggering and dangerous it can be, I think she might be unaware or in denial that she has an eating disorder (not that I'm trying to diagnose her!)
honestly while her diet was kind of triggering I don’t even know if I can criticize her about it because I feel like she has been in a really awful place mentally. I just really hope she gets the help she needs
@@priyaravindran6150 exactly! She definitely should be criticized for posting it when she has a younger audience who might not understand that it’s so unhealthy
She's definitely going through a "mental health disturbance". She's basically admitted that she went off the rails with the hair bleaching because it gave her sense of control and accomplishment and I image it was the same case for the food. Ending her engagement and relationship must've been such a huge blow to her life.
Once again Abbey handles an extremely sensitive topic with eloquence and professionalism. Was a little worried this one would trigger me, but your insightful commentary helped majorly.
I know Blair pokes a lot of fun at herself but I had to unfollow her over a year ago because her humor about dieting and other things completely lacked the criticism needed to actually make it funny. So while I think she INTENDS to poke fun at content on the internet, it comes across as very empty to me.
I always felt like there was something off about her videos and you just put my feelings into words. That‘s exactly it, her videos do feel empty and lack some sort of reflections process about the things she tries to make fun of.
I totally agree! My OB suggested taking an iron supplement with a glass of OJ to help it absorb and for years I was so scared of "liquid calories". It was still a scary thing to buy orange juice but I've been drinking it every day without (much) guilt or fear. I'm a work in progress!
The fact that you said that 200 wasn’t a meal has actually made me feel so relieved, I try to eat vegan a lot and I see proportion sizes on all the packages and the calories for each and I notice 3 nuggets = 190 calories and it makes me so anxious and makes me feel like I should just have that so I do and then I binge in the end and I never understood why when I was eating the proportion I was told.
Portion sizes make no sense in the real world of a person eating, tbh idk what logiv there is behind, completely ignore them. Eat what you think is a fair amount for your needs. (I also never listen to the vegan nugget suggest portion, the other day I ate a whole pack of vegan bratwurst)
also know that eating veggie is way different than eating animal products. normally animal products have much more calories and fats in them than if you were to eat just veggie. also you do need to eat more on a veggie diet because eating a salad is not the same as eating it with steak. best way to stay heathly on a veggie diet is add mulitple groups of food in your meal and then you should cover the bases!
@Hannah Dailey this is such a big thing for me to realise. I stress when my meals are 300 calories +. I truly believe it comes from dieting since I was 11, but I'm working on it. Changing my mindset from weight loss to performance has helped. But it's still a hard mindset to shift.
I've been vegetarian since I was 12, so I've spent a lot of time trying to learn about how to have a balanced diet. With things like veggie nuggets, the portion size is set with the idea that they will be a side to a larger meal. 190 calories is a snack, not a meal. On days when you're feeling lazy and the nuggets are going to be your whole dinner, go ahead and eat multiple servings. If you have more energy, make some sides to go with the nuggets so you can have a full meal. Sometimes I like to put mine in a wrap or on a salad. I've also tossed fake chicken into a curry sauce with some veggies and put it over rice. I like to aim for a good variety of foods in my day rather than a specific calorie count. I think Abbey has a playlist of good vegan WIEIAD videos that you can watch for inspiration.
@@SimonMetin I see! I vape (because I quit smoking) and can concur that it suppresses appetite. (Please don’t tell me it’s unhealthy, it’s an addiction I know I need to stop. Also I’m 25 not a teen.)
the way she said she eats "between 1500 and 2000 calories" reminds me so much of the way i reassure people i'm eating enough... and i have an active eating disorder and am often, you know, lying. (i'm in treatment and working hard to get better - if you're reading this and you're struggling, you deserve recovery and i believe in you!)
This is why people yoyo diet and live miserably, even when weight loss is the goal. No reason you can't lose weight AND not be hungry. Listening to people like her and their extreme hot takes on nutrition. Abby you've seriously helped me with my disordered eating and education about nutrition SO MUCH. Thank you 💖💖💖
Also what is she 23 at the most? Please come talk to me after you've had some kids you're 30 you have to do way more than just not eat until noon. I feel like just not eating until noon and going on a few walks or whatever is a very twenty-year-old thing.
@@leahswenson7776 exactly. My metabolism has slowed heaps in my mid 30’s and with two tots and a secular job, I have little time. I used to have an ED in my teens and early 20’s so what’s she’s saying is similar to my thoughts back then. She’s preaching a toxic, shallow relationship with food. Interesting to see where she ends up in 10-15 years time.
@@leahswenson7776 you’d be surprised the effort ppl with EDs put in. I’d juggle school and long ballet classes every day while not eating until I got home at 7:30pm. Felt awful and on the verge of passing out or falling asleep all day but I still “fasted” while having things to do.
@@lilypoppy3388 I've had an ED and it consumed my every thought and my every action I took throughout the day. I still have issues with serious image issues. I'm sorry you have had to know the pain of an ED
As a mom of a little girl watching videos like this really makes my heart hurt for all the little girls struggling with body image and watching videos like hers. Really working on teaching my daughter that when you're hungry you need to honor your body and eat.
Same here. My daughter is 12 and already compares herself to her friends. It's a tough situation. Hopefully talking with them helps. I know my mom never talked to me about body image etc and I had dealt with body issues for years. I wished I had gotten support at home.
As much as I'm disappointed in her change I can't even feel upset at her because I know she's currently going through a traumatic experience with her breakup
She is still a grown adult who's completely responsible for her actions. She's intelligent, she's not stupid, she's far from it. She knows better than to romanticize and share her ED, yet she still chose to.
@@sharonngongo175 i agree with u, some ppl just lack empathy and compassion. everyone is growing and goes through ups and downs in life & sometimes ppl share hurtful ideas and advice, unintentionally - ppl forget that things aren't black and white
"wait until I'm so so so hungry that I want to flee the country" "share most of your food with your friends" "avoiding high calorie things" "hot liquids to keep your stomach full" "fries on their own as a meal" ....... This is *literally* how my eating disorder is currently operating. And it was like this without ever seeing her video.
Same, these were the same things I would say while in an inpatient unit regarding food. Being afraid restaurants were sneaking in oils and extra calories, only drinking hot drinks to curb hunger, the salad barely being lettuce and tomato?? Now on top of that I don't even believe shes eating as much as she says if shes eating breakfast at 3pm as she says, thats barely time to eat dinner before back to bed. She needs serious help and this is only going to get worse until she receives it.
@Kay E ah yes go watch 2 other people with severe eating disorders to 'calm down' there is no perspective when it comes to ED's that stupid little stigma that some people dont have it 'as bad' is such a shitty thing to say. Thats like me saying oh your cancer isnt that bad because you arent dead yet, cancer is cancer the dame way ed's are ed's.
As a mom, I really hope those of you who realize you have an eating disorder go and get the professional help you need. The fact that you recognize it makes me believe you are, but if you aren’t, please, please go seek out professional help.
i used to like watching her videos but she's changed a lot honestly and though I wasn't aware of her breakup etc, either way this and she is pretty triggering for me as a 15 year old trying to recover from anorexia so I chose to avoid her videos. thank you for sharing this :)
Just wanted to add a positive voice for you! I know recovering can be a struggle and wanted to remind you how strong you are! Every step towards recovery, no matter how small, is something to be celebrated. Keep on that path! You're not alone and many will cheer you on ❤
I'm so sorry that you had to go through that. I hope you are feeling much better now and have a lovely day. An ed is such a horrible thing I wish it was talked about more
@@liaasage thank you so much. To be honest, there are good days and bad days and it's really something you never 100% get rid off, but I am feeling better now than I did before. Thank you so much for your words...it means a lot more than you know! Hope you have a good day too!
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Hey at least she is honest how she got so skinny, most influencers don’t
@@Tania-rg7jp I think you’ll find it’s not healthy to eat one meal a day at all. That’s not enough to fuel an active body. There’s very little evidence to support the supposed benefits of intermittent fasting. I understand some people do this because of cultural or religious reasons - this video was not about that. This is not a healthy or safe way to lose weight. I think you’ll find abbey would agree with that
@@riribeasley4741 yea
completely agree. I do bodybuilding and powerlifting and eat very similar to Blaire. Its my sport. I also eat more flexibly when I am not competing. You will find a lot of athletes have to eat in a very 'obsessive way'. I love food and love life. But I know If I told people about what I eat during a prep I would get roasted by this dietitian. Sick of people pretending they can eat 3000 calories and be 10% fat. Truth is-they don't!
@@riribeasley4741 it is enough if you get enough calories from it. Shit you can still gain weight if you ate 3,000 calories (unless you’re a body builder or sum) in that one meal every day. It’s all about the calories not the frequency you eat.
Seriously!!
Thank you Abby ❤️🥺 appreciate you more than you know
I hope you're doing ok Blair 💕
I hope u can overcome this blair🥺❤️ we love u
Be kind to yourself Blair. Sending lots of love ❤️
Here for you 🥰 you've had a tough year
Take care of yourself. Be kind to you and your body.
I haven’t watched Blair in a super long time, this transformation is shocking.
SAME it's been a good two years.
This is not really a good representation of who she is, it's one anxious video that is all
Same. I don't know what to think
me too! I don’t really remember what her content was, but this still shocked me
Havent started the vid yet but I'm finding out from the comments her and nick broke up??!! 💔💔💔💔
I feel like this one vid of hers I haven't even seen entirely misrepresents her channel. She used to make a lot of "eating like____" vids that were super well researched and would even get into how they dressed and acted. It wasn't REALLY about losing weight, at least that's not what it felt like. It was about being open and honest about how diet culture really affects women at that age. She would always point out how terrible she felt on the harder diets and would show us her body in an effort to be relatable. I found her when I was trying to maintain my disordered eating habits and I stayed with her because it actually made me feel good to see that These Diets Do Not Work. And because her channel just didn't support my disorder eating ideas????
I feel like this review of her video was a bit unfair and was definitely looking for things to find disordered. I am still working through the vid and trying have an open mind.. but knowing Blair, I just dont think it's accurate...
I just want to say thank you so much Abbey im 14 and you have really helped me on my anorexia recovery and helping me to reconstruct my relationship with food. You’re genuinely such a knowledgable, warm hearted person and I’m so glad I found your channel. My mum really likes you too. thank you for everything you do❤️❤️
Thank you for sharing! I’m so glad my videos have been helpful for you ❤️
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Power to you hun. You can do this.
Hi Ellie :) I also had anorexia at 14 . I am 26 now, and life gets so much better trust me x
The thoughts will always be there but remember you are stronger than them.
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Thank you, Abbey ❤️ Lately I’ve been finding myself having the same thoughts as Blair- “drink hot teas and soups when you feel hungry”, “don’t eat from restaurants because you can’t control how they prepare it” and this was a big wake up call for me. I appreciate your channel so much
I'm so glad this video was helpful for you ❤
I’ve been feeling this way too.
I used to love Blair, but she has changed so much recently, and after this video of hers I had to say goodbye for my own recovery maintenance. I really hope she is okay.
I was really sick from celiac’s disease and then got my brain stuck in this weird mode where food was the enemy (not for weight reasons, but because accidentally eating gluten with celiac’s is awful- at least for me). So I realized recently I had gotten in the habit of eating around 700-1,000 calories/ day. The side effects are terrible. I’m building back up now and repairing my relationship with food. Food made me really sick for a long time because I was unaware of my allergies. All this to say: those calorically and nutritionally dense foods are my favorite right now. Ya girl adds olive oil to anything I can. I’m this week up to 1400 calories/day and continuing to build 🙌🏻
I'm so sorry for your experience, but so glad to hear you are doing better now ❤
I'm dealing with a similar issue but I have gastritis and acid reflux. I can't have anything in the capsaicin family. I didn't learn that from my doctor but from a culinarian friend. No peppers or tomatoes for me for at least a few years if I manage to heal my stomach. For a year after my diagnosis, I struggled to find food to eat and got to the point where I would just starve because it was less painful than my stomach feeling like it was on fire from being set off. Also, the fatigue from it all... horrible. All my doctor told me was what to avoid, not any ideas of what to eat so it's been not fun. I finally feel like I'm figuring it all out though. I have been at a steady weight for about a year now, I'm eating well and I feel pretty good.
Food aversion/allergies must feel nearly impossible to navigate and they can certainly lead to disordered eating if one isn’t careful. I’m sorry you went through that but I’m so proud of you for figuring it out and making it a priority to fuel your body.
I changed my diet for health reasons and was accidentally undereating. I'd been used to eating smaller amounts of calorie dense unhealthy foods (lots of sugar and highly processed food). The healthier foods I switched to filled me up after 800-1100 calories. After noticing I was below my healthy weight range, I tracked calories and realized I needed to make more changes to my diet--and I countinued to keep track until I learned how to meet my daily caloric needs. I also found out those calorie dense healthy foods are my friend! I love using avocado oil, avocados, eggs, peanut butter, cashews, almonds and almond flour, meat, etc. It's really hard to gain back weight once you go below your healthy weight range, especially if you are used to eating smaller portions. It took effort and I still have to pay attention, but I was able to increase calories over time and make it back to a healthy weight. I did lose some muscle and haven't gained all that back yet, but I can work on that later. I don't regret changing my diet at all (my health has improved), but it was definitely a learning curve--it was rough being underweight (did not feel good at all).
@@0nly0NE. I experienced the same thing! I needed to cut out a lot of food due to food intolerances and felt awful. I couldn't figure out why - I thought I was doing my body a favour. And I did, BUT I wasn't eating nearly enough. Calorie counting was a big no no in my mind but it really helped me once I tried it. It helped me figure out the proper amounts of food I need to eat in order to not slip into a drastic calorie deficit. Lesson learned!
holy shit, this is literally a list of pro-ana tips.
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Wow, this is like exactly how I ate when I was in a bad place. I lost 30lbs and ended up underweight, tired, cranky and 100 times more anxious. Poor Blair, I hope she gets help :(
I'm so sorry for your experience. I hope she is able to find the help she needs too
I had the exact same effect super tired always sore, always cold🥶😰
@@cherish7279 yes!!! being cold walking outside in the middle of July should have been a wakeup call for me
I did too after breaking up with my boyfriend of 6 years I went from 135lbs to 120 in a month and a half. I didn’t eat hardly anything at all, I over exercised every day, worked overtime, only drank alcohol and ate crackers occasionally.. it was very unhealthy but I was just too upset to eat. I remember feeling like my heart was literally going to give out and feeling on the verge of collapsing often. I have gained back 5 in the past 4 months, but the sad part is that was the only time I’ve ever felt confident about my body because I was able to tell myself no so easily.
These are pretty much all of the tactics that I used to use when I was struggling with disordered eating. I hope she manages to find a healthier way to view food
I can only imagine if my fiancé broke up with me, it would fuck up my life including my diet and my self-esteem.
For sure. I hope she is able to find the help she needs
20 lbs in three months with these shenanigans? I lost 17 in three months decreasing added sugar, adding whole food, upping protein intake and making sure I eat enough to avoid binges. Her tips are disordered. I found focusing on health and vitality naturally leads to weight reduction without torture.
She probably would have a pretty hard time loosing any weight since she, to begin with, was not overweight and pretty small actually, so the weigh wouldn't naturally just drop with just some small adjustments
Abbey, have you ever done a video about your history with EDs before? You have always seemed so grounded, I'd be interested to know more about where you came from and how were able to get to the amazing place you're in today. 🙏
I have an older video about this topic on my channel: ruclips.net/video/lDmkSlyLFpM/видео.html
I just want to say that I really appreciate your approach and methods. In my youth, I had to see dieticians who told me to cut out certain foods or insulted my choices.
I developed a chronic illness 5 years ago and was so nervous when at one point when I had to work with a dietician to figure out if I was having blood sugar spikes and crashes. Luckily, their approach was so much better than those I saw as a child.
Your videos have been really helpful on my journey to change how I view food and they help me remember that my experience and food needs are more important than what others say to me.
i lost 20 pounds in a month or two after my aunt died because of the stress and depression. it’s trauma
Grateful for this video and glad for the sympathy and honest disappointment you showed in it. As a subscriber of Blair's, I was really saddened to see how she addressed the deleted video with her diet tips. I hope she's okay. I'm still rooting for her.
Thank you. I hope she is able to find the help she needs
"ur body is gonna hack that hack" loool this is my first video of urs and im already in love w ur personality
Hey Abbey,
I would be really interested in a video on salt intake and what a healthy level looks like. Salt is definitely one of my fear ingredients!
I'm a recovering addict and I've LEGIT lost 20 lbs in 2 weeks. I was actually slowly starving. 10/10 would not recommend.
I knew Blair was not okay before she even made that video. I’ve been a subscriber of her for a while now and I was worried for her, I still am.
as someone who is in recovery, i honestly just feel bad for her. i used to be like this and i felt terrible all the time i literally lost my entire personality and was merely surviving. i feel for her but she shouldnt have posted that.
Dude, intermittent fasting FUCKED me up. Save yourself, because this turned me from someone that had always had a fairly easy time living in a healthy weight range into a a person with some serious binge eating issues…
Same , I went into the hole of psychological hunger and having massive binge episodes
So did I! I never binged and it started after I started intermittent fasting
I have done or still actively do many of the so called "Hacks" Blair suggested, the thing is, I have a bloody eating disorder, I have been diagnosed and am in therapy, fighting to overcome it. What she calls "hacks" are literally part of mine and so many other ED sufferers' behaviour, and the fact that she promotes this -even if she does not suffer from ED herself- feels so terribly wrong!! Thank you Abbey, for bringing attention to this quite problematic piece of information. As for Blair, I'm glad she was responsible enough to take the video down, hope she is doing quite alright and working on positively changing her mindset and approach to nourishment.
Tbh there are people (like me) who can just eat huge amounts of food with absolutely no hunger at all. I know what it feels like when I'm actually hungry. But boredom or sadness will create a similar craving for food in me and I can literally just eat on and on. So I have to say I can't agree with the point you made about your body needing food if you feel the need to snack. That's only always true in people who already have a healthy relationship with food.
From Blair's recent videos it seems that she was in a very abusive relationship during this time which would explain a lot. I'm not saying it excuses the danger but it makes sense now.
As someone who has struggled with actual food insecurity, her comments about not keeping food in the house or pretending to share with your kid... man that kinda felt like a kick in the balls
When, as a straight-sized person, you lose weight (note: you were already a healthy weight before) it can make some of us not want to lose that smaller size/more defined muscles/leaner look. I know it's not healthy but I suffer from that too. When my weight started averaging ~5-7 lbs lighter than "normal" I was obsessed with keeping it there. I didn't consider that an abnormally high activity level led to the unintentional weight loss. The activity level wasn't sustainable; therefore, neither was the low weight. It's hard to tell oneself, "but I was completely healthy at the slightly higher weight and who cares/is judging me?" I feel for her. I get where she's coming from. She's telling herself it's low-effort when she's just gotten used to the self-torture (in my opinion). She's adorable and needs to be more kind to herself.
Agreed, thank you for sharing. I hope she is able to find the help she needs
Also, if we're supposed to eat earlier in the day, why am I never that hungry in the morning?
There’s some hormone that is released when we get a good nights rest that suppresses hunger.
I sometimes eat fries as a meal but it's because when I'm at restaurants I'm most excited about the fries so I usually blow through all of them and then have to just take the burger home... lol. but it's not all the time. I'm vegetarian and therefore normally pretty diligent about getting protein and variety
Whatever works best for you!
Same, i felt so judged (kidding...). If i eat the whole portion of fries and some other dish i'm so full it triggers my acid reflux. But since i love fries sometimes i treat myself to some, despite the fact that i know it's not a well balanced meal. I'm consistent enough about including proteins in the rest of my meals that i know it's not going to be a problem on the long run. I've vegetarian as well.
Was watching this and got a Deliveroo ad… thank you RUclips for reminding us to treat ourselves!!
I like how honest Blair is...
Soo... I have a question, Abbey. When you talk about hunger crushing combos for snacks, what if you're not really hungry? I think I've heard you say before that intuitive eating includes eating for some other reasons than hunger. But how do I know if my 'strategies' for late night eating is healthy and not a covert disordered voice in the back of my head?
What I mean is I have a feeling that a lot of my cravings for snacks between meals is actually just wanting something in my mouth or textures that are comforting etc. Does eating popcorn or popsicles as a strategy at night cross that line? Because they're definitely not balanced, but I can't say I haven't just crushed three popsicles in a row at night instead of eating other high calorie things... Any insight?
Popcorn isn't bad for you. And depending on what goes on it or into it it's a pretty safe snack even late at night.
Do you enjoy the 3 popsicles? Or the popcorn? Are you mindlessly eating them? Do you feel hungry actually or are you feeling bored? Do you just want to be doing something late at night?
You can test these things slowly by doing something else or by eating a well balanced snack instead.
Replace the popsicles/popcorn with yogurt with some yummy toppings - like berries and nuts or seeds or nut butter. See how that makes you feel.
And finally consult 2 people: a therapist and a registered dietician.
There's a lot you can figure out for yourself but getting help is always best.
Abbey can you please do more collabs with Greg Doucette. When you guys actually combined your powers it was amazing how much you agreed. You and Greg are 2 of the most respected content creators and it benefits everyone when you work together. Even if you don’t agree on everything, people learn from both points of view
Every time she gets hard boiled eggs from a restaurant they are hating her in the kitchen. Unless it’s on the menu already, she’s lucky they will even prepare it.
I know this is "old" now but... if "someone" finds themselves watching this very uncomfortably because they realize that they have literally been doing all of these on and off, mostly on for the last 10 years.... What should they do? is this really THAT bad? What if they are still fat anyway?
In my teens until 20 yo I was very much food obsessed and restricting to the degrees of 300 cal daily. During then my weight fluctuated between 108- 125 pounds. Then I gave up being skinny, and started eating healthy balanced food. Then I realized that my body was naturally lean especially when I follow Chinese cuisine. There’s a reason why Asians are mostly lean: clean food, mostly homemade, and portion controlled.
okay but we should really be calling out the beauty standards that make women hate their bodies
Love your work abby. You are.changing the views on food and nutrition. Thank you and God bless x
Thank you so much!
Did anyone else jump out of their seat for joy when she reveals the Cookies and Cream bar and the FFVII Victory Music plays?!?! I am such a nerd. 🤓
This may be a stupid question, but why is Blair so rich? All the shopping, traveling, eating out; that's very expensive and she's not that big of a youtuber. What gives? No hate, just curiosity
believe she said in her vid she has a sugar daddy lol
Before I even get into the juicy video, that intro with the built bar made my day!!
She used to be so relatable and just funny without trying too hard, you know, just great in general. I used to feel better after watching her videos, now I’m more uncomfortable, even anxious after watching them because you can just FEEL something is not right. I hope she recovers from this phase soon…
I hope so too
This was such a helpful and insightful video, super thank youuu Abbey for your input!!😊
I haven't gotten hangry since before I fucked up my eating habits like 7 years ago.
I constantly struggle to actually eat a healthy amount of calories because I get full very quickly, I eat when I'm hungry and don't intentionally restrict food I just try to reach for more nutrient dense foods and even with snacks barely hit like 1300 a day so I highly doubt she's eating over 1500 calories.
this reminds me of the way i started eating after the bulk of my bariatric surgery recovery was over and i hadn’t re learned food yet ☹️. really hope she gets better
I loved 'your body is gonna hack that hack!'
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Ive been waiting for you to review her!!!!!!!
She did post a follow up video where she acknowledged this video and said she was getting professional help on her diet. She's been a lot more honest on where she is and how she is trying to get healthier. This video was definitely a misstep for her. I saw it as harmful for both her and her viewers. Hopefully she is getting to a better place.
Thank you for letting me know, I'll have a look at that
I honestly feel like you may be over analyzing her video a bit.. yeah some stuff she said may not be the absolute healthiest, and some of her methods might trigger eating disorders for others, but overall she didn’t really do anything in an unhealthy way. I personally can NOT do intermittent fasting because I was a binge eater and that triggers me to binge. BUT I am 100% the same way about snacks.. if I have a bunch of snacks in the house I will eat them because they’re there.. not because my body is hungry. So I try not to keep snacks in the house, and if I do get hungry I eat.. just not typical “snack” food. She is sharing methods that worked for her and may work for others.. and at the rate she lost weight she was definitely not in a 1,000 calorie deficit. That’s a healthy rate to lose weight and I think you made a lot of assumptions to make her methods seem more unhealthy than they are.
watching this again, she appears to be doing much better now
In the deep of my eating disorder, I also fasted like 20 hrs or more everyday, and ate basically only veggies for my carb intake. I also described this a effortless lol. Obviously this isn't sustainable so it only lasted a few months before I gave myself a break, and went back at it again. I guess I was confused, because even though my mind was always on food and I was starving, I loved the feeling of being hungry. Ngl the only people who describe this eating pattern as "low effort" have an eating disorder, bc the only thing keeping you going is the satisfaction you get from not eating.
Oh wow, I'm sorry for your experience. I hope you are doing alright now
I really do hope that she realized that her video was problematic. I worry that the storm of criticism overwhelmed her and that she will not learn any lessons from how potentially damaging the video was. She seems like a sweet young lady. I hate to see her falling into a way of eating that can rob her of her youth.
I agree. I hope she is able to find the help she needs
Hi Abbey! I've been following you for quite some time now, and I really enjoy your content❤️ it's been helping me having a healthier and more sustainable relationship with food. I was wondering if you could do video on recovering from an eating disorder like bulimia, anorexia, etc. I've been struggling with bulimia for more than a decade and I'm currently in the recovery stage of my life. I'd love to hear your thoughts about it
I can put this on my list to discuss!
Abbey thank you for making the internet a safer (more informed) place.
I genuinely am so grateful to have a source of great information from such a lovely person. I didn't understand the scope of my ED but thanks to your channel, I was able to find a dietician and get the (life saving) help I needed.
Also your recipes are fucking amazing - I'll be happily eating that sheet pan balsamic rosemary chicken for the rest of my life ! :P
You're the best xoxox
Aw thank you so much, I'm so glad you enjoy the videos and the recipes! ❤
Peanut butter is such a great energy food for me. I dont understand the hate it gets. I love it!
Personally, for me, IF works really well to actually curb my binge eating. If I eat breakfast, or really early on in the day.. it instantly turns all of my craving/hunger cues on. Which means I'm hungry and craving aaallll day. Where as not eating until between 3-4PM and just having a nice big meal, and maybe a snack (If I'm still hungry, which I'm usually not) Will keep me satisfied all night. And I'm basically never craving anything, or wanting to binge through the day. Where as if I start eating earlier, I'm just focused on food all day. Which definitely isn't good for me.. Rather than being able to just ignore it until late afternoon.
I'm also Neurodivergent (Both ADHD and Autism..) And Dishes/cleaning up is extremely hard for me.. So only having to clean up after one meal is way easier on me than having to clean up multiple times a day.. Or be overwhelmed at the end of the day by 3 meals worth of dishes.
The beginning of the video, that’s exactly how my mum wants me to lose weight and extactly how I ended up with binge eating disorder :/
while im pretty sure blair was raised in the US, she's eastern european just like me and i can't help but think about all the sayings and expressions that are so normalised about dieting and being fat around here
im basically recovering from ana alone (since may!) and seeing this just makes me think about my most recent relapse and how hard it still is to eat with people around, etc
im not excusing her behaviour but i do understand that this is a 'coping mechanism' because that's what eds are all about, feeling like you are in control. she's in my heart and i hope she gets the peace she deserves
Thank you for sharing. I definitely hope she is able to find the help she needs
Okay, okay! I'm ringing I'm ringiiing! 😂😂🔔❤️❤️
I actually barely eat 1500 calories per day. I just can't do it. And no, I luckily don't have any ED, I just am not used to eat that much. I'm currently slightly overweight after being underweight most of my life (again - I wasn't used to eat much)
And of course my body is lacking.
It's fun trying to get some minerals, especially iron.
One of the reasons I subscribed. You know way more about this stuff, like DUH. So I'm glad I'm here. Your videos are sometimes really funny, honestly 😁
Atleast she's honest. If it works for her and she's happy then GOOD FOR HER. She's telling her diet NOT telling other's to do as her.
This video is 2 yrs old but I am actually doing what Blair's doing unintentionally because i kept me sharp and focus on a daily basis. I am an intermittent fasting fan for so long. There are times when i eat 2 meals but most often its OMAD. I only eat when I am hungry or I eat at 12nn and 4pm. Depending on the amount that i consume earlier matters if will eat dinner at 4pm or not. Yes i drink lots of water, coffee during breakfast hours, light exercises and stretching but I go to bed earlier or not past 11pm. My meals contains protein, veggies carbs and fruits. It's balance and I cook most of my meals. I rarely order or buy readymade food. Also I always incorporate boiled eggs with every meal. It actually made me feel great for the longest time and kept my weight stable. I don't count my calories or even worries about it. It's still important for me to exercise though to keep in shape and maintenance blood circulation to stabilize my mood.
Ah! The truth comes out! You had an ED! Now you've got savior complex! The ONLY reason I suffered through your holier than thou video is to listen to Blair's advice.
It’s heartbreaking how she’s obviously in a dark place but I also think it’s so irresponsible for her to promote such disordered eating to her young female fans! Can’t wait for her to feel like her old self agains x
I definitely hope she is able to find the help she needs
I was doing exercise for about 700 cal a day, with eating about 800 cal a day, not realizing it’s not good for me until I had so low energy that I almost couln’t stand up to loose weight. At lasted a month. Now that I have seen your video, I eat more and feel better. I also have to exercise less for now because I still feel a bit week…
She’s describing binges and you’re response is, “you’re hungry.” No. She’s binging and gain control through restriction.
Abby, I am a recovering orthorexic and your videos have been so helpful. Intuitive eating has done wonders for my relationship with food and my body. My current problems is I am now on a medication that has the side effect of being a mild/moderate appetite suppressant. I can't go off the medication and its making it hard to listen to hunger cues. Do you have any tips for this?
I'm so glad my videos have been helpful for you! I have a recent video about weight gain that you might find helpful: ruclips.net/video/EfXIliDwJOc/видео.html
@@AbbeysKitchen thank you!
i commented on her ig when this video came out saying i loved her n i was concerned and she blocked me😭
Did you know that your words have the power to tear someone down? They can also be used to build someone up! Right now Blair just needs time to heal. The best thing we can do is offer encouraging words and prayers. 😊
Not me having a cold and only eating mac and cheese and pizza for the week because i'm sick so I deserve it
I hate how u say everything is eating disorder behaviour. I actually have an ed and pray I could eat anything like this
I’ve lost 20lbs in 3 months, I wouldn’t call it healthy
I'm worried about Blair someone please check in on her
Me too. I hope she is able to find the help she needs
Hey Abbey! I hope you see this...
I've been following you for a while now and have absolutely loved every single one of your videos and the messages you convey in them.
I struggled with food addiction and binge eating, which got really bad after my dad passed away 2 years ago, and as a result I've gained a lot of weight. Your videos have helped me go back to a time when I had a healthy relationship with food and when I ate everything I wanted without guilt, and yet was at a healthy weight. I've been eating intuitively for over a month now and I have even managed to lose a little bit of weight, just because my body is going back to its natural set point. But the diet culture mentality is SO prevalent in social media, amongst my friends and everywhere I look really...I've started to crack. There's a voice in my head screaming at me that unless I count calories and eat just 1200 a day (I'm 5'3, so that's what all the apps say I should eat in order to lose weight), I'll never go back to a healthy weight.
I want to start having children soon, but my current weight puts me just bellow the obese mark and has caused me numerous issues like sciatica and back pain, so I don't want to do it unless I feel my body can handle it. It really breaks my heart because I feel like the only way to lose the weight in the foreseeable future would be to go on a restrictive diet and I really don't want to do that, especially now when I've just started to successfully repair my relationship with food.
I would really appreciate any sort of guidance, or information about how I should approach this issue.
Thank you so much for reading, I hope you have a great day!
I'd also like to add that I am a person who eats LOTS of nutritious foods, who loves fruits and vegetables and has grown up on a Mediterranean diet. For this specific reason, I feel like calorie counting is especially cruel. I'd have to restrict healthy, nutritious foods and worry about the amount of olive oil I use in my salad or how calorically dense the 400 ml of fresh pressed orange juice I have in the morning is...It honestly feels like a punch in the gut. If I hear "calories in - calories out" one more time I will snap. I feel very lost and hopeless.
Thank you for sharing. I have a recent video about weight loss tips that you might find helpful! ruclips.net/video/lDNbBQAHKdg/видео.html&ab_channel=AbbeySharp
Ahh man I just discovered Blair and I adore her she’s so funny 😭 this is disappointing I hope she gets better tho. She seems like a decent person just going through a lot. No one is themselves during depression
20 Pounds in 3 months is about 1.5 pounds per week, not 1.7. There are 13 weeks in 3 months.
Woahhh... I had been watching Blair for a long time and I had stopped for awhile as I had just hadnt watched RUclips... I loved her as she seemed to have a very healthy relationship to food. I hope she's okay.
I know you have done a review on Shakeology but can do a video on the Beach Body 21 day fix?
I’ll have a look at that!
Blair has definitely gone through something after her breakup with her fiance because her videos do seem more chaotic and stressful than before. I am sure that stress of the breakup reflected in her eating habits
She was with Nick for years. She probably is having a rough time with it and she isn't able to deal with the fact it's over
Possibly. I hope she is able to find the help she needs
@@heyheyhey7988 I think Blaire said it was mutual
I agree. I used to watch her all the time and thought she was so funny and after they broke up she started changing and it was very hard for me to watch. I really hope she gets help
I can't imagine the pain she is going through. I don't know who she is but having an engagement/relationship end would be so tough.
I feel more empathetic than enraged. Yes, she’s an adult that should 100% be held accountable for giving these bad advices. But I think she also needs a lot of compassion atm. Calling off an engagement/long term relationship breaks you as a person, I’ve been there, esp. when her ex is now somehow already engaged again and publicly said mean things about Blair. I truly wish her well.
Me too. I hope she is able to find the help she needs
Completely agree!! Adults don’t know it all and we all get wrapped up in our problems or life struggles but I think this calls for education, empathy, and support for her 💛
Yes this is such a good take... not to mention her ex is clearly intent on lambasting her and is *engaged again.* poor Blair has no home - the Internet is the only place she lives. She seems so lost, I feel for her.
Omg he’s already engaged? Heartbreaking. Sending lots of love to B 💕
Nik isn't REALLY engaged. If you know how he is you'd know how much of a troll he is. He hasn't even been "physically romantic" with his "fiance" yet. It's a gag. He LITERALLY did an entire video of how him and Blair ended. They agreed to go to therapy and instead SHE decided to go on a Yacht with Azzyland and called Nik and said, "Therapy is for losers and she will never go to a therapist. She has bashed him many many many times on her Instagram and videos.
She used to be such a lovely person that seemed to have such good morals and values. Yes, I completely understand the heartbroken state she is in. But she literally CHOSE to NOT fix her relationship. All men aren't dog water and to "get over someone" you shouldn't get "under someone." (Her advice) She has an extremely young fan base and personally in her recent videos she is setting horrible examples to her younger impressionable audience.
I have been watching her for years and she has changed. Not for the better and it's so sad. She smokes cigs now...its just....idk. I hope she finds herself again. She TRULY seems like a sweetheart and kind soul.
She has always had issues with her body. There is absolutely nothing wrong with therapy. Therapy is like a workout for your mental. As important as it is to exercise and work on your physical, it is the same when it comes to your mental.
I feel horrible for Blair. She used to have such a positive bubbly humour and a zest for food and Life in general. It's so heartbreaking to hear about her breakup and how it seems to be affecting her. I'll also say as far as her describing her diet as low effort: it definitely is low effort to not eat until well into the day when your experiencing depression. It is so much work for me to actually get up and eat when I'm in a depressed state to the point where I literally will wait until I'm about to pass out to put something in my body. I hope that's not what she's referencing, but I do understand kind of turning that into an intermittent fasting mindset.
Your last sentence is what my shrink told me few months ago
Absolutely. I hope she is able to find the help she needs
I can relate. I went through a phase of severe depression for around a year. And yes, I wouldn't get up and eat even the food was already prepared and available for me to eat (food available in college mess). I will get up when either when I'm extremely fatigued from lack of food and water. I wouldn't get up even to bring a glass of water. Hopefully I am over that phase. I went under clinical supervision to overcome that.
Yep, when I was depressed and felt lonley it used to take me until mid afternoon to muster up the energy to eat but then I would snack on chips until midnight.
That is so true and relatable 😐
When I hear Blair talk about her eating habits, it really sounds like the voice my eating disorder has in my head. The downplaying of her restrictive eating, using hot drinks/soup to reduce hunger and consume less calories, etc is just so familiar to me as someone currently struggling with anorexia. I don't think she posted this realizing how triggering and dangerous it can be, I think she might be unaware or in denial that she has an eating disorder (not that I'm trying to diagnose her!)
I understand, I’m so sorry it’s triggering for you. I hope she is able to find the help she needs
she also is super addicted to vapes and probably uses it as an appetite suppressant !!!
She does have an eating disorder.
She cares about her appearance and doesn't want to look fat.
I used to watch Blair a lot but I had to stop because I could see how disordered was her eating.
This is so triggering for me too. I'm also suffering with anorexia.
honestly while her diet was kind of triggering I don’t even know if I can criticize her about it because I feel like she has been in a really awful place mentally. I just really hope she gets the help she needs
I hope so too
She can be criticized for posting it online though.
yes, it was super triggering to me too, i used to do this and think it was the "right way" to eat healthy, i also hope she finds help
@@priyaravindran6150 exactly! She definitely should be criticized for posting it when she has a younger audience who might not understand that it’s so unhealthy
@@katherine5797 she deleted it.
She's definitely going through a "mental health disturbance". She's basically admitted that she went off the rails with the hair bleaching because it gave her sense of control and accomplishment and I image it was the same case for the food. Ending her engagement and relationship must've been such a huge blow to her life.
I can’t even imagine. I went through break up recently and we only dated 10 months. Reminds you how hard they can be. Hope she heals soon!
Oh wow. I hope she is doing alright and is able to find the help she needs
Not a class act to speculate in someone elses life and mental state :)
Once again Abbey handles an extremely sensitive topic with eloquence and professionalism. Was a little worried this one would trigger me, but your insightful commentary helped majorly.
Thank you so much, I'm so glad it was helpful ❤
how are you not enraged that shes basically uploaded this again for ppl to find and use ??
@@alabaz2302 what are you talking about?
her "low effort diet" sounds awfully similar to the rules i started putting up for myself, right before going off the ED deep end.
I'm so early, I have no comments to read
Read this 🤣😂🤣
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@@AbbeysKitchen 👸🤩🙌
well that’s impressive
ya reallypueott
I know Blair pokes a lot of fun at herself but I had to unfollow her over a year ago because her humor about dieting and other things completely lacked the criticism needed to actually make it funny. So while I think she INTENDS to poke fun at content on the internet, it comes across as very empty to me.
I understand. I’m sorry if those jokes were triggering for you
I always felt like there was something off about her videos and you just put my feelings into words. That‘s exactly it, her videos do feel empty and lack some sort of reflections process about the things she tries to make fun of.
That's what happened to me around the same time. Initially I felt she was very positive in general, but that eventually wore away.
Couldn’t say it better
SAME. Still care for the girl but things were getting weird.
Because of Abbey, I have a better relationship with food.
I’m so glad ❤️
I was just thinking the same thing 🥰
I totally agree! My OB suggested taking an iron supplement with a glass of OJ to help it absorb and for years I was so scared of "liquid calories". It was still a scary thing to buy orange juice but I've been drinking it every day without (much) guilt or fear. I'm a work in progress!
Same here!
Same
The fact that you said that 200 wasn’t a meal has actually made me feel so relieved, I try to eat vegan a lot and I see proportion sizes on all the packages and the calories for each and I notice 3 nuggets = 190 calories and it makes me so anxious and makes me feel like I should just have that so I do and then I binge in the end and I never understood why when I was eating the proportion I was told.
Portion sizes make no sense in the real world of a person eating, tbh idk what logiv there is behind, completely ignore them. Eat what you think is a fair amount for your needs. (I also never listen to the vegan nugget suggest portion, the other day I ate a whole pack of vegan bratwurst)
also know that eating veggie is way different than eating animal products. normally animal products have much more calories and fats in them than if you were to eat just veggie. also you do need to eat more on a veggie diet because eating a salad is not the same as eating it with steak. best way to stay heathly on a veggie diet is add mulitple groups of food in your meal and then you should cover the bases!
@Hannah Dailey this is such a big thing for me to realise. I stress when my meals are 300 calories +.
I truly believe it comes from dieting since I was 11, but I'm working on it. Changing my mindset from weight loss to performance has helped. But it's still a hard mindset to shift.
I've been vegetarian since I was 12, so I've spent a lot of time trying to learn about how to have a balanced diet. With things like veggie nuggets, the portion size is set with the idea that they will be a side to a larger meal. 190 calories is a snack, not a meal. On days when you're feeling lazy and the nuggets are going to be your whole dinner, go ahead and eat multiple servings. If you have more energy, make some sides to go with the nuggets so you can have a full meal. Sometimes I like to put mine in a wrap or on a salad. I've also tossed fake chicken into a curry sauce with some veggies and put it over rice. I like to aim for a good variety of foods in my day rather than a specific calorie count. I think Abbey has a playlist of good vegan WIEIAD videos that you can watch for inspiration.
Those portions are definitely not supposed to make an entire meal, just a part of one. I'm glad that part was helpful for you!
A major thing she failed to mention is that she started smoking a lot.
Wow!! Why am l not suprised.
Weed or cigarettes?
@@sallysmith7664 cigarettes and vaping (nicotine). Aka hunger suppressants. No mention of weed.
@@SimonMetin I see! I vape (because I quit smoking) and can concur that it suppresses appetite. (Please don’t tell me it’s unhealthy, it’s an addiction I know I need to stop. Also I’m 25 not a teen.)
@@sallysmith7664 I won’t preach here even though I’m a doctor haha
the way she said she eats "between 1500 and 2000 calories" reminds me so much of the way i reassure people i'm eating enough... and i have an active eating disorder and am often, you know, lying. (i'm in treatment and working hard to get better - if you're reading this and you're struggling, you deserve recovery and i believe in you!)
I hope you are doing alright ❤
It's a process, not perfection, body wise, or in other ways. A great quote from Buddha- "Perfectionism is self abuse of the highest order."
This is why people yoyo diet and live miserably, even when weight loss is the goal. No reason you can't lose weight AND not be hungry. Listening to people like her and their extreme hot takes on nutrition. Abby you've seriously helped me with my disordered eating and education about nutrition SO MUCH. Thank you 💖💖💖
I’m so glad my videos are helpful for you! ❤️
Also what is she 23 at the most? Please come talk to me after you've had some kids you're 30 you have to do way more than just not eat until noon. I feel like just not eating until noon and going on a few walks or whatever is a very twenty-year-old thing.
@@leahswenson7776 exactly. My metabolism has slowed heaps in my mid 30’s and with two tots and a secular job, I have little time. I used to have an ED in my teens and early 20’s so what’s she’s saying is similar to my thoughts back then. She’s preaching a toxic, shallow relationship with food. Interesting to see where she ends up in 10-15 years time.
@@leahswenson7776 you’d be surprised the effort ppl with EDs put in. I’d juggle school and long ballet classes every day while not eating until I got home at 7:30pm. Felt awful and on the verge of passing out or falling asleep all day but I still “fasted” while having things to do.
@@lilypoppy3388 I've had an ED and it consumed my every thought and my every action I took throughout the day. I still have issues with serious image issues. I'm sorry you have had to know the pain of an ED
As a mom of a little girl watching videos like this really makes my heart hurt for all the little girls struggling with body image and watching videos like hers. Really working on teaching my daughter that when you're hungry you need to honor your body and eat.
Me too. I hope she is able to find the help she needs
Same here. My daughter is 12 and already compares herself to her friends. It's a tough situation. Hopefully talking with them helps. I know my mom never talked to me about body image etc and I had dealt with body issues for years. I wished I had gotten support at home.
YOU basically reuploaded it...@@AbbeysKitchen
As much as I'm disappointed in her change I can't even feel upset at her because I know she's currently going through a traumatic experience with her breakup
She is still a grown adult who's completely responsible for her actions. She's intelligent, she's not stupid, she's far from it. She knows better than to romanticize and share her ED, yet she still chose to.
@@corablah9809 Exactly. No one gets a free pass to promote diet culture because they're going through shit. We ALL go through shit.
I’m sorry about that. I hope she is able to find the help she needs
@@findingkia3971 but no one is perfect. Maybe she really didn’t think that what she’s doing is wrong.
@@sharonngongo175 i agree with u, some ppl just lack empathy and compassion. everyone is growing and goes through ups and downs in life & sometimes ppl share hurtful ideas and advice, unintentionally - ppl forget that things aren't black and white
"wait until I'm so so so hungry that I want to flee the country" "share most of your food with your friends" "avoiding high calorie things" "hot liquids to keep your stomach full" "fries on their own as a meal"
....... This is *literally* how my eating disorder is currently operating. And it was like this without ever seeing her video.
Same, these were the same things I would say while in an inpatient unit regarding food. Being afraid restaurants were sneaking in oils and extra calories, only drinking hot drinks to curb hunger, the salad barely being lettuce and tomato?? Now on top of that I don't even believe shes eating as much as she says if shes eating breakfast at 3pm as she says, thats barely time to eat dinner before back to bed. She needs serious help and this is only going to get worse until she receives it.
same girl i am in recovery right now but i felt called out lol
@Kay E ah yes go watch 2 other people with severe eating disorders to 'calm down' there is no perspective when it comes to ED's that stupid little stigma that some people dont have it 'as bad' is such a shitty thing to say. Thats like me saying oh your cancer isnt that bad because you arent dead yet, cancer is cancer the dame way ed's are ed's.
@Kay E you make no sense shut up
As a mom, I really hope those of you who realize you have an eating disorder go and get the professional help you need. The fact that you recognize it makes me believe you are, but if you aren’t, please, please go seek out professional help.
i used to like watching her videos but she's changed a lot honestly and though I wasn't aware of her breakup etc, either way this and she is pretty triggering for me as a 15 year old trying to recover from anorexia so I chose to avoid her videos. thank you for sharing this :)
I’m sorry those videos are triggering for you. I hope the review was still helpful!
@@AbbeysKitchen it is!
Best of luck on your recovery, it can be so hard to avoid triggers and I’m proud of you for being mindful of it!
Just wanted to add a positive voice for you! I know recovering can be a struggle and wanted to remind you how strong you are! Every step towards recovery, no matter how small, is something to be celebrated. Keep on that path! You're not alone and many will cheer you on ❤
I got to “poke bowl with no rice” and was like nope too much work, no can do. I’d rather actually workout at that point lol
I get a poke bowl but just eat 1/2 the rice. I feel like they give soooo much in the first place. 🤷🏻♀️
@@eileengalindo4949 nah I tear that shit up
Me eating buttered chicken and buttered naan bread while watching this and enjoying my food.
Sounds like a great meal!
lol totally. I ate fried eggs on buttered toast while watching this. It was magical. The apple made it healthy lol.
Happy for you
Hahaha I was eating a chocolate donut. Nourishing the heart.
This is exactly how my ED spoke to me. It’s so scary to hear it out loud. 😭 I hope she’s doing okay and will feel better soon.
I hope you're doing better from that right now! Sending love and support 💕
@@anya0410 You're so sweet. Thank you. Happy to report I'm doing much better nowadays.
I'm so sorry that you had to go through that. I hope you are feeling much better now and have a lovely day. An ed is such a horrible thing I wish it was talked about more
@@liaasage thank you so much. To be honest, there are good days and bad days and it's really something you never 100% get rid off, but I am feeling better now than I did before. Thank you so much for your words...it means a lot more than you know! Hope you have a good day too!