He did her a favor by leaving and now she needs to do herself a favor and stay gone. This guy sounds like a codependent just needs somone all the time.
I disagree. I think it's key that he realized, that if he had tried as hard with his wife, as he did with his mistress, his marriage would have worked. He did some growing and learning. If his wife ever really loved him, she'll give him another chance. Read Paul's Letter to the Corinthians, Chapter 13, on the nature of love.
Hm. I have to wonder if he felt like the wife wasn't being "wifey" enough. I say this bc he also mentions her having second thoughts about kids, and bc traditional spouse roles are often justified by religion. "Not being a believer anymore" in this context could mean she was turning away from the more traditional "woman" roles, or that she wanted to center her life around something that wasn't just him and potential kids. It would explain why he felt the urge to step out on and ultimately replace her
100%. I heard that code too. He was frustrated with her growing independence and humanity, which is frustrating to men who see women as servants. As their patriarchal god teaches them to do. I see the cheating as rather in step with that entitlement, not some shocking betrayal of his beliefs. That being said, I'm sure his community would have had a lot to say about him leaving his wife and moving in with a single mother out of wedlock lol@@monmon-vk8rz
Ex fiance left me for a coworker as well when I was younger. They ended up breaking up months later. Im now in the best relationship of my life with a caring, good man. Trash took itself out.
My husband left me and our two kids for another woman. Their affair turned tragic. He came back and asked to start over again. I gave him a cold stare and divorced him. No victim should give the perpetrator another chance.
My ex wife wanted to come back after she got pregnant by another man, never take a cheater back, they signed a contract to be faithful, once trust is broken it can't be restored, time to move on, lying and cheating is not a good basis for a relationship.
I use to say that all the time too. The trash took itself out. My ex husband cheated on me with a co-worker. And not only are they not together, she put him on child support. I’m sure he hates her at this point 😂😂😂. Meanwhile, I moved out of state, bought a home, and I’m loving the life I’m living.
I have no empathy for this "man". He hurt his wife by tossing her away, and after his side piece dumped him, he wants his wife back? Naw, man. You got what ya deserved.
For real. At first I just thought he made a huge mistake in screwing up and wanting to be needed. BUT then when I heard he was dumped I like ohhhh this guy just wants his wife back because he has no one. Had his side piece stayed he would have remained with her. His wife needs to NOT take him back. But if she does, she’s a dumba**. Life is too short to waste your time on dumba** people.
I love this comment. Well put. When I broke up with my lousy, no-good, Sob, he went right to his girl-fr. which was in another state. My mom saw them, didnj't know about our final Div. It was all I could do, to calm her down, she had a bad heart, and just loved this guy, well........... His final ending came five yrs. ago, court again, facing 4 yrs. prison term, suddenly he passed on, who knows why? P.S. his girl-fri, was in and out of prison, for prost. and drugs. I never did any of that, I'm clean , ready to teach I.T. to anyone who wants to learn. Thank you Lord, for letting me, be me. ❤❤
HE, was AFFECTED by THE SPIRIT OF JEZEBEL & HIS WIFE is being A TRUE CHRISTIAN WOMAN & ACCEPTING that HE MADE A VERY STUPID CHOICE & IS WILLING to work WITH HIM through THIS VERY DIFFICULT SITUATION!!!! THEY NEED TO SEE A CHRISTIAN MARRIAGE COUNSELOR that WILL GIVE THEM DAILY ASSIGNMENTS & CHRISTIAN TEACHING'S TO CHANGE THEIR MINDS & THEIR LIVES!!!!!!!!🤔🤔🤔
Exactly, he is supposed to lead in love and love her like Christ loves the church. All he did was show that he was not a spiritual leader and not rooted in his faith.
You dont understand. This was why they formed religion... It was to control women... This is what he tried in 2023, cause he knows women are suppose to take him back... History proved this to be true... And thats why he is crying because he was the loser here. He cant believe it! 😂 thank god women are waking up and throwing away that book called the bible
Most people who believe they are saved have never even cracked open the Bible. How do you know what you even believe if you don't read God's word, nor do you apply it to your life? I call these folks, "name-only Christians." They'll stand before God on judgement day thinking they're cool, and then God is going to be like, "Do I know you?"
He wants place keeper. It doesn’t matter who it is. I had an ex who did that. I actually found out through digging on Facebook he had a fiancé back in Puerto Rico I didn’t know about. I thought his trips were to visit his family. Later I think she dumped him because he started showing up at my home leaving notes. I ignored it at first then I went off on him and told his cheater butt to stay the h away from me.
No he doesn't want a BANDAID!! Let's call a spade a spade!! He wants a fking handmaid that will also s*:ck his d^%k!!! He wants someone to love HIM but he doesn't do anything to love BACK!!
It was very manipulative of him to contact his wife to say, "Just keep an eye on me." That was purely attention-seeking. He is selfish and still hasn't learned anything.
100% - screw this guy and his “hurt.” He’s not sorry or feeling bad about what he did to his wife, he’s just regretting letting a great woman go for something “fresh & exciting” 😒
Because if things had worked out the way he wanted them to he would have never been sorry in the first place he is only sorry because he is facing the consequences of his actions
As soon as he said "Like you wouldn't believe." You know his poor ex wife is never gonna be first choice. Girl, run away from him, don't take him backkkk
It hurts me that John is here telling him that he is worthy of love after what he has done. And to apologize for the pain he caused his wife. Like, what an apology will do? Wow, you will work on yourself to never hurt someone like this again? Thanks, too little, too late.
@@yogaqueen1527Buuuhhtt, according to the state of North Carolina, they are technically STILL MARRIED. Also, who would want on their conscience that they weren't there for someone who was considering taking their own life? My only hope for this guy, who put up with craziness after leaving his wife, is that he can get his life in order, even if they continue through the divorce. I think it's good he reached out to her, and am impressed with her for not hanging up on him.
@@chorizoramen93 Aka bait and switch. She didn’t like the guy in the first place and wasted everyone’s time. She drove him to cheat so that she didn’t have to feel guilty about having led him on for years.
@@chorizoramen93 His only mistake was not instantly and coldly disconnecting from her in every way the very moment she did/said anything counter to his values.
I hope his wife hears this conversation and doesn't take him back. Not once did he acknowledge the pain he caused her or act remorseful. He spoke more highly of his affair partner and how pretty she is ("like you wouldn't believe" barf). This isn't about him realizing he made a mistake and lost a good thing, this is just him feeling sorry for himself. What a fool.
None! Just like most narcissists, he wants her to come back to fulfill his needs and his guilt. I pray she trusts her intuition and leave this clown where he is.
The “Like you wouldn’t believe” when talking about how hot and funny his mistress was right after crying (if it was even real) about his ex wife showed me everything I needed to know about his character. I hope his wife stays away.
Yes. His ex wife saw something about him that made her not want to begin parenthood with him. She made a good call!! The man is selfish and manipulative.
Leaving your wife to immediately move in with a baby mama that's not yours. Only to have her moves her baby daddy in. 😂😂 she's totally using this guy for money while she still has sex with the baby daddy under the same roof. What a fuckin loser ..🤣🤣
As if his faith is strong! Committing adultery is a sin in all faiths. Besides, once a cheater is always a cheater. This man can never be trusted. His wife should go on with the divorce procedures, and hopefully she’ll meet a better man who treats her right and makes her happy, if she wants to remarry. Or she can be single, free, and happy.
I was in this exact situation, except I am the wife my husband came back to when his girlfriend (who he moved out of state for) dumped him. I WISH he'd had this advice before coming back & I wish I had been smarter & not let him break my heart & come back like, "whoops. My bad." Here we are 8 years later, just bought a house (moved in THIS year) & he is jumping ship AGAIN because he says he "Can't do this." & he's too "overwhelmed" feels "trapped" & doesn't think he is actually "in love" with me & just wants to be alone. I basically let a man who ripped my heart to shreds come back to do it again because I wanted to believe he could actually change. I should've told him to be alone for a while & work on himself & figure out what he really wanted before being a rebound of a rebound!!! (our 21 year marriage anniversary is in January in case you're wondering) That's a whole lot of time wasted waiting on someone to be sure of me when he can't even be sure of himself.
Women should never be faithful to any man but god. Never be faithful to a man. He treats you like that because he knows you will never leave, men unfortunately grow bored and crave excitement and a challenge and most of the time when they know that you will never leave them; the “thrill is gone” for them and they no longer want the relationship
Im sorry you are going through this. It will take time but you’ll be fine without him. He never deserved you, so don’t give him a third chance to brake your heart pack his things and put them outside your door. You’ll find someone that truly loves you.
My violently abusive ex called me up 40 years after I left him, as he had come down with MS. Said he had found God and realized we were meant to be together, especially as I am a retired RN and I own my home outright and have a retirement income. He even sent me a book on how to be a good wife. Narcissists will do anything to try to manipulate people, even 40 years later. (BTW, I like myself.)
😅😂😂😂😂 I was laughing my head off in here as well!!! 😅😂😂😂 Until I could hear the hurt in his voice. He did lost the child also 😢 I think that he really just want to have children and perhaps that was the one underlaying issue that made him to look for an another woman and family. And no, he was a BIG FOOL. Karma is a b*tch.
Wow, blindside his wife of 7 yrs by leaving and moving in with the side chick. Then when the side chick blindsides him a year later he then guilt trips the ex-wife with a suicidal watch…….he ruined the wife’s life, the young child he attached to and re-abused the wife by contacting her again to reinsert himself in her life. Sorry, no sympathy. He needs to stay away from people until he can see the harm he has done and feel remorse. Until then he will hurt more and more people.
Crazy how he wants to get his wife back. But then says the other woman was beautiful like “ you wouldn’t believe.” Sounds like his wife will always be the backup plan…
Right?! Like he was waiting for the cohost to co-sign and be like “ohh ok so she was beautiful - aw man that makes it all ok” 😵😵💫. He let that other woman run alllll over him. Thank God his wife never bore him any children 🙏🏽🙏🏽 Hope she’s happy and thriving without him.
It sounds like she was a placeholder, she was the best he could Get at the time until he found his actual type smh Now because it didn't work out with the side piece, he wants to go back to his wife
He and the wife were having problems in the marriage that he fails to mention. Why didn't she want kids? He blames her changing for his cheating and walking out on her. He expresses no accountability whatsoever. He just says that he needed to work on his marriage the same way he worked on the relationship with the girlfriend while living with her and her ex. The girlfriend went back to the ex and had him move in to get this guy out. She used the excuse of not wanting to keep her child away from their father to wash her hands of her role in breaking up his marriage. I'm so glad he got dumped and in the most degrading of ways: by being cuckolded in front of his eyes. 👏
Dude was like: "My wife was doing a lot of stuff I didn't like. I was unhappy at home. But then a coworker laughed and touched my arm a few times. All of a sudden I knew everything would work out fine. Until it didn't 😮. Could someone ask my wife if I can come home 😢"
Emotional pain is secondary to physical pain. When you are screaming in pain from a physical injury, all your emotional problems are put to the side. Be happy you were not beaten and crippled with pain for life. My surgery reminds me every day of the abuse.
@@whendoigettosayfuck I agreed with her about the pain because I have been through both. Being left and a 5 hour surgery where the epidural wore off and I could feel them pushing on my organs before I screamed and they put me under. She's right. That's what betrayal feels like everday.
@@erismana2105 hey, whatever it takes to keep this out the gene pool, maybe in a decade or so, after staying alone and doing ALL the therapy, it's possible he could change his entire personality and live some truth. Maybe, 🤔
Yes, it's entirely possible his wife knew what a hot mess he was before he cheated and didn't want to bring children into it. Then he doubled down on his immaturity and turned that against her.
@@thecreativemind6675 You didn't ask me, but the cheater in my family wounded his children in addition to their mother. Cheating is a character issue, and I no longer believe a parent can be a good parent while simultaneously defrauding the mother or father of their children. Cheaters put their ego & their sexual gratification before their spouses and their children.
Ex left me for his co-worker. At the time I was devastated, now I am beyond grateful he's gone. I wouldn't take him back if he had a winning lottery ticket stapled to his forehead.
It's telling that he said "I just want my life back" cause he's alone, not "I want my ex back" because I still love her. He doesn't love her... He misses the stability she brings.
This says it all. He wants the lifestyle: he doesn't love his wife and never did. It was all about status to him. This conversation was incredibly selfish on his part because it was all about him and there's no recognition of the pain he's caused her or the rest of the family.
I feel like I've had a man date me before that very reason and it sucked because he was my first love and he was only with me because I brought him peace instability. He literally cheated on me with the girl that he did nothing but argue with and when I left him he pursued her just to find out she didn't actually want him. She just like the attention and the money. He was giving her the money that he convinced me he was giving to his mom and I told him that didn't make logical sense like she has five boys. You are the youngest. Why is she asking you for money and she is married. She has a husband like why would she ask her youngest for money that we need. It didn't make any sense but he told me I was being selfish and that was his mom and I'm being a bad girlfriend so I kept my mouth shut. Turns out the entire time I was right it was BS. He was giving the money to his ex and cheating on me made me feel like a fool because my gut told me something was wrong but he told me I was being insecure. And when I left him and I told him what could have stopped him from cheating he told me nothing. He told me I did everything a man could possibly want but there was nothing more I could have done and I didn't know how to take that because if I gave you my everything and it still wasn't enough then what the hell. But I treat that like a lesson now. Now I know a cheater is going to be a cheater no matter what you do. So you just have to make sure you pick the right person for sure. It sucks though because it makes me feel like I've become jaded because I am now a lot less patient compared to how I used to be. There's a lot of things I just refused to tolerate early in a relationship and I'm so easily kicking men to the side. As soon as anything happens. And I know that's not okay. I just don't want to be made a fool again
John should've called him out on how manipulative it is to randomly send your ex-wife, who you left, a suicidal text to keep her in your life. This dude doesn't deserve her or anyone at this point in time
I think so too. I understand wanting to stay neutral and be kind to him but a good way to use the platform is to hold some people accountable because they do bad things. Even though it may come off harsh
@bekind2416 he lost all credibility to me.. I understand being kind. But this dude is manipulative and had self esteem issues that he needs to deal with, and that wasn’t address properly.
As someone whose husband cheated with the most amazing ( LOL )woman in the world, who cheated on him dumped him and married someone else 2 months after our divorce was final, I can’t help but have a bit of a giggle at this. Actions have consequences dude.
I'm so sorry. This happened in my family and it sucks. It taints every memory you share with a cheater. It poisons everything. The only perk is knowing that our cheater will never ever truly bond. His high is his orgasm mixed with the excitement of conspiring against girlfriend du jour. We found out he was a true blue serial cheater. This guy is a mess. Apparently wanted a kid so bad that he made a semi-life with a woman who had someone else's child. Good god.
and this is why men marry the girl nextdoor but cheat with the instagram models. instagram models have no heart, and traditional "simple" women are considered boring or unattractive. its depressing.
@@Brainjoy01 I wouldn't say it's just instagram models. It's anyone with more than average looks because there are more options to choose from in the gene pool. Male or female. It's basic biology at this point.
In this call, he sang praises about his former mistress, then didn't show anything but indifference about his wife, but wants advice about getting back with his wife ONLY because he doesn't want to be alone. She better stay far away.
@@AM-lc6hyhe said she was there for him and she had it together to the point where he felt like he didn't matter. He said his mistress was beautiful. It's clear he view them differently
y'all really need to stop diagnosing strangers on the internet. you can't list even a handful of unique indicators of narcissism//NPD based solely on this call. please stop doing this; only thing it does is water down NPD.
No it isn't. He said at the beginning that he knows he's the bad guy in this story. He played a game and lost. He wants to know how to handle this loss and the misery that's coming with it.
@@LoveMuffin800Yeah which is also something narcissistic people can do, there‘s different personality types with narcissists and some love playing the whole oh I did a bad thing but yet I‘m the victim because of my actions to gain empathy don‘t trust that bs.
I love how just like REAL you were with him. Like you telling him his old life is over and that he cannot get that back. Def needed to hear that brutal honesty!
He left his wife because she wasn’t sure if “she was a believer anymore.” But he goes around and cheats on her like the “believer” he is. Such a hypocrite, disgusting sinner.
"She had it all together and didn't need me." This Destroyed my marriage My husband (when dating) told me he loved that I was strong and independent. That if anything happened he wouldn't have to worry about me. Married 6 years when he couldn't work due to medical issues. I stepped up and supported our family. Even after he was able to go back to work I made more money. Eventually, He told me how much he resented that I didn't need him. Divorced at 15 years
A guy said this to me too. Loved that I was independent and could take care of myself. Then, he broke up with me because he said I didn't need him. I'd never asked him for money and he was used to controlling women with money. He said, "You don't even need me!" I told him that I wanted him. I didn't need him. What did he think I was doing before I met him?
You made your bed, now lie in it.........alone. The manipulation of texting your wife to let her know what happened and to ask her to keep an eye on you is disgusting. This man is a wolf and should not be married to anyone. His wife sounds like a beautiful soul and she most definitely deserves someone much much better than this man
@lorainefleeman6011 He a cheater. If he ever actually becomes marriage material again, he's needs to entirely rework himself. Anyone that knows how easy it is for him to end an 8 YEAR MARRIAGE will immediately believe that he can do it again.
Dear wife of caller: Run away from this man-child. Run to your divorce lawyer’s office and file the papers. They DO NOT change. He’s just sorry he got what he deserved and now he wants you back because he has nothing else. He wants a pity party. Not a marriage.
The moral of the story is that impulsive choices can cause deep pain, but facing mistakes and taking responsibility is essential to healing and moving forward.
I never feel bad for people like this. They need to learn their lessons the hard way. You knowingly engaged in a relationship that is an affair? Your fault when the immoral person acts immorally TO YOU. Cheaters like to think they’re “special” and an exception to the rule, when cheating is a personality defect, not an act of love. (Clarification “you” is being used towards people that cheat, not in regards to the person who made this comment)
@@LegendaryCS4 I hope you understood I was being sarcastic, lol. And yes that's called the "universal you" or the "collective you". Anyway, I couldn't agree more. I remember hearing someone say that " adultery is the most morally irresponsible thing you could do to someone". I like that. "Morally irresponsible". It's so true. You're doing something completely devastating, carelessly and premeditatedly, because you care more about your own gratification than you do about the feelings of the person who loves you. It demonstrates a severe lack of character. It's selfishness at its peak.
You can tell he feels no remorse for hurting his wife, he still said that his side chick was beautiful ‘like you wouldn’t believe’ he’s still caught up and heartbroken over her. He doesn’t care about his wife. This man is a coward and manipulative.
He got what he deserved. He called the wife because he was lonely. He chose to destroy her world then goes running back when someone else destroys his. He’s a complete POS. Dr John was very kind handling this the way he did. Honest but still kind.
14:23 Stop lying! “Be very careful with you” is what you would tell the wife! “It’s not selfish to contact her because you were drowning”! Wtf are you even saying!? What if this was your sister or mother he did this to!? You’re feeding this man ridiculousness! He was being manipulative to his wife by calling her and implying zoo-is-side!
Foreal and hope she finds a real man of God to love her like the bible tells him to and that she's sure of her faith. Salvation shouldnt be questionable
9:45 they used him for a place to live and saved their money for a place. Now they’re moving out together. Thats what he get. They were together the whole time.
@@jamessanders8895 ahahaha! Possibly even better: forgoe the suggestion and send the police to him via that conveniently shares location. He'd never pull that BS again!
To this caller’s wife: Please don’t take him back. He never would’ve called you or this show if his mistress didn’t break up with him. This man is using you to be his emotional dumping site. If he meets a halfway decent looking woman between now and the next time you all talk, guaranteed he’d put you on the back burner again. He’s not healed and it’s not your responsibility to be available to him.
The very next day after I found out my husband was cheating, with this "amazing woman who is going to elevate him in life (his words) " after 10 years of marriage, I come home the next day with him sulking, red in the face, crying and angry because she called off their affair and he tells me She betrayed him, he feels blind sided. Those words will forever be with me.
Amazing how certain things said will never stop replaying in our heads. The words I got that replay are "I felt I deserved better than your body". Keep in mind this man married me at 239lbs. And I lost 100 on my own after having 3 kids with him. But it wasn't a perfect vidy. Guess hers was.
@@breezeh1127that’s so true. Mine is when my ex-husband said “my dad told me when I was 10 to tell a woman anything to get the best out of her” and he looked so smug. Gave me chills and my stomach still turns with helplessness every time I remember it
I've been divorced for 13 years. Last year, my exhusband called me threatening to kill himself because he caught his girlfriend in bed with a man. He did the same thing wanting his old life back.
OMG what a douche! So glad you divorced him. He has no right calling you regarding ANYTHING, least of all his heartache over another woman. Good for you for saying he wasn't welcome back in!
Mine too. Only his side chick got pregnant by another man and wanted nothing to do with him after she realized that what he had was because of me bringing home the bread and holding it down. He started losing everything. Has a new woman now and tried to cheat on her with me. He won’t change and I just want my money
He didn't cheat because his wife was losing faith and reconsidering children. He cheated because she's smarter and more capable than him and he couldn't stand that. He wanted a damsel, not a partner. And now he still doesn't want a partner. He wants a mommy and a therapist.
He sounds like he needs to mature as a man with the Word of God. He shot himself in the foot. He needs Jesus and His Word and learn how to be a man of God.
Years ago my ex tossed me aside married the other woman and spent 2 years with her before she left him. Then he called me and said he wanted me back and he was ready to give me everything i wanted. I said no. I had moved on.
At least he got dumped by a “girlfriend”, his wife was dumped by her “husband” for some random girl he met at work. So if he thinks what he’s going through is painful, he should stop and think what his wife had to go through.
This happened to me. My husband cheated on me a left, we had a 2 year old together. The other girl slept with his best friend and left him for a completely other guy. He came running back. I obviously didn’t take him back and now living a much better life.
I wonder how common it is for the ex to actually take someone back after that person cheats and leaves. Divorce and single parenting is hard, but it’s probably harder to live with and try to love someone who manipulates you.
Seems like that girl is addicted to cheating. She’ll come across the wrong man one day that can’t handle the pain without doing something if she doesn’t stop.
@@biellaspointofview2054you are completely missing the point. He said the vows, he said he would remain faithful, he was the one married, only person who cheated here was the husband. Stop blaming the one he had the affair with. Yes, she has a lack of moral compass but she didn’t betray his vows…. HE did! He got what he deserved. Karma is a b…h😂
@@soullessnight6539 hmm? My comment wasn’t for the cheater husband that’s clear he’s to blame for his marriage. I just wanted to point out the girls behavior since she seems addicted to cheating which could lead to her death one day if she does it to the wrong person. The other girl got involved in commenter’s marriage then left the husband for his best friend then left best friend for another man; that’s what I’ve gathered.
Listening to this guys emotions and regrets makes you feel for him but then I started reading the comments and you guys are absolutely correct. His only real regret is being dumped and now he wants some normalcy back in his life. His “non-believing” wife needs to kick the hypocrite out of her life altogether.
After our divorce, my ex seemed to be repentant, so we were in the process of reuniting. His most recent girlfriend came into some money and he started packing that night to go back to her. I told him, if he left (by this time I honestly didn’t care) not to expect me to take him back. Within a month he was wanting to come back, told me he had made a big mistake-i was past him.
His wife deserves soooooooo much better. He’s only feeling sorry for himself. Never considered her feelings until now and even now, he wouldn’t go back to her if his gf worked out
Exactly. The only reason he's even trying to get her back bc he's homeless and familiar ppl feel soothing after a break up. I worry that she will take him back based off her reaction to him reaching out. I have unfortunately been in a similar situation before I went through therapy. At the time, I was willing to do whatever it took to get my ex away from the other woman, even if that meant taking him back. The situation was triggering something from my childhood that at the time I was unaware of. He used this exact same guilt trip on me - crying, no place to go - knowing I had a big heart and would struggle to leave him out on the street. That man tortured me for years but I eventually had enough and I am actually grateful to have been through the experience today. It opened up all doors and my life is significantly better now because of the healing work on myself I had to do in the aftermath. I hope she doesn't have to learn the way I did though
@@hollyallyson4111 They have you fight to "save" them from the other woman/man all while stringing them along and crazy making with you, so when it's your turn to be left they already know what you will do to "save" them while they get the new supply "trained" . Also it's how they spin the "crazy ex" story because you have ripped yourself apart trying to fight a fight that was never real ..
She was questioning her faith, so he broke his marriage vow. She didn't know if she wanted kids so he left her for a woman with a kid of her own. She made him feel like he didn't matter, so he left her as if she didn't. What a piece of ...
I had an ex call me after 4 years of no contact. He said man things are really bad for me." I stopped him right there and said, "It's not my problem, never call me again." Click ... I've been single ever since by choice. It's so peaceful and I'm happier. Relationships aren't required to be happy.
Same, I rather work on myself (meaning healing and loving myself) before even thinking about another relationship. But the way these men are, might just turn a lesbian instead even though I have no inclining of being with a woman...Or just not be with anyone sounds so much better lol.
yes it is! It might be lonely at times but this is way better than being miserable all the time. They say women are all drama, but that's far from the truth. We just keep dealing with the bs until we can't take it anymore. @@relaxandunwind1496
I love how Dr Delaney doesn't crucify him, nor does he let him off the hook. Telling him straight up that he (Delaney) would warn the soon-to-be ex wife against the caller was tough love.
He still calls the mistress "my girlfriend"... smh. I can't believe his wife is still talking to him, let alone helping him. She is a saint and needs to become his ex wife sooner rather than later.
I love how you're talking to him, it's refreshing to hear someone speak with kindness. I'm not condoning what he did, but, discussing this in a respectful way is good. ❤ New sub.
He told his wife to "keep an eye on him" implying he may potentially harm himself. Really? That is beyond selfish, disgusting, and deplorable. He chose to hold her emotionally hostage and forcefully pull her into his situation because he couldn't handle dealing with the mess he created on his own. What a sad, sorry excuse of a Man.
That's right. He wasn't regretting leaving her when his fling with the new girlfriend was on fire. He's only sad cuz he's alone now. I would tell this dude to go take a hike. I hope the wife doesn't take him back. He's going to bail on her again. He doesn't love his wife. He would have never left her like that. Dudes like this need to grow the hell up. Just wait until a woman dogs him out. See how he likes that.
“I left my wife because she lost her faith and didn’t want kids with me.” She probably lost her faith in Him and the Marriage. No woman wants to have children with a man who steps out on her! NONE.
And you have to have an extremely selfish mindset to even cheat in the first place. John’s right in saying he isn’t marriage material. The caller is mad that his wife clearly sees how much she as a woman has to lose having a kid with a loser than he does as a man. He can leave whenever he wants
His wife deserves far better than him. Now he wants to rebound on her. What a selfish and immature human being. He deserves to feel the pain. His wife deserves a real man.
Did this dude say he felt distant from his wife because she wasn't a believer (assuming from a religious aspect) and then proceeded to cheat on her? I don't think religious texts condone cheating?
It’s always a fun irony how this happens when people who begin their relationship by cheating on somebody are shocked when someone who had no aversion to cheating chooses to cheat when it’s with them. But this dude exhibits narcissistic behavior so it’s perfectly possible that he believed that she would cheat but never cheat on him as well. But I’ve also fallen for it like an idiot too because I was ridiculously insecure and was attached to feeling like a woman loved me even if I was treated poorly. I dated someone who I was convinced I loved but was really just believing there was love because I had low self confidence and didn’t think there was anything else out there. And she cheated on me and then out of idiocy and desperation I continued to lobby to get back together while she dated the dude she cheated with and then she cheated on him tons of times with me which I justified against them cheating together. And then she left that guy and dated another guy and she cheated on him with me which I’ll always regret and apologized to him for because he was a good guy and didn’t deserve it at all. But then we did get back together because somehow in my head it didn’t click that she cheated on me and then cheated on the next two guys with me and how any belief that she wouldn’t do it again now that we were back together was such a joke. Thankfully after those events I realized my mistakes and I apologized to the two guys I participated in the cheating against because it was such slimeball behavior by me. And there was a price to pay because I was unable to trust anybody relationally for years to where I just didn’t date at all until I met my wife and finally had resolved those issues.
Seems like she used him to get the baby daddy back. She showed the BD how quickly she could get another guy and move on and he didn’t want that and basically moved back in. The caller is a total idiot. His wife dodged a bullet.
My uncle did this to my aunt, and the lady he left her for, ended up doing the same thing to him. Any woman who's willing to knowingly have a romantic relationship with a married man, is willing to do the same thing to him. It's sad. A vicious cycle.
Ermm why is the cards falling onto the woman at this point??? It's so so fking misogynistic and ret@rded it's fking beyond me!! It is HIM who is the biggest culprit here!! HIM not her!! Now if he cheated once, he will do the same thing again!! It's so ret@rded how people like you put the final ownes on the woman, when HE is the main problem here! ☠☠☠
Sounds like the player got played. The wife needs to steer clear of him. If that baby momma gives him any indication that she wants him back, he will leave the wife again. Believe that.
As a woman who has lived through this -and I know this is a safe space for men and I’m here respectfully- if my ex husband had taken this advice I would have stayed and tried one last time. I was the only one trying, so I gave up. And I’ll tell you that once a woman gives up, it’s nearly impossible to get back in. But it takes a lot to get there. So men- take this advice and give it one more shot… but only if you’re being honest. With her AND yourself. It won’t work otherwise. Be vulnerable and truthful. Be open and communicate how you felt and what led you there (without blaming her. Just how things made you feel. Pointing fingers will get one right back at you.) Women aren’t complicated. Be honest. Be vulnerable. Stop being selfish. You’ll be in. If you are a team then nothing can stop you. But if you are “the man of the house” with little regard for her time or feelings…you’ll never truly have her.
He wouldn’t feel any regret if it worked out with his side chick.
Exactly, he deserves to be alone the rest of his life
Exactly.
Great observation.
Bingo. He's not sorry he left his wife, he's just sad now that he's alone
Nailed it.
If he didn't get dumped, he would never think about his wife again.
she need to leave him
he cheated because he wanted to.
He did her a favor by leaving and now she needs to do herself a favor and stay gone. This guy sounds like a codependent just needs somone all the time.
EXACTLY!!!!!!!!
I disagree. I think it's key that he realized, that if he had tried as hard with his wife, as he did with his mistress, his marriage would have worked. He did some growing and learning. If his wife ever really loved him, she'll give him another chance. Read Paul's Letter to the Corinthians, Chapter 13, on the nature of love.
"Because she is not a believer anymore" and then he does the most ungodly thing ever. Unbelievable
That Part!!!
Hm. I have to wonder if he felt like the wife wasn't being "wifey" enough. I say this bc he also mentions her having second thoughts about kids, and bc traditional spouse roles are often justified by religion. "Not being a believer anymore" in this context could mean she was turning away from the more traditional "woman" roles, or that she wanted to center her life around something that wasn't just him and potential kids. It would explain why he felt the urge to step out on and ultimately replace her
100%. I heard that code too. He was frustrated with her growing independence and humanity, which is frustrating to men who see women as servants. As their patriarchal god teaches them to do. I see the cheating as rather in step with that entitlement, not some shocking betrayal of his beliefs. That being said, I'm sure his community would have had a lot to say about him leaving his wife and moving in with a single mother out of wedlock lol@@monmon-vk8rz
@@Ofwudann except it's allowed in their religion and not his
He's scum
Ex fiance left me for a coworker as well when I was younger. They ended up breaking up months later. Im now in the best relationship of my life with a caring, good man. Trash took itself out.
I’m so glad you didn’t “give him another chance”. If the roles were reversed, he would do the same!
My husband left me and our two kids for another woman. Their affair turned tragic. He came back and asked to start over again. I gave him a cold stare and divorced him. No victim should give the perpetrator another chance.
My ex wife wanted to come back after she got pregnant by another man, never take a cheater back, they signed a contract to be faithful, once trust is broken it can't be restored, time to move on, lying and cheating is not a good basis for a relationship.
I use to say that all the time too. The trash took itself out. My ex husband cheated on me with a co-worker. And not only are they not together, she put him on child support. I’m sure he hates her at this point 😂😂😂. Meanwhile, I moved out of state, bought a home, and I’m loving the life I’m living.
Same!
I have no empathy for this "man". He hurt his wife by tossing her away, and after his side piece dumped him, he wants his wife back? Naw, man. You got what ya deserved.
For real. At first I just thought he made a huge mistake in screwing up and wanting to be needed. BUT then when I heard he was dumped I like ohhhh this guy just wants his wife back because he has no one. Had his side piece stayed he would have remained with her. His wife needs to NOT take him back. But if she does, she’s a dumba**. Life is too short to waste your time on dumba** people.
He’s kidding right?
@@Vespervq no. He is the perfect representation of modern culture. Zero loyalty. Zero duty. Zero accountability. Whatever feels good in the moment.
@@gm6034
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Got to give to him, he wasn't asking for empathy but more of "how to get his life back". He still doesn't care about the wife. He just can't be alone.
She didn’t want to have kids with him for a reason. Her instincts knew.
Exactly! I hope the wife realizes that being rid of this failure is the best thing for her.
The wife is a fool if she takes him back.
I agree. Look at how he acts when he doesn’t have his way? I hope she doesn’t reconcile.
@@izealliaeldridge1901 hold up SHE SEDUCED HIM! SHE HELPED RUIN HIS MARRIAGE
I wouldn't have a child with any man, no matter how much I loved him, its not worth the risk
As a Christian, I'm offended that he thought the answer to a wife who was questioning her faith was to cheat on her. I can't.
The cheating came first. That's why he left.
It's still not going up to what he did so this guy hasn't learned anything.
The cheating tells you exactly the condition of his faith.
😂😂
Right. Its the stupidest thing I’ve ever heard
He got dumped at Whole Foods and went to a restaurant stop to cry
Shame on him
He wasn’t kidding when he said his wife is 1000x smarter than him.
If you are this guy’s wife, DO NOT COME BACK! The trash took itself out!
Make that sewer trash!!!!!
Whew great comment!!!
Amen to that
And you can tell with this one, if he did it once, he'll do it again!
I love this comment. Well put. When I broke up with my lousy, no-good, Sob, he went right to his girl-fr. which was in another state. My mom saw them, didnj't know about our final Div. It was all I could do, to calm her down, she had a bad heart, and just loved this guy, well........... His final ending came five yrs. ago, court again, facing 4 yrs. prison term, suddenly he passed on, who knows why? P.S. his girl-fri, was in and out of prison, for prost. and drugs. I never did any of that, I'm clean , ready to teach I.T. to anyone who wants to learn. Thank you Lord, for letting me, be me. ❤❤
He expects his wife to help him get over losing the woman he left her for.
THAT IS SICK!
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂❤❤❤
In other words he expects his wife to be the ultimate rebound girl til the next "upgrade" comes along😂
HE, was AFFECTED by THE SPIRIT OF JEZEBEL
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HIS WIFE is being A TRUE CHRISTIAN WOMAN
&
ACCEPTING that HE MADE A VERY STUPID CHOICE
&
IS WILLING to work WITH HIM through THIS VERY DIFFICULT SITUATION!!!!
THEY NEED TO SEE A CHRISTIAN MARRIAGE COUNSELOR
that
WILL GIVE THEM DAILY ASSIGNMENTS & CHRISTIAN TEACHING'S TO
CHANGE THEIR MINDS & THEIR LIVES!!!!!!!!🤔🤔🤔
@@audreybuchman1972 tell me you're joking. Please, for the love of God, you just cannot be serious.
His wife wasn’t sure if she was a Christian any longer, so he decided to cheat on her? What a man of God! 🙏
Insane huh
Exactly, he is supposed to lead in love and love her like Christ loves the church. All he did was show that he was not a spiritual leader and not rooted in his faith.
You dont understand. This was why they formed religion... It was to control women... This is what he tried in 2023, cause he knows women are suppose to take him back... History proved this to be true... And thats why he is crying because he was the loser here. He cant believe it! 😂 thank god women are waking up and throwing away that book called the bible
Wait, wife, you may not be Christian.. Now I can cheat on you, heathen
Most people who believe they are saved have never even cracked open the Bible. How do you know what you even believe if you don't read God's word, nor do you apply it to your life? I call these folks, "name-only Christians." They'll stand before God on judgement day thinking they're cool, and then God is going to be like, "Do I know you?"
"You may think the grass is greener on the other side, but if you take the time to water your own grass, it would be just as green."
Greener
Oooo this is a good quote, gonna use it sometime.
So wise!
Amen
He doesn't want his wife back. He wants a bandaid to make HIMSELF feel better IN THE MOMENT.
He wants place keeper. It doesn’t matter who it is. I had an ex who did that. I actually found out through digging on Facebook he had a fiancé back in Puerto Rico I didn’t know about. I thought his trips were to visit his family. Later I think she dumped him because he started showing up at my home leaving notes. I ignored it at first then I went off on him and told his cheater butt to stay the h away from me.
He certain would regret reading the comments of everyone calling him out for the selfish being he is.
No he doesn't want a BANDAID!! Let's call a spade a spade!!
He wants a fking handmaid that will also s*:ck his d^%k!!! He wants someone to love HIM but he doesn't do anything to love BACK!!
And he will absolutely use her for that bandaid
Exactly. He doesn't really want his gf either. He just doesn't want to be alone, and will take any woman who will have him.
It was very manipulative of him to contact his wife to say, "Just keep an eye on me." That was purely attention-seeking. He is selfish and still hasn't learned anything.
Right! Of all people to call, her? Not his siblings or parents. Really trifling (and weird to be honest).
Then call the authorities & put him away to get lots of attention
Yeah he might as well said "grab your luggage, we're going on a guilt trip"
100% - screw this guy and his “hurt.” He’s not sorry or feeling bad about what he did to his wife, he’s just regretting letting a great woman go for something “fresh & exciting” 😒
@@PathologicallyIncuriousI love your name 😊
He's more hurt over the mistress dumping him than him hurting his wife by cheating🤦🏾♀️He didnt even acknowledge that he hurt her smh.
He's a Narkie.
Because cheaters are yhe appitamy of selfishness.
He’ll continue to attract people like him who will most likely use him and spit him out like old gum until he wakes up
@@Lemonmeringue3.14"epitome "
Because if things had worked out the way he wanted them to he would have never been sorry in the first place he is only sorry because he is facing the consequences of his actions
As soon as he said "Like you wouldn't believe." You know his poor ex wife is never gonna be first choice. Girl, run away from him, don't take him backkkk
She was smart not to get pregnant. Karma came quickly for him...he must have hurt so many people for karma to strike so fast...
That hurt MY feelings! Omg his poor wife!!
It hurts me that John is here telling him that he is worthy of love after what he has done. And to apologize for the pain he caused his wife.
Like, what an apology will do? Wow, you will work on yourself to never hurt someone like this again? Thanks, too little, too late.
Leaving your wife and then using her for emotional support after you're dumped... yikes
Special breed of narcissist.
Sounds like something a woman would do.
She is a fool for being there for him
@@yogaqueen1527Buuuhhtt, according to the state of North Carolina, they are technically STILL MARRIED. Also, who would want on their conscience that they weren't there for someone who was considering taking their own life? My only hope for this guy, who put up with craziness after leaving his wife, is that he can get his life in order, even if they continue through the divorce. I think it's good he reached out to her, and am impressed with her for not hanging up on him.
@@yogaqueen1527 He's a even bigger fool thinking she cares. Look at all the comments in this section she's probably loving every second this.
Notice how much he cried for himself and talked about he was blindsided? And yet he blames his wife for him cheating! The audacity!
Play victim, deflect blame, avoid accountability. Typical cheater mantra.
If she baited and switched with the kid thing, yeah. It was partially her fault.
@@FallenSentinel1337No, she didn't. She realized who she was with and shifted her values accordingly. Allergic to accountability, as usual
@@chorizoramen93
Aka bait and switch.
She didn’t like the guy in the first place and wasted everyone’s time. She drove him to cheat so that she didn’t have to feel guilty about having led him on for years.
@@chorizoramen93
His only mistake was not instantly and coldly disconnecting from her in every way the very moment she did/said anything counter to his values.
I hope his wife hears this conversation and doesn't take him back. Not once did he acknowledge the pain he caused her or act remorseful. He spoke more highly of his affair partner and how pretty she is ("like you wouldn't believe" barf). This isn't about him realizing he made a mistake and lost a good thing, this is just him feeling sorry for himself. What a fool.
None! Just like most narcissists, he wants her to come back to fulfill his needs and his guilt. I pray she trusts her intuition and leave this clown where he is.
Seriously well said. This guy needs to burn until the Good Lord cleans the rot off of him. Until then he’s a selfish man child.
Love your comment. Sooo 👍 true
His "lowest moment" was when he got dumped by the girlfriend, not when he cheated on his wife.
She's listening with a giant glass of cienna and a bowl of shrimp cocktail
The “Like you wouldn’t believe” when talking about how hot and funny his mistress was right after crying (if it was even real) about his ex wife showed me everything I needed to know about his character. I hope his wife stays away.
He literally said it as I was reading your comment and it disgusted me so much
And he had the nerve to talk about how his wife is ”not a believer” like what the actual hell
He'll rather have ANYONE than no one. His wife deserves better. He doesn't love her, he hates being alone.
Uuuufffff that was raw and hit hard …. facts!
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Exactly! He is just escaping the pain, without thinking about his ex, nothing is more selfish than that.
Best comment ever
My view has always been no one rather than anyone. Works well.
I’ll be honest when a woman changes her mind on having kids in a long term relationships or marriage it’s because she doesn’t feel safe and secured.
Yes. His ex wife saw something about him that made her not want to begin parenthood with him. She made a good call!! The man is selfish and manipulative.
Exactly.
Leaving your wife to immediately move in with a baby mama that's not yours. Only to have her moves her baby daddy in. 😂😂 she's totally using this guy for money while she still has sex with the baby daddy under the same roof. What a fuckin loser ..🤣🤣
Absolutely this
She was getting that intuition. Sometimes you just know things you can't explain with words.
🤣 He committed adultery because she said she wasn't sure about her faith?! This guy is so full of it.
I agree, he’s full of ish
I LOL’d at that part
Well he had to find some excuse to blame his affair on her.
It wasn’t the real reason. He simply started lusting after another woman and he didn’t need much of any reason to sleep with another woman.
As if his faith is strong! Committing adultery is a sin in all faiths. Besides, once a cheater is always a cheater. This man can never be trusted. His wife should go on with the divorce procedures, and hopefully she’ll meet a better man who treats her right and makes her happy, if she wants to remarry. Or she can be single, free, and happy.
I was in this exact situation, except I am the wife my husband came back to when his girlfriend (who he moved out of state for) dumped him. I WISH he'd had this advice before coming back & I wish I had been smarter & not let him break my heart & come back like, "whoops. My bad." Here we are 8 years later, just bought a house (moved in THIS year) & he is jumping ship AGAIN because he says he "Can't do this." & he's too "overwhelmed" feels "trapped" & doesn't think he is actually "in love" with me & just wants to be alone. I basically let a man who ripped my heart to shreds come back to do it again because I wanted to believe he could actually change. I should've told him to be alone for a while & work on himself & figure out what he really wanted before being a rebound of a rebound!!! (our 21 year marriage anniversary is in January in case you're wondering) That's a whole lot of time wasted waiting on someone to be sure of me when he can't even be sure of himself.
Women should never be faithful to any man but god. Never be faithful to a man. He treats you like that because he knows you will never leave, men unfortunately grow bored and crave excitement and a challenge and most of the time when they know that you will never leave them; the “thrill is gone” for them and they no longer want the relationship
Im sorry you are going through this. It will take time but you’ll be fine without him. He never deserved you, so don’t give him a third chance to brake your heart pack his things and put them outside your door. You’ll find someone that truly loves you.
I'm so sorry.
Sorry but people never change take it from me
@@KatrinaMelvinTHE CREATOR is not a man
My violently abusive ex called me up 40 years after I left him, as he had come down with MS. Said he had found God and realized we were meant to be together, especially as I am a retired RN and I own my home outright and have a retirement income. He even sent me a book on how to be a good wife. Narcissists will do anything to try to manipulate people, even 40 years later. (BTW, I like myself.)
Good for you girl ❤❤😊
The AUDACITY of some people 😂👀🤦
Men will absolutely wait till they need a nurse!!!! 🙏🏾😭 Evil
That is so funny. You must have got a good laugh out of that. He sent you a book.
@@3gok838 IKR? Good grief!
He doesn’t feel regret, he feels inconvenienced.
Agreed! That's the best description.
He just wants his maid/cook back. -_-
Feel compassion for once in your life.
Not saying what he did was good but sometimes you have to give people a second chance at life.
How do you know how he feels? Thats creepy if you can read peoples minds.
The side chick moved in her ‘boyfriend’ into the home is funny AF😅😅😅😅😅😅. Karma is a b**h.
Ex-wife if you are reading this? DO NOT TAKE HIM BACK!
Amen!
😅😂😂😂😂 I was laughing my head off in here as well!!! 😅😂😂😂 Until I could hear the hurt in his voice.
He did lost the child also 😢 I think that he really just want to have children and perhaps that was the one underlaying issue that made him to look for an another woman and family.
And no, he was a BIG FOOL. Karma is a b*tch.
I couldn't agree with you more
Agree 😅
Exactly! What if the side chick decides she wants him back? Does he dump his wife again?!?
Wow, blindside his wife of 7 yrs by leaving and moving in with the side chick. Then when the side chick blindsides him a year later he then guilt trips the ex-wife with a suicidal watch…….he ruined the wife’s life, the young child he attached to and re-abused the wife by contacting her again to reinsert himself in her life. Sorry, no sympathy. He needs to stay away from people until he can see the harm he has done and feel remorse. Until then he will hurt more and more people.
These videos are helping me identify the red flags in weak men.
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😂exactly
Totally 🎉
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Right!!!
He’s so sad over his breakup and not about his DIVORCE, he’s such a pathetic excuse for a man ✨
I call that kind of person a schmuck.
Not all men are perfect some men have to figure it out. Jesus died on the cross for our sins and allows us a second chance at life.
@@landonevans818 lol
@@landonevans818 NOPE its still pathetic. He is a grown ass man. I feel no sympathy and he is embarrasing.
@@landonevans818yeah, no. That man is still pathetic.
Crazy how he wants to get his wife back. But then says the other woman was beautiful like “ you wouldn’t believe.” Sounds like his wife will always be the backup plan…
Yes I thought that too
Why is this still
Impressing him when she moved another man in with them.
Some people are crazy!
Wife is absolutely the back up plan. He wants her at home while he goes on the prowl. This man deserves to be single forever.
Right?! Like he was waiting for the cohost to co-sign and be like “ohh ok so she was beautiful - aw man that makes it all ok” 😵😵💫.
He let that other woman run alllll over him.
Thank God his wife never bore him any children 🙏🏽🙏🏽
Hope she’s happy and thriving without him.
It sounds like she was a placeholder, she was the best he could Get at the time until he found his actual type smh Now because it didn't work out with the side piece, he wants to go back to his wife
He and the wife were having problems in the marriage that he fails to mention. Why didn't she want kids? He blames her changing for his cheating and walking out on her. He expresses no accountability whatsoever. He just says that he needed to work on his marriage the same way he worked on the relationship with the girlfriend while living with her and her ex. The girlfriend went back to the ex and had him move in to get this guy out. She used the excuse of not wanting to keep her child away from their father to wash her hands of her role in breaking up his marriage. I'm so glad he got dumped and in the most degrading of ways: by being cuckolded in front of his eyes. 👏
Dude was like: "My wife was doing a lot of stuff I didn't like. I was unhappy at home. But then a coworker laughed and touched my arm a few times. All of a sudden I knew everything would work out fine. Until it didn't 😮. Could someone ask my wife if I can come home 😢"
Omg.. stop it… I cannot stop laughing. You are so right. 100% correct.
My husband left me for a co-worker. The pain is like surgery w/out being put under. I have zero sympathy for him.
Same here, after 27 years. My life is very peaceful now without him.
Surgery without being put under...that's 💯 exactly how it feels 😢
Emotional pain is secondary to physical pain. When you are screaming in pain from a physical injury, all your emotional problems are put to the side. Be happy you were not beaten and crippled with pain for life. My surgery reminds me every day of the abuse.
@@whendoigettosayfuck what happened to you is completely awful but does your experience invalidate hers?
@@whendoigettosayfuck I agreed with her about the pain because I have been through both. Being left and a 5 hour surgery where the epidural wore off and I could feel them pushing on my organs before I screamed and they put me under. She's right. That's what betrayal feels like everday.
She was correct to never have kids with this caller. The levels of fantasy.....this dude should not be a father, he's a mess
He only used that reason to cheat .
Cheaters dont make good parents
@@erismana2105 hey, whatever it takes to keep this out the gene pool, maybe in a decade or so, after staying alone and doing ALL the therapy, it's possible he could change his entire personality and live some truth. Maybe, 🤔
Yes, it's entirely possible his wife knew what a hot mess he was before he cheated and didn't want to bring children into it. Then he doubled down on his immaturity and turned that against her.
@@thecreativemind6675 its common sense but dead beat dads defend dead beat dads so go off
@@thecreativemind6675 You didn't ask me, but the cheater in my family wounded his children in addition to their mother. Cheating is a character issue, and I no longer believe a parent can be a good parent while simultaneously defrauding the mother or father of their children. Cheaters put their ego & their sexual gratification before their spouses and their children.
Ex left me for his co-worker. At the time I was devastated, now I am beyond grateful he's gone. I wouldn't take him back if he had a winning lottery ticket stapled to his forehead.
I hope to get to this point of gratitude. I'm still in pain.
Lol
he was a problematic person😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂😂 *high five*
@@blueseptember2174, you will get there. It takes time. Start with gratitude and everything else will follow. It is a process.
If my husband ripped my heart out and then came back because he got dumped, I would laugh so hard and then fast track that divorce.
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Yup same, his head would spin so fast he’d be a helicopter 😂😂😂
‘In a split second I lost everything I had’.
Karma.
Not a split second. It was his undoing over time. The audacity on him!
It was due to the side piece's "split". Call of the wild n00kie.
This man talks so slowly I can't stand it.
@@Cloudancer2024 Ergo, the situation he finds himself in. Critical thinking skills combined with social and emotional intelligence.
He lost everything in a split second over a woman's split.
A very sad person. Calling ur ex wife to gaslight her by using "suicide" is a sick thing to do.
Yeah he is a bastard
I don't know about all that but city boys we up
Yep!!
He is a selfish man.
The petty me would've said 'Do it!' & hung up
It's telling that he said "I just want my life back" cause he's alone, not "I want my ex back" because I still love her. He doesn't love her... He misses the stability she brings.
Exactly
He misses living in a couples world as part of a couple
It’s a lonely life
Not true repentance
This says it all. He wants the lifestyle: he doesn't love his wife and never did. It was all about status to him. This conversation was incredibly selfish on his part because it was all about him and there's no recognition of the pain he's caused her or the rest of the family.
I feel like I've had a man date me before that very reason and it sucked because he was my first love and he was only with me because I brought him peace instability. He literally cheated on me with the girl that he did nothing but argue with and when I left him he pursued her just to find out she didn't actually want him. She just like the attention and the money. He was giving her the money that he convinced me he was giving to his mom and I told him that didn't make logical sense like she has five boys. You are the youngest. Why is she asking you for money and she is married. She has a husband like why would she ask her youngest for money that we need. It didn't make any sense but he told me I was being selfish and that was his mom and I'm being a bad girlfriend so I kept my mouth shut. Turns out the entire time I was right it was BS. He was giving the money to his ex and cheating on me made me feel like a fool because my gut told me something was wrong but he told me I was being insecure. And when I left him and I told him what could have stopped him from cheating he told me nothing. He told me I did everything a man could possibly want but there was nothing more I could have done and I didn't know how to take that because if I gave you my everything and it still wasn't enough then what the hell. But I treat that like a lesson now. Now I know a cheater is going to be a cheater no matter what you do. So you just have to make sure you pick the right person for sure. It sucks though because it makes me feel like I've become jaded because I am now a lot less patient compared to how I used to be. There's a lot of things I just refused to tolerate early in a relationship and I'm so easily kicking men to the side. As soon as anything happens. And I know that's not okay. I just don't want to be made a fool again
Dear his ex-wife…..Please don’t go back to him 🤯.
John should've called him out on how manipulative it is to randomly send your ex-wife, who you left, a suicidal text to keep her in your life. This dude doesn't deserve her or anyone at this point in time
What a gaslighting move!
I think so too. I understand wanting to stay neutral and be kind to him but a good way to use the platform is to hold some people accountable because they do bad things. Even though it may come off harsh
proves what a lil b*tch he is
EXACTLY
@bekind2416 he lost all credibility to me.. I understand being kind. But this dude is manipulative and had self esteem issues that he needs to deal with, and that wasn’t address properly.
As someone whose husband cheated with the most amazing ( LOL )woman in the world, who cheated on him dumped him and married someone else 2 months after our divorce was final, I can’t help but have a bit of a giggle at this. Actions have consequences dude.
@@prevaloir5362 LOL. No. I sarcastically called the woman he cheated on me with the most amazing woman in the world.
Girl you ain't alone, I'm laughing too 😂 good riddance!
I'm so sorry. This happened in my family and it sucks. It taints every memory you share with a cheater. It poisons everything. The only perk is knowing that our cheater will never ever truly bond. His high is his orgasm mixed with the excitement of conspiring against girlfriend du jour. We found out he was a true blue serial cheater.
This guy is a mess. Apparently wanted a kid so bad that he made a semi-life with a woman who had someone else's child. Good god.
and this is why men marry the girl nextdoor but cheat with the instagram models. instagram models have no heart, and traditional "simple" women are considered boring or unattractive. its depressing.
@@Brainjoy01 I wouldn't say it's just instagram models. It's anyone with more than average looks because there are more options to choose from in the gene pool. Male or female. It's basic biology at this point.
Ladies, don't EVER take them back.
Lmao but ya’ll want us to take YOU back when you cheat on us with another man though right? 😂😂😂 pathetic. Stfu.
Its true. The odds are not in your favour. If they do it once they will do it again.
They will just do it again
Men. Never take her back either 😅😅
@@TwistedJedi2288that part! 😅
I hope that poor woman loves herself enough for not taking him back
He’s the kind of man I pray I never meet. I would rather die alone.
😂 same, love. I'm with you on that one.
Man?!
@@_AnotherOnecarrier of testicles
Agreed
@MalesAreDemonsA demon.
In this call, he sang praises about his former mistress, then didn't show anything but indifference about his wife, but wants advice about getting back with his wife ONLY because he doesn't want to be alone. She better stay far away.
i heard the opposite.
Isn’t that the truth
@@LaciRaeI heard the same thing as you. I heard him uplift his wife. I heard this man's pain for what he'd done.
@@AM-lc6hyPain that only appeared after he got screwed by the mistress. Where was the pain before?
@@AM-lc6hyhe said she was there for him and she had it together to the point where he felt like he didn't matter. He said his mistress was beautiful. It's clear he view them differently
This is a narcissist that’s trying to play victim. If his side piece hadn’t left he would still be in that relationship.
Oh this 110% he’s on the hoover
Truth!
y'all really need to stop diagnosing strangers on the internet. you can't list even a handful of unique indicators of narcissism//NPD based solely on this call. please stop doing this; only thing it does is water down NPD.
No it isn't. He said at the beginning that he knows he's the bad guy in this story. He played a game and lost.
He wants to know how to handle this loss and the misery that's coming with it.
@@LoveMuffin800Yeah which is also something narcissistic people can do, there‘s different personality types with narcissists and some love playing the whole oh I did a bad thing but yet I‘m the victim because of my actions to gain empathy don‘t trust that bs.
I love how just like REAL you were with him. Like you telling him his old life is over and that he cannot get that back. Def needed to hear that brutal honesty!
He left his wife because she wasn’t sure if “she was a believer anymore.” But he goes around and cheats on her like the “believer” he is. Such a hypocrite, disgusting sinner.
Christians, am I right?
Comical.
It’s a complete excuse
And allows another woman to humiliate him by bringing another man home to live. It’s unbelievable 😮
@@jimmytwotime6875 so right, all the men who have cheated on me were Christians...but they had the balls to say non Christians have no morals.
One of these days I want John’s response to be “That’s what you get. Next caller.” Sometimes you’ve got to call a jerk a jerk.
Coddling people like this guy is never going to make them a better person down the line.
He's trying to make him face what he did.
😂🤣😆🤣😂🤣😂
🤣😂🤣😂
😂😂😂
This guy is sneaky 😂. The woman left him and he decided to get his wife's attention by telling her he's suicidal brooo
EXACTLY THIS. It's incredibly manipulative.
It's a common tactic with toxic people and abusers as well.
Yeah diabolical!!!!!
Shady
Swag
"She had it all together and didn't need me."
This
Destroyed my marriage
My husband (when dating) told me he loved that I was strong and independent. That if anything happened he wouldn't have to worry about me.
Married 6 years when he couldn't work due to medical issues. I stepped up and supported our family. Even after he was able to go back to work I made more money. Eventually, He told me how much he resented that I didn't need him.
Divorced at 15 years
A guy said this to me too. Loved that I was independent and could take care of myself. Then, he broke up with me because he said I didn't need him. I'd never asked him for money and he was used to controlling women with money. He said, "You don't even need me!" I told him that I wanted him. I didn't need him. What did he think I was doing before I met him?
You made your bed, now lie in it.........alone.
The manipulation of texting your wife to let her know what happened and to ask her to keep an eye on you is disgusting. This man is a wolf and should not be married to anyone.
His wife sounds like a beautiful soul and she most definitely deserves someone much much better than this man
Agreed, the “keep an eye on me” is super manipulative! Leave her alone dude!!
I saw red the minute he said that “keep an eye on me” - what a manipulative creep. RUNNNN
"You are NOT marriage material" brilliant advice
If you’re gonna put quotes, quote him right. “Right now, you may not be worthy of dating, or being married to.”
@@meepzer literally the same thing. He's trash basically
@@thelovelylove-sk7ozFor now he's trash. That can change. I know several who were once trash, and changed after therapy.
@@lorainefleeman6011 good luck to him
@lorainefleeman6011 He a cheater. If he ever actually becomes marriage material again, he's needs to entirely rework himself. Anyone that knows how easy it is for him to end an 8 YEAR MARRIAGE will immediately believe that he can do it again.
Dear wife of caller: Run away from this man-child. Run to your divorce lawyer’s office and file the papers. They DO NOT change. He’s just sorry he got what he deserved and now he wants you back because he has nothing else. He wants a pity party. Not a marriage.
I wouldn’t even say he’s “sorry he got what he deserved,” but rather, he’s “upset or sorrowful that he didn’t get what he wanted”
In NC you can file papers with the court after a full year of separation and not need to pay a lawyer.
man child ?
@@rebelks88 In the meantime, needs to steer clear of him and not have anything to do with him
He feels sorry for himself only, perioddd
The moral of the story is that impulsive choices can cause deep pain, but facing mistakes and taking responsibility is essential to healing and moving forward.
İs this your answer. Typical. From man to man. He is a greedy selfish monster that does not deserve daylight
No!!! Two adulterers in a "relationship"... and it DOESN'T work out?! Shock! Horror!
I never feel bad for people like this. They need to learn their lessons the hard way. You knowingly engaged in a relationship that is an affair? Your fault when the immoral person acts immorally TO YOU. Cheaters like to think they’re “special” and an exception to the rule, when cheating is a personality defect, not an act of love.
(Clarification “you” is being used towards people that cheat, not in regards to the person who made this comment)
@@LegendaryCS4 I hope you understood I was being sarcastic, lol. And yes that's called the "universal you" or the "collective you". Anyway, I couldn't agree more. I remember hearing someone say that " adultery is the most morally irresponsible thing you could do to someone". I like that. "Morally irresponsible". It's so true. You're doing something completely devastating, carelessly and premeditatedly, because you care more about your own gratification than you do about the feelings of the person who loves you. It demonstrates a severe lack of character. It's selfishness at its peak.
lmbo, delusion is no joke
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lmao!
You can tell he feels no remorse for hurting his wife, he still said that his side chick was beautiful ‘like you wouldn’t believe’ he’s still caught up and heartbroken over her. He doesn’t care about his wife. This man is a coward and manipulative.
He got what he deserved. He called the wife because he was lonely. He chose to destroy her world then goes running back when someone else destroys his. He’s a complete POS. Dr John was very kind handling this the way he did. Honest but still kind.
Yeah that pretty much made me want to vomit!
100%
Yes I caught that as well
Dude!! That’s what I was thinking
May his ex-wife meet a guy whose also been cheated on, and they live happily ever after forever laughing at their horrible exes.
This sounds somewhat similar to my story… and I would never ever ever ever ever take him back. God delivered me from evil For Sure!
Yes, may that women finds a good man 🌻
That would be a dream come true.
Good idea 👍
Agreed!
14:23 Stop lying! “Be very careful with you” is what you would tell the wife! “It’s not selfish to contact her because you were drowning”! Wtf are you even saying!? What if this was your sister or mother he did this to!? You’re feeding this man ridiculousness! He was being manipulative to his wife by calling her and implying zoo-is-side!
Exactly
Oh wow, so you cheat on your wife and then the person you cheated with realizes you aren't marriage material? Who'd have guessed...
You lose em how you got em
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😂😂😂😂😂
A 7 year marriage, too? Hope she's smart enough to walk away.
Lol "well when you put it like that...:
This is a narcissist who feels sorry for himself and has no regard for others. Wifey if you’re reading this, don’t walk away, RUN!!!!
right! this is hovering! run, wife, run!
Truth
Absolutely!!
Not buying a narcissist. He is just an assh***!!
This is hilarious. Trash takes itself out EVERY TIME! I hope his ex is happy and healthy :)
I wish the trash sitting in my kitchen would take itself out lol
Exactly what I wanted to say here! ;)
The way I bust out laughing when he said she dumped me 😂😂😂
Foreal and hope she finds a real man of God to love her like the bible tells him to and that she's sure of her faith. Salvation shouldnt be questionable
I hope she has the best hair day everyday and sleeps good every single night. ❤
9:45 they used him for a place to live and saved their money for a place. Now they’re moving out together. Thats what he get. They were together the whole time.
🤢 you cried to your wife about your girlfriend dumping you and it making you "suicidal". If it weren't so disturbing a situation, it would be comical!
He is malniptive and manipulation is a form of abuse.
Manipulative af
How dare he? I just imagine if his wife was my daughter or friend. After dumping her for another woman he has the nerve to call her for sympathy?
@@brendamoon2660I would have told him to call 911 instead of me. They have more training in that, and they accually care. 😂
@@jamessanders8895 ahahaha! Possibly even better: forgoe the suggestion and send the police to him via that conveniently shares location. He'd never pull that BS again!
To this caller’s wife: Please don’t take him back. He never would’ve called you or this show if his mistress didn’t break up with him. This man is using you to be his emotional dumping site. If he meets a halfway decent looking woman between now and the next time you all talk, guaranteed he’d put you on the back burner again. He’s not healed and it’s not your responsibility to be available to him.
Exactly. If his side piece didn't leave him, he would be having a good old time.
He wants comfort from the woman he threw away. That’s priceless!
Yes it's priceless. But sadly, oh so common.
@@caterinalopez5297very common . My ex did the same after hurting me so deeeeeeply
Those fake tears are everything 😂
Patriarchal religions often produce emotionally stunted men. They need a woman to regulate them bc they never learned how to manage themselves.
5:52 🐊 crocodile tears alert
Right like booooo🍅🍅🍅
The very next day after I found out my husband was cheating, with this "amazing woman who is going to elevate him in life (his words) " after 10 years of marriage, I come home the next day with him sulking, red in the face, crying and angry because she called off their affair and he tells me She betrayed him, he feels blind sided. Those words will forever be with me.
Amazing how certain things said will never stop replaying in our heads. The words I got that replay are "I felt I deserved better than your body". Keep in mind this man married me at 239lbs. And I lost 100 on my own after having 3 kids with him. But it wasn't a perfect vidy. Guess hers was.
I hope you laughed out loud.
And you forgave him???
@@breezeh1127that’s so true. Mine is when my ex-husband said “my dad told me when I was 10 to tell a woman anything to get the best out of her” and he looked so smug. Gave me chills and my stomach still turns with helplessness every time I remember it
Yeah, adultery seems to be antithetical to commitment. It's interesting how the predictably to-be-dumped always thinks they've found someone better.
I've been divorced for 13 years. Last year, my exhusband called me threatening to kill himself because he caught his girlfriend in bed with a man. He did the same thing wanting his old life back.
What have you said to him? If i may ask as a sister
It might be a good day to get a new number.
@@bettyhappschatt3467 LOL! A good day to get a new number! LOL! I declare you winner of these internets! LOL
OMG what a douche! So glad you divorced him. He has no right calling you regarding ANYTHING, least of all his heartache over another woman. Good for you for saying he wasn't welcome back in!
Mine too. Only his side chick got pregnant by another man and wanted nothing to do with him after she realized that what he had was because of me bringing home the bread and holding it down. He started losing everything. Has a new woman now and tried to cheat on her with me. He won’t change and I just want my money
He didn't cheat because his wife was losing faith and reconsidering children. He cheated because she's smarter and more capable than him and he couldn't stand that. He wanted a damsel, not a partner. And now he still doesn't want a partner. He wants a mommy and a therapist.
He sounds like he needs to mature as a man with the Word of God. He shot himself in the foot. He needs Jesus and His Word and learn how to be a man of God.
He wanted a domestic slave and bangnanny
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Years ago my ex tossed me aside married the other woman and spent 2 years with her before she left him. Then he called me and said he wanted me back and he was ready to give me everything i wanted. I said no. I had moved on.
Purrr tell him sis 👏🏿
At least he got dumped by a “girlfriend”, his wife was dumped by her “husband” for some random girl he met at work. So if he thinks what he’s going through is painful, he should stop and think what his wife had to go through.
This kind of ‘’man’’ doesn't feel any empathy or compassion for a woman.
It’s a good thing his wife didn’t have children with him , she can ghost him if she wants to, and I hope she does .
He probably doesn't care about anybody's feelings but his.
Right? He obviously has no remorse at all
This happened to me. My husband cheated on me a left, we had a 2 year old together. The other girl slept with his best friend and left him for a completely other guy. He came running back. I obviously didn’t take him back and now living a much better life.
I wonder how common it is for the ex to actually take someone back after that person cheats and leaves.
Divorce and single parenting is hard, but it’s probably harder to live with and try to love someone who manipulates you.
Seems like that girl is addicted to cheating. She’ll come across the wrong man one day that can’t handle the pain without doing something if she doesn’t stop.
Geezus
@@biellaspointofview2054you are completely missing the point. He said the vows, he said he would remain faithful, he was the one married, only person who cheated here was the husband. Stop blaming the one he had the affair with. Yes, she has a lack of moral compass but she didn’t betray his vows…. HE did! He got what he deserved. Karma is a b…h😂
@@soullessnight6539 hmm? My comment wasn’t for the cheater husband that’s clear he’s to blame for his marriage. I just wanted to point out the girls behavior since she seems addicted to cheating which could lead to her death one day if she does it to the wrong person. The other girl got involved in commenter’s marriage then left the husband for his best friend then left best friend for another man; that’s what I’ve gathered.
He left his wife for another woman and he's blaming her. Isn't he marvelous?
I bet she takes him back… embarrassing
I didn't hear blaming. Guy asked a question and he gave his reasons.
This man only thinks about himself .Why doesn't he try to apologise to his wife because he might learn some useful information?
What a man. 💪🏻🤮
Listening to this guys emotions and regrets makes you feel for him but then I started reading the comments and you guys are absolutely correct. His only real regret is being dumped and now he wants some normalcy back in his life. His “non-believing” wife needs to kick the hypocrite out of her life altogether.
You don’t feel regret for destroying your marriage. You feel regret that your side piece left you.
Right..this guy is UNREAL
exactly, and these men ask why there are single parent househlds
you don't really KNOW that though!
Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.
We don’t say that anymore
@@Gotoworkkk
Why not?
EXACTLY!!!!
@@diane4488 get with the times lady!
@@Gotoworkkk this lesson never gets old
The way this guy goes from laughter to crying so quickly tells me he got what he deserves with his side chick.
Karma comes back quick!
Nervous laughter.
After our divorce, my ex seemed to be repentant, so we were in the process of reuniting. His most recent girlfriend came into some money and he started packing that night to go back to her. I told him, if he left (by this time I honestly didn’t care) not to expect me to take him back. Within a month he was wanting to come back, told me he had made a big mistake-i was past him.
His wife deserves soooooooo much better. He’s only feeling sorry for himself. Never considered her feelings until now and even now, he wouldn’t go back to her if his gf worked out
This man is not sorry for hurting his ex-wife.
No he's not. He's just like leach, can't live on his own. Pathetic.
Exactly. The only reason he's even trying to get her back bc he's homeless and familiar ppl feel soothing after a break up.
I worry that she will take him back based off her reaction to him reaching out. I have unfortunately been in a similar situation before I went through therapy. At the time, I was willing to do whatever it took to get my ex away from the other woman, even if that meant taking him back. The situation was triggering something from my childhood that at the time I was unaware of. He used this exact same guilt trip on me - crying, no place to go - knowing I had a big heart and would struggle to leave him out on the street. That man tortured me for years but I eventually had enough and I am actually grateful to have been through the experience today. It opened up all doors and my life is significantly better now because of the healing work on myself I had to do in the aftermath.
I hope she doesn't have to learn the way I did though
I actually live in the same area as this dude. Wish they'd release his real name. I think he's around my age
@@hollyallyson4111 They have you fight to "save" them from the other woman/man
all while stringing them along and crazy making with you, so when it's your turn to be left they already know what you will do to "save" them while they get the new supply "trained" . Also it's how they spin the "crazy ex" story because you have ripped yourself apart trying to fight a fight that was never real ..
No he's not, he is only sorry his gf dumped him
She was questioning her faith, so he broke his marriage vow.
She didn't know if she wanted kids so he left her for a woman with a kid of her own.
She made him feel like he didn't matter, so he left her as if she didn't.
What a piece of ...
It's a crock.
Thats the lie he made up to make her wrong and him free to look else where.
work, came poetic justice
Who could predict that both parties in a relationship are flawed?
I had an ex call me after 4 years of no contact. He said man things are really bad for me." I stopped him right there and said, "It's not my problem, never call me again." Click ... I've been single ever since by choice. It's so peaceful and I'm happier. Relationships aren't required to be happy.
The block buttons are so helpful...
Same, I rather work on myself (meaning healing and loving myself) before even thinking about another relationship. But the way these men are, might just turn a lesbian instead even though I have no inclining of being with a woman...Or just not be with anyone sounds so much better lol.
@@Alex-Mex alone is peaceful
yes it is! It might be lonely at times but this is way better than being miserable all the time. They say women are all drama, but that's far from the truth. We just keep dealing with the bs until we can't take it anymore. @@relaxandunwind1496
Amen!!
I love how Dr Delaney doesn't crucify him, nor does he let him off the hook. Telling him straight up that he (Delaney) would warn the soon-to-be ex wife against the caller was tough love.
He expected her to be religious, but he is not by way of his actions. He is not marriage material for any women. Very evil for such a religious man
His action are probably why his wife doesn’t want to be a Christian no longer
This man is evil. Religious, nope
Religion is evil.
For some religion is less a belief and more a cudgel to use against others.
I love it when idiots suffer the consequences of their own actions. His wife is so well rid of him
I hope she rapes his fucking bank account for all it's worth in alimony.
Take him to the fucking cleaners girl!!!!
Yes idiots and 304s stories are so funny
If you enjoy this kind of thing you are a loser.
He still calls the mistress "my girlfriend"... smh. I can't believe his wife is still talking to him, let alone helping him. She is a saint and needs to become his ex wife sooner rather than later.
Yeah, I blockity blocked the narcissist I dated as much as possible.
@LXSeaV 🙌 🎉100% no contact is the only way with those crazy making toxic "people". Your life only gets better after dropping them.
A saint or a fool?
Is she not the girlfriend?…well ex-girlfriend now.
@@jones2277 sadly the latter is more likely
I love how you're talking to him, it's refreshing to hear someone speak with kindness. I'm not condoning what he did, but, discussing this in a respectful way is good. ❤ New sub.
the audacity of this guy lmao got exactly what he deserves
Me hairy drunkin ole Daddy got what he deserved. Another bottle of Jack Daniels
@@jimsmith8359 he stayed with her for 7 years wasting her life and NOW he leaves because he finds a gf but now neither of them want him
1000% eff this guy for real lol thats what he gets
@@jimsmith8359love and marriage can only exist if you have kids…?
@@jimsmith8359well clearly he wasn't good enough to procreate with if he cheated 😂
He told his wife to "keep an eye on him" implying he may potentially harm himself. Really? That is beyond selfish, disgusting, and deplorable. He chose to hold her emotionally hostage and forcefully pull her into his situation because he couldn't handle dealing with the mess he created on his own. What a sad, sorry excuse of a Man.
He just hates being alone. He isnt taking any accountability for causing someone an incredible amount of pain and heartache.
Yup
I hope this video gets around where he lives. He's got all the flags. Terrible human being!
Most men are just desperate for any partner once one is gone, women alone are FINE!
That's right. He wasn't regretting leaving her when his fling with the new girlfriend was on fire. He's only sad cuz he's alone now. I would tell this dude to go take a hike. I hope the wife doesn't take him back. He's going to bail on her again. He doesn't love his wife. He would have never left her like that. Dudes like this need to grow the hell up. Just wait until a woman dogs him out. See how he likes that.
“I left my wife because she lost her faith and didn’t want kids with me.” She probably lost her faith in Him and the Marriage. No woman wants to have children with a man who steps out on her! NONE.
And she knew he was looking to step out of the marriage first chance he got. Women have an instinct.
He's probably cheated before too and got caught.
And you have to have an extremely selfish mindset to even cheat in the first place. John’s right in saying he isn’t marriage material. The caller is mad that his wife clearly sees how much she as a woman has to lose having a kid with a loser than he does as a man. He can leave whenever he wants
She was smart for not having kids with him.
His wife deserves far better than him. Now he wants to rebound on her. What a selfish and immature human being. He deserves to feel the pain. His wife deserves a real man.
Did this dude say he felt distant from his wife because she wasn't a believer (assuming from a religious aspect) and then proceeded to cheat on her? I don't think religious texts condone cheating?
Came here to say this!
I wish John would have checked him on that.
He is so oblivious to his own bs.
I was thinking this too
EXCUSES.
He doesn’t know how to be alone. The wife deserves better.
If you get with a woman who knows you were cheating on your wife to be with her, don’t be surprised if she cheats on you too 😂
This. The side chick doesn’t respect you and never will. She got what she wanted then got bored. The manipulator got manipulated. Boohoo.
It’s always a fun irony how this happens when people who begin their relationship by cheating on somebody are shocked when someone who had no aversion to cheating chooses to cheat when it’s with them. But this dude exhibits narcissistic behavior so it’s perfectly possible that he believed that she would cheat but never cheat on him as well. But I’ve also fallen for it like an idiot too because I was ridiculously insecure and was attached to feeling like a woman loved me even if I was treated poorly. I dated someone who I was convinced I loved but was really just believing there was love because I had low self confidence and didn’t think there was anything else out there. And she cheated on me and then out of idiocy and desperation I continued to lobby to get back together while she dated the dude she cheated with and then she cheated on him tons of times with me which I justified against them cheating together. And then she left that guy and dated another guy and she cheated on him with me which I’ll always regret and apologized to him for because he was a good guy and didn’t deserve it at all. But then we did get back together because somehow in my head it didn’t click that she cheated on me and then cheated on the next two guys with me and how any belief that she wouldn’t do it again now that we were back together was such a joke. Thankfully after those events I realized my mistakes and I apologized to the two guys I participated in the cheating against because it was such slimeball behavior by me. And there was a price to pay because I was unable to trust anybody relationally for years to where I just didn’t date at all until I met my wife and finally had resolved those issues.
Exactly! Totally agree.
Ha or if he cheats on the new girl? I mean he did it once he could probably do it again
Seems like she used him to get the baby daddy back. She showed the BD how quickly she could get another guy and move on and he didn’t want that and basically moved back in. The caller is a total idiot. His wife dodged a bullet.
My uncle did this to my aunt, and the lady he left her for, ended up doing the same thing to him. Any woman who's willing to knowingly have a romantic relationship with a married man, is willing to do the same thing to him. It's sad. A vicious cycle.
Ermm why is the cards falling onto the woman at this point???
It's so so fking misogynistic and ret@rded it's fking beyond me!!
It is HIM who is the biggest culprit here!! HIM not her!!
Now if he cheated once, he will do the same thing again!!
It's so ret@rded how people like you put the final ownes on the woman, when HE is the main problem here! ☠☠☠
I hope your aunt did not take him back
The saying you lose them, how you get them always seems to ring true, and I love it when it happens to the right people.
And if he cheated with you, he’ll cheat on you.
@@wandering_penguino Exactly.
Sounds like the player got played. The wife needs to steer clear of him. If that baby momma gives him any indication that she wants him back, he will leave the wife again. Believe that.
He will cheat again almost for sure
The baby momma or any other female ever. He's left his wife once, he will do it again if he gets a chance. She's his plan B.
As a woman who has lived through this -and I know this is a safe space for men and I’m here respectfully- if my ex husband had taken this advice I would have stayed and tried one last time. I was the only one trying, so I gave up. And I’ll tell you that once a woman gives up, it’s nearly impossible to get back in. But it takes a lot to get there. So men- take this advice and give it one more shot… but only if you’re being honest. With her AND yourself. It won’t work otherwise. Be vulnerable and truthful. Be open and communicate how you felt and what led you there (without blaming her. Just how things made you feel. Pointing fingers will get one right back at you.)
Women aren’t complicated. Be honest. Be vulnerable. Stop being selfish. You’ll be in. If you are a team then nothing can stop you. But if you are “the man of the house” with little regard for her time or feelings…you’ll never truly have her.