As a person who understood that video basically in the same way as you, I believe that for us the real start on this list is "take care of your mental health". Low self esteem and lack of faith in ones abilities is a wall that has to be dealt with first. And the answer for our problems will be therapy, what I know but somehow I can't make myself to do that step...
@@Psych2go The reduction of social media intake feels like something that resonates well! A post on a social media in my opinion doesn't always click like it would in something like general conversation. While the point in the video was to make yourself more "mysterious", platforms that encourage more direct conversation are where I typically live more just because you have a chance to integrate more with friendships. That platform could be anything from a coffeeshop to a discord server for friends, but as long as it doesn't detract from being yourself, it gives you a chance to breath and be productive
Not all should be ourselves. For instance, I am in top health and take care of myself immaculately. However, nobody should be stuck with someone like me. I am terrified of making friends or a girlfriend.
@@Psych2go I think the much more important message is: Take a step out of your comfort zone. For some people this may be try partying or going to the gym to improve your looks.
Conclusion 1. Be mysterious -less time on social media -more time on hobbies and your goals -listen more speak less -focus on others more than you 2. Good looking -face -haircut/change hairstyle -dress well -good hygiene -learn how to best express yourself socially -exercise -diet -embrace bad personalities and highlight good one. 3. Have free time? -fill schedule with fun and interesting activities -if people asked you to go out and you want to go and make friends, go. -don’t play breadcrumbing and benching -don’t go or be occupied by others a lot. Go hiking, hit the gym or party. Flow as the way you want. -be active and productive 4. Best version of yourself -genuine. Don’t pretend being someone you’re not. -find the aspects you can work on. -find qualities you admire and integrate them into your life 1) physical attractiveness = gym and improve your looks 2) personality/self-esteem = self-reflect, developing habits, saying affirmations
My therapist gave me some great advice recently when it came to relationships. She noticed I was usually the one feeling 'responsible' to make a relationship happen by confessing my feelings, putting in effort to make it work etc. She suggested this time, with any new crush I might have, I simply sit back and let them come to me, especially since I'm a girl and most of my crushes are guys. I think I tend to attract the wrong people with my habitual methods, because others start to expect to receive without having to give much. When I let people approach me and be the ones to start the relationship, I know it is someone who will care about me enough to put in effort, rather than just being after attention, and that's what I really want, so that's what I'm going to do :))
Some stupid idiotic things we just don't grow out of as quickly as we would like, and Heaven knows I've done my share! I'm almost 50 and never married, and I will definitely consider the things you've said!
For me a true girl is she that makes the first move. Is nothing bad with this, I think that you have to try until you get the man that really gives you more than a date and gives you very importance: the men are tired to try always the at first with a girl: I talk like a tired man, 35 ears old and received very thin trial form girls, I love to receive more ut I never give her a no, always yes because evety girl that gives me a will to make something gives me some good vibes and I don't want to feel that her fells what I get on many times with a girls. I admire you
I did a war crime and now I can only live in Somaliland as I’m banned from the UN, but now there is a coalition army consisting of 10,000 mechanized infantry chasing me!
Everyone told me to be myself and that didn't work. BS message. Be the man you want to be. It was only after improving myself for a few months that people wanted me.
Tru but its regardless of appearance everyone can be attractive, ur saying this like attractivity is based on looks (correct me if im wrong tho), i know sm1 whos not conventionally attractive who's approachable, friendly, and has over all this very warm aura and thier mysteriousness is (atleast by me) found hot.
OKAY OKAY OKAY!!!! So you are making videos about about mental health, realitionships AND making references to manga, anime, webtoons?!?! Babe...your perfection is killing me
Would it go against Psych2go morals to make an 'Olgami' (official webtoon title :Trapped) reference? Bc Han Chaeh and Park Yoonsoo are.... sry... toxic. (Enemies to Lovers, vampire story) Olgami is famous.
Keeping myself busy is something that, for some reason, is just hard. Laziness isn't always my top excuse though. Sometimes, I just don't have the energy to do anything more.
@@trolleycartwheel9409 In that case aren't you technically busy? How could you have multiple jobs only have enough time to get 4 hours of sleep and not be busy? If you have any extra free time shouldn't that be spent getting sleep?
@@farhanishraqifti1489 I think they were referring specifically to the “give energy to have energy” part. That giving enough energy to hold multiple jobs will not give you even more energy.
@Liam Nicholson Tell that to someone who has to work full-time while also going to school and struggles with depression... it's not like being lazy is a choice 😒
I think for most of us, we are chased by those we aren't that interested in... and ignored by those we ARE interested in. There's an energy give and take... and you have to consciously reverse it... force yourself to be more reserved and less expressive toward those you love, until you feel their love in equal measure. (Now, if only I could take my own advice!)
j@@abbdas22mohammed woah dude do you happen to know this woman? Cuz like if you dont please chill a little she dont know you if you do then by all means go ahead.
Best advices out there honestly! But I would say even being reserved and less talkative still attracts those kiddos to me in whom I am not at all interested and so all I have to do is ignore them, sometimes it becomes too much that I feel like just punch either their faces or a wall I mean you creeps don't need to stare like that at all
This is great advice! I’m a chaser so I can see why that’s a problem. The one I’m chasing is clearly not interested in me and I need to respect him. I feel that all chasers are chasing someone not interested in them, which is why we don’t get a response. That’s so messed up bc we’re not respecting boundaries 😢
I’m happy to say I already do a lot of these :) Earlier this year due to my depression, I became quite shy so I didn’t talk much but learned to listen more, completely disappeared from social media, and became very immersed in achieving my goals. And I am getting better with my mental health. Take care of yourselves
I never thought I could be the one who is chased by, my entire life I was the person who chase other people and give them love and appreciation, but that never happened to me. I’m sure from now on I will use these signs and start to focus on myself. Thank you Psycho2Go so much for uploading this amazing video. You are one of my favorite channels 💕
Don't forget you do not always need to be the strong silent type if that is not you. People are also drawn to the rather cheerful ones as well. I would know.
"What is it about the silent and mysterious types that makes you want to learn more about them?" Levi LITERALLY popped into my mind right before he was discussed! 😂
@@Psych2goBut Levi is not mentally healthy, plus he's fiction, don't try to do that in real life, it's anti social. There's time to be serious and there's time to be goofy.
I love how "develop your physical appearance" goes into why and how you can be attractive, it's not "be attractive conventionally", it's being attractive in a way that's healthy for you and makes you feel great. As in developing yourself socially to what you're comfortable with rather than, develop it in a way that makes you the life of the party! It also pushes you to be healthy, not skinny, which is awesome for those who develop differently weight wise and has a different healthy appearance! Finally, I think it emphasizes that being beautiful in a way that makes you happy and healthy attracts the type of people who are attracted to that version of you, where you're happy internally and externally, and that would only attract people who are attracted to the you who is happy internally and externally. Have a wonderful day :)
my heart: They think I'm fat? Stop eating, silly! That's a good way to get skinny! They don't like brunettes? Go blonde! Don't like earrings? Stop wearing them! Want money? Give money! (to myself) Physc2Go: DO 𝐓𝐇𝐄 𝐂𝐎𝐌𝐏𝐋𝐄𝐓𝐄 𝐎𝐏𝐏𝐎𝐒𝐈𝐓𝐄. my brain: that's unhealthy everyone around me: damn she's attention seeking my heart: ?????????
@@Psych2go @Psych2Go I like most. But I also really like, that you gave a scientific explanation why mysterious people are interesting. Because they can give new information 😊 which can be useful. Science is important to me. And I also like that you point out hygiene. Pick up artists never do that. They just say that it's women's fault or that men are either alpha or beta or whatever. That's not nice and it's wrong. It makes people probably very sad too. Listening as you point out is very important. The thing is, your video doesn't devalue anyone or make weird claims that hurt. You give ideas to improve. Even if you don't have a partner, through these ideas a person can improve anyway and feel better 🙂
I just realized my ex was benching me. Now it all makes sense why she never felt super attached to me during our relationship. She lost feelings and moved on like it was nothing
I'm always the one chasing people around, and that, probably is why I get called a 'pervert' leaving that as it may, thank you so much for this, psych2go! you don't know how much this video means to me!
I actually don’t mind not being chased. This is because I’m more of an independent person, and I like being alone better. But I also wouldn’t mind to have someone who is willing to like me for who I am
Just be yourself kings and queens, you don’t change for anyone to like you. They gotta love you as who you are and the same goes for everyone. It’s okay if you get rejected time to time. There are always many on the sea to pick. You just gotta find the right fish 🐠
I think this is a somewhat toxic mindset. Everyone has flaws and toxic traits and we all need to work towards some form of self improvement. Becoming a better version of yourself will improve your relationships and mental health. You can’t fall into the trap of stagnating because “ they should love me as I am”. Though you should be wary of people who start to mold your personality around themselves or force you to change fundamental aspects of who you are if these are nontoxic traits. I do think pretending to be someone your not is just as toxic as not changing at all.
@@hurinthalion5984 well there’s nothing wrong with your argument, but I just believe that if you have to change for somebody’s standards or doing as much for someone without having yourself being loved back or getting anything back and just being drained out of benefit for them then it’s not worth sticking around. I’d like to believe that you must love yourself and you can change for the better which I agree with the most. But I’m never gonna be changing for somebody who’s only gonna drain me and treat me like shit, the only way to tell if it’s a healthy relationship is if you’re grasping the aspects around you positively and changing for the better, not for the worse for you and for anyone you care about.
@@hurinthalion5984 no you’re good. I actually like that somebody brought this up and I understood it as much as you try to express. I mean the only way we can understand eachother is simply finding the right words for right meanings to express and try to understand by communicating. without that we’d just we running around confused or just silent understanding by actions
HAVING PEOPLE BE NICER TO YOU BASED ON HOW ATTRACTIVE YOU ARE IS SO REAL! when im not wearing makeup people never even try to approach me, but even with the tiniest bit of makeup more people choose to talk to me. cant tell if i hate it or love it
Timestamps 1). Give room for mystery 0:33 2). Develop your physical appearance 1:47 3). Keep yourself busy 3:21 4). Be the best version of yourself at this moment 4:09 Hope this helps you out.💙💙💙💙
There was this book I read called "The Rules" by Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider, and one of the things they wrote is to be "hard to get, but easy to be with". Playing hard to get does sound manipulative, which is just not good to do. However, they did explain that what they were actually trying to say is don't completely free up your schedule out of everything the moment your crush or your date asks like a last minute meetup. I think the most important takeaway out of that is to make sure you got your own life activities prioritized, which is a subset of self-love and self-esteem
@@ainternet_userisnteveryone524 I have the hard copy at home, not sure if there's a PDF of it It's a bit of a hot topic of a book which I can understand. If u buy it, make sure u read it with an open mind
positive mindset and self love. that's all I need. these days I have been feeling way better because I feel beautiful and love who I am. got chased by people and glanced over when I walked into the room. It's funny how people treat you differently when you make yourself more available. but, as this video said, people tend to be more easy with people who looks good.
That's true that outer appearance can play a big role, however, the right person at the right timing may find the qualities that they look for in you. Do you think you will be meeting someone like this soon?
@@Psych2go well mabye when they don’t leve you on reed to „impress“ you or they don’t play hard to get. And if they show you that they’re interested. Thanks for asking ☺️
@@Onix.wuaaaa As a guy, I wouldn't ghost you or any girl for that matter. For some reason I'm the only person in this world who can manage to both answer your texts as soon as you text them and have a life. Crazy.
Love Lookism! It brings light to so many more problems other than appearance-wise! I can't stress it enough as a recommendation if you don't mind the gang fights(which are absolutely amazing!) Also love your videos! Many of your videos have been of much help to me in hard times and some cleared doubts I might have had about certain things... I couldn't thank you enough. Love what you do.❤ Hoping anyone who comes across this comment is having a nice day/night and if you're going through tough times... though there's not much I can say... it will get better eventually. Everyone keep fighting!✨
There's a girl I want at school. At first I watched this vedio for tips on how to make her want me but now I see that it's not important, all I have to do is just be myself. If she'll want me that would be nice but if she doesn't it's ok as long I'm still me ❤️
0:44 caught me off guard I couldnt help but laugh 😂😂 out of all characters I would never think it would be levi ackerman 😭❤️💖Such a beautiful mysterious man. By the way self love and self validation and understanding is key points as well
he gave me a stuffed animal before our school’s thanksgiving break. still going crazy over if it’s like a december 3rd sweater thing or just him being nice- 😭
My friend said that I'm too attractive, but I'm always silent and don't do conversations. Whenever I have a crush on someone they crush me back, but I'm not that confident to confess about my feelings, I just stare and wait for my crush to confess to me. But I still have no boyfriend. I'm just being me I dont fake my personality. I asked my friend what is the most attractive part of me and she said, ur smart, pretty and kind, youre a shytype of a girl which is attractive to some men.
Numbers 1 and 3 are most important for me. FOCUS ON YOUR HOBBIES!~ KEEP YOURSELF BUSY!~ I have no idea about who I am as a person in general. I struggle making decisions on my own due to trauma and codependency growing up. I do not spend much time on hobbies. I do not spend much time making plans for myself. So even IF I were to ask somebody out on a date, where would I ask them to go? If I already have plans for the week, I can ask them to go with me. If I don't have plans, I have more hobbies and it will be easier to find something to do short notice.
Timestamps: 0:34 Give room for mystery. 1:58 Develop your physical appearance. 3:23 Keep yourself busy. 4:11 Be the best version of yourself at this moment.
I'm always the one to fall in love everytime and they won't reciprocate the same everytime. Yeah it's fine, it's not like it's end of the world. This video is really helpful. I might have a chance someday I'm struggling with self love ,so this will take forever
1. Be mysterious partly: spend less time on social media and more on your hobbies. 2. Develop your physical appearance: ofc, always 3. Keep yourself busy: avoid breadcrumbing and benching, yeah, don't waste your time. 4. Be the best version of yourself at this moment: ofc, believe in yourself.
I like the disclaimer at the begining of the video 0:16, which lays the groundwork for the rest of the video. Without self-love, self-validation, and contentment, no amount of friendship will give you the love and peace you deserve. (Skips rest of video) Alright, moving forward, wow what an informative video, I sure have a lot to work on.
Tbh for me after a bunch of rejection and such I just learned maybe I'm not so cut out for dating or becoming attractive. Maybe it could be considered giving up but I'm alone and not going to have much friends if at all and learned that having friends and such is overrated. I don't like to be with people and I wanna keep it that way.
Hey that's what I have been thinking "I give up trying to make friend and just accept the fact I am lonely af and I wanna keep it that way" and oh yeah I got rejected too and I hate when I look desperate in finding someone so I stop
For me it's about being around the right people. I've met plenty of people I didn't mesh well with, but I'm glad I kept working on myself and putting myself out there. Working on myself helped me to heal from the rejection and loneliness. Remember, life is more than just this moment.
I love how this is fit for all ages, and you take the time to read and reply to each feedback and comment. Just came here to spread positivity because your drawings get better and better each time, and I’m so proud on how far you came until now!!❤️❤️
As an introvert (I did the myers briggs test and I'm 97% introverted and 3%extroverted) 1. I listen most of the time and others speak, and I am mysterious, but when someone talks to me I get so nervous I mess everything up so that's a reason why people more likely aren't going to 'chase'me 2. The key to looking good is self-esteem and yeah no I do not have that 3. I hate being around ppl as weird as it sounds and I get so drained after socializing and my energy before meeting with someone is low already 4. This is the most hardest for me, I am like this shy girl that always helps etc. but when I'm home, I am like a whole different person. I'm sometimes funny, I can have my moments being loud and I can make conversations without being nervous. Idk why I am like this, I'd love to be myself and I think people would like me more if I actually opened up and was myself, but it's not easy. I just can't. And to be honest, the people I am around with ( my friends) show little interest in me. Because I don't talk so much. wonderin if anyone can relate
100%. I’m such a nervous person it takes months for be to not get nervous talking to a person. I met a girl in a class recently. I had known who she was before, and I definitely found her pretty and cool, but didn’t think anything of it. We started hanging out, not outside school very often, but talked a lot in class. We made eachother laugh, a lot. And then, I realized, I liked this person. And now I’ve messed it up. I started getting nervous. More that usual, or around anyone. Now I can barely form a sentence around her and it’s pushing her away. My self esteem has also taken a big hit this year and it’s really just so bad. I leave that one class I share with her angry and sad and drained. I can be fun, and cool, I really can. But now I really can’t in this class anymore. It sucks, it really does, I relate to you, and I wish I was at a point in my life where I could tell you it gets better, but I can’t. Good luck bro, I wish you the best
@@Tannermyntti oh damn, I really hope it gets better for you, but sometimes we just can't seem to do anything about a situation and sadly have to move on. I really hope that you'll talk with her again one day but also find new friends that are like you or accept you for who you are
I wanted to reply cos I can relate 100%, I'm also this guy who tries to be helpful and tries to be liked by everyone. It used to work really well for me but after a while you kinda start to forget who you are yourself and what you like to do. Instead of what you want to do for others. That's also why I kinda left most of my 'fake' friends which were quite a lot of people. I just have a few people that I talk to often, and one dude who is just the same as I am. It feels good to have someone where you can just be you and where u don't have to put on a mask. Just like you said, I can also be fun and relaxed at home or with a friend(at least I hope). But when it's with a person I like or with groups of people I just get too nervous and stuff that I can't really show who I am. One thing that has worked for me is just doing some new stuff. Like changing your appearance slightly or doing/buying something new that makes you feel good. Cos if you feel good it also boosts your confidence a bit. It's just baby steps but I really wanna improve myself and I hope you guys are trying to as well.
It's not always the mysterious ones that is attractive but the one who is open and truthful to his or her feelings, the one that able to empathize and understand others. It really depends on the person whether they like mysterious one or the one who is open and truthful to his or her feelings.
So to summarise it: to make people to chase you, you have to focus on yourself !(best tip for the day) The video was great as usual! Psych2Go never fail to make my day better, thank you!
@@Psych2go Well, I guess an early morning study session with my favourite tea while putting my device into deep focus mood is something I would consider to focus on myself more
The message is so useful! It used to hurt so much to feel unattractive and unloved. But I'm learning to accept myself, and seeing this video (and these comments) is such a vindication! 😇
If i could self-analyze myself I would be introvert and a really sentimental guy, I like to talk about something related to emotions that make feel touched, like getting emotional for certain series or feel stronger for certain advices. I have a defect though, my lack of sense of humor and tend to get easily offended that makes me end in ridiculous "salty" scenes pretty often for the lack of attention or feeling of injustice. IDK what kind of advice should I take to get more kind people around me?
To be fair. Focusing on what you're good at will surely attract the right people in your life. There's no guarantee that they'll be what you expect but the people who come in your life through something you like are always a blessing. You and I are very similar and this worked for me so I hope that works for you as well. But a sense of humour really does help to surround yourself with people you like. And since you said that you lack sense of humour, I really don't know what to say about that😅sorry.
@@noobfolife1206 oi thank you 😊 And about the lack of humor part, is just that people tend to do dirty jokes or treat sarcastically each other, and that's like a weak point 4 me since I'm autistic and these kind of social interactions are like a nightmare for me. Gaves me lots of headache and my anxiety increases awkwardly bad 😔
@@kuronagiyurei Positive affirmations might help you with that. Right now, you are affirming negative affirmations like '' I lack a sense of humor.'' How about saying '' I have an amazing sense of humor.'' Yes! It is untrue but as you affirm this throughout your day every day, the people around you will notice the difference and you will notice the difference too. Try it! It's worth it.
Love your videos! I for example started working out like 2 months ago and never felt so happy in my life. Now I see woman looking at me non stop and even though I don't have anyone I am really happy by myself for some reason. I see couples hugging and kissing and it doesn't bother me anymore. I am just happy. Maybe in the future fate will bring me someone to my life so we could be happy together :)
Hey Psych2go I just wanted to say. Thank you. I have watched a large amount of your videos, on my off time and they helped me realize i may not have been as happy or content with myself or my situation as I had thought and they drove me to seek the help I needed, originally when I had first watched a couple videos i was staying up for 2 days and sleeping for 12 to 14 hrs getting up anywhere from 12 to 6pm and I was bearly taking care of myself at all. It was just enough to keep myself going however over the last few years I have made a complete turn around, I got help talked to a couple perfetionals and now am sleeping every night, eatign every meal and pursueing some of my interests again, it is tough sometimes still but I've uses some of the tips you guys have pointed out and they really help... Getting up on time thats a win? Go me! Don't have an art piece turn out the way I wanted? Its fine its not easy with out practice or it gives the piece a bit of character... I just wanted to say Thank you for the videos and I hope others will or continue to be helped by them I know they helped me and the start is never easy but I got my perverbial ball rolling and once I stuck with it it got a little easier until I didn'e even realize I had gotten so far that I wanted to come back and... well, thank you and show share a bit with a channel that probably saved my life
This is a brilliant video on self love and self care. Of course these qualities will make you more attractive but more importantly, you'll look inward to figure out yourself and what makes you more happy and authentic, to the point you realize that you don't need to chase validation. This way you'll always have your back, regardless of external influences. Thanks, Psych2go, for this reminder. It comes at a time where I really needed to hear it.
bringing in Levi 🤣🤣 I was so not expecting that! and yet, it made absolute perfect sense and was a great example! thanks for the super uplifting video!
As a silent person I can say that out of the one girl that was interested in me during my life. She lost interest once she knew more about me. Soooooo when people want to know you because your silent and mysterious then reverse once they know you a bit more. Kinda hurts ngl. Tho ngl I did messsss up biiiiiig time. But I'm saying this as I've seen it happe to others many times before
Yup, it happens to me too. Ngl, I liked someone before, he's so mysterious & cold. I just met him online, and we've talked for 1 year, I've started to like him because of some of his personalities, and I confess that to him multiple times, though I haven't seen his face. Until the day, he showed his face, I admit he's handsome & cute at the same time, but I dunno, my interest for him just fades, we're still talking but I don't have feelings for him anymore when he started talking about himself...
I watched this a while ago, and tried a few of these things. I may have noone chasing after me, but I used to be really insecure about the fat on my body. Now, I love wearing things with thin straps that are close to my body, because I find the way it makes my skin pop out beautiful. Before I watched this, I didn't know that there were ways to boost me up like this. Thank you. (No, I was not paid to say this)
I really like the references to relevant external material in this one. Makes it engaging and helps your advice come off as more grounded, as you can find real world examples of the principles you preach. Keep up the good work!
+Psych2GoTv *Thanks for tactics I may consider for an anxiously-attached date:* 0:33 (1) Room for mystery 1:48 (2) Development of physical appearance 3:21 (3) Keeping busy 4:09 (4) Best version of oneself in the present
The point about mystery is a tough one for me. I'm quite extroverted, and because I don't want to give standard, "canned" answers to most questions, I'll reply with a fairly personal or detailed answer. This removes mystery, and also sometimes results in me talking for longer than some expect. I'm working on still giving personal answers, but ones that can lead to follow-up questions, rather than me going on and on.
Quiet true. I guess if you're looking for someone, especially online, looks will be first. But when offline, I guess you're more likely to find the real one..
Actually, I don’t look for a partner or friend online, because people are generally deceitful and with tech being as it is people have even more ways to lie. I much prefer a more outdoor setting then anything else when meeting someone new.
@Psych2Go 2:49 I absolutely agree that sometimes changing one's appearance may go toward building one's self confidence. However, I fear that people might see this approach as needing to change themselves, not for respect for themselves and empowerment, but for goals toward being attractive for whomever their chasing. I just want everyone to know that you if you ever have to change who you are for somebody else, at the very least, re-consider if it is really worth it. (P.S. Love the content, and the animations are AMAZINGG!!!)
I have always been the chased actually. But I have no idea what I have done to be so lucky, because I am blunt, talkative and sort of "lame". But I also attractive very nerdy women, which is great because I love nerdy women. I think I had pretty privilege.
Thank you for the constant videos! This channel will always hold a special place in my heart! Psych2go is nothing, but beneficial, informative, soothing, and visually pleasing along with being interactive from time to time. Amazing team!
I got a question. Is being energized or calm more effective? I’m not asking this because I want to attract others, but I honestly want to make sure that I know what to expect when developing myself and my body (training right now for the military as a 15 year old and go through air defense training for youngsters). I just.. don’t like to draw attention because sometimes I lose my focus because of it.
It can cause other negative consequences when you actively try to avoid getting attention. I would instead suggest trying not to give too much importance to attention or feeling that you are obligated to return something either as your time, attention or anything of such matter, for the attention others give you. Curiously the best way to do develop that boundary is to get used to attention that you'll become insensitive to it. I might be wrong about this...but this is just a thought
I love these videos. They can be helpful and also teach you about self-love. I feel like I should try some of these but I don't want to attract the wrong people as well, I just go rejected by my crush today and I really liked him but I'm not ready to give up on him yet. If anyone has any other advice to maybe help that would be great!
Telling guys to be more mysterious is about as helpful as my dad telling me to be better at Calculus his screams never worked. I never got any better at Calculus just because he was frustrated and wanted me to understand the concepts. People need elaboration beyond silent and detached. I'm most silent and detached around people that I don't connect with well. It never got me any closer to anyone. In fact its probably the reason people don't care when I don't show up to that next social gathering. I think there's more to it than you elaborating in the video.
@@Psych2goYour asking me what I have in mind... Well, I'm not the one that claims being mysterious is a good way to build someone's motivation want a relationship with you. I'm the one acknowledging the fact, and the one who doesn't have a clue how to express myself mysteriously. Naturally when I asked when asked what I have in mind. Well, nothing really for this discussion other than to point out to someone one who may have a better idea that they haven't elaborated on their point enough for viewers to be any closer to expressing themselves mysteriously. The only thing gained is knowing they need to be something they have no notion of how to express. It is a two edged sword. I can hurt you as much as it can help you. However, a two-sword is a handy thing in a fight. However, not knowing how to use will leave you at the mercy of your opponents and may be the very reason you hurt yourself. I'd say if you got it. Bring it, but if you don't learn it! I've seen no one looking to teach it besides the self-declared playboy known as the social man on the internet. That's probably where the bad reputation spawns. I don't think that being more mysterious is a bad thing and would like to learn it from someone less 1 track minded. If you know what I mean. Lastly, I'd like to point out that being shy and detached doesn't always yield adoration. In fact for some it yields mistrust, dissonance, and the desire for your peers not to have you present. It hurts honest guys more not to be able to express that side of themselves mysteriously because unfortunately the guys that seek that knowledge and are willing to compromise more in the pursuits find everything they need for their educational trip to expression. I'd go as far as to say it isn't mystery that's isn't always good thing as is the poor knowledge about how to express it and best to be revealing of said mysterious.
Do you chase or do you get chased when it comes to love?
Yep and most of the time it’s annoying
I Don't Want To Be Alone
Both I guess
both but mostly chase
ive already used all of these and got my crush
1. Don't tell people about yourself.
2. Be attractive.
3. Be socially active.
4. Be yourself.
Gee thanks for the tips
As a person who understood that video basically in the same way as you, I believe that for us the real start on this list is "take care of your mental health". Low self esteem and lack of faith in ones abilities is a wall that has to be dealt with first. And the answer for our problems will be therapy, what I know but somehow I can't make myself to do that step...
welp i'm missing the second one-
@@Leo_the_shark Mood-
@@Leo_the_shark im missing the 2nd one and the 3rd
@@Leo_the_shark I bet you look amazing, don't give a crap about how others think you look!
I love that all of the tips essentially boil down to "take care of yourself and be you"; it's a wonderful message
That's great that you took away this essential message. Were there other tips that you felt were helpful here?
@@Psych2go The reduction of social media intake feels like something that resonates well! A post on a social media in my opinion doesn't always click like it would in something like general conversation.
While the point in the video was to make yourself more "mysterious", platforms that encourage more direct conversation are where I typically live more just because you have a chance to integrate more with friendships. That platform could be anything from a coffeeshop to a discord server for friends, but as long as it doesn't detract from being yourself, it gives you a chance to breath and be productive
Not all should be ourselves. For instance, I am in top health and take care of myself immaculately. However, nobody should be stuck with someone like me. I am terrified of making friends or a girlfriend.
@@Psych2go I think the much more important message is: Take a step out of your comfort zone. For some people this may be try partying or going to the gym to improve your looks.
I mean, yeah, but it does say “anyone” and only specific people will like you.
1. Take something that belongs to them
Instructions unclear. She isn't breathing, paramedics aren't helping, and the police didn't even let me rinse my hands.
Genjutsu release!
What do you mean, be a thief?
Make sure it's something that's actually valuable to them ;)
I don't understand at all.
Conclusion
1. Be mysterious
-less time on social media
-more time on hobbies and your goals
-listen more speak less
-focus on others more than you
2. Good looking
-face
-haircut/change hairstyle
-dress well
-good hygiene
-learn how to best express yourself socially
-exercise
-diet
-embrace bad personalities and highlight good one.
3. Have free time?
-fill schedule with fun and interesting activities
-if people asked you to go out and you want to go and make friends, go.
-don’t play breadcrumbing and benching
-don’t go or be occupied by others a lot. Go hiking, hit the gym or party. Flow as the way you want.
-be active and productive
4. Best version of yourself
-genuine. Don’t pretend being someone you’re not.
-find the aspects you can work on.
-find qualities you admire and integrate them into your life
1) physical attractiveness = gym and improve your looks
2) personality/self-esteem = self-reflect, developing habits, saying affirmations
When I don’t have time to make time for free time 💀
@@TwoSetViolinEdits Well, you had time to watch this video :)
@@robertreimann1846 yes, because i was in the car. And I didn’t really watch it all.
@@TwoSetViolinEditskap
u got my thanks
0:33 Give room for mystery
1:47 Develop your physical appearance
3:21 Keep yourself busy
4:10 Be the best version or yourself at this moment
Appreciate the timestamp you typed out!
i cant stop watching 400 times 14th lord :(
Cool, thanx
thank you :)
I made it 666 likes 😔
Someone save us
My therapist gave me some great advice recently when it came to relationships. She noticed I was usually the one feeling 'responsible' to make a relationship happen by confessing my feelings, putting in effort to make it work etc. She suggested this time, with any new crush I might have, I simply sit back and let them come to me, especially since I'm a girl and most of my crushes are guys. I think I tend to attract the wrong people with my habitual methods, because others start to expect to receive without having to give much. When I let people approach me and be the ones to start the relationship, I know it is someone who will care about me enough to put in effort, rather than just being after attention, and that's what I really want, so that's what I'm going to do :))
@@Someone3951 what?
Lame af.
Some stupid idiotic things we just don't grow out of as quickly as we would like, and Heaven knows I've done my share! I'm almost 50 and never married, and I will definitely consider the things you've said!
@@Someone3951 And how well is that attitude working out for _you?_
For me a true girl is she that makes the first move. Is nothing bad with this, I think that you have to try until you get the man that really gives you more than a date and gives you very importance: the men are tired to try always the at first with a girl: I talk like a tired man, 35 ears old and received very thin trial form girls, I love to receive more ut I never give her a no, always yes because evety girl that gives me a will to make something gives me some good vibes and I don't want to feel that her fells what I get on many times with a girls. I admire you
Fun Fact: If you commit a crime, tons of people will chase you.
tysm ❤
Well no one’s chasing ME… ☹️
Lemme try this rq
This video is so wholesome and sweet and all the comments are fucking unhinged 😂 love it
I did a war crime and now I can only live in Somaliland as I’m banned from the UN, but now there is a coalition army consisting of 10,000 mechanized infantry chasing me!
Instructions unclear, the U.S. government is chasing me down.
😂😂😂
LMFAO 💀
PFFFF
😂😂😂😂
Dang, my family and I have been there before. First over 150 years, actually.
I'm glad you added that last part. There's nothing hotter than just being yourself. You want to attract someone compatible with the real you.
Yes, the point is you have to find and work on yourself. What are you doing now to accomplish that?
what do i do if i don't have a crush
@@jadsaade thrn just be your happiest self by yourself
Everyone told me to be myself and that didn't work. BS message. Be the man you want to be. It was only after improving myself for a few months that people wanted me.
@@Psych2goima start deadlifting and bench pressing
an attractive mysterious person is found hot but an unattractive mysterious person is found creepy
This is so true 😂
I can't tell which one's the attractive and unattractive. I'd be creeped out on both 😰
So true 100 pts
It's funny that they're often interchangeable
Tru but its regardless of appearance everyone can be attractive, ur saying this like attractivity is based on looks (correct me if im wrong tho), i know sm1 whos not conventionally attractive who's approachable, friendly, and has over all this very warm aura and thier mysteriousness is (atleast by me) found hot.
0:11 I know, I am wanted in 3 different countries, I am so happy
OKAY OKAY OKAY!!!! So you are making videos about about mental health, realitionships AND making references to manga, anime, webtoons?!?! Babe...your perfection is killing me
Love it!! We shall continue making it more and more perfect! What else should we add?
Would it go against Psych2go morals to make an 'Olgami' (official webtoon title :Trapped) reference? Bc Han Chaeh and Park Yoonsoo are.... sry... toxic. (Enemies to Lovers, vampire story) Olgami is famous.
@@Psych2go anime reference is enough to make me smile lmao
ikr, and the calming voice makes me feel safe idkhsfdbdkd
@@Psych2go include an Evangelion reference, suits the mental health setting quite well
Keeping myself busy is something that, for some reason, is just hard. Laziness isn't always my top excuse though. Sometimes, I just don't have the energy to do anything more.
No excuses. One has to ‘give energy to get energy’. Go do some “hoovering”.
@@liamnicholson9464 say that again while having multiple jobs and a 4 hour or less non-continuous sleep.
@@trolleycartwheel9409 In that case aren't you technically busy?
How could you have multiple jobs only have enough time to get 4 hours of sleep and not be busy?
If you have any extra free time shouldn't that be spent getting sleep?
@@farhanishraqifti1489 I think they were referring specifically to the “give energy to have energy” part. That giving enough energy to hold multiple jobs will not give you even more energy.
@Liam Nicholson Tell that to someone who has to work full-time while also going to school and struggles with depression... it's not like being lazy is a choice 😒
I think for most of us, we are chased by those we aren't that interested in... and ignored by those we ARE interested in. There's an energy give and take... and you have to consciously reverse it... force yourself to be more reserved and less expressive toward those you love, until you feel their love in equal measure. (Now, if only I could take my own advice!)
This is one of the best advices
Can I talk with you Trasea
j@@abbdas22mohammed woah dude do you happen to know this woman? Cuz like if you dont please chill a little she dont know you
if you do then by all means go ahead.
hhhhh right
But still what you said is true
Best advices out there honestly! But I would say even being reserved and less talkative still attracts those kiddos to me in whom I am not at all interested and so all I have to do is ignore them, sometimes it becomes too much that I feel like just punch either their faces or a wall I mean you creeps don't need to stare like that at all
This is great advice! I’m a chaser so I can see why that’s a problem. The one I’m chasing is clearly not interested in me and I need to respect him. I feel that all chasers are chasing someone not interested in them, which is why we don’t get a response. That’s so messed up bc we’re not respecting boundaries 😢
I’m happy to say I already do a lot of these :)
Earlier this year due to my depression, I became quite shy so I didn’t talk much but learned to listen more, completely disappeared from social media, and became very immersed in achieving my goals. And I am getting better with my mental health. Take care of yourselves
That's great to heart!
Hope you are doing well now. I'm in the same path now. Let's see how it goes. Good luck and take care!
"We are all work in progress" must be among the best quotes I've ever heard
We truly are and everyday we are one step closer to the best version of ourselves!
Banana
I never thought I could be the one who is chased by, my entire life I was the person who chase other people and give them love and appreciation, but that never happened to me. I’m sure from now on I will use these signs and start to focus on myself. Thank you Psycho2Go so much for uploading this amazing video. You are one of my favorite channels 💕
Don't forget you do not always need to be the strong silent type if that is not you. People are also drawn to the rather cheerful ones as well. I would know.
@@justincase1535 You’re right, thanks for the reminder though 🌸💕
You can also get to their hearts using rasengan!
Bruh .... you already have hinata
@@shubhampawar8862 LOL 😂
"What is it about the silent and mysterious types that makes you want to learn more about them?"
Levi LITERALLY popped into my mind right before he was discussed! 😂
Glad you enjoyed the reference! Feel free to name drop any other great fit!
@@Psych2go ik one giyuu tomioka hes literally levi with a breathing style (kinda)
@@Truesurvivor126 giyu literally levi,🙃
@@Psych2go ayanokoji came to my mind first fr :)
@@Psych2goBut Levi is not mentally healthy, plus he's fiction, don't try to do that in real life, it's anti social. There's time to be serious and there's time to be goofy.
Just steal their wallet. I swear it works every time
Ok thanks
The thing is I got chased who I was interested in but he probably doesn't have a crush so I leave him alone to give him space ://
I love how "develop your physical appearance" goes into why and how you can be attractive, it's not "be attractive conventionally", it's being attractive in a way that's healthy for you and makes you feel great. As in developing yourself socially to what you're comfortable with rather than, develop it in a way that makes you the life of the party! It also pushes you to be healthy, not skinny, which is awesome for those who develop differently weight wise and has a different healthy appearance! Finally, I think it emphasizes that being beautiful in a way that makes you happy and healthy attracts the type of people who are attracted to that version of you, where you're happy internally and externally, and that would only attract people who are attracted to the you who is happy internally and externally. Have a wonderful day :)
I feel it’s something everyone should follow instead of looking at what society pushes.
Well put!
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Nahhhh i think it means socially attractive
my heart: They think I'm fat? Stop eating, silly! That's a good way to get skinny! They don't like brunettes? Go blonde! Don't like earrings? Stop wearing them! Want money? Give money! (to myself)
Physc2Go: DO 𝐓𝐇𝐄 𝐂𝐎𝐌𝐏𝐋𝐄𝐓𝐄 𝐎𝐏𝐏𝐎𝐒𝐈𝐓𝐄.
my brain: that's unhealthy
everyone around me: damn she's attention seeking
my heart: ?????????
I want to be chased for once in my life, I was always the one undesired.
Focus on yourself, build up the confidence and let love flow to you!
@@Psych2go I have super good confidence and 100% focused on self building. I just haven't met the one for me yet. I really appreciate you answering.
I feel ya. That would be great
Same here i have no confidence
wekk sad life
i always end up chasing people because i like their vibes... but generally, months after we end up being good friends
Working out is always a good decision. Keeps you young, makes it less likely to get injured, makes you feel and look better.
This video is so much better and wholesome than all those pick-up artist videos.
Those pick up artists are so cringe
We can all see that
And these Psych2Go videos give more useful ideas 🙂.
Pick up artists are mostly very toxic. They don't treat others nice!
Thanks so much! What did you like about this video? :)
-Monica
@@Psych2go @Psych2Go I like most. But I also really like, that you gave a scientific explanation why mysterious people are interesting. Because they can give new information 😊 which can be useful. Science is important to me.
And I also like that you point out hygiene. Pick up artists never do that. They just say that it's women's fault or that men are either alpha or beta or whatever. That's not nice and it's wrong. It makes people probably very sad too.
Listening as you point out is very important.
The thing is, your video doesn't devalue anyone or make weird claims that hurt. You give ideas to improve. Even if you don't have a partner, through these ideas a person can improve anyway and feel better 🙂
I just realized my ex was benching me. Now it all makes sense why she never felt super attached to me during our relationship. She lost feelings and moved on like it was nothing
Imagine having someone chase and WANT you 😭☠️🙏
That is definitely possible! Focus on yourself and you will attract everything you want in life
Imagine that but bob the room mate suks at hell on attracting atleast one person we drank some vodka at the bar to make him feel better
“Be yourself don’t try to be someone you’re not”
Me: Chills
It's funny how this is the only video about this topic that I watched that wasn't very toxic and manipulative.
Good job, Psych2Go!
Yeah, Psych2Go seems pretty good, very genuine.
I'm always the one chasing people around, and that, probably is why I get called a 'pervert' leaving that as it may, thank you so much for this, psych2go! you don't know how much this video means to me!
I’m happy to hear this video benefits you! Will you start using these signs?
I get called a simp :,)
@@random_mochi_online9664 and I am called both a simp and a pervert💀💀
@@random_mochi_online9664 even tho I'm just a really friendly person (more friendly towards girls)
I dont chase I rather go to a bar
I actually don’t mind not being chased. This is because I’m more of an independent person, and I like being alone better. But I also wouldn’t mind to have someone who is willing to like me for who I am
It's great to know yourself and attract the right person who comes along, however, do you feel that this could hold you back from growing as well?
@@Psych2go I guess… yes. But I can’t help it, my personality is that of a shy person, a bit too shy in fact
@@solarseren glad to see the same person as me
@@dark.1775 ah me too I’m happy to see people like me
I just told my crush I like them and I think I scared them off what shall I DO?
What if it's a mix of looks and personality? Does that mean exercise and self reflection?
Just be yourself kings and queens, you don’t change for anyone to like you. They gotta love you as who you are and the same goes for everyone. It’s okay if you get rejected time to time. There are always many on the sea to pick. You just gotta find the right fish 🐠
I think this is a somewhat toxic mindset. Everyone has flaws and toxic traits and we all need to work towards some form of self improvement. Becoming a better version of yourself will improve your relationships and mental health. You can’t fall into the trap of stagnating because “ they should love me as I am”. Though you should be wary of people who start to mold your personality around themselves or force you to change fundamental aspects of who you are if these are nontoxic traits. I do think pretending to be someone your not is just as toxic as not changing at all.
@@hurinthalion5984 well there’s nothing wrong with your argument, but I just believe that if you have to change for somebody’s standards or doing as much for someone without having yourself being loved back or getting anything back and just being drained out of benefit for them then it’s not worth sticking around. I’d like to believe that you must love yourself and you can change for the better which I agree with the most. But I’m never gonna be changing for somebody who’s only gonna drain me and treat me like shit, the only way to tell if it’s a healthy relationship is if you’re grasping the aspects around you positively and changing for the better, not for the worse for you and for anyone you care about.
@@somedude4035 yeah that’s kinda what I meant lol. I just suck at expressing myself.
@@hurinthalion5984 no you’re good. I actually like that somebody brought this up and I understood it as much as you try to express. I mean the only way we can understand eachother is simply finding the right words for right meanings to express and try to understand by communicating. without that we’d just we running around confused or just silent understanding by actions
@@somedude4035 yo that’s feels kinda deep
I was worried with the title but I love it 😅. Also props for using AOT as an example ❤
AOT Fan? Who is your favourite character in it?
1:02 “mystery is linked to fascination” i dont think anyone would simp over Levi if he was a goblin so…
"avoid pretending to be someone youre not" hits hard especially for people who are introvert and obsessed with their crush can be relatable.
HAVING PEOPLE BE NICER TO YOU BASED ON HOW ATTRACTIVE YOU ARE IS SO REAL! when im not wearing makeup people never even try to approach me, but even with the tiniest bit of makeup more people choose to talk to me. cant tell if i hate it or love it
Maybe for shallow people, it’s the overall appearance. You have to be pretty both inside and out.
Timestamps
1). Give room for mystery 0:33
2). Develop your physical appearance 1:47
3). Keep yourself busy 3:21
4). Be the best version of yourself at this moment 4:09
Hope this helps you out.💙💙💙💙
Thank you for the timestamps!
Thank you!
Thanks
@@khalilahd. thanks
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There was this book I read called "The Rules" by Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider, and one of the things they wrote is to be "hard to get, but easy to be with". Playing hard to get does sound manipulative, which is just not good to do. However, they did explain that what they were actually trying to say is don't completely free up your schedule out of everything the moment your crush or your date asks like a last minute meetup. I think the most important takeaway out of that is to make sure you got your own life activities prioritized, which is a subset of self-love and self-esteem
U have that book in physical form? Or do u know any website to read that book (or any other) for free?
@@ainternet_userisnteveryone524 I have the hard copy at home, not sure if there's a PDF of it
It's a bit of a hot topic of a book which I can understand. If u buy it, make sure u read it with an open mind
positive mindset and self love. that's all I need. these days I have been feeling way better because I feel beautiful and love who I am. got chased by people and glanced over when I walked into the room. It's funny how people treat you differently when you make yourself more available. but, as this video said, people tend to be more easy with people who looks good.
That's true that outer appearance can play a big role, however, the right person at the right timing may find the qualities that they look for in you. Do you think you will be meeting someone like this soon?
@@Psych2go your funking done ed ..
i think a really attractive thing to do is being kind and showing the person that they aren’t „out of your league“
Would you like to provide an example scenario?
@@Psych2go well mabye when they don’t leve you on reed to „impress“ you or they don’t play hard to get. And if they show you that they’re interested. Thanks for asking ☺️
@@Onix.wuaaaa As a guy, I wouldn't ghost you or any girl for that matter. For some reason I'm the only person in this world who can manage to both answer your texts as soon as you text them and have a life. Crazy.
@@Parahelion well congratulations you’re a nice person
Love Lookism! It brings light to so many more problems other than appearance-wise! I can't stress it enough as a recommendation if you don't mind the gang fights(which are absolutely amazing!)
Also love your videos! Many of your videos have been of much help to me in hard times and some cleared doubts I might have had about certain things... I couldn't thank you enough. Love what you do.❤
Hoping anyone who comes across this comment is having a nice day/night and if you're going through tough times... though there's not much I can say... it will get better eventually. Everyone keep fighting!✨
There's a girl I want at school. At first I watched this vedio for tips on how to make her want me but now I see that it's not important, all I have to do is just be myself. If she'll want me that would be nice but if she doesn't it's ok as long I'm still me ❤️
0:44 caught me off guard I couldnt help but laugh 😂😂 out of all characters I would never think it would be levi ackerman 😭❤️💖Such a beautiful mysterious man. By the way self love and self validation and understanding is key points as well
0:49 HIT EM WITH MY BOI LEVI
Ве 76 55 ль 👹😀🤩😍
he gave me a stuffed animal before our school’s thanksgiving break. still going crazy over if it’s like a december 3rd sweater thing or just him being nice- 😭
Just here to comment that you are building better life each day for people , god bless you ❤️😍
You are so sweet, thank you for that message!
My friend said that I'm too attractive, but I'm always silent and don't do conversations. Whenever I have a crush on someone they crush me back, but I'm not that confident to confess about my feelings, I just stare and wait for my crush to confess to me. But I still have no boyfriend. I'm just being me I dont fake my personality. I asked my friend what is the most attractive part of me and she said, ur smart, pretty and kind, youre a shytype of a girl which is attractive to some men.
Numbers 1 and 3 are most important for me.
FOCUS ON YOUR HOBBIES!~ KEEP YOURSELF BUSY!~
I have no idea about who I am as a person in general. I struggle making decisions on my own due to trauma and codependency growing up. I do not spend much time on hobbies. I do not spend much time making plans for myself. So even IF I were to ask somebody out on a date, where would I ask them to go? If I already have plans for the week, I can ask them to go with me. If I don't have plans, I have more hobbies and it will be easier to find something to do short notice.
Timestamps:
0:34 Give room for mystery.
1:58 Develop your physical appearance.
3:23 Keep yourself busy.
4:11 Be the best version of yourself at this moment.
Thank you for including the timestamps!
@@Psych2go no sweat. keep making contents like these, please!
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I'm always the one to fall in love everytime and they won't reciprocate the same everytime. Yeah it's fine, it's not like it's end of the world. This video is really helpful. I might have a chance someday
I'm struggling with self love ,so this will take forever
1. Be mysterious partly: spend less time on social media and more on your hobbies.
2. Develop your physical appearance: ofc, always
3. Keep yourself busy: avoid breadcrumbing and benching, yeah, don't waste your time.
4. Be the best version of yourself at this moment: ofc, believe in yourself.
I like the disclaimer at the begining of the video 0:16, which lays the groundwork for the rest of the video. Without self-love, self-validation, and contentment, no amount of friendship will give you the love and peace you deserve.
(Skips rest of video)
Alright, moving forward, wow what an informative video, I sure have a lot to work on.
Tbh for me after a bunch of rejection and such I just learned maybe I'm not so cut out for dating or becoming attractive. Maybe it could be considered giving up but I'm alone and not going to have much friends if at all and learned that having friends and such is overrated. I don't like to be with people and I wanna keep it that way.
Hey that's what I have been thinking "I give up trying to make friend and just accept the fact I am lonely af and I wanna keep it that way" and oh yeah I got rejected too and I hate when I look desperate in finding someone so I stop
For me it's about being around the right people. I've met plenty of people I didn't mesh well with, but I'm glad I kept working on myself and putting myself out there. Working on myself helped me to heal from the rejection and loneliness.
Remember, life is more than just this moment.
The most realistic comment here, I hear you broskie😪
I think you will eventually meet the right people for u
I love how this is fit for all ages, and you take the time to read and reply to each feedback and comment.
Just came here to spread positivity because your drawings get better and better each time, and I’m so proud on how far you came until now!!❤️❤️
So basically self improvement +being a little mysterious. Nonetheless these are great tips I recommend anyone you did a great job on this video❤
Thank you for your feedback! How long have you been apart of the family?
Almost a year ,I subscribed last winter
As an introvert (I did the myers briggs test and I'm 97% introverted and 3%extroverted)
1. I listen most of the time and others speak, and I am mysterious, but when someone talks to me I get so nervous I mess everything up so that's a reason why people more likely aren't going to 'chase'me
2. The key to looking good is self-esteem and yeah no I do not have that
3. I hate being around ppl as weird as it sounds and I get so drained after socializing and my energy before meeting with someone is low already
4. This is the most hardest for me, I am like this shy girl that always helps etc. but when I'm home, I am like a whole different person. I'm sometimes funny, I can have my moments being loud and I can make conversations without being nervous. Idk why I am like this, I'd love to be myself and I think people would like me more if I actually opened up and was myself, but it's not easy. I just can't.
And to be honest, the people I am around with ( my friends) show little interest in me. Because I don't talk so much.
wonderin if anyone can relate
100%. I’m such a nervous person it takes months for be to not get nervous talking to a person. I met a girl in a class recently. I had known who she was before, and I definitely found her pretty and cool, but didn’t think anything of it. We started hanging out, not outside school very often, but talked a lot in class. We made eachother laugh, a lot. And then, I realized, I liked this person. And now I’ve messed it up. I started getting nervous. More that usual, or around anyone. Now I can barely form a sentence around her and it’s pushing her away. My self esteem has also taken a big hit this year and it’s really just so bad. I leave that one class I share with her angry and sad and drained. I can be fun, and cool, I really can. But now I really can’t in this class anymore. It sucks, it really does, I relate to you, and I wish I was at a point in my life where I could tell you it gets better, but I can’t. Good luck bro, I wish you the best
@@Tannermyntti oh damn, I really hope it gets better for you, but sometimes we just can't seem to do anything about a situation and sadly have to move on. I really hope that you'll talk with her again one day but also find new friends that are like you or accept you for who you are
I wanted to reply cos I can relate 100%, I'm also this guy who tries to be helpful and tries to be liked by everyone. It used to work really well for me but after a while you kinda start to forget who you are yourself and what you like to do. Instead of what you want to do for others. That's also why I kinda left most of my 'fake' friends which were quite a lot of people. I just have a few people that I talk to often, and one dude who is just the same as I am. It feels good to have someone where you can just be you and where u don't have to put on a mask. Just like you said, I can also be fun and relaxed at home or with a friend(at least I hope). But when it's with a person I like or with groups of people I just get too nervous and stuff that I can't really show who I am.
One thing that has worked for me is just doing some new stuff. Like changing your appearance slightly or doing/buying something new that makes you feel good. Cos if you feel good it also boosts your confidence a bit. It's just baby steps but I really wanna improve myself and I hope you guys are trying to as well.
Love the art style
It's not always the mysterious ones that is attractive but the one who is open and truthful to his or her feelings, the one that able to empathize and understand others. It really depends on the person whether they like mysterious one or the one who is open and truthful to his or her feelings.
1. Be an introvert
2.We go Jim!
3. be busy
4. be yourself
This video is a life saver, I got my angel🤩
So to summarise it: to make people to chase you, you have to focus on yourself !(best tip for the day)
The video was great as usual! Psych2Go never fail to make my day better, thank you!
Yes! What are some steps you're taking to focus on yourself today?
-Monica
@@Psych2go Well, I guess an early morning study session with my favourite tea while putting my device into deep focus mood is something I would consider to focus on myself more
The message is so useful! It used to hurt so much to feel unattractive and unloved. But I'm learning to accept myself, and seeing this video (and these comments) is such a vindication! 😇
If i could self-analyze myself I would be introvert and a really sentimental guy, I like to talk about something related to emotions that make feel touched, like getting emotional for certain series or feel stronger for certain advices. I have a defect though, my lack of sense of humor and tend to get easily offended that makes me end in ridiculous "salty" scenes pretty often for the lack of attention or feeling of injustice. IDK what kind of advice should I take to get more kind people around me?
To be fair.
Focusing on what you're good at will surely attract the right people in your life.
There's no guarantee that they'll be what you expect but the people who come in your life through something you like are always a blessing.
You and I are very similar and this worked for me so I hope that works for you as well.
But a sense of humour really does help to surround yourself with people you like. And since you said that you lack sense of humour, I really don't know what to say about that😅sorry.
@@noobfolife1206 oi thank you 😊
And about the lack of humor part, is just that people tend to do dirty jokes or treat sarcastically each other, and that's like a weak point 4 me since I'm autistic and these kind of social interactions are like a nightmare for me. Gaves me lots of headache and my anxiety increases awkwardly bad 😔
@@kuronagiyurei Positive affirmations might help you with that. Right now, you are affirming negative affirmations like '' I lack a sense of humor.'' How about saying '' I have an amazing sense of humor.'' Yes! It is untrue but as you affirm this throughout your day every day, the people around you will notice the difference and you will notice the difference too. Try it! It's worth it.
dont change yourself for someone else . if they dont love you the way you are , they dont deserve you
Love your videos!
I for example started working out like 2 months ago and never felt so happy in my life. Now I see woman looking at me non stop
and even though I don't have anyone I am really happy by myself for some reason. I see couples hugging and kissing and it doesn't bother me anymore.
I am just happy. Maybe in the future fate will bring me someone to my life so we could be happy together :)
2:04 well that's depressing
Eye contact and not being interested in them. It works .
-someone who has had multiple stalkers
Stay safe y’all 💕💕
are you serious ?
@@KaustubhCreationz they like it when I stare deep into their soul. But I’m just trying to assert dominance
Almost 2 weeks and no updates, hope everyone is okay.
Hey Psych2go I just wanted to say. Thank you. I have watched a large amount of your videos, on my off time and they helped me realize i may not have been as happy or content with myself or my situation as I had thought and they drove me to seek the help I needed, originally when I had first watched a couple videos i was staying up for 2 days and sleeping for 12 to 14 hrs getting up anywhere from 12 to 6pm and I was bearly taking care of myself at all. It was just enough to keep myself going however over the last few years I have made a complete turn around, I got help talked to a couple perfetionals and now am sleeping every night, eatign every meal and pursueing some of my interests again, it is tough sometimes still but I've uses some of the tips you guys have pointed out and they really help...
Getting up on time thats a win?
Go me!
Don't have an art piece turn out the way I wanted?
Its fine its not easy with out practice or it gives the piece a bit of character...
I just wanted to say
Thank you for the videos and I hope others will or continue to be helped by them
I know they helped me and the start is never easy but I got my perverbial ball rolling and once I stuck with it it got a little easier until I didn'e even realize I had gotten so far that I wanted to come back and... well, thank you and show share a bit with a channel that probably saved my life
That last one is so sweet. Nobody wants to play the role of a stranger in their own life. It must be very tiring if you can't be yourself. Love it!🥰
It’s easier said than done,
This is a brilliant video on self love and self care. Of course these qualities will make you more attractive but more importantly, you'll look inward to figure out yourself and what makes you more happy and authentic, to the point you realize that you don't need to chase validation. This way you'll always have your back, regardless of external influences.
Thanks, Psych2go, for this reminder. It comes at a time where I really needed to hear it.
bringing in Levi 🤣🤣 I was so not expecting that! and yet, it made absolute perfect sense and was a great example! thanks for the super uplifting video!
i love how you used levi ackermen as an example n how u stated out about his fan girl thing especially because i am apart of the fan girl society
I love the way they connect such sensitive topics with daily life.
1. Make room for mystery (never talk again could be ideal)
2. Change your style
3. Keep yourslf busy (by working to death... maybe?)
4. Be yourself
As a silent person I can say that out of the one girl that was interested in me during my life. She lost interest once she knew more about me. Soooooo when people want to know you because your silent and mysterious then reverse once they know you a bit more. Kinda hurts ngl. Tho ngl I did messsss up biiiiiig time. But I'm saying this as I've seen it happe to others many times before
Yup, it happens to me too. Ngl, I liked someone before, he's so mysterious & cold. I just met him online, and we've talked for 1 year, I've started to like him because of some of his personalities, and I confess that to him multiple times, though I haven't seen his face. Until the day, he showed his face, I admit he's handsome & cute at the same time, but I dunno, my interest for him just fades, we're still talking but I don't have feelings for him anymore when he started talking about himself...
Tbh if someone really likes u they will love u just the way u are ❤️
I watched this a while ago, and tried a few of these things. I may have noone chasing after me, but I used to be really insecure about the fat on my body. Now, I love wearing things with thin straps that are close to my body, because I find the way it makes my skin pop out beautiful. Before I watched this, I didn't know that there were ways to boost me up like this. Thank you.
(No, I was not paid to say this)
I really like the references to relevant external material in this one. Makes it engaging and helps your advice come off as more grounded, as you can find real world examples of the principles you preach. Keep up the good work!
This is the best channel ive ever seen thank for giving the best advices ever!
+Psych2GoTv *Thanks for tactics I may consider for an anxiously-attached date:*
0:33 (1) Room for mystery
1:48 (2) Development of physical appearance
3:21 (3) Keeping busy
4:09 (4) Best version of oneself in the present
The point about mystery is a tough one for me. I'm quite extroverted, and because I don't want to give standard, "canned" answers to most questions, I'll reply with a fairly personal or detailed answer. This removes mystery, and also sometimes results in me talking for longer than some expect. I'm working on still giving personal answers, but ones that can lead to follow-up questions, rather than me going on and on.
just like me fr
5:12 you, your voice, the end of the video.
I stole a girl's phone and she chased me, it was way easier
Why are the cops-
Oh my haha! Did you enjoy her chasing you?
1:47 my chest suddenly hurts 💀✋
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Fkinh hell man 💀✋
2:40 Also, “Lookism” is pretty toxic in that one overlooks those whom would otherwise make for a great partner or friend.
Quiet true. I guess if you're looking for someone, especially online, looks will be first. But when offline, I guess you're more likely to find the real one..
Actually, I don’t look for a partner or friend online, because people are generally deceitful and with tech being as it is people have even more ways to lie. I much prefer a more outdoor setting then anything else when meeting someone new.
@Psych2Go 2:49 I absolutely agree that sometimes changing one's appearance may go toward building one's self confidence. However, I fear that people might see this approach as needing to change themselves, not for respect for themselves and empowerment, but for goals toward being attractive for whomever their chasing. I just want everyone to know that you if you ever have to change who you are for somebody else, at the very least, re-consider if it is really worth it. (P.S. Love the content, and the animations are AMAZINGG!!!)
0:00 Intro
0:33 Give room for mystery
1:47 Develop your physical appearance
3:21 Keep yourself busy
4:10 Be the best version of yourself
5:20 Outro
Me who doesn’t want a relationship but still desires love: *go on.*
wierd af
So what would the ideal partner look like for you in this case?
@@Psych2go see u do t u
I thought the title meant like to get chased as in someone trying to kill you. This video is click-bate!!!!!!!
I have always been the chased actually. But I have no idea what I have done to be so lucky, because I am blunt, talkative and sort of "lame". But I also attractive very nerdy women, which is great because I love nerdy women. I think I had pretty privilege.
Every time I tried chasing I make it awkward, which is why I just don't. If it happens it happens.
Thank you for the constant videos!
This channel will always hold a special place in my heart!
Psych2go is nothing, but beneficial, informative, soothing, and visually pleasing along with being interactive from time to time.
Amazing team!
I got a question. Is being energized or calm more effective? I’m not asking this because I want to attract others, but I honestly want to make sure that I know what to expect when developing myself and my body (training right now for the military as a 15 year old and go through air defense training for youngsters).
I just.. don’t like to draw attention because sometimes I lose my focus because of it.
I'd say calm, but I can't give you a whole lot of reasons why...haha, but it does make people more attractive imo.
@@touyatodoroki7326 Alright. Thanks!
Np, wish I could've helped more
@@touyatodoroki7326 Don’t worry about it. I was just a bit curious about it. No big deal
It can cause other negative consequences when you actively try to avoid getting attention. I would instead suggest trying not to give too much importance to attention or feeling that you are obligated to return something either as your time, attention or anything of such matter, for the attention others give you.
Curiously the best way to do develop that boundary is to get used to attention that you'll become insensitive to it. I might be wrong about this...but this is just a thought
I'm so silent and mysterious its almost like I'm not there lmao .
You are sus
I love these videos. They can be helpful and also teach you about self-love. I feel like I should try some of these but I don't want to attract the wrong people as well, I just go rejected by my crush today and I really liked him but I'm not ready to give up on him yet. If anyone has any other advice to maybe help that would be great!
Honestly, don't chase anyone, don't be chased.
*Get yourself companions and build a strong fellowship!*
YOUR VIDS R SO USEFUL TYSM
You're welcome! How do you feel about making someone chase you?
in calm voice(1:57) press it mate just press it
because u find them DROP THEM GORGEOUS!
@@JustAnIzzu heh.. thas the line
Okay am I the only one who realizes that he’s captain Levi? 0:56
Telling guys to be more mysterious is about as helpful as my dad telling me to be better at Calculus his screams never worked. I never got any better at Calculus just because he was frustrated and wanted me to understand the concepts. People need elaboration beyond silent and detached. I'm most silent and detached around people that I don't connect with well. It never got me any closer to anyone. In fact its probably the reason people don't care when I don't show up to that next social gathering. I think there's more to it than you elaborating in the video.
That's a good point as well. Being mysterious is not always a good thing. You need a healthy balance. What do you have in mind?
@@Psych2goYour asking me what I have in mind... Well, I'm not the one that claims being mysterious is a good way to build someone's motivation want a relationship with you. I'm the one acknowledging the fact, and the one who doesn't have a clue how to express myself mysteriously. Naturally when I asked when asked what I have in mind. Well, nothing really for this discussion other than to point out to someone one who may have a better idea that they haven't elaborated on their point enough for viewers to be any closer to expressing themselves mysteriously. The only thing gained is knowing they need to be something they have no notion of how to express. It is a two edged sword. I can hurt you as much as it can help you. However, a two-sword is a handy thing in a fight. However, not knowing how to use will leave you at the mercy of your opponents and may be the very reason you hurt yourself. I'd say if you got it. Bring it, but if you don't learn it! I've seen no one looking to teach it besides the self-declared playboy known as the social man on the internet. That's probably where the bad reputation spawns. I don't think that being more mysterious is a bad thing and would like to learn it from someone less 1 track minded. If you know what I mean. Lastly, I'd like to point out that being shy and detached doesn't always yield adoration. In fact for some it yields mistrust, dissonance, and the desire for your peers not to have you present. It hurts honest guys more not to be able to express that side of themselves mysteriously because unfortunately the guys that seek that knowledge and are willing to compromise more in the pursuits find everything they need for their educational trip to expression. I'd go as far as to say it isn't mystery that's isn't always good thing as is the poor knowledge about how to express it and best to be revealing of said mysterious.
U really need to work on loving myself and Socialize more and lurn that I am good enough for who i am😌.
You are good enough! All you have to do is practice self love and you’ll be shining bright like the stars in the sky