My Husband Hid $140,000 Of Debt From Me!
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- My Husband Hid $140,000 Of Debt From Me!
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Sell the husband
🤣🤣
Lol.... word
💯 ... Super shady 😂
😅😅😅
He's not worth much on the second hand market. 😄
She's married to a stranger...
To a greater or lesser degree, most marriages are, and remain, between strangers.
@@1redrubberball The more time spent with a person the more you learn about them. For this husband to be able to successfully conceal $100k and the wife not know makes it clear that she doesn't know him well at all. I've been married for 15 years and I can't conceal a bag of Skittles from my husband or kids!
@@kimberlytejeda4649 I've been married over 20 years and some people are extremely good at manipulating for years. You are absolutely blessed, my friend. God is Faithful Still
And now I hope she is divorcing a stranger...
@@kimberlytejeda4649 Buy them with cash and put them in some menstrual /menopausal vitamins bottle ;)
"I want to help him, whether we are together or not". THAT is what he is banking on literally. He will take you for everything you have before he is through and you will see the back of him only when you stop propping him up with money.
$50k on a credit card??? I'm going crazy over owing my credit card $1300. It's time for a divorce lady!
Miss Candy Exactly! My limit isn’t even that high! Lol
Same I had got up to $4300 in credit card debt at one point that was enough for me.
What would the interest be on the monthly? And the monthly.payment?
I have 2500 and want to consider bankruptcy 😂😂
My $300 concerns me 🤣
Sounds like another family or something. That’s awful.
Casey Burns Investing or gambling, drug addiction etc.
Casey Burns Investing Yes, the wife sounds like she’s seriously suspicious of something else going on. That’s a stressful situation.
This is just what she's uncovered. 100% there's more.
He's definitely hiding a lot more...
Women... so assuming. Stick with what you know and what you can prove.
Eddie Wow lol
Erin Klein Dillard I was thinking gambling
Umm, hubby had a child by some chick.
Far Above Rubies who’s asking you? Go make me a sandwich
"There's a honey on the side."
NEVER thought I'd hear those words from Dave. 😕 Yikes! But that's the truth.
Ms. Jai I would like to be that honey if he spending $140k on me 😬 that a frickin lot of money to spend on a girlfriend.
Just when I am all in my feelings about being single...….
Journey to Finding Cam 🤣 Feeling better now, huh? 😁
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Same!!!!!!
we would ABSOLUTELY NOT be seeking marriage counseling; I would be in a divorce lawyers office so fast!!! He can keep his secret life - I would be OUT!
Counseling doesn't always lead to reconciliation but it can always help. In the case of a divorce, especially with kids involved, it can help keep the divorce process from becoming toxic.
Mean Carleen if she did go that route she would most likely be responsible for half of that 140k debt
@@4G1O4 she was unaware of the debt which means she didn't sign off for the debt and can't be held liable and even if she was I would still lose; the trust is gone and he is clearly living another life anyway. My ELDERLY parents are divorcing and she has over 10k in credit card debt IN HIS NAME that she took out on her own; she is the only one liable for the debt and her lawyer told her she has to pay it off no longer use them and close the accounts
ABSOLUTELY!!!
@@nchinth ALL that goes out the window when you are DECEIVING and living a secret life. How about loyalty? honesty? trust? Is she supposed to pretend none of that matters because of vows??? Are you freaking serious? You stay in a fake 'marriage' based on that kind of foundation, I would be GONE.
Hire a private detective to look into his actions
And add more debt? Not very wise at all… leave the cheater!
Don’t waste your time with a loser. Get out of that relationship now.
Look up narcissism, he can't be healed. Get out now.
J T came here to say this
@@CChantim those people if they do it once and you forgive, they will do it in a much worse way the next time to destroy the other person financially, mentally, and emotionally.
My ex-wife hid 161k from me in credit card debt. Which is why she is my ex.
So what was her story, ? Shopping addiction or something else?
My ex-husband pulled the same (though for less). Which is why he's my ex. To me, pulling something like this - it's financial infidelity.
Dave is always very compassionate about the victims. True empathy! I’m really grateful for that.
only if it's a women...to dave, women do not need to work, they need to pop out 100 kids & the man should do everything to provide. If this was a man calling in to say his wife was hiding debt dave would say "well...you're marriage, her debt is your debt"
Agreed!💙
@@ultratestosterone2983 Dave school of financial peace, feminazi 101 & SIMP 101
*cliche as it may be if he is hiding that he's likely hiding a lot more*
This woman is a bit slow if you know what I mean.. red flags everywhere! She should divorce him.
OhReally she’s not slow for believing someone she felt that she loved.
That isn't called cliche, it is called reality. That's why trust is so hard to re-earn.
Dude got an expensive side chick
Vinny T. And he may be a good FPU teacher. Must be a nice side piece too...
Wrong. It's a dude.
The woman sounds like she’ll stay with him anyway 🙄
She said he's an alpha. This new side of her husband probably turns her on.
This is the person he always was its just its starting to show more clearly
Not cool to hide debt.I worked with a woman that was retiring. The day she left she went to her safe deposit box (she worked in a bank). She pulled out a stack of credit cards and started crying. She said, her husband thought they had all their debts paid off and he was retiring too. He was 70, she was 62.’ She had over $100k in credit cards she was just making the minimum payment on. She had a PO Box her statements went to. She always had to have nice clothes and jewelry, she ate out and paid for their kids vacations... all on credit.I never heard what happened after that.
With the decreased income, they most likely will never get them paid off.
Ohh nooo...
Joye Briggs okay if u die with debt what happens then
The most selfish part of this story is the fact that she retired
Why did she retire with $100k in credit card debt?
That call needs to be added to the "incredible call" list. OMG😱
It could be one or more of the following:
1. An affair (possibly with an illegitimate child)
2. A gambling or drug addiction.
3. Although it’s a remote chance, he’s being blackmailed.
Lazy Akers or financially stupid
Him Bike correct and a liar , not sincere with wife
yeah people dont think about option 3. but lately people are blackmailed a lot for silly things.. i suspect 3. we should not assume what is majority in the society..
4. Con. Males are not easy to accept being conned.
If he was being blackmailed for140k he'd be dead( in Miami FACTS!)
Damm I feel bad for her, I hate people who lies to you to get something from you.
I think you should maybe do a topic concerning undercover gambling. My x told me she had bladder cancer. 2 years later I found out the truth. No cancer just a bad gambling problem. Being a trucker,I was hardly home to keep “doctors bill” paid. Who would ever believe your “wife” was so capable of this level of deceit. That was 2015, I’ve almost got my credit recovered.
Oh, Kim... It's sweet to hear at the end that she wants to help him. That's what marriage is for! What isn't for marriage is concealment, especially if it involves money... Sure, he has his reasons, but it's not fair putting Kim in that financial situation.
I agree, no reason to put her in that situation no matter what's going on.
@@bullonwallst totally
Erika Kullberg: Finance, Investing, Passive Income This woman is a fool and should see a divorce lawyer instead of being a doormat.
Why does she sound so calm? This call is disturbing AF.
I imagine it's from her numbing herself out to the pain. The brain tends to dissassociate itself from the body in protection during really high levels of pain because it really can't deal with it. Poor lady
You can’t physically expend the energy of devastation for a long period of time. When my husband passed away I had plenty of moments with people where they commented on how strong I was. But I can’t spend my life constantly crying. The tears are just below the surface, but they can’t flow all day or else your life (and body) will totally fall apart.
She’s disconnected herself.
Also levels of denial going on.
He has another family that's easy to see.
The side baby mama probably threatening him with exposure if he doesn't pay.
Florida man lol
einstein110 everybody gives Florida a hard time lol. It’s like they are the red head step child.
😂😂😂😂
🤣🤣🤣
@@youngjedi5599 everyone is jealous
@@youngjedi5599 i lived there forn4 years. Its crazier in person
When you're in love with someone, you know. You just know certain things based on gut feelings. She knows and she doesn't wanna believe it... He's not only having an affair, it's probably a secretly family or something major.
Her feeling bad for him and wanting to help him is only going to end up with her being hurt more, and just completely draining her.
If he spends that much in this whole double life situation, he is deep in the hole. And I would recommend to just get out.
He got himself there. He can figure it out on his own.
You need a divorce.
Umm he has a girlfriend
He might have a boyfriend.
They can get expensive
My friend is a high-income earner with no savings because whenever he has a gf he instantly spends everything he has on her. It's been 5+ years, she wants marriage, but told her he can't afford it because he is broke. She was speechless. I'm still hoping he breaks up with her. But looks like they will get married...
I was gonna say he could have given it to some camgirl, but that would have been on the statements.
His side chick needs help. She has to be more supportive...... Yes I am joking.
He’s living a double life. Run, run away fast!
"I want to see him healed, even if we aren't together" that's a real wife. If he's sick I agree, if it's a side chick they can both kick rocks.. IJS
Lack of communication and no trust at this point... I would leave him.
Hubby and I knew we were both broke with student loans debt long before we got married and worked through improving our financial situation together. We're not perfect with finances, but we're honest with each other and a team!
I think people equate too much together. You do realize there are marriages where the husband does all the finances and everything is fine right? And that was true for 100's upon hundreds of years right? The problem here is an immoral husband and provider. Had he been doing right there would be no problem here. The husband it suppose to be a good leader. I'm not saying she can't ask, or he can't include or don't tell her anything about finances, but people tend to listen to Dave Ramsey, who I love his financial advice by the way, and think his word is gospel.
There are also marriages where the husband earns but the wife handles all the financial dividing up of the money as in she pays all the bills. And some of those calls have been made to Dave also where the wife took the money and claimed they had enough for vacations and the like but they didn't and she was secretly running up debt without his knowledge because she liked the life style.
Both issues are immoral behavior and Dave just as myself is a Christian, so I know he believes in male leadership in the home, BUT he tends to lean on what more people will like as a talk show personality in society which is "joint partnership". At best the relationship between husband and wife is King Queen or CEO to CFO, they need each other but one is still in charge. Where people go wrong is trying to do King to King CEO to CEO, that's not how it works and that never works well either. There is a home structure, hence why your kids must listen to you. God---->Husband----->Wife----Kids. That's how it always been and only immoral behavior causes an issue in that chain.
@@mrfred1000 Based on this, I'm the "husband", but even though I earn the income and make the financial plans, we still have to agree and work together to make them work. One sided plans in the marriage leads to conflict and lack of efforts towards the goals and each other in the marriage. And a lot of marriages in the past ran without teamwork/partnership aren't fine. Many times one feels trapped, neglected, controlled, etc. but often times just suffer because of beliefs like the man should be in charge and woman should just worry about child and the home. Now we're in an age where both women and men can gain opportunities to have careers and make inputs together on financial and family plans.
The fact she wants to help him after all of this, shows the class of this woman.
He hid 140k from her and she wants to help😂🤣😅🤦♂️
50k on CC @ like 18% is really extreme. Thats like $700 a month in interest.
That would bury you
Fun fun
140k isn't the problem.
You can't fix him.
Get a good lawyer today! NOW!
I'm sure she married him for who he is as a person and not for how much money he has or does not have. Everyone has flaws. They got married for love. Seems to me you're just a shallow person who cares more about money.
@@Andrey-xi5hc as I said, the 140k isn't the problem. It's clear he is a lying narcissist. I'm certain she only knows half of it.
Julie Anderson so true
*Communication is key especially in a marriage.* 😉
Passive Income Tom Communication I key in any relationship is communication they should have had that down before they got married.😂
actually honest communication is key and some people can't be honest.
Let's pray for this couple. I know a couple where the wife spent $70,000, and the husband had no idea she did this. When he found out he was ready to leave her, but was concerned enough about her behavior to take her to her doctor. They did tests and found out she had a brain tumor. She didn't even know she had spent the money. Also, several years ago I read story about a man who was secretly giving money to people online who said they were in need. After his wife find out she divorced him, and he lived on the street. Later she found out he had mental illness related to dementia which caused him to send money total strangers. I would suggest to Kim to persuade her husband to get physical and psychological examinations. Mental illness (listening to voices) or medical reasons may be the cause for the constant job changes and hiding credit card use. Whatever the cause for his behavior, they both need our prayers.
She got the credit card statements so where did the money go? She had it in writing. Plus, if they were doing renovations how did she not know about every expense and where the money was coming from. She not telling the whole story. If you do your finances together, how does this happen? How do you not know? If he hid everything, I’d divorce him.
She easily could have been thinking he was paying with his actual income not credit cards or 401k money, she trusted him to do all the finances and he betrayed her,only thing she did wrong was not be involved more in the finances,which again he said he could do
Yes, plus she signed for a new house even though she said she didn't want to do that. Why did she go along with financial obligations she didn't agree with?
I just learned a new word *Dichotomy*
Lol
From Florida...
That explains so much
Wonder what else is he hiding!?
A child??
20 dead hookers under the house. I guarantee it.
SmegmaBukaki69 lol
Either gambling addiction or another family. They need to get divorced. There's never going to be trust in that relationship again.
Roxy 81 nah man. It’s textbook codependency. Poor guy..his wife should really be more supportive.
As a therapist myself, I endorse your advise. It's always 100% in these situations.
I feel so bad for the lady, she come across so nice.
Preach Dave-
I saw this movie on Netflix smh
Where's Dr. John, when you need him?
She keeps defaulting to denial over everything.
I can’t figure out if she’s a saint or just slow to react. If it was me he would be buried in the backyard now. I guess I’ll stay single. I’m too old to go to prison.
"My Husband Hid $140,000 Of Debt From Me!" -- was she a blonde or brunette?
Super suspicious behavior from husband. Financial infidelity is potentially not the only thing going on in the marriage.. best of luck to Kim. She deserves better.
Marriage seems great.
What is the financial question?? Not sure why Dave allows these calls. He’s a financial expert not a marriage counselor. This radio show is slowly becoming a venting station with zero financial questions
LoveMyAbeshaWomen this is exactly the reason why I love the show! Dave assists with everything finance related. We need him to take over Congress.
@@vp1165 Exactly. He's like the Jerry Springer of personal finance, lol.
He has to bring in views...
I hear you, however, The Dave Ramsey show has expanded past financial advice. He says it all the time. When you call him, you are asking him what would he do in this situation.
Heath McConnell this issue IS totally related to finance.
There are many people that live one way and portray something different to family and friends. It's something internal with that person.
I want to help him regardless if we are together or not -mean codependent.
ugh, poor lady. hope she gets it all figured out soon :(
I'm not a mental health professional, but i play one on tv
So many marital issues. Don’t see how ppl can do this kinda thing to other ppl. So sad to hear
SHOW ME THE MONEY!!! Where did 140K go???
This just proves that you cannot control other people no matter how hard you try. Sometimes you just have to say I am done.
They didn't discuss that this hidden debt was incurred while they were married. meaning it is also her debt. Even if she files for divorce tomorrow, it does not remove her financial liability.
Wow. $140k. 📉😭
Do NOT try to help him. THAT is codependance. Get out.
Well this is a lesson for everyone.. ask these hard questions BEFORE GETTING MARRIED. That debt becomes yours and because almost half the debt is credit card debt the interest rate can climb to the moon.
Its not hard to lie about it.
She did though! They literally attended financial peace university together! He deceived her. It's called cheating. Noone can predict if their partner will one day, years down the line, do something like this.
@@Aaron-jj6on not hard at all. I used to work at a bank helping people with their accounts. Some guys are like wizards hiding this kind of thing.
Sheesh, wonder what else has been hidden
She seems like a good woman because even with splitting she still wants to help him because she truly loves him
Could simply be a case of over spending and the husband trying to shield her from all or the money issues with the hope that he'd fix it at some point. Don't know but this was just a wife looking to complain about her husband and putting all his business in the street. At what point was the 140k addressed and how to pay it off? I must've missed it.
What else is he hiding?
She wants him and to heal after $140k in debt?? I’m done... lady, you are losing it
Yeah she's nicer than both of us haha.
Also credit reports need to be ran on yourself and your spouse. Get one from a different bureau every 4 months. Example: experian in January, Equifax in April, transunion in August. Repeat each year
People live with complete strangers, and then act surprised when the find out they are just a roommate in the other person's mind.
Time for a divorce before he cleans out the rest of the accounts
This lady should RUN!! This is the exact type of scenario where the guy kills the wife for insurance money! I pray that doesn't happen to this poor lady.
A couple used Shelbys.
Dear God $140,000?! I was consumed by guilt about hiding a bag of Oreos from my husband this week and finally fessed up Saturday night. How can he look her in the eyes every day and not want to fall to his knees begging for her forgiveness?!
Wow!
Needed one of these rn
Soooooooo sad for her!!!
she needs to put 2 and 2 together... (time away from wife + each transaction in the credit cards/bank statements).
It could all be in her head. I've seen people do this all the time.
I hope this man isn’t cheating on this women. Seems to be ruining the marriage
My first thought was gambling.
Get a PRIVATE INVESTIGATOR to make sure he'd not hiding a relationship. If u find out he has been cheating u, KEEP THE EVIDENCE, GET TESTED, DON'T TELL HIM, DIVORCE HIM WITHOUT TELLING HIM ABOUT THE REASONS, so u win and his lawyer is unprepared. Good luck. I wish they would give us updates.
"Ummmhuh" "ummmhuh" he is cheating
Awful, this man ruined her life
They’re both in the wrong. He’s wrong for lying and she’s wrong for not insisting on being involved in the finances for this amount of time.
But she was involved, he deceived her. She's not wrong for trusting her husband, but he is wrong for being dishonest.
@@marieabner, She wasn't involved enough. 140k doesn't slip past ya if you're watching closely.
I've had this happen to me. 3k went missing from the emergency fund before I caught it & no I hadn't been paying close enough attention.
Agreed. It shouldn’t have been able to get that far. Still sucks though.....140k yikes. Probably side chick with expensive taste.
This is one sad story.
That is very much a reason to break up.
But I am not a relationship advisor :)
Your marriage is over, face it lady.
Hire a private investigator
He definitely has addiction issues and multiple addictions when that much money is involved.. Drugs, cigarettes, alcohol, gambling, cheating, prostitutes.. Possibly all of the above.. To be in that much debt when he made 200K a year..?? How many years was he making 200K as well..?? It sounds like they were once millionaires.
Narcissism he is a narcissist
He just tired of her
This is really concerning! Something is going on and it was probably going on long before the marriage.
They need marriage counseling. What is she calling Dave for?
Why didn't he make her apologize to her husband for not being involved enough in his life to notice he's spent $140K behind her back?
If its in his name the debt is his NOT ours..