Sometimes people are actually too busy to start thinking about you. It's actually a result of low self esteem that makes one feel we are being talked about when actually they aren't
Natalie D people don’t trust others cause they can’t trust themselves, cause if so everyone would give everyone a chance, and find a way to trust again. I know it’s hard to trust someone again but it isn’t I’m possible, have faith don’t ever see the bad in people.
@Smitha PHILIP hey smitha. My name is ivan im 29 going on 30 and in may and i have these punks that are probably 23 24 that spread rumors about me and people believe them they only tell 19 early 20 year olds that really run with these stupid rumors im too old for this jaja
One example is when Mom tells you to not touch the stove. Mom understands why from experience. You can explain why with great lengths but child will not truly understand until experiencing the pain. Mom can be there have the child touch the hot stove really fast so the child knows the difference between what is hot and cold. Best way to learn than to learn it by accident.
I'm a girl of 19 years old almost 20, and I've been through bad times.. My family abused me, they did not support me, they let me feel bad and dumb.. And at some point in my life I realised that this made me really insecure. I realised that I was quite depressed, I was not ambitious anymore, I stopped with work, with school and taking care of myself... they hurt me so much... And after watching this video it motivated me to cheer up. To walk above the haters.. Thank you so much..
Study Mood it’s okay keep your head up queen and always remember you have the capable of changing your life! just know you were stuck in an environment and got brainwashed by your parents leaving you to a bad results but know there’s gonna be people who would show you support and love !
i watched this video probably a year ago and just came back to it and realized how much it genuinely helped me stop seeking validation from others. thank you
I am a type of person to take something to heart I get so upset and am so soft hearted . I always make mistakes . People hate me . I hate myself . I can never confide in anyone . I am now telling the world how I feel . I hate myself . You probably hate me too. Edit: thank you soo soo much for the likes❤️ I’ve read them all and I feel so much better, and it’s been a year! I love you all so much and thanks for supporting me💝 remember to always put your mind to things and push yourself as much as you can🥰
I dont know you but i know i would like you and people who are conceited and full of themselves that they think noone else measures up to them i hate that.
Dear, Zainab plzz dont hate yourself... As god gve us just 1 life n its so silly to hate yourself..... Stay away from this kind of negativity.... See yourself and life from positive aspect.... We are so blessed as god gives us this body...... Plzz forgive yourself n your soul..... Life is beautiful n so your are and you are more than you think about yourself... You are love... Start loving yourself and see what will happen.... Thnk uh
I was actually crying after this video because people always call me skinny or poor (meaning im not eating, but i can eat an entire buffet) and it really makes me feel like i have to gain weight but then again, if i do, they're going to call me fat. So what's the point? This video made me realize that what they say are just opinions, not facts. I'm happy with my body and and I'm happy with how I take care of my health. :)
Same! people are always saying things to me like. ”U have a face that doesn’t match ur body” and I’m like “BISH I-“ but In reality Yes that comment that they said about me hurt tbh This video thought me even if they say sum about my pass to completely hurt me Am I suppose to care? ...., NO bc “YOU CANT STOP ME LOVING MYSELF” *jimin’s voice*
I came back! I watched this one year ago and look at me now! I got rid of my depression and gained a lot of confidence! I’m happy now! And I love myself! Oh and 1 or 2 years ago I really cared what other thought or talked about me but now I don’t give a fuck. People are always gonna talk about u! LIVE UR LIFE AND ENJOY EVERY MOMENT!!❤️❤️❤️ Love ya and thank u so so much!❤️
I love a good before and after. Thrilled for you!! Self-trust sets us free. Thank you for coming back to share your evolution, I hope it inspires others 💙
I quit my shitty miserable job a year ago without having one lined up which I know EVERYONE and their mom says not to do. It was the best decision of my life. I consulted with some friends and family but I knew what I wanted and needed to do in the end. 2 months later I found my current job that I love. Like I LOVE MY JOB and I shudder thinking of what my life would've been if I had cared about what everyone said
I am in the same boat as well. I just quit my job without a back up. But something told me you'll regret it years later if you stay. My boss is horrible and she created a bad environment but wasn't just her. I knew I had to leave. Now to hope that I figure out what I want to do. I'm going at it blindly but I won't regret leaving this job.
So did I because they didn't want to train me. So I quit. Anddd they talked really bad about their past employees VERY BADLY. I got tired of the clicky crappy situation. Done ✔
Alisha My teacher thinks of me highly and i'm just too afraid to disappoint her and she thinks that i really trust myself but in reality, i don't. I once told her that i don't and she said the same answer you mentioned
Not sure if you are religious, but I am so I take this a sign from God. There's a reason why you popped up in my recommended. Thank you, thank you so much! You don't even understand what you have given me.
I've been confused as to why I care so much about what people think of me my entire life. I thought it was just an effect of social anxiety or something. I've been searching for ways out of that mentality, but I never found the right advice. Finally, thanks to you, I realized one incredibly important thing: I always 'check' to see what people think. Even just yesterday, I was at volleyball practice, and there was a lull as everyone was waiting to start a drill. The coaches weren't saying anything, so I just said, "I guess I'll start..?" And what do you know, I felt better after seeing a nod of agreement from one of my teammates--a teammate I didn't even like. Not only that, but I want to try cheerleading this year, even though I've never tried it before--and you know what I did? I went around texting girls from the team the year before "Was it fun last year?" "Do you think I could do okay?" And other stupid questions like that, but in reality, I just wanted to feel validated and secured in my decision to even just join the cheerleading camp. It's terrifying how obvious it's been in my life; whenever someone else says their opinion, I try to ignore it if it makes me feel insecure, but it's still always there, bugging me ceaselessly. Half the time I'm asking for that opinion; I'm just ruining my day on purpose, and I had no idea. So, new plan: I will not be asking for anyone's opinions. Instead, I'll be considering things on my own, then make my decision based on what I've researched and realized. I will always ask myself before doing anything, "Am I doing this to try to get validation?" If my answer is yes, then my next question--to myself--is, "How can I make the right decision on my own?" Thank you so much!!! 💕💕💕
• Stop asking for other people’s opinion to stop seeking permission and validation • Trust yourself • Develop a filter, you decide how to digest everything you are told. What are they saying and why? Critically reflect and rationalize, only care about the right things • Make decisions for yourself in order to own your life, show yourself you are capable of making your own decisions
I tend to be very strong mentally, but fragile emotionally. This causes me to overthink and become upset when people say or treat me in a negative manner. I've been trying to find a way to stop this on my own and although I trust myself to usually handle things as I see fit, this just was not going away. Thank you so much for this, it really put everything into perspective for me.
Hang in there, it gets so much better. The first step is awareness, but awareness doesn't mean anything unless you work hard at this as suggested in the video. I would have never imagined that youtube would help me so much. I am very grateful
Literally me. Its so draining. It gets to be so much I literally was sick of it and learned to literally block my negative looping thoughts and have a clear mind lol its so weird to think about. Im still a sensitive person but i dont let that effect me in a negative way. I try to use it for the positive.
Michelle, you're not alone! I'm so loving until it makes me feel bad at times. I guess cause we're living in a vicious world. I'm learning to stay away from people unless it's on a business level. Keep moving forward!!!!
When she asked if we trust ourselves, i paused and then a gave a solid no. It's like i saw myself and my flaws in this video. It will be hard to improve but i know that the result will be liberating.
God is strengthening you for something truly incredible and big down the road. You will be stronger from all this! I keep thinking about the story of Joseph every time I'm rejected..😉hope that helps.
I know the feeling ...but I git to the point where I honestly realized I do not need them or anyone except for my own family and mostly,my Creator and myself ...the sign was also into them being your friends and ditching you...some people are only meant to be a gift or a test for a long or a very short period of time and as this life does not last ,we should simply not get too attached to anything in this word anyways ...
I’m just a teenager, so I don’t think I’ve truly gone through all of these situations, but I’m going to try my hardest to put these into my life. Also, Dayuuum those eyebrows gurl
Me, however, am not just a teenager. I am one close to perfect teenager. Yes I said that, not even going to pretend I don't know that. Edit: what in the world was i thinking when i wrote this? I am honestly ashamed of myself.
Hello girl! Here from a woman who is heading quickly to 30 the only thing I can "warn" you about is that teenage years are very important in your life, to get "people skills" a.k.a. learn how to deal with people, set boundaries, etc; also is important to know yourself and to experience things that will give you lessons about life (keeping yourself safe). I say this from personal experience because due to personal circunstances i kind of "didn't live" my teenage years, i was introvert and isolated as a kid and teenager, suffered bullying and then later at the crucial turning point to iniciate adult life (but still teenager) i had a serious health problem that stopped and messed up my life. When finally i could start "living" and started working and getting way out of my confort zone i had many problems due to not knowing to read people, lack of emocional Intelligence, not knowing myself, not knowing to negociate at work and with family, friends and people in general, which resulted in being taked advantage of and borders would be crossed all the time and i would feel awful about myself. Despite i was very young, people were very mean to me (beware that just the fact of you being Young with potencial causes jellousy on many). Being naive and unexperient is very dangerous, older people can use that against you with no remorse. Pay close attention on people, even if you don't have experience you have a gut feeling there to help you. I wish i lived better my teenage years so my adult life would start smother. It's a time in your life you never forget, for the good and the bad, and sets the tone to a lot in the future (still you always have power to Change what you want to Change), you Will always remember it and be nostalgic about it. There's no other time like that, even thought it can be very hard for many people. You have way more freedom in those years; once you become an adult working and responsible for yourself and others, you will never have the same time to enjoy yourself, to build yourself and fool around. This is just the story of One person so read it with your own lenses; i just hope it can help you in some way. Everyone is different and every life/experience is different. I hope the best for you and that you enjoy the every "present" of your life, with all the joys and difficulties that it always brings, whether you are 15 or 85. Always be kind to yourself even if people around you are not kind :-)
Flor DasDunas i came here to peep the replies and i came across this but thank you so much for sharing ur story and giving out ur advice. i have low self esteem and im trying to imrpove on it by setting boundaries. i hope ur doing well and i hope u can live the rest of ur life happy :)
🥺🥺its the progress of learning about yourself. it’s okay. just know that everybody have those moments to feel that way 🥺🥺 hopefully you’re feeling better now
I’ve been told that I care too much. I need to start living for me and not for other people. I really really love you for making this video. Thank you sooo much!
People who don’t trust themselves been taught to be people pleasers. They’ve been taught to play a character that isn’t them is order to be loved. They’ve been taught that what they love and are passionate about is wrong.
I never ask people for their opinion on anything.My problem is actually learning how to deal with unsollicited comments/opinions and just take them for a grain of salt. I am a little too sensitive and let those things get into my head and ruin my whole week.Does anybody have this issue as well?How do you respond?
Hey I'm can be like that then I either ask myself 'how is this adding to my life?' or 'Is this person even a factor in my life?' Also I find reminding myself of why I made a certain decision/action makes it a lot easier to not care what others think.
As a teenager it's difficult to not care about my family's opinions on my life. I wanted to be a flutist for the longest time. I have a great path paved for me because of my achievements in musical excellence. For example, I'm an All State student. However, my family doesn't think that playing flute will get me enough money or that I won't be happy with my life. So then I decided I'll get a Bachelor's in health science after I graduate high school, then proceed to get a PhD and become a physical therapist. They still expect more from me. They don't understand my goals and the path I want to travel by. I want to play my flute, make all state again, graduate high school with my AA diploma, move out, go to college, become a physical therapist, perform in an orchestra, and get married, but every time I try to explain to my family what I want to do with my life they always expect more from me. When I was at the reseating audition for all state this year my dad was dissatisfied because I was not first chair. I don't know how to make them understand, or if I should stop caring about trying to make them understand what I aspire for my life.
Just imagine if every artist listened to people that doubted them, then there would be none. Go for your dreams because no money or career in this world will satisfy you except for that dream of yours. Prove them wrong, of course have a back up plan. Go for it!!
I can relate to this. And all I can say to you is that it is YOUR dream. For no one else but YOU. it isn’t for them. It’s YOUR happiness. It’s YOUR future. That isn’t something anyone should get a say on but you and the people you decide to trust.
@@ДанилаОрлов-и5ъ I've been a teenager and now a parent to a teenager who I've already told him to do this and I will support him in the future in his career/dream
I'm literally the weirdest person I know. and no I'm not trying to be quirky, I'm serious. I love myself for that and all, but I hate being myself in public. all these older, judging, mature teenagers and I feel like they're just going to make fun of me. this weekend, I a watched a movie with my dad called "hotrod" which was a weird movie pretty much about learning how to not care what others think. I'm trying to gain confidence for the things I want to accomplish and I thank you for this video.💗💗
@@enforcement2 What on earth is the point of your comment? You wrote a whole lot to basically say "don't listen to any of this because it doesn't help" and then offer no solution. Clearly videos like this are helping people and enabling people to feel more confident by making their own decisions, what are you doing to help?
@@raneanubis i think it made sense.. they didn't offer a solution but they explained how the op is actually judging others more than themselves which isn't helpful
I too have this personality of a child,if that makes sense?I like to babble/giggle like a child and just act super childish(in a fun way) and generally a bubbly person but I only show this Infront of my family because they accept/love me. Infront of other people I get so Awkward and don't know how to act 😐 (p.s. It's different from 'acting childish' or having a 'childish mindset')
I’m going into 8th grade and I’ve been very self conscious about myself and thinking no one will like my personality or what I like. This video really helped me. Thank you so much.
Me too bro. I have been endlessly scrolling through motivational videos and things like these because i have been caught in 8th grade drama and it's horrible.
I watched this 2 years ago when I was 15 and it made no sense. It makes so muchhhhhh sense now. And it made me realize soooo many little things I do from a subconscious level that are so toxic to my own mental health and just life in general. Thank you for this amazing video
I just wanted to say thank you I grew up in a toxic household and I don’t think my parents prepared me much for life. I then jumped into a relationship with the first person that really loved me, his family treat me so poorly with a 5 year old and another one on the way and yet I still seek validation from people that aren’t in my life. Thank you this is the closest piece of advice that’s motherly so I appreciate it ❤️
Ihave this insecurity.... I always imagine that people are going to talk behind my back while no one is.... This makes me so depressed and stressed out 😭 idk how to handle this help
social anxiety squad where you at??? believe me, most people don’t care. and the ones that matter won’t talk behind your back. i always think of it as giving away control, because i just can’t control what people think of me. it isn’t easy though. you just gotta be okay with it and know you can handle having someone talk behind your back or laugh at you
Me too, i started seeing a therapist for like 10 years now, recently i just been getting better but still not that good. It takes time, hope you feel better. 😊😊
I became homeless a couple weeks ago after being mistreated by my own mother and sister. I’m thankful it happened, I have been wanting to get away from my family for YEARS & at the end of the month I am moving to Los Angeles to pursue music and start my life over. I can’t wait to get away from them lol 😂 it’s finally time!!!
I have no strength to become homeless but I live in such a horrible cage and nonsense situation that seems impossible to solve. I feel suicidal. Idk if your decision was best but at least you are away from toxicity. Good luck.....❤🍀
Yess so cool! Good luck with your career ✨ I‘m also gonna move to LA to pursue my acting career although my parents keep on telling me I should stop dreaming. Never let anyone tell you what you can’t do ❤️
Hey people::::::::::::: Beware! Applying these ideas in your own life will most likely be slow and cumbersome. Be patient with yourself. Real growth results happen overtime, not over night. Look into practicing self love, self esteem as well. Knowing you deserve good things, love, and knowing you are capable of deciding for yourself are all foundational.
Oh my gosh I got a haircut, and I was scared to go out to places and in public, and especially in like my school, because I was worried about what people would think, because its not typical for girls to have short cut hair, and I was worried people would judge me and exclude me. I should have watched this earlier!
This literally changed my day, I never understood why I feel like an audience member in a theater of my own life. But when I watched your video, it made me realize I need to control my life. I need to make my own decisions. I need to stop letting other people tell me what to do with my life. Thank you, I know I am 17, but I think God wants wants me to be more independent, so I thank you. I am thanking God rn bc of this vid he showed me. Thank you
Gosh this was incredibly enlightening! Thank you so much, you have an amazing gift in expressing yourself. This was so much help and made SO much sense. Needed to hear this, thank you! 👏😍 you are gorgeous 💕
Qi Huna It is a compliment. Maybe you do not receive them. Lol. It is not validation. She is not seeking their validation for what she desires to wear in a video. Did you even listen to this video? She is incredibly intelligent and spoke of the topic of validation and self appreciation, self admiration And self fulfillment. You actually think this incredible women would have an unhealthy ego that desires compliments. Haha. You are such a bad joke.
I'm an overthinker tbh, whenever people say negative things about me I tend to overthink it and it's unhealthy. I know. But I don't know how to stop listening to what other people say about me. And my issue is that people in my year group dislikes me because of what they heard about me but they never even talked to me before. But after watching this I think I will develop a healthy mindset by not caring what people say about me! Tysm!
honestly, this is probably the important video I've ever come across on youtube. changed my perspective on a lot of things. I still come back to this video every now and then. thank you so much
I think its funny how people who "dont care what ppl think" care what ppl think. Someone who doesnt care what ppl think is confident, doesnt be-little ppl bcus they see everyone as great bcus thats how they see themselves
Have you ever considered giving a Ted talk? This was in my suggestions as I was watching Ted Talks on this topic and I think you were better able to get a clear point across than all of them.
No no no, Ted X talks are supposed to be 3 hours of nonsensical talking, not true genius! (joking in case you can't tell) Yeah no totally, if you get paid DO IT!
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I LOVE this video, even though I don’t ask for people’s opinions due to my childhood. I learned VERY early that NO MATTER WHAT YOU DO, people will STILL have a bias opinion 🤷🏾♀️
Who's watching 2019? This is real direct talking! Best part about telling a friend that you just broke up with your bf/gd "It's not CNN you don't need to broadcast it to the whole world" 😅
I literally always revisit this video and I'm 24 years old. This is so needed, and so necessary. Thank you for this and for reinforcing that all life is about is trusting yourself and going for whatever it is you want. Fantastic video.
I feel that sometimes when someone says "you're so great why are you single?" It can be a subtle bitchy comment wrapped up as a 'compliment' sometimes these people are in unhappy relationships themselves and wish they were able to feel happy and secure in themselves being single and knowing exactly what they want in a partner enough to be totally okay with being single if it means not settling, and in saying that they're actually saying "I'm great because I'm in a relationship and I want you to feel insecure about the fact that you are not". Love your vids, thought provoking stuff :)
I really think so although it could sometimes be said intended as a compliment but is a reflexion of their own negative associations with being single and they can't fathom that for some it's an intentional choice.
nurology I think once you get to a certain age you've long outgrown this and it isn't even a thought, much less an issue (and I'm talking adulthood, like 50's).
I don't think it is a bitchy comment. Annoying... Yes. It can be annoying. Why don't people ask why are you "coupled"? Why not be single on your own so that you can be free? lOL! When people give me compliments I take them as such! I don't try and read their "ulterior motives" are. Now you got me all paranoid! LOL!
Oh my Gosh!!!! Girllll yes! I've never understood why people ask what others are wearing before they go out. Never made sense to me. I LOVE that you're beautiful, well spoken, conscious, stylish, confident and most of all intelligent!!! Go girl ♥️👏🏽
Omg my biggest pet peeve is when girls ask me what I’m going to wear all the time!! I typically lie and say idk and tell them to wear whatever makes them feel good!
I've made some mistakes in the past and that's why there are a lot of people that don't like me because they have heard only those things about me. I've chanced completely from that time but people don't know that and still talk to everyone about the things I did a long time ago. It haunts me so much that those random people think badly of me even though they know nothing about me and my reasons. I know for myself that I have changed but I need other peoples validation and I feel like there's no way to change their opinions about me. I'm currently working on myself to stop caring but I feel like that wouldn't change anything and only to fool myself thinking that everything is fine.
*I spent 20 years in a very toxic relationship and I'm very thankful that I went through it!! I needed to learn a lot and it has taught me a lot about respecting myself and being a stronger person!! I didn't care about everyone yelping me to get away and I love what you said about trust your own decisions because they're never wrong! While it wasn't healthy, it was a path in my life that I needed to go through! Every single thing happens for a reason!! I'm still growing as a person but that was a huge waking point in my life to accept that I am appriciative for going through that!*
girl you have literally changed my life. I watched this video for the first time about 3 years ago and everything you talked about is still so applicable and I can see how I've grown from this
Even though I'm in highschool and this video was a breath of fresh air .And I always ask what people think for small stuff. And like I have to learn if I want to wear this outfit or this hair style I need to wear it because I like it . And its good to ask people opinion , but remember that you can't let all those peoples opinions over run your own .
My answer was a Yes! with vigor. Trusting myself is such a critical piece of my success and my happiness. Thank you for talking about it for all the people who don't already have this.
The thought garden is GOLD. This video really resonated with me. I recently made a series of bad decisions that were motivated by advice from other people 🤦🏽. This has given me layers of stuff to think about.
This was like an epiphany for me!! I've been very insecure most of my life & have a tendency to ask for people's insights on my plans and I never thought that most times they are projecting their insecurities on my situation... This was awesome. Thank you.
The “if you’ve got kids it’s - “when are you gonna die?” cracked me up big time! It’s so true! This resonated with me on a spiritual level. I thought I was very self dependent until you helped me notice that I do many of these habits subconsciously. It’s very difficult when you have been raised to always seek permission and validation from others. Thank you for your words of wisdom.
Watering the seed isn't cheesy or cool, it's the truth. The more importance we give to something, the more it develops and takes space in our minds. If you're sure about something you don't think three times about it.
I don't often listen to these videos because I find peoples advice can be so generic and I'm like 'Yeah but I'm not like everyone so how's that going to help me?' BUT . This video I think has really helped me. I found myself actually listening to what you were saying and actually taking it in and applying it to myself. So Thank You!! x
"In the grand scheme of things, it doesn't matter" I need to hear this every day so badly I think I'm gonna get it tattooed. Anxiety makes me question every single little thing I do and I gotta remind myself IT DOESN'T MATTER.
I’m 19, so just coming out of the asking permission for everything phase of my life. It’s a really hard adjustment, and I never realised why I would seek after people’s opinions for myself. But like you said, it definitely comes from a place of not trusting myself enough to know that I’ve got this and I know what’s best for me. Thank you for this video! Gonna tap into self awareness, and check myself when I’m asking someone what to do.
The more you accept yourself the less you care about what other people think of you.
@@TheWordOfTheStreet what the hell??
Sometimes people are actually too busy to start thinking about you. It's actually a result of low self esteem that makes one feel we are being talked about when actually they aren't
@Dark Glow Word
i agree
Indeed
Don't share your dreams or ambitions in life with other people👍
7 Star General Dipshit De Turd don’t make people your priority or let yourself be there priority cause your just an option to them
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Begone Lucifer.
That is so true
Yeah pretty much the summary of this video.
“Do you trust yourself?”
Me: **firm** 100% No.
Looooolllll me
me too lmao
I said No
Same
Natalie D people don’t trust others cause they can’t trust themselves, cause if so everyone would give everyone a chance, and find a way to trust again. I know it’s hard to trust someone again but it isn’t I’m possible, have faith don’t ever see the bad in people.
I need to write every sentence she said and stick them in my house on walls.
lmfaooooooo i was thinking the same thing
She is badass😎
EXACTLY 😂🤍
honestly!
“do you trust yourself”
i don’t even know what that means
Same
lmao same
for real
Same
Like when you make a decision and you are 100 percent sure in YOUR decision....yea I'm bad at explaining
Experiencing the result of your mistake is not the same as learning from someone else's mistake.
Pinning this comment because it deserves to be read by others and adding it to my list of favorite quotes as a reminder to myself. Thank you 🙏🏽
Yo that's really good
@Smitha PHILIP hey smitha. My name is ivan im 29 going on 30 and in may and i have these punks that are probably 23 24 that spread rumors about me and people believe them they only tell 19 early 20 year olds that really run with these stupid rumors im too old for this jaja
Could you elaborate on this? What does that mean? Is it better to learn from your own mistake?
One example is when Mom tells you to not touch the stove. Mom understands why from experience. You can explain why with great lengths but child will not truly understand until experiencing the pain. Mom can be there have the child touch the hot stove really fast so the child knows the difference between what is hot and cold. Best way to learn than to learn it by accident.
You radiate confidence
I radiate depression and insecurity
@@emon2689 same
And really throughout the journey as you become better you realise it's the only thing tht matters !
i couldn’t agree more and that got me thinking of what i really want to rediate! thanks!
"I'm not a psychic- although people are very predictable- but I'm not a psychic!" Wheeew girl intuition at it's finest.
Hahaha!! 💙
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Put your trust in GOD and he will help : D but don't test him
I'm a girl of 19 years old almost 20, and I've been through bad times.. My family abused me, they did not support me, they let me feel bad and dumb.. And at some point in my life I realised that this made me really insecure. I realised that I was quite depressed, I was not ambitious anymore, I stopped with work, with school and taking care of myself... they hurt me so much... And after watching this video it motivated me to cheer up. To walk above the haters..
Thank you so much..
Thanks
Study Mood it’s okay keep your head up queen and always remember you have the capable of changing your life! just know you were stuck in an environment and got brainwashed by your parents leaving you to a bad results but know there’s gonna be people who would show you support and love !
Islam Love Think out of the box and stand your ground and prove them wrong, good luck.
you can do this and that you dream of cheer up thump up.
I relate to this a lot, age and everything
This woman is wise
I'm the first to reply here
RockedWow And im the second
rebecca xoxo and I’m the 3rd
Singeli Ophelia fourth
anisa nice
"You're not in their equation." is exactly the one thing I needed to hear.
i watched this video probably a year ago and just came back to it and realized how much it genuinely helped me stop seeking validation from others. thank you
I hope you know how much this inspires me. Thank you 🙏🏽
nurology I hope you know how much you’ve inspired us
The same happened with me thank you so much
I've watched this video the first time. lets see if it helps me. I'm leaving my comment here and i'll come back if i see some changes
Whats validation ?
I am a type of person to take something to heart I get so upset and am so soft hearted . I always make mistakes . People hate me . I hate myself . I can never confide in anyone . I am now telling the world how I feel . I hate myself . You probably hate me too. Edit: thank you soo soo much for the likes❤️ I’ve read them all and I feel so much better, and it’s been a year! I love you all so much and thanks for supporting me💝 remember to always put your mind to things and push yourself as much as you can🥰
Aww no I don't hate you
Love yourself. Most of this is in your head trust me.
I dont know you but i know i would like you and people who are conceited and full of themselves that they think noone else measures up to them i hate that.
Dear, Zainab plzz dont hate yourself... As god gve us just 1 life n its so silly to hate yourself..... Stay away from this kind of negativity.... See yourself and life from positive aspect.... We are so blessed as god gives us this body...... Plzz forgive yourself n your soul..... Life is beautiful n so your are and you are more than you think about yourself... You are love... Start loving yourself and see what will happen.... Thnk uh
Dont hate yourself girl.If u hate Ur self who is going to love you.nd abt ppl ,they already love their own self more than anyone.
I was actually crying after this video because people always call me skinny or poor (meaning im not eating, but i can eat an entire buffet) and it really makes me feel like i have to gain weight but then again, if i do, they're going to call me fat. So what's the point? This video made me realize that what they say are just opinions, not facts. I'm happy with my body and and I'm happy with how I take care of my health. :)
r o s y same!
versaxhi don’t let anyone make you feel down
Milkandtea, youre not alone! To me, people can be the worse thing in the world. Keep making yourself happy no matter what. XOXO ❤️.
Same! people are always saying things to me like. ”U have a face that doesn’t match ur body” and I’m like “BISH I-“ but In reality Yes that comment that they said about me hurt tbh This video thought me even if they say sum about my pass to completely hurt me Am I suppose to care? ...., NO bc “YOU CANT STOP ME LOVING MYSELF” *jimin’s voice*
my own family did that to me, especially my own mother I thought the same as u but I learned not to pay attention to them bc they are jealous of u!
she's giving us clarity & advice, but we just love her necklace... O_o
Thanks
U mean boobs
Aidan Riordan
leave
Yeah... I was distracted by it 😂😂😂
Aidan Riordan
oh yeah yeah
I came back! I watched this one year ago and look at me now! I got rid of my depression and gained a lot of confidence! I’m happy now! And I love myself! Oh and 1 or 2 years ago I really cared what other thought or talked about me but now I don’t give a fuck. People are always gonna talk about u!
LIVE UR LIFE AND ENJOY EVERY MOMENT!!❤️❤️❤️
Love ya and thank u so so much!❤️
I love a good before and after. Thrilled for you!! Self-trust sets us free. Thank you for coming back to share your evolution, I hope it inspires others 💙
I thought you were actually Ariana bc of the profile pic and name!
I needed this, this gave me hope
@@nurology We really need your videos, should I still reload every day your channel to wait for some new video or? 😂 Thanks for your work! ❤
@@nurology Thanks for the advice it really help me😊♥️♥️
I quit my shitty miserable job a year ago without having one lined up which I know EVERYONE and their mom says not to do. It was the best decision of my life. I consulted with some friends and family but I knew what I wanted and needed to do in the end. 2 months later I found my current job that I love. Like I LOVE MY JOB and I shudder thinking of what my life would've been if I had cared about what everyone said
That's AWESOME!
kaleidoscopicmind5 you're so lucky
kaleidoscopicmind5 I'm contemplating on doing this!!!
I am in the same boat as well. I just quit my job without a back up. But something told me you'll regret it years later if you stay. My boss is horrible and she created a bad environment but wasn't just her. I knew I had to leave. Now to hope that I figure out what I want to do. I'm going at it blindly but I won't regret leaving this job.
So did I because they didn't want to train me. So I quit. Anddd they talked really bad about their past employees VERY BADLY. I got tired of the clicky crappy situation. Done ✔
One of my teachers said "how can you not trust yourself?" and I found it weird so I came online to know that I'm not alone.
Alisha My teacher thinks of me highly and i'm just too afraid to disappoint her and she thinks that i really trust myself but in reality, i don't. I once told her that i don't and she said the same answer you mentioned
Not sure if you are religious, but I am so I take this a sign from God. There's a reason why you popped up in my recommended. Thank you, thank you so much! You don't even understand what you have given me.
DeAnna Martinez
Haha,same. I take everything personally and I care too much about how people think.
I know what you mean. I'm 14 and lack of self trust and confidence has caused me a lot of pain. I want to change that
Same same ❤️
This one is nice🌹
So agreed
I've been confused as to why I care so much about what people think of me my entire life. I thought it was just an effect of social anxiety or something. I've been searching for ways out of that mentality, but I never found the right advice.
Finally, thanks to you, I realized one incredibly important thing: I always 'check' to see what people think. Even just yesterday, I was at volleyball practice, and there was a lull as everyone was waiting to start a drill. The coaches weren't saying anything, so I just said, "I guess I'll start..?" And what do you know, I felt better after seeing a nod of agreement from one of my teammates--a teammate I didn't even like.
Not only that, but I want to try cheerleading this year, even though I've never tried it before--and you know what I did? I went around texting girls from the team the year before "Was it fun last year?" "Do you think I could do okay?" And other stupid questions like that, but in reality, I just wanted to feel validated and secured in my decision to even just join the cheerleading camp.
It's terrifying how obvious it's been in my life; whenever someone else says their opinion, I try to ignore it if it makes me feel insecure, but it's still always there, bugging me ceaselessly. Half the time I'm asking for that opinion; I'm just ruining my day on purpose, and I had no idea.
So, new plan: I will not be asking for anyone's opinions. Instead, I'll be considering things on my own, then make my decision based on what I've researched and realized. I will always ask myself before doing anything, "Am I doing this to try to get validation?" If my answer is yes, then my next question--to myself--is, "How can I make the right decision on my own?"
Thank you so much!!! 💕💕💕
"I will always ask myself..." Love that
Wow, that was good
I want to hug you.
Her: Do you trust yourse-
Me (before she even finishes: No.
LOL!!! That's ok!! You have the power to change that in mere months. xo
The JESS hahaha. same.
God lord...I said the same thing.
Uma Bridges that's totes me
Same.
• Stop asking for other people’s opinion to stop seeking permission and validation
• Trust yourself
• Develop a filter, you decide how to digest everything you are told. What are they saying and why? Critically reflect and rationalize, only care about the right things
• Make decisions for yourself in order to own your life, show yourself you are capable of making your own decisions
Thanks! This helped a lot
A private life is happy life. God Bless you girl🙏🏽❤️❤️
Krishna P. Paudel yes! 💯
Yes
Here again after 2 years and I can finally say I trust myself
good on ya !!
Great work, it’s my turn to improve now.
I needed this! I don't need permission from people to exist!
I tend to be very strong mentally, but fragile emotionally. This causes me to overthink and become upset when people say or treat me in a negative manner. I've been trying to find a way to stop this on my own and although I trust myself to usually handle things as I see fit, this just was not going away. Thank you so much for this, it really put everything into perspective for me.
Hang in there, it gets so much better. The first step is awareness, but awareness doesn't mean anything unless you work hard at this as suggested in the video. I would have never imagined that youtube would help me so much. I am very grateful
mouse she did as well for me too!
mouse me too
Literally me. Its so draining. It gets to be so much I literally was sick of it and learned to literally block my negative looping thoughts and have a clear mind lol its so weird to think about. Im still a sensitive person but i dont let that effect me in a negative way. I try to use it for the positive.
It happens to me as well
This made me feel better because I’m a person who care soo much and which I’m trying not to care as much
Michelle, you're not alone! I'm so loving until it makes me feel bad at times. I guess cause we're living in a vicious world. I'm learning to stay away from people unless it's on a business level. Keep moving forward!!!!
When she asked if we trust ourselves, i paused and then a gave a solid no. It's like i saw myself and my flaws in this video. It will be hard to improve but i know that the result will be liberating.
*this is the best advice that I have ever had*
Why does it feel so good to be the 700 like 😂
My friends just ditched me and this came up in my recommendations. I’m religious and I truly believe that this was a sign thanks❤️❤️
Hey cake lady . You are gonna have an awesome life . Those fuckers don't know what they are missing .
God is strengthening you for something truly incredible and big down the road. You will be stronger from all this! I keep thinking about the story of Joseph every time I'm rejected..😉hope that helps.
I know the feeling ...but I git to the point where I honestly realized I do not need them or anyone except for my own family and mostly,my Creator and myself ...the sign was also into them being your friends and ditching you...some people are only meant to be a gift or a test for a long or a very short period of time and as this life does not last ,we should simply not get too attached to anything in this word anyways ...
@@andreeaboloca4440 Amen! It's all a test to make us stronger!
I’m just a teenager, so I don’t think I’ve truly gone through all of these situations, but I’m going to try my hardest to put these into my life.
Also,
Dayuuum those eyebrows gurl
"Just" a teenager. when you were like 8 u probs dreamed of being a teen... I mean ik I did
Me, however, am not just a teenager. I am one close to perfect teenager. Yes I said that, not even going to pretend I don't know that.
Edit: what in the world was i thinking when i wrote this? I am honestly ashamed of myself.
@ang3l1ca being a teenager is not extremely young ya know
Hello girl! Here from a woman who is heading quickly to 30 the only thing I can "warn" you about is that teenage years are very important in your life, to get "people skills" a.k.a. learn how to deal with people, set boundaries, etc; also is important to know yourself and to experience things that will give you lessons about life (keeping yourself safe). I say this from personal experience because due to personal circunstances i kind of "didn't live" my teenage years, i was introvert and isolated as a kid and teenager, suffered bullying and then later at the crucial turning point to iniciate adult life (but still teenager) i had a serious health problem that stopped and messed up my life. When finally i could start "living" and started working and getting way out of my confort zone i had many problems due to not knowing to read people, lack of emocional Intelligence, not knowing myself, not knowing to negociate at work and with family, friends and people in general, which resulted in being taked advantage of and borders would be crossed all the time and i would feel awful about myself. Despite i was very young, people were very mean to me (beware that just the fact of you being Young with potencial causes jellousy on many). Being naive and unexperient is very dangerous, older people can use that against you with no remorse. Pay close attention on people, even if you don't have experience you have a gut feeling there to help you. I wish i lived better my teenage years so my adult life would start smother. It's a time in your life you never forget, for the good and the bad, and sets the tone to a lot in the future (still you always have power to Change what you want to Change), you Will always remember it and be nostalgic about it. There's no other time like that, even thought it can be very hard for many people. You have way more freedom in those years; once you become an adult working and responsible for yourself and others, you will never have the same time to enjoy yourself, to build yourself and fool around. This is just the story of One person so read it with your own lenses; i just hope it can help you in some way. Everyone is different and every life/experience is different. I hope the best for you and that you enjoy the every "present" of your life, with all the joys and difficulties that it always brings, whether you are 15 or 85. Always be kind to yourself even if people around you are not kind :-)
Flor DasDunas i came here to peep the replies and i came across this but thank you so much for sharing ur story and giving out ur advice. i have low self esteem and im trying to imrpove on it by setting boundaries. i hope ur doing well and i hope u can live the rest of ur life happy :)
her: “do you trust yourself?”
me: no.❤️
When you started talking about “self trust” I thought: “ugh what is that even mean” but then you explained yourself and it made so much sense.
same
I read your comment before she explained and I thought the same thing till I saw the whole video 😅
brought tears to my eyes
Blaine Fiasco same
Blaine Fiasco that’s true I agree ☝️ that’s how I processed it too lol
When she asked the question "do u trust yourself" I just started crying and I dont know why but I burst into tears
Thanks 4 the likes and support guys
🥺🥺its the progress of learning about yourself. it’s okay. just know that everybody have those moments to feel that way 🥺🥺 hopefully you’re feeling better now
Monique Jansen Saaame
Samee
Same.
same.
I’ve been told that I care too much. I need to start living for me and not for other people. I really really love you for making this video. Thank you sooo much!
People who don’t trust themselves been taught to be people pleasers. They’ve been taught to play a character that isn’t them is order to be loved. They’ve been taught that what they love and are passionate about is wrong.
I never ask people for their opinion on anything.My problem is actually learning how to deal with unsollicited comments/opinions and just take them for a grain of salt. I am a little too sensitive and let those things get into my head and ruin my whole week.Does anybody have this issue as well?How do you respond?
Yes. As repetitive as it sounds just don't dwell on it.
Hey I'm can be like that then I either ask myself 'how is this adding to my life?' or 'Is this person even a factor in my life?'
Also I find reminding myself of why I made a certain decision/action makes it a lot easier to not care what others think.
kittenheartbunny great advice
Thanks appreciate this video, definitely needed to hear this.
xNnix xVvix I have that problem too 🙃😦
You are wise beyond your years, well said!!!
Thank you so much! 🙏🏼
danebrk Yes she is!
"Im not a psychic *...thinks...", although people are very predictable." I AM IN LO-VE! hahah
I read this as she said it haha amazing
As a teenager it's difficult to not care about my family's opinions on my life. I wanted to be a flutist for the longest time. I have a great path paved for me because of my achievements in musical excellence. For example, I'm an All State student. However, my family doesn't think that playing flute will get me enough money or that I won't be happy with my life. So then I decided I'll get a Bachelor's in health science after I graduate high school, then proceed to get a PhD and become a physical therapist. They still expect more from me. They don't understand my goals and the path I want to travel by. I want to play my flute, make all state again, graduate high school with my AA diploma, move out, go to college, become a physical therapist, perform in an orchestra, and get married, but every time I try to explain to my family what I want to do with my life they always expect more from me. When I was at the reseating audition for all state this year my dad was dissatisfied because I was not first chair. I don't know how to make them understand, or if I should stop caring about trying to make them understand what I aspire for my life.
Just imagine if every artist listened to people that doubted them, then there would be none. Go for your dreams because no money or career in this world will satisfy you except for that dream of yours. Prove them wrong, of course have a back up plan. Go for it!!
omg i can relate it, my parents definetly the same
I can relate to this. And all I can say to you is that it is YOUR dream. For no one else but YOU. it isn’t for them. It’s YOUR happiness. It’s YOUR future. That isn’t something anyone should get a say on but you and the people you decide to trust.
Life can be sucks, crisis, pandemic or other shit, but you should follow ur dream and don’t give a shit what they say, basically make your life
@@ДанилаОрлов-и5ъ I've been a teenager and now a parent to a teenager who I've already told him to do this and I will support him in the future in his career/dream
I'm literally the weirdest person I know. and no I'm not trying to be quirky, I'm serious. I love myself for that and all, but I hate being myself in public. all these older, judging, mature teenagers and I feel like they're just going to make fun of me. this weekend, I a
watched a movie with my dad called "hotrod" which was a weird movie pretty much about learning how to not care what others think. I'm trying to gain confidence for the things I want to accomplish and I thank you for this video.💗💗
I really look up to your for accepting your quirks and that you’re wierd at heart! I will also accomplish that one day! I know it :)
@@enforcement2 What on earth is the point of your comment? You wrote a whole lot to basically say "don't listen to any of this because it doesn't help" and then offer no solution. Clearly videos like this are helping people and enabling people to feel more confident by making their own decisions, what are you doing to help?
@@raneanubis i think it made sense.. they didn't offer a solution but they explained how the op is actually judging others more than themselves which isn't helpful
Me too, beb🥺
I too have this personality of a child,if that makes sense?I like to babble/giggle like a child and just act super childish(in a fun way) and generally a bubbly person but I only show this Infront of my family because they accept/love me. Infront of other people I get so Awkward and don't know how to act 😐 (p.s. It's different from 'acting childish' or having a 'childish mindset')
"It's not CNN you don't have to broadcast everything to the whole world"
😂
Alexis G i read this just when she said it lol
Alex Jianu a lot of big beauty youtubers need this right now 😂😂
for the 33 people that thumbs down, may your baby hairs never lay and your foundation be forever ashy..
HAHAHA OMG. I laughed out loud.
The hate just get under my skin....seriously😡. keep up the great work. Love your advice..
Kissy Curls. The funniest comment ever OMG😂😂😂😂😂😍👏🏻
Zara Fadil agreed 😂
Kissy Curls 😂😂😂😂
I’m going into 8th grade and I’ve been very self conscious about myself and thinking no one will like my personality or what I like. This video really helped me. Thank you so much.
good luck in 8th grade luv 💕, i really hope u feel better.
How is it going in 9th
Me too bro. I have been endlessly scrolling through motivational videos and things like these because i have been caught in 8th grade drama and it's horrible.
👌🤣👏
I watched this 2 years ago when I was 15 and it made no sense.
It makes so muchhhhhh sense now. And it made me realize soooo many little things I do from a subconscious level that are so toxic to my own mental health and just life in general. Thank you for this amazing video
Welcome back!! 💙
@@nurology I would really like to talk to you about some shit going on in my life privately
I’m 15 now and I needed this
erg wdg I’m also 15 and I needed this
Loveee this!💕💕💓💯
I swear to god next time someone asks me why I am single I will tell them to find something more interesting to ask
Lol me too
And me
I’m out here trying to achieve my new year resolutions
Same😂
same
Same 😂
Same here 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
I know this is off topic but I love ur profile picture. Namjoon is my bias ❤️❤️
I just wanted to say thank you I grew up in a toxic household and I don’t think my parents prepared me much for life. I then jumped into a relationship with the first person that really loved me, his family treat me so poorly with a 5 year old and another one on the way and yet I still seek validation from people that aren’t in my life. Thank you this is the closest piece of advice that’s motherly so I appreciate it ❤️
me watching this video: YO I'M CONFIDENT AF
me in real life: uh- uh- do you still like me?? :/
@Omar Aziz aggressive much?
“Im not afraid of what my parents are afraid of” this resonated with me.
Amanda Vilenio SAME
Ihave this insecurity.... I always imagine that people are going to talk behind my back while no one is.... This makes me so depressed and stressed out 😭 idk how to handle this help
Craft Craft sammeee
social anxiety squad where you at??? believe me, most people don’t care. and the ones that matter won’t talk behind your back. i always think of it as giving away control, because i just can’t control what people think of me. it isn’t easy though. you just gotta be okay with it and know you can handle having someone talk behind your back or laugh at you
Me too, i started seeing a therapist for like 10 years now, recently i just been getting better but still not that good. It takes time, hope you feel better. 😊😊
@Ina Aliu aw i love the way you think thx you
Craft Craft
omg same. like when ppl laugh behind me i feel like theyre talking abt me. its so scary and tbh i hate it. ⚠️
I became homeless a couple weeks ago after being mistreated by my own mother and sister. I’m thankful it happened, I have been wanting to get away from my family for YEARS & at the end of the month I am moving to Los Angeles to pursue music and start my life over. I can’t wait to get away from them lol 😂 it’s finally time!!!
good luck💕
I have no strength to become homeless but I live in such a horrible cage and nonsense situation that seems impossible to solve. I feel suicidal.
Idk if your decision was best but at least you are away from toxicity.
Good luck.....❤🍀
Yess so cool! Good luck with your career ✨ I‘m also gonna move to LA to pursue my acting career although my parents keep on telling me I should stop dreaming. Never let anyone tell you what you can’t do ❤️
@@suncanaplaninsky9848 Do anything.. But never think of suicide... Pls🙏❤
Wow! Good for you!! I hope your dreams become everything you want it to be!❤️
The level of respect I have for you right now is so high gurl
Hey people::::::::::::: Beware!
Applying these ideas in your own life will most likely be slow and cumbersome. Be patient with yourself. Real growth results happen overtime, not over night. Look into practicing self love, self esteem as well. Knowing you deserve good things, love, and knowing you are capable of deciding for yourself are all foundational.
Oh my gosh I got a haircut, and I was scared to go out to places and in public, and especially in like my school, because I was worried about what people would think, because its not typical for girls to have short cut hair, and I was worried people would judge me and exclude me. I should have watched this earlier!
I have short hair i had the same feeling but the opposite happend...
Go out there
Good luck!
This literally changed my day, I never understood why I feel like an audience member in a theater of my own life. But when I watched your video, it made me realize I need to control my life. I need to make my own decisions. I need to stop letting other people tell me what to do with my life. Thank you, I know I am 17, but I think God wants wants me to be more independent, so I thank you. I am thanking God rn bc of this vid he showed me. Thank you
Amen! 🙏🏽
God bless you😊
Gosh this was incredibly enlightening! Thank you so much, you have an amazing gift in expressing yourself. This was so much help and made SO much sense. Needed to hear this, thank you! 👏😍 you are gorgeous 💕
Hi love! Thank you for such an incredibly kind comment. You inspire me to keep creating!! 💙
Gentle Whispering ASMR OMG Maria 😍😍😍😍😍
Gentle Whispering ASMR OMG I LOVE YOUR VIDEOS💖💖💖💖💖💖💖
Maria !!!!!!! 😍
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I act like I’m okay but no one actually knows how I feel as I’m a pro in concealing my feelings
I relate, I try to be the schools funny guy and make people laugh when deep down I'm hurting
@@Moonlight97592 i feel u so bad. u good?
@@leenamansouri547 I feel the situations got a lot better I was being bullied
I'm glad it's getting better. So sorry you had to go through that
Yes
That is a beautiful necklace omg so chic!!!
HI!!! Thank you so much!
Qi Huna It is a compliment. Maybe you do not receive them. Lol.
It is not validation. She is not seeking their validation for what she desires to wear in a video.
Did you even listen to this video?
She is incredibly intelligent and spoke of the topic of validation and self appreciation, self admiration
And self fulfillment. You actually think this incredible women would have an unhealthy ego that desires compliments. Haha. You are such a bad joke.
Juliana Vani-Catarina what and your not 🙄🙄😂
its literally a compliment
Qi Huna it's like you didn't even finish the video. Smh.
I'm an overthinker tbh, whenever people say negative things about me I tend to overthink it and it's unhealthy. I know. But I don't know how to stop listening to what other people say about me. And my issue is that people in my year group dislikes me because of what they heard about me but they never even talked to me before. But after watching this I think I will develop a healthy mindset by not caring what people say about me! Tysm!
honestly, this is probably the important video I've ever come across on youtube. changed my perspective on a lot of things. I still come back to this video every now and then. thank you so much
I think its funny how people who "dont care what ppl think" care what ppl think. Someone who doesnt care what ppl think is confident, doesnt be-little ppl bcus they see everyone as great bcus thats how they see themselves
I’ve totally noticed this.
Have you ever considered giving a Ted talk? This was in my suggestions as I was watching Ted Talks on this topic and I think you were better able to get a clear point across than all of them.
imnumber142 I thought about ted talks when she was talking too.
right ? she's amazing
Omg she would be perfect to TED talk
imnumber142 I THOUGHT THE SAME
No no no, Ted X talks are supposed to be 3 hours of nonsensical talking, not true genius! (joking in case you can't tell) Yeah no totally, if you get paid DO IT!
"Do you trust yourself?"
*Awkward silence*
Me: *starts laughing*
Never clicked so fast.
LOL!! 😂
magnificat r Lol! Me too!
So true:)
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SAMEEEE
please someone get this woman her own talk show on tv PLEASE
Brianna Mobley no one watches tv anymore
I LOVE this video, even though I don’t ask for people’s opinions due to my childhood. I learned VERY early that NO MATTER WHAT YOU DO, people will STILL have a bias opinion 🤷🏾♀️
Fist time I watched this video I did not trust myself and now rewatching I most definitely do trust myself whole heartedly.
I can't tell you how happy this comment makes me! Cheers to you for doing the work 💙
@@nurology Thank you
How did you get there?
Who's watching 2019?
This is real direct talking!
Best part about telling a friend that you just broke up with your bf/gd "It's not CNN you don't need to broadcast it to the whole world" 😅
I literally always revisit this video and I'm 24 years old. This is so needed, and so necessary. Thank you for this and for reinforcing that all life is about is trusting yourself and going for whatever it is you want. Fantastic video.
I like how you break it down to the granular level instead of throwing out empty "feel good" platitudes. Love it!
“you are capable of making decisions for yourself, you’ve just never done it”
me, whos grown with controlling parents: 👁👄👁
I can relate :')
Hahaaa..mannn this hit differentt
I feel that sometimes when someone says "you're so great why are you single?" It can be a subtle bitchy comment wrapped up as a 'compliment' sometimes these people are in unhappy relationships themselves and wish they were able to feel happy and secure in themselves being single and knowing exactly what they want in a partner enough to be totally okay with being single if it means not settling, and in saying that they're actually saying "I'm great because I'm in a relationship and I want you to feel insecure about the fact that you are not". Love your vids, thought provoking stuff :)
this is so true
I really think so although it could sometimes be said intended as a compliment but is a reflexion of their own negative associations with being single and they can't fathom that for some it's an intentional choice.
This comment is 100% true!! Beautifully-said. I hope many people see this!
nurology I think once you get to a certain age you've long outgrown this and it isn't even a thought, much less an issue (and I'm talking adulthood, like 50's).
I don't think it is a bitchy comment. Annoying... Yes. It can be annoying. Why don't people ask why are you "coupled"? Why not be single on your own so that you can be free? lOL! When people give me compliments I take them as such! I don't try and read their "ulterior motives" are. Now you got me all paranoid! LOL!
Honestly that equation you made is the only equation i understand in my entire life😂😂😂
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That made me laugh out loud!!
Oh my Gosh!!!! Girllll yes! I've never understood why people ask what others are wearing before they go out. Never made sense to me.
I LOVE that you're beautiful, well spoken, conscious, stylish, confident and most of all intelligent!!!
Go girl ♥️👏🏽
When she said "Do you trust yourself?" I just straight up said "No." R.I.P self-confidence! 😅
Same me
Same...
“Learn from whatever happens”. Wow I never knew I needed this.
30 lessons ive learned in 30 years video pleaseeeeeeeee
somali maa tahay lol
She can't be 30! is she 30?!? NO....
Missy Uffling that’s exactly what I said to my self.. the exact same line “Is she even 30”😂😂
she's 32
Akhi Hussein haaa
Omg my biggest pet peeve is when girls ask me what I’m going to wear all the time!! I typically lie and say idk and tell them to wear whatever makes them feel good!
I've made some mistakes in the past and that's why there are a lot of people that don't like me because they have heard only those things about me. I've chanced completely from that time but people don't know that and still talk to everyone about the things I did a long time ago. It haunts me so much that those random people think badly of me even though they know nothing about me and my reasons. I know for myself that I have changed but I need other peoples validation and I feel like there's no way to change their opinions about me. I'm currently working on myself to stop caring but I feel like that wouldn't change anything and only to fool myself thinking that everything is fine.
You really changed my life with this video.
i couldn't be more thankful of RUclips for recommending me this.
*I spent 20 years in a very toxic relationship and I'm very thankful that I went through it!! I needed to learn a lot and it has taught me a lot about respecting myself and being a stronger person!! I didn't care about everyone yelping me to get away and I love what you said about trust your own decisions because they're never wrong! While it wasn't healthy, it was a path in my life that I needed to go through! Every single thing happens for a reason!! I'm still growing as a person but that was a huge waking point in my life to accept that I am appriciative for going through that!*
girl you have literally changed my life. I watched this video for the first time about 3 years ago and everything you talked about is still so applicable and I can see how I've grown from this
Even though I'm in highschool and this video was a breath of fresh air .And I always ask what people think for small stuff. And like I have to learn if I want to wear this outfit or this hair style I need to wear it because I like it . And its good to ask people opinion , but remember that you can't let all those peoples opinions over run your own .
Why doesn't this video have like 5 million views this is one of the best videos I ever watched...
My answer was a Yes! with vigor. Trusting myself is such a critical piece of my success and my happiness. Thank you for talking about it for all the people who don't already have this.
LOVE THAT!!!
The thought garden is GOLD. This video really resonated with me. I recently made a series of bad decisions that were motivated by advice from other people 🤦🏽. This has given me layers of stuff to think about.
I just turned 16 and I’m very awkward but this just helped me so much, thank you for helping me see clearly 👏🏼
Write a book!!!
Nichelle Bruce yes 👐👐
This was like an epiphany for me!! I've been very insecure most of my life & have a tendency to ask for people's insights on my plans and I never thought that most times they are projecting their insecurities on my situation... This was awesome. Thank you.
"You do not have to ask a tribunal of people " I love this analogy so much!!
The “if you’ve got kids it’s - “when are you gonna die?” cracked me up big time! It’s so true! This resonated with me on a spiritual level. I thought I was very self dependent until you helped me notice that I do many of these habits subconsciously. It’s very difficult when you have been raised to always seek permission and validation from others. Thank you for your words of wisdom.
Watering the seed isn't cheesy or cool, it's the truth. The more importance we give to something, the more it develops and takes space in our minds. If you're sure about something you don't think three times about it.
I don't often listen to these videos because I find peoples advice can be so generic and I'm like 'Yeah but I'm not like everyone so how's that going to help me?' BUT . This video I think has really helped me. I found myself actually listening to what you were saying and actually taking it in and applying it to myself. So Thank You!! x
"In the grand scheme of things, it doesn't matter" I need to hear this every day so badly I think I'm gonna get it tattooed. Anxiety makes me question every single little thing I do and I gotta remind myself IT DOESN'T MATTER.
I’m 19, so just coming out of the asking permission for everything phase of my life. It’s a really hard adjustment, and I never realised why I would seek after people’s opinions for myself. But like you said, it definitely comes from a place of not trusting myself enough to know that I’ve got this and I know what’s best for me. Thank you for this video! Gonna tap into self awareness, and check myself when I’m asking someone what to do.
"If you are married, when are you having kids? If you have kids, when are you going to die?" Lmao too true
Wolfferoni lmao for reeeal
I was having a super bad day and watched this and just THANK YOU. This is so helpful and just brought it into perspective.
While watching this I realized that the root cause of my anxiety was caring for others opion, this video really helped me