Todd Kendhammer | Case of the Killer Pipe?
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- Опубликовано: 5 ноя 2021
- This video answers the question: Can I analyze the case of Todd Kendhammer?
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16:30 - I can confirm it is SO disorienting to have someone you knew and loved commit a heinous crime. Your sense of safety. Your faith in your own judgment and ability to assess people's character-- it's all shattered. I struggled with a severe agoraphobia after my close friend of several years, a man in his mid-40s, kidnapped and raped my daughter just after her 18th birthday.
I'd spent holidays and Christmases with him, after his divorce. Although WE were never romantically involved, he and I had the type of friendship where we discussed our own relationships, including our sexual proclivities-- I genuinely thought I knew the guy.
And yet, I saw the SWAT team body cam footage of when they found her, disoriented and still bound to his bed. I know the extent of her injuries and what DNA was found during her "Code-R" exam.
The agoraphobia has decreased over time but it's still very hard to form new friendships or allow myself to get close to anyone after I catastrophically failed to recognize the predator right in front of me, for all those years, until he upended both me and my daughter's lives in 2017.
I still feel incredible guilt for having been close friends with him. She overlooked warning signs (that he was giving her while I wasn't around) because my close friendship with him gave him 'credibility' to her. Because I trusted him, he must be alright... She thought she was "just being paranoid."
So yeah. Denial is the FAR easier route-- if you can manage it. Denial preserves your sense of safety and justice in the world after someone you thought you knew and trusted, does something as violent and unexpected as this.
Oh my gosh, I'm so sorry this happened. I hope your daughter is recovering okay. Sending you both all the love
may each day be better than the last for you and your daughter, may the perp rot
I hope you take care of yourself and find more happiness again.
Sending healing vibes to you and your daughter. Thanks for sharing your story.
I have no words to convey how sorry I am for you & your daughter. They say time heals, but scars remain. Good luck, honestly. My thoughts & prayers go out to both of you!!!💐💐💐💐💐
I always like it when Dr. Grande emphatically states his belief of someone's guilt or innocence, because he always backs his opinion up with a balance of psychology, science and common sense. I enjoyed this analysis, great work, Dr. Grande!
Agree
Well said.
@@ToyotaGuy1971 And is he a legal expert?
Itubvidtime bs
@@ToyotaGuy1971 No it isn’t. It’s blatantly relevant. Equal justice for all. We aren’t a fascist nation.
Gotta watch out for those magic flying pipes when you’re out and about in the world. Thanks for the video Dr. Grande, keep up the great work!
@Seven Inches of Throbbing Pink Jesus bruh what
I'm not saying he's innocent, but stuff fly off dump trucks all the time... I'm not speaking only of pipes but rocks, gravel, wood, tree branches, glass, etc. Nothing magic about it at all. It is also very dangerous or deadly, and many cases of it each year in the world
Congrats on the 900K viewers, 😊 1M is no "pipe dream" now ... love your work and humour! Thanks you!
Ha ha good one!!😂
@@Internet_Enjoyer yea, and perhaps shorten the 'e-beg' at the beginning of every single vid,
"like, subscribe, support on patreon, wash dishes, walk dog ..."
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His name should have been Todd Meenpipe
I remember seeing footage of him in the witness stand and holy crap he's so devious and deceptive and unbelievable that it's hard to believe he ever thought he could get away with this. He is such a whiny creep.
Those pesky laws of physics 🙂 ,and this is why we love science... and Dr Grande's humour 💐
When you said the pipe “backed up” I laughed. Far out that was too funny Dr.
I laughed as well. All I could think was, "Maybe Clara Harris was driving the pipe?"
It was an American pipe, though, so anything's possible.
@@maneckineckbeard1749 Stop Mane ✋ I can't stop laughing at your comment 🤣 🤣 🤣, you see I did witness 🤣 the pipe zonking oink oink oink towards me where I asked it why was it oinkig on to my ass and it told me not tell anyone about what I witnessed I did shut up until now
@@TrixiLovesYou Now I'm totally hearing the theme to "The Greatest American Hero" playing in my head: "believe it or not, I'm flying through air..." That pipe was secretly a superhero pipe! That's the only possible answer! How else could it have bounced off the window, backed up, then gotten up enough velocity to go *through* the window a second time!? Clearly, this pipe has superpowers.
@@jonathancox4189 😉
Yeah, man, you never know with those pipes...always best to watch your ass when it comes to flying superhero pipes!
I can’t believe her family thinks he’s innocent.
@@Internet_Enjoyer because it was. Sleepy Joe cheated. 😴
His kids are dumb or dumb and in denial.
He explained this.
Todd's son killed his wife Barbara, Todd's son has mental problems, VIOLENT KID. My dad is friends with him and during the trial break, my dad told me his daughter yelled at her brother During court break saying "Look what you started ". Todd is covering for his Son, once he admits it he will get out of jail in 20 year's
I’ve not heard of this, very interesting how people can be so cruel and truly believe they can get away with it ! Thank you for being here. Peace. ✌️✌️👏👏👏🙋♀️🙋♀️
Linda, you should check out the trial. I watched the whole thing, and I must say Todd Kendhammer is quite strange and a murderer.
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Oh Dr. Grande. Your deft sense of humor with regard to the perps in your analysis and the simultaneous sensitivity you exhibit with regard to the victim (s) in your videos has always been great. When I read the title of this analysis, I was again reminded of just how witty you truly are.
While we know you're a genuinely talented mental health provider, and that you're an equally gifted and clever storyteller you're also the wittiest of wordsmiths and "Pipe Dreams" proves it.
Thank you as always for your work.
@Quinn Mae Your comment is well-written and true. Thx for consolidating the things we like about the channel so eloquently
Since you seem to be covering cases at unprecedented speed. If you haven't covered Todd Kolhepp and his Serial Killings and Amazon reviews I think it would be right up your alley.
Agreed. He was particularly disturbing!
The “ amazon review killer” was a very interesting case! I agree , Dr. Grande should definitely cover his case. Lots going on with it, including issues with Kayla since, she had had at least two fiancé’s pass while with her. Including one who apparently “stabbed himself” in the chest in which he “unalived” himself. She is almost as crazy as Kohlhepp… if u ask me anyways 😞
I commented about that before I scrolled down very far. I couldn't find that the Dr had analysed him and I'd enjoy hearing what he thought about him as well.
His case gives me pause whenever I read a similar review. Now I have to wonder whether a reviewer has a cynical sense of humor or is a serial killer.
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I once had one of the flashing lights of a school bus hit my windshield; I had no idea how big those lights were until it hit. I must say I would have had NO time to react. Fortunately, it did not damage my windshield, but if it had it would have been in my lap with glass all over me. I am sure he had no time to grab for it. Way too fast! Enjoyed hearing this one.
Absolutely!! There is a lot of velocity in a heavy, flying projectile… along with the rate of the passenger vehicle… heck, I was hit once on an interstate , by what must have only been a relatively small rock or big stone, big nick in the windshield ( although no actual break or shatter) and what was the most frightening part was the totally “out of nowhere “ speed and the loud noise! I thought it was a gunshot.. or something more sinister than a stupid stone!! And the whole thing was so disorienting!! Really shook me up… and first , when Dr Grande began… I thought the man accused may have been so rattled and shook up that his story was all over the place… ( but then those pesky facts started piling up …) but no… the guy was a head case for sure!
Can't wait to hear your analysis. You added 1K since yesterday too!! 🔥👏🥂Thanks Dr G😊🧡🧡
Always loved Xena/Lucy Lawless! Awesome pfp!
@@gazepskotzs4 😊Thanks. Me too. She was strong but hilarious. Show had some sly humor for sure😄🐎🗡🛡🔱
That pipe through a window sounds more like trying to stage an accident for insurance money. Maybe he strangled her in a fit of rage then thought he could possibly benefit financially? It sounds like he thought his strangely elaborate plan was airtight and he was trying for zero consequences and possibly money and sympathy. Solid analysis as usual.
Very good point explaining how her and his family would be more willing to believe him innocent than guilty. Denial can be a great comfort in times of distress, this is a common pattern with parents of children who accuse a close family member, sometimes even the other parent, of abuse and the person they confide in immediately dismisses it.
Should’ve typed it on the other video, but congrats on the 900K! 🤗🥳🤩🙌🏼👏🏼🎉 (Now 901K!) Still am watching every day, but only comment when it’s relevant, lol.
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It’s hard to believe that someone you love and trust could be murderer.
Great video Dr Grande!!!
This episode takes me back to the 80’s. “Yo, that pipe is killer, dude!”
lol
I think they say killer now, not in the eighties
The term originated in 1979 but its used regularly now
I am thinking "let off some steam, Bennett" from Commando
Why not say it's totally tubular?
Or "rodical".
I'm always surprised at criminals that concoct very far-fetched stories regarding their crimes never thinking about how easily they can be picked apart. Kendhammer's clumsy setup for his crime didn't even fool the LaCrosse police and I'm sure they aren't used to too many murders. (I don't live far from there.)
One has to wonder what provoked him to beat her to death which is extremely personal and rage-filled. It's good he's put away for a long time. Sounds like he's just a time bomb waiting to go off!
There's a dashcam video of a brick that comes flying into the passenger seat. Then you hear the driver call out. It's a horrifying video but it shows no one.
It does happen and he may have gotten an idea from that, or he could have just had two horrible things happen to him.
@@Skarry Yes, I've read about projectiles coming through windshields in real life. It is terrible. He probably read about something like that happening and embellished it to fit his circumstance. He was just not very smart about it.
@@Skarry He did not think it out clearly! In his interview he says at first he thought it was a bird coming towards their window. Then it turned into a pipe from another dimension!
I bet she was done with his shite and let him know he was a loser and she wanted to separate or divorce. This would ruin his entire view of whom he was to the public.
He was such a loser. He was about to be fired, once again from a job because he took too many days off.
they were in debt with bills not paid when she thought they were.
he was probably a pos to her when they were alone. Like verbally saying things about her but then turning on that Perfect hubby charm when surrounded by others.
And she wasn't about to expose him all those years because their children worshipped their dad, thinking he's the best ever man dad and husband.
But I think she had it that morning and she told Toad the truth and he couldn't handle it and beat the hell out of her because that is who he has always been.
@@KenyanBunnie I agree with your take on this. No one ever knows what goes on behind closed doors!
I know of this case. I think the trial prosecutor should have spent a little time interviewing some of the coworkers from all the jobs he quit or was fired from. Obviously the guy has control, and other personality problems that were never brought out in trial.
My sister a couple years back separated from her husband. While there was no physical abuse, there was for years mental abuse on a consistent basis. During family get togethers he was ALWAYS nice, smiling, positive. My family and I had ZERO idea that there was any abuse going on, period.
It is highly likely that there are people out there who think about people like Todd's friends and family think about him but are actually, behind closed doors, abusers.
One thing that convinced me he was super guilty was the amount of lies he told. He couldn't keep his story straight at all.
Vicious Viscount Yes, and all of his, "I don't recall" when he was on the stand! A sign of major lies.
Already at 901k! Moving right along.
Very interesting case and analysis.👌🏼
He was creative enough to concoct such a bizarre cover up, yet failed to pay attention to crucial details.
Thank you for another great review!❤️
There you are! 🥰 Been waiting patiently!
Flying monkeys, and now, flying pipes. Sounds like some narcissists are really expanding to other groups of devotees. I enjoyed watching your struggle to analyze stupidity with a straight face, Doc. Just love you! 😂😘
The hardest working man in headshrinking.
Yes and he added 1k subs since yest too!!⚡🎈🎉
I always wonder what your ID means? The unfortunate Spectacle?
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@@Monica-fb1ifAn old sobriquet for life, I guess. Comes from reading too much Saki.
G'day Dr Grande's viewers 🌈🌞from land of sunshine 🌻
Thank you Dr Grande 🪃🇦🇺 for this upload, being a Sunday I get to see this straight away.
Couples can convincingly show a happy relationship to all thier friends, especially the abuser/killer . She may be ashamed to tell anyone because she may believe him when he tells her that she's worthless and no one will ever want her. After years of abuse she believes him. He may be narcissistic and a really good liar. Difficult and sad.
And friends and family will mirror back what they see. "Oh man Susan I'm so happy you have a goof man". She might have never seen a safe moment to confide her doubts and fears.
My sister and I have always been very close. She was in an abusive relationship for 2 years and never said a word about the abuse until decades after it happened. Perhaps if we had lived closer, I might have picked up on something, but she was on the east coast while I was on the west coast. I think the reasons that the abused person uses to rationalize staying with the abuser, as well as shame, may make it difficult to confide to loved ones.
From personal experience, I can say, Many narcissists are extremely good liars.
Such a sad situation.
It is often surprising what goes on behind closed doors. Many people walk around with the heaviest of burdens and never act or disclose it.
I can easily see this being true. Been there
I think Todd watched the movie The Descent before he did what he did. Same exact thing happened! Congrats on 900k!💜🌵
or maybe Commando, "let off some steam, Bennett"
Interestingly, he replaced vehicle windows for a living so he likely got the idea while doing his job.
I've commented requesting this for months thank you so much Dr. Grande I very much wanted your take on it. Thank you thank you. 💕
Would you consider talking about Banita Jacks of Washington D.C.
She killed her 4 kids and lived in the house with them for 7 months.
I would love to hear your insights Dr. Grande.
Such beautiful daughters she had. Such a terrible story those girls suffered thru. Smh.
@@KenyanBunnie , It always annoys me when I see someone attributing the "beauty" of a victim to somehow whether the murder was legitimate. What the Hell as the fact the daughters were beautiful, got to do with the horrors of murder. I guess that if the victims were ugly, that would make it OK with you.
@@trevorbevan587 chill tf out
@@FudgyTheWhale_ Hi FuckyTheWhale. I'm English so I'm afraid that if you wish to communicate with me, it must be in English. What does, "Chill if out' mean? We use refrigerators, in the United Kingdom, for Chilling food. Is this what you're implying? Please explain.
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One of the weirdest cases ever, thanks for picking this one 👍🏻
He must have been smoking on a “magic flying pipe” if he thought the police would believe his story.
Or the jury! Sheesh
@Seven Inches of Throbbing Pink Jesus I’m Cherokee Nation. I agree with you on that.
@Seven Inches of Throbbing Pink Jesus I will definitely check that out. I was born ‘76. I know about the railroads and the horror of what happened to those forced to work on them from its depiction in a novel I read years ago, and I know some, but not nearly all, of what I need to know about First American history.
@Seven Inches of Throbbing Pink Jesus I despise hunters and hunting. I would never kill an animal.
Very similar to the case of Allison Baden-Clay you covered. Both husbands are controlling, covert narcissists who want to maintain their good guy facade at all costs. Anyone who has been married to a covert narcissist knows that very few people believe your horror story of long term abuse.
Exactly !
Please, Dr. Grande, analyze Patrizia Reggiani and the murder of Maurizio Gucci!
How do you continue to drive, turn down a side road AND make a 3-point turn after a 5 ft length of pipe comes flying through your windshield? Wouldn't you just pull over immediately?
For real!
Yes, this case is so weird 😕 Thank you for your interesting analysis Dr. Grande.
This has become my favorite channel. Love the combo of deadpan humor & the horrific side of human nature.
I love this channel so much!
Absolutely my favorite true crime channel. So professional and you get a lot more psychological insight than from most other channels. 1mil Wil surely be here soon
Thank you, Dr Grande. I always find fascinating the extent some people are going to cover up a crime committed on an impulse, when it's clear that they can't possibly come up with a believable crime scene and story.
Im anxious to see your discussion on this, since I had followed the case quite closely. The one thing that stood out to me was the entire family ,with one exception, were on the side of the defendant not the victim. Even the victims mother sat in support of Todd.
Good old narcissist with his flying monkeys
What a wonderful way to spend a Saturday night. Woooo for Dr grande and his 900k subscribers. Congrats!! Thanks for all you do.
Don't people watch Forensic Files? You can't get away with anything these days, forensics have come along way. Thanks Dr.Grande for all your hard work.🤓💜
I think about this episode of FF I watched once pretty frequently when I listen to true crime stories, because I totally agree with you! Then again, there are times when the crime has so much evidence but the police drop the ball so badly that the case isn't solved or goes unsolved for decades while the killer lives a life of freedom (or even worse, kills more people). When I hear of cases like that, I often wonder where the forensic team is! But back to the episode I'll ever forget, I don't remember the specifics (like the season number or the names of the victim or anything cause it's been well over 15 years since I saw it), I remember one of the pieces of evidence that blew my mind was the trash bags in which the victim's remains were found. They had sort of like a "misprint" on them, so when the trash bags are coming off the conveyer belt, something that normally is used to press the warm plastic totally flat and smooth wasn't in place correctly, because of that these trash bags has a weird, barely noticeable defect in them. It was just like a line in the plastic that the average consumer wouldn't notice. And since the brand decided that the defect didn't effect how well the trash bags worked, they were legally allowed to sell them and put them into normal distribution. However, the defect was noticed pretty quickly (as you'd expect) so very few cases of the defective looking bags went out to any stores. And with that information, the forensic team was able to figure out the brand of trash bags, and get a list of any stores and their locations that would have received said trash bags. That led them to only one or two stores in the area where the crime took place, etc. And they were able to narrow down a very small window where "the killer had to have bought his supplies from this store between these several days"... and with that, I believe they used either surveillance from the store and/or employees being able to describe a particular man who seemed strange or was buying items that screamed "body disposal kit" ... anyway, in a nutshell, it helped lead to the man's arrest. I'm tempted to find the episode again but I think there's probably hundreds of forensic file episodes.
Enjoying the evening uploads! Also enjoying the slightly more minimal background and taller 🪴
I watched an detailed episode about this case. It was so impressive to see the detailed surveillance of the one video that captured traffic going both directions on the road, spotting Kendhammer’s vehicle but no flat bed truck. Incredible detective work!
When I was a teenager, my mother was driving us to a nearby town when something flew off a flatbed passing us going the other direction and struck the windshield directly in front of me. It didn't come through, or it might have killed or at least injured me, but it shattered the glass and buckled it inward. We pulled over to try to find it, but we think it was a tool that flew off the truck. Neither of us reacted until after it had hit, shattered the glass, and bounced away. We didn't see it coming. If she had been able to see it coming, she undoubtedly would have swerved. "Trying to block the pipe" is completely unbelievable. Something coming slowly enough that you see it coming in time to try to stop it probably couldn't come through the windshield and strike a lethal blow based on the speed alone. A flying pipe could conceivably kill someone, but not in the way he described. I'm glad he was nailed for this.
Those pesky investigators and their damned forensics!!
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80’s True Crime; and I am here for it. As a Gen X’er , I feel so deeply for these old cases and appreciate Dr. G’s weigh-in.
Great analysis Dr. Grande. I knew of this case and what solidified his guilt to me was the pipe. His supporters failed to recognize the pipe action. It hits once then repeats the action. Physics says no.
That is the biggest flub or piece of evidence in the whole case and undertalked about! There was more than one another strike at the windshield
I’ve never heard of this case, but you did a great job discussing the evidence, physics and forensics. Thanks!
Congratulations on your phenomenal success, Dr.
Great commentary, as always!
I feel quite certain Todd staged the pipe scene but it's so mystifying to understand WHY. Clearly, the theory that his wife was already dead and the pipe was just a cover-up is problematic, as Barbara didn't even die until the NEXT DAY, after being hospitalized.
The driver of the vehicle that passed the oddly-parked Kendhammer car said he didn't see any person present at the scene (when, according to the driver, the windshield was still intact) and that implies to me that Todd was at that time assaulting his wife off-site.
Dr Grande, you spend so much time researching, analyzing and sharing with us.
I just ran across your other channel!
I haven’t watched yet but when do you sleep, sir?
No complaints as I love your content, just impressed at your dedication.
I always thought this was a confusing case so I'm excited to hear your take. I've heard of the evidence against him but something about the whole thing didn't sit right with me. I just didn't think he beat her to death on the side on the road but it did look staged. Your explanation of him snapping and killing her and then bringing her there is spot on.
Hello Dr. Grande! I look forward to your videos so much. Your balanced approach to topics is so refreshing. Have you ever thought about doing an analysis of children who have persistent imaginary friends? Thank you for all the great content!
Good evening, Dr. Grande. 🙋🌵🪴🌵🪴How are you, tonight?
Excellent balanced analysis. The one quibble is the with leaking balloon analogy as some kind of personality type. There is no "type" of that kind in my opinion. Any person on a given day can appear calm and lose it. Grande uses this as a crutch to dumb down what is probably a far more complex condition.
Is anyone going to point out how non-abrasive and thus easy to deeply respect Dr Grande is? He is undeniably intelligent, hardworking and had the sweetest sense of humor, he be throwing shade all day long without being abrasive!
You just did… :) I agree
I worked solo with Todd in a truck for a year. Ended up quitting because of him. He degraded people all the time calling them stupid for no real reason.
Not surprising he's generally an abus3r coworker 🙄
Beaker The Plant is Back! :)
I requested this video some time ago. Thank you so much for making it - great analysis.
can you do a video on richard iii, who possibly killed the princes in the tower?
Great sound quality. Thanks for the content Dr. G. You are a blessing.
Serious Denial. It's so Sad! Your Analysis, as usual, was Great!
Been waiting all day for this. Again, you do not disappoint.
I remember when this first happened. While watching the news I KNEW that he killed poor Barb. In the end there was only one lady who spoke up for the victim ( not Todd, Barb ) , and she looked at the family members and said she could not believe that none of them were speaking up for Barb. I think this is an example of herd mentality ! Oh, and I think Todd loves playing the martyr. I bet he's the butt of many jokes among his fellow inmates. I love your commentaries , and your wry, sarcastic sense of humor !
The title had me from the start. But your analysis blew me away!
".... he could control himself, until he couldn't." And " his violent behavior didn't really run on a continuum, it was all or nothing."
You painted a very interesting personality type that makes you think. I'm sure I've encountered a couple of people who seemed nice enough, but also gave off an uncomfortable intensity underneath.
Incredibly interesting analysis, Dr. Grande!
Had to laugh when you said "....I guess he was working with glass without wearing a shirt." 😂😂
That thumbnail title ✌️…You are the cheekiest, Dr Grande 😆👍🤟
Thanks for the analysis Dr. Grande. With this case I was really confused about the motive and why he would kill his wife, but your theory makes a lot of sense! Appreciated once again.
Thank you Dr Grande. Great analysis. I've never heard of these people, ,but according to your analysis, I believe he did killed his wife. Thank you Dr Grande. Great topic.
Dr Grande, I am so excited to see your subscribers grow. I was there when the channel had far fewer. I just knew it would catch on!
Always enjoy your content. Thank you!
Ohhh this is the case that broadened my obsession from serial killers to true crime as a whole... Although it strengthens my resolve for not being a therapist it also made my desire to transition from psychology to criminology, one day i might actually do it haha
I’ve been following you since back in the day. You’re logic and reasoning is on point AF. Dry.
I’m glad to see the old background on a Sunday. Hope this means that the doctor is taking Sunday off to be with his family 💕
Emotional abusers can be very sneaky and cunning. They can go to great lengths to win over their victim's friends and family members. My ex did this . . . . I am fortunate to have friends and family members who do recognize the abuse and support me, but to this day, I have many friends and family members who still refuse to acknowledge my ex's abuse, because he was "such a nice guy." Well, that's the thing, isn't it? They're nice to everyone except the one they supposedly "love" the most, making it hard to believe the victim if she or he ever comes forward. They wear a mask. It's very devious and doubly-traumatizing for the victim, because she not only suffers the abuse, but she also is often met with skepticism and outright disbelief when she speaks up. It's sad but not surprising that Barbara's family supported her killer. I often lived in fear of my life from my ex, and I could see something like this playing out with him, had he actually killed me. I could see some of my family members siding with him, because he went to such great lengths to win them over, while simultaneously doing everything he could to sabotage my own relationship with them. I hope in time her family members will see things differently. Ladies (and men), if things are not as they should be in your marriage or if you live in fear of your spouse, TELL SOMEONE. Talk about it. Find someone who will believe you and supports you. Write it down. LEAVE. Thousands of women are killed every year by their partners, many more are injured physically, emotionally, and mentally. Get out and find support while you still can. Don't cover for your abusive partner. They don't deserve it and you deserve so much better.
I have told & told & told. No one will help. I am not a nobody yet, pastoral/men & others will not help. Strange & difficult.
Fascinating, thanks Dr. Grande! I’ve been binge-watching your vids (along with your YT competitor and case analysis subject Tana Mongeau’s) to keep my mind off of my newfound sobriety and suddenly thought of this case, which I found puzzling months ago when I came across it. I was hoping you would have reviewed it and was excited to see that you had. Your analysis really makes sense, and clears up for me my own doubts about his guilt. One more drink staved off, cheers🍷!!
That is one freaky freak accident!! Incidentally, film director Alan Pakula died on the LIE in a similar, pipe-through-the-windshield, car accident.
Wonderful shirt DR, G. This case is so interesting and the oddity astounds me. There was a story on the news here in Florida where a family was traveling down a highway, the just going on a trip, sunny ☀️ day, not much wind no bad weather, bam... Family taken down by a tree....I don't know if I could say, he's guilty, yet the case crazy only because sometimes cases that are unusual, supernatural and not your normal always opens up confusing questions. He could have done it, of course but I don't know why I think, maybe not, but we will never know. .. And that makes this horrible all together....
Congrats 🎈 for(over) the 900.000 subs
It was such a lovely video, though i live in Europe and didn't know many of ur fave comedians.
Congrats 🎉 onve again!
I remember this case. Todd Kendhammer also had his in-laws roped. They were on his side. That's some smooth ways of a psycho.
I'm familiar with this Case. Looking forward to your analysis!
I Still don't believe him! His Poor Wife!💔💔💔🙏🙏🙏
I say he is a covert narcissist. I don't care if he had everybody fooled. Not me. It doesn't matter if he had no priors. He just snapped. He is the mild-mannered, passive type on the outside but a control freak in private.
Where exactly were they going? She was supposed to be going to work, yet he was driving her in the opposite direction, to an imaginary appointment.
If his reflexes are so quick, instead of trying to block the pipe, he would have used his quick reflexes to swerve the car away from the flying pipe.
He beat her viciously and slammed the pipe through the windshield as an afterthought.
His interrogation video is particularly damning. He couldn't stop his leg from shaking, he was very defensive, not grieving, and telling the police he wanted to "solve" it as if it were some mystery instead of an accident. That choice of verb "solve" was the cherry on top, for me.
I really really enjoy how you break down this video well done stay focus and humble
That was an awesome analysis of a very complex man and an excruciatingly terrible crime of which I agree with you he was lying about and did not realize that he could not get away with it so he lied all the way to jail.
This was really good.
Very interesting.
Congratulations on 900,000 subscribers! Been watching you since the beginning. Surprise Don rickles wasn’t one of your favorite comics with some of your jokes 😂🤣👍
I saw this (pipe through windshield death) in a horror movie once. He obviously watched that movie too.
“Killer Pipe” was Dr. Grande’s nickname in college.
Bravo Dr. Grande....x
Thanks, Doc.
Thank You!
I saw a movie once and there was a line “There are at least 20 ways to screw up a murder. If you can think of three of them, you’re lucky.” Sounds like this guy couldn’t think of a single one.
Interesting. I had a near miss when full size shovel fell off a big truck in front of me , luckily there was enough distance for me to miss it .
This case really is a puzzler. I suspect the staging of the "accident" is the best evidence of guilt. I also believe that an in-depth psych eval will reveal some important facts we currently do not know.
OMG I'm telling you. Watch the 911 call, interview at the scene, interrogation, and trial. It's on here. It's compelling it gives you all the evidence you need to believe that Toad killed Barb with his own hands. And set up the fake accident.
It's insane (to me) that anyone besides all of his family and some of hers, believe in his innocence.