The whole "he can't help himself" nonsense is so offensive. It's the responsibility of women to deal with a sexual predators problem? Absolutely not. That man and his wife can both kick rocks.
I'm not defending the dude, it sounds like he needs his hands cut off. That said, if he got hosed down with pepper spray every time he did something inappropriate, he'd probably quit pretty quick.
@@om617yota8 Yes, but the second a woman takes the law in to her own hands and actually does something about it SHE will be the one who's locked up. Injustice.
Yet somehow, women flock towards it despite the obvious red flags. Imagine how much better the world would be if, instead of reproducing with freaks and allowing their heinous genetic traits to carry on, women simply say "no" to them.
The wife is now an predator too. She actively plays a part in providing victims for her husband. As a survivor of this, they know and keep going willingly.
There have been numerous partners who assist their men in finding victims, as well as providing the illusion of safety to unsuspecting victims. The wife is as bad as her husband and should be treated accordingly.
@@noahhabbershaw8177no one said that...but you are no longer a victim...if you are providing your husband with the victims. You are no longer innocent in any of it. If you stay woth him when he does all thos horrible stuff to woman. You are part of the problem
Her friend is exactly the type of woman to offer up another unsuspecting woman to satisfy him. Because it's beyond mind-blowing that she would stay with him after doing that to anyone.
This caller should document every call she makes to the DA's office, because eventually he will be prosecuted, and the DA's office will need to be investigated for their lack of action.
That's why I advise abuse and SA victims to insist on filing a report even if they say "there's not much we can do." Even if nothing comes of it, there's a record for future reference.
@@EmpressMermaidI wish they’d change the law and make it so that multiple victims can prosecute under the same jury trial between them all there’s plenty of evidence and pattern of behaviour for a jury to convict.
The friend can’t do anything about his behavior but she is also complicit, if I knew my spouse was a sexual predator AT THE VERY LEAST I would not have my female friends or family come around.
Being a sexual predator ..._does not mean they like kids your interpretating the word predator ... Meaning children and it's not accurate. If u listen to the video.... His targets were adults. Can it happen yes but being a sexual predator doesn't necessarily mean you're a child pedophile
After calling the police on my own husband, I found out 66% of women stay with their husbands after these types of situations (and that was when children were involved), and only 13% call the police. I had no luck finding a support group. Disgusting statistics. 😒
@@CMM726 I kinda agree with both of you. From what I understand, sexual predators tend to have a type (or at least that's the current theory), so it's unlikely he'll go after children but it's also possible. Like you said, they primarily target those who are vulnerable. EDIT: About one third of all child predators are adults who are not pedophiles.
She's being emotionally abused and manipulated. She's hoping that he will change, but that's not going to happen. She needs to put down the Hopium pipe. I hope and pray she will leave him.
@@pamelarangel7104manipulated how?????? He told her and admitted it. She’s not manipulated. She is the type of mom that will watch her husband rape her kid!
This was the most powerful show I've seen Dr John do. The one time I had someone behave like this was decades ago, when the wife of a coworker went into the kitchen and slipped her hand down my then-husband's pants. He came and told me about it, and I went to her husband, told him what had happened, and he said, "she does that sort of thing all the time - it's all in being playful." I said, "we don't play that way here - take her home and never come back." I found out later that, indeed, that was a pattern with her. Good God, what kind of circle of friends allow that kind of crap?!
The husband is as sick and disrespectable as her. They have no shame. Good you confronted the husband and made it very clear you both do not tolerate this type of nonsense.
We’re they swingers? That seems like a swinger move(not condoning it). They lose all sense of boundaries and what is proper. Good for you for saying, “hell to the no, get out!” 🙏🏽
You can’t be friends with her because eventually it will put you in danger. I had a friend who was married to an abuser, she wouldn’t leave but one night showed up at my door beaten & bloody. I let her in & a few minutes later there he was banging on my door shouting he was going to kill her & me. Thank God my husband was there to take care of him. My kids were toddlers at the time. We all could have been hurt or worse. Police were called, she declined to press charges (this was 30+ years ago). She left with her abuser & I never saw or spoke to her again. I have no idea what happened to her. But I wasn’t going to put my family at risk.
You cannot stay in a friendship with someone that is in this situation. You can be there at arms length, but you WILL get sucked into all of that and possibly bring danger to yourself. It is really unfortunate, but you have to protect yourself and your family first.
My brother in law molested his 3 daughters for years, and when they finally went to the cops, the police did nothing because the girls mom decided not to press charges. This was in mohave County, Arizona
Someone close to me was molested by a relative. They took it to the police and were told because there was not a minor involved, and it wasn't an assault, there was nothing they could do because they don't have the resources to go after cases like this. So it's not surprising these ladies were told this.
Yea that’s malicious incompetence. Gotta report that police station to the feds. Perhaps they do have funding issues, but if so, they need to re-appropriate funds to prioritize violent/threatening crime investigations.
@@philwill0123 even if no charges are officially pressed, involving the police can still intimidate a creep to keep their hands to themselves, especially if it generates a report that can be followed up on if he’s reported multiple times by different people. What if he’s serially molesting people and nobody says anything cuz each of them individually thinks that nothing will happen? If that happens, he just keeps on doing it. That’s why lots of molestors aren’t caught until they’ve done it a lot of times. And that’s why it should ALWAYS be reported.
@@Syzygy_Bliss I'm not disagreeing with you, I'm stating to to the original poster why police can't do anything but record it and why a DA or prosecution can't do anything. Problem is, people have a skewered view point that just by reporting molestation/ SA or r@pe, there is an automatic court case like law and order. That's why red pillers love to try and make out there are more fake accusations, than real accusations ( and strangely they ways talk about them or there best friend being falsely accused multiple times of SA, which is a scary statistic as me, my friends or family don't know even one person falsely accused... But they know multiple). The police and DAs only work on. Slam dunk wins. In the UK, 97% of reported rapes/ SA don't even get to court. The 3% that do, 1 in 3 result in conviction, because most rapes are acquaintance rapes by someone known to victim, and no physical evidence, so he said, she said. And juries are reluctant to put away defendants because they are presented as nice men with great futureswho "misunderstood" and the victims as borderline sluts. So basically if you are reported, you have a 99% chance of getting away with it, unless you have physical evidence or a recording of what happened or a confession. I. E it's difficult for the system to believe singular evidence or testimony. I didn't suggest "don't report it".
Hey! Maybe report your DA to the state. Our governor has removed a couple DAs for not doing their job. It’s even worse to me that he seems to possibly be targeting single mothers. That is not ok! ETA: Could you review the business he has on google or something to warn others? I think a lot of people look at that kind of stuff when looking at a potential new job.
Yes! Report the DA to the state. Document every call to their office that went unanswered or excused. Warn others of them personally and in business. You may feel like a Karen but you aren't. This is for the protection of others because this man will escalate if he hasn't already.
Caller If you are reading this...I applaud you. You're very brave and courageous. Thank you for standing up for what's right. Also, you don't know if this guy has gone further with others who haven't reported it or, (what's even more concerning), his own child. Keep the faith and keep up the good work. You're awesome!!
I got felt up by a friend’s boyfriend on a night out years ago, told some of the other girls and they said he’d done the same to them. Told the girlfriend herself and she said I was lying and jealous that she had a boyfriend and I didn’t 🙄🤦🏻♀️
I know I wouldn’t! I once had to tell a friend who was strung out and being abused with her baby present and at risk that I would do everything to help her leave but if she doesn’t I will do everything in my power to ensure her kid gets removed. “I will call every agency daily. I will make sure You lose her. And you can hate me and never speak to me again. But your child needs protection more than you need a friend. One day you’ll thank me. Bc the day your sitting in prison for life bc something happened to your child is the day you’ll say to me, why didn’t you intervene?” I told her she was too sick to see the truth and I was the only person on earth who knew the truth. That makes it my responsibility to do something bc one day God will ask me what I did. My answer won’t be nothing. She left, is clean, and kids doing great.
In regard to the serial predator, speaking from experience he is not just doing this with women over 18. He will continue this for a lifetime and hold jobs where he can do this to other women. He then will actually try and convince people that he has a gift of empathy! Someone needs to take this guy down. Everyone get together at one time and go to district attorney
I recently had a argument with a lady who said you shouldn’t call the cops on mentally ill people who batter you because it doesn’t help them get better. 🤦🏻♀️ Allowing the abuse doesn’t allow them to get better either and if you’re in danger you need the cops. Period. It’s sad the person won’t do the work to get better but you don’t need to be their victim sacrificed on the alter of mental illness.
Crazy and actually getting consequences for their actions is often a wake up call. Unless someone is in a hallucination their is no reason why your mental health should cause them to hit someone.
Where the hell were the other husbands that were there & why haven't they ALL checked this guy if not completely pummeled him for even thinking of doing that anywhere but especially while they're all on vacay!! I would be seething mad as a husband & as a man among other women.
I often wonder if women who stay in these situations come from a background where inappropriate sexual conduct was present in the family history and it feels familiar or is not seen as a dealbreaker. Sort of like someone who has an alcoholic parent and they're attracted to alcoholics as an adult.
Perhaps she is afraid to leave because if she does he will get to be with the kids when she is not there. This may be to protect them as he will get shared custody.
Thank you so much for this video. Something similar is happening in my family and the victim is choosing to stick with the abuser and bring him around his other victims. I needed to hear, "They're choosing to opt out of your friendship circle." I'm building some hardcore boundaries and loving them from a distance. Thank you.
My boyfriend sexually abused me for most of our relationship and one of the last times my friend picked me up from his house crying in a tshirt and underwear and demanded we go to the police department. There was physical evidence and they DA still didn’t go forward with it. My sisters partner is sexually inappropriate with one of their children and more than one person has reported it, and our county has never even done an initial check-in with the kids. Our system fails us every day.
The only concern I have with his response is that the wife might be abused and afraid to leave. I'm not sure that changes the response, but make sure she knows that you are 100% there for her if she decides to leave him.
I think she doesn't want to live a good life . I wish caller would have said the type of business he had. Sounds possibly self employed. That makes his victims easier targets
I recently made this decision as well. I was so worried about being a bad/judge-y friend and didn’t want to hurt feelings, but when it comes down to it, the offender made those wrong decisions, the offender didn’t care about the feelings of his victims nor the lifelong impact his actions have. He can’t be trusted and he made his bed. I now have kids, and my kids’ safety comes first.
This man is going to escalate and your job is to protect you snd yours. Be supportive of the other victoms, i dont see how you can help the wife. Maybe a really frank discussion with the wife for a last ditch effort. Then get out. Be gentle with yourself and supportive of the other victims. Its going to be hard. Im sorry this happened to you all. He ruined a lot of lives & probably isnt done, yet.
Totally agree with Dr. D. Hell no. This is such egregious, undeniable, repeated assault. I would tell your friend you love her and care deeply for her, but you cannot continue to subject yourself to being around this guy and condoning their relationship by being her friend.
Im a huuuuge fan so i gotta tell ya these red backgrounds are not flattering. Dr John is a good lookin dude and these pics are not doing him justice. Help him!
@@StephanieWitmer-iq5pvyes! Hes adorable! These new pics are killin me. Doesnt even look like the same person. Then put “HE’s A PREDATOR” next to his face in a weird pic and im like NOT COOL
I really don't like the new colour scheme either . It seems more brash , sensationalising , not so kind and human . He looks more stressed and less inviting.
Keep calling the D. A. Warn your friend she is complicit and can also be prosecuted. They can lose custody of their child. The media can also access this information, and ,when they do, the FIT REALLY HITS THE SHAN! It can become so public your friend's reputation is shot to hell. Remind her that society has a cage for these predators. It's called prison! She could also spend time behind bars.
As someone who has been a victim of sexual abuse due to a sexual predator it was my sisters fiancé at the time. The whole shutting your body thing is so real I could not feel my body. I always thought that if something like that happened to me I would fight as hard as I could. But after that experience I know better. My sister left her fiancé and is doing so well now. Wish this wife would do the same.
As someone whose father-in-law is this way, this breaks my heart. My mother-in-law had so much shame from her husband's actions and had few close relationships due to staying with him. I know she wanted to leave, but she was pregnant with her second when she found out and had no job. I wish someone could have helped her get out all those years ago.
Addition: Rather than call the DA's office, go there in person, as a group if they'll cooperate. It's a lot harder to brush things off when you are there and not leaving until something is done. Still not interested in what you have to say? Gee, maybe you need to discuss this with the governor! D. A.'s have been taken down over more minor things than this before. This is big!
ADULTS stayed quiet. One spoke up so the others did. This man is a danger and a predator. You tell your friend you will allow her to stay with you if she leaves him and will financially help out for 2 months while she leaves him (or something you could do). Then you respectfully wish her well but you cannot be around a predator for your safety and children’s safety.
Like Dr DeLony says the wife is a complicit to her husband's situation. Per her friend, "This perspective that she has that like he has no control over this b/c he is a sexual addict."🤦🏻♀️. She is fully aware yet in denial at the same time, which is scary and inexcusable. What more is he capable of b/c he can not control himself? The fact that a child is in that household is scary too. As for the husbands I wonder if they spoke to him and set boundaries before kicking him out as it's not specified🤷🏻♀️. As for the friends who are fully aware of the situation and what some of them have encountered it's best to stay away.
The cognitive dissonance of saying he can’t control himself while also saying he promised he’ll stop and I believe him is wild!!! She knows he’ll continue but she doesn’t want to believe it
People can generally be characterized by their 5 closest relationships. This is both because people choose to be around people like themselves, but also because your friends will change you. Proverbs 13:20: Whoever walks with the wise becomes wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm
About 6 months before I was married my husband's uncle was arrested for pedophilia. I immediately told my fiance his uncle wasn't welcome at the wedding. He and his mother both told me he is innocent until proven guilty. I started asking family if they knew anything about this. Found out my soon to be sister in law was in the room when it happened. I was stunned her own mother and siblings didn't believe her. Only to find out they never asked anyone around the uncle if this could be true. They wanted to have blinders on. My soon to be husband wouldn't tell his uncle we weren't inviting him. I had to. I should have known then not to marry this person. Core values were very different. It ended in divorce.
Instead of judging your friend for staying with that man, since you don't know what personal trauma she is going through, just keep yourself safe from him. And be available when your friend has the strength to break away.
Better yet, let the friend know that when she (the wife) is ready to LEAVE THE PREDATOR and ABUSER, you will be there. Until then, you CANNOT CONDONE her choice of sticking with this sexual PREDATOR. This assholes wife has a friend support group that would be (or seems like) happy to help support her in any way to help her get out of that situation. She doesn't want to bad enough, and she is going to live in denial as long as she can. Until she hits bottom with this POS, there isn't anything the friend (caller) can do for her.
The indecent exposure is clearly sexual offending and he will escalate to rape eventually. And if he was truly out of control, he would try it on with a woman who has a husband who is likely to smash him. But he doesn't, he chooses vulnerable single Mums. His wife is in denial and is enabling and allowing him to offend. And how disgraceful of the DA's office not to pursue a prosecution. What are they going to have to say for themselves when he does rape a woman? If he hasn't already.
I do feel sorry for the wife, what else is going on there? She does sound broken. I think the caller mentioned it may have been an abusive situation? If so, then she could be either too broken or scared to take any action about that. Basically, I would still keep a communication channel open to her if she decides she needs to exit. That the predator goes after single mothers says a lot I think, looking for other women with not much perceived power (or maybe not a husband that will knock his teeth out). It is hard to know without knowing more details.
It sucks to feel like you’re abandoning your friend, but to protect everyone else, you’ve got to say in no uncertain terms: “Melania, you’re opting out of our friend group.”
This should be reported to CPS. The wife should be told in no uncertain terms that she either kicks her husband out or her child will be removed from the home. She’s part of the problem by ignoring what he’s doing, & if he molests their child, she can also be held accountable depending on what state she lives in. She needs to wake up & get real. Her husband isn’t going to stop what he’s doing unless he’s in prison. A parole officer who has had paroled s** offenders in his caseload told me that there’s really no rehabilitating them. Sooner or later, they reoffend, have their parole revoked, are sent back to prison.
Sex addiction is VERY DIFFERENT than sexual predation. Sex addicts don't generally sexually assault people. He isn't a sex addict, he's a predator and needs immediate treatment or jail
That wife is CHOOSING to be part of this predatory behavior bt staying and excusing him, so she's as complicate as HE IS!! I have NO SYMPATHY for her at this point!! KEEP CALLING THE DA, COUNTY COMMISSIONER, AND STATE LEGISLATURES. Youl wil be surprised how that can start to shed light.
@@user_abcxyzz yep be a 24/7 sex party if single moms knew of his skills and availability be 8-10 women a day once the word gets out the dude on the down low getting multiple single moms a day as is
I usually agree with Dr. John, but I think he missed the mark here. The heart of the question is what do I do with my friend who has made a really bad choice (Staying with a predator). You DON'T try to control your friend's choices. You set really strong boundaries where you friend knows where you stand on the issues, and you let them know that you will never spend time with the two of them. He will not be allowed near you or your family. You don't throw out your friend like dirty dish water.
Before I can even listen to this, my answer is no. I feel bad for your friend, but please don’t do it. It doesn’t matter whether the predator is a friend or the friends spouse/significant other. It’s dangerous. If you have kids, it’s even worse. Stay away!
The wife is providing cover for the husband. Vulnerable women would give more trusted access to themselves when a man looks happily married. Sounds like he is using his wife to gain access to her friends (who have their guard down) through her. She is literally enabling him so guilty too. One day she will have to answer why she propped up a rapist.
I love this channel & dr John!! these thumbnails as of late though are throwing me off. They sorta make him look like he’s a stroke patient. All love just wanted to express some feedback to see if I’m the only one (very possible lol)🤣
If he didn’t have control over his actions why did he choose to prey on these women when his wife was not physically present? Because he’s a fucking predator
The wife of the predator has 2 options stay accept and continue to enable or leave. As for the friend making the call. Exactly as was discussed here. Have the exit conversation….. I can no longer continue this freindship for the safety and well-being of myself and my family.
That's the problem with the criminal justice system And district attorney's being elected officials. Once elected it all becomes about their conviction rate and instead of prosecuting the hard cases they'll just dismiss them and go after the slam dunks allowing guys like this to continue to escalate until it's easy to prosecute. which unfortunately leaves somebody either severely injured or dead most of the time. This dude has gotten away with it multiple times now so he thinks hes untouchable.
What good does it do to anybody to file criminal charges you already know you can’t prove beyond a reasonable doubt? Especially risking double jeopardy in the process?
I would be more than happy to take my pants off with my girlfriend alone in our bedroom, but in front of all her friends, not so much. Lol. Caller was a good person. Cut ties I say.
I once had to tell a friend who was strung out and being abused with her baby present and at risk that I would do everything to help her leave but if she doesn’t I will do everything in my power to ensure her kid gets removed. “I will call every agency daily. I will make sure You lose her. And you can hate me and never speak to me again. But your child needs protection more than you need a friend. One day you’ll thank me. Bc the day your sitting in prison for life bc something happened to your child is the day you’ll say to me, why didn’t you intervene?” I told her she was too sick to see the truth and I was the only person on earth who knew the truth. That makes it my responsibility to do something bc one day God will ask me what I did. My answer won’t be nothing. She left, is clean, and kids doing great. She was mad at first but I told her “someone’s gotta love you enough to tell you some hard truths, and someone’s gotta care enough about your child when you were going through some stuff.” She knew I was only tough with her bc I cared. I told her if she wanted to come hit me she could but one way or another that kid was leaving that house.
He is also calculated. He is making sure his wife is completely isolated even from household employees. She will have nobody left and he will torture her and the child. I'm not saying she should be friends with the wife, but maybe give her family a heads-up when she is ready or is forced to leave.
This whole conversation infuriates me. Being a survivor from sexual assault, I couldn't imagine being friends with anybody who is in a relationship with a predator. The relationship ends there. Over a decade ago I ended the relationship with my friend for this very reason. Her dad was a predator. We could not be friends anymore. Losing a friend is hard. Losing a friend can be very tragic and I don't think it's talked about enough. But, for her sake and sanity, she needs to leave this friend alone.
Church community can be a great thing, but you constantly hear these stories about how tight knit social groups will self protect an individual at the cost of innocent chilren.
The whole "he can't help himself" nonsense is so offensive. It's the responsibility of women to deal with a sexual predators problem? Absolutely not. That man and his wife can both kick rocks.
I'm not defending the dude, it sounds like he needs his hands cut off. That said, if he got hosed down with pepper spray every time he did something inappropriate, he'd probably quit pretty quick.
@@om617yota8 Yes, but the second a woman takes the law in to her own hands and actually does something about it SHE will be the one who's locked up. Injustice.
Some families and even culture don’t put accountability on men when it comes to their urges
@@mistermanman Yup unfortunately that's how it'd be.
@@mistermanman maybe they all can appeal for a restraining order against him.
Don't be friends with danger.
This is the perfect comment
@paulS6696He wouldn't be wrong though! 🤣
So say hypothetically The wife was getting beat. All of her friends should abandon her And just let her get beat?
This can’t be said loud enough!
Yet somehow, women flock towards it despite the obvious red flags.
Imagine how much better the world would be if, instead of reproducing with freaks and allowing their heinous genetic traits to carry on, women simply say "no" to them.
The wife is now an predator too. She actively plays a part in providing victims for her husband. As a survivor of this, they know and keep going willingly.
Ghislane.
There have been numerous partners who assist their men in finding victims, as well as providing the illusion of safety to unsuspecting victims. The wife is as bad as her husband and should be treated accordingly.
True who knows what will happen in the future
Then I guess there are no abusive relationships and the woman is always to blame. I guess if a woman's being beat it's her She didn't fall in line
@@noahhabbershaw8177no one said that...but you are no longer a victim...if you are providing your husband with the victims. You are no longer innocent in any of it. If you stay woth him when he does all thos horrible stuff to woman. You are part of the problem
Her friend is exactly the type of woman to offer up another unsuspecting woman to satisfy him. Because it's beyond mind-blowing that she would stay with him after doing that to anyone.
Like Hilary Clinton.
@@leapinglaura7343Cringe, is trump and ivonca on you list
I thought the same thing.
What do you think attracted her to him to start with.
She enjoys it.
This caller should document every call she makes to the DA's office, because eventually he will be prosecuted, and the DA's office will need to be investigated for their lack of action.
I 100% agree with you, but “he said/she said” are hard cases to fight in court.
@@joshuacox581 True, but the more 'she's' there are, the easier it is to prove.
THIS!!!👏👏👏👏
That's why I advise abuse and SA victims to insist on filing a report even if they say "there's not much we can do." Even if nothing comes of it, there's a record for future reference.
@@EmpressMermaidI wish they’d change the law and make it so that multiple victims can prosecute under the same jury trial between them all there’s plenty of evidence and pattern of behaviour for a jury to convict.
It really makes me sick to my stomach when sexual predators have kids. My heart breaks for this baby.
The friend can’t do anything about his behavior but she is also complicit, if I knew my spouse was a sexual predator AT THE VERY LEAST I would not have my female friends or family come around.
Or any of their children.
She does not care .
@@lademoiselleketoret6958depends who the target is . Here, it's single moms, not kids. Predators have a type, not just open season.
I would not be married to a predator. You can keep your friends and family safe but not the strangers he will force himself on when the well dries up.
"Bull crap on a stick, on a pony, in a box, out on the beach somewhere." HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAA Best John response ever. 😂😂😂
Isn’t she worried about their child’s safety? Sexual predators often graduate to going after children. Two cowards.
Being a sexual predator ..._does not mean they like kids your interpretating the word predator ... Meaning children and it's not accurate. If u listen to the video.... His targets were adults. Can it happen yes but being a sexual predator doesn't necessarily mean you're a child pedophile
@@moderator7169the jump isn’t as crazy as you think!! S abuse is about power and control, not attraction. They target the vulnerable.
She probably looks the other way at him messing with the kid, woman like this usually do. Act like they didn't know
After calling the police on my own husband, I found out 66% of women stay with their husbands after these types of situations (and that was when children were involved), and only 13% call the police. I had no luck finding a support group. Disgusting statistics. 😒
@@CMM726
I kinda agree with both of you. From what I understand, sexual predators tend to have a type (or at least that's the current theory), so it's unlikely he'll go after children but it's also possible. Like you said, they primarily target those who are vulnerable.
EDIT: About one third of all child predators are adults who are not pedophiles.
"He admits it....but she stays!" WTH!
She's being emotionally abused and manipulated. She's hoping that he will change, but that's not going to happen. She needs to put down the Hopium pipe. I hope and pray she will leave him.
@@pamelarangel7104manipulated how?????? He told her and admitted it. She’s not manipulated. She is the type of mom that will watch her husband rape her kid!
I agree @@pamelarangel7104
@pamelarangel7104 or she enjoys it too.
This was the most powerful show I've seen Dr John do. The one time I had someone behave like this was decades ago, when the wife of a coworker went into the kitchen and slipped her hand down my then-husband's pants. He came and told me about it, and I went to her husband, told him what had happened, and he said, "she does that sort of thing all the time - it's all in being playful." I said, "we don't play that way here - take her home and never come back." I found out later that, indeed, that was a pattern with her. Good God, what kind of circle of friends allow that kind of crap?!
Hey man, GOOD FOR YOU for making that call, WE DO NOT PLAY THAT WAY HERE beyond proud of you
The husband is as sick and disrespectable as her. They have no shame. Good you confronted the husband and made it very clear you both do not tolerate this type of nonsense.
We’re they swingers? That seems like a swinger move(not condoning it). They lose all sense of boundaries and what is proper. Good for you for saying, “hell to the no, get out!” 🙏🏽
That's so terrible. And it will be harder to stop her because she is a woman. Thank you for standing up for your husband.
@@kellharris2491EXACTLY. They probably tell the guys to just "take it as a compliment." Like NO that's just as much assault as any other.
You can’t be friends with her because eventually it will put you in danger. I had a friend who was married to an abuser, she wouldn’t leave but one night showed up at my door beaten & bloody. I let her in & a few minutes later there he was banging on my door shouting he was going to kill her & me. Thank God my husband was there to take care of him. My kids were toddlers at the time. We all could have been hurt or worse. Police were called, she declined to press charges (this was 30+ years ago). She left with her abuser & I never saw or spoke to her again. I have no idea what happened to her. But I wasn’t going to put my family at risk.
You cannot stay in a friendship with someone that is in this situation. You can be there at arms length, but you WILL get sucked into all of that and possibly bring danger to yourself. It is really unfortunate, but you have to protect yourself and your family first.
Hurt people, hurt people 😢
‘Bull crap on a stick, on a pony, in a box out on the beach somewhere’ 😂😂😂👍
ha ha ha yeah, I know the subject matter wasn't funny, but when he said that, my drink came outta my nose!
@@deborahjames3113 it reminded me of the flea bit in Emperor’s New Groove lol
My brother in law molested his 3 daughters for years, and when they finally went to the cops, the police did nothing because the girls mom decided not to press charges. This was in mohave County, Arizona
Absolutely awful that that should have even been the mom's decision to make.
that's crazy
In Australia, it is not the mother’s decision .
It's shocking how abusive, evil sexual predators will find weak women to exploit to basically help them get away with preying on others.
Disgusting!
Someone close to me was molested by a relative. They took it to the police and were told because there was not a minor involved, and it wasn't an assault, there was nothing they could do because they don't have the resources to go after cases like this. So it's not surprising these ladies were told this.
Yea that’s malicious incompetence. Gotta report that police station to the feds. Perhaps they do have funding issues, but if so, they need to re-appropriate funds to prioritize violent/threatening crime investigations.
@@Syzygy_Blisswithout it appearing on videocamera, it's again a he said/ she said scenario for cops, especially if no violence inflicted
@@philwill0123 even if no charges are officially pressed, involving the police can still intimidate a creep to keep their hands to themselves, especially if it generates a report that can be followed up on if he’s reported multiple times by different people. What if he’s serially molesting people and nobody says anything cuz each of them individually thinks that nothing will happen? If that happens, he just keeps on doing it. That’s why lots of molestors aren’t caught until they’ve done it a lot of times. And that’s why it should ALWAYS be reported.
@@Syzygy_Bliss I'm not disagreeing with you, I'm stating to to the original poster why police can't do anything but record it and why a DA or prosecution can't do anything. Problem is, people have a skewered view point that just by reporting molestation/ SA or r@pe, there is an automatic court case like law and order. That's why red pillers love to try and make out there are more fake accusations, than real accusations ( and strangely they ways talk about them or there best friend being falsely accused multiple times of SA, which is a scary statistic as me, my friends or family don't know even one person falsely accused... But they know multiple). The police and DAs only work on. Slam dunk wins. In the UK, 97% of reported rapes/ SA don't even get to court. The 3% that do, 1 in 3 result in conviction, because most rapes are acquaintance rapes by someone known to victim, and no physical evidence, so he said, she said. And juries are reluctant to put away defendants because they are presented as nice men with great futureswho "misunderstood" and the victims as borderline sluts. So basically if you are reported, you have a 99% chance of getting away with it, unless you have physical evidence or a recording of what happened or a confession. I. E it's difficult for the system to believe singular evidence or testimony. I didn't suggest "don't report it".
Hey! Maybe report your DA to the state. Our governor has removed a couple DAs for not doing their job.
It’s even worse to me that he seems to possibly be targeting single mothers. That is not ok!
ETA: Could you review the business he has on google or something to warn others? I think a lot of people look at that kind of stuff when looking at a potential new job.
Yes! Report the DA to the state. Document every call to their office that went unanswered or excused. Warn others of them personally and in business. You may feel like a Karen but you aren't. This is for the protection of others because this man will escalate if he hasn't already.
Good idea - leaving s review on the company
@@chelsmariaForce a report even if they will not charge .
Caller If you are reading this...I applaud you. You're very brave and courageous. Thank you for standing up for what's right. Also, you don't know if this guy has gone further with others who haven't reported it or, (what's even more concerning), his own child. Keep the faith and keep up the good work. You're awesome!!
I got felt up by a friend’s boyfriend on a night out years ago, told some of the other girls and they said he’d done the same to them. Told the girlfriend herself and she said I was lying and jealous that she had a boyfriend and I didn’t 🙄🤦🏻♀️
@@izzyash2031 exactly! They didn’t last, obviously.
Why would you be friends with a woman that excuses this predatory behavior😢
the "sisterhood" between women is almost unbreakable
@@TheSnoozeFoxIts fake, theres no true sisterhood. She just worried about being ostracized socially by the other women.
@@Circee11 and rightfully so she is.
@@ladinialauda3769She's spineless.
I know I wouldn’t! I once had to tell a friend who was strung out and being abused with her baby present and at risk that I would do everything to help her leave but if she doesn’t I will do everything in my power to ensure her kid gets removed. “I will call every agency daily. I will make sure You lose her. And you can hate me and never speak to me again. But your child needs protection more than you need a friend. One day you’ll thank me. Bc the day your sitting in prison for life bc something happened to your child is the day you’ll say to me, why didn’t you intervene?” I told her she was too sick to see the truth and I was the only person on earth who knew the truth. That makes it my responsibility to do something bc one day God will ask me what I did. My answer won’t be nothing. She left, is clean, and kids doing great.
In regard to the serial predator, speaking from experience he is not just doing this with women over 18. He will continue this for a lifetime and hold jobs where he can do this to other women. He then will actually try and convince people that he has a gift of empathy! Someone needs to take this guy down. Everyone get together at one time and go to district attorney
🎯🎯🎯
Film it too. Public backlash might motivate the da
so he must have underage victims because you knew someone who did?
I guess every college date-rapist must be a pedo too?
I recently had a argument with a lady who said you shouldn’t call the cops on mentally ill people who batter you because it doesn’t help them get better. 🤦🏻♀️
Allowing the abuse doesn’t allow them to get better either and if you’re in danger you need the cops. Period. It’s sad the person won’t do the work to get better but you don’t need to be their victim sacrificed on the alter of mental illness.
Crazy and actually getting consequences for their actions is often a wake up call. Unless someone is in a hallucination their is no reason why your mental health should cause them to hit someone.
It's not your problem they're mentally ill.
Where the hell were the other husbands that were there & why haven't they ALL checked this guy if not completely pummeled him for even thinking of doing that anywhere but especially while they're all on vacay!! I would be seething mad as a husband & as a man among other women.
it sounds like he's targeting single mothers. the caller mentions the victims as single moms so I'd be willing to bet that's why
What? Lol women hate it when men stand up for them. Look how many reacted when a man who routinely beat women died from an overdose in 2020.
You can't stay her friend because she is condoning it. She is making a choice.
I've never had the best self esteem, but how poorly must you think of yourself to stay with a man like this!?
I often wonder if women who stay in these situations come from a background where inappropriate sexual conduct was present in the family history and it feels familiar or is not seen as a dealbreaker. Sort of like someone who has an alcoholic parent and they're attracted to alcoholics as an adult.
Perhaps she is afraid to leave because if she does he will get to be with the kids when she is not there. This may be to protect them as he will get shared custody.
Thank you so much for this video. Something similar is happening in my family and the victim is choosing to stick with the abuser and bring him around his other victims. I needed to hear, "They're choosing to opt out of your friendship circle." I'm building some hardcore boundaries and loving them from a distance. Thank you.
My boyfriend sexually abused me for most of our relationship and one of the last times my friend picked me up from his house crying in a tshirt and underwear and demanded we go to the police department. There was physical evidence and they DA still didn’t go forward with it.
My sisters partner is sexually inappropriate with one of their children and more than one person has reported it, and our county has never even done an initial check-in with the kids.
Our system fails us every day.
The only concern I have with his response is that the wife might be abused and afraid to leave. I'm not sure that changes the response, but make sure she knows that you are 100% there for her if she decides to leave him.
I think she doesn't want to live a good life . I wish caller would have said the type of business he had. Sounds possibly self employed. That makes his victims easier targets
My typo error..she WANTS to live a good life and willing to turn a blind eye...
She is complicit! she is predator. She knows what is going on! This man will be preying on his kids soon.
The minute it goes to this she has a duty to leave. No excuses.
Loving these Delony mugshot thumbnails lately.
They’re creepy 😂
Mugshot thumbnails 🤣🤣🤣
Omg! Thanks for the giggles! 😘👍
No! They’re CREEPY!
They did him dirty on this one. He looks older!
Hard is leaving him. Hard is not her staying. What happens when he does it to a teen babysitter or a friend who’s 13 and looks mature
“Looks mature” that sounds revolting, also sounds like a dead man speaking, all I hear is you don’t wanna live no more.
I recently made this decision as well. I was so worried about being a bad/judge-y friend and didn’t want to hurt feelings, but when it comes down to it, the offender made those wrong decisions, the offender didn’t care about the feelings of his victims nor the lifelong impact his actions have. He can’t be trusted and he made his bed.
I now have kids, and my kids’ safety comes first.
You're a good mom!
This man is going to escalate and your job is to protect you snd yours. Be supportive of the other victoms, i dont see how you can help the wife. Maybe a really frank discussion with the wife for a last ditch effort. Then get out. Be gentle with yourself and supportive of the other victims. Its going to be hard. Im sorry this happened to you all. He ruined a lot of lives & probably isnt done, yet.
Nah she's an enabler for life
Unless it is done as an Intervention where others’ are reporting HE did it to them, she will never see it, accept it.
Totally agree with Dr. D. Hell no. This is such egregious, undeniable, repeated assault. I would tell your friend you love her and care deeply for her, but you cannot continue to subject yourself to being around this guy and condoning their relationship by being her friend.
Well said 👏👏👏
I don’t understand the question. Leave this friendship.
Im a huuuuge fan so i gotta tell ya these red backgrounds are not flattering. Dr John is a good lookin dude and these pics are not doing him justice. Help him!
My thought when I saw the thumbnail was that someone on his team must hate him 😂
@@StephanieWitmer-iq5pvyes! Hes adorable! These new pics are killin me. Doesnt even look like the same person. Then put “HE’s A PREDATOR” next to his face in a weird pic and im like NOT COOL
I thought Dr John got exposed 😂
I really don't like the new colour scheme either . It seems more brash , sensationalising , not so kind and human . He looks more stressed and less inviting.
Keep calling the D. A. Warn your friend she is complicit and can also be prosecuted. They can lose custody of their child. The media can also access this information, and ,when they do, the FIT REALLY HITS THE SHAN! It can become so public your friend's reputation is shot to hell. Remind her that society has a cage for these predators. It's called prison! She could also spend time behind bars.
Exactly!!
As someone who has been a victim of sexual abuse due to a sexual predator it was my sisters fiancé at the time. The whole shutting your body thing is so real I could not feel my body. I always thought that if something like that happened to me I would fight as hard as I could. But after that experience I know better. My sister left her fiancé and is doing so well now. Wish this wife would do the same.
As someone whose father-in-law is this way, this breaks my heart. My mother-in-law had so much shame from her husband's actions and had few close relationships due to staying with him. I know she wanted to leave, but she was pregnant with her second when she found out and had no job. I wish someone could have helped her get out all those years ago.
Ugh! I hope you don't let your kids around him!
This was one of the best videos...for SO MANY reasons.
They can civilly sue this man. Get several women in together and find a good attorney.
John, you handled this one very well. Thank you.
Addition: Rather than call the DA's office, go there in person, as a group if they'll cooperate. It's a lot harder to brush things off when you are there and not leaving until something is done. Still not interested in what you have to say? Gee, maybe you need to discuss this with the governor! D. A.'s have been taken down over more minor things than this before. This is big!
ADULTS stayed quiet. One spoke up so the others did. This man is a danger and a predator. You tell your friend you will allow her to stay with you if she leaves him and will financially help out for 2 months while she leaves him (or something you could do). Then you respectfully wish her well but you cannot be around a predator for your safety and children’s safety.
Like Dr DeLony says the wife is a complicit to her husband's situation. Per her friend, "This perspective that she has that like he has no control over this b/c he is a sexual addict."🤦🏻♀️. She is fully aware yet in denial at the same time, which is scary and inexcusable. What more is he capable of b/c he can not control himself? The fact that a child is in that household is scary too. As for the husbands I wonder if they spoke to him and set boundaries before kicking him out as it's not specified🤷🏻♀️. As for the friends who are fully aware of the situation and what some of them have encountered it's best to stay away.
Willingly staying in any relationship is voluntary, not victimization.
If he really can't control himself then that makes him even more dangerous, I can't believe a wife would cosign this kind of predatory behavior.
The cognitive dissonance of saying he can’t control himself while also saying he promised he’ll stop and I believe him is wild!!! She knows he’ll continue but she doesn’t want to believe it
This guy on a vacation with a group that has children is scary.....I hope he gets the help he needs and that the wife and child stay safe.....
There's no help for this bs
"I hope he gets the help he needs" attitude is why this guy is emboldened to act the way he does.
@@AmonAnon-vw3hr Well, Karma is real, help or no help, he'll have to pay.....
he didn't go after any children, so why is that scary?
If he is that flagrant with his behavior, and she is so weak... imagine what is in store for the poor baby!!!!
There's no questions here. If he violated friends and she stays. .DONE
Always so cute at the end with your ‘shuu’’
People can generally be characterized by their 5 closest relationships. This is both because people choose to be around people like themselves, but also because your friends will change you. Proverbs 13:20: Whoever walks with the wise becomes wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm
About 6 months before I was married my husband's uncle was arrested for pedophilia. I immediately told my fiance his uncle wasn't welcome at the wedding. He and his mother both told me he is innocent until proven guilty. I started asking family if they knew anything about this. Found out my soon to be sister in law was in the room when it happened. I was stunned her own mother and siblings didn't believe her. Only to find out they never asked anyone around the uncle if this could be true. They wanted to have blinders on. My soon to be husband wouldn't tell his uncle we weren't inviting him. I had to. I should have known then not to marry this person. Core values were very different. It ended in divorce.
How decent men haven't firmly dealt with this violent criminal amazes me
They know the DA *would* prosecute their actions, and it also sounds like this guy's wife would testify against them.
It amazes me too!
The guy seems to only target women without a support system, like single mothers who he knows have no one to stand up for them.
Men used to, lynching was a thing.
Then women got into power and began insisting on "rehabilitation" "non-violence" and "second chances"
He can definitely control his actions given he waits until his wife is out of the room and is targeting single moms 🙄
Sometimes I think that people don't think.
I am totally using bullcrap on a stick on a pony in a box out on the beach somewhere 😂😂😂😂😂
Caller, be my friend. You're amazing.
“I don’t let My friends do hard things” But Your friend lets her husband prey on You and Your friends. No…not Your friend!!! Let her go.
Love all the expressions on the thumbnails. 🤩
Would all those involved feel the same when he starts sexually assaulting their kids?
That does suck! It feels like you're leaving a victim behind! My big question would be does her friend really want help but can't say it!
Stay friends. I would say no.There are just too many risks.
Instead of judging your friend for staying with that man, since you don't know what personal trauma she is going through, just keep yourself safe from him. And be available when your friend has the strength to break away.
Better yet, let the friend know that when she (the wife) is ready to LEAVE THE PREDATOR and ABUSER, you will be there. Until then, you CANNOT CONDONE her choice of sticking with this sexual PREDATOR. This assholes wife has a friend support group that would be (or seems like) happy to help support her in any way to help her get out of that situation. She doesn't want to bad enough, and she is going to live in denial as long as she can. Until she hits bottom with this POS, there isn't anything the friend (caller) can do for her.
@@ladyhawk9032It’s like dealing with an addict :(
The man's wife should just divorce him and get full custody of their baby.
The indecent exposure is clearly sexual offending and he will escalate to rape eventually. And if he was truly out of control, he would try it on with a woman who has a husband who is likely to smash him. But he doesn't, he chooses vulnerable single Mums. His wife is in denial and is enabling and allowing him to offend. And how disgraceful of the DA's office not to pursue a prosecution. What are they going to have to say for themselves when he does rape a woman? If he hasn't already.
I do feel sorry for the wife, what else is going on there? She does sound broken. I think the caller mentioned it may have been an abusive situation? If so, then she could be either too broken or scared to take any action about that. Basically, I would still keep a communication channel open to her if she decides she needs to exit.
That the predator goes after single mothers says a lot I think, looking for other women with not much perceived power (or maybe not a husband that will knock his teeth out). It is hard to know without knowing more details.
She either has no self esteem or she's a predator herself
The question is, why is this even a question??
It sucks to feel like you’re abandoning your friend, but to protect everyone else, you’ve got to say in no uncertain terms: “Melania, you’re opting out of our friend group.”
This should be reported to CPS. The wife should be told in no uncertain terms that she either kicks her husband out or her child will be removed from the home. She’s part of the problem by ignoring what he’s doing, & if he molests their child, she can also be held accountable depending on what state she lives in. She needs to wake up & get real. Her husband isn’t going to stop what he’s doing unless he’s in prison. A parole officer who has had paroled s** offenders in his caseload told me that there’s really no rehabilitating them. Sooner or later, they reoffend, have their parole revoked, are sent back to prison.
he would molest his own child because he's preyed on women his own age?
This show proves that common sense isn’t so common.
Sex addiction is VERY DIFFERENT than sexual predation. Sex addicts don't generally sexually assault people. He isn't a sex addict, he's a predator and needs immediate treatment or jail
That wife is CHOOSING to be part of this predatory behavior bt staying and excusing him, so she's as complicate as HE IS!! I have NO SYMPATHY for her at this point!! KEEP CALLING THE DA, COUNTY COMMISSIONER, AND STATE LEGISLATURES. Youl wil be surprised how that can start to shed light.
Put it out to the community. Black-list him. Hell, didn't they used to form hunts for people like this?
If he is attractive that would make it 10 times worse the single moms come running from miles Away
He's not if he looked like Chris Hemsworth he wouldn't be considered a predator.
You meant white-list him😅
This is not the 1600s fool
@@user_abcxyzz yep be a 24/7 sex party if single moms knew of his skills and availability be 8-10 women a day once the word gets out the dude on the down low getting multiple single moms a day as is
I usually agree with Dr. John, but I think he missed the mark here. The heart of the question is what do I do with my friend who has made a really bad choice (Staying with a predator).
You DON'T try to control your friend's choices. You set really strong boundaries where you friend knows where you stand on the issues, and you let them know that you will never spend time with the two of them. He will not be allowed near you or your family. You don't throw out your friend like dirty dish water.
Before I can even listen to this, my answer is no.
I feel bad for your friend, but please don’t do it.
It doesn’t matter whether the predator is a friend or the friends spouse/significant other. It’s dangerous.
If you have kids, it’s even worse. Stay away!
Exactly she's choosing to stay with him
This call is also a reminder that the police aren't the help they're made out to be...
The wife is providing cover for the husband. Vulnerable women would give more trusted access to themselves when a man looks happily married. Sounds like he is using his wife to gain access to her friends (who have their guard down) through her. She is literally enabling him so guilty too. One day she will have to answer why she propped up a rapist.
I love this channel & dr John!! these thumbnails as of late though are throwing me off. They sorta make him look like he’s a stroke patient. All love just wanted to express some feedback to see if I’m the only one (very possible lol)🤣
Not a stroke patient 😭😂 They did throw me off too; I'm not really a fan of the new thumbnails either.
Hi Doctor John, there's a radioactive killer catfish in my lake. Should I go swimming?
Yes.
It's dangerous for him to be in the house with children call the cops before those kids are abused please
Y’all got to change this thumbnail! 😂
Desantis suspended and replaced the Orlando area state attorney. I’d give them a call now that Andrew Bain is in charge.
Should we stay friends? NO! NO! NO!
So, because it was just several grown women of sound mind accusing him, they did nothing. Great job.
If he didn’t have control over his actions why did he choose to prey on these women when his wife was not physically present? Because he’s a fucking predator
When 2 people marry, they become one being, with that said you must part ways
The wife of the predator has 2 options stay accept and continue to enable or leave.
As for the friend making the call. Exactly as was discussed here. Have the exit conversation….. I can no longer continue this freindship for the safety and well-being of myself and my family.
I would not stay friends with her. She is not willing to leave and it’s best to end the friendship.
They need to be worried about the kids, especially if he gets a kick from the whole power thing. He’s dangerous.
That's the problem with the criminal justice system And district attorney's being elected officials. Once elected it all becomes about their conviction rate and instead of prosecuting the hard cases they'll just dismiss them and go after the slam dunks allowing guys like this to continue to escalate until it's easy to prosecute. which unfortunately leaves somebody either severely injured or dead most of the time. This dude has gotten away with it multiple times now so he thinks hes untouchable.
What good does it do to anybody to file criminal charges you already know you can’t prove beyond a reasonable doubt? Especially risking double jeopardy in the process?
Florida is an excellent self defense state. As a woman, I carry nearly everywhere I go. All women should.
I would be more than happy to take my pants off with my girlfriend alone in our bedroom, but in front of all her friends, not so much. Lol. Caller was a good person. Cut ties I say.
So many creeps out here on these streets 😮
no friend is worth the high risk.
I once had to tell a friend who was strung out and being abused with her baby present and at risk that I would do everything to help her leave but if she doesn’t I will do everything in my power to ensure her kid gets removed. “I will call every agency daily. I will make sure You lose her. And you can hate me and never speak to me again. But your child needs protection more than you need a friend. One day you’ll thank me. Bc the day your sitting in prison for life bc something happened to your child is the day you’ll say to me, why didn’t you intervene?” I told her she was too sick to see the truth and I was the only person on earth who knew the truth. That makes it my responsibility to do something bc one day God will ask me what I did. My answer won’t be nothing. She left, is clean, and kids doing great. She was mad at first but I told her “someone’s gotta love you enough to tell you some hard truths, and someone’s gotta care enough about your child when you were going through some stuff.” She knew I was only tough with her bc I cared. I told her if she wanted to come hit me she could but one way or another that kid was leaving that house.
Why does his face look like that in the thumbnail? 😂
He is also calculated. He is making sure his wife is completely isolated even from household employees. She will have nobody left and he will torture her and the child. I'm not saying she should be friends with the wife, but maybe give her family a heads-up when she is ready or is forced to leave.
This whole conversation infuriates me. Being a survivor from sexual assault, I couldn't imagine being friends with anybody who is in a relationship with a predator. The relationship ends there. Over a decade ago I ended the relationship with my friend for this very reason. Her dad was a predator. We could not be friends anymore. Losing a friend is hard. Losing a friend can be very tragic and I don't think it's talked about enough. But, for her sake and sanity, she needs to leave this friend alone.
That's scary as hell that the police won't do anything
Church community can be a great thing, but you constantly hear these stories about how tight knit social groups will self protect an individual at the cost of innocent chilren.