I thought that Dr K was reading my mind for awhile there but I'm starting to realize that what I'm going through has been felt a thousand times before and now it's just my turn.
i’ve always found it fascinating how so many of us go through the same things yet feel so alone. All of these struggles have been experienced by many through generations. Philosophy has changed my perspective on these issues but no matter your “intellect” on the matter it’s still best to have someone who can guide you through these type of issues, talking through each point of internal conflict. Specifically someone who has dealt with these issues and has disconnected from being immersed in those feelings can help the most. Thank you Dr. K. you are doing great things for the community.
the feeling of loneliness despite so many shared experiences comes from the social stigma about sharing this type of information with others. you also have to be willing to be vulnerable to talk about it openly, and people are generally taught to be strong and self-sufficient. this runs both ways, as the person listening has also been taught that it's "too much information" and feels awkward receiving it. speaking generally of course, some people are wonderful human beings and run counter to this type of socialization.
Because we are not that especial, alot of people have similar problems, and thank god we are the not especial ones since we can have relief in these videos lol...
Op described what it feels like to have a real spiritual awakening. Its not all tinkly music and incense and yoga classes. Its the shattering of the conditioned sense of self. Losing the mental construct of who you think you are and trying to find the real you that got covered up for the sake of surviving your childhood.
@@Darkloid21 No parents are perfect. I had great parents, but since most of my siblings were troublemakers and I wasn’t I was starved of emotional support and attention, and never taught to socialize properly. It was a tiny oversight from my parents looking at the big picture, but it damaged me in ways that I’ve spent years trying to heal from. No matter how good of an upbringing you have, and no matter how good of parents yours were, there is likely baggage you’re going to have to learn to overcome and grow from.
@@Darkloid21 Not everyone, but far more than you’d think, and many of those that do had incredible parents that fell short due to only being human or being ignorant on one element of parenting.
@@Darkloid21 if they don't have such problem thus never lose sight on who they are, then they wouldn't have the similar awakening/realization, would they?
I know a lot of people talk about self-awareness, and being self-aware, and they seem to think it's some sort of virtuous quality that involves always doing the right thing in the right context. To me, it's always just meant being completely aware of my own existence, which is a very strange and powerful feeling for better or worse. I find myself questioning everything around me, especially my own thoughts and actions, pretty much constantly. Obviously, it's to a fault. The intense self-reflection and contemplation helps many things, but obviously can very easily cross the line into "overthinking". I got asked by my therapist recently to think about who I am and what I can offer others, since I've expressed a desire to connect with people. The question has bothered me because I'm not sure how to answer it. I'm sure they could address it in the next session, but just thinking about it has been brutal, because there's this side of me that fears I have nothing to offer anyone and I'm doomed to loneliness. Obviously that's "logically" not the case, but just knowing that doesn't exactly help either.
I can sit still for 10 more minutes myself but this guy proved that I can't handle outside stimulant because I nearly burst out laugh when he said "don't smile"
Maybe the people who are not able to do it are the ones making life difficult for everyone around them? Maybe their lack of peace of mind is the thing that is making them act that way? There is also a big problem with the fact that we are not taught how to. Majority of people would rather give themselves electroshocks than just sit in the empty room alone.
Language feels not strong enough to express my gratitude and the beauty of the work that Dr.K is doing for all of us. A pure exemple of the beauty that a human being can bring in this beautiful chaotic world. Dr.K, may you be happy may you be free may you be at peace
I think I was accidentally doing this meditation for a long time in my life. When I was in highschool, I would often walk alone. And in that time, I would pay attention to what my body is feeling. I would enjoy the suns warmth on my cheeks as well as the pinching sensation of cold winter air. I would feel the cold or warm air fill my lungs and I'd notice the sensation of the air in my throat. Since I often came early to school, I would sit on a bench and just exist there. I would pay attention to the feeling of the bench on my butt, as well as my muscles relaxing from all the walking. I was really lonely and depressed back then, but I found peace by simply paying attention to my surroundings, which included my own body. Back then, that peace, that sensation of being alive, on this world, right there, right then - it was the only thing that kept me alive. I didn't realise it but those times are probably why I'm the person I am today, and why some meditative practices come relatively naturally to me - I've seen it all before.
This might seem weird and woowoo, but a tarot reader recently told me that I was trying to hold on to my old self out of fear/ignorance of what my new-self is (I'm post burn-out so lots of things in my life went out the window in the last year). And the exact advice she told me was to sit in silence to let my "new" inner self emerge. I'm glad to hear Dr K confirm this advice. Oh and for clarification I already spent time with a therapist , don't use tarot as a substitute for proper therapy
Tarot and things of this nature get a bad rep, since many think of it as "telling the future" and many even advertise it as such. But I've always benefited from tarot/astrology/numerology not because I thought it could tell the future, but because I use them as narrative devices. Tarot can give you a set of words/expressions with which you can self reflect in a new way because as long as something can't be named (Voldemort style) it kinda looms over you and directs your life from the shadows. But once you can put it into words and stories it becomes actionable as well as you start feeling less alone because now instead of saying "I'm depressed" to your friends, you can describe how you're actually feeling, you can tell your story and feel more understood.
I am a professional Astrologer/tarot reader for the last 7 or 8 years and its nice to see some people in this community are open to these kinds of things. Its also nice to hear that you found a reader who gave you this kind of advice, the tarot and astrology industry is corrupt af and there are lot of charlatans out there who will prey on your insecurities and tell you what you want to hear so you keep coming back to them and giving them money. If you find a legit reader, hang on to them because they can be rare. Its getting more and more popular these days which is good but it also means there are more fakes out there exploiting what I consider to be sacred tools.
Yes! Tarot "responds" to one's current state & output so it's a reflection & guidance tool for the moment, not to tell the future or give all the answers. I like to use it for sorting & mapping out my feelings/ thoughts as it can be scary accurate lol. Tarot is like that neutral friend who'll give it to you straight.
Hahaha the exact same thing happened to me just last week. What a synchronicity that this video pops up at this time. Hope we can find the guidance we need and get through this 🙏
That form of meditation is almost exactly the same as a lucid dreaming technique I learned years ago. Ignoring impulse like itches and swallowing they said eventually the signals not being acknowledged will tell the brain your asleep and it will begin to move towards sleep. The lucid dreaming part comes when you can keep your brain awake while the body goes to sleep and dreams activate. Never got it to really work that way, but I always had intense dreams while practicing this and it sent me to sleep in 10-15 minutes in combination with purposefully doing the signal ignoring in a position that wasn't the one I slept in. Letting the build up of tension be relieved will help your body go to sleep after about 10 min of being mildly uncomfortable.
Did you do it after waking up from approximately 5 hours of sleep? If not then that would mostly be why you didn't lucid dream but just fell asleep. It takes too long for you to reach REM in the first sleep cycle to be able to hold on to your consciousness until dreaming.
Who else had to resist a giggle fit when Dr. K said "no smiling!" Edit: after genuinely doing the meditation, knowing full and well I'd hate it, I feel happy a minute after. Relaxed even. 5 minutes of stress, stillness, and I feel better, accomplished even. The competitive survivalist feels fed, my body feels fed, my anxiety is lower than when I started.
I cried with the meditation, when you started the countdown and got to 7, tears started to roll down my face, i sat still but I couldn't stop crying. It relieved me to feel that alive. An emotion is an emotion i guess
Around minute 43-44 you were talking about something, how the world isn't quite what we had in mind. In my view, it feels like i know that the world is very similar to what i have in mind, but i dont get to experience it. The other day, in south alabama, (mind how hot it can get) the weather was beautiful. I was yearning to go camping, or hiking, or otherwise outdoors. The sun was shining, but wasn't too bright, the breeze was blowing but not too hard, and it was cool outside, neither too hot, nor too cold, but just perfect. The clouds were pretty and the birds sang songs. I felt all this sensations, but in a mood of sadness, because i knew in the brief 2 minutes, id be going inside where id spend the next 8hrs doing hard exhausting work, just to come outside for it to be dark, without any of that beauty to be seen. I was honestly mentally upset that i wasn't able to experience to weather for what it was. But while typing this, im reminding myself that i did experience it. I experienced it for 2 minutes. And that is a lot longer than i would have experienced for if i had that day off, and probably would have wasted it lying in bed. My point changed while typing this, but i believe my consensus is that we have to find the beauty in life. The beauty in life isn't going to come get us. And we need to search for such even when we dont need or want it. Take a walk in the storm one day (be safe mind you) take a walk in the heat or the cold. And embrace it. In the 2 minutes i was outside, or how awesome it was, I wasted it by thinking i only have 2 minutes to enjoy this. I feel this relates to that time frame, at least i feel it does.
It's so simple but one of the greatest strengths of Dr. K in my opinion is just explaining the process of how to do some of these things. For young men in particular I think the amount of advice we get that ultimately boils down to "Just do/be X" is incredibly unhelpful without any tools or starting line to even begin the process. "Just be yourself" "Just be confident" "Just say something" "Just man up" "Just be XYZ" Thanks for getting us to the starting line!
Its strange how a lot of the recent videos directly apply to my own mental state. Though its also refreshing to know that its common enough for a video to be made on it.
The meditation part, I read something similar to this in a Readers Digest book from when I was 12. The meditation was easy for me to follow since I've been doing it for like 13 years now. Once in the afternoon, and doing it to go to sleep. Lay down in a comfortable position and do not move, if there's an itch just ignore it. Gotta stay still. State your name and goal. Clear your mind, then count from 1 to 100 and then from 100 back to 1, focusing entirely on the counting.
This meditation exercise was excactly what I needed. I finally get why people preach about awareness and living in the moment because holy shit, I haven't felt that alive in years. I didn't get that from the awareness meditations but from just sitting still for 5min! It is incredible how the easiest exercise can give you the most revealing experience.
I was tearing up on the meditation part. It is amazing how just stop for 5 min open up everything, this video help me a lot to focus on whats really important in life. thank you so much Dr. K
the meditation part, thats how i fall asleep when im not that tired. i lay there still and dont move at all. no itching, no moving, no nothing. i just came up with it when i was like 14 and it worked and i taught my older sister. it just works, and its hard, and it feels really good. didnt even know it can be this good as a meditation!
Just last night had a discussion with my mom about how I couldn't remember my preferences when I came to after general anesthesia and was very dissociated like I was operating a mech suit. Was telling her how I view our outward selves as characters created and that we can be many people over the course of our lives, rewritten. She looked wildly disturbed while I was telling her about how we don't actually have personality traits for like 90% of things... at one point in time we just feel emotion in a moment even subconciously. Like I don't actually WANT a black coffee every day that's just my habit I don't think about. At some point in time I made the descision based on emotion or need like "ah man i want to be like that person who drinks black coffee" or "I love how freaked out people are that I take it black" or "the person I want to seem like would drink this" or "I need to cut calories I should try it black for a while" and now it's just part of the character I play daily until I rewrite that part. I have memory issues and travel and move constantly and it's made me wildly aware of this, whereas she's lived a more steady life where she rarely needs to change a habit so I think it was more a strange idea to her. Now today I see this suggested to me?! Thanks for always listening Google Algo
The way I innerstand this 😭 You realize you do things because you perceived a way you could be perceived by others and thought that was you but it was a random action on autopilot that wasn't a "complete" desire.
YOU might not have a personality, not the rest of us mate. I think even the most lost person in life in terms of self can figure out if they like coffee or not.
Dr. K your content is amazing. I know this is an old video, but I still feel like I took away so much from it. Thank you for your content. When you said "if while sitting with yourself with no dopamine or tiktok video or anything and you are laughing, you're doing it right... If you're crying you're doing it right," I did both of those things watching this video. You're absolutely one of my favorite creators on RUclips. Thank you for everything you do.
I had no idea this was a meditation. My 5th grade teacher had us do this for 5 minutes and I loved it so much I practiced for years afterwards and felt great. Somewhere along the line I stopped but knowing that this is an actual legitimate meditation is encouraging me to do this again. I also read Tuesdays with Morrie that year and to this day that's my favorite book. I normally don't have much interest in the meditation portions of these videos but this was really valuable.
I knew there was a reason why i started watching your videos every other day. This is like the first time ive meditated in my life and im 19. This is something else
I needed this. I'm convinced we're all hooked up to a hive mind and this is our ringleader. After covid my ADHD (finally officially diagnosed at 30) got significantly worse. I HAD to change how I thought, ate, my routines, my beliefs, etc. I felt so empty after a while and questioning how to do as much as I used to or even know what I wanted was tough. What I wanted was always against what perfectionist Caribbean relatives harmfully drilled into me. So, I became great at operating on 1% to people please and not get how my brain works. Doing WAY better now but FOOK it hurts.
@@anomaly3215 I like that that's your assumption but your response is probably a reflection of how you've seen similar situations go. Did I fight back through my childhood as a small girl with Caribbean relatives 4x my size who'd gang up on me and beat me? No. Did I learn to fight back verbally when half died and finally were out my life to the ones remaining once I was 18? Yeah. Did I take my peace back bit by bit by learning better boundaries? Yeah. Was I terrible at it and did it take time? Yeah. I get that stories like mine probably make you think of people who "won't change anything" but maybe stop assuming everyone works in the same limited manner.
I experienced a loss in my learning desire a year ago but after self reflective questions I know that I'm a pen / pencil nerd. I like writing down facts and drawing for the sake of holding the writing tool.
Relatable! I personally love pencil and paper, the smell of wood and lead. The feel of a brand knew crisp paper. The sounds of the sheet and the scribble glides of the pencil. I had to go through things that had me put myself last and priority first that I lost my desires. But this has always grounded me back to my center state of peace, I prefer drawing and writing before reading.
I never meditate. This wasn’t something I was interested in because I thought it was just some new age thing and couldn’t care less. Well I don’t regret a second of it, it was fun, actually, I had hard time not to laugh and when it stopped, I was able to go back to work with so much energy and delight (I’m a sculptor). That was super cool and I highly recommend to give it a try ! Thanks for this stunning experience ♥️
I've always struggled with this. I'm pursuing goals in my life but I often feel unsure if I really want those things. Maybe it's out of insecurity. That if I do decide to change what I'm working towards I would have no idea what to pursue then. Sometimes I feel like I'm just here to ride the rollercoaster of life, but where I have no say on where it'll take me. My religious faith does help me in that many things in life are predetermined by a higher power in a way. Maybe I really might not have much say but I can approach it with new mindsets. There is great comfort in this. Life is going good, I lucked out and was born to a stable middle class household. But I can't help but feel I don't have much control and that who I am is defined by what I'm doing at the current moment. Can't watch right now, but I'll watch later today.
I would EAT UP guided meditations from Dr. K if that's something you guys are ever thinking of making. Hell I would PAY to have your soothing voice guid me through ❤️
That mediation was incredible. Loved the way you made it obvious when my mind was sending signals and rebelling by "provoking" it with slow counting and saying there is 2 minutes left when clearly more than 1 mintue already passed. Thanks :)
Dr. K is better than my doctor. I love his blackboard explanations. I did an interesting journal exercise for two months where I recorded activities and moments at the end of the day that brought me some kind of joy, however small, and those that I dreaded. Which totally makes you have to stop and listen to inner signals. Then I saw the patterns and asked the Why question, similar to your question, getting at what was driving me.
1.- signals like a cold shower, eating food you like or dislike and focus on your body reaction 2.- focus on where do your reactions and actions come from, do they come from your body or your decision? 3.- kashtira (sorry if i wrote it wrong, this is like a little note for myself when i come back to this video).
You have made leaps and bounds in progress with upgrading your streaming set up and your overall delivery of content. Thank you for putting in so much effort, it really shows.
That meditation was the most awful yet fun experience of all time. The last 10 seconds I couldn’t help but smile and hold back laughter. During the entire thing my mind would flash random images to get me to react. It went from horror and fear inducing images and animations to random shapes and animals moving irregularly and changing sizes. Then it went from that to playing my favorite music in my head because I exercise with that same music. Dr K’s voice became the sweet relief i needed but also the bane of my existence as everytime he’d speak, my body would instantly react at the mere sound of him. Absolutely insane, the lengths my body was willing to go. Edit: Another funny thing about my experience is I was unfortunate enough to be standing up. I felt like I would fall over so many times. My body literally twitched and shifted so much that it was willing to fall over if it meant I’d have to move
To me, the Idea of that meditation is proving something I discovered last year: You don't have to answer questions like this in a completely closed high-concept and definite way. Just start small and go from there: Instead of asking: "Who do I *want* to be?", ask "What do I like to do/not do right now?". "What do I like/not like to eat?". What I'm struggling with is this constant over-analyzing *self*-judgement which I'm trying to turn down a great notch. So this small meditation (even if it was just sitting still in my chair) was just helpful in actually just noticing things without judging them. This was the first time I actually tried to join and just lost it at the final countdown... and then I had to sneeze. Thanks for that!
Holy moly. The meditation was one of the most intense things I've done in a while. I was doing fine for most of it but during the coutdown part it felt like literal hell, like I was being assaulted by a billion things and fighting so hard to not do anything in response. Then when I relaxed and Dr. K was saying think about how empty the rest of our life is compared to that intensity I started crying pretty hard and couldn't stop for a while. I'm not sure if I'd say I felt good afterwards, I felt really uncomfortable like I had been fearful of actually feeling life and now I had no choice. I felt like I was dropped into some new world I didn't belong in and whatever had been grounding me no longer existed. I don't think it was a totally negative feeling but I'm having trouble putting any words to what felt good/positive about it. I certainly have a lot to reflect on.... I've tried quite a few other meditations and usually get something out of them but this was a whole other thing. Thanks Dr. K!
It was a little too intense for me too. I've done this type of meditation before and I've gone as long as 30-40 minutes without any voluntary movement, but it really depends on where you're at mentally. A lot of our behaviors are a form of emotional containment. Especially rituals and things like smoking, drugs/alcohol, thumb sucking in young children. It's all a way to try to contain and control unbearable feelings.
@@applebutter4036 Wow 30 minutes sounds difficult. I'm definitely planning to try it again, probably sticking to a couple of minutes for now though haha. I think you're right about containing emotions, we do a lot of things to make our body's signals shut up so we don't have to deal with them. It was a weird sensation doing a practice that caused them to scream louder until they were almost unbearable. It kind of felt similar to a panic attack, or when you're holding your breath for really long and your body starts freaking out telling you to breathe.
To tell you the truth, I think you're doing it right when it is difficult. The longer sessions I did were probably at least partially me just zoning out and not really being present. It gets easier with practice, but oddly less useful at the same time. IMO, when you have those more intense feelings come up, you're in effect "processing" them. So hopefully, the worse it feels, the better off you are in the long run.
I been going through a rough time and doing this practice is extremely hard for me having adhd. But I think Im going to stick to it more often. that hit different
i used to do a lot of mindfulness meditation but nowadays so busy at work so i barely find the time. thanks to the monotonous and repetitive nature of my job, i have incorporated this kind of meditation into it where i manually count out each task until i finish. it helps me keep present instead of zoning out. it feels like holding a long breath and when i finally finish, the wave of relief and pleasure is incredible
the kaya shtiram meditation was remarkably easy for me. it wasn't intense, i hardly felt anything, no urges to resist. i think i felt an itch on my leg and that's about it. the contrast of breathing vs the rest of my still body felt good, but i felt basically nothing
I think we did this in school when I was about 15 and I remember it being very easy. I had very good self control back then. I thought I was very good with these things but for some reason when I did this today it was suprisingly difficult. Breathing was difficult and I felt a torturous urge to squirm.
same for me, though the countdown was a bit harder. I think it was Dr. K s talking that kept my brain engaged and not too bored. Doing it without that would probably be a lot harder, but then it'd also be easier to just get lost in your thoughts.
This is one of the best meditation techniques that I have come across, it gives the why of the meditation and breaks it down to a manageable level. Previous attempts made my depression worse and most likely because of the long meditation was overwhelming. Never thought to try shorter meditations. Also my depression is not as intense so I can manage this 5 minutes.thank you.
I'm sorry you've had some bad experiences with meditation before. Hopefully you can carry over the insight that you can start with shorter periods and slowly build up (if you want to). Have a good day.
@@guillermorelobalopez7553 Thank you, I think back in the day the mindfulness based stress reduction was recommended as it is good for everyone. Unfortunately for me it was my first encounter with depression and at the time it was severe and did not realize I could not work myself out of depression and needed rest more than workshops. I do look forward this meditation approach actually make sense, and will see if my goal to get back to work might be me not accepting my new normal of living with TRD.
@38:35 How did it feel? AMAZING! At first, I felt my muscles relaxing. Halfway through, I had this yearning to get up! To plank, to kick, to run, to jump! I did a full-body workout yesterday, and THIS just put me in tune with all of it! When you first claimed “We’ll count to 10 to finish”, there was a sense of thankfulness and relief. Actually… deep appreciation.. for simply existing in that instance. The feeling swelled, and tears dripped down my eyes. The yearning to move drifted away, and I became complacent with remaining still until you said otherwise.. THANK YOU.
You don't know how much you have impacted my life in a very short period of time. You go straight to the point and we feel we know what you're talking about because you describe exactly how we feel and give us a way out. ❤❤ Thank you.
Man that Meditation got me. I laughed a few times and foxes on the breathe but I had a niche and all my body or mind want to scratch it. There were a lot of signals I felt . Thanks Dr. K I learned a lot today
I had no issues sitting still, a few thoughts came and went. But as soon as you said, "notice that vitality within you", tears just came out of my eyes. Not in a good spot at the moment after a very painful breakup, but your videos have been super helpful and hope to sign up to your coaching program soon.
I feel the polar opposite of feeling alive when I sit still for a long time. I am usually mindful. I am so mindful that I have trouble making choices... Touching my body from head to toe is a way better practice for me.
This resonates with me a lot. It was my 20th birthday last September and over these past couple years I've been trying to cope with a sense of loss for an identity I no longer have. I'm still in a bit of a limbo, but I guess it takes a while to figure it out.
A main effect of watching your videos: I became familiar with myself, I am a learning to become a student of life again. Thank you! A side effect: Now I know about Adrian Berenguer and his soul uplifting music.
I usually like to play games while listening to these videos, but when we got the the meditation part I just had to put everything down and try it. it was difficult, relieving, enjoyable, and pretty fun.
Wow - sitting still was a huge blessing- thank u 🙏 Dr K- u are so delightful- I love ur insights and how u share other people’s stories. 😜 I had an itch on my face - it was irking me so bad - the breath felt so good!!😘
I used a meditation position from karate, where you sit on your knees and feet, on a wooden floor, for that 5 minute meditation, I knew it was gonna hurt. But I did it with my own phone timer, with the intention of going beyond the timer and pushing through the annoying vibration and/or alarm sound. I gave up thinking I missed my 3 minute mark, cause it was too painful but when I checked the timer, I saw I actually accidentally set it to 3 hours, and had sat for 5 and half minutes. And was both extremely pissed but also felt accomplished because I actually succeeded when i thought I didnt. But boy that is one way to feel 'alive' (side note one of the things you have to do to get a black belt in Karate is sit in that position i mentioned for 1 hour, most who succeed at it have to be pushed to their side because their legs and feet fall asleep and because of that, they cant move them)
My old self could actually get work done and my new self watches youtube and plays games all day. I just don't know. I want to believe that getting closer to my inner self can help but right now I just can't see the connection with how exactly it will help me. On the other hand as I'm writing this I actually change my mind. A huge thing I've been doing is noticing that my desires to watch youtube/play games comes from pleasure in my brain rather than being something that I genuinely want to do. I think this reflects/expands on a lot of that sentiment perfectly
This video was really needed and i feel like everyone should watch this, cause this is like a fundalmental guide to living and describes something i struggle with and try to improve upon every day. Anyways; great lecture as always.
Omg I finally found a video that explained the actual accidentally meditation I did when I was younger that gave me such epic spiritual experiences! Thank u!
Damm, this hit close to home, ive been feeling emotionally numb and weird lately, i dont know myself anymore i feel and i clinge to being my former self, which causes social interaction to feel fake and artificial. Im only 16 so i guess its just a phase and i shouldn’t think about it too much, but it is heavily impacting my day tot day life.
I feel the same. At 19. I wouldn’t out tule it as just a phase but that could definitely be it. I went thru stuff at ur age and until lateral noticed it was just weird phases sometimes
Oh good i needed to move on. Could not believe you did this now. I been listening to you all day and did it this morning! Did not know what it was! Thank you. 😊
Interestingly, I kind of have the opposite experience from the post. I was a nervous antisocial wreck as a teenager who was incredibly cynical about life. My 20s has been a slow process of pulling myself out of that, but it still feels wierd socialising, because I remember a time when I hated it. I constantly have to fight the urge to define myself as "having anxiety" because I'm not really that guy anymore, but my brain kind of thinks I am.
Hopefully my comment isn't too late that you won't see it. Hopefully you do see it. I'm currently under 20 so I haven't lived much of life yet, but much of what you wrote resonated with me to the core. That's why I recommend to check out other content Dr.K posts because there is a lot more that lies in the issue of your anxiety. You might get answers that way. Without knowing your situation I can't say much else, but I think that your resistance to labeling yourself as an anxious person has maybe a lot to do with your life experience, worries, and etc. However what ever made that resistance occur is something you have to discover. There is a reason behind this resistance you formed, so it's a matter of time you will find it. Living life with persistent skepticism is tiring and depressing (enough to make you reach burnout), but knowing how your skepticism was formed helps. You will have a better idea what to do afterwards. I hope my comment helps
So glad I found your vids.Ive been 'stuck up there' since my mid teens and depression and anxiety and substance abuse have all come after.47 now and still totally lost in my own head but glad theres people like you about now.
29:34 practice kayashtiram 43:30 20s and reality 45:00 start with body and sensing signals and then notice what deives your thoughts and actions 51:45 problem with forming habit and letting mind wander
That meditation is really powerful and profound. At first I felt really anxious and attention is not stable within my body, but weirdly at the final countdown from ten to one, I could feel there is some sort of energy surrounding my body, or that I'm the source of the energy and it's radiating outwards. Just wow
After doing the practice I made a sandwich and said "I'm not going to eat that" and turned away from the sandwich. Immediately I felt a magnetic pull towards the sandwich. It was the best sandwich I've ever had
Man, you know you're getting to a good spot in life when you can look at videos like these and go, "no, I know who I am." And proceed to actually know what kind of person you are, even if your explanation is drawn out, and incapable of being summed up in a sentence. We're all made of nuance, don't be afraid if your explanation is too long, as long as your words mean something when you say them.
this video found me exactly when i needed it. after the meditation i sat back and burst into a fit of laughing and crying (there are still tears going down my face as i type this) and i feel so alive, more than i have felt in a very long time. my whole body feels electric. thank you Dr K
i noticed during the meditation there was no image in my vision. i was completely blind. no color, no image that i usually see while meditating. i was completely focused on not moving a muscle and it felt so damn good.
7:05 - discover who you are now 10:16 - Turiya 11:52 - stuck on surface mental level 13:03 - lose track of drives, trying to get motivated towards old drives 14:15 - as a society, we have forgotten how to listen to ourselves 14:30why? 16:35 - mind loves to forget the internal self 17:45 - What to do?? 24:28 - quick way to quickly listen to ourselves, put good food and not eat it, eat something youdislike instead 26:34 - what directs my thoughts? 28:12 - meditation to get in touch with body, kaya shtiram 30:37 you don’t want to lose yourself in your breath, not breathing meditation
This is the first time I have gone along with the meditation in the video and it was great stuff. I don't know if I did it correctly as I felt mostly comfortable during the practice (and couldn't help but smile during - telling me not to certainly did not help). I'm going to try it out on my own and see how that changes things. Thank you for another excellent video and all the great work you do. Please, keep up the great work.
i loved the meditation, as someone with adhd weirdly enough this was the first meditation type that i found extremely fitting and satisfying for me right away. having a “task” to focus on (be still. stay still) which is typically difficult enough for me that focusing on it requires all my attention was a really great “gateway” into the other types of meditation that i find a bit more abstract about letting your mind wander but bringing it back to the meditation. the only time i faltered was when i couldnt help but smile when he said “feel how alive you are,” cause i did! i felt so alive and connected to my body! i adore this!
Before watching, I'd like to say I don't believe this to be inaccurate for me, based on the title of course. Now to hear what you have to say. 38:34 That was actually really easy. Turns out that type of meditation is how I get to sleep every night. Didn't know there was a name for it, neat. 40:27 for me the experience is quite different. I feel everything external shrink away from me, like a sphere of "space" expanding from me, creating a void around me. This void is comforting but creates a feeling of "smallness" and everything feels miles away. 🤷♂
Wow, I recently had this exact same problem I was completely lost in my identity motivation etc...then I tried to spend a lot of time thinking about it, what I should do, what path to take, what was right or wrong, nothing helped. So I realized that it was a useless maze. And I spontaneously did what you suggest: start from the body. Move the body. Listen to the signals. That is true and cannot be disputed or doubted. But gosh this meditation is on another level!! It felt like torture and in the end an enthusiastic blessing. Thank you so much for all the wisdom and useful information 😄🙏🏼
Bro your videos are so good you’re so concise and relatable. I haven’t even watched this vid but I will save it and can’t wait to watch at home later (maybe broken down long form videos wear me out but I do appreciate them)
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The meditation was so fun. I tried to hold back but I just couldn't resist and bursted out laughing as Dr.K was dominating me with his slow countdown.
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sameeeee
😭😂
oh yes i want dr. k to dominate me.
@@vaughncwach5934 🤨📸
I thought that Dr K was reading my mind for awhile there but I'm starting to realize that what I'm going through has been felt a thousand times before and now it's just my turn.
Facts
It's great to know we're not special and alone
A thousand? Billion times before dhde
That's a great thing to recognize.
We're all the same in different ways.
i’ve always found it fascinating how so many of us go through the same things yet feel so alone. All of these struggles have been experienced by many through generations. Philosophy has changed my perspective on these issues but no matter your “intellect” on the matter it’s still best to have someone who can guide you through these type of issues, talking through each point of internal conflict. Specifically someone who has dealt with these issues and has disconnected from being immersed in those feelings can help the most. Thank you Dr. K. you are doing great things for the community.
seems to be a symptom of this generation
@@enamored1 definitely not just this generation, these problems can be seen across generations.
@@jptvliljoep agreed but we are in a mental health epidemic which means that anyone can have a mental health crisis at any point for any reason
the feeling of loneliness despite so many shared experiences comes from the social stigma about sharing this type of information with others. you also have to be willing to be vulnerable to talk about it openly, and people are generally taught to be strong and self-sufficient. this runs both ways, as the person listening has also been taught that it's "too much information" and feels awkward receiving it. speaking generally of course, some people are wonderful human beings and run counter to this type of socialization.
that is a beautiful way to put it, very spot on
Why does every Dr. K title matches my current mental status...I've never been offended by something I 100% agree with
The Universe is speaking to you, Matthew!
@Mir I definitely experienced this kind of stuff before.
Same for me for some of em
Because we are not that especial, alot of people have similar problems, and thank god we are the not especial ones since we can have relief in these videos lol...
@Higgs Same to me
Op described what it feels like to have a real spiritual awakening. Its not all tinkly music and incense and yoga classes. Its the shattering of the conditioned sense of self. Losing the mental construct of who you think you are and trying to find the real you that got covered up for the sake of surviving your childhood.
I don't know if that's what a spiritual awakening is. Also not everyone "survived childhood", some had a pretty good one.
@@Darkloid21 No parents are perfect. I had great parents, but since most of my siblings were troublemakers and I wasn’t I was starved of emotional support and attention, and never taught to socialize properly. It was a tiny oversight from my parents looking at the big picture, but it damaged me in ways that I’ve spent years trying to heal from. No matter how good of an upbringing you have, and no matter how good of parents yours were, there is likely baggage you’re going to have to learn to overcome and grow from.
@@theradiantdehd3997 that’s simply not true. Not everyone carries baggage, sorry that you do.
@@Darkloid21 Not everyone, but far more than you’d think, and many of those that do had incredible parents that fell short due to only being human or being ignorant on one element of parenting.
@@Darkloid21 if they don't have such problem thus never lose sight on who they are, then they wouldn't have the similar awakening/realization, would they?
“It’s not gonna be fun, but you can do it” - Dr. K aka hero fatherly/brotherly figure
I know a lot of people talk about self-awareness, and being self-aware, and they seem to think it's some sort of virtuous quality that involves always doing the right thing in the right context. To me, it's always just meant being completely aware of my own existence, which is a very strange and powerful feeling for better or worse. I find myself questioning everything around me, especially my own thoughts and actions, pretty much constantly. Obviously, it's to a fault. The intense self-reflection and contemplation helps many things, but obviously can very easily cross the line into "overthinking".
I got asked by my therapist recently to think about who I am and what I can offer others, since I've expressed a desire to connect with people. The question has bothered me because I'm not sure how to answer it. I'm sure they could address it in the next session, but just thinking about it has been brutal, because there's this side of me that fears I have nothing to offer anyone and I'm doomed to loneliness. Obviously that's "logically" not the case, but just knowing that doesn't exactly help either.
maybe its easier if you think about what others can «offer» you and then think if you could do the same
Dnr but therapy is kind of cringe
@@plneet3504 1) what do you mean by DNR? 2) have you ever seen a therapist in your entire life, or ever been a part of a support group?
Stop opsesing over words, find a meaning behiend them, you are who you chose to be, do not doubt yourself, but stay aware
@@krsmanjovanovic8607 Much easier said than done. Might as well tell depressed people to "just not be depressed lol".
I can sit still for 10 more minutes myself but this guy proved that I can't handle outside stimulant because I nearly burst out laugh when he said "don't smile"
same here. he's funny. I had to laugh so hard
Kind of the same. I could resist laughing, but I had to grin very hard.
Same!
Blaise Pascal: “All of humanity's problems stem from man's inability to sit quietly in a room alone.”
Dr. K: "Hold my beer."
Maybe the people who are not able to do it are the ones making life difficult for everyone around them? Maybe their lack of peace of mind is the thing that is making them act that way? There is also a big problem with the fact that we are not taught how to. Majority of people would rather give themselves electroshocks than just sit in the empty room alone.
Blaise Pascal has such a cool name
Pascal was a Jansenist, IIRC. He had lots of interesting ideas, but he personally never got any benefit from them.
Dr. K: "Hold your breath"
@@lampyrisnoctiluca9904yes because the brain hates being bored, it's basic neuroscience...
After the meditation, I couldn't stop laughing (and also tearing up) because I felt more alive than I did in months. Thank you, Dr.K.
Language feels not strong enough to express my gratitude and the beauty of the work that Dr.K is doing for all of us. A pure exemple of the beauty that a human being can bring in this beautiful chaotic world.
Dr.K,
may you be happy
may you be free
may you be at peace
Truer words have never been spoken.
@@dayhter1341 aww🤗
I think I was accidentally doing this meditation for a long time in my life.
When I was in highschool, I would often walk alone. And in that time, I would pay attention to what my body is feeling. I would enjoy the suns warmth on my cheeks as well as the pinching sensation of cold winter air. I would feel the cold or warm air fill my lungs and I'd notice the sensation of the air in my throat. Since I often came early to school, I would sit on a bench and just exist there. I would pay attention to the feeling of the bench on my butt, as well as my muscles relaxing from all the walking. I was really lonely and depressed back then, but I found peace by simply paying attention to my surroundings, which included my own body.
Back then, that peace, that sensation of being alive, on this world, right there, right then - it was the only thing that kept me alive.
I didn't realise it but those times are probably why I'm the person I am today, and why some meditative practices come relatively naturally to me - I've seen it all before.
This opening sounding like some spoken word poetry 😂🔥🔥
With the music too 😆
does he have the same editor as destiny? gives me the same vibes
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@@e1dsd720Destiny, the woman?
What's the name of the song?
This might seem weird and woowoo, but a tarot reader recently told me that I was trying to hold on to my old self out of fear/ignorance of what my new-self is (I'm post burn-out so lots of things in my life went out the window in the last year). And the exact advice she told me was to sit in silence to let my "new" inner self emerge. I'm glad to hear Dr K confirm this advice. Oh and for clarification I already spent time with a therapist , don't use tarot as a substitute for proper therapy
Tarot and things of this nature get a bad rep, since many think of it as "telling the future" and many even advertise it as such. But I've always benefited from tarot/astrology/numerology not because I thought it could tell the future, but because I use them as narrative devices. Tarot can give you a set of words/expressions with which you can self reflect in a new way because as long as something can't be named (Voldemort style) it kinda looms over you and directs your life from the shadows. But once you can put it into words and stories it becomes actionable as well as you start feeling less alone because now instead of saying "I'm depressed" to your friends, you can describe how you're actually feeling, you can tell your story and feel more understood.
@@myumau This is exactly the way I use the tarot too, it's nice to see someone else put it into words!
I am a professional Astrologer/tarot reader for the last 7 or 8 years and its nice to see some people in this community are open to these kinds of things. Its also nice to hear that you found a reader who gave you this kind of advice, the tarot and astrology industry is corrupt af and there are lot of charlatans out there who will prey on your insecurities and tell you what you want to hear so you keep coming back to them and giving them money. If you find a legit reader, hang on to them because they can be rare. Its getting more and more popular these days which is good but it also means there are more fakes out there exploiting what I consider to be sacred tools.
Yes! Tarot "responds" to one's current state & output so it's a reflection & guidance tool for the moment, not to tell the future or give all the answers. I like to use it for sorting & mapping out my feelings/ thoughts as it can be scary accurate lol. Tarot is like that neutral friend who'll give it to you straight.
Hahaha the exact same thing happened to me just last week. What a synchronicity that this video pops up at this time. Hope we can find the guidance we need and get through this 🙏
That form of meditation is almost exactly the same as a lucid dreaming technique I learned years ago. Ignoring impulse like itches and swallowing they said eventually the signals not being acknowledged will tell the brain your asleep and it will begin to move towards sleep. The lucid dreaming part comes when you can keep your brain awake while the body goes to sleep and dreams activate. Never got it to really work that way, but I always had intense dreams while practicing this and it sent me to sleep in 10-15 minutes in combination with purposefully doing the signal ignoring in a position that wasn't the one I slept in. Letting the build up of tension be relieved will help your body go to sleep after about 10 min of being mildly uncomfortable.
Did you do it after waking up from approximately 5 hours of sleep? If not then that would mostly be why you didn't lucid dream but just fell asleep. It takes too long for you to reach REM in the first sleep cycle to be able to hold on to your consciousness until dreaming.
thats really interesting
Who else had to resist a giggle fit when Dr. K said "no smiling!"
Edit: after genuinely doing the meditation, knowing full and well I'd hate it, I feel happy a minute after. Relaxed even. 5 minutes of stress, stillness, and I feel better, accomplished even. The competitive survivalist feels fed, my body feels fed, my anxiety is lower than when I started.
I cried with the meditation, when you started the countdown and got to 7, tears started to roll down my face, i sat still but I couldn't stop crying. It relieved me to feel that alive. An emotion is an emotion i guess
Around minute 43-44 you were talking about something, how the world isn't quite what we had in mind.
In my view, it feels like i know that the world is very similar to what i have in mind, but i dont get to experience it.
The other day, in south alabama, (mind how hot it can get) the weather was beautiful. I was yearning to go camping, or hiking, or otherwise outdoors. The sun was shining, but wasn't too bright, the breeze was blowing but not too hard, and it was cool outside, neither too hot, nor too cold, but just perfect. The clouds were pretty and the birds sang songs.
I felt all this sensations, but in a mood of sadness, because i knew in the brief 2 minutes, id be going inside where id spend the next 8hrs doing hard exhausting work, just to come outside for it to be dark, without any of that beauty to be seen.
I was honestly mentally upset that i wasn't able to experience to weather for what it was. But while typing this, im reminding myself that i did experience it. I experienced it for 2 minutes. And that is a lot longer than i would have experienced for if i had that day off, and probably would have wasted it lying in bed.
My point changed while typing this, but i believe my consensus is that we have to find the beauty in life. The beauty in life isn't going to come get us. And we need to search for such even when we dont need or want it.
Take a walk in the storm one day (be safe mind you) take a walk in the heat or the cold. And embrace it.
In the 2 minutes i was outside, or how awesome it was, I wasted it by thinking i only have 2 minutes to enjoy this.
I feel this relates to that time frame, at least i feel it does.
"If you're laughing or crying during a meditation, you're doing It right." This episode hit so hard
It's so simple but one of the greatest strengths of Dr. K in my opinion is just explaining the process of how to do some of these things. For young men in particular I think the amount of advice we get that ultimately boils down to "Just do/be X" is incredibly unhelpful without any tools or starting line to even begin the process.
"Just be yourself" "Just be confident" "Just say something" "Just man up" "Just be XYZ" Thanks for getting us to the starting line!
Its strange how a lot of the recent videos directly apply to my own mental state. Though its also refreshing to know that its common enough for a video to be made on it.
Yeah I think this marks like 4 or 5 videos in a row for me. It's getting scary at this point :o
The meditation part, I read something similar to this in a Readers Digest book from when I was 12. The meditation was easy for me to follow since I've been doing it for like 13 years now. Once in the afternoon, and doing it to go to sleep.
Lay down in a comfortable position and do not move, if there's an itch just ignore it. Gotta stay still. State your name and goal. Clear your mind, then count from 1 to 100 and then from 100 back to 1, focusing entirely on the counting.
This meditation exercise was excactly what I needed. I finally get why people preach about awareness and living in the moment because holy shit, I haven't felt that alive in years. I didn't get that from the awareness meditations but from just sitting still for 5min! It is incredible how the easiest exercise can give you the most revealing experience.
started the meditation with my eyes open. never felt so much pain before
I was tearing up on the meditation part. It is amazing how just stop for 5 min open up everything, this video help me a lot to focus on whats really important in life. thank you so much Dr. K
the meditation part, thats how i fall asleep when im not that tired. i lay there still and dont move at all. no itching, no moving, no nothing. i just came up with it when i was like 14 and it worked and i taught my older sister. it just works, and its hard, and it feels really good. didnt even know it can be this good as a meditation!
You are essentially mediating yourself to sleep
No offense, but how else would you fall asleep? By running until exhaustion? 😂
Just last night had a discussion with my mom about how I couldn't remember my preferences when I came to after general anesthesia and was very dissociated like I was operating a mech suit. Was telling her how I view our outward selves as characters created and that we can be many people over the course of our lives, rewritten. She looked wildly disturbed while I was telling her about how we don't actually have personality traits for like 90% of things... at one point in time we just feel emotion in a moment even subconciously. Like I don't actually WANT a black coffee every day that's just my habit I don't think about. At some point in time I made the descision based on emotion or need like "ah man i want to be like that person who drinks black coffee" or "I love how freaked out people are that I take it black" or "the person I want to seem like would drink this" or "I need to cut calories I should try it black for a while" and now it's just part of the character I play daily until I rewrite that part. I have memory issues and travel and move constantly and it's made me wildly aware of this, whereas she's lived a more steady life where she rarely needs to change a habit so I think it was more a strange idea to her. Now today I see this suggested to me?! Thanks for always listening Google Algo
wow
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The way I innerstand this 😭 You realize you do things because you perceived a way you could be perceived by others and thought that was you but it was a random action on autopilot that wasn't a "complete" desire.
YOU might not have a personality, not the rest of us mate. I think even the most lost person in life in terms of self can figure out if they like coffee or not.
Kinda sounds like you experienced ego death.
Dr. K your content is amazing. I know this is an old video, but I still feel like I took away so much from it. Thank you for your content. When you said "if while sitting with yourself with no dopamine or tiktok video or anything and you are laughing, you're doing it right... If you're crying you're doing it right," I did both of those things watching this video. You're absolutely one of my favorite creators on RUclips. Thank you for everything you do.
I had no idea this was a meditation. My 5th grade teacher had us do this for 5 minutes and I loved it so much I practiced for years afterwards and felt great. Somewhere along the line I stopped but knowing that this is an actual legitimate meditation is encouraging me to do this again. I also read Tuesdays with Morrie that year and to this day that's my favorite book. I normally don't have much interest in the meditation portions of these videos but this was really valuable.
What a great teacher!
I knew there was a reason why i started watching your videos every other day. This is like the first time ive meditated in my life and im 19. This is something else
I needed this. I'm convinced we're all hooked up to a hive mind and this is our ringleader.
After covid my ADHD (finally officially diagnosed at 30) got significantly worse. I HAD to change how I thought, ate, my routines, my beliefs, etc. I felt so empty after a while and questioning how to do as much as I used to or even know what I wanted was tough.
What I wanted was always against what perfectionist Caribbean relatives harmfully drilled into me. So, I became great at operating on 1% to people please and not get how my brain works.
Doing WAY better now but FOOK it hurts.
so you let them continue to mentally harm you instead of standing up for yourself?
@@anomaly3215 I like that that's your assumption but your response is probably a reflection of how you've seen similar situations go.
Did I fight back through my childhood as a small girl with Caribbean relatives 4x my size who'd gang up on me and beat me? No. Did I learn to fight back verbally when half died and finally were out my life to the ones remaining once I was 18? Yeah. Did I take my peace back bit by bit by learning better boundaries? Yeah. Was I terrible at it and did it take time? Yeah.
I get that stories like mine probably make you think of people who "won't change anything" but maybe stop assuming everyone works in the same limited manner.
Thank you very much sir, you just revived me
I experienced a loss in my learning desire a year ago but after self reflective questions I know that I'm a pen / pencil nerd. I like writing down facts and drawing for the sake of holding the writing tool.
Have you ever discovered the joy of Fountain Pens?
@@creeping_deth2761 I think I would if I had that kind of pen in my city. But yes.
@@creeping_deth2761 Dude, there is no coming back from that one
Relatable! I personally love pencil and paper, the smell of wood and lead. The feel of a brand knew crisp paper. The sounds of the sheet and the scribble glides of the pencil.
I had to go through things that had me put myself last and priority first that I lost my desires. But this has always grounded me back to my center state of peace, I prefer drawing and writing before reading.
"You can breathe if you want to" - Dr K on how not to feel dead inside :')
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I never meditate. This wasn’t something I was interested in because I thought it was just some new age thing and couldn’t care less.
Well I don’t regret a second of it, it was fun, actually, I had hard time not to laugh and when it stopped, I was able to go back to work with so much energy and delight (I’m a sculptor).
That was super cool and I highly recommend to give it a try !
Thanks for this stunning experience ♥️
I've always struggled with this. I'm pursuing goals in my life but I often feel unsure if I really want those things. Maybe it's out of insecurity. That if I do decide to change what I'm working towards I would have no idea what to pursue then. Sometimes I feel like I'm just here to ride the rollercoaster of life, but where I have no say on where it'll take me. My religious faith does help me in that many things in life are predetermined by a higher power in a way. Maybe I really might not have much say but I can approach it with new mindsets. There is great comfort in this. Life is going good, I lucked out and was born to a stable middle class household. But I can't help but feel I don't have much control and that who I am is defined by what I'm doing at the current moment. Can't watch right now, but I'll watch later today.
I would EAT UP guided meditations from Dr. K if that's something you guys are ever thinking of making.
Hell I would PAY to have your soothing voice guid me through ❤️
Check out Dr. K's guide for meditation on his website, its affordable and actually really awesome
@@Borzy247 oh hell yeah thanks for the info! ❤️
i think the point of meditation is to not be guided and to find you own path.
@@lafondawilliams yeah we can get there, but we need a guide especially when starting
That mediation was incredible. Loved the way you made it obvious when my mind was sending signals and rebelling by "provoking" it with slow counting and saying there is 2 minutes left when clearly more than 1 mintue already passed. Thanks :)
Dr. K is better than my doctor. I love his blackboard explanations. I did an interesting journal exercise for two months where I recorded activities and moments at the end of the day that brought me some kind of joy, however small, and those that I dreaded. Which totally makes you have to stop and listen to inner signals. Then I saw the patterns and asked the Why question, similar to your question, getting at what was driving me.
1.- signals like a cold shower, eating food you like or dislike and focus on your body reaction
2.- focus on where do your reactions and actions come from, do they come from your body or your decision?
3.- kashtira (sorry if i wrote it wrong, this is like a little note for myself when i come back to this video).
You have made leaps and bounds in progress with upgrading your streaming set up and your overall delivery of content. Thank you for putting in so much effort, it really shows.
i cried in the middle of the practice and i also smiled, it was so cool, thanks for bringing this kind of content dr K
"no smiling, no smiling" keeps us getting smile more and more
You’re saving lives and mine feels better already
That meditation was the most awful yet fun experience of all time. The last 10 seconds I couldn’t help but smile and hold back laughter. During the entire thing my mind would flash random images to get me to react. It went from horror and fear inducing images and animations to random shapes and animals moving irregularly and changing sizes. Then it went from that to playing my favorite music in my head because I exercise with that same music. Dr K’s voice became the sweet relief i needed but also the bane of my existence as everytime he’d speak, my body would instantly react at the mere sound of him. Absolutely insane, the lengths my body was willing to go.
Edit: Another funny thing about my experience is I was unfortunate enough to be standing up. I felt like I would fall over so many times. My body literally twitched and shifted so much that it was willing to fall over if it meant I’d have to move
To me, the Idea of that meditation is proving something I discovered last year:
You don't have to answer questions like this in a completely closed high-concept and definite way.
Just start small and go from there:
Instead of asking: "Who do I *want* to be?", ask "What do I like to do/not do right now?". "What do I like/not like to eat?".
What I'm struggling with is this constant over-analyzing *self*-judgement which I'm trying to turn down a great notch. So this small meditation (even if it was just sitting still in my chair) was just helpful in actually just noticing things without judging them. This was the first time I actually tried to join and just lost it at the final countdown... and then I had to sneeze. Thanks for that!
Holy moly. The meditation was one of the most intense things I've done in a while. I was doing fine for most of it but during the coutdown part it felt like literal hell, like I was being assaulted by a billion things and fighting so hard to not do anything in response. Then when I relaxed and Dr. K was saying think about how empty the rest of our life is compared to that intensity I started crying pretty hard and couldn't stop for a while. I'm not sure if I'd say I felt good afterwards, I felt really uncomfortable like I had been fearful of actually feeling life and now I had no choice. I felt like I was dropped into some new world I didn't belong in and whatever had been grounding me no longer existed. I don't think it was a totally negative feeling but I'm having trouble putting any words to what felt good/positive about it. I certainly have a lot to reflect on....
I've tried quite a few other meditations and usually get something out of them but this was a whole other thing. Thanks Dr. K!
It was a little too intense for me too. I've done this type of meditation before and I've gone as long as 30-40 minutes without any voluntary movement, but it really depends on where you're at mentally. A lot of our behaviors are a form of emotional containment. Especially rituals and things like smoking, drugs/alcohol, thumb sucking in young children. It's all a way to try to contain and control unbearable feelings.
@@applebutter4036 Wow 30 minutes sounds difficult. I'm definitely planning to try it again, probably sticking to a couple of minutes for now though haha. I think you're right about containing emotions, we do a lot of things to make our body's signals shut up so we don't have to deal with them. It was a weird sensation doing a practice that caused them to scream louder until they were almost unbearable. It kind of felt similar to a panic attack, or when you're holding your breath for really long and your body starts freaking out telling you to breathe.
To tell you the truth, I think you're doing it right when it is difficult. The longer sessions I did were probably at least partially me just zoning out and not really being present. It gets easier with practice, but oddly less useful at the same time. IMO, when you have those more intense feelings come up, you're in effect "processing" them. So hopefully, the worse it feels, the better off you are in the long run.
True to your name. Sorry but I had to say it
I been going through a rough time and doing this practice is extremely hard for me having adhd. But I think Im going to stick to it more often. that hit different
Same, I felt like I was cheating because of my medication
i used to do a lot of mindfulness meditation but nowadays so busy at work so i barely find the time. thanks to the monotonous and repetitive nature of my job, i have incorporated this kind of meditation into it where i manually count out each task until i finish. it helps me keep present instead of zoning out. it feels like holding a long breath and when i finally finish, the wave of relief and pleasure is incredible
Dr. K gives a perspective that connects the mind and the heart. “Before we educate the mind, we have to educate the heart.”
the kaya shtiram meditation was remarkably easy for me. it wasn't intense, i hardly felt anything, no urges to resist. i think i felt an itch on my leg and that's about it. the contrast of breathing vs the rest of my still body felt good, but i felt basically nothing
Maybe try it for longer im sure after 20 minutes you’ll feel something
So i'm not the only one
I think we did this in school when I was about 15 and I remember it being very easy. I had very good self control back then. I thought I was very good with these things but for some reason when I did this today it was suprisingly difficult. Breathing was difficult and I felt a torturous urge to squirm.
same for me, though the countdown was a bit harder. I think it was Dr. K s talking that kept my brain engaged and not too bored. Doing it without that would probably be a lot harder, but then it'd also be easier to just get lost in your thoughts.
I felt the same way…I did feel my mind light up though with many thoughts, but physically there was little intensity…
This is one of the best meditation techniques that I have come across, it gives the why of the meditation and breaks it down to a manageable level. Previous attempts made my depression worse and most likely because of the long meditation was overwhelming. Never thought to try shorter meditations. Also my depression is not as intense so I can manage this 5 minutes.thank you.
I'm sorry you've had some bad experiences with meditation before. Hopefully you can carry over the insight that you can start with shorter periods and slowly build up (if you want to).
Have a good day.
@@guillermorelobalopez7553 Thank you, I think back in the day the mindfulness based stress reduction was recommended as it is good for everyone. Unfortunately for me it was my first encounter with depression and at the time it was severe and did not realize I could not work myself out of depression and needed rest more than workshops. I do look forward this meditation approach actually make sense, and will see if my goal to get back to work might be me not accepting my new normal of living with TRD.
@38:35
How did it feel?
AMAZING!
At first, I felt my muscles relaxing.
Halfway through, I had this yearning to get up! To plank, to kick, to run, to jump!
I did a full-body workout yesterday, and THIS just put me in tune with all of it!
When you first claimed “We’ll count to 10 to finish”, there was a sense of thankfulness and relief. Actually… deep appreciation.. for simply existing in that instance.
The feeling swelled, and tears dripped down my eyes.
The yearning to move drifted away, and I became complacent with remaining still until you said otherwise..
THANK YOU.
You don't know how much you have impacted my life in a very short period of time. You go straight to the point and we feel we know what you're talking about because you describe exactly how we feel and give us a way out. ❤❤ Thank you.
Man that Meditation got me. I laughed a few times and foxes on the breathe but I had a niche and all my body or mind want to scratch it. There were a lot of signals I felt . Thanks Dr. K I learned a lot today
I had no issues sitting still, a few thoughts came and went. But as soon as you said, "notice that vitality within you", tears just came out of my eyes. Not in a good spot at the moment after a very painful breakup, but your videos have been super helpful and hope to sign up to your coaching program soon.
I feel the polar opposite of feeling alive when I sit still for a long time. I am usually mindful. I am so mindful that I have trouble making choices... Touching my body from head to toe is a way better practice for me.
This resonates with me a lot. It was my 20th birthday last September and over these past couple years I've been trying to cope with a sense of loss for an identity I no longer have. I'm still in a bit of a limbo, but I guess it takes a while to figure it out.
The meditation raised my pulse to 150.
Resisting the tension was the most engaging feeling I had in months.
Thanks!!
A main effect of watching your videos:
I became familiar with myself, I am a learning to become a student of life again. Thank you!
A side effect:
Now I know about Adrian Berenguer and his soul uplifting music.
I’ve watched a handful of your videos over the past 2 weeks and each one has given me a more optimistic look at life. Thanks Dr.K! Super helpful!
This meditation is so good for me and I’ve never even heard of this technique. I was able to do this for 20 minutes! Thanks Dr. K!!
I usually like to play games while listening to these videos, but when we got the the meditation part I just had to put everything down and try it. it was difficult, relieving, enjoyable, and pretty fun.
Wow - sitting still was a huge blessing- thank u 🙏 Dr K- u are so delightful- I love ur insights and how u share other people’s stories. 😜 I had an itch on my face - it was irking me so bad - the breath felt so good!!😘
I used a meditation position from karate, where you sit on your knees and feet, on a wooden floor, for that 5 minute meditation, I knew it was gonna hurt. But I did it with my own phone timer, with the intention of going beyond the timer and pushing through the annoying vibration and/or alarm sound. I gave up thinking I missed my 3 minute mark, cause it was too painful but when I checked the timer, I saw I actually accidentally set it to 3 hours, and had sat for 5 and half minutes. And was both extremely pissed but also felt accomplished because I actually succeeded when i thought I didnt. But boy that is one way to feel 'alive'
(side note one of the things you have to do to get a black belt in Karate is sit in that position i mentioned for 1 hour, most who succeed at it have to be pushed to their side because their legs and feet fall asleep and because of that, they cant move them)
My old self could actually get work done and my new self watches youtube and plays games all day. I just don't know. I want to believe that getting closer to my inner self can help but right now I just can't see the connection with how exactly it will help me.
On the other hand as I'm writing this I actually change my mind. A huge thing I've been doing is noticing that my desires to watch youtube/play games comes from pleasure in my brain rather than being something that I genuinely want to do. I think this reflects/expands on a lot of that sentiment perfectly
This video was really needed and i feel like everyone should watch this, cause this is like a fundalmental guide to living and describes something i struggle with and try to improve upon every day.
Anyways; great lecture as always.
The little bit of tough love dr.k is sprinkling in is ON POINT. chef's kiss
The meditation was one of the toughest things I've done in a while. I felt legitimately relieved hahhahs
Omg I finally found a video that explained the actual accidentally meditation I did when I was younger that gave me such epic spiritual experiences! Thank u!
Damm, this hit close to home, ive been feeling emotionally numb and weird lately, i dont know myself anymore i feel and i clinge to being my former self, which causes social interaction to feel fake and artificial. Im only 16 so i guess its just a phase and i shouldn’t think about it too much, but it is heavily impacting my day tot day life.
I feel the same. At 19. I wouldn’t out tule it as just a phase but that could definitely be it. I went thru stuff at ur age and until lateral noticed it was just weird phases sometimes
Oh good i needed to move on. Could not believe you did this now. I been listening to you all day and did it this morning! Did not know what it was! Thank you. 😊
that stillness meditation was amazing
it was so uncomfortable but felt so good at the same time LMAO
honestly, i couldn't NOT laugh when he started counting down. my brain went wild LMAO
"you'll are dead inside and want to be not dead inside (...) it's not gonna be fun but you can do it" sums up life perfectly
Interestingly, I kind of have the opposite experience from the post. I was a nervous antisocial wreck as a teenager who was incredibly cynical about life. My 20s has been a slow process of pulling myself out of that, but it still feels wierd socialising, because I remember a time when I hated it. I constantly have to fight the urge to define myself as "having anxiety" because I'm not really that guy anymore, but my brain kind of thinks I am.
Hopefully my comment isn't too late that you won't see it. Hopefully you do see it. I'm currently under 20 so I haven't lived much of life yet, but much of what you wrote resonated with me to the core. That's why I recommend to check out other content Dr.K posts because there is a lot more that lies in the issue of your anxiety. You might get answers that way. Without knowing your situation I can't say much else, but I think that your resistance to labeling yourself as an anxious person has maybe a lot to do with your life experience, worries, and etc. However what ever made that resistance occur is something you have to discover. There is a reason behind this resistance you formed, so it's a matter of time you will find it. Living life with persistent skepticism is tiring and depressing (enough to make you reach burnout), but knowing how your skepticism was formed helps. You will have a better idea what to do afterwards. I hope my comment helps
So glad I found your vids.Ive been 'stuck up there' since my mid teens and depression and anxiety and substance abuse have all come after.47 now and still totally lost in my own head but glad theres people like you about now.
The Meditation felt amazing and the ending was hilarious! Thank you!
29:34 practice kayashtiram
43:30 20s and reality
45:00 start with body and sensing signals and then notice what deives your thoughts and actions
51:45 problem with forming habit and letting mind wander
So helpful. All of ur videos r so relevant in today's complex society, for young and old alike. Thank u!
That meditation is really powerful and profound. At first I felt really anxious and attention is not stable within my body, but weirdly at the final countdown from ten to one, I could feel there is some sort of energy surrounding my body, or that I'm the source of the energy and it's radiating outwards. Just wow
After doing the practice I made a sandwich and said "I'm not going to eat that" and turned away from the sandwich. Immediately I felt a magnetic pull towards the sandwich. It was the best sandwich I've ever had
I want to understand lol
Wow this video helped me so much! Been feeling lost the past couple months & doing the meditation felt like a huge breakthru! Thanks Dr K!!
How is this content so incredible?? How is it available to me for free????? I am so grateful 😭
This was so frkn deliteful! Ive grown to love this channel so much. Thanks Dr.
Man, you know you're getting to a good spot in life when you can look at videos like these and go, "no, I know who I am." And proceed to actually know what kind of person you are, even if your explanation is drawn out, and incapable of being summed up in a sentence.
We're all made of nuance, don't be afraid if your explanation is too long, as long as your words mean something when you say them.
I just say my name, it actually helps me.
@@SidVacant69 actually that makes me feel like I have some idea abt what I am
@@SidVacant69 Walter White?
this video found me exactly when i needed it. after the meditation i sat back and burst into a fit of laughing and crying (there are still tears going down my face as i type this) and i feel so alive, more than i have felt in a very long time. my whole body feels electric. thank you Dr K
i noticed during the meditation there was no image in my vision. i was completely blind. no color, no image that i usually see while meditating. i was completely focused on not moving a muscle and it felt so damn good.
7:05 - discover who you are now
10:16 - Turiya
11:52 - stuck on surface mental level
13:03 - lose track of drives, trying to get motivated towards old drives
14:15 - as a society, we have forgotten how to listen to ourselves 14:30why?
16:35 - mind loves to forget the internal self
17:45 - What to do??
24:28 - quick way to quickly listen to ourselves, put good food and not eat it, eat something youdislike instead
26:34 - what directs my thoughts?
28:12 - meditation to get in touch with body, kaya shtiram 30:37 you don’t want to lose yourself in your breath, not breathing meditation
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This is the first time I have gone along with the meditation in the video and it was great stuff. I don't know if I did it correctly as I felt mostly comfortable during the practice (and couldn't help but smile during - telling me not to certainly did not help). I'm going to try it out on my own and see how that changes things. Thank you for another excellent video and all the great work you do. Please, keep up the great work.
I felt the exact same way about feeling comfortable and being unsure if I did it right
Dr K is a literal legend. What a gift. Thanks for all the work you do Dr K 👍.
The music in the start is pretty intense 😆
I'd like that in more videos
Hey dr.k just wanted to say i love and appreciate your love and appreciation for others, thank you for what you do
12 seconds in and already my heart feels like a window
i loved the meditation, as someone with adhd weirdly enough this was the first meditation type that i found extremely fitting and satisfying for me right away. having a “task” to focus on (be still. stay still) which is typically difficult enough for me that focusing on it requires all my attention was a really great “gateway” into the other types of meditation that i find a bit more abstract about letting your mind wander but bringing it back to the meditation. the only time i faltered was when i couldnt help but smile when he said “feel how alive you are,” cause i did! i felt so alive and connected to my body! i adore this!
Before watching, I'd like to say I don't believe this to be inaccurate for me, based on the title of course.
Now to hear what you have to say.
38:34 That was actually really easy. Turns out that type of meditation is how I get to sleep every night. Didn't know there was a name for it, neat.
40:27 for me the experience is quite different. I feel everything external shrink away from me, like a sphere of "space" expanding from me, creating a void around me. This void is comforting but creates a feeling of "smallness" and everything feels miles away. 🤷♂
Wow, I recently had this exact same problem I was completely lost in my identity motivation etc...then I tried to spend a lot of time thinking about it, what I should do, what path to take, what was right or wrong, nothing helped. So I realized that it was a useless maze. And I spontaneously did what you suggest: start from the body. Move the body. Listen to the signals. That is true and cannot be disputed or doubted. But gosh this meditation is on another level!! It felt like torture and in the end an enthusiastic blessing. Thank you so much for all the wisdom and useful information 😄🙏🏼
I almost never comment on yt videos but I swear to god that dr k is reading my mind
Bro your videos are so good you’re so concise and relatable. I haven’t even watched this vid but I will save it and can’t wait to watch at home later (maybe broken down long form videos wear me out but I do appreciate them)
I was driving and meditating at the same time and started controlling my vehicle telepathically. Thank you Dr. K for revealing my true potential!
Dude, do we even need teslas
This vid hits sooooooo damn hard. Thank you Dr K for discussing these abstract concepts that people probably don’t even realize they’re feeling