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  • @doomslug7515
    @doomslug7515 Год назад +720

    he may be a red pill but he's also a red flag

    • @tristanneal6475
      @tristanneal6475 Год назад +17

      Nailed it

    • @sentientnatalie
      @sentientnatalie Год назад +12

      Not the good kind of red flag, that's for sure!

    • @dionysus_adores
      @dionysus_adores Год назад +16

      More flags than a Christmas parade float

    • @HobieInTheBox
      @HobieInTheBox Год назад +4

      @@sentientnatalie what's a good red flag?

    • @sentientnatalie
      @sentientnatalie Год назад +6

      @@HobieInTheBox The left-wing one, do you celebrate Labour Day on May 1st where you are?

  • @TarisLuna
    @TarisLuna Год назад +1084

    It's always funny how those guys think they figured out ALL women, without having had neutral conversations with even just ONE woman.

    • @LoneWulf278
      @LoneWulf278 Год назад +38

      And they have no intention to. 😂

    • @RaidenMustDie3594
      @RaidenMustDie3594 Год назад +1

      Well when I meet a lady (not approaching them) I treat them like I would a buddy but they stick their noses up at me as if I were a peasant speaking to royalty. You always say women are humans just like dudes but you sure as hell don’t act like it

    • @TarisLuna
      @TarisLuna Год назад +76

      @@RaidenMustDie3594 dude, get a grip on human interaction

    • @RaidenMustDie3594
      @RaidenMustDie3594 Год назад

      @@TarisLuna didn’t I just say I interact with humans? Y’all are super mean and superficial tho, people treat you like humans and you’re appalled by it, so dumb

    • @TarisLuna
      @TarisLuna Год назад +60

      @@RaidenMustDie3594 nah, you came here, bitter and made generalizations.
      Had enough people like you in comments to know that you are not looking for a conversation / tipps or anything, but to sulk and if that doesn't work you'll start to be insulting.

  • @pancake.squirrel
    @pancake.squirrel Год назад +444

    “Don’t ask her what she likes” is a slippery slope for “don’t ask for consent”

    • @audreydoyle5268
      @audreydoyle5268 Год назад +66

      Straight vertical slope

    • @taylorrae3947
      @taylorrae3947 Год назад +35

      Immediately I thought about how the kink community promotes consent per act.

    • @dolphinbanana3053
      @dolphinbanana3053 Год назад +17

      that slope is like 80 degrees

    • @CN-bs9lb
      @CN-bs9lb 4 месяца назад

      Me when I’m in a low iq competition and my opponent is pancake squirrel

    • @pancake.squirrel
      @pancake.squirrel 4 месяца назад +2

      @@CN-bs9lb If you’re not communicating with your partner during an activity that can VERY quickly become deeply traumatic, you are a danger. By not asking them their preferences, you signal that you do not care about them and only care about your personal pleasure. And, of course, people who don’t communicate during sex are more likely to commit sexual assault.

  • @claratalbot7613
    @claratalbot7613 Год назад +220

    "Sell her a dream" just sounds so creepy. Not just because it's manipulative but it puts a woman in a potentially abusive & dangerous relationship. What happens when she finds out that u have been lying to her & pretending to be someone she's attracted to just to get what u want? Best case scenario she will dump u & walk away. Worst case scenario u have now trapped this person into an abusive dependency that could either end deadly for her or with u in jail & her with a life time of trauma

    • @nessyness5447
      @nessyness5447 Год назад +7

      They are not pick up artist, they are just scammers, but in a more dangerous level

  • @bumblebee2822
    @bumblebee2822 Год назад +247

    im like 90% sure my girlfriend would’ve rejected me had i approached her in the ways these guys seem to think work

    • @cheese7119
      @cheese7119 Год назад +28

      Make it 100% sure xD

    • @excessivelyfangirlingbookw3339
      @excessivelyfangirlingbookw3339 Год назад +23

      Definitely. My bf and I’s encounter was quite unconventional and he didn’t behave like a huge asshole so I gave him a chance. I could never go out with one of these “experts” they’re just yuck 🤢

  • @goodbher9244
    @goodbher9244 Год назад +479

    As a man who's very sexually active and bisexual I've never had any issue finding sexual partners without being pushy, getting people drunk, or lying to anyone. So this makes no sense to me. You can love people, show them respect, and still get laid. It's not hard. There are so many women, and men who are okay with honest casual sex.

    • @taylorrae3947
      @taylorrae3947 Год назад +38

      As a pansexual, hypersexual and cisgender female, this is also my exact experience. I also have had experiences turning down straight, cisgender men for being too pushy, trying to get me drunk, lying or being emotionally manipulative for sex. Literally we could all be having amazing, respectful sex, but the patriarchy is still so strong.

    • @susannehuber3996
      @susannehuber3996 Год назад

      @@taylorrae3947 I could not agree more. We would all have amazing sex if there weren’t so many cis gender idiots who fuck up the fucking. Be respectful and honest and you will have good sex more often. Not all the time but definitely a lot more.

    • @Lerian_V
      @Lerian_V Год назад

      @@taylorrae3947 Different tactics work on different women. If the goal is to get sex, whatever it takes to bed her, apart from rape, is worth it. Lying works one hundred percent on every girl. At the end of the day, it all depends on your aim. If it relationship, then you have to be genuine about it. But if it's just casual sex, it really doesn't matter how you land her on your bed as long as you don't force/rape.

    • @taylorrae3947
      @taylorrae3947 Год назад +32

      @@Lerian_V You don't find being intensely manipulative for sex is its own problem? .....

    • @Overseer2579
      @Overseer2579 Год назад +8

      Exactly! All it takes is respect, honest and direct communication, and being yourself ❤😊. And being a good listener. That always is the best part of a hookup

  • @thelittlestpika
    @thelittlestpika Год назад +66

    Pick up "artists" give me anxiety because I know that there are people watching them seriously who will commit crimes when this doesn't work.

  • @LeylaKaratas
    @LeylaKaratas Год назад +427

    as an asexual woman, the whole world of pick up artists is so confusing to me. hooking up with people in the club? ons? teaching men how to be ''great'' in bed (btw it's not by pounding her as hard as possible)? their whole world revolves around sleeping with women. they don't seek fulfilling relationships and love. they don't see women as people but as secs objects and if they're not ''hot'' or don't want to sleep with them, they're worthless and borderline subhuman. this sht is breaking my brain lol

    • @cheese7119
      @cheese7119 Год назад +70

      I also don't understand how can they lie to themselves that they're happy in these kinds of relationship dynamics and then turn around and make jokes about how much they hate their lover or wife :( why are they doing this to themselves? It feels like a cycle of mental torture from which the unhealthy habits arise

    • @blossomtree9384
      @blossomtree9384 Год назад +33

      As another fellow asexual, I recently found out that pounding hard can be very painful (honestly I could've guessed that) and many say slow and soft is better. It's a lot about preference as far as I found out, but I get why it's confusing if you've never experienced it. It also took me a few awkward conversation to collect information about it

    • @Snowicorn
      @Snowicorn Год назад +22

      @@blossomtree9384 I'm asexual too (demisexual, but it still applies) I've read many smut fanfics when I was around 12 and it always baffled me how sometimes they describe pounding super hard as better than going slowly and honestly that's what made me a bit afraid of sex, because the concept already sounded weird and unappealing, but if it's that violent it sounds even worse. I'm glad both me and my partner agree that we don't want that and we both want the soft stuff, because I imagine it could've been a really embarassing situation, considering I have 0 experience and lack proper understanding of sex in terms of being sexual myself

    • @thewhitefalcon8539
      @thewhitefalcon8539 Год назад

      What if this isn't their whole personality but just one aspect

    • @blossomtree9384
      @blossomtree9384 Год назад +16

      @@thewhitefalcon8539 this 'one aspect' says a lot about their entire personality. You can't think like they do and view women like they do but go ahead and be a nice and respectful person because those two contradict. It isn't just one aspect that they're showing us, they're presenting their way of viewing the world and the people in it and that view is absolutely fucking terrifying if you're a woman. It's never just one aspect, it's so much more then that

  • @namelesshenry9939
    @namelesshenry9939 Год назад +493

    Oh dang, brave pick up artists are a thing this world does not need 😬😬🖐️

    • @TheQueerKiwi
      @TheQueerKiwi  Год назад +105

      absolutely not 😅

    • @omgbaybuhhh
      @omgbaybuhhh Год назад +25

      its an insult to everyone else to call them brave i believe.

    • @saturngirl3748
      @saturngirl3748 Год назад +14

      I remember back in the 90s when red pill wasn't a thing men didn't actually understand women, now they think their experts on us.

    • @lordnebo
      @lordnebo Год назад

      young men most definitely need such knowledge with single parent households were mon teaches that men are garbage

    • @pansexualdickhaver6878
      @pansexualdickhaver6878 Год назад +7

      I’m literally only 12 seconds in but I’m going to guess by brave pickup artists,she means “PUA who are getting more and more comfortable with being touchy feely.” Let’s see if I’m right lol

  • @DeMafiaGirl
    @DeMafiaGirl Год назад +58

    These are the men who say "Oh gross she had sex with guys in the past what a ****" but then they sleep with women with a promise of a long lasting monogamous relationship and then throw them away and leave them used in a way that they personally think is gross. Where is the logic. Oh wait its only okay if you do it

    • @Ozzie_Mandias
      @Ozzie_Mandias Год назад

      These are pick up artists... cis-het men who have mastered the ancient art of turning off everyone... from cis women, trans people, non-binary people... leaving only his small band of cis-het men being his cheerleaders.

  • @maggiereid2865
    @maggiereid2865 Год назад +469

    The way they keep calling us “females”😅🚩🚩🚩🚩

    • @tokkia1384
      @tokkia1384 Год назад +33

      I hate it, it’s so dehumanising. 🤮

    • @transmaddie
      @transmaddie Год назад

      Anyone who refers to women as "females" outside of like, certain kinds of scientific studies, is a walking red flag

    • @aneisleeper5515
      @aneisleeper5515 Год назад +15

      They are ferengi disguised as humans maybe

    • @scaredsapphic
      @scaredsapphic Год назад +4

      @@aneisleeper5515 I always think that about these creeps!

    • @ruthperez7985
      @ruthperez7985 Год назад +1

      And those same men are the ones to openly addmitt that a women's chromosome defines them as people is so gross and toxic

  • @rather_be_known934
    @rather_be_known934 Год назад +19

    "Dig until she busts" sounds excruciatingly painful for both parties. Not to mention just not a thing that would work. More like "dig until she fakes it to get it over with" or "dig until she pushes you off."

  • @BlackwingHecate
    @BlackwingHecate Год назад +829

    Thank you for speaking out in favor of normalizing Polyarmory.
    -signed, a Polyamorous transfemme.

    • @tristanneal6475
      @tristanneal6475 Год назад +104

      Polyamory just isn’t normalized enough, hell it’s not even close to being mainstream. People like Queer Kiwi are a godsend

    • @sundalosketch4769
      @sundalosketch4769 Год назад +61

      I hope to see more polymory acceptance so peeps like us can feel more comfortable with others

    • @pl4net4ry
      @pl4net4ry Год назад +65

      fr, I'm monogamous but a close friend is poly and I hate seeing how much shit he gets for it any time he talks about his partners.

    • @LyricTheMusicFox
      @LyricTheMusicFox Год назад +49

      I’m poly and I hate how it’s seen as this weird kink that can’t work for a romantic relationship when it can and does for many people

    • @lurachr
      @lurachr Год назад +45

      @lemonssssssss4 then is not for people who couldnt do that, or couldnt handle whatever everyone wants of their relationship :) but its okay for those who can and do want to have relationships like that!

  • @Non-BinaryembodimentofMrcleans
    @Non-BinaryembodimentofMrcleans Год назад +118

    this video had my jaw wide open, how can someone do this to another human being. sickening

    • @Angel_Bob_
      @Angel_Bob_ Год назад +5

      10/10 username, would stumble upon again XD

  • @transmascdruid77
    @transmascdruid77 Год назад +436

    I'm a transmasc person who is in a relationship with a cis gay man. Literally the first time we had sex, I showed him what to do with a vagina. I took his hand and demonstrated. And as a result of that, we've had mindblowing sex. It's just that simple, people!

    • @puppyqueen5688
      @puppyqueen5688 Год назад +83

      This is great advice for everything, if you don't know how to do something ask someone who does.

    • @nicole-rb4iw
      @nicole-rb4iw Год назад

      it's also incredibly sexy ! having a partner that cares that much abt how to please me would turn me tf on .

    • @Returntonature145
      @Returntonature145 Год назад +3

      trasmasc person?what?

    • @kodadoda5612
      @kodadoda5612 Год назад +1

      @@Returntonature145 transmasc refers to a transgender person regardless of the gender they identify as is more masculine leaning

    • @sundalosketch4769
      @sundalosketch4769 Год назад +22

      It's amazing what knowledge and learning can do! Humans shouldn't stop doing that just for the sake of hating.

  • @sunflowerspirited4974
    @sunflowerspirited4974 Год назад +111

    Wish men would just ask women what they want instead of playing mind games trying to guess. As far as I can tell most women hate this game but are forced to play it so they don’t end up hurt by a manipulative guy like this. I’m sure there are some women that agree with him on some things, like men taking control in bed or whatever, but he says all of it like it’s a blanket statement for all women and that’s just not true.

    • @RaidenMustDie3594
      @RaidenMustDie3594 Год назад +7

      I just want someone to tell me they have the same feelings for me, when they hold my hand they do it because they really want to, that’s what most of us are after, these artists aren’t teaching anything to any men, they’re just trying to sell a product

  • @AnnekeOosterink
    @AnnekeOosterink Год назад +108

    Yeah these guys don't want relationships. They want a trophee. Like, I don't know if you've seen the speech prof at all? He talked about this guy, who literally admitted, out loud, that he didn't think his wife was a person, until they were 10 years into their marriage. He didn't marry her because she was funny, or smart, or anything. He saw her as a thing, an object that he could use for s3xual gratification and as a trophee to show off. That guy never wanted an actual relationship. And all these guys who are of the "I put the niceness in, when will the s3x fall out" mindset do not see women as a human being, and they cannot possibly want a relationship with a woman, if they only see her as a thing.

    • @Wonderoddity
      @Wonderoddity Год назад +3

      I LOVE the speech prof!!

    • @AnnekeOosterink
      @AnnekeOosterink Год назад +10

      @lemonssssssss4 oh I'm sorry, I'm only using my 4th language. 🙄 and spell check tends to mark everything as wrong if you're using more than one language at the same time. How many mistakes do you make in your other languages?

    • @excessivelyfangirlingbookw3339
      @excessivelyfangirlingbookw3339 Год назад +2

      @@AnnekeOosterinkyay a fellow SpeechProf fan! 😍 I’ve come across his videos recently and now I watch everything new the same day. His supportive dad energy just goes through the roof! ↗️📈🧡

    • @luu2532
      @luu2532 Год назад +1

      @lemonssssssss4 don't forget about canadian and Irish english

    • @AnnekeOosterink
      @AnnekeOosterink Год назад

      @lemonssssssss4 Yeah, when you're fluent in 3 foreign languages you get to b!tch about people taking a word form one language into another. Bye.

  • @fugman133
    @fugman133 Год назад +53

    25:27 I think what people neglect to mention is the idea coming from these guys that they DESERVE this lifestyle. You mention here that "you can have" open relationships, fwb and stuff, but also I think it's important to note that you are not OWED these things, and that if they never happen, that is okay.

    • @Anderassi
      @Anderassi Год назад +2

      @@appleswithpeanutbutter609​​⁠The men in question want to know how to bed women, etc. and telling them that they aren’t entitled to it should indicate that there isn’t one clear cut way to that goal. They may never attain their specific goal. We’re being honest.
      To your example, it’s more like Person A wants a rocket ship, so they ask Person B how to get one. (The difference here is that women aren’t asking for a rocketship, the man wants the rocketship. Their goals are not the same). Person B tells them to go to rocket science school (sorry idk what to call it) and they’ll get one. Person C explains that they aren’t entitled to a rocket. Even if they go to university or whatever, they may not get a rocketship. And that is something that Person A needs to know before they find out the hard way. Because they’ll probably flip out if all of their effort was for nothing.
      Also, it’s not like they’ll take our advice anyway. ‘Cause it’s going to be stuff this kind of person doesn’t want to hear. Like “get to know them first” or “seek out places that have women who want sex” or “avoid making overly sexual comments first thing”. People want easy and fast solutions, not real advice.

  • @CosmicVoid_S
    @CosmicVoid_S Год назад +79

    "listen to people with vulvas" yes
    also this made me think of like... a stealth trans guy infiltrating the pickup "artist" community and making videos that look like they're gonna be the same misogynistic bullshit but *actually* he's explaining how to be healthy and respectful, framed in a way these dumbasses might understand
    please I want this to happen for real...

    • @tymondabrowski12
      @tymondabrowski12 Год назад +16

      Tbh it doesn't even need to be a trans man. Just a guy who knows what's up, like the Speech Prof.

    • @CosmicVoid_S
      @CosmicVoid_S Год назад +9

      @@tymondabrowski12 yeah fr it could be any guy or masculine presenting person that could blend in with that crowd, I just thought of a trans guy specifically cuz of how the concept came up in my head
      also I looked The Speech Prof up, yes he's super cool. And of course he has ADHD /pos

    • @jaheriawilson19
      @jaheriawilson19 Год назад

      @@tymondabrowski12 but it won't happen lol

  • @claratalbot7613
    @claratalbot7613 Год назад +29

    There are situations where a power dynamic is in play but both people consent to it, breaks are given, safe words are used, sometimes the dynamic will change to fit both people's needs, etc. Neither person should feel they are obligated to do whatever the other person says nor should they feel pressured into doing something they're not comfortable doing. Otherwise it is abusive & manipulative

  • @emartinezacc
    @emartinezacc Год назад +14

    By the way, it IS illegal to obtain consent by lying. It's called Rape by Fraud.

    • @ZK-ib2wp
      @ZK-ib2wp 11 месяцев назад +3

      What country do you live in so I can move there

  • @FeministCatLadySpinster
    @FeministCatLadySpinster Год назад +26

    It's so weird how these men are so afraid of just *talking* to women.

  • @damejanea.macdonald2371
    @damejanea.macdonald2371 Год назад +208

    I remember reading an erotic novel mostly written from the point of view of the female protagonist. When the first sex scene came along and the protagonist was so orgasmic about how he was slamming into her cervix, it very much broke the mood with an "oh...oh no...."

  • @river-collective
    @river-collective Год назад +24

    Sometimes "pick up artists" give me this feeling that maybe some of them have a kink, but they're aware that it is a kink and not just what everyone is into. But I also don't think they should be introduced to kink if they seemingly don't understand the basics of consent.
    Not just because they keep using dominant. That's only a small part.

    • @tymondabrowski12
      @tymondabrowski12 Год назад +5

      Also they don't realise the difference between the kink and reality. Probably plenty of women likes this hard pounding thing... in fantasy, and then don't want to in reality where things actually hurt.

  • @holachicos8073
    @holachicos8073 Год назад +11

    This is what my ex did. And then when we finally broke up he tried to guilt me about it, and even admitted he changed his whole personality to be with me. This is disgusting 🤢

    • @lacedhexes
      @lacedhexes 4 месяца назад

      I feel like the majority of people get so stuck on one side of the Internet, almost cult-like. It happens with all kinds of topics and not only men are affected. Is it the youtube/ticktock algorithms that gets us stuck in it? On top of that, when will our governments realise that making us susceptible to brainwashing is just gonna destroy this society quicker. I'm happy that at least many people turn to therapy and self analysing these days, especially the younger gens.

  • @Baphomets_Kid
    @Baphomets_Kid Год назад +52

    Here’s the funny thing, maybe its because I don’t live online and I’m a bit older. But after finishing a looooong term relationship, my opinion is that it’s actually INCREDIBLY easy to find a random fling or few dates… the hard part is finding a good fit for you in a long term relationship.

    • @tatiana4050
      @tatiana4050 Год назад +7

      Exactly, you could go to a club and meet even a great person with good personality. But then turns out they work opposite shift than you, and your diets are incompatible and you would have to cook two meals every time, or he is allergic to dogs. Etc.
      I have so much in common with my bf I sometimes worry he must be lying.

  • @GrayTimber
    @GrayTimber Год назад +130

    "Hit it harder" as a sex advice and not the myriad of other things you need to do for the majority of afab people to be satisfied... is usually the biggest sign of a bad partner 😂
    Idk, these types really put me off of trying out dating with my husband. We're both polyam and, while not necessary, we would like to find another partner to share a life with. It's just been strange out there and I'm finding it hard to believe we'll find other people who aren't absolutely odd about relationships

    • @samg6940
      @samg6940 Год назад +24

      I got legitimate phantom cramps from hearing that. Those poor women whose cervixes he's been just pummeling this entire time

    • @Jigglypowerpuffgirl
      @Jigglypowerpuffgirl Год назад +17

      The amount men who don’t believe me when I tell them softer/slower is better for me is tooo high.

    • @RainbowNanaki
      @RainbowNanaki Год назад +20

      @@samg6940 right??? I legit yelped out loud at the idea of “deep penetration” being his only advice, ouch 😭 Even now that I don’t have a cervix anymore, slamming into the end of the road (so to speak) still really hurts!

  • @sereinwu2777
    @sereinwu2777 Год назад +15

    Not only is he a red PILL, he's a red FLAG. Women aren't puzzles that need to be figured out or solved. They are not equipment that needs to be figured out nor do they have a "manual" for what they do or what they're like.

  • @SillyandgoofyAnim8or
    @SillyandgoofyAnim8or Год назад +61

    When I think of the red pill I think of an estrogen pill

    • @geostorm06
      @geostorm06 Год назад +32

      The Matrix is apparently a metaphor for being trans so I think that was intentional.

    • @mrcattoonist4766
      @mrcattoonist4766 Год назад +1

      It's funny because The Matrix was a trans allegory, and most of these alpha male red pillers are transphobic and they don't even know what they're saying is a reference to a trans thing

    • @ms.aelanwyr.ilaicos
      @ms.aelanwyr.ilaicos Год назад +21

      It is 100% intended to evoke that association by the films' writers/directors--a pair of trans women.

    • @electronics-girl
      @electronics-girl Год назад

      I generally see estradiol pills depicted as being blue. I don't actually know, though, because my estradiol is injectable.
      When I think of "red pill", I think of Sudafed.

  • @StardewDanny
    @StardewDanny Год назад +12

    "dont ask, just do"🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩 jail
    genuinely horrifying that men go around having this mentality. consent is the most important part of sex. yes sometimes its awkward to ask questions, it can feel weird or make u feel insecure but that doesnt fucking matter. you just have to do it. it will become less awkward with practice. we were never taught how to communicate about sex, and men have this idea that theyre supposed to imitate some macho dominant guy like they see in porn but you literally cannot just start doing shit like that without discussion and consent beforehand. its a very common mentality among lots of men i think but its shocking to hear him say "dont ask for consent" so bluntly

  • @moodywrites
    @moodywrites Год назад +58

    “Women stay true to their nature and wants what’s better than them, your looks, your money, your status.”
    Me: a woman (who is wealthy, decently attractive), dating a man who is a minority, low financial class, not conventionally attractive.
    BTW, we’ve been happily together for almost a year and plan to get married in the future.

    • @miaomiaochan
      @miaomiaochan Год назад +5

      Hey, PUA guy:
      Answer me this. Why is my former friend, who earns a six-figure income in an IT job and owns multiple homes, still single into his 40s if all women want is men's money? Why did my friend with a master's degree in accounting marry a working-class guy with only a high school diploma? Why did my cousin's ex-husband want to divorce her for having a higher-paying, more prestigious job rather than the other way around?
      Could it be because women actually care about more than just looks, money, and status?
      (By the way, the first husband cheated on his wife with a woman he considered to be more at his "level", and the second guy frequently had loud arguments with my cousin over how much he resented having to be the primary caretaker for their child because she was often away from home earning money for the family. Go figure.)

  • @mrcattoonist4766
    @mrcattoonist4766 Год назад +22

    These people are crazy, it isn't a game, women are people and they're all different, there are no strategies

  • @Gothflowers88
    @Gothflowers88 Год назад +17

    As an Asexual, I never go for looks, it's always about personality and I feel a good vibe ( meaning safe and laid back).
    So people like him wouldn't stand ANY chance with me.
    His personality makes me cringe to the point I rather be alone forever then settle for that.

    • @j.d.s.1837
      @j.d.s.1837 Год назад +1

      Everyone cares about looks, asexual or not. Why do you think babies look cute? So that the mothers and society care for them.
      Looks are objective, and anything other than looks is determined by them. In other words, everyone is born with looks, nobody is born with a personality.
      Personality is simply the system of actions and beliefs derived from one's life experience. The worse off you are in life the higher the chance you will see things for what they are.

    • @derusmares9508
      @derusmares9508 Год назад +2

      @@j.d.s.1837 Ypu are correct about objectivity and how it plays a role in these dynamics, howver, I find it curious that you ignore the subjectivity of life.
      If we are solely based on your world view, the ultra rich and powerful would have the most children and most successful relationships. Yet that's not the case, although objectively, it should.

    • @j.d.s.1837
      @j.d.s.1837 Год назад +1

      @@derusmares9508 The fact that they do not have as many children comes down to both how small the number of good looking people there is and personality issues such as narcissim that stem from their experience with being better looking.
      Again, looks determine life.

    • @Fudgeanimates
      @Fudgeanimates Год назад +1

      @@j.d.s.1837 Yes, they may find someone pretty or handsome, but just not _s*xy_ .

  • @Hayleel710
    @Hayleel710 Год назад +87

    Have a great day savannah! I was just telling my gf about you today and how much I appreciate your content

    • @TheQueerKiwi
      @TheQueerKiwi  Год назад +31

      🥺🥺🥺 that’s so lovely. i hope you’re having a good day also!!

    • @RaidenMustDie3594
      @RaidenMustDie3594 Год назад

      @@TheQueerKiwi ruclips.net/video/jvFYgELj2X0/видео.html

  • @susannehuber3996
    @susannehuber3996 Год назад +14

    I’m a sex therapist and what he says about good sex is maybe the WORST way to have sex. It’s boring and has no satisfaction for the men or the women in this scenario. Good sex is like a well cocked 5 course meal, not a snickers or fries you find on the ground.

    • @Overseer2579
      @Overseer2579 Год назад +3

      Interesting simile 😂. But I agree. Really the key, in my opinion/experience, is listening and checking in. I remember that happening a lot when I hooked up for the first time, and that’s still easily the thing I remember most from that experience

    • @obeythemugglet5359
      @obeythemugglet5359 4 месяца назад

      A well cocked meal? i’ve never heard of that. I guess if I wanna do it right I have to. *unzips pants*

  • @tristanneal6475
    @tristanneal6475 Год назад +21

    I was always skeptical of pickup artists and the IDEA that there’s one way to understand women (even without watching a single vidoe by them), and holy shit they have only confirmed it for me

  • @livewithmanon6443
    @livewithmanon6443 Год назад +11

    He reminds me of a attractive version of my toxic ex. My ex wanted me to be "addicted" to him, he succeeded, and he was pretty abusive (mentally)

  • @Laralikesstuff
    @Laralikesstuff Год назад +37

    Sick af right now, so im happy that i have content to watch from my favourite Queer person now

  • @MareaRayneOleander
    @MareaRayneOleander Год назад +20

    Hot new tip to get and keep women: LISTEN TO WOMEN!

    • @Overseer2579
      @Overseer2579 Год назад +5

      Yes! Listening is the sexiest quality imaginable when it comes to dating or hooking up, in my experience, at least as a bi man. The one time I hooked up, what allowed me to enjoy it most was the fact that the guy checked in with me regularly and we both communicated clearly and listened to each other, and as nervous as I was, that made it much more enjoyable. Main point: LISTEN TO THE OTHER PERSON!

  • @paulhooton5976
    @paulhooton5976 Год назад +77

    Actually Im glad I found your channel, and love that your Christmas vids are not “christmasy” because a lot of RUclipsrs do the vlogmas thing and sometimes I go away thinking would you actually be doing these things if you weren’t a youtuber lm, or are you doing it for the video/content. Thank you Queer kiwi for being original ❤️

    • @arcadiaberger9204
      @arcadiaberger9204 Год назад +2

      It's like the radio stations that advertise "Christmas music-free programming".

  • @coltondrake3215
    @coltondrake3215 Год назад +25

    Yo i want to thank you about 3 years ago i was a very ashamed and insicure 13 year old and when i gaind acsess to the internet im so lucky i cliked on you first. Im very confident in my sexuality gender and body and i owe a huge thanks to you.

  • @poolboyatvampiremansion
    @poolboyatvampiremansion Год назад +40

    Wow it's almost like he's intentionally sabotaging other men's sex life with his horrible advice 🤦🏻‍♂️ basically do the exact opposite of anything he's saying if u wanna do it right
    Edit: spelling mistake

    • @Overseer2579
      @Overseer2579 Год назад +3

      That about sums it up. The minute I stopped listening to a red pill dating coach, or my ex-best friend, I started having so much more of a social life and a dating life and a sex life than I had when I actually WAS listening to them, lol 😂. Says a lot about the validity of their advice

  • @lucyservo6574
    @lucyservo6574 Год назад +14

    I think men look up to other men with status and power and assume that women like that too. Pretty much every woman looking for a serious relationship look for physical attraction and shared values.

    • @Overseer2579
      @Overseer2579 Год назад +2

      Yeah exactly, with shared values being the most important thing. Plus, different people are attracted to different things physically. Not everyone is into the societally confined box of physical attractiveness

  • @mcthurman8822
    @mcthurman8822 Год назад +34

    12:34 people who just approach women on the street are creepy. That is how predators approach victims. Online has made life so much safer for everyone.

  • @mightymeatymech
    @mightymeatymech Год назад +18

    *tiny voice* having STDs also doesn't mean your sex life is over. I've never lied to a partner in the eight years I've had herpes and have only been turned down once bc of it lol.
    But yes, not disclosing your status is really Not Cool™. All my homies get tested and disclose our statuses 😎

  • @princessconsuela398
    @princessconsuela398 Год назад +8

    lmao the part about molding yourself into what she likes reminded me so much of Joe from the show "You"

  • @elezeiaz
    @elezeiaz Год назад +11

    First time sleeping with a new person is always kinda terrible, they don't know my body, my buttons and what I like

    • @shiningkimmy
      @shiningkimmy Год назад

      Do they ask? I don’t know. Haven’t fooled around in over a decade.

    • @michaelaf6580
      @michaelaf6580 Год назад

      Agreed!

    • @derusmares9508
      @derusmares9508 Год назад +3

      I'm curious do they or you try to communicate the things you like?

    • @Musicbased39
      @Musicbased39 Год назад

      Try communication

  • @ghostofabody
    @ghostofabody Год назад +24

    I just have to say, I have officially started collecting impractical Etsy earrings because I'm so inspired by your ✨style✨ (they're in a box as well, cuz that's the only option I've got)
    It's also a way to for me to signal to other queers in the MAGA Bible Belt I live in🤫
    Oh! And I love our Christmas present of your presence❤️ Best version of an advent calendar, I'd say👌

    • @Wonderoddity
      @Wonderoddity Год назад +5

      Hello fellow queer inside the MAGA Bible Belt! 💜

  • @MoonlitBookworm73
    @MoonlitBookworm73 Год назад +22

    Oh god-
    All in favor of sending “pick up artists” to Mars say I

  • @noaccount2494
    @noaccount2494 Год назад +7

    honestly shocked any pickup artist has boundaries. I remember that one tv show that was actually given to pick up artists as like a game show type thing. yuck

  • @doro2597
    @doro2597 Год назад +15

    oh nooooo not the sex advice 😭😭😭

  • @ErutaniaRose
    @ErutaniaRose Год назад +6

    I am demi and personally, I am monogamous through and through--but no hate to polyamoury at all. It's nice to see it being talked about like it is normal so that poly people can gain more acceptance. Everyone is different, and there are many ways people can form relationships-polyamoury being one of them.
    I've always loved that this channel is sex-positive, trauma-informed and giving space to different relationships (such as polyamoury) while also not invalidating ACE peeps (like myself, as an ace-spec). It's a wonderful balance.
    Thank you so much!

  • @Pa5an1
    @Pa5an1 Год назад +9

    Omg when he says “don’t ask her what she wants” it’s just so painfully obvious that he definitely never did that 🤣
    Also, as an aroace, this is extra weird. Why even try to sleep with people? Why be so weird about it? And why would people in a night club go home with someone who hasn’t spoken a single word? Why would you wanna sleep with someone just cause they look nice? It’s just so incomprehensible and I’m so glad I’ll never be the target of any attraction from anyone 😅

    • @ZK-ib2wp
      @ZK-ib2wp 11 месяцев назад

      As a minor with no experience, I also wonder some of these things, though I do get it on some level, being Allo

  • @nireus2299
    @nireus2299 Год назад +4

    on the words of One Topic at the time (directed to those ""artists""):Have you been OUTSIDE?

  • @dandaropa
    @dandaropa Год назад +10

    31:25 I may be misunderstanding this point here, but if not then no! It’s completely okay to be emotionally attached to people, so long as that is reciprocated. When it’s not reciprocated is when the problems come in but in general it’s absolutely fine!

    • @ZK-ib2wp
      @ZK-ib2wp 11 месяцев назад +1

      Exactly! We are humans! Forming emotional social bonds is Our Thing!

  • @transmaddie
    @transmaddie Год назад +4

    In the 10 months me and my ex were dating, we had conversations with 5 of our friends that made them all realise they're chill with polyamoury

  • @miscalotastuff733
    @miscalotastuff733 Год назад +5

    ....... these guys have zero clue. I wonder if not accepting the word no is part of the problem. Not every women is in it for sex. They sometimes just want to have non sexual fun.

  • @RandomUser36536
    @RandomUser36536 Год назад +32

    Day 8 of commenting and asking Queer Kiwi that for April fool's she react to different political comics using sarcastic conservative logic

    • @TheQueerKiwi
      @TheQueerKiwi  Год назад +16

      ooooooooh, that is a v interesting idea 🧐

    • @TarisLuna
      @TarisLuna Год назад +2

      @@TheQueerKiwi yeeees, probably the only April first prank on RUclips that is not making people think their favorite creator stops creating, someone died or something else horrible happened.

    • @Stpunk17
      @Stpunk17 Год назад +3

      @@TheQueerKiwi please that would be so cool omg

  • @8AmazingAcres
    @8AmazingAcres Год назад +17

    Oof, he is really telling on himself and his complete lack of girth with that advice he's giving.

  • @01jbeals
    @01jbeals Год назад +3

    A lot of the time young men AND young women end up with an attitude like this is via experience with immature teenage/early 20’s relationships …. that are profoundly toxic & immature.
    And if it’s not from immature relationships then it’s to make money off videos like that. Straight up.

  • @jan_Atu
    @jan_Atu Год назад +13

    Remember to rest, posting every day sounds like so much work. I'm sure nobody will mind if you miss a day. Take care of yourself

  • @pinkgiraffe378
    @pinkgiraffe378 Год назад +1

    It's so brave of you to talk so openly about your bpd and the abusive relationship you were in, and I'm sure it's helping so many people and making them feel less alone, so thank you.

  • @fennaknaepen9906
    @fennaknaepen9906 Год назад +9

    That man makes me feel disgusted!!

  • @Perepeteia
    @Perepeteia Год назад +2

    the hip thrust part had me dead😂😂 dude, so this is how I find out I'd be the best "digger"(not my words, he said it) if only I had sth to dig with 🙃😂srsly though, the "don't ask" advice is terrifying

  • @shiningkimmy
    @shiningkimmy Год назад +6

    I’ll admit. I like it deep, but not the way he describes it. Way he describes it, I see a train crashing into another train.

  • @danyforhumans
    @danyforhumans Год назад +6

    hey Savv. I'd like to tell you how much I'm enjoying this dialy videos til christmas, they really cheer me up, specially this one bc I was feeling like a massive piece of garbage but after hearing this dude I see what actual garbage people are and I'm good so thank you sm.
    but jokes aside, can't believe its almost 2023 and there's still so many men that can't grasp the idea that women are human beings who exists for themselves, but here we are. I love how you handle all these misogynists assholes with wisdom and humour, it really creates a content that's one of a kind. Ily and hope you are doing alright

  • @Overseer2579
    @Overseer2579 Год назад +4

    Here’s the key to good sex, in my experience as a bi dude: be a good listener. If you’re a good listener, everything else will fall into place just so

  • @chrissant6277
    @chrissant6277 4 месяца назад +4

    This video is so full of contradictions even your own comment section doesn't listen to what you say. Tis an amazing world we live in

  • @davinasaur73
    @davinasaur73 5 месяцев назад +3

    Genuine question: why would it be more creepy for someone to approach another in the day/in the mall rather than at night or at a club? In my understanding it’s a public place and well lit so it’s less dangerous, but I could absolutely be wrong! Just curious what others think :)

  • @JennaGetsCreative
    @JennaGetsCreative Год назад +3

    You're spot on, most of his prior partners got bored and faked it 🤣

  • @vg1384
    @vg1384 Год назад +4

    I think the best advice comes from queer people because we both know what to do and how it feels like so its easier to explain

  • @killerbunny7206
    @killerbunny7206 Год назад +24

    Hahaha, his sex advice sounds like it would be more fun for everybody when everyone stays at home and madurbate.

  • @princessofhell4639
    @princessofhell4639 Год назад +5

    The fact he said the quiet part out loud

  • @VexRavenhardt
    @VexRavenhardt Год назад +2

    Lol "understand how the female brain works"
    Bruh, I have one of those and I don't know how it works.

  • @ray_luce
    @ray_luce Год назад +9

    Love your shirt and earrings they are amazing

  • @arcaneSae
    @arcaneSae Год назад +4

    I don't think dating is that hard. They are just shit at it because they want a possession not a partner

  • @geekgirl_luv4262
    @geekgirl_luv4262 Год назад +3

    Why do pickup artists always say that “money, looks, and status” are the three most important traits when it comes to finding a relationship? To me those are the least important. And as an asexual, I especially could not care less about looks. The things that are most likely to make me interested in someone are intelligence and if they treat other people with respect(and if I’m being entirely honest they also probably have to be a nerd because otherwise I have no clue what we’d talk about). I just want to be with someone who I like as a person and enjoy spending time with, and I feel like the same is true for most other women.

    • @somerandomturtle4775
      @somerandomturtle4775 4 месяца назад +1

      People value those things because they're indicitave of having your shit together and being able to take care of yourself. You probably wouldn't get it because you're asexual, but most people wouldn't go out of their way to interact with an unemployed basement dweller in search of a relationship. Although personality is agruable more important than appearance, appearance is what intially attracts, hence the term attractiveness.

  • @burnttoaster4165
    @burnttoaster4165 Год назад +6

    I take the clear pill.

  • @arynpreddy8318
    @arynpreddy8318 Год назад +4

    Aren’t all clubs “singles clubs” or did I just learn about something

  • @pinkgiraffe378
    @pinkgiraffe378 Год назад +3

    They're really talking about women like we're aliens or something... Like come on, we're people just like you.

    • @debanikgoswami4834
      @debanikgoswami4834 Год назад +1

      Unfortunately there are many socially inept guys out there who don't know how dating works . These douchebags brainwashes them and make them toxic . We need to help those guys to develop decent social skills .

    • @diamondgirl698
      @diamondgirl698 11 месяцев назад +1

      I mean I am an Aro/Ace alien I guess the joke is on him 👽🌠🌈

  • @EmpoDaddy99
    @EmpoDaddy99 Год назад +10

    I used to listen to him for fitness advice... sad to see he's gone down this route (Edit: to add, I try to do exactly the opposite of what he's saying and be a decent human being and I have multiple sexual partners, I really don't like this guy lol)

  • @FIRXFLY
    @FIRXFLY Год назад +4

    your daily videos have been the highlight of my days lately! thank you so much for brightening up my days

  • @elysian_5839
    @elysian_5839 11 месяцев назад +2

    I would like to see a pick up artist attempt to successfully pick up neurodivergent person

  • @pinkgiraffe378
    @pinkgiraffe378 Год назад +2

    No but it really shows how lowly men like him view women, as they believe other men over women about how to please women, and don't get how ridiculous that is.

    • @debanikgoswami4834
      @debanikgoswami4834 Год назад +1

      Unfortunately there are many socially inept guys out there who don't know how dating works . These douchebags brainwashes them and make them toxic . We need to help those guys to develop decent social skills .

  • @isacocca3187
    @isacocca3187 Год назад +12

    I'm momentarly sick from the 4th covid vaccine, thank you so much i can't wait to se what is happening with pick up artists lol

  • @hellolove5613
    @hellolove5613 Год назад +1

    This is interesting transition from what I recall about The Game where it seemed to be the only goal was to hook up at least once. And now it looks like it’s moved into keeping them coming back? Is the plan that one day the manipulation tactics are going to advance to the point where we walk down the aisle without recognizing that we’re marrying somebody we don’t like? Dude, just go to therapy.

  • @pinkgiraffe378
    @pinkgiraffe378 Год назад

    I saw the thumbnail text and how he's smirking into the the camera and I'm already scared. I haven't even watched it yet. 😭

  • @mirandacamelio4151
    @mirandacamelio4151 Год назад +3

    I wouldn't be surprised if they felt this remaining 10-20% of women are the ones who just aren't into men 😒😒

    • @Returntonature145
      @Returntonature145 Год назад

      Well 10% of women are not into men or strictly not into men

    • @mirandacamelio4151
      @mirandacamelio4151 Год назад

      @@Returntonature145 yes, but specifically as a roundabout way to say "All women only like these types of guys"

  • @dklee.01
    @dklee.01 Год назад +1

    i’m obsessed with ur lil pigs they’re so so cute 🥰

  • @ellicurus
    @ellicurus Год назад +2

    Oh my good lady in heaven, can we just talk, for a moment, about how scary a man “just taking charge” or the whole “don’t ask her, just do it” in bed can be? (I mean without prior discussion and consent, not things you’ve both agreed to like role play and positions you’ve already said you like) It’s just like, yeah that’s so sexy when you remind me of a bad experience you didn’t bother to ask me about, trigger me another panic attack baby.

  • @justbeingme7965
    @justbeingme7965 Год назад

    The way you said “you are really pretty to him” is something I would dooo

  • @derusmares9508
    @derusmares9508 Год назад +1

    The biggest factor which creates these "gurus" is that there is no concrete alternative for young people (especially men) as to how to go about dating, besides apps (which suck even when they work) Before, most of courting was done through family ties or religious institutions.
    Moreover, without religion, strong culture, and strong family structure most societies end up failing long term as a result of declining population figures and growing social unrest.
    The sad part is that either you take the archaic religious approach (which I'm sure we are all aware of the negatives) or you get what we have now (very sociopathic, game-afied, anarchy)
    The solution in my head is to create spaces/ open forums for people to go and socialize. Kind of like bars, but without drugs or annoying loud music. Imagine a library setting, but people go there with the knowledge that you are going to meet and talk to people. Perhaps there's even sections like "dates" "conversations" "learning"
    This would be ideal because it does t require you to use drugs, would ideally be free, and doesn't require you to have a social group to meet people.
    Lastly, we should invest more resources into mental health treatment as well as access, that way we reduce rates of mental illness. By doing so, allow people to be prepared to participate in long term healthy relationships as well as fwb stuff.

  • @brattygrl81
    @brattygrl81 6 месяцев назад +1

    I personally think that it's important for women to look at these men in terms of how they think not how we think of them. Unfortunately there is a lot of dark psychology going on here. For example, these kinds of people (I'm not going to leave out manipulative women) will date individuals that they deme "low value". The reason is because they are more likely to have low self esteem. Even if someone is very attractive, it's much easier to treat them like they are "low value" if they have low SELF value. This is something that I've learned from being abused by partners. I'm not attempting to victim blame; I'm just trying to point out that self esteem is public enemy #1 to an abusive person. It's always the abusers fault, especially the dark psychology.

  • @3nbyBl3uI3I2
    @3nbyBl3uI3I2 Год назад +1

    I feel like people like this use money/status/looks as the end all be all of what gives a person worth, because they can trick themselves into thinking it's 'factually' correct. Actual values like honesty, kindness, courage, etc can't be measured and put on a graph for the fanboys to show their coworkers

  • @nu--13
    @nu--13 Год назад +1

    6:06
    Today I learned my partner is not an emotional investment but a Segway into a transaction joke 🍬

  • @crunchybanana6489
    @crunchybanana6489 Год назад +7

    Brave (derogatory)

  • @rebeccatomlin3916
    @rebeccatomlin3916 Год назад +1

    These guys must be so exhausted if this is truly how they think the world works. I’m tired just trying to keep up in a video my my 😅

  • @EnbySloth
    @EnbySloth Год назад +3

    To the Red pill think, incels and Pick up artist (PUA) have pretty similar views on women because they are both part of the so called menosphere. Incels and PUA see Woman as somethink that has only worth in the context of sex, the differens is that PUA have sex.

    • @debanikgoswami4834
      @debanikgoswami4834 Год назад

      Unfortunately there are many socially inept guys out there who don't know how dating works . These douchebags brainwashes them and make the toxic . We need to help those guys to develop decent social skills .

  • @wouter1636
    @wouter1636 Год назад +8

    a pick up artist lying about his age what a suprise :P

  • @pinkgiraffe378
    @pinkgiraffe378 Год назад

    The fact he literally admitted and was so straight up about the fact he's telling people to manipulate women is insanely fucked up. Oh my god.