My Husband Keeps Lying About Spending Money
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Gambling, drugs, affair … take your pick. Wake up lady.
^^^This!^^^ I would be curious if she's actually seen the lawnmower with her own eyes. Could be he bought it and sold it.
A liar and a thief is exactly that. She needs to legally remove herself and that is only through divorce. She will soon discover he has credit cards in her name and when she leaves she will discover she is liable for the debt. My heart goes out to this woman because it will take her years to recover from this and that’s only if she gets out today.
This lady sounds so sweet and rotten people take advantage of sweet people. Hopefully they turn things around for her sake.
Time to get a backbone
@@fauxbro1983 easier said then done unfortunately
Lol, love how people call into get help but then don’t want it! 😂
"Into" and "in to" are totally different words
Time to sell the husband and start over.
Not sure why people are upset with the hosts being straightforward. This woman needed the wakeup call or another 5 years of financial infidelity are imminent... then another 5... then another 5...
She sounds like she's got the maturity of a 13 year old. Part of the problem is her. She needs to grow up and not just hand the keys of her life over to some man, and hope it works out.
Grandma has a push mower and he upgrades to a $6,000 mower? You can get a used riding mower for 10% of that price...might not be zero turn commercial level but it will do the job.
In a marriage, you don't take turns managing the money or parenting the kids...you do both TOGETHER.
I think these two work very well together as hosts
My story exactly. We need to start a support group. And also start a business vetting men ( or women), do background checks, search court records, etc. We could call it Commitment Peace University.
Dear ladies, when you marry a doofus who is incapable of effectively leading a household that you need to make excuses for….expect this result.
She picked him.
The sex must be that good for her to stay and marry him 🤷🏼♂️
So when the women spends and lies it's okay though.
Facts man!!
Hard to believe a man this irresponsible is allowed to have intercourse. 😅
Not sure why she called to discuss what her husband is doing financially if she was going to defend him the entire time.
Because we feel like fools to have believed their bs….so we try to make ourselves seem less foolish by trying to defend the spouses bad behavior. We truly think in out heads….”but I couldn’t have been this dumb to fall for this”.
Not gonna get into marriage advice based on a brief, one-sided phone call. I'm just glad the adorable "bumbling goofball" in my life who isn't good with money is not my husband. I can still enjoy his company without having to worry about his effect on my financial security.
She needs to toughen up and protect herself and their kids. Even if it means legal separation. She needs to limit his access to all of the money if need be but I’d get an attorney to protect myself and my kids if I were her. She also needs to immediately lock up her credit so he can’t take out anything with her name in it.
She’d better make sure he hasn’t used the childrens’ social security numbers to open up credit card accounts.
@@probablynot1368 good point , for sure!
Agreed. Sadly.
Soooo much easier said than done.
@@janiewerner obviously but it needs to be done. The right thing to do
Is usually the hardest thing to
Do. We can’t just do the things that aren’t hard.
So difficult to have to admit that you’ve partnered with a liar who doesn’t love or respect you. But I can’t imagine suggesting to this meek, accommodating woman that she accuse her husband of financial infidelity and expect that to go well. She doesn’t seem ready for that.
She picked him.
At the end of the day, she chose him. She has to take responsibility for that part.
In life, we get what we're willing to tolerate. If she's willing to tolerate him and his behaviors, then that's what she'll get.
@terrie- you have zero clue sometimes in marriage they surprise you with issues you had no idea they had. Not very worldly are you.
Pull your credit report and make him pull his
That’s literally what the hosts said.
Please tell me how you make a narcissist do ANYTHING??
so my sister has been married to my brother in law over 47 yrs. When they met, he was 10 yrs older, had been divorced already and had a child with his ex. 1st warning sign. My sister was 19 just out of high-school. She thought she got the hard working farmer who's family owned dozens of acres of farmland in rural IA. Therefore, she would have a stable financial footing to raise her kids. No struggles.
What really happened was his dad saw he couldn't manage money & made stipulations that he had NO ACCESS to the farmland till his stepmother passed. She's still alive at 90ish. Both of them jumped from job to job not caring about pensions because they thought they had farmland in IA to sell. Now neither of them have a pension he's working driving a truck in his 70s and they have basically been reduced to living in a 5th wheel. My advice is do NOT stay with someone hoping they change! Unless you don't mind being broke & penniless in your elderly years. Get out earn your OWN $ 1st , then find a real partner.
1st warning sign is divorced with a child with his ex? lol, there's gonna be a lot of women out there with warning signs.
Agreed
I don't think this girl is emotionally independent and I think she is afraid of confronting him maybe because she is afraid that if she leaves him she won't be able to sustain herself.
Would love to have him call in to the show and give his side of the story. She seems like a gentle, timid soul and he took advantage.
We have a big yard and my husband uses a $600 push mower. Even that was expensive to buy with cash. $6,000 for a mower?!?! I get that some people want a riding mower, but you can get those for $2,000. $6,000 for a mower is like a top of the line, Rolls Royce mower. That lawn better be immaculate. 😮
Your comment made me laugh too hard😂
Spending can be an addiction too. I looked and the most expensive mower they have is $4600, so even that’s a lie.
I dated a guy like this once. He was a liar, lazy, and every other word you want to use. His rationale was "I don't want to be poor". My response was, but you ARE poor because you keep spending money you don't have.
Yes, this lead to divorce for
Me
I was the sole worker for some time in our relationship. My wife still had just as much say.
They are absolutely correct. At this point I hope you do not have children. They will suffer.
Yeah your life partner should always have a vote……I mean this is the person you will potentially raise a family with and decide on what values to teach. The person who will run the household while you are away, cook, clean, etc. if they are a housewife. It is a full on partnership as they are handling a majority of the work inside the home and even if she works some, it shouldn’t change.
Agree so much!
And she never look at her Lowes card?
Seems like there's more to the story then she is saying.
More to the story how, Detective? She said they got the card years ago when they got married so they could get a washer and dryer and sounds like they didn't use it for years. Why would she eagerly look at the statement every month? Thats not real life, most people don't do that
@@jeffwvu4602 People don't look at their statements? no wonder America is so terrible with money
@@jeffwvu4602 So you don't look at your bills when it comes in the mail?
Even if it's paperless. You should still look at it to make sure there's no fraud.
@@blingman78 I look at my accounts once a week, to make sure everything is OK.
@@jimmymcgill6778 I don't have credit cards, but I can see where it would be easy for someone to hide them from their spouse.
Why didn't they tell her they need marriage counseling!?!
That would be the next step after the hosts suggested coming clean at the dinner table.
@@jasonbornne7767 But they didn't tell her, and she was practically screaming for help. She literally said, I don't know what to do.
@@1timothydillon They told her to sit down at the dinner table for him to come clean. Marriage counseling/divorce is implied if he doesn’t comply.
@@jasonbornne7767 You are seeing what you want to see, and not hearing what was said. The average person only has an average intelligence, you can't imply anything, when someone is asking for help. When someone needs help, you have to be direct. When someone is in an accident, you have to tell 911 exactly where you are, not imply what neighborhood you're in. They called her out on constantly defending her husband, she is not going to pick up on any subtle hints. They needed to tell her outright to seek counseling.
@@1timothydillon Okay, agreed. She is not the most intelligent. I will concede this 😂😂😂
He is having an affair. She needs to listen to herself
Why does lying about money always mean cheating in your people's minds? I used to have a gambling addiction and hid it from my wife for a long time before coming clean and I never cheated.
@@runningdebate2670 yeah it could be gambling or escorts/porn/affair or compulsive spending or drugs . The main example was an insane overspend on a lawn care tool
@@runningdebate2670 because the professional on the show said it's what typically happens in these types of situations where there is intrinsic lying
@gratefulheart Yeah because someone said so that means I must listen. The "experts" said get the vaccine it will protect you and covid is bad too. You listen to everything you hear you sheep?
@@runningdebate2670 in life it’s always useful to assume you are the rule not the exception. It helps you make sensible decisions. You are the exception, the rule is that person is cheating
Man bought a damn $6000 61" 0-Turn. Dude better be out there mowing extra grass!
Oh my Lord. This poor woman is in such denial. My mother stayed home with my brother and I too and my father never made any big ticket purchases without a mutual agreement with her. Based on what this caller is describing, her husband does not value her opinion or think she is smart and that is so sad.
They were very patient with her... she is so enabling him and everyone sees it except her.. sad
Dr John is FIRED UP he aint playin
Sounds like she is asleep at the wheel not checking and see that money has been spent. Wake up lady.
She has woken up, no need for that
She probably had no knowledge because these kind of people go to great lengths to hide and prevent you from knowing. And often cause other troubles to prevent you from knowing.
She is asleep at the wheel? Why isn’t HE at the wheel with her? He sounds like a bum with no motivation and let’s his wife drive the ship.
Ship is heading for an iceberg and both better work together to steer clear of it! Or let this dude crash into it by himself.
My ass she’s trying to trust her husband. Obviously not trust worthy
For every rat you see, there are 100 more that you don't.
From personal experience….dont believe a word that comes out of his mouth.
You start doing your own investigating into your situation.
Dr Simp John at it again
Your girl left u
Let me guess - she doesn't work. Ladies, stop being dependent on these men!
I have a question, why does he give the wives a “she’s scared, she’s cornered that’s why she spent like that” when they spend like an addiction but for the husbands it’s “they are liars, deceitful and three legged turtles” 😐
My wife and I have our separate bank accounts. I don’t really care what she spends her money on and she doesn’t really care what I spend my money on as long as our bills are being paid on time and we’re saving for retirement.
"You cant breathe right now, and George and I can hear it"
This blatant simpin needs to stop immediately for the good of the Show Thanks
Nothing says “he’s cheating on you” quite like a $6,000 mower.
😂😂😂😂😂. A mower=cheating 😂😂
Why you gonna call the show to complain about your husband, then defend him every step of the way when the hosts call him out repeatedly?
Financial health is high on the list and he is ruining it
From personal experience, this sounds like someone with underlying mental problems, such as bipolar, who had a triggering event (father figure passing away). I hope things get better, but theres a tough road ahead for them.
If you think not being committed to someone 100% is fidelity i think your insane. 😂😂
I love how people say how they would handle it. So not true. Armchair quarterbacking is the WORST kind of advice.
😂😂 Ironically this is on "Gemini Day" should be a national day. Iies, lies lies ♊♊♊
Last time i was at HD, a questionable push 21" lawn mower was $499. Try mowing an acre with that thing.
Dr Baloney probably has a $10k tractor 🚜
Y’all are both so right. My dad was the same way and was a secret bad bad guy. Get out!!
Annual Credit report? Really? You can log into your banking app and get a free credit report updated weekly. Oh...wait. Dave is against big banks.... almost forgot
recent generations disdain arranged marriages of past generations. But's lets face it, young women have little ability and/or willingness to assess financial viability of their SO
Title loan. Like pay day loan, only on the car
This lady doesn't know much. "I think. I'm not sure." How can he buy a mower and she not know? My wife would know immediately!! She needs to get to him tonight and find out exactly what is going on.
The more I listen to this call, the more I see she's a huge pushover. John is right. Everything needs to be put on the table, or she needs to leave.
hE hAs a CrEdIt CaRd wItH 300 doLlaRs oN iT. Bro get rid of this chick lol
$300 i spend more on that in 2 weeks😂😂. I have no debt
Typical. Have to call the husband names.
When it's a husband calling in about his wife's bad behaviors, Baloney never calls the wife names. But when it's a wife calling in to complain about her husband, Baloney immediately starts calling the husband names.
Expect the double standard when Baloney is handling the call. He's the biggest SIMPS on the Ramsey show.
@@terriesmith2616 And he's a "therapist"?
@@jimmymcgill6778
Ikr. 💯💯
I'd be okay with Baloney calling the husband names if he also calls the wife names. At least this way it's fair.
But it's always one sided with Baloney. He only calls the husband names but never the wife.
The ramsey show hosts have a particular set of religious beliefs where they hold the men to a higher standard as they believe they are the head of the household and are supposed to be the responsible one in the relationship. You can disagree with that but that’s where they are coming from.
@@thorneto2742 Men are not head of the household. You are both equal.
This lady is clueless about finances. She needs to be involved and not so passive. There's no way I could spend thousands of dollars without my wife knowing, or vice versa, because we do finances TOGETHER.
People....just don't get married.
Seems like there's a lot of guesswork... really need more info.
We literally dont know anything. I doubt it was 6k for a lawn mower😂😂
What kind of help is there when you go through this? My ex took $100's of thousands. Is there any recourse or help going forward? Prevented me from seeing the mail for many many years.
Get a lawyer
If he isn't letting you see the mail, you could open a PO box and have your mail forwarded there, and don't give him the key
You have to take your power back from these people. Or they will spend you into the poorhouse or more.
Or you have a spouse who changes the mailing address to everything important without your knowledge. You only find out when you don’t get your summons for jury duty.
I had/have many attorneys to help where help could be helped to get away. In the end he has attempted to file bankruptcy in two states.
Getting a P.O. box after the fact does not help. If only I knew sooner what he was doing. He did this for almost 20 years. I missed court dates that I never new existed. And paid over $5,000 on an accumulated lien on my house for a bill I did not know existed when I sold the house. . The bill was only a few hundred originally. He let me see mail but it was always after he got it. I found out he never mailed bills when I asked him too. He would just get rid of them. I would not know because he would then hid the bill when it came again.
It sounds like it could be some form of addiction. To me, it possibly could be gambling.
Note of warning: money is power. Having none of your own puts you in a bad position.
Or have a truly joint financial union in your marriage. Transparency, working together, no surprises being on the same team. The callers husband has never been on her team it sounds like.
This lady makes more excuses for her husband than anyone. She needs an extra job so he can spend more. 😂
My husband bought a lawn mower. Delaney….He has an addiction. Lol! Come on
Dude, it was $6000 lol
Daloney, you think making all those YOU accusations will help fix things?
Dave would have cut her off much sooner.
Not a husband a snake
$6,000 for a mower? Come on!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I don't buy it.
Mine bought a $5000 one at Home Depot, plus tax and warranty. Cub Cadet, lasted 1 month past the warranty. Sitting in the garage collecting dust lol not~
@@sheila_rabant not good. Was it a drivable?
@@pauljensen4773 won't even start
That’s awful. This poor woman. Wow.
Time for her to grow a spine
My sweet Lady stop making excuses😣!! Something is up
He put a lien on his car to, maybe, get it fixed.
It’s possible. We need his side of the story and also the truth. If he’s lying, divorce him.
I’d bet money against that being the truth.
I know. Why scrape a car, for just a few hundreds in repairs?
Chicks always make excuses for their spouse. He’s a grown man.
Honestly this isnt bad. He seems like she is just upset bc she doesnt approve of his purchases. Nothing says they are in deep debt. The sky is falling. 6 grand isnt alot for a mower. John deers are expensive. The family mighht need one. We barely know anything about this relationship
Time for a divorce lawyer.
@@barbararepko4824 this chick is crazy
Why is John’s chair so freaking high?
I don't think it is - it's just perspective with him sitting closer to the camera, and possibly being taller
Trying to flex because everyone calls these two beta simps.
It's not working
Why does none of these three individuals understand how you take a lien out on a vehicle? How are they making money?
Yes John, you can be honest. Stop asking
I thought credit doesn’t matter!
Dr. John loves to try to break up marriages.
I love her accent
She sounds extremely vulnerable to me. It’s cute, though. She doesn’t seem mad enough.
My dream woman ❤.
I bet it was a title loan!
Husband should not be allowed to handle the money.
Jesus Christ... He's mowing his grandparents farm with a nice $6k mower. Not mowing every lady in towns bushes.
I'd run right down to Lowes tonight and buy the toro 21" for $499 and tell her mow day is Saturday. She could probably get 2 acres done in a 4 hour afternoon, at about 3mph...
Trust is very difficult to repair no matter what you do. For me, if my husband lied to me about anything, I would never trust him again and get a divorce and start over. If it was me, I would get rid of the bum so you can have a happy life with someone who you can trust.
I love to hear his side of the story. Jon is guessing at best. 😂😂hes a joke
Yup true... when a mas calls in with a wife that spends a lot of money, they blame him for her spending habits by not "providing a safe space or emotional support" or whatever stupid reason they make up.
Trusts gone I would of walked no question
Jon is such a simp in this video. Im a counselor and this isnt even the case 99% time. We dont know much. Stoppppp
There’s no way you are counselor and haven’t seen this! Most of the time John is right and any counselor would know this.
@@flashthecorgi2053 ok. He has a phd which means 0. He is clueless and projects alot.
@@nikolaig1 You just said you’re a counselor and I don’t believe that! Especially because your grammar isn’t great. Also, if you are a counselor you would know this happens all the time. John is right almost 100% of the time. Just watch one of his shows that involve financial infidelity and it comes out. Also, he has 2 PhDs and tons of EXPERIENCE with real clients so you’re not making much sense! He’s also not even close to being clueless. Taking his FPU class rn and he’s so intelligent it’s amazing watching him. Love John so much!!
We've heard the exact inverse of this call, and they basically told the guy "what kind of world are you creating for your wife where she feels like she needs to spend all this money to feel some sort of happiness?" So when the man overspends, it's the man's fault, and when the woman overspends, it's also the man's fault. Interesting.
That's a great point and you're pretty much right. I've seen them say that a lot. There's a few things I'm no on board with the Ramsey team and that is "Credit cards are always bad, but debit cards are fine when they're basically the same thing" or "it's always the mans fault" and "It's never okay to live with your parents".
I doubt he bought a 6k lawnmower. I bet he bought some stuff for it and total was 6k. Even if he did. Whats wrong with that?
It sounds like she's bringing up stuff from the past, stuff before they agreed to the Ramsey plan. Stupid stuff happens before discovering common sense, I mean, the Ramsey plan. Also, the first seven years of marriage is a learning process.
Baloney's advice is to start a conversation with accusations. Pfft
He bought a $6000 lawn mower recently, that's not a learning process. That's lying about not spending money. Pfff
this lady is out for lunch to say the least
ARE YOU SAFE????
AVP
not the issue / sweet / salary / and check stubs/
A friends husband pulled these sorts of stunts and it turned out he had a gambling addiction
My friend's husband did the same thing. She put up with it until the day that she was evicted from her house by the bank. The mortgage hadn't been paid for the best part of a year.
Yes, gambling problem.
@@davidbrayshaw3529 I had a relative pass away who I thought was loaded but he had 90K worth of debt and it turned out gambling addiction. With all the online and sports betting and tv commercials, I fear this will become the new drug in our country.
Divorce.
I see a divorce in their future
Keeps making excuses.....you are being run over and around by him...wake up!!!
She sounds like a doormat...I doubt she'll take any of their advice 🤷♀️
A divorce is on the way
I am not saying this man is not a bad husband oo. There was a toxic Liberian pastor here in Maryland, had a lot of toxic African members , church so toxic , the toxic pastor and his his toxic wife were misleading the vulnerable married women in the church to give their entire paycheck to their husbands, let the man give them money for food and upkeep but the man should handle all the finances . After listening to this lady, I am wondering was she desperate for marriage or is she in one of those toxic churches using scriptures to suppress women? Why would any pastor mislead women like this to tell them to be absent from the family finances. My daddy Dave Ramsey a multi millionaire , our mother Sharon Ramsey never worked outside their home from the day she had their first child, her name is on everything. She has a say in every financial decision. Knows where all the money is going. I am very curious to know more about how their relationship started. Your wife trust you with the family finances and you running and draining the family? Is she afraid of this man or afraid of divorce? She should love herself enough to separate finances and get fully involved or else she will end up like the lady in Maryland who was sitting home and the sheriff came to lock her apartment because her husband did not pay the rent. Every wife needs to know and have a say , be a part of the family money. Ladies remember we have children oo. These men leave us with the children. Don’t be silent oo. Protect yourself and your children oo.
That's why you never put YOUR money into a man's account, you basically give him the permission to take it.
What's his is yours and what's yours is yours huh.
The old have you cake and eat it to play huh 😂? How
Many cats do you have ?
It's her husband. If she can't do that she Married a bad person.
@@baconblaster6422 how many fleas do you have?
@@cassietheboss9211 A man shoul provide for the family - not a woman give money to a man. She's like a sugar momma at this point.
Frog voice caller; can't watch. AAAhhhhhhhhh
He is spending it on a man or a woman.