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Afraid to move to an unknown city by herself but not afraid to move to unknown city with an unknown man.
Especially a Russian man. There are more women than men in Russia and their women are way better than us women. Red flags abound!
Very good point!
She knows him. He has an online profile that’s completely factual.
@@pimaggot Exactly... no reason he will leave Russia and the women for an American. Come on. Exactly why Russians think American's are stupid. Go visit him in Russia even then you can't uncover it all.
@@pimaggot because they are desperate to leave their country. Desperate people do Desperate things and anything- Russian women/ foreign woman are in survival mode to have a better life.
15 seconds on Google and I literally found three entry-level marketing positions posted this week in Fresno... But sister is going to move to Los Angeles with no experience...
I just moved to LA with 3 years of experience and it still took MONTHS to find my job! It’s a GREAT job now but I postponed moving by over a year so I could find the job before moving. I really hope this girl makes a wise decision.
But .... make up!!
and knowing virtually no one!
@@AMK544 spoiler: I'm sure she doesn't.
And she has free housing and family support in Fresno
6 years later. "My Russian husband became a US citizen and divorced me, leaving me with tons of debt & 2 kids. Now I'm back living with my family in Fresno ".
Yeah, if she's lucky.
@@calebmallen yup, best case scenario
He won’t wait that long and the damage he leaves in his wake long after he’s gone will continue to haunt her because if he’s not a citizen when he leaves her she’ll still be responsible for everything he does in this country. It’s no different than being responsible for anything a minor child does except he’s no child and has no incentive to do the right thing once here.
😂
😂😂😂
Her calling into this show has probably saved her life
100% agree!
I grew up in LA and I never understood why people flock there. It's expensive, the people are rude, and everything is fake.
I bet half the people on skid row had the same dreams.
I'd pay big money not to move to LA.
Well I used to wanna be an actor. Make fun if you want but now as I've gotten older..and I never moved to LA but I have visited...I figured out that I love the South (especially with this election going on..I would be a total outcast in another part of the country) and I love to live like 30 minutes from a big city but live in the countriyish area...not too country but small enough town where people are rioting in the streets I guess.
Are NOT rioting I mean lolol
I think the scariest part is that many human trafficking survivor stories start like this.
Oh and I learned I don't want anywhere near 90% of the celebrities..they make me sick.
GIRL IS CHOOSING THE WRONG TIME TO MOVE TO LA. PEOPLE ARE FLEEEEEEEEING
Ehhh... not really. People in SF are moving to LA because it’s cheaper. And by that I mean, SF is $2000-$3000 a month for a one bedroom while LA is $1500-2000. Anyone poorer that could afford to move is leaving.
Edited for clarity.
@@flipmaya it's only 1500 for a one bedroom in la? Cheaper than where I'm from. (Northern VA)
@@KaylaMarie_ that’s on the cheap end. A modern studio in a new building could reach $3k
Yeah she really doesn't pay attention.
@@KaylaMarie_ plenty of one bedrooms in fairfax for $1500, what do you mean?
As questionable as her decision making skills are, she made a very good decision by calling in. Let's hope she listens.
Best comment!
She makes $20k a year, has an oversees bf from Russia that is planning on moving here, both want to move to Los Angelos together, with 0 marketing experience hoping to get into her dream job.... smh. Sounds like this is not gonna end well.
She doesnt even make enough to sponsor him its 28k for 1 and 34k for 2 peoole like girl and kid.
Shes getting scammed, this person (he or she) will ask for money then never hear from them again.
@@midlifecrisis7888 hmm not true, been with him for 3 years and he’s established in his career over there. Nice try being concerned for me though
@@TaylorEmmersen the length of time you’ve been with him is irrelevant. You need to establish your own life. You are showing extremely codependent tendencies living with mom and dad and then spending NO time to establish yourself and your career before running away with a dude. Idc if he’s from Russia or down the street, either way you need to establish yourself with out mom, dad, or boyfriend.
@Stephen Willis Stotch 😂😂
When DR says “if you were my daughter...” I pay extra attention!
As someone who worked at Target for exactly 3 years and 1 day, I can tell you first hand that they WILL give you a $50,000+ a year management job just for having a college degree. So she definitely was not applying herself and didn't care to.. Target does a lot of business with high end retailers and designers so that would be a perfect segway into the line of work she wants to get into.
I love 🎯
They love my wallet.
I can't afford to get a job there. But it works be great for her, even as a cashier, customer service, stocking, etc...
And there's marketing jobs at Target too
How does someone as naive as this little girl even survive in LA? Im scared for her.
Step 1: move to LA
Step 2: party
Step 3: move back home and act like a big shot.
@@letmecatchyouslippin2425 🤭
I was that little girl in 1980. It is truly horrifying to hear this girl speak.
She won't especially if this dude is on some bad stuff he probably convinced her of all this they make you uproot yourself and move away from people close to you then you go missing it's true man that trafficking thing and he could just be trying to get citizenship and then move on
isnt LA basically filled with naive people?
I wish some of these people with horrible ideas call back later to explain how it happened
Seriously me too lok
“So he left me and I can’t afford the home and the truck we bought. Also he took the truck and everything is under my name.”
"Dave Ramsey - Where are they now"
As an immigrant to America, I wouldn't help a help a man get his papers. I've heard horror stories and that's a risk I'm not willing to take.
I really hope she listens. Be self sufficient. Do not depend on anyone.
Huge Kudos Dave! I'm a former Law Enforcememt Officer and Military Vet and we are on the same page about this scenerio. Red Flags all over place for this young girl. Hope she steps back and takes a mature look at this because it is scary and very dangerous.
@Heinrich Himmler Vertical
If the girl who called in reads this : hun, I AM AN EX RUSSIAN. I currently live in the UK (normally) but am temporarily in Russia. Let me say this. This is said out of love, and deep compassion. I am 25, finished a degree in marketing. Also feeling that uncertainty, I understand why latching on to the idea of LA and love is the most comforting thing. But as a RUSSIAN, I am saying to you, BEWARE. Russians, are notorious for using ANY MEANS NESSESARY to LEAVE RUSSIA AND MOVE. Russian men, and charming, and handsome, and clever, and calculative. It is VERY likely, this isn’t as beautiful as it seems. Long story short, hi. If you want to just chat to someone about this I’m honestly here, and I could evaluate this from a Russian expat perspective. If you don’t, let me say this, if they are from ANYWHERE BUT MOSCOW, it is VERY untrustworthy. The REGIONS and MOSCOW are two different versions of Russia. The REGIONS will do anything to leave the regions, and tldr caution is what if advise
St Petersburg is iffy. It’s what we call a major city yes but not the same level as Moscow is. But anything that isn’t Moscow or St Petersburg is considered “regions” (even if it is a million city). Plainly put, regions,are a whole different level of needy for other options. OF COURSE, this is a MASSIVE generalisation, you cant boil down someone’s core personality based on a city, but it is perhaps that one extra percent you may want to be aware of
Is Russia that bad?
My hubby is from Germany but he's Russian descent. Everytime he sees a Russian guy or girl trying to immigrate here he laughs because he's know they're trying to escape. They try to do that in Germany too.
@@christeee yep, germany is in the top places people want to leave to. it goes US, UK, Germany, France
Поворот сюжета - он происходит из русской семьи нуворишей, которая богаче Дэйва Рэмси. Хаха.
How many people think the Russian boyfriend is also a part-time Nigerian prince?
God I never thought I needed to read this. Made my week
Dave needs to update his jargon. Russia is not a communist country. There is a lot wrong with it, but communism is no longer the problem.
Yep.
😂😂
It’s Putin, I imagine
She should stay in Fresno with her parents and get SOME experience doing ANY kind of marketing, before moving to LA with a "boyfriend" you've never met in person.
Exactly. But the boyfriend should move to Fresno.
@@flblackbutterfly1 But BF should not move in with her family-unless they want to “sponsor” him. 🚩
@@lauriepowell3959 I didn’t say anything about him living with her or her family. But guess he needs some place to go. Lol
She’s been watching too many Disney movies.
Me too. This pandemic...
90 Day Fiancé
More red flags than a soviet parade.
Yeah Russia have changed there flag now but agree
She’s clueless. She doesn’t have a plan, she had a dream she can’t afford and don’t exist.
I love Dave’s no-BS attitude. He tells it like it is no matter who is on the line.
Californian who lives abroad - my British husband and I have investigated relocating our family back to the US for years and know that - there is ZERO possibility that some guy from Russia can show up in America right now and be able to get any kind of a job. If you come to the US with a specialised skillset you can possibly get sponsored by a company that wants you so much they are willing to go through all the paperwork and hassle and expense of hiring this person, but they need to be able to prove that the job could not be done by a legal American. In the BEST of situations - it will take 18-24 months for a SPOUSE to get a Green Card and be able to work in the US. And as far as Los Angeles goes, people are leaving in DROVES because they can't find reasonable priced housing. Working people in LA are living in their cars because they can't afford rent. This woman needs a wakeup call. How did she get through University? She needs to get a job - any job and start paying back those student loans because the interest Doesn't stop accumulating just because you aren't being asked to make payments. The majority of people graduating now can't earn enough to ever pay back their student loans and it becomes a millstone around their necks, and the necks of anyone stupid enough to be a co-signer for student loans - for the rest of their lives. In order for this guy to get into America from Russia, he will have to be sponsored in order to stay on anything other than a tourist visa. And if he has a tourist visa he will not be allowed to work. The only people that would hire and illegal from Russia are doing illegal and dangerous things - and that's somebody you don't want to be anywhere around. This girl needs a very strong talking to. It's not hard to verify anything I've said about visas and working conditions and living conditions in LA etc. It's not the same world it was in the 1980's when many of us travelled and worked all over the world. Working laws and visas are much harder to get now than they ever have been.
Everything you said is correct, but I think spouses get a temporary green card allowing them to work, followed by the permanent green card 1-2 years later. If I'm not mistaken, the foreign spouse can actually apply for citizenship after 3 years.
Thank you for information. Trying to marry a "import model" myself.
@@waterheaterservices where's she from.
I can verify that this is true. I work in HR and it is one slow process
@@GUITARTIME2024 And every step of the way costs money. That dream of hers already has so much money tied up in it they’ll have to do illegal or immoral things to be able to come up with that kind of money. I don’t see any other way. And LAX? Why on Earth would you want to work at an airport of all places?! Seems fishy to me.
She’s in for a rude awakening if she comes to LA. The housing situation here is out of control.
Sounds like the "stranded lover" romance scam. My guess is he will start asking for "travel money" real soon. "Oh baby, I really want to be with you - if only I had $5,000."
You know it. My brother got played like a well tuned piano by a Russian lady.
My grandma has given tens of thousands of dollars to multiple different catfish scammers that say that they are rich and want to take her to travel the world.... but he needs $1200 to get out prison in Turkey because he works offshore and there was a passport misunderstanding.
@@ChadKirk . Oh my world, that’s what these guys used to say to me..my response: “call me when you have money to send me because I am totally broke” and I would blocked them.
RE The Marketing Career:
As someone that works in design and majored in in college, you're probably NOT going to get the perfect job or the specific industry you're looking for. Doesn't mean it can't happen, but the problem of limiting your marketing expertise right out of college to cosmetics/luxury retail would cripple your career takeoff. My first job in my career was designing apartment community websites.
Use your first marketing gig as a stepping stone, because I can assure you that it's way better and easier to work in marketing in some other industry and gaining experience until you find a cometic/luxury retail marketing job, than making $20k at Target with no marketing experience.
Also, it's a pandemic. Pretty much any company that's doing business correctly has a majority of their employees working remotely. Look up remote gigs, but don't limit yourself to fkn cosmetics and luxury retail.
She’s right about Fresno nowheresVille. The Russian boyfriend ain’t getting a job at LAX airport he’s not a citizen or permanent green card holder and Air travel is way down so they aren’t hiring Good advice Dave ..!
I mean Fresno is on the come up. She has to use the proximity principle to talk to people in her desired field
My boyfriend? Oh he’s is in Russia right now...
some people are just STupid !!!!
Fresno for you.
LOL. ❤
she's from california.. she deserves a little wake up call lol
I mean my thought is - unless she knows him from like school, where she actually knows him - it doesn't make any sense to attach yourself to someone who is currently in Russia & you're trying to make plans *in the middle of a pandemic*. Now if they know each other it may be a different story.
I'd like to hear from her in a year. 🙄
She's NOT listening to any advice.
Best case scenario, two young people in love with no jobs in a very expensive city. He has no credit, she gets in debt all during the pandemic. Then the only option is to return home with her parents because she is all his support system.
"90 Day Fiancée" & possible true crime story vibes from this one!
She lives in California and can’t find any “local “ Russians? 🤷🏼♀️Just saying...
There's plenty of Russians here lol we also have Ukrainians Romanians and Moldovans
I walk past thousands of Filipinas in California on my way to Philippines to marry. 😆
At this point her and her boyfriend should apply to be on “90 Day Fiancé” 😂
@@redvelvetcakeYUM LOL, what a disaster
@@redvelvetcakeYUM 😂😂
Very hard to legally immigrate to the USA to “work at LAX”.
Yeh, when she said he wants to the work at the airport, my spidey sense went off!!
What’s an immigrant with a visa going to be allowed to do at the airport? Imagine what credentials you gotta have to work there after 9/11!
Yup.
@@simplechatelaine have you been to the airports lately? None.
LAX employs 450,000 people.
Maybe he has some kind of expertise in
Aviation field.
I love that Dave used the word “fantasy” lol so many people who live in LA moved there under a fantasy with no talent thinking the city will make them successful. This is 2020. You don’t need to live in places like that anymore, especially for marketing. Build yourself up locally, then regionally, then nationally, then internationally. Not everyone can get passed all those levels. That’s how it works.
I remember watching I Love Lucy episodes. . .even she was delusional about Hollywood.
Yet .....a majority of big influencers and marketing folks live in LA . There is a reason for it , there are more opportunities to expand into other industries there .
It’s not a great fit for most , but along with NY it’s the most lucrative part of the country .
@@razojacqueline you don’t start in high-end. You work your way up. That’s the point. That’s like saying “you just graduated film school yesterday, direct this 200mil feature film for us please” lol you gotta make student films and short films first. You don’t just go from 0-100, which is her plan. High risk with relative reward to the local or regional market. There’s also other cities than LA.. ever hear of the internet? Most marketing people I know work from home.
@@bangladeshirealtor Funny... I thought the global market was bigger than NY or LA 🧐 weird how a career from home, online opens up even more possibilities than limiting yourself to one expensive city. Most marketing people I know, who work for BIG clients, work from home or own their own marketing company. Also, her chances of just graduating and working in high-end marketing are slim to none, no matter what city she lives in. You gotta start smaller. If you’re good, and a big city is your goal, it’ll eventually happen. Just don’t dive into the ocean without knowing how to swim for a man you’ve never met lol
@@RyanAnthonyDigitalMedia I don’t disagree with you , I was just stating the reality . A lot of opportunities exists in those 2 cities . This caller is strictly looking at domestic opportunities, and so is her significant other . So anything international is an irrelevant point lol . You are stating the obvious there .
You don’t necessarily have to start in a small city . She more so has to have roommates after getting an entry level opportunity in LA until her BF can get a work visa and help contribute on housing where they can split rent .
I actually listened to the call rather than make assumptions. There are lifestyle desires and factors in play as well.
The moment this boyfriend asks for money to pay for the flight to the States, you can be pretty sure it's a scam. Chances are you will never hear from him again. There are a lot of cases out there with that tragic storyline.
I mean, he's gonna need a lot more than just a flight to the States in order to get a visa/green card, but I agree don't give him any money.
90 day fiance anyone?
Exactly, when she said Russian, I thought of Anfisa
If she was smarter she'd see if they could get on the next season so she can actually make money...
I foresee another Andrei 🇲🇩 in this woman’s future. Just without Libby’s money father to hussle him out off.
Yes!!!
LOL posted that before I saw this!
My only thing is she never said she hasn’t met him. However, all the points I agree with. Don’t move with the boyfriend, get yourself some confidence then live your life.
Agreed. She didn’t relationship in detail. What if she is of Russian decent and used to live there herself? Or he could have been a foreign student at her college here in the US. Not saying these are the likely scenarios but she didn’t elaborate so not sure why they are following the narrative that this guy is a catfish.
Yeah I’m pretty disappointed to see everyone make that assumption
And she didn’t say she was helping him immigrate- but I think it’s her naïveté about the rest of her “plan” that gives the sense that she may be gullible enough to get catfished.
@@olivias2836 Maybe his family is well off and he already has relatives living in LA. There are a lot of nouveau riche in Russia, some are wealthier than Dave Ramsey :), hence the “living together in LA and working in luxury retail marketing” fantasy. But the LAX job sounds weird, and in any case she doesn’t seem mature enough for a long-term relationship.
@@qian4413 I must say it was a big disappointment to see Dave jumping into assumptions without asking further questions.
Fresno Caller, LA is expensive, has major homeless issues, and currently the pandemic job market is not good. You really dont know what you are doing. And some Russian dude who "wants to work at LAX" sounds shady. (Also, if you marry him, you are on the hook the next 10 years if he leaves you and applies for any U.S. welfare, WIC card, subsidized housing, etc. The Fed govt will sue you for any funds he gets. This doesn't even include how your credit rating can get totally jacked up.). PLEASE get real.
Wowo, is that true about her being on the hook?
Santa Monica is the best. Tell me another real estate market that even compares
@@armandol1826 lol. Go on Zillow and look at the prices.
@@sensiblewheels not that i have ever heard, and I was my wife’s sponsor
Anirudh yes! It says it on the sponsor form for permanent residence. You sign saying you understand and consent to this.
Lol she's still gonna do it
She is in l😭ve
@@thomasthumim7630 Dumbazzzzzzzes!!!! she will find out
She sounds very young and naive. I met my husband online we were both 21. 14years later we are still together and he moved to my country. Not everyone on the internet is out to scam you but you have to have enough common sense to pay attention to the signs that things may not be what they say it is.
@@solidice242 facts
Of course. She'll learn the hard way.
As a fellow Fresnan, I'd agree that there aren't many marketing type jobs here. However, this girl definitely needs a better plan that focuses on her and not a relationship.
She could do some low level marketing as a free lancer. Making offers to small businesses. Shooting videos, writing better copy for their websites, organizing social media / FB ad campaigns for her. (if she works on a success related base she could sell that even now. She controlls the metrics and details of such a campaign, she would learn a LOT how to tweak such campaigns.
and it is knowledge that makes you independent (you can make a living being self employed, you can make extra money, you can work outside the expensive areas).
Being good in online marketing is a skill that she can sell as free lancer to smaller companies OR it can land her job opportunities. It also shows a potential high end employer that she is resourceful, determined, can execute a plan. Carving out a niche as free lancer is harder than working as employee, and recruiters KNOW that.
Might not make a lot of money, but she is making contacts. with some luck a business contact in Fresno knows someone in L.A. S.F. or N.Y.
It would look good on her resume. She would learn about marketing herself. And freelancers work from home anyway. She could contact freelancers and offer to help. If _that_ works out, she has a foot in the door to become a freelancer herself, and she LEARNS a lot of things.
In marketing you have to be resourceful. She isn't. At all. So either she does not (yet) have what it takes - or there are some serious psychological issues, that hinder her to spread her wings at least in the career. There is no shame in not being a super ambitious, driven person - but then you should not "dream" of moving to L.A. where they are just waiting to provide you with your dream job.
The times where you got a degree and then the secure jobs line up are over, marketing graduates are a dime a dozen.
In L.A. - and in a high end (prestigious) niche ??? She is going to have a lot of very passionate, driven, ambitious, determined, resourceful, smart competition. (Methinks she hopes she will find a job where she can FALL AGAIN into a structure like College was a structure, or living with her parents was a structure. Not gonna happen in this era, and definitely NOT in L.A. in a high end field.)
Not many opportunities in Fresno. She could try to CARVE out her niche. And she is a fish in a _smaller_ pond. if she - for now - goes for the less attractive jobs or gigs she at least gets experience. And trains her frustration tolerance / resilience (that will come in handy if she ever moves to L.A.). Luckily she can live with parents for cheap.
Hard to believe that with all the info out there, for years now, that girls still fall for these overseas scams. Also, the fact he "Wants to work at LAX" to me screams smuggler.
Yes! Absolutely my thought too.
Dave, thank you for the work you do against human trafficking
“You are going to get SLAYED”
3:50 "I don't feel comfortable handling rent by myself"
Dave's partner: *TERRIFIED *GLANCE AT DAVE
😂😂😂😂😂
Ya I saw that!! Epic
If your always co-dependent on situations outside of yourself you will always live in Fear.
Wow! Such a powerful statement. Thanks for sharing. People need to hear this more often
Agreed. I was very codependent in relationships so I decided to stay single and move out on my own even though I was scared. Best decision I’ve ever made.
The one time someone from my city calls into Dave’s show and we get this... way to represent Taylor 🤦🏽♂️
🤭
That young lady must 🛑 ✋ stop/ go back 🛑 I’m an older lady who married a man from Montana who said all the right things even knew the Christian books I read and read them to me..,Left my house 🏡 and all I knew with love and hope in my heart when he came to get me after month’s of talking and shared dreams of ranch life and family ties and church. We married and by Christmas I was newly married homeless and shamed. NEVER trust a situation like this., It will take years to regain your personal and financial life.
Honestly as a person who works in high end beauty she can literally work from home to do that work. Many beauty companies use freelancers or outsource to different marketing companies. THERE IS A PANDEMIC and people in marketing are working from home. If her job really needs her to move she should; but more often that not a quick zoom call and a bunch of emails later she can work from home. Save money and don't move to LA. Paying a lot of $$$ to live next to a homeless person if you do.
*NIGERIAN PRINCE HAS ENTERED THE CHAT*
😂😂😂
😝.
Don't move in with your boyfriend unless you get married first.
And don't marry some guy without a job and no prospects of getting one in America!
@@Chouette1982 yes!!
You should live with someone before you marry them but after it looks like it's going the marriage route. No good marrying someone to find out they can't wipe their own arse.
You mean "hes going to move in with her"
When my brother was 16 yrs old he
Spend alot of time online on a website called "cool teen chat."
Eventually he fell in love with a girl around his age.
She send him a 💍 wedding ring
A ▶️VCR,
a 🖥computer monitor (which I still keep as a souvenir).
He never met her but he romance her really well.
He sing her songs
He spend hours on the phone with her until they fall asleep.
All that romantic stuff.
they planned to meet but she got into an 🤞🏼accident that threatened her life.
Long story short she was a faker at that time She was 40+yrs and was married.
That was almost 20 yrs ago
She is around 60yrs old now
😦 she is older than our mom!
Still I think that relationship that my brother had with that woman was the best that she ever had.
Some people need to fall on their faces to learn certain lessons in life.. it’s called growth
She has a choice to make growth less painful than this.
The arms being crossed when she said there are no cosmetics or retail marketing in Fresno. Classic 😆
Yeah so the only other alternative is working at Target.
As long as she considers the high minded plans in the far away city with the far away boyfriend - she can excape the reality that it might be hard to get even any ! marketing job in Fresno. The common sense thing would be to get a job in marketing no matter how lowly. Or to work as a freelancer. Even an internship would be better (for 2 months or so). At best that is some psychological issue, where she does not dare to spread her wings. (I am all for her staying with the parents, but at least in the work field she could start growing up). Insteads she pursues TWO unrealistic scenarios (well three).
Good job in a specific niche of her profession (and she does not bother to get any related experience).
The far away "boyfriend".
Making it in the VERY expensive city that spits out (ambitious) people with a plan.
She is either very naive or has psychological issues that make her falling for delusions.
Thèse cities have one million people who are more ambitious already there, so it is incredibly difficult to get established. Throwing away security to be with someone that you do not know in person is so risky. This girl is scaring me with her plan. She sounds like she is chasing a nightmare that she might regret ten years from now. I hope I am wrong.
I bet the parents aren't saying much because they don't know about that 'russian' boyfriend...
This is really Jerry Springer material.
I know a young girl who has a degree in fashion design (4 year college) in Los Angeles. She found out the reality of this industry. Just this year, she finished her PHD in physical therapy!
DPT, not PhD. My girlfriend gets hers next year
Far too often you see people move somewhere like LA and NYC to chase some dream and get mad at the world when it doesn't work out.
Wasn’t there a call like this where a girl who never met her fiancé and only saw his mechanic bf in pictures wanted to bring him to America. Papa Dave stepped in to advise her on not to do this.
Yeah that was a few months ago I believe lol
Olive Woo Yep! Sadly these chicks are probably obese which is why they fall for these scams
I bet she highly regrets calling in. I noticed she didn't hang around on the phone.
Dave muted her quick
Thank you Dave, If you save this one woman from making this mistake, your whole ministry's mission is met. Thank you for being a papa bear.
He hung up on her so smooth! 🤣😂🤣🤣😂😂🤣
She can build her career path with Target as a cosmetic marketer in couple of years to gain experience and increase her salary. Pay off the student loans and then transition to high end. Some of these young people don't want to crawl before running. They just want to run and live that Instagram life. Slow down and let that boyfriend sort himself out and also build financially.
This call reminds me of a scene from a movie I once saw: A bright-eyed young lady gets off a Greyhound bus in L.A. and asks "Where do I go to become a star?"
So sad, she doesn't notice the "abuse me" sign on her forehead.
I have told my 17 this!! She has got an attitude with me over friends I deemed inappropriate and actions she didn’t care for it. I stated clearly my house my rules if you don’t want to abide to may move out
People do so much for love and it’s so tough. Life is always a chase for some people but easy for others. I wish the best for this women
SlightlyRandom Fantasies aren't love.
Love for people they've never met? 😂 word you're looking for is delusion
People and jobs are fleeing LA right now and this gal is trying to start a life and career there... woof.
This is crazy... She's too young to be making this decision... She needs to worry about herself before she worries about anything else. Grow professionally, personally, and financially first WHILE being at your parent's house. She has such a good situation right now and she's going to throw it away... Smh
If it feels weird it's weird!
Sounds like a typical young person. i wAnT tO LiVe iN lOs AnGeLeS.
Indeed.
I know many like this in their 30s and 40s now with a lot of wasted years.
He said it correctly
@@blackworldtraveler3711 I know so many people who think it’s ok to be renting as they hit 50 in HCOL cities. Retirement will be nearly impossible as rents keep increasing.
LA is a wasteland now. Why would anyone want to move there?
@@estrogen_intolerant culture diversity and nightlife are the typical answers.
As an immigrant myself, this scared me as well. I remember when my girlfriend (now wife) told her parents that we were dating, they told her to be careful and make sure that I was dating and tried to marry her for the citizenship. I remembered being quite annoy at that but now, knowing my in laws, I understand why they were worried. There are a lot of bad people out there and usually, they ruin good people reputation, so better "be wise as serpents and innocent as doves"
Well said 👏🏾
God bless the many good Viets
"NO FREAKIN' PLAN" Screeches Dave so wisely!!!
Why not just apply for jobs and move once you've landed a job? Just remove the boyfriend out of the equation. If you want to go to LA, find a job there, and go. If you can't find a job, don't go.
Good advice to establish herself instead of holding back for a relationship. Especially one that may not be real....
She needs to start paying the loan someone signed their name helping her get. Period
She must be BIG mad. I see she has replied to several of the comments. Sometimes experience is the best teacher because she believes none of what you guys told her about this guy..smh
My son got taken by a Russian "girlfriend" he sent her money to come to the states and he was ghosted. I hope she wakes up!!
He can buy a ticket instead of sending money to her
Thousands upon thousands of these scammers these days in Russia, China, Philippines, Uganda, Nigeria, etc.
So many ppl grow up being told they can do whatever they want and have their dream job handed over on a platter. At least for me in an engineering degree, the only people who could actually do whatever they wanted were the top 3-4 kids. That's it. Everyone else yeah you could get good money but you'd have to make compromises like working in the middle of nowhere. Sometimes that's what you have to do to eventually get to the dream job but kids now don't understand the process.
My fiance is Russian and I can't say anything bad about the Russians i have met. That being said people from all over the world are willing to do anything to get into the US. My fiance got her citizenship before we met so there was no worry of that for me. She needs to get her life together before she complicates it with a person from anywhere, much less the other side of the world.
This screams trafficking to me. I really hope she didn’t do it...she’s a little naive and immature. Get established and grow yourself independently first. Would love an update from this one .
Wowza Dave. You've earned my respect on a whole new level. I work on the topic and this has human trafficking red flags all over. Thank you thank you for saving this girl's life. I hope she listens to you and stays safe. 🙏🏽
This reminds me of that call Dave got from that girl who was wanting to marry the guy from the Dominican Republic. Video is titled as “This Call Scares Me” if I remember correctly.
A Russian guy coming to work at LAX... Red flag Red Flag RED FLAG.
😂 RED flag. 😂.
Hard to hear "Fire Alarms" when you are young.
Lady, you can find marketing gigs online. You are not going to start at the top. Pick any and all gigs related to marketing. It's about building relationships and a book of work and projects you have successfully done. Always work towards your goals, day by day.
People don't plan to fail, they fail to plan.
I wish Dave could elaborate a bit more on the situation of the "misbehaving" employee that felt weird. Would be super interested to hear of some real life situations Dave has faced.
Yes!! I was like “details !! Details!” 😂
Can you do follow up on some of the folks you spoke with? I’m wondering how they doing a year or later from now
Sometimes you call in again but it would be nice if they reach out..Then again, this girl would never pick up a year from now lol
Been watching and listening to many videos. My husband and I have been through FPU and using debt snowball are debt free , except mortgage, having emergency fund etc. THIS message is SO IMPORTANT. God bless you Dave for speaking the truth to this young woman. I am praying she chooses well and stays safe.
I'm in Fresno. I understand her desire to get out but don't be stupid! She needs to get it together and make wiser choices. Dave's advice was on point.
She can do all that online. No need to move. Work at home with her own online marketing business. That or there are companies that hire online marketers as well
No one wants to sit at home working behind a pc all day, and no employer would hire anyone remotely if there's any chance they could find someone willing to work on site
@@Simon-oy7kf Absolutely no one? Hmm that's funny; have you ever worked in that field? There's a huge network of entrepreneurs and people online working from home. It's nice to not have to depend on someone else for your salary. But whatever floats your boat negative Nancy
@@Simon-oy7kf I do! I hope I never have to set foot in the office again.
This woman is never going to work in any kind of marketing role. She all but admitted it in this call. "There are no marketing opportunities in Fresno?" "Well there are but... I'd rather work at Target and just talk about how I am going to move to LA and get a marketing job instead".
From knowing people that live in Fresno, the cost of living is cheap and the hourly wage is lower than other major cities
I was born in LA, and I can tell you for a fact, I dont know a single one of my friends who was able to afford the cost of living around here under the age of 30-35. For the average person it takes about 10 years of saving at a normal job to make it out of your parents' basement
I wish I could talk to her. This is a Dateline, 20/20, Forensic Files, and ID Channel episode all-in-one episode just waiting to happen. Bless her little heart.
"I just started watching your channel a few weeks ago" Ahh, your lucky because lifes about to change for the better!
About to get her masters at hard knocks university - the tuition is high.
Don't do it girl!!!! Dave's advice was spot on.
Ken’s face is like ‘Dad mode: activated’.
So many people are homeless right now in LA too super risky
The girl needs to take a marketing job even if it’s not exactly what she wants. Get that resume going. Regardless of if the boyfriend is genuine or if he plans to use her for several years is irrelevant. She needs to get her resume going and secure a job in LA before moving. As far as the boyfriend getting a job at LAX, I think that’s going to be quite difficult. He should establish a plan B as well or move here with at least (barest of minimum) 25k USD to help him support himself the first year he’s here looking for a job. If he knows 2+ languages it will be easier to find a job but the competition in LA is steep. If they went for a smaller metro area of a big city / 30-45 minutes from one they can likely live a more comfortable lifestyle and find jobs.
Los Angeles has one of the worst job markets for a major city in the world. I lived there for 10 years and as soon as I moved to NY my income and opportunities shot up substantially. Los Angeles is a dead city.
So thankful you guys have such simple, great advice for accountability. Seriously so many people in the new generation cannot fend for themselves and/or so naive and stupid.