"I Want My Gender Back.." - TEEN DE-TRANSITIONERS
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- Опубликовано: 11 июл 2024
- Discussing teen de-transitioners and the reality of transition.
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The last time I was this early I was a man
The last time I was this early my gf cheated on me with a colored man.
Such a cutie :3
Hi Blaire! Love you❤
The last time I was this early Obama just became president
@Blaire White This is why we love you, Blaire. :D
When i was a kid, girls that acted like boys were called "tom boys" not trans.
This should be pinned.
Very true! I am very tomboy myself! I really wonder if the term “tomboy” is part of the lgbtq?
TheLoNeOwlGrl12 i wouldn’t be surprised
Lmao I'm happy to see this comment. Most people are forgetting that us tomboys still exist 😂 But foreal, its up to them of how they want their bodies to be like. Trans or not trans whatever it is, good for you. Treat yourself kindly.
Exactly
Detransitioner here, I lost almost all of my friends the moment I went back to my birth gender. I was outcast from my school's GSA (gay straight alliance) and sort of shunned. Weirdly enough, my suicidal tendencies stopped when I gave up trying to change myself. Unfortunately, I do have body hair in unwelcome places because I wanted to grow facial hair when I was trans (FTM) and I have to work twice as hard to keep it at bay than the average woman my age. Transitioning isn't a trend, but when you popularize it, sell badges and pins and commercialize it, promote people into fame (no shade Blaire, you earned that fame by talking real fax) for being trans, what else will a 12 year old do but emulate what they see around them?
I'm just sick of cis people trying to change laws that don't even affect them. Just because some people detransition doesn't mean that their aren't real trans kids out there that some people are trying to kill. Let's be real, if the mandatory age for medical transition is made higher its gonna do more harm than good and the suicide levels are gonna shoot right up.
@@Teemo147 Then what's your solution to avoid this phenomenon? nobody's saying trans kids aren't real but they should at least make the whole procedure more challenging in a way where they'd have to go through professionals who will be able to make sure said person is aware and qualified for a transition. And honestly reacting with "I'm sick of cis people" doesn't welcome a conversation. Refusing to discuss these matters and very valid concerns won't bring anyone on your side. Tiny proof of that is Blaire's comments where everyone says they're learning and more open and supportive of trans issues as opposed to people who just impose their views by calling anyone and everyone transphobic or a bigot if they disagree.
@@elisaidir2837 The only time I care about transphobes and react to them is when they’re trying to harm my community and friends. Cis people obviously don’t know (and will never know) what we go through everyday - ESPECIALLY when we’re pre-transition. I don’t mean to call all cis people transphobes as I was gratefully accepted by my cis family members for being trans, but detransitioners have no right changing our laws since they’re not trans and claiming that the age requirement should be at least 18 or up is unreasonable and extremely detrimental to the mental health of trans teens.
If it's a gay straight alliance it doesn't make sense to get kicked out of the alliance for detransitioning. What does being trans have to do with being gay or straight.
@@Teemo147 the use of cis in this context seems narrow minded. You do realize that those cis people have degrees and years of experience in law making. Being non cis would give great insight but I'd rather have an expert or knowledgeable person than some random LGBTplus person tweaking the laws of the land. Changing laws and adding new laws can be a very complicated process.
Just wanted to share my story . . . when i was 13-14 years old, i actually thought that i was a Transgender Woman but thankfully when i turned 15-16 i learn that i didn't want to be a woman, I just want my Gender Expression to be feminine and in 2018 i finally came out as Gay . . . So yeah i agree 💯 with Blair that people shouldn't be Transitioning at a very young age
I am a guy and i want to be a woman, not because i identify as one, but because i want all the benefits that woman have over men.
I hope you open your heart to Jesus
thats not everyone though when I was 13-14 I was a trans guy and no one took me seriously, now I am 19 and on testorone 👍
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@Dolls on a shelf Oh yes, the privilege of not getting conscripted into a war and die. Multiple orgasms, not going through life lonely and be labeled an incel loser. Getting stuff for free for being a woman. No manual labor. You are the type of person who think men are all tall white guy CEOs in suits living like a millionair with no issues
Totally did not see this coming.
Minors:
Not allowed to drink.
Not allowed to vote.
Not allowed to make serious purchases.
Cannot take out a loan.
...
But letting them take hormones that interferes with biological development is totaly fine.
This happens when adult over analyse kids games and self discovery. They push their nerrative and ideals Into a kid..
Unless we can prove beyond reasonable doubt that they have female brains, better not. Just like people with bipolar or schizo, unless you bring me your medical file I'm not gonna buy into your story. People lie so fkn much I'm tired of having to play their game
@@silverhawkroman There actually is neurological evidence of people being transgender, but unfortunately the medical field doesn't seem to have a good way of testing if a person is trans. So I could see child transitions making sense some day, but definitely not now when it's based off of "feelings".
Better not use this argument cause they might try to make all the above legal just to push the last one.
Yea idk about taking t, like if you feel like you have gender dysphoria, wait till you can make the decision as an adult
I don’t understand why the statement of “kids aren’t old enough to transition” is controversial or seen as transphobic
To doubt their experience is the issue they focus on.
@3:36 - I'm not sure if you were being sarcastic or not, but if you're at the age you can enlist in the military and take a bullet for your country, then you are old enough to decide on transitioning.
I know right? Regressives always say not to sexualize people and to not emotionally abuse kids and whatnot, yet here they are pretty much sexualizing kids by acting like kids can even remotely understand something as complex both bodily and sexually as being transgender
Pryzmatiq they’re not even old enough to drink or smoke in most states...
@3:36 Quite sure an adult is 18 but ok
Why is this even a controversial topic? I'm 40 now, I got a few tattoos when I was a teenager and I seriously regret it now.
Point is, making an irreversible decision when you're young isn't always a good idea.
It's never a good idea. Imo
Puberty is also irreversible.
I am a 68 year old woman. I have always been a woman and never thought I was male. I did however, enter masculine employment. I retired after 30 years as a jet engine mechanic. I concurrently was an army reservist and was a watercraft operator which means I was a deckhand on a landing craft. These are masculine jobs. And these jobs placed me together with men in a man’s world. There was little room for displaying feminine traits. This made me tuff and never bullyed but I was always a woman.
I'm glad my emo phase didnt have permanent effects.
The scars are enough for me.
Same
Lucky you. My wannabe tony hawk phase really screwed my left ankle.
Only ugly pictures haha
Rawr 😅
This is why it's so dangerous when people say things like, "You don't have to have gender disphoria to be trans."
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Pandora Stölen can’t even look in the mirror sometimes without picking it out, sadly we live in trendy times & these kids are allowed to do w/e which in terms hurts trans in the long run.
Right because you dont since they are SEPARATE THINGS. are all sad people now suffering from clinical depression? No. So stop spewing garbage
Mario mario yes and not all sad people are claiming to have depression. Those that claim to have depression while being just sad occasionally are what non dysphorics are
I honestly think a lot of these detransitioners have a case of body dysmorphia that gets confused as gender dysphoria.
I’m so glad you brought this up! Thank you for sharing. I was sexually abused frequently growing up as a child so I started “dressing like a boy” to feel safe. I felt horrified when I started developing breasts because it felt unsafe and it brought even more attention to my body. I used to have thoughts of cutting my breasts off. I hated becoming a woman and I was too young to understand that it was because of past trauma and current oppression. At the same time, I also tended to display what our culture calls “masculine” traits: I was loud about my opinions and wasn’t afraid to laugh boisterously. I was very involved in sports. I hated makeup. I LOVED science and creating websites, both stereotypically considered “male” interests. I refused to shave my legs or underarms. People often commented that I was masculine and like a boy, which made me question whether I really was supposed to be a boy. I also got comments that I would be “prettier” if only I wore different clothes or wore makeup or lost weight. I hated that, as a girl, everything seemed to revolve around my outward appearance. I felt strongly that I didn’t fit our society’s definition of a woman. I guess, luckily for me (?), I didn’t have a good enough relationship with my parents to talk to them about this issue, so nothing was ever done about it. By the time I was 24, I grew confident in myself and embraced who I am, rejecting stereotypes. Who I am doesn’t make me any less of a woman. I agree that it’s best to wait to transition until old enough to sort through our emotions/experiences and the messages society gives us. Men and women can’t be put in boxes. We are all individuals and it’s hard for kids to understand that and stand against peer pressure.
I went through everything you did. And so thankful I didn't get rid of the breasts I really didn't think I wanted. I still don't like having breasts because they are always in my way and I haven't slept on my stomach since they appeared. But I would never want to be a man now. I agree kids need to be 21 or older to get any operation that is not medically needed.
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I wanted to be genderfluid/trans as a 8yo. Thankfully my parents understood it was a phase and it just went away as I got older and understood what gender even is.
"Kids that feel distressed in their own body" - yeah like literally everyone who enters puberty duh
IKR? It's literally in the definition of "adolescence". I felt it too. Wasn't because I was gay (which I am) or because I was trans (which I'm not) or because I had gender dysphoria (which I didn't). IT'S CALLED BEING A TEENAGER. Literally every teenager experiences it, some worse than others. Show me a 15 year old that *loves* his/her own body and has 0 insecurities about him/herself and doesn't act out because of them.
I'm 26 and I still feel distressed about my body
I love being a girl and have never thought about being a boy, I just have body image issues
id say its even a little harder now due to social media and tweens really not having that "awkward" stage bc they see people within their age look a certain way then follow pursuit
@@Catlady5385 they're not talking about people who actually have dysphoria and were distressed in their body. they literally mean kids who JUST feel distressed in their body but don't have any of the other major factors that play into the necessity to transition. yes if they really do have those major factors then puberty blockers are way better than starting hormones so young. but it is not without just cause to put yourself through extensive therapy before actually transitioning, because so many of those who are detransitioning barely had counseling first.
@@ihatemickiegee except they are talking about gender dysphoria since that is when it is recommended to do anything dumabss
Gee, it's almost like emotionally unstable children don't know what's best for them or something.
Thank you king Edward
King Edward "Longshanks" I, Hammer of the Scots, Lord of Wales and King of England I know right! Who would’ve thunk it🤷🏻♀️😂
Imagine that! Lol
Yet these idiots want kids to choose for themselves what they want.
I don't want to imagine what I would have done to myself at that age if transitioning was as available as it is now. I was exactly the type of kid who would do this.
What’s sad is my sister’s friend... her son was talking about liking girls but feeling pressured to also be with the same sex as it’s applauded and trendy in school... he’s in the 8th grade 🤢 like kids are being pressured into sexuality but also experimentation at such a young age without proper support, knowledge, or life experience... what mainstream media and Hollywood... societal pressures are so damaging
Well then that kid's a moron because he should have the common sense to know that sexuality isn't a choice. Also when did it start to become trendy to be called "fagg" in the hall and for people to throw stones at you? Social pressures? You mean like how if I like anything other than girls then my peers would always look upon me with such distaste that they actually consider ending my life? Nice chatting with you.
@@sirscribble6808 ummm that’s not a trend to mean but it’s a trend to be different and what does it say about you to be calling children morons... children aren’t adults they don’t know any better all they see is people being applauded and given attention for being sexually fluid. Our media demonizes being straight anymore. Sorry but that’s facts
@@user-dv6wm5gb1n The kids in 8th grade, meaning he should be smart enough to know that sexuality isn't a choice. And ma'am I'm 15 years old and pretty sure I know exactly what I am. And again, it's not a trend to be called a rude names in the hall. Also, explain how straight people are demonized in the media? Because straight people are accurately represented in almost every book, movie, and show.
@@sirscribble6808 straight white male ... Desmond is amazing, drag queens reading to kindergarteners, the movie cuties ... research those topics and come back to me
@@sirscribble6808 also your sexual experiences aren’t relevant to others and you do no favors calling people stupid just saying
I'm glad you're providing the platform for a narrative that isn't necessarily broadcast anywhere else. You do it in an informative way and not a judging way. Thank you for doing this!
"We can have feminine and masculine traits wrapped up in one person with out being trans or non-binary" someone send this to trisha paytas...
Someone send this to everyone😭
She's a very mixed up lady, bless her.
Amen
Like this needs to send out to every person.
And Danielle Muscato and Alex Drummond and Philip/Pippa Bunce and Alok Vaid-Menon and Eddie Izzard and Sam Smith...
Gender identity is much more serious than thinking “oh I like short hair I must be a boy”
Merry Chrysler or “i like boy clothes or traditionally boy stuff so i must be a boy”
Lmao often times they're just a Tom boy or a lesbian
I used to have super long hair, i cut it recently, and people thought i was tryibg to transition...and i always have had a feminine side, but i have always considered myself a straight man, i just use alotta feminine shampoos and am also into fashion, and other more feminine things...i know who i am, i am a man, i fight motherfuckers, i start fires and love the mud...but i also like looking fine as fuck
Funny though. My sister is really a feminine female. Yet due to me she really loves SciFi. Goes to comic con with me. We went the very first time it was held in my country together. She geeks out on star trek, star wars and anything in between like Transformers. And not your average fem stuff nope, she knows every character and the storylines. On the other side she used to work in a club and as a cloth salesgirl. Most awkward combo. All her friends would weird out if they had known what she had as a side hobby. But that is just it. Everyone is unique. People can like stuff without having to cut off their balls or grow a beard...
@@dgray3771 you'd be surprised how many feminine females are into super hero and nerd stuff
I relate so much to your story of being trans and how you came to realize it, and it makes me so upset that people are trivializing that experience. Like, I don't even relate to them, and it makes me feel very alone as a trans person because my views would get angry mobs after me if I were public about them.
It really sucks, but it makes me really glad people like you are out there, because I feel slightly less alienated.
The fact that trans activists are pissed that ppl like me are SCARED SHITLESS about this phenomenon & think we should limit these kind of circumstances AT👏🏻ALL👏🏻COSTS👏🏻and call us transphobic is just... SICK.
I'm not even from/living in the US and this is so scary for me. When I think how mentally unstable I was as a teen. If this was available back then, I would have hurt myself so badly
This is why *children* should not transition.
I know that some people have the mentality of people shouldn't be transition period and that they should simply learn to accept themselves as they are,but as for myself I have the mentality of once you reach the age of being legally adult then you can do whatever the hell you want with your body and whatever kind of regrets that might come along with doing that is on you.I am also thankful for the fact that there are people such as Blaire White that have taken the effort to think long and hard before making such a decision and that her in case it did not end with regret.
@@danae99999 Don't get me wrong I do feel as if certian people need it more than others however I also think there are alot of doctors who push the diagnosis of gender dysphoria onto to people and recomend that they take hormones and get surgery regardless of whether or not it would actaully do them any good.
Emmy Marlene 200th like
Should wait until theyre at least 16 and felt like they are trans for more than a few years
@@danae99999 gender dysphoria doesn't always link to being trans. So I'd disagree
Been a female for 19 years, been a tomboy for 19 years. Doesn't make me trans
Yeah see ur just a lesbian.
-- unless she specifically mentioned her sexuality, how is she a lesbian again?
tomboys are a lot tougher than girls. nothing wrong with being a tomboy.
@@---tw6qk UMMM TOMBOYS ARE NOT LESBIANS
@Emperor Pepe Flavius Memus MASCULINE FEMALE HUH, THERE IS NO SUCH THING
These videos are so important. Thank you for your honesty.
I've never told anyone on the internet or in person or any other way. Thank you for this video. You can help so many lives. Here goes, in elementary and middle school I put on my mom's teddys and blew up balloons where the boobs went. As an adult I know I'm a dude but being gay I felt it was the only way I could be with a guy I liked I knew was gay. He wasn't interested in me and married a chick eventually so he might have been bi. Your story resonated there with me. Its important kids grow up before hormones and surgery. I could've asked to transition when I was 9 or 10 and regretted it. Who knows how I would've felt after my development? I just know I'm glad I never said anything at that age. I also want to thank you for what you do by voicing your truth and not hiding who you are. Please keep it up!
Respectfully,
Ryan-Patrick Nelson
Allowing a child to express themselves in the opposite gender is fine. Expensive and dangerous surgeries... no.
Trans kids cannot legally get surgery!
iKitsun yeah I agree, I’m a trans guy and I’m only 15 I’m still 100% in the closest and it’s rough but I know I need to wait. I know I can’t get surgery and take t until I’m older and I want to actually be safe and certain. I really do believe I am a guy but I know that transition is pretty god dang permanent so imma wait. And yes I do experience major chest dysphoria and voice dysphoria, and recently my hips have really been making me angry. Lol sorry for the rant
@@yeetmetodamoon0457 might want to learn proper english first tho 😅
Lyza Lawal What countries?
YeetMeToDaMoon 04 Hey I'm trans also! I came out when i was your age and i'm now 19 years old and after therapist visits for years; i asked to start T and they let me! Just a heads up for when you start; hella expensive!! Especially when you don't have insurance! But stick in there, wait until you're older, and i can tell you that suffering with the dysphoria issues for a bit longer will pay off. I'm glad i waited to see any doctors honestly (: but stay strong and keep your head up
THIS. IS. WHY. KIDS. SHOULDNT. TRANSITION. THAT. YOUNG.👏
Edit: Just to be clear, I mean transitioning medically, with hormones, ect. You can start your transition with out causing irreversible effects to your body. And I am all for that too if you are old enough to consciously make that choice. Probably at least around 16 in my personal opinion but I'm sure its situational. ANYWAY MY POINT IS 12 IS TOO YOUNG TO TRANSITION THAT WAY IMO.
Except they dont unless a doctor says it's ok dipshit
@@user-tp1cu3xi2b except kids DONT TRANSITION you idiot. At most they are given puberty blockers and wait until they are older. A doctor is supervising everything and there is a process. Go and educate yourself
Logan Quattrone EXACTLY! It should be common sense that they shouldn't transition when they don't have the mental capacity to make that decision.
Sbeveツ they’ll do whatever if they get paid **
Mario mario Yes, you idiot, and those hormones can cause irreversible puberty blockage. Meaning: PERMANENT DAMAGE.
It seems like a lot of girls who are on the ASD spectrum don’t feel particularly ‘gendered’ in the end, one way or the other.
I thought i was a boy when i was 10 because I was so freaking hairy girl and i never was interested in boys , but now I'm soo thankful that i didn't make any stupid decision back then , now I'm happily married and i love being a woman 🥰💖
*Whatever happened to being a tomboy or a feminine guy?*
Big mood
I think that's the reason there seems to be more transwomen than trans men. Feminine men are faaar more stigmatized than masculine women.
@@lilmeow531 I genuinely don't know if this is true, but my doubt is coming from personal experiences only so there's no guarantee of accuracy.
@@lilmeow531 in fact, there are more girls transitioning.
@@hithere8140 No, it means Beauvoir and second wave feminist were right when they started to talk about how awful is the construction of gender for females.
It’s weird cause I cannot picture her as a man. Like even seeing her as a kid kinda trips me out lol
Cute kid, though.
My brain fried out for a second and I went, "wait Blaire wanted to be a boy when she was little?"Like. Complete brain meltdown for a full 30 seconds
Who?
you're easily fooled. He still is a man! Only still pretending... may take another 20 years to wake him up...
Sproutabout quit fooling yourself. You know damn well there’s nothing manly about Blaire. I’m literally laughing out loud that you could even possibly think that. You have to be joking.
Having watched some of your older videos compared to your now videos, is a very stark difference how you express yourself.
You appear to be more confident.
Oh, and drop dead gorgeous!!
When I was a teenager I thought I was a lesbian. Never been with a boy or a girl. Now I’m almost 30, engaged with 2 little boys. Turns out, growing up with 13 brothers and being the only girl probably had a big influence on that thought. These kids are transitioning way too young before they even really know about life. You can’t leave it up to children to make life altering decisions.
This is what happens when people treat gender like a fashion statement.
Justin Tucker 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
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This is why I personally don’t think *children* should be able to transition.
Its child abuse 🙃👌
I don't think most people should be able to transition. Surgery and adrenaline addiction are a very dangerous thing as is changing organs around that are existent on your body. But that is why there is therapy. Dysphoria is a mental illness it needs to be addressed before surgery is looked into. If surgery is only known therapy that works than their dysphoria is in the psychosis realm. Psychosis doesn't mean stupid or bad it just means reality doesn't line up. Not all with psychosis are delusional. Doesn't matter what your chromosomes are or what binary you are your organs are the only ones you get and unless they are failing there is no reason. Dysphoria doesn't just go away and they will always feel as if I'm wrong body but atleast they are not in the surgery addiction and surgery psychosis realm. Large surgeries require pre and post op mental therapy that some people do not get. Some post op therapy can be years long.
Skull Zone It doesn’t make me feel anyway.... I said children, at the age of 14 you’re just starting out as a teen... I said children.
pied Piper Stephan Interesting point, I’ve never thought of it that way.
@@no-rx6ft Social transition isn't child abuse. Giving hormones to a kid is yes. Medical transition 17 should happen.
You are so right! My daughter is in middle school and right now being trans, gay and lesbian is popular. It makes me so sad because the LGBTQ community has fought so hard to be out and accepted and kids are not taking it seriously. They think it’s a fad to be LGBTQ
Realizing that I *could* transition made a huge difference for me. I couldn't picture a future as a woman, wife, mother, none of it. It's not me and I was extremely suicidal because I didn't want to have to live through the rest of my life that way. When I found out (@17) that I could transition it felt like it gave me my life back. I was actually look forward to the future, and wanted to be part of it. I'm 24 now and only just starting my (medical) transition (I waited 7 years until I got to a good position with the rest of my life). I waited in large part because of the possible side effects and knowing myself well enough that I can only really handle one change at a time and my life was in constant flux until the last year or so.
I think you're completely right about picturing what you want for your future rather than what you want right now. It's a change for life, so you need to be thinking about it that way.
A lot of women can’t picture being a wife or a mother, doesn’t meant they aren’t women. You can’t picture your life as a woman? What does this even mean? And suicidal ideation sounds much more serious than dysphoria so I hope you have a therapist working with you on this issue outside of recommending transition.
“Transgender” seems to have become a phase now with younger people. My little sister and some her friends went through a phase where they were claiming to be non binary and wanting boy names. And the next year they were all girls again. Another girl made a huge deal publicly about being trans and the school got involved. And she’s decided nah she’s a girl.
That probably sends a really bad message about what’s trans really is.
And a really bad message about how to seek affirmation and attention holy hell
That sort of “phase” is really damaging. I do identify as non-binary. And I have how for 4 years. However I made a promise to myself to make no serious decisions until I’m 23, I will then be out of uni and hopefully settled, then I can make my “final” decision
Ada Guedes same
what grade was she in?
Every girl at my school says they wanna be bi so they can seem “quirky” and “not like other girls” and then they all decide they’re straight again once it’s not popular. Same with depression and anxiety.
I'm 32 and androgynous AF...NOT non binary, not trans. Just a girl who like haircuts and boyish vibes every now and than.
garbage person gender reddit is so.. 🤮
garbage person being androgynous doesn’t mean you’re non-binary/fluid, but those things still do exist... non-binary and fluid people also have gender dysphoria, all real trans people do, that’s how you separate the real from the trenders.
garbage person well in that case, yes, they were wrong. Fashion Doesn’t dictate gender obviously. I was just saying that being gender fluid and non-binary are in fact real-
Saaaaaaaaaaaaaaame 🙌🏼 really annoying when people trying to convince me that I’m something I’m not. Have a lot of people assume or try to tell me I’m gay too, just because I like to wear masculine fashion and keep my hair cropped.
You go girl!
Imagine that! Young children don’t actually know what they want in life shocking
Estoy completamente de acuerdo contigo, me encantaría que además de apoyar a los jóvenes en sus cambios y validar el cómo se sienten, mostrarles vivencias de otras personas que han pasado por el proceso y ayudarlos a entender que lo mejor es esperar para que ellos sepan de verdad que es lo que quieren y no se dejen llevar por las validaciones o comentarios de los demás!
Puberty is wild, teens are gonna be stressed.
That’s why kids shouldn’t be transitioning so early on
@AltoLox I'd still try to fight it out tbh, I wouldn't want to make a choice I could potentially regret ya know? I'd probably wait till 18 to see if I still want to begin the transition.
@AltoLox Well, how about this: Since we know about all the hormone changes, mental hurdles, etc etc are coming with puberty, then maybe people shouldn't be mutilating genitals, giving different hormones, and filling kid's heads with a bunch of extra crap they can't process until that is done.
Why was I imagining your second sentence to rhyme lol
AltoLox you mean it’s not like that for everyone?
I think the whole point of what people have an issue with is using hormone therapy and using drastic measures before the person has a functioning adult brain and can make an informed decision
When I was young, I was convinced I could control the weather with my mood...
Kids ain't smart man.
Lenny The Hopeless me too man
Lenny The Hopeless me tooo I was sure of that fact all cuz of that girl in Men In Black😂
I though chocolate milk came from brown cows and that strawberry milk came from pink cows. And that pink cows were super rare which is why you never saw them or like lions and didn't live in America.
My sister used to tell people her eye color changed and the weather depended on what color they were lmaooo
@@ejedwards988 lmao me too
Your intelligence, logic and compassion are inspiring. Thank you for sharing
I love some of the Australian news shows. They tend to just jump right into difficult topics and not pull punches. I wish American news was like that.
When she said grandma tranma I immediately imagined kalvin Garrah hysterically laughing
jimmy jommy Timmy tommy me too lmai
I have to be honest I kinda want there to be tranma merch lol
Kids are being pushed into it by their parents because it’s “trendy”. That’s called child abuse.
Actually pushed by other trans people and celebrities showing it off and making it a big thing and also faking that their some special orientation or gender sam smith, mikey cyrus, movies, tv shows, politicians etc
NPC000 361 its mental abuse.
You are both right.
Omg just got beauty pageant vibes
Thats called California
Honesty and full disclosure should be stated, always! Excellent information that is needed . Kudos Blaire!❤️🙌🏻👏🏻
Thank you! Sense! Keep up the great work.
I identify as Michael Jackson. My pronouns are heeee heeee.
Lol
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Dan Theman ..... fucking awesome!
Same sis ✌️😩
I identify as Michael Jackson's shadow. My pronouns are SHAMOAN
"You can have both masculine and feminine traits wrapped up in one person"
This right here! be comfortable in your own skin!
Yes! I agree, I've never considered myself the most masculine man on the planet, I don't identify with most men, I don't want to be like most men, I just want to be myself and do my own thing.
But I never had gender dysphoria or wanted to transition as such.
I'm SO lucky I didn't get sucked into the TransTrender cult or got pushed into a gender clinic and onto hormones and puberty blockers!.
Yeah, it's called being a human. No one is a literal gender stereotype
Thats called being human👏🏼👏🏼
Everyone has both traits... women with more masculine traits tend to be more successful.. men with more feminine traits tend not to be as successful. Early blooming girls tend be teased more and have lower self esteem, early blooming boys tend to become more popular with their peers. child development 101. We all are made differently, everyone's DNA is different.
Thanks for bringing up these issues!!!
Thank you for this. I wish stories like yours will be put out there more so kids can see that it is ok to wait until they know for sure transitioning is what they really want to do.
Kid: I want a tattoo. Parent: You are not old enough for that kind of life altering decision. Kid: I want to change my gender. Parent: Okay honey.
IT MAKES NO SENSE. WHAT THE FUCK PEOPLE.
But some childs have an easy life without a tattoo, but don't in the wrong body.
Plus you also can't have a tattoo because you're still growing and it could be ruined.
I just wanted to say that though, but I definitely agree that you shouldn't be able to get hormones that fast.
Rachel Cody false equivalency. One is to cure a legitimate medical condition, the other is purely cosmetic.
@@wolfetteplays8894 changing your outside appearance is purely cosmetic..?? lol
Kaitlyn hormones affect the brain too, you fool. What do you think causes children to act differently after puberty, and PMS to happen? Lol
I’m not trans but I’m glad there’s some one like Blair who is level headed and giving others who are considering transitioning good advice
i agree. also i love ur shin-ae pfp
Oh hey, it is Shin-ae. I miss that comic.
But yeah, Blaire's really level headed and I wish more people watched her.
Shiro L I never realised how many people would recognise Shinae 😂 It’s back for a new season
Same here. I like watching her even though I'm not trans either
Love your pfp lmao
I'm really glad that being death positive and confronting your mortality helped you solidify your decision. Beyond making a major decision more grounded, it also prevents you from being taken advantage of by the funeral industry. I majored in funeral service, and by the end I was disgusted about how many unethical sales tactics we were being taught. It's because people are afraid of imagining their own death that they're so easily manipulated. Everyone should have a documented death plan once they reach full independent adulthood with liabilities and responsibilities.
Such a great video, it's great to hear people be honest who have gone through it. You look great and confident, I do like to see people that it has worked out for. My mom transitioned for the wrong reasons and it blew our family apart, but this was back in the 70's. There are two sides to every coin and I thought you did a great job of showing both sides.
Parents are literally trans-trenders... but for their kids...
like seriously “theybies” are a thing? like no sweetie and these poor kids are not able to de-transition :/
I mean, why not just call your kid by their name instead of gendering(or in this case de-gendering) them in casual conversation. Don't confuse your kids with all this gender nonsense, just let them wear and enjoy whatever they please and they'll be happy enough(until they get bullied by kids with dumbass parents for wearing a skirt when they're a little boy)
Oh yeah, the "gender neutral babies" thing is so weird. I absolutely do NOT think it's harmful to let kids be boys and girls! What IS harmful is forcing anything. I certainly agree that forcing children into gender roles sucks, you shouldn't be telling them "you're a boy/girl and therefore you must..." because that's shitty, however you should also not punish them for voluntarily doing things typical for their gender! The "gender neutral" fanatics will actively steer kids away from things that fall in line with their gender roles. Just don't force it either way. Let the kids be whoever they want to be.
"Gendering" them is only harmful if you do it in a limiting way, saying that X is for boys and Y is for girls. Simply calling boys boys and girls girls does not enforce anything. You can call people boys and girls WITHOUT enforcing gender roles upon them. You child can be a girl who plays with Hot Wheels or a boy who wants sparkly nail polish. Like, really, it's not that hard.
Also!! Baby/babies is already gender neutral, why do people have to call them “theybies”?? It’s so ridiculous
Theybies? Babies is already gender neutral tho lmao
@@ha1eyg Explanation on why the term theybies exist? It's called being a dumbass who has little to no understanding of language. Hnnngggg XDDDD
I'm not even a native English speaker.
This is what bothers me about children and teens transitioning especially. There are so many people who regret it, but some parts of transitioning are just... permanent. It depends on how far along people are, I suppose.
Except there arent "so many people that regret it" maybe rather than swallowing up your favorite pop celebrity youtuber says you actually do some real research
And especially children who are right around puberty. They have the opportunity to change their bodies soooo much
NoobifiedSpartan yes! Just yesterday I saw someone comment “Just got my packer” and when asked about their age they said “16” and when the person told them that is too young they got all defensive, etc. which literally just proves the other persons point! Teen brains are just not on the same level as adult brains! (I’m saying this as a teen and even I know this)
@@Vecha302 except there aren't and I have studied this including talked with those who do actual research so maybe take your head out of your ass and present some actual evidence for your assertions.
@Shayotita lol I love how your first response is to parrot childish buzzwords you hear other people repeat. Cute kiddo. Unfortunately once you decide to grow up then the adults can take you seriously.
Lastly kid, you asked for "proof" funny how you dont question a fucking RUclips video but declare that its accurate unless someone can prove it wrong. Not how it works. the studies and science is already out so go ahead and cite one claiming that kids are surgically transitioning or anything close to that.
I'll wait.
this is such a good video, blaire! i hope a lot of people see this
Yes... What about girls who feel like a tomboy. Im glad I never felt like that meant something was wrong. You can be a girl and have masculine/Dom traits. Or a boy with fem traits.
When I was child, I used to tell people that I wished I was a boy.
The reason: they had more interesting toys.
It’s frightening to think what I may have been pressured to do if I were a child of today, and said that to a teacher.
Swamp Sagacity same but the opposite. I used to “want to be a girl” but really I just liked the color pink 🤭
Omg same except it was with clothes. I always disliked how the girl clothes at Walmart were too pink and girly. The boys clothing had interesting designs and looked cool but I never got to get my dad to buy them because of his stupid excuse.
But if a child tells their parent they are a girl inside and have a girl brain and girl heart that is very different to wanting to be a girl cos they like pink.
Me too!
Same. Tomboy
And this is why we shouldn't push children to transition!
"WoKe" people should never be allow to have kids.
BenjiXAddictX4Ever this is not fair to say. There are some “woke” people who are simply open to their child exploring themselves with no stops and then there are the woke people who go too far...it’s hard to be distinctive but it’s the truth
I’m not saying that it is always the kids decision, but it most of the time is. They have the internet at their finger tips and they see people that they like who are transgender. And with how society loves transgendered people. I support the LGBTQ community but some people just “love” it to an unhealthy length. the parents only want to support their kid so they allow them to do this.
Blaire this is AMAZING!!!!!!!!!!! Please keep speaking out, please be a voice for these kids.
Thank you so much for talking about this serious issue.
How about we don’t transition, unless we literally have gender dysphoria?
@@moon-ml1yo I think they should do bloodwork as well to see if there are underlying hormone inbalances too.
Yes
@Alex M none of those who detransition had gender dysphoria. They had body dysmorphia. And after they transitioned they started having gender dysphoria because sure thing they are not transgender.
that's too centrist, you either transition to the opposite sex or ascend past the human form thereby transforming into a being of pure phosphine gas and unironically also 1/5th of the density of the Earth's crust
A lot of advocates now call that gatekeeping. It's ridiculous. I think there needs to be some diagnoses in order to irrevocably alter your body.
This is why it's so important for """gatekeeping"""" to be a thing. Being trans isn't an inclusivity club. It's a real thing where the main diagnosis should be dysphoria. For people to say that you shouldn't have to have dysphoria to be trans, it's like saying you don't need to be depressed to have depression. It's ridiculous
Right? What's the point in transitioning if you literally by definition (as in "I don't have dysphoria") have no real problem with your gender identity? Is it for fun?
The problem with gatekeeping is still that people who need to transition medically or delay puberty, can't. I would argue those people vastly outnumber the people who later detransition, an unfortunate but still exceedingly rare issue which is somewhat rectifiable by education. The needs of the few are outweighed by the needs of the many. I've said it before and I'll say it again: It's ok to change your mind. We all make mistakes.
@@calicokush wow, confrontational much?
If it seemed like I'm pushing something onto people by expressing my opinion, I apologise and would very much appreciate it if you specified what you thought it was, and we can pick it apart together.
How, do you think, does my argument not make sense? My argument was about the necessity of gatekeeping, a term which I have come to understand as both proverbial and practical barriers to a desired action - in this case transitioning, with a standard that needs to be met in order to pass through. It can also pertain to identity, and the perception some people have, that they would have the power to ascertain if someone is actually trans, or if trans people should have access to their preferred facilities for example. But the defining thing about it for me is, that these standards are arbitrary. If they're not, but are objective standards instead, then I would not describe it as gatekeeping.
Since you obviously weren't talking about medical gatekeeping, but the social variety from within the trans community, let's not pretend I was either. Experiencing dysphoria and consciously identifying and being able to describe it are different things. I thought for the longest time I didn't have gender dysphoria, and just wrote it off as your typical modern-day pop culture self-loathing and body issues being just a fact of life, right up until I realized what it was. That's right, I used to blame it on MTV. Some people need time and encouragement to search their self and explore their identity. This is why I disagree with wyv3rn1 on the necessity of the main diagnosis of dysphoria to be acknowledged as trans - that is,
in my view, not identifying with their assigned gender, a.k.a. being cisgender.
To run with their analogy of depression, people experience these things to different degrees and express them in diferent ways. Someone can be depressed and not think they are, or even that they couldn't be given how good they seem to have things. It's possible to have depression without being clinically depressed. Many people recovering from long-time depression often exhibit this for the rest of their lives: Being forever depressible, even if not diagnosable as clinically depressed. If other depressed people then told them that they aren't really depressed if they don't think what they are experiencing is depression, or that their experience isn't severe enough, and that they should not be able to access help because of it, I think it's easy to see how those people are actively making matters worse. And likewise in dealing with depression, sometimes - not always, but some of the time - the proper course of action can only be determined by trying out different methods and seeing if they help.
Dysphoria is an extremely uncomfortable state, the opposite of euphoria. This is often the easiest and most unmistakable way of discovering one is trans, but being transgender is first and foremost a matter of identity. So, discovering that who you are doesn't match what your body is like or what your name is, doesn't mean you need to be bothered by it to the degree you can't function before you could do something about it, or in the case of children, delay puberty if necessary, and just explore themselves in general.
I'm not advocating free access to hormones and surgery for anyone and everyone, and let's not even get into any mutilation performed on intersex children. I'm questioning the need of some people - from medical professionals to youtubers - to tell others what they could or couldn't be. It's not up for them to decide. And if there are mistakes to be made therein, making them belongs to each one themselves. We can only hope to educate other people so they could avoid making mistakes; I think gatekeeping is not the answer.
gatekeeping is more helpful than anything
wyv3rn1 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Your the best reporter, thanks for the transparency!!!!
I'm a tomboy and growing up I always wanted to be a boy for as young as I can remember. I still feel the exact same way but I learned to accept who I am Because I am not gonna mutilate my body and continue trying to be something I'm not. I never grew out of being a tomboy I'm just more masculine naturally
"Yo dude that's not funny please give me my gender back"
"no lol"
Mom said it's my turn to use the gender
@@aspenizayah3740 Mom loves me more! And I was born first, so I get to use it
They broke into my house and stole my gender 😢😤
Ayyy lmao nah bro its Rock Paper Scissors so u better pass me the gender
Has anyone seen my gender? I can't find it
There was a trend in my highschool like a decade ago of people “trying out trans” where a bunch of girls decided to try being trans because one studenr ACTUALLY came out... was a face palm experience daily.
Remember when every girl in school was bi? Lol
N3RViii it’s still like that lol...
@@DaPoofDaPoofDaPoofDa lmao every girl claimed to be bi but said they'd never date a girl. Girl we call that being straight
ugh
@@DIY_Tracheotomy girls are so cute tho
Blaire you’re such a beautiful soul and I’m so grateful to be able to witness your wisdom and intelligence. Love you so much ❤️
I appreciate how for real you’ve been
All the FTM transtrenders are going to be hating it when they have to get facial electrolysis to get rid of the beard the testosterone gave them. Being trans is NOT a fad.
@Kali Southpaw I recall reading that you need that to transition but nice try.
Transgender celebrity babies
Kali Southpaw that's not how it works at all
@Kali Southpaw that's... not a first step lmao... that's like step 86 wdym
@Alice Rodríguez Actually you can. But you have to have your parent's permission
I think allowing kids to “transition” in terms of gender presentation is pretty important and should be their choice but chemical or surgical transitions should be for adults only
See that is fairly sane and honestly we are pretty close to that now. Fashion is already very all over the place.
thats fair. no problem with that. at least when you dress a certain or wear make up, you can change that by the time you've reached adulthood and have figured out that you're not x or y after all. having and going through different phases is one thing. however, any chemical or surgical changes have far more serious consequences that you may never be able to take back if you've changed your mind later on about what/who you really are.
@@aafinity396 right!
totally agree
Agreed.
Very sad circumstance. This should be shared with more people!
I love that you are opening up the world if de-transitioning.so many who have or want to de transition are getting shamed and bashed and they shouldn’t be. Sometimes we make mistakes and then we need to back track a little and this doesn’t make anyone else’s transition story any less real, it just means it doesn’t always work for EVERYONE. And that’s okay(: we’re human ! sometimes the original path we choose isn’t our only path.
When I was a freshman in high school, I was expressing feeling uncomfortable with my body after being sexually assaulted. I was told it was gender dysphoria. I was out as trans for my whole high school life and for a couple of years after graduating. Thankfully, I never started to medically transition before I realized that it was really body dysmorphia and PTSD.
Star Rose I'm asking myself whether there's a correlation between being trans and being abused. It's not necessarily sexual abuse, but it could be bullying, pushy parents, or even poor family dynamics.
@@chrishenniker5944 From my own experience, it was because I didn't have an identity of my own so I tried to make one for myself. I wouldn't be surprised if other people felt the same.
This is also another reason im slightly scared because i was molested at 5 and im scared im subconsciously traumatized by it even though i genuinely dont really care about it now. Like it happened oh well theres nothong i can do about it now
Star Rose I hope you’re doing okay!! love your angel riko profile pic :)
I relate to this so much.
Thank you for bringing this up, Nobody ever cares about those that realize they're not Trans and that makes me so angry that they are outright ignored. I feel so sorry for these kids. 💔
I'd never seen this vid Ms Blair. Brought me to tears I adore you
Great video!!
Blaire White is the real hero for the trans community that none of them recognize because they’re too busy being offended by what they assume she’s saying.
Rose B.
Yesssss
👏👏👏
Is it wrong to completely agree with this comment as someone who is cis-female?
Oh so it’s funny now cis people are deciding what trans community should be offended about 😀
Evita Oceano
Everyone is entitled to an opinion. I’ve never had an abortion, but I’m entitled to an opinion about the process. I’m sure most males have never had one, either, but they can also have an opinion (especially assuming they father said babies).
I’ve never been a refugee, but I have an opinion on the refugee crisis.
I’ve always gotten vaccinated, but I have an opinion on anti-vaxx attitudes.
I hope you see where I am going with this.
Evita Oceano
You cannot, and never will, monopolize the right to free speech and independent thought.
Just like Shilo thinks that she’s Onision’s Victim #1 and that because of this, she is allowed to send DMs to teenage girls who disagree with certain things - to kill themselves.
I hope I have made myself clear.
Dear Blaire,
Yes, emo is still a thing with the youngins.
Sincerely,
Surprised Old Person
Arielle Macuch
Can confirm
My best friend is pretty emo
can confirm, i know every word to every my chemical romance song
Can confirm, I am the emo
@@JupiterJulia okay, but you are beautiful
sjws ARE the emos of 10 years ago, they havent grown at all, " moody miserable, lifes unfair and its someone elses fault," blue hair and nose piercings, they just went to college and were told a bunch of BS about capitalist oppression and privilege
Honestly, never heard of you, no idea who you are, but what solid advice from somebody who has walked the walk. This isn't a fad and shouldn't be treated as such. The part about reflecting on your life all the way through death is very profound. Way to go on this video and your insights into this subject.
You look really good in this lighting. Natural looking
Glad someone who's trans is speaking up, because straight people been saying this, and they labeled us as bigots. keeps spreading the truth.
You are uneducated bigots and liars
@@tikatowowplayer You too, asshole.
@@tikatowowplayer Say the same thing to your girl who uploaded this video. This is why the LGBT community is gana fall. They fight against their own people XD. its sad really
@@Blessed_Sound she is not my girl...I focus on facts
Toon she, unfortunately alot of members in our community have been beaten down so much that it's fight first and talk second type of life. Its a sad situation, alot of opportunities are missed because of it.
I feel like due to this there is going to be a huge increase of ex-trans people suing these clinics and getting them shut down
lol
@@stephaniel8164 Yes puberty blockers at the age of 4... Because puberty starts at 4... Yeah, no.
@@Pozzaa90 why don't you research a bit ha?
@@AM-fh7ek Saying that puberty starts at 4 is an extraordinary claim. If you subscribe to this claim you are encouraged to provide evidence.
"That which is claimed with no evidence can be dismissed with no evidence." C. Hitchens
Anya Mae I just researched for a few minutes and was able to find that kids can start taking puberty blockers once they hit a stage of development known as Tanner Stage 2, which is usually anywhere between ages 8-13 in girls or 9-14 in boys. Sometimes puberty starts a few years earlier, called precocious puberty. But this is more an exception, not the rule, and I haven’t found any sources stating as young as age 4.
You probably shouldn’t tell people to go research as an insult when the things you are claiming are wrong. Especially when simple common sense dictates that puberty starts around that age range... /facepalm.
Note to the health care professionals, and the trans community, stop allowing children to make such huge decisions
I have learned so much from you. Thanks for sharing
Blaire: emo, is that even still a thing?
E-boys, E-girls, and other E-[gender]s: honey, you’ve got big storm comin’
JK Rowling's Twitter tiktok is gonna come for her
E boys and e girls are not emo sorry bye
lucy amaral thank u
I thought the "E" just stood for "electronic" nowadays? 😂😂😂 I was a 'goth' in the late 90s, so I can make this joke damnit!
@@j-rodthelibrarykid1166 You sure? They kinda look like it. I guess you're technically right though
“Tragic”
*applies more lip gloss*
I love her so much
Edit: holy mother of Satan thank you guys so much for the likes ^v^
Me too.
YeetMeToDaMoon 04 same sis
Does the lip gloss container light up?
San Shine lmao I wish it did
"Holy mother of satan"? What a weird exclamation...
Love your honesty and not trying to put out any narrative
Thank you for speaking on this. You are so intelligent and a lot of people need to listen to your opinion on these matters.
Love how everyone's like "When I was a kid, I was a tomboy!" and I'm sitting here like.. Bitch I'm 20 and still a tomboy. Nothing wrong with that
I'm in my 30's and still a tomboy. It's a personality trait. So it may evolve as you mature but you will always be you. Sure I know how to walk in heels and use eyeliner now ( on special ocassions) But I also put on the gloves and box with my brothers and boyfriend.
I know a girl who was a always a tomboy but didn't really seem to fit with that boys or the girls. Always trying to hard.
She's 12 and now seems to have fully embraced being herself. I see her with her friends. Mostly boys and she's so relaxed now. I'm happy for her. I heard her talking about it the other day. She was like, "I'm just a girl who gets along mostly with boys, that's all. 😊 Nice and simple.
Im nearly 30 and am still a tomboy
I'm 20 too, I feel old..
For some people it's a phase, for others it's who they are
This is just heartbreaking. Being trans isn't trendy, they don't choose to be this way. But the narrative being pushed is that anyone can play pretend and choose your pronouns, confusing our younger generations, and this is the end result.
Ocean Waves exactly. This is all REGRESSIVE. We’re back to pink equals girl blue equals boy. It’s insane.
@@melody5893 indeed, I feel the same way btw. Used to be called a boy and a tranny in school up until 7th ~ 8th grade, if it hadn't been more than 10 years ago, i might really have believed them. but i was sure i was just a bit tomboyish even though sometimes i did dress up in a way that hid my boobs in front of the mirror imagining what i would look like as a guy. I know i used to make fun of myself joking how in some pictures even looked like i have an adam's apple etc etc. some of my friends used to say they'd so date me if i were a guy... i ain't even gay so it really felt like a lot of pressure to conform back then already, i feel like people should let people experience their gender their own way without all these expectations, being trans should be coming from within not society. now in my mid twenties i can say i doubt anyone thinks of me as a man. i feel like people should stop meddling with other's lives telling them how glamorous it is and how it will fix things depression, name calling etc etc like it is the magic cure all pill...
@@melody5893 OMG EXACTLY!
Appreciate your honesty and openness
Yay I just saw you hit the million !!!! I thought I saw you in the 900’s the other day, correct me if I’m wrong. But either way 🎉🎉🎉🎉
2016: "It's not a phase, mom!"
2019: "Oh wait."
Lol
Underrated coment
Centipede his mom should have had more common sense
You deserve 10x the amount of likes
still hoping i’m gonna get an ‘oh wait’ 💀
Often times it’s not even about the kid; it makes the parent feel “woke” or like a hero of some sort.
BINGO
RaveRave93 that’s so gross :((( using their children to look woke for the public and their left leaning friends for brownie points
very often its the mother who looks absolutely thrilled about it and the father looks dead inside because he knows if he fights it and divorce ensues the mother will be crazy enough to block him from ever being able to see his child again
Thanks for sharing your story. It's very enlightening.
Love this content!