DEAR WOMEN,GET UR EYES OFF UR HUSBAND's PROPERTIES! (Customary law of inheritance in Nigeria/Africa)
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I think not sure if the Ibibios of Akwa Ibom State are like the Ibos. My sister in-law lost her husband and nothing was given to her and her two daughters,the first son got everything and he decided to give his brother small thing so. This thing pain me oooooo; but what can I do?
The Ibibios and the Igbos and a lot others in the south are same.
Only divided by politics & politicians.
So sad
Soooo... sad
Later when the girls because great women tomorrow they will claim she's our daughter.
If I need to comot my eyes from his inheritance so will my money comot from him. Period.
😄😄😄
The Igbo women are even more involved in this practice, generation of widows who are pained and waiting for the next available widow to inflict the same pain they went through. There is more to marriage than just love, shine your eyes if you decide to get married. May God help us.
Reasons why women should invest more' in themselves
What then is the need of getting married?
Women make your own money. Build your own empire and write your own will .
WOMEN WRITE YOUR OWN WILL.
I second the motion.
So that you can be exploited by the man, he uses you to get ahead and discard you.
My dear, what she's saying is true before now. Things have been changing in igbo land recently. Most men are leaving the traditional way they treat their wife. They're becoming wise, and writing will for their wife and children not to suffer when they pass on. This topic is a sensitive subject and can cause problems in marriages. Neze should be careful with this type of content.
@@dkt7856and what will they do to Neze? Make dem enter plane go Canada na go flog her. Mtcheeeew
@@dkt7856 be careful how? NeZe is stating what people know about their village or people’s state but all is unique to the families what they want to practice or not!
Thank you Neze, you got it, blood line is important in Yoruba culture. It is important to add that someone’s wife is another person’s daughter, hence a woman has a full inheritance right in her father’s house… she owns her property with her full right, her property is hers and hers alone and she is free to do what she likes with it. It does not belong to her husband! That is why there are many Yoruba women far richer than their husbands.
Wow. Then we are very lucky in Ghana. In Akan culture in Ghana, daughters inherit with no problems. Same with wives.
Same in Yoruba tribe
If we should remove our eyes from Husband's properties, it implies we shouldn't invest with our husbands 😊.
Yes ooo,
ABSOLUTELY!!!
True talk
Even better yet, don’t marry them. They should abide by their laws by themselves orrr marry foreigners.
My sister don't try that thing.
You'll will cry stones
This information is powerful. To the men who ask their wives to put properties they purchase in their names, I don't believe this is a wise idea, egos aside. Provision should be made for the wife/female members of the family depends on the culture. Women should buy assets in their names to prevent stories that touch the heart.
This insensitive and barbaric Igbo culture on how women are treated is the reason I resolved not to marry an Igbo man from a young age. I watched my mother treated like a rag all because she had three girls. I even overheard one of my father's sisters saying "a widow does not sit on a chair" after my father passed away. The stuffs they put widows through around the burial of the husband is barbaric and the sad thing is that these practices are upheld mostly by women.
So unfortunate.
Im sorry about your experience.❤️
So sorry about that.
We learn from the experiences of our mothers. In this way we are wise. I call you blessed!
If the Igbo man marries you in the court or writes a will you will not have a problem. I have seen the wife inherit everything she worked for with the husband because the husband wrote so in his will
I had lovely Igbo male friends who were chasing me for committed relationships but whenever I think of their culture on widows and women/daughters, I find it hard to fall in love with them.
I am married to Igbo man and have5 daughters and built our home together as an hard working attorney . But lived in lagos and my husband had audacity to say I have no sharing in the property . Anyways I knew what to do as an attorney since I have statutory marriage but I decided with my daughters to stay away from such nonsense. My daughters said they don’t want any of that .
These laws were made to protect themselves and families without considering the wives as part of the family .
Please all women in Nigeira should ask for a repeal in these century please . Or better still women don’t share yr stuff with husbands oooo get yr whealth on black and white .
Thanks for sharing. I have 5 kids( last born son) since my husband threatened with property cos of baby mama. I comot eye n told my kids to work hard . Na person when get property get worry. Since then I bought stuff in my name. I told him to dash him baby mama everything. I never knew this will happen, so I made sure he bought 3 properties abroad n him n his baby mama n family can have the naija property. It is sad but that is our reality.
Better still, insist on statutory marriage
@@blossomdeejohn7699 Glad you discover early. Life is worth more than properties . If a man can forget our beginnings, children , struggles and dash it away for another because of property inheritance, that man is not worth your love and that of your children . I nearly died of emotional instability. I had to run for my life . Marrying some of this non empathetic and God fearing Igbo men or rather men is deadly …
@@blossomdeejohn7699 imagine the mental health or torture from a man that is supposed to protect you , that gave you the sperm you reproduced???? Very sad !
@@omalicha7388 Did you hear lady Bianca with all her statutory marriage to Ojukwu was still dragged to court by the man’s families and case took 10 years ? Who has blood for fight , then they can use diabolical and physical violence on you and children. Better run with your children and raise them to build dynasty for themselves.
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Somebody's wife be careful about your compliments.
I know oooooo
I am a Sierra Leonean, the wife has sole right over his husband's property except there's a Will .
Please check Dickson's Film House
Thank you and God bless you for opening my eyes. No wonder as a free financial assisting wife to an igbo husband, he thinks i am foolish, stupid and useless. This is a man i see have vission and can manage resources, but has no money. I have the money and poured it all out. I bought landed properties in his name, built houses and businesses in his name, distance myself from my blood families and maintaining the fact that, for this reason couple's will leave their families and cling to themselves as one. But my dear Neze, you have shown me the bigger picture and I believe is not too late to build myself, my children and most especially my daughters. I am a foreigner, married to indi Igbo ❤❤❤❤. Thank you maa❤❤
Hhmmm! So sorry about that but he ought not to have treated you like that, you are his destiny helper and if he does anything stupid by you then that's quite unfair.
I can also confidently tell you that not all Igbo men are like that...
I am an Igbo man myself, married to a Ugandan sweet angel, she supported me with everything she had, kept me on my feet until my legs became strong and now I stand on solid grounds... Today, every account I have all over the world, I made her a co-signatory to them all, even when she refused but I forced her, all the properties and investments I have everywhere have been properly documented in a will that largely favours her and my kids by 80%, both girls and boys all together gets everything equal, I did not share everything equal bcos she helped me, no, it's been my own personal mindset right from childhood cos I witnessed even my father and mom lament about the Igbo culture and how unfair it treats the girl child, so I vowed I must do something about mine when the time is right.
Some men might even say, "after all, what did she do for me? She only helped to keep me afloat until my business peaked" my dear, to answer such men, I'd say "some people would have given up trying out of frustration, some would fold up, some would even die from the pressures and all before they experience the boom in the business" when I say my wife is an angel, I didn't mix up any part of the alphabet that makes up the word "ANGEL" and its full meaning. She stood by me through thick and thin, she stuck up with me, my number one hype man, my support, after God she is next.
So, what I am trying to say is, a man who has his conscience set right and his head screwed on properly should know better and know what to do.
I for example would always say, where were those kinsmen when I was suffering on the streets of the white man's land? No where of course, no support from them, why then would they come to reap where they have not sowed anything? The same wife of mine is still the one who would often come to me and say, "Nna pls give this to this person, that person deserves this and that." So, is this the kind of person I could be evil and wicked to? No way of course, after my enemy passes on, then someone would want to come and eat where they didn't labour, kamalu kupia kwa han onu there, in the words of my late father...🤣
Pls I feel you should talk with him dear, pls be kind and gentle in your words to him and just ask him subtle questions about his mindset regarding his take on things like the Igbo culture, girl rights to inheritance, will, and all, if he then sounds abstract to the norm, then you can then start taking actions about securing yourself and your girl kids if you have any.
Thanks.
Love and hug from Nigeria
So sorry. It's not too late. Please make haste now(you can secretly change some documents to the names of your children) and don't let him know.
I second this opinion.@@jonathannkuwi5654
I would advise you change your will or change your husband name on your properties to your children's name. Alot of men has dissappointed women who did what you did, please be wise
Some customs are so unreasonable
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I am Igbo, and in all honesty, the Igbo traditions towards the women are so unfair.
ABSOLUTELY!!!
You are right. When it comes to billing, they bill women but when it comes to inheritance they will remember you are a woman.
@joysreality this is how my mom treat us oh! When there is need for money the girls are remembered but when it's time for sharing goodies the boys represent the family. I am yoruba but mom is from the East
I don't mean to disrespect the Igbos. They are just too greedy and I dislike them for this.
Dont contribute simple😂@@joysreality
Some customs laws are overhead with Greed, envy, selfish self centred minded people.... Top-up Neze 🎉
I am from Cameroon:Bamileke tribe.
The Igbo culture is similar to mine.
Thank God our women are very enterprising
Exactly
That's true
My sister, you are an Igbo. They are everywhere in the world. You know them by their culture.
In the Northern state rule by sharia law,the sons, reqardsless first or last son is the same amount share between them,property of the small value,if the sons received 10k,the daughters will received 5k and the wife's half of the daughters share, but share is give only to the wife who is married and mourned the late husband. No share is given to divorced wives, no share to side chick or their children unless its written down in a will.
And no share to a side chic child or any child born out of wedlock
The wife get 1/4 of her husband inheritance, regardless of if he has one or many wive that 1/4 will be distributed among them, or she will inherit alone if she's the only one
In "some" northern states (Muslims) Not all are guided by sharia.
@@Ruthie4j we're talking about shari'a law my dear 😊
I am Igbo, I got married to Yoruba man, I did both traditional, white and court wedding.
He can still choose to give his brothers instead of wife by personal intentions or testaments
That court wedding has covered you!
Our wive, welcome.
@@brightolay8346 wife not wive
This is why most igbo men choose to train their daughters in higher institution while the boys will go into business from onset. Some daughters are the financial pillars in their fathers house lifting the boys up even though they do not have inheritance and the boys have. I am proud of my dad who trained all his children in university including his girls even when Some men were saying don't train girls because they belong to another man meaning she will get married and leave the house. I thank God my dad is not regretting it today. I have proved them wrong because I am now the person that helps financially when the need arises. Everyone in my extended family now values girl child now.
Because of some of our African traditions, my father taught my sister and me to support our husbands and in addition to that keep something for ourselves. Even though we are legally married to our husbands, we understand that our African traditions are mostly not fair to women and also men can change😁.
I keep looking at you and i feel i am seeing Chimamanda Adiche.what a resemblance!
This video made me rethink about my life and my marriage to Igbo man I have TTC for seven years now this video made me want to work hard and achieve something for my self thank you so much sis I really appreciate❤❤
My dear the Igbo customs are tooo wicked on women but if you’re lucky to have a spouse with a progressive mindset he will wed you in court to give you some kind of backing
Women take care of their parents more than the men especially at old age,but when sharing properties/ wealth, they will give everything to the men , it’s not good.
I am an igbo woman and our tradition is so cruel to women,when my dad died upon all the instructions he gave to my elder brothers about including us in his properties,when my dad died,my brothers and kinsmen never included us in any of my dad’s properties but still they always tasks us to contribute money if there’s any family functions 😢
Don't contribute anything, why should you regard them and they don't regard you.
@@fridaymaureenodipo1315 my dear,they are our elder brothers and if we don’t comply with them our mum will be crying and begging I and my elder sister,it’s painful I won’t lie
It's a straight forward thing, if you regard me, I will regard you, it is as simple as that, no story.
This is not to berate or speak I'll of the dead but your dad made a huge mistake trusting his kids or anyone in that guise, he would've made a WILL and have you and your sisters' fate and even that of your mom's sealed properly.
I am an Igbo man myself and I know what goes to who amongst my children and wife and even relatives if anything happens to my enemy today, everything both home and abroad have been properly documented and sealed and as more properties or investments are being acquired, I update my legal adviser and strap them up immediately... Yes I trust my brothers and even my wife but not enough to leave the fate of either of them to the other, so what needs to go to the wife must go to her, that which needs to go to my brothers and sisters must reach them, the ones for the extended family members and my home town in general must reach them as well and that which belongs to my children must not be touched except by them. Period!
I will never contribute
It’s unfortunate what is obtainable in some families because even with the Igbo tradition, it still boils down to the individuals that make up each family.
Good enough for me, my parents had a statutory marriage. After they died intestate, no one dragged anything with me. Even the properties in the village that I don’t know their locations though I have the documentation, one of my uncles has been asking me to make out time to come so he can show all to me. I am yet to do that and it’s over 13 years. I have been to the village severally though, and this Uncle has 3 sons but I know that even if he is no more, his sons will still show me the properties. I am that confident. Summary, everyone is content with what they have and no one is looking to inherit what is not theirs. I have a younger brother though who I am much older than but my parents mentioned me as their only NOK though being a female and married but they trusted me enough to take care of my brother.
KEY statement “Summary, everyone is content with what they have and no one is looking to inherit what is not theirs”. That is it sis, everyone is content, that is why there is Peace! It’s people that have not made anything for their selfs, who fight for property or who are just wicked in nature that want to suffer another human being for property. Kudos to your Mother and Father and your extended family who value peace and love for one another.❤
Carry prayer warriors when going n be on fasting and prayer pls.
@@ukamakachinwe8124 I have no need for that. My family isn’t diabolical. There’s contentment and respect for one another.
Office of women affairs should be fighting to address this to protect women please. Women should come together to repeal these laws . They are repugnant to equity natural justice and good consciences
They actually did a few years ago, but there was an uproar about it and everything just died down.
@@canesugar911 Sure the people that benefit from it suppressed it . We are our own voice , we can come together to see it is repealed ! Women should start doing prenuptial if it’s available in Nigeria or introduce pre conjugal agreements to protect them
@@canesugar911 Some one should start again and again until we get answers
Highly informative and most appreciated.
Woow interesting and educational episode..So why are more lgbo women not marrying yoruba men then?No,let me rephrase it,why do women still marry an lgbo man then in this day and age?lgbo men basically wrote the rules to favour themselves not the women..Why are lgbo women not fighting,campaigning for a change of system that's been cruel to them like forever?It explains why most lgbo men walk with chips on their shoulders,they are literally in control and in charge of everything including the woman.Yoruba can make a good husband material,full yard when desire.😅They are a very Liberal and accommodating tribe,as long as there is a party...😅 Lady in red,she's dancing with me,nobody here,just you and me...Sending you love beautiful queen Neze.❤💕💕😊
Neze fail to mention that the court of law supersedes these customary laws. In Igbo land, the so called brothers to the diseased will only have a say to their late brother’s property when they sized the woman as weak. In an educated and well to do families, 1. the man will secured all his properties to reduced the fight for his wife and children with a will 2. even when there’s no will, an educated wife will secure all her husband’s property the very minute he took his last breath. You don’t stupidly open your eyes crying and allow losers to destroy what you will use to train your children. You hire good lawyers, security men and dispersed them off your back. It also depends on the family. In an educated families where everyone usually stick to their lanes, shame will not allow them to open their mouth. I am an Igbo woman and I lost my husband at a young age (more than 2 decades). My father in-law refused to eat until they informed him that I’ve eaten. Immediately after the burial, he advised me to take the kid brothers living with us back to Lagos to resume work because nobody will pay our bills for me. My late husband was the bread winner of the families including the married sisters. They were so supportive emotionally, spiritually, and physically. In return, all the things my late husband planned to do for his parents, I fulfilled them even when I relocated to the USA two years after his demise. I remain grateful to the families especially my parents in-law even though they are no more. My prayers is to reunite with them and my late husband on the last day when my trumpet will sound.
@@njy1193 But why should you be doing all that after you've spent your life struggling with your husband,building a family and home? Still doesn't add up to be honest..The family should have no right to the estate of the deseased,especially if he left children behind,male or female..
But if there is no any child before he died,and wife struggled with him before money come,after hid death,what will happen to such woman
@@ikejatabs130 Obviously she'll suddenly become an outcast,a witch and enemy of progress and the family.All that she has gone through with him does not matter anymore, they don't know that,they probably weren't there..All her life with him wasted,with nothing to show for it.lt's sad and painful tbh.
@@ikejatabs130 watch the movie “Widow” with Stella Damasus. Very educational.
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I think getting married to an Igbo man is a risk/gamble. Because being a girl child is a crime that is why they don't gets inheritance, if I get married to any Igbo man, I will never make any financial contributions in that home. I would rather save it for my daughter/ daughters future.
You have to make financial contribution to your marriage if not, it will create a problem but don’t put all your eggs in one basket .
Barrister Neze, you are doing a true public service here. I salute you. You are a woman of great character and a model for other women. Foreknowledge is forewarning. We must move accordingly.
Thank you so so much for this beautiful wonderful explanations now i know the best nigeria culture when it comes to inheritance.
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My imo state sister, l think you are now doing well with ur educational skill as a lawyer. Keep it coming . We are learning and appreciating you .
Hi Neze. Watching from Jamaica🇯🇲🇯🇲 I enjoyed your series on inheritance laws in Nigeria. It was very informative!
Thank you for your detailed information. Kudos to you, I learnt a lot today.
I learn everyday, thanks to Neze. Writing from Cameroon.
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Lovely girl well done. There’s no need for wives to be supportive every one should work for themselves. But some men are wicked ooo
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Hmm! You are correct, my grandfather had many wives and a lot of properties they used idi igi system. I knew the system but did not know the name until i watched your video ❤
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The movie “Widow” with Stella Damasus. A very good example of what can happen with only traditional Igbo marriage in some areas.
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In my tribe(Akans) you inherit matrilineally, meaning you inherit from your uncle(mothers brother), but since the interstate succession law of Ghana in 1992 that thing has reduced
Neze always on point. Today's women should look away but have their own. And even strive to live inheritance for their children children. Live the intruders to leak their wounds
Nne e guru akwukwo gi ofuma
Great video
Great presentation
Ever informative
Thanks Nezisto for such profound stories may the good Lord bless you abundantly from Sophie south Africa. ❤
Iam from Kano Nigeria, a wife has 1/8 of the late husband's properties while sons and daughters has 1/2, 1/4 resp.😊
The red OMG let me keep watching
ASA Nwa @Neze always the best. Love you loads dear.
Honestly this has reminded that I need to do all within my power to get even a son. I have two daughters and in my early 40s. But money to go extra mile medically to see if I can get a male child.
My fellow Nezevillians, you can help your sister out please
Tell your husband to secure you and your girls future by writing a will. There’s a way you bring up the topic to him and make him see reason. If you guys married legally then you are covered. Having children at your 40s is very risky for your own life! Except you’re planning on using a surrogate. If you’re unable to talk your husband into writing a will and you did not wed in court my dear hustle oooo to secure your children’s future especially if your husband is an archaic man
Thank you Nezze I learnt another today especially about IGBO truly I did not understand a lot as per May Edochie +Yul Edochie case
Now we understand the pain this family can inflict on May, thank God she is wise, no wonder she created companies and put her daughter as shareholder, May is really a woman of intelligence and grace.
Second to comment over 5 years from Nigeria to Canada
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Thanks my Nezisto ❤ from South Africa
God bless you so much barrister Neze for this. My dear sister any culture that does not give to wife's when it comes to inheritance is cruel. They should change this narrative. This is unfair. 😊
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Hey Neze i am jamaican i am telling u this if an Igbo man comes to jamaica and marry here and he pass if this man family comes to demand his properties all hell break loose they would have to put foot in hand and run back to nigeria like a thief in the night and the next thing the law here supports the wifea whole lot even now i am speaking u ur not married to a man here but u have kids together and live for over 5 years the law also supports u to get maintenance and some of his properties this igbo law is so cruel i would never marry to no man form that tribe let them go and marry their families and then when he dies they will share the properties equally i hope u will able to read my comment i know they r a lot
Well done! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
So insightful
Neze mohhhh!!! 😂😂❤❤
Wonderful analysis 💯. Please keep it coming.
Fascinating
In the middlebelt the culture is the same like the Igbo culture, wow 🤩 what unites us is more than what divide us. The middlebelt women also tie two wrappers, go and verify.
We are one in many ways… divided by politics & politicians
This is really cruel but i cracked when you said "tell that to umunna".. the igbos really need to adjust this law
God bless you my dear❤
Oh my goodness. Thank you so very much lawyer Nezeville. I’m not in Nigeria but my life insurance speaks so no worries but it is very heartbreaking with traditional things like this because of female children. This is so shameful because God is the giver of children. Nigeria needs to stop all their bad news.SMH !
i remember that my sister in law who married an akwa ibom state man got his house in the village even though they didnt have children. He bought a house in Uyo in her name so that one was easily decided. I cant remember the name of his village, lol. The supreme court judgement is very clear and women should fight for their rights regardless of how long it takes.