All the videos on this channel are on point, every time. They all feel very different to all other content on social media. The goal doesn't seem to be fame or money, but helping people by telling the nessecary but uncomfortable truths, truths that aren't "quick fixes". But i must say that this video in particular hits very different. Very close to home in fact. Keep up the work brother, i'm 100% certain when i say you make the best yt content i've ever seen, and i've been here for a while lol
damn, thank you. you're very perceptive, too. Fame and money would be cool don't get me wrong, but that's not the main reason why i'm doing this. If i can take what i learned from crawling out of the pit and help others do the same then i'll selfishly feel as though my suffering wasn't for nothing. It would reach back through time and render my pain purposeful. I also want the truth to flourish but i see so much bullshit everywhere, i want to push the needle on that too. Glad it's landing. thank you!
This made me think of Sylvia Plath's Fig Tree quote "...I wanted each and every one of them, but choosing one meant losing all the rest, and, as I sat there, unable to decide, the figs began to wrinkle and go black, and, one by one, they plopped to the ground at my feet." I felt the same way until one day it occurred to me that it's not the worst thing to let the figs shrivel and die, eventually you'll see it never mattered which one you choose because all figs are equally fine and nothing ever really dies.
@@AngeloSomers Unfortunately she took her own life, which scared me when I realized that what she was feeling might be what I was experiencing. I had to find meaning behind why these feelings were there. Luckily, I think I did. I’m glad you liked the quote. It’s very meaningful and has provided a lot of guidance for many people, including myself.
I mean I jumped into amateur filmmaking at 13 and music at 17 but now at 24, having a corporate 9-5 is actually the best decision of them all because I still get to do the rest while having an actual steady income. Dont move out and start a company or band right away lads, take time to sort it out and learn at a smaller scale, you can always expand later. So maybe a pool isnt even the best choice, maybe a puddle is better. But do make sure to step into one because yesterday was already late
Love how angelo gave me courage by saying "the water is fine" probably the only one youtuber who doesnt flex money, girls and a "forced positive lifestyle"
be careful with that, you suppress your needs long enough eventually the part of you that needs will take unregulated control over you which can be good but can also be dangerous if too uncontrolled
@@AngeloSomers I can feel this happening in my relationship rn. Lately I have been having urges to just break up and move on. But I am aware that this is caused by my lack of communication and self respect. I am in an apartment, , state, college, and job that I do not want just to make our relationship work. Slowly trying to fix it.
I've watched some of your videos and this one made me the saddest. Not in a bad way though, I've always had my head in the clouds but this video made me come back to reality and look at it. I'll do something for myself
I've come to this realisation as well at 22. My purpose in life is Music, which I intend to take as far as I possibly can in my lifetime. But, I was so focused on my ambition, that I lost sight of the various job opportunities in the "average" world, because I was so scared of being in the "mAtRiX". I was rolling around in a puddle, without realising there was a massive great pool right in front of me. This isn't to say I'm giving up on being a musician, far from it. It's just that I need time to dig more and turn the puddle into a pool.
Remember just because being average is mentioned in the video as not a bad thing, Doesn't mean you can't aspire to do great things. Now if you're ofcourse not worthy for doing great things it shouldn't be taken as a bad thing. as the video suggests. It's only the fact that alot of people dont need to be famous or great. Just at a point where they are living financially stable and ok.
I've started a PhD in International Relations (I live and work in Italy) last year. There were times in which I said to myself "Maybe if I picked Economics as a uni degree or waited a bit more instead of applying I would've found something better", and doubted my decision also because of the "social media wisdom" telling that degrees and PhDs are useless and whatever the fuck. But then I started to realize (and this video completed that realization) that I made a sound decision. I make as much as graduates usually make in entry-level jobs, and it took me far less time to become "employed" than the average graduate. I'm lucky that my work environment is super chill and I like what I do (though not my teenage years dream). I still live with my parents, but not off them (I work not too far from my hometown) and, by saving on rent, this allows me to fix some stuff, create a solid (emergency) fund AND contribute to the household (both materially and non-materially). I believed I jumped in the water. Then, after the remaining two years of PhD, I absolutely do not disdain a 9-5 job and do not care, as long as working conditions are good. I crave average and normal, for me it is a way to be free from expectations and demands that might turn me away from stuff that matters to me.
4:10 onward this is exactly what I’ve been thinking about so much. We need a balance between honest work and fulfillment. You can derive that fulfillment from so many different aspects of life, steadily.
Nothing resonated to me more than these words. Nothing. It's like you took the last two/three years of my existance and laid it down in front of me. I've always knew what I wanted to be - everything I could. I couldn't comprehend why the whole world wanted me to be just one thing, it made me physically sick and mentally angered. The thought of choosing one part of me meant, and still mean to a degree, to reject all I could've been. The thousand trillions khadijas that could make my mother healthy, my father come back, my business thrive, my poems move the hearts, my drawings impress, my beauty attract.. There was just one little problem: I was losing myself in the process. I found myself second guessing everything I did, everything I was. Worst of all I came to the understanding that I was shamelessly doing it only for the imaginary praise I would have got if I ever decided to put the effort into every singe one of it. A nearly unreachable goal. So sad and so miserable. I started to hate everything that once gave me joy and all the people associated with them. From that moment many things have changed and this video precisly and coherently resumed my struggle. I don't know who you are, never seen of of your videos before. I don't know your age. I dont know your values. I don't know your parents nor do I know your friends. I don't even know where you're from. I just know I will remember you.
Man, I watch many videos and comment on .1% of them. but since I know you are starting out I will say this. IDK how you did it but you spoke exactly to my thoughts and biggest struggle with that intro and stuck with it till the end. Keep killing it bro.
Guys. If you Havent read it, read the way of superior man by David deida. The message of this video is in there, and many more. Its not a sponsored comment, Just try the book
Its not all about fearing "normal" or "average" but the drastic effects of the system we live in. Working in an office all the time is not healthy for humans on many different levels. I suggest looking in Daniel Schwartzenberger
Become a Renaissance man by finding out what it means to be the best at doing the bare minimum correctly. I'm omw there and I'm really close, I'm halfway through the final step. My apathy paired with my unwavering vendetta towards ignorance will make a polarizing figure out of me in a few months from now. U just have to trust ur taste.
@@AngeloSomers yeah, but not really. 🤠 im a human being it might be the case sometimes; sure i want to become one but my metric for success is sustainability. im almost done with my first devlog and the website, the album is done. i just finished it and sent it out to my co-producer. i feel free to work on my physical art now but i have to cut the devlog down to 30 mins.. keep up the great work!
Jumping is actually easy, but getting of a pool that is unfulfilling for you is harder. I got gaslit into academic road by my family, and thought I'd go to phd. After the pandemic, I realised that academia was not for me. I feel regrets for wasted time, because I got no social skills. I had absolutely no talent or interest in mathematics, but I managed to get masters degree by hard work, because of sunk cost fallacy. I kinda know the value of hard work now, so that's one thing good from it.
@@AngeloSomers in my case yes, but sometimes one may make a bad decision by themselves. We should not be afraid to get out of the pool and go to another. I have a colleague who is 40, he was in mechanical engineering his whole life but now he changed to software engineer. Both are engineering jobs but vastly different
@@1REDGOBLIN exactly, this is what I was getting at with “the only prison you’re in is made of your own thoughts”. We are scared that if we let something define us we will be unable to redefine ourselves, but we can always do that. The problem isnt switching pools, the problem is never getting in one
This is a fairly overly simplistic representation of the thing. But it's honest enough. You don't pursue passions. Passions reveal themselves to you. And if you have none... Life has no rules. A lot of people who feel like this never realize that it's much more because they've invested too much into the idea that passion and obsession must be a characteristic of life. which isn't truthful So it is a pretty simplistic way of saying it, but it isn't wrong. OCD and passion and obsession are not things you will miss if you blink too hard. one of their hallmarks is that you can't miss them. If you don't have them.... Congrats. Your brain works perfectly and knows grass is not greener on the other side. Water your grass and it will be green.
nobody is ever forcing you, you're just deciding to do nothing check out my self-authentication video, give it a go for a while and go heavy on the introspection and see if you can figure out why you're actually in your current state
All the videos on this channel are on point, every time. They all feel very different to all other content on social media. The goal doesn't seem to be fame or money, but helping people by telling the nessecary but uncomfortable truths, truths that aren't "quick fixes". But i must say that this video in particular hits very different. Very close to home in fact.
Keep up the work brother, i'm 100% certain when i say you make the best yt content i've ever seen, and i've been here for a while lol
damn, thank you. you're very perceptive, too. Fame and money would be cool don't get me wrong, but that's not the main reason why i'm doing this.
If i can take what i learned from crawling out of the pit and help others do the same then i'll selfishly feel as though my suffering wasn't for nothing. It would reach back through time and render my pain purposeful. I also want the truth to flourish but i see so much bullshit everywhere, i want to push the needle on that too. Glad it's landing. thank you!
This made me think of Sylvia Plath's Fig Tree quote "...I wanted each and every one of them, but choosing one meant losing all the rest, and, as I sat there, unable to decide, the figs began to wrinkle and go black, and, one by one, they plopped to the ground at my feet."
I felt the same way until one day it occurred to me that it's not the worst thing to let the figs shrivel and die, eventually you'll see it never mattered which one you choose because all figs are equally fine and nothing ever really dies.
Damn what a quote 👏
@@AngeloSomers Unfortunately she took her own life, which scared me when I realized that what she was feeling might be what I was experiencing. I had to find meaning behind why these feelings were there. Luckily, I think I did.
I’m glad you liked the quote. It’s very meaningful and has provided a lot of guidance for many people, including myself.
I mean I jumped into amateur filmmaking at 13 and music at 17 but now at 24, having a corporate 9-5 is actually the best decision of them all because I still get to do the rest while having an actual steady income. Dont move out and start a company or band right away lads, take time to sort it out and learn at a smaller scale, you can always expand later. So maybe a pool isnt even the best choice, maybe a puddle is better. But do make sure to step into one because yesterday was already late
Bars. 🫡
"The demonization of average" is so real.
Fr
This is the content, I open youtube for.
Me2
Love how angelo gave me courage by saying "the water is fine"
probably the only one youtuber who doesnt flex money, girls and a "forced positive lifestyle"
I learned this lesson too late. 27 years old and never dove into anything. Only recently did I realize that indecision truly is a decision.
26 and same. I have been living as a side character to my gf and her needs. I have NEVER done something for myself.
be careful with that, you suppress your needs long enough eventually the part of you that needs will take unregulated control over you which can be good but can also be dangerous if too uncontrolled
@@AngeloSomers I can feel this happening in my relationship rn. Lately I have been having urges to just break up and move on. But I am aware that this is caused by my lack of communication and self respect.
I am in an apartment, , state, college, and job that I do not want just to make our relationship work. Slowly trying to fix it.
@@AngeloSomers Also, your videos are awesome keep going
@@paradigm2266 thank you bro. Yeah it can be tough deciding to stay or leave. Trust your intuition, don’t hyper fixate on logic alone
I've watched some of your videos and this one made me the saddest. Not in a bad way though, I've always had my head in the clouds but this video made me come back to reality and look at it. I'll do something for myself
I've come to this realisation as well at 22. My purpose in life is Music, which I intend to take as far as I possibly can in my lifetime. But, I was so focused on my ambition, that I lost sight of the various job opportunities in the "average" world, because I was so scared of being in the "mAtRiX". I was rolling around in a puddle, without realising there was a massive great pool right in front of me. This isn't to say I'm giving up on being a musician, far from it. It's just that I need time to dig more and turn the puddle into a pool.
Bro your channel is a fucking goldmine holy shit
Big respect and keep it up, love the authenticity that is sorely missing within the SI space.
Remember just because being average is mentioned in the video as not a bad thing, Doesn't mean you can't aspire to do great things. Now if you're ofcourse not worthy for doing great things it shouldn't be taken as a bad thing. as the video suggests. It's only the fact that alot of people dont need to be famous or great. Just at a point where they are living financially stable and ok.
Song choices every video are 10/10 holy fawk.
RIGHT
lol my brain is just 70% songs
Which track is this? been searching i know ive heard it before!
@@HelgastJonRadiohead everything in its right place
@@NorthernSpartan thx!!
Bro your knowledge is said like no one else on these platforms. Keep pushing the videos out these are unreal 👊
I've started a PhD in International Relations (I live and work in Italy) last year. There were times in which I said to myself "Maybe if I picked Economics as a uni degree or waited a bit more instead of applying I would've found something better", and doubted my decision also because of the "social media wisdom" telling that degrees and PhDs are useless and whatever the fuck.
But then I started to realize (and this video completed that realization) that I made a sound decision. I make as much as graduates usually make in entry-level jobs, and it took me far less time to become "employed" than the average graduate. I'm lucky that my work environment is super chill and I like what I do (though not my teenage years dream). I still live with my parents, but not off them (I work not too far from my hometown) and, by saving on rent, this allows me to fix some stuff, create a solid (emergency) fund AND contribute to the household (both materially and non-materially). I believed I jumped in the water.
Then, after the remaining two years of PhD, I absolutely do not disdain a 9-5 job and do not care, as long as working conditions are good. I crave average and normal, for me it is a way to be free from expectations and demands that might turn me away from stuff that matters to me.
I'm calling it. This dude is going to go viral.
4:10 onward this is exactly what I’ve been thinking about so much. We need a balance between honest work and fulfillment. You can derive that fulfillment from so many different aspects of life, steadily.
this video just kicked my butt in the best way
Nothing resonated to me more than these words. Nothing. It's like you took the last two/three years of my existance and laid it down in front of me.
I've always knew what I wanted to be - everything I could. I couldn't comprehend why the whole world wanted me to be just one thing, it made me physically sick and mentally angered. The thought of choosing one part of me meant, and still mean to a degree, to reject all I could've been. The thousand trillions khadijas that could make my mother healthy, my father come back, my business thrive, my poems move the hearts, my drawings impress, my beauty attract..
There was just one little problem: I was losing myself in the process. I found myself second guessing everything I did, everything I was.
Worst of all I came to the understanding that I was shamelessly doing it only for the imaginary praise I would have got if I ever decided to put the effort into every singe one of it. A nearly unreachable goal.
So sad and so miserable. I started to hate everything that once gave me joy and all the people associated with them.
From that moment many things have changed and this video precisly and coherently resumed my struggle.
I don't know who you are, never seen of of your videos before. I don't know your age. I dont know your values. I don't know your parents nor do I know your friends. I don't even know where you're from.
I just know I will remember you.
Your videos are amazing brother
Man, I watch many videos and comment on .1% of them. but since I know you are starting out I will say this. IDK how you did it but you spoke exactly to my thoughts and biggest struggle with that intro and stuck with it till the end. Keep killing it bro.
Guys. If you Havent read it, read the way of superior man by David deida. The message of this video is in there, and many more. Its not a sponsored comment, Just try the book
holy damn this hits hard
Its not all about fearing "normal" or "average" but the drastic effects of the system we live in. Working in an office all the time is not healthy for humans on many different levels. I suggest looking in Daniel Schwartzenberger
Some of this is pure poetry.
your videos hit so hard man, you articulate yourself very well, big up, excited for the next one man👊🏼
Day 1 G 🤝
Just write a book already. I would love to read it.
This is basically “So good they can’t ignore you” by Cal Newport. Great book.
Holy shit angelo.
Bro keep them coming!
This was a banger
Chills 😬
Rather waste it on my own terms than let other depreciate it
why waste it at all, if it's truly on your own terms?
@@AngeloSomers sleep on it, eventually you will get the ideea
Become a Renaissance man by finding out what it means to be the best at doing the bare minimum correctly. I'm omw there and I'm really close, I'm halfway through the final step. My apathy paired with my unwavering vendetta towards ignorance will make a polarizing figure out of me in a few months from now. U just have to trust ur taste.
will make a polarising figure out of you? is that your metric for success?
@@AngeloSomers yeah, but not really. 🤠 im a human being it might be the case sometimes; sure i want to become one but my metric for success is sustainability. im almost done with my first devlog and the website, the album is done. i just finished it and sent it out to my co-producer. i feel free to work on my physical art now but i have to cut the devlog down to 30 mins.. keep up the great work!
some triggers can only be pulled in the first moment.
Its only a matter of time before you hit 100k subs, absolute quality vids and topics. Keep it up mate!
Edits be on point keep going champ
This is a fantastic video bro. Great channel.
still growing bro keep going
thank you again :)
Yes🎉🎉🎉
love your content G
That’s a DEEP message! Keep going🤝
Everything in its right place for the intro ? couldnt have subbed quicker
Relatable message and profound explanation👌🏻
Jumping is actually easy, but getting of a pool that is unfulfilling for you is harder.
I got gaslit into academic road by my family, and thought I'd go to phd. After the pandemic, I realised that academia was not for me.
I feel regrets for wasted time, because I got no social skills. I had absolutely no talent or interest in mathematics, but I managed to get masters degree by hard work, because of sunk cost fallacy. I kinda know the value of hard work now, so that's one thing good from it.
For sure, but I’d say you didn’t dive into it
I’d say you were pushed
Topic for another video
@@AngeloSomers in my case yes, but sometimes one may make a bad decision by themselves. We should not be afraid to get out of the pool and go to another. I have a colleague who is 40, he was in mechanical engineering his whole life but now he changed to software engineer. Both are engineering jobs but vastly different
@@1REDGOBLIN exactly, this is what I was getting at with “the only prison you’re in is made of your own thoughts”. We are scared that if we let something define us we will be unable to redefine ourselves, but we can always do that. The problem isnt switching pools, the problem is never getting in one
Angelo, please drop a reading list :)
Here before 100k
Just-world fallacy comes to mind.
You are an amazing youtuber really thank you for what you are doing. As a 19 yo it really hits home, time to get wet
you got this brutha
This is a fairly overly simplistic representation of the thing. But it's honest enough. You don't pursue passions. Passions reveal themselves to you. And if you have none... Life has no rules.
A lot of people who feel like this never realize that it's much more because they've invested too much into the idea that passion and obsession must be a characteristic of life. which isn't truthful
So it is a pretty simplistic way of saying it, but it isn't wrong.
OCD and passion and obsession are not things you will miss if you blink too hard. one of their hallmarks is that you can't miss them.
If you don't have them.... Congrats. Your brain works perfectly and knows grass is not greener on the other side.
Water your grass and it will be green.
Algo
I have no desire to do anything, i dont care anymore, stop forcing me
nobody is ever forcing you, you're just deciding to do nothing
check out my self-authentication video, give it a go for a while and go heavy on the introspection and see if you can figure out why you're actually in your current state
What's the name of the song? 1st one
🙏
Everything In it's right place