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I remember when Gigi called Yolanda crying that she was ill and felt faint and Yolanda told her to eat a couple of almonds. Gave me Devil Wears Prada "I don't eat anything till I nearly faint when I eat a cube of cheese" vibes.
@@AbbeysKitchen I’m not 100% sure if it’s true but I apparently the almond thing was during Ramadan so she was trying to fast. But irregardless, Yolanda has said many problematic things.
@@jordynsophiamakeup I just watched that episode and I'm pretty sure it was just because they were doing the 'Master Cleanse' where they only drink lemon water :/
I've had an eating disorder for over a decade. Now that I'm pregnant, something clicked in my head and now I'm eating balanced meals whenever I am hungry. There's no more fear in weight gain because this isn't just about me anymore. I want to raise an intuitive eater and I appreciate this video so much!
Wow that's so brave from you! I wish did the same during my pregnancy. I felt guilty about my weight gain the whole time (even tho it's a pregnant belly, I couldn't stop associating it with my fear of not having a flat stomach...). I didn't eat enough and I was tired and shy... Thankfully I'm eating enough now, and my child is and was healthy but I wish I could just go back in time and feed my pregnant self a huge bowl of spaghetti...
@Violett Fem yeah... she was actually my most favourite housewife, because she was always very calm, friendly and kind, but it was hard for me to watch her eat so little and teach her kids to live this lifestyle...
I remember watching that episode and felt so bad for Gigi because it was her birthday party. And Yolanda criticized her for taking more than one bite. Let the girl eat cake!
To be fair, she only brought that up when Gigi talked about her fashion - wearing oversized volleyball tees. It wasn't really about volleyball - that she said would make her frame masculine yet her goals were towards modeling.
that clip is edited (i still don’t agree with the statement regardless of context) but she made the comment about how Gigi used to wear baggy basketball shorts and oversized t shirts when she was in middle school
@@cailinleimbrock3837 I always find thinking like that so funny because as a lesbian, in middle school I was wearing floral skirts/mini-skirts, pink, clips in my long hair, a cheerleader, etc. while my very straight childhood friend was the only girl on the football team lol
I know someone who went to school with Gigi and said she was a really talented volleyball player so it’s really sad to see that this was the kind of narrative she got at home about it
@@honeyrose__66oh no, she's rich, what a bitch! Why can't people feel bad about her if she has money? Should we only feel bad for people on the poverty line?
No wonder Bella developed an eating disorder (she had a whole Tumblr account dedicated to her eating disorder, you can google it). Her mother literally set disordered eating and skewed body goals as an example and imposed it on her kids. On top of that Bella also had to deal with Gigi being favoured as the golden child by her mom. It's also no wonder that Yolanda clearly struggles with food and body image having been a model in the 90s/2000s era. Still not an excuse to treat her children this way.
You all say that, but her strict dieting has enabled she and her daughters to be global supermodels. You don’t get that by eating “normally” just as pro body builders don’t eat “normally” prepping for a competition. When your physique secures your employment you treat is differently not saying it’s healthy, but their perspective is different.
Uneducated people shouldn’t try to fix someone’s eating disorder. Even if it’s from a place of meaning well, it is so dangerous. People within the medical field educate themselves for years, and even they sometimes need to go in and educate themselves some more so it’s so risky to try to wing it without a proper education when it comes to eating disorders. People really need to stop entertaining the idea that eating disorders is mainly an issue with food! Issues with food is the symptom of a serious mental disorder, you can’t help someone by saying they are beautiful or encourage them to eat. And those who say others help them get better by showing what they eat, is also uneducated because it still doesn’t help them refulate their emotions or fix their traumas that made them develop the mental disorder in the first place! Disordered eating on the other hand is what these people are experiences which is tied to physical appearance and social status etc, but it’s the thing people can overcome without the medical care because it is NOT a mental disorder it’s issues with food due to aesthetics!
@@soilgrasswaterair by “help “ we don’t know if they meant sending zayn to seek professional help and being there for them , not gigi by herself “curing “ his Ed
I’m actually really impressed at how mentally strong Gigi seems to be after everything. I don’t know how. It’s also really sad that Bella took on so much of that pressure.
My in-laws found it so weird that I told them they’re not allowed to talk about how ‘fat’ they are or about their diets and losing weight in front of my daughter. One told me with a straight face ‘its the reality of being a woman?’. So I told them I don’t want a life for my daughter where she’s never satisfied with her body and perpetually on a diet, living from one ‘cheat meal’ to the next. They completely disregarded this and it went as far as me telling them if they keep talking to her about it I will not allow them to see her without me present. I struggled for so long to have a healthy relationship with food and love my body, and I don’t want that for her.
That sounds kind of extreme. But they should respect your request. But unfortunately as much as you want to shield and protect your daughter from these topics, you can’t. The biggest thing to be aware of is her internet activity.
@@vaneskak1579I think it’s because when coming from family it makes you feel like a disappointment for not being thin. Yes she will see this information on the internet as she gets older, but shielding children from bad habits at a young age is one of the best ways for them to have healthy eating.
I love this ayurvedic saying 'you are what you digest', which also considers the emotions and thoughts that we digest as well as the foods, like nourishing your body is mental, physical, emotional etc. I know ayurveda may not exactly be 100% compatible with intuitive eating, but I think this framing of digestion does align with IE.
Agreed. There is also the "Neue Deutsche Medizin" (translates to New German Medicine) which kind of correlates all kind of emotional issues to physiological problems in the body.. Like when you have acid reflux would be that you cannot digest what is troubling you or worrying you.. or when you have joint issues that you are too rigid in some of your ways and not "bending" and flexible or all type of pains related to emtional and psychological reasons.. Found it very interesting. Also I believe it´s important to be grateful to the food that we eat. Say a small thank you or a grace before you eat. This small thing can really make the foods you eat more nourishing. I do not have any scientific studies to proof this but I know in my heart that it´s right.
I’m sorry but Yolanda’s relationship with food is just horrible and she pours it down her daughter’s throat. It makes me angry and it makes me sad. Wow.
True, but if you treat modeling as a professional sport you would understand that there are specific requirements on how you're supposed to look (or perform). To think that professional sport is "healthy" is naive, it requires a lot of sacrifices and is frequently very bad for your body, leaving sportsman and sportswomen with lifelong conditions. Now modeling is clearly much more shallow and much less honorable, but both require sacrifices, that's my point. Also, both Gigi and Bella did very good modeling wise and are now set for life, so I guess Yolanda succeeded? Is money everything? I don't think so, but they apparently do, it's their right.
@@Andrupenko Yep money is everything Yolanda force their daughters to be a model i heard some rumors she wasn't biggest just Naomi Campbell not her. Of course you have to be a relationship with food & healthy body too just like Adriana Lima, Candace Swanepoel, Eniko Mihalik & Gisele Bundchen, they're examples of healthy beauty in fashion industry imo of course you don't have to resitrict yourself just rnjoy life.
@@visualbeauty3427 not adriana lima though, she does an extremely unhealthy restrictive diet to ‘prep’ for fashion shows, like water fasting for at least a day prior to the catwalk. Fortunately Gigi and Bella Hadid have healthy relationships with food though
The crazy thing is she wasn’t always like this with the girls. I went to middle school with Gigi and Yolanda always had balanced and plentiful snacks out for us after school. That being said, I was usually only there in the afternoons and on weekends. Maybe it wasn’t always like that when other kids weren’t there. This breaks my heart and angers me too. It’s not okay. It’s terrible and dangerous.
Yolanda reminds me so much of my grandmother. When I was in elementary school she made me workout every night before bed and heavily controlled my diet. She would even check the school menu for the day so she could tell me which things on my tray she didn’t want me to eat. I was underweight my whole childhood until I was 16.
I'm tired about the stereotype that mothers teach ED to their children because fathers can do too. My mother has never pressured me to eat a certain way. She is a great cooker, balanced meals are so delicious. But the one who pressures me and my sister to lose weight and makes us feel never enough and never pretty enough is my father. At 24 I understand that he is projecting an ideal beauty type on us that we can not reach. Even at a normal BMI now we are curvy, even if we would starve we'll still have curves. And I love my curves so not my problem anymore.
I had a conversation with my mother recently where she said “no one should ever stop watching what they eat because we’re all only a few mistakes away from becoming obese” and “yeah, technically you’d still be a healthy BMI if you gained 30 lbs, but you’d feel awful in your body” and it hit me that all my disordered eating is probably learned from her.
It's such a common thing, so many of us were brought up by parents who believed if you weren't constantly "watching what you eat" you will put on weight and that will be a disaster. No wonder so many of us are now trying to get over disordered eating!
@@powderandpaint14 this is so true. My mom has the same problem and she constantly tells me and my brother to loose weight eventhough we are healthy and practice sport. We have a more fitness body because of the weight training and martial artes and this makes us fat 😥😥😥😥😥😥
Omg get a life girl. It’s legit advice you can only be do big and be healthy. Ask any overweight person if they wish they had dialed in at 10 pounds to lose vs 50. Stop blaming your mom For your weak state of mind
The lemon water thing most definitely didn’t start with her. I had a “detox diet” book in the early 2000s that had you drinking lemon and cayenne pepper water every morning. This has been a thing for ages.
Oooooooohhhhhhh! I found this old cookery book ( I think it was called enjoyable food or something) anyway, it had a diet plan that basically consistent of tomato juice and lemon juice.
Yolanda sort of reminds me of my mum. She's always commented on my body. Like I remember when I was 6 years old and I was throwing up from being sick and she said that my tummy "looks like what all the 16 year-old girls want" because it was flat from basically being empty. Also when I was going through puberty at 12 she said that my thighs are too big. I was 12!!! There was so many other comments as well and they all definitely contributed to me developing an ED. My stepdad didn't help later on when he kept calling me fat when I was severely underweight!! I cut them out of my life and completely recovered now thanks to my boyfriend and his family though so that's good :)
Unfortunately we live in the obesity/overconsumption world, not a "diet world". An average person consumes at least 500 calories more than they should daily, especially in UK and North Americans. While dieting and anorexia can be dangerous, they only take up to 1000 lives annually, while obesity affects hundreds of millions and causes around 5-6 million of deaths each year. But forget about the quantity, the quality of the food is even a bigger issue. Just looking at what Americans feed their kids (and most North Americans actually) is saddening. Jamie Oliver has raised this topic a lot (and please note that neither he nor his kids are anorexic), but it didn't have much effect in USA.
I feel like the way in which Yolanda speaks about food is in part driven by her life long battle with Lyme. I had a parent with a chronic disease that drove them to be hyper focused on organic/superfoods. Wellness culture is one thing but fears around food/toxicity are exacerbated by struggles with chronic disease.
It’s true. When you have a chronic illness or autoimmune disease the dietary rules are so restrictive and every time you get a flareup you have doctors asking you to track every ounce of food. It’s horrible. I was doing well battling an ED from childhood but with my illness, my doctors are demanding I return to those disordered habits. Food isn’t just bad or a cheat anymore, it’s “killing” me. I’d actually love to see Abbey address this. It’s a struggle. You can’t have “variety” because you aren’t allowed to eat anything. You get tired. You end up just not eating because all food feels like the enemy.
Chronic Lyme is not a thing, despite what holistic people say. That's why you pay big money to functional medicine docs for their tests for their diagnosis and then their treatment. Oftentimes it is an undiagnosed autoimmune disorder or some sort of variant of chronic fatigue syndrome/depression with physical symptoms. But yes the diets of holistic people are insane and are terrible for their mental health, they truly become obsessive.
@@forwardrecording1445 Chronic Lyme is absolutely "a thing." I've been suffering with it and Bartonella for 6 yrs. I know exactly when I got bit/infected and it's been a nightmare.
I'm not defending Yolanda for probably giving her daughter an eating disorder. However, let's also remember that she was a model as well, and this way of thinking that she is passing on to her children is all likely an result of her own experiences with restriction in the modeling industry and someone controlling her diet/giving her bad advice as well. Edit: Also another point to add. Just because your parents might do everything to raise you to be intuitive, healthy eaters with a great food relationship doesn't mean it'll happen. But that's the scary part about raising kids in general isn't it? My mom followed all of the gentle nutrition tips and teaching us how to be good eaters, and out of the four of us (2 boys and 2 girls), I'm the only one that struggles with disordered eating. My younger sister almost did, but she wised up pretty fast. To say I'm envious is an understatement.
@@zwischenburkaundbikini2418 for sure. But I think that because her environment and lifestyle are encouraging it, she might not understand how damaging it is... which is even sadder, because the illness is passed on without being treated, for both her and her family😣
I always understood the “you are what you eat“ in the most literal way: through biochemical reactions our bodies break down out food into compounds that it can use to build our body. So the said apple will be used in on way or another to either fuel your cell as a source of energy or as a “building block” to literally build a cell.Therefore I think we are indeed what we eat and I really like that I am pizzas and apples and chocolate and so on. I am what I love. Plus I think it’s really fascinating how our bodies work!
The “you are what you eat” mantra is actually extremely harmful to people with chronic illnesses. Nowadays many people assume that you only get any kind of disease or condition if you’re not eating “healthy” enough or don’t work out enough. And it’s so frustrating to battle a chronic illness and then have to hear bs like that. Cutting Yolanda some slack because she’s a mom is strange. She doesn’t work, she lives off of her ex husbands’ money and all of her kids are adults.
I also have a chronic condition and that attitude of ‘eat more greens and go for a walk and you’ll be healed ✨’ bothers me so much. I’ve made several dietary changes, drink lots of water and work out almost everyday and guess what? I’m still ill! I agree with you completely, it’s so damaging and patronising
I 100% agree with you. I have chronic fatigue syndrome and I really hate when I am asked if I got enough sleep the night before. Like no I like feeling like absolute crap all day and working in what feels like, a for lack of a better phrase, a fog.
Not to mention that there are doctors who, because of this attitude, overlook the possibility of chronic illness in patients, instead referring to their problems as side effects of obesity or poor diet. DOCTORS!!!!! So many people go undiagnosed because this rhetoric is so pervasive that DOCTORS are pushing it. The craziest part is that saying a change in diet is a solution to chronic illness is pretty much on par with saying that garlic is a safer prevention of disease than a vaccine - it's completely illogical, but when enough people say it, it becomes believable.
I know a couple who have diabetes because of genetic reasons (match made in heaven) so now both their kids have it. They don't take sweets even during festivals, workout everyday and don't keep any processed food in their house. On top of that, they are vegetarians, which in our country implies a decent, healthy diet. But guess what? They're still diabetic. It is harmful indeed lol.
The rationale behind it is that because the lemon juice is so acidic, your stomach would need to produce an alkaline solution to even it out... Even if it did work that way, you would need way more than that one glass in the morning for this effect to be long lasting, since everything you eat has its own pH and the stomach has to digest it regardless.
abbey recommending carbs is just what i needed today. even in ed recovery, i always think of carbs as something harmful (and it's not in the hunger crushing combo haha) but i love bread and white rice and cereal and im glad she said this :)
Thank you for convincing me to contact a therapist about my disordered eating. Watching this was a wake up call for me. I know I have an issue but I just don’t think a therapist can change my lifetime of eating disorders but you make me realize that I have to try for my daughter’s sake. She is seventeen and we are very close. I can’t help myself from expressing my feelings to her. I don’t tell her what to eat or not to eat but I beat myself up about my own body in front of her. I know I that is a horrible thing to do but it is in my consciousness 24 hours a day and I can’t help the pain from being obvious and coming out to the person I am closest to. I know I sound like a horrible mother but this video gave me that push. I am going to make phone calls tomorrow to find someone to help me.
why should she? I accidentally discovered I eat 1200 calories a day (I was bored during pandemic and started tracking what I eat for 2 weeks, then I gave up). Eating more made me sluggish, tired and grumpy.
Her veggie soup for dinner looks super tasty! I recently had the same thing for dinner but made it a minestrone version - like Abbey said. And on the side had a piece of caprese bread- tomatoes, basil, mozzarella cheese with balsamic vinegar. Super tasty and a full balanced meal. Definitely felt better than if I had eaten multiple bowls of broth filled soup and felt super uncomfortably full but still hungry too. Basically just commenting to say that Abbey's suggestions actually make practical sense and are super easy and tasty to implement. 😊
You really helped me get out of my eating disorder. I used to track every calorie I would eat, and my app said I should eat 1296 calories a day. I did not eat enough at all and also lost my period. I still haven’t had it yet, but I’m hoping soon. Thank you Abbey🙏
I'm literally tearing up watching your videos... thank you so much for making them and for being so nice and understanding! I've had quite a few unpleasant experiences with doctors, dieticians, and family members since I was a child, which you can explain so well that I'm almost crying finding out that someone understands it. Thank you! ❤
it honestly made me want to cry when you talked about gigi’s relationship with her daughter and passing down these harmful messages. some of what yolanda said to gigi was honestly heartbreaking and i believe both gigi and yolanda probably love their families and want to do the absolute best for them, but a negative relationship with food and being part of an at-times super toxic industry is really hard. i hope they all find peace and healing to break the cycle 💓
Just one thing though, those videos of Yolanda are at least honest. It's not like they show themselves eating a whole pizza then claiming how 'healthy' and 'normal' they are while starving themselves
You know, that is one thing i appreciate as well. With the food shes eating and her questionable parenting around food. It may be awful watching some of the things she says to her kids, but so many people will act like that behind closed doors and pretend in public that they dont police their kids food or obsess over their bodies. Its honest, at the very least. Which also suggests to me that shes probably kinda doing what she thinks is good with what she knows, which seems to be kinda.. limited.
Yolanda’s policing of her daughter’s food is downright sad. I hope she isn’t giving advice about what her grandchild should eat. PS: Abbey, I’m obsessed with your lovely top. Could I ask what make it is?
How have you not done this one yet?! Haha I'm 6 minutes in and it's like when you know your friend is not going to like a person and your friend doesn't hesitate to call out bullshit, so you're just there with snacks waiting for show to start. I can't stop laughing.
I've always thought about the "you are what you eat" in this way: I eat some peanuts, I digest them, I absorb the amino acids and use them as building blocks for my tissues, therefore now I'm ...like 0,000001% peanut" 😂 Anyone?
Ugh. This reminded me of my childhood. I was forced to eat in front of the mirror. :( It's really difficult to get the words out of one's mind even decades later.
Abbey!!! I never thought I had a challenging relationship with food but I’ve been watching your videos forEVEEERRR and I have internalized and unlearned so much from you. Thank you thank you thank you ♥️
@@AryannaCisnerosChannel not every single day in all the meals. You can enjoy everything in moderation. I’m sure it was an exaggeration but it case it isn’t…
I feel like it's worth mentioning that even if her daughter is a lesbian, that's completely fine and acting like it's something bad is pretty gross on Yolanda's part
Oh, wow, she sounds like my mother when I was growing up. Not even modelling for an excuse. She was always trying to lose 5, 10, 15 pounds, and as soon as I started developing she was all over what I ate, and criticizing every part of my body. Yes, I have a history of eating disorders. Umpteen years of therapy later, I am doing OK and able to talk with my daughter about food in terms of fuel, building blocks and fun. I ask her to check in with herself about eating more/not eating and if she's eating a bunch of pickled gherkins and not filling up, I suggest rounding out the pickles with something that has protein and fat (because pickles have fibre) to help her fill up and stay full long enough. And then the other day she asked why I was so fat, and yikes! I explained that yes, I am fat, and there's a lot of different reasons, some hormonal, some my tummy issues, some because I'd had more than one time in my life where I didn't get enough food, so now my body likes to hold on to some extra energy because it doesn't understand that I am going to have enough food from now on, and some because I get sick and tired so much that I don't get the chance to move my body as much as it wants to move--but my body is the way it is, and I like it and everything it *does* let me do. I hope I did OK, but if my mother has been in her ear, that is it, because the eating disorders and disordered eating and body image issues stop with me, I am not subjecting another generation to the same misery I went through.
Thank you for sharing how you talk with your daughter! I have worried that if I have kids someday I might pass on bad thinking about food to them, so it was really helpful to read your practical examples of how you have avoided doing that. Thanks!
I would love to see a video on the difference between refined sugar and and sugar found in fruits and if they have the same effect on certain health conditions such as anxiety for example.
This video gave me some validation and it feels good. My mom is 90% responsible for my eating disorders. I saw my mom have a really bad relationship with food which lead me to having an ED. Im better now but man, it hasn’t been easy and I still struggle some days. All I can do is keep moving forward. Thank you for this video!
I’m glad you mentioned to the current correlation of morality with food. When I was young the focus was on being a good person and it didn’t matter what you ate. Now, people seem to rate merit on what you eat more than anything else.
Oh wow, watched a reel of Yolanda’s interactions with her daughters. Honestly, can’t know what goes on in their home life but, if a teacher or responsible adult witnessed that, it would be reported. Abbey always takes the high ground giving suggestions (with awesome snark) but, those poor girls.
Unfortunately, I saw this video of Yolanda when I was about fourteen years old. I told myself it was the “Gold Standard” of dieting, and was so amazed out how she could still enjoy “unhealthy food,” ie. the butter, while being so healthy. So sad.
Love that you pointed out the importance of modeling food relationships! This was my problem growing up, and all these years later, as I'm about to turn 35 years old, my relationship with food is horrible, and I struggle with disordered eating daily. It takes a lot of work to undo this (something I'm working on in therapy) but it's so important that we talk about this! For many many years, I just thought that I was lazy and gluttonous. I had NO idea that I was sort of conditioned to have this relationship with food. Thank you for talking about this!
My mom and I had an eating disorder at the same time when I was in high school. That was an extremely hard time, for both of us. Thank you for putting all this information out there Abby. Your videos have greatly improved my relationship with food :-)
Tbh we kind of are what we eat! Isotopic analysis of bones lets archaeologists reconstruct the diet of ancient peoples and cultures because the foods we eat leave a signature in some parts of our bodies! Pretty cool I think!
I think that the way in which the phrase is used is what's problematic. It assigns moralistic value to the foods you consume. Most of the time it's your socio economic conditions that determine which foods you get to eat. If you're poor, you cannot afford organic meats and veggies. You're probably living off of processed and canned foods more than fresh foods because of availability and cost. It is interesting that archeologists can analyze very ancient bones of creatures and tell us what they ate though!
@@felicita6577 during an episode of the Real Housewives of Beverly Hills, Gigi celebrated her birthday. She wanted to eat a slice of birthday cake at her birthday like anybody would. But of course Yolanda could not let her teenage daughter enjoy a bit of cake. She gave her the tiniest slice and then shared the tiniest slice of birthday cake I have ever seen with Gigi. You can watch it in this video ruclips.net/video/uVWqEwoyUh0/видео.html around the 01:20 mark. BUT BEWARE! It's really really upsetting to watch.
I would love a video on insulin sensitivity and front loading calories. I have insulin sensitivity and through trial and error, I’ve learned that I feel best eating the bulk of my calories early in the day and fasting (unintentionally) at night, makes me feel the best without severe dips in blood sugar. I’d don’t really know why that it is, but I’d love to have a concrete explanation!
i love my mom, i really do, but when i was a child she was anorexic and restricted a lot of foods for me and she didn’t notice the damage she did until i got anorexic myself, she doesn’t have and ed anymore but she still cries when i have trouble eating something. me on other side, not ana anymore but still not in a good relationship with food, definitely trying to fix my disordered eatings and you help both of us a lot 🥰💗
Growing up, I always heard the ridiculous notion that women eat fish and chicken… men eat steak… what? Know that I am an adult that still flabbergasts me. Did anyone else ever hear that growing up?
I would imagine that’s because chicken and fish are lean meats and beef has more fat, and since socially, women are known more to “diet” than men, it became gendered. Which is ridiculous 😂 I love steak lol
Listening to this while I’m working. I heard the lemon water and it was an instant eye roll from me. Then you went into it (like you always do, because apparently people don’t get it!) and I felt better. Especially the bit about it being alkalising. Thank you. 🙏
Yolanda didn’t start the lemon water craze, I’ve been hearing about it for ages, from Beyoncé among other people. I cruelly tried it myself a few years ago, but all it did was give me acid reflux lmao. So now I just drink a glass of water in the morning 15-30 minutes before my breakfast, and I love it. It’s such a simple habit but I truly feel the difference.
Thank you for talking about the mora judgement that underpins the “you are what you eat” mentality. I was taught that as a kid and really struggle now with the good food=good person vs. bad food=bad person thinking. Instead of encouraging better habits it has created a lot of inner conflict that makes it hard to see food simply for what it is, and not a reflection on my entire character. This video was a lightbulb moment for me because I’ve experienced but never heard anyone really articulate the damaging effects that this seemingly simple phrase can have.
You can hear the wheels turning in her head, “ah yesss… if I put butter in my oatmeal and say that people don’t get enough fat in their diets NO ONE SHALL UNCOVER MY SECRET”
my mom definitely wasn't an almond mom, but she went through phases of extremely restrictive eating and "health kicks"/fasting and was always making comments abt her own body (not mine, but we have the same body shape) which definitely contributed to my eating disorder. my grandma is anorexic as well so there was a major generational factor
You may never see this but your channel has helped me little by little get more in touch with my eating and how my disordered eating has affected me. Thank you so much for your tips! If I ever have kids I want to keep them in mind.
Did you see the one where GiGi said she was feeling very weak over the phone, she said she had half of an almond. Yolanda responded with eat 2 almonds, make sure you chew really well! It’s honestly sick, I hope those kids are able to break that cycle. Yolanda clearly has issues around food.
I can hardly believe it when I hear of peoples moms commenting on their daughters bodies negatively. I know I sometimes overhead maybe some negative comments my mom made about her own body, but she would never ever ever say anything negative about mine. In fact most of my negative body talk I learned from other girls around me starting in middle school. Like how tf does any mom think that it’s okay to shame your daughters body 😤
its very common and sadly normalized in asian culture. From teachers, to friends parents, random relatives, grandparents and parents (just talking about adults here), will comment on your weight, color, hair and size. It is solely reserved for girls and women in our society though. I have heard this endlessly while growing up. Always compared for my height, wavy curly hair and weight with my sibling who is naturally size 0 , striaght hair and tall. I was size US 4/6 when I was called obese and fat.
My mom shamed me the whole time I was growing up for my size. It started when I was very young, probably around five or six. She was always shaming me for my size, and I may have been a little chubby, but a lot of it was what she was feeding me. I loved vegetables, but she never made any because she didn’t like them. The best I could hope for was a premade salad mix, and as I got older, I’d ask for more veggies, but she’d just say I was eating too much. I was twelve when we were getting ready to head out to work and school, and I said I was really hungry because I hadn’t eaten in about twelve hours, and she told me it would help me lose weight. At ten, she started asking if it was okay if she didn’t send me to school with lunch money because she didn’t have time to stop and get some out of the bank. I’d come home from walking three miles home from school, and I’d be so ravenous I’d eat anything I could get my hands on. I could down a full can of soup or chili in under thirty seconds. By the time I was thirteen, my nails were constantly breaking, my fingers were bloody, my skin was always bad, my hair was always bad, always had heart palpitations, headaches, nausea, vomiting, aches, pains, constipation, dizziness, frequent illnesses, irritability… I went to the doctor often enough, but they never did any blood work. I can see how I looked in pictures, and I looked awful. I don’t know how anyone could’ve looked at me, and not seen that I had issues. It was also around this time that she started telling me that the only time I should have as many as 1,000 calories, was at the holidays. I still struggle with my relationship with food, and I don’t understand how you could treat a child that way.
Omg this video hit me. 😳 It explains so much why I have such a dysfunctional relationship with food. I could understand that it comes from a 'Good' place. But I am not competent. The constant guilt, surveillance and nonstop thinking about my meals and when, how and what I will be eating. It all stems from my mother, her dysfunctional relationship with food and mental health. Which subsequently came from her mum. I'm so much more than food or my weight. Thank you so much for you're content xx
Thank you for this channel Abbey! And the work that you do! You’ve really been helping me heal my relationship with food and not punish myself for nourishing my body!!!! You’re the best!
i once saw a clip where she was showing off her "suplement cupboard", she takes (and shoves them down her kids' throats) more "suplements" than she eats actual food. it's truly sickening! i hope for the sake of Khai (Gigi and Zayn's daughter) Gigi doesn't let Yolanda control what she can or can't eat. the poor girl i only 3 years old...
i’m currently trying to get out of my disordered eating habits, and your videos both give me the knowledge i never had, and make the little kid in me who was told not to eat, feel a lot better :)) thank you for this
And people wonder why many models are addicted to drugs. They need the energy boost that they aren’t getting from food. Also, we are speaking about a woman who had facial surgery done to her daughters when not quite adults to make them more marketable to the modeling market.
When my kids friends played at our house, pool parties, sleepovers, afternoons after school, I always served fruit or veg with dips first. After everyone partook of the healthy stuff that’s when I brought out the junk food. I only ever asked that they ate healthy first, no one ever complained.
What lemon (or other citrus fruits) do help with when consumed in water, is replenishing electrolytes 😁! My go to recipe for replenishing electrolytes in the summer when it is very hot is about 1,5l water with the juice of 1 lemon and the juice of 1 orange and some himalayan salt. When I drink this it replenishes my electrolytes and I no longer get bad headaches and nausea due to not having enough electrolytes. You can drink this any time of the year, and it also is great for when you exercise.
I'm so happy I found you! I am starting my journey to better health and nutrition. I have body dysmorphia and was raised around people who commented on my weight. I need a new perspective on food and nutrition.
On the show, Yolanda did say that she was controlling about Gigi’s diet because Gigi wanted to be a model, and Yolanda wanted to “help”. So perhaps if Gigi and Bella didn’t go into modeling, she wouldn’t have been so aggressive about it. Despite that, Gigi portrays a healthy and loving relationship with food and cooking on her social media.
I mean she did lose quite some weight when she got her serious high fashion deals and shows but she never really looked emancipated for her body structure and she also has a kid now.
This is not too related to this video, but I loved your hunger crushing combo video. I think it’s a great way to enjoy eating since it’s all things you love to eat in a balanced way. Please make more HCC videos!
"I don't care if you eat an entire cake, you are not bad" me thinking about my birthday meal yesterday which was just tons of différents cakes from a well know french baker : yeah that was pretty damn good actually
I found your videos during my pregnancy, I wanted to be healthier for my baby, but not eliminate “bad food”. I’m so glad I found you, because the “bad food” isn’t bad, what’s bad is how you consume it. I was struggling with food and my weight before getting pregnant, but watching your videos helped a lot. Following your advice, I felt happier and I even lost 20 pounds during my pregnancy. I always struggled with my eating habits, but I wanted to change it for my baby. Feeling happier and losing weight was just a bonus. I just hope I don’t fall back to my bad habits.
I picked up a lot bad habits from my mom. Including buying the bigger portion because it was "cheaper". Like I love cheesecake and I'll buy the individual slice or a small pack. She make comments I should get the bigger one. I would tell no because I will eat the whole thing. She tell me well you need to have self control (but never saw her do it). I learned to tell her "yes I am using self control by leave the big one at the store and getting only what I want". We have had the same argument over soda. I limit how much I bring in my house.
Used to exclusively have goats milk back when I used to have bad eczema. My skin is mostly under control now as an adult but when I was a kid it really helped clear up my eczema.
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@@cardhortI
3 words for u diets don’t work they make people miserable
I remember when Gigi called Yolanda crying that she was ill and felt faint and Yolanda told her to eat a couple of almonds. Gave me Devil Wears Prada "I don't eat anything till I nearly faint when I eat a cube of cheese" vibes.
Oh wow 🙁
@@AbbeysKitchen I’m not 100% sure if it’s true but I apparently the almond thing was during Ramadan so she was trying to fast. But irregardless, Yolanda has said many problematic things.
Oh no That is horrible I remember that part.
@@jordynsophiamakeup I just watched that episode and I'm pretty sure it was just because they were doing the 'Master Cleanse' where they only drink lemon water :/
@@jordynsophiamakeup is she Muslim?
I've had an eating disorder for over a decade. Now that I'm pregnant, something clicked in my head and now I'm eating balanced meals whenever I am hungry. There's no more fear in weight gain because this isn't just about me anymore. I want to raise an intuitive eater and I appreciate this video so much!
I’m so glad it was helpful! ❤️
Same. Getting pregnant fixed my hunger cues after I got over morning sickness suckfest.
That’s incredible, I’m so happy to hear.
Wow that's so brave from you! I wish did the same during my pregnancy. I felt guilty about my weight gain the whole time (even tho it's a pregnant belly, I couldn't stop associating it with my fear of not having a flat stomach...). I didn't eat enough and I was tired and shy... Thankfully I'm eating enough now, and my child is and was healthy but I wish I could just go back in time and feed my pregnant self a huge bowl of spaghetti...
Congratulations ❤️
Yolanda is literally insane. She fed her daughter a half of a half of a half of a piece of cake. That's what starts eating disorders...
That part of the series made me laugh 😄
@Violett Fem yeah... she was actually my most favourite housewife, because she was always very calm, friendly and kind, but it was hard for me to watch her eat so little and teach her kids to live this lifestyle...
Pretty sure it was less than that 🤣🤣 she was shook over that miniscule morsel💀💀💀💀
I remember watching that episode and felt so bad for Gigi because it was her birthday party. And Yolanda criticized her for taking more than one bite. Let the girl eat cake!
I know, it is very concerning 🙁
“Mom I wanna play volleyball “
Yolanda: my daughter is a lesbian 👁👄👁
Yeah. Volleyball=homosexual apparently 👀
To be fair, she only brought that up when Gigi talked about her fashion - wearing oversized volleyball tees. It wasn't really about volleyball - that she said would make her frame masculine yet her goals were towards modeling.
that clip is edited (i still don’t agree with the statement regardless of context) but she made the comment about how Gigi used to wear baggy basketball shorts and oversized t shirts when she was in middle school
@@waitherambugua7972 Yolanda and that sort of thinking is toxic as hell.
@@cailinleimbrock3837 I always find thinking like that so funny because as a lesbian, in middle school I was wearing floral skirts/mini-skirts, pink, clips in my long hair, a cheerleader, etc. while my very straight childhood friend was the only girl on the football team lol
I know someone who went to school with Gigi and said she was a really talented volleyball player so it’s really sad to see that this was the kind of narrative she got at home about it
Oh wow 🙁
That makes me so sad!
She was captain of the A side volleyball. Yolanda knows nothing about volleyball bodies.
Lol you people feel bad for someone who earns millions for doing a ramp walk
@@honeyrose__66oh no, she's rich, what a bitch! Why can't people feel bad about her if she has money? Should we only feel bad for people on the poverty line?
No wonder Bella developed an eating disorder (she had a whole Tumblr account dedicated to her eating disorder, you can google it). Her mother literally set disordered eating and skewed body goals as an example and imposed it on her kids. On top of that Bella also had to deal with Gigi being favoured as the golden child by her mom.
It's also no wonder that Yolanda clearly struggles with food and body image having been a model in the 90s/2000s era. Still not an excuse to treat her children this way.
That is very upsetting to hear 🙁
Yeah
Shame on Yolanda!
I wonder if Yolanda had a fit when she found out Bella is bisexual 😢
You all say that, but her strict dieting has enabled she and her daughters to be global supermodels. You don’t get that by eating “normally” just as pro body builders don’t eat “normally” prepping for a competition. When your physique secures your employment you treat is differently not saying it’s healthy, but their perspective is different.
Gigi actually helped zayn with his ED , I’m so glad that she seems like she has a good view of food
That’s great to hear
Hopefully she got therapy for what her mother put her through
Uneducated people shouldn’t try to fix someone’s eating disorder. Even if it’s from a place of meaning well, it is so dangerous. People within the medical field educate themselves for years, and even they sometimes need to go in and educate themselves some more so it’s so risky to try to wing it without a proper education when it comes to eating disorders. People really need to stop entertaining the idea that eating disorders is mainly an issue with food! Issues with food is the symptom of a serious mental disorder, you can’t help someone by saying they are beautiful or encourage them to eat. And those who say others help them get better by showing what they eat, is also uneducated because it still doesn’t help them refulate their emotions or fix their traumas that made them develop the mental disorder in the first place! Disordered eating on the other hand is what these people are experiences which is tied to physical appearance and social status etc, but it’s the thing people can overcome without the medical care because it is NOT a mental disorder it’s issues with food due to aesthetics!
@@soilgrasswaterair by “help “ we don’t know if they meant sending zayn to seek professional help and being there for them , not gigi by herself “curing “ his Ed
I’m actually really impressed at how mentally strong Gigi seems to be after everything. I don’t know how. It’s also really sad that Bella took on so much of that pressure.
My in-laws found it so weird that I told them they’re not allowed to talk about how ‘fat’ they are or about their diets and losing weight in front of my daughter. One told me with a straight face ‘its the reality of being a woman?’. So I told them I don’t want a life for my daughter where she’s never satisfied with her body and perpetually on a diet, living from one ‘cheat meal’ to the next. They completely disregarded this and it went as far as me telling them if they keep talking to her about it I will not allow them to see her without me present. I struggled for so long to have a healthy relationship with food and love my body, and I don’t want that for her.
Oh wow, I’m sorry! That sounds very frustrating
That sounds kind of extreme. But they should respect your request. But unfortunately as much as you want to shield and protect your daughter from these topics, you can’t. The biggest thing to be aware of is her internet activity.
@@vaneskak1579I think it’s because when coming from family it makes you feel like a disappointment for not being thin. Yes she will see this information on the internet as she gets older, but shielding children from bad habits at a young age is one of the best ways for them to have healthy eating.
I love this ayurvedic saying 'you are what you digest', which also considers the emotions and thoughts that we digest as well as the foods, like nourishing your body is mental, physical, emotional etc. I know ayurveda may not exactly be 100% compatible with intuitive eating, but I think this framing of digestion does align with IE.
Love that, thank you for sharing!
100%! I remember a nurse telling me once taking care of your body requires focusing on the mental, physical and spiritual. We aren’t one dimensional!
Very well said indeed!
Agreed. There is also the "Neue Deutsche Medizin" (translates to New German Medicine) which kind of correlates all kind of emotional issues to physiological problems in the body.. Like when you have acid reflux would be that you cannot digest what is troubling you or worrying you.. or when you have joint issues that you are too rigid in some of your ways and not "bending" and flexible or all type of pains related to emtional and psychological reasons.. Found it very interesting. Also I believe it´s important to be grateful to the food that we eat. Say a small thank you or a grace before you eat. This small thing can really make the foods you eat more nourishing. I do not have any scientific studies to proof this but I know in my heart that it´s right.
@@IloveCamels335 yesss that's so beautiful
I’m sorry but Yolanda’s relationship with food is just horrible and she pours it down her daughter’s throat. It makes me angry and it makes me sad. Wow.
True, but if you treat modeling as a professional sport you would understand that there are specific requirements on how you're supposed to look (or perform). To think that professional sport is "healthy" is naive, it requires a lot of sacrifices and is frequently very bad for your body, leaving sportsman and sportswomen with lifelong conditions. Now modeling is clearly much more shallow and much less honorable, but both require sacrifices, that's my point. Also, both Gigi and Bella did very good modeling wise and are now set for life, so I guess Yolanda succeeded? Is money everything? I don't think so, but they apparently do, it's their right.
@@Andrupenko Yep money is everything Yolanda force their daughters to be a model i heard some rumors she wasn't biggest just Naomi Campbell not her. Of course you have to be a relationship with food & healthy body too just like Adriana Lima, Candace Swanepoel, Eniko Mihalik & Gisele Bundchen, they're examples of healthy beauty in fashion industry imo of course you don't have to resitrict yourself just rnjoy life.
@@visualbeauty3427 not adriana lima though, she does an extremely unhealthy restrictive diet to ‘prep’ for fashion shows, like water fasting for at least a day prior to the catwalk. Fortunately Gigi and Bella Hadid have healthy relationships with food though
The crazy thing is she wasn’t always like this with the girls. I went to middle school with Gigi and Yolanda always had balanced and plentiful snacks out for us after school. That being said, I was usually only there in the afternoons and on weekends. Maybe it wasn’t always like that when other kids weren’t there. This breaks my heart and angers me too. It’s not okay. It’s terrible and dangerous.
Ps I love the name Juno. My grandmother’s name is June Davis so your username made me smile
Yolanda reminds me so much of my grandmother. When I was in elementary school she made me workout every night before bed and heavily controlled my diet. She would even check the school menu for the day so she could tell me which things on my tray she didn’t want me to eat. I was underweight my whole childhood until I was 16.
Oh wow, I'm sorry that must suck
I'm tired about the stereotype that mothers teach ED to their children because fathers can do too. My mother has never pressured me to eat a certain way. She is a great cooker, balanced meals are so delicious.
But the one who pressures me and my sister to lose weight and makes us feel never enough and never pretty enough is my father.
At 24 I understand that he is projecting an ideal beauty type on us that we can not reach. Even at a normal BMI now we are curvy, even if we would starve we'll still have curves. And I love my curves so not my problem anymore.
Yes, that’s another important point. Thank you for mentioning this as well
Can confirm, my dad was the one who taught me what "empty calories" meant as a toddler, for example.
Yesss I agree with this 100%
Same here, only after he was out of my life did I realise how nasty his comments on my very normal weight were
Agree. My parents didn't stress us about our weight. But my dad more than my mum if I had to think. He wasn't being mean but he made tiny comments
I had a conversation with my mother recently where she said “no one should ever stop watching what they eat because we’re all only a few mistakes away from becoming obese” and “yeah, technically you’d still be a healthy BMI if you gained 30 lbs, but you’d feel awful in your body” and it hit me that all my disordered eating is probably learned from her.
Oh no, I’m so sorry 🙁
It's such a common thing, so many of us were brought up by parents who believed if you weren't constantly "watching what you eat" you will put on weight and that will be a disaster. No wonder so many of us are now trying to get over disordered eating!
@@powderandpaint14 this is so true. My mom has the same problem and she constantly tells me and my brother to loose weight eventhough we are healthy and practice sport. We have a more fitness body because of the weight training and martial artes and this makes us fat 😥😥😥😥😥😥
Omg get a life girl. It’s legit advice you can only be do big and be healthy. Ask any overweight person if they wish they had dialed in at 10 pounds to lose vs 50. Stop blaming your mom
For your weak state of mind
She wasn’t wrong sis, that’s legit good advice and the only way to be healthy. Its not fun to have to lose weight later in life
The lemon water thing most definitely didn’t start with her. I had a “detox diet” book in the early 2000s that had you drinking lemon and cayenne pepper water every morning. This has been a thing for ages.
Oh wow!
@@therabbithat LOL I think you're onto something
The master cleanse it sounds like! Which was made popular by Beyoncé at the time I believe
@@harrietxo2310 master cleanse is lemon, cayenne and maple syrup with no other food for up to 14 days
Oooooooohhhhhhh!
I found this old cookery book ( I think it was called enjoyable food or something) anyway, it had a diet plan that basically consistent of tomato juice and lemon juice.
Yolanda sort of reminds me of my mum. She's always commented on my body. Like I remember when I was 6 years old and I was throwing up from being sick and she said that my tummy "looks like what all the 16 year-old girls want" because it was flat from basically being empty. Also when I was going through puberty at 12 she said that my thighs are too big. I was 12!!! There was so many other comments as well and they all definitely contributed to me developing an ED. My stepdad didn't help later on when he kept calling me fat when I was severely underweight!! I cut them out of my life and completely recovered now thanks to my boyfriend and his family though so that's good :)
Oh wow, I’m so sorry for your experience. So glad you are doing better now ❤️
with that styling yolanda looks so much like the rich villain in every german crime series lmao
The voice of REASON in this crazy nutrition/diet world we live in today. Thank you, Abbey, for speaking some sense into this world.
I’m so glad it’s helpful ❤️
Unfortunately we live in the obesity/overconsumption world, not a "diet world". An average person consumes at least 500 calories more than they should daily, especially in UK and North Americans. While dieting and anorexia can be dangerous, they only take up to 1000 lives annually, while obesity affects hundreds of millions and causes around 5-6 million of deaths each year. But forget about the quantity, the quality of the food is even a bigger issue. Just looking at what Americans feed their kids (and most North Americans actually) is saddening. Jamie Oliver has raised this topic a lot (and please note that neither he nor his kids are anorexic), but it didn't have much effect in USA.
I’m so grateful for Abbey!
I feel like the way in which Yolanda speaks about food is in part driven by her life long battle with Lyme. I had a parent with a chronic disease that drove them to be hyper focused on organic/superfoods. Wellness culture is one thing but fears around food/toxicity are exacerbated by struggles with chronic disease.
Possibly! Thank you for mentioning this
It’s true. When you have a chronic illness or autoimmune disease the dietary rules are so restrictive and every time you get a flareup you have doctors asking you to track every ounce of food. It’s horrible. I was doing well battling an ED from childhood but with my illness, my doctors are demanding I return to those disordered habits. Food isn’t just bad or a cheat anymore, it’s “killing” me. I’d actually love to see Abbey address this. It’s a struggle. You can’t have “variety” because you aren’t allowed to eat anything. You get tired. You end up just not eating because all food feels like the enemy.
Chronic Lyme is not a thing, despite what holistic people say. That's why you pay big money to functional medicine docs for their tests for their diagnosis and then their treatment. Oftentimes it is an undiagnosed autoimmune disorder or some sort of variant of chronic fatigue syndrome/depression with physical symptoms. But yes the diets of holistic people are insane and are terrible for their mental health, they truly become obsessive.
@@AbbeysKitchen she needs to lose the weird stuff
@@forwardrecording1445 Chronic Lyme is absolutely "a thing." I've been suffering with it and Bartonella for 6 yrs. I know exactly when I got bit/infected and it's been a nightmare.
“all water is good water”
me, drinking wine at 4 pm: yes, i see what you mean
Yeah. Being an alcoholic I guess
omg you don’t know how long i’ve been waiting for this one
Same
Same
Yep
Same
Same! I knew I wanted Abby to review her after watching a compilation video of her telling Bella and Gigi not to eat.
I'm not defending Yolanda for probably giving her daughter an eating disorder. However, let's also remember that she was a model as well, and this way of thinking that she is passing on to her children is all likely an result of her own experiences with restriction in the modeling industry and someone controlling her diet/giving her bad advice as well.
Edit: Also another point to add. Just because your parents might do everything to raise you to be intuitive, healthy eaters with a great food relationship doesn't mean it'll happen. But that's the scary part about raising kids in general isn't it? My mom followed all of the gentle nutrition tips and teaching us how to be good eaters, and out of the four of us (2 boys and 2 girls), I'm the only one that struggles with disordered eating. My younger sister almost did, but she wised up pretty fast. To say I'm envious is an understatement.
For sure. Thank you for mentioning this point
But don't you want your children to have it better than you?
@@zwischenburkaundbikini2418 sometimes I think people don’t know any different if they were raised that way themselves :(
@@zwischenburkaundbikini2418 for sure. But I think that because her environment and lifestyle are encouraging it, she might not understand how damaging it is... which is even sadder, because the illness is passed on without being treated, for both her and her family😣
Jennifer Patterson sorry about Yolanda she wasn't big as Naomi Campbell & Naomi enjoys food.
I always understood the “you are what you eat“ in the most literal way: through biochemical reactions our bodies break down out food into compounds that it can use to build our body. So the said apple will be used in on way or another to either fuel your cell as a source of energy or as a “building block” to literally build a cell.Therefore I think we are indeed what we eat and I really like that I am pizzas and apples and chocolate and so on. I am what I love. Plus I think it’s really fascinating how our bodies work!
True! Thanks for sharing!
The “you are what you eat” mantra is actually extremely harmful to people with chronic illnesses. Nowadays many people assume that you only get any kind of disease or condition if you’re not eating “healthy” enough or don’t work out enough. And it’s so frustrating to battle a chronic illness and then have to hear bs like that.
Cutting Yolanda some slack because she’s a mom is strange. She doesn’t work, she lives off of her ex husbands’ money and all of her kids are adults.
I also have a chronic condition and that attitude of ‘eat more greens and go for a walk and you’ll be healed ✨’ bothers me so much. I’ve made several dietary changes, drink lots of water and work out almost everyday and guess what? I’m still ill! I agree with you completely, it’s so damaging and patronising
For sure, thank you for bringing up the point about chronic illnesses!
I 100% agree with you. I have chronic fatigue syndrome and I really hate when I am asked if I got enough sleep the night before. Like no I like feeling like absolute crap all day and working in what feels like, a for lack of a better phrase, a fog.
Not to mention that there are doctors who, because of this attitude, overlook the possibility of chronic illness in patients, instead referring to their problems as side effects of obesity or poor diet. DOCTORS!!!!! So many people go undiagnosed because this rhetoric is so pervasive that DOCTORS are pushing it. The craziest part is that saying a change in diet is a solution to chronic illness is pretty much on par with saying that garlic is a safer prevention of disease than a vaccine - it's completely illogical, but when enough people say it, it becomes believable.
I know a couple who have diabetes because of genetic reasons (match made in heaven) so now both their kids have it. They don't take sweets even during festivals, workout everyday and don't keep any processed food in their house. On top of that, they are vegetarians, which in our country implies a decent, healthy diet. But guess what? They're still diabetic. It is harmful indeed lol.
it's always so entertaining seeing how worked up she gets about lemon water 😭😭 love her
😂 yup!
It’s nasty!
WHY do people think lemon water alkalises? They’re full of citric *acid*
Also homeostasis doesn’t work like that pls
Yup!
The rationale behind it is that because the lemon juice is so acidic, your stomach would need to produce an alkaline solution to even it out... Even if it did work that way, you would need way more than that one glass in the morning for this effect to be long lasting, since everything you eat has its own pH and the stomach has to digest it regardless.
@@isabelamoschkovich3208 hold on, alkalizing my gut with sour patch kids
@@N.slash.A. new morning routine!
we're not even supposed to be alkaline 😭 our body's ph is acidic
abbey recommending carbs is just what i needed today. even in ed recovery, i always think of carbs as something harmful (and it's not in the hunger crushing combo haha) but i love bread and white rice and cereal and im glad she said this :)
I’m so glad that was helpful for you ❤️
Oh my god I love cereal, I’m so happy to be able to fully enjoy it again
Thank you for convincing me to contact a therapist about my disordered eating. Watching this was a wake up call for me. I know I have an issue but I just don’t think a therapist can change my lifetime of eating disorders but you make me realize that I have to try for my daughter’s sake. She is seventeen and we are very close. I can’t help myself from expressing my feelings to her. I don’t tell her what to eat or not to eat but I beat myself up about my own body in front of her. I know I that is a horrible thing to do but it is in my consciousness 24 hours a day and I can’t help the pain from being obvious and coming out to the person I am closest to. I know I sound like a horrible mother but this video gave me that push. I am going to make phone calls tomorrow to find someone to help me.
I’m so glad this video was helpful for you and I’m wishing you luck on your journey ❤️
@@AbbeysKitchen thank you❤️
Something tells me that woman doesn't eat a calorie above 1200.
Frrr
Id be shocked at that amount. Her oatmeal could fit in a shot glass.
why should she? I accidentally discovered I eat 1200 calories a day (I was bored during pandemic and started tracking what I eat for 2 weeks, then I gave up). Eating more made me sluggish, tired and grumpy.
@@Andrupenko this may be the case for you but for most people that would be too few calories.
@@Andrupenko 🙄 and I ate 3000 cal, most of the in chocolate and cookies.
Her veggie soup for dinner looks super tasty! I recently had the same thing for dinner but made it a minestrone version - like Abbey said. And on the side had a piece of caprese bread- tomatoes, basil, mozzarella cheese with balsamic vinegar. Super tasty and a full balanced meal. Definitely felt better than if I had eaten multiple bowls of broth filled soup and felt super uncomfortably full but still hungry too.
Basically just commenting to say that Abbey's suggestions actually make practical sense and are super easy and tasty to implement. 😊
Sounds amazing! So glad that’s working for you 😊
You really helped me get out of my eating disorder. I used to track every calorie I would eat, and my app said I should eat 1296 calories a day. I did not eat enough at all and also lost my period. I still haven’t had it yet, but I’m hoping soon. Thank you Abbey🙏
I’m so happy for you ❣️ you are more than an image, food is nourishment, I really hope you get your period back soon 💘💘💘
@@megancooper6130 thank you, means a lot
I’m so glad you are doing better, thank you for sharing your experience ❤️
Changes like this can be so hard, good for you 🖤.
I'm sooooooo glad to be here listening to a sane person giving legit info. RUclips's algorithm keeps giving me crazy stuff. Thanks, Abbs!
So glad it was helpful!
Same 🤗🤗
I'm literally tearing up watching your videos... thank you so much for making them and for being so nice and understanding! I've had quite a few unpleasant experiences with doctors, dieticians, and family members since I was a child, which you can explain so well that I'm almost crying finding out that someone understands it. Thank you! ❤
it honestly made me want to cry when you talked about gigi’s relationship with her daughter and passing down these harmful messages. some of what yolanda said to gigi was honestly heartbreaking and i believe both gigi and yolanda probably love their families and want to do the absolute best for them, but a negative relationship with food and being part of an at-times super toxic industry is really hard. i hope they all find peace and healing to break the cycle 💓
I used your "add white beans to soup" suggestion this past week! I loved it so much for my pureed broccoli potato soup. Thank you for the tip!
So glad that was helpful for you!
That actually sounds so yummy!!
Just one thing though, those videos of Yolanda are at least honest. It's not like they show themselves eating a whole pizza then claiming how 'healthy' and 'normal' they are while starving themselves
You know, that is one thing i appreciate as well. With the food shes eating and her questionable parenting around food. It may be awful watching some of the things she says to her kids, but so many people will act like that behind closed doors and pretend in public that they dont police their kids food or obsess over their bodies. Its honest, at the very least. Which also suggests to me that shes probably kinda doing what she thinks is good with what she knows, which seems to be kinda.. limited.
Finally that woman is insane shes so strict about food and her kids had to suffet cause of that
@Violett Fem maybe it was that doesn’t mean she should be strict to her kids about it
@Violett Fem maybe
I hope they are doing alright
I would be interested in the break down of someone who does OMAD, one meal a day. Thanks Abbey love your channel :)
I’ll have a look at that!
Yolanda’s policing of her daughter’s food is downright sad. I hope she isn’t giving advice about what her grandchild should eat.
PS: Abbey, I’m obsessed with your lovely top. Could I ask what make it is?
I was mesmerized by the pattern. She has a great wardrobe!
Hey friend! I'm glad to see you here! I love watching Abbey's videos, too! ❤
@@MicoKitty Hello! 👋🏽 Yes, I love watching Abbey’s videos!
Yeah
They are models now so does it matter?
How have you not done this one yet?! Haha
I'm 6 minutes in and it's like when you know your friend is not going to like a person and your friend doesn't hesitate to call out bullshit, so you're just there with snacks waiting for show to start. I can't stop laughing.
I know right!
I've always thought about the "you are what you eat" in this way: I eat some peanuts, I digest them, I absorb the amino acids and use them as building blocks for my tissues, therefore now I'm ...like 0,000001% peanut" 😂 Anyone?
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lol
Ugh. This reminded me of my childhood. I was forced to eat in front of the mirror. :( It's really difficult to get the words out of one's mind even decades later.
Damn.
I’m so sorry for your experience. I hope you are doing alright now ❤️
I am so sorry you went through this. I am sure it was (and is) traumatic. I hope you find healing.
No! Wrong! False! Shouldn’t have happened.
That's horrible! I'm so sorry you had to go through something like that.
Cue all the flashbacks to my mom telling me “if you keep eating like that you’ll be 300 pounds” all the time growing up
I’m so sorry for your experience
Abbey!!! I never thought I had a challenging relationship with food but I’ve been watching your videos forEVEEERRR and I have internalized and unlearned so much from you. Thank you thank you thank you ♥️
I'm so glad my videos have been helpful for you ❤️
I'm imagining Yolanda's face watching me eating lots of peanut butter, chocolate and carbs every single day in all my meals🤣😅
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Hey its ok I eat chocolate and peanuts apart and together. :)
@@AryannaCisnerosChannel yeah
@@AryannaCisnerosChannel not every single day in all the meals.
You can enjoy everything in moderation. I’m sure it was an exaggeration but it case it isn’t…
@@quelquun2018 of course i have it for on of my meals for weight gain I have different goals
I feel like it's worth mentioning that even if her daughter is a lesbian, that's completely fine and acting like it's something bad is pretty gross on Yolanda's part
Oh, wow, she sounds like my mother when I was growing up. Not even modelling for an excuse. She was always trying to lose 5, 10, 15 pounds, and as soon as I started developing she was all over what I ate, and criticizing every part of my body. Yes, I have a history of eating disorders. Umpteen years of therapy later, I am doing OK and able to talk with my daughter about food in terms of fuel, building blocks and fun. I ask her to check in with herself about eating more/not eating and if she's eating a bunch of pickled gherkins and not filling up, I suggest rounding out the pickles with something that has protein and fat (because pickles have fibre) to help her fill up and stay full long enough.
And then the other day she asked why I was so fat, and yikes! I explained that yes, I am fat, and there's a lot of different reasons, some hormonal, some my tummy issues, some because I'd had more than one time in my life where I didn't get enough food, so now my body likes to hold on to some extra energy because it doesn't understand that I am going to have enough food from now on, and some because I get sick and tired so much that I don't get the chance to move my body as much as it wants to move--but my body is the way it is, and I like it and everything it *does* let me do. I hope I did OK, but if my mother has been in her ear, that is it, because the eating disorders and disordered eating and body image issues stop with me, I am not subjecting another generation to the same misery I went through.
I’m so happy you were able to “move on” (as much as we can with EDs) and try to do better. I want to do the same with my future kids :)
Wow, I’m so sorry for your experience. I hope you are doing alright now ❤️
@@AbbeysKitchen lots and lots of therapy, and yes, I am doing well now.
@@N.slash.A. it's hard, but doable and worthwhile. Therapy with a good therapist really help, if you have access to that.
Thank you for sharing how you talk with your daughter! I have worried that if I have kids someday I might pass on bad thinking about food to them, so it was really helpful to read your practical examples of how you have avoided doing that. Thanks!
I would love to see a video on the difference between refined sugar and and sugar found in fruits and if they have the same effect on certain health conditions such as anxiety for example.
I will put this on my list to discuss!
It’s chill, I’ve been waiting for this review for 4 years, is coo.
I hope it was helpful!
😂😂😂
This video gave me some validation and it feels good.
My mom is 90% responsible for my eating disorders. I saw my mom have a really bad relationship with food which lead me to having an ED. Im better now but man, it hasn’t been easy and I still struggle some days. All I can do is keep moving forward. Thank you for this video!
I’m glad you mentioned to the current correlation of morality with food. When I was young the focus was on being a good person and it didn’t matter what you ate. Now, people seem to rate merit on what you eat more than anything else.
I’m glad that was helpful!
Oh wow, watched a reel of Yolanda’s interactions with her daughters. Honestly, can’t know what goes on in their home life but, if a teacher or responsible adult witnessed that, it would be reported. Abbey always takes the high ground giving suggestions (with awesome snark) but, those poor girls.
I know, it is very concerning 🙁
Unfortunately, I saw this video of Yolanda when I was about fourteen years old. I told myself it was the “Gold Standard” of dieting, and was so amazed out how she could still enjoy “unhealthy food,” ie. the butter, while being so healthy. So sad.
Oh wow, I’m so sorry 🙁
diet culture literally leads us to believe that butter is “bad” for us ?? 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️
@@emmafirsel9223 ya
Love that you pointed out the importance of modeling food relationships! This was my problem growing up, and all these years later, as I'm about to turn 35 years old, my relationship with food is horrible, and I struggle with disordered eating daily. It takes a lot of work to undo this (something I'm working on in therapy) but it's so important that we talk about this! For many many years, I just thought that I was lazy and gluttonous. I had NO idea that I was sort of conditioned to have this relationship with food. Thank you for talking about this!
My mom and I had an eating disorder at the same time when I was in high school. That was an extremely hard time, for both of us. Thank you for putting all this information out there Abby. Your videos have greatly improved my relationship with food :-)
That parent role model bit- I am totally a victim of watching my mother diet & restrict & gain & loose weight. And this is why I am here today...
I’m so sorry for your experience
Tbh we kind of are what we eat! Isotopic analysis of bones lets archaeologists reconstruct the diet of ancient peoples and cultures because the foods we eat leave a signature in some parts of our bodies! Pretty cool I think!
Interesting!
I think that the way in which the phrase is used is what's problematic. It assigns moralistic value to the foods you consume. Most of the time it's your socio economic conditions that determine which foods you get to eat. If you're poor, you cannot afford organic meats and veggies. You're probably living off of processed and canned foods more than fresh foods because of availability and cost.
It is interesting that archeologists can analyze very ancient bones of creatures and tell us what they ate though!
That birthday cake episode haunts me since I watched it years ago when it first aired and this kind of bullshit was seen as normal.
I know, it’s very concerning 🙁
Birthday cake episode?
@@felicita6577 during an episode of the Real Housewives of Beverly Hills, Gigi celebrated her birthday. She wanted to eat a slice of birthday cake at her birthday like anybody would. But of course Yolanda could not let her teenage daughter enjoy a bit of cake. She gave her the tiniest slice and then shared the tiniest slice of birthday cake I have ever seen with Gigi.
You can watch it in this video ruclips.net/video/uVWqEwoyUh0/видео.html around the 01:20 mark.
BUT BEWARE! It's really really upsetting to watch.
I would love a video on insulin sensitivity and front loading calories. I have insulin sensitivity and through trial and error, I’ve learned that I feel best eating the bulk of my calories early in the day and fasting (unintentionally) at night, makes me feel the best without severe dips in blood sugar. I’d don’t really know why that it is, but I’d love to have a concrete explanation!
"Why ya gotta make hydrating so complicated" on the timing of water to coffee. Thank you.
Kinda surprised she even had kids since I'm sure she was terrified of getting fat.
Abbey you need to trademark "Oh boy..." and start a merch line lol
😂 true!
i love my mom, i really do, but when i was a child she was anorexic and restricted a lot of foods for me and she didn’t notice the damage she did until i got anorexic myself, she doesn’t have and ed anymore but she still cries when i have trouble eating something. me on other side, not ana anymore but still not in a good relationship with food, definitely trying to fix my disordered eatings and you help both of us a lot 🥰💗
Growing up, I always heard the ridiculous notion that women eat fish and chicken… men eat steak… what? Know that I am an adult that still flabbergasts me. Did anyone else ever hear that growing up?
I mean, i work at restaurants and it'a definitely silly but also true. Like 95% of the time that's how ordering goes
omg Yes! because “women dont need beef”
Oh no, that’s definitely not true!
I would imagine that’s because chicken and fish are lean meats and beef has more fat, and since socially, women are known more to “diet” than men, it became gendered. Which is ridiculous 😂 I love steak lol
My mom eats less beef because there is a belief that they are healthier and she is more health conscious than my dad. So it was true in my family. Lol
I love lemon water too!
Provided it is sweetened with sugar or honey. Maybe mixed in with some iced tea.
Sounds great!
Maybe a little vodka for that satiety factor 😂
Listening to this while I’m working. I heard the lemon water and it was an instant eye roll from me. Then you went into it (like you always do, because apparently people don’t get it!) and I felt better. Especially the bit about it being alkalising. Thank you. 🙏
Abbey’s like the mom that I never had (one who didn’t facilitate my ED).
Aw thank you ❤️
Ohhh, I know that profile pick - do NOT vaporise our shared internet mum😂
Yolanda didn’t start the lemon water craze, I’ve been hearing about it for ages, from Beyoncé among other people. I cruelly tried it myself a few years ago, but all it did was give me acid reflux lmao. So now I just drink a glass of water in the morning 15-30 minutes before my breakfast, and I love it. It’s such a simple habit but I truly feel the difference.
Thank you for talking about the mora judgement that underpins the “you are what you eat” mentality. I was taught that as a kid and really struggle now with the good food=good person vs. bad food=bad person thinking. Instead of encouraging better habits it has created a lot of inner conflict that makes it hard to see food simply for what it is, and not a reflection on my entire character. This video was a lightbulb moment for me because I’ve experienced but never heard anyone really articulate the damaging effects that this seemingly simple phrase can have.
The little look up at the camera when Yolanda mentions the minerals in Himalayan salt had me screaming!
You can hear the wheels turning in her head, “ah yesss… if I put butter in my oatmeal and say that people don’t get enough fat in their diets NO ONE SHALL UNCOVER MY SECRET”
U r looking really nice today Abbey. Love yar outfit! And just the energy that you emit is sunshine! Thank you for teaching us and debunking these bc
Thank you! So glad it’s helpful 😊
my mom definitely wasn't an almond mom, but she went through phases of extremely restrictive eating and "health kicks"/fasting and was always making comments abt her own body (not mine, but we have the same body shape) which definitely contributed to my eating disorder. my grandma is anorexic as well so there was a major generational factor
17:33 ow... wasn't the other meals "Light" enough? 😅
You may never see this but your channel has helped me little by little get more in touch with my eating and how my disordered eating has affected me. Thank you so much for your tips! If I ever have kids I want to keep them in mind.
Did you see the one where GiGi said she was feeling very weak over the phone, she said she had half of an almond. Yolanda responded with eat 2 almonds, make sure you chew really well! It’s honestly sick, I hope those kids are able to break that cycle. Yolanda clearly has issues around food.
Oh wow 🙁
I can hardly believe it when I hear of peoples moms commenting on their daughters bodies negatively. I know I sometimes overhead maybe some negative comments my mom made about her own body, but she would never ever ever say anything negative about mine. In fact most of my negative body talk I learned from other girls around me starting in middle school. Like how tf does any mom think that it’s okay to shame your daughters body 😤
I know, it is very upsetting 🙁
its very common and sadly normalized in asian culture. From teachers, to friends parents, random relatives, grandparents and parents (just talking about adults here), will comment on your weight, color, hair and size. It is solely reserved for girls and women in our society though. I have heard this endlessly while growing up. Always compared for my height, wavy curly hair and weight with my sibling who is naturally size 0 , striaght hair and tall. I was size US 4/6 when I was called obese and fat.
My mom shamed me the whole time I was growing up for my size. It started when I was very young, probably around five or six. She was always shaming me for my size, and I may have been a little chubby, but a lot of it was what she was feeding me. I loved vegetables, but she never made any because she didn’t like them. The best I could hope for was a premade salad mix, and as I got older, I’d ask for more veggies, but she’d just say I was eating too much. I was twelve when we were getting ready to head out to work and school, and I said I was really hungry because I hadn’t eaten in about twelve hours, and she told me it would help me lose weight. At ten, she started asking if it was okay if she didn’t send me to school with lunch money because she didn’t have time to stop and get some out of the bank. I’d come home from walking three miles home from school, and I’d be so ravenous I’d eat anything I could get my hands on. I could down a full can of soup or chili in under thirty seconds. By the time I was thirteen, my nails were constantly breaking, my fingers were bloody, my skin was always bad, my hair was always bad, always had heart palpitations, headaches, nausea, vomiting, aches, pains, constipation, dizziness, frequent illnesses, irritability… I went to the doctor often enough, but they never did any blood work. I can see how I looked in pictures, and I looked awful. I don’t know how anyone could’ve looked at me, and not seen that I had issues. It was also around this time that she started telling me that the only time I should have as many as 1,000 calories, was at the holidays. I still struggle with my relationship with food, and I don’t understand how you could treat a child that way.
I have always thought this, about the Hadids. Poor girls.
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Omg this video hit me. 😳
It explains so much why I have such a dysfunctional relationship with food. I could understand that it comes from a 'Good' place. But I am not competent. The constant guilt, surveillance and nonstop thinking about my meals and when, how and what I will be eating. It all stems from my mother, her dysfunctional relationship with food and mental health. Which subsequently came from her mum. I'm so much more than food or my weight.
Thank you so much for you're content xx
Thank you for this channel Abbey! And the work that you do! You’ve really been helping me heal my relationship with food and not punish myself for nourishing my body!!!! You’re the best!
i once saw a clip where she was showing off her "suplement cupboard", she takes (and shoves them down her kids' throats) more "suplements" than she eats actual food. it's truly sickening!
i hope for the sake of Khai (Gigi and Zayn's daughter) Gigi doesn't let Yolanda control what she can or can't eat. the poor girl i only 3 years old...
i’m currently trying to get out of my disordered eating habits, and your videos both give me the knowledge i never had, and make the little kid in me who was told not to eat, feel a lot better :)) thank you for this
I’m so glad they’re helpful for you ❤️
And people wonder why many models are addicted to drugs. They need the energy boost that they aren’t getting from food.
Also, we are speaking about a woman who had facial surgery done to her daughters when not quite adults to make them more marketable to the modeling market.
Are we gonna talk about how she called milk a snack?😂
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IKR!? 😂😂
When my kids friends played at our house, pool parties, sleepovers, afternoons after school, I always served fruit or veg with dips first. After everyone partook of the healthy stuff that’s when I brought out the junk food. I only ever asked that they ate healthy first, no one ever complained.
The first time I saw this video i thought: "I NEED an Abbey's review of this"
I hope it was helpful!
Same!!!
What lemon (or other citrus fruits) do help with when consumed in water, is replenishing electrolytes 😁! My go to recipe for replenishing electrolytes in the summer when it is very hot is about 1,5l water with the juice of 1 lemon and the juice of 1 orange and some himalayan salt. When I drink this it replenishes my electrolytes and I no longer get bad headaches and nausea due to not having enough electrolytes. You can drink this any time of the year, and it also is great for when you exercise.
God, if I drank lemon water on an empty stomach in the morning, my stomach would KILL me.
I totally understand!
Acid on acid my reflux would be giving hell
The discomfort probably suppresses her appetite
I'm so happy I found you! I am starting my journey to better health and nutrition. I have body dysmorphia and was raised around people who commented on my weight. I need a new perspective on food and nutrition.
How is dinner the smallest meal when she hadn’t had a meal yet? That oatmeal could fit in a shot glass… But whatever.
Right? I could eat her days worth of food for a meal and still happily snarf down my remaining meals.
On the show, Yolanda did say that she was controlling about Gigi’s diet because Gigi wanted to be a model, and Yolanda wanted to “help”. So perhaps if Gigi and Bella didn’t go into modeling, she wouldn’t have been so aggressive about it. Despite that, Gigi portrays a healthy and loving relationship with food and cooking on her social media.
I would hope that’s the case, but I don’t have a great deal of faith about it.
I mean she did lose quite some weight when she got her serious high fashion deals and shows but she never really looked emancipated for her body structure and she also has a kid now.
That's great to hear!
unfortunately bella did have an eating disorder, her pro-ana tumblr was exposed
@@juliewhat134 I didn’t know that about Bella! Hope she has help and support for it these days
This is not too related to this video, but I loved your hunger crushing combo video. I think it’s a great way to enjoy eating since it’s all things you love to eat in a balanced way. Please make more HCC videos!
Thank you, so glad you enjoyed it! On my list to make more of these videos 😊
YASSSS I'VE BEEN WAITING FOR THIS ONE
I hope you enjoyed it!
"I don't care if you eat an entire cake, you are not bad" me thinking about my birthday meal yesterday which was just tons of différents cakes from a well know french baker : yeah that was pretty damn good actually
Sounds amazing!
“If it’s not supportive to your journey” idk why those words just made me melt and I wanted to cry. So sweet and caring 🥺
Yeah! Have a good day ❤️
I found your videos during my pregnancy, I wanted to be healthier for my baby, but not eliminate “bad food”. I’m so glad I found you, because the “bad food” isn’t bad, what’s bad is how you consume it. I was struggling with food and my weight before getting pregnant, but watching your videos helped a lot. Following your advice, I felt happier and I even lost 20 pounds during my pregnancy. I always struggled with my eating habits, but I wanted to change it for my baby. Feeling happier and losing weight was just a bonus. I just hope I don’t fall back to my bad habits.
Thank you for sharing, I’m so glad my videos have been helpful for you!
I picked up a lot bad habits from my mom. Including buying the bigger portion because it was "cheaper". Like I love cheesecake and I'll buy the individual slice or a small pack. She make comments I should get the bigger one. I would tell no because I will eat the whole thing. She tell me well you need to have self control (but never saw her do it). I learned to tell her "yes I am using self control by leave the big one at the store and getting only what I want". We have had the same argument over soda. I limit how much I bring in my house.
Thank you for this! I
Used to exclusively have goats milk back when I used to have bad eczema. My skin is mostly under control now as an adult but when I was a kid it really helped clear up my eczema.
Interesting, thanks for sharing!
Omg what you said from 3:10 - 5:05 is so healing 🙏🏻❤️
I’m so glad ❤️