The Most Bizarre Thoughts I Have As A Sociopath
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- Опубликовано: 21 сен 2024
- Diagnosed Sociopath (ASPD) Kanika Batra reveals some of her most bizarre thoughts she has. Kanika also talks about love, relationships and lack of emotions.
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While this is scary to see someone openly admit, I really appreciate the honesty in your videos. It is helpful to know how these people think.
Appreciate it in silence instead of feeding her narcissistic supply
@Twinnzllc who cares, she's still a person. Harmless supply anyways as this video is informative.
What honesty?
She can't even come clean about getting bad plastic surgery lmao
@werethless12 honesty about the way sociopaths think..obviously
If you think any of this video was honest, you need to study NPD more.
I think these traits are a lot more common in the real world than we'd like to admit. I don't know if it's because of the rise of narcissists, or at the very least, narcissistic traits (our current culture is an amazing breeding ground for narcissism), or the actual prevalence of sociopaths, but I definitely see these patterns a lot, especially regarding relationships.
I can't not see it. Glad I'm not alone. ❤
Narcissists and sociopaths are different things.
But most sociopaths are narcissists.
People now are definitely narcissistic and it’s all social media fuelled. People think they’re more important than they are
I mean I had the same thought only a minute into a video, but for corporations. The systems we work for, we, “normal people”, “good people”, “moral people”, we let these kind of tricks and methods slide when it comes to marketing, design, politics… and we’re totally okay with that.
And I’m not talking about impersonal objective systems at large for the benefit of most people…
But public business practices that we teach each other and ourselves, for approaching a community or a member of the community, or a person who could bring worth to us or our organisation. The central concept is lying.
And ask anyone about lying today. It’s irreducible to the “life” we’ve tied to our fate.
It IS a conscious human choice that we are developing in human and societal evolution.
The thing is, a few ages ago, a simple common man would not be so calculative. A royal elite might. An army general might. But not 80% of the human population.
Whereas now, being calculative is preached and followed.
Lots of psychologists are now saying its a good thing to be a narcissist because it helps you survive a modern capitalist society better.
Her videos on guilt have completely changed my life. It's the most valuable advice I've ever received. If I haven't done anything to feel guilty about, why should I feel guilty? I shouldn't! Anxiety has always been a constant in my life, but after taking her advice, I almost completely eliminated it. It dawned on me that the majority of my anxiety stems from feelings of guilt that I should never have felt in the first place. If I genuinely haven't done anything to feel guilty, then I have no reason to feel anxious. Kanika I can't thank you enough.
YEEES!! You get it! So happy for you!
@@saltandpepperandmint Thank you so much that really means a lot!!! 😊
This!!!! Yes!
Are you seriously taking advice from a sociopath on breaking the law? WTF
@gregorygan2077 I'm taking advice on not feeling guilty for things I shouldn't have to. You must not have watched the entire video. Also, it's free to mind your own business instead of mine 😘
A give away is the "dead eyes". She's got em.
Yeah I can instantly tell by the eyes. They look at things with their eyes a certain way especially if its a situation about caring of others. Its a very cold stare that screams they would screw you over if they could get away with it. They will lie ofc that they are caring but their body language and how they say it doesn't match.
Don't be fooled, most can hide that in a public setting. She is being open and honest and doesn't need to hide it. I can charm an entire room of people I hate and no one would even know I deep down am wanting to hurt any of them. But some of us are not liking the idea of being confined and don't wanna risk ourselves into getting caught doing something horrible. So we finally give into counseling... They are even stupid and fall for our charms as well.
@@VibinWithRunnTheSnowman not necessarily, I often have dead eyes and am nowhere near a sociopath, just a reflection of often being dead inside from pain, hardships and depression. Some people are just stoic and not very expressive facially, it's not a total tell.
This actually helps me understand my narcissistic ex and keep him as far away as possible. Thx for your videos
Narcissist are a different class even Sociopaths do not like them either 😂
@@Tojoj22 narcissists and sociopaths have many things that are similar. Especially malignant narcissists.
Who did you turn down for that winner?
i struggle with object permanence too. as someone with bpd, if you’re not around me, it quite literally is an.. ‘out of sight out of mind’ mentality. i think this is where a lot of my struggles with idealization & devaluation protrude. if you’re split as black, i hold this negative, all bad, demonized version of you (thats different from anger, that’s intense HATE.) on the other hand, if i’m around you, i feel guilty for ever thinking that way. when you’re gone, it’s back to the same negative thought loops. if you’re not around, how do i know you exist? it’s easy for me to hold onto this dark view of you, because i no longer hold feelings for you.
this is over simplified & there’s much more to polarized thinking than this, but i think this is where a lot of my struggles come from with it.
What is your take on "solipsism" in relation to what you experience?
split as black?
@@iUnderstand i don’t see it as inherently selfish, i see it as a defense. as children, most if not all of us viewed things in extremes. the difference with Borderline individuals, is we never grew out of it, due to the adversities we experienced as children. it’s a way to cope with intense emotions. i don’t think it’s excusable, but rather an explanation. it’s also not exclusive to BPD, as other mental health issues can lead polarized thinking as well.
@@TTInfiniteGaming devaluation in the context of BPD
@@iUnderstandsuch an interesting question. I was diagnosed with BPD but I don't have issues with object permanence. Now, solipsism...I think mental illness/addiction anything of that nature is inherently selfish. I've suffered with both. But I worked very hard to overcome them not least because I could see how my loved ones were being taken down by MY issues too. I realised that if I wanted to have longevity in those relationships I had left (having lost many) I needed to work damn hard to heal myself. I could go deep into my thoughts on diagnoses (three psychiatrists diagnosed me with three different conditions despite my giving them.the same history - BPD, rapid cycle bipolar and adult ADD) but suffice it to say, I chose to ignore them and worked on what was it about my behaviour that was fucking up my life, what trauma had lead me to that behaviour and how I could reframe the trauma from an adult perspective. There was more to it than that oversimplification but you get the idea! There were times when I was selfish - that's a condition of simply being human not just being mental or addicted! - but I've always been pretty self aware so I was able to take responsibility for the shit-show my life became and heal. Not easy but I'm drug and alcohol free eight years and today, I do not meet the criteria for ANY of those things I was diagnosed with. So it's possible. But it won't happen if you're a selfish person. I believe that springs from self pity. I've had a shit life, I'm a victim, it's all about me me me. That mind-set keeps people sick. Anything is possible but how you choose to see life will determine if its possible for you. Perception is everything. I saw my trauma as teaching me. I had a life happen for me not too me mentality. But I'm bloody lucky I was able to see life in those shades of grey. I didn't always but....when people were leaving me in droves because I was a nightmare to be around, albeit a very unwell nightmare, I had to look at what the common denominator was. Me.
BPD is a hideous thing to deal with and incredibly misunderstood even by professionals. So that can make you bloody selfish because you feel like it's you against everyone. But when your behaviour affects so many people and they leave you, you can't afford to be selfish, you have to somehow understand how it must be for other people to deal with you when you're in a BPD meltdown. My brother recorded me once. Seeing that was my turning point. Because how I was was horrific. Blimey, that was a long arse reply! 😅
My mother said for her entire life that she was a sociopath. I'm not sure if that was a formal diagnosis or not, and she was very much a serial liar so it may very well not have been, and I can't ask because she's dead and I have no contact with her family, but these thoughts sound EXACTLY like things she'd say to me when she was being very vulnerable and just venting or talking off the top of her head when we were alone. I very much believe that she was and it's selfish but your videos give me a bit of closure about that, so thank you!
beautiful revelation..
You were very fortunate to have a wise mother. You could have learned.
@@anemone9081Learned what?
@@anemone9081the original comment shows no trace of the mother being wise or any indication of what was or wasn’t learned by the poster. What a bizarre comment.
I have a friend who is a sociopath & he is also a pathological liar so it may be something that goes hand in hand.
This is valuable, honest content that is practically non-existent on the internet and yet we know it existsall around us. And the self-awareness elevates it to where it's obvious you work damned hard to be ethical. It might be an everyday struggle but isn't it for everyone?
This. I am sociopathic as well. It is exceptionally rare for me to care for someone, but I care for ideals. Essentially, I could watch a friend fall down stairs and die and not worry about it but if someone was being unduly threatened I would be the first to help. This combined with a complete lack of fear has made me seem heroic to some and like a villain to others. We are not inherently dangerous, but when we are it is dramatic.
No, being ethical isn't an everyday struggle for everyone. It's a struggle for people who care nothing for others.
@@cornwallismorgan874 I love your optimism. It's cute. It reminds me of playing in a warm spring day.
If it was the norm to be ethical, then we would live in an ethical world. We don't. Not even close.
@@horizonblack We live in a world that was hijacked by those who are unethical and who have twisted certain cultures into narcissistic, self-worshipping hellholes. It doesn't mean average people are like that, and many of them aren't, at least in my generation. The younger ones are a lost cause, honestly.
@@cornwallismorgan874 That's a hot take there, friend. Can you point me to a time and place where we were ethical by nature?
I am not a narc/sociopath, on the contrary, I am very empathic, but I totally cut out people who do not bring any value to my life. This is to protect myself of being drained and it is a learned skill. Every relationship must be an equal exchange of some kind of positive energy. However, I do have a friend who is still my friend since KG, and sometimes we do not speak for years. But when we do meet or talk - it is a mutual joy, she does have a place in my heart, reserved only for her, but we don't feel the need to chat every day/frequently, to keep the bond. Its just there. We can go about our everyday busy lives separately, and then meet once in a while. Apart from this and my closest family,I don't do unconditional love/friendship anymore and I do not just give and give without taking equally. I also learned to cut useless/negative/abusive people off with no remorse. And this made my life so much better.
I don't have aspd, but i have autism and see relationships the same way. I don't think it's cruel, i think it's healthy, realistic and practical. I'm happy i got to a point i'm know practical with my love- if you aren't at all usefull, i won't waste my time on you. I think knowing your value and what you want from someone (trust, your boundaries being respected, someone that makes you interested) is inteligent.
Interesting perspective. I suppose the only caveat would be, sometimes people can offer things you didnt know you needed. Also, if you develop a reputation for being callus or having negative traits, you could miss out on someone who could have been great for you. In my experience, being friendly and open to most people allows you the most opportunity to benefit in a variety of ways. And if i dont like someone, then i cut them off. Just a thought.
I agree ❤️
Where do you draw the line? Do you love your parents unconditionally even if you don't benefit from your relationship with them? Just wondering what your thoughts are
I’m autistic and tbh I don’t agree. It sounds like you might be sociopathic as well.
@@Bexx74Oh, of course. I may be practical, but i think i'm rather open and friendly, because i'm a really curious person, and because people can be amusing, so i got no problems with that. It just that I try to get to know people, and when I realize they don't bring anything i'm interested on, i move on. I, however, recognize that having a positive relationship with people can be useful at times (your coworkers helping you out on something, classmates letting you copy their homework, etc) so i'm not callous. It's just that i won't reach out unless we are together by circunstance.
*"until they transcend that need for reciprocity"...* _This._ Yes.
I really appreciate you doing these videos. I got a head injury and changed to be ASPD-adjacent in personality as an adult and the object permanence thing has been the HARDEST to accept because I did not have it with people before. (I was the opposite, I couldn't let anyone go). Any friends after the injury that I make feel just like surfaces or transactions. The ones from before the injury are still coded completely differently.
Your thoughts actually don't seem strange to me, though a lot of people would find them unfamiliar or strange and I can relate to 50% of them. I have a radar for danger though while not finding your thoughts strange, so I am careful how close I get to people who can discard others because *I* never want to be discarded, but it's only about preserving myself.
The transactional part of what you're saying makes perfect sense. If people allow "friends" in their lives who do nothing but bring them down, THEY have an issue they need to work out in therapy imo. I say you're normal in that respect. If people don't realize their relationships are transactional in that there has to be give and take, doing nice things, being there if things go wrong, uplifting each other, etc, then they're in denial over what relationships are in general.
The rest of your vid is fascinating. As you can see from my channel name, I see boredom as an issue for us all. Sounds like you need really intense boredom relief as a sociopath. For us "normal" people, a walk or an interesting video will do. Thanks for sharing Kanika.
The idea of a sociopath having a cognitive deficit not just of empathy, but also of object permanence, is really mind-expanding to me.
Most of us will hold little emotionally-charged mental models of things in our minds, indefinitely. It's where "People don't remember you for what you say, they remember you for how you make them feel" comes from. It's what leads people to pedestalize others in early relationships, when the 'love drug' chemicals are coursing hard in their veins -- and what leads sociopaths to prey upon and feel disdain toward those partners who are idealizing them so naively.
Interesting lesson, thank you.
I score low on sociopath tests.... but the stuff you say all makes sense to me.
Same.
Engage with them based on all past selves, not this one in the moment.
That will give you an actual answer, imo masking is so severe, it's so normal at a certain age you will bypass these tests and get different results everytime without becoming "past selves" in a sense. By that, I mean the adaptations thoughts and behaviours that sticked, not you in that period of time, perception of time is nuked 😂
great. don't look for problems
She's being honest the world needs more of that. It's her feelings her opinion. We should appreciate her openness.
Totally
Not fully honest, but certainly a valuable voice.
I think sociopaths are deeply insecure. The superior attitude is an over compensation for a very deep lack of self esteem. Also, you probably shouldn't trust anyone who is a sociopath.
Tell us you have no idea what you're talking about without telling us.
@@abettermind
Ditto 😉
Quite the opposite. They feel a lot less than most people, including shame, anxiety or insecurity. They’ve described it as feeling of emptiness or boredom most of the time. The usual thoughts we might feel as insecurity or feeling bad just doesn’t exist for them. You might be thinking of a narcissist, who has a lot of the same traits of this disorder but they feel it from a place low self esteem and a bruised ego. Sociopaths can have cognitive empathy and understanding but they simply don’t feel it at all.
You're thinking of narcissists
I think they do feel insecure about certain things, like not being 100% happy with their body. They will readily admit to those things, like they are not so bothered about what others think to hide that. And they will still be focused confidently on the more important task in hand (how to best rob you) 😂
The problem with sociopathy though, especially when combined with narcissism, is that ordinary people think they're special too, when they're not. And for the vast majority of these types of people, cutting out "nobodies who provide nothing to me" is just a way to wind up alone and miserable.
Right. But unfortunately because these people are so charming and conniving they usually find another poor soul to mess up. These people are never alone for long.
@@bell4898 Unfortunately yes. But thankfully they do themselves in eventually.
@bradleybrown8428that’s not really the point of what she said though. That’s one takeaway, but she’s saying in general, someone who doesn’t serve her in anyway will be discarded.
@bradleybrown8428that’s one very small thing to take from everything she said
"ordinary people think they're special too, when they're not." Ummmm.... or everyone is special because they are a child of god/goddess and are inherently invaluable.
My Covert Narc Mom used to say if people aren’t useful then keep them on the dead people list like they are dead. Even as young as 6 or 7 I remember hearing her say this. If someone is struggling due to some setbacks then again she would say,” Keep them on the dead people list and move on”. I have never ever seen her helping any of her families or friends when they are in need. She is 80 and still going well.
That's because coverts like their own peace but stir up the kids 😂😂
The honesty is next level.
Refreshing. Subbed.
I love how self aware you are
Actually, the opposite is true. Why would anyone waste their time on you? Or want to pump you up or care what you think?
Because she’s still a human and deserves human connection. Plus, just because she has issues with relating to others, doesn’t mean she can’t bring joy and happiness to a relationship
Shes just saying what its like to be a sociopath.. i dnt think the comment hurts her or anyone like that. Explaining tho, shes just explaining. Her brain is wired dif.
I was thinking about this actually. Sociopaths don't care about treating people with indifference or even cruelty, but what if someone does it to them? Will they still not care?
@@justanothermortal1373they'll go after them for revenge. But to the original point, I actually dated a girl with NPD and it was a horrible experiemce. That point of "bringing something to the table" is self-depricating for sociopaths because they are extremely "high-mantainance". You have to endure heavy mood swings that come out of nowhere. I can't see it ever being worth it.
This really helped me let go of the sociopath I was engaged with. To hear the mindset spoken so frankly is helpful to those who want to move on. They moved on, I will too. We tend to want to believe they will “wake up one day wringing their hands” over the loss. Knowing that just isn’t going to happen is really liberating. Thank you.
The realness & frankness that u have when u speak about yourself is always so refreshing! I think it kinda gives a neutral model for other people to self-reflect with as well
I think most people feel that way. Even people with empathy don’t want negative people around or people that drain them of their energy-don’t bring value. That’s pretty much normal I believe.
This has got to be one of the most honest videos I came across on RUclips. And I’m absolutely loving it, especially the part about friends. Keep it going. 🎉💕
Def my fav kind of video, i love hearing the inner workings of the way a person thinks!
Sociopaths dont need narcisistic supply, only narcisist do. Sociopath can trive on desert island, narcidist dont, they die without people.
Duel diagnosis exists. Did she not mention she had ASPD with high narcissistic traits. Or both NPD and ASPD. Not sure.
@@louwinters508if you look in her profile she mentioned all her diagnoses she has.
Wow so Raw and straight to the point it maybe hurtful to hear the truth about how they really feel, but it give you some clarity and some closure how these people think so you don't keep running back to them
In all irony of what we're taught to perceive about Socio & Psychopaths, what you're explaining *IS* what true friendship and romantic love is. I personally have my own theory that the median of socio & psychopaths are the actual people that know what Love really is. It's really complicated to concisely convey it to everybody else, but ANYWAY... You're *100%* appreciated for this insight you've provided for us. I'm fr grateful for this. Thank you!
Please make videos about communication tactics that narcissist and manipulators do
Because i often find myself confused with gathering my thoughts about this people
I'm glad you are back!! Friends with whom you can share your problems as well as have a good time are the ones that stay around naturally, I think.
The other day I was reflecting on guilt.... I realized I can tune in or out of guilt (specially in the last couple of rough years). If I do something "wrong", usually by accident, I may or may not feel guilty, my though is "it's already done". But I try to be more aware so I don't do it again. I believe one can choose to be a good person.
Of course meditating, helps to "vibrate" high, and in that case, being a good person comes more easily and naturally.
Nope. They don't stay around and after 5 years almost everyone is a different person anyway. Because life changes people. The people you have been friends with at some point naturally don't even exist anymore. And you might even wish this to them because life isn't worth living without changes. Everyone needs to adapt in order to survive and whatever they might go through it changes them and may it be only that they become much happier. They will change so a long lasting relationship with the one and only "true friends" is just some thought or illuson that people need to feel existential safety or better to say to fight off existential angst.
@@anemone9081 Of course people change, and grow. friendships can evolve, not necessarily having to end. Kind regards.
I actually find that sometimes I experience some of these when my BPD's bad. Especially the object permeance and struggling with empathy. And like the intrusive thoughts are a thing too.
Thank you for being so candid!
Kanika, don't you think that most people are friends with someone because of things they have in common, or something of interest, and they drop those people or move on when the interest or the common thing is not there anymore? I see this every single day. Most people are like this...any why do you need to keep in your life someone who makes you feel bad, put you down or insults you? Makes no sense to me...
She doesn't understand that because of her condition.
@@bastadimasta she also says the same thing, she keeps the person in her life if the person is bringing something positive/of value to her life, and she drops the person when he/she is becoming of no value/no more interest/negative and a bunch of people that are normal do the exactly same thing with other people. In fact I'd say it's absolutely not healthy to keep someone in your life that degrades you, and at least she does good in that department, as she doesn't keep in her life those who are negative or tear her apart.
She's understands all of this, she just doesn't FEEL the same way as other's do.
This is like, out of sight, out of mind mentality. They use people and very cleverly. Your feelings will never matter to these people. There is no OFF button. Unfortunately I've lived this type of life up close and personal. If you let it, it will make you feel like your losing your mind 💯 Very toxic to say the least 😔👿
@@elenam1626she said she’d discard them if they complain. So like if they’re having a hard time in life she throws them out. No, that’s not normal
Thank you for opening up. This is very valuable for the understanding of what the sociopathic experience of life is like.
He keeps me "stable" 😂
I lack object permanence but it looks different with me (BPD). When a person thinks they consider me a friend even though they are only touching base with me like once a year, I consider it breadcrumbing. I totally understand why you would cut people like that off but lol @ thinking they must have died.
I also feel bad because I want to be someone who brings joy to someone's life, but it's hard to wear a mask when I feel like shit all the time. I feel like it's abnormal to just be friends with anyone and everyone who crosses your path. Not many people can bring me joy and not many even try but when they do I try hard in return.
I am adhd and have same problem
Damn i spot sociopaths and egoists so fast they hate me more than anyone. At the same time i am empathetic which makes the situation even tougher to deal with on my side
Crazy how people look up to this person and glorify her
Kanika can you talk more about your experience with pageants? What you though getting into it?, how you did, what your process was, motivation. How you dealt with networking and also the other stories you mentioned about your pageants as well
“I don’t have empathy for myself either” - that’s insanely interesting… Not affected by anything emotionally essentially …
Thank you, Kanika. For these kind of videos and reels. 💙
For you putting yourself in these lights and letting others know so much more.
Ms. Batra has taught me enough to realize that if your goal is to be kind without overextending yourself then you should have one selfish reason and one selfless reason before you do something
Never too late to heal. First step is to forgive yourself. The next step is stop comparing yourself to others. Third step is to realize you can't change anyone but yourself. Fourth, in the end what really matters are the memories we gather. Do you want good loving ones or chaos and strife ones.
Thank you so much Kanika.
I think the same thing about other people not wanting me while in happy relationships. I think there is crossover between “high functioning” autism and psychopathy. I am a social chameleon and a masker. The autism I have is pervasive demand avoidance. I don’t really care about social hierarchies, but will blend in as to not be detected. I feel the only difference is the attachment thing I get easily attached. And I do feel a tremendous amount of guilt. But it’s on my own terms, and it’s not as much dependent on what society views as good or bad, except yes, my mother brings me a lot of shame.
The parent thing OH MY GOD
Masking is the primary connection and while an autistic person might not read social queues correctly, a person with ASPD simply does not care about social norms.
Wow, as someone on the autism spectrum too, I also totally resonate with everything you said! I've wondered about the possible 'psychopathy' overlap because my son has ASD too and I've observed the detachment he has with things/ppl. I was diagnosed late, in my 40's, when he was Dx and this answered so much about my life growing up in Australia. I get easily attached and have trouble letting go, as you describe, but when I do I'm the Ice Queen and barely remember ppl and names and events later on. It's very weird because I have an excellent memory, unfortunately, for trauma and painful wounds from my mother...
@@Secret_Soul_Survivor it is often mentioned that sociopathy is made in childhood. They are forged through traumas. Is it possible that we are forged by traumas too?
@@horizonblack people with ASPD are charming and they have excellent social skills. That's why they are able to lure their victims to use as supply.
Autistic people are hurting people without even realizing it
@@natural3362 I understand your points, but I would like to suggest three things for consideration:
1) People with ASPD ~can~ be very charming and have excellent social skills. 1/4 of our imprisoned popualtion is estimated to have ASPD, but are not the charmers that media portrays them as.
2) Narcissists need a supply. Kanika here is a confessed narcissist. People with ASPD and neurotypical people usually do not.
3) Finally, autistic people ~can~ hurt people without even realizing it due to a misunderstanding of social queues.
As soon as you said - why aren’t they with me? I’m so amazing
I laughed… I apologize. I know this is obviously a cognitive distortion as you only see yourself and not others and that is understandable. You must be a hilarious friend to have 😂
Everything that you've mentioned Kanika really clarifies why my ex did what he did. I'm aware he was in treatment for his aspd and he also has BPD when he is a preteen but hasn't continued to get the help that he needs. I understand that he's really not well and I can only wish him the best and that he gets the help that he needs. I still have love for him and I care about him but it's not safe to let him back in. He would have to make changes and make improvements.
Solipsism: noun
1.
the quality of being very self-centered or selfish.
"she herself elicits scant sympathy, such is her solipsism and lack of self-awareness"
2.
PHILOSOPHY
the view or theory that the self is all that can be known to exist.
"solipsism is an idealist thesis because ‘Only my mind exists’ entails ‘Only minds exist’"
Interesting. There is something so magical about caring deeply, and honestly about people. Having empathy creates a human connection. Otherwise you’re missing some of the best parts of being human. Love, caring, compassion, empathy, these are amazing gifts we have. Even the animal kingdom have some traces of these traits.
Very interesting to see you open up about being a sociopath. What I find conflicting is that you do have concerns about what your mother and father think of you, so there is that part of your personality or whatever you wanna call it that has that ability to care enough to be concerned about it. How does that even work? Genuinely curious.
Caring about people is nice if they care about you as well. Otherwise it will kill you emotionally. I've gone through that. Care for a sociopath and it can potentially end deadly.
if i speak for myself (not diagnosed aspd but i have traits) your first attachments you make are your parents. typically, your first experiences with any sense of right and wrong, expectations, how to behave etc. are from your parents. your autonomy and realization of own wants and needs (beyond basic survival) doesn't really start to form until you're 2 years old. so when you grow up and for whatever reason develop without much empathy, a piece of you still has whatever your parents ''programmed'' inside of you, which, as a baby you NEEDED these people to survive. my parents are very different from me and i've had to do a lot of ''deprogramming'' to become someone that lines up with my own morals instead of theirs. but i can never fully lose what they put into me, because that's literally the foundation of who i am. i could see the same thing being true for kanika with her husband, saying that this is the first person she's genuinely had a real love connection with. a bond like that settles into your core and you put a piece of that person inside yourself. a random person at work or a karen at the gas station don't have that, so for someone without empathy that care is gone.
I'm not used to comment on any videos, but when you mentioned what you felt your most bizarre thought was, it resonated with me, as that is something I found myself thinking many times. I don't necessarily think that it correlates strictly with NPD or ASPD, but it made me reflect on the possibile motives of WHY I may think that way about people I don't even remotely want. Thank you for sharing your experience and for being so honest.
What makes you make false promises? Won't people come to hold you accountable to things you said? I'm very careful agreeing or making any promises, because I don't want to lose my freedom, I don't want to tie myself up in something i don't enjoy. People say it's only for a while, but I imagine it forever. So people see me as very evasive, because once I said I'd do something, I have basically comitted to doing it every day or every week without end in sight.
Well because she was diagnosed with sociopathy lol.
Doesn't being held accountable mean you feel guilt if you don't follow through? She doesn't feel guilt. She has said her lack of empathy also means she doesn't empathize with her future self. She can't conceptualize a future where things are done "or else." She doesn't think about or care about consequences.
Try and imagine living without all of the internal controls, checks and balances, and taking others into account that a regular ol' neurotypical empathetic human relies on to guide them. How would you make decisions then?
And promises by nature are shallow, they are just words, they serve a purpose in the social contract but are actually pretty meaningless.
Don't PROMISE me you will pay rent, or not cheat, or show up on time- just do it.
I have ASPD, I generally don’t make false promises because that’s the one type of lie you people will come to collect on 😅
So basically if someone with ASPD made a promise and didn’t follow thru, they probably don’t have any use for you in their life going forward and don’t think they’ll be of use to you either… don’t take it personally and let it go ✌️
@@cleanserene6330 In the case of rent or things expected of you, yeah, promising is just words. But in other cases promises are making plans together, like making a verbal commitment to do something in the future. Like say, hey I'll meet you in the library at 9AM to study together. And then the girl doesn't show up. Or saying I'll bring you back some coffee from Kenya, and they never do it. It's a concrete vision of the future, as real as your vision of the present and past, it's certain neurons creating a mental model of the world in your head, for both people.
A lot of this really resonates. I only love 3 or 4 people in my life. My mum, my dad, my partner and my cat ("fur person"). And my best friend, who truly knows me and I can be myself with.
I don't have room in my brain for care or empathy for anyone else. I feel no guilt, shame, remorse or anything at all when I do what are considered morally "wrong" things EXCEPT, if I let myself think "What would my mum and dad think if they knew?" THEN I don't feel so good. So I push those thoughts away. They're really why I haven't been arrested. I won't allow myself to hurt them by my actions.
"What would my mum and dad think if they knew?" Fits my thoughts sociopaths are emotional unstable infants in grown up bodies.
Then you probably are on the sociopathy spectrum as well.
@@EphemeralProductions I am, yes. I have BPD with high antisocial traits.
@@catnap8042 That pretty much fits me deep down.
Most of the people I've met conduct themselves in a lot of these ways.
I don’t understand how people have relationships outside of me either. I will ruin your relationship just to not see you in one.
G'luck with that.
" I don't have empathy for myself either " 🤯🤯🤯🤯
Girl! You look stunning! These are definitly your colors 🖤
Sooo glad to see your beautiful dark hair again 💜 Exotic and gorgeous 😍
I'm a sociopath. I don't regard it as a "personality disorder". Sociopaths are psychologically superior against non-sociopathic beings. The fact of the matter is we are more capable because we are not limited by petty disadvantages such as pity, guilt or shame. Also, because of our narcissism the only "personality" people ever engage with has been built with great effort to be it's best version in respect to what given culture values, giving great sense of our self worth being put this well together & I expect no less from others in return. If society rewarded competition, standards, quality, power, pride than sociopathy would not be widely considered as a disorder & sociopaths would be considered champions of culture. We exist to be the best culture has to offer. Psychopaths are the weirdos...
Well, everything is good, as long as you do not define youreself too much over your'e sociopathy. See: You need empathy to meet thoughtful and sane decisions. There is something much more interesting, than just beeing superior amongst other people, it's called passion. If you don't have a real passion in live that you are willing to fight for and you define youreself instead over your'e sociopathy, which consists of manipulating other people and distance youreself from others, by thinking you are something better you destroy not only the lives of people who would actually like you, but also youre own life because your'e thoughts will be, by defintion always driven by things like hate, rage and anger. That's just not a good basis to build a meaningful and passionate life. Besides that neither sociopath nor psychopaths in the end are very clever. Many of them end up alone in prison or getting addicted to drugs, because they see, that theyre behaviour leads to just nothing but chaos. They cannot control theyre impulses, because they literally hate other people and themselves and thats why they can't plan for the future. There are maybe some who are succesful in a way or have leading positions, but in the end, those people don't have a happy or fullfilling live, because they neglect empathy, so all that stays and they can define themselfes over is hate, anger and frustration... The really highly intelligent people are in most cases those, who have a healthy sense of empathy, because they know, that there value is not defined by how strong or resillient they are, but more about there interests and talents. If you are really a sociopath, I feel really sorry for you, because you have misunderstood some basic prinicples in live and you chose a horrible path for youreself.
@@morwe1739 I appreciate your comment. You've given me a lot to think about...
Thanks for the video Kanika, it helps me understand my bf a lot more. I love him but he uses his brain for weird things 😂 and his views on people and life always felt off to me. Like I’m a kind and considerate person who is more of an empath and I probably care a bit too much of what others think of me, and he is very much the opposite, at least when we started our friendship.
I think we have taught each other valuable lessons and helped each other grow in stuff we aren’t good at. He taught me how to be more assertive and not worry or think about the future so much and focus on more in the present. I think he would say that I’ve helped him become a better planner (we both are good at planning but we both hate it lol) and more disciplined and taught him that having more empathy for people isn’t weakness.
The thing about having a few close people is true; he LOVES his younger sister and it’s not surprising because she’s basically the female version of him, and he loves his younger brother too. He also respects his parents greatly and at least tries to not get into trouble for their sake.
He said that he valued me and thinks I’m special which is why he enjoys spending time with me, but I think he is starting to be more open and I’m beginning to have more of a significance in his life. We have a similar background of sexual abuse and when he opened up to me about it and the car accident I was shocked because he’s a person who’s pretty much always calm, is super confident to a fault and doesn’t let anything worry him.
He said he respected me a lot because he saw that I had been through a lot (referencing my people pleasing behavior) and said I had a strong character for not allowing bad people and unfortunate events to change who I am and how he looks up to me in that regard and he started spending less time around me because he didn’t want to hurt me and was afraid that I might actually become significant in his life and he wouldn’t know how to deal with that like omg 🥺🥹 I know he was telling the truth because he just started rambling and saying nonsense lmao but I understood what he was trying to say even though he couldn’t articulate it.
It was something I needed because at the time I was struggling with my identity and I was questioning the point of being kind and being friendly and helping others when they just take advantage of me or treat me badly or differently based on how I look or treat me badly when they realise they can’t get what they want from me like a date or sex.
My bf said to keep being myself because at some point being like him and being a sociopath is a choice that a person makes. It made me think of how when I was a preteen during the abuse and I was in the deepest depression of my life and I just hated everyone and was full of rage and hopelessness and my mom gave me a lecture about not throwing away what I know and not giving up. My parents and my bf are right because being kind and empathetic is one of my (many) strengths and it’s who I am; I should be proud of it and shouldn’t let other people or events change who I am.
My dad taught me about the rucksack method; if you think of your life as a rucksack, you’re constantly adding stuff. So I don’t have to remove kindness. I just have to add something that helps me see who is adding value to my life, and a way to maintain my boundaries with others.
Thank you for being so honest and open
I can see myself amongst a large gathering of people with various personalities, say at a graduation party or wedding reception, simply surveying everyone around me and coming across those type of eyes and doing my absolute best to not stare into them yet failing miserably.
I feel it is safe to say that, personality wise, I am on the opposite end of the spectrum. I am much more of a right brain dominant individual so the difference I see that these eyes are to mine act like a magnet. It has nothing to do with any attraction in a physical sense, it is more of an attraction to wonder. What lies beyond that thin veil contains half of the whole that is ever out of my grasp. Eyes like yours are absolutely fascinating to me!
I am so glad that I happened upon your channel. I just finished watching your reaction to a sociopath from a year ago and this is the second video of yours to have started. I look forward to checking out more of them! Cheers to you!
I actually do the same thing with couples. 'I dont't want them,but I still dont understand why they wouldn't want me.' I judge myself about it, too.
I listened to a few of your videos. I do realize many people are not able to feel for whatever reason.
So this leads me into what I see that would help you, and this is really slowing down, thinking about everything you do, everything you say, and thinking about how your actions would affect somebody in a logical sense, or how it will affect you. You will never most likely be able to feel empathy, but you are quite capable of slowing down, being more mindful, and creating thought patterns.
When you create these thought patterns, at first, I know it'll be extremely difficult for you, but you are high functioning and quite capable of doing so. This will take up some of that empty feeling you feel inside, which will help you keep your boredom in check, because you will start understanding who you truly are, what you are becoming, and who you should be, meaning that you are taking care of yourself in a positive manner, and whether you care or not, how it affects others, it will affect them in a good way, making a more productive society, instead of a society that's going to collapse due to bad behavior.
You can start practicing an imaginary situation and how you will handle the outcome. Meaning you can control yourself, and can use common sense in determining what path you will take, when the situation arises. So for example, when you talk about stealing, you can create some wild theft spree in your mind, and then break it down into details, and then look at the consequences to those actions, and rely on this as being your intuition or your compass, since you're not capable of empathy at the beginning of managing your sociopathic ways. Now when you do these things, it is extremely challenging for someone like you, but you will be able to develop a deeper sense of yourself, and as you go deeper within, through the practicing of these visualizations, you will be able to start feeling empathy because you are healing, you will become more intune with yourself. I would recommend you learn discipline with your thoughts, as you have learned discipline in other areas of your life. Create a scenario in your mind, and give yourself four different consequences to your actions, and then once you pick those consequence, go into depths of what that consequence really means, and then you will start to be able to escape the age that you got stuck in with the abuse that happened to you. You will begin to reverse this trauma your experiencing. You have to be very dedicated and disciplined, but your thoughts will change, and instead of relying on how you make somebody feel, you will begin to be able to rely on the common sense, allowing that to be your intuition. So I hope you will be able to start doing these things, and even share with your audience some of these critical thinking exercises you have done, and get down to the nitty gritty, the depths of the consequences, what those consequences will cause you, and then you will really understand why you don't want to do those things. You may not or for a very long time feel empathy, but you can understand the consequences you cause for somebody else due to your lack of a thought process, because of your impulsivity, and this is because you choose to get stuck where you're at from that trauma at the age you experienced this trauma. So once you think about a scenario of stealing, you can choose the outcome, such as you get arrested, you get away with it, you get caught, but you get off because you're being manipulating, you get caught and have severe consequences. After you pick one of those consequences, then you need to observe what the consequence does to you. So let's say you picked the scenario where you got caught and were released because of your manipulation. Then observe your reaction. Your reaction would probably be that you think you're all that and a bag of chips because you were able to maneuver yourself out of it, and then stop and look at the people surrounding you that you thought you duped. Then break down each one of those people's thoughts about you. You can say they loved you, whatever grandiosea idea you have in your head. Then take the next course of thought, and say okay, I already went over the grandioso idea, now it's time to go over what they think of me. After you have put that in the grandiosea idea, you go to the next thought process someone would have of you, which would be you have no integrity, you have low self-esteem, you don't care about anybody but yourself. Then you can pick another scenario, how the people who are watching you feel sorry for you, and hope you get help. Always pick four consequences or scenarios to the action you commit. As you work through these very detailed branches that stem off the tree from the root, then you will begin to see more clearly. Then you will start to develop critical thinking in the sense of being aware of how you affect people. It doesn't mean you will have empathy for them, it just means that you have to put more thought into the kind of person you truly want to become. This would be another question. In series of critical thinking components, you would need to do, so you could get to the right outcome of what you want to become, instead of saying I am a sociopath, and this is how I will always be, because that is a choice, and you can choose wiser decisions according to the manner of learning and characteristics you behold. So when I observe you, I think you're working on things, but you're quite content on showing people what a sociopath looks like and acts like in the sense of facial expressions, and the sense of your thought processes. I do think however you could also show the ability of how you are doing these things and see what it has to offer you, which will affect people in a positive manner.
Emptiness is a form of shallowness, shallowness is a form of trauma, and trauma reveals the age that it happened at, and will lead you into the trauma you experienced, and help you face this trauma, so you can overcome this trauma, and start healing.
So it's not about you feeling emotions for others or empathy and in the beginning, it might not come, but in most cases it will happen, empathy will begin, because the trauma has been healed. It's about developing common sense and critical thinking where you can heal. So don't in my opinion, just stop at presenting yourself as a sociopath and these are the things sociopathic people do. You need to step up your game. I do believe this is a great piece of advice that will help you. It's up to you if you want to do the work, just like exercising, just like anything else you put effort into, and you will find a whole different way of critical thinking, and through this process you will heal. You will become faster and faster at healing.
This is true for anybody If they want to expand their ability with critical. A person doesn't have to be a sociopath, this is a great technique I use, and I am definitely not a sociopath. This Is how you start developing critical thinking, and seeing what the consequences are to your actions. Which I know you already see some of those things and you're careful because of the consequences. If you do these things, you will see advancement in your healing process. I'm not saying you will be healed of being a sociopath. I am saying that you will be able to heal childhood trauma, and manage your sociopathic ways, to the point where they're almost eradicated. This is a great method for people with autism to use, as well as anybody, when figuring out the right solution. It's all about your mind and your thought process, and how you can manage these connections in your brain, and regrow new connections. If you do these things, these practices everyday, you'll eventually want to do them with almost everything, and then you will be fast, move forward quickly, have great growth and development within this realm of being a sociopath, or for any person, who is needing to develop more critical thinking skills, so they can overcome challenges, depression, and so much more. More. Now I'm not saying medication, herbs, vitamins, and essential oils are not important, because they play a very significant part. I am saying this is one component that is very effective for those who are willing to do the mind work.
Not meaning to sound judgemental, your bizarre thought must be linked to how your ego is structured. Almost how a baby sees themselves as the centre of their own world, & nothing can exist outside of them. We all have egos, & we see ourselves in relation to others uniquely
Hmm I have the exact opposite problem. Actually I have many traits that are direct opposite of sociopaths. I'm too sensitive, considerate, obedient etc. So about permanence, I expect how I remember things that's how they are. Why would anything change? If I put my thing on that table yesterday or last week, surely it's on that table right now. If I went out with a girl to the movies last month or last year, surely she'd love to go out to the movies again. How I left things, is how they still are. I left some tea and perfume in my office drawer when I quit my job, then I rushed to process some documents, and apparently they were thrown out. How could someone do that to my expensive perfume? I left a motorcycle in the parking garage, and wasn't allowed to come pick it up during the pandemic. Later I came, it was thrown out by the govenrment, because I didn't come to pick it up. How could they do that to my vehicle? Stop touching my things!. Leave things be how they were!
have you experienced rapid changes in your lifestyle/personality due to some life events? I guess when people have, its easier to grasp how people and rules can change
@@GeoffryGifari I suppose I could take a random other motorcycle in that garage and ship it to my new apartment, then change the keys. That would be more sociopathic, adapting to their changes. If rules change then you can do whatever you want because rules are arbitrary. No, I haven't had rapid changes in my personality, I'm a stable normal person.
@@hufficag a massive portion of society is sociopathic though. it’s hard to adjust once you realize, but it helps to view some things through a sociopathic lens for the sake of being realistic to protect yourself but still feel and act with compassion. it’s a balancing act.
@@TheMostDivine Totally, it's something you learn as you get older
@@TheMostDivinethank you for your comment . It really is like that
Kanika, your self-awareness, and self-reflection (although I am not sure how deep you go. But I can tell you that you are close to a within, soul breakthrough of awakening, or the journey to enlightening...You will be able to reach more people. You are a teacher in a way. You bring awareness to sociopathy and how to understand it, if you are not a sociopath...
I understand the object permanence and transactional relationships. I don't have sociopathy, but there are comorbid symptoms there for me - and I would say I have a watered down version of both of these things. I can keep people in my life without them "in" my life, for years, decades, BUT - yes it is like they do not exist until they interact with me again. I also understand the transactional relationships, when I was a kid I would describe it as a "point system" - even though there are no actual points - but the "points" mean value or service to me. Friends and family are not all loved equally - they are loved based on how much I perceive them to love me - proven through the various love languages. Those who are of "more value" to me - receive more of my time, energy, and love than those with "lower value". I don't actually think this is abnormal, but maybe it's not as cut & dry as that for most people. I do see it as an exchange though, to receive my love - I need your love in return, the more you show me - the more I show you, pretty much. I do have my "favorite person" - my significant other & they are on their own level, and when someone has wronged me - they are completely dead to me - I will hold that grudge until the day I die. Something else that you didn't touch on that I also have a watered down version of - is the lack of a fear factor/low self-preservation. For example - I drive recklessly - that's something I have been working on un-training myself for years, because I don't have any sensation of fear or guilt in my driving - I WILL overtake your lane & you, as the other driver(s), had better let me or else we're both gonna die - and I don't feel anything about that. Or another driving one - a cop pulls me over - I just think "damn" and get my shit out - most people describe a "heart dropping" or "gut punch" feeling when this happens - and I don't get that feeling. I understand this is very common for sociopathy/psychopathy & that's something I have some version of as well. I think there's a lot of overlap with a lot of other things, but maybe to more or lesser degree.
I read it and enjoyed your openness and reflection on this, thanks for sharing🙏🦋💜
Everything but the “having no fear” part is pretty much how everyone operates, isn’t it? Except we don’t think about it so cut and dry like that, it’s more subconscious.
As annoying as this may be to people (i think) i can't tell if this woman is actually just faking being a sociopath this entire time. Whilst she may seem narcissistic in my opinion, im just unsure as to weather she is actually a SOCIOPATH or not :/
She said she’s diagnosed both of em (npd and aspd). But yes narcissists can lie to make themselves more appealing, and we haven’t seen the diagnosis in print so we’ll never know for sure. However, I’ve always just gotten the “sense” that she’s being honest. Don’t know how to explain it, I just have that sense.
@@EphemeralProductions Yeah maybe. I'm not sure.
It's interesting how you are totally aware of your criminal tendencies and the fact that you don't want to disappoint the three people in your life that you actually care about helps you regulate those tendencies. From what I've read, that seems to be what marks the difference between a sociopath and a psychopath, who would not even care about what even people close to them thought.
That insight into your condition suggests you are a high-IQ person as well.
As someone who is fascinated by psychology, I thank you for sharing..
why did i agree a lot of this 😭😭 i don’t have aspd but i have bpd and autism. i struggle with object permanence and the thing about friendships and relationships being transactional also makes sense. i do only want people as my friends who stand out and are special/ similar to me because i want to surround myself with people who resonate with me, but also i want friends who will make me feel good if that makes sense. same with relationships i think i only get obsessed with people when they give me validation, i dont know if i ever been in love with someone its more like obsession😭 thats why lovebombing works so well on me
I have the same thoughts as a teenager and i thought this was normal until now....
And dont step on me people, i do have bpd with npd traits so this only gave me more insight, thank u for sharing Ms.Kanika
yes, only my parents can affect me. no one else. not my siblings, or just anyone. but even then, i do things they don't approve of too.
If I’m not benefitting from them and I’m giving myself, I take back all my affection and just cut them off. Relationships are like that for me as well because I feel irritatation, boredom, and anger when they want something from me and I feel the sense to hurt them in an emotional sense to get them to understand why I took my affection with me
What happens if someone does the same things to you? e.g. steal your credit card and go shopping or take advantage of you for their own personal gain and you realize it on the long run? Do you respond/react to that or do you not care about it because this is a familiar way of thinking so no harm done...(?)
There are animals that never forget a person, no matter how many years it has been since they last saw them. That is the awesome nature of God. If you do not have the gift of empathy, then do whatever you have to do, but stay away from friendships and romantic relationships.
I think it's crucial to have a solid base that keeps you grounded-people who are close to you, whom you respect and don’t want to let down. These are the kinds of people who can influence even a psychopath to do good things, or at least not harm others, because not wanting to disappoint them helps to build principles in life. So, even if a psychopath can't feel love, they can still harness their other emotions to develop a kind of love for the person they respect and don't want to disappoint. Ultimately, love is the most powerful force in the universe, even for those who lack it.
"considerate?" I sure think you are very considerate in sharing your knowledge and experiences have helped me!! Thank you Kanika!! ;-)
I 100% relate to the discarding the person who bitches all the time. I did this recently. But my whole life I have always cut people out of my life. Either deliberately with no warning or explanation or it was mutual.
Okay but like she was spitting facts about the friendship
I LOVE the after editing XD
It was such a fun, subtle way to keep me engaged in the video and it was really funny. I especially liked the “I totally get it” and then the editing right after that was like “No I don’t lol”
Antisocial personality disorder is evolutionarily advantageous in this modern society we have constructed.
In a neo-capitalist society with a dog-eat-dog culture, affective empathy can be a real drawback; our economy rewards purely transaction social dispositions, just look at the modern business world.
When I hear this person speak, I hear the thoughts of every successful business person in our culture: purely pragmatic, no time for useless emotions. Hate all you want, but this mindset is becoming more common, and it's only going to continue overtime.
If you have affective empathy, study this person so you can learn how to spot them and not grow emotionally attached to them. If you don't have affective empathy, keep doing what you're doing.
Thank you for your courage and sharing this with us. We definitely need more awareness around this and recognize societal changes to promote mental health. I wish things were like the old days and that modern tv PROGRAMMING wasn’t actually making things worse. Thank you again!
You find friendships and relationships transactional, speechless I am
I have BPD and I have cut off my best friends but it was because I believed that they would leave me. I regret it to this day.
Self reflection/awareness amongst psychopaths like you and others such as James Fallon, and M.E Thomas, are truly fascinating and my secret obsession.
you think she a psychopath?
I have had friends and grew up with a father that had sociopathic tendencies. Hearing about your thought process helps me understand them better even if we aren’t involved in eachother’s lives anymore.
Kanika, I've found all relationships are a value reflection. Both business and personal.. If there is no reflection.. there is little to no reason for a relationship... there must be a reflection. Value for a Value.. this works for all people .. that's why so many couples break up.. when the physical attraction is gone.
If you're not bringing me joy, I don't keep you around.
I...don't see the issue with this, personally. Makes sense.
More long content for YT! Looking gorgeous ❤
FINALLY YOU UPLOADED AGAIN YAYYYY
So interesting! I love an honest look into someone’s head!
I'm one of those people who don't see love as a transaction I just love automatically. I often feel like the protector of someone's emotions. Its a pain in the ass honestly and I have no idea what that says about me.
Scary. Please people just because she’s being “honest” doesn’t mean we should make this normal. This is pure evil speaking. She’s scares me more than Dahmer ever did. I wonder how many people she damaged in her path of destruction.
thank u on the honest thing. it's so easy to praise someone for being honest about being a borderline horrible person. it's like the bar is so low. it doesn't change that she has hurt people and continues to do so. no matter how much she works on herself. she will also be a sociopath
This is so cool. Hearing your honest perspective.
I fully agree with everything you said and i’m a diagnosed NPD/ with a low Borderline spectrum tendencies..
We have true feelings, but we put our heart out for the people we love, we give a lot but expect the same in return, and if that doesn't happen, we build resentment. And also we remember hurtful things, my ex threatened one time to break up, so i was full of inner rage, did not show it, and waited for few months until things settled between us, and when he finally said he was happy with me i dumped him and discarded him with no explanation,over a text. I felt pleasure, but i literally burned the bridge under my feet to get that. I could not have get rid of that resentment unless i did that. I wanted him to feel same as i did. And i also after that pulled him into countless mind games until i made him feel as small as he made me feel. Took patience
Idk Kanika..,...I'm a very empathetic, kind, compassionate and care too much at times about people that don't deserve it. I watch ur vids and I thiñk to myself, "it sounds really nice to think like her. Much less pain and hassle in life."
I've wondered to myself if sociopaths are like the next step in human evolution. I can't make up my mind if that would be the worst thing in the world that could happen 🤔.... I like ur vids def keep em coming 😊
It's simultaneously nice, but also hollow. It's certainly an advantage though. Particularly in modern society.
And I've also had similar thoughts about sociopaths being the next stage of human evolution. Whether that's true or just my own arrogance is difficult to say.
Either way, there's no doubt technology and modern society are leading to sociopathy being more common.
In times past when community and the welfare of the group was necessary for survival, a sociopath would've most likely been detrimental to the group as a whole. In modern society where individuality and personal independence is seen a virtue, being a sociopath is more of a benefit...at least to that individual.
Imagine feeling happy because you have seen a sun beam dancing through your window in the morning. Or joy for someone you love. You get these experiences .They don't. What you have is so valuable a sociopath needs extremes to get even close to your natural feelings. They need drama, money and power because they chase what we have without it.
Oxytocin feels very good as it does for all mammals... Some people are deficient. Everything has it's biological purpose. The ones who care for people they don't know and comfort the sick and the authority who can easily manipulate others at their whim and feel no remorse for the death of millions...We can simply be as basic as ants or bees. The queen (authority) the attentive caregivers in the hive or ant hill tending to the eggs ect...and the workers. It's more than that but it's a fun analogy to play on lol.
I can't believe people in the comments are romanticizing sociopathy and actually think it's the more evolved version of humans
2:43 honestly i agree with the first bit. the difference is i dont lie about it & tell people i love them when i dont
More about your daily life and husband please. You are fascinating!