Aging Parents Making Poor Decisions: What Can You Do?
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- Опубликовано: 5 фев 2025
- "Your attempt to stop being sad is draining you." - Dr. Laura coaches a caller Beth, who is trying to cope with her aging parent, who continues to make bad decision after bad decision...
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Aging Parents Making Poor Decisions: What Can You Do?
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When my mother passed I felt relief....then I grieved for the mother that I never had.
"She doesn't have it in her to be what you want" so powerful.
I've missed you over the years. Use to listen while raising my kids. Glad to be listening again.
This is great to see Dr. Laura during a call. I have been benefited from these calls since 1996.
My sis and mom are still alive but no more to me. I’ve mourned and will no more. They are forgiven yet they are no more.
Actions have consequences. I can live with this conclusion.
Wow, "it's not a failure on your part, it's a sadness." You just summed up my feelings about a narcissistic sister, whom I finally realized how I was being treated, and then cut off all contact with. I'm sad we will never have that best friend relationship that I thought we had.
Same here!
Same
Poor lady, it's painful to go through something like this but it's crucial to keep a distance. 🙏❤️
I am so glad this came up. I didn’t know you were posting on RUclips again. I really love seeing your disposition during the calls. I see the compassion you have for your callers.
Yes!
This is love. An ice bucket and a swift kick of reality is the highest compassion to those who’ve forgotten how to stand back up. Thanks Doc.
So true. I spent years attempting to get close to my mother. I finally realized what was going on and let her go. One of the best things I ever did.
Time to wake up…some people can and will never be who you want and need them to be
My heart goes out to this woman. I’m in a similar situation and I know how profound the sadness is💙. Grateful to you Dr. Laura.
I wish i heard this 20 years ago with my own mom! So true!
This doctor is rude. She shushed the caller.
@@tonyharris3306sometimes you have to be shushed !!
Good advice. I learned too late.
Very wise words from Dr. Laura. She is right.
Always get the answers to many of my issues through these courageous callers and the insightful wisdom (God given) of Dr. Laura; being sad because of others is not our fault.
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Dr. Laura, I'm so happy I found you again. I listened to you for years on the radio. Is so nice to hear common sense 🤔
I'm glad you did too. And be sure to tune into my weekly radio program on SiriusXM and download my Call of the Day + Deep Dive podcasts too!
Wow needed to hear and understand this many many years ago. Same scenario can be with anyone in your life not just a mother. Very insightful info.
OMG I get to listen and watch ❤️
You look fantastic Dr. L!
It is sad and hard to watch family members passively kill themselves with chronic dysfunction. Especially when one of them is your elderly mother.
very productive convo, thank you for sharing
Thanks for listening!!
How did Dr. Laura get so smart?
Love you Dr Laura!
I have actually said this to my adult daughter. I cant be the mother she wants me to be. She's asking me to be someone I dont know how to be. And then we just end up arguing. And I still have teenagers to deal with. I feel like I am at capacity.
i needed to hear this thank you
so true thank you
Wow. Wow. Wow.
Seems unfair to ask people to be what they can't be, unfair to ourselves and unfair to the others.
If an addict son is living with his elderly mother and being abusive then how about placin̈g a call to adult protective services? The mother may have limited capacity in various ways to look after herself properly.
Unfortunately in my experience, APS don’t do anything. Useless.
@@EllenMDallasgirlI agree. Abuse has to be extreme and obvious before they will do anything.
The mother will step in and protect the addict son.
She needs to mourn the mother that’s she’s made up in her mind. If she’s reading this, I suggest that you write all/everything out on paper. Get it out of your body. I had the same situation with my alcoholic mother, brother, and sister.
Look seems like mom has chosen her drug addict son over you. You need to stay out of this. Keep a distance but if you want to you can continue to help mom with doctor appointments and that’s it. At least make sure mom gets her medical up keep and that’s it. I know it’s hard to watch what is happening but there’s not a lot you can do about it. Mom has made her decision her choice and you need to make yours. It’s either you continue to try and make a relationship with mom or you do things at a distance. You have to take care of you. Yes this is very sad but it is what it is
Don’t abandon your mother!
Of course she’s not available but don’t abandon her or you will regret it when she’s gone.
It’s not always about getting what you need or what you want. It’s about having compassion and understanding.
I used to think this exact way until here recently. I’ve learned that ms trying to please and honor my mom doesn’t yield good fruit because she doesn’t appreciate it, she only expects it. It’s a fine line to walk, really. I see what you mean about having regret when she’s gone.
This is the worse advice to give some people. In difficult situations between parent and child, being close can literally eat away at you and take your life. Each situation needs to be judged on its own merit and not blanketed with general isms.