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00:00 🌟 Genuine interest in others fosters authentic relationships and enriches lives. 01:25 💬 Remembering and using people's names demonstrates respect and strengthens connections. 03:31 🌟 Making others feel important and valued enhances relationships and builds rapport. 04:43 🎧 Active listening demonstrates respect and fosters understanding in interactions. 06:07 🤝 Talking about others' interests cultivates engaging conversations and rapport. 07:17 😊 Smiling is a powerful tool that uplifts mood and fosters positive connections. 08:44 🚫 Avoid criticizing; instead, seek to understand and forgive, promoting empathy and kindness. 10:23 🙌 Sincere appreciation has the power to transform lives and nurture talents. 11:18 ⚔ Avoiding arguments preserves relationships and seeks win-win solutions. 12:13 🙇♂ Admitting mistakes demonstrates humility and integrity, fostering trust and growth.
Read this book when i was 17. Was an extremely shy and awkward kid. Book CHANGED my life. Top 3 best books that was transformative. Thanks for a great reminder of an old goodie!
Same. My parents were boomers and they had this on their shelf. I picked it up in 7th grade. It was transformative. Simply saying a person's name was a huge tactic that earned me "friends". "Hi Stacy!" So simple, so effective for a middle school kid in the US.
This book was in our bookcase when I was a kid in the 60's, My dad raised 5 kids with the info he got from it, He was a salesman until he died in 1999. My sister still has his copy.
I'm really interested in your story. Could u tell it actually helped u and ur brothers/sisters to have better relationships with people through your lives?
This book helped my relationship with co-workers and bosses. I became very popular at work. I had a pretty smooth work life. I still use this principle after the retirement with anyone I meet.
In admitting mistakes it is worth saying not to apologize profusely. To take ownership of a bad outcome relieves others and it’s generally enough . Apologies are powerful but too many gives an impression you are not trustworthy or weak .
Love the book and well done summarizing it. The only personal view that differs from it, based on a little experience, is rather than “avoiding arguments”, key is “finding the right balance between being too compliant and too confrontational”. Keep up!
Exactly. As said in Jordan Petersons books, being to passive in life and agreeable can be disastrous as you are more likely to be manipulated and controlled by people, and you won’t do a damn thing because you are too nice and nod your head to everything.
This book wouldn’t exist if humans could drop their pride for 10 seconds. This book broke my heart. I’ll be what others won’t. Day after day. Year after year
Interesting how these qualities overlap, and it starts as a genuine curiousity about people and life then active listening will teach you a lot then you can talk in terms of the other person's interests, and in a healthy way it should be mutual interest or a common ground interest.
Great video, Tae. How to Win Friends & Influence is one of my favorite books of all time. It taught me of the small details that affect friendships and relationships. Thanks for the reminder of Dale’s great lessons!
I would not say that someone who fought for slavery admitting that he lost the war because of his tactical and strategic mistakes is a good character example. If he admitted that the slavery was wrong after the war, that would have been something that could be given a credit for. At least he did not claim that the war was “stollen”.
In my experience people don't reciprocate these actions so why bother. Most of them are too self involved. It's no fun being on the listening side the majority of the time.
Your experience is interesting. Personally, I find the opposite is true. It is a great joy to listen to people sincerely, after years and years of only caring about my interests and problems.
I've done better in life by being indifferent to people and going against the grain. I often think pleasing others is massively overrated and in the end actually counter productive if you want to achieve your potential.
I enjoy your videos but some constructive criticism I have to make your videos more enjoyable is that you don’t need to keep saying the title of the video as you’re going into each new topic. It is very repetitive and impacts my want to keep watching and to watch more on your channel.
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00:00 🌟 Genuine interest in others fosters authentic relationships and enriches lives.
01:25 💬 Remembering and using people's names demonstrates respect and strengthens connections.
03:31 🌟 Making others feel important and valued enhances relationships and builds rapport.
04:43 🎧 Active listening demonstrates respect and fosters understanding in interactions.
06:07 🤝 Talking about others' interests cultivates engaging conversations and rapport.
07:17 😊 Smiling is a powerful tool that uplifts mood and fosters positive connections.
08:44 🚫 Avoid criticizing; instead, seek to understand and forgive, promoting empathy and kindness.
10:23 🙌 Sincere appreciation has the power to transform lives and nurture talents.
11:18 ⚔ Avoiding arguments preserves relationships and seeks win-win solutions.
12:13 🙇♂ Admitting mistakes demonstrates humility and integrity, fostering trust and growth.
Thanks!
Read this book when i was 17. Was an extremely shy and awkward kid. Book CHANGED my life. Top 3 best books that was transformative. Thanks for a great reminder of an old goodie!
Same. My parents were boomers and they had this on their shelf. I picked it up in 7th grade. It was transformative. Simply saying a person's name was a huge tactic that earned me "friends". "Hi Stacy!" So simple, so effective for a middle school kid in the US.
What were the other two books
This book was in our bookcase when I was a kid in the 60's, My dad raised 5 kids with the info he got from it, He was a salesman until he died in 1999. My sister still has his copy.
I'm really interested in your story. Could u tell it actually helped u and ur brothers/sisters to have better relationships with people through your lives?
This book helped my relationship with co-workers and bosses. I became very popular at work. I had a pretty smooth work life. I still use this principle after the retirement with anyone I meet.
In admitting mistakes it is worth saying not to apologize profusely. To take ownership of a bad outcome relieves others and it’s generally enough . Apologies are powerful but too many gives an impression you are not trustworthy or weak .
I am someone who apologizes too much and I owe myself more credit than pleasing everyone else all the time
Literally in this book right now. Utilizing to help improve my leadership skills as a bank manager and connect with our clients.
I work for a bank too but in the IVR side
Love the book and well done summarizing it. The only personal view that differs from it, based on a little experience, is rather than “avoiding arguments”, key is “finding the right balance between being too compliant and too confrontational”. Keep up!
Exactly. As said in Jordan Petersons books, being to passive in life and agreeable can be disastrous as you are more likely to be manipulated and controlled by people, and you won’t do a damn thing because you are too nice and nod your head to everything.
This book wouldn’t exist if humans could drop their pride for 10 seconds.
This book broke my heart. I’ll be what others won’t. Day after day. Year after year
Why did it break your heart?
@@nathanshane8962because you realize that no one cares about you and they only really care about themselves.
Thank you so much for being such a nice person !
You have been doing a wonderful job and keep working on it
I have this book. Someone gave it me years ago- he thought I could learn something, my older self would agree .
as cheesy as the title sounds, this book has proven to be one of the best books of all time 💯
This was one of the best summaries of the book on RUclips 👏👏👏
I just revisited this book over the past week.
Thank you for this summary. It communicates to me so that I may apply it in my life.
Interesting how these qualities overlap, and it starts as a genuine curiousity about people and life then active listening will teach you a lot then you can talk in terms of the other person's interests, and in a healthy way it should be mutual interest or a common ground interest.
It's nice rereviewing this management/, leadership skills too. Thanks, Ram.
I've covered that book myself. You did a fine outline of it. Great work.
Great video, Tae. How to Win Friends & Influence is one of my favorite books of all time. It taught me of the small details that affect friendships and relationships. Thanks for the reminder of Dale’s great lessons!
You can do all these things authentically and well if you like yourself. Do things that make you feel empowered and proud
Needed this! Thanks for the video!!
Your hair looks so good!!
You had me at Korean BBQ Tacos
Do a video on Dale Carnegie's How to Stop Worrying and Start Living book too
Great great read
This is THE BEST book summary video ever. (I just learned something lol)
I would not say that someone who fought for slavery admitting that he lost the war because of his tactical and strategic mistakes is a good character example. If he admitted that the slavery was wrong after the war, that would have been something that could be given a credit for. At least he did not claim that the war was “stollen”.
thanks
Hair is fire
Honestly, I don't enjoy socializing and I don't like people however I feel this would affect my careerpath and I don't know what to do
In my experience people don't reciprocate these actions so why bother. Most of them are too self involved. It's no fun being on the listening side the majority of the time.
Just a helpful word - seems like you're thinking and looking out for yourself too much
Hey if someone never listens to you or doesn't reciprocate then you should bring that up. If they still don't then you leave
Your experience is interesting. Personally, I find the opposite is true. It is a great joy to listen to people sincerely, after years and years of only caring about my interests and problems.
Everyone has a different piece of the puzzle
How do you correct people on what they did so that they don’t make the same mistake again without criticizing
I've done better in life by being indifferent to people and going against the grain. I often think pleasing others is massively overrated and in the end actually counter productive if you want to achieve your potential.
Please, tell me more about your interest in being indifferent.
No comment?
this book is 4 pages long. the other 200 pages are variations of the first 4.
classic book
Randal Park looks a lot like you Tae Kim!
Thanks for the great videos, Tea!
This is hard for me to process..too fast. But intersting
I never understood the "use their name" one. I find people using my name inappropriately familiar, and off-putting.
The execution of that skill is a skill in its own right. Overuse and improper use can do exactly as you experienced.
That’s interesting, Seth
@eddiedelisio eddie thank you for your comment.
Have a great rest of your day ed
This entire book is just AA for people who don't drink.
🤘
Smile more, react less, people will notice.
I enjoy your videos but some constructive criticism I have to make your videos more enjoyable is that you don’t need to keep saying the title of the video as you’re going into each new topic. It is very repetitive and impacts my want to keep watching and to watch more on your channel.
lmao doesnt work 😢
The book seems kind of sexist. Just saying