@@mattbennett8686I feel you but if we get revenge we go to hell ik but god took my free will away to get revenge bc I already did it and he prevented it ...... I hope the same for you and yeah I'm still fkn pissed it's that bad
There are pros and cons to this disorder, I'm noticed I'd be more suitable for high emotional and high intensity situations where I can look at it objectively, but in relationships it's really hard because I look at everything without emotions and it hurts me to see that I'm hurting others emotionally and I can't do nothing about it it's all inside in my mind.
bro gonna be honest it kinda just sounds like you're inept, which is normal. I'm biased but I really don't think this RAD thing is really, especially when attachment therapy itself is listed a psuedoscience. like im a strange n all but idk, maybe check you aren't being gaslit into this.
As a child diagnosed with a form of this (compulsive attachment disorder) this is still very accurate along with the causes and symptoms. Sadly since mine is a compulsive disorder I don’t realise what the disorder causes me to do and I end up blaming myself for whatever I do. I know that I have it but that’s about all that I know.
RAD caused me to live my life outside of the normality of society. I seemed pretty normal to those around me but actually I had to work hard to cope with societies expectations. RAD for me was very destructive to things that society values, like assets, connections, sense of community, so even though I had good jobs, I never connected or felt I belonged to anything or anywhere. Now i'm over 50 and was only diagnosed a few years ago, because I guess when I was a kid it wasn't a thing. Now I'm screwed.
C0rpz3 Hugz Please scroll down to the thread by brijit hixxx . Please read the lengthy message I gave to a gentleman there as this will definitely help you I really know it will .
It gets better. As an adult who was a foster child from 8 months to 11 years old, who went through 10 (possibly more) foster homes, I get by. A lot of us do. And you will too. Healing will happen. But we all have to work together with our psychiatrists and psychologists for that
I feel you, I know how you feel as well, have been in care since 3 years old and am now 16, at your age, I was in a REALLY bad situation and mental state, yet the one thing that kept me going was spite, I despised my case worker, (at the time case worker) and I still do. Sometimes while I wished I was dead, I’d remember, isn’t that what she wants, they are expecting this of me, they are prepared and have such a low expectation of me that they know I’m going to try and die, so I didn’t, and now, while I don’t feel as bad as I did back when I was 14 I still sometimes get those days, and I think of that one caseworker I hate, all in all, I feel your pain and know that if I can make it, you are dam well going to as-well.❤
Im 43 still going through this miserable life i cant escape people will never understand if i could change i would people always think they know the answer and its easy to beat if that was the case i wouldn't be going through this at 43
Or substance abuse addicts- either way I truly believe there should be certain requirements to have children… too many fucked up ppl in this world all bc fucked up ppl mated with each other
I saw a video of a lady who’s brother in law gave his child to her. The child has RAD and it was so sad to see that baby cry and look neglected. How can people do that to their own babies? Why have kids if you can’t take care of them.
I think it would be eye opening for many people to view adults as simply grown up children. Everyone has their own story of how they ended up the way they did.
idk its kinda normal for ppl on the spectrum to have issues forming relationships. dont wanna jump the shark but just an FYI that this RAD thing is likely a scam, since its listed symptoms are EXTREMELY vague. like i don't think its a thing, im pretty sure people are just lumping in trauma, asd and other undiagnosed disorders for this kinda.. fake one.
@@caramel9154UH!?!?!? aww hell naw, you want a professionally diagnosed RAD patients life story, that fits all the strict criteria for this diagnosis? Let’s go then, when I was 3 years old I was taken out of my mothers care all because she had an intellectual disability, and placed with her mum and dad (my nan and pop), unfortunately for DCP who did just a TINNNY oopsie, forgot to check their crime history, and failed to reliese that in fact nan and pop weren’t just also intellectually disabled, but my mothers father also raped his own daughter at 16, got her PREGNANT, and made her give birth and have my brother/uncle die in my mothers arms at 16 from all his fucked up genetic issues...YAY! Yet a whole year went by before DCP actually went ‘hold on something’s not right let me check the grandfathers police records’ yet, unsurprisingly it was to late... 3 year old me and already been molested for a whole year. Yet it didn’t stop there...no no. I was quickly moved away and put into a emergency family home, (for not even a year I think) and I learned to love this woman who opened her home for me, so much so that I called her mum, yet in that house, when eating dinner, I didn’t sit at the table with the family, I sat on a little plastic drawing/playing table away from them (I had a brother who was also there) later on, while I learned to love this woman, turns out her husband didn’t like us, so we moved away and never saw them again, after finding what was meant to be a long term foster carer, we moved in (remember DCP are meant to Police check and everything to determine that a home is suitable for children) come to find out while I lived in that house for 4 years, from the ages of 4-8, called them mum and dad, yet the man like me a BIT too much, so much so that everyday, the man who I trusted to call dad molested me every morning for 4 years until I told someone. Then yada yada ya... I move from a small town to the big city to leave behind my old life, (I didn’t choose to leave DCP chose for me), then I live with an emotionally abusive household, yet still called them mum and dad, yet when they were in a bad mood, would yell at me to not call them that and that they aren’t my parents...mind you I’m 10. Anyhow they had to change jobs so I have to move 2 years later, so still being in that habit at age 11 I move into the loveliest woman’s house, she was so sweet and kind, yet I stopped calling people mum,I’d tried that 4 times and it never worked out.. she was the best house I’d ever lived in, yet beacuse I was in that pattern of moving away from people I loved after 2 years, that once I have lived with her for those to years..I thought that (even if unconsciously) I need to run away, I wanted to leave, I’d much rather do it myself then be rejected...then blah blah blah emergency foster homes, Id try to kill myself...then the foster home would say I’m too much and ask for DCP to come and collect me from the hospital...then I was institutionalised for 3 months which I had my 12th birthday in. I was treated lower than them abused with the other kids in care, held down ‘restrained’ as I begged them to let me go and not rape me (which they did not rape me) then again after those 3 months I moved from the big city...to a different small town. Where I have lived with SPECALIZED carers for 4 year and am currently 16. How DARE you say that it’s a scam, because this SCAM has stopped me from calling people mum and dad, from even loving my own biological mother and brother, this scam has ruined my life, I’d like to see you live with it.....don’t even TRY and say what you want. Being PROFESSIONALLY diagnosed has given me clarity if only a little bit. I will never love like you, I won’t “feel” emotions like you, they will always be different, and I will never love someone with true love.
@@tashabrown4582 I recommend against trauma dumping on strangers, especially when there are a lot of people who just make fun of CSA survivors for enduring the abuse that they did or simply can't believe a mutual stranger. It's also just unhealthy to dump that kind of information onto strangers. Especially when you don't know what they may or have may not been through. I'm calling the diagnosis a scam because it's extremely broad and vague. The symptoms themselves are real but could just as easily be PTSD, neurodivergency, or both. Paired with the treatments for RAD ranging from strange to abusive, I do feel like a lot of vulnerable kids are being further exploited because they don't fall into cookie cutter standards of what adults want from them. i don't like that idea and the evidence i've seen supporting RAD are subpar. If you've got any more up to date sources you're free to link me. Like the stuff you described just sounds like PTSD in a child, if someone's abused by parental/family figures then it makes sense they wouldn't form such connections again, or at least not easily, which I imagine extends to affection as a whole. Feelings of paranoia towards people you trust, fears of things that remind you (or your subconscious) of something relating to trauma, sometimes being unable to recall the events at all due to your brain blocking it out but other times 'experiencing it in great detail. Intrusive thoughts don't help anyone, they're exhausting, yet they're there. I feel the need to point out the following: 1. While they are experts, medical proffesionals aren't always right! We can just look at the history of medicine to see scam-esc or dismissive diagnosis' given to real symtoms, which I feel RAD falls under due to it's vague nature 2. I don't need to try to say what I want, I just am. It's cool you've been given clarity but I feel you've been fed damaging misinformation. 3. You don't know how I or others feel/love though, same goes for true love, so there's no actual concrete way to say whether you do or don't experience emotions the same as someone else. Hell, we have no way of knowing if 'true love' exists, I don't really think it's a thing for anyone. I'm pretty sure it's just an expression. To digress, whoever fed you this information seems discriminatory towards the neurodivergent and the mentally ill. The behaviour you've described of yourself is not abnormal or weird (neither are you yourself) and is a natural response. also half of the people you've described arent even human holy shit some 'people' need to die god damn
That explains why i never had an emotional bond with my bio mom i always thought i was in Foster care and couldn't remember her is what i thought the problem was my paperwork said i had signs of neglect, abuse (Verbal, sexual, and physical abuse.) Now days i still have a hard time showing emotion when its at a appropriate time or struggling to show Empathy.
@@tashabrown4582 people have also been diagnosed with high functioning ASD but the label of high functioning is heavily disputed to be inaccurate. hence me bringing up ptsd in children. the issue is the label, RAD, being fake imo
I was diagnosed with RAD over 30 years ago. (At that time, "pseudo-autism" was used instead of RAD) My mother said that some autism-like symptoms emerged when I was one or two years old. She said, I prefered to be alone and didn't try to join in interactive games. I got some therapies like language therapy and I still have debris of memories during the period. I managed to recover just before primary school, but I had some difficulties making friends. I had been regarded as an introvert person for a long time because of the "illusion" of RAD, but I'm not that kind of person. I could recover in early age, but the illusion was "persistent". It led to overinterference and misunderstanding.
It's remarkable that you were able to overcome the challenges associated with RAD, or what was then referred to as "pseudo-autism." Your journey reflects resilience and determination. However, the persistence of this illusion has led to misunderstandings and overinterference from others, shaping perceptions about your personality. Your experience highlights the importance of recognizing and understanding the evolving nature of neurodevelopmental conditions and the unique paths individuals may take in their journeys.
What do you do when you feel like you have symptoms of multiple mental conditions internally but you're aware enough of what's right/wrong that it rarely ever shows up on the outside so nobody can really diagnose it but you still feel every bit of the emotional state of them?
Hello! I hope I can help ( diagnosed by a professional physicist with RAD, UAD, C-PTSD, ADHD, and probably more that I cannot remember) what do you mean by that? Such as intrusive thoughts? I would recommend speaking professional help, as they would be able to help you identify and deal with these symptoms.
It means you are internalising instead of externalizing, which is good. It's easier to treat people who internalize. You can still get treatment and diagnosis. What happens on the inside is very important and a good therapist will realize that you have the sane symptoms, you just internalize. A lot of neurodiverse people are misdiagnosed with RAD. You might want to look into autism and alexithymia. I wish you the very best!
My wife and I adopted 3 girls through fostering. 2 days, 3.5 yrs and 5 years. 8 years later and the youngest is fine, middle shows signs of DSED and oldest RAD. Trying to find a way to help them heal. Anyone have thought on treatment?
hey hey, its pretty normal for adopted children to not be attached to adopted caregivers and frankly, if they don't want to form a parent/child dynamic with someone you shouldn't force them to. That, and RAD sounds pretty fake
@@caramel9154FFS stop spread mis information and get off this comment section, if you don’t believe it’s real, why are you here, on a video about RAD if it’s fake. Go away omfg
Hello! Please do not listen to this caramel person omg, I will give you some information about me to show you how I am able to speak about this matter compared to some people. I’m in care, have been for 14 years and am currently 16, Diagnosed with C-ptsd, ptsd, RAD, and unspecified anxiety disorder. What I would say is, therapy, please please PLEASE thought, if the children to not like the therapist, try another one, listen to them. Don’t make the same mistake everyone did with me, otherwise they won’t WANT to go, be there for them, all in all, teach them what a healthy relationship looks like, don’t pressure them into calling you Mum and dad, I know this is 4 months late but if you have ANYYY questions for me that I can help with please feel free to ask!!
@@tashabrown4582 Wait wait, hooool up. You think it's aight to force kids into a dynamic they don't want to have with adoptive care givers? Or you don't? Cause that's kinda my point, that you shouldn't force likely already traumatized kids into forming attachments that adults think they're entitled to. From my perspective that's how RAD came to be. Also people can just lie on the net bout themselves, I think you're better off sources, though even a quick google search does tend to link the RAD diagnosis to psudeoscience which I'm inclined to agree with.
In a single word....PURGATORY. You exist like everyone else, getting groceries, paying bills, on the surface, but socially, you're homeless with only connections to others that is either, under the surface, as bad or worse than yours or a strong attraction to those type of SAFE relationships. In conclusion, to borrow from movie RAIN MAN, "NORMAL is the miracle" that becomes the daily struggle even over ones FULL potential, to the point that too become hidden away in fear of any and all intimacy. In extreme cases, some even turn to abusing others (unmentionable) to fill that void, or have already secretly done so in their past. That saying "I shouldn't be here, or never been born" is a very real thing. Any and all "emotional growth" is the kryptonite as it reinstates the aforementioned symptoms from their childhood like 3rd degree burns, hence full circle of "PURGATORY" is the only avenue they feel they can control and coexist in society. Hope this helps!
@@SundayFoggyNotions good description, u forgot to add in the part where you try ur hardest everyday to better urself just to feel needed because you will never be wanted, only to hate everyone around you because u did everything possible. U either blame yourself and commit suicide, or hate everything and everyone because they just seem so happy. Almost at the expense of ur suffering. Nobody cares, the depression doesn't end. U can't escape
@@wyattstevens8548 LOL!! I totally forgot that "hate everyone" part! Thanks! Almost, like almost all of humanity as a whole! However, I slightly disagree on the suicide part as its an "optional" symptom as any profession psychologist will tell you, there usually are MIXED. Example R.A.D. with A.D.D., or Borderline Personalty. The hardest part is to put in the heavy lifting of getting a FULL diagnoses and the months/years of getting properly tested from several accredited doctors. Then you can start using the "TOOLS" to home in to your unique style of mental emotional disability. Mostly speaking of medication with say D.B.T. skills (dialectic behavior therapy) or C.B.T. (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy). There ARE a handful of ranches that have a type of "Horse" therapy as well as "Group" counseling. Finding proper support is the key, however I do understand having just one person in your daily life to be with you in that journey, can be seemingly impossible to find. Especially if that person is the very R.A.D. thoughts in your daily mindset as your only one true companion you've ever known. I believe that is the "can't escape" you speak of? Good luck!
@@ShebrewQueen I'm going to assume that ur joking.... My mother did drugs when I was in the womb, so every goddamn day I am fucking depressed or angry as shit. It's simply something therapy can't fix, like how glasses can't make the blind see. Because of my emotional problems, I don't have a family nor do I know my real birth parents. I'm just praying for a normal day. Something that does help is putting myself in pain, to distract from sadness (I know that sound counter intuitive). I hope I don't live too long.
Nope....unless your country has specific rules...it definitely doesn’t just go away as soon as you then 18 it require healing, and I hope your able to get the clarity you need
I'm 90% sure this 'RAD' is just entirely made up, like I'm pretty sure children can form relationships outside of those with their parents? Them not being attracted to their parents wouldn't mean they automatically have trust issues, are unaware of others needs/feelings or are unable to form healthy relationships, BUT if a child is abused by their parents that will cause them to not be as attached to said parent, because y'know that's how abuse normally works. If an adult they're meant to rely on abuses them this can result in the listed symptoms of RAD. basically my point is that 'RAD' is just symptoms of a child being abused/traumatized.
Yes while your semi right, RAD is the way in which we form attachments or lack thereof, say if a child is constantly moved around in a foster home/s, how will they learn to form proper attachments, this Is why most of the time RAD is likely from kids for have been in the system, I am also currently diagnosed by a professional psychiatrist with RAD. It isn’t a fake disorder,I live with it, I KNOW it’s not fake.
@@tashabrown4582 Hey Tasha, apologies if this is condescending but I don't think you read my comment judging by your response. I'm arguing the label itself is wrong due to things like attachment therapy as well as how it mainly seems to be based on outsiders not getting the relationship they want from children (espically with the video above), not the symptoms, which I believe belong under PTSD/general signs of abuse.
I'm inclined to agree. This seems too specific a diagnosis, for too broad a range of symptoms, being associated with 1 thing that may or may not be relevant.
@@caramel9154 that ok! I hope I have read this right, but I am still inclined to disagree because, it's not so much the relationship with the abuser/s it's more how we view and form those attachments towards caregivers, I think most people would hate their abusers or people who have traumatised them. that does not mean you have RAD, RAD normally refers to a child's attachments to caring people/people who look after them. If you have any confusion or specific questions regarding RAD I would be very happy to help you! I am diagnosed with both C-PTSD and RAD, I do feel these symptoms of mine differ vastly and I am able to identify what symptoms belong to what diagnosis.
@@drankydrank1 I'm sorry, what do you mean by that? I'll be happy to help you understand and clear up and confusion you may have! (I myself am diagnosed with RAD)
POV: you have RADS and now that your older it’s effecting you worse so you’re on RUclips trying to figure out how to help yourself live more comfortably🥲✋🏼
I'm so sorry to anyone that has this and I pray that you will all be healed. I wish you all wonderful and happy lives.
Impossible. Healing is unknown. Only revenge is possible.
Pursuant to this matter, the treatments mentioned within this content material alludes to children only. What about an adults' need for treatment?
@@mattbennett8686I feel you but if we get revenge we go to hell ik but god took my free will away to get revenge bc I already did it and he prevented it ......
I hope the same for you and yeah I'm still fkn pissed it's that bad
Can you make a video on how this impacts relationships once we grow up?
YESSIR this is what I need lmao
Maybe grow up first then ask
this entire video is such trite garbage and does so much harm to psychology as a science.
@@gabe9932 and you, quit being a narcasist and take a shower.
@@shivandragon1651 its a fake disorder having attachment to your parents is healthy.
My heart goes out to everyone here. You deserve to be cared for and loved.
Thank you😢😢😢
Thank you.
I'm trying to. I just hit 40. And I'm just know learning to love myself and see that I'm capable and worthy of love
There are pros and cons to this disorder, I'm noticed I'd be more suitable for high emotional and high intensity situations where I can look at it objectively, but in relationships it's really hard because I look at everything without emotions and it hurts me to see that I'm hurting others emotionally and I can't do nothing about it it's all inside in my mind.
bro gonna be honest it kinda just sounds like you're inept, which is normal. I'm biased but I really don't think this RAD thing is really, especially when attachment therapy itself is listed a psuedoscience.
like im a strange n all but idk, maybe check you aren't being gaslit into this.
As a child diagnosed with a form of this (compulsive attachment disorder) this is still very accurate along with the causes and symptoms. Sadly since mine is a compulsive disorder I don’t realise what the disorder causes me to do and I end up blaming myself for whatever I do. I know that I have it but that’s about all that I know.
Thank you. I'm trying to watch these to be able to describe feelings and behaviors into actual words. Very informative
RAD caused me to live my life outside of the normality of society. I seemed pretty normal to those around me but actually I had to work hard to cope with societies expectations. RAD for me was very destructive to things that society values, like assets, connections, sense of community, so even though I had good jobs, I never connected or felt I belonged to anything or anywhere. Now i'm over 50 and was only diagnosed a few years ago, because I guess when I was a kid it wasn't a thing. Now I'm screwed.
So sorry for your experience, Really rooting for you to pull through
i was diagnosed with this and it all makes sense now i don’t know any emotion either ive been in foster care since 6 now in 14
C0rpz3 Hugz
Please scroll down to the thread by
brijit hixxx .
Please read the lengthy message I gave to a gentleman there as this will definitely help you I really know it will .
@@gardensofthegods ok thank you
It gets better. As an adult who was a foster child from 8 months to 11 years old, who went through 10 (possibly more) foster homes, I get by. A lot of us do. And you will too. Healing will happen. But we all have to work together with our psychiatrists and psychologists for that
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I feel you, I know how you feel as well, have been in care since 3 years old and am now 16, at your age, I was in a REALLY bad situation and mental state, yet the one thing that kept me going was spite, I despised my case worker, (at the time case worker) and I still do. Sometimes while I wished I was dead, I’d remember, isn’t that what she wants, they are expecting this of me, they are prepared and have such a low expectation of me that they know I’m going to try and die, so I didn’t, and now, while I don’t feel as bad as I did back when I was 14 I still sometimes get those days, and I think of that one caseworker I hate, all in all, I feel your pain and know that if I can make it, you are dam well going to as-well.❤
Im 43 still going through this miserable life i cant escape people will never understand if i could change i would people always think they know the answer and its easy to beat if that was the case i wouldn't be going through this at 43
And this is why education is so important and why lack of education (or bad education) directly causes decline of society.
Plot twist, the parents/caregivers are the disordered ones.
Yep 👍🏼
Or substance abuse addicts- either way I truly believe there should be certain requirements to have children… too many fucked up ppl in this world all bc fucked up ppl mated with each other
Sadists and psychopaths in my experience.
yep
Absolutely! We go into the homes and discover something from a horror film! This is gotta stop now!
I saw a video of a lady who’s brother in law gave his child to her. The child has RAD and it was so sad to see that baby cry and look neglected. How can people do that to their own babies? Why have kids if you can’t take care of them.
I think it would be eye opening for many people to view adults as simply grown up children. Everyone has their own story of how they ended up the way they did.
My parents knew I ajd this along with Asperger's....but didn't telle until AFTER college. So... My work relationship at 30 is going....great.
Good luck on ur healing journey!
idk its kinda normal for ppl on the spectrum to have issues forming relationships. dont wanna jump the shark but just an FYI that this RAD thing is likely a scam, since its listed symptoms are EXTREMELY vague. like i don't think its a thing, im pretty sure people are just lumping in trauma, asd and other undiagnosed disorders for this kinda.. fake one.
@@caramel9154UH!?!?!? aww hell naw, you want a professionally diagnosed RAD patients life story, that fits all the strict criteria for this diagnosis? Let’s go then, when I was 3 years old I was taken out of my mothers care all because she had an intellectual disability, and placed with her mum and dad (my nan and pop), unfortunately for DCP who did just a TINNNY oopsie, forgot to check their crime history, and failed to reliese that in fact nan and pop weren’t just also intellectually disabled, but my mothers father also raped his own daughter at 16, got her PREGNANT, and made her give birth and have my brother/uncle die in my mothers arms at 16 from all his fucked up genetic issues...YAY! Yet a whole year went by before DCP actually went ‘hold on something’s not right let me check the grandfathers police records’ yet, unsurprisingly it was to late... 3 year old me and already been molested for a whole year.
Yet it didn’t stop there...no no. I was quickly moved away and put into a emergency family home, (for not even a year I think) and I learned to love this woman who opened her home for me, so much so that I called her mum, yet in that house, when eating dinner, I didn’t sit at the table with the family, I sat on a little plastic drawing/playing table away from them (I had a brother who was also there) later on, while I learned to love this woman, turns out her husband didn’t like us, so we moved away and never saw them again, after finding what was meant to be a long term foster carer, we moved in (remember DCP are meant to Police check and everything to determine that a home is suitable for children) come to find out while I lived in that house for 4 years, from the ages of 4-8, called them mum and dad, yet the man like me a BIT too much, so much so that everyday, the man who I trusted to call dad molested me every morning for 4 years until I told someone. Then yada yada ya... I move from a small town to the big city to leave behind my old life, (I didn’t choose to leave DCP chose for me), then I live with an emotionally abusive household, yet still called them mum and dad, yet when they were in a bad mood, would yell at me to not call them that and that they aren’t my parents...mind you I’m 10. Anyhow they had to change jobs so I have to move 2 years later, so still being in that habit at age 11 I move into the loveliest woman’s house, she was so sweet and kind, yet I stopped calling people mum,I’d tried that 4 times and it never worked out.. she was the best house I’d ever lived in, yet beacuse I was in that pattern of moving away from people I loved after 2 years, that once I have lived with her for those to years..I thought that (even if unconsciously) I need to run away, I wanted to leave, I’d much rather do it myself then be rejected...then blah blah blah emergency foster homes, Id try to kill myself...then the foster home would say I’m too much and ask for DCP to come and collect me from the hospital...then I was institutionalised for 3 months which I had my 12th birthday in. I was treated lower than them abused with the other kids in care, held down ‘restrained’ as I begged them to let me go and not rape me (which they did not rape me) then again after those 3 months I moved from the big city...to a different small town. Where I have lived with SPECALIZED carers for 4 year and am currently 16.
How DARE you say that it’s a scam, because this SCAM has stopped me from calling people mum and dad, from even loving my own biological mother and brother, this scam has ruined my life, I’d like to see you live with it.....don’t even TRY and say what you want. Being PROFESSIONALLY diagnosed has given me clarity if only a little bit. I will never love like you, I won’t “feel” emotions like you, they will always be different, and I will never love someone with true love.
@@tashabrown4582 I recommend against trauma dumping on strangers, especially when there are a lot of people who just make fun of CSA survivors for enduring the abuse that they did or simply can't believe a mutual stranger. It's also just unhealthy to dump that kind of information onto strangers. Especially when you don't know what they may or have may not been through.
I'm calling the diagnosis a scam because it's extremely broad and vague. The symptoms themselves are real but could just as easily be PTSD, neurodivergency, or both.
Paired with the treatments for RAD ranging from strange to abusive, I do feel like a lot of vulnerable kids are being further exploited because they don't fall into cookie cutter standards of what adults want from them. i don't like that idea and the evidence i've seen supporting RAD are subpar. If you've got any more up to date sources you're free to link me.
Like the stuff you described just sounds like PTSD in a child, if someone's abused by parental/family figures then it makes sense they wouldn't form such connections again, or at least not easily, which I imagine extends to affection as a whole. Feelings of paranoia towards people you trust, fears of things that remind you (or your subconscious) of something relating to trauma, sometimes being unable to recall the events at all due to your brain blocking it out but other times 'experiencing it in great detail. Intrusive thoughts don't help anyone, they're exhausting, yet they're there.
I feel the need to point out the following:
1. While they are experts, medical proffesionals aren't always right! We can just look at the history of medicine to see scam-esc or dismissive diagnosis' given to real symtoms, which I feel RAD falls under due to it's vague nature
2. I don't need to try to say what I want, I just am. It's cool you've been given clarity but I feel you've been fed damaging misinformation.
3. You don't know how I or others feel/love though, same goes for true love, so there's no actual concrete way to say whether you do or don't experience emotions the same as someone else.
Hell, we have no way of knowing if 'true love' exists, I don't really think it's a thing for anyone. I'm pretty sure it's just an expression.
To digress, whoever fed you this information seems discriminatory towards the neurodivergent and the mentally ill. The behaviour you've described of yourself is not abnormal or weird (neither are you yourself) and is a natural response.
also half of the people you've described arent even human holy shit some 'people' need to die god damn
That explains why i never had an emotional bond with my bio mom i always thought i was in Foster care and couldn't remember her is what i thought the problem was my paperwork said i had signs of neglect, abuse (Verbal, sexual, and physical abuse.) Now days i still have a hard time showing emotion when its at a appropriate time or struggling to show Empathy.
I had RAD as a kid, and not a surprise I grew up to have severe Complex PTSD. This is very true.
bruh RAD is just ptsd as a kid ngl. the disorder itself largely seems to be faked
@@caramel9154bro....I’ve literally been diagnosed. Ffs
@@tashabrown4582 people have also been diagnosed with high functioning ASD but the label of high functioning is heavily disputed to be inaccurate.
hence me bringing up ptsd in children. the issue is the label, RAD, being fake imo
I was diagnosed with RAD over 30 years ago. (At that time, "pseudo-autism" was used instead of RAD) My mother said that some autism-like symptoms emerged when I was one or two years old. She said, I prefered to be alone and didn't try to join in interactive games. I got some therapies like language therapy and I still have debris of memories during the period. I managed to recover just before primary school, but I had some difficulties making friends. I had been regarded as an introvert person for a long time because of the "illusion" of RAD, but I'm not that kind of person.
I could recover in early age, but the illusion was "persistent". It led to overinterference and misunderstanding.
It's remarkable that you were able to overcome the challenges associated with RAD, or what was then referred to as "pseudo-autism." Your journey reflects resilience and determination. However, the persistence of this illusion has led to misunderstandings and overinterference from others, shaping perceptions about your personality. Your experience highlights the importance of recognizing and understanding the evolving nature of neurodevelopmental conditions and the unique paths individuals may take in their journeys.
The distant look in this child eyes was creeping me out
What do you do when you feel like you have symptoms of multiple mental conditions internally but you're aware enough of what's right/wrong that it rarely ever shows up on the outside so nobody can really diagnose it but you still feel every bit of the emotional state of them?
Hello! I hope I can help ( diagnosed by a professional physicist with RAD, UAD, C-PTSD, ADHD, and probably more that I cannot remember) what do you mean by that? Such as intrusive thoughts? I would recommend speaking professional help, as they would be able to help you identify and deal with these symptoms.
It means you are internalising instead of externalizing, which is good. It's easier to treat people who internalize. You can still get treatment and diagnosis. What happens on the inside is very important and a good therapist will realize that you have the sane symptoms, you just internalize.
A lot of neurodiverse people are misdiagnosed with RAD. You might want to look into autism and alexithymia. I wish you the very best!
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My wife and I adopted 3 girls through fostering.
2 days, 3.5 yrs and 5 years.
8 years later and the youngest is fine, middle shows signs of DSED and oldest RAD.
Trying to find a way to help them heal. Anyone have thought on treatment?
hey hey, its pretty normal for adopted children to not be attached to adopted caregivers and frankly, if they don't want to form a parent/child dynamic with someone you shouldn't force them to.
That, and RAD sounds pretty fake
@@caramel9154FFS stop spread mis information and get off this comment section, if you don’t believe it’s real, why are you here, on a video about RAD if it’s fake. Go away omfg
Hello! Please do not listen to this caramel person omg, I will give you some information about me to show you how I am able to speak about this matter compared to some people. I’m in care, have been for 14 years and am currently 16, Diagnosed with C-ptsd, ptsd, RAD, and unspecified anxiety disorder. What I would say is, therapy, please please PLEASE thought, if the children to not like the therapist, try another one, listen to them. Don’t make the same mistake everyone did with me, otherwise they won’t WANT to go, be there for them, all in all, teach them what a healthy relationship looks like, don’t pressure them into calling you Mum and dad, I know this is 4 months late but if you have ANYYY questions for me that I can help with please feel free to ask!!
@@tashabrown4582 Wait wait, hooool up.
You think it's aight to force kids into a dynamic they don't want to have with adoptive care givers? Or you don't? Cause that's kinda my point, that you shouldn't force likely already traumatized kids into forming attachments that adults think they're entitled to. From my perspective that's how RAD came to be.
Also people can just lie on the net bout themselves, I think you're better off sources, though even a quick google search does tend to link the RAD diagnosis to psudeoscience which I'm inclined to agree with.
What does it look like once they’ve reached adulthood?
In a single word....PURGATORY. You exist like everyone else, getting groceries, paying bills, on the surface, but socially, you're homeless with only connections to others that is either, under the surface, as bad or worse than yours or a strong attraction to those type of SAFE relationships. In conclusion, to borrow from movie RAIN MAN, "NORMAL is the miracle" that becomes the daily struggle even over ones FULL potential, to the point that too become hidden away in fear of any and all intimacy. In extreme cases, some even turn to abusing others (unmentionable) to fill that void, or have already secretly done so in their past. That saying "I shouldn't be here, or never been born" is a very real thing. Any and all "emotional growth" is the kryptonite as it reinstates the aforementioned symptoms from their childhood like 3rd degree burns, hence full circle of "PURGATORY" is the only avenue they feel they can control and coexist in society. Hope this helps!
@@SundayFoggyNotions good description, u forgot to add in the part where you try ur hardest everyday to better urself just to feel needed because you will never be wanted, only to hate everyone around you because u did everything possible. U either blame yourself and commit suicide, or hate everything and everyone because they just seem so happy. Almost at the expense of ur suffering. Nobody cares, the depression doesn't end. U can't escape
@@wyattstevens8548 LOL!! I totally forgot that "hate everyone" part! Thanks! Almost, like almost all of humanity as a whole! However, I slightly disagree on the suicide part as its an "optional" symptom as any profession psychologist will tell you, there usually are MIXED. Example R.A.D. with A.D.D., or Borderline Personalty. The hardest part is to put in the heavy lifting of getting a FULL diagnoses and the months/years of getting properly tested from several accredited doctors. Then you can start using the "TOOLS" to home in to your unique style of mental emotional disability. Mostly speaking of medication with say D.B.T. skills (dialectic behavior therapy) or C.B.T. (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy). There ARE a handful of ranches that have a type of "Horse" therapy as well as "Group" counseling. Finding proper support is the key, however I do understand having just one person in your daily life to be with you in that journey, can be seemingly impossible to find. Especially if that person is the very R.A.D. thoughts in your daily mindset as your only one true companion you've ever known. I believe that is the "can't escape" you speak of? Good luck!
@@wyattstevens8548 get some therapy
@@ShebrewQueen I'm going to assume that ur joking.... My mother did drugs when I was in the womb, so every goddamn day I am fucking depressed or angry as shit. It's simply something therapy can't fix, like how glasses can't make the blind see. Because of my emotional problems, I don't have a family nor do I know my real birth parents. I'm just praying for a normal day. Something that does help is putting myself in pain, to distract from sadness (I know that sound counter intuitive). I hope I don't live too long.
When you talk about diagnosis, you need to make people aware of actual criteria!!!!
This made me sad :(
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I was told I have this as an adult, but she couldn’t technically diagnose me because I was an adult.
Nope....unless your country has specific rules...it definitely doesn’t just go away as soon as you then 18 it require healing, and I hope your able to get the clarity you need
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I'm 90% sure this 'RAD' is just entirely made up, like I'm pretty sure children can form relationships outside of those with their parents? Them not being attracted to their parents wouldn't mean they automatically have trust issues, are unaware of others needs/feelings or are unable to form healthy relationships,
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if a child is abused by their parents that will cause them to not be as attached to said parent, because y'know that's how abuse normally works. If an adult they're meant to rely on abuses them this can result in the listed symptoms of RAD.
basically my point is that 'RAD' is just symptoms of a child being abused/traumatized.
Yes while your semi right, RAD is the way in which we form attachments or lack thereof, say if a child is constantly moved around in a foster home/s, how will they learn to form proper attachments, this Is why most of the time RAD is likely from kids for have been in the system, I am also currently diagnosed by a professional psychiatrist with RAD. It isn’t a fake disorder,I live with it, I KNOW it’s not fake.
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Hey Tasha, apologies if this is condescending but I don't think you read my comment judging by your response.
I'm arguing the label itself is wrong due to things like attachment therapy as well as how it mainly seems to be based on outsiders not getting the relationship they want from children (espically with the video above), not the symptoms, which I believe belong under PTSD/general signs of abuse.
I'm inclined to agree. This seems too specific a diagnosis, for too broad a range of symptoms, being associated with 1 thing that may or may not be relevant.
@@caramel9154 that ok! I hope I have read this right, but I am still inclined to disagree because, it's not so much the relationship with the abuser/s it's more how we view and form those attachments towards caregivers, I think most people would hate their abusers or people who have traumatised them. that does not mean you have RAD, RAD normally refers to a child's attachments to caring people/people who look after them. If you have any confusion or specific questions regarding RAD I would be very happy to help you! I am diagnosed with both C-PTSD and RAD, I do feel these symptoms of mine differ vastly and I am able to identify what symptoms belong to what diagnosis.
@@drankydrank1 I'm sorry, what do you mean by that? I'll be happy to help you understand and clear up and confusion you may have! (I myself am diagnosed with RAD)
Seems like me
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I came here because I'm researching fetal alcohol symptoms
Plot twist its not just the parents its everyone
POV: you have RADS and now that your older it’s effecting you worse so you’re on RUclips trying to figure out how to help yourself live more comfortably🥲✋🏼
I’m sorry 😞