Cervical Dilation - up close!!
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In order to birth your baby your cervix has to dilate (open) and thin (efface) and the baby has to come down into the pelvis! It starts closed and opens cm by cm until eventually you reach 10 cm meaning there’s no cervix left keeping the baby inside!
Have you been told you’re “only” 1 cm or even closed?! NO FEAR!! Your cervix can start changing at any moment (hopefully after 37 weeks) - ANY dilation prior to labor is extra credit!
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WOW this is fantastic. As a SM this is better than any other visual aid I’ve see. Can they be purchased?
hi! i guess im just uneducated but whats a cervix..?
no one ever told me
although from context clues im guessing its where the baby comes out ?
Where did get such great educational tools??
lol!
I love how the music is all happy and cheery and everyone in the comments is just like hELL NO 😂
😂😭 Right 😭
Right 🤣🤣🤣🤣
ha ha ha ha!
я думала, что это размеры баночки для жидкости для снятия лака, чтобы было удобно вместить всю руку.....кто же знал, что это процессы раскрытия родов💀
Боже, я искала объяснение что в этом видео на русском, спасибо 😭😭
ахааза я так и думала пока не заметила этот комм 😂
А я почему-то догадалась на третьем макете о чём тут речь 😄
А я на каком-то ментальном уровне сразу поняла, что раскрытие иллюстрируется.
Хотя то, что по середине даже близко не похоже на поверхность кожи головы ребёнка.
После этого видоса, рождаемость снизилась 😅
Наконец то на русском... спасибо
this is absolutely terrifying how do people give birth to so many children
newfound respect for my mother
EDIT HOLY SHIT THANKS FOR THE LIKES LMAO
@@actuallyasim Everyone told my mom that but she had much more trouble with my little brother than with me 😂 (everything was fine btw)
Eulaaaa
@@actuallyasim everyone said that to my mom too but my older brother was a normal pregnancy while I was a c-section baby that almost killed my mom and me
@@actuallyasim Many women find their second pregnancy is more harder and painful than their first, however, from then on it gets much easier. Is this why the middle child always gets forgotten?
@@somerandomperson7223 omg that went a direction I didn’t expect lol😆
Add this to the millions of reasons why men should def respect women more and stop with the nonsense "damsel in distress" stereotypes. Also I just can't believe some men rly put women through THIS and then cheat...yeah no
Edit: tf is wrong with y'all? READ the comment, I'm saying that it's crazy how men will know what pain women went through in giving them a child (smth the father is *in part* responsible for) and still cheat on her. This is abt the cheating stop saying "women are responsible for getting pregnant" how can u even mistake that as the point?? Women are in no part responsible for CHEATING on themselves, why do I even need to say this?
Imagine those who cheat on their pregnant wives.. .😒
@@jamiebarringer4019 it happens so often it's crazy 🙄
@A H Uhm that's not playing damsel in distress or being a victim?? If I decide with my husband that we should get him a vasectomy or some other painful surgery/situation, and then decide to cheat on him after he essentially did that for me. Yeah that would make it my fault, and him being upset I put him through that wouldn't make him seem like he's trying to be a victim/damsel in distress. Honestly like tf is wrong with some of y'all men, leaving comments like this under posts trying to ignore promblems women face, men like y'all disgust me.
@@flwrpwr5351 damn right.
@A H this guy has been going around commenting some mysoginistic shit just ignore his sorry ass
This, this is the reason that if I want kids I am adopting
As weird as it sounds, cervical dilation isn't always painful. I didn't need to begin breathing my way through it before 7 cm, and could still walk at 8. My sister began feeling pain from 8. Birth is definitely a weird thing and many women can have a bunch of complications from it that most young people have never even heard of, but sometimes things can go really well too.
Me too. I was still walking the halls at 8cm, but I was wearing myself out and the nurse talked me into resting for a while. It didn't really hurt any worse than moderate menstrual cramps until I got back into bed.
@@breathlesshaste Same here. Birth wasn't that much worse than my worst period cramps. After, I felt it was totally justified that I always stayed at home the first day of my period during high school....
@@breathlesshaste if you don't mind me asking, is the pain of birth similar with period cramps? Thank you💖💖🥰🥰
I've heard of women having virtually painless births. The only pains they had were from contractions but the actual pushing wasn't bad at all. And it was very quick. Dream birth story lol.
Yeah I was good up until about 8 cm and I tapped out, it was horrible back pain lol. The epidural was great and I didn’t feel any pain while pushing my son out
I am officially never having children 😳
Literally what I thought exactly
@@QuinnWest07 great minds think alike 😂
@@audry1720 i guess so!
@@audry1720 not the right time to use that quote
@@audry1720 just because you both don’t want kids doesn’t make you both suddenly “great”
Respect for all the women who give birth like this.
I didn't want a child before seeing this and now I REALLY don't want a child
lmao your profile pic is my reaction to this video
@@eldritchyarnbeing3295 same
Hi, my name is Tanna. And I think girls and women should be taught more about this. Because I was ALREADY PREGNANT when I found out that it's only the cervix that gets bigger to let baby out. Not your vaginal opening. 😬
This is what I was taught when I took Child Development but it should be taught in just health in general. This shit was birth control for me. That and the fact that you can rip
You can rip?
Yeah, usually doctor scissor down there a bit to make way for baby to come out. My friend say she feel when the doctor cut her🥴
woman up and handle it, children are the best joy in anyone’s life, people have been giving birth since the beginning of time, without the medicine and technology we have today. Sure it’ll be really painful, but deciding to not have children because of the pain? Now that’s ridiculous, just shows how much you love your life so much that you would turn down the greatest joy of life for a little pain that doesn’t even last a few weeks. But if you don’t want to have children for other reasons, that’s understandable, I’m just saying if you want to, but are scared of the pain..
@@nadana6418 "greatest joy of life" bruh my greatest joy would be when I get to travel the world. Also do you know what happened before modern medicine? Millions of women died in childbirth. The simple answer of "no I don't want kids" is enough and pain is definitely a good example as to why they don't want one.
@@nadana6418 stop shaming women who don't want kids. Tf is wrong with you?
And dis is one of the many reasons I have decided I’m not having a kid (at least not having a biological one)
Watching this while doubled over, crying over my period cramps.
Somehow they don’t feel so terrible anymore 😅
I've had period cramps that rivaled labor pains, so don't discount yourself. I know some people love to be like "well if you think CRAMPS are bad blah blah blah..." Some of them are really bad!
@@doesnotFempute totally, i get to the point of vomiting and seizures.... Its so bad.....
@@doesnotFempute I am the same, it's not normal. You probably have endometriosis
@@doesnotFempute yes, as a mom I second this! People are so weird for trying to one up each other, like it's the pain olympics or something lol.
I think that women have period cramps so we can build a higher pain tolerance for when they give birth. Because if women didn’t have a high enough pain tolerance and then gave birth, they would never want to get pregnant again, and eventually stop having kids
Ive never been more thankful for my period
I literally dread having children because of this. Y’all cute tho
After 3 kids I never seen anything like this. Damn I'm giving myself a pat on the back😂😂😞
That's sad though that it takes a rare , very easily missed clip on RUclips to learn something really important or interesting about your body :/ I just keep finding more and more throughout the months
But I salute you! 😍💖
Not gonna lie.. I'm glad I didn't see this nor could I see my hole during my child's birth 😂
As you should lmao
*I thought this was like a nail or beauty product, my smile dropped as I slowly realized*
When this starts to happen, you can't feel it. Not alot of nerves there.. You'll either be in labor, or soon be in labor and having contractions. And if you get an epidural you won't feel any pain other than the epidural itself.
Exactly, there’s a reason we don’t have many nerves in even the vagina itself, except the actual entrance and where the clitoris extends inwards in the body.
I feel like that’s gotta hurt. An IUD caused me extreme cramping, and an IUD is telescopic compared to a baby
The epidural is one of the scariest things to me. A giant needle, which I already hate, going into my spine?? NOOOOO thank you very much
The cramps from labor are what’s helping the cervix to dilate... mine were very intense and close together out of nowhere. She was ready to come out and it wasn’t time to push.
@@novaofthenorth when you’re in so much pain already, you won’t care about a needle.
I'll just adopt abandoned kids instead.
Same! I've always wanted to adopt!!!
It's not the same
@ Family is family no matter blood related
@ i don't care. If you want to birth your own child, go ahead. I'll just take in abandoned kids who clearly needs more help.
same lol
La verdad que no entiendo porque se espantan tanto con el video. A mi simplemente me maravilla 😍. La maternidad es un proceso largo, sacrificado pero perfecto en cada segundo.
Childbirth and pregnancy are always scary, but this actually made me feel a lot more comfortable with having kids
I’m 14 years old and have never dated anybody. Why have I gotten 5 videos of women and there dilation. Leave me alone algorithm
A reminder, fear itself does make childbirth more painful. I see people being terrified in the comments. Information is supposed to make for less fear. It's important to know that you're in control of your childbirth occasion, so be informed, be relaxed, be a bossy lady if necessary.
You can't control how things turn out. My baby went into distress. I wasn't about to demand my own way.
@@FlutePlayer777 did you get an epidural or any type of medication during labor?
Fear makes everything more painful. Childbirth is already painful without the added fear lol.
That's a lie, we're not in control of anything and a lot of bad things can happen even with all the technology.
If at least one of these things were guaranteed to women in labor, I wouldn't have even half the fear I have.
I thought she was pitching candles till I realised she wasn't 👁️👁️
I'm sorry mom I love You please forgive me 😔
It. Was. Terrible. EVERYONE, THANK YOUR MOTHERS!!
@@TheRealQueenCobra your calling your mom selfish?
This is solidifying my decision to not give birth. Just no. I'm not arrogant enough to be like "nooooo I'm strong and I can do this". I accept that I can and will never, since my body is already under pressure from autoimmunity and pcos. If that means I'll stay unmarried, so be it. To me, natural childbirth looks and sounds painful and diabolical.
How old are you anyway? 🤣
@@hafsaz.sharika8361 I'm 27, older than you I'm sure, cuz you asked an irrelevant question.
Don't worry it is not diabolical... calm down.
@@trishasurangana2278 girl dont worry you won't stay unmarried 😊 I'm 25 and engaged, my fiance doesn't want kids and wouldn't mind adopting if one day we want to expand our family 😊😊you will find someone like this as well 😊
Have C section its less hurt
This is both fascinating and terrifying, thank you to the ladies who put up with that. Also why is the C in Cervical removed?
Probably so the video doesn't risk getting shadow banned for "unfavourable" language
This made me squirm. I’m not even THAT scared of having a kid, it’s the way pregnancy can wreck your body 😭 bless those who do it bc that shit is SCARY
Edit: I’m not just talking about being psychically attractive, I mean uterine prolapse, teeth problems (I already have bad teeth), yeah a lot of stuff, I could go on. But who knows, I might meet someone and want one anyway. Still scary tho 😭
Agreed. Add it to the massively long list for why being a woman is such a shitty gig. I wish I could've been born a man. Not because of gender identity but because I'm sick of having to deal with all the issues that come along with having a uterus. It just sucks. I love kids and I want them but this shit is terrifying. Also, my moms stomach looks terrible from having me and my brother and im just not ready for all that sag and shit.
that shits beaaautiful
I’ve had two kids and after the first one within four years I was in the best shape of my life with an 8 pack stomach. The second one I was lazy and got fat and am now spending the next two years working out to be back in the best shape of my life again.
Pregnancy wrecks your body if you allow it to.
Lotion your belly, take lots of walks and don’t eat Taco Bell and ice cream everyday and you will bounce back from pregnancy no problem.
I know this is tmi but with my first I had a natural birth and my down there was very much intact and tight afterwards. My second was c section so no down there problems.😂
Again, pregnancy wrecks you if you allow it so if you do end up having a kid just make sure to work out your body and pelvic floor and take care of yourself and no one will even notice you’ve been pregnant. :)
@@Sunshineonmymind714 Just wanted to add that looks aren’t everything, being healthy is what is most important. And bringing life into the world is such a beautiful thing.
@@nahmastay3300 But you love your mom don’t you? Beauty fades
i didn’t realize what this meant until the third to last one and then i checked the title 💀
As a mother i can say giving birth isn't that bad. Female bodies are made for this. The hard part is taking care of the baby after, the pregnancy and birth are the easy part.
Thank-you for this. I want to have kids and this comment section is making me feel so nervous about the idea I'm getting a little sick tbh 😅
My mom had 11 and my aunt had 10. They lived to tell the tale and seem to think it was worth it, so.. there's a comfort.
Speak for yourself… Having all 4 of my impacted wisdom teeth extracted with no anesthesia or Novocain was far less painful… Everyone’s experience is different.
You can’t say that about everyone. The experience might not have been bad for you but I’ve heard horror stories from others. I’m so glad I don’t want kids.
Speak for yourself woman! I was in AGONY! I was screaming and nearly passed out due to sheer pain! Even the epidural didn’t fully numb me and I was dazed and in constant state of pain!
I have a lot of reasons for not wanting to give birth and wanting to adopt instead and this is one of them.
Wow I got goosbumps seeing that. That is insane
Only 1 cm dilated right now.hopefully my baby comes soon!
did it come out
tbh this just made me less scared of giving birth in the future... idk I always thought that the cervix didn't expand and you just had to endure the pain
I just showed this to my 18 yo son, just making sure he knew. 😅
Way to traumatize someone and make your own son think about his mothers vagina.
WtF ???? 🫣😰😰😰😰😰😰
WtF 😰😰😰😰
😂❤
My waters had broke an hour before I got to the hospital, I was getting close contractions, midwife told me to go home for a bit… my mother refused and told her to check me down there… she checked, 4cm in a hour !!! Straight up to labour ward. Baby arrived 3 hours later
Twins by C-Section was my only option. Could've have pulled that off. Good luck!👍🙏
In order to adopt a child, they have to have been born to a woman who went through that same process (or through a ceasarian section) first.
My cervix screams "c section"
It's short and a baby would destroy me down there.
Best get the epi-no or that ball thing that helps stretch you
Csections have increased risks and are more dangerous than a vaginal birth. They should only be an option as a last resort.
C-sections can actually be worse they are still painful and for many it takes longer to recover from a c-section than a natural birth
@@jesss4174 I’ve had 2 natural births and 2 csections, I actually have to have a 3rd csection here in a few months and I’m dreading it 😫 it is the worst pain and recovery. I wish I could have this last baby naturally.
I actually had a folley balloon to stretch me and help dilate me with my 3rd daughter and it got me to 4 cm but I still ended up with a csection (my first ever) worst birth experience by far.
My doctors actually told me my pelvis was too small to deliver babies naturally without causing so much damage. I had over 100 stitches with my first born, and all my babies were preterm and small.
Oh no c sections are way worse,I had 2 C sections and 4 natural births,I wouldn’t want another C sections.
@@DeathlyDahlia22 bht why... Why would you go through it so many times..... Poor woman
If I had not already been through it, any man approaching me would be discarded with a quickness because this is all I see when I look at them now. Are you effing kidding me sir. Ugh, just the thought alone. Peen is a weapon for sure.
I think, i just got traumatized, slowly. 😮😢😆🤭😅😂
Yeah, especially when u think that with my second son i dilated from 2cm to 10 in under 30 mins! In addition I dilated so quickly there was no time for an epidural.
The pain was excruciating to say the least!😖
I’m sitting here wondering why this video felt empowering to watch rather than scary. I think I owe it solely to the Hypnobabies courses I went through. I unlearned that learned fear response.
I’ll also mention that I had a prolonged and assisted birth for my first (read: traumatic), which led me to the Hypnobirthing for my last two.
This is great birth control
I gave up at 4 cm, the pain is unimaginable😵
Bless any woman who decides to give birth. Y'all are truly the strongest people ever. I would never give birth, as much as I want kids. But the strength to do this is just amazing.
I do big believe this would be the best day of your life
As a man I'd like to thank all women and mothers.
Yep, thanks I'm a man and I prefer adoption rather than let this and other things happen to my wife
あー！何かと思った！
そうだよねー
私は7センチの時点で開かなくなって子供も私も危なくなったから結局帝王切開したけど、7センチの時点で死ぬほど痛かったからそれ以上ってやばいんだろうなぁ
I already had my heart set on adoption before this video
Just.. wow
i thought it was one of those squishy things that allow you to apply paint in your nails easily. My good Lord i was wrong.
omg i haven’t heard « juju » in such a long time, i forgot i loved that word lmaoo
I'm uncomfortable with the energy we've creates in the studio
I was already at 7cm by the time I got to the hospital
Omfg 😨
Sooo much respect to all the mothers/mothers to be out there.
I had to process what they ment for a second
The way my eyes progressively got more terrified😭😭😭😭
This brought back some PTSD 😭
I highly appreciate the “NOT WITH THESE NAILS” disclaimer.
Yup deep in that... what they're going to say is you're in so much pain you're not going to know this anyway.
I wish ALL nurses were as considerate. You would think it would be a rule. One time I had a nurse in L&D with long nails. I wasn't aware until she scratched my vagina, ouch. Did not feel comfortable at all.
@@adeho789 My mom has nails as long as the girl in the video but they’re natural. She doesn’t do anything to make em pretty since she’s a custodian, but every time she fixes my hair it’s just paiiin. Couldn’t imagine it happening down there. Ouch
@@adeho789 smh this has happened to me too! Except mine was the actual dr! Terrible
I wish I could like this 4 times over 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
I was 5 cm dilated and didn’t even realize I was in labor so seeing how far that is makes it actually kind of scary. The woman’s body is a phenomenal the things it can withstand
Oh man how! When I was around 5 to 7 I was in another world with pain. After that to get to 9 the escalation of pain wasn't that much different. I'd say the 7 was my peak.
When I got to the hospital I told them I was in labor because I was bleeding but I wasn’t hurting I just needed to use the bathroom before they hooked me to monitors. She said oh no if you feel like you need to go to the bathroom we need to check you now. She checked and I was 10cm and babies head was crowning lol the urge to use the bathroom was just the urge for me to push my baby out 😂 she was born in just 2 pushes. Literally would’ve had my baby in the car if I would’ve been delayed by merely 2 minutes.
You’re so beautiful 😊💕
I went in with my second and was 7cm dilated and didn't feel any contractions until 9/10... only reason I knew I was in labor is bc my water broke
@@DeathlyDahlia22 did it hurt ?
7cm when i went in for my third. No epidural, no pitocin. Ready to push within thirty minutes with no complications. Discharged within 24 hours. Thank you, Lord🙏
Dang, you’re strong
Everyone who has a third seems to find it much easier. At least that is what I am hoping!
Tell me your secrets 😭
Also was it like this with your first? I’m due in 2 weeks
This is why so many women don't want kids anymore, myself included lol
@@Ryan-ze9fz do you want me to a bad and resentful mom or not one at all
@@Ryan-ze9fz Really? Last I heard, men have a 4x higher suicide rate than women, so I wonder who is actually miserable...
@@Ryan-ze9fz We don't hate everyone. Just men like you.
I have two, trust me. It is hard but it’s so worth the effort for the reward. But ofc it’s your choice!!
@@kayla_vogts123 I totally believe you, it's just not a desire or goal of mine in my life. Congratulations on your two!!
Mothers are badass. Please let me never get pregnant this is terrifying
Lol although I’m only 17. I already knew that the cervix must expand 15X the original size. So this wasn’t a shock. But even before I knew. The thought of pushing a live human from the inside of me and having it come from my cervix always terrified me. Massive massive props to women who go through natural birth. Mothers are some badass and no one can mess with them
@@tinapourshirazi2471 like seriously they go through this just so we don't go extinct. True badasses. There's also so much more stuff that's terrifying about this and honestly a good portion of it is the mistreatment... Like have you ever heard of the husband stitch-
@@giuliad223 OH don't get me started on the husband stitch, it's sooo messed up and way too common.
@@Spidertheidiot that singlehandedly prevented me from ever wanting a child. Pregnancy is dismissed way too easioly as something that's natural and wanted for the female body but truth is it's a literal horror story and women who go through it just to give their man a baby are damn strong.
I gave birth to twins without a csection naturally m.
I never thought anything could calm my raging teenage hormones, but here it is.
🤣🤣🤣
😂😂😂
Also exactly 69 likes lmao
Lol! If you need more just watch a video of labor and delivery, it will scar you for life 😂
Yeah get an IUD and you'll feel this shit too
As a woman, this is literally body horror.
This woman just single handedly slowed the teen birth rate in America lol.
😂😂so true this is scary
Baaaaaaaa 😂😂😂😂 deffinatly. I've had one and I'm like F that Sh*t.
Good job then👏👏👏
America isn't the only country
I'm in Germany
😂😂 this scared the heck out of me and I’m not a teen
Just goes to show that the guys that say that a woman gets “loose” after sleeping around know nothing about women’s anatomy.
You’re not wrong but the cervix is a very different thing from the vaginal opening. Men are talking about the vaginal opening and canal being loose. The cervix is the door into the uterus and the man will never go in there. The vaginal canal does expand when aroused properly though.
@@chaparker3007 and you think giving birth doesnt affect other places besides the cervix.. the baby has to travel through the vagina
@@chaparker3007 That’s not the point they were making, but go off ig.
@@atyourbesturluv.7106 what was the point?
@@nnicollan the OP didn't say "after having a baby", they said "after sleeping around"
As a woman this is frankly terrifying. God bless all of the mothers in the world
Right?
So glad I saw this AFTER I had my daughter...
So true.
Right?!! 😲
😂
It’s amazing! I’ve had 4 babies, the last 2 unmedicated births. I can honestly say when I was at the transition/ready to push stage all thoughts are gone beyond a sort of animal instinct to push the baby out and nothing else. For me I wouldn’t even have called it “pain,” but incredible trippy intensity lol! Mind-blowing.
An other reason to put on the list of why I am never having kids
Looks scary and painful af!
I did this a few months ago, it wasn’t a piece of cake for sure!
Labor is not easy, but so worth it. I look at my 8 year old now and I would do it all over again. But its your choice
The reason why I always opt for pain meds during labor! I’d go through it all again to have my children.
I have 4 boys, hahaha after my first born I said I wouldn’t do it again, lol then I said the same thing after the second and the third and then… I won’t say that again, but now with my 4th one right now he is 3 almost 4 I am really tired I don’t want more kids seriously, I’m done!!!
Knowing and actually seeing the visual is so terrifying.
Why is it terrifying? It’s the woman’s body adapting to the size and shape of the baby. Wouldn’t it be more terrifying if your cervix didn’t dilate, face and stretch?
@@BrightElk well yes, but we also don't think anyone actually imagined that a part of our body that is known to be tight and small to get that big
@@BrightElk ofcourse it is terrifying 🙄..I'm super scared...😑
@@Rainbow0015 uh your logic is confusing me. You know you don’t have sex with your cervix right? The baby needs to stay inside for 9 months. So the cervix stays closed. But then it does this amazing thing where it relaxes and becomes huge so that baby can come out. You should be relieved that it gets huge and let’s it out. Unless you want an episode of Ripleys nightmare from Alien which would be the next alternative. I’m literally sitting in labor right now. So I’m happy and relieved that my body is doing this. I guess it would be nice if we were like marsupials and we just had pouches instead of vaginas and cervixes but such is life I suppose.
@@BrightElk Man, this is like saying the flap that keeps stomach bile from spilling out into your esophagus is this "amazing little thing you should be thankful for." Like, yeah, that thing does wonders for some people, but DAMN is it gross to think about. Some people are just squeamish and that's how it is. If I think too much about the blood flowing through my veins I start hyperfocusing on the way my bones feel and I start to feel every dang vein and lump of muscle existing within me. Pretty sure it's some sort of mental disorder but can't be sure. Regardless, it proves my point, some people are just squeamish
THIS is the stuff they need to be showing in health class to prevent pregnancy. As an adult, NOTHING made me not wanna have kids more than learning about the stitches. I would have stayed pure my entire life if I had known about those...
St-stitches...?
But your body is made to give birth, it’s honestly not that bad 😂
@@ssaikokandy yep, some women rip while giving birth and need stitches
Sounds like hell. Ripping?!
@@bettertodie27 Mostly woman rips down there till the butthole or less or just a little bit. Then the doctor casually stitches the torn part if needed. The woman have to even wear diaper or a huge pad till 2-3 weeks after the birth because of post delivery bleeding. And sometimes they have to continue wearing diapers for almost a year because they can't control their bladder. There are many changes a woman body goes through, and tbh it's damn scary. They really deserve alot of respect for going through all of that.
I remember my mom's job helping these women during their deliveries. Praises to all mothers in the world.
This your friendly reminder that ADOPTION is an option and there are many kids in the world that are in need of a loving home
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Sure, but most people can't afford it. Also it takes years to adopt, and sometimes it never happens, they can decline you for any reason they want. Also, in most cases you don't know what kind of child you will get and what their situation was, the child might never bond with you, so it doesn't mean it will work out just great.
@@dawnriddler it's not a guarantee, but tbh neither is the natural route. also those kids still need adopting regardless of the challenge. not everyone is up for it, but it's still worthwhile.
@@dawnriddler pessimistic much
Yep if I ever want a kid, I’m taking the adoption route
"This is gonna be the best day of my life"
Yea no. It definitely isn't.
As soon as I saw my son after giving birth, I had an endorphin rush so strong, I thought I was high. I immediately fell in love with him and forgot a doctor and nurse were stitching my body back together. Was the best moment of my life hands down. That was my experience
@@simpleton2090 Same here. They kept telling me about that feeling when you see your baby after birth but I didn’t understand it till I saw her. I didn’t see anything or anyone else. I was just falling in love at first sight with her.
birth is the best day. Coming into your full power while you watch your body transform and bring life is the best day. The very best.
I agree, the day I gave birth was absolutely NOT the best day of my life. Not everyone has that magical, falling in love, butterflies and rainbows moment when they give birth. For some of us it just doesn’t happen in an instant. Nobody every talks about it so when I gave birth I wasn’t prepared to not have that experience. But I didn’t.
@@simpleton2090 i heard that its the hormone afterbirth
And we’re not allowed to be a little cranky and uncomfortable during pregnancy. My uncle said “we’ll, you decided to have a baby” doesn’t hurt any less though. 😂😂😂😂
I hate when people say shit like that. Your feeling and pain is still valid ffs regardless of whether it’s your decision or not 😒
That reminded me of this one time, I forget most of the story cause it’s been a while but my dad pissed my mom off when she was having one of her kids. I forgot what he said, I think it was something along the lines of like calm down or something and she just glared at him. I’ll ask my mom later what happened and update the comment but yea it was a funny story.
@@acemori6895 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I can only imagine
@@meg4637 right. Even surgeries. What if I decided to have a nose job? Still hurts to recover. 🤣 like damn
You’re allowed, tell them to have the baby if they wanna run their mouth. Seriously I’d have them leave the room. I’m not going through intense pain and listening to some annoying ass in law.
Just imagine squeezing a medium grapefruit out of a nostril. That's the appropriate dimensions
Except your nostrils aren’t capable of expanding though hahaha
@@MarinaMeoli They are if you pull a grapefruit through them 😖
@@dshe8637 hahahah I understand what you mean! I just don’t think these analogies are very helpful to women, because your cervix expanding so that the baby can pass is a natural process that your body was built to do. Of course that doesn’t make it painless or easy, but unlike a big piece of fruit going through an orifice it’s not supposed to, birthing a baby is something your body is naturally able to perform (barring some medical issues etc)
@@MarinaMeoli it was just something that occurred to me while in labour many years ago. The medical staff present seemed to think that it was normal to get a baby out of such an aperture, but in the heat of the moment it suddenly seemed impossibly surreal to me.
@@MarinaMeoli It did turn out to be possible, though :-D
And if there are any ladies reading this in a state of pregnancy, they might like to know that went through it all again a couple more times.
In fact two of those who made it out, have gone on to repeat the performance for themselves some decades later.
Everyone is always confused when I say I love kids but I don't want birth children. This video adds to my reasons why I will adopt.
Thank god someone understands 😭
Mooooooood
Me too!! Theyre always like "what? Why? I dont get it?" Im like WHAT DO YOU MEAN YOU DONT GET IT!!?? uhh HELLO!! Risking your life, your health, destroying your body and going thru the worst most excrutiating pain ever!!?? Whats not to get!!?? My mom keeps saying its worth it and that hynobirthing made it ok. Well I'm 37 and single and poor anyway so it looks like its not even really gonna be up to me at this point unless some guy who I'm totally into with decent money falls in love with me like 2moro..in which case I'll be hiring a surrogate or adopting, thank you. Too bad you have to be rich just to adopt.
Same but i dont like children
Same pinch ..😑😑
A cute pregnancy video had me debating if I may actually want to get pregnant one day. This reminded me I don't 😂
glaub mir, sobald das baby in deinen armen liegt ist jeder schmerz vergessen 😍
И мне тоже. Никогда! 😮 Раз случилось и скорее захотелось избавиться.. Это очень страшно. Без наследия растить человека. Страшнее нет ничего😮
@@Ich156 чушь полная
The idea of it is much more appealing then actually doing it and having it *shudder*
Same 😅
The amount of times I said "oh my God" 😱 I know it stretches for child birth but dear lord seeing it compared to your palm 😵
And that's only for the head. Shoulders have to get out too😂😂
@@shaylajohnson6442 🤦♀️😄 I know right! Now that I think about it, my c-section wasn't so bad after all, Lol!
I am not having anymore children!
@@Jeannie__ lol I'm getting ready to have my second in a few weeks. Praying for another vaginal delivery 😂😂
@@shaylajohnson6442 😳..😄, awww congratulations! I love babies.. I hope your delivery goes smooth and quick! Prayers for a perfectly healthy baby. God bless y'all. ❤
@@Jeannie__ thanks so much🥰🥰
Me, nine months pregnant and due in 2-4 weeks:
😳what did I get myself into????
Eh, you won't remember the pain much. You could always get a C section too.
Good luck
Well, it is happening. Just decide after you give birth whether you want the next kid or not. Having one is also okay so, yeah.
Oh my goodness, congratulations and good luck on your delivery, I hope your baby is beautiful ❤
Just remember to get that epidural. That shit numbs you up so good, I slept from 5 CM to 10CM on it. It literally feels like your lower body just falls asleep and it gives you plenty of time to rest before the pushing. It also helps with the Delivery pain and all you feel is pressure. Like a really big fart or poop is all.
Good luck, and you can do it momma! Also sleep now. You’re going to need it.
I wish all of the healthcare professionals agreed with the “NOT with these nails” things……
With my first, the woman checking me scratched the top of my babies head, because she had those fucking nails
Not OSHA or CDC approved. Those nails are not sanitary and can rip gloves!
@@ODDMAMA Jesus fucking Christ.
If you're a medical professional and especially if you work with people's genitals, for the love of God, cut your nails. Not only because those claws hurt but also because they're unsanitary as hell. Anything could be sitting under those nails 🤢
@@idek7438 yeh >~< I like long nails but I'm grossed out at all the shit I find under there so I don't keep them long, I keep them short-medium length and grime still gets under them, medical professionals should not have long nails
That comment made me cringe, I thought they weren't allowed to have nails like that 😖
Music stops:
It indeed will Not be the best day of her life.
Lmfao giving birth must hurt like hell.
Lol I noticed that 😂😂.
@@aimies Lol yea no shit thats why I'm 37 and I refuse it. When I was 4 yrs old I asked my mom if every female HAS to have a baby and she said no, only if you want to and I was like "whew". Too bad I ended up way too poor to afford a surrogate :(
Ah yet so many mothers say it is. I guess they just block out that whole agonizing pain memory. When I was like 6 I remember hoping that by the time i was 30 technology would have synthetic wombs but alas, they dont even have decent or reliable pain relief for women in labor so were probably at least 100 yrs from some sort of external womb. If humanity is still here in 100 yrs, which we wont be if we dont solve the climate crisis by 2022 or find a new planet to move to and a way to get people there but that's a topic 4 another day...
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God, I just clench my legs together because of this. Mothers are strong women and I am NOT one of them!
same yeah it’s just not the type of thing for me lol
Don't say that.. After all of the Pain there will be happiness... The feeling when you look your baby.. O my God I cant explain it.. And remember God give us the streght to give birth because we are a strong women.. We are special..
@@wulanputri4170 plenty of babies need to be adopted,,,,, why are you invested in her giving birth
You can be strong and not have gone through labor! The two aren't mutually exclusive. You are a force of nature!
You never know your own strength until you become one.
I'm glad we're speaking about these things, pregnancy is nothing to take lightly lol
Я,которая думала что это тоннели 🗿
А что это ?
Ахаха, думала я одна такая , тоже про тоннели сначала подумала🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
@@Ania_grand654как я поняла, это раскрытие при родах
I like how the song “Best Day of My Life” stops playing after the cervix gets so big lol
Now that’s my kind of comedy! 🎭
It was most probably because of how short music plays in these type of video (shorts).
Happend to me when I posted for the first time.
Buuut, as for the humour side, it is!
So yeah. Here I am, thinking what's happening. And even go to a conclusion that those things were lip balm or whatsoever 😆
Same lmao
Same hahaha
You mean whatever. Lol they are what we use in nursing to show dialation.
@@mollyschultz2331 You sound like you're "in the know" What's the whitish stuff in the center? Is it part if the cervix? Or supposed to be like the babies head or something?
That is when the cervix is becoming efface. Or stretching itself out. Not opening yet , just stretching. Around 4 cm it will actually open or dilate to allow baby baby to pass though birth canal.
This is a thing of nightmares, 0/10, would never recommend.. I’ll stick with being a dogmom, thanks!
Same😂😂 Dogs are awesome, why need a baby?
@@michaelat.1697 dogs need babies actually. Without a future generation to breed and feed them, most of them would go extinct 🤷♀️
@@rachel4339 it’s okay. There’s enough orphans in the world people can adopt.
Right??? It also tears apart your insides! It’s called “diasalis recti” and it’s terrifying. Also some women apparently have to get their um “nether regions” cut open? Or else it will split anyways????? No Thankyou!!!! Bahagahahha
@@Bonnie-lo3zh not with the millions of babies being aborted every year and the pay wall in front of the adoption process, not to mention the downward trajectory of the population in 1st world countries, which are responsible for more pet ownership than any other population.
People who thought it was bout make up😂
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I had my son 2 weeks ago, this doesn’t even pop up in your mind, you’re just ready to push em out I promise😅
Yup!
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My sister was in labour for 24 hours. She threw up many times and was told she wad 10cm dilated but that the rim wasn't soft enough. These things definitely matter to some people..
no? pfff I’m so afraid for experiencing this some day
Thanks for this
To all the women who are willing to go through this - good for you all! y’all are stronger than me!! 😣😩
🤣😂
😭
I did it 3x.. The real strength comes after this.. Years after.. When your child looks up at you and says " I love you so much mommy" for the first time and you achieve the ultimate award for not crying.. THAT is strength.
Glad I'm not the only one feeling fear after watching this video. This was horrifying.
I was even more horrified by the length of her nails… 👀
I have 3 children and had never seen this type of thing before! My last one I was 4cm already when I went in to get induced, that size blows my mind that I was walking around like that! Honestly, birth was much better than these sizes make it seem though 😅 I don’t want any more children and my body does not do pregnancy well but I’d give birth again in a heartbeat 🙌🏻 I loved it
How is it horrifying? I don't get it, just seems expected to me.
@@Khayran Kind of body horror. It's upsetting to some people to think about the body being deformed from its usual state, even if it's natural like cervix dilation. Plenty of women have a fear of pregnancy and what happens to the body, myself included. Personally, I was disgusted when I saw a video of a baby kicking in the womb, and the stomach was stretching and moving from it. Some people find it a beautiful miracle of life, but for myself and others, it's more horrifying to think about having another living thing inside of you.
@@joosoo exactly, idk if this is some sort of body dismorphia or what but everything a human body does when you read think about it is impressive but horrifying and gross.
Just to clarify, dilation is not painful, dilation itself doesn’t hurt. It’s the contractions that cause your cervix to dilate and they are what hurts.
That's not true, it's the opposite. Contractions don't hurt, the belly area doesn't hurt, what hurts its the opening of the cervix which feels like a stabbing with an ice pick or knife.
@@solangelalebron1348 that’s also wrong. 😂 Contractions hurt. It’s your uterus tightening up. When having a contraction, most of the pain is centered above the bellybutton. Not your cervix.
@@solangelalebron1348 usually the crotch pain comes when the baby is coming out, and only lasts for the duration that the baby is coming out, unless you’ve got lightening crotch during your pregnancy. They call it the ring of fire, because it burns so bad so women physically can’t force themselves to push.
@@parkerknight8738 I wouldn't have been able to push. My spirit wouldn't have had the strength. But there was another issue wrong with me. I thought natural labor would fix it, and it won't completely. I didn't know what I know now, then.
@@solangelalebron1348 natural labor is a bitch, but the epidural needle is scary 😂
I’m pregnant and not gonna lie, this scared the crap out of me
It’s gonna be ok. I just had my first 4 months ago & childbirth was my biggest fear. It wasn’t easy but the incredible high once you give birth & first hold your sweet baby in your arms you forget all about the pain of labor. You got this mama, you are so much stronger than you may know!
Remember for all the horror stories people tell you, those are actually the minority.
I had an awesome birth.
I’m always hesitant to share it because the last thing I want is to come across as if I’m bragging about it or invalidating women’s experiences that weren’t great. But good birth experiences are not as rare as they seem - most women who have them just don’t share them enough. And I feel like if we were more open about it, less women would be afraid of birth. Which is HUGE, because fear itself is a huge driver in how much pain you’ll feel.
@@MarinaMeoli unfortunately the act of giving birth is a taboo and not a lot of people talk about their experiences, good or bad...
I've been trying to normalize talking about it now, and I'm 20yo! my mom thinks it's crazy and that we do talk about it but I didn't know about it until I was old enough to take the interest to learn about it
tv shows and movies portray birth as if it's the worst pain in the whole world, doctors who will profit off of our fears say that natural birth is scary and shit can go bad so they don't have to wait for the baby to be born. the society also profit off of us not having our babies without medical interventions, scaring and making women submissive after all the trauma they been through
it's insane what you learn when you look for information about pregnancy and the birthing process
Same here!!
Don’t be afraid. I know it’s hard not to be since we’ve been programmed to think like that with all the movies and shows showing women looking like they’re near death smh it doesn’t have to be like that if you don’t want it to be. I was scared before I had my first child but I knew I didn’t want to be afraid. So I overcame my fear by doing research and I learned it’s really mind over matter (in most cases). The more the mind and body are in sync the better. It’s all about being in tune with your body and letting it do what it already knows how to do. Other than trying to relax (as much as possible of course), breathe and not tense up you don’t have to do anything your body just goes. What makes many births difficult is when we work against our bodies and tense up. That makes it more painful because the body is fighting against the fear we hold on to in our minds. The mind and body should be in harmony. Believe you can, breathe, relax and let go. It does take a practice to know how to relax your body and it’s different for each person but it’s nothing to fear😊
*me watching this while having the worst menstrual cramp i've experienced:* no thanks, i don't wanna bear a child ever. i am good with raising and taking care of rescue cats and dogs 😅
edit: just to add, the menstrual pain isn't the only reason why i refuse to bear a child. there are plenty of reasons behind it, but let me tell you one thing: you don't decide for other people what is and what is not they'd consider as a family. there is a lot more behind being a human parent, and it's a sh*t ton of responsibility. most people are already fucked up and most of it stems down to bad parenting. don't bear a child just because you want someone to take care of you for when you are old. don't bear a child just because you want them to pursue the things you failed to do. they're not an investment.
also, you don't tell other people that you're a good parent. it will show based on how your child turned out as a person.
Imagine thinking your cats can replace family
@@LD-rs1oj imagine thinking they can’t? Animals are amazing and also much harder to mentally scar. Even if birth wasn’t scary enough the responsibility to not fuck up your kids is even more scary. It’s shockingly easy to give your kids life long trauma
I feel you on those cramps, Get well soon :(
@@LD-rs1oj pets won't be abusive, pets won't abandon you, they won't ever shoot up a school.
Pets won't become horrible adults if you don't do perfect job rasisng them
@@tatiana4050 I pity you
I have never been so assured of my childfree status in all my life. Im literally dry heaving at the thought that my lady could be so mercilessly defiled.
Ревность ребенку, у которого большая голова? Очень большая
They should have taught us in med school using these
They didn't?? or use anything similar???