My Husband Hid $200,000 Of Debt From Me!
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As a 49 year old, I cannot understand marrying someone aged 24. Poor woman needs to get away quickly.
It is a massive ref flag and speaks highly of his maturity level and brain.
No woman around his own age would have married him. So he went for young and dumb.
Yea I feel so bad for him, with her threatening divorce just because he wants to keep his child. Truly heartless
My stepmom told, everyone she married an older man to take care of her.
Ew I know.
This marriage is a lost cause. They are different generations. Better get out.
Skipped millennials and went straight to gen z, this dude has issues.
@@Clockwork_999 LOL. I was thinking the same thing. I'm gen X and to me gen z are kids. This guys is sicko.
Unfortunately if he hasn’t gotten custody by now spending 200k he may never win this case.
Exactly! Couldn’t imagine what that judge would thing when he sees his papers 😂
Lawyers just take your money. $600 an hour and he didn't even win the case! Should have paid off the ex-wife or made some kind of deal with her instead,
He seems like he’s controlling, emotionally abusive, and just wants to win. How terrifying?!?!
That’s probably the reason why he has no custody. It’s like he want the custody out of spite
And it sounds like this is a child that would benefit from a bigger community of support from both parents and their families long term if neither parent is abusing them. Just sad when parents make everything about themselves and not their kid.
24 and husband 49 huge red flag
my thoughts exactly
huh?
He wanted a young nanny that he could still sleep with!
@@lisastevens2431 maybe he should sleep with you then Lisa!
it is, but this is also California and LA area, happens all the time there lol
This is why premartial and financial counseling are imperative before getting married.
and why lawyers are the only ones who benefit from divorce
I agree.. if any partner has a bad habit bad spending.. get out you’re dating a teenager not a responsible adult
Reading in-between the lines here (and jumping to a lot of conclusions). They married when she was 20. Sounds like he went through his horrible divorce and decided to pick up a young trophy wife. She probably hasn't gone to college or established a career. He has been in a court battle for YEARS and has a high profile lawyer. Sounds like he is dragging his ex through the ringer. If she decides to divorce him, I can't imagine what will go through his head. He will be in another divorce and custody battle. That concerns me. This woman knows nothing about his finances, has no finances of her own and probably isn't very employable. If she decides to divorce she needs to surround herself with family and get prepared for a long battle ahead.
She has babies (plural). Pregnant at what age?
I doubt the skills of this high dollar lawyer if he's still in a custody battle at this point.
Those are a lot of words to say she's a sugar baby.
A terrible petty control freak that stops at nothing sounds like. Her lack of employability and finances might work in her advantage, as in he has nothing to take. On the other hand, it can work for him as he may be better able to provide financially, although his court battles don't speak for him being a great father. At 20ish she was certainly naive and easy to manipulate, that's why insecure old dudes like this one pick them. She needs to become much more strategic to get out of this nightmare. Kind of like what Tom Cruise's ex wife Katie did, but she was advised by her father who's a lawyer. Would love an update on this.
Never ever marry someone old enough to be your parent!
He wants her as a built-in nanny, wife in title only.
She married a man double her age and wanted the comfy life. She married him for the money and doesn’t want his child in the picture (even though she sits at home all day) as she wants all the resources to herself. A nanny would be cheaper for him than a wife. Why you acting like she had no choice in all this? She married him!
How do you marry someone with a son whom you don't want to have anything to do with?!?@?!
My thoughts exactly
Well he's not blood related so sadly I agree with her on this. He's the father and blood related to that child so it should be his responsibility. Divorce is sad in general but it's not her child technically.
Swong705: Exactly!!! Why isn’t anybody else talking about this more?! “I don’t want full custody because I’m a stay at home mom and I would have to be the one to deal with him.”
A man is hiding stuff from his wife. Marriage is a partnership and behind his wife’s back he is trying to get custody of his son without talking about it with his wife. Huge issues in a marriage. Huge lack of trust and respect. Never a good idea. Also sad she bursts into tears when asked ‘are you safe’. This ladies, is why we women need financial independence. I got scared when she said ‘stay at home mom’ (not criticizing her bcs I am one, but it creates issues when you want to leave a marriage but feel like you can’t)
@@ImSeriously2123
That is not the issue. I feel that could be talked about and worked on if her husband really cared badly about both son and wife. Problem is her husband never bothered talking about it with her and acts like a boss who can do whatever he wants without consulting his wife, treating his wife like a second class citizen. That is the real issue. She is a guest in her own home. A home that probably does not feel like hers.
When sugar babying goes wrong 😑
Ha!
She’s 24, he’s 49 yup! 😂
Exactly what’s going on
And i feel like she broke up that marriage
Facts😂😂, I sorta like that. Sprinkle sprinkle 😂
Threatening divorce every week? She doesn’t sound like a winner.
She was 20 years old and found a 45 year old making 400k. Settled for a 25 year old age gap dreaming stars of 50k vacations and being a millionaire and could safely divorce and take some of it. Husbands going through a midlife crisis and found an attractive 20 year-old and settled with her wanting the money. Didn’t work out how either expected probably .
@@AP-uk4di Bingo, right on the money with both guesses I think.
What a shallow person. Guy needs to get away for his sake. Hosts should have asked the guy if he’s ok and whether he’s on the receiving end of abuse.
@@AP-uk4di In other words, they both are using each other. Now I wonder, why isn't this relationship working?? SMH
She sounds powerless and desperate.
He probably was her sugar daddy and she fell in love with the lifestyle. Now it's a nightmare
Sounds about right to me!
That's a possibility 🤔
I agree, she doesn't even want to be bothered with his son which is a red flag to me. She should have some love for that child somewhere right?
Bingo! I'm willing to bet her claims that he is acting More like a dad than a husband are fabricated. I'm willing to bet he expects her to act like a wife and she Is still acting like a girlfriend.
Doesn't sound like much of a lifestyle, if he doesn't even have $200k for lawyers.
Don’t marry someone with kids you’re not ready or willing to take care of.
An old couple once told me and my wife to never even say the word divorce. Never threaten each other with it, never say anything about divorce… so far the advice has proven to be good!
Well... if*** your wife is seeking for comforting from another man... it works.
@@wojciechorama how do you figure? My wife doesn’t seek anything from another man.
You are absolutely right. I have learned that whenever someone uses the word divorce it's already been in their mind and you might as well just divorce.
I know someone who would threaten a break up over every small thing especially when they were in the wrong. The good one in that relationship got out and the one always ranting about "divorce" is getting sued for having their dog chase kids and neighbors trying to kill them when they are trying to go to school and work. They dodged a bullet
I had to threaten my wife with divorce if she didn’t combine finances with me. At the time our net worth was -$70K. I let her keep her savings separate. Now our joint net worth is $1.6MM.
At that price he could have gone to law school and be his own attorney
HAHAHAHAHA
So true
Hey lady! Stop threatening to leave; & LEAVE this no-win situation.
Your love & respect for him are gone!
Lol she wanted to marry an older dude and never work again. TRY AGAIN lol
We all have problems but when listening to Dave Ramsey it makes our so minuscule.
Not trying to make myself or others feel better just stating a remember that our problems are nothing compare to others & keep fighting keep rising y’all
Honestly, I don’t watch Reality TV. But this show is as close as I get.
I was thinking the same thing
Like my goodness this is tough!!
I just got home insulted by my baby mama. I don’t think anyone got it worst then me 😔
Schadenfreude.
Question... If she's a stay at home mom and HE wants custody of anither child how does he see the upbringing of that child. And if she leaves him how hard and long will he fight for custody of their children?
Has she been "recruited" as his new wife so he has more chance of full custody and will he do the same with a next wife?
What a mess, find help!
Anne
She needs to leave and marry someone close to her age.
If so she needs to wait on dating... before marriage and get her together.
@@sueblack5794 She needs to leave, PERIOD. No need for marriage NOW OR EVER!
The book "Ten stupid things women do to mess up their lives" by Laura Schlessinger addresses these situations and brings clarity when there is confusion.
Yes. Great book
Get a lawyer. Dump. Run. Don't look back.
So true.
There are kids involved. Not that easy if you're not selfish
Hunny I’m so sorry. You can hear how sad she is. Girl life is short, please choose yourself and get out of there. You will be even better for your kids when you’re happy.
The lesson to learn here is to know who you are marrying really well, and what you are getting yourself into.If you read into her tone of voice and emotions,there are a lot more things going on.
If my husband hid this much debt and was obsessed with pursuing custody rather than engaging with his new family, my advice is to RUN.
Good. She should run. She’s dead weight. Better off without her
LoL, but if it was the other partner you would be commenting that," you have to be mother bear, and if he can't support your battle for your child, divorce him, your child is more important " .
Sadly people like you are only in favor of destroying families. SMH
Clearly the Bible says that infidelity is the only reason for divorce. That's human infidelity, and not your wok definition. However, you are clearly an atheist, to be so much against a Christian institution like marriage.
So he should leave his son behind???
@@randyjimenez3849 No. But he should be about his current family. The first son is with his mother--not in foster care. He should communicate and be in the son's life as much as the mother will allow, but he is financially jeopardizing his current family.
YOU ARE EVIL. You think he should just dump his son and engage with the "new family"? The son is part of the family.
Her situation made me queasy 😩…I agree she needs to stop with the divorce threats…I gasped at the age gap because she is not mentally prepared to deal with this situation and she needs to see help.
She only wants to be happy and secure, not a nanny in debt up to her eyeballs. I hope she runs as fast as she can, this won’t end well.
They must have started dating when she was 19 or 20. He must want her to be there to take care of his son. She must not have realized the long term ramifications because she was young and immature and didn't think it through. She mentioned she had a rough childhood so that may have something to do with her decisions.
Yes, it seems like she was 19 and he was 45. How awful.
Imagine all of the good decent guy's that are closer to her age that she turned away and then SHE DECIDED to get married to 400k a year 49 year old dude. But all of those guys are only making like 50k a year at their job. Yuuuuk!!!
"ARE YOU SAFE?!" ASKED JOHN, AS HE ALWAYS DOES! xD
Yea, 24 and a 49 yr old… she didnt marry for money at all….
She must be smoking hot
What did he marry for? 🤔
Of course not....just like Anna Nicole Smith.
@@cutehumor he must have a big
And because she’s married, she’s going to be on the hook for this debt as much as him! Welcome to equality ladies.
Any man in 2022 is a fool for getting married. Period.
doesn't sound like much of a marriage :'(
Unfortunately sometimes it's better for the kids if you get out.
I think before you marry a man who has kids, you should always consider the fact that you could end up with them full time
Yes and those children will always come ahead of you.
I’m okay with age gaps but this age gap is scary. I hope she can get out of this. Suffering in a marriage like this “for the sake of my child” is how people find themselves in deep danger. I don’t think this marriage can work.
She’s just as much of the problem, if not more, than him.
Wayyyyyyy more of a problem
3:35 She should just leave, if you're threatening every other week you're done anyways.
She's a child. A woman wouldn't be asking a man to choose her over his children
Run, don’t walk.
Why doesn’t she ask him who will be raising his son if he gets full custody?
This guy is about to lose everything. He will be bankrupt, will have lost his wife, and god only knows what the rest of the family thinks of him. 49 married to a 24 year old, ouch.
I said the same thing.
Sounds like she married him so she could stay home with the kids and was counting on the Baby Mama keeping the Husbands child! There is WAY more to this story and I bet $100 the Husband has a WAY different version of what she has told! 🤨
It's probably a good thing for him. He should not have been in another serious relationship as he was a financial wreck and still dealing with serious issues. She also sounds like she has some issues -- marrying her "father." It sounds like they have been broken crutches for each other.
She just wants him for his money and he wants to take advantage of her. This is a fail
Never threaten divorce unless you mean it. As bad as what's happening to her is being threatened with repeating that trauma of another divorce has to be destroying this guy mentally making him a mess.
She needs to leave him. It’s totally dysfunctional
Get OUT NOW lady!!!
Classic example of "One lawyer in town can make a good living. Two lawyers in town and they both get rich." This "high profile attorney" has a fish on the line and is playing him for everything he's worth - and then some.
She don't want his child😒. That's a NO for me but he should have been honest with her and that's not right.
For those wondering the reason john asks if women are safe sometimes is because when a lot of messed up things are going on in a marriage or a wife is very uninformed of whats going on in a lot of areas and the woman never asks questions or directly confronts the person she was comfortable with enough to marry and sleep with, it can be a sign of violence or the threat of violence.
Nah sorry but that’s complete bullsh*t. Just because she’s too evasive to talk about stuff doesn’t mean he’s violent! Christ. Also, studies show that around 50% of domestic violence is actually done by the woman. So it’s not just a “man” thing
Some women are just evasive, sneaky and indirect and it’s in their nature. It’s hardwired, biological, depending on the specific girl. It has nothing to do with the guy himself, girls who are like that are like that with EVERY guy
@@charlesg7926 If you reread the comment i said it CAN be a sign not it IS a sign.
I'm noticing a pattern of wives calling in to this show with the husband being in "real estate" and not doing so hot these days....
I bet some of them also claim to be "entrepreneurs" lol.
It's not a good sign when you ask if someone feels safe and she starts crying.
I hear this and celebrating my single status. Absolutely in love with myself.
Narcissism in love with yourself
Brings lots of issues in itself
So my advice talk to a shrink
😂
Good for you. Loving yourself is self-care, not narcissism. People who dont love themselves end up in toxic or miserable marriages.
@@alko-ovialko5816
Even a shrink will say love yourself first.
😂😂
Run young lady at all cost .
When he was her age, she wasn't even born yet. This is a situation somebody her age should not be involved in. When I was her age I was trying to have fun and figure out how I want to live my life. She's gotten locked into somebody else's life and is just along for the chaotic ride. The dark side of getting yourself a sugar daddy.
This phone calls gets worse the more you listen.
He is obsessed with his ex……
Run. In 10 years you will be too old for him, and he will want a younger mummy for his brat.
...The problem with calls like this is that you only hear one side.
I can't listen to this anymore. This is one of the absolute worst relationship calls I've ever heard on this show. God help these people.
Don’t get into a relationship with someone twice your age. That person is not looking for an equal.
She’s getting angry because the money stopped coming in 🤑
Bingo
Caller def comes across as a disgusting user.
She is twice the hazard here:
Not only does she blame the husband for money issues altogether
But also blames the husband for entering marriage with a 24-year old which is her
Am I way off with my analysis?
She is 24 and has been married to a man that is 25 years her senior for the last 4 years. How long do we suppose they dated before that? At what point was dating just grooming? And now they are married, she is living in a home where he calls all the shots. How much creepier does it get?
Great advice
Omg so sorry for you. You don’t need this. Just leave if your husband is not looking out for your future. He doesn’t consider your opinion so it’s not worth it. Let him continue to do his thing cause he loves his son or just wants to hurt his ex. You deserve better. It won’t get better
Her husband also has a child in a previous marriage. This woman sounds like the typical me or your child BS.
Wow! Best of luck to you, Ella. Thoughts and prayers.
Her and the husband are both using each other. He's using her for her body and she is using him for his cash. Hard to feel bad when the love isn't really there
facts
Omg how the hell is it that this guy makes good money and is fighting for his kid and they ask her if she is safe and she is being hurt you guys should be ashamed
What did she expect knowing he had a son?!
Wow, what a sticky situation. She's unemployed, and they forgot to ask if her children are his. If she gets divorced he could come after her too with an attorney for full custody of her kids too, and how is she going to pay for a lawyer. Wow.
For richer or poorer, for better or worse. Selfish...very Selfish.
She 24, he’s 49. She doesn’t work, he makes 400k-- sugar daddy alert
He's not a sugar daddy - he is broke.
Your sugar daddy status is defined by the money you have, not the money you would have without your outgoings.
She needs to leave that dude.
Hypergamy is real, even though the Ramsey team never acknowledges it. She went with an older dude because she thought he had his shit together. That’s an even trade. Her youth and beauty for his competency and resources. She held up her end of the bargain. Loser did not, .
Spending 200k in the family court system just to lose is just pissing in the wind.
She’s 24 and he’s 49, there you go.
This made me cry.
25 year age gap...... and she wonders why she is looked at as a child....
That guy is a perv and doesn’t care what his wife (young enough to be his child), thinks. She needs to go.
@coasternerd He is EASILY old enough to be her father. Only a fellow perv would justify it.
Some levity would be her calling to ask if leasing a luxury car would be a good idea at this time.
This car takes me back to my relationship where the guy had a kid we were engaged, and it broke off, but these step parent situations people think it’ll be fine but there’s so many conflicts and so much irritation that often goes on between kids, husband, and wife. It actually works well pretty rarely.
Get out! Cut your losses and move on. You can't take on their family problems. Be free.
This is an extremely selfish woman. He's the one that works hard for her and a man doesn't spend 200k to get full custody of his son unless the mother is a complete f*ck up. This chick needs to step up and be useful and take care of his son as if she was his own mother. Like I said he makes very good money. I'm sure they are not living like bums.
John “are you safe” delony 😅
20+ year age gap about summed it all up
Sending love to this young lady. She needs to leave him ASAP.
I actually think she’s equally to blame here. Let me explain why. She’s marrying this guy not for his love, but for his money. If he knew that she really loved him, then he would have been comfortable being honest about his debt. He had to lie because clearly, she only wants him for money. That’s shameful
Also respectfully, if I were the guy- I would have sued John Delaney for, BASELESSLY, implying he was violent by asking “Are you safe?”. I absolutely would not have tolerated him defaming me like that, we would have been in court and he would’ve been paying a lot of money.
I mostly agree with Charles. I also think it’s sad that a man has to spend almost 200 grand just to see his kids, but women get to see their kids just by existing- moms get such unfair preferential treatment in court system = / good fathers should be able to get custody
And it’s definitely wrong for John Deloney to act like this guy is domestically violent, there’s no reason to assume that. John Delaney is 100% out of line
@@anacorreia8058 I wish, things didnt go so well for my mom.
That’s not your husband. That’s your ex husband
Or her dad.
That’s called fraud, get a divorce.
The age gap is just the icing. The underlying issue is the ‘unsaid’ of the conversation.
Run!!!
If he still has not won his custody fight after 3 years, I really don't think he ever will.
Please, RUN life will be hard but you will find happiness. making the decision it the crude part.
Run!
She married her sugar daddy then had children with the sugar daddy??? Why?
Dear lord this call is nuts
I can see why the father/husband did not share that info. She is not providing a safe space by threatening with divorce and he is the one paying all this debt. She doesn’t sound very supportive. Also why marry a man older than you that much, it’s must be the money!
Leave leave now
While he shouldn’t hide any debts , I can see why as it seems like she is selfish and obviously doesn’t support her husband being close to his son. Only cares about her and her kids . She’s a stay at home Mom while he works to support their family and not abandon his son. He’s trying to be a good dad and not abandon his son. I have no sympathy for her at all. He’s better off without her.
He still lied by omission by not telling him his intentions of getting full custody of his son.
@@shelbysycamore637 It sounds like she doesn't listen & is selfish only HER kids count. SAHM is not a job taking care others kids is so she wants to keep getting her allowance she should support him in his endeavor to get HIS son.
@@matemahe you are correct, but he should have been open about his intentions of taking his son on full-time if he intended on having her as a stay at home wife. Both of these people are wrong this case.
They would both have been better off never meeting each other. They are both taking advantage of each other.
@@vickieclark5931 You would think a 39 year old would have enough foresight to know marrying a 19 year old wouldn't bode well.
Remember, Your babies are depending on YOU.
Her husband is doing whatever he wants with disregard of whatever she wants or feels this is a one sided relationship she will end up with that kid no matter what she wants because that is what he wants…she needs to get a divorce
she is 24 he is 49
there you go
don't marry someone who is TWICE your age lady
Nothing wrong with it from a man's perspective.
@@Originalman144 She is about to take what money he has...a man is a dribbling idiot, soon to be divorced again idiot, if they marry someone that young. A fool and their money will soon part and he is a fool.
@@Originalman144 well there's a man and a woman in the relationship and it's not working out for her. Good luck to your daughters
They are both wrong for not talking about this before... but she is wrong for not wanting to take care of the son. Imagine what he feels when she says that...
If you ask a woman if she’s safe in her relationship and she starts crying, there is a lot that she’s not explaining out loud. She needs more than financial help.
Nay, it's just that she was emotional from the start so she didn't need much to break down while being on the air. She needs more than financial help but The Ramsey Show shouldn't gave given her anything more. Seems like they pushed her towards divorce as if that would make her situation any better.
Or maybe she’s being manipulative on purpose to gain sympathy in order to help herself financially in the upcoming divorce she obviously wants. She already admitted she married her husband for MONEY, not LOVE. She’s cold & calculating
@@u.2b215 Dr. John Delony is a mental health and wellness expert so he is able to give advice in this situation.
Cut your losses, lady.
Such a horrible situation.. how do you stop fighting for your child?
so she got married at 20 meaning she was dating him around 18/19 while he was in his mid 40’s. If that isn’t a creepy, pedo like situation, I don’t know what is. She has more red flags waving in her face that at a Chinese flag company.
If you can't accept their child as your own, you have no business marrying someone with children. You're not just marrying the person, you're marrying the whole package.
Yep. This is exactly why I don't want kids nor date a single mom. Needless to say, I'm not exactly the most-eligible Bachelor lol. It is what it is. :)
Accepting (i.e. loving) the child as your own doesn't imply taking on the responsibility of full-time parenting of that child. Especially when the child is only 14 years younger than you are.
@@mikenelson8377 Single moms want you to take on all the responsibility of their child, but none of the decision making. And the first time you do something they don't like, they will remind you you aren't the kids father. You are smart to stay away from them.
@@mikenelson8377 A lot of single guys feel that way too.
@@mikenelson8377 your fine to be honest you know why you want that’s ok kids aren’t for everyone
People create messes in their lives.
As soon as she stated he is 49 and she is 24... it was an easy determination.
Why are they trying to save this disaster. There are too many problems.