She didn't invest time in me because she took me for granted and thought I would wait. Someone more dedicated appeared in my life and she was furious when I stopped reaching out. Oh the duality of human brain.
I've been in this situation before.... Sometimes they just keep you as an option or validation. The most annoying part is some of these girls instigate the relationship. Another annoying thing again is they know they are not serious with you but don't want another girl around you.
Focus on conquering life not women fellas. If she doesn’t want to join ur journey to success then that’s her loss. The grass isn’t greener. She will find that out. And if u do what u were suppose to be doing which is leveling up, she will find a way to resort back for whatever reason. I advise u at that point to ignore her and give her the same energy.
Am fifth to drop a comment,, Jessica has made me a powerful man for sure... Am a good student of her when it comes to relationship and marriage life... Give me a heart today.
If you have to fight for her attention,youve already lost,they cheat because they think you will always be there no matter what happens as long as you dont find out!They no longer respect you and when that happens its over!The respect is the key,once you suspect something is wrong,follow and question the respect part!!!!!!Dont ignore the signs!!!
I'm glad you put that in perspective I've been dealing with that Alot silent treatment always on the phone but constantly ignoring me and my intuition has been real strong but she would answer no when I ask if it's someone else.
“You break your own heart by expecting people to be as attached to you as you are to them” I always learn new things from you, God will keep blessing and protecting you for us. Much love from Nigeria 🇳🇬🫶🏼🇬🇭
Hi jessica , 1 yr ago i had a breakup with my ex , i thought she will come back , but now its been 1 year , now im changed , i dont care for her ! Jessica from that time i constantly watched your videos , and now also , you are making me myself , whatever happens in life i have jessica Love from india ❤️
But there is one big problem here, being attracted, even sexually and always having someone on your mind and responding quick can also be immaturity and attachment out of fear of abandonment, needing to either receive impulsive maternal care or give impulsive maternal care, like to a crying baby, through sex, since the chemical released when eating is oxytocin, the same feel good chemical released during sex and when feeling secure. This means the relationship is not about a mutual partnership for life with respect for each other, but is a dynamic of entitlement and anxiety about sexual gratification. So, no, I don't think always calling and respoding and having someone on your mind means anything valuable, you are an object of pleasure. The person that keeps calling, responding, having you in mind, when tested for respect for you, they fail, they love what they can get from you daily, a good feeling. Such individuals have not grown up and can't handle most of life's demands, a real relationship is above callling every time and constant obsession, it is about thoughtfulness and mindfulness, especially towards sex and social activities. Love is obsession, partnership is respect.
Jess, you’ve told my story. I’m going through this at the moment. Funny enough, I’m the woman in the story. I told myself “ if it costs your peace of mind, you overpaid” then blocked him. I hope i recover soon. Thanks for this great video 🙏
I've got to admit that Jessica really gives some top class advice ❤️. She's really experienced and I can testify that what she's saying is very true. I've had a real life experience like that
The sad thing is is you learn to late . Unless you are a sigma male like I am . You give 1 shot the first text that is not answered leads to why didn’t you . The second time is it just walk away there is no excuses everyone has 2 seconds to answer a text . Even when they work multiple jobs as I do . Don’t be a fool stand up for yourself and your dignity. Don’t be a pushover.
You can actually do yourself a bigger favor by returning her favor - which is keeping you on a back burner. Put her where she belongs in your list of priorities that is equivalent to where you are on her list of priorities. Anything more is going to be a waste of YOUR time, not hers.
Thanks and thanks so much, I needed it, I forced the answer out of her and she said it out uncomfortable that she can't say no and yes to my proposal because she needs me if I can be her Best friend with benefit, I just hope it is the right thing for me.
@@JessicaOS thanks so much for the advice, then I need to press forward, it will not be easy of this past years of hopping but just hope to find the right words to tell her.
Yes my girlfriend has had attention from a guy from our gym, she would wave, big smile and say hello to him. But never looks or talks to me whilst we are both at the gym
I've been through this ! she had many male friends called friends when confronted her trouble started but i made up my mine and blocked herfrom all communications it's been 5yrs now i don't miss her now
Thank you Jessie,good video as usual, sometimes it's hard to face the truth as it's not always what we like,in my case it's even worse as she only seems to love me when I've given her gifts or money 💰 but it's difficult to stop when you love her and known her long time but keep up the good work Jess,you always cheer me up and give me food for thought x
I find a lot of self doubt in myself coming across things like this. At the same time people are so forceful for things to happen so quickly in this generation. Maybe this person wants you to build yourself in all the right ways. Maybe you should focus less on them and more on you. You break your heart because you refuse to focus on yourself first. What if that was the key all along to starting this relationship. Yes she might be a women and has broken hearts, but what if it’s because the very thing that caused it is because you’re afraid of being alone?
I really needed this video thanks you jess😊. My woman always says she likes me but it seems am always the one who tries to make contact with her and even see her in person. Whiles she can go a long time without doing so. But I really think she sincerely likes me but she isn't giving the kind of energy I want from a partner. I don't really feel wanted and loved in the relationship. Any help?
Stop chasing women it doesn't work.. Most of the time. Chase dreams and aspirations, increase your value, chase money, dress well, talk and walk with assurance and see magic happens.
This hits the nail on the head. Except im married to her, and she has violated our marriage many times over 9 years (14 total). Amicable divorce is being pursued but she needs some soul searching to find out why she accepts this behaviour as ok.
Hey Jessica...my wife and I are in break since 2 weeks but then later she calls and texts me here and there but she focus on a video game that is distracting her, i dont but she responds my text but gets around to it... but for her she does say she wants too fix it as well but how come she's says that but is over her parents still but who isnt trying to fix it at all you know
My 5 year relationship ended 9 months ago we just hung out for the first time last weekend. It went well but now we ain’t speak in 6 days since feels like what you described here any ideas?
I've always stayed away from long distance relationships so I'm currently in one temp she's living with a good friend of hers who is gay which I've met but I am a human and sometimes this bothers me why is that and am I wrong for feeling this way
Sometimes reality is dissappointing and hurts but you need to accept such realities to set yourself free.
She didn't invest time in me because she took me for granted and thought I would wait. Someone more dedicated appeared in my life and she was furious when I stopped reaching out.
Oh the duality of human brain.
*female brain.
I've been in this situation before.... Sometimes they just keep you as an option or validation. The most annoying part is some of these girls instigate the relationship. Another annoying thing again is they know they are not serious with you but don't want another girl around you.
Yeah she pursued me . Silent when away but when I visit her at work all on me says she missed me.
@@DTHRILLS.DANIEL.THRILLRIDETV It''s all games bro..... She just enjoys the extra attention she is getting from you.
Oh i personally wouldnt take her serious in terms of relationship cause i believe if shes really for me she would be willing to go all the way!
@@lawrencemiller8198 That's true
Focus on conquering life not women fellas. If she doesn’t want to join ur journey to success then that’s her loss. The grass isn’t greener. She will find that out. And if u do what u were suppose to be doing which is leveling up, she will find a way to resort back for whatever reason. I advise u at that point to ignore her and give her the same energy.
😢😢This is exactly what i went through and after i left i realised i wasn't the only one she was dating 💔
Am fifth to drop a comment,, Jessica has made me a powerful man for sure... Am a good student of her when it comes to relationship and marriage life... Give me a heart today.
If you have to fight for her attention,youve already lost,they cheat because they think you will always be there no matter what happens as long as you dont find out!They no longer respect you and when that happens its over!The respect is the key,once you suspect something is wrong,follow and question the respect part!!!!!!Dont ignore the signs!!!
I'm glad you put that in perspective I've been dealing with that Alot silent treatment always on the phone but constantly ignoring me and my intuition has been real strong but she would answer no when I ask if it's someone else.
“You break your own heart by expecting people to be as attached to you as you are to them”
I always learn new things from you, God will keep blessing and protecting you for us.
Much love from Nigeria 🇳🇬🫶🏼🇬🇭
Hi jessica , 1 yr ago i had a breakup with my ex , i thought she will come back , but now its been 1 year , now im changed , i dont care for her ! Jessica from that time i constantly watched your videos , and now also , you are making me myself , whatever happens in life i have jessica
Love from india ❤️
"If you love with the expectation of being loved in return, you are simply wasting your time."
-Adult
A woman can also be in love with a man. But if he tells her that he needs space and distance, what is she to do? She can not force him to love her.
You have said it all that's what I need now since my girl is messing up.
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This are commonsense issues, but problem we humans don't like using commonsense most of the time! We only learn after terrible experiences
True. We let emotions overcome common sense
This is exactly what I'm going through.
You know what to do bruh.
But there is one big problem here, being attracted, even sexually and always having someone on your mind and responding quick can also be immaturity and attachment out of fear of abandonment, needing to either receive impulsive maternal care or give impulsive maternal care, like to a crying baby, through sex, since the chemical released when eating is oxytocin, the same feel good chemical released during sex and when feeling secure. This means the relationship is not about a mutual partnership for life with respect for each other, but is a dynamic of entitlement and anxiety about sexual gratification. So, no, I don't think always calling and respoding and having someone on your mind means anything valuable, you are an object of pleasure. The person that keeps calling, responding, having you in mind, when tested for respect for you, they fail, they love what they can get from you daily, a good feeling. Such individuals have not grown up and can't handle most of life's demands, a real relationship is above callling every time and constant obsession, it is about thoughtfulness and mindfulness, especially towards sex and social activities. Love is obsession, partnership is respect.
Jess, you’ve told my story. I’m going through this at the moment. Funny enough, I’m the woman in the story. I told myself “ if it costs your peace of mind, you overpaid” then blocked him. I hope i recover soon. Thanks for this great video 🙏
This got me teary but we move
I love the way you express yourself and speak with flair. I guess i have to stick around to add to my vocabulary ❤
I've got to admit that Jessica really gives some top class advice ❤️. She's really experienced and I can testify that what she's saying is very true. I've had a real life experience like that
I guess you are always on point since you are a woman. I have learned or affirmed a lot of things in through watching and listening to you.
This why I love Jessica 🫶🏽
The sad thing is is you learn to late . Unless you are a sigma male like I am . You give 1 shot the first text that is not answered leads to why didn’t you . The second time is it just walk away there is no excuses everyone has 2 seconds to answer a text . Even when they work multiple jobs as I do . Don’t be a fool stand up for yourself and your dignity. Don’t be a pushover.
I needed this! Exactly what I'm feeling.
I like how you’ve broken it down point after point. Thank you ❤
You are JUST too much... RESPECT!!!
I have seen Jessica's advice as very relatable and practical but this one is exceptional.
Hey Jessica here again!!! You’re always on point and I thank you for that ❤
You are so welcome
Thanks for your bold truths, I love your courage for Truth without fear nor favor, like you are too few to find. Thanks for great expo!
Thanks for listening
I definately enjoyed and learned alot from the video. Thank you Jessica always a big help
You are so welcome!
Every one of your videos I have watched so far I wish I had watched ten years ago because my self esteem would be higher
She always there to heightened me, thank you
This video right here! I kid you not it’s one to be valued!! Thank you JessOS.
Let me say you are just one of the best. You just solved what is giving me a headache in a few minutes. This is awesome ❤
Sometimes you know she doesn't love you as much or even value you but it's usually hard to let go.
Just exactly what I need right now. Thank youuuuuu ❤
Me too
The realest thing I’ve heard all day 💯
Glad to be here again 👌🏽
You can actually do yourself a bigger favor by returning her favor - which is keeping you on a back burner. Put her where she belongs in your list of priorities that is equivalent to where you are on her list of priorities. Anything more is going to be a waste of YOUR time, not hers.
Great job Jessie you nailed it all , thanks for the tips ❤
You are so welcome!
Thanks and thanks so much, I needed it, I forced the answer out of her and she said it out uncomfortable that she can't say no and yes to my proposal because she needs me if I can be her Best friend with benefit, I just hope it is the right thing for me.
You may lose in the end
@@JessicaOS thanks so much for the advice, then I need to press forward, it will not be easy of this past years of hopping but just hope to find the right words to tell her.
Friends for benefit is the best way to go
Yes my girlfriend has had attention from a guy from our gym, she would wave, big smile and say hello to him. But never looks or talks to me whilst we are both at the gym
Jess u r ALWAYS on point!!
Thank you
I'm sorry but... You're beautiful!
My best teacher ❤❤
Tnk u soo much Jessica i really love ur channel bcuz u really heal mi alot in d process of healing
You're a life saver Jess ...)
This is so helpful
Thats exactly my Same Perspectives in Interactions and Relationships
Thank You! Need this right now.
I've been through this ! she had many male friends called friends when confronted her trouble started but i made up my mine and blocked herfrom all communications it's been 5yrs now i don't miss her now
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Thank you Jessie,good video as usual, sometimes it's hard to face the truth as it's not always what we like,in my case it's even worse as she only seems to love me when I've given her gifts or money 💰 but it's difficult to stop when you love her and known her long time but keep up the good work Jess,you always cheer me up and give me food for thought x
You deserve better
This is very helpful 🤔
You make good points ❤❤
Thank you so much for the helpful advice
No worries!
Yep going through it now 😂 cant wait to quit
I find a lot of self doubt in myself coming across things like this. At the same time people are so forceful for things to happen so quickly in this generation. Maybe this person wants you to build yourself in all the right ways. Maybe you should focus less on them and more on you. You break your heart because you refuse to focus on yourself first. What if that was the key all along to starting this relationship. Yes she might be a women and has broken hearts, but what if it’s because the very thing that caused it is because you’re afraid of being alone?
Really appreciate this video.
Glad it was helpful!
Thank You so much
No problem
I like your videos Jessica 😀😍
I've learnt something
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Thanks for explaining this ...everything makes sense now❤
You're so welcome!
Thank you
Thanks for the insight Jessica
Jessica just spoke the hard truth ....young Kings!!!
Gloria is typing....😄
Funny I’m getting advice from a jessica having gotten broken by one 😅. L❤ve this channel
Very well said Jessica
Thank you Jessy!
Thank you so much❤
I needed this video
I'm getting stronger
You're right
❤ you advise
My intuitions are right thank you so much for this.
My favorite ❤️
Great video! 👍🏾
Hey Awesome beautiful Darling Jessica OS, ❤❤❤ur unique mind,.
Thanks for listening
Doesn’t matter you wasn’t born with them might not die with them. It’s ok life goes on
Nope I am this girl and it’s because I do the push pull and I’m afraid to be hurt
I really needed this video thanks you jess😊.
My woman always says she likes me but it seems am always the one who tries to make contact with her and even see her in person. Whiles she can go a long time without doing so. But I really think she sincerely likes me but she isn't giving the kind of energy I want from a partner.
I don't really feel wanted and loved in the relationship.
Any help?
Sometimes I even feel like going in for another person just to get this kind of affect but for the love I have for her I try to ignore
Leave her
All the help you would need are provided in the video. Maybe you should watch again.
(But please leave her and focus on yourself)
Walk away.
Stop chasing women it doesn't work.. Most of the time. Chase dreams and aspirations, increase your value, chase money, dress well, talk and walk with assurance and see magic happens.
Exactly what I'm been going through ...like you said hard pill to swallow , hurts like hell..
This hits the nail on the head. Except im married to her, and she has violated our marriage many times over 9 years (14 total).
Amicable divorce is being pursued but she needs some soul searching to find out why she accepts this behaviour as ok.
14 years together* not 14 partners... I think 😢
Helpful
Indepth explanation...thank you
You are talking about what happened to me
exactly on point
Good video ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Its important to have dominance as a man and not allowing women to use u
Hey Jessica...my wife and I are in break since 2 weeks but then later she calls and texts me here and there but she focus on a video game that is distracting her, i dont but she responds my text but gets around to it... but for her she does say she wants too fix it as well but how come she's says that but is over her parents still but who isnt trying to fix it at all you know
Yeah i wont chase her or pure my love into her empty cup of questioning my very own love for her
Rotation rotation never settle for just one haha
Lol
Nice❤
I like your eyes
My 5 year relationship ended 9 months ago we just hung out for the first time last weekend. It went well but now we ain’t speak in 6 days since feels like what you described here any ideas?
How does Jessica always know what’s on my mind that bothers me and always talks about it?
I'm psychic
I have to confess Jessy you have cute eyes your husband is lucky
Wow is that your real eye color?
I've always stayed away from long distance relationships so I'm currently in one temp she's living with a good friend of hers who is gay which I've met but I am a human and sometimes this bothers me why is that and am I wrong for feeling this way