An alternative to self-improvement.
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- Опубликовано: 29 сен 2024
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Modern self-improvement is a great start, but as time passes, it is veering further into nihilistic and narcissistic territory. If you're doing the basics, but you still feel lost, purposeless, or without direction, self-authentication can serve as a more integrated and personalised practice/way of life.
Self-authentication focuses on the development of skills, virtues, and character traits, not on their external manifestations.
They say 'the good shit sticks', and self-authentication is the culmination of everything that has stuck with me throughout my 4-year journey of bettering myself and achieving my dream life as a byproduct. I based much of this on the work of Jordan Peterson, John Vervaeke, and Iain McGilchrist, three scientists on the front lines of the meaning crisis, as well as the work of many of the ancient stoic philosophers and some other sources.
I will follow up with future videos focused on each of the individual elements of the practice, but this video is an introduction, and should get the conversation going, while providing enough information that you can get started today.
Self-authentication should provide you with not only the 'things' you want in the long run but also move you towards a greater sense of meaning in life.
Channel overview:
A few years ago, I was stuck in bed, hating the universe for subjecting me to the 'sick and twisted game of life' without my consent. I was pathetic.
It was only after I realized something very important that things began getting better... life didn't suck; I did.
In the absence of friction, my mind was conjuring its own, so life was hard, yes, but it didn't have to be. The suffering was unnecessary. After a few years of incremental progress, I'm having the time of my life. I've never been in better shape, my mind has never been sharper, I've never experienced so much happiness, and it's all rooted in a deep sense of meaning that was once absent.
I had to shake myself of lots of old beliefs and patterns to get to where I am, and I believe there are millions of other people who feel stuck and could learn from my mistakes. So that's why I'm starting this channel: to share some of the insights that formed the foundation of the psychological habitat I now occupy.
I don't know exactly how the channel will develop but I'm going to start by posting my raw ideas as that's the only thing I can consistently do at this point in time.
I hope it helps!
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Instagram: @angelo.somers
twitter: @angelo_somers
I love this guy man. Fucking GOAT, I started watching him a while ago and I have seen a little but fast improvement after incorporating a bit of his ideologies, also did you just whip out a vodka bottle randomly and start day drinking 🤣🤣 chad
It’s tea 😂 I don’t drink alcohol
@@AngeloSomers Oh bet lol, I know I'm ruining the whole vibe but please keep up the good work man, most of these "motivation/self-help faceless channels are just unethical means to attract vulnerable insecure young men to make money. I am a testament for that, I have also tried to prey on people like that and attack their insecurities instead of giving well-researched and experienced advice.
Same goes for the ones who do show a face too, they show their face and openly steal money.
You are doing something different and I really appreciate that.
Yes! Keep worshipping another man!
@@AngeloSomers real Chad 🗿💎
Would love it if you can go further into the reasons behind self destruction and why it can’t be resolved but needs to be integrated. That really resonated with me
The most basic self-improvement is to learn.
Love how everyone who's trying to present himself as an individual on his self improvement path has to publicly announce it, and give the very same examples of how he does it: gym, hygene routines, podcasts (something like Joe Rogan usually), most popular books on finances. Everything is a copy of a copy of a copy
😆😆It’s basically regurgitating the same message with the same mundane message in order to get them some views.
As it’s some sort of “wow news” that nobody knew about.
Not how it works like making a vanilla cake there’s keys & recipes to making it and it’s not wrong that everyone has similar or same recipe or way of making it dosent mean its wrong or doesn’t work same with great philosophers & artist thru history when it comes to wisdom & way of life & let’s be honest 99% of ppl don’t even apply & actually do 1/3 of the basic “self improvement” then say it doesn’t work or a “copy” this video is still a “self improvement video” he’s just talking about level 2-3 of self improvement after u get pass the basic stages nun crazy 😂
Excuse but this year has been difficult. Im now 3 months and 4 days sober from sugar. I wake at 4am, i eat only lean meat and veg, i wash and moisturize my skin, i use a bidet when washing my ass, i only drink water with 10000 electrolytes and special golden powder, i do all my work before 7am. I meal prep 21 dishes for the week every sunday, i go to church on sunday. Not cos im religious. But vos im yhere helping. I gice £50 a week to charity.
Its a personal journey but just eanted to let you all know. Now congratulate me and show me attention
The thing that took me out of this space was the ungenuineness and the inauthenticity. You have 15 year olds „teaching“ you how to optimize testosterone, yet their balls haven‘t even dropped. It‘s just content being regurgitated and it‘s getting old man
You are so right, thank you for sharing your opinion Mr. John Cena.
Legit life changing content wtf
Gonna be rewatching this while sat down with a pen and paper to actually work on it and not just watch and forget.
You're really inspiring man, humour on point as well, keep it up brother
Legend
Agree, i gotta rewatch this again and have a big think
"Self improvement is masturbation". At it's core it is meant to make you feel better about yourself. That's it's purpose. (This is overly simplistic, but it is the jist). Sure you've got big muscles, but are you a better person? This life ain't about just being happy. It's about becoming something more. There isn't one way to be happy. We don't all have to chase after the same goals. You don't have to be rich and jacked and dating the hottest girls to find success or fulfillment. What do you trully believe? What do you truly value? What truly matters to you? What do you truly want? And does that even truly matter? Surrender to the truth. Perhaps one of the hardest things to do. And I ain't perfect. No one is. So don't try to be perfect. Just try. We're gonna make it boys (and girls)💪. And Angelo, seriously thank you. Fantastic video. Stay humble 👊
My fuckin guy let’s go. More of this attitude is what we need 🙏
It’s cope. You don’t have to have these things, but if you could snap your figures and have them, would you? Of course. Meaning it’s all cope. Using “mental health is more important than self improvement” as an excuse is self destructive. It does not mean you should just entirely stop improving other parts of your life.
Another thing is, some people just aren’t happy being mediocre. No matter how good your mental health is, they can’t allow themself to be mediocre. Some people have a fire inside of them, and you just happen to not be one of them. It’s your life.
@MrTaker_ I think you might have missed the point a little bit. Allow me to clarify, this isn't about Mental health or any health for that matter. Those things are important but here the point is more about your character. Your values. You beliefs. What do you want?
@@MrTaker_”being mediocre”? Why do you say that?
I see that self-improvement is basically skill-race. All the "grinding" and "hustling" been labeled back in the days as a "rat race". The only difference is that in 80's-2000's this stuck to 9-5 corporate workers. now any "hustler" is an "entrepreneur".
It's all madness. Still rat race. It's not about being happy. It's about putting an mask and pretending that you are happy, and advertise yourself as a "winner". I hate self-improvement grind culture. Most of those gurus don't care about your mental wellbeing. Especially dating coaches, confidence coaches and other red-pill gurus.
Finally someone thats just geniunely trying to improve, that sees through the bs that has mostly overtaken the self improvement scene, and that isnt just trying to sell a course. You're a rare one bro, ngl. Appreciate you for the info you've given me
Here before he blew up
I agree. Too many people fall down the rabbit hole of 'self improvement', and it's just fake. I feel like you just need to 'do it'. Sounds kind of stupid and brain dead but it's true. Legit, all you have to do is act on things that you want to change. It ain't that deep.
Self-improvement is the first step imo, self-fulfillment is necessary after that
I'm definitely in my 'stationary phase' but I'm slowly clawing out. I got to 100k on a tiktok account, leveraged that for movie premier invites and more, but ultimately felt unsatisfied because it didn't fit my purpose.
So I started a new account, this time in the philosophy niche, and I'm hoping to grow it into a real business, with public talks.
I love this. It has been something that I have thought about a lot actually. I realized that all of the "self-improvement" stuff is just the same stuff. Almost like people are copying and pasting the same information. I was introduced to the "self-improvement" world a little over a year ago, and I admit, it helped me get a bit higher than where I was at, however, it felt like I eventually plateaued. I was doing the stuff, working out, meditating, journaling, all that stuff, but I didn't feel like I was getting anywhere. Something just felt off about the whole situation. Then I had a realization, that we are all on different paths, and so one set of advice will not help everyone. In fact, it will only help a few individuals compared to the rest of the world. So thank you for making this video. It helps explain this concept in a really good way, and I feel it has helped me to understand what I can do to improve in my own personal path, and how I can figure out what is best for me. You are awesome, keep it up!
Bro i was planning on making a self improvement channel and my first video was gonna be about authenticity and how to cultivate it. You took my words away from my mouth. Now im even more inspired to start my channel
Do it!
Went through the video the second time to try pick up notes, don't really have any... your main point was just that it's way easier to follow the generic status improvement self improvement advice instead of actually confronting your real problems, and that it's important to be honest with yourself and experientially check reality to make sure you're not avoiding uncomfortable truths about yourself to be able to feel more grandiose.
You have top notch content man, most self-improvement is pandering, narcissism, and consumerism in disguise… the heat you are bringing, is not that. Keep it up!
Narcissism? You never were meant to be in this space my friend. As soon as someone says something that doesn’t hurt your feelings, now you’re pretending like you suddenly like self improvement. As soon as someone is soft and doesn’t want you to do all of the intense hard things about self improvement, suddenly it’s all great.
You’re not on self improvement. Your on purely cope, and nothing more.
@@MrTaker_ multiple things can be true at once, and I think balancing is important. Super cool PFP btw tho bro
This new alt you presented needs to be pushed further because what I noticed about the self-improvement community is that 1 it was largely external improvement 2 People were taking away their individuality to become like a influencer because the influencer belives this is the right way and 3 many times people don't even take action
This man is onto something, and I'm all here for it.
Bro your content is so good it's unreal LOL. Your flow is so natural and the tempo just hits the perfect balance between entertainment and info... taking notes taking notes on my end 😈😈
Love this video more than any
big facts
This is the breakdown us in Gen Z and beyond needed-not all the BS the gurus of nowadays spout 💯
You are articulating elusive truths so eloquently, at such a young age, without inconsistencies or contradictions. Gives me hope that maybe our collective future is salvageable.
If self improvement is not working or it's bad for you, then it's not Improvement. Stay Uncommon!
I don't normally comment on videos, but your advice was eye-opening to me. You're exactly what the self-improvement space needs right now. Keep it up
This is exactly what i needed because i never understood how i could get authority over myself, this system is great and helps me a lot to understand a good way to understand the world haha
I'm genuinely pretty good ignoring the don't be weird voice. The length of time someone is going to spend thinking about that embarrassing thing that happened once just isn't worth the energy. Oops, I did something that looks stupid... Oh well, they're not going to remember it in 15 minutes anyway.
I always appreciate a video packed with real and original insight. This is what self-improvement content should be.
I'll have to watch it a few more times for it to sink in.
Thx for everything. Im actual not that dumb of a guy i thought i am. I just didnt knew the harsh truth of being men. So keep up the work and i wish u my best in future. Greetings from Germany. Was a little fight to translate this all into my german brain but it worked immediatly. I had the tools just covered up under sum anxiety of proofing myself wrong or right.
So the whole superordination and subordintion to truth thing comes down to one thing: DONT LIE TO YOURSELF AND BE REAL WITH YOURSELF EVEN IF IT HURTS.
You are so real cl and also i respect how you don't over edit your content with bs dopamine spikes
Cheers bro!
2 weeks ago I was in a situation, where I realized exactly what you said in this Video:
I stepped out of my comfort zone and understood for the first time in my life, that overthinking everything with the main goal of not being weird will make me unhappy and stop myself from being who I want to be.
So I tried to change in some situations and did things I wanted to do, with no regard what other people will think. The results were incredible and people that triggered my social anxiety, reacted most of the time positivly. And even If not, for the first time I did not care.
Sadly since then I got recommended all these other self improvement videos but yours was the first one, that really could deliver what I dont like about modern self improvement. Thank you for the video, you really inspired me and put in to words what I thought and felt in some ways too.
*said 👍
bro is really describing reality design 101 awesome video
You are the best man. Don't ever quit! Self-Authentication over Self-Improvement!
That’s a great phrase. I like that. Be true to yourself
lmao absolutely hilarious. GG well played. baited saying it's something different. but in the end it's literally the exact same thing.
I don't know if this fight club quote was intentional, but Tyler Durden litterally speeks through you right here 12:55 (same qoute pops up in a tv in the movie Baby Driver lol). Keep up the uploads and nuance, because WE need this antidote ASAP. I am grateful to have stumpled upon you.
Speech at the end is underrated
goes so hard
Why are people talking about simple things for so long, giving things apart of self improvement a different name
Just live. That's all there is and will be. Doesn't gets simpler or more complex than that.
I cant belief that this video has only so few views… You’re words are so so important for everyone and especially the younger generation to hear!
I really agree with the idea that you can't have victim mentality and be winning at a difficult hobby simmultaneusly
self-destruction
(jk obviously i haven't even watched the video yet)
take steps with, Truth, big or small
But whats wrong about a stationary kinda sweet cardboard life?
Bro you're the men.
keep it up
i hope you wont sell your soul to be the same as all those self improvment gurus
i believe you will need to somehow monetize your content at some point, i believe you will find very creative way to do so without selling bullshit courses which there is already endless of those.
Whats the name of the song at 4:20? 👀👀👀👀
Loving yourself
not to ring my own bell, but I had this all figured out on my own by 16, thanks anyways :)
Ever heard of this stuff called " self acceptance" it is excellent and lets u do the stuff u want without worry.
15:30 I tried the don’t be weird strat about a year ago but I think I went to far
People are talking about me behind my back now
And how did you get money for all of that from? This amount of freedom comes with a material price
7:21 KEY! Great video my friend, we need to bring down the narcissist era we are immersed
I live in a small community i dont want them all thinking im weirder than they already do 😂
This vid hit me hard af. Great job man.
Did u go to private school?
I feel like i can always sense people who went private school and my raydar is very high with you but i could be wrong. Doesn't matter just interested to know.
Lying is very hard for me, that’s why I’m trying to learn to be a better liar.
Hey do you think we could get timestamps?
what is the name of the song between 5:00 and 10:00?
Me pausing each 30 seconds to take notes 😂
Your speech is really precise man! Got a 45 minute content in 20 minutes. Crazy!
doing my best not to waste the viewers time hahah!
parabola? dude that's quadratic
need a new editor? i can make a trial video for you to prove myself
this video was so good, the emotions at the end were real. keep it up bro
Finally: other-deterioration
Sorry, could someone help me out to understand something, english isn't my first language, so maybe I'm missing something.
5:18 What's being implied by realization of truths about self? Like when I'm socially awkward and I realise that, should I comfront it to truly realise how much I suck at it?
this is gonna blow up, gl with youtube man, actually trust ya
this is legitimate POWERFUL stuff
thank you for your service!
Thank you for introducing me to that song at the end. I added that and this video to my "Everyday Playlist" See you tomorrow. ❤
Beauuutiful use of language! This concept is a solid bridge for all who are lost in "self-improvement". Your message reeks of 'YOU ARE ENOUGH AS YOU ARE", and yet you don't say it once. Powerful subtext powerfully tickles subconscious⚡️💆 No improvement for perfection; only expansion.
great video great help
Salad days!
Really loved the chill vibes in this video. Will definately ponder over some of the things you mentioned!
any books about this?
When you said 14:47 to embarrass yourself I think most people would cringe or think you’re insane but honestly idk why I find this to be something that could be really fun to do for myself. I think about some of my fav artists and Tyler the creator really resonates where he doesn’t care if he’s awkward or who judges him in their minds it’s him being him and his confidence is why he is where he is now in life. I think that practice of self destruction is great for being comfortable with the uncomfortable and building a foundation of unwavering confidence.
buzz word upon buzz word. speak succinctly and simply. i thought you were on to something at first but you lost my interest.
yo yo, which words did you feel were buzzwords?
What a strapping young man. You shall be a positive influential force for your peers and community, God bless you bro.
*sees title*
Crack.
Enjoy life on the other side bro, shits gonna change for you big time
I've been brought up on Paulo Nutini the incorporation of iron sky was majestic. It changed my perspective on the lyrics, brilliant stuff. I'll give self authentication a try🙏
Let me know how it goes!
Bro, your videos make me to REALLY THINK🔥
How to become authentic in an inauthentic world? We have to wear various masks during day to day life. Wish people would be more honest about what they think and feel.
lead from the front, have faith that it will work out
Thank you for this powerful message ❤
Are you the actor who interpreted It in the movie 'It'?
1:17 "AGAIN !!!"
Sean Mendes
I am glad to get good advice from a stoic, you actually sound quite stoic and thats perfect because thats the most amazing philosophy for me that i have found. So ill subscriber brother! :)
I just found you today from this video and I think you’re my favourite RUclipsr already
woah, thank you...
@@AngeloSomers these vids are insane
I only ever told one other creator in their comments section this but dude if you started your own platform and started selling dvd box sets of videos like this i'd have to buy one
hahahahh that's incredible damn
here before you reach 100k+ subs
also what's your favorite city to live in as a digital nomad so far?
canggu in bali for sure, not really a city but i'm not a city guy
@@AngeloSomers and which cities/places have you tried so far? thanks for the reply
Great video - I'll share this. This is really valuable.
@@renarsdr thank you man :)
If anything, great music choice.
Wow, top 3 of the best ytb video I ever saw
damn, ty
Damn
Never in 19 years of my life has somebody effortlessly predicted every single thought of mine about the subject in the subject itself. FUCKING GENIUS
Thank you Brother. This helped me a lot. Also amazing production quality. Good Work. Do you have any advice on limiting beliefs and how to believe in oneself fully?
Really well done, Angelo!
Man, to be honest I didn't expect much, I almost didn't click on the video. But it was solid. I thought it would be a repackaging of pretty much the same, but I liked your pfp and gave it a go. I don't regret it. Also, you speak well, and aren't made of plastic, like most people one sees in these places. Thanks for your framework, I'll implement it.
By the way, did you cross yourself in the Orthodox style?
ngl, its defo like, just seek discomfort, challenge yourself, you being comfy is your greatest flaw. If you truly seek to improve at something, you have to practice and that's all it is, its not easy, you'll be bad at first, but just practice.
Just go, start, do it, there's nothing more complex, its just start, practice, improve, repeat.
Everything else feels like a positive byproduct of your action.
Every time I watch your content, I feel like I become thee thinker because it’s all very thought provoking and actually makes sense, different from the other content. Acts like a compass and not a map. Keep up the good content!!🙌🏻
That's exactly what I've been looking for & thinking about lately. Most "self-improvement" is just mental masturbation, it's just an online bubble where desperate people are looking to improve their lives, which they do, but only in 1 dimension, but they still stay empty vessels, without any personality, nor originality, living a boring & fake life. The worst part is they never achieve all of their goals, because some of the goals require them to not be empty vessels.
What do you mean by "truth" in this video?
Truth is that which gives rise to statements of truth
You just solved three problems of mine:
My belief I was delusional
My feeling of purposelessness even though I lost weight and became skinnier
My doubts of self-improvement
What camera do you use? The quality is Hollywood standard
shitty old ass sony a7iii, just colour graded the fuck outta it