Men STOP Being EMOTIONAL With WOMEN

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  • Опубликовано: 26 янв 2025

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  • @freddurstedgebono6029
    @freddurstedgebono6029 3 года назад +67

    Everytime I’ve opened up to a woman about my emotions and past struggles (because they opened up to me), it blew up in my face. Every single time. When women now say they want an emotional guy, i know its complete fucking cap

    • @whatsupbudbud
      @whatsupbudbud 3 года назад +1

      Same.

    • @madarasoun3018
      @madarasoun3018 2 года назад +1

      Same

    • @TheFauxmaster
      @TheFauxmaster 2 года назад +1

      It’s because they are grown children at their cores-if that ever happens again accuse them of being adult children- not a woman-

  • @timbuckley69
    @timbuckley69 3 года назад +256

    Being stoic with women is key for successful relationships.

    • @kristiyangrigorov5232
      @kristiyangrigorov5232 3 года назад +5

      How to be stoic? Can you give some example and tips?

    • @georgepalaio3745
      @georgepalaio3745 3 года назад +2

      What is stoic

    • @FreshlyWILD
      @FreshlyWILD 3 года назад +8

      Be oblivious and get cheated on, great advice 👌🏻

    • @devinray1830
      @devinray1830 3 года назад +29

      Stoicism in my view is being aware of your emotions but only choosing to engage with the emotions that benefit you the most.
      Example, your girl tries to shit test you. You know it’s a shit test and either a. Get angry b. Take the bait or c. Confront it. The stoic approach would be to rationally view what it is she is trying to do to you and go from there, rather than getting angry which would not be beneficial. Logic and rationale first, emotion second.

    • @englishthought1360
      @englishthought1360 3 года назад +8

      @@devinray1830 yeah it’s about understanding your emotions and being able to proceed logically through life as a result.
      If you don’t understand your emotions they can lead you while you just pretend to be driven by logic.
      Also focusing your effort on things you have control over and can change.

  • @Battl3Chaser
    @Battl3Chaser 3 года назад +16

    Just buried my baby brother after succumbing to Covid19 (he was 36.) During the funeral my mother, my sisters, sisters in-law, even chicks that were friends of my brother asked if I was ok because I refused to display a sobbing mess of myself; but then proceeded to tell me how this tragedy is so hard on them and “how they have to be brave blah blah blah.”One chick said that it “just hasn’t hit you yet. Here’s my number if you need to talk.”
    Guys no one gives a f*k on how a guy feels unless it affirms something about themselves or something they’re selling. The faster you accept this the faster you can use it to your advantage.

  • @JohnLannholm
    @JohnLannholm 3 года назад +130

    Women are not equipped for dealing with men’s emotions
    It’s the role of men to support their fellow men in being emotionally grounded

    • @meadydoheny
      @meadydoheny 3 года назад

      @@Human_Organic caught myself before slipping into "mother child" role with a very complimentary, sweet ex this evening. I was assaulted by a roommate and moved out and told myself "I'm very susceptible to emoting and seeking comfort from her."

    • @Teedt
      @Teedt 3 года назад

      So are men equipped to handle womens emotions???

    • @marcus3672
      @marcus3672 2 года назад

      In fact you speak wisdom. That is the same conclusion I have made after a lot of thinking.

  • @dh12.
    @dh12. 3 года назад +139

    Woman will use any emotional weaknesses against you when it's all over,
    tell them only what you want them to know and nothing more.
    Be mysterious until the end

    • @danieldeblasio9368
      @danieldeblasio9368 3 года назад +3

      I'M BATMAN!🦇

    • @shadowplayz8182
      @shadowplayz8182 3 года назад +1

      Yeah
      You’re Right About That
      They Will Hammer you Down after the Fairytale It’s Over

    • @rockerrockstar
      @rockerrockstar 3 года назад +1

      Yeah I guess don't give them ammo to use later when relationship ends.

    • @COLOFIDUTI
      @COLOFIDUTI 3 года назад +1

      thats my experience.Tried to open my feelings and sensibilities to a woman, first it was all sunshine and rainbows.Down the road , every oportunity she had to weaponize what i said or turn it to her point, she pulled the trigger.

    • @Teedt
      @Teedt 3 года назад +2

      Is that healthy? Is that the kind of relationship you want to have with the person you are spending most of your time with.

  • @Anonymous25491
    @Anonymous25491 3 года назад +53

    Men , work 50-60 hours a week , then invest in your fitness and eat healthy. Women love a man on his mission , they also love decisive men , tell her what time you are picking her up , what to wear, she will be happy you have the time of day for her. Keep her there and she will love and respect you , any deviance from your purpose , drop it immediately, you only live once.

    • @noinfoherebro
      @noinfoherebro 2 года назад

      Only if she's attracted to you which they only find 5% of men attractive so the odds of this working are slim to none. Even if you're in great shape and make decent money they're still extremely picky.

    • @gundahveritum6871
      @gundahveritum6871 2 года назад

      @@noinfoherebro lol facts moral of the story is just worry about you literally just ignore them and they’ll come running

    • @raquibulzeesun7356
      @raquibulzeesun7356 2 года назад

      Exactly this is what most men don't get. If you priotise a girl more than yourself, no matter who it is, she will have no respect for you

  • @LegendInThaMakin
    @LegendInThaMakin 3 года назад +86

    I’ve always said, you gotta be a wall, she is the ocean. She will be wild some days, calm some days, a storm some days, or smooth some days, that’s her, she can do that, you can not. Every time her waves come crashing at your wall you hold strong at all times. If you weren’t there, she would drown the whole city, you gotta be unmoved, a wall to prevent chaos, to uphold order.
    Be the wall, let her be her emotional ass ocean.

    • @danjonmills
      @danjonmills 3 года назад +10

      Dam.

    • @anonyme7079
      @anonyme7079 3 года назад +2

      That's such an interesting analogy.. how did you come up with it ?

    • @LegendInThaMakin
      @LegendInThaMakin 3 года назад +9

      @@anonyme7079 been “red pilled” for like a decade, learned from Patrice oneal. Studied human psychology, developed my own philosophies in many aspects of life, traveled a lot. Mentored by a lot of much wiser, older men than myself.

    • @anonyme7079
      @anonyme7079 3 года назад +1

      @@LegendInThaMakin okay, thank you so much, I feel like you accurately portrayed the intersexual dynamics of order (men) and mess/chaos (women).

    • @eazydoesit1220
      @eazydoesit1220 3 года назад +1

      This is a nice analogy, it explains why women say I want you to be my rock

  • @christopherrhodes6838
    @christopherrhodes6838 3 года назад +44

    The best part about being a firefighter is being gone for 24 hours and not being able to communicate very much. Creating separation also creates a desire for each other. Great content

  • @charliedallachie3539
    @charliedallachie3539 3 года назад +92

    I have mixed views with this. It’s normal to have emotions as a man, we’re not robots but I guess the point is don’t show excessive weakness too often. If you need to cry for whatever reason I guess wait for doing it in the shower but there’s no reason to be ashamed if you’re emotional that’s just who you are. Most men will cry if they lose a family member or someone close to them etc. crying actually speeds up healing and vents whatever pent up stuff you’re carrying, but do it in private. If you’re more emotional than her that’s a bad thing..she’s looking for a stable strong rock of a man basically.

    • @oWMatt
      @oWMatt 3 года назад +15

      I agree with you on this one. Sharing your emotion (at the right time) with your loved one is important. Holding your emotions inside of you because you think it makes you weak as a men is usually a bad idea. Being emotional unavailable as a men ends a lot of relationships.

    • @harvestingseason2725
      @harvestingseason2725 3 года назад

      Thats exactly what they are referring to. Your emotions when it comes to women

    • @mellamell7441
      @mellamell7441 3 года назад +13

      Yeah - don’t listen to these men. Be healthy, find a woman with whom you can be yourself.

    • @JohnLannholm
      @JohnLannholm 3 года назад +7

      I’m totally fine with crying in front of fellow men that I trust. I expect those men to either validate (“Yeah man, that does suck”) or to set me straight
      Crying in front of women seems so much riskier. In a woman’s eyes, a crying man may be emotionally unstable and dangerous OR immature and childish
      I don’t see positive things result when grown men cry to grown women

    • @richardw3347
      @richardw3347 3 года назад +3

      Good post, being too stoic all the time implies fear where u can never be vulnerable or yourself and that is where content like this can be seen as lil toxic, although this video was pretty on point. u can be emotional at times just not all the time or excessive. u have to be the rock more often than not but not to feel or be scared u can`t show any emotion is just false bravado and an act b/c we are not robots.

  • @NaomisDream
    @NaomisDream 3 года назад +15

    4:20 Exactly, not every day is perfect. Communicating that is important 🗣 great conversation 🙏🏼

  • @vitocorleone1462
    @vitocorleone1462 3 года назад +6

    My girl mentioned she wanted to post a lingerie pic on ig (totally out of her character barely posts selfies). I said absolutely not, I was very firm and very serious, no emotion, little words because I knew I was right. She got upset but the next day asked me to say in sex “tell me you’re the only one who can see me naked because I’m yours”. Be firm but fair gentlemen

  • @davidjohnson787
    @davidjohnson787 2 года назад +5

    A man getting emotional in a relationship is the equivalent of telling your woman, “We’re broke” or “I got fired”. Her sense of security is going to be on high alert and she’s going to get anxious. You are the biological safe room in the relationship. Not just physically but emotionally want to be made of bricks not sticks.
    Great vid guys.

  • @Eros13adios
    @Eros13adios 3 года назад +6

    In my clueless days,I too felt for that mind trick--"I'm looking for my Best Friend and Lover", which I subconsciously gave in to her,I opened myself deep and had deep talks that it slowly put me in her friend zone without myself realizing it after it all had passed some time later, because she assumed that she already figured me out of all my vulnerabilities,secrets, deep thoughts, etc. that she doesn't see you anymore mysterious nor intriguing like a possible mating partner ,but will see you like a Bestie (BFF) that needs to be heard--so everything went wrong.Don't fully open up until, you already got to smash couple times already.If you put way too much effort into her, then she will feel like she don't need to do more for you or sometimes you could talk her out without realizing the big subconscious mistake.

  • @mysterio1570
    @mysterio1570 2 года назад +2

    I had a female friend state to me a couple of months ago, that she thinks I am a mystery, because I don't open up to her as much. That made me happy.

  • @1stMarDiv4341
    @1stMarDiv4341 3 года назад +16

    Former Marine, combat vet and lots of life experience. This advice completely goes against all the success I’ve had with women who appreciate emotional reciprocity/intelligence. I’m a human, I have feelings.
    You do you, though.

    • @ShellyBomb
      @ShellyBomb 3 года назад +3

      I love and appreciate your candor - especially from a (former) Marine --- you are spot on and a gentleman! 💞

    • @user-dj4fd5vc6c
      @user-dj4fd5vc6c 3 года назад +4

      Absolutely. There’s something to be said about balance and keeping yourself in check but keeping it real has never done me anything but good in relationships that mattered. It’s actually what set me apart. Heartlessness isn’t a virtue.

    • @whatsupbudbud
      @whatsupbudbud 3 года назад

      @@user-dj4fd5vc6c As a man who's been real for all my life (31 y.o.), I don't think that the video authors meant that one has to be heartless. While, ideally, a woman would appreciate the candor and emotional honesty, this could only be reasonably expected from an emotionally secure woman whereas a woman with a lack of secure role models in her childhood will not be able to respond healthy to a man being honest in this capacity. I've experienced in multiple relationships, so can attest to that.
      Perhaps, in the case of these insecure women, emotional honesty from a man should come much later in the relationship when the woman has 'tried and tested' that she can depend on the man for her needs as, in her mind, if the man cannot support himself with all his insecurities, how can she depend on him? Pure conjecture, of course, and probably not applicable to relationships with secure women but, alas, I have met only a couple in my life and I managed to not get any further with them due to my own faults.

  • @lucianogatica9510
    @lucianogatica9510 3 года назад +44

    I was soft with my last GF..Learned from it moving on..If it didn't happen I wouldn't had learned anything about holding my frame

    • @gaulicwarlord
      @gaulicwarlord 3 года назад +3

      Same dude, let's count ourselves lucky for having learned this as early as we did.

  • @mav8243
    @mav8243 3 года назад +24

    My ex loved it when i was an emotional rock, she always insisted that I open up to Her because that way she could feel more attached to me.
    Damn the day I did it ..
    I wish I had discovered these videos sooner

  • @NikoDiver
    @NikoDiver 3 года назад +2

    Rich, your book is great. One thing with i was fight, was inner fear and emotions from childhood. Best book for me to break down fear was Ant Middleton "The Fear Bubble" harness fear and live without limits. That help me to handle fear and emotions. Now like sledgehammer at the shoulder mentality.

  • @MrTimjm009
    @MrTimjm009 3 года назад +4

    Ive never been one for the small talk ,as Rich says, either . Being a social butterfly or just talking for the sake of talking . Things like what did you do today or ( even worse ) what did you eat today ???
    If I have something that is relevant or worth talking about then I say it or else I shut up and listen
    What I often noticed amongst some women is where they seen anxious and start saying thigs like " You are not talking " or Talk to me , why are you quiet ? etc . That irritates me no end

  • @kellireames9410
    @kellireames9410 3 года назад +5

    From a personal perspective from a woman, I value communication. If someone isn’t willing to be honest and trust that I have there back till death do us part then that means communication needs to be worked on. Relationships take two and if one isn’t willing to work on it then it’s going to fall apart.

  • @mgleduardo
    @mgleduardo 3 года назад +7

    Something similar happen to me, i had a date with a woman, but was a sex date, we should meet and then go together to a hotel.
    So, one hour before the time that we according see each other, she writeme and tellme that she wants something serious, and says "Please don't break my heart" , i tell her that i don't look for a realtionship, and she replays that we won't have sex because that. I just replay "OK" .
    Half hour later she writme again, she wanted had sex anyway. She is my friend with benefits since then.

  • @louididdy
    @louididdy 3 года назад +5

    5:16 - Someone farted

  • @Petteriks
    @Petteriks 3 года назад +30

    I know for a fact there are loving women out there. Not so many but not 100% are doing the hypergamy thing. I find it demeaning settling for just sex.

    • @LordVader.66
      @LordVader.66 3 года назад

      Just wait bud. You can never rest on your heels.

    • @deepanshusingh3059
      @deepanshusingh3059 3 года назад

      Your DP says it all.

    • @Petteriks
      @Petteriks 3 года назад

      @@deepanshusingh3059 GL with that attitude in life

    • @billgreene3410
      @billgreene3410 3 года назад +9

      You are correct brother. Don't settle for just sex. Many of the things these guys say is good, but a man does need a deep connection with a GOOD woman. If you are so damn selfish that you only care about is yourself, you're in for an empty life.

    • @moff_unplugged
      @moff_unplugged 3 года назад +2

      You don’t understand hypergamy.

  • @BaljinderSingh-xy4ik
    @BaljinderSingh-xy4ik 3 года назад +1

    True being emotional with woman, makes men most vulnerable..

  • @josphatmuiruri3271
    @josphatmuiruri3271 3 года назад +5

    What Chad Obsrne is talking about is called masculinity....Do not allow women to manipulate you emotionally, like so when she is happy you are happy ,when she is sad you r sad too,....Maintain frame,.Another thing most guys do is when a woman is throwing tantrums or when she is loosing interest is trying hard,buying her flowers or take her out to expensive restaurant hoping she is going to eventually see how of an amazing guy you are

  • @NastyManifesto
    @NastyManifesto 3 года назад +1

    Just downloaded The Unplugged Alpha audiobook. Genuine shit going on here. Blessings.

  • @MiguelMartinez-zp6rn
    @MiguelMartinez-zp6rn 3 года назад +2

    Thanks for your continued work Rich, in a world where everyone gives you unicorns and butterflies your real word topics keep me out of the fog , love listening your stuff during a workout

  • @seangaw6429
    @seangaw6429 3 года назад +7

    So my question to Derek how 🤔 many CHADS rejected her before she came back to you? If she leaves I say back to the streets she shall return.

  • @ceo5264
    @ceo5264 3 года назад +2

    ”You gotta know who you are before..” well, this will make many men insecure thinking they never good enough

  • @tnhalo66
    @tnhalo66 3 года назад +3

    It sounds to me that Derek waited to communicate that he wasn’t looking for anything serious until she sat him down and had the talk. But he failed to say that he told her that early on which leads me to believe he lead her on without the communication until she asked about it.

  • @JohnCunningham-sy5ug
    @JohnCunningham-sy5ug 2 года назад +1

    Be kind act like you are into them. Remember it's a poker game. Keep your cards hidden.
    Don't share your past with them other than being respectful about your past. Focus on your future ambition's.

  • @bigtimenative4057
    @bigtimenative4057 3 года назад +3

    So your waiting 2 hours for a drunken booty call? That's your first mistake guy lol

  • @northsouth8884
    @northsouth8884 3 года назад +9

    What is the point of holding all this frame if you never procreate? Child support sucks but at some time you have to make the leap if you want a legacy

    • @mrmrsh8tr
      @mrmrsh8tr 3 года назад +1

      I’ve wondered this too. Think about it, there’s so much that encompasses the idea of “alpha” but if you don’t procreate, you’re not truly “alpha”

    • @kennygo8423
      @kennygo8423 3 года назад

      The key is to find a woman whom she follows your lead (for procreation) but remaining to hold your masculine frame.

    • @whatsupbudbud
      @whatsupbudbud 3 года назад +1

      Your legacy can be whatever, not just kids. Kids are actually quite different than their parents anyway.

  • @bhanujchaudhary6969
    @bhanujchaudhary6969 3 года назад +3

    Derek’s Profile pic is dope

  • @JackDullBoy5
    @JackDullBoy5 3 года назад +7

    Not really into this “blue pill” “red pill” mindset it’s picking and choosing the ones from each that suit who YOU are and not trying to be something your not is more important. I think both of you having your own time by yourself to do the things you want to be it hobbies, socialising or just you time on your own with a beer and a film is an important part, making sure you don’t loose who you are and being true to who you are……
    Communication is also key, both knowing where you are in a relationship and being able to talk freely about anything that’s on your mind breeds trust respect and healthy relationships habits. Lack of these things are instant red flags!…….
    But probably the most important part of all is learning from your mistakes, the more you learn the stronger you’ll be both on your own or in future relationships, knowing what you want and making very definite lines in the sand to what you don’t, and if those lines do get crossed having the discipline and self respect to walk away and the confidence to start again….. or not start again!, sometimes being single is under rated. But it’s what feels right at the time that matters most.
    If we taught the younger generations of both sexes this from an early age I believe in 2 generations time they wouldn’t even be interested in having these discussions on you tube seeing both sexes pitting themselves against each other and causing divide! And all because they’d learned healthy positive habits. I totally agree with some of the points but not them all,
    The liberal purple pill! 🤷🏻‍♂️😂

  • @Gadrin_
    @Gadrin_ 3 года назад +1

    Watched this one a few times, thanks for the knowledge 👌

  • @The160879
    @The160879 2 года назад

    Legends just absolute legends

  • @melvinhenderson3465
    @melvinhenderson3465 3 года назад +1

    2/3 rule?

  • @JuanAlvarado-lx3kl
    @JuanAlvarado-lx3kl 3 года назад +3

    This isn’t a problem with the homies 🙏🏽

  • @Teedt
    @Teedt 3 года назад

    If you cant share emotions then there is no point having a relationship with them. I doubt that is the case though but if it is then pump and dump only

  • @Skywalker-pd2qy
    @Skywalker-pd2qy 3 года назад

    Been reading your book, awesome...

  • @michaelwilson7204
    @michaelwilson7204 3 года назад

    Where do you chat to become part of the community?

  • @FireBirdA23
    @FireBirdA23 3 года назад +3

    You maintain frame by maintaining frame 🖼

  • @khalidalmatar
    @khalidalmatar 3 месяца назад

    i just dont get why would you leave the door open for the thief to come back whenever they like. its not worth it & i tried it 100+ times till i understood why you block her ass once your bored of her forehead.

  • @dovdrums
    @dovdrums 3 года назад +2

    Will the backwards baseball cap never die?!

  • @caucasianafrican1435
    @caucasianafrican1435 11 месяцев назад

    Preach

  • @Minidopminidopminidop3311
    @Minidopminidopminidop3311 2 года назад +1

    men cannot stop being emotional because they touch us with soft skin, and smell like woman in the house, also they watch at us with beautiful sweet eyes, and talk with a tender voice, basicly everything they do exploits our emotional, men dont live good without this things, and even worse when they have and then lose them

  • @bobiadan
    @bobiadan 3 года назад +1

    I am amazed only 40k people are watching this!

  • @barnetthejosh
    @barnetthejosh 3 года назад +1

    Sorry, but what the fuck is the point of being in a relationship if you can’t show emotion ?

  • @TheFauxmaster
    @TheFauxmaster 2 года назад

    This is all probably true and incredibly demoralizing- not even worth the ongoing projection of frame- no upside for LTRs

  • @ceo5264
    @ceo5264 3 года назад +1

    Thing about setting bounderies.. Women will respect you and come crawling back, problem is, they will cheat on you during this period if youre seperated during argument so wohoo! You win 🥇 or not 😬😮

  • @kushkidish
    @kushkidish 3 года назад +3

    Mhmm I dont agree. You need to check women at all times. Dont and she will cheat on you.

  • @october5238
    @october5238 3 года назад +3

    Quit scamming ppl

  • @qwertyasdfg1261
    @qwertyasdfg1261 3 года назад +2

    amen

  • @AnonymousAccount514
    @AnonymousAccount514 3 года назад +3

    drunken bootie call?...ill be there in 2 hours?....hes lying...a drunken bootie call doesnt wait 2 hours

    • @TheIcoolable
      @TheIcoolable 3 года назад

      Maybe she was at the club I thought that was odd also though

  • @hrxmrxi
    @hrxmrxi 3 года назад +1

    Funny guys in 40's talking about women like they are in the college. LOL

  • @davejoe75
    @davejoe75 3 года назад

    This guy is only half right...they want a fairy tale for sure...yes! Being emotionally intelligent, strong and ARTICULATE is what they want. True leaders' minds must be nimble and broad. That's next level shit!

  • @290revolver290
    @290revolver290 3 года назад +3

    The Irishman 🤝

  • @christiandeleon1170
    @christiandeleon1170 3 года назад +1

    Legendary

  • @robertmendick3195
    @robertmendick3195 3 года назад +2

    Be aloof or you're a goof

  • @AFoote88
    @AFoote88 3 года назад

    5:18...😲

  • @alexgere529
    @alexgere529 3 года назад +2

    what a BS, stop complaining about women, if you can not find your soulmate its just your own fault

  • @DragonOrbMusic
    @DragonOrbMusic 3 года назад

    The world runs on goods and services including the home

  • @someguy.9380
    @someguy.9380 3 года назад

    Your the man !

    • @AnyluckProduction
      @AnyluckProduction 3 года назад

      @Jesus loves a Shovelhead its you again, watching every single clip and commenting he’s a clown 🤣

    • @AnyluckProduction
      @AnyluckProduction 3 года назад

      @Jesus loves a Shovelhead go watch something you actually enjoy, read some books drive a bicycle, stop hating

    • @harvestingseason2725
      @harvestingseason2725 3 года назад

      @Jesus loves a Shovelhead could you please elaborate and stop being immature? I'm asking genuinely

    • @harvestingseason2725
      @harvestingseason2725 3 года назад

      @Jesus loves a Shovelhead 👈just ignore this one guys. Don't waste your time with him, he is clearly a troll

  • @PKP1
    @PKP1 3 года назад

    Emotional contagion

  • @awilliams6861
    @awilliams6861 3 года назад +1

    Be bummers instead lol

  • @jackrock1313
    @jackrock1313 3 года назад

    👍👍💯💯

  • @badtiming6313
    @badtiming6313 3 года назад +4

    Child does something
    Mum angry
    Child stops doing that something
    Mum happy
    BUT
    ... they are NOT our mums

  • @9latinumStudioz
    @9latinumStudioz 3 года назад

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