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I remember when Gigi called Yolanda crying that she was ill and felt faint and Yolanda told her to eat a couple of almonds. Gave me Devil Wears Prada "I don't eat anything till I nearly faint when I eat a cube of cheese" vibes.
@@AbbeysKitchen I’m not 100% sure if it’s true but I apparently the almond thing was during Ramadan so she was trying to fast. But irregardless, Yolanda has said many problematic things.
@@jordynsophiamakeup I just watched that episode and I'm pretty sure it was just because they were doing the 'Master Cleanse' where they only drink lemon water :/
To be fair, she only brought that up when Gigi talked about her fashion - wearing oversized volleyball tees. It wasn't really about volleyball - that she said would make her frame masculine yet her goals were towards modeling.
that clip is edited (i still don’t agree with the statement regardless of context) but she made the comment about how Gigi used to wear baggy basketball shorts and oversized t shirts when she was in middle school
@@cailinleimbrock3837 I always find thinking like that so funny because as a lesbian, in middle school I was wearing floral skirts/mini-skirts, pink, clips in my long hair, a cheerleader, etc. while my very straight childhood friend was the only girl on the football team lol
Yolanda reminds me so much of my grandmother. When I was in elementary school she made me workout every night before bed and heavily controlled my diet. She would even check the school menu for the day so she could tell me which things on my tray she didn’t want me to eat. I was underweight my whole childhood until I was 16.
You really helped me get out of my eating disorder. I used to track every calorie I would eat, and my app said I should eat 1296 calories a day. I did not eat enough at all and also lost my period. I still haven’t had it yet, but I’m hoping soon. Thank you Abbey🙏
I’m glad you mentioned to the current correlation of morality with food. When I was young the focus was on being a good person and it didn’t matter what you ate. Now, people seem to rate merit on what you eat more than anything else.
This video gave me some validation and it feels good. My mom is 90% responsible for my eating disorders. I saw my mom have a really bad relationship with food which lead me to having an ED. Im better now but man, it hasn’t been easy and I still struggle some days. All I can do is keep moving forward. Thank you for this video!
I would love a video on insulin sensitivity and front loading calories. I have insulin sensitivity and through trial and error, I’ve learned that I feel best eating the bulk of my calories early in the day and fasting (unintentionally) at night, makes me feel the best without severe dips in blood sugar. I’d don’t really know why that it is, but I’d love to have a concrete explanation!
So glad I grew up with my mom who not only never mentioned how much we ate, but encouraged it….she cooked every night and got frustrated if we HAD to have fast food at least twice a week due to busy scheduling or whatnot. She never said we had to clean our plates. She also never denied us a second plate. Eating was normalized in our home. It was “eat when/if you are hungry” 🤷🏼♀️
Used to exclusively have goats milk back when I used to have bad eczema. My skin is mostly under control now as an adult but when I was a kid it really helped clear up my eczema.
I do have to say that lemon water is one of the only ways to make me drink more water without adding a bunch of sugary powders or syrups and I enjoy it. But people claiming it does more than just plain water need to do some research before spreading false information.
Abbey you are such a breath of fresh air to watch! I’ve learned so much from you and to be more gentle with myself about my food choices too. I hope that I can pass on some of the things I’ve learned to make my son an intuitive eater!
I agree with what you said throughout the video, but I needed to point out that in 9:01 she didn't say that strawberries have less sugar, she just said that she was into strawberries and that's it.
This is exactly what my grandmother, great aunts and great grandma used to do. They considered beverages as meals. My grandma used to drink water, coffee and screwdrivers. Once in a while she would have dry toast. That’s it’s.
My mom and dad were and still are the worst at moralizing food and pushing it on us. It took me until I was cooking for myself and learned that when I ate more satiating meals I was fuller and also didn’t have restriction cravings that I firstly lost weight and second started gaining a better relationship with food. It’s the one thing I know when I have kids I want to be better at than my parents.
Yay! Had been waiting for this one. Can’t believe the other review on YT on this didn’t say much about the lack of food. On the subject of not demonizing foods, I find it hard not to say “soda is bad” - generally get very disparaging when I see fam go for it.
I'd say soda is not nutritionally healthy in large amounts. Saying it's bad is implying that people who drink it are doing something bad. So it's really the language that we have to work on :)
People with stomas or fistulas acidity is the last thing they need, as if the stomach acid gets on the skin it eats through, and causes skin damage, and that's a nightmare to deal with, so to keep the stomach alkaline is so important, and all dietitians should know this
Love what you said at the end. So well put! Idk if you’ve thought about it, but I would love to see you write a book w all this knowledge. The emotional and behavioral side of eating (basically your version of the classic Intuitive Eating). I’d buy the hell out of it!
I dont think Yolanda's food choices are bad, a lot of the foods she ate are superfoods, but she could increase her portion size and add more proteins into her diet
I do not particularly like Yolanda Hadid, but if it works for her to eat light - why make it sound as if she is doing something wrong. We all have different needs. I feel much better when I eat less, I have more energy and I function better. It has nothing to do with wanting to be skinnier. But yeah my comment is regarding her own eating habits / diet. I do not think it´s correct to restrict your kids eating habits in the way she seems to be doing it.. as that yes does set up unhealthy eating patterns.. I mean there was this video when Gigi was not even "allowed" to eat a piece of cake on a her own birthday. It should be in some natural way.. without having to think much about it.. what makes me feel good.. feel healthy and vibrant.. what energizes me .. what makes me happy. At least that´s how I see it.
Awesome awesome awesome as always! What are your thoughts on crushing crosswords during breakfast? Would the ideal mode for eating a meal instead be not doing any heavy lifting with your brain parts, keep it distraction-free?
this was such a good and informative video i learned sooo much and i was only watching initially just to see you laugh at yolanda being crazy bc shes so mean to gigi🤣 but this was actually so educational for me
The reason to have an alkaline gut, is to aid in the reduction of inflammation, including the brain, skin, and muscles. An acidic gut due to a lot of junk food, overconsumption of proteins, too much sugar and not enough fiber, causes inflammation and increases the risk for many diseases. So, at the end, we are what we eat….
Yolanda is all about the girls making money. She doesn’t care about emotional scars with food. Her daughters are so sweet and I feel really bad for them.
I grew up heavily surveilled and restricted as a preteen and teen and I developed some bad habits partially my own choices and partially outside of my control like eating nothing all day then binging at night and sneaking and hiding junk foods and I am now trying to lose weight and repair my relationship with food. I take care of my niece and nephew and I really worry for their health and relationships to food. They love junk food (chips, candy, sugary drinks) and almost always have access to it at school and from other relatives. I don’t want to totally restrict these fun foods so I am fine with them snacking a little but when I tell them they’ve had enough but can eat as much regular food as they want until they’re full they react either as though I’m starving them or will say they aren’t hungry when it comes to eating regular food. Usually I say something like “you already had lemonade so have water if you’re still thirsty “ or “you can have a good handful of chips in a bowl but don’t eat from the bag”. Dealing with this is honestly really triggering and stressful for me and I really hope I am not causing them any harm.
My opinion is that the dieting teens/overweight study is most likely not accurate. I don't like studies like that because most teens who are dieting as teens are probably already overweight. I would be interested if the study only applied to dieting teens that were in a "healthy" range. Would love a link or name of study.
I tried lemon water for the first time a few weeks ago and it wasn’t that bad. I liked the taste and it did give me a small energy boost for a little bit because of the vitamin c boost. But it’s not the answer to everything. It’s about balance for me. Being a vegan, I’m always trying new foods. Still have pizzas and veggie burgers ect.
I saw an "expert" saying that egg whites are not processed by the body if the yolk is not there. I used to mixed them in the oat meal and pancakes but now I'm wondering if it is not worth? Thank you in advance if you can answer!! 😁
So I am curious. How does someone who is a licensed professional get away with bashing people on youtube, and using it to profit. You are turning people into a clinical case study without their permission. They did not give you permission to clinically evaluate them? I see it as an abuse of authority with your profession. “RESPECT FOR PERSONS/JUSTICE: DIETITIANS WILL SHOW RESPECT AND TREAT OTHERS FAIRLY AND EQUITABLY.” “refrain from verbal/physical/emotional/sexual harassment” “demonstrate professionalism, constructive dialogue and civility in all communications, including when using social media” “RESPECT FOR AUTONOMY: DIETITIANS WILL TREAT CLIENTS AND/OR THEIR SUBSTITUTE DECISION-MAKER AS SELF-GOVERNING DECISION-MAKERS”
@Violett Fem yeah... she was actually my most favourite housewife, because she was always very calm, friendly and kind, but it was hard for me to watch her eat so little and teach her kids to live this lifestyle...
I remember watching that episode and felt so bad for Gigi because it was her birthday party. And Yolanda criticized her for taking more than one bite. Let the girl eat cake!
No wonder Bella developed an eating disorder (she had a whole Tumblr account dedicated to her eating disorder, you can google it). Her mother literally set disordered eating and skewed body goals as an example and imposed it on her kids. On top of that Bella also had to deal with Gigi being favoured as the golden child by her mom. It's also no wonder that Yolanda clearly struggles with food and body image having been a model in the 90s/2000s era. Still not an excuse to treat her children this way.
You all say that, but her strict dieting has enabled she and her daughters to be global supermodels. You don’t get that by eating “normally” just as pro body builders don’t eat “normally” prepping for a competition. When your physique secures your employment you treat is differently not saying it’s healthy, but their perspective is different.
I know someone who went to school with Gigi and said she was a really talented volleyball player so it’s really sad to see that this was the kind of narrative she got at home about it
@@honeyrose__66oh no, she's rich, what a bitch! Why can't people feel bad about her if she has money? Should we only feel bad for people on the poverty line?
I've had an eating disorder for over a decade. Now that I'm pregnant, something clicked in my head and now I'm eating balanced meals whenever I am hungry. There's no more fear in weight gain because this isn't just about me anymore. I want to raise an intuitive eater and I appreciate this video so much!
Wow that's so brave from you! I wish did the same during my pregnancy. I felt guilty about my weight gain the whole time (even tho it's a pregnant belly, I couldn't stop associating it with my fear of not having a flat stomach...). I didn't eat enough and I was tired and shy... Thankfully I'm eating enough now, and my child is and was healthy but I wish I could just go back in time and feed my pregnant self a huge bowl of spaghetti...
I’m sorry but Yolanda’s relationship with food is just horrible and she pours it down her daughter’s throat. It makes me angry and it makes me sad. Wow.
True, but if you treat modeling as a professional sport you would understand that there are specific requirements on how you're supposed to look (or perform). To think that professional sport is "healthy" is naive, it requires a lot of sacrifices and is frequently very bad for your body, leaving sportsman and sportswomen with lifelong conditions. Now modeling is clearly much more shallow and much less honorable, but both require sacrifices, that's my point. Also, both Gigi and Bella did very good modeling wise and are now set for life, so I guess Yolanda succeeded? Is money everything? I don't think so, but they apparently do, it's their right.
@@Andrupenko Yep money is everything Yolanda force their daughters to be a model i heard some rumors she wasn't biggest just Naomi Campbell not her. Of course you have to be a relationship with food & healthy body too just like Adriana Lima, Candace Swanepoel, Eniko Mihalik & Gisele Bundchen, they're examples of healthy beauty in fashion industry imo of course you don't have to resitrict yourself just rnjoy life.
@@visualbeauty3427 not adriana lima though, she does an extremely unhealthy restrictive diet to ‘prep’ for fashion shows, like water fasting for at least a day prior to the catwalk. Fortunately Gigi and Bella Hadid have healthy relationships with food though
The crazy thing is she wasn’t always like this with the girls. I went to middle school with Gigi and Yolanda always had balanced and plentiful snacks out for us after school. That being said, I was usually only there in the afternoons and on weekends. Maybe it wasn’t always like that when other kids weren’t there. This breaks my heart and angers me too. It’s not okay. It’s terrible and dangerous.
Uneducated people shouldn’t try to fix someone’s eating disorder. Even if it’s from a place of meaning well, it is so dangerous. People within the medical field educate themselves for years, and even they sometimes need to go in and educate themselves some more so it’s so risky to try to wing it without a proper education when it comes to eating disorders. People really need to stop entertaining the idea that eating disorders is mainly an issue with food! Issues with food is the symptom of a serious mental disorder, you can’t help someone by saying they are beautiful or encourage them to eat. And those who say others help them get better by showing what they eat, is also uneducated because it still doesn’t help them refulate their emotions or fix their traumas that made them develop the mental disorder in the first place! Disordered eating on the other hand is what these people are experiences which is tied to physical appearance and social status etc, but it’s the thing people can overcome without the medical care because it is NOT a mental disorder it’s issues with food due to aesthetics!
@@soilgrasswaterair by “help “ we don’t know if they meant sending zayn to seek professional help and being there for them , not gigi by herself “curing “ his Ed
I’m actually really impressed at how mentally strong Gigi seems to be after everything. I don’t know how. It’s also really sad that Bella took on so much of that pressure.
My in-laws found it so weird that I told them they’re not allowed to talk about how ‘fat’ they are or about their diets and losing weight in front of my daughter. One told me with a straight face ‘its the reality of being a woman?’. So I told them I don’t want a life for my daughter where she’s never satisfied with her body and perpetually on a diet, living from one ‘cheat meal’ to the next. They completely disregarded this and it went as far as me telling them if they keep talking to her about it I will not allow them to see her without me present. I struggled for so long to have a healthy relationship with food and love my body, and I don’t want that for her.
That sounds kind of extreme. But they should respect your request. But unfortunately as much as you want to shield and protect your daughter from these topics, you can’t. The biggest thing to be aware of is her internet activity.
@@vaneskak1579I think it’s because when coming from family it makes you feel like a disappointment for not being thin. Yes she will see this information on the internet as she gets older, but shielding children from bad habits at a young age is one of the best ways for them to have healthy eating.
The lemon water thing most definitely didn’t start with her. I had a “detox diet” book in the early 2000s that had you drinking lemon and cayenne pepper water every morning. This has been a thing for ages.
Oooooooohhhhhhh! I found this old cookery book ( I think it was called enjoyable food or something) anyway, it had a diet plan that basically consistent of tomato juice and lemon juice.
I love this ayurvedic saying 'you are what you digest', which also considers the emotions and thoughts that we digest as well as the foods, like nourishing your body is mental, physical, emotional etc. I know ayurveda may not exactly be 100% compatible with intuitive eating, but I think this framing of digestion does align with IE.
Agreed. There is also the "Neue Deutsche Medizin" (translates to New German Medicine) which kind of correlates all kind of emotional issues to physiological problems in the body.. Like when you have acid reflux would be that you cannot digest what is troubling you or worrying you.. or when you have joint issues that you are too rigid in some of your ways and not "bending" and flexible or all type of pains related to emtional and psychological reasons.. Found it very interesting. Also I believe it´s important to be grateful to the food that we eat. Say a small thank you or a grace before you eat. This small thing can really make the foods you eat more nourishing. I do not have any scientific studies to proof this but I know in my heart that it´s right.
I'm tired about the stereotype that mothers teach ED to their children because fathers can do too. My mother has never pressured me to eat a certain way. She is a great cooker, balanced meals are so delicious. But the one who pressures me and my sister to lose weight and makes us feel never enough and never pretty enough is my father. At 24 I understand that he is projecting an ideal beauty type on us that we can not reach. Even at a normal BMI now we are curvy, even if we would starve we'll still have curves. And I love my curves so not my problem anymore.
Yolanda sort of reminds me of my mum. She's always commented on my body. Like I remember when I was 6 years old and I was throwing up from being sick and she said that my tummy "looks like what all the 16 year-old girls want" because it was flat from basically being empty. Also when I was going through puberty at 12 she said that my thighs are too big. I was 12!!! There was so many other comments as well and they all definitely contributed to me developing an ED. My stepdad didn't help later on when he kept calling me fat when I was severely underweight!! I cut them out of my life and completely recovered now thanks to my boyfriend and his family though so that's good :)
I'm not defending Yolanda for probably giving her daughter an eating disorder. However, let's also remember that she was a model as well, and this way of thinking that she is passing on to her children is all likely an result of her own experiences with restriction in the modeling industry and someone controlling her diet/giving her bad advice as well. Edit: Also another point to add. Just because your parents might do everything to raise you to be intuitive, healthy eaters with a great food relationship doesn't mean it'll happen. But that's the scary part about raising kids in general isn't it? My mom followed all of the gentle nutrition tips and teaching us how to be good eaters, and out of the four of us (2 boys and 2 girls), I'm the only one that struggles with disordered eating. My younger sister almost did, but she wised up pretty fast. To say I'm envious is an understatement.
@@zwischenburkaundbikini2418 for sure. But I think that because her environment and lifestyle are encouraging it, she might not understand how damaging it is... which is even sadder, because the illness is passed on without being treated, for both her and her family😣
I had a conversation with my mother recently where she said “no one should ever stop watching what they eat because we’re all only a few mistakes away from becoming obese” and “yeah, technically you’d still be a healthy BMI if you gained 30 lbs, but you’d feel awful in your body” and it hit me that all my disordered eating is probably learned from her.
It's such a common thing, so many of us were brought up by parents who believed if you weren't constantly "watching what you eat" you will put on weight and that will be a disaster. No wonder so many of us are now trying to get over disordered eating!
@@powderandpaint14 this is so true. My mom has the same problem and she constantly tells me and my brother to loose weight eventhough we are healthy and practice sport. We have a more fitness body because of the weight training and martial artes and this makes us fat 😥😥😥😥😥😥
Omg get a life girl. It’s legit advice you can only be do big and be healthy. Ask any overweight person if they wish they had dialed in at 10 pounds to lose vs 50. Stop blaming your mom For your weak state of mind
The “you are what you eat” mantra is actually extremely harmful to people with chronic illnesses. Nowadays many people assume that you only get any kind of disease or condition if you’re not eating “healthy” enough or don’t work out enough. And it’s so frustrating to battle a chronic illness and then have to hear bs like that. Cutting Yolanda some slack because she’s a mom is strange. She doesn’t work, she lives off of her ex husbands’ money and all of her kids are adults.
I also have a chronic condition and that attitude of ‘eat more greens and go for a walk and you’ll be healed ✨’ bothers me so much. I’ve made several dietary changes, drink lots of water and work out almost everyday and guess what? I’m still ill! I agree with you completely, it’s so damaging and patronising
I 100% agree with you. I have chronic fatigue syndrome and I really hate when I am asked if I got enough sleep the night before. Like no I like feeling like absolute crap all day and working in what feels like, a for lack of a better phrase, a fog.
Not to mention that there are doctors who, because of this attitude, overlook the possibility of chronic illness in patients, instead referring to their problems as side effects of obesity or poor diet. DOCTORS!!!!! So many people go undiagnosed because this rhetoric is so pervasive that DOCTORS are pushing it. The craziest part is that saying a change in diet is a solution to chronic illness is pretty much on par with saying that garlic is a safer prevention of disease than a vaccine - it's completely illogical, but when enough people say it, it becomes believable.
I know a couple who have diabetes because of genetic reasons (match made in heaven) so now both their kids have it. They don't take sweets even during festivals, workout everyday and don't keep any processed food in their house. On top of that, they are vegetarians, which in our country implies a decent, healthy diet. But guess what? They're still diabetic. It is harmful indeed lol.
Unfortunately we live in the obesity/overconsumption world, not a "diet world". An average person consumes at least 500 calories more than they should daily, especially in UK and North Americans. While dieting and anorexia can be dangerous, they only take up to 1000 lives annually, while obesity affects hundreds of millions and causes around 5-6 million of deaths each year. But forget about the quantity, the quality of the food is even a bigger issue. Just looking at what Americans feed their kids (and most North Americans actually) is saddening. Jamie Oliver has raised this topic a lot (and please note that neither he nor his kids are anorexic), but it didn't have much effect in USA.
Yolanda’s policing of her daughter’s food is downright sad. I hope she isn’t giving advice about what her grandchild should eat. PS: Abbey, I’m obsessed with your lovely top. Could I ask what make it is?
I feel like the way in which Yolanda speaks about food is in part driven by her life long battle with Lyme. I had a parent with a chronic disease that drove them to be hyper focused on organic/superfoods. Wellness culture is one thing but fears around food/toxicity are exacerbated by struggles with chronic disease.
It’s true. When you have a chronic illness or autoimmune disease the dietary rules are so restrictive and every time you get a flareup you have doctors asking you to track every ounce of food. It’s horrible. I was doing well battling an ED from childhood but with my illness, my doctors are demanding I return to those disordered habits. Food isn’t just bad or a cheat anymore, it’s “killing” me. I’d actually love to see Abbey address this. It’s a struggle. You can’t have “variety” because you aren’t allowed to eat anything. You get tired. You end up just not eating because all food feels like the enemy.
Chronic Lyme is not a thing, despite what holistic people say. That's why you pay big money to functional medicine docs for their tests for their diagnosis and then their treatment. Oftentimes it is an undiagnosed autoimmune disorder or some sort of variant of chronic fatigue syndrome/depression with physical symptoms. But yes the diets of holistic people are insane and are terrible for their mental health, they truly become obsessive.
@@forwardrecording1445 Chronic Lyme is absolutely "a thing." I've been suffering with it and Bartonella for 6 yrs. I know exactly when I got bit/infected and it's been a nightmare.
why should she? I accidentally discovered I eat 1200 calories a day (I was bored during pandemic and started tracking what I eat for 2 weeks, then I gave up). Eating more made me sluggish, tired and grumpy.
@@AryannaCisnerosChannel not every single day in all the meals. You can enjoy everything in moderation. I’m sure it was an exaggeration but it case it isn’t…
I've always thought about the "you are what you eat" in this way: I eat some peanuts, I digest them, I absorb the amino acids and use them as building blocks for my tissues, therefore now I'm ...like 0,000001% peanut" 😂 Anyone?
The rationale behind it is that because the lemon juice is so acidic, your stomach would need to produce an alkaline solution to even it out... Even if it did work that way, you would need way more than that one glass in the morning for this effect to be long lasting, since everything you eat has its own pH and the stomach has to digest it regardless.
Ugh. This reminded me of my childhood. I was forced to eat in front of the mirror. :( It's really difficult to get the words out of one's mind even decades later.
Just one thing though, those videos of Yolanda are at least honest. It's not like they show themselves eating a whole pizza then claiming how 'healthy' and 'normal' they are while starving themselves
You know, that is one thing i appreciate as well. With the food shes eating and her questionable parenting around food. It may be awful watching some of the things she says to her kids, but so many people will act like that behind closed doors and pretend in public that they dont police their kids food or obsess over their bodies. Its honest, at the very least. Which also suggests to me that shes probably kinda doing what she thinks is good with what she knows, which seems to be kinda.. limited.
Oh, wow, she sounds like my mother when I was growing up. Not even modelling for an excuse. She was always trying to lose 5, 10, 15 pounds, and as soon as I started developing she was all over what I ate, and criticizing every part of my body. Yes, I have a history of eating disorders. Umpteen years of therapy later, I am doing OK and able to talk with my daughter about food in terms of fuel, building blocks and fun. I ask her to check in with herself about eating more/not eating and if she's eating a bunch of pickled gherkins and not filling up, I suggest rounding out the pickles with something that has protein and fat (because pickles have fibre) to help her fill up and stay full long enough. And then the other day she asked why I was so fat, and yikes! I explained that yes, I am fat, and there's a lot of different reasons, some hormonal, some my tummy issues, some because I'd had more than one time in my life where I didn't get enough food, so now my body likes to hold on to some extra energy because it doesn't understand that I am going to have enough food from now on, and some because I get sick and tired so much that I don't get the chance to move my body as much as it wants to move--but my body is the way it is, and I like it and everything it *does* let me do. I hope I did OK, but if my mother has been in her ear, that is it, because the eating disorders and disordered eating and body image issues stop with me, I am not subjecting another generation to the same misery I went through.
Thank you for sharing how you talk with your daughter! I have worried that if I have kids someday I might pass on bad thinking about food to them, so it was really helpful to read your practical examples of how you have avoided doing that. Thanks!
I always understood the “you are what you eat“ in the most literal way: through biochemical reactions our bodies break down out food into compounds that it can use to build our body. So the said apple will be used in on way or another to either fuel your cell as a source of energy or as a “building block” to literally build a cell.Therefore I think we are indeed what we eat and I really like that I am pizzas and apples and chocolate and so on. I am what I love. Plus I think it’s really fascinating how our bodies work!
abbey recommending carbs is just what i needed today. even in ed recovery, i always think of carbs as something harmful (and it's not in the hunger crushing combo haha) but i love bread and white rice and cereal and im glad she said this :)
How have you not done this one yet?! Haha I'm 6 minutes in and it's like when you know your friend is not going to like a person and your friend doesn't hesitate to call out bullshit, so you're just there with snacks waiting for show to start. I can't stop laughing.
@@felicita6577 during an episode of the Real Housewives of Beverly Hills, Gigi celebrated her birthday. She wanted to eat a slice of birthday cake at her birthday like anybody would. But of course Yolanda could not let her teenage daughter enjoy a bit of cake. She gave her the tiniest slice and then shared the tiniest slice of birthday cake I have ever seen with Gigi. You can watch it in this video ruclips.net/video/uVWqEwoyUh0/видео.html around the 01:20 mark. BUT BEWARE! It's really really upsetting to watch.
Oh wow, watched a reel of Yolanda’s interactions with her daughters. Honestly, can’t know what goes on in their home life but, if a teacher or responsible adult witnessed that, it would be reported. Abbey always takes the high ground giving suggestions (with awesome snark) but, those poor girls.
I feel like it's worth mentioning that even if her daughter is a lesbian, that's completely fine and acting like it's something bad is pretty gross on Yolanda's part
Her veggie soup for dinner looks super tasty! I recently had the same thing for dinner but made it a minestrone version - like Abbey said. And on the side had a piece of caprese bread- tomatoes, basil, mozzarella cheese with balsamic vinegar. Super tasty and a full balanced meal. Definitely felt better than if I had eaten multiple bowls of broth filled soup and felt super uncomfortably full but still hungry too. Basically just commenting to say that Abbey's suggestions actually make practical sense and are super easy and tasty to implement. 😊
Unfortunately, I saw this video of Yolanda when I was about fourteen years old. I told myself it was the “Gold Standard” of dieting, and was so amazed out how she could still enjoy “unhealthy food,” ie. the butter, while being so healthy. So sad.
Thank you for convincing me to contact a therapist about my disordered eating. Watching this was a wake up call for me. I know I have an issue but I just don’t think a therapist can change my lifetime of eating disorders but you make me realize that I have to try for my daughter’s sake. She is seventeen and we are very close. I can’t help myself from expressing my feelings to her. I don’t tell her what to eat or not to eat but I beat myself up about my own body in front of her. I know I that is a horrible thing to do but it is in my consciousness 24 hours a day and I can’t help the pain from being obvious and coming out to the person I am closest to. I know I sound like a horrible mother but this video gave me that push. I am going to make phone calls tomorrow to find someone to help me.
I would love to see a video on the difference between refined sugar and and sugar found in fruits and if they have the same effect on certain health conditions such as anxiety for example.
it honestly made me want to cry when you talked about gigi’s relationship with her daughter and passing down these harmful messages. some of what yolanda said to gigi was honestly heartbreaking and i believe both gigi and yolanda probably love their families and want to do the absolute best for them, but a negative relationship with food and being part of an at-times super toxic industry is really hard. i hope they all find peace and healing to break the cycle 💓
Abbey!!! I never thought I had a challenging relationship with food but I’ve been watching your videos forEVEEERRR and I have internalized and unlearned so much from you. Thank you thank you thank you ♥️
Growing up, I always heard the ridiculous notion that women eat fish and chicken… men eat steak… what? Know that I am an adult that still flabbergasts me. Did anyone else ever hear that growing up?
I would imagine that’s because chicken and fish are lean meats and beef has more fat, and since socially, women are known more to “diet” than men, it became gendered. Which is ridiculous 😂 I love steak lol
Tbh we kind of are what we eat! Isotopic analysis of bones lets archaeologists reconstruct the diet of ancient peoples and cultures because the foods we eat leave a signature in some parts of our bodies! Pretty cool I think!
I think that the way in which the phrase is used is what's problematic. It assigns moralistic value to the foods you consume. Most of the time it's your socio economic conditions that determine which foods you get to eat. If you're poor, you cannot afford organic meats and veggies. You're probably living off of processed and canned foods more than fresh foods because of availability and cost. It is interesting that archeologists can analyze very ancient bones of creatures and tell us what they ate though!
30:27 why is this me I'm crying... I hide food in my room, I avoid eating at home with other people if I can, when my parents aren't home I eat too much and things like instant ramen, fried food, sweets etc. bc it's the only time I don't feel guilty, I stress/emotionally eat, I go through periods of restricting (in front of others) and binging other times, etc. And the other things like commenting on my body, what I eat, that I should be more active, food being good/healthy or bad/toxic/unhealthy. I thought my relationship with food wasn't as messed up as this ಥ‿ಥ But honestly, if I was able to self regulate I think it'd be a lot better... ┐(￣ヘ￣)┌
You can hear the wheels turning in her head, “ah yesss… if I put butter in my oatmeal and say that people don’t get enough fat in their diets NO ONE SHALL UNCOVER MY SECRET”
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I saw a video of dc. Anthony Yuon reacting to this video. Would be interesting seeing you reaction to his reaction ☺️
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3 words for u diets don’t work they make people miserable
I remember when Gigi called Yolanda crying that she was ill and felt faint and Yolanda told her to eat a couple of almonds. Gave me Devil Wears Prada "I don't eat anything till I nearly faint when I eat a cube of cheese" vibes.
Oh wow 🙁
@@AbbeysKitchen I’m not 100% sure if it’s true but I apparently the almond thing was during Ramadan so she was trying to fast. But irregardless, Yolanda has said many problematic things.
Oh no That is horrible I remember that part.
@@jordynsophiamakeup I just watched that episode and I'm pretty sure it was just because they were doing the 'Master Cleanse' where they only drink lemon water :/
@@jordynsophiamakeup is she Muslim?
“Mom I wanna play volleyball “
Yolanda: my daughter is a lesbian 👁👄👁
Yeah. Volleyball=homosexual apparently 👀
To be fair, she only brought that up when Gigi talked about her fashion - wearing oversized volleyball tees. It wasn't really about volleyball - that she said would make her frame masculine yet her goals were towards modeling.
that clip is edited (i still don’t agree with the statement regardless of context) but she made the comment about how Gigi used to wear baggy basketball shorts and oversized t shirts when she was in middle school
@@waitherambugua7972 Yolanda and that sort of thinking is toxic as hell.
@@cailinleimbrock3837 I always find thinking like that so funny because as a lesbian, in middle school I was wearing floral skirts/mini-skirts, pink, clips in my long hair, a cheerleader, etc. while my very straight childhood friend was the only girl on the football team lol
Yolanda reminds me so much of my grandmother. When I was in elementary school she made me workout every night before bed and heavily controlled my diet. She would even check the school menu for the day so she could tell me which things on my tray she didn’t want me to eat. I was underweight my whole childhood until I was 16.
Oh wow, I'm sorry that must suck
“all water is good water”
me, drinking wine at 4 pm: yes, i see what you mean
Yeah. Being an alcoholic I guess
You really helped me get out of my eating disorder. I used to track every calorie I would eat, and my app said I should eat 1296 calories a day. I did not eat enough at all and also lost my period. I still haven’t had it yet, but I’m hoping soon. Thank you Abbey🙏
I’m so happy for you ❣️ you are more than an image, food is nourishment, I really hope you get your period back soon 💘💘💘
@@megancooper6130 thank you, means a lot
I’m so glad you are doing better, thank you for sharing your experience ❤️
Changes like this can be so hard, good for you 🖤.
I’m glad you mentioned to the current correlation of morality with food. When I was young the focus was on being a good person and it didn’t matter what you ate. Now, people seem to rate merit on what you eat more than anything else.
I’m glad that was helpful!
This video gave me some validation and it feels good.
My mom is 90% responsible for my eating disorders. I saw my mom have a really bad relationship with food which lead me to having an ED. Im better now but man, it hasn’t been easy and I still struggle some days. All I can do is keep moving forward. Thank you for this video!
I would love a video on insulin sensitivity and front loading calories. I have insulin sensitivity and through trial and error, I’ve learned that I feel best eating the bulk of my calories early in the day and fasting (unintentionally) at night, makes me feel the best without severe dips in blood sugar. I’d don’t really know why that it is, but I’d love to have a concrete explanation!
The first time I saw this video i thought: "I NEED an Abbey's review of this"
I hope it was helpful!
Same!!!
17:33 ow... wasn't the other meals "Light" enough? 😅
So glad I grew up with my mom who not only never mentioned how much we ate, but encouraged it….she cooked every night and got frustrated if we HAD to have fast food at least twice a week due to busy scheduling or whatnot. She never said we had to clean our plates. She also never denied us a second plate. Eating was normalized in our home. It was “eat when/if you are hungry” 🤷🏼♀️
Used to exclusively have goats milk back when I used to have bad eczema. My skin is mostly under control now as an adult but when I was a kid it really helped clear up my eczema.
Interesting, thanks for sharing!
Your chanel is soo educational! It really helps me what to eat.
Would you do a video on diets for women over 50?
Thank you, from Vancouver!
I do have to say that lemon water is one of the only ways to make me drink more water without adding a bunch of sugary powders or syrups and I enjoy it. But people claiming it does more than just plain water need to do some research before spreading false information.
Omg what you said from 3:10 - 5:05 is so healing 🙏🏻❤️
I’m so glad ❤️
both of my parents and i suffer from binge eating disorder and we are working on healing together but it’s hard
Abbey you are such a breath of fresh air to watch! I’ve learned so much from you and to be more gentle with myself about my food choices too. I hope that I can pass on some of the things I’ve learned to make my son an intuitive eater!
Aw thank you! So glad my videos have been helpful for you ❤️
I agree with what you said throughout the video, but I needed to point out that in 9:01 she didn't say that strawberries have less sugar, she just said that she was into strawberries and that's it.
This is exactly what my grandmother, great aunts and great grandma used to do. They considered beverages as meals. My grandma used to drink water, coffee and screwdrivers. Once in a while she would have dry toast. That’s it’s.
My mom and dad were and still are the worst at moralizing food and pushing it on us. It took me until I was cooking for myself and learned that when I ate more satiating meals I was fuller and also didn’t have restriction cravings that I firstly lost weight and second started gaining a better relationship with food. It’s the one thing I know when I have kids I want to be better at than my parents.
I’m so sorry for your experience. Glad to hear you are doing better now ❤️
Yay! Had been waiting for this one. Can’t believe the other review on YT on this didn’t say much about the lack of food. On the subject of not demonizing foods, I find it hard not to say “soda is bad” - generally get very disparaging when I see fam go for it.
I understand!
I'd say soda is not nutritionally healthy in large amounts. Saying it's bad is implying that people who drink it are doing something bad. So it's really the language that we have to work on :)
Abbey mentioning sweet potato 🍠 has that ever happened before? 🤭 You do you - but how I don't like those!
I hate them too
I know it doesn't have to do with the content but Abbey looks so so pretty in this vid!!
Thank you so much!
People with stomas or fistulas acidity is the last thing they need, as if the stomach acid gets on the skin it eats through, and causes skin damage, and that's a nightmare to deal with, so to keep the stomach alkaline is so important, and all dietitians should know this
Love what you said at the end. So well put! Idk if you’ve thought about it, but I would love to see you write a book w all this knowledge. The emotional and behavioral side of eating (basically your version of the classic Intuitive Eating). I’d buy the hell out of it!
Possibly! Thank you for the suggestion!
Thank you so much for doing this! Wish I had heard this info when I was 8.
I hope it’s still helpful now!
@@AbbeysKitchen for sure it is!
I dont think Yolanda's food choices are bad, a lot of the foods she ate are superfoods, but she could increase her portion size and add more proteins into her diet
I do not particularly like Yolanda Hadid, but if it works for her to eat light - why make it sound as if she is doing something wrong. We all have different needs. I feel much better when I eat less, I have more energy and I function better. It has nothing to do with wanting to be skinnier. But yeah my comment is regarding her own eating habits / diet. I do not think it´s correct to restrict your kids eating habits in the way she seems to be doing it.. as that yes does set up unhealthy eating patterns.. I mean there was this video when Gigi was not even "allowed" to eat a piece of cake on a her own birthday. It should be in some natural way.. without having to think much about it.. what makes me feel good.. feel healthy and vibrant.. what energizes me .. what makes me happy. At least that´s how I see it.
youtube cmon a video like this and I'm watching a day late!? when I tell you I never clicked so fast
I hope it was helpful for you!
Watching these videos made me realise something totally irrelevant to their intention: Your eloquence - well done!
Awesome awesome awesome as always! What are your thoughts on crushing crosswords during breakfast? Would the ideal mode for eating a meal instead be not doing any heavy lifting with your brain parts, keep it distraction-free?
It is ideally recommended to practice mindfulness while eating, but you should do whatever works best for you!
this was such a good and informative video i learned sooo much and i was only watching initially just to see you laugh at yolanda being crazy bc shes so mean to gigi🤣 but this was actually so educational for me
where is the feel good white kitchen studio? 😰 I miss it!!
The reason to have an alkaline gut, is to aid in the reduction of inflammation, including the brain, skin, and muscles. An acidic gut due to a lot of junk food, overconsumption of proteins, too much sugar and not enough fiber, causes inflammation and increases the risk for many diseases. So, at the end, we are what we eat….
The high here is 94 F / 34 C. September is still a hot month when you live close to the Gulf of Mexico. 🥵
Great video as always, by the way! I love how you demystify nutrition and food. :)
Wow!
@@mrsphilm.007 thank you ❤️
Yolanda is all about the girls making money. She doesn’t care about emotional scars with food. Her daughters are so sweet and I feel really bad for them.
I grew up heavily surveilled and restricted as a preteen and teen and I developed some bad habits partially my own choices and partially outside of my control like eating nothing all day then binging at night and sneaking and hiding junk foods and I am now trying to lose weight and repair my relationship with food. I take care of my niece and nephew and I really worry for their health and relationships to food. They love junk food (chips, candy, sugary drinks) and almost always have access to it at school and from other relatives. I don’t want to totally restrict these fun foods so I am fine with them snacking a little but when I tell them they’ve had enough but can eat as much regular food as they want until they’re full they react either as though I’m starving them or will say they aren’t hungry when it comes to eating regular food. Usually I say something like “you already had lemonade so have water if you’re still thirsty “ or “you can have a good handful of chips in a bowl but don’t eat from the bag”. Dealing with this is honestly really triggering and stressful for me and I really hope I am not causing them any harm.
My opinion is that the dieting teens/overweight study is most likely not accurate. I don't like studies like that because most teens who are dieting as teens are probably already overweight. I would be interested if the study only applied to dieting teens that were in a "healthy" range. Would love a link or name of study.
This is going to be a good one. 🍿🥤
I hope you enjoyed it!
I like lemon water but it caused me tooth sensitivity. Never had a problem with tooth sensitivity again once I cut out the habit.
I tried lemon water for the first time a few weeks ago and it wasn’t that bad. I liked the taste and it did give me a small energy boost for a little bit because of the vitamin c boost. But it’s not the answer to everything. It’s about balance for me. Being a vegan, I’m always trying new foods. Still have pizzas and veggie burgers ect.
I saw an "expert" saying that egg whites are not processed by the body if the yolk is not there. I used to mixed them in the oat meal and pancakes but now I'm wondering if it is not worth? Thank you in advance if you can answer!! 😁
Thanks! And for your links in the description for further reading.
Glad those are helpful!
love this!! 🤍
So I am curious. How does someone who is a licensed professional get away with bashing people on youtube, and using it to profit. You are turning people into a clinical case study without their permission. They did not give you permission to clinically evaluate them? I see it as an abuse of authority with your profession.
“RESPECT FOR PERSONS/JUSTICE: DIETITIANS WILL SHOW RESPECT AND TREAT OTHERS FAIRLY AND EQUITABLY.”
“refrain from verbal/physical/emotional/sexual harassment”
“demonstrate professionalism, constructive dialogue and civility in all communications, including when using social media”
“RESPECT FOR AUTONOMY: DIETITIANS WILL TREAT CLIENTS AND/OR THEIR SUBSTITUTE DECISION-MAKER AS SELF-GOVERNING DECISION-MAKERS”
Yolanda is literally insane. She fed her daughter a half of a half of a half of a piece of cake. That's what starts eating disorders...
That part of the series made me laugh 😄
@Violett Fem yeah... she was actually my most favourite housewife, because she was always very calm, friendly and kind, but it was hard for me to watch her eat so little and teach her kids to live this lifestyle...
Pretty sure it was less than that 🤣🤣 she was shook over that miniscule morsel💀💀💀💀
I remember watching that episode and felt so bad for Gigi because it was her birthday party. And Yolanda criticized her for taking more than one bite. Let the girl eat cake!
I know, it is very concerning 🙁
No wonder Bella developed an eating disorder (she had a whole Tumblr account dedicated to her eating disorder, you can google it). Her mother literally set disordered eating and skewed body goals as an example and imposed it on her kids. On top of that Bella also had to deal with Gigi being favoured as the golden child by her mom.
It's also no wonder that Yolanda clearly struggles with food and body image having been a model in the 90s/2000s era. Still not an excuse to treat her children this way.
That is very upsetting to hear 🙁
Yeah
Shame on Yolanda!
I wonder if Yolanda had a fit when she found out Bella is bisexual 😢
You all say that, but her strict dieting has enabled she and her daughters to be global supermodels. You don’t get that by eating “normally” just as pro body builders don’t eat “normally” prepping for a competition. When your physique secures your employment you treat is differently not saying it’s healthy, but their perspective is different.
I know someone who went to school with Gigi and said she was a really talented volleyball player so it’s really sad to see that this was the kind of narrative she got at home about it
Oh wow 🙁
That makes me so sad!
She was captain of the A side volleyball. Yolanda knows nothing about volleyball bodies.
Lol you people feel bad for someone who earns millions for doing a ramp walk
@@honeyrose__66oh no, she's rich, what a bitch! Why can't people feel bad about her if she has money? Should we only feel bad for people on the poverty line?
I've had an eating disorder for over a decade. Now that I'm pregnant, something clicked in my head and now I'm eating balanced meals whenever I am hungry. There's no more fear in weight gain because this isn't just about me anymore. I want to raise an intuitive eater and I appreciate this video so much!
I’m so glad it was helpful! ❤️
Same. Getting pregnant fixed my hunger cues after I got over morning sickness suckfest.
That’s incredible, I’m so happy to hear.
Wow that's so brave from you! I wish did the same during my pregnancy. I felt guilty about my weight gain the whole time (even tho it's a pregnant belly, I couldn't stop associating it with my fear of not having a flat stomach...). I didn't eat enough and I was tired and shy... Thankfully I'm eating enough now, and my child is and was healthy but I wish I could just go back in time and feed my pregnant self a huge bowl of spaghetti...
Congratulations ❤️
I’m sorry but Yolanda’s relationship with food is just horrible and she pours it down her daughter’s throat. It makes me angry and it makes me sad. Wow.
True, but if you treat modeling as a professional sport you would understand that there are specific requirements on how you're supposed to look (or perform). To think that professional sport is "healthy" is naive, it requires a lot of sacrifices and is frequently very bad for your body, leaving sportsman and sportswomen with lifelong conditions. Now modeling is clearly much more shallow and much less honorable, but both require sacrifices, that's my point. Also, both Gigi and Bella did very good modeling wise and are now set for life, so I guess Yolanda succeeded? Is money everything? I don't think so, but they apparently do, it's their right.
@@Andrupenko Yep money is everything Yolanda force their daughters to be a model i heard some rumors she wasn't biggest just Naomi Campbell not her. Of course you have to be a relationship with food & healthy body too just like Adriana Lima, Candace Swanepoel, Eniko Mihalik & Gisele Bundchen, they're examples of healthy beauty in fashion industry imo of course you don't have to resitrict yourself just rnjoy life.
@@visualbeauty3427 not adriana lima though, she does an extremely unhealthy restrictive diet to ‘prep’ for fashion shows, like water fasting for at least a day prior to the catwalk. Fortunately Gigi and Bella Hadid have healthy relationships with food though
The crazy thing is she wasn’t always like this with the girls. I went to middle school with Gigi and Yolanda always had balanced and plentiful snacks out for us after school. That being said, I was usually only there in the afternoons and on weekends. Maybe it wasn’t always like that when other kids weren’t there. This breaks my heart and angers me too. It’s not okay. It’s terrible and dangerous.
Ps I love the name Juno. My grandmother’s name is June Davis so your username made me smile
Gigi actually helped zayn with his ED , I’m so glad that she seems like she has a good view of food
That’s great to hear
Hopefully she got therapy for what her mother put her through
Uneducated people shouldn’t try to fix someone’s eating disorder. Even if it’s from a place of meaning well, it is so dangerous. People within the medical field educate themselves for years, and even they sometimes need to go in and educate themselves some more so it’s so risky to try to wing it without a proper education when it comes to eating disorders. People really need to stop entertaining the idea that eating disorders is mainly an issue with food! Issues with food is the symptom of a serious mental disorder, you can’t help someone by saying they are beautiful or encourage them to eat. And those who say others help them get better by showing what they eat, is also uneducated because it still doesn’t help them refulate their emotions or fix their traumas that made them develop the mental disorder in the first place! Disordered eating on the other hand is what these people are experiences which is tied to physical appearance and social status etc, but it’s the thing people can overcome without the medical care because it is NOT a mental disorder it’s issues with food due to aesthetics!
@@soilgrasswaterair by “help “ we don’t know if they meant sending zayn to seek professional help and being there for them , not gigi by herself “curing “ his Ed
I’m actually really impressed at how mentally strong Gigi seems to be after everything. I don’t know how. It’s also really sad that Bella took on so much of that pressure.
My in-laws found it so weird that I told them they’re not allowed to talk about how ‘fat’ they are or about their diets and losing weight in front of my daughter. One told me with a straight face ‘its the reality of being a woman?’. So I told them I don’t want a life for my daughter where she’s never satisfied with her body and perpetually on a diet, living from one ‘cheat meal’ to the next. They completely disregarded this and it went as far as me telling them if they keep talking to her about it I will not allow them to see her without me present. I struggled for so long to have a healthy relationship with food and love my body, and I don’t want that for her.
Oh wow, I’m sorry! That sounds very frustrating
That sounds kind of extreme. But they should respect your request. But unfortunately as much as you want to shield and protect your daughter from these topics, you can’t. The biggest thing to be aware of is her internet activity.
@@vaneskak1579I think it’s because when coming from family it makes you feel like a disappointment for not being thin. Yes she will see this information on the internet as she gets older, but shielding children from bad habits at a young age is one of the best ways for them to have healthy eating.
The lemon water thing most definitely didn’t start with her. I had a “detox diet” book in the early 2000s that had you drinking lemon and cayenne pepper water every morning. This has been a thing for ages.
Oh wow!
@@therabbithat LOL I think you're onto something
The master cleanse it sounds like! Which was made popular by Beyoncé at the time I believe
@@harrietxo2310 master cleanse is lemon, cayenne and maple syrup with no other food for up to 14 days
Oooooooohhhhhhh!
I found this old cookery book ( I think it was called enjoyable food or something) anyway, it had a diet plan that basically consistent of tomato juice and lemon juice.
I love this ayurvedic saying 'you are what you digest', which also considers the emotions and thoughts that we digest as well as the foods, like nourishing your body is mental, physical, emotional etc. I know ayurveda may not exactly be 100% compatible with intuitive eating, but I think this framing of digestion does align with IE.
Love that, thank you for sharing!
100%! I remember a nurse telling me once taking care of your body requires focusing on the mental, physical and spiritual. We aren’t one dimensional!
Very well said indeed!
Agreed. There is also the "Neue Deutsche Medizin" (translates to New German Medicine) which kind of correlates all kind of emotional issues to physiological problems in the body.. Like when you have acid reflux would be that you cannot digest what is troubling you or worrying you.. or when you have joint issues that you are too rigid in some of your ways and not "bending" and flexible or all type of pains related to emtional and psychological reasons.. Found it very interesting. Also I believe it´s important to be grateful to the food that we eat. Say a small thank you or a grace before you eat. This small thing can really make the foods you eat more nourishing. I do not have any scientific studies to proof this but I know in my heart that it´s right.
@@IloveCamels335 yesss that's so beautiful
I'm tired about the stereotype that mothers teach ED to their children because fathers can do too. My mother has never pressured me to eat a certain way. She is a great cooker, balanced meals are so delicious.
But the one who pressures me and my sister to lose weight and makes us feel never enough and never pretty enough is my father.
At 24 I understand that he is projecting an ideal beauty type on us that we can not reach. Even at a normal BMI now we are curvy, even if we would starve we'll still have curves. And I love my curves so not my problem anymore.
Yes, that’s another important point. Thank you for mentioning this as well
Can confirm, my dad was the one who taught me what "empty calories" meant as a toddler, for example.
Yesss I agree with this 100%
Same here, only after he was out of my life did I realise how nasty his comments on my very normal weight were
Agree. My parents didn't stress us about our weight. But my dad more than my mum if I had to think. He wasn't being mean but he made tiny comments
Yolanda sort of reminds me of my mum. She's always commented on my body. Like I remember when I was 6 years old and I was throwing up from being sick and she said that my tummy "looks like what all the 16 year-old girls want" because it was flat from basically being empty. Also when I was going through puberty at 12 she said that my thighs are too big. I was 12!!! There was so many other comments as well and they all definitely contributed to me developing an ED. My stepdad didn't help later on when he kept calling me fat when I was severely underweight!! I cut them out of my life and completely recovered now thanks to my boyfriend and his family though so that's good :)
Oh wow, I’m so sorry for your experience. So glad you are doing better now ❤️
I'm not defending Yolanda for probably giving her daughter an eating disorder. However, let's also remember that she was a model as well, and this way of thinking that she is passing on to her children is all likely an result of her own experiences with restriction in the modeling industry and someone controlling her diet/giving her bad advice as well.
Edit: Also another point to add. Just because your parents might do everything to raise you to be intuitive, healthy eaters with a great food relationship doesn't mean it'll happen. But that's the scary part about raising kids in general isn't it? My mom followed all of the gentle nutrition tips and teaching us how to be good eaters, and out of the four of us (2 boys and 2 girls), I'm the only one that struggles with disordered eating. My younger sister almost did, but she wised up pretty fast. To say I'm envious is an understatement.
For sure. Thank you for mentioning this point
But don't you want your children to have it better than you?
@@zwischenburkaundbikini2418 sometimes I think people don’t know any different if they were raised that way themselves :(
@@zwischenburkaundbikini2418 for sure. But I think that because her environment and lifestyle are encouraging it, she might not understand how damaging it is... which is even sadder, because the illness is passed on without being treated, for both her and her family😣
Jennifer Patterson sorry about Yolanda she wasn't big as Naomi Campbell & Naomi enjoys food.
I had a conversation with my mother recently where she said “no one should ever stop watching what they eat because we’re all only a few mistakes away from becoming obese” and “yeah, technically you’d still be a healthy BMI if you gained 30 lbs, but you’d feel awful in your body” and it hit me that all my disordered eating is probably learned from her.
Oh no, I’m so sorry 🙁
It's such a common thing, so many of us were brought up by parents who believed if you weren't constantly "watching what you eat" you will put on weight and that will be a disaster. No wonder so many of us are now trying to get over disordered eating!
@@powderandpaint14 this is so true. My mom has the same problem and she constantly tells me and my brother to loose weight eventhough we are healthy and practice sport. We have a more fitness body because of the weight training and martial artes and this makes us fat 😥😥😥😥😥😥
Omg get a life girl. It’s legit advice you can only be do big and be healthy. Ask any overweight person if they wish they had dialed in at 10 pounds to lose vs 50. Stop blaming your mom
For your weak state of mind
She wasn’t wrong sis, that’s legit good advice and the only way to be healthy. Its not fun to have to lose weight later in life
The “you are what you eat” mantra is actually extremely harmful to people with chronic illnesses. Nowadays many people assume that you only get any kind of disease or condition if you’re not eating “healthy” enough or don’t work out enough. And it’s so frustrating to battle a chronic illness and then have to hear bs like that.
Cutting Yolanda some slack because she’s a mom is strange. She doesn’t work, she lives off of her ex husbands’ money and all of her kids are adults.
I also have a chronic condition and that attitude of ‘eat more greens and go for a walk and you’ll be healed ✨’ bothers me so much. I’ve made several dietary changes, drink lots of water and work out almost everyday and guess what? I’m still ill! I agree with you completely, it’s so damaging and patronising
For sure, thank you for bringing up the point about chronic illnesses!
I 100% agree with you. I have chronic fatigue syndrome and I really hate when I am asked if I got enough sleep the night before. Like no I like feeling like absolute crap all day and working in what feels like, a for lack of a better phrase, a fog.
Not to mention that there are doctors who, because of this attitude, overlook the possibility of chronic illness in patients, instead referring to their problems as side effects of obesity or poor diet. DOCTORS!!!!! So many people go undiagnosed because this rhetoric is so pervasive that DOCTORS are pushing it. The craziest part is that saying a change in diet is a solution to chronic illness is pretty much on par with saying that garlic is a safer prevention of disease than a vaccine - it's completely illogical, but when enough people say it, it becomes believable.
I know a couple who have diabetes because of genetic reasons (match made in heaven) so now both their kids have it. They don't take sweets even during festivals, workout everyday and don't keep any processed food in their house. On top of that, they are vegetarians, which in our country implies a decent, healthy diet. But guess what? They're still diabetic. It is harmful indeed lol.
The voice of REASON in this crazy nutrition/diet world we live in today. Thank you, Abbey, for speaking some sense into this world.
I’m so glad it’s helpful ❤️
Unfortunately we live in the obesity/overconsumption world, not a "diet world". An average person consumes at least 500 calories more than they should daily, especially in UK and North Americans. While dieting and anorexia can be dangerous, they only take up to 1000 lives annually, while obesity affects hundreds of millions and causes around 5-6 million of deaths each year. But forget about the quantity, the quality of the food is even a bigger issue. Just looking at what Americans feed their kids (and most North Americans actually) is saddening. Jamie Oliver has raised this topic a lot (and please note that neither he nor his kids are anorexic), but it didn't have much effect in USA.
I’m so grateful for Abbey!
with that styling yolanda looks so much like the rich villain in every german crime series lmao
Yolanda’s policing of her daughter’s food is downright sad. I hope she isn’t giving advice about what her grandchild should eat.
PS: Abbey, I’m obsessed with your lovely top. Could I ask what make it is?
I was mesmerized by the pattern. She has a great wardrobe!
Hey friend! I'm glad to see you here! I love watching Abbey's videos, too! ❤
@@MicoKitty Hello! 👋🏽 Yes, I love watching Abbey’s videos!
Yeah
They are models now so does it matter?
I feel like the way in which Yolanda speaks about food is in part driven by her life long battle with Lyme. I had a parent with a chronic disease that drove them to be hyper focused on organic/superfoods. Wellness culture is one thing but fears around food/toxicity are exacerbated by struggles with chronic disease.
Possibly! Thank you for mentioning this
It’s true. When you have a chronic illness or autoimmune disease the dietary rules are so restrictive and every time you get a flareup you have doctors asking you to track every ounce of food. It’s horrible. I was doing well battling an ED from childhood but with my illness, my doctors are demanding I return to those disordered habits. Food isn’t just bad or a cheat anymore, it’s “killing” me. I’d actually love to see Abbey address this. It’s a struggle. You can’t have “variety” because you aren’t allowed to eat anything. You get tired. You end up just not eating because all food feels like the enemy.
Chronic Lyme is not a thing, despite what holistic people say. That's why you pay big money to functional medicine docs for their tests for their diagnosis and then their treatment. Oftentimes it is an undiagnosed autoimmune disorder or some sort of variant of chronic fatigue syndrome/depression with physical symptoms. But yes the diets of holistic people are insane and are terrible for their mental health, they truly become obsessive.
@@AbbeysKitchen she needs to lose the weird stuff
@@forwardrecording1445 Chronic Lyme is absolutely "a thing." I've been suffering with it and Bartonella for 6 yrs. I know exactly when I got bit/infected and it's been a nightmare.
Something tells me that woman doesn't eat a calorie above 1200.
Frrr
Id be shocked at that amount. Her oatmeal could fit in a shot glass.
why should she? I accidentally discovered I eat 1200 calories a day (I was bored during pandemic and started tracking what I eat for 2 weeks, then I gave up). Eating more made me sluggish, tired and grumpy.
@@Andrupenko this may be the case for you but for most people that would be too few calories.
@@Andrupenko 🙄 and I ate 3000 cal, most of the in chocolate and cookies.
I'm imagining Yolanda's face watching me eating lots of peanut butter, chocolate and carbs every single day in all my meals🤣😅
😫😫
Hey its ok I eat chocolate and peanuts apart and together. :)
@@AryannaCisnerosChannel yeah
@@AryannaCisnerosChannel not every single day in all the meals.
You can enjoy everything in moderation. I’m sure it was an exaggeration but it case it isn’t…
@@quelquun2018 of course i have it for on of my meals for weight gain I have different goals
Finally that woman is insane shes so strict about food and her kids had to suffet cause of that
@Violett Fem maybe it was that doesn’t mean she should be strict to her kids about it
@Violett Fem maybe
I hope they are doing alright
I've always thought about the "you are what you eat" in this way: I eat some peanuts, I digest them, I absorb the amino acids and use them as building blocks for my tissues, therefore now I'm ...like 0,000001% peanut" 😂 Anyone?
😂😂
lol
it's always so entertaining seeing how worked up she gets about lemon water 😭😭 love her
😂 yup!
It’s nasty!
WHY do people think lemon water alkalises? They’re full of citric *acid*
Also homeostasis doesn’t work like that pls
Yup!
The rationale behind it is that because the lemon juice is so acidic, your stomach would need to produce an alkaline solution to even it out... Even if it did work that way, you would need way more than that one glass in the morning for this effect to be long lasting, since everything you eat has its own pH and the stomach has to digest it regardless.
@@isabelamoschkovich3208 hold on, alkalizing my gut with sour patch kids
@@N.slash.A. new morning routine!
we're not even supposed to be alkaline 😭 our body's ph is acidic
Ugh. This reminded me of my childhood. I was forced to eat in front of the mirror. :( It's really difficult to get the words out of one's mind even decades later.
Damn.
I’m so sorry for your experience. I hope you are doing alright now ❤️
I am so sorry you went through this. I am sure it was (and is) traumatic. I hope you find healing.
No! Wrong! False! Shouldn’t have happened.
That's horrible! I'm so sorry you had to go through something like that.
Just one thing though, those videos of Yolanda are at least honest. It's not like they show themselves eating a whole pizza then claiming how 'healthy' and 'normal' they are while starving themselves
You know, that is one thing i appreciate as well. With the food shes eating and her questionable parenting around food. It may be awful watching some of the things she says to her kids, but so many people will act like that behind closed doors and pretend in public that they dont police their kids food or obsess over their bodies. Its honest, at the very least. Which also suggests to me that shes probably kinda doing what she thinks is good with what she knows, which seems to be kinda.. limited.
Oh, wow, she sounds like my mother when I was growing up. Not even modelling for an excuse. She was always trying to lose 5, 10, 15 pounds, and as soon as I started developing she was all over what I ate, and criticizing every part of my body. Yes, I have a history of eating disorders. Umpteen years of therapy later, I am doing OK and able to talk with my daughter about food in terms of fuel, building blocks and fun. I ask her to check in with herself about eating more/not eating and if she's eating a bunch of pickled gherkins and not filling up, I suggest rounding out the pickles with something that has protein and fat (because pickles have fibre) to help her fill up and stay full long enough.
And then the other day she asked why I was so fat, and yikes! I explained that yes, I am fat, and there's a lot of different reasons, some hormonal, some my tummy issues, some because I'd had more than one time in my life where I didn't get enough food, so now my body likes to hold on to some extra energy because it doesn't understand that I am going to have enough food from now on, and some because I get sick and tired so much that I don't get the chance to move my body as much as it wants to move--but my body is the way it is, and I like it and everything it *does* let me do. I hope I did OK, but if my mother has been in her ear, that is it, because the eating disorders and disordered eating and body image issues stop with me, I am not subjecting another generation to the same misery I went through.
I’m so happy you were able to “move on” (as much as we can with EDs) and try to do better. I want to do the same with my future kids :)
Wow, I’m so sorry for your experience. I hope you are doing alright now ❤️
@@AbbeysKitchen lots and lots of therapy, and yes, I am doing well now.
@@N.slash.A. it's hard, but doable and worthwhile. Therapy with a good therapist really help, if you have access to that.
Thank you for sharing how you talk with your daughter! I have worried that if I have kids someday I might pass on bad thinking about food to them, so it was really helpful to read your practical examples of how you have avoided doing that. Thanks!
I always understood the “you are what you eat“ in the most literal way: through biochemical reactions our bodies break down out food into compounds that it can use to build our body. So the said apple will be used in on way or another to either fuel your cell as a source of energy or as a “building block” to literally build a cell.Therefore I think we are indeed what we eat and I really like that I am pizzas and apples and chocolate and so on. I am what I love. Plus I think it’s really fascinating how our bodies work!
True! Thanks for sharing!
abbey recommending carbs is just what i needed today. even in ed recovery, i always think of carbs as something harmful (and it's not in the hunger crushing combo haha) but i love bread and white rice and cereal and im glad she said this :)
I’m so glad that was helpful for you ❤️
Oh my god I love cereal, I’m so happy to be able to fully enjoy it again
I would be interested in the break down of someone who does OMAD, one meal a day. Thanks Abbey love your channel :)
I’ll have a look at that!
omg you don’t know how long i’ve been waiting for this one
Same
Same
Yep
Same
Same! I knew I wanted Abby to review her after watching a compilation video of her telling Bella and Gigi not to eat.
How have you not done this one yet?! Haha
I'm 6 minutes in and it's like when you know your friend is not going to like a person and your friend doesn't hesitate to call out bullshit, so you're just there with snacks waiting for show to start. I can't stop laughing.
I know right!
Kinda surprised she even had kids since I'm sure she was terrified of getting fat.
That birthday cake episode haunts me since I watched it years ago when it first aired and this kind of bullshit was seen as normal.
I know, it’s very concerning 🙁
Birthday cake episode?
@@felicita6577 during an episode of the Real Housewives of Beverly Hills, Gigi celebrated her birthday. She wanted to eat a slice of birthday cake at her birthday like anybody would. But of course Yolanda could not let her teenage daughter enjoy a bit of cake. She gave her the tiniest slice and then shared the tiniest slice of birthday cake I have ever seen with Gigi.
You can watch it in this video ruclips.net/video/uVWqEwoyUh0/видео.html around the 01:20 mark.
BUT BEWARE! It's really really upsetting to watch.
Oh wow, watched a reel of Yolanda’s interactions with her daughters. Honestly, can’t know what goes on in their home life but, if a teacher or responsible adult witnessed that, it would be reported. Abbey always takes the high ground giving suggestions (with awesome snark) but, those poor girls.
I know, it is very concerning 🙁
I'm sooooooo glad to be here listening to a sane person giving legit info. RUclips's algorithm keeps giving me crazy stuff. Thanks, Abbs!
So glad it was helpful!
Same 🤗🤗
I feel like it's worth mentioning that even if her daughter is a lesbian, that's completely fine and acting like it's something bad is pretty gross on Yolanda's part
Her veggie soup for dinner looks super tasty! I recently had the same thing for dinner but made it a minestrone version - like Abbey said. And on the side had a piece of caprese bread- tomatoes, basil, mozzarella cheese with balsamic vinegar. Super tasty and a full balanced meal. Definitely felt better than if I had eaten multiple bowls of broth filled soup and felt super uncomfortably full but still hungry too.
Basically just commenting to say that Abbey's suggestions actually make practical sense and are super easy and tasty to implement. 😊
Sounds amazing! So glad that’s working for you 😊
I used your "add white beans to soup" suggestion this past week! I loved it so much for my pureed broccoli potato soup. Thank you for the tip!
So glad that was helpful for you!
That actually sounds so yummy!!
Cue all the flashbacks to my mom telling me “if you keep eating like that you’ll be 300 pounds” all the time growing up
I’m so sorry for your experience
Unfortunately, I saw this video of Yolanda when I was about fourteen years old. I told myself it was the “Gold Standard” of dieting, and was so amazed out how she could still enjoy “unhealthy food,” ie. the butter, while being so healthy. So sad.
Oh wow, I’m so sorry 🙁
diet culture literally leads us to believe that butter is “bad” for us ?? 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️
@@emmafirsel9223 ya
Thank you for convincing me to contact a therapist about my disordered eating. Watching this was a wake up call for me. I know I have an issue but I just don’t think a therapist can change my lifetime of eating disorders but you make me realize that I have to try for my daughter’s sake. She is seventeen and we are very close. I can’t help myself from expressing my feelings to her. I don’t tell her what to eat or not to eat but I beat myself up about my own body in front of her. I know I that is a horrible thing to do but it is in my consciousness 24 hours a day and I can’t help the pain from being obvious and coming out to the person I am closest to. I know I sound like a horrible mother but this video gave me that push. I am going to make phone calls tomorrow to find someone to help me.
I’m so glad this video was helpful for you and I’m wishing you luck on your journey ❤️
@@AbbeysKitchen thank you❤️
I would love to see a video on the difference between refined sugar and and sugar found in fruits and if they have the same effect on certain health conditions such as anxiety for example.
I will put this on my list to discuss!
Abbey you need to trademark "Oh boy..." and start a merch line lol
😂 true!
it honestly made me want to cry when you talked about gigi’s relationship with her daughter and passing down these harmful messages. some of what yolanda said to gigi was honestly heartbreaking and i believe both gigi and yolanda probably love their families and want to do the absolute best for them, but a negative relationship with food and being part of an at-times super toxic industry is really hard. i hope they all find peace and healing to break the cycle 💓
Abbey!!! I never thought I had a challenging relationship with food but I’ve been watching your videos forEVEEERRR and I have internalized and unlearned so much from you. Thank you thank you thank you ♥️
I'm so glad my videos have been helpful for you ❤️
Growing up, I always heard the ridiculous notion that women eat fish and chicken… men eat steak… what? Know that I am an adult that still flabbergasts me. Did anyone else ever hear that growing up?
I mean, i work at restaurants and it'a definitely silly but also true. Like 95% of the time that's how ordering goes
omg Yes! because “women dont need beef”
Oh no, that’s definitely not true!
I would imagine that’s because chicken and fish are lean meats and beef has more fat, and since socially, women are known more to “diet” than men, it became gendered. Which is ridiculous 😂 I love steak lol
My mom eats less beef because there is a belief that they are healthier and she is more health conscious than my dad. So it was true in my family. Lol
Tbh we kind of are what we eat! Isotopic analysis of bones lets archaeologists reconstruct the diet of ancient peoples and cultures because the foods we eat leave a signature in some parts of our bodies! Pretty cool I think!
Interesting!
I think that the way in which the phrase is used is what's problematic. It assigns moralistic value to the foods you consume. Most of the time it's your socio economic conditions that determine which foods you get to eat. If you're poor, you cannot afford organic meats and veggies. You're probably living off of processed and canned foods more than fresh foods because of availability and cost.
It is interesting that archeologists can analyze very ancient bones of creatures and tell us what they ate though!
That parent role model bit- I am totally a victim of watching my mother diet & restrict & gain & loose weight. And this is why I am here today...
I’m so sorry for your experience
30:27 why is this me I'm crying... I hide food in my room, I avoid eating at home with other people if I can, when my parents aren't home I eat too much and things like instant ramen, fried food, sweets etc. bc it's the only time I don't feel guilty, I stress/emotionally eat, I go through periods of restricting (in front of others) and binging other times, etc. And the other things like commenting on my body, what I eat, that I should be more active, food being good/healthy or bad/toxic/unhealthy. I thought my relationship with food wasn't as messed up as this ಥ‿ಥ But honestly, if I was able to self regulate I think it'd be a lot better... ┐(￣ヘ￣)┌
You can hear the wheels turning in her head, “ah yesss… if I put butter in my oatmeal and say that people don’t get enough fat in their diets NO ONE SHALL UNCOVER MY SECRET”
Abbey’s like the mom that I never had (one who didn’t facilitate my ED).
Aw thank you ❤️
Ohhh, I know that profile pick - do NOT vaporise our shared internet mum😂
"Why ya gotta make hydrating so complicated" on the timing of water to coffee. Thank you.
God, if I drank lemon water on an empty stomach in the morning, my stomach would KILL me.
I totally understand!
Acid on acid my reflux would be giving hell
The discomfort probably suppresses her appetite