“I’m trying so hard to be empathetic towards everyone I meet; I’m trying so hard to mask my autism, and people aren’t trying to understand me. At all.” - So powerful. What a courageous lady - I hope things are going better for her
I’m a black woman with autism as well, it’s so validating to see people like me represented I don’t see it much. mental health in black communities need to be discussed more!
@@naelyneurkopfen9741 We’d also be better off with people not speaking on shit that doesn’t concern them. That’s your opinion not mine. Stop invalidating our experiences
Not everyone is an "Extrovert" and thats a beautiful thing!! Introverts are independent, resourceful, creative, gifted, love nature and animals. And at peace with the divine.
I pray she does as well. Her kindness comes through. She is more compassionate and considerate than most people without her diagnosis. She reminds me of Temperance Brennan from the show bones. The more she is around loving and kind people she can learn the social queues. I wish we were more understanding and compassionate as a society. No one should be lonely or without love. Thank you for trying to be "normal".
Yup ppl always try to play women / men who's not as they're and it says a lot about them. Stop playing ppl for slow and taking advantage.😂 She's beautiful still and speaks well enough
It's crazy because the therapists, counselors, and adults would ask what's wrong with me when all I wanted was help and to not be depressed. The trauma on top of being neurodivergent feels like being an alienm
Honestly her explaining the difference between the way society perceives men and women who lean into their sociopathic tendencies is so spot on and it only means she has been really really paying attention to nuance which makes it really sad because of how hard she needed to work to get to where she is now. Society needs to do better. We should try to understand and empathize with everyone because this woman is trying too hard to understand the world around her.
@@brendab2946everyone thinks they are something they aren’t. How can you be so sure you’re an open minded person? I used to think that and say it often, but I’ve come to realize I’m not. I just like the idea. I think she was misdiagnosed because most autistics struggle with Alexithymia (inability to feel and identify feelings) but I think she’s on to something when she blames it on her trauma. Professionals admit now that they aren’t sure how to tell apart the autism from the ptsd. It’s because we exhibit our ptsd differently. When we become traumatized we lose touch with our inner self, and because we lack the ability to identify social ques in other people we don’t get the opportunity to learn emotional lessons from the interactions with our family or peers. We end up lost and floating in emptiness, depression, anger, and fear. She clearly has empathy. She just can’t identify her own emotions. She has plenty of fear of hurting others. Sociopaths are a lot less concerned with what others think of them, let alone fear of hurting people. They can feel regret after doing so, often because they are impulsive when violent and don’t think things thru. It’s a core element in the disorder. Autistic people can’t function without thinking threw everything, as you can see in this woman.
Mark just doesnt listen?? Asking questions she's stated the minute before. "I want to be in love, I've never been in love" /5 mins later "have you ever been in love? Do you have kids?" He clearly isnt engaged in this interview and she deserved more from this!!
These people are PAID volunteers. So that means he knows BS when he hears it. Alot of people looking for money. This girl just needs to do some hard work. Playing the oh me oh me game. Get rid of the doctors and do some damn manual labor!
I know she is saying that she is weird and has to think about having feelings but what I got out of this interview is that she is so much more introspective than the average person and thoughtful and intentional
as someone with autism, I think most autistic people are very thoughtful on the inside of their brain but they struggle to express their feelings/emotions, and that can lead other to think we are as* holes or a threat to them
As I listen to Cassie express the trauma she has suffered since the age of nine, I am truly amazed how she has made it so far in life? She's an amazing young lady! I pray God heals this gentle soul soon!🙏🙏🌹🌹
Antisocial personality disorder is sociopathy. If her diagnosis is accurate (I doubt it - she displays affect that’s uncommon in antisocial personality disorder) then she’s a very dangerous person. These are societies hunters. I think she’s just autistic.
the part where she says she spent YEARS asking herself “what’s wrong with me”. i felt that. she is so real, so sweet. not a lot of real ass people like this woman exist. bless her.
Same here . All my life I hated myself trying to understand what's wrong with me , why I'm so anxious and awkward around people Why I act like a moron , why I mimic others or why many people tried to molest me , am I transgender and don't know it I didn't even know what's sarcasm till I was 25
This quote from her made me sad because reality is there is nothing wrong with her at all, there’s something wrong with society and people in general. People are masking themselves literally all the time, she just isn’t pretending to be someone she isn’t like most people.
@@laviellehuff3123 sad thing is that she thinks something is wrong with her too , she tries to be" normal" , meanwhile most of her anxiety and sadness is from this act of trying and desire to be normal
@@ChocolateAutizzy Hii gorgeous, I just want to day that first of all you’re so beautiful! secondly what you said around 35:00 about empathetic people not trying to understand you, I agree. that’s the exact reason I’m here: to learn about unique and interesting people like you! I could listen to you talk all day
Pay attention, interviewer. You’re asking questions about things she just explained. As an autistic person I find that really annoying, I used to be really quiet because people would find me inappropriate, or they had no patience listening to what I had to say 🥲 She’s so smart, brave and has good self reflection ❤. She’ll be doing great
SBSK did a much better interview with her. Chris listened and paid attention if she seemed uncomfortable and clarified if she forgot a question and cared about what he has to say. Mark on the other hand…he exploits people.
@@ellaelliott4415 I kind if agree. I'm genuinly interested in the people he interviews, and do find that the interviews falls flat on the emotional level. And sometimes he's just stupid like commenting on the perfon's beauty (eurk), But he still gives them a voice and I still appreciate listening to these people' life stories. So i'm 50/50.
she's lovely, she's intelligent, she's beautiful and she understands what empathy actually is. "normal" people that dont have any personality disorders still act cruel because of their own ignorance. People are violent and disgusting for many reasons regardless of their mental health and other issues. It is just awful how horrible people can be and how fast we judge without trying to understand. I wish her the best and hopefully she finds ways to deal with her situation. There are good people out there, situations can change for the better. I hope she sees her qualities as well. Because she certainly has many...
So true, how infuriated that therapists have given up on her when she is trying so hard to get help. I'm a layperson, but clearly she is repressing feelings and detaching if she is crying in her sleep...Regardless, she deserves some help. Hang in there, Cassie, you are still young. Don't give up, you aren't the problem.
She told a story on the SBSK channel. She shared a story of traumatic abuse she'd been through and the therapist got triggered because her daughter went through something similar. Casey did exactly what I would, sat there blankly like, why am I the therapist now? Then the therapist labelled her with Antisocial Personality Disorder. I'm not totally convinced since she seems to care so much about so many people and actually willingly climb uphill against the autism to practice empathy. I'm not a diagnostitian but I think she deserves an unbiased eval
Im a psychotherapist part time and I agree she does not fit the criteria for having ASPD. I have peers that worked in prisons and rehabilitation programs, they have shared symptoms and traits of ASPD, and there is a VAST difference between someone with complex trauma vs someone that has ASPD from early childhood. I am ashamed and angry at that therapist for having countertransference and misdiagnosing her as ASPD. This issue would have been resolved if that same therapist went to her supervisor to consult but she did not. It is a shame and dishonor what people think they can do and get away with. Now this individual has to live with this wrong dx on her record and will face a lot of barriers to get the proper treatment.
Absolutely, I went looking for people on that channel to see how gravely she was mishandled. That was so unprofessional of her and I was so damn angry. Psychology is my discipline with a focus on psychopathology but because I feel too much, im not sitting in that chair for fear of losing it emotionally with beautiful people like her. She's so courageous and deserves an unbiased eval.
Yes I am questioning the ASPD diagnosis too. I think she can feel emotions but she has dissociated herself from them to the extreme and I do think DBT and a capable and understanding therapist could help her.
I am very strongly questioning the ASPD diagnosis as well. She talks exactly like I do, to the point where I was like "You seem very familiar in my head and I would be your friend", and I am diagnosed with autism and definitely not ASPD. I am diagnosed with severe PTSD, though. It seems like autism (definitely) with severe PTSD and complex PTSD that caused a blunted emotional response. I have a blunted response to certain things, like if something actually threatens my life, something that happened more than I'd like, I will seem fine for a while. It goes through this Rube Goldberg Machine in the back of my head before I have a response to the trauma. Cassie you are not screwed. Find a qualified *psychologist* with extensive experience with personality disorders. You can also tell your therapist first off "I am a difficult case. If you do not have extensive experience in the areas of autism spectrum disorder AND PTSD, then please help me find one." I've had multiple therapists agree they were not qualified and helped me through groups that were specific to therapists on social media to get recommendations. Do not give any therapist more than six weeks. I worked closely with someone and he noticed that because of my anthropologist's knowledge of human behavior, I generally know in much less time than that. You seem to have a very strong analytical brain, and likely a higher IQ than a lot of the therapists you see. That's also why I mentioned seeing a psychologist as opposed to a regular LCPC or an LCSW. Look for Psy. Ds or PhDs. Trust me on that one!
This young lady is slipping through the cracks and deserves better. Just because her needs are complex doesn’t mean she should be left to cope alone. I hope she finds the support she needs ❤
I can tell you have 2mill percent absolutely NO idea what it’s like to be in the receiving in of the behavior of someone who with a cluster b personality disorder diagnosis I hope you never experience it
I call bullshit.Most people have a range of social awkwardness. Why do you think people smoke and drink. I'm glad your folks didn't feed you the autism label.
This young woman has such a sweet spirit. She just needs to be around people that will validate her, love her, listen to her encourage her and let her know that it is ok to be how and who she is.
I wish her intelligence would have been embraced by the teachers and I’m sorry about the childhood trauma. Cassy you’re a wonderful person. I wish you happiness in the future. You’ll find work and you’ll be great.
I wish her intelligence had been recognized and appreciated, too. I was one of those students who many teachers felt threatened by and tried to squelch, as well. My questions were out of genuine inquisitiveness and not intended to pose a personal challenge. Challenging ideas is a good thing and any good teacher will recognize that. I believe Cassy can find work where she is appreciated, though it has been a lifelong challenge for me. The main thing I learned was to build specialized knowledge and skills that are in short supply and to go where I am needed and appreciated and move on, if not. For example, in the school system, I attended trainings and became an expert in the state standards, expected levels of achievement and scientifically based methods to increase those numbers. Everybody hates thinking about how to teach to the test, including me. Still, I could provide a quick target and the means for classroom teachers to get there and deliver those interventions, so they didn’t have to. If you understand abuse and what constitutes a mandated reporting situation and doesn’t, if you know how to bring in culturally relevant material and not be racist or classist, those personal strengths and experiences help (even if you’re surrounded by people who don’t, you will have better results with at-risk students in poor schools). In human services, I do better with the opioid crisis than with problems where people have time to debate whether the problem is external or internal (the old personal responsibility vs. systemic change political battle). You can work in just about any field, as a person with strong ideas. You just have to be aware of where there is an unsolved, pressing problem and ideas and life experience are greatly needed. Alternately, you can avoid working with social problems, which nearly everyone thinks they have the answers to, and work in an area where either physical labor is needed (if you’re physically healthy and strong enough), or mathematical or scientific formulas simply need to be solved, logically. There are a lot of internet courses available for free, if you just need to build knowledge to test out of academic classes that are missing from your transcript. Whatever you do, don’t go around hoping that people will pick up on your ideas or lamenting when they don’t. Just assume that won’t happen (and, if it does, it’s a bonus). Use your strength of mind to develop knowledge and skills that are in demand and make yourself indispensable. Usually, this involves learning about things and doing work others don’t want to do. From that position, you can lead by example, rather than your employment being dependent on others seeing things your way. You don’t have to go into a field from a place of power. It’s possible to start a job and look for an unfilled niche in the field that you can work/study your way into. Sometimes you have to jump into a field to see what’s being done and what’s needed. In many cases, people who are typically seen as outside the norm do this instinctively, when social acceptance and popularity doesn’t come easily. Sometimes it’s hard to tell, if you’re not good at picking up social cues (I’m not) but if you think you aren’t being well-received, you are probably right. Don’t worry about what others think of you, but do take heed and start looking for something else. What others think tells you more about them and your environment than it does about you. Use it to get a feel for the climate and if it’s not fit for your survival, seek another one or find a shade tree, a place where you can persevere, within it.
I'm struggling to be as eloquent as Cassie about this, but the biggest thing I'm taking from this video is how hard she was failed, and it's tragic. Normal is overrated, and she's so self-aware, so intelligent, so honest. These are things that should be prized, not shut down. I hope you find the people that are worthy of you, Cassie!
you should see how women treat & talk about male incels with these same problems. tons of empathy for women with these issues, zero empathy for men with the exact same issues... i find that interesting...
@@asdfdc1946 Well I don't think that's right either. I have a lot of men in my family who are on the spectrum so perhaps I'm more sensitive to it. I do think however, that women can be more cutthroat about it because it's CAN be a safety issue to be around men whom they don't immediately clock, but that's just my theory. Sometimes we sacrifice empathy for feeling safe. I'm not saying it's correct, but I'm saying it's the way of the world, at times.
@@ElizabethLee-o8t "Sometimes we sacrifice empathy for feeling safe." --- some people say women are solipsistic by nature... you basically just admitted to that. women only want & care about the strongest men. they disregard all others. generally speaking, women don't give a single fuck if lots of men are lonely & are committing suicide, have mental issues, are on the spectrum etc. women see those men as weak men & they are to be discarded. thats how women look at it. perhaps not literally, but more subconsciously as women's behavior towards these men tend to bear that out.
I was severely bullied growing up and I always felt like I didn’t fit in. Even now I still don’t feel like I belong. People are afraid of what they don’t understand. Therefore, you are isolated and depression becomes your best friend. I hope one day for people like Cassy and I the world will become more empathetic.
Its so sad to see this epidemic of these disorders growing year by year and its only really thanks to those on the spectrum and those who are empathic enough to understand that its even getting any awareness. It has such a debilitating effect on life. It wouldnt surprise me if somehow its been purposefully propogated into the population by the deceivers.
That was my thought too. I also thought she might be surprised how many neurotypical people who have deep abilities to be empathetic and wirh strong social skills are also still lonely and isolated.
As a black man with ADD born to parents from the caribbean, I genuinely feel for her. I was fortunate enough to have parents that got me diagnosed me when I was young. However, in the black community if you’re seen as different or weird you can quickly become an outcast. I went from masking my symptoms in public to not really socializing or going out at all because of the bullying. I had to read books and watch videos to understand feelings and subtle social cues in body language. It’s like learning to be a person through a PowerPoint. With her being diagnosed at 25, I can only imagine what she went through growing up.
@@ChocolateAutizzy I was recently diagnosed at 39! It was a relief to know why I am the way I am and it has helped me to seek understanding and how to live with this.
@@ChocolateAutizzyI feel so connected to you, I grew up at Hungary in a small country village, where mental health wasn’t really cared for too. I was diagnosed with ADHD at 32, with C-PTSD at 33, and now I got diagnosed at 34 with Borderline Personality Disorder. I was sexually abused as a child, and as a teenager, grew up with my abusive mother, bullied at school , and had several abusive relationships. Now I’m in a healthy relationship for 6 years, and luckily I got a lots of support where I live now ( I moved to Denmark, in Hungary unfortunately still didn’t change much) , but I’m so hurt, and so broken and angry a lots of times. I feel the grief too, about what I could have been if I got support as a child. I’m not working neither, and I struggle so much with that too. Also my Borderline are judged badly too, at the moment I don’t have much experience with the judgment, because I’m freshly diagnosed, but I know it’s not gonna be an easy ride, that’s sure. I’m very grateful to you for standing up, and talking about your struggles, it’s mean a lot to me. ❤ I want to do the same one day, when I feel strong enough. I want to help others with our problems, because I know there are a lots of little girls, who are still going through struggles and stuff like that, and I don’t want them to feel alone, the way I feel myself.
@@rebeccanewell3449can you explain how you got diagnosed and the processes… in dealing with issues like not getting past certain points in life and socially… wondering how long I’ve had a learned behavior of masking and not being able to let authentic me shine through
@@ChocolateAutizzy it's so tiring isn't it. Constantly needing to try and second guess how people are going to respond to your 'self'. If I may say, your thoughtful responses show a very high level of self-awareness ofwhat you are experiencing/have experienced and it was a real pleasure hear you talking about your life. I really resonated with your response to the question about if you had any advice for others.... when other people ask me for advice on the issues I have experienced in my ADHD/ASD life I usually reply with 'how honest do you want me to be?' because I can't/won't sugar coat it ❤
@@JuliusAhenkora right, it was the way she articulated that feeling that was impactful to me. Even though she may “feel” so different from neurotypical ppl, we ALL feel misunderstood from time to time, and I felt connected to her in the moment she articulated that feeling.
YOU ARE NOT RANTING! It was cathartic hearing your story and validating in ways I’ve never felt comfortable talking about. Especially the part about males vs females or when ethnicity is factored in
I totally understand what she describes as being a "know it all." It's crazy how you can be a smart kid and adults look down on you and make you feel bad because you were aware of something they weren't.
Smart (white) girls with IQs over 160 used to just be idealized as brilliant and nerdy. Now (at 63) I learn that went along with autism. I am grateful my whytness kept me safe, and I hope the genius black girls (besides those who made NASA successful) also found some safety while we all accept the fact that brilliance was only ever adorable in white men, and then only if they would sit down and shut up when told to do so.
Simply knowing something and owning your capacity to share it... I will never understand how the ego of a neurotypical can twist this truth into challenging or disrespecting authority
My heart goes out for her. What she said about her teaching herself to be empathetic when her brain physically can’t while the neurotypicals who are supposed to be empathetic not showing it, is such an important insight and is so true. I hope she finds her tribe through this video because she deserves it man. God bless her.
@@ChocolateAutizzyyou're welcome! I have a 10 year old son with autism, adhd and seizures. If I was in the same town as you, I would be your friend. Regarding therapist's, I am "normal " and have never had a truly helpful therapist. Even for marriage counseling, I have had uncaring, "only in it for the money " type therapist's. They aren't honest and don't actually want to help. They want a perpetual client. Anyway, I get my help from the Lord Jesus Christ. The Bible is God's word and is more help than anything else in my life. I would encourage you and anyone else to seek God and find rest in Him. God bless you 🕊
As the mom of an autistic little, I wish I could hug you. You deserved so much better but you still have so much life still ahead of you. Love you and I'm rooting for you girly! ❤
I am obviously not a doctor, but I feel like what they said was antisocial personality disorder could be more like Complex PTSD. I was diagnosed with that and it was like I had to intellectualize everything rather than feel for a while because it was too hard. And I could only feel the hard emotions like depression. What an absolutely incredible human being you are!!
In my opinion, whoever diagnosed her with ASPD is a crank. Autistic people have significant variations in emotional processing. More than half of us have alexithymia, which is a cognitive disconnect from emotions. Add into that the complex PTSD from repeated sexual trauma, and it fits the way she experiences and understand feelings. She doesn’t seem to have a single other feature of ASPD.
Cptsd is too real. You may be quite right. I have Cptsd myself, and the aversion, depersonalization, and occasionally agitated paranoia are all very relatable here.
Spot on! That’s exactly what I think as well!!! This poor woman is misdiagnosed and these therapists are really doing her more harm than good. I hope she gets to look into cptsd and then starts getting constructive help!
I just don't think this woman is antisocial, she wants to be normal, and is empatic. Some mean doctor called her sosiopat, but with more trust in her self she will both give and receive more love in her life, o want her too. Perhaps depressed people are a bit coldhearted too.
Complex personality stuff costs a lot more for a specialist / someone who will take you because it will be years of work.... a friend of mine said a therapist for her cluster B and borderline stuff is a minimum of $4000 a month...
@@christinabrault its like they discard people like this woman as a "defective model that's lots of work " then charge a ton of money this is part of the reason why we should have universal healthcare because this could be ANYONE, doesn't matter the social status etc...
This is like watching myself talk. This is such an out-of-body experience, sort of, because it's like "Is this an interview I did and don't remember that I did it?" I'm autistic, ADHD and I completely understand where she's coming from. This is legit like watching myself and I am SO happy to see an interview like this because it's ME. I have NEVER seen anyone describe exactly how I feel and think and behave and to see such a thing is actually refreshing. I want to be her friend so bad because I relate like...99.999%. She is me. I am her. We are we 😭
Autism is interesting. Every autistic person is different and that in itself is interesting. In boys and men autism is diagnosed earlier this is fact. They say autism is more common in males but is that because the statistic exists and we don’t think of autism right away when considering a girl or woman. I would like to hear more about autism. The few people I know with autism are low functioning. He can’t read and can sort of express how he is feeling. I’m never sure if he is just copying what others have told him what to say. His mom has done him a huge disservice. He was diagnosed as a child but his mom didn’t do as much as she could’ve. The mom didn’t expect much out of him so he never learned how to do things around the house nor did she try teaching him how to read at home. It would be wonderful to hear from more autistic people. Tell us what you think and how you think. How you think as in the thought process. I also heard there is a shady side of the Autism Speaks organization that I will be looking into. If you know anything about this please share that with us.
@alexisrivas307 That is so sad to hear and I feel for him in that regard. Autism Speaks is also very shady and harms the autistic community in so many ways so I definitely suggest doing a deep dive and listening to autistic content creators speak on the subject so you can understand more. It would be very helpful! It's amazing that you're educating yourself and wanting to learn more and hear from actually autistic people about our experiences and how we live and function and operate and educate yourself on what we our needs and desires are. If you know one autistic person, you know ONE autistic person. This is something that we always say because autistics are so diverse and the spectrum is rather broad yet we all experience, at the very core, the same set of issues really. Otherwise, if there was no commonality we wouldn't be able to BE autistic. However, even in those commonalities, we are all still vastly different from one another in many different ways just as neurotypical people are and I think that's something that's very important to remember. No two neurotypical people are exactly the same just as no two neurodiverse people are exactly the same. If you want to talk more, educating about autism, psychology and sociology are all special interests of mine so feel free to look me up on Insta or something. -Akita
Dear Cassie, i greatly appreciate your brave honesty. I have a different psychological disability (bi-polar), and was not diagnosed until age 61. Six years later, I’m finally able to be open about my disability. Hearing you share your story makes me feel less alone and more brave.
Interesting how all of the so called “normal people” throughout her life, were actually the ones with antisocial behaviors. No one can help her because she apparently isn’t the one who needs help. Start by treating the abusive, non- empathetic “normal” people. Then we shall see beautiful souls like hers flourish. Thank you for sharing your experiences with us all.❤
It's sort of ironic they bullied her not being normal but they believe that somehow meant they were allowed to physically and verbally assault her by pushing and spitting on her and calling her a stup!d blank
She's so cute, I love her body language and mannerisms. Keep your head up girl, you are very brave and a shining beacon of light, guiding us to the path of acceptance and inclusivity.
@@ChocolateAutizzy how do you feel about incels like Elliot Rodger and Alek minnasian? People think its their Autism that caused their incel status??? They also went on to become mass murderers.
Thank you for this one. I know EXACTLY what she’s talking about. I’m a 35 year old black woman with autism as well and and I just found out last year - we are completely overlooked. Appreciate you.. Also, I hope she knows she’s doing just fine. We are harmless people and people don’t understand things that are different. I hope she finds her passion and is doing better. I just want to give her a hug because I know exactly how she feels.
I have a question my son was just diagnosed do you think its hereditary ? my mom always wondered if I had add but she never got me checked im 25 now I have a four year old should I get diagnosed too ? and do they give ssd for autism and adhd or just autism
@@MarshaePosh I believe it is. A lot more people have it and just don't know. I know I mimicked people for years but that could have been explained away. Ignorance is half the battle.
How can you diagnose someone who is literally isolated and bullied by all the people around her as a sociopath ? Can we not see that in this case, the person isolates herself from society and uses a mask for her own good and not by selfishness or ill intent ? Who is being manipulative and dishonest here ? Cassy or the people who mistreated and abandoned her for being weird ?
I was bullied too in severe way, sexual abused, severe emotionally abused when I was a child, teenager etc. I became sociopathic, Schizoid. I isolate myself from the people, society as well, I show disregards towards people feelings, I have no empathy, compassion for the people at all. And I have impulsive problems, authority’s problems, rules etc. I am 35 diagnosed one with Schizoid and ASPD by age 26….Meh, I think sociopathy is genetic condition and trauma, both required. She has autism means she can’t be a sociopath. Sociopaths aren’t autistic from my understanding….Autism can show symptoms of a psychopath, cold, emotionless. But it doesn’t mean they’re one…..I am not even a sociopath. I show traits of a sociopath ….
"I want to be capable of love" That hit hard. Mental health and its complications are difficult. She is an authentically good person. It's very hard to be vulnerable. I wish her peace & healing.
Yet she very easily and naturally stated she loved her mother. I don't believe that was her masking. She certainly processes things differently but I have very little doubt she's capable of love, even if a slightly different version than neurotypicals are used to. I hope you learn to realize this, Cassy.
Cassy i dont know if your going to read this, but thank you for sharing your video on this channel! I am 21 years old, black and female and your experiences describe most of my childhood growing up. I always felt different and often got bullied and misunderstood for many of reasons you mentioned, Keep on being brave and sharing your voice hun, especially for the black community where a lot of these are dismissed as behavior problems 😢💜 *Update- No wonder I resonated so much with this, I received an autism diagnosis 🥺❤️. Thank you Cassy for bringing this to a mainstream audience
😭 crying inside. I am autistic and relate a lot to what she says. What I see is an extremely intelligent woman who was mistreated emotionally by people and now has ptsd.
She sure seems like a sweetheart to me. It sounds like she works so hard to understand her neurodivergence and to make others feel comfortable around her. I like the way her brain approaches feelings and emotions - she has a good heart, she just also has the challenges of the filters her brain puts on her interactions. Man, I’d totally hang out with her.
@@ChocolateAutizzy You are amazing Cassy, Your story will defenetely be heard and people will understand you better, I now understand you and I would really feel comfortable around you. I love you my sister❤
Baby Girl you are not alone❤ SO much of what you've described...wow. intellectualizing feelings...that only changed for me when I had my first child. It almost UNLOCKED something in me. We mask so well! It's sad but it's a testament to our STRENGTH. You're not crazy, you're DIFFERENT. You're strong, beautiful, & smart! Thank you for doing this❤
As a black man that is high-functioning autistic (or someone with Aspergers), I can't tell you how frustrating it is to deal with people SOCIALLY! People want to pick at me, bully me or make fun of me because I stick out like sore thumb. And because of how self-aware and emotionally intelligent I am, I always get angry when I try to avoid conflict with other people who lacks and purposefully lacks self-awareness and emotional intelligence because of the simple games I know they're trying to play when they try to mess with me. Like, I know their motives before they even speak. Also, this woman looks so stunning!
I've rarely understood this idea of sticking our like a sore thumb. I assure you it's much more self applied pressure etc than the average person even remotely caring, let alone someone sticking out like a sore thumb. As someone on spectrum the entire way and methods in which you perceive the world is different. So you perceiving that you stick out like a sore thumb, does not mean that's what everyone else perceives. Just do you. Please attempt to escape the self-inflicted 'sticking out'. People will respond to that change, I assure.
Stating “High functioning “ is self hate and discrimination. They’ve conditioned you to bully yourself.😪 these words inaccurately describe what it mean to be an autistic individual. it stems from ableist ideology and is harmful to others, regardless of how you’ve been brainwashed by a ableist speciesist society.
That’s how I am too but I realized a lot of it is projecting your negative thoughts onto other people because of you poor self image & in turn it becomes reality since you already have that attitude
@@TVInformative Why do you think so? And I disagree with you. Lots of adults struggle with language and grammar due to many reasons such as socioeconomic status, social circle, phyisiological reasons etc. Knowing how to articulate and communicate ones thoughts in a clear way is definitely impressive to me, and certainly not something to take for granted in adulthood.
Thank you Cassy and Mark. I am pushing 60 years old and just starting to learn why I've been so dismissed by people when I'm just being me. There was no diagnosis for people like us when I was coming up - I was just weird and a know it all. Hearing your words helped to put everything into perspective. I think that sexual abuse is a big factor in this condition. Being violated at a young age teaches us that others can be dangerous. We may feel guilty or responsible for the abuse. Something in us must have triggered this person so it is safer to retreat and isolate. We learn that being ourselves might attract unwanted attention. We end up on the sidelines, observing how others successfully navigate life. But it's fake to imitate. Everyone knows it, even us. But in my experience, we have the biggest hearts shielded by a steel wall and a moat. What has worked for me? Volunteering to help animals. You may not be in a position to own a pet but you can volunteer at a shelter. I currently work with abused and neglected horses and they have succeeded in scaling the wall and crossing the moat. My heart explodes when I see an abused horse recover and start to interact again. Animals can be a mirror. Our traumas can be similar. I can't recommend this enough. There is no judgement - on either side so our mutual empathy can blossom. People are too difficult for me but animals fit perfectly.
You're a clown LOL, too bad you can't be her friend because she's retarded and has those disorders which means she can't have people around like you clown
Being a woman of color and diagnosed AuADHD in adulthood, this interview is so important and personal to me. She is so brave to do this, thank you Mark for your hard work 🙏
Do you know what antisocial personality disorder means? They have very little or no empathy at all and are master manipulators. While it's true that all good people deserve happiness, you should be really careful around people with this disorder.
We are discovering my 14 year old struggles with a lot of the same issues. Im so grateful we are catching it now and this interview is an amazing resource. Thank you for this interview
When she talked about people watching to try and understand how “normal” people behave I rly felt that. Growing up I was also outcasted and had no idea what was wrong with me, I tired so hard to follow along but everyone knew there was something wrong with me before I did. I’m still not sure what it is, but therapy is helping! I’m so proud of her
I didn't find out about my autism until I was 50. My parents knew and hid it out of shame from everyone. That decision guaranteed that my life would suck. I was severely bullied growing up and it continued throughout my life. The teachers even hated me. They would humiliate me after I got bullied. I was even sent to the principal's office to get swats. I never had a girlfriend and had internalized my unknown autism into self-hate and shame. I am utterly alone. My brain never turns off. Cannabis helps.
They didn't know what autism was 50 years ago... People don't do these things to you on purpose. It's kinda part of nature I guess. Any individual animal or human that acts differently from the rest is always shunned. And typically they do not find a mate. This isn't just out of cruelty either. It's nature. We look for the healthiest to mate with. Any sort of physical or mental issues means that we are tainted. And our genes are not strong and good enough that should be passed into future generations. I have issues myself. Not sure what. But I have never been normal. And have had a battle instead of a life. But I realize that for what ever reasons I ended up the way I am, I can't blame myself or anyone else. They are going to react to me the way they are supposed to. And I am going to hate them, the way that anyone would who has been cast out of society...
Yep I disagree that men "get better treatment" than women. FIrst, for most of history nobody got a diagnosis because modern medicine has only been around for about 100 years. Autism diagnosis has only been around for about 50 years. Second, when you look at all the statistics, majority of criminals are men, majority of people sent to jail are men, majority of homeless are men, majority of murder victims are men, and 80% of suicides are men. Women perform much better than men in just about all social metrics.
@Ron autism certainly was known about 50 years ago, although not a popular diagnosis. I think a lot of people are very dependent on their parents willingness to challenge schools and medical professions in order to get a diagnosis, as children. Sadly not all professionals are knowledgeable and as we now know females go under diagnosed, as the criteria is still based on data appropriate for males. I would never tell anyone that their experience was incorrect, unless i knew that for sure 100%. If people feel let down they are entitled to feel and express it imho.
I have undiagnosed autism and my husband sent this to me, saying how much I talk like her and have such a similar experience to her. This is so comforting for me to watch.
Same thing happened to me. My boyfriend watched documentaries on autism all night and when I came into the room in the morning, he said "I know what you have!" 🥹 he said I talk just like the women he saw and I share their experiences. I also have the same bullying experiences as the woman in this video and never knew why and always wanted to know what it is about me that always led to me being bullied no matter where I went. I told my mum about what my boyfriend said. She said she thought so for decades and that my dad may have it too, and my sister may be on the spectrum as well. She just never dared to tell us her thought and seemed relieved that someone else did. I want to seek diagnosis at some point. I've watched and learned enough to be pretty certain at this point. It's feels freeing but mixed with grief over being misunderstood so many years and I heavily relate to the female-specific struggles. My dad is admired for being a "Sheldon Cooper" type, I've been shut down for being a know-it-all.
@@ChocolateAutizzy you are not a femcel.. you are beautiful, smart, articulate young woman who had a late start blossoming into the person you are today. We are ALL a work in progress, don't give up cassie ❤ I understand your struggle
I am a 51 year old woman with a son who is autistic and a daughter who has ADHD. I'm just now understanding my own self diagnosis of autism and ADHD. Thank you Marc for showcasing this subject and being an astounding interviewer! You bring out the very best in everyone all the while without judgement !
So much love and gratitude toward you as you share your story. Fellow SA survivor, fellow neurodivergent person. Just know for everyone who disapproved of / misunderstood you and your brain, there's now thousands of us saying I see you and thank you!!
I’ve watched her interview on SBSK and she has opened my eyes to so much more behind these diagnosis she mentioned. I’ve been through similar situations as her. My son is Autistic and was diagnosed at the age of two. She has motivated me to get an eval for myself…and I am 35. It’s so difficult 😣
You asked her if she’s ever been in love and her age literally minutes after she already said she’s never felt love at 30. She also mentioned her employment status and the medical student and you questioned her again. Pay more attention.
What an amazing and informative interview. She is so articulate, and speaks about her experience with such clarity and insight. I love how she touches so distinctly on how different ASD and ASPD can look in women and girls - we have so much to learn, and hearing from women like this is massively informative. She is amazing. She so wasn't rambling! Thank you for sharing your story, and to Mark for providing the platform.
My sentiment exactly. To me, as a female from Amsterdam, Holland, it is unbelieveble that Cassy was not diagnosed earlier in life. I think she's incredibly intelligent. If someone with this disorder can só clearly explain how it works, and how it feels, they have to be smart and have insight. How that relates to "not feeling" is difficult to understand. For others. If I would meet her and she'd speak to me like this, we would have a lively conversation in no-time. I wonder if that is true; it seems more to me she feels through a detour. She has to think longer about what and how, but I think it's still there, in a different way. And for ****'s sake: STOP the stigmatisation!!!!! People have brains, that are incredibly complex. We just begun to explore it. I hate the stupidity, the shallow-ness, the prejudices, the ignorance and I'm very sorry to say: a lot of Americans are very good at that.
As a mother of an autistic child that has issues with socialization this breaks my heart. My baby is only 7 and has tried so hard to fit in with the regular children. He’s very intelligent IQ wise but, he wants so badly to fit in with the kids. He has been brutally bullied the last 2 years of school including being punched, his lunch thrown into the trash and being made fun of. Even sexually assaulted by another student. I absolutely hate how society treats those that are different. This video was so informative and I’m glad you are bringing light to this subject. Cassy keep being you. You are an awesome young woman and I hope things get better for you.
My son had an aid with him through 12 grade. No bullying but no friends either. He went away for college and spent most of his time alone. I want him to be able to have friends, engage at work. So far he doesn't seem to be interested. Autism is so disheartening.
Autism is hard. My daughter is on the spectrum. And I work from home and this year she will be homeschooled.... no need for me to go to prison for hurting someone's bullying child
@natashacalfee3084 With all your son has gone through, have you had the kid that sexually assaulted him arrested? Also have you moved him to another school? If you've done none of these things, you have failed that child.
This beautiful Brave woman has been utterly failed by the mental health industry! Thank you for enlightening and giving us much needed insight on these important subjects and disorders!❤❤❤
As a male with autism I’ll say I feel a lot of what you feel. First impressions are key. After that it’s essential to keep yourself as mysterious and polite as possible. As long as they don’t know you all they can say is that you’re that polite person. It’s a very lonely walk but it’s one free of following trends.
I'm an autistic woman and I often do the exact opposite. When I judge the time and place is right, I start acting like myself (or as close as I can get) immediately. A lot of people don't react (and honestly I don't care), but some react with the same energy and then we can be friends maybe. This is how I found out that one of my colleagues is an autistic man and he acts even "weirder" than me, it's great. Obviously I don't do this when the stakes are high, but sometimes it works. As for my personal life, it's easy to keep it private since it's boring and nothing ever happens to me anyway.
This is one of the most impressive and impactful interviews I’ve ever seen! I’m a psychology student and black woman. I would love to spend time with this woman, she is amazing and there is a base for her in other communities. I would love to be her therapist. If there is anyone who could link us I would love that!
@@ChocolateAutizzy I hope you looked into this Cassie. This woman might be able to get you linked up w/ someone who can see you longer term, and possibly affordably.
She was also in another interview ruclips.net/video/QXXJHnE2_to/видео.htmlsi=0-7Hp0CDLym6ytyl It says in that one she’s a autistic sociopathic and she explained something’s there too. She didn’t mention it here its interesting
The beauty of the internet collectively is that it can show you things you may NEVER see in your entire life time without it. This especially rings true for Mark’s channel and his interviews. I find it impressive that Mark is such a great host when he does 1% of the talking and 99% of the listening during interviews. Yet still ALWAYS manages to ask thought-provoking, insightful questions with his 1%. Even if they’re uncomfortable questions that at times have trauma intertwined in the answers. It’s extremely enlightening and lends a different perspective on how everyone’s individual life experiences and environments can shape and mold the person they are today. The interviews humanize people in such a way it helps the “average” person empathize and find understanding for the different or lost souls. You could be a psychologist with a PHD and counsel people for 50 years, yet still not get patients comfortable enough to open up the way Mark does in these interviews. He has a gift in making people feel at ease. He gets to the roots and learns what makes people tick. Rather than accentuate the differences between us though it actually does the opposite and shows how SIMILAR we all are and how we generally want the same things out of life. Primarily acceptance, understanding, and love.
I was diagnosed with autism at 8 and still struggle to understand this world and myself (now 24). People can be very cruel to those who don't fit expectations. Thank you for sharing your story Cassy, it's important we share our stories, not to be silenced but instead have a voice in this world
I have a niece she is 8 years old now and she’s autistic. It’s sad because my sister went through a divorce and my niece father side doesn’t acknowledge it as Christian’s. The grandfather on the dad’s side is a registered sex offender that took advantage of a autistic child in the family. My sisters ex husband has even had a friend type relationship with a 14 year old girl who her family “doesn’t care about”. We are worried and fighting for supervised visitation and it’s been a hassle. The judge isn’t even acknowledging the level 3 sex offender that isn’t in the home as of yet but will be. And it’s a shame because these church going people are protecting the offender and not the child.
@@Passion85031 I hope you can get her out of that situation, keep fighting for her and proving to the courts that she is not safe in that place. Even if it's hard, even if it comes into the dad's favour, she will see strength that you, her mum, and her side of family will fight for safety and truly love and care about her.
@@samanthaq.3691 thank you I really appreciate and I am always going to fight it because she can’t speak for herself. And the bad part is he’s complaining about visitation and he doesn’t try to see her on his days. She used to call my brother dad. It’s so sad because it wasn’t expected
As a biracial woman with high functioning autism it’s refreshing to have some awareness and insight raised about the subject and how living with the spectrum - Many of us alongside other complex psychological issues, affects us and our environments. There’s a lot of ignorance / misconceptions on why we behave and process situations the way we do… I must say it makes life much harder for us and makes us want to withdraw into ourselves even deeper. 💭💯
What an amazing and educational interview. She explained so eloquently what it’s like to have autism and also cleared up a lot of misconceptions about ASPD. Wish her all the best ❤
@Cassy ❤ Greetings Cassy, I am sending you lots of love, ❤, lights ✨️ ❤️ & happiness and sunshine 🌞! ●● Thank you for sharing your story with us and with the world 🌎. ●● You are : - Intelligent - Extremely beautiful - Very honest - Kind - Special ●● And most importantly, you are BLESSED❤ & HIGHLY ❤❤ FAVORED ! I am very, very sorry for the PAIN that you went through in your childhood and young adult life, trying to find yourself. 🦋 🦋 🦋 You bring a love ❤️, warmth & ✨️ 💖 high level intelligence to this interview & to the world. I hope that life gets better for you and the right people sees you & it opens the 🚪 🚪 DOORS for you to have more ● educational, financially and social opportunities for you . ● I think that you are HIGHLY BRILLIANT.❤ ● You will make a great kindergarten teacher ● A great journalist ● I think you are also a great artist: try singing, drawing , SPOKEN WORD ! ((( I BIND EVERY WICKED SPIRIT, every witchcraft spirit , EVERY ● DEMONIC ASSIGNMENT ● AGAINST YOUR LIFE, in the Name of Jesus Christ of Nazareth ! ⛓️ ⛓️ EVERY chain against and in your life , is SHATTERED & broken right now ! ■ RISE UP & BE GREAT as you are !❤ ((( I love you; as well as thousands of other people watching this interview! )))
@N.-A. C. You raise an excellent point ! In retrospect, she is way too articulate,easy to engage and willing to strike up conversations with regards to her childhood, personality, life etc. ●● Maybe if people were not so busy bullying and teasing her, she would have been given a better opportunity in life to socialize, build her character and have somewhat of a less stressful life of feeling like she does NOT fit in... ❤️ Know that you are loved and many viewers like myself, think that you are intelligent, beautiful and a 💎 🔸️ Diamond to humanity !
Some of us are the same way, we know just you are talking about you are not alone. The stigma is real. We love you and try pastor Kevin la Ewing so you can understand what's going on. It will help it helped me. Get you a godly man ❤😊
"I've never been in love...I'm 30 years old." *Literally three minutes later* Mark: "Have you ever been in love? How old are you?" She is spilling her guts. The least you could do is pay attention.
Cassy is so intelligent, articulate and lovely. She also seems highly conscientious and compassionate. I noticed how many times she gives the benefit of the doubt to people who failed her. Humans can be so confusing and ugly. I'm so sorry people have been awful to you Cassy. You're beautiful and you deserve so much better. I wish you the bery best! ♥
@@astrozooI didnt watch the whole video, but it seems maybe she has symptoms that aren’t related to a lack of empathy? Idk maybe its just the other symptoms
@@Josh-o2d Most of the stories were her on the recieving end of abuse for being a bit odd. The anti-social personality would be the one dishing out the abuse and not bothered by the consequences.
Bro sexual assault is no joke. just fucking understand okay. It give you a lot problems with even trust. Educate yourself on autism and you’ll see that you have no idea of what we go through
"People were beating the shit out of me". What I gathered from this enlightening interview is that it's way harder to be a woman with those disorders since it creates traits that are detrimental to women in society while men are admired for it. And I never thought about that before.
Because psychological traits leading to the appearance of indifference, stoicism, or sociopathy and psychopathy individuals is attractive to females on a biological level (read: under evolved) , while those same traits aren't to men, because men have to compete against each other for sex and reproduction. I wouldn't say 'way harder' because the dynamics are different inherently it hardly makes it comparable
@@DTreatzIt's so interesting and disheartening how much of human behavior is formed around mating and mating opportunities. I understand this is for the propagation of the species but I'm stating this as someone who is indifferent to the prospect.
Ohhh noo black boys were getting beat up too. I used to make fun of this autistic kid we did not what was wrong with him neither did the teachers. If you are in your 30’s it happened in all areas.
I have a 15 year old son just like you. He doesn't agree with you though...ill explain why later but This video made him feel understood. It was so refreshing to both of us to watch your story because no one is like him in high-school and he feels the pressure of not being nuero typical and masking....it's exhausting to him I still don't know the answers ...as a mom I feel guilty for encouraging him to mask so his friends won't think he's blank facial expressions means he's mad or sad Your video was studied and played back during our family quality time today and with the rest of the family ( his dad and brother) He's not good at showing emotion but I could tell you made him feel better about himself by his actions. Pausing your video to Google autistic meltdowns and the characteristics of being a sociopathic antisocial persons. He doesn't agree with you though He doesn't see it as a disability. He's offended by labels although being has the consequences of being lonely with not many friends. When he heard You talk ...he said you made perfect sense. I wish he marrying someone like you when he grows up. I told him when he does they'll never argue 😂 This is the first time both of us have ever heard someone even close to how he feels. Thank you My son is not alone
@Mindys.Minge458 shut up and let this proud momma share her beautiful life story with her son. We don't wan't your hatred here, go and ask your mum to give you a hug if she hasn't hugged you enought
I was surprised that Mark asked about her age and whether she’s ever been in love. She had already mentioned that a couple of minutes before, hasn´t she? It also bewildered me how clear and emotionless she’s talking about her bullying experiences. I’m also on the spectrum, diagnosed this year and I can relate well to the mentalization of feelings and the “empathy” trap (behaving what I think others would like and still be stamped cold). Nevertheless, I was spared from such harsh traumatic experiences, thus I’m not cut off from my own emotions like her. I hope she finds people who help her having empathy for herself (probably not on RUclips though).
Thanks to Cassy for sharing. She is beautiful. Breaks my heart she has a condition she did not ask for and kinda is punished for it. Yet she’s here asking for help and sharing her story. This is how change occurs. All the best to Cassy ❤
Absolutely. People of Color, especially Women of Color, are frequently mistreated in the medical profession. She's dealing with Racism + Sexism everyday, compounded by being Neurodivergent which brings about the Ableism that most healthcare professionals practice daily via discrimination, malpractice, and poor treatment. She never asked for any of this, but she is constantly punished everyday by "normal" humans.
As someone who was once studying psychology (I dropped out of college -- long story), it's people like Cassy that make me want to go back to school. It broke my heart when she said therapists kept dropping her as a client. Everything she said, I understood. It may be because I'm also an Empath (something I long thought was a burden, but eventually learned was my superpower), which makes it quite easy for me to understand how someone feels and what they're trying to say, even if they struggle to articulate themselves. Three of my cousins are neurodivergent (two of them are adults, one is a teenager), and it hurts my heart how the world treats them sometimes (even a couple family members can be a bit impatient, even though they don't mean to). We need more therapists willing to study further and do the deeper work, particularly Black and POC therapists because our communities are overlooked both externally and internally. This video is inspiring me to be one of the ones who does the work so that Cassy and other people like her no longer feel unheard or unseen. (This may be hard to believe, but before clicking on this video, I've been feeling quite purposeless and aimless professionally. Now I know what I need to do.) Thank you Cassy for sharing your experience, and I'm sorry for what people in your life have put you through. I understand why you feel the need to mask diagnosis, but I hope that you know that the world is changing (unfortunately not fast enough, but it is) and people are becoming more aware and gentle towards neurodivergent individuals. Hopefully, as we as a society become less ignorant, you no longer feel the need to mask, and you can soon be the healthiest, most liberated version of your true self.
If you’re able to yes go get that degree! I am a black female who is currently a teacher and going to school currently for mental clinical health counseling. I’ve only been in the program for a year, but I’ve learned sooooooooo much, and I’m using what I’ve learned so far with my students as well. I agree we need more therapist that look like us and understand us. I honestly think everyone should take at least one counseling course in their lifetime or at least read about theories because there is soooo much to learn out there!
She seems like a wonderful person and more eloquent than most people I know. She is very self-aware and I would possibly suggest she finds support groups dealing with ASPD or autism. Being around so many negative abusive people, unfortunately has affected her self-esteem and caused more trauma. She deserves better.🥰 (I’ve been there where you are so beat down you become numb)
I am not a doctor, but from what I see so far the world has been very antisocial with her. She might have a DSM label, but she also has something special....she should talk to the world and raise awareness, because she's very articulate. There must be a way!
I'm a neuropsychologist and everything she explains is part of the ASD. She, throughout the entire video, never says a single thing related to antisocial personality, even when he asks explicitly, she mentioned cognitive empathy which is part of ASD too. + she wants to be married and have kids ? Sorry but the antisocial is quite much especially since she does not mention anything bad before the age of 9, which is VERY late to develop a personality disorder, especially antisocial. Never seen that before, very weird. Autistic otherwise 100%, she can't feel anything because she's traumatized + ASD, that's it, but maybe she did not explain everything, i don't know, it feels weird. She points out that people she knew used their sociopathy for their advantage, well yeah girl, that's - exactly - what antisocials do. Even girls. But seeing her throughout the video, I'd remove the antisocial diag and add maybe ADHD, she can't follow a proper sentence without forgetting the question. I feel sad that they would put an antisocial label when she - apparently - does not fit in any criteria of this disorder
@@laureendjs4255that’s interesting. couldn’t it also be due to the overlap of autism that her aspd is less forthcoming? I’m still learning about all these neurodivergent disorders.
Autistic mixed race person from "Australia" who currently really needed this at 3am (more than anything). Thank you so deeply for sharing and opening such vulnerable sides of you with the entire world, you have reached and touched so many people who identify with your experiences. I love words but genuinely can't put into words how much you sharing, specifically in the way that you did, means so much to me (and I'm imagining all my ND friends when it's an appropriate hour to send them this.).
This was so helpful. I have just been diagnosed at 56. I havent had the words to explain it as well as she has. So this helped me have the right wording.
Wow,you are an inspiration to everyone who has autism . You so honestly express what you experience everyday. People need to get over being normal. It’s just a setting on the washing machine,. It shouldn’t be a life goal. You went through so trauma with no support you were never given the opportunity to feel joy, love can be a double edged sword, even on a good day. This interview will change your life forever. I hope the bravery you showed today brings you the resources and support you need. I also hope that those listening will be a whole lot more aware of the pain their petty emotional behaviors bring into the lives of people who are different. Hoping to see you in the future!
Cassy, I can relate to you being bullied, growing up in Brooklyn after migrating from Trinidad. I'm antisocial and different, and I learned a lot from your interview. Traveling, meeting people, and learning cultures is what keeps me going. You're a stronger person because of what you went through in life. Don't give up and remember to keep good company. There are good people out here ❤
Antisocial personality disorder is not the same as being antisocial. Those with antisocial personality disorder tend to lie, break laws, act impulsively, and lack regard for their own safety or the safety of others. Symptoms may lessen with age.
One of the reasons why i did this interview was to spread awareness and to destigmatize asd and aspd. One of the reasons why people don't get help is because of the stigma that comes with these disorders.
I'm BPD/autistic with a lot of ASPD traits, and so much of what she says resonates with me and is helping me with self-acceptance. I hope she's doing well.
This girl deserves grace, and praise. She actually genuinely wants to make a positive impact on people around her, whilst not having the abilities to do so. She’s a strongggg woman, and I really hope she finds a path towards understanding from people.
You did so well, Cassy! I have autism too and some the things you say, are so well put and I'll keep those words in my mind. Thank you for being an inspiration! ❤
As an autistic Masker. Notice how well she communicated her point or emotions with her hands. She may not be able to "read" non verbal communication but because of her mimicking and masking, She does an excellent job of non verbal communication with hand gestures to get her points and feelings across and it is all learnt behaviour. To me she is a QUEEN
I feel so bad for her that she can't find a therapist that's willing and able to work with her!! She wants to get help so badly and seems so willing to put in the work to achieve her goals in life, it makes me so sad that she can't find someone qualified to assist her in that... Also the insights into how sociopathy works were so fascinating. And in case you're reading this, you weren't rambling at all ❤
People of Color, especially women, are frequently mistreated in the medical profession. She's dealing with Racism + Sexism everyday, compounded by being Neurodivergent which brings about the Ableism that most healthcare professionals practice daily via discrimination, malpractice, and poor treatment.
This story really resonates with me. I grew up in the early 90s and 2000s not knowing I was autistic intill I had my son who is also autistic. My cousin who is a boy was diagnosed but I was just labeled as stupid weird awkward and lazy. From being targeted by bad men to the bulling I understand exactly what she is saying. When she said “I asked myself everyday what’s wrong with me why am I so stupid?” That really hit home with me. I developed depression at age 9 and was misdiagnosed for years and because I never got the help I needed even with a loving yet toxic family there love wasn’t enough because the pressure from the expectations of my family teachers and peers had made it very easy for me to turn to alcohol and drugs. I so desperately wanted to be someone else and bond with others and drugs did that for me. So for 15 years of my life was wasted on drugs and men who didn’t love me and just playing pretend. I am grateful for the life I lived I now have love for myself and a beautiful boy and I’d do it all over again if I had to but I’m so happy I don’t have too. Note I have no friends by choice because of my ptsd I just find it easier this way. I’ve always been my own friend and it’s not because we don’t have empathy or we hate people we just express ourselves so differently it’s extremely difficult for me to be able to bond with others especially after my ex tried to kill me. I don’t trust myself to get close to others. It’s not easy it’s lonely but sometimes being alone can teach you a lot about yourself.
sorry to hear about that. i have autism too, and my situation doesnt compare to yours but I don't have any friends either. its hard to trust people, and when I have become friends with someone, i can become irrationally paranoid looking for any signs that they hate me or just want to exploit me... I hope life gets better for you.
@Emilia S awe ty thats very sweet of you to say. Feels good to know we are not completely alone in feeling like an outsider. It's good that so many people are coming together to talk about their experiences now!
Big hugs Cassy, your strength shines through. You didn't ramble on, thank you for sharing and helping us understand how things have been for you. People can be so unkind and then accuse others of not being right. Go figure 💓
“I’m trying so hard to be empathetic towards everyone I meet; I’m trying so hard to mask my autism, and people aren’t trying to understand me. At all.” - So powerful. What a courageous lady - I hope things are going better for her
This.
I am going and went trough the same thing, minus the sexual harassment in her young age, but now I accepted that I dont need to be extra empathetic
@@ChocolateAutizzyHey, did you receive any funds or assistance after the interview?
felt this!
That was so well said
I’m a black woman with autism as well, it’s so validating to see people like me represented I don’t see it much. mental health in black communities need to be discussed more!
Love to you and yours.
Why does black have anything to do with anything? Do you really think white people don't have these exact same problems?
We'd all be better off if we were more concerned with people rather than their skin.
Maybe it will be that you can start a channel and talk about it here ❤
@@naelyneurkopfen9741 We’d also be better off with people not speaking on shit that doesn’t concern them. That’s your opinion not mine. Stop invalidating our experiences
This poor girl, so self aware and articulate. I hope she gets the help she wants and I wish her the very best.
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You wish me the best as well?
Autism is never ending suffering.
There is no help for her she’s a psychopath or sociopath you can’t help her
Not everyone is an "Extrovert" and thats a beautiful thing!! Introverts are independent, resourceful, creative, gifted, love nature and animals. And at peace with the divine.
When she said she will try to be normal until the day she dies….that is in of the most heart breaking things I’ve heard. 😢
she dont got emotions why do u care. lol
She’s more articulate and considerate than a lot of ‘normal’ people I know. I hope she succeeds.
I know she will make it. She's already come this far
Self awareness is attainable to anyone who wants to get to know themselves on a deeper level
What’s Considered A Normal Person
@@marceemoss4939 That’s what is meant by the inverted commas. There isn’t. We’re all different.
Autistic people often are.
I pray she does as well. Her kindness comes through. She is more compassionate and considerate than most people without her diagnosis. She reminds me of Temperance Brennan from the show bones. The more she is around loving and kind people she can learn the social queues. I wish we were more understanding and compassionate as a society. No one should be lonely or without love. Thank you for trying to be "normal".
This is one of the best interviews to date. So many women are going through life with adhd and Autsim and haven't had help
You are so correct...a lot of times our parents are present enough to notice
Yup ppl always try to play women / men who's not as they're and it says a lot about them. Stop playing ppl for slow and taking advantage.😂 She's beautiful still and speaks well enough
It's the most frustrating thing ever
It's crazy because the therapists, counselors, and adults would ask what's wrong with me when all I wanted was help and to not be depressed. The trauma on top of being neurodivergent feels like being an alienm
@@jcrawford5674 I feel that 100% and in turn I stopped looking for help.
Honestly her explaining the difference between the way society perceives men and women who lean into their sociopathic tendencies is so spot on and it only means she has been really really paying attention to nuance which makes it really sad because of how hard she needed to work to get to where she is now. Society needs to do better. We should try to understand and empathize with everyone because this woman is trying too hard to understand the world around her.
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Sociopaths are extremely dangerous. Empathy from a million miles away, no closer.
Reading your comment made me think how she would do as a criminal profiler. She pays close attention to details that most would overlook
@@alexisrivas307people her and I would also make great private detectives too lol
@@brendab2946everyone thinks they are something they aren’t. How can you be so sure you’re an open minded person? I used to think that and say it often, but I’ve come to realize I’m not. I just like the idea. I think she was misdiagnosed because most autistics struggle with Alexithymia (inability to feel and identify feelings) but I think she’s on to something when she blames it on her trauma. Professionals admit now that they aren’t sure how to tell apart the autism from the ptsd. It’s because we exhibit our ptsd differently. When we become traumatized we lose touch with our inner self, and because we lack the ability to identify social ques in other people we don’t get the opportunity to learn emotional lessons from the interactions with our family or peers. We end up lost and floating in emptiness, depression, anger, and fear. She clearly has empathy. She just can’t identify her own emotions. She has plenty of fear of hurting others. Sociopaths are a lot less concerned with what others think of them, let alone fear of hurting people. They can feel regret after doing so, often because they are impulsive when violent and don’t think things thru. It’s a core element in the disorder. Autistic people can’t function without thinking threw everything, as you can see in this woman.
Mark just doesnt listen?? Asking questions she's stated the minute before.
"I want to be in love, I've never been in love"
/5 mins later "have you ever been in love? Do you have kids?"
He clearly isnt engaged in this interview and she deserved more from this!!
Also her age, she just said it 2 min before he asked.
Also if she works, after she said that she is unemployed
I felt so bad when he asked her questions she's already answered.. Mark it's like you're on your phone and dismissing her
These people are PAID volunteers. So that means he knows BS when he hears it. Alot of people looking for money. This girl just needs to do some hard work. Playing the oh me oh me game. Get rid of the doctors and do some damn manual labor!
@@chrisloukota9449 FOH. + take your ableism w| you since you wanna act like an AH void of empathy.
I know she is saying that she is weird and has to think about having feelings but what I got out of this interview is that she is so much more introspective than the average person and thoughtful and intentional
Absolutely
We do 💯 she 100 percent accurate cus most people wouldn’t think how we think or process feelings the same. It’s too much to explain or talk about
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as someone with autism, I think most autistic people are very thoughtful on the inside of their brain but they struggle to express their feelings/emotions, and that can lead other to think we are as* holes or a threat to them
As I listen to Cassie express the trauma she has suffered since the age of nine, I am truly amazed how she has made it so far in life? She's an amazing young lady! I pray God heals this gentle soul soon!🙏🙏🌹🌹
she is polite and super intelligent despite everything she's dealing with. I truly hope she gets the love, happiness and fulfillment she deserves.
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A lot of autistic people are extremely smart. Not sure what’s up with that. Maybe hyper focus on information? 🤔
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@@sheenabaileyand pattern recognition. some autistic people are incredibly good at picking up on patterns in everything
Antisocial personality disorder is sociopathy. If her diagnosis is accurate (I doubt it - she displays affect that’s uncommon in antisocial personality disorder) then she’s a very dangerous person. These are societies hunters. I think she’s just autistic.
the part where she says she spent YEARS asking herself “what’s wrong with me”. i felt that. she is so real, so sweet. not a lot of real ass people like this woman exist. bless her.
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Same here . All my life I hated myself trying to understand what's wrong with me , why I'm so anxious and awkward around people
Why I act like a moron , why I mimic others or why many people tried to molest me , am I transgender and don't know it
I didn't even know what's sarcasm till I was 25
This quote from her made me sad because reality is there is nothing wrong with her at all, there’s something wrong with society and people in general. People are masking themselves literally all the time, she just isn’t pretending to be someone she isn’t like most people.
@@laviellehuff3123 sad thing is that she thinks something is wrong with her too , she tries to be" normal" , meanwhile most of her anxiety and sadness is from this act of trying and desire to be normal
@@ChocolateAutizzy Hii gorgeous, I just want to day that first of all you’re so beautiful! secondly what you said around 35:00 about empathetic people not trying to understand you, I agree. that’s the exact reason I’m here: to learn about unique and interesting people like you! I could listen to you talk all day
Pay attention, interviewer. You’re asking questions about things she just explained. As an autistic person I find that really annoying, I used to be really quiet because people would find me inappropriate, or they had no patience listening to what I had to say 🥲
She’s so smart, brave and has good self reflection ❤. She’ll be doing great
SBSK did a much better interview with her. Chris listened and paid attention if she seemed uncomfortable and clarified if she forgot a question and cared about what he has to say. Mark on the other hand…he exploits people.
@@ellaelliott4415 I kind if agree. I'm genuinly interested in the people he interviews, and do find that the interviews falls flat on the emotional level. And sometimes he's just stupid like commenting on the perfon's beauty (eurk), But he still gives them a voice and I still appreciate listening to these people' life stories. So i'm 50/50.
Do you know how many of these he does a day just to show us things the world ignores? Show some compassion.
Exactly
she's lovely, she's intelligent, she's beautiful and she understands what empathy actually is. "normal" people that dont have any personality disorders still act cruel because of their own ignorance. People are violent and disgusting for many reasons regardless of their mental health and other issues. It is just awful how horrible people can be and how fast we judge without trying to understand. I wish her the best and hopefully she finds ways to deal with her situation. There are good people out there, situations can change for the better. I hope she sees her qualities as well. Because she certainly has many...
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So true, how infuriated that therapists have given up on her when she is trying so hard to get help. I'm a layperson, but clearly she is repressing feelings and detaching if she is crying in her sleep...Regardless, she deserves some help. Hang in there, Cassie, you are still young. Don't give up, you aren't the problem.
@@thepremierenoelle3362love what you said. You are absolutely right. Others would have become recluse but she isn't. She is so brave
@@ChocolateAutizzyi just feel there is nothing wrong with you, you are a great human being!
This comment is so beautiful & heart touching 2Me...
She told a story on the SBSK channel. She shared a story of traumatic abuse she'd been through and the therapist got triggered because her daughter went through something similar. Casey did exactly what I would, sat there blankly like, why am I the therapist now? Then the therapist labelled her with Antisocial Personality Disorder. I'm not totally convinced since she seems to care so much about so many people and actually willingly climb uphill against the autism to practice empathy. I'm not a diagnostitian but I think she deserves an unbiased eval
Im a psychotherapist part time and I agree she does not fit the criteria for having ASPD. I have peers that worked in prisons and rehabilitation programs, they have shared symptoms and traits of ASPD, and there is a VAST difference between someone with complex trauma vs someone that has ASPD from early childhood. I am ashamed and angry at that therapist for having countertransference and misdiagnosing her as ASPD. This issue would have been resolved if that same therapist went to her supervisor to consult but she did not. It is a shame and dishonor what people think they can do and get away with. Now this individual has to live with this wrong dx on her record and will face a lot of barriers to get the proper treatment.
Absolutely, I went looking for people on that channel to see how gravely she was mishandled. That was so unprofessional of her and I was so damn angry. Psychology is my discipline with a focus on psychopathology but because I feel too much, im not sitting in that chair for fear of losing it emotionally with beautiful people like her. She's so courageous and deserves an unbiased eval.
Yes I am questioning the ASPD diagnosis too. I think she can feel emotions but she has dissociated herself from them to the extreme and I do think DBT and a capable and understanding therapist could help her.
I am very strongly questioning the ASPD diagnosis as well. She talks exactly like I do, to the point where I was like "You seem very familiar in my head and I would be your friend", and I am diagnosed with autism and definitely not ASPD. I am diagnosed with severe PTSD, though.
It seems like autism (definitely) with severe PTSD and complex PTSD that caused a blunted emotional response. I have a blunted response to certain things, like if something actually threatens my life, something that happened more than I'd like, I will seem fine for a while. It goes through this Rube Goldberg Machine in the back of my head before I have a response to the trauma.
Cassie you are not screwed. Find a qualified *psychologist* with extensive experience with personality disorders. You can also tell your therapist first off "I am a difficult case. If you do not have extensive experience in the areas of autism spectrum disorder AND PTSD, then please help me find one." I've had multiple therapists agree they were not qualified and helped me through groups that were specific to therapists on social media to get recommendations.
Do not give any therapist more than six weeks. I worked closely with someone and he noticed that because of my anthropologist's knowledge of human behavior, I generally know in much less time than that. You seem to have a very strong analytical brain, and likely a higher IQ than a lot of the therapists you see. That's also why I mentioned seeing a psychologist as opposed to a regular LCPC or an LCSW. Look for Psy. Ds or PhDs. Trust me on that one!
I saw that interview. Based on what ate described, the therapist seemed unprofessional & made it about her personal issue.
This young lady is slipping through the cracks and deserves better. Just because her needs are complex doesn’t mean she should be left to cope alone. I hope she finds the support she needs ❤
I can tell you have 2mill percent absolutely NO idea what it’s like to be in the receiving in of the behavior of someone who with a cluster b personality disorder diagnosis
I hope you never experience it
The support is simple as googling 😂
Nope wrong 😒 derekwfrazier
I call bullshit.Most people have a range of social awkwardness. Why do you think people smoke and drink. I'm glad your folks didn't feed you the autism label.
@@derekwfrazieryou're crass
I’m a woman with a late autism diagnosis. I relate to Cassie so much. Thank you for telling your story and making others feel less alone.
Diagnosed at 21 I feel that.
Me too! I'm an MD with autism that was diagnosed at age 60! I can relate to many things she said.
"Try, till the day I die." That hit me. Cassy you're awesome, may peace, health and love increase in your life.
Thanks 😊
This young woman has such a sweet spirit. She just needs to be around people that will validate her, love her, listen to her encourage her and let her know that it is ok to be how and who she is.
I wish her intelligence would have been embraced by the teachers and I’m sorry about the childhood trauma. Cassy you’re a wonderful person. I wish you happiness in the future. You’ll find work and you’ll be great.
I wish her intelligence had been recognized and appreciated, too. I was one of those students who many teachers felt threatened by and tried to squelch, as well. My questions were out of genuine inquisitiveness and not intended to pose a personal challenge. Challenging ideas is a good thing and any good teacher will recognize that. I believe Cassy can find work where she is appreciated, though it has been a lifelong challenge for me. The main thing I learned was to build specialized knowledge and skills that are in short supply and to go where I am needed and appreciated and move on, if not. For example, in the school system, I attended trainings and became an expert in the state standards, expected levels of achievement and scientifically based methods to increase those numbers. Everybody hates thinking about how to teach to the test, including me. Still, I could provide a quick target and the means for classroom teachers to get there and deliver those interventions, so they didn’t have to. If you understand abuse and what constitutes a mandated reporting situation and doesn’t, if you know how to bring in culturally relevant material and not be racist or classist, those personal strengths and experiences help (even if you’re surrounded by people who don’t, you will have better results with at-risk students in poor schools). In human services, I do better with the opioid crisis than with problems where people have time to debate whether the problem is external or internal (the old personal responsibility vs. systemic change political battle). You can work in just about any field, as a person with strong ideas. You just have to be aware of where there is an unsolved, pressing problem and ideas and life experience are greatly needed. Alternately, you can avoid working with social problems, which nearly everyone thinks they have the answers to, and work in an area where either physical labor is needed (if you’re physically healthy and strong enough), or mathematical or scientific formulas simply need to be solved, logically. There are a lot of internet courses available for free, if you just need to build knowledge to test out of academic classes that are missing from your transcript. Whatever you do, don’t go around hoping that people will pick up on your ideas or lamenting when they don’t. Just assume that won’t happen (and, if it does, it’s a bonus). Use your strength of mind to develop knowledge and skills that are in demand and make yourself indispensable. Usually, this involves learning about things and doing work others don’t want to do. From that position, you can lead by example, rather than your employment being dependent on others seeing things your way. You don’t have to go into a field from a place of power. It’s possible to start a job and look for an unfilled niche in the field that you can work/study your way into. Sometimes you have to jump into a field to see what’s being done and what’s needed. In many cases, people who are typically seen as outside the norm do this instinctively, when social acceptance and popularity doesn’t come easily. Sometimes it’s hard to tell, if you’re not good at picking up social cues (I’m not) but if you think you aren’t being well-received, you are probably right. Don’t worry about what others think of you, but do take heed and start looking for something else. What others think tells you more about them and your environment than it does about you. Use it to get a feel for the climate and if it’s not fit for your survival, seek another one or find a shade tree, a place where you can persevere, within it.
I think the intelligence wasn't embraced because she is black NOT because she is female.
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Love your comment @Oneeks. She is clearly intelligent, thoughtful and she's right about wanting to find someone who 'gets her'.
I'm struggling to be as eloquent as Cassie about this, but the biggest thing I'm taking from this video is how hard she was failed, and it's tragic. Normal is overrated, and she's so self-aware, so intelligent, so honest. These are things that should be prized, not shut down. I hope you find the people that are worthy of you, Cassie!
you should see how women treat & talk about male incels with these same problems. tons of empathy for women with these issues, zero empathy for men with the exact same issues... i find that interesting...
@@asdfdc1946 Well I don't think that's right either. I have a lot of men in my family who are on the spectrum so perhaps I'm more sensitive to it. I do think however, that women can be more cutthroat about it because it's CAN be a safety issue to be around men whom they don't immediately clock, but that's just my theory. Sometimes we sacrifice empathy for feeling safe. I'm not saying it's correct, but I'm saying it's the way of the world, at times.
@@ElizabethLee-o8t "Sometimes we sacrifice empathy for feeling safe." --- some people say women are solipsistic by nature... you basically just admitted to that. women only want & care about the strongest men. they disregard all others. generally speaking, women don't give a single fuck if lots of men are lonely & are committing suicide, have mental issues, are on the spectrum etc. women see those men as weak men & they are to be discarded. thats how women look at it. perhaps not literally, but more subconsciously as women's behavior towards these men tend to bear that out.
Agreed
Agreed! 💯💯💯💯💯
I was severely bullied growing up and I always felt like I didn’t fit in. Even now I still don’t feel like I belong. People are afraid of what they don’t understand. Therefore, you are isolated and depression becomes your best friend. I hope one day for people like Cassy and I the world will become more empathetic.
Yes let’s hope because a lot of these people assume without asking. It makes me mad that they do this.
Its so sad to see this epidemic of these disorders growing year by year and its only really thanks to those on the spectrum and those who are empathic enough to understand that its even getting any awareness.
It has such a debilitating effect on life.
It wouldnt surprise me if somehow its been purposefully propogated into the population by the deceivers.
I’ll proud of her for having the courage to discuss her mental health issues, so many people are unable too.
Ow3- because most ppl with mental health challenges are ridiculed like most here that Mark interviewed.
@@sheilaboland6285 The more people educate themselves on mental health issues the more they can appreciate the struggle people go through in life.
That was my thought too. I also thought she might be surprised how many neurotypical people who have deep abilities to be empathetic and wirh strong social skills are also still lonely and isolated.
The only mental issue she has is being too woke, this whole interview is all cap
I'm actually more than happy to talk about my autism and C-PTSD.. but it tends to make people uncomfortable.
As a black man with ADD born to parents from the caribbean, I genuinely feel for her. I was fortunate enough to have parents that got me diagnosed me when I was young. However, in the black community if you’re seen as different or weird you can quickly become an outcast. I went from masking my symptoms in public to not really socializing or going out at all because of the bullying. I had to read books and watch videos to understand feelings and subtle social cues in body language. It’s like learning to be a person through a PowerPoint. With her being diagnosed at 25, I can only imagine what she went through growing up.
I went through hell dude
@@ChocolateAutizzy I was recently diagnosed at 39! It was a relief to know why I am the way I am and it has helped me to seek understanding and how to live with this.
@@ChocolateAutizzyI feel so connected to you, I grew up at Hungary in a small country village, where mental health wasn’t really cared for too. I was diagnosed with ADHD at 32, with C-PTSD at 33, and now I got diagnosed at 34 with Borderline Personality Disorder. I was sexually abused as a child, and as a teenager, grew up with my abusive mother, bullied at school , and had several abusive relationships. Now I’m in a healthy relationship for 6 years, and luckily I got a lots of support where I live now ( I moved to Denmark, in Hungary unfortunately still didn’t change much) , but I’m so hurt, and so broken and angry a lots of times. I feel the grief too, about what I could have been if I got support as a child. I’m not working neither, and I struggle so much with that too. Also my Borderline are judged badly too, at the moment I don’t have much experience with the judgment, because I’m freshly diagnosed, but I know it’s not gonna be an easy ride, that’s sure. I’m very grateful to you for standing up, and talking about your struggles, it’s mean a lot to me. ❤ I want to do the same one day, when I feel strong enough. I want to help others with our problems, because I know there are a lots of little girls, who are still going through struggles and stuff like that, and I don’t want them to feel alone, the way I feel myself.
@@rebeccanewell3449can you explain how you got diagnosed and the processes… in dealing with issues like not getting past certain points in life and socially… wondering how long I’ve had a learned behavior of masking and not being able to let authentic me shine through
@@ChocolateAutizzy it's so tiring isn't it. Constantly needing to try and second guess how people are going to respond to your 'self'. If I may say, your thoughtful responses show a very high level of self-awareness ofwhat you are experiencing/have experienced and it was a real pleasure hear you talking about your life. I really resonated with your response to the question about if you had any advice for others.... when other people ask me for advice on the issues I have experienced in my ADHD/ASD life I usually reply with 'how honest do you want me to be?' because I can't/won't sugar coat it ❤
When she said that people aren’t trying to understand her at all. . . Wow, I felt that. Bless her.
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That's just life in general. Most people don't want to try to understand something that's outside of their "norm".
@@JuliusAhenkora right, it was the way she articulated that feeling that was impactful to me. Even though she may “feel” so different from neurotypical ppl, we ALL feel misunderstood from time to time, and I felt connected to her in the moment she articulated that feeling.
Couldn't agree more. Why is it that neurodivergent people must fit in to a neurotypical world? Where's the give and take?
@@MrsCassieToots probably because most people are neurotypical and unfortunately majority rules
YOU ARE NOT RANTING! It was cathartic hearing your story and validating in ways I’ve never felt comfortable talking about. Especially the part about males vs females or when ethnicity is factored in
I totally understand what she describes as being a "know it all." It's crazy how you can be a smart kid and adults look down on you and make you feel bad because you were aware of something they weren't.
Smart (white) girls with IQs over 160 used to just be idealized as brilliant and nerdy. Now (at 63) I learn that went along with autism. I am grateful my whytness kept me safe, and I hope the genius black girls (besides those who made NASA successful) also found some safety while we all accept the fact that brilliance was only ever adorable in white men, and then only if they would sit down and shut up when told to do so.
Simply knowing something and owning your capacity to share it... I will never understand how the ego of a neurotypical can twist this truth into challenging or disrespecting authority
No, not "adults". Teachers. Elementary school teachers are entirely unimpressive people and deserve nothing but contempt.
It literally makes no sense and shows their lack of understanding
My heart goes out for her. What she said about her teaching herself to be empathetic when her brain physically can’t while the neurotypicals who are supposed to be empathetic not showing it, is such an important insight and is so true. I hope she finds her tribe through this video because she deserves it man. God bless her.
Amen
@@michellejohnsen912 thank you
@@ChocolateAutizzyyou're welcome! I have a 10 year old son with autism, adhd and seizures. If I was in the same town as you, I would be your friend. Regarding therapist's, I am "normal " and have never had a truly helpful therapist. Even for marriage counseling, I have had uncaring, "only in it for the money " type therapist's. They aren't honest and don't actually want to help. They want a perpetual client. Anyway, I get my help from the Lord Jesus Christ. The Bible is God's word and is more help than anything else in my life. I would encourage you and anyone else to seek God and find rest in Him. God bless you 🕊
You can't make that observation without having deep feelings. I don't think this woman was diagnosed correctly tbh.
@@PardonMyPresencetf bro you don't need feelings to be observant you just need common sense lol
As the mom of an autistic little, I wish I could hug you. You deserved so much better but you still have so much life still ahead of you. Love you and I'm rooting for you girly! ❤
Thanks 😊
I'm a mom of a autistic 6yr old boy and I felt the same way I just want to hug her and give her support ❤ bless her
You might not wanna use the term "little" for your child as that's usually used by adults who engage in fetishistic DDLG.
@@Aromatic.Bleach she might not be referring to a child
By “little” do you mean your child??
She’s so self aware, I’m so amazed, I wish her all the peace and love
I am obviously not a doctor, but I feel like what they said was antisocial personality disorder could be more like Complex PTSD. I was diagnosed with that and it was like I had to intellectualize everything rather than feel for a while because it was too hard. And I could only feel the hard emotions like depression. What an absolutely incredible human being you are!!
In my opinion, whoever diagnosed her with ASPD is a crank. Autistic people have significant variations in emotional processing. More than half of us have alexithymia, which is a cognitive disconnect from emotions. Add into that the complex PTSD from repeated sexual trauma, and it fits the way she experiences and understand feelings. She doesn’t seem to have a single other feature of ASPD.
Cptsd is too real. You may be quite right. I have Cptsd myself, and the aversion, depersonalization, and occasionally agitated paranoia are all very relatable here.
Spot on! That’s exactly what I think as well!!! This poor woman is misdiagnosed and these therapists are really doing her more harm than good. I hope she gets to look into cptsd and then starts getting constructive help!
I just don't think this woman is antisocial, she wants to be normal, and is empatic. Some mean doctor called her sosiopat, but with more trust in her self she will both give and receive more love in her life, o want her too. Perhaps depressed people are a bit coldhearted too.
Yeah, I'm kinda doubting that diagnosis as well. She should try consulting another psychiatrist, just to make sure.
She shouldn't have to pay for therapy. There must be some sort of program to help her with those costs. My heart goes out to her so much.
She stated she's unemployed, she should qualify for medicaid.
@@2TrueStasiaor Obama care
Complex personality stuff costs a lot more for a specialist / someone who will take you because it will be years of work.... a friend of mine said a therapist for her cluster B and borderline stuff is a minimum of $4000 a month...
@@christinabrault its like they discard people like this woman as a "defective model that's lots of work " then charge a ton of money
this is part of the reason why we should have universal healthcare because this could be ANYONE, doesn't matter the social status etc...
Nah this is real. Why am I paying for something that I need in order to be a better person for everyone
This is like watching myself talk. This is such an out-of-body experience, sort of, because it's like "Is this an interview I did and don't remember that I did it?" I'm autistic, ADHD and I completely understand where she's coming from. This is legit like watching myself and I am SO happy to see an interview like this because it's ME. I have NEVER seen anyone describe exactly how I feel and think and behave and to see such a thing is actually refreshing. I want to be her friend so bad because I relate like...99.999%. She is me. I am her. We are we 😭
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@Chocolate_Femcel Awww no sad face! Only smiles over here. A friend sent me this video and we MAD bonded over it. It's been great 😆
same!!!
Autism is interesting. Every autistic person is different and that in itself is interesting. In boys and men autism is diagnosed earlier this is fact. They say autism is more common in males but is that because the statistic exists and we don’t think of autism right away when considering a girl or woman. I would like to hear more about autism. The few people I know with autism are low functioning. He can’t read and can sort of express how he is feeling. I’m never sure if he is just copying what others have told him what to say. His mom has done him a huge disservice. He was diagnosed as a child but his mom didn’t do as much as she could’ve. The mom didn’t expect much out of him so he never learned how to do things around the house nor did she try teaching him how to read at home. It would be wonderful to hear from more autistic people. Tell us what you think and how you think. How you think as in the thought process. I also heard there is a shady side of the Autism Speaks organization that I will be looking into. If you know anything about this please share that with us.
@alexisrivas307 That is so sad to hear and I feel for him in that regard. Autism Speaks is also very shady and harms the autistic community in so many ways so I definitely suggest doing a deep dive and listening to autistic content creators speak on the subject so you can understand more. It would be very helpful!
It's amazing that you're educating yourself and wanting to learn more and hear from actually autistic people about our experiences and how we live and function and operate and educate yourself on what we our needs and desires are.
If you know one autistic person, you know ONE autistic person. This is something that we always say because autistics are so diverse and the spectrum is rather broad yet we all experience, at the very core, the same set of issues really. Otherwise, if there was no commonality we wouldn't be able to BE autistic. However, even in those commonalities, we are all still vastly different from one another in many different ways just as neurotypical people are and I think that's something that's very important to remember. No two neurotypical people are exactly the same just as no two neurodiverse people are exactly the same.
If you want to talk more, educating about autism, psychology and sociology are all special interests of mine so feel free to look me up on Insta or something.
-Akita
Dear Cassie, i greatly appreciate your brave honesty. I have a different psychological disability (bi-polar), and was not diagnosed until age 61. Six years later, I’m finally able to be open about my disability. Hearing you share your story makes me feel less alone and more brave.
I'm so glad you got a diagnosis and were able to heal some. I hope you're doing well!
Interesting how all of the so called “normal people” throughout her life, were actually the ones with antisocial behaviors. No one can help her because she apparently isn’t the one who needs help. Start by treating the abusive, non- empathetic “normal” people. Then we shall see beautiful souls like hers flourish. Thank you for sharing your experiences with us all.❤
This was my life
It's sort of ironic they bullied her not being normal but they believe that somehow meant they were allowed to physically and verbally assault her by pushing and spitting on her and calling her a stup!d blank
So true ❤
Exactly. She is not broken. She does not need to be fixed. She needs the opportunity to exist in a kinder, more inclusive world.
She's so cute, I love her body language and mannerisms. Keep your head up girl, you are very brave and a shining beacon of light, guiding us to the path of acceptance and inclusivity.
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@@ChocolateAutizzy thank you for doing this i feel so seen, heard and validated.
@@ChocolateAutizzy how do you feel about incels like Elliot Rodger and Alek minnasian? People think its their Autism that caused their incel status??? They also went on to become mass murderers.
Yes! We need to re-think so many diagnoses through the lens of trauma.
@@ChocolateAutizzyI just wanna say you’re not alone! and you will find people you can be yourself around. Stay strong one love ✌🏾👽
I love her! She has no clue how well she's able to communicate ❤
It took me 30 years lol
@@ChocolateAutizzy Some people live their whole lives and never achieve your level of swlf awareness. Well done lady🌟💖🏆
@@ChocolateAutizzyI hope you know that you can be or do anything. It may not be easy. Very hard but keep going and you will. With love❤
Right? And she thinks she's rambling.
@@ChocolateAutizzyamazing though. I still can't
Take note: this women is going to change the world with her story! All the pain has a purpose Cassy! 🙏🏼You are Loved! ❤
Thank you for this one. I know EXACTLY what she’s talking about. I’m a 35 year old black woman with autism as well and and I just found out last year - we are completely overlooked. Appreciate you..
Also, I hope she knows she’s doing just fine. We are harmless people and people don’t understand things that are different. I hope she finds her passion and is doing better. I just want to give her a hug because I know exactly how she feels.
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We're not overlooked....we are undiagnosed
I have a question my son was just diagnosed do you think its hereditary ? my mom always wondered if I had add but she never got me checked im 25 now I have a four year old should I get diagnosed too ? and do they give ssd for autism and adhd or just autism
@@MarshaePosh I believe it is. A lot more people have it and just don't know. I know I mimicked people for years but that could have been explained away. Ignorance is half the battle.
What were your first steps in being diagnosed? I'm certain that I have these same traits.
How can you diagnose someone who is literally isolated and bullied by all the people around her as a sociopath ? Can we not see that in this case, the person isolates herself from society and uses a mask for her own good and not by selfishness or ill intent ?
Who is being manipulative and dishonest here ? Cassy or the people who mistreated and abandoned her for being weird ?
I was bullied too in severe way, sexual abused, severe emotionally abused when I was a child, teenager etc. I became sociopathic, Schizoid. I isolate myself from the people, society as well, I show disregards towards people feelings, I have no empathy, compassion for the people at all. And I have impulsive problems, authority’s problems, rules etc.
I am 35 diagnosed one with Schizoid and ASPD by age 26….Meh, I think sociopathy is genetic condition and trauma, both required. She has autism means she can’t be a sociopath. Sociopaths aren’t autistic from my understanding….Autism can show symptoms of a psychopath, cold, emotionless. But it doesn’t mean they’re one…..I am not even a sociopath. I show traits of a sociopath ….
Exactly, I think it is a misdiagnosis
That’s how narcissists and sociopaths are created.
based on this interview she doesnt present as a sociopath to me, HOWEVER, sociopaths are really good at winning an audience.........
That’s why I say a lot of these diagnoses are some made up bullshit.
"I want to be capable of love" That hit hard. Mental health and its complications are difficult. She is an authentically good person. It's very hard to be vulnerable. I wish her peace & healing.
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Yet she very easily and naturally stated she loved her mother. I don't believe that was her masking. She certainly processes things differently but I have very little doubt she's capable of love, even if a slightly different version than neurotypicals are used to. I hope you learn to realize this, Cassy.
only someone capable of love can say that ;)
Id like to as well
Cassy i dont know if your going to read this, but thank you for sharing your video on this channel! I am 21 years old, black and female and your experiences describe most of my childhood growing up. I always felt different and often got bullied and misunderstood for many of reasons you mentioned, Keep on being brave and sharing your voice hun, especially for the black community where a lot of these are dismissed as behavior problems 😢💜
*Update- No wonder I resonated so much with this, I received an autism diagnosis 🥺❤️. Thank you Cassy for bringing this to a mainstream audience
😭 crying inside. I am autistic and relate a lot to what she says. What I see is an extremely intelligent woman who was mistreated emotionally by people and now has ptsd.
For all autistic men and women
@Astro-J if ur trying to villainize this woman u can go fuck off
What kind of human being goes around bullying a autistic individual?
@@Astro-J You realize that "psychopath" does not mean serial killer right?
@@never2muchluther803unfortunately many, many kids.
Deep respect for this woman.
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She sure seems like a sweetheart to me. It sounds like she works so hard to understand her neurodivergence and to make others feel comfortable around her. I like the way her brain approaches feelings and emotions - she has a good heart, she just also has the challenges of the filters her brain puts on her interactions. Man, I’d totally hang out with her.
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@@ChocolateAutizzy You are amazing Cassy, Your story will defenetely be heard and people will understand you better, I now understand you and I would really feel comfortable around you. I love you my sister❤
Baby Girl you are not alone❤ SO much of what you've described...wow. intellectualizing feelings...that only changed for me when I had my first child. It almost UNLOCKED something in me. We mask so well! It's sad but it's a testament to our STRENGTH. You're not crazy, you're DIFFERENT. You're strong, beautiful, & smart! Thank you for doing this❤
I think i saw her on special books for special kids. She’s so inspiring.
Your right I also seen her ❤
You did. I could listen to her speak for hours. ❤️🩹
I as well.
She seems to be masking so much less now, which is wonderful to see.
Yes!
As a black man that is high-functioning autistic (or someone with Aspergers), I can't tell you how frustrating it is to deal with people SOCIALLY! People want to pick at me, bully me or make fun of me because I stick out like sore thumb.
And because of how self-aware and emotionally intelligent I am, I always get angry when I try to avoid conflict with other people who lacks and purposefully lacks self-awareness and emotional intelligence because of the simple games I know they're trying to play when they try to mess with me. Like, I know their motives before they even speak.
Also, this woman looks so stunning!
Thank you
I've rarely understood this idea of sticking our like a sore thumb. I assure you it's much more self applied pressure etc than the average person even remotely caring, let alone someone sticking out like a sore thumb. As someone on spectrum the entire way and methods in which you perceive the world is different. So you perceiving that you stick out like a sore thumb, does not mean that's what everyone else perceives. Just do you. Please attempt to escape the self-inflicted 'sticking out'. People will respond to that change, I assure.
I understand ❤️🩹
Stating “High functioning “ is self hate and discrimination. They’ve conditioned you to bully yourself.😪 these words inaccurately describe what it mean to be an autistic individual. it stems from ableist ideology and is harmful to others, regardless of how you’ve been brainwashed by a ableist speciesist society.
@@OogtugQuiet, white
She's extremely well-spoken and has an excellent self-awareness and understanding of herself and others perception too.
That’s how I am too but I realized a lot of it is projecting your negative thoughts onto other people because of you poor self image & in turn it becomes reality since you already have that attitude
Calling an adult "well spoken" is not a compliment.
@@TVInformative Why do you think so? And I disagree with you. Lots of adults struggle with language and grammar due to many reasons such as socioeconomic status, social circle, phyisiological reasons etc.
Knowing how to articulate and communicate ones thoughts in a clear way is definitely impressive to me, and certainly not something to take for granted in adulthood.
@@FlippinFruitFlyI totally agree 👍🏾💯
@@TVInformative I agree!, Being "well-spoken: as an adult is the norm and should be the norm.
Thank you Cassy and Mark. I am pushing 60 years old and just starting to learn why I've been so dismissed by people when I'm just being me. There was no diagnosis for people like us when I was coming up - I was just weird and a know it all. Hearing your words helped to put everything into perspective. I think that sexual abuse is a big factor in this condition. Being violated at a young age teaches us that others can be dangerous. We may feel guilty or responsible for the abuse. Something in us must have triggered this person so it is safer to retreat and isolate. We learn that being ourselves might attract unwanted attention. We end up on the sidelines, observing how others successfully navigate life. But it's fake to imitate. Everyone knows it, even us. But in my experience, we have the biggest hearts shielded by a steel wall and a moat. What has worked for me? Volunteering to help animals. You may not be in a position to own a pet but you can volunteer at a shelter. I currently work with abused and neglected horses and they have succeeded in scaling the wall and crossing the moat. My heart explodes when I see an abused horse recover and start to interact again. Animals can be a mirror. Our traumas can be similar. I can't recommend this enough. There is no judgement - on either side so our mutual empathy can blossom. People are too difficult for me but animals fit perfectly.
I would love to be her friend! She seems so genuine, kind and intentional. Sending support and hugs to you, Cassidy.
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Same 😩
You're a clown LOL, too bad you can't be her friend because she's retarded and has those disorders which means she can't have people around like you clown
Me too
Exact same.
Yes. All of your comment....yes.
Being a woman of color and diagnosed AuADHD in adulthood, this interview is so important and personal to me. She is so brave to do this, thank you Mark for your hard work 🙏
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@@codirennke1109ooooh, I can’t wait to watch later, thank you for sharing that with me, girl ❤ Sending lots of love ❤❤
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This child has such a beautiful heart and mind. I pray that Cassy finds the joy, love, assistance and acceptance she is so deserving of.
She is a 30 year old woman. Please stop infantilizing full grown women.
Do you know what antisocial personality disorder means? They have very little or no empathy at all and are master manipulators. While it's true that all good people deserve happiness, you should be really careful around people with this disorder.
@@memecki She's a very bright young woman, but these disorders have stunted her emotional growth. She's still quite girlish and it's endearing.
We are discovering my 14 year old struggles with a lot of the same issues. Im so grateful we are catching it now and this interview is an amazing resource. Thank you for this interview
When she talked about people watching to try and understand how “normal” people behave I rly felt that. Growing up I was also outcasted and had no idea what was wrong with me, I tired so hard to follow along but everyone knew there was something wrong with me before I did. I’m still not sure what it is, but therapy is helping! I’m so proud of her
We are the same with this....we are special I believe. ❤️
I'm experiencing the same thing. I feel your pain.
I didn't find out about my autism until I was 50. My parents knew and hid it out of shame from everyone. That decision guaranteed that my life would suck. I was severely bullied growing up and it continued throughout my life. The teachers even hated me. They would humiliate me after I got bullied. I was even sent to the principal's office to get swats. I never had a girlfriend and had internalized my unknown autism into self-hate and shame. I am utterly alone. My brain never turns off. Cannabis helps.
your my new friend AU I too from the Hard KNocks CLUB Feel ya
They didn't know what autism was 50 years ago... People don't do these things to you on purpose. It's kinda part of nature I guess. Any individual animal or human that acts differently from the rest is always shunned. And typically they do not find a mate. This isn't just out of cruelty either. It's nature. We look for the healthiest to mate with. Any sort of physical or mental issues means that we are tainted. And our genes are not strong and good enough that should be passed into future generations. I have issues myself. Not sure what. But I have never been normal. And have had a battle instead of a life. But I realize that for what ever reasons I ended up the way I am, I can't blame myself or anyone else. They are going to react to me the way they are supposed to. And I am going to hate them, the way that anyone would who has been cast out of society...
Yep I disagree that men "get better treatment" than women. FIrst, for most of history nobody got a diagnosis because modern medicine has only been around for about 100 years. Autism diagnosis has only been around for about 50 years.
Second, when you look at all the statistics, majority of criminals are men, majority of people sent to jail are men, majority of homeless are men, majority of murder victims are men, and 80% of suicides are men. Women perform much better than men in just about all social metrics.
Stay strong brother
@Ron autism certainly was known about 50 years ago, although not a popular diagnosis. I think a lot of people are very dependent on their parents willingness to challenge schools and medical professions in order to get a diagnosis, as children. Sadly not all professionals are knowledgeable and as we now know females go under diagnosed, as the criteria is still based on data appropriate for males. I would never tell anyone that their experience was incorrect, unless i knew that for sure 100%. If people feel let down they are entitled to feel and express it imho.
I have undiagnosed autism and my husband sent this to me, saying how much I talk like her and have such a similar experience to her. This is so comforting for me to watch.
Your husband is awesome
@@foxxie1702 he is!! It meant a lot to me
Do you think it'll help to get diagnosis? Or is it better to just try to stay away from people?
Same thing happened to me. My boyfriend watched documentaries on autism all night and when I came into the room in the morning, he said "I know what you have!" 🥹 he said I talk just like the women he saw and I share their experiences. I also have the same bullying experiences as the woman in this video and never knew why and always wanted to know what it is about me that always led to me being bullied no matter where I went. I told my mum about what my boyfriend said. She said she thought so for decades and that my dad may have it too, and my sister may be on the spectrum as well. She just never dared to tell us her thought and seemed relieved that someone else did. I want to seek diagnosis at some point. I've watched and learned enough to be pretty certain at this point. It's feels freeing but mixed with grief over being misunderstood so many years and I heavily relate to the female-specific struggles. My dad is admired for being a "Sheldon Cooper" type, I've been shut down for being a know-it-all.
I’ve never in my whole entire life related to someone the way I related to this Beautiful Woman. THANK YOU FOR SHARING!!!
"The only feelings I feel are the bad ones." 😔 Cassy is so smart and self-aware. I hope for the best for her. This breaks my heart.
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She could be a therapist, and that may help her by helping others
@@ChocolateAutizzy you are not a femcel.. you are beautiful, smart, articulate young woman who had a late start blossoming into the person you are today. We are ALL a work in progress, don't give up cassie ❤ I understand your struggle
Do you think I am self aware?
She sounds so much more sane than 98% of the other interviews
She socially awkward not a junkie
She is 100% sane she is just neurodiverse
@@rebeccanewell3449 I'm one too...
I am a 51 year old woman with a son who is autistic and a daughter who has ADHD. I'm just now understanding my own self diagnosis of autism and ADHD. Thank you Marc for showcasing this subject and being an astounding interviewer! You bring out the very best in everyone all the while without judgement !
Facts😂😂😂
So much love and gratitude toward you as you share your story. Fellow SA survivor, fellow neurodivergent person. Just know for everyone who disapproved of / misunderstood you and your brain, there's now thousands of us saying I see you and thank you!!
Thank you 😊
Same here!!
I’ve watched her interview on SBSK and she has opened my eyes to so much more behind these diagnosis she mentioned. I’ve been through similar situations as her. My son is Autistic and was diagnosed at the age of two. She has motivated me to get an eval for myself…and I am 35. It’s so difficult 😣
You asked her if she’s ever been in love and her age literally minutes after she already said she’s never felt love at 30. She also mentioned her employment status and the medical student and you questioned her again. Pay more attention.
No kidding... these aren't small details of the interview either
This channel is not for u
I appreciate her sooo much
@@josephbrickson5952 the person who’s interviewing her do not pay attention
What an amazing and informative interview. She is so articulate, and speaks about her experience with such clarity and insight. I love how she touches so distinctly on how different ASD and ASPD can look in women and girls - we have so much to learn, and hearing from women like this is massively informative. She is amazing. She so wasn't rambling! Thank you for sharing your story, and to Mark for providing the platform.
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My sentiment exactly. To me, as a female from Amsterdam, Holland, it is unbelieveble that Cassy was not diagnosed earlier in life.
I think she's incredibly intelligent. If someone with this disorder can só clearly explain how it works, and how it feels, they have to be smart and have insight. How that relates to "not feeling" is difficult to understand. For others. If I would meet her and she'd speak to me like this, we would have a lively conversation in no-time.
I wonder if that is true; it seems more to me she feels through a detour.
She has to think longer about what and how, but I think it's still there, in a different way.
And for ****'s sake: STOP the stigmatisation!!!!!
People have brains, that are incredibly complex. We just begun to explore it.
I hate the stupidity, the shallow-ness, the prejudices, the ignorance and I'm very sorry to say: a lot of Americans are very good at that.
As a mother of an autistic child that has issues with socialization this breaks my heart. My baby is only 7 and has tried so hard to fit in with the regular children. He’s very intelligent IQ wise but, he wants so badly to fit in with the kids. He has been brutally bullied the last 2 years of school including being punched, his lunch thrown into the trash and being made fun of. Even sexually assaulted by another student. I absolutely hate how society treats those that are different. This video was so informative and I’m glad you are bringing light to this subject. Cassy keep being you. You are an awesome young woman and I hope things get better for you.
That's terrible re the sexual assault. Sorry to hear this. Has the abuser been caught?? I hope your son is ok now, if you know what I mean.
this made me tear up I’m so sorry
My son had an aid with him through 12 grade. No bullying but no friends either. He went away for college and spent most of his time alone. I want him to be able to have friends, engage at work. So far he doesn't seem to be interested. Autism is so disheartening.
Autism is hard. My daughter is on the spectrum. And I work from home and this year she will be homeschooled.... no need for me to go to prison for hurting someone's bullying child
@natashacalfee3084 With all your son has gone through, have you had the kid that sexually assaulted him arrested? Also have you moved him to another school? If you've done none of these things, you have failed that child.
This beautiful Brave woman has been utterly failed by the mental health industry! Thank you for enlightening and giving us much needed insight on these important subjects and disorders!❤❤❤
As a male with autism I’ll say I feel a lot of what you feel. First impressions are key. After that it’s essential to keep yourself as mysterious and polite as possible. As long as they don’t know you all they can say is that you’re that polite person. It’s a very lonely walk but it’s one free of following trends.
Wow this really hit home for me
can you explain why you say mysterious ? im autistic i wonder
When I say mysterious I mean that I avoid providing personal information and stay professional.
I'm an autistic woman and I often do the exact opposite. When I judge the time and place is right, I start acting like myself (or as close as I can get) immediately. A lot of people don't react (and honestly I don't care), but some react with the same energy and then we can be friends maybe. This is how I found out that one of my colleagues is an autistic man and he acts even "weirder" than me, it's great. Obviously I don't do this when the stakes are high, but sometimes it works. As for my personal life, it's easy to keep it private since it's boring and nothing ever happens to me anyway.
This is one of the most impressive and impactful interviews I’ve ever seen! I’m a psychology student and black woman. I would love to spend time with this woman, she is amazing and there is a base for her in other communities. I would love to be her therapist. If there is anyone who could link us I would love that!
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@@ChocolateAutizzy I hope you looked into this Cassie. This woman might be able to get you linked up w/ someone who can see you longer term, and possibly affordably.
She was also in another interview
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It says in that one she’s a autistic sociopathic and she explained something’s there too. She didn’t mention it here its interesting
The beauty of the internet collectively is that it can show you things you may NEVER see in your entire life time without it. This especially rings true for Mark’s channel and his interviews.
I find it impressive that Mark is such a great host when he does 1% of the talking and 99% of the listening during interviews. Yet still ALWAYS manages to ask thought-provoking, insightful questions with his 1%. Even if they’re uncomfortable questions that at times have trauma intertwined in the answers.
It’s extremely enlightening and lends a different perspective on how everyone’s individual life experiences and environments can shape and mold the person they are today. The interviews humanize people in such a way it helps the “average” person empathize and find understanding for the different or lost souls.
You could be a psychologist with a PHD and counsel people for 50 years, yet still not get patients comfortable enough to open up the way Mark does in these interviews. He has a gift in making people feel at ease. He gets to the roots and learns what makes people tick.
Rather than accentuate the differences between us though it actually does the opposite and shows how SIMILAR we all are and how we generally want the same things out of life. Primarily acceptance, understanding, and love.
This WHOLE part!!!!! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽🙌🏽✨🏆
This is better than I could have said it myself... Very well put! This is what I love this channel for!
Well said.
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So well written! I love everything you said!!!!
What an articulate, well spoken, self aware and gentle woman. I’d love to be her friend. Shes so intelligent and seems like such a genuine woman
I was diagnosed with autism at 8 and still struggle to understand this world and myself (now 24). People can be very cruel to those who don't fit expectations. Thank you for sharing your story Cassy, it's important we share our stories, not to be silenced but instead have a voice in this world
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@@ChocolateAutizzyCassy thank you for sharing your story, sending love❤
I have a niece she is 8 years old now and she’s autistic. It’s sad because my sister went through a divorce and my niece father side doesn’t acknowledge it as Christian’s. The grandfather on the dad’s side is a registered sex offender that took advantage of a autistic child in the family. My sisters ex husband has even had a friend type relationship with a 14 year old girl who her family “doesn’t care about”. We are worried and fighting for supervised visitation and it’s been a hassle. The judge isn’t even acknowledging the level 3 sex offender that isn’t in the home as of yet but will be. And it’s a shame because these church going people are protecting the offender and not the child.
@@Passion85031 I hope you can get her out of that situation, keep fighting for her and proving to the courts that she is not safe in that place. Even if it's hard, even if it comes into the dad's favour, she will see strength that you, her mum, and her side of family will fight for safety and truly love and care about her.
@@samanthaq.3691 thank you I really appreciate and I am always going to fight it because she can’t speak for herself. And the bad part is he’s complaining about visitation and he doesn’t try to see her on his days. She used to call my brother dad. It’s so sad because it wasn’t expected
As a biracial woman with high functioning autism it’s refreshing to have some awareness and insight raised about the subject and how living with the spectrum - Many of us alongside other complex psychological issues, affects us and our environments. There’s a lot of ignorance / misconceptions on why we behave and process situations the way we do… I must say it makes life much harder for us and makes us want to withdraw into ourselves even deeper. 💭💯
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What an amazing and educational interview. She explained so eloquently what it’s like to have autism and also cleared up a lot of misconceptions about ASPD. Wish her all the best ❤
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@Cassy ❤ Greetings Cassy, I am sending you lots of love, ❤, lights ✨️ ❤️ & happiness and sunshine 🌞!
●● Thank you for sharing your story with us and with the world 🌎.
●● You are :
- Intelligent
- Extremely beautiful
- Very honest
- Kind
- Special
●● And most importantly, you are BLESSED❤ & HIGHLY ❤❤ FAVORED !
I am very, very sorry for the PAIN that you went through in your childhood and young adult life, trying to find yourself.
🦋 🦋 🦋 You bring a love ❤️, warmth & ✨️ 💖 high level intelligence to this interview & to the world.
I hope that life gets better for you and the right people sees you & it opens the 🚪 🚪 DOORS for you to have more ● educational, financially and social opportunities for you .
● I think that you are HIGHLY BRILLIANT.❤
● You will make a great kindergarten teacher
● A great journalist
● I think you are also a great artist: try singing, drawing , SPOKEN WORD !
((( I BIND EVERY WICKED SPIRIT, every witchcraft spirit , EVERY ● DEMONIC ASSIGNMENT ● AGAINST YOUR LIFE, in the Name of Jesus Christ of Nazareth !
⛓️ ⛓️ EVERY chain against and in your life , is SHATTERED & broken right now !
■ RISE UP & BE GREAT as you are !❤
((( I love you; as well as thousands of other people watching this interview! )))
She is clearly misdiagnosed. This is not what antisocial personality disorder is like.
@N.-A. C. You raise an excellent point ! In retrospect, she is way too articulate,easy to engage and willing to strike up conversations with regards to her childhood, personality, life etc.
●● Maybe if people were not so busy bullying and teasing her, she would have been given a better opportunity in life to socialize, build her character and have somewhat of a less stressful life of feeling like she does NOT fit in...
❤️ Know that you are loved and many viewers like myself, think that you are intelligent, beautiful and a 💎 🔸️ Diamond to humanity !
Some of us are the same way, we know just you are talking about you are not alone. The stigma is real. We love you and try pastor Kevin la Ewing so you can understand what's going on. It will help it helped me. Get you a godly man ❤😊
"I've never been in love...I'm 30 years old."
*Literally three minutes later*
Mark: "Have you ever been in love? How old are you?"
She is spilling her guts. The least you could do is pay attention.
why autists always offended at the most little shit? LOL
I felt this too. At that point it felt like they’re just preying on her story for content.
@McFlyHighwhat
@@noralavender3798Sounds like he's one of those who hates people with ASPD 😂
@@bloodieddeadman6.1.65 He doesn't hate them, he's just jealous. Even more pathetic. Lol.
Cassy is so intelligent, articulate and lovely. She also seems highly conscientious and compassionate. I noticed how many times she gives the benefit of the doubt to people who failed her. Humans can be so confusing and ugly. I'm so sorry people have been awful to you Cassy. You're beautiful and you deserve so much better. I wish you the bery best! ♥
Ya she can grow and over come but the sexual assault is why she sees hers self as autistic. Ehh seems like other things leads to a life of blame game
"She also seems highly conscientious and compassionate" - for this reason, I do not believe she has Anti-Social Personality Disorder. She seems nice.
@@astrozooI didnt watch the whole video, but it seems maybe she has symptoms that aren’t related to a lack of empathy? Idk maybe its just the other symptoms
@@Josh-o2d Most of the stories were her on the recieving end of abuse for being a bit odd. The anti-social personality would be the one dishing out the abuse and not bothered by the consequences.
Bro sexual assault is no joke. just fucking understand okay. It give you a lot problems with even trust. Educate yourself on autism and you’ll see that you have no idea of what we go through
"People were beating the shit out of me". What I gathered from this enlightening interview is that it's way harder to be a woman with those disorders since it creates traits that are detrimental to women in society while men are admired for it. And I never thought about that before.
Because psychological traits leading to the appearance of indifference, stoicism, or sociopathy and psychopathy individuals is attractive to females on a biological level (read: under evolved) , while those same traits aren't to men, because men have to compete against each other for sex and reproduction.
I wouldn't say 'way harder' because the dynamics are different inherently it hardly makes it comparable
Bingo!
@@DTreatzIt's so interesting and disheartening how much of human behavior is formed around mating and mating opportunities.
I understand this is for the propagation of the species but I'm stating this as someone who is indifferent to the prospect.
Ohhh noo black boys were getting beat up too. I used to make fun of this autistic kid we did not what was wrong with him neither did the teachers. If you are in your 30’s it happened in all areas.
I have a 15 year old son just like you. He doesn't agree with you though...ill explain why later but This video made him feel understood. It was so refreshing to both of us to watch your story because no one is like him in high-school and he feels the pressure of not being nuero typical and masking....it's exhausting to him
I still don't know the answers ...as a mom I feel guilty for encouraging him to mask so his friends won't think he's blank facial expressions means he's mad or sad
Your video was studied and played back during our family quality time today and with the rest of the family ( his dad and brother)
He's not good at showing emotion but I could tell you made him feel better about himself by his actions.
Pausing your video to Google autistic meltdowns and the characteristics of being a sociopathic antisocial persons.
He doesn't agree with you though
He doesn't see it as a disability. He's offended by labels although being has the consequences of being lonely with not many friends.
When he heard
You talk ...he said you made perfect sense. I wish he marrying someone like you when he grows up. I told him when he does they'll never argue 😂
This is the first time both of us have ever heard someone even close to how he feels.
Thank you
My son is not alone
@Mindys.Minge458 shut up and let this proud momma share her beautiful life story with her son. We don't wan't your hatred here, go and ask your mum to give you a hug if she hasn't hugged you enought
This you🤓@Minge909
@Le.minge99she’s actually talking about the actual life that she actually has. 🤷♀️
Yea he doesn’t see it as a disability cus he’s a man
Doesn’t see it as a disability probably cus he’s a man and you act like it’s wrong
I was surprised that Mark asked about her age and whether she’s ever been in love. She had already mentioned that a couple of minutes before, hasn´t she?
It also bewildered me how clear and emotionless she’s talking about her bullying experiences. I’m also on the spectrum, diagnosed this year and I can relate well to the mentalization of feelings and the “empathy” trap (behaving what I think others would like and still be stamped cold). Nevertheless, I was spared from such harsh traumatic experiences, thus I’m not cut off from my own emotions like her. I hope she finds people who help her having empathy for herself (probably not on RUclips though).
Mark asked few other questions that she had allready told. Wonder why Mark was not listening. Maybe just a bad day?
I’m on the spectrum and I noticed all of the questions he asked that she had already answered also.
@@SamiJuntunen1 She’s not ‘hot’ enough to pay attention to. Sad.
Thanks to Cassy for sharing. She is beautiful. Breaks my heart she has a condition she did not ask for and kinda is punished for it. Yet she’s here asking for help and sharing her story. This is how change occurs. All the best to Cassy ❤
Absolutely. People of Color, especially Women of Color, are frequently mistreated in the medical profession. She's dealing with Racism + Sexism everyday, compounded by being Neurodivergent which brings about the Ableism that most healthcare professionals practice daily via discrimination, malpractice, and poor treatment. She never asked for any of this, but she is constantly punished everyday by "normal" humans.
As someone who was once studying psychology (I dropped out of college -- long story), it's people like Cassy that make me want to go back to school. It broke my heart when she said therapists kept dropping her as a client. Everything she said, I understood. It may be because I'm also an Empath (something I long thought was a burden, but eventually learned was my superpower), which makes it quite easy for me to understand how someone feels and what they're trying to say, even if they struggle to articulate themselves. Three of my cousins are neurodivergent (two of them are adults, one is a teenager), and it hurts my heart how the world treats them sometimes (even a couple family members can be a bit impatient, even though they don't mean to). We need more therapists willing to study further and do the deeper work, particularly Black and POC therapists because our communities are overlooked both externally and internally. This video is inspiring me to be one of the ones who does the work so that Cassy and other people like her no longer feel unheard or unseen. (This may be hard to believe, but before clicking on this video, I've been feeling quite purposeless and aimless professionally. Now I know what I need to do.)
Thank you Cassy for sharing your experience, and I'm sorry for what people in your life have put you through. I understand why you feel the need to mask diagnosis, but I hope that you know that the world is changing (unfortunately not fast enough, but it is) and people are becoming more aware and gentle towards neurodivergent individuals. Hopefully, as we as a society become less ignorant, you no longer feel the need to mask, and you can soon be the healthiest, most liberated version of your true self.
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If you’re able to yes go get that degree! I am a black female who is currently a teacher and going to school currently for mental clinical health counseling. I’ve only been in the program for a year, but I’ve learned sooooooooo much, and I’m using what I’ve learned so far with my students as well. I agree we need more therapist that look like us and understand us. I honestly think everyone should take at least one counseling course in their lifetime or at least read about theories because there is soooo much to learn out there!
@@ChocolateAutizzykeep going don't give up. I'm so proud of you and sorry that society has let you down.
When she said “they say we don’t have empathy- but I’m always trying to so hard … but people don’t try to understand me”, fk I felt that to my core!!!
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She seems like a wonderful person and more eloquent than most people I know. She is very self-aware and I would possibly suggest she finds support groups dealing with ASPD or autism. Being around so many negative abusive people, unfortunately has affected her self-esteem and caused more trauma. She deserves better.🥰 (I’ve been there where you are so beat down you become numb)
I am not a doctor, but from what I see so far the world has been very antisocial with her. She might have a DSM label, but she also has something special....she should talk to the world and raise awareness, because she's very articulate. There must be a way!
I'm a neuropsychologist and everything she explains is part of the ASD. She, throughout the entire video, never says a single thing related to antisocial personality, even when he asks explicitly, she mentioned cognitive empathy which is part of ASD too. + she wants to be married and have kids ? Sorry but the antisocial is quite much especially since she does not mention anything bad before the age of 9, which is VERY late to develop a personality disorder, especially antisocial. Never seen that before, very weird. Autistic otherwise 100%, she can't feel anything because she's traumatized + ASD, that's it, but maybe she did not explain everything, i don't know, it feels weird. She points out that people she knew used their sociopathy for their advantage, well yeah girl, that's - exactly - what antisocials do. Even girls. But seeing her throughout the video, I'd remove the antisocial diag and add maybe ADHD, she can't follow a proper sentence without forgetting the question. I feel sad that they would put an antisocial label when she - apparently - does not fit in any criteria of this disorder
@@laureendjs4255I also think she has wrong diagnose. Maybe that and her view is making me confused.😵
@@laureendjs4255that’s interesting. couldn’t it also be due to the overlap of autism that her aspd is less forthcoming?
I’m still learning about all these neurodivergent disorders.
I love that.
@@abbeyt261I think it’s a spot on diagnosis. I cannot tell you how much she resembles someone I know and love and that person is by autistic.
Autistic mixed race person from "Australia" who currently really needed this at 3am (more than anything). Thank you so deeply for sharing and opening such vulnerable sides of you with the entire world, you have reached and touched so many people who identify with your experiences. I love words but genuinely can't put into words how much you sharing, specifically in the way that you did, means so much to me (and I'm imagining all my ND friends when it's an appropriate hour to send them this.).
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I truly wish the best for Cassy, she deserves it so much.
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This was so helpful. I have just been diagnosed at 56. I havent had the words to explain it as well as she has. So this helped me have the right wording.
What an amazing interview. 👏 you have given a real insight into the autistic mind, especially for women who get diagnosed so much later in life.
I love the spelling g of your name !😉
She is very inteligent. She did such a great job explaining her life and feelings. I would luv to be her friend ❤
@@sarahpcato Thanks 😊
Wow,you are an inspiration to everyone who has autism . You so honestly express what you experience everyday. People need to get over being normal. It’s just a setting on the washing machine,. It shouldn’t be a life goal. You went through so trauma with no support you were never given the opportunity to feel joy, love can be a double edged sword, even on a good day. This interview will change your life forever. I hope the bravery you showed today brings you the resources and support you need. I also hope that those listening will be a whole lot more aware of the pain their petty emotional behaviors bring into the lives of people who are different. Hoping to see you in the future!
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Cassy, I can relate to you being bullied, growing up in Brooklyn after migrating from Trinidad. I'm antisocial and different, and I learned a lot from your interview. Traveling, meeting people, and learning cultures is what keeps me going. You're a stronger person because of what you went through in life. Don't give up and remember to keep good company. There are good people out here ❤
Antisocial personality disorder is not the same as being antisocial. Those with antisocial personality disorder tend to lie, break laws, act impulsively, and lack regard for their own safety or the safety of others. Symptoms may lessen with age.
@@karinagavilanes4838so what’s antisocial
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@@Trini190 I just described ⬆️
@@karinagavilanes4838She's been misdiagnosed with ASD. She has C-PTSD.
She’s a very interesting person. Soo self aware and articulate. She deserves to succeed in life. I’m wishing her the very best.
I really hope her telling her story is therapeutic for her. She's amazing!
One of the reasons why i did this interview was to spread awareness and to destigmatize asd and aspd. One of the reasons why people don't get help is because of the stigma that comes with these disorders.
@@ChocolateAutizzy well I would say mission accomplished! Have a wonderful rest of your life!
@@ChocolateAutizzyyou are are so beautiful and intelligent. I hope that you heal from your trauma. You deserve the world 🫶🏾❤️❤️
I'm BPD/autistic with a lot of ASPD traits, and so much of what she says resonates with me and is helping me with self-acceptance. I hope she's doing well.
This girl deserves grace, and praise. She actually genuinely wants to make a positive impact on people around her, whilst not having the abilities to do so. She’s a strongggg woman, and I really hope she finds a path towards understanding from people.
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I think she does have the abilities. I think she's demonstrating that right here in this video and probably does way more often than she realizes!
You did so well, Cassy! I have autism too and some the things you say, are so well put and I'll keep those words in my mind. Thank you for being an inspiration! ❤
As an autistic Masker. Notice how well she communicated her point or emotions with her hands. She may not be able to "read" non verbal communication but because of her mimicking and masking, She does an excellent job of non verbal communication with hand gestures to get her points and feelings across and it is all learnt behaviour. To me she is a QUEEN
I feel so bad for her that she can't find a therapist that's willing and able to work with her!! She wants to get help so badly and seems so willing to put in the work to achieve her goals in life, it makes me so sad that she can't find someone qualified to assist her in that... Also the insights into how sociopathy works were so fascinating. And in case you're reading this, you weren't rambling at all ❤
The truth is a lot of these white doctors and therapists are very racist and full of hate for people of other races.
Unfortunately an ASPD diagnosis scares physicians.
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People of Color, especially women, are frequently mistreated in the medical profession. She's dealing with Racism + Sexism everyday, compounded by being Neurodivergent which brings about the Ableism that most healthcare professionals practice daily via discrimination, malpractice, and poor treatment.
@@Alexandra-xu3si my dad worked with many of the, he never had pictures of me in his office as a kid for a good reason
This story really resonates with me. I grew up in the early 90s and 2000s not knowing I was autistic intill I had my son who is also autistic. My cousin who is a boy was diagnosed but I was just labeled as stupid weird awkward and lazy. From being targeted by bad men to the bulling I understand exactly what she is saying. When she said “I asked myself everyday what’s wrong with me why am I so stupid?” That really hit home with me. I developed depression at age 9 and was misdiagnosed for years and because I never got the help I needed even with a loving yet toxic family there love wasn’t enough because the pressure from the expectations of my family teachers and peers had made it very easy for me to turn to alcohol and drugs. I so desperately wanted to be someone else and bond with others and drugs did that for me. So for 15 years of my life was wasted on drugs and men who didn’t love me and just playing pretend. I am grateful for the life I lived I now have love for myself and a beautiful boy and I’d do it all over again if I had to but I’m so happy I don’t have too. Note I have no friends by choice because of my ptsd I just find it easier this way. I’ve always been my own friend and it’s not because we don’t have empathy or we hate people we just express ourselves so differently it’s extremely difficult for me to be able to bond with others especially after my ex tried to kill me. I don’t trust myself to get close to others. It’s not easy it’s lonely but sometimes being alone can teach you a lot about yourself.
sorry to hear about that. i have autism too, and my situation doesnt compare to yours but I don't have any friends either. its hard to trust people, and when I have become friends with someone, i can become irrationally paranoid looking for any signs that they hate me or just want to exploit me... I hope life gets better for you.
@Emilia S awe ty thats very sweet of you to say. Feels good to know we are not completely alone in feeling like an outsider. It's good that so many people are coming together to talk about their experiences now!
I swear I thought I was reading my own story ❤
She speaks so eloquently and honestly seems so cool. I would love to be her friend 😭❤️
Poor girl, shes absolutely beautiful too. I can relate to some of the stuff she went through. I really hope she does well in life
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Big hugs Cassy, your strength shines through. You didn't ramble on, thank you for sharing and helping us understand how things have been for you. People can be so unkind and then accuse others of not being right. Go figure 💓
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I could listen to you for hours Cassy!! Great interview. My hubby was diagnosed with Autism and ADHD at 55. So keep on talking and sharing your story❤
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70 to 93 percent of all communication is nonverbal, so someone who can't read body language is essentially blind. That's so painful.
very well said