@@yogaqueen1527Buuuhhtt, according to the state of North Carolina, they are technically STILL MARRIED. Also, who would want on their conscience that they weren't there for someone who was considering taking their own life? My only hope for this guy, who put up with craziness after leaving his wife, is that he can get his life in order, even if they continue through the divorce. I think it's good he reached out to her, and am impressed with her for not hanging up on him.
Crazy how he wants to get his wife back. But then says the other woman was beautiful like “ you wouldn’t believe.” Sounds like his wife will always be the backup plan…
Right?! Like he was waiting for the cohost to co-sign and be like “ohh ok so she was beautiful - aw man that makes it all ok” 😵😵💫. He let that other woman run alllll over him. Thank God his wife never bore him any children 🙏🏽🙏🏽 Hope she’s happy and thriving without him.
It sounds like she was a placeholder, she was the best he could Get at the time until he found his actual type smh Now because it didn't work out with the side piece, he wants to go back to his wife
He and the wife were having problems in the marriage that he fails to mention. Why didn't she want kids? He blames her changing for his cheating and walking out on her. He expresses no accountability whatsoever. He just says that he needed to work on his marriage the same way he worked on the relationship with the girlfriend while living with her and her ex. The girlfriend went back to the ex and had him move in to get this guy out. She used the excuse of not wanting to keep her child away from their father to wash her hands of her role in breaking up his marriage. I'm so glad he got dumped and in the most degrading of ways: by being cuckolded in front of his eyes. 👏
HE, was AFFECTED by THE SPIRIT OF JEZEBEL & HIS WIFE is being A TRUE CHRISTIAN WOMAN & ACCEPTING that HE MADE A VERY STUPID CHOICE & IS WILLING to work WITH HIM through THIS VERY DIFFICULT SITUATION!!!! THEY NEED TO SEE A CHRISTIAN MARRIAGE COUNSELOR that WILL GIVE THEM DAILY ASSIGNMENTS & CHRISTIAN TEACHING'S TO CHANGE THEIR MINDS & THEIR LIVES!!!!!!!!🤔🤔🤔
"in a split second, I lost all I had." the word of God says SUDDENLY!!! the wife should not take him back. he had no problem hurting her, terminating her world. none whatsoever.
Reminds me of my ex. Left when I was 6m pregnant with our second. Immediately got on tinder and started speaking to other women. He was living his best life and acted like we never existed. Acted like I was keeping our 2yr old from him all of the things. One night he went to a concert and got a dui and went to jail. He called me from the cops phone crying begging me to help. I ended up telling one of his friends and he bailed him out. He lost his new apartment and had to move in with his parents lost everything and then begged me back. If that didn’t happen I bet he would have been in a relationship in a month. This guy only wants her back because he got dumped. Never look back
I’ve lost sympathy for people who step out of relationships and don’t get the outcome they want 🤷♂️. Don’t ever take someone like this back, they have shown you who they are.
@@heyhey11793 Someone begging me to do something doesn’t change my mind. Returning to a person you already know is a cheater is stupid. 8 billion people on the planet I think you owe it to yourself to at least try and find a loyal one, or be single there is nothing wrong with being single.
@@Dansyoung True, have you been in this situation before? with kids? it’s a million times harder than I ever thought it would be. Then you see statistics about how much better kids do in 2 parent households and how important fathers in the home are for sons and daughters and it’s just to the point where you feel selfish leaving. The thought of it may be better for me but not for my kids and I’m their mother so I need to do what’s best for them, not me. Idk, I’m sure it sounds crazy but there’s so much to think about before actually divorcing. Maybe that’s the problem, I should’ve just done it without thinking it through.
@@heyhey11793 Yes! This is my life exactly. I have two children and my ex decided she wanted to be with someone at her workplace. I agree 1000% that a two parent household is better for kids - until there is conflict in the house. It wouldn’t be right to raise your children where you are not appreciated and working as a team. I have personally used this experience to thrive, I’ve taken my kids to enjoy experiences that would not have been allowed with my ex - for example water parks (she hated germs), and movies in the theatres (again germs), and we have travelled together and had lots of great experiences. I know my ex is struggling now, and that doesn’t bring me joy or happiness, if anything I feel bad for her BUT I respect myself enough to know I don’t deserve to be treated like that. Personally I’m going to stay single and focus on my boys.
@@heyhey11793 yes this is my situation exactly, I have two kids. Walking away way definitely the best decision for myself and my kids. I have more to say on the subject but this comment section seems to be heavily policed 😂
He doesn't regret leaving her because he loved or cared for her. He just misses whatever benefits or acts of service he got out of her. The fact it was so easy for him to leave his wife proves he just cares about himself and what he gets out of things.
My thoughts exactly! It's the "poor me" attitude and a subtle entitlement to getting his ex wife back bc the side chick gave him a taste of his own medicine. No regards to how much this could've hurt and completely damaged his ex wife. This isn't a one time mistake thing, he addressed the side chick as his "girlfriend." If it was a mistake, I would be all for working things out. I hope his ex wife never takes him back or falls for his pity party story.
John was too nice to him honestly. He doesn't care about his exwife. He is only hurting because he is alone. He in no way is hurting becuase he hurt someone else.
Ive been cheated on by two separate men that were my only serious relationships. I dumped them as soon as I found out. Each tried to contact me within 3 months and I blocked them. Cheating honestly ruins good people. I've been single going on 14 years. I hope his wife runs far away from this man, but she may never trust anyone again. This man doesn't want to get back with his wife. He doesn't want to be alone and his wife is his back up.
Never trust is a bit extreme and unhealthy it not wrong to trust people what’s wrong is when people betray that trust which isn’t in your control. Trust is not something you should avoid because it
Unbelievable.. because he was dumped by the woman he cheated with.. he wants his old life back? Why not try and work on the marriage when he had the chance. He was married only for 8 years?? He walked out before he even trying.
The fact that this guy keeps saying "my girlfriend", nope dude, ex-girlfriend. Do not expect your wife to take you back, and don't manipulate her into taking care of you during your sadness. Obviously, there was no regret when you left her for another woman.
This dude got what’s was coming to him. I’ve never cheated. I know people say, “Never say never.” I will never cheat on anyone. There have been chances. You don’t cheat! Sorry, no empathy for cheaters. And yes, she was hooking up with the ex. He called his wife/ex and she comforted him. He’s a piece of work.
I think his ex-wife was able to comfort him because she got over him and was finally happy that he left. If she was hurt, she would ignore him or make him feel worse.
Thank God Jon is here to have compassion on those who've Fallen. We need more people to have grace for each other like Jesus did for the women who was caught in adultery and brought before him. No one grows with no empathy. None of us would grow to be fit to parent if our parents treated us and our mistakes the way thw comment section does with his callers. It seems more and more that you all come here to feel better about yourselves when what Jon is doing is helping broken people. You guys seem to be more like the people Jesus opposed openly and vehemently than the ones that followed him or he was trying to help.
@@scottwall8419 there is a difference between empathy and forgiveness. The best thing for her to do is to forgive (forgiveness is for her, a way of letting go) and cutting him off forever. I’m I perfect, no, but that dude knew what he was doing and continued to do it. Why should I have empathy for him? Jesus has empathy for this woman that was cheated on. Did he have empathy for Jewish leaders of his day who were taking advantage of the people? Probably not, because they knew it was wrong, but they continued. Did he forgive those leaders? Yes. When it comes to cheaters, it’s one and done.
This is life, you took a risk, and you lost your wife and now move on!!! She is worth someone much better than you so leave her alone to enjoy her life!!! Life is too short to spend on cheating husbands.
My violently abusive ex called me up 40 years after I left him, and he had come down with MS. Said he had found God and realized we were meant to be together, especially as I am a retired RN and I own my home outright and have a retirement income. He even sent me a book on how to be a good wife. Narcissists will do anything to try to manipulate people, even 40 years later. (BTW, I like myself.)
The wife deserves that on-the-knees-apology from him… but also deserves so much better moving forward. If he had actually felt bad about hurting his wife that would be one thing, but speaking more highly of the side chick that dumped him and caring more about “all he lost” in that, then in any, let alone all, the pain and confusion and distraction in his wake to his wife/hopefully ex wife… nah. As a Christian I believe in minimizing divorce as much as possible, as well as forgiveness and restoration. There’s a huge difference though in forgiving but being healthy and not letting them back into your life because they are still a wolf in sheep’s clothing and haven’t changed, vs they learned from their mistakes, were genuinely sorry and working towards bettering things (and not just for themselves).
Yeah except she sounds like the wolf. She married him and convinced him she wanted children and that she is a Christian. Now she doesn't want children and is saying she doesn't think she is a believer. Does that justify the affair? No. But also if they could have been divorced they probably would have been. They were required to do a separation first.
A selfish manchild ladies and gentlemen! I really do hope that xwife of him will NEVER consider taking this selfish man back. He should find himself an other clueless victim. 😢
You can never get your old life back. Deal with the consequences, go to therapy, amend your life and start over. Hopefully you can find somebody to start your life over with. Please don't string along your ex wife with this. You can apologize all you want but never ask her to take you back or something like that. She has been through enough. She doesn't deserve all the trauma that you put her through. She deserves to be with a better man who will never betray her, and that man is not you at this point in time. Grow up.
What if his wife’s lack of belief was because he was not a good spiritual leader?…..I mean…the man was willing to commit adultery and the Bible says adulterers don’t enter the kingdom of heaven and he is still actively participating in sin that he needs to be excommunicated for. Biblically…… there’s no way he was a good spiritual leader in his home….absolutely no way.
He told his wife to "keep an eye on him" implying he may potentially harm himself. Really? That is beyond selfish, disgusting, and deplorable. He chose to hold her emotionally hostage and forcefully pull her into his situation because he couldn't handle dealing with the mess he created on his own. What a sad, sorry excuse of a Man.
Ivebeen dealing with this kinda man for 11 years. They find the next best thing,leave, get dumped, feel like he works is over without you, get u back then go right back to it after u fix their problems
He did her a favor by leaving and now she needs to do herself a favor and stay gone. This guy sounds like a codependent just needs somone all the time.
I disagree. I think it's key that he realized, that if he had tried as hard with his wife, as he did with his mistress, his marriage would have worked. He did some growing and learning. If his wife ever really loved him, she'll give him another chance. Read Paul's Letter to the Corinthians, Chapter 13, on the nature of love.
I love this comment. Well put. When I broke up with my lousy, no-good, Sob, he went right to his girl-fr. which was in another state. My mom saw them, didnj't know about our final Div. It was all I could do, to calm her down, she had a bad heart, and just loved this guy, well........... His final ending came five yrs. ago, court again, facing 4 yrs. prison term, suddenly he passed on, who knows why? P.S. his girl-fri, was in and out of prison, for prost. and drugs. I never did any of that, I'm clean , ready to teach I.T. to anyone who wants to learn. Thank you Lord, for letting me, be me. ❤❤
Because if things had worked out the way he wanted them to he would have never been sorry in the first place he is only sorry because he is facing the consequences of his actions
I hope his wife hears this conversation and doesn't take him back. Not once did he acknowledge the pain he caused her or act remorseful. He spoke more highly of his affair partner and how pretty she is ("like you wouldn't believe" barf). This isn't about him realizing he made a mistake and lost a good thing, this is just him feeling sorry for himself. What a fool.
None! Just like most narcissists, he wants her to come back to fulfill his needs and his guilt. I pray she trusts her intuition and leave this clown where he is.
It was very manipulative of him to contact his wife to say, "Just keep an eye on me." That was purely attention-seeking. He is selfish and still hasn't learned anything.
100% - screw this guy and his “hurt.” He’s not sorry or feeling bad about what he did to his wife, he’s just regretting letting a great woman go for something “fresh & exciting” 😒
The very next day after I found out my husband was cheating, with this "amazing woman who is going to elevate him in life (his words) " after 10 years of marriage, I come home the next day with him sulking, red in the face, crying and angry because she called off their affair and he tells me She betrayed him, he feels blind sided. Those words will forever be with me.
Amazing how certain things said will never stop replaying in our heads. The words I got that replay are "I felt I deserved better than your body". Keep in mind this man married me at 239lbs. And I lost 100 on my own after having 3 kids with him. But it wasn't a perfect vidy. Guess hers was.
@@breezeh1127that’s so true. Mine is when my ex-husband said “my dad told me when I was 10 to tell a woman anything to get the best out of her” and he looked so smug. Gave me chills and my stomach still turns with helplessness every time I remember it
He wants place keeper. It doesn’t matter who it is. I had an ex who did that. I actually found out through digging on Facebook he had a fiancé back in Puerto Rico I didn’t know about. I thought his trips were to visit his family. Later I think she dumped him because he started showing up at my home leaving notes. I ignored it at first then I went off on him and told his cheater butt to stay the h away from me.
No he doesn't want a BANDAID!! Let's call a spade a spade!! He wants a fking handmaid that will also s*:ck his d^%k!!! He wants someone to love HIM but he doesn't do anything to love BACK!!
As if his faith is strong! Committing adultery is a sin in all faiths. Besides, once a cheater is always a cheater. This man can never be trusted. His wife should go on with the divorce procedures, and hopefully she’ll meet a better man who treats her right and makes her happy, if she wants to remarry. Or she can be single, free, and happy.
Hm. I have to wonder if he felt like the wife wasn't being "wifey" enough. I say this bc he also mentions her having second thoughts about kids, and bc traditional spouse roles are often justified by religion. "Not being a believer anymore" in this context could mean she was turning away from the more traditional "woman" roles, or that she wanted to center her life around something that wasn't just him and potential kids. It would explain why he felt the urge to step out on and ultimately replace her
100%. I heard that code too. He was frustrated with her growing independence and humanity, which is frustrating to men who see women as servants. As their patriarchal god teaches them to do. I see the cheating as rather in step with that entitlement, not some shocking betrayal of his beliefs. That being said, I'm sure his community would have had a lot to say about him leaving his wife and moving in with a single mother out of wedlock lol@@monmon-vk8rz
It's telling that he said "I just want my life back" cause he's alone, not "I want my ex back" because I still love her. He doesn't love her... He misses the stability she brings.
This says it all. He wants the lifestyle: he doesn't love his wife and never did. It was all about status to him. This conversation was incredibly selfish on his part because it was all about him and there's no recognition of the pain he's caused her or the rest of the family.
I feel like I've had a man date me before that very reason and it sucked because he was my first love and he was only with me because I brought him peace instability. He literally cheated on me with the girl that he did nothing but argue with and when I left him he pursued her just to find out she didn't actually want him. She just like the attention and the money. He was giving her the money that he convinced me he was giving to his mom and I told him that didn't make logical sense like she has five boys. You are the youngest. Why is she asking you for money and she is married. She has a husband like why would she ask her youngest for money that we need. It didn't make any sense but he told me I was being selfish and that was his mom and I'm being a bad girlfriend so I kept my mouth shut. Turns out the entire time I was right it was BS. He was giving the money to his ex and cheating on me made me feel like a fool because my gut told me something was wrong but he told me I was being insecure. And when I left him and I told him what could have stopped him from cheating he told me nothing. He told me I did everything a man could possibly want but there was nothing more I could have done and I didn't know how to take that because if I gave you my everything and it still wasn't enough then what the hell. But I treat that like a lesson now. Now I know a cheater is going to be a cheater no matter what you do. So you just have to make sure you pick the right person for sure. It sucks though because it makes me feel like I've become jaded because I am now a lot less patient compared to how I used to be. There's a lot of things I just refused to tolerate early in a relationship and I'm so easily kicking men to the side. As soon as anything happens. And I know that's not okay. I just don't want to be made a fool again
Exactly, he is supposed to lead in love and love her like Christ loves the church. All he did was show that he was not a spiritual leader and not rooted in his faith.
You dont understand. This was why they formed religion... It was to control women... This is what he tried in 2023, cause he knows women are suppose to take him back... History proved this to be true... And thats why he is crying because he was the loser here. He cant believe it! 😂 thank god women are waking up and throwing away that book called the bible
Most people who believe they are saved have never even cracked open the Bible. How do you know what you even believe if you don't read God's word, nor do you apply it to your life? I call these folks, "name-only Christians." They'll stand before God on judgement day thinking they're cool, and then God is going to be like, "Do I know you?"
I have no empathy for this "man". He hurt his wife by tossing her away, and after his side piece dumped him, he wants his wife back? Naw, man. You got what ya deserved.
For real. At first I just thought he made a huge mistake in screwing up and wanting to be needed. BUT then when I heard he was dumped I like ohhhh this guy just wants his wife back because he has no one. Had his side piece stayed he would have remained with her. His wife needs to NOT take him back. But if she does, she’s a dumba**. Life is too short to waste your time on dumba** people.
😅😂😂😂😂 I was laughing my head off in here as well!!! 😅😂😂😂 Until I could hear the hurt in his voice. He did lost the child also 😢 I think that he really just want to have children and perhaps that was the one underlaying issue that made him to look for an another woman and family. And no, he was a BIG FOOL. Karma is a b*tch.
Foreal and hope she finds a real man of God to love her like the bible tells him to and that she's sure of her faith. Salvation shouldnt be questionable
Ex left me for his co-worker. At the time I was devastated, now I am beyond grateful he's gone. I wouldn't take him back if he had a winning lottery ticket stapled to his forehead.
nobody is perfect we all make mistakes. i understand something like this is monumental but we've all done something that made us say oh God why did i do that??
In this call, he sang praises about his former mistress, then didn't show anything but indifference about his wife, but wants advice about getting back with his wife ONLY because he doesn't want to be alone. She better stay far away.
@@AM-lc6hyhe said she was there for him and she had it together to the point where he felt like he didn't matter. He said his mistress was beautiful. It's clear he view them differently
John should've called him out on how manipulative it is to randomly send your ex-wife, who you left, a suicidal text to keep her in your life. This dude doesn't deserve her or anyone at this point in time
I think so too. I understand wanting to stay neutral and be kind to him but a good way to use the platform is to hold some people accountable because they do bad things. Even though it may come off harsh
@bekind2416 he lost all credibility to me.. I understand being kind. But this dude is manipulative and had self esteem issues that he needs to deal with, and that wasn’t address properly.
@@erismana2105 hey, whatever it takes to keep this out the gene pool, maybe in a decade or so, after staying alone and doing ALL the therapy, it's possible he could change his entire personality and live some truth. Maybe, 🤔
Yes, it's entirely possible his wife knew what a hot mess he was before he cheated and didn't want to bring children into it. Then he doubled down on his immaturity and turned that against her.
@@thecreativemind6675 You didn't ask me, but the cheater in my family wounded his children in addition to their mother. Cheating is a character issue, and I no longer believe a parent can be a good parent while simultaneously defrauding the mother or father of their children. Cheaters put their ego & their sexual gratification before their spouses and their children.
Emotional pain is secondary to physical pain. When you are screaming in pain from a physical injury, all your emotional problems are put to the side. Be happy you were not beaten and crippled with pain for life. My surgery reminds me every day of the abuse.
@@whendoigettosayfuck I agreed with her about the pain because I have been through both. Being left and a 5 hour surgery where the epidural wore off and I could feel them pushing on my organs before I screamed and they put me under. She's right. That's what betrayal feels like everday.
@@erismana2105 ABSOLUTELY! His phoney bologna big, sad tears disgusting. He also attempted a bit of smearing her via the vague "she doesn't believe anymore" statement. Then TF he still interested for!? He should 🪨 🪨 🦵
You can tell he feels no remorse for hurting his wife, he still said that his side chick was beautiful ‘like you wouldn’t believe’ he’s still caught up and heartbroken over her. He doesn’t care about his wife. This man is a coward and manipulative.
He got what he deserved. He called the wife because he was lonely. He chose to destroy her world then goes running back when someone else destroys his. He’s a complete POS. Dr John was very kind handling this the way he did. Honest but still kind.
As someone whose husband cheated with the most amazing ( LOL )woman in the world, who cheated on him dumped him and married someone else 2 months after our divorce was final, I can’t help but have a bit of a giggle at this. Actions have consequences dude.
I'm so sorry. This happened in my family and it sucks. It taints every memory you share with a cheater. It poisons everything. The only perk is knowing that our cheater will never ever truly bond. His high is his orgasm mixed with the excitement of conspiring against girlfriend du jour. We found out he was a true blue serial cheater. This guy is a mess. Apparently wanted a kid so bad that he made a semi-life with a woman who had someone else's child. Good god.
and this is why men marry the girl nextdoor but cheat with the instagram models. instagram models have no heart, and traditional "simple" women are considered boring or unattractive. its depressing.
@@Brainjoy01 I wouldn't say it's just instagram models. It's anyone with more than average looks because there are more options to choose from in the gene pool. Male or female. It's basic biology at this point.
He’s a narcissistic manipulator, he doesn’t want his wife back, he wants the comfort she gave him in his old life. He honestly doesn’t even sound hello le he cares that much about women, just the comfort and peace they can provide him. The thought hasn’t occurred to him yet to treat his wife well… just keep using her for his own emotional support… he didn’t even sound like he wanted to apologize
Yes. His ex wife saw something about him that made her not want to begin parenthood with him. She made a good call!! The man is selfish and manipulative.
Leaving your wife to immediately move in with a baby mama that's not yours. Only to have her moves her baby daddy in. 😂😂 she's totally using this guy for money while she still has sex with the baby daddy under the same roof. What a fuckin loser ..🤣🤣
Dear wife of caller: Run away from this man-child. Run to your divorce lawyer’s office and file the papers. They DO NOT change. He’s just sorry he got what he deserved and now he wants you back because he has nothing else. He wants a pity party. Not a marriage.
To this caller’s wife: Please don’t take him back. He never would’ve called you or this show if his mistress didn’t break up with him. This man is using you to be his emotional dumping site. If he meets a halfway decent looking woman between now and the next time you all talk, guaranteed he’d put you on the back burner again. He’s not healed and it’s not your responsibility to be available to him.
y'all really need to stop diagnosing strangers on the internet. you can't list even a handful of unique indicators of narcissism//NPD based solely on this call. please stop doing this; only thing it does is water down NPD.
No it isn't. He said at the beginning that he knows he's the bad guy in this story. He played a game and lost. He wants to know how to handle this loss and the misery that's coming with it.
@@LoveMuffin800Yeah which is also something narcissistic people can do, there‘s different personality types with narcissists and some love playing the whole oh I did a bad thing but yet I‘m the victim because of my actions to gain empathy don‘t trust that bs.
He left his wife because she wasn’t sure if “she was a believer anymore.” But he goes around and cheats on her like the “believer” he is. Such a hypocrite, disgusting sinner.
I never feel bad for people like this. They need to learn their lessons the hard way. You knowingly engaged in a relationship that is an affair? Your fault when the immoral person acts immorally TO YOU. Cheaters like to think they’re “special” and an exception to the rule, when cheating is a personality defect, not an act of love. (Clarification “you” is being used towards people that cheat, not in regards to the person who made this comment)
@@LegendaryCS4 I hope you understood I was being sarcastic, lol. And yes that's called the "universal you" or the "collective you". Anyway, I couldn't agree more. I remember hearing someone say that " adultery is the most morally irresponsible thing you could do to someone". I like that. "Morally irresponsible". It's so true. You're doing something completely devastating, carelessly and premeditatedly, because you care more about your own gratification than you do about the feelings of the person who loves you. It demonstrates a severe lack of character. It's selfishness at its peak.
At least he got dumped by a “girlfriend”, his wife was dumped by her “husband” for some random girl he met at work. So if he thinks what he’s going through is painful, he should stop and think what his wife had to go through.
Reminds me of ex-hubby who indignantly said "Where does that leave me?" when he came back expecting to resume our marriage after the girlfriend he left me to move in with some months before threw him out to make room for her ex. Meanwhile I had found it easier going it alone juggling job, paying bills etc while parenting only two kids and not an adult-sized third. Taking pity and taking him back was a huge mistake as leopards never change their spots so it was a prelude to rinse and repeat lying and cheating before I walked away. My advice to this husband? Apologise profusely and expect nothing in return. Let your wife have a shot at finding a true relationship. I am sure your wandering eye etc will soon find greener pastures. Or you might have a bash at truly growing up.
Same! My now ex said in counseling " now what are you going to do for me?" After he quit drinking for a week. I stepped out that session and never looked back !
@@mcmarin9932 Yes, he didn't care about his poor wife. And I doubt he can genuinely get down in his knees, and say how very sorry he is. Because he isn't. What a piece of trash.
You made your bed, now lie in it.........alone. The manipulation of texting your wife to let her know what happened and to ask her to keep an eye on you is disgusting. This man is a wolf and should not be married to anyone. His wife sounds like a beautiful soul and she most definitely deserves someone much much better than this man
Leaving your wife and then using her for emotional support after you're dumped... yikes
Special breed of narcissist.
Sounds like something a woman would do.
She is a fool for being there for him
@@yogaqueen1527Buuuhhtt, according to the state of North Carolina, they are technically STILL MARRIED. Also, who would want on their conscience that they weren't there for someone who was considering taking their own life? My only hope for this guy, who put up with craziness after leaving his wife, is that he can get his life in order, even if they continue through the divorce. I think it's good he reached out to her, and am impressed with her for not hanging up on him.
@@yogaqueen1527 He's a even bigger fool thinking she cares. Look at all the comments in this section she's probably loving every second this.
Crazy how he wants to get his wife back. But then says the other woman was beautiful like “ you wouldn’t believe.” Sounds like his wife will always be the backup plan…
Yes I thought that too
Why is this still
Impressing him when she moved another man in with them.
Some people are crazy!
Wife is absolutely the back up plan. He wants her at home while he goes on the prowl. This man deserves to be single forever.
Right?! Like he was waiting for the cohost to co-sign and be like “ohh ok so she was beautiful - aw man that makes it all ok” 😵😵💫.
He let that other woman run alllll over him.
Thank God his wife never bore him any children 🙏🏽🙏🏽
Hope she’s happy and thriving without him.
It sounds like she was a placeholder, she was the best he could Get at the time until he found his actual type smh Now because it didn't work out with the side piece, he wants to go back to his wife
He and the wife were having problems in the marriage that he fails to mention. Why didn't she want kids? He blames her changing for his cheating and walking out on her. He expresses no accountability whatsoever. He just says that he needed to work on his marriage the same way he worked on the relationship with the girlfriend while living with her and her ex. The girlfriend went back to the ex and had him move in to get this guy out. She used the excuse of not wanting to keep her child away from their father to wash her hands of her role in breaking up his marriage. I'm so glad he got dumped and in the most degrading of ways: by being cuckolded in front of his eyes. 👏
These videos are helping me identify the red flags in weak men.
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😂exactly
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Right!!!
He expects his wife to help him get over losing the woman he left her for.
THAT IS SICK!
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In other words he expects his wife to be the ultimate rebound girl til the next "upgrade" comes along😂
HE, was AFFECTED by THE SPIRIT OF JEZEBEL
&
HIS WIFE is being A TRUE CHRISTIAN WOMAN
&
ACCEPTING that HE MADE A VERY STUPID CHOICE
&
IS WILLING to work WITH HIM through THIS VERY DIFFICULT SITUATION!!!!
THEY NEED TO SEE A CHRISTIAN MARRIAGE COUNSELOR
that
WILL GIVE THEM DAILY ASSIGNMENTS & CHRISTIAN TEACHING'S TO
CHANGE THEIR MINDS & THEIR LIVES!!!!!!!!🤔🤔🤔
@@audreybuchman1972 tell me you're joking. Please, for the love of God, you just cannot be serious.
A very sad person. Calling ur ex wife to gaslight her by using "suicide" is a sick thing to do.
Yeah he is a bastard
I don't know about all that but city boys we up
Yep!!
He is a selfish man.
The petty me would've said 'Do it!' & hung up
"in a split second, I lost all I had." the word of God says SUDDENLY!!! the wife should not take him back. he had no problem hurting her, terminating her world. none whatsoever.
Reminds me of my ex. Left when I was 6m pregnant with our second. Immediately got on tinder and started speaking to other women. He was living his best life and acted like we never existed. Acted like I was keeping our 2yr old from him all of the things. One night he went to a concert and got a dui and went to jail. He called me from the cops phone crying begging me to help. I ended up telling one of his friends and he bailed him out. He lost his new apartment and had to move in with his parents lost everything and then begged me back. If that didn’t happen I bet he would have been in a relationship in a month. This guy only wants her back because he got dumped. Never look back
Why on earth did you get back together with him?
She didnt😂 read again!@@RawrGoesTheGreenDino
@RawrGoesTheGreenDino the way I read it she didn't take him back
It was kind of you to help him by calling his friend. It's more than many would have done in your shoes.
I seriously hope you did not take him back.
I’ve lost sympathy for people who step out of relationships and don’t get the outcome they want 🤷♂️. Don’t ever take someone like this back, they have shown you who they are.
What if they cheat but they don’t leave and beg and beg and beg for your forgiveness for months, years?
@@heyhey11793 Someone begging me to do something doesn’t change my mind. Returning to a person you already know is a cheater is stupid. 8 billion people on the planet I think you owe it to yourself to at least try and find a loyal one, or be single there is nothing wrong with being single.
@@Dansyoung True, have you been in this situation before? with kids? it’s a million times harder than I ever thought it would be. Then you see statistics about how much better kids do in 2 parent households and how important fathers in the home are for sons and daughters and it’s just to the point where you feel selfish leaving. The thought of it may be better for me but not for my kids and I’m their mother so I need to do what’s best for them, not me. Idk, I’m sure it sounds crazy but there’s so much to think about before actually divorcing. Maybe that’s the problem, I should’ve just done it without thinking it through.
@@heyhey11793 Yes! This is my life exactly. I have two children and my ex decided she wanted to be with someone at her workplace. I agree 1000% that a two parent household is better for kids - until there is conflict in the house. It wouldn’t be right to raise your children where you are not appreciated and working as a team. I have personally used this experience to thrive, I’ve taken my kids to enjoy experiences that would not have been allowed with my ex - for example water parks (she hated germs), and movies in the theatres (again germs), and we have travelled together and had lots of great experiences.
I know my ex is struggling now, and that doesn’t bring me joy or happiness, if anything I feel bad for her BUT I respect myself enough to know I don’t deserve to be treated like that. Personally I’m going to stay single and focus on my boys.
@@heyhey11793 yes this is my situation exactly, I have two kids. Walking away way definitely the best decision for myself and my kids.
I have more to say on the subject but this comment section seems to be heavily policed 😂
He doesn't regret leaving her because he loved or cared for her. He just misses whatever benefits or acts of service he got out of her. The fact it was so easy for him to leave his wife proves he just cares about himself and what he gets out of things.
Exactly!!! He’s just a selfish man child who offers nothing of value.
I love when a narcissist calls the show. Karma never fails 😂😂😂
My thoughts exactly! It's the "poor me" attitude and a subtle entitlement to getting his ex wife back bc the side chick gave him a taste of his own medicine. No regards to how much this could've hurt and completely damaged his ex wife.
This isn't a one time mistake thing, he addressed the side chick as his "girlfriend."
If it was a mistake, I would be all for working things out.
I hope his ex wife never takes him back or falls for his pity party story.
👏👏👏 after calling such pain his plan with the new chick didn’t work so he calls in and lights camera 🎬 he needs a place to stay
Wife may be hurting but she got lucky he left her. She will better off wihtout him.
John was too nice to him honestly. He doesn't care about his exwife. He is only hurting because he is alone. He in no way is hurting becuase he hurt someone else.
Saddly karma fails a lot. Luckily, not in this case! I hope the ex wife never accepts this weasel back!
This guy doesn't want his wife back. He just doesn't want to be alone. If she takes him back, she'll never know if he truly wants to be with her.
Yes that would take lots of time and actions on his part. Years probably.
This. This is the REAL reason why a lot of men try to go back to the woman they left for someone else when things don’t work out with the side piece.
Sure - until the next side piece comes along.
Ive been cheated on by two separate men that were my only serious relationships. I dumped them as soon as I found out. Each tried to contact me within 3 months and I blocked them. Cheating honestly ruins good people. I've been single going on 14 years. I hope his wife runs far away from this man, but she may never trust anyone again. This man doesn't want to get back with his wife. He doesn't want to be alone and his wife is his back up.
Same here ! I am so much happier single . Never have to worry about being lied too, fooled, cheated on or anything!
Never trust is a bit extreme and unhealthy it not wrong to trust people what’s wrong is when people betray that trust which isn’t in your control. Trust is not something you should avoid because it
@jihadamcsween2677. RIGHT ON!! You should 1000% trust while maintaining your own home and finances and get some steel trap birth control😂😂😂
My mother has been single for 20 years after my stepfather.
She said she didn't know how to pick a good man. She was done with relationships.
That’s how everyone should be man or woman! Good job!
Wow. I really hate this caller. Incredibly selfish.
As my granny used to say “if they’ll do it with you, they’ll do it to you”. Frankly, his wife is well out of it and I hope she stays out of it.
Unbelievable.. because he was dumped by the woman he cheated with.. he wants his old life back? Why not try and work on the marriage when he had the chance. He was married only for 8 years?? He walked out before he even trying.
I feel no empathy/sympathy for this person. You're divorced for a reason. Leave her alone.
He just can't be alone. Narcs can't be alone. When they are alone they see how terrible they are and don't want to face it.
No mommy to the rescue 🛟 no more
Not me problem
Sorry not sorry
Pickmeisa lives here no more 😅
"She wasn't a believer anymore". So he goes out and breaks his vows and cheats. Sounds like he is the one that isn't the "believer".
The fact that this guy keeps saying "my girlfriend", nope dude, ex-girlfriend. Do not expect your wife to take you back, and don't manipulate her into taking care of you during your sadness. Obviously, there was no regret when you left her for another woman.
Dr John got it right. He told him, you're not marriage material
Leave your exwife alone, she has always and will always be too good for you, now more than ever…
This dude got what’s was coming to him. I’ve never cheated. I know people say, “Never say never.” I will never cheat on anyone. There have been chances. You don’t cheat! Sorry, no empathy for cheaters. And yes, she was hooking up with the ex. He called his wife/ex and she comforted him. He’s a piece of work.
I knew men like you exist. Stay true
amen!!
I think his ex-wife was able to comfort him because she got over him and was finally happy that he left. If she was hurt, she would ignore him or make him feel worse.
Thank God Jon is here to have compassion on those who've Fallen. We need more people to have grace for each other like Jesus did for the women who was caught in adultery and brought before him. No one grows with no empathy. None of us would grow to be fit to parent if our parents treated us and our mistakes the way thw comment section does with his callers. It seems more and more that you all come here to feel better about yourselves when what Jon is doing is helping broken people. You guys seem to be more like the people Jesus opposed openly and vehemently than the ones that followed him or he was trying to help.
@@scottwall8419 there is a difference between empathy and forgiveness. The best thing for her to do is to forgive (forgiveness is for her, a way of letting go) and cutting him off forever. I’m I perfect, no, but that dude knew what he was doing and continued to do it. Why should I have empathy for him? Jesus has empathy for this woman that was cheated on. Did he have empathy for Jewish leaders of his day who were taking advantage of the people? Probably not, because they knew it was wrong, but they continued. Did he forgive those leaders? Yes. When it comes to cheaters, it’s one and done.
NEVER take someone back who hurt you.
This is life, you took a risk, and you lost your wife and now move on!!! She is worth someone much better than you so leave her alone to enjoy her life!!! Life is too short to spend on cheating husbands.
My violently abusive ex called me up 40 years after I left him, and he had come down with MS. Said he had found God and realized we were meant to be together, especially as I am a retired RN and I own my home outright and have a retirement income. He even sent me a book on how to be a good wife. Narcissists will do anything to try to manipulate people, even 40 years later. (BTW, I like myself.)
Good for you girl ❤❤😊
He’s not capable of saying sorry to his wife
When leftovers try to come back. BOY BYE 😂
💯🙌🏽
He lists her not being a believer as a reason for why he cheated........for why he CHEATED! Now she's really going to think believers suck.
A lot of them do suck.
The wife deserves that on-the-knees-apology from him… but also deserves so much better moving forward.
If he had actually felt bad about hurting his wife that would be one thing, but speaking more highly of the side chick that dumped him and caring more about “all he lost” in that, then in any, let alone all, the pain and confusion and distraction in his wake to his wife/hopefully ex wife… nah. As a Christian I believe in minimizing divorce as much as possible, as well as forgiveness and restoration. There’s a huge difference though in forgiving but being healthy and not letting them back into your life because they are still a wolf in sheep’s clothing and haven’t changed, vs they learned from their mistakes, were genuinely sorry and working towards bettering things (and not just for themselves).
Yeah except she sounds like the wolf. She married him and convinced him she wanted children and that she is a Christian. Now she doesn't want children and is saying she doesn't think she is a believer. Does that justify the affair? No. But also if they could have been divorced they probably would have been. They were required to do a separation first.
I love when cheaters get their karma.
That really is the stupidest reason to cheat on somebody i have ever heard. What an absolut hypocrite!
A selfish manchild ladies and gentlemen! I really do hope that xwife of him will NEVER consider taking this selfish man back. He should find himself an other clueless victim. 😢
You can never get your old life back. Deal with the consequences, go to therapy, amend your life and start over. Hopefully you can find somebody to start your life over with. Please don't string along your ex wife with this. You can apologize all you want but never ask her to take you back or something like that. She has been through enough. She doesn't deserve all the trauma that you put her through. She deserves to be with a better man who will never betray her, and that man is not you at this point in time. Grow up.
Lifetime of trauma for his ex wife, he's not the victim. Clearly lacks empathy and utterly selfish
What if his wife’s lack of belief was because he was not a good spiritual leader?…..I mean…the man was willing to commit adultery and the Bible says adulterers don’t enter the kingdom of heaven and he is still actively participating in sin that he needs to be excommunicated for. Biblically…… there’s no way he was a good spiritual leader in his home….absolutely no way.
He left his wife because he found someone else...period...I hate that the wife always get blamed.......
The wife doesn't deserve this. She sounds like a great human for rescuing him after all he did.
He told his wife to "keep an eye on him" implying he may potentially harm himself. Really? That is beyond selfish, disgusting, and deplorable. He chose to hold her emotionally hostage and forcefully pull her into his situation because he couldn't handle dealing with the mess he created on his own. What a sad, sorry excuse of a Man.
Stays away from social media but doesnt care about committing adultery? Seriously?
If they will do it to another person, they will do it to you! 🙄
He wasn't sorry until side wife dumped him.
Ivebeen dealing with this kinda man for 11 years. They find the next best thing,leave, get dumped, feel like he works is over without you, get u back then go right back to it after u fix their problems
If he didn't get dumped, he would never think about his wife again.
she need to leave him
he cheated because he wanted to.
He did her a favor by leaving and now she needs to do herself a favor and stay gone. This guy sounds like a codependent just needs somone all the time.
EXACTLY!!!!!!!!
I disagree. I think it's key that he realized, that if he had tried as hard with his wife, as he did with his mistress, his marriage would have worked. He did some growing and learning. If his wife ever really loved him, she'll give him another chance. Read Paul's Letter to the Corinthians, Chapter 13, on the nature of love.
If you are this guy’s wife, DO NOT COME BACK! The trash took itself out!
Make that sewer trash!!!!!
Whew great comment!!!
Amen to that
And you can tell with this one, if he did it once, he'll do it again!
I love this comment. Well put. When I broke up with my lousy, no-good, Sob, he went right to his girl-fr. which was in another state. My mom saw them, didnj't know about our final Div. It was all I could do, to calm her down, she had a bad heart, and just loved this guy, well........... His final ending came five yrs. ago, court again, facing 4 yrs. prison term, suddenly he passed on, who knows why? P.S. his girl-fri, was in and out of prison, for prost. and drugs. I never did any of that, I'm clean , ready to teach I.T. to anyone who wants to learn. Thank you Lord, for letting me, be me. ❤❤
Notice how much he cried for himself and talked about he was blindsided? And yet he blames his wife for him cheating! The audacity!
Play victim, deflect blame, avoid accountability. Typical cheater mantra.
He's more hurt over the mistress dumping him than him hurting his wife by cheating🤦🏾♀️He didnt even acknowledge that he hurt her smh.
He's a Narkie.
Because cheaters are yhe appitamy of selfishness.
He’ll continue to attract people like him who will most likely use him and spit him out like old gum until he wakes up
@@Rp-pc1rl"epitome "
Because if things had worked out the way he wanted them to he would have never been sorry in the first place he is only sorry because he is facing the consequences of his actions
I hope his wife hears this conversation and doesn't take him back. Not once did he acknowledge the pain he caused her or act remorseful. He spoke more highly of his affair partner and how pretty she is ("like you wouldn't believe" barf). This isn't about him realizing he made a mistake and lost a good thing, this is just him feeling sorry for himself. What a fool.
None! Just like most narcissists, he wants her to come back to fulfill his needs and his guilt. I pray she trusts her intuition and leave this clown where he is.
Seriously well said. This guy needs to burn until the Good Lord cleans the rot off of him. Until then he’s a selfish man child.
Love your comment. Sooo 👍 true
His "lowest moment" was when he got dumped by the girlfriend, not when he cheated on his wife.
She's listening with a giant glass of cienna and a bowl of shrimp cocktail
It was very manipulative of him to contact his wife to say, "Just keep an eye on me." That was purely attention-seeking. He is selfish and still hasn't learned anything.
Right! Of all people to call, her? Not his siblings or parents. Really trifling (and weird to be honest).
Then call the authorities & put him away to get lots of attention
Yeah he might as well said "grab your luggage, we're going on a guilt trip"
100% - screw this guy and his “hurt.” He’s not sorry or feeling bad about what he did to his wife, he’s just regretting letting a great woman go for something “fresh & exciting” 😒
@@PathologicallyIncuriousI love your name 😊
The very next day after I found out my husband was cheating, with this "amazing woman who is going to elevate him in life (his words) " after 10 years of marriage, I come home the next day with him sulking, red in the face, crying and angry because she called off their affair and he tells me She betrayed him, he feels blind sided. Those words will forever be with me.
Amazing how certain things said will never stop replaying in our heads. The words I got that replay are "I felt I deserved better than your body". Keep in mind this man married me at 239lbs. And I lost 100 on my own after having 3 kids with him. But it wasn't a perfect vidy. Guess hers was.
I hope you laughed out loud.
And you forgave him???
@@breezeh1127that’s so true. Mine is when my ex-husband said “my dad told me when I was 10 to tell a woman anything to get the best out of her” and he looked so smug. Gave me chills and my stomach still turns with helplessness every time I remember it
Yeah, adultery seems to be antithetical to commitment. It's interesting how the predictably to-be-dumped always thinks they've found someone better.
He doesn't want his wife back. He wants a bandaid to make HIMSELF feel better IN THE MOMENT.
He wants place keeper. It doesn’t matter who it is. I had an ex who did that. I actually found out through digging on Facebook he had a fiancé back in Puerto Rico I didn’t know about. I thought his trips were to visit his family. Later I think she dumped him because he started showing up at my home leaving notes. I ignored it at first then I went off on him and told his cheater butt to stay the h away from me.
He certain would regret reading the comments of everyone calling him out for the selfish being he is.
No he doesn't want a BANDAID!! Let's call a spade a spade!!
He wants a fking handmaid that will also s*:ck his d^%k!!! He wants someone to love HIM but he doesn't do anything to love BACK!!
And he will absolutely use her for that bandaid
Exactly. He doesn't really want his gf either. He just doesn't want to be alone, and will take any woman who will have him.
🤣 He committed adultery because she said she wasn't sure about her faith?! This guy is so full of it.
I agree, he’s full of ish
I LOL’d at that part
Well he had to find some excuse to blame his affair on her.
It wasn’t the real reason. He simply started lusting after another woman and he didn’t need much of any reason to sleep with another woman.
As if his faith is strong! Committing adultery is a sin in all faiths. Besides, once a cheater is always a cheater. This man can never be trusted. His wife should go on with the divorce procedures, and hopefully she’ll meet a better man who treats her right and makes her happy, if she wants to remarry. Or she can be single, free, and happy.
"Because she is not a believer anymore" and then he does the most ungodly thing ever. Unbelievable
That Part!!!
Hm. I have to wonder if he felt like the wife wasn't being "wifey" enough. I say this bc he also mentions her having second thoughts about kids, and bc traditional spouse roles are often justified by religion. "Not being a believer anymore" in this context could mean she was turning away from the more traditional "woman" roles, or that she wanted to center her life around something that wasn't just him and potential kids. It would explain why he felt the urge to step out on and ultimately replace her
100%. I heard that code too. He was frustrated with her growing independence and humanity, which is frustrating to men who see women as servants. As their patriarchal god teaches them to do. I see the cheating as rather in step with that entitlement, not some shocking betrayal of his beliefs. That being said, I'm sure his community would have had a lot to say about him leaving his wife and moving in with a single mother out of wedlock lol@@monmon-vk8rz
@@Ofwudann except it's allowed in their religion and not his
He's scum
"You are NOT marriage material" brilliant advice
If you’re gonna put quotes, quote him right. “Right now, you may not be worthy of dating, or being married to.”
@@meepzer literally the same thing. He's trash basically
@@thelovelylove-sk7ozFor now he's trash. That can change. I know several who were once trash, and changed after therapy.
@@lorainefleeman6011 good luck to him
It's telling that he said "I just want my life back" cause he's alone, not "I want my ex back" because I still love her. He doesn't love her... He misses the stability she brings.
Exactly
He misses living in a couples world as part of a couple
It’s a lonely life
Not true repentance
This says it all. He wants the lifestyle: he doesn't love his wife and never did. It was all about status to him. This conversation was incredibly selfish on his part because it was all about him and there's no recognition of the pain he's caused her or the rest of the family.
I feel like I've had a man date me before that very reason and it sucked because he was my first love and he was only with me because I brought him peace instability. He literally cheated on me with the girl that he did nothing but argue with and when I left him he pursued her just to find out she didn't actually want him. She just like the attention and the money. He was giving her the money that he convinced me he was giving to his mom and I told him that didn't make logical sense like she has five boys. You are the youngest. Why is she asking you for money and she is married. She has a husband like why would she ask her youngest for money that we need. It didn't make any sense but he told me I was being selfish and that was his mom and I'm being a bad girlfriend so I kept my mouth shut. Turns out the entire time I was right it was BS. He was giving the money to his ex and cheating on me made me feel like a fool because my gut told me something was wrong but he told me I was being insecure. And when I left him and I told him what could have stopped him from cheating he told me nothing. He told me I did everything a man could possibly want but there was nothing more I could have done and I didn't know how to take that because if I gave you my everything and it still wasn't enough then what the hell. But I treat that like a lesson now. Now I know a cheater is going to be a cheater no matter what you do. So you just have to make sure you pick the right person for sure. It sucks though because it makes me feel like I've become jaded because I am now a lot less patient compared to how I used to be. There's a lot of things I just refused to tolerate early in a relationship and I'm so easily kicking men to the side. As soon as anything happens. And I know that's not okay. I just don't want to be made a fool again
As a Christian, I'm offended that he thought the answer to a wife who was questioning her faith was to cheat on her. I can't.
The cheating came first. That's why he left.
It's still not going up to what he did so this guy hasn't learned anything.
The cheating tells you exactly the condition of his faith.
😂😂
Right. Its the stupidest thing I’ve ever heard
He got dumped at Whole Foods and went to a restaurant stop to cry
Shame on him
His wife wasn’t sure if she was a Christian any longer, so he decided to cheat on her? What a man of God! 🙏
Insane huh
Exactly, he is supposed to lead in love and love her like Christ loves the church. All he did was show that he was not a spiritual leader and not rooted in his faith.
You dont understand. This was why they formed religion... It was to control women... This is what he tried in 2023, cause he knows women are suppose to take him back... History proved this to be true... And thats why he is crying because he was the loser here. He cant believe it! 😂 thank god women are waking up and throwing away that book called the bible
Wait, wife, you may not be Christian.. Now I can cheat on you, heathen
Most people who believe they are saved have never even cracked open the Bible. How do you know what you even believe if you don't read God's word, nor do you apply it to your life? I call these folks, "name-only Christians." They'll stand before God on judgement day thinking they're cool, and then God is going to be like, "Do I know you?"
He'll rather have ANYONE than no one. His wife deserves better. He doesn't love her, he hates being alone.
Uuuufffff that was raw and hit hard …. facts!
💯
Exactly! He is just escaping the pain, without thinking about his ex, nothing is more selfish than that.
Best comment ever
My view has always been no one rather than anyone. Works well.
I have no empathy for this "man". He hurt his wife by tossing her away, and after his side piece dumped him, he wants his wife back? Naw, man. You got what ya deserved.
For real. At first I just thought he made a huge mistake in screwing up and wanting to be needed. BUT then when I heard he was dumped I like ohhhh this guy just wants his wife back because he has no one. Had his side piece stayed he would have remained with her. His wife needs to NOT take him back. But if she does, she’s a dumba**. Life is too short to waste your time on dumba** people.
He’s kidding right?
@@Vespervq no. He is the perfect representation of modern culture. Zero loyalty. Zero duty. Zero accountability. Whatever feels good in the moment.
@@gm6034
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Got to give to him, he wasn't asking for empathy but more of "how to get his life back". He still doesn't care about the wife. He just can't be alone.
The side chick moved in her ‘boyfriend’ into the home is funny AF😅😅😅😅😅😅. Karma is a b**h.
Ex-wife if you are reading this? DO NOT TAKE HIM BACK!
Amen!
😅😂😂😂😂 I was laughing my head off in here as well!!! 😅😂😂😂 Until I could hear the hurt in his voice.
He did lost the child also 😢 I think that he really just want to have children and perhaps that was the one underlaying issue that made him to look for an another woman and family.
And no, he was a BIG FOOL. Karma is a b*tch.
I couldn't agree with you more
Agree 😅
Exactly! What if the side chick decides she wants him back? Does he dump his wife again?!?
She didn’t want to have kids with him for a reason. Her instincts knew.
Exactly! I hope the wife realizes that being rid of this failure is the best thing for her.
The wife is a fool if she takes him back.
I agree. Look at how he acts when he doesn’t have his way? I hope she doesn’t reconcile.
@@izealliaeldridge1901 hold up SHE SEDUCED HIM! SHE HELPED RUIN HIS MARRIAGE
I wouldn't have a child with any man, no matter how much I loved him, its not worth the risk
This is hilarious. Trash takes itself out EVERY TIME! I hope his ex is happy and healthy :)
I wish the trash sitting in my kitchen would take itself out lol
Exactly what I wanted to say here! ;)
The way I bust out laughing when he said she dumped me 😂😂😂
Foreal and hope she finds a real man of God to love her like the bible tells him to and that she's sure of her faith. Salvation shouldnt be questionable
I hope she has the best hair day everyday and sleeps good every single night. ❤
Ex left me for his co-worker. At the time I was devastated, now I am beyond grateful he's gone. I wouldn't take him back if he had a winning lottery ticket stapled to his forehead.
I hope to get to this point of gratitude. I'm still in pain.
Lol
he was a problematic person😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂😂 *high five*
@@blueseptember2174, you will get there. It takes time. Start with gratitude and everything else will follow. It is a process.
This guy is sneaky 😂. The woman left him and he decided to get his wife's attention by telling her he's suicidal brooo
EXACTLY THIS. It's incredibly manipulative.
It's a common tactic with toxic people and abusers as well.
Yeah diabolical!!!!!
Shady
Swag
He wouldn’t feel any regret if it worked out with his side chick.
Exactly, he deserves to be alone the rest of his life
Exactly.
Great observation.
Bingo. He's not sorry he left his wife, he's just sad now that he's alone
Nailed it.
One of these days I want John’s response to be “That’s what you get. Next caller.” Sometimes you’ve got to call a jerk a jerk.
Coddling people like this guy is never going to make them a better person down the line.
He's trying to make him face what he did.
😂🤣😆🤣😂🤣😂
🤣😂🤣😂
😂😂😂
It’s almost as if ur actions have consequences
🤷♀️rightttttt?!!
nobody is perfect we all make mistakes. i understand something like this is monumental but we've all done something that made us say oh God why did i do that??
@@lamelobowling5552He can get another girl then! He needs to leave his ex alone in peace!
@@theofficialkimkiraagree
In this call, he sang praises about his former mistress, then didn't show anything but indifference about his wife, but wants advice about getting back with his wife ONLY because he doesn't want to be alone. She better stay far away.
i heard the opposite.
Isn’t that the truth
@@LaciRaeI heard the same thing as you. I heard him uplift his wife. I heard this man's pain for what he'd done.
@@AM-lc6hyPain that only appeared after he got screwed by the mistress. Where was the pain before?
@@AM-lc6hyhe said she was there for him and she had it together to the point where he felt like he didn't matter. He said his mistress was beautiful. It's clear he view them differently
John should've called him out on how manipulative it is to randomly send your ex-wife, who you left, a suicidal text to keep her in your life. This dude doesn't deserve her or anyone at this point in time
What a gaslighting move!
I think so too. I understand wanting to stay neutral and be kind to him but a good way to use the platform is to hold some people accountable because they do bad things. Even though it may come off harsh
proves what a lil b*tch he is
EXACTLY
@bekind2416 he lost all credibility to me.. I understand being kind. But this dude is manipulative and had self esteem issues that he needs to deal with, and that wasn’t address properly.
She was correct to never have kids with this caller. The levels of fantasy.....this dude should not be a father, he's a mess
He only used that reason to cheat .
Cheaters dont make good parents
@@erismana2105 hey, whatever it takes to keep this out the gene pool, maybe in a decade or so, after staying alone and doing ALL the therapy, it's possible he could change his entire personality and live some truth. Maybe, 🤔
Yes, it's entirely possible his wife knew what a hot mess he was before he cheated and didn't want to bring children into it. Then he doubled down on his immaturity and turned that against her.
@@thecreativemind6675 its common sense but dead beat dads defend dead beat dads so go off
@@thecreativemind6675 You didn't ask me, but the cheater in my family wounded his children in addition to their mother. Cheating is a character issue, and I no longer believe a parent can be a good parent while simultaneously defrauding the mother or father of their children. Cheaters put their ego & their sexual gratification before their spouses and their children.
Ladies, don't EVER take them back.
Lmao but ya’ll want us to take YOU back when you cheat on us with another man though right? 😂😂😂 pathetic. Stfu.
Its true. The odds are not in your favour. If they do it once they will do it again.
They will just do it again
Men. Never take her back either 😅😅
He doesn’t feel regret, he feels inconvenienced.
Agreed! That's the best description.
He just wants his maid/cook back. -_-
Feel compassion for once in your life.
Not saying what he did was good but sometimes you have to give people a second chance at life.
How do you know how he feels? Thats creepy if you can read peoples minds.
Oh wow, so you cheat on your wife and then the person you cheated with realizes you aren't marriage material? Who'd have guessed...
You lose em how you got em
😂
😂😂😂😂😂
A 7 year marriage, too? Hope she's smart enough to walk away.
Lol "well when you put it like that...:
He wants comfort from the woman he threw away. That’s priceless!
He’s so sad over his breakup and not about his DIVORCE, he’s such a pathetic excuse for a man ✨
I call that kind of person a schmuck.
Not all men are perfect some men have to figure it out. Jesus died on the cross for our sins and allows us a second chance at life.
@@landonevans818 lol
@@landonevans818 NOPE its still pathetic. He is a grown ass man. I feel no sympathy and he is embarrasing.
@@landonevans818yeah, no. That man is still pathetic.
My husband left me for a co-worker. The pain is like surgery w/out being put under. I have zero sympathy for him.
Same here, after 27 years. My life is very peaceful now without him.
Surgery without being put under...that's 💯 exactly how it feels 😢
Emotional pain is secondary to physical pain. When you are screaming in pain from a physical injury, all your emotional problems are put to the side. Be happy you were not beaten and crippled with pain for life. My surgery reminds me every day of the abuse.
@@whendoigettosayfuck what happened to you is completely awful but does your experience invalidate hers?
@@whendoigettosayfuck I agreed with her about the pain because I have been through both. Being left and a 5 hour surgery where the epidural wore off and I could feel them pushing on my organs before I screamed and they put me under. She's right. That's what betrayal feels like everday.
This is actually hilarious. Hope he keeps thinking about what he did for the rest of his life, and that she lives her best life.
I’m laughing too
🤢 you cried to your wife about your girlfriend dumping you and it making you "suicidal". If it weren't so disturbing a situation, it would be comical!
He is malniptive and manipulation is a form of abuse.
Manipulative af
@@erismana2105 ABSOLUTELY! His phoney bologna big, sad tears disgusting. He also attempted a bit of smearing her via the vague "she doesn't believe anymore" statement. Then TF he still interested for!? He should 🪨 🪨 🦵
How dare he? I just imagine if his wife was my daughter or friend. After dumping her for another woman he has the nerve to call her for sympathy?
@@brendamoon2660I would have told him to call 911 instead of me. They have more training in that, and they accually care. 😂
You can tell he feels no remorse for hurting his wife, he still said that his side chick was beautiful ‘like you wouldn’t believe’ he’s still caught up and heartbroken over her. He doesn’t care about his wife. This man is a coward and manipulative.
He got what he deserved. He called the wife because he was lonely. He chose to destroy her world then goes running back when someone else destroys his. He’s a complete POS. Dr John was very kind handling this the way he did. Honest but still kind.
Yeah that pretty much made me want to vomit!
100%
Yes I caught that as well
Dude!! That’s what I was thinking
Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.
We don’t say that anymore
@@Gotoworkkk
Why not?
EXACTLY!!!!
@@diane4488 get with the times lady!
‘In a split second I lost everything I had’.
Karma.
This is a narcissist who feels sorry for himself and has no regard for others. Wifey if you’re reading this, don’t walk away, RUN!!!!
right! this is hovering! run, wife, run!
Truth
Absolutely!!
As someone whose husband cheated with the most amazing ( LOL )woman in the world, who cheated on him dumped him and married someone else 2 months after our divorce was final, I can’t help but have a bit of a giggle at this. Actions have consequences dude.
@@prevaloir5362 LOL. No. I sarcastically called the woman he cheated on me with the most amazing woman in the world.
Girl you ain't alone, I'm laughing too 😂 good riddance!
I'm so sorry. This happened in my family and it sucks. It taints every memory you share with a cheater. It poisons everything. The only perk is knowing that our cheater will never ever truly bond. His high is his orgasm mixed with the excitement of conspiring against girlfriend du jour. We found out he was a true blue serial cheater.
This guy is a mess. Apparently wanted a kid so bad that he made a semi-life with a woman who had someone else's child. Good god.
and this is why men marry the girl nextdoor but cheat with the instagram models. instagram models have no heart, and traditional "simple" women are considered boring or unattractive. its depressing.
@@Brainjoy01 I wouldn't say it's just instagram models. It's anyone with more than average looks because there are more options to choose from in the gene pool. Male or female. It's basic biology at this point.
He’s a narcissistic manipulator, he doesn’t want his wife back, he wants the comfort she gave him in his old life. He honestly doesn’t even sound hello le he cares that much about women, just the comfort and peace they can provide him. The thought hasn’t occurred to him yet to treat his wife well… just keep using her for his own emotional support… he didn’t even sound like he wanted to apologize
I’ll be honest when a woman changes her mind on having kids in a long term relationships or marriage it’s because she doesn’t feel safe and secured.
Yes. His ex wife saw something about him that made her not want to begin parenthood with him. She made a good call!! The man is selfish and manipulative.
Exactly.
Leaving your wife to immediately move in with a baby mama that's not yours. Only to have her moves her baby daddy in. 😂😂 she's totally using this guy for money while she still has sex with the baby daddy under the same roof. What a fuckin loser ..🤣🤣
Absolutely this
She was getting that intuition. Sometimes you just know things you can't explain with words.
He doesn't want his wife back. He just doesn't want to be left alone with his thoughts and he wants free therapy from her.
Yesssssssssssss
That sounds about right.
And a place to live
Emotional labour vampire
Totally agree.
Very self centred and selfish.
Dear wife of caller: Run away from this man-child. Run to your divorce lawyer’s office and file the papers. They DO NOT change. He’s just sorry he got what he deserved and now he wants you back because he has nothing else. He wants a pity party. Not a marriage.
I wouldn’t even say he’s “sorry he got what he deserved,” but rather, he’s “upset or sorrowful that he didn’t get what he wanted”
In NC you can file papers with the court after a full year of separation and not need to pay a lawyer.
man child ?
@@rebelks88 In the meantime, needs to steer clear of him and not have anything to do with him
Cheaters are a special kind of selfish. Not ever to be trusted,
He’s the kind of man I pray I never meet. I would rather die alone.
😂 same, love. I'm with you on that one.
Man?!
@@_AnotherOnecarrier of testicles
Agreed
@@_AnotherOneYes MAN what is he
I can't imagine the shock his wife felt after her 8 yr marriage was thrown away so callously. Unbelievable.
To this caller’s wife: Please don’t take him back. He never would’ve called you or this show if his mistress didn’t break up with him. This man is using you to be his emotional dumping site. If he meets a halfway decent looking woman between now and the next time you all talk, guaranteed he’d put you on the back burner again. He’s not healed and it’s not your responsibility to be available to him.
Exactly. If his side piece didn't leave him, he would be having a good old time.
the audacity of this guy lmao got exactly what he deserves
Me hairy drunkin ole Daddy got what he deserved. Another bottle of Jack Daniels
@@jimsmith8359 he stayed with her for 7 years wasting her life and NOW he leaves because he finds a gf but now neither of them want him
1000% eff this guy for real lol thats what he gets
@@jimsmith8359love and marriage can only exist if you have kids…?
@@jimsmith8359well clearly he wasn't good enough to procreate with if he cheated 😂
He expected her to be religious, but he is not by way of his actions. He is not marriage material for any women. Very evil for such a religious man
His action are probably why his wife doesn’t want to be a Christian no longer
This is a narcissist that’s trying to play victim. If his side piece hadn’t left he would still be in that relationship.
Oh this 110% he’s on the hoover
Truth!
y'all really need to stop diagnosing strangers on the internet. you can't list even a handful of unique indicators of narcissism//NPD based solely on this call. please stop doing this; only thing it does is water down NPD.
No it isn't. He said at the beginning that he knows he's the bad guy in this story. He played a game and lost.
He wants to know how to handle this loss and the misery that's coming with it.
@@LoveMuffin800Yeah which is also something narcissistic people can do, there‘s different personality types with narcissists and some love playing the whole oh I did a bad thing but yet I‘m the victim because of my actions to gain empathy don‘t trust that bs.
He left his wife because she wasn’t sure if “she was a believer anymore.” But he goes around and cheats on her like the “believer” he is. Such a hypocrite, disgusting sinner.
Christians, am I right?
Comical.
It’s a complete excuse
And allows another woman to humiliate him by bringing another man home to live. It’s unbelievable 😮
@@jimmytwotime6875 so right, all the men who have cheated on me were Christians...but they had the balls to say non Christians have no morals.
John I applaud your ability to respect and not judge people..... especially when what they're doing is blatantly stupid 😂💯
JOHN we know what you really wanted to say, but left it to the comments 😂😂😂😂
His face says it all 😂😂😂 he wanted this blowhard to keep yapping
No!!! Two adulterers in a "relationship"... and it DOESN'T work out?! Shock! Horror!
I never feel bad for people like this. They need to learn their lessons the hard way. You knowingly engaged in a relationship that is an affair? Your fault when the immoral person acts immorally TO YOU. Cheaters like to think they’re “special” and an exception to the rule, when cheating is a personality defect, not an act of love.
(Clarification “you” is being used towards people that cheat, not in regards to the person who made this comment)
@@LegendaryCS4 I hope you understood I was being sarcastic, lol. And yes that's called the "universal you" or the "collective you". Anyway, I couldn't agree more. I remember hearing someone say that " adultery is the most morally irresponsible thing you could do to someone". I like that. "Morally irresponsible". It's so true. You're doing something completely devastating, carelessly and premeditatedly, because you care more about your own gratification than you do about the feelings of the person who loves you. It demonstrates a severe lack of character. It's selfishness at its peak.
lmbo, delusion is no joke
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
lmao!
You don’t feel regret for destroying your marriage. You feel regret that your side piece left you.
Right..this guy is UNREAL
exactly, and these men ask why there are single parent househlds
you don't really KNOW that though!
At least he got dumped by a “girlfriend”, his wife was dumped by her “husband” for some random girl he met at work. So if he thinks what he’s going through is painful, he should stop and think what his wife had to go through.
This kind of ‘’man’’ doesn't feel any empathy or compassion for a woman.
It’s a good thing his wife didn’t have children with him , she can ghost him if she wants to, and I hope she does .
He probably doesn't care about anybody's feelings but his.
Right? He obviously has no remorse at all
Reminds me of ex-hubby who indignantly said "Where does that leave me?" when he came back expecting to resume our marriage after the girlfriend he left me to move in with some months before threw him out to make room for her ex. Meanwhile I had found it easier going it alone juggling job, paying bills etc while parenting only two kids and not an adult-sized third.
Taking pity and taking him back was a huge mistake as leopards never change their spots so it was a prelude to rinse and repeat lying and cheating before I walked away.
My advice to this husband? Apologise profusely and expect nothing in return. Let your wife have a shot at finding a true relationship. I am sure your wandering eye etc will soon find greener pastures. Or you might have a bash at truly growing up.
Reminds me of an old song by George Strait, "She Let Herself Go". Great song.
Same! My now ex said in counseling " now what are you going to do for me?" After he quit drinking for a week. I stepped out that session and never looked back !
“Keep an eye on me” implying you’re gonna kill yourself to get your ex to talk to you is a bullshit move
Thiiiisss! The manipulation is astounding. I bet he didn’t keep an eye on his wife when he moved in with the woman 🙄
@@mcmarin9932
Yes, he didn't care about his poor wife. And I doubt he can genuinely get down in his knees, and say how very sorry he is. Because he isn't.
What a piece of trash.
He hostages himself to guilt trap her. Classic.
Omg, yes and I can't believe he didn't call him on that. And that's how he got her to come out. This dude is a manipulative a hole.
It’s a classic Narcissist move
May his ex-wife meet a guy whose also been cheated on, and they live happily ever after forever laughing at their horrible exes.
This sounds somewhat similar to my story… and I would never ever ever ever ever take him back. God delivered me from evil For Sure!
Yes, may that women finds a good man 🌻
That would be a dream come true.
Good idea 👍
Agreed!
You made your bed, now lie in it.........alone.
The manipulation of texting your wife to let her know what happened and to ask her to keep an eye on you is disgusting. This man is a wolf and should not be married to anyone.
His wife sounds like a beautiful soul and she most definitely deserves someone much much better than this man
Agreed, the “keep an eye on me” is super manipulative! Leave her alone dude!!
I saw red the minute he said that “keep an eye on me” - what a manipulative creep. RUNNNN