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    0:00 Intro
    0:36 My best friend has bad taste in romantic partners
    3:59 I've seen my best friend's junk
    6:40 I feel comfortable crying in front of my best friend
    8:44 We've had sex or been in love with the same person
    10:42 I've had a harder life than my best friend
    14:51 My best friend has saved my life
    18:35 My best friend has a toxic personality trait
    21:30 There's something that I haven't said enough to my best friend lately that I want to say
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  • @jubilee
    @jubilee  3 месяца назад +90

    Are you and your BFF actually compatible?😬 Find out on the nectar app 👉lovecommanectar.co/3Huh64m

  • @tintintubes
    @tintintubes 3 месяца назад +8393

    You gotta do "Boyfriends get brutally honest with their Girlfriend's guy best friend" THAT"D BE A BANGER

    • @buzz-wx1lh
      @buzz-wx1lh 3 месяца назад +563

      that’s gonna be MENTAL WAR FARE 😭 breaking relationships in half

    • @FleshWizard69420
      @FleshWizard69420 3 месяца назад +366

      Bro wants to start WW3💀

    • @XKaliberRsR
      @XKaliberRsR 3 месяца назад +103

      I clicked on the video assuming that's what the video is about without reading the title lmao

    • @xoanna08
      @xoanna08 3 месяца назад +44

      OMG YES WHERE DO I SIGN THE PETITION FOR THIS

    • @tintintubes
      @tintintubes 3 месяца назад

      @@FleshWizard69420 Jubilee needs to cast me in it too. My girlfriend's guy best friend is on his last life.

  • @GChannelist
    @GChannelist 3 месяца назад +6323

    Starting off with "do you not like his wife?" Is WILD 😂

    • @akirakapadia7763
      @akirakapadia7763 3 месяца назад +33

      Ikr 😭😭

    • @MCBPZ
      @MCBPZ 3 месяца назад +21

      tbf that wasn't the first question they asked...

    • @qhand
      @qhand 3 месяца назад +2

      @@MCBPZhow would u know u weren’t yhete

    • @PH-pq3vq
      @PH-pq3vq 3 месяца назад +1

      yeah 😂😬

    • @whatoh3407
      @whatoh3407 3 месяца назад +140

      Grant coming out and saying "yes" about his bf wife is WILD. Lmao he obviously jealous of the attention.

  • @MarcoAce13
    @MarcoAce13 3 месяца назад +1800

    I don’t think Grant is in love but I think he’s scared of being replaced or moved on from which is understandable

    • @heyosj9705
      @heyosj9705 3 месяца назад +208

      it seems kind of like he heavily relies on Alden and that type of burden can be super heavy for a best friend that is their main moral support and "hope" in humanity

    • @Random-sk6hm
      @Random-sk6hm 2 месяца назад +22

      Yeah I think he's co-dependant on Grant which is understandable given his past issues but potentially unhealthy

    • @rainbowmagic8842
      @rainbowmagic8842 Месяц назад

      and I think he is gay.....

    • @tulipmars
      @tulipmars День назад

      who is saying he’s in love?? you can love your best friend and not be in love

    • @xxyes8879
      @xxyes8879 9 часов назад

      He`s in love. Its written all over his non verbal body language.

  • @victorious8562
    @victorious8562 3 месяца назад +2914

    This video is like 90% Alden and Grant. 10% is the rest lol

    • @sleepenjoyer-on2dr
      @sleepenjoyer-on2dr 3 месяца назад +239

      more like 90% grant only

    • @victorious8562
      @victorious8562 3 месяца назад +3

      @@sleepenjoyer-on2dr true

    • @ridethatslapthat
      @ridethatslapthat 3 месяца назад +123

      I suppose because he articulates a lot more than the others hence why host focused more so on him.

    • @imarockstarification
      @imarockstarification 3 месяца назад +78

      They spent the most time on the guys who weren't scared to elaborate on their feelings and the reasons behind them. They also focused on Orin/Jeremy.

    • @shortclub7011
      @shortclub7011 3 месяца назад +29

      @@ridethatslapthatno it’s because their dynamic is the most confusing and the most likely to cause comments and engagement

  • @lindseynimurungi7031
    @lindseynimurungi7031 3 месяца назад +3858

    Now you guys have to do best friends of the opposite gender

    • @suomi4536
      @suomi4536 3 месяца назад +127

      At the end he said that'll be the next episode!

    • @geetanshukhandagade3976
      @geetanshukhandagade3976 3 месяца назад +15

      crazyyy idea

    • @nocontext1691
      @nocontext1691 3 месяца назад +29

      Would be a wild episode

    • @labadaba5088
      @labadaba5088 3 месяца назад +7

      THAT'S CRAZZZZY!!!

    • @tramosaurus
      @tramosaurus 3 месяца назад +54

      Something in the direction of "were you ever in love with your best friend?" Will for sure come up then

  • @TheSilverCrono
    @TheSilverCrono 3 месяца назад +2553

    So are we not going to talk about the sleep peeing thing... like wtf LMAOOOOO

    • @jvin27
      @jvin27 3 месяца назад +30

      Big ick! Why just why ?!…

    • @orinhannigan2078
      @orinhannigan2078 3 месяца назад +155

      @@jvin27He did it in an unconscious state. Sleep walking isn’t fully understood. But I do know Jeremy would have been at me if I had done it to him.

    • @_BillieBirch_
      @_BillieBirch_ 3 месяца назад +20

      That actually happened to me once haha. I just went back to sleep and then I remembered in the morning when there was pee on my floor that wasn't mine

    • @Annalalalandabanama18864
      @Annalalalandabanama18864 3 месяца назад +34

      a lot of people who sleepwalk do things besides just walk. my brother’s friend one time sleepwalked into the kitchen and peed in the garbage can. totally unconscious and on accident, it happens.

    • @PhoenixPlays669
      @PhoenixPlays669 3 месяца назад +1

      @@Annalalalandabanama18864what?!😂

  • @45rrr676ggu
    @45rrr676ggu 3 месяца назад +4852

    "Leave your masculinity at the door and let those feelings fly"
    i don't like how we separate emotions with being masculine, theyre not mutually exclusive!! Men can be masculine and talk about how they feel! Its toxic to separate them

    • @vko.
      @vko. 3 месяца назад +207

      Masculinity is often measured with responsibility, but what's more responsible than being able to acknowledge and express your emotions healthily?

    • @swarleysheen9016
      @swarleysheen9016 3 месяца назад +33

      EXACTLY!!!

    • @CarmW2314
      @CarmW2314 3 месяца назад +26

      Had the same thought!

    • @sophspice-zl7mn
      @sophspice-zl7mn 3 месяца назад +22

      was the first thing i thought too

    • @presscompton7842
      @presscompton7842 3 месяца назад +20

      I was going to comment on this too. Honest Emotional vulnerability is key to divine masculinity! 🙏

  • @serenityq26
    @serenityq26 3 месяца назад +8033

    Grant needs therapy

    • @wonderfulfable
      @wonderfulfable 3 месяца назад +836

      Totally, especially when he says now that the distance between him and Alden have widened ( perhaps due to Alden getting married ), and how Grant is more cynical whenever he is not near to Alden, it says a lot.

    • @CarmW2314
      @CarmW2314 3 месяца назад +22

      Have you watched the full video?

    • @leanon9220
      @leanon9220 3 месяца назад +1305

      @@CarmW2314I just did. It came off to me like Grant had a crush on Alden at times😫

    • @vanillaggl
      @vanillaggl 3 месяца назад +160

      ​@leanon9220 not at all. now you are making things weird. they are friends. period

    • @1cy976
      @1cy976 3 месяца назад +451

      @@leanon9220 im pretty sure grant is gay

  • @ghiblical
    @ghiblical 3 месяца назад +814

    i wish emmanuel and christian got more screen time, they seem really genuine about each other.

    • @souplover6969
      @souplover6969 3 месяца назад +22

      also they look like they could be siblings

    • @i-lean4969
      @i-lean4969 2 месяца назад +12

      and they cute

    • @Random-sk6hm
      @Random-sk6hm 2 месяца назад +9

      They look like brothers and they both fine AF

  • @submissivekittycat
    @submissivekittycat 3 месяца назад +3064

    Only thing i disagree with is the original statement.
    Masculinity isn't the opposite of showing emotion but rather the opposite of boyish immaturity.

    • @McLightning95
      @McLightning95 3 месяца назад +37

      exactly!

    • @carrieaceae1233
      @carrieaceae1233 3 месяца назад +58

      Yes! that bugged me too

    • @tylernielsen3319
      @tylernielsen3319 3 месяца назад +33

      Yep. They gotta get some more different types of guys on here, like more masculine guys

    • @MA-gu2up
      @MA-gu2up 3 месяца назад +16

      I saw a study showing that the belief that masculinity has a negative effect on behavior is linked to worse mental well-being.
      I think this is linked to people who consider masculinity as toxic or something like that
      It is the type of people who say the statement said in the video probably.

    • @SPDcru
      @SPDcru 3 месяца назад +24

      couldn't agree more, submissivekittycat

  • @mey12907
    @mey12907 3 месяца назад +1123

    this may sound bad but i feel like this was heavily focus on grant’s and aldens friendships which isn’t a bad thing but i feel like they could’ve made the video longer so we could hear from others and we barely heard from emmanuel and christian

    • @chickenfingersss9155
      @chickenfingersss9155 3 месяца назад +50

      I agree, I wanted to hear more from other people.

    • @whalisten
      @whalisten 3 месяца назад +11

      ​@@chickenfingersss9155they should release a version without cuts

    • @tiff42069
      @tiff42069 3 месяца назад +4

      @@whalistenusually they do on their patreon, it costs money though.

    • @Random-sk6hm
      @Random-sk6hm 2 месяца назад +2

      Agreed, I enjoyed it but wish that the video was longer. I wanted to hear more from Emmanuel and Christian more

  • @dancingoctopus9888
    @dancingoctopus9888 3 месяца назад +734

    Ok but Orin and Jeremy with the black/pink matching rhinestone bomber jackets!? Thats a bestie.

    • @JMBBrasil
      @JMBBrasil 2 месяца назад +1

      A gay bestie.

  • @Kumara00i
    @Kumara00i 3 месяца назад +1834

    I wish the presenter hasn’t said ‘leave your masculinity at the door’ to signify they’re about to get vulnerable. There’s nothing wrong with masculinity.

    • @daquonsimmons8240
      @daquonsimmons8240 3 месяца назад +68

      Yeah and why tf is everyone here gay or bi like jubilee is trying to hard to be inclusive to the point where they are including all gay men I literally heard 7 people say they were gay

    • @Turtles-oo8xl
      @Turtles-oo8xl 3 месяца назад +120

      @@daquonsimmons8240 OMG A DIVERSE RANGE OF BESTFRIENDS, SPOOKY😱

    • @NeonCicada
      @NeonCicada 3 месяца назад +23

      ​ @daquonsimmons8240 _Hmmm ..._ perhaps it all boils down to the statistical tendencies of certain demographic groupings, whom are
      _(on average)_ more or less proactive about these rather 'nontraditional' learning opportunities; for expanding social awareness/challenging emotional situations, which ultimately inspires higher degrees of personal growth amongst those like-minded individuals?
      *-- and thus, another online community is born on RUclips* 😉lol

    • @Christian-wu3mp
      @Christian-wu3mp 3 месяца назад +26

      I think he may have meant TOXIC masculinity

    • @Incognition37
      @Incognition37 3 месяца назад

      gay people are less likely to have toxic masculinity which kind of defeated the purpose of the video@@Turtles-oo8xl

  • @whatamidoinghere8454
    @whatamidoinghere8454 3 месяца назад +790

    It sometimes amazes me how people are able to keep their friendships for so long.

    • @chellejack3480
      @chellejack3480 3 месяца назад +62

      I agree. I generally get tired of being mistreated and move on to new friends

    • @tavafavereperamilakaisreperis
      @tavafavereperamilakaisreperis 3 месяца назад

      those dont sound like friends..@@chellejack3480

    • @sleepenjoyer-on2dr
      @sleepenjoyer-on2dr 3 месяца назад +52

      Grant and Alden having such a long past is honestly so rare these days. Usually people drift away after school or during college but these two were stuck together until just recently it seems. I'm so jealous of this

    • @stefanie1987
      @stefanie1987 3 месяца назад +1

      sometimes they’re your only friend you’ve ever had so it’s difficult to lose them because you’ll have no one so you just put up with it same thing goes for some relationships

    • @Planck944
      @Planck944 2 месяца назад

      I have one best friend for like 7 years now.❤its amazing

  • @imarockstarification
    @imarockstarification 3 месяца назад +1405

    I'm shocked at how many people think Grant is in love with Alden. He definitely loves him but all his comments just rang as someone seeing the friendship change once the other gets in a relationship with someone you don't really enjoy.

    • @leejjjjjjj1
      @leejjjjjjj1 3 месяца назад +177

      100% people in these comments cant tell the difference between platonic and romantic love - i hope grant is holding up well :p

    • @whatoh3407
      @whatoh3407 3 месяца назад +111

      Ya indont think he romantically is in love with him. I think he's platonically in love with him and jealous that the girl is taking him away.

    • @juliuskasoro
      @juliuskasoro 3 месяца назад +60

      they def had something going on in the past you can tell by how Alden prefaces every answer he gives

    • @bklynkat23
      @bklynkat23 3 месяца назад +76

      They were friends for literally almost 20 years. I would expect their relationship to involve a lot of emotions

    • @DSmith-gs4tr
      @DSmith-gs4tr 3 месяца назад +11

      Grant needs some therapy, but I'm feeling how big an impact Alden had on his life.

  • @whatamidoinghere8454
    @whatamidoinghere8454 3 месяца назад +651

    20:52 I understand exactly what grant is trying to say.
    When your brain becomes used to one emotion (long periods of sadness) the brain puts it in your comfort zone. It becomes your comfort emotion so whenever you're happy it's something out of your comfort zone which obviously does not feel great.

    • @smokeytaboo
      @smokeytaboo 3 месяца назад +26

      Yeah, exactly. I’ve been depressed and sad my whole life so it’s definitely comforting. When I’m “happy” or feel decent, it feels uncomfortable and weird and unnatural. But the way Grant explained it was also more than that like there is a poetic beauty to being sad as well. To feeling those emotions and looking at everything from that perspective is almost more deep and contemplative and raw? If that makes sense

    • @Yoyomeyo
      @Yoyomeyo 3 месяца назад +9

      Oh wow thank you for that perspective. I never thought of that before but it makes perfect sense. I know the 'you're scared to be happy because you think something will go wrong (like it always does)' thing but not that happiness itself as an emotion makes you uncomfortable because you're not used to it. But yes @smokey Grant was also talking about the whole 'tortured artist' thing

    • @rachaelm1095
      @rachaelm1095 3 месяца назад +7

      The moment he said he was a writer, it made soo much sense because I could relate as a fellow writer. Some of the best writing comes from negative emotions like sadness.

    • @RacingPepe
      @RacingPepe 3 месяца назад +3

      @@Yoyomeyo This applies to many situations. Really any "normal" thing that you're not familiar with but everyone else is. I cry and completely shut down when someone wishes me a happy birthday because I never ever celebrated it and it's become something I avoid because I don't know how to enjoy myself and have a nice day. It's much harder to learn these things as an adult because now it's a conscious decision. As a child you just go along.

    • @happygecko66
      @happygecko66 17 дней назад

      i totally got what he was saying but that’s how i used to feel when i was unmedicated and in some of the biggest depression stages of my life. bro definitely does need help and i hope he is able to seek it 🥺

  • @user-ff9mb1ts4u
    @user-ff9mb1ts4u 3 месяца назад +126

    Grant saying he finds peace in sadness reminds me of how girls with eating disorders find comfort in their eating disorder. You deserve better, Grant!

  • @stephh1228
    @stephh1228 3 месяца назад +602

    Orin and Jeremy’s matching jackets 🥹 their friendship was my fav, but overall, I loved that we got the men perspective of this because we rarely see that in social media

    • @mrsstonky.
      @mrsstonky. 3 месяца назад +19

      literally!! also orin being like “wtf” over the other people friendships is so funny 😭

  • @bruhchann
    @bruhchann 3 месяца назад +627

    someone get grant to a therapist breh

    • @realcryptc
      @realcryptc 2 месяца назад +2

      "this video is sponsored by better help " - Grant (probably)

  • @cashkitty3472
    @cashkitty3472 3 месяца назад +577

    If grant is going to make aiden choose between him and his wife he is going to find himself cut out of their life. In fact admitting he doesn't like her is the beginning of the end even the guy next time was like wtf

    • @mrsstonky.
      @mrsstonky. 3 месяца назад +114

      literally ESPECIALLY since they have plans after?? 😭

    • @Random-sk6hm
      @Random-sk6hm 2 месяца назад +14

      Ong why would you ever say that out loud

  • @MrSkatebox09
    @MrSkatebox09 3 месяца назад +410

    Emmanuel and christian secretly have the same dad

    • @rrole
      @rrole 3 месяца назад +6

      lol

    • @i_am_amazing2
      @i_am_amazing2 3 месяца назад +29

      I literally only heard them like once

  • @alovehotel
    @alovehotel 3 месяца назад +660

    20:52 people will say negative things about this but Grant is so real for this. I’m mentally ill and I hate being sad and wish to be happy but when I do feel remotely close to happy, I feel disgusting.

    • @angelaparkes451
      @angelaparkes451 3 месяца назад +3

      Disgusting? 🧍 how does that worj

    • @alovehotel
      @alovehotel 3 месяца назад +22

      @@angelaparkes451 are you mentally ill? This is a genuine question, not trying to sound rude lolz

    • @whatoh3407
      @whatoh3407 3 месяца назад +10

      ​@@alovehotel what kind of house hold were you raised in? My gay cousin is the exact same way Grant is and I wonder if there's some correlation with how they were raised.

    • @alovehotel
      @alovehotel 3 месяца назад +10

      @@whatoh3407 it’s more of the environment I was raised in then the household. I love my mom and siblings btw :3 but yeah, I did have lots of traumatic experiences when growing up… I’ve just pretty much been sad for most of life (I’m 20). I do relate a lot to grant… and sorry to hear that about your cousin, I’m a lesbian too… so I relate a bunch.

    • @avabackupaccount
      @avabackupaccount 3 месяца назад +27

      yeah I don't feel disgusting when im happy but im sad a majority of the time so there's a comfort in the sadness now and happiness feels unsafe to me.

  • @ghiblical
    @ghiblical 3 месяца назад +129

    almost every time alden and grant speaks orin always went "WHAT IS GOING ON???😫" and honestly he's soooo relatable for that LMAO

  • @crewd00d
    @crewd00d 3 месяца назад +290

    A have a very typical American straight guy male friendship and we rarely have any heart to hearts, and keep it either entirely light or talk about work/relationship stuff. The only time we ever said "I love you" was on his wedding day a few months ago. I really didn't think it would happen but it just came out of me and the two of us stood there hugging and crying like idiots. It was nice, but really weird haha

    • @wiv1473
      @wiv1473 3 месяца назад +28

      aww that's so sweet😭

    • @Allanrpsx
      @Allanrpsx 3 месяца назад +9

      sounds gay 👀

    • @Diane_666
      @Diane_666 3 месяца назад +61

      @@Allanrpsx those type of comments are exactly why guys are uncomfortable being vulnerable with each other.

    • @Allanrpsx
      @Allanrpsx 3 месяца назад +9

      @@Diane_666 I was being facetious, I thought it was funny because of how blatantly ridiculous the statement was

    • @rose-yeah
      @rose-yeah 3 месяца назад +2

      😂ayo. I only said I love you to my cat. Not even my parents

  • @saskiavoe715
    @saskiavoe715 3 месяца назад +127

    It seems like Grant begrudges his best friends happiness, even though he says it so often, but inside he can't stand his best friend's successes and the changes that come with them. But he can't let it go either.

    • @bryanzoom97
      @bryanzoom97 3 месяца назад +13

      Yes and that sounds super sad🥲

  • @ksy1111
    @ksy1111 3 месяца назад +117

    Grant is... like I'm looking at my past self. I hope he gets to figure stuff out. But I have to agree, sadness is beautiful, and never thought someone else was thinking the same

  • @kyraxoxo
    @kyraxoxo 3 месяца назад +805

    I swear it feels like Grant's secretly in love with alden. Regardless, they have a beautiful friendship.

    • @nic5264
      @nic5264 3 месяца назад +278

      Respectfully, there really isn't any need to speculate on that. It's one of the reasons I've heard men say they aren't comfortable showing emotions, because they don't wanna look "gay." Grant was comfortable enough to share some pretty deep stuff here, and that should be commended without adding romantic undertones.

    • @whatoh3407
      @whatoh3407 3 месяца назад +89

      ​@@nic5264i don't think he's romantically jealous. I think he's jealous about the attention (like he said). He's probably jealous he can't have him all to himself. Its pretty obvious and not at all uncommon.

    • @nic5264
      @nic5264 3 месяца назад +21

      @@whatoh3407 Sure, but being jealous of how your friend spends their time is worlds apart from being "secretly in love." I just think insinuating it isn’t helpful.

    • @whatoh3407
      @whatoh3407 3 месяца назад +3

      @@nic5264 ya sure, but really, who cares.

    • @Aaron-kj8dv
      @Aaron-kj8dv 3 месяца назад +17

      Yeah it feels like it, but just from the video he seems like the type of dude where if he was actually gay he'd just be out and not in the closet. Probably does have have some unhealthy attachment though.

  • @RedDeadReverie
    @RedDeadReverie 3 месяца назад +273

    Do people not realize they could be the problem in a relationship too? Everyone has flaws and makes mistakes. To pretend you were the perfect partner shows you never take accountability.

  • @genesispalacios7958
    @genesispalacios7958 3 месяца назад +701

    I feel like grant is in love with Alden, like that whole thing about talking being jealous with the wife kinda gave me that vibe. He also just kept looking like he was in love with Alden.

    • @mrterrific2323
      @mrterrific2323 3 месяца назад +63

      I've only started watching the video and I agree😂😂

    • @tahmenaferdous5213
      @tahmenaferdous5213 3 месяца назад +199

      Why cant we love each other without being in love. I dont think Grant is in love with him

    • @OneRandomVictory
      @OneRandomVictory 3 месяца назад +50

      I mean, that happens all the time though. I used to have a best friend but after he got with his wife we rarely ever hung out anymore and our friendship just sorta dissolved over time.

    • @invisibleghost7415
      @invisibleghost7415 3 месяца назад +16

      @@OneRandomVictoryand it’s perfectly normal to miss that. Or not like the person your friend turns into because of their SO.

    • @tmoneyot
      @tmoneyot 3 месяца назад +7

      Yes I immediately looked for a comment like this after the saved my life question I was like I can't be the only one think8ng this!!!😂

  • @auraliax1323
    @auraliax1323 3 месяца назад +235

    It's nice seeing men express their feelings like this❤

    • @daquonsimmons8240
      @daquonsimmons8240 3 месяца назад +2

      why tf is everyone here gay or bi like jubilee is trying so hard to be inclusive to the point where they are including all gay men I literally heard 7 people say they were gay

    • @auraliax1323
      @auraliax1323 3 месяца назад +22

      @@daquonsimmons8240 no only 2 or 3, the other guys are straight,they literally spoke about having wives and gfs

    • @kikialeaki1850
      @kikialeaki1850 3 месяца назад +2

      ⁠​⁠@@auraliax1323 ??? Having a wife or gf does not mean they’re straight. What the other person should have probably said was that there are 3 confirmed bi/gay and 2-3 suspected due to speech/mannerisms. 7 people definitely did not say they were bi/gay, but you cannot assume that the ones who didn’t say that are straight lol.

    • @auraliax1323
      @auraliax1323 3 месяца назад +1

      @@kikialeaki1850 i didn't assume, i just didn't think they brought up all lgbtq people, it's fine anyways they're still men who are expressing their emotions comfortably here which is what i meant

    • @kikialeaki1850
      @kikialeaki1850 3 месяца назад +1

      @@auraliax1323 you literally said “the other guys are straight” though. They are still men but we know that this issue stereotypically resides with straight men. So there might have been smth with that but I can’t read the other commenter’s mind so…

  • @Aaakeith
    @Aaakeith 3 месяца назад +159

    Trevor’s voice is incredible, holy moly

    • @kayladay23
      @kayladay23 2 месяца назад

      i thought the same thing!

  • @moveslikeninja1
    @moveslikeninja1 3 месяца назад +82

    I think what Grant is saying about sadness is sort of a coping mechanism for him.

  • @itsRobBass
    @itsRobBass 3 месяца назад +90

    Grant is definitely in love w/Alden but in a non-homosexual way 😅
    Like he def wants to be Aldens #1 but also I dont think he wants to do gay things to him

    • @casualles
      @casualles 3 месяца назад +31

      Yeah, he's probably just emotionally in love with Alden.

    • @StaryzHelios
      @StaryzHelios 3 месяца назад +6

      It called BROTHERHOOD love

    • @oranyeoranye7141
      @oranyeoranye7141 2 месяца назад

      Grant is not gay

    • @Random-sk6hm
      @Random-sk6hm 2 месяца назад +1

      Yeah he's jealous he's losing his best friend. Also Grant is bi

  • @Metonymy1979
    @Metonymy1979 3 месяца назад +82

    Its great to see male friends being kind to each other and men in general being vulnerable

  • @Bringon-dw8dx
    @Bringon-dw8dx 3 месяца назад +108

    Not sure I would want to be married to someone who’s best friend hates me?
    The two people you are most close to in life should get on. Very odd behaviour from the best friend to say he doesn’t like the wife once they are MARRIED.
    If you are gonna object to a friends partner your window is early dating

    • @irisrodrigues194
      @irisrodrigues194 2 месяца назад +6

      After seeing Alden’s reaction, I think he always knew, I think they talked about this before, but him being in love with her he couldn’t really do much. And you can also see Grant stopping himself from saying that his best friend’s wife Is toxic, so that’s probably why he doesn’t like her. Plus, It’s actually not that easy to just like your best friend’s partner, you may be forced to accept their relationship for the sake of yours and your best friend’s relationship, but still not like his partner, as long you respect his choice (which I think It’s what he does, since he retreated his words about Alden’s wife).
      There’s also the fact that It’s also not easy to accept that - after a whole life of just you being the to-go person for him and being just the two of you - he now has to share his best friend with someone else (who obviously spends more time with him). It takes a while to understand and be perfectly fine with that, so stop judging Grant and try to be in his shoes instead.
      (Ps: my native language Is not English, so sorry for any errors).

  • @liltunturi1251
    @liltunturi1251 2 месяца назад +8

    20:47 - Enjoying being sad. I understand it, it is not like suffering type of sad. It is a melancholy. You feel content when you are melancholic and tapping into sorrow. You have known that place for your whole life, you got many memories from those times in the past. It is that bittersweet feeling of nostalgia and overall just something that feels unique to your life experience. Like being in a bubble, when hopelessness feels comforting as it melts your daily stress. The problem comes with the fact that you really cant share that with anyone, it is like living in your own sad world, and you often feel the urge to isolate from friends and family because of that. That is when it becomes harmful.

  • @Bribreezzzyy
    @Bribreezzzyy 3 месяца назад +18

    I understand Grant and the loss of creativity from his sadness.
    It’s mainly an outlet and coping mechanism. But there really is a deep beauty in feeling melancholy because it’s a blessing to feel things. I remember being callous and cold. Numb even.
    Sometimes pain helps me remember I’m human. I’m alive.

  • @awuraadwoa3492
    @awuraadwoa3492 3 месяца назад +18

    Grant
    Please ignore all the annoying comments and know that you're loved and your life is beautiful as it is

  • @iamhazelnuts
    @iamhazelnuts 3 месяца назад +67

    Best friend episodes are the BEST!! Please make more!

  • @deluxional322
    @deluxional322 3 месяца назад +21

    i think Grant just might have gotten really attached to his bsf (i forgot his name) but it affected him in a negative mental way in which he got separation anxiety or smth like that

  • @Elv-One
    @Elv-One 3 месяца назад +36

    Alden is the definition of golden retriever energy

    • @chidimaokereke8372
      @chidimaokereke8372 2 месяца назад

      Yessss and I’m so glad grant has him by his side ❤😢

  • @brynn
    @brynn 3 месяца назад +12

    Romanticizing sadness is sad

    • @staticshockk
      @staticshockk 3 месяца назад +2

      Don't tell him that. He'll think it's cool then since he likes sad things

    • @lisib4835
      @lisib4835 2 месяца назад

      Yeah 😬

  • @manilkasheran2934
    @manilkasheran2934 3 месяца назад +18

    Alden's wife later: Did you know that Grant has a crush on you?
    Alden: What???....nah!

  • @tramosaurus
    @tramosaurus 3 месяца назад +81

    Orin was just so confused by Alden it's the best

  • @tekqist28
    @tekqist28 3 месяца назад +23

    Aldens wife when she reads the comments 😮😮😮😮😮

  • @Arialiszt
    @Arialiszt 3 месяца назад +19

    Grant is such a beautiful soul. He unfortunately romanticizes depression and sadness. I don’t think he loves it I think he finds beauty in it. I hope he gets to a place where he finds beauty in joy and romanticizes happiness and peace. A lot of great art has come from joy ❤

  • @victory4333
    @victory4333 3 месяца назад +69

    I love being happy but that statement Grant made in 21:19 is pretty relatable. For some reason I do get a bit more creative when I am sad. It isn't sth I crave but it does happen. I feel like he probably feels nostalgic alot too and alot of the time that feeling of nostalgia is a beautiful thing at least thats how I feel.

    • @mubaraqoshodi5953
      @mubaraqoshodi5953 3 месяца назад +2

      Fr, I do this, too. Like when I'm sad I'll read a book or draw something and I'll feel at peace like.....idk, I always saw myself as maybe I'm weird like why do I enjoy being sad?

    • @maryanne2025
      @maryanne2025 3 месяца назад +2

      Ive gotten creative music songwriting being a little hopeful or happy about a romance so no you don't have to be sad to get creative,... I think a key is strong emotions....

  • @danzwku
    @danzwku 3 месяца назад +142

    0:31 oo but why does "letting your feelings fly" have to mean "leaving masculinity at the door" ?

    • @Random-sk6hm
      @Random-sk6hm 2 месяца назад +1

      Facts. he should've said toxic masculinity not regular masculinity.

  • @stevenfoster9402
    @stevenfoster9402 3 месяца назад +12

    Jubilee do this with engaged couples!! I feel like this is an overlooked but *crucial* time in people's relationships. And my fiancé and I would love to volunteer!!

  • @JustWingingIt01
    @JustWingingIt01 3 месяца назад +100

    Trevor, dude, no need to suffer. Goth christians exist! 😭

    • @froggie0ribbit592
      @froggie0ribbit592 3 месяца назад +4

      What does being christian have to do with it?

    • @Kennedy_77441
      @Kennedy_77441 3 месяца назад +27

      @@froggie0ribbit592 his friend said he was pretty deeply religious, so I assume that is what he is probably looking for in a future relationship, someone who shares that same value, not that you can't be goth AND christian, because plenty of people are

    • @froggie0ribbit592
      @froggie0ribbit592 3 месяца назад +5

      @KindaK_ ah thank you! Didn't catch that part initially, I don't think I had subtitles on at that point. I appreciate you answering and clearing the question!

    • @Kennedy_77441
      @Kennedy_77441 3 месяца назад +2

      @@froggie0ribbit592 no problemo

    • @TrevloidsEmporium
      @TrevloidsEmporium 3 месяца назад +1

      LMAO suffering is all part of the process B]

  • @kittyfairy662
    @kittyfairy662 3 месяца назад +277

    I feel like grant is secretly in love with alden

    • @niv1499
      @niv1499 3 месяца назад +51

      i can’t believe no one else is talking about this

    • @ally6650
      @ally6650 3 месяца назад +15

      was looking for this comment..

    • @Elowennnnnnnn
      @Elowennnnnnnn 3 месяца назад +12

      Hope the wife sees this comment

    • @twohootsinlove
      @twohootsinlove 3 месяца назад +11

      We were thinking the same thing! I commented the same thing 😂 and someone responded underneath my comment “Alden is freaking married” which idk the relevance to that when I was talking about Grants feelings

    • @keatonhayes6636
      @keatonhayes6636 3 месяца назад +4

      i'm glad someone else said it

  • @Thatmemeguylols
    @Thatmemeguylols 3 месяца назад +114

    Men share heartfelt gratitude and bromantic love, breaking stereotypes around emotional expression

    • @daquonsimmons8240
      @daquonsimmons8240 3 месяца назад +7

      why tf is everyone here gay or bi like jubilee is trying to hard to be inclusive to the point where they are including all gay men I literally heard 7 people say they were gay

    • @Random-sk6hm
      @Random-sk6hm 2 месяца назад

      @@daquonsimmons8240 If you heard 7 people say they were gay then you need to get your hearing checked out. Only 2 of them were gay and 2 were bi. The other 4 were straight but you conveniently didn't mention them

  • @chr85168
    @chr85168 3 месяца назад +34

    “Leave your masculinity at the door and let those feelings fly.” I kinda felt some type of way about that cuz masculinity should also include vulnerability and emotions, that’s what’s called healthy masculinity. What do y’all think

    • @RainbowFlowerCrow
      @RainbowFlowerCrow 3 месяца назад

      I totally agree with you; they should have phrased that differently/in a more respectful way that doesn't insult or infantilize these grown men.

    • @Random-sk6hm
      @Random-sk6hm 2 месяца назад

      Fr they shoudl've said toxic masculinity rather than regular masculinity

  • @mspears_bobobuddytheseniorcat
    @mspears_bobobuddytheseniorcat 3 месяца назад +11

    I’m really loving this Split Decision series and can’t wait to see the next one! Jubilee is such a great channel! ❤

  • @RedDeadReverie
    @RedDeadReverie 3 месяца назад +34

    I’m so happy these guys can be vulnerable with each other. It’s important men express their feelings and have someone to talk to. Guys, please go to people when you need help. Don’t be ashamed to cry or feel sad ❤ Your mental health is important too!

    • @FerretCuddles
      @FerretCuddles 3 месяца назад

      It's been shown in multiple, replicable studies that your suggestion* results in worse psychological damage to men. Anyone with even a beginning introduction to psychology knows that healthy men and women do not process emotions the same way nor should they.
      Tldr You, "Luna23973", don't know what you're talking about and are parroting a platitude because you think it the popular thing to do.

  • @Orange_creamsicle
    @Orange_creamsicle 3 месяца назад +8

    I need this series to keep going

  • @user-ze8bp5ht2j
    @user-ze8bp5ht2j 2 месяца назад +7

    Orin being confused by Alden the whole time is sendingggg me lol that is exactly how i would be reacting to the weirdness

  • @FoougieTV
    @FoougieTV 3 месяца назад +45

    Grant, your best friend is smart for maxing out his 401k!!

  • @katherines3641
    @katherines3641 3 месяца назад +9

    Grant genuinely believes he’s in a relationship with Alden it’s actually crazy and Alden needs to a grow a pair cause how u gonna let ur best friend talk about ur partner like that …

  • @MCBPZ
    @MCBPZ 3 месяца назад +153

    I love ALDEN

  • @twohootsinlove
    @twohootsinlove 3 месяца назад +198

    Grant is in love with his best friend

    • @dcutestluv9023
      @dcutestluv9023 3 месяца назад +2

      Alden is dang married

    • @twohootsinlove
      @twohootsinlove 3 месяца назад +47

      @@dcutestluv9023That doesn’t mean he’s not in love with him (and that also doesn’t mean I think it’s correct - I’m just saying that’s what he’s showing). Grant said he doesn’t like the wife, he says that he gets jealous that he’s spending time with his wife, and just overall everything he said and his behavior towards his friend clearly shows he has feelings beyond a friendship.

    • @sumaiya-ey5zc
      @sumaiya-ey5zc 3 месяца назад +14

      Yah frrr he had no reason to not like the wife accept that he changes around her 😂😂

    • @invisibleghost7415
      @invisibleghost7415 3 месяца назад +16

      @@twohootsinlove??? so you’ve never had a friend get a partner and now you barely see them anymore and miss that? That means you have romantic feelings for them?

    • @twohootsinlove
      @twohootsinlove 3 месяца назад +8

      @@invisibleghost7415 you can miss a friendship without getting upset or jealous towards your friends partner. And you can miss a friend without having to hate or dislike the partner. They shouldn’t go hand in hand. And Grant “missing” his friend isn’t the only reason in this entire video in which he showed feelings that were beyond a friendship. There were many other verbal and visual queues that demonstrated his feelings and I’m not the only one that shares this opinion. As you can see from the likes my comments have gotten, the comments underneath my comment, and other people creating their own comments sharing the same thought and people agreeing underneath their post as well

  • @invisibleghost7415
    @invisibleghost7415 3 месяца назад +104

    “Leave your masculinity at the door”, so being vulnerable is a non-masculine trait now?
    Alright, say less.

    • @nycyg
      @nycyg 3 месяца назад +4

      i think they meant toxic masculinity

    • @imapro2597
      @imapro2597 3 месяца назад

      No that’s not what they meant they are saying to abandon all types of social constructs and anything that may make you conceal your vulnerability.

  • @AnimeFreak4Ever13
    @AnimeFreak4Ever13 3 месяца назад +2

    This is SO important. MORE OF THIS PLEASE!!

  • @SkinnyWakanda
    @SkinnyWakanda 3 месяца назад +49

    9:08 I honestly loved Poptarts more than an actual relationship in high school (and still do)

  • @Kimkat5
    @Kimkat5 3 месяца назад +12

    I don’t think Grant is in love with Allen, but definitely has developed a strong co dependency with Allen. Like the way he says he gets jealous of the attention that his best friend gives to his wife. Obviously don’t know the whole story, but I really do hope he gets therapy one day cause he really has some demons

  • @kmm8801
    @kmm8801 3 месяца назад +68

    Orin casually calling out grant is my fav part of the video

    • @orinhannigan2078
      @orinhannigan2078 3 месяца назад +10

      @kmm8801 He asked an open question and asked us for an honest answer, so I did was I was asked to do. 😊

  • @kevinceka
    @kevinceka 3 месяца назад +5

    This is my favourite Jubilee video seeing these guys open up to each other is very nice.

  • @chandlerpope2072
    @chandlerpope2072 3 месяца назад +9

    We needed to see a pair of Black friends in this mix, our community often struggles with showing the level of vulnerability that these men did so I would have loved to have that platformed

  • @emmarkowsky2497
    @emmarkowsky2497 3 месяца назад +11

    0:32 “leave your masculinity at the door” masculinity can be compatible with vulnerability though… expressing your emotions doesn’t make you any less masculine!

  • @zilness
    @zilness 16 дней назад +1

    Hearing these dudes talk about their feelings gives me second hand happiness.

  • @Ayebaybay.
    @Ayebaybay. 2 месяца назад +4

    Okay so the first guy obviously has a crush on his best friend 🥴 that wife better watch out smh.

  • @cxjar5890
    @cxjar5890 3 месяца назад +69

    I get a feeling Grant never liked that girl in high school...

    • @StaryzHelios
      @StaryzHelios 3 месяца назад +2

      He liked, but seeing hst frnd also like her, then he give her to his best friend. Because he know Alden more than the girl.

  • @arianamichelle1984
    @arianamichelle1984 3 месяца назад +9

    i think grant is like unhealthily obsessed with his best friend

  • @jenakelena4783
    @jenakelena4783 3 месяца назад +11

    THIS IS THE BEST FORMAT YOU GUYS HAVE EVER DONE

  • @GlamsUnknown
    @GlamsUnknown 3 месяца назад +10

    Grant's take on sadness rlly reminded me of that one scene in the movie Little Miss Sunshine where uncle and Dwayne also discuss how sadness creates more than happiness. It's quite an interesting take.

  • @jenakelena4783
    @jenakelena4783 3 месяца назад +6

    this was so entertaining, you made my day thank you❤️❤️❤️

  • @tessayo
    @tessayo 3 месяца назад +16

    I didnt honestly know if men had as deep friendships as women so this is rly beautiful to see that i was wrong

  • @LizethSTAY88
    @LizethSTAY88 3 месяца назад +1

    Excited for the next one

  • @DiegoOrtiz-jx3ze
    @DiegoOrtiz-jx3ze 3 месяца назад +36

    when i was really down bad i found a weird comfort in being sad. i get what grant meant. def not beautiful its not healthy but its a way of finding some sort of light

    • @MCBPZ
      @MCBPZ 3 месяца назад

      he has poetry if you're interested...

  • @derekwong809
    @derekwong809 3 месяца назад +6

    All great guests. Takes a lot of courage to share your emotions in front of millions of people.

  • @jojobigcoat
    @jojobigcoat 3 месяца назад +6

    This was the most genuine, wholesome one yet

  • @calebnissen
    @calebnissen 3 месяца назад +17

    I think this would be really cool to see with older male best friends who have been friends for decades.

  • @SourPickles8
    @SourPickles8 3 месяца назад +2

    This was a really excellent episode.

  • @loomonda18
    @loomonda18 3 месяца назад +15

    Hey Grant, thanks for being so vulnerable and sharing your story with us. You are so loved xx

  • @jillsarah7356
    @jillsarah7356 3 месяца назад +4

    Proud of everyone for their incredible vulnerability and honesty here. That’s awesome

  • @jenakelena4783
    @jenakelena4783 3 месяца назад +1

    I NEED ENDLESS PARTS OF THIS OMG I BEG YOUUUU

  • @abc_cba
    @abc_cba 3 месяца назад +18

    Emmanuel has the best smile, he should smile more - that is his secret weapon, i don't think he knows.

  • @robertlovesgothgirlz
    @robertlovesgothgirlz 3 месяца назад +11

    Haha guys in general are pretty honest during these interactions and it's hilarious

  • @akirakapadia7763
    @akirakapadia7763 3 месяца назад +254

    Orin is actually such a lovely guy

    • @serenityq26
      @serenityq26 3 месяца назад +20

      You spelt mykel wrong

    • @MariTiyana
      @MariTiyana 3 месяца назад +8

      @@serenityq26he blamed Orin when HE peed on him😭

    • @1KingFisher
      @1KingFisher 3 месяца назад +7

      @@MariTiyanaI think you got mykel and Jeremy mixed up

    • @orinhannigan2078
      @orinhannigan2078 3 месяца назад +4

      Thank you for saying that!
      Were you surprised by that for some reason??

    • @mrsstonky.
      @mrsstonky. 3 месяца назад +2

      @@serenityq26saying one person is lovely doesn’t mean another one can’t lol 😭

  • @SM7Lvlogs
    @SM7Lvlogs 3 месяца назад +1

    This was beautiful, thank you

  • @azayzelderegis1655
    @azayzelderegis1655 3 месяца назад +1

    This was so wholesome-I loved the amount of care each of these men had for one another.

  • @RainWalking
    @RainWalking 3 месяца назад +55

    Masculinity is showing how you feel and so is femininity. So why tell them to leave out who they are.

    • @alovehotel
      @alovehotel 3 месяца назад +8

      I think they meant toxic masculinity but that’s the fault on their end. I 100% agree with what you said :3

    • @Daisy99999
      @Daisy99999 2 месяца назад

      Yeah it made it sound like you can’t be masculine and show emotion at the same time. Bad wording

  • @anna.owo.
    @anna.owo. 3 месяца назад +6

    Love to all the guys, they are great. Grand you have my love and support but i do feel you need to talk to a psychologist, i say that as someone who started seeing one recently, it will help you understand your feelings and reasons behind your emotions and acts and get better ways to cope with them.

  • @waterymelon
    @waterymelon 3 месяца назад +5

    For Grant, I get the sadness being nice part. It's a beautiful feeling.

  • @pwetty4r4
    @pwetty4r4 3 месяца назад +6

    I almost couldn't get through the first part but I did and it was worth it and very wholesome 😊

  • @worshipthecomedygodseoeunk4010
    @worshipthecomedygodseoeunk4010 3 месяца назад +9

    i feel like too many people are too judgy with their friends' significant others. a lot of the time the problem is that they dont try to get to know them at all. they often only know what the other person tells them, which often tends to be negative. and if they have a problem with them after interacting with them directly, at least with straight men, a lot of them tend to be lowkey sexist and thats why they have those problems. i feel like because people see friends as more of a permanent thing, and significant others as people who you can just dump whenever you feel like it, even if the friend is toxic, they will still choose them most of the time. people always talk about abusive partners who isolate you from your friends, but what about abusive friends who isolate you from trying to find love?

  • @aqua-mina
    @aqua-mina 3 месяца назад +5

    Refreshing! A lot of the men I grew up with or know, do not talk “feelings” or “emotions”… I wonder if it’s a cultural thing

    • @kamuilasia5813
      @kamuilasia5813 3 месяца назад

      It is. Therapy is a very western way dealing with emotions.

  • @manilkasheran2934
    @manilkasheran2934 3 месяца назад +9

    Jeremy and Orin with the matching sparkly jackets! 😆

  • @bklynkat23
    @bklynkat23 3 месяца назад +1

    I was waiting for this to drop when I saw the casting announcement go out