Feeling Lost in Your 20s
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Are you feeling lost and uncertain about your path in life?
You're not alone.
I know how challenging this time can be, as I'm going through it myself.
It feels like everyone around you has it all figured out, while you're stuck in a rut without a clear purpose, waiting for days to go by.
In this video, I share my personal journey of general confusion in this period of life, trying to understand the reasons behind it and seeking ways to overcome the overwhelming sensations.
But this isn't just about my journey - it's about yours too.
Whether you're feeling lost in your career, relationships, or just life in general - here are some ideas to shift your mindset for a more hopeful tomorrow.
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Hey everyone! :)
First of all, a huge thank you for taking the time off your day to watch this video, it truly means a lot!
I turned 21 last month and I am feeling exactly like you explained in the video, more tough times and/or feeling lost than good times. Your video gave me a little more courage to face life head on and I hope the impression will last a long while (otherwise I'll rewatch the video when necessary). Thank you for the motivation ! I wish you all the best from the bottom of my heart, let's all stay strong together and try to unravel this big mystery called life !
You are never alone I Feel You Fr❤️🩹…The first 52 seconds is the funny sad story of my life. The truth hurts but I’m glad that Isolation leads to Transformation
At my lowest all I had was GOD,
I still got GOD and sum money I really have no job, no car and i still live with my parents. but i guess it’s for the best still i need to move out🥲 i kinda hate it here. Tbh i feel like my time here is almost up i just gotta break bad habits and become a better person or else i might have to lock in with a therapist from better help….
Rest your mind GOD GOT YOU. I respect the tremendous growth on your first video keep going !!
Btw I’m subscribed now: ) but man do i can’t wait till i get more subscribers i wanna blow up too, i also just wanna see everybody win
thank you for making this video. this video came to me at a time where I resonate with most of your points. there's a lot of people that feel lost or alone in the world. its videos like this give me hope for the future
I found your video comforting given the fact that I am turning 23 this year (just like you) and finishing law school, but feeling like I don't belong anywhere at all, lost almost all my connections, hoping someday something will make sense....and not trusting myself, living in fear... trying to be brave... maybe it will be alright! Thank you for your video!
I think no one talks enough about how good the cinematic is in this video, every scene felt like I was watching a movie.
why that so true
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its sickkk
Yeah definitely 💯💓
It got that Asteroid City color scheme, love it
"No one really has everything figured out, no matter the age, we learn as we grow " .
The calmness and satisfiction this line gave me is inexpressible.
For real, the calmness i got from this is nice
For God so loved the world that He gave His one and only Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish but have eternal life. You see, we all have sinned, and have broken God’s law (The Ten Commandments). Wrong doing deserves justice and must be punished (just like how a criminal has to pay for the crime they have committed) but God saved us from the eternal punishment of our sins by sending His Son Jesus Christ, fullness of God in flesh, to pay the penalty for us by dying on the cross and resurrecting, so that we may have everlasting life. Now for you to accept the free gift of grace, you must repent of your sins and put your faith in Jesus Christ and Bible says that His Blood will cover all of your sins, you will be forgiven, saved from eternal punishment, and be given everlasting life. By faith you will receive the Holy Spirit, become born again and He will transform your heart and clean you from the inside out. Turn away from sin, read the Bible, pray for the Holy Spirit to fill you and change you, obey the Word. Much love and God bless you!
You will die one day stop wasting time thinking like that
Some people do so that's false
We’re already on a spaceship!! The planet!!🌎 The universe is still the Earth!!🌌 We’re seeing our future!! 🧑🚀
To moooooove faster than the speed of light, we can imagine a brighter future together!! 🐮 🥛 Andromeda is something more sweet like chocolate!!🍫
Alpha Centauri B is like the next pit stop!! 🛑 Dog Planet!! We’re riding the alpha waves!! Woof woof!!🐶 🐾
We’re light!!💡 We’re energy!! 🐝 We’re the universe!!! 👽
Like a bird, we shift our perspective, and moooove from nest to nest!!🪺 🦜 In the case of the Milky Way and Andromeda colliding, we’re adding on to our nest!!🪺 🪺 🦜🦜
Our imaginations are a true superpower!! They’re magnetic!!🧲 Like Magneto in X-men!! We’re actors here!! I’m trying to shift us all to a romantic comedy/sci fi!! Saturn is the 6th dimension!!🪐 We’re already a comet!!💫
This whole experience is about evolving and remembering who we are!! We’re more than human!! We’re something more extraterrestrial!! 🧊 🦕 🧊 🦖 🧊 🦣 🧊👽
Imagine world peace!!☮️ ✌️ Imagine we’re already in heaven!! 👼
Galaxies start to shift and collide!! 🌌😇🌌😇
Twin flames connect!! 🔥 🔥
They would represent our own atoms/aka stars ✨ activating and shifting a long with the continents and constellations!! It’s all connected!!🧬
Super Earth!! ⭐️ Superheroes!! ⭐️ Super pets!!⭐️ Super foods!!⭐️ A place where everything is awesome!!🤩 Everyone is adorable!!🥰
We’re dreaming!!🛌
As a 31 yo dude, I'd like to say that the 23yo confusing phase is a classic from my experience and my surrounding's experience. The arrival to the adult routine world can be a real agression. And the confusion does not get better. Though, you learn to make peace with yourself with time, and you learn how to live with your confusion, until it takes less and less space in your mind. So I agree with the fact that the 20s is probably the most difficult phase of life, but it gets better after, I promise. You know better who you are, who you want to be, and you're still confused about a lot of things, but it's ok, and you understand it's ok. Besides, you realize that no one is perfect whatever the age. So you're not worst than the others. Anxiety disappears when you understand you are exactly where you're supposed to be. Even if it's not perfect, it's your own path of life, and it's building you. So you are always exactly where you're supposed to be. You just have to follow life, and make decisions and changes when it feels like the right moment.
My humble advice would be : "Don't overthink life too much and try to keep focus on the present moment. Don't stay stuck in the past cause it does not exist anymore, don't fear the future cause it does not exist yet. Feel what you have to feel, enjoy your time with the people that matter to you, and learn how to listen to your own opportunities. Have the courage to change what feels wrong, accept what can't be changed, and look forward tomorrow, cause every day is a new opportunity to rest, or to make a change in your life, or to enjoy a precious moment".
Just turned 23 and have been having crisis’ every other day. Thank you for this. 🙏🏽
Thanks for this
Thank you, I really need this.
Based
dude your humble advice is like a wake up call for me thats really hit the feels, Thank You..
At 29 I was lost, not enough pay my wife left me for a another dude, I took time to reinvent myself and work harder & smarter. Currently leading a good life, six figure + income, I have a gf that loves me. I travel the world and I will be 33 next month.
You can pull through too. I love the honesty in your story hang in there
Thank you! your story inspires hope
Congrats
I feel inspired reading the comments, I'm walking the reinventing path. Tips ?
Thanks for the kind comments, reinventing is a personal path, do stuff that resonates with you. Learn new skills, read books, get your money right (it affects your life choices) , network with people, live to be happy!
TY. I really needed to hear this, elaborate money tips ? I've not been really opportuned to have these kind of convos lately
Frugal living, saving, investing
Turning 23, It seems people born in the year 2000-2003 are feeling the same way. We are the first children of the internet, The people that built this current society and now in our 20's we are being the active builders. Let's not get lost my sweet internet generation. We will find ourselves in this sea of opportunity.
this is amazing saying im 2003 and i agree with you
@@aw-g +1
@@aw-g 2002 here
2003 and donno what im doing to my life. Still havent found "my thing"
I'd say 90s kids were the Internet gen having grown up with msn/bebo etc. And 80s kids would be the ones who built this current society - think of all major social media founders ages.
I’m 28. Nearly at the end of my 20s. I’ve made a lot of progress, but I’ve failed hard and I’ve failed a lot, and I live in constant fear that I wasted my time at the crossroads of life.
But there’s another part of me that says “maybe I didn’t”, and I’m trying to listen to that.
keep it up 👍
@@sqratattack8717 Thanks, I will.
treat the failures like character development, man. what doesn't kill you makes you stronger.
I just turned 24 and I feel you bro loosing my mind
i´m 25 and i fell exactly like you. I´m afraid to look back and think "yes, i wasted my time and that´s doesn´t going back". I´m fucking lost.
Sorry for my english, i´m from Brazil.
I’m 22 and feeling lost myself, been out of university for a year and haven’t been able to find a job, still living with my parents. Life feels very stagnant currently. I do have a plan though, I’m going to be going back to college again to try getting into engineering in September. Hopefully things will be more exciting after that
Hey, i'm 22 too, I've been out of university since February 2023 , just a diploma and not a degree yet. I didn't find a job because I was scared and a coward. I'm still staying with my parents. I applied for university applications again for local universities, I found out today 7th of September 2023 (11:00AM), that I didn't get into any of the universities. I was devastated and still sad as we speak, it's a couple of hours since i found out and i'm trying to appeal.
Whether I get in or not, I'm not sure if i want to. I'm scared. I don't know what to do , I'm lost, but i'm also scared to try.
@@vyruss9348 I feel you; You just gotta trust your intuition. Make a list of jobs you would like (or can at least handle). Find numbers for the companies and call them to ask if they are hiring. When I did this, I called probably 25-30+ companies.
11 of them said they are, so I had to go there in person and put myself out there. I ended up having two interview offers, and eventually got a job a few weeks later.
You will feel very vulnerable especially because this is all new to you. The only way out is in my friend. I'm a year younger than you and I hope this advice reaches you. I quit my job a month ago and I've been dealing with a lot of emotions and helplessness, but I also know what goes up must come down, and what goes down must come up.
Believe in yourself. You're not scared, you're excited. You can do this.
(btw even if you go to college, you'll have to get a job eventually. So it's best to start sooner than later. Speaking from experience. Like this video said, the hardest part is starting.
@@vyruss9348almost same situation bro haha
I’m 21 and of course I felt behind but It’s gonna be all right man
How much time / workload does college take? Looking for a change..
@@vyruss9348how are you doing?
"20s will be the best time of your life" is such an 80s or 70s terminology that doesn't apply anymore. I spent most of my 20s broke living paycheck to paycheck trying not to be homeless while studying. I dont know why these expectations are thrusted upon us when we're not ready, but its such a bs saying that doesn't apply anymore in the modern times
the cost of living rises making it even harder
That wasn't true in the 70's or 80's either. Live is a struggle. Always was.
@@ericsierra-franco7802 probably always will be.
thats a you problem.
@@aleksandrsbelijs344 that's what I'm going to say.
To anyone who reads this, I see you and I know you'll make it. Don't give up. So many people are rooting for you :)
Thanks man
Bullsh*t
Ye thanks mate!
Cheers mate
Thank you :). Today I heard since a long time that someone finds I’m cool :)
I lost my mom at 23, you wanna talk about feeling lost? I was the embodiment of lost, but because of that loss it opened up my heart. Now here I am at 26, about to finally move out of my dad’s house and in with my amazing girlfriend. While I’m also going back to school so keep your head up. Walk tall and love yourself.
Thank you for this video. Im 20, currently sitting in my room in the middle of the night, thinking a lot and getting really anxious about my future because right now, I have completly nothing going for me. My social skills suck and meeting new people is super hard, but at the same time I feel extremely lonely. I have barely any money, no job (working on it though), still living with my parents and feeling like a nuisance (even though they probably dont think of me like that). Im really skinny and dont like my body, but at the same time too lazy to work on it. Hell, I dont even have a drivers license. After finishing highschool I started having a feeling of urgency - if I wont figure everything out quickly, I'll end up as a total fuckup. I know its not necessarily true, but the feeling is there and I can't do anything about it.
In a month and a half I'll become a freshman, Im hoping that I'll be able to start working on some of the things from the list,, and begin getting my life together.
5 minutes of this video made me a little bit less anxious, and a little bit more optimistic about the future, which is probably the biggest positive change in the last 4 months.
Im truly thankful for that.
My friend you just described me in perfect terms.
I know how you feel man im 21 and I just broke my arm about 2 weeks ago at work and it hurts havent really had the motivation to do anything sense barely eating or sleeping I just started my classes back up and let me tell you it isnt fun hard as hell to pay attention with this damn arm but ill get threw it you dont know what you take for granted until you cant use a part of your body. I see it as this you either let life pass you by or you get out there and achieve what you want to do having a goal is real important.
How are you now?
I have the same situation like your life and each coming day feels like a survival game 😢. I hope someday something is written for me need to have the patience
Yoooooo same damn thing here
Being 24 and losing my sense of identity was the biggest challenge I faced a couple years back.
26 now, still finding out more about myself than I knew then and this video hits right where it needed to.
Life's about the journey, we'll figure it out.
Wow, 97 fella too here!
I'm at the same age and life journey as yours, almost 26 soon and since 24, I've been trying hard to figure out what I wanna do with my life and it's safe to say I still couldn't see where all of this is going.
Seeing your comment makes me feel not alone, and agreed; life's about the journey, we'll figure it out (no matter what the pace is!)
For God so loved the world that He gave His one and only Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish but have eternal life. You see, we all have sinned, and have broken God’s law (The Ten Commandments). Wrong doing deserves justice and must be punished (just like how a criminal has to pay for the crime they have committed) but God saved us from the eternal punishment of our sins by sending His Son Jesus Christ, fullness of God in flesh, to pay the penalty for us by dying on the cross and resurrecting, so that we may have everlasting life. Now for you to accept the free gift of grace, you must repent of your sins and put your faith in Jesus Christ and Bible says that His Blood will cover all of your sins, you will be forgiven, saved from eternal punishment, and be given everlasting life. By faith you will receive the Holy Spirit, become born again and He will transform your heart and clean you from the inside out. Turn away from sin, read the Bible, pray for the Holy Spirit to fill you and change you, obey the Word. Much love and God bless you!
lemme joining the 97's squad, lost myself too since 24, but still really in the confusing state even now in my 26 T.T
I had to go through being 12 to 18 losing all my social skills and personality due to a rough upbringing. It took me so long to realise. It turned my schooling into a nightmare and having such a hard time going through relationships due to my medical issues. I’m 24 now and it feels like I’ve just started my life genuinely
@omarioransyah I thought you was 97 years old
I’m 23, just graduated college a week ago. My grades and Resume would say I should have a brilliant future but I have never ever felt more lost. Everything you said in this video is pure truth. I’m a guy who rarely ever cries, but this made me tear up. Depression has kidnapped the meaning and motivation from my life and it’s time I spring up and try living life better. Thank you for this amazing video! ❤
Lol depression is SUPPOSED to hit whenever you finish a milestone. Depression is your bodies way of telling you and pressuring you that you need start WORKING on your new milestone. If you were happy and content after having achieved that milestone you'd be fucked lol.
I feel the same. Graduated, passing resume to target companies and sometimes I feel exhausted. We're the same age and my dream career changed also than my degree that I finished. 😢
I hope one day, I overcome this insecurity and gaslighting myself. Let's keep going in our hardships in life until we succeed.
In the EXACT same situation
Brate ja sam tol'ko u depresiji da razmišljam da napustim fakultet u trećoj godini posto više ne mogu da učim i znam da mi fakultet nista doneti neće, tako da svaka ti čast što si uopšte uspeo da završiš fakultet. Čestitam!
You need Jesus my friend. He is the only reason worth living for in this fallen rotten world.
This really hits hard for me. I'm almost 23 too. I have a career plan in place, but it was never what I wanted to really do. I still don't know what I want my life goal to be. My parents are seriously putting the pressure on me now to find a career, despite it not being as easy as they think. I'm glad to hear I'm not alone with this.
You're not alone..have finished studying a course I didn't like and now I don't know what to do with my life
Same here dude .. We gonna make it
you are definitely not alone homie, just turned 23, no goals, no money, no job, 0 idea about what should i do with my career, i just wanna pursue that one thing, but dont seem any near of it
I am 23 and starting post graduation now and my friends have finished and started working. I now feel depressed that i am very behind in my career and can't make it through.
22 here. I can relate to you. I do feel empty sometimes. Like everything is moving and I'm still stuck at this station with feet planted
I try taking steps but they don't lead anywhere.
I feel jealous and it hurts me so much that others know exactly what they want to do in life.
I pray that all of us will find something we love or atleast puts food on our table.
I try to remind myself that there are other important things as well that should be counted for eg. Being a good human.
We will see the light. Amen.
I just turned 20 and this video was exactly what i needed to hear. I appreciate the message bud, thank you.
Thanks... I'm 29 about to be 30 and Ive never felt more lost in my life. Procrastination is my biggest enemy by far. Hopefully will get out of this funk soon. Thanks for the video and the kind words.
yes you will break the loop of procrastination and it will become your weapon to optimize one day.
Same here but I’m 22 Life is tough but so are You! 🤦🏾♂️ Since high school I’ve been struggling with that procrastinating bs💔 but from today I think I’m done with it. Yeah especially because *one good prayer could change your life*.
And when God is in your life, your life will surely change.
For God so loved the world that He gave His one and only Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish but have eternal life. You see, we all have sinned, and have broken God’s law (The Ten Commandments). Wrong doing deserves justice and must be punished (just like how a criminal has to pay for the crime they have committed) but God saved us from the eternal punishment of our sins by sending His Son Jesus Christ, fullness of God in flesh, to pay the penalty for us by dying on the cross and resurrecting, so that we may have everlasting life. Now for you to accept the free gift of grace, you must repent of your sins and put your faith in Jesus Christ and Bible says that His Blood will cover all of your sins, you will be forgiven, saved from eternal punishment, and be given everlasting life. By faith you will receive the Holy Spirit, become born again and He will transform your heart and clean you from the inside out. Turn away from sin, read the Bible, pray for the Holy Spirit to fill you and change you, obey the Word. Much love and God bless you!
I’m 27 turning 28 soon and one thing I can say is that these periods of your life will come and go. I went through this fase about 4 years ago after a breakup. I lost myself completely and I thought the pain would never go away - but it did! Now, 4 years later i’m in the same position again. I met a new girl about 2 years ago who turned my world upside down. We traveled the world and made some beautiful and incredible memories together. I found the happiness in life that I thought I lost forever. However, life can take some unexpected turns at times and we broke up a couple months ago. Now i’m in the exact same position again, alone, feeling lost and broken, not having found my passion or goals in life.. Not knowing what to do, where to go.. And that’s okay! That’s the beautiful thing about life, when one door closes another one openes and even though it sucks I know from experience that these hard times makes us stronger than we’ve ever been and I know that everything will be okay in the end!
Also, I want to say that you really have a gift making videos Rolands. This is an amazing piece of art - keep it up.
Much love to everyone out there. Everything will be okay!❤
we just connect soo much with people that sometimes we forget what u are in ourselves and yes I am too connected with alot and when things fall apart the lost feeling i get it's really bad
I feel this. I'm 28, and separated from my ex fiance early last year. It was pretty crazy, going from having everything figured out, or so I thought at the time, to selling the home, and feeling like I moved backwards in life by years. But then I just started saying yes to opportunities, and going with whatever life threw at me. After selling the house I put all of my stuff in storage and bought a one way plane ticket to Chile. I learned Spanish there, stayed there for 3 months, and had an amazing time. Then I didn't feel ready to go home, so I went to Peru for another 3 months. My life has turned into something completely different and more beautiful, but man did I feel so lost and alone, and I really relate with this video and your comment
Feeling it so much. Beautifully said, thank you!
Thank you so much for that comment, I'm 18 right now and struggle with anxiety and mental health. I feel the same about thinking the pain won't go away like when my anxiety kicks in but there also good phases.
Just the fact your the same age as me made me feel better about the things you wrote.. 🤍
same age, same identical situation. It's almost like my thoughts came out from my head and became a video I randomly found on my RUclips home. Thank you mate for this piece of art that is beautiful and makes me feel less alone!
I myself am 23. Ive graduated college last June and I can't find a job I got my degree for. This video has definitely resonated with me. Especially the part about falling into being comfortable. I've been having it rough when it came to motivation. Thank you for the kind words. It's honestly encouraging to hear what you've shared. It makes me want to climb out of the hole I've put myself in.
On the same boat, we will find our place eventually
I'm 23 and just graduated college this year 2023. Hoping to find a job and found my place in this world. Hope, We'll get better soon.
Exactly my situation only that am 22 ... feeling lost by the day
just turned 27 nd the best advice I can give is “keep going” pls dnt stop you worked hard in school to achieve your degree. My big brother told me if u don’t use it in two yes it becomes useless…tht scary but focus on what u want. PLEASE DO NOT take jobs to just get a check tou will hate and it will make you feel like a waste talent, make connections get experience. I’m an Aerospace Engineer and it took me 2yrs to get my job because “I lacked experience” I just kept going and one day someone gave me a break when I was at my lowest. YOUR TME will come you just have to be patient and as you get older you start to become okay waiting because “patience is a virtue” Yll got this keep moving and follow your dreads(insight/gut)
I graduated last June too, and made the decision to not pursue further education. My degree does not hold accountability in the job spectrum and neither do I. The pandemic has hit me abruptly, also Once, associating my life with academic excellence everything in life seems to fall apart now. It is difficult to get up, I am 22 and will be turning 23 soon.
I'm 22 and I'm glad I found your video in the right time. I feel so lost since I was 20 and I'm still figuring out while my peers know what they doing with their life. But that's fine, it'll be alright. The last part video give me hope, there's always a light at the end of tunnel. Great video!
I'm 20 and it just feels like I'm an observer. That I'm not really living life, learning and growing while I see everybody else have the drive and interest to do something
Same
@@OReily08080 I feel that as well. But take it easy, things will be okay.
Same here, feeling lost, don't know what to do, and also fear of become a failure :(
@@hisanbae_ Same here I feel you honestly it’s a very common phase. sometimes you gotta lose yourself to finally find yourself.. don’t even trip you’re just going through a chapter in your story.
Remember forever is never. Nothing last forever not even torture soon your story will be legendary.. just try new things step out your comfort zone.. Day 1 or 1day? you choose but I’ll be real if you have GOD or a religion in your life sooner or later you’ll figure everything out …
I'm 22, and starting university in september after being a high school dropout/drug addict. I was so incredibly lost earlier and it took me a long time to heal and bounce back, I hope anyone reading this finds hope if they're lost/depressed. I now live with hope for my future, and I'm putting in the work to achieve my dreams, despite being "behind" my peers who have already graduated.
How did you find it within yourself to keep studying? What drives you?
@@mocha8908 Sorry for the late reply, but after pushing myself out of my comfort zone, meeting new people and gaining a new perspective on life, I finally realized what it was that I wanted to pursue. I had to move past my regrets, forgive myself and push forward with my goals. It wasn't overnight, or easy, but if you truly want to better yourself, it'll come.
@@carlospatricio4246you are not "behind" others, everyone goes at their own pace so be kind with yourself. Good luck my dude
Power to you to start studying after such an experience. I wish you the best college life.
PS. Plz study for the sake of learning and never miss an opportunity just because your fellows didn't take it. You'll be thankful to me by the end of your college.
All the best to you mate!
Turning 23 by August, and I graduated from the University last month. I have never been so confused in my life as I am now, I see most of my mate doing well and ask myself 'What am I doing wrong? What am I doing different? Why is this happening? Why is that happening? ' . Now that I have fully graduated the pressure has become worst. I didn't see this video on my fyp, I searched it myself.
From the comments I have read from this video, I hope it will get better over time.
I am 22 and struggling to find my path and purpose. I was just lost as you are. This video gave me a sense of hope and motivation through my endeavors. I am finally taking the next step of my life. Cheers to us. Hope we can all make it.
I turn 22 in two days, and very afraid of the unknown or atleast for 21 years of my life I was. I’m taking the leap try to meet new ppl go for new opportunities and just become spiritually and mentally free. I’m even planning on going to therapy for certain reason I think it can be good for me. I felt like a failure at 20 bc I was lost but I now understand that’s okay, I wanted outcome rather than journey. I realize we just have so much to explore about ourselves and the world. I wish you great things on your journey your comment helped me see I’m not alone. 😊😅
Your title is what drew me in, I stayed and listened because I can relate to this.
When I was 22 years old my mother had went to the hospital for her final time. She was terminally sick with cancer. She was fighting for over 16 years. I was out of town when she was rushed to the hospital, so when I heard she was sick I rushed the 80 miles back home as fast as possible. I was considered head of household at that point and faced a decision that still fucks with me to this day, ending my mothers dialysis and life support. She was unresponsive when I got there. I sat there next to her the whole time, as she slept for 3 days in hospice. At that point, I kept easing her that it was okay to let go and that I'll figure things out as I go. I sat there next to her in hospice when she opened her eyes and made eye contact with me as she took her last breath, something that I'll never forget.
Now, I'm just shy of turning 27, my twenties are blowing on by faster than I thought they'd go. Life hasn't been easy on me, I wish my mother was still around as she was my best friend. I visit my dad everyday as they were married 37 years and I hate to see him alone. I work 50+ hours a week and whenever I can get a lick of free time I like to escape into the woods to go camping, kayaking and hiking, as I feel the most stress and worry free during those activities. Its coming up on 4 years without my mother and I still struggle with her loss, recently I figured I'd call her to wish her a happy 4th of July, until I remembered I can't do that anymore... what a kick to the gonads that was...
If you've made it this far, please don't give up. There's people around who care about you and want to watch you grow & do good things for yourself. I have to keep reminding myself of that too at times.
thanks for sharing this message and your story, condolences for your mother. You're strong man, probably way more than you think you are. Keep your head up and let's just all keep pushing!
@@simonemazza3950 I appreciate that. I always treat people with kindness because my life has been hectic and you never know what the next person is going through or dealing with, sometimes we all need just a little help moving along. Thank you for that reminder.
Brother I can feel you so much 😢feeling really bad for you but trust me you will grow in your life surely because you are a good person 😊
This made me cry, thanks for sharing man I wish the best for you and your family
@@louisosullivan2114 I appreciate that very much. It's been a choppy road but im doing my best, taking it as it comes a day at a time.
Somehow seeing all these comments and acknowledge that I am not the only one going through this made me feel better. We all gonna make it.
That hu tao tho
Interesting
I'll leave this comment so I'll read this again in some years. I'm totally sure that we can make it. Believe in your strengths.
we got this
Thanks a lot for sharing. I'm 26 and never felt so lost before. Some of my friends are getting married, start a business, talks about future while I'm going nowhere, just doing normal office things. Hopefully we can through this all.
Samee heeeeere! Just turn into 26. Step by step fellas and as Twenty one pilots says: No, I don't know which way I'm goin, but I can hear my war around. We are doin great
While me at 27 still have no proper job
Turning 20… never felt so lonely and lost in my life before. It’s frightening because I have no idea what I should do with my life… Life’s hard right now.
This really teared me up. Sometimes RUclips knows somehow exactly what you need to watch. These damn algorithms are too good!
Being 21 and almost 22 now, I've finished University, lived with my folks for a year and have just moved into a new flat. In the last week I have also been through a rollercoaster with a break-up, family beef, job security down the toilet, valentines day and it just feels like a lot. My first ever love, which hurt bad but I'm trying to remind myself it was for the best.
I have quite a lot of close people in my life including a great family and set of friends, who throughout this have consistently checked up on me, but sometimes I can't reply, even after I see it. I don't really understand why I feel the need to do this, but I do enjoy peace off devices sometimes and sometimes I don't want to explain what's been going on again for the 3rd time or whatever.
I related a lot to this video, the feeling of life in a slump and unsure what the next steps are. So much uncertainty can cause chaos in your head, but I'm trying to redirect myself to focus as much as possible in the present, and look to the other side, as you mentioned in your beautifully crafted video. This week has been super long already and it's only Wednesday night, but I am learning life as a new form. I am realizing now how much I missed talking to those which I am interacting with more as of late. Something about safety in numbers, and also having someone you trust to just hear you out, who let you explain your thoughts a bit more, to allow yourself understand your stance on it just a bit better.
Mental health is super important and I am glad a lot more people are aware of it than ever before, because we gotta look out for eachother. Our sense of connection is what grounds us, so do what you can to bring that back. I know it's helped me a lot.
Anyway, I'm sure it'll get better. Whatever is going on for the rest of you just hope for something better. I'm not religious but sometimes I feel as though my Oma (Dutch for Grandma) is watching over me as an angel, and has my sht sorted for me. My path is my path and she is here with me all the time. There are people that look out for us that are alive and around us, but we may just not realise it. You matter and WE matter and people always underestimate their impacts on people's lives.
Stay strong - I know I'm trying.
I’m 25 and everything you just said is true. You pretty much summed up all of my 20s up until now, except I’ve never had a girlfriend yet.
I’m still trying to figure my career goals and aspirations, trying to find a wife and deciding on my future education. On top of being broke and still living with my parents as well.
One of the things I’ve learned is that everything will just come at the right time, and you have to take your time and not rush things in life and just live it in the present.
It’s hard, but everything will work out.
So many people have reached out to me, saying they have or are going through something similar.
It's very surprising to me, yet comforting to know that this is a common feeling and phase in life.
Good to know that we are all in this together and, with time, everything will fall into place. I truly believe that.
Let's accept, embrace it and move forward, day by day! :)
there are no guarantees for less-than-royalty in life. that's just a coping mechanism. nothing falls into your lap, you have to leap out of the frying pan and into the fire, and hope you don't get burnt. your health can be taken away at any moment, through no fault of your own. likewise financial crisis, disasters and wars happen. too much luck involved to say everything will work out.
Embrace whatever you have man, don't feel bad about things you don't have at the moment. Feeling you!
There's beauty in the struggle, retrospectively, ofc :)
25 same story man
It's okay to feel lost in your 20's. Explore, keep an open mind and you'll find your way.
you don't know how much i needed to watch something like this, thank you
This video describes literally everything I am going through right now, thank you. It’s good to be reminded that this isn’t a situation unique to myself and that everyone has their own struggles that can I can relate to.
It's crazy how much damage comparison can do. Just being present and enjoying the moment is what being young should be all about. Not about having everything figured out and having a massively successful life.
It might seem like a hypocritical thing to say for people who know me and my life currently, but I still strongly believe that 20s should be wild and, well, uncertain. Uncertain is fun.
Thanks a lot for this video essay. Aesthetically beautiful, and tells a good story! :))
I think the quote ''Comparison is the thief of joy.'' says it all.
Definitely agree with you. Would be quite wasteful to not just go all out and try different things in your 20s, take risks and enjoy life.
Thank you for the comment, my good man! :)
Good thing I won't be lost in my 20s soon anymore.
I'm turning 30 next year, so I'll be lost in my 30s from then on.
ahhh I’m almost 23 too and i have NEVER felt more lost and confused. thank you for putting all these feelings into words🥺
thank you man thank you. turning 20 in a couple months. just stressed as hell and this definitely made me sit back and realize that it’s okay to feel like nothing is going your way. cause it won’t a lot. life is life and you enjoy it by what you make of it. appreciate this video, youtube must know we all lost right now too.
Same age, almost 23; same period, a bit lost, and overwhelmed from everything. Isolation becoming stronger, and still not giving up. Just searching a reason to live this world in myself.
Every word of you is a rock and a wing the same moment.
Thank you.
Don’t stop to make videos like that, to expose yourself. U brave
I‘m 19 and strangely I can totally relate to the video.
Sometimes I feel pretty empty and lonely and overwhelmed by negative thoughts and emotions that I think I’m somehow depressed. I used to have much confidence but suddenly since 1-2 years it has vanished away. But on the other side I know that I can rake responsibility for my thoughts and my life but it‘s hard to sustain that „energy“. But I think I get better and better at it. Strangely I think that all other people around me are able to cope with it more „pleasantly“ and don‘t have these „exestential“ „worries“ 😂. But probably that‘s only a superficial impression.
Hope you have a great time and remember: love and compassion is the key ❤
What helps is talking to you like you would to your best friend. Become your own best friend and don‘t believe everything what your mind „says“ to you. Sometimes it is true rubbish and only hindering you from continuing!
Exactly the same 2004 here
Honestly this video, the camerawork, the script, just everything about it is just so calming and inspirational. It’s a real reminder to us young adults that whatever happens we will always found our path.
You have no idea how much this video helped everyone!
This video made me feel better and don't feel bad for wanting to seek self improvement, we are all lost so we can find the light in our future!
Stay strong everyone! 💪
As the first video, this is beyond impressive. Keep it up 🔥
Coming from the masters themselves, thank you so much! :)
Procrastination is truly our biggest enemy, at 20 years I relate to this so much, losing people and gaining new ones. Going through all these transitions while on the self discovery journey.. it's just a lot . But we have you to calm us down and remind us to keep on going.. thank you for this❤❤❤
Just turned 23 today. This made my day better, a bit less lonely, a bit more hopeful. Really appreciate this :)
i love the simple warmth that video has inside
i cried for 15 minutes
thanks, dude.
Very brave of you to open up and share some of the thoughts a lot of us might relate to, but don’t talk about.
Thank you for taking the time and making this video. I have been struggling with this for a while. I unknowingly fill up my schedule and am just realizing that it's for the sole reason that I dont't have to face the reality that I dont know what I want from life. But at the same time I recognize it's a blessing since every door is unlocked. I just have to have courage in opening them and seeing where they take me. Thank you.
Thank you so much for these amazing words. I've also just gone through the toughest breakup from whom I believed for years would remain the constant sunshine, love and best friend in my life for always; only for it to come crashing down out of nowhere, for no particular reason other than 'change'. These have been the darkest few months of my life, but I'm lucky to have the best family. I keep going not only for them, but for myself too, because as you said; new doors have opened up to infinite possibilities, and there are so many of us in the same situation. And like many others watching this video, I'm very grateful for how incredibly positive, meaningful and effective it is. Made me smile a lot. Thanks again man ❤
"Let go of all the expectations that you have and just live life, day by day." damn, that hits so hard :"))
I'm 29 and still as lost as ever. But I know myself now. And I've learned to just join the dance. There's a lot I would have changed but I do not regret the trial and error of finding out who I am. Just know that this lost "searching" isn't a problem to be solved, but a process everyone experiences.
This video managed to find it's way to me. I just have to say, glad to see that you aren't alone in those confusing moments. Amazing video. Thanks for shedding some light on this. And if anyone else sees this, like I did. Best of luck. We can do this. Our one "thing" is out there somewhere. But we still have to put in that effort to go and find it.
I turn 20 in seven months and there’s so much expectation to have my life together- to know what I want to do. But I don’t. College is draining me because I have no real motivation towards a career path, and I don’t know what I want to do with myself. This was a reassuring video
Thank you!! I'm 27 now and I think its good to be reminded that your are not the main character in everyones life and that everyone has their own struggles to deal with. Makes it easier to see that we are all humans and that no one is alone with that
I'm 24 and terrified. I have a rough idea of what I want to do with my life, but without the confidence that comes from experience, I sometimes struggle to believe in myself. This is a part of life we all go through in one way or another, and if anything, I'm glad us young folks can take solace in knowing that we're not alone. Your 20s are for growing, learning, making mistakes, falling down and picking yourself back up. That's how we grow stronger and wiser. Try new things, try everything, try learning something new every day. Set goals for yourself, it's okay if they change over time. Go forward with gratitude and patience. We must learn to enjoy the ride of life, which although turbulent at times can also be a beautiful experience. You all have my support! 💛
Damn - "without the confidence that comes from experience" sums up my anxiety perfectly.
thank you for that! almost started crying in the end. needed to hear this
Appreciate your honesty a lot. We need more people being open about their fears/struggles since its a part of everyones life. Thank you for sharing this with us ❤
What a great video! I could not help but relate with everything that you mentioned. I just turned 27 and after feeling lost for most of my early 20s, I can say that you nailed everything. People come and go, but they bring lessons that we can all learn from. My life turned around for the better at 25 and I can honestly say that having a supportive group of friends and family have led me to find peace even when life gets rough.
I never comment on RUclips but man, as a 22 year old who’s going through a similar situation and feeling the same emotions: thank you. It’s comforting knowing that there are people (whether you know them or not) going through similar journeys.
I recently started making videos again on a new channel after taking a lot of time off and essentially deleting my old channel. I thought that part of me as a kid died as I started getting older, but videos like yours are an inspiration. Definitely subscribing, keep it up. Amazing work.
What a message, stay strong people, life is a journey, time does not forgive, we are just memories and experiences
thank you so much for this
this video resonate with me so much, I've never seen someone with exactly the same struggles, the same thoughts that I think daily and all of that put in a cinematic masterpiece. I'm 29 and I'm still lost, but loosing yourself is the first step to actually find your true self
24 and couldn't relate more. Thanks for overcoming the obstacles to create and share this. Much love homie
I have been feeling lost for a couple of month now, but in the past couple weeks it’s hit me hard, I am seeking out help, but this video hit the nail on the head, and gave me something I was searching for. Thank you so much for deciding after three months of procrastinating to make this❤
this video found me and im really thankful for that! it helped me a lot in trying to understand myself..... thanks mate i wish you a happy life not only for u but for ery1 whos here with the same problem!
Bro, I am close to 23 years old, quite close to your age, going to a great grad school and yet I felt each and every word spoken in this video. You just explained something so inexplicable in such lucid terms, it just made my day a little better. Thanks for this amazing vid.
Right!!!!!! Same, this video touches your soul... like it's so nice knowing other people get it
This video is perfect. I’m 20, going into my final year at university, and I feel quite lost. I’m trying to prepare to go into the real world finally whilst also still trying to figure out who I am. I procrastinate a lot and I hate it, I want to be better, but like you said, it’s more comfortable to just not do the important things. I want to be the person I want to be, but my oh my is all of this overwhelming. Sometimes it gets too much and I cave in, but I know I’ll get through this and figure things out.
I hope that you, everyone in the comments, and anyone who may read this get things figured out too! Videos like these help us feel less alone, they’re more important than I think the creator realises. Thank you so much
Hey. Thank you for this video. Reading all these comments made me realize that I'm not the only one with this feeling. We have the whole time to explore and discover ourselves. Time won't wait for anyone and we need to keep moving forward making great memories and moments.
thanks so much bro. You have no idea how much this has cleared my mind. I beleive everyone can find a tranquility so to speak about themselves if they just live simply
I'm 22 years old and I'm moving city to pursue my dream, I've found it all so overwhelming but this video has helped me so much. Thank you!
I love everything about this video: The calmness, the truths and probably most of all the cinematography. You are able to show your viewer wonderfull scenes that take our breaths away. I love you as a fellow human and feel every word you said. Take care man. ❤
Thank you for sharing this with the world; as a fellow lost person, I hope you too find your way.
Thank you! Thank you so much! My 20's just begun (I became 20 yo in July) and i started to feel list recently! This IS just what i need! This is such a relief to hear that! No words can describe how it helps! Thank you!
Thank you 🙏🏼. I’m 26, and even if everything looks good on the paper from the outside, I’m terribly lost inside. This video helped me to see I am not alone ✨🥺
Dude... this video is a lot. I've been like that since my 23, I'm 26 now... I've learned a lot these years, and still doing it. Just embrace the processes... I'm through some things again but wiser, I guess... your video helped me a lot clear my foggy day and remember those things. Thanks, man, greetings from Argentina.
This video brought me a deep sense of relaxation. Just the acknowledgment that this is a common experience for young adults makes me feel better about having so little figured out.
I turned 20 years old four months ago and this video perfectly describes how i feel and now that I know there are more people feeling this way ,I feel some sort of comfort and I've started embracing this feeling. I'm very glad i discovered this channel. Keep up the good work man!
This video resonates so much with my thoughts.
I'm 20, I'll be 21 soon, but I've never felt more lost. I have friends, studies, projects and work, from the outside everything looks incredibly successful. But inside I can't feel 100% pleasure from all this, relationships are constantly not close enough, work does not attract, projects come and go.
But most importantly, recently I realized how many people are around and how few of those whose thinking fully responds to me. I'm constantly trying new things and clinging to new relationships with people. And your video gave me such a sense of acceptance and understanding.
Whatever happens to us, we will not be alone
Let this be an example that talking about feelings is important. All problems start inside us, we need to let them out! Keep going, bro! ♥
most important thing I learned in my twenties, it doesn't ever get any easier, you just get better at handling it.
My good god, this is one of the BEST videos I've ever watched on RUclips.
So soothing, so genuine and just so warm.
The entire video most of all was SUPER relatable. I'm 21 and goin through an identity crisis, just unable to get it together.
Thanks for this again, it was truly comforting and inspiring.
Plus, I loved the how this gave me like 80s/90s vibes, idk if I'm the only one but this looked so vintage and hence, so real and lovable. Kudos to you.
You know, I'm 25 and I still feel the same. I grew, I learned and I became something close to an adult, but I still feel like I don't fit in or that I'm not made for it. So, I relate a lot with your video and what you said.
Being recommended this video at 5am after a night without being able to sleep due to the heat really felt like a godsend. Even though im not in my 20s yet, i am almost 19, just graduated highschool, and now im feeling lost. I have no motivation to work on myself and would rather play games all day and watch youtube. Although i havent reached the point where responsibilities will start to overwhelm me, i am scared of imminent moment, having no experience taking full care of myself and relying on my caring parents. All i want to achieve in life at this very moment is repaying my parents for all of the love and patience they've given me and prove to them that their efforts have not been wasted on a nerd who only leeches off of them. I might be going too hard on myself, but i dont know any other way to actually get me to do something with my life. Sometimes i wonder how my friends' lives are going, if they're also in the same boat secretly, if they're also thinking what my life could be behind the scenes. As much as i love my close friends, there are some things i dont want to burden them with. I dont even know why im making this comment in the first place, maybe it's because this may be a safe place for me to vent my uncertainties away, maybe Im just looking for help, or someone that might say "You're not alone". If someone reached the end of this comment, i hope you'll have a beautiful day and know that you're strong, keep it going buddy
At the end i felt that so much so i felt some tears, while sitting in my machine at work and looking at all people around me that work and hearing you saying at the same time we all just trying to find our own way and so.. that hit me in a good way but also very sensitive❤️ thank you so much!
Thank you man! You made me feel more at peace with feeling lost. Actually it is kind of exciting that you don't know where you are going. That is how I reframe it, when I get overwhelmed. Many "older adults" wish they would have the amount of opportunities that I have right now. So, it is a gift. And you made me see that a bit clearer. Thank you :)
Honestly, this video hits me hard. These are also the things I've been dealing with since I turned in my 20's.. Like you, I'm also 22 and will turn 23 in the next few months. I'm really having a hard time dealing with and expressing all of the stuff you mentioned. But for some reason, the moment I saw this video, you expressed most of the things I am feeling but have failed to voice them out. This also starts to make me feel a bit hopeful. Thank you. Hopefully, I'll also be able to find my purpose or reason in this world.
17 going on 18 next year, it just feels unreal, like life is starting to feel short. I’ve spent most of my teenage years procrastinating without a girlfriend so far, and hopefully I get there one day. 2020 didn’t make things better either. Man, watching and writing RUclips comments just hits different at 1:00 am, and I’m just venting to a bunch of strangers online who will probably never read this. Reminds me of a Pink Floyd song, “every year is getting shorter, never seem to find the time, plans that either come to naught, or half a page of scribbled lines […] the time is gone, the song is over, thought I’d something more to say.”
Edit: high school for me will be over in a few more weeks, just 4 more exams to go. I had graduation last week. I asked the girl that I liked out, plenty more fish in the sea. I failed two of the more important classes I needed to get into uni. Probably have to take a bridging course. Picked up something new though, photography. I got an old Canon AE-1 Program from a mate, that will at least keep me busy from the boredom that is surely to come. My friends and I haven’t talked since graduation, seems as though we are already becoming distant, even though I hope that isn’t the case. It does seem inevitable though. I don’t want that to happen. I would do anything for them, heaven and earth just if I could spend one more day with them. One more day.
Edit 2: a lot has happened. I started talking to a girl again that I hadn’t spoken with for like a year. Turns out she had a boyfriend. Fast forward about a couple months, she says to me that she’s lost feelings for him, fast forward another month and they have broken up. About a week later we are hanging out, and we go back to hers and we are getting drunk. She confesses to me that she has had feelings for me since near the end of that last relationship. Me, taken aback by this, because no girl has ever taken a romantic interest in my life, I’m astounded, and I feel the same way about her. A week later, we do the deed, but she feels mortified about this, says she’s not ready for a relationship, I ignored this because it was wishful thinking. Same day she says she doesn’t want to lead me on, but I say it certainly feels like it. This pisses her off, we go back to my car and sort it all out there. Later that week, she texts me saying she’s about to lose her shit. I head over and she’s cut her arm open. A week later everything seems as though it has been smoothed out. But I find out she’s had Tinder installed. A few days ago she’s matched with this guy and she’s considering dating him instead. I find this to be complete bullshit because I’ve known her for 4 years, she’s known this guy for 3 days. I’ve completely lost it, I’ve lost my shit myself, though I don’t want to tell her that and probably shouldn’t. I kinda want to kill myself I’m not going to lie. First woman on the planet who has confessed feelings for me, and she goes and does that. I’m gonna stop editing this comment, I’ve already over shared a enough on this shit as it is.
Same it's my 17 birthday today and there's a lot of things running in my mind I've celebrate my birthday alone I was not happy I can't help but cry in this as getting older I have a lot of responsibilities I am so tired.....
@@zyleixx364 Happy Birthday! Keep your head up we are all on the same path, oh and make sure to smile a bit more each day :)
You too are very young, it is a good thing that youve notices what you're lacking so you can start managing the things that would like to be/ or do, believe me when I say it
I read your comment from Germany Bro. Dont be sad , Girl will come ❤
I’m 18 and I feel the same way as you ☺️🫂
wow. this videos really changed the way i look at my life. enjoying every single day is a key to happy life. hope everyone going thorugh struggles will win that fight and will be happy again.
It's been a year. I keep coming back again and again to watch this video. Love your work. Little update, after years of feeling lost in the daily grind I've found a domain I'm passionate about and am now pursuing it full time. It has become easier, you just have to do it every day.
I'm in my late teens, but I've already been starting to feel this kind of fear for my 20s. Growing up in this digital world can often make the world feel so small and narrow, and so these types of videos definitely help with coping with that . I hope you turn out to make more videos in the future :)
Turning 19 a few weeks. Don't know how I'm going to manage to pull through my 20s
@@h..s6972 You got this, one day at a time.
Stuff tends to get better. I realized I don't have to feel lost, because there is no path set out for me. If there is no path, there is no way to feel lost. It's just a constant doing whatever feels right.
I would say there is a path.... your own path. We all walk our own paths in life.
I appreciate what you did here. It clearly resonated with me. 🥺 I hope for what ever life pushes me, either good or bad. 💕
What a great video! The message itself is wonderful, but the camera shots that accompany it along with the nice, calming music just make this video incredible!
Even without the message and the comfortable voice behind the screen, I still feel like the images the colours are so beautiful 😍. This is really impressive and relaxing and chill and magical. Amazing art dude 👍
I’m 21 and I still feel lost. I’ve been feeling lost for the past 2 years ever since I left cosmetology school. It feels like school gave me something to do. It was predictable because I knew what was to come next. I feel I’ve been living on autopilot for a long time. It feels like the same day over and over again, like I’ve been living dead. Feeling lost because it feels like I’ve lost meaning to my life but feeling anxious for not knowing what the future holds. This video does give a little reassurance to me. And it feels good that I’m not alone even though I don’t wish this on anyone. Love this ❤
Feel you...
Wow I feel that, exactly same same situation,
@@karaboja7871 Yes, sending love ❤️
@@nessaa1388 Agreed. Sending you much love ❤️
This video just made me feel a lot lighter. Thanks a lot. Anxiety and stress have been really tough and life gets complex sometimes. It just helps breath better to find some light sparks like this one once in a while.
"Let go of all the expectations you have and just live life day by day" I really needed to hear that from someone else
I turned 20 in 2003 and was utterly lost until 29 when I finally found my way. For sure my 20s were a scary time full of uncertainty and no direction. I didn't have many friends and was just extremely unsure of myself. Things were quite different back then, and I can imagine things are even more confusing now with so much negativity in the world, social media and the economic downturn. Keep your chins up, it will work out in the end.
Definitely feel this as a 23 year old. All these thoughts about where I want to take my career, how I need to learn to stand up for myself, and just not really having friends or meeting anyone new, amongst all the other stuff, it gets heavy sometimes. I see people going out and being social and having time for all these different things, and then I wonder where I went wrong, and what are they doing that I'm not. Makes me think my best days are behind me, when I had a good number of friends and was more social. I wonder how I'm ever going to be in a relationship, get married and settle down if I don't get the chance to meet new people.
Hey,great video! Im 30 and i still can relate. I think its so important to take out the pressure an live your life. Your path is forming and forming over time with many new experiences, setbacks, doubts and wins. It is a complete illusion to think, that you have to find your purpose at a specific age. Live the moment, grow on different experiences and your path will form. -sorry for my english
Great video. This gave me some comfort in knowing that other people are in the same headspace as me. If you’re reading this keep pushing.