I was at the store listening to this and the part about your mom being the only person truly on your corner almost made me bawl… I’m over here looking for attention and seeking validation from people who have made it clear they don’t value me in their life, meanwhile my mom can’t even get a text back because I get annoyed she’s always texting. This video really helped change my perspective, hopefully I’m able to change my identity and become a better man.
Yeah man every time my mom would call me, I’d get annoyed and be like “WHAT DOES SHE WANNTTTTT” but I won’t take it for granted because one day I’ll do anything to have my mom call me one more time
Man so much respect to you for coming to this conclusion. It takes a strong mind to be able to introspect on this. I wish you the best of luck in the future!
Your mom should be your top priority for your attention..you will eventually sincerely internalize just how disconnected people are in their care about you (or how shitty many people are) and the only one who really cared this entire time was your mother. Don't wait until shes old or dead to learn that lesson...meditate on it now. I cannot stress this enough
Hamza, listen to me. *This is the most important video you've ever released.* You need to find a way to deliver this information to as many guys as possible.
Completely agree. Every one should know about the Placebo Effect, and i think most of the Mental Health is consisted by the beliefs that you hold into yourself. If you hold to negative beliefs and past experiences, and you top that with negative habits, there should not come with any surprise that you are indeed going to feel depressed and hopeless.
I feel lucky to have never had a problem with limiting beliefs. I’ve always been confident that I’ll achieve my goals. Not in a cringy positive affirmations way, but as in I know that I will somehow find a way; there’s no alternative
Good for you but. Cringy positive Affirmations and journaling its what has helped me to change my identity from lazy guy to high functioning business entrepreneur
Hamza is basically a talking book, this is why reading is great, he read so many useful things and applied in his life. More I read more I realize that majority of his words come from the books he reads, so if anyone hasn't started reading yet, do it NOW.
@@EIia_M because the information he presents is coveted and refined, yes it will help you anyways but unrefined knowledge is what you will retain for long-term
This is talked about in "Atomic Habits" and its true. Identity is the deepest layer of habits. If you believe yourself to be healthy you will try to maintain it. Once you get enough evidence for being healthy you start believing more in your identity.
I was about to write a comment about this great book im reading it right now and it rlly helped me to imrouve my desipline and consistency cus it shows u how to control youre day (im still learning inglish ignore the mistakes)
Bro I'm literally having a breakdown, this makes so much sense, it's the truth to self improvement, this alone is the best advice I heard from all my life, thanks Hamza ❤
Incredible advice. Blown away at how proficient you've become at teaching. You explain things in a very personable way but still account for people who might see what your saying in a different view and try to make them understand. Forever grateful for you brother.
I feel blessed to know english. This is the most important knowledge you can have in this world. Without it I wouldn’t even know about all the self improvement thing. I am grateful to my parents who forced me to learn it from the young age. Very few people I know are aware of this and I’m thinking of starting making videos in my native language so i can reach this information to more people
I came back a year later to prove to anyone watching this yes, this works. It took me a while to get into it because of how much trauma I felt at the time, but once I cured myself, I changed entirely. It's as if I can get whatever I want. A tip id like to give is everyone that's reading this rn, go and grab a notepad, write down all your habits (good and the bad) And see what you currently identify as. Then write the habits of the person you want to be and also make the identity for them. Write down what you identify as and put it on a wall so you can see It everyday. And within a couple of months you'll see the progress (even If you're not trying) because now it becomes subconscious. Imagine when it's conscious.
This is honestly the best advice you have gave me in months. Im currently in a down phase because im ill and I think you just saved me Thank you so much Hamza
You're not ill; you're just in a temporary state in which you were unlucky, but you know, YOU know that this is just bad luck, and luck doesn't matter, consistency does. As soon as this current phase you're in ends; you WILL be consistent and disciplined. Keep on going man. You, me and everyone else on self-improvement will reach greatness.
Rewatched this video after some time. At some point you brought up a teacher saying something and that this forms a believe about you. I just realized that in like 3rd grade my teacher told me that I was lazy... I am telling you this affected me right until today. Now that I know about it I will change it. I am going to be a productive man from now on, I'll get shit done, whether I feel like it or not!!
Mich haben solche Sachen auch sehr beeinflusst bzw. sogar gefühlt mein Leben bestimmt. Es ist wirklich krass, wie Eltern, Verwandte, Lehrer, Freunde usw. dich beeinflussen, wie du dich selbst siehst, also was du von dir selber hältst.
As a woman who grew up without a strong father figure in the home I need to hear your advice. Thank you for spending time to make these videos and to sit and think about how you feel in these topics.
22:45 I had to pause here because this resonated with me so much I'm kinda hold back tears a little. My entire life I have been conditioned to believe other people's beliefs about myself. I remember clearly when I was a kid being told I was the naughty one compared to my brother. My older sister literally compared me with Kane and Able (its a bible story, kane is the bad guy) and said that i was Kane and my brother was able when I was a kid. I've been told by my own family so many times that I'm every bad and they don't even realise the extent this has harmed me. I feel like this is primarily the pain I had especially during my teenage years and sometimes i felt like i was going insane. The anger i felt was immense i can remember how it feels. because even when I was literally being the example of a good kid, even when i was consistent with my homework for example 'oh you don't do enough homework', 'you don't do enough chores' or 'I make the house messy' or 'I don't help around the house enough' What made it worse is they're not angels themselves, they're far from perfect people yet they go about that they're and if something bad has happened it has to have been me. I took the blame for EVERYTHING. It really messes with your head too because i genuinely couldn't tell anymore, like im i just inherently bad? Maybe they're right and i can't tell right from wrong myself? It's really painful When they're literally being the very thing they have quoted me as nobody is calling them out, no one is getting shouted at. I'm not calling myself perfect either, nobody is, however it seemed to be fine when they do it and not okay when it's me and they always seemed to hunt for my own imperfections. I don't even want to go into having autism because school basically conditioned me to believe that I can't be normal like everyone else and I'm not capable of doing normal people things. 28:28 I never thought about it in that way holy shit.
I've needed to hear this for the longest time. I keep finding myself trying to blame something else. My thoughts are constantly trying to convince me that it's not my fault, and that it's someone else's. "I hang out with my girlfriend for too long so I don't have time to meditate'', ''My family isn't supporting every action I take so that's why I keep giving up'', it's thought like these that keep me from progressing in my self-improvement. I always tell myself to be responsible but now that I really take a good look at my actions and thought patterns I am not really doing that. I've been lazy, I keep doing shit that I don't wanna do. I promise myself that ''today im gonna get *all* my habits checked!'' but then I keep doing the same shit I did yesterday, and the day before, and the day before. Chasing after a non-existent tomorrow. I believed that I have to wait for things to change. But the reality is, the only thing that i've been waiting for is the realization that nothing will change if I don't. Thank you Hamza, for giving me hope when I feel down and for always pushing me back on the right path when I deviate. You're like a big brother to me and I appreciate everything you do. You deserve every bit of success you have. Have a good day or night whoever is reading this. And remember, **it's always your fault** even when you don't think so. Taking responsibility is better than blaming an external factor.
The most important thing above all else is how you view yourself. With a bad self image or identity that doesn't serve your goals you won't really go anywhere. This is true for every mental illness and for every problem you have. Your identity even determines how satisfied you are with your life. You may be rich you may be poor but if you don't have a positive mindset and a positive self image you won't be happy. Last 2 weeks I've been feeling like I'm going crazy because I couldn't be consistent and my mental health was getting worse and worse. What's missing is the correct identity. Thank you Hamza
This I feel is the most important video you have ever made Hamza. This spoke to me on a level that no other content creator has done. I do have a fucking victim complex and I do want certain things to be out of my control so that I have an excuse to not do the things I should be doing. Thank you for calling me out so I can change my perception of myself and live a better life. So my future self will be proud of the work I’ve put in for him. So my future children will be born with loving parents and in a household that has been created by my hard work. Im going to see myself as an Adonis who conquers all aspects of life and remind myself of that fact as much as I can. Thank you brother.
I can relate to this, changing your self image changes the game. I used to relapse on Nofap so many fucking times and never knew why I couldn't just stop it. Then I saw Hamza's self-image video (the one about Psycho-Cybernetics) as well as 1stman's vid on NoFap. The premise became clear to me: don't try to stop fapping, stop 'being' a fapper. It's the 'I'm trying to stop smoking' vs 'I don't smoke' mentality. Applicable to all things on this journey. Thanks for reminding me about this, Hamza, you a real one homie
The things you said about "not holding negative beliefs about yourself" makes so much sense to me now. I've held this mindset for a few years now that "negative feelings cost me energy". Like being angry, sad, depressed, etc. to me is super tiring and I don't want to be tired all day, so I don't think about these kinds of things and only hold onto positive stuff.
Hi Hamza bro, it's the guy who got featured in the video you posted about a week ago, about how you said you weren't self made.I took the time to be introspective about why I assumed that parents weren't in the equation of your success in life and realized that its because I assumed they weren't in mine as well..... My Hamza Contest entry was about how I grew up in a traumatic household which as a result caused me to resent my parents for a while just like you did for a short period of time and wasn't ever grateful for anything they did for me, Just like your Dad did the hard work to leave Pakistan to give you a life in the UK, My Dad left Algeria to give me a better life in the UAE. and just yesterday I went back to them after 5 months of being away from them and told them how I haven't entirely been aware of how much they've sacrificed for me to live a better life and tried so hard to hold back tears and I couldn't loool, it was so beautiful, fulfilling and healing. Gonna try and level up my skill in Gratitude towards my parents which I think was on -1 for most of my childhood lmao. Just wanted to let you know and thank you bro for taking the time to respond, Feels like i have taken a huge step to forgiving them, Much love man keep changing young men's lives and building top tier father figures
Hamza. Get this on the main channel. Get people clipping this. Get it viral. This is golden information, this is the kind of stuff that improves generations of men. Love bro
Amazing message brother, having limiting beliefs is literally like putting chains on yourself. The Sky is the limit we can literally always reinvent ourselves and change our identity, no matter how old you are as long as you are breathing you can change your life brothers
I am a woman and I know that the majority of your viewers are male but Hamza you are really working wonders and teaching so much to men and women! This video really helped me. Currently telling myself I am disciplined … thanks Hamza
why tell us your a woman. if this only works for males then its fake so... also Hamza is not doing anything. the one that is doing all the work is you. show some balls and compliment yourself woman! .. figuratively speaking that is!!! plz don't flash me your balls if you have them. that would be scary in more ways then one.
Something that helps me is to say to myself “YOU are so disciplined” rather than “I am”. My brain recognises this as more important because it’s as if it has come from someone else - if I say it to myself about myself I don’t take it seriously enough. But if I imagine a loved one saying it, or someone from my past memories and undoing that conditioning that was originally there (you are so messy), with them identifying something positive about myself instead. If feel like this sinks in a bit deeper than just telling myself “I am…”
I’ve heard this soo many times but it never clicked. I had a crazy lsd experience that completely changed my self image and all t the right habits happened effortlessly
This one was it. This video is exactly what I needed to hear and I will rewatch it many times. This is exactly what I’ve been struggling with and it’s amazing how you’ve created this just now. Thank you, keep leading from the front, and keep doing the hard work even when you don’t feel like it, it’s worth it and has an impact that definitely goes beyond yourself.
This video gives me vibes of "Atomic Habits" book. This is great book and I love the way Hamza is breaking this concept down. I've experienced two months of consistent self-improvement, but after this two moths my bad habits started to sneak in again. After I read this book, it completely changed the way I perceived my goals. Thank you Hamza!
I'm a woman, retired stripper from magic city. And this resonates With me so deeply. I have been struggling with healing trauma, and therefore staying consistent. At 5:30 That triggered a memory of my dad Calling me a hoe at 17 years old, because I got with a new guy after a 4 year relationship. Every since then that is how I viewed myself. A fire truck accident is what took me out the strip club game. And I could not understand why I could not feel and do "normal girl" things..... Thank you
Guys I can't believe this shit actually works, I struggled with getting consistent with meditation and gratitude journaling and after listening to this video, I talked to myself in the mirror and started saying " I AM THE DISCIPLINED PRESON ON THIS PLANET" continuously, Now it's been consistently 2 weeks consistently meditating and gratitude journaling THANK YOU HAMZA FOR CHANGING MY LIFEE
i've gotten stuck in this loop for quite some time, something snapped the other day, idk what it was but i just started seeing things from a positive view point and i haven't felt this good in so many years, i hope everyone get's the life that they always dreamed of, keep going you can do this, the only person that's stopping the progress is yourself.
Hamza Bro, I pretty much never comment but in this video it really really made something click that I have been looking for the last weeks. Thank you Hamza, you’re a legend
You took me to when I was 11-12 year old when I had that mindset, man I came to USA when I was 13 and start making friends with stupid people I start seen myself like them. Thank you I found your channel yesterday and this is life changing. Nobody teach me how to ride bike I had a bike with 3 wheels when I was 6-7 and I was tired of the 2 wheels and brake them with a rock literally cause in my how they didn’t want me to give me the tools, they were scare but I wasn’t I wanted to learn and I fell a couple time (still have the marks) I was going to give up but I told my self if it’s not now when I trie again I’m going to hurt my self again so keep pushing and I learn in like 2-3 days. It was another way that I saw my self but growing up you know they make you believe that you shit and it is what it’s. It’s a fucking lie feel like you use to feel when you were kid that’s were the power resides
It’s been 15 min and I get my mindset back already, feel like you’re the man and reclame back your persona remember when you where you without limitations. thank you so much bro this was needed!!!
Wow, this is one of the most valuable and important video of Hamza to this date. From the bottom of my heart, I am grateful for the work that you do, Hamza.
This is the kind of learning that I needed all those years ago, and am forever grateful for hearing this. Everything makes sense to me now, so best to get to it before I begin to regret it anymore.
This is so essential. I just had a retreat with 25 college students to study identity, and how the messages from our culture conflict with truth. We specifically looked at Christian identity, but your message here still fits. That's why throughout time, people have prayed, repeated, the Psalms over and over again. It's intentional identity formation. It's choosing what will dictate your identity, and thus, your future.
2:42 self image incongruency makes everything you try to do feel like an “upstream battle” 5:29 your identity will always reign power over the real world changes that you aim to make 9:27 Self image is like an elastic band, you always snap back to it 29:55 self image is a baseline, so you don’t need to constantly muster up willpower
I have been practicing affirmations for 3 months by righting every morning and it improved my life like I said I am an athlete and I started training 6 times a week and dieting I said I am the best student and my grades started going up right everyday what you wanna be and see how your beliefs changes .
The value of this video is one of your highest. Hamza, you might want to consider making a full guide on this topic; it could help many young guys out there.
This is very important advice, when I started nofap I went 220+ days on my first try, and the only reason I was able to do it is because I believed that I’m drastically superior to the average guys when it comes to discipline and self control, that mentality if you manage to apply to any area in your life, it would literally make you unstoppable unstoppable, others won’t be able to compete with you because fundamentally they’re not competing against a normal guy like them, in reality they’re competing with a tier-one guy in that given field
I'm not going to watch RUclips anymore, you were the only person I've been watching recently, but I occasionally went on shorts and wasted time. I started watching you around 8 months ago, and your advice was hard to do at first, and I was making slow progress. I knew that identity was important and I myself researched on this, but you tied the whole concept together perfectly. This advice is the best I've ever heard. I'm implementing this now. Thank you, Hamza, you will see me rich in a few years. Thank you.
Pausing the video a bit before 25:55 I was thinking about how good my life could be if I only thought in ways that made me better. And my first gut reaction was a feeling of abnormality because "that would be too good". That, right there, is my old identity trying to come up, he wants me to be a nerd, a loser. But I don't want to be that. Massive lightbulb just then, thanks for the video!
This is how I quit smoking poppers (weed and cigarettes) from a 6+ year long addiction. I am now 107 days sober going strong with absolutely no desire to go back. It's entirely in the mindset, I couldn't even handle 24 hours without getting high, it was everything to me and the only thing I could look forward to as much as I hated it and how it made me feel. The limited beliefs,self hate/neglect and negative self talk kept me in the same spot. Smoking was my comfort place as much as it was destroying me mentally, physically, spiritually and socially. I knew I needed to change but I was holding onto who I was because I was scared of change I didn't believe I could change. I had no self esteem, my anxiety over took me and my depression was my identity. Since I quit with various youtubers, working on my self talk, changing habits/routine and the things I consumed on a daily basis I've made a lot of progress and continue to be the best version of myself even when it feels like I'm not going anywhere. I remind myself who I was and how it felt and it motivates me to stay clean and keep pushing forward. I am only human and I still make mistakes. I forgive myself and let it go because I know what it feels like to hold on to so much and it doesn't feel good nor benefit my life.
Thank you for sharing about your binge eating history. i’ve struggled with this too and never really figured out how to overcome it. thank you for enlightening us, you’re a blessing to mankind ❤
Hamza i just want to say from the bottom of my heart, thank you. thank you for everything you’ve shared with all of us, i truly don’t think you understand the difference you’ve made in our lives. it’s unreal.
Yo Hamza, this video reminded me of that scene from 'The Pursuit of Happyness', when Will Smith' s character says to his son "You'll never be good at Basketball, cos I never was". He then realises what he said and tells his son "Dont ever let anybody ever tell you, you can't do something, not even me" - I will definetly try and replicate this scene with my kids (when I have them).
This is such valuable advice because it's so foundational to self-improvement. I never realized just how vital identity is to our behaviour, but now I know what to focus on. Thanks for this video, Hamza. I'm going to absorb and implement this ASAP.
This video truly made me realize that the reason I am constantly skipping the gym or stop going to the gym after a period of time is really because I don’t see myself as someone who gets in shape through workout. I always saw myself as someone who gets in shape doing boxing and kickboxing because I trained a lot of martial arts as a kid and teenager. I am 32 years old now and constantly struggling with going to the gym since three frickin years. This video now makes me belief that I should quit the gym and start training martial arts again because that’s just who I am
Changing your identity instantly changes the way you think. Happened to me a few weeks ago and I feel incredibly different and have noticed a lot of changes
Wow. Chick here ✋🏻[I love the clarity of this channel] I came to the same conclusion today. It's not that I was incapable of the habits/tools I needed to make my goals happen. It was that I identified myself as "a mess". "A person who can't maintain the progress". It's not true. That was where I was, not who I was. I did the work I needed to. I got the help I needed (praise God). And now, I'm revisiting so many tools & habits thanks to this channel's motivation. Y'all, keep up the good work 👍🏻🎉
I’ve realised that I’m the second person who’s comfortable not taking responsibility for the things that happen and I tend to blame it on other things like school or my environment. This is something that I definitely would like to change and this video has really helped me, especially as my mum used to tell me all the time ‘ it’s your mind you need change how you think’ this video reiterated that message so thank you❤
The part where you said “it’s you and your mum against the world so why would you put yourself at a handicap?” made me tear the fk up. I’m glad and very grateful to have an actual family that loves, supports, and cares for me - fuck a lot would kill to be in my spot. Don’t waste your time with pointless sexcapades with girls, going out clubbing until you get batshit drunk, or grind for 24 hours on a videogame for that next hit of dopamine expecting an achievement in real life because I know I did and the lows of such an extremely dopamine-dependent life sucked so fucking much - spend your precious time on your fucking family cuz you don’t know how much time they have left in this world. Thank you, Hamza. “Think of all who’s counting on you, got they hopes up.” - COTIS in Up and Away.
This is the best advice I have ever heard. When I look back at all my successes in life, the 6 months prior to achieving them I went through a positive identity change. I have a wife and a child because after my last breakup (4 yr LTR) I used to sit against my bedroom wall and repeat over and over in my brain "thank you for my beautiful wife and children". The way you talk about "forcing" things into you brain I see as planting identity seeds. Thanks for this unfiltered channel, best channel on youtube by far at the moment.
The Book ,, Atomics Habbits by James Clear,, is a lifechanger. I learned so much already. The goal isn´t to read this book, it is to become a reader. The goal isn´t to work out, it is to become a athelete. I am shure Hamza has already read that book
You aren’t wrong as a wrestler when I was in high school everyone else on my team would cry and complain about cutting weight when I had the mindset of never struggling to cut weight. I believed literally I’d lose 10 lbs in a day barely doing anything and still eating throughout the day. All my teammates would be mad cuz they couldn’t do the same 💀 not only that but I changed my sleep with my own belief. I used to sleep 10-14 hours after work and now I’m down to 5-8 hours easily without an alarm. The identity of oneself is a very powerful concept and ngl I still have work to do
I was at the store listening to this and the part about your mom being the only person truly on your corner almost made me bawl…
I’m over here looking for attention and seeking validation from people who have made it clear they don’t value me in their life, meanwhile my mom can’t even get a text back because I get annoyed she’s always texting.
This video really helped change my perspective, hopefully I’m able to change my identity and become a better man.
Yeah man every time my mom would call me, I’d get annoyed and be like “WHAT DOES SHE WANNTTTTT” but I won’t take it for granted because one day I’ll do anything to have my mom call me one more time
Man so much respect to you for coming to this conclusion. It takes a strong mind to be able to introspect on this. I wish you the best of luck in the future!
Good.
@@firecosmos thanks, you too.
Your mom should be your top priority for your attention..you will eventually sincerely internalize just how disconnected people are in their care about you (or how shitty many people are) and the only one who really cared this entire time was your mother. Don't wait until shes old or dead to learn that lesson...meditate on it now. I cannot stress this enough
Hamza, listen to me.
*This is the most important video you've ever released.*
You need to find a way to deliver this information to as many guys as possible.
Fax
Dude my name is Natan too. Amazing name. Do you know that meaning of this name is "man gifted from god" or just a "gift"?
@@natanwojnowski8176 I was texting somebody today named Nathan
it's true
Completely agree. Every one should know about the Placebo Effect, and i think most of the Mental Health is consisted by the beliefs that you hold into yourself. If you hold to negative beliefs and past experiences, and you top that with negative habits, there should not come with any surprise that you are indeed going to feel depressed and hopeless.
I feel lucky to have never had a problem with limiting beliefs. I’ve always been confident that I’ll achieve my goals. Not in a cringy positive affirmations way, but as in I know that I will somehow find a way; there’s no alternative
Good for you but. Cringy positive Affirmations and journaling its what has helped me to change my identity from lazy guy to high functioning business entrepreneur
Us bro us I never feel like what if I didn't make it, Success is not what I want, it's what I am getting. 💪🏽
failure is not an option
How high is your iq/ do u think ur a intelligent person/ more intelligent than average?
@@Dialektiker iq is bullshit, of course you'll have a disadvantage if yours is low but you should not use that as an excuse
Hamza is basically a talking book, this is why reading is great, he read so many useful things and applied in his life. More I read more I realize that majority of his words come from the books he reads, so if anyone hasn't started reading yet, do it NOW.
Yea this sounds like what was written in Psyco-cybernetics by maxwell maltz. Truly a life changing book
why would i read when i can just take notes of what hamza's saying and other health improvement related researches articles on the internet etc?
@@EIia_M he doesn't speak about everything, there still are valuable stuff he hasn't mentioned
@@EIia_M because the information he presents is coveted and refined, yes it will help you anyways but unrefined knowledge is what you will retain for long-term
It's atomic habits
I've been researching on how to improve my consistency and this is far the best video I've watched
This is talked about in "Atomic Habits" and its true. Identity is the deepest layer of habits. If you believe yourself to be healthy you will try to maintain it. Once you get enough evidence for being healthy you start believing more in your identity.
this is what pretty much all of psycho-cybernetics is as well. very comforting and potentially formative stuff
I was about to write a comment about this great book im reading it right now and it rlly helped me to imrouve my desipline and consistency cus it shows u how to control youre day (im still learning inglish ignore the mistakes)
@@bee-gb7ex I'm currently reading it too and it's incredible.
@@steinsgate514 I ordered it like couple hours ago and I'm really looking forward reading that book
Isn’t it a self destroying cycle? You don’t see the results for that so you don’t see yourself as this new person, so it repeats forever.
Bro I'm literally having a breakdown, this makes so much sense, it's the truth to self improvement, this alone is the best advice I heard from all my life, thanks Hamza ❤
peace
Same
DAMN i didnt watch the video yet but feel the same ,,,, like breackdown and shit fuk idk just keep it uppp
Incredible advice. Blown away at how proficient you've become at teaching. You explain things in a very personable way but still account for people who might see what your saying in a different view and try to make them understand. Forever grateful for you brother.
Absolutely.. 🤗
Forever grateful.Forever
I feel blessed to know english. This is the most important knowledge you can have in this world. Without it I wouldn’t even know about all the self improvement thing. I am grateful to my parents who forced me to learn it from the young age. Very few people I know are aware of this and I’m thinking of starting making videos in my native language so i can reach this information to more people
That’s a good idea I bet you’d help a lot of people
You could translate videos that he makes.
What language do you speak ?
@@zid-ziddy-zid6821 Russian
You definitely should!!
I came back a year later to prove to anyone watching this yes, this works. It took me a while to get into it because of how much trauma I felt at the time, but once I cured myself, I changed entirely. It's as if I can get whatever I want.
A tip id like to give is everyone that's reading this rn, go and grab a notepad, write down all your habits (good and the bad) And see what you currently identify as. Then write the habits of the person you want to be and also make the identity for them. Write down what you identify as and put it on a wall so you can see It everyday. And within a couple of months you'll see the progress (even If you're not trying) because now it becomes subconscious. Imagine when it's conscious.
Hamza you are a mind reader I was struggling with consistency at the gym and this popped up
This is honestly the best advice you have gave me in months. Im currently in a down phase because im ill and I think you just saved me
Thank you so much Hamza
You're not ill; you're just in a temporary state in which you were unlucky, but you know, YOU know that this is just bad luck, and luck doesn't matter, consistency does. As soon as this current phase you're in ends; you WILL be consistent and disciplined.
Keep on going man. You, me and everyone else on self-improvement will reach greatness.
@@JohnMarston-wd7tv chad. Arthur Morgan will be proud
bro don't believe your'e in a down phase
Rewatched this video after some time.
At some point you brought up a teacher saying something and that this forms a believe about you.
I just realized that in like 3rd grade my teacher told me that I was lazy...
I am telling you this affected me right until today. Now that I know about it I will change it.
I am going to be a productive man from now on, I'll get shit done, whether I feel like it or not!!
Mich haben solche Sachen auch sehr beeinflusst bzw. sogar gefühlt mein Leben bestimmt. Es ist wirklich krass, wie Eltern, Verwandte, Lehrer, Freunde usw. dich beeinflussen, wie du dich selbst siehst, also was du von dir selber hältst.
As a woman who grew up without a strong father figure in the home I need to hear your advice. Thank you for spending time to make these videos and to sit and think about how you feel in these topics.
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I agree! I’m a woman who also grew up in a female dominated household and I’ve learnt a lot from Hamza!
You can’t believe how much this advice have helped me
22:45
I had to pause here because this resonated with me so much I'm kinda hold back tears a little. My entire life I have been conditioned to believe other people's beliefs about myself. I remember clearly when I was a kid being told I was the naughty one compared to my brother. My older sister literally compared me with Kane and Able (its a bible story, kane is the bad guy) and said that i was Kane and my brother was able when I was a kid. I've been told by my own family so many times that I'm every bad and they don't even realise the extent this has harmed me. I feel like this is primarily the pain I had especially during my teenage years and sometimes i felt like i was going insane. The anger i felt was immense i can remember how it feels. because even when I was literally being the example of a good kid, even when i was consistent with my homework for example 'oh you don't do enough homework', 'you don't do enough chores' or 'I make the house messy' or 'I don't help around the house enough' What made it worse is they're not angels themselves, they're far from perfect people yet they go about that they're and if something bad has happened it has to have been me. I took the blame for EVERYTHING. It really messes with your head too because i genuinely couldn't tell anymore, like im i just inherently bad? Maybe they're right and i can't tell right from wrong myself? It's really painful
When they're literally being the very thing they have quoted me as nobody is calling them out, no one is getting shouted at. I'm not calling myself perfect either, nobody is, however it seemed to be fine when they do it and not okay when it's me and they always seemed to hunt for my own imperfections.
I don't even want to go into having autism because school basically conditioned me to believe that I can't be normal like everyone else and I'm not capable of doing normal people things.
28:28
I never thought about it in that way holy shit.
I've needed to hear this for the longest time. I keep finding myself trying to blame something else. My thoughts are constantly trying to convince me that it's not my fault, and that it's someone else's. "I hang out with my girlfriend for too long so I don't have time to meditate'', ''My family isn't supporting every action I take so that's why I keep giving up'', it's thought like these that keep me from progressing in my self-improvement.
I always tell myself to be responsible but now that I really take a good look at my actions and thought patterns I am not really doing that. I've been lazy, I keep doing shit that I don't wanna do. I promise myself that ''today im gonna get *all* my habits checked!'' but then I keep doing the same shit I did yesterday, and the day before, and the day before. Chasing after a non-existent tomorrow. I believed that I have to wait for things to change. But the reality is, the only thing that i've been waiting for is the realization that nothing will change if I don't.
Thank you Hamza, for giving me hope when I feel down and for always pushing me back on the right path when I deviate. You're like a big brother to me and I appreciate everything you do. You deserve every bit of success you have. Have a good day or night whoever is reading this.
And remember, **it's always your fault** even when you don't think so. Taking responsibility is better than blaming an external factor.
The most important thing above all else is how you view yourself. With a bad self image or identity that doesn't serve your goals you won't really go anywhere. This is true for every mental illness and for every problem you have. Your identity even determines how satisfied you are with your life. You may be rich you may be poor but if you don't have a positive mindset and a positive self image you won't be happy. Last 2 weeks I've been feeling like I'm going crazy because I couldn't be consistent and my mental health was getting worse and worse. What's missing is the correct identity. Thank you Hamza
shame i’ve just found your 2nd channel today but may god bless the work you’re doin brother this video hit home hard
This I feel is the most important video you have ever made Hamza. This spoke to me on a level that no other content creator has done. I do have a fucking victim complex and I do want certain things to be out of my control so that I have an excuse to not do the things I should be doing. Thank you for calling me out so I can change my perception of myself and live a better life. So my future self will be proud of the work I’ve put in for him. So my future children will be born with loving parents and in a household that has been created by my hard work. Im going to see myself as an Adonis who conquers all aspects of life and remind myself of that fact as much as I can. Thank you brother.
I'm 19 y/o female and I had eating disorder too.
Thankyou for helping me improve.
I can relate to this, changing your self image changes the game. I used to relapse on Nofap so many fucking times and never knew why I couldn't just stop it. Then I saw Hamza's self-image video (the one about Psycho-Cybernetics) as well as 1stman's vid on NoFap. The premise became clear to me: don't try to stop fapping, stop 'being' a fapper. It's the 'I'm trying to stop smoking' vs 'I don't smoke' mentality. Applicable to all things on this journey. Thanks for reminding me about this, Hamza, you a real one homie
This video couldn’t have been uploaded at a better time. I’ve been struggling recently in my journey and this video has really helped thanks bro
Same iv failed my habit streak infinite times
The things you said about "not holding negative beliefs about yourself" makes so much sense to me now.
I've held this mindset for a few years now that "negative feelings cost me energy". Like being angry, sad, depressed, etc. to me is super tiring and I don't want to be tired all day, so I don't think about these kinds of things and only hold onto positive stuff.
Hi Hamza bro, it's the guy who got featured in the video you posted about a week ago, about how you said you weren't self made.I took the time to be introspective about why I assumed that parents weren't in the equation of your success in life and realized that its because I assumed they weren't in mine as well..... My Hamza Contest entry was about how I grew up in a traumatic household which as a result caused me to resent my parents for a while just like you did for a short period of time and wasn't ever grateful for anything they did for me, Just like your Dad did the hard work to leave Pakistan to give you a life in the UK, My Dad left Algeria to give me a better life in the UAE. and just yesterday I went back to them after 5 months of being away from them and told them how I haven't entirely been aware of how much they've sacrificed for me to live a better life and tried so hard to hold back tears and I couldn't loool, it was so beautiful, fulfilling and healing. Gonna try and level up my skill in Gratitude towards my parents which I think was on -1 for most of my childhood lmao.
Just wanted to let you know and thank you bro for taking the time to respond, Feels like i have taken a huge step to forgiving them, Much love man keep changing young men's lives and building top tier father figures
thats so beautiful bro I hope hamza sees this, just looked at your recent video. You need to land that tiktok job!
Real shit man, you should be proud of yourself.
name twins lol
Bro I in school rn I need to read this at home. Everyone just screaming at Everything they see. Just ass holes
Bro i want to do this.
The two most POWERFUL WARRIORS are CONSISTENCY and TIME
Facts 💯
And the ULTIMATE ENEMY is gay porn
I agree bro
Wrong, they’re hamza and sneako
Ditto
Thank you bro
Love bro
Hamza.
Get this on the main channel.
Get people clipping this.
Get it viral.
This is golden information, this is the kind of stuff that improves generations of men.
Love bro
^^
I swear I love ur second channel so much. It’s like a realtalk that hits.
Amazing message brother, having limiting beliefs is literally like putting chains on yourself. The Sky is the limit we can literally always reinvent ourselves and change our identity, no matter how old you are as long as you are breathing you can change your life brothers
Amen
I am a woman and I know that the majority of your viewers are male but Hamza you are really working wonders and teaching so much to men and women! This video really helped me. Currently telling myself I am disciplined … thanks Hamza
why tell us your a woman. if this only works for males then its fake so... also Hamza is not doing anything. the one that is doing all the work is you. show some balls and compliment yourself woman! .. figuratively speaking that is!!! plz don't flash me your balls if you have them. that would be scary in more ways then one.
Me too, great advice here. I feel more aligned with this than the”boss babe” discourse out there.
Something that helps me is to say to myself “YOU are so disciplined” rather than “I am”. My brain recognises this as more important because it’s as if it has come from someone else - if I say it to myself about myself I don’t take it seriously enough. But if I imagine a loved one saying it, or someone from my past memories and undoing that conditioning that was originally there (you are so messy), with them identifying something positive about myself instead. If feel like this sinks in a bit deeper than just telling myself “I am…”
I’ve heard this soo many times but it never clicked. I had a crazy lsd experience that completely changed my self image and all t the right habits happened effortlessly
This one was it. This video is exactly what I needed to hear and I will rewatch it many times. This is exactly what I’ve been struggling with and it’s amazing how you’ve created this just now. Thank you, keep leading from the front, and keep doing the hard work even when you don’t feel like it, it’s worth it and has an impact that definitely goes beyond yourself.
absolute fucking gem this probably the best video ever created by hamza
THANK YOU FOR BRINGING BACK THE LONG FORM CONTENT
Man I needed this more then I would’ve ever known
This video gives me vibes of "Atomic Habits" book. This is great book and I love the way Hamza is breaking this concept down. I've experienced two months of consistent self-improvement, but after this two moths my bad habits started to sneak in again. After I read this book, it completely changed the way I perceived my goals. Thank you Hamza!
very important video, it really changed my perspective on myself and how I will be successful.
I'm a woman, retired stripper from magic city. And this resonates With me so deeply. I have been struggling with healing trauma, and therefore staying consistent. At 5:30 That triggered a memory of my dad Calling me a hoe at 17 years old, because I got with a new guy after a 4 year relationship. Every since then that is how I viewed myself. A fire truck accident is what took me out the strip club game. And I could not understand why I could not feel and do "normal girl" things..... Thank you
It's never too late to change. Hope you heal and overcome your trauma 🙏🏻
18 years old and this is my last year in school I’m thankful that I found your channel thank you for helping us I owe you my future success
Guys I can't believe this shit actually works, I struggled with getting consistent with meditation and gratitude journaling and after listening to this video, I talked to myself in the mirror and started saying " I AM THE DISCIPLINED PRESON ON THIS PLANET" continuously, Now it's been consistently 2 weeks consistently meditating and gratitude journaling
THANK YOU HAMZA FOR CHANGING MY LIFEE
THANK YOU HAMZA!!!!!!
i've gotten stuck in this loop for quite some time, something snapped the other day, idk what it was but i just started seeing things from a positive view point and i haven't felt this good in so many years, i hope everyone get's the life that they always dreamed of, keep going you can do this, the only person that's stopping the progress is yourself.
Hamza Bro, I pretty much never comment but in this video it really really made something click that I have been looking for the last weeks. Thank you Hamza, you’re a legend
You took me to when I was 11-12 year old when I had that mindset, man I came to USA when I was 13 and start making friends with stupid people I start seen myself like them. Thank you I found your channel yesterday and this is life changing.
Nobody teach me how to ride bike I had a bike with 3 wheels when I was 6-7 and I was tired of the 2 wheels and brake them with a rock literally cause in my how they didn’t want me to give me the tools, they were scare but I wasn’t I wanted to learn and I fell a couple time (still have the marks) I was going to give up but I told my self if it’s not now when I trie again I’m going to hurt my self again so keep pushing and I learn in like 2-3 days. It was another way that I saw my self but growing up you know they make you believe that you shit and it is what it’s. It’s a fucking lie feel like you use to feel when you were kid that’s were the power resides
It’s been 15 min and I get my mindset back already, feel like you’re the man and reclame back your persona remember when you where you without limitations. thank you so much bro this was needed!!!
great story
Exactly the video i needed to see right now. Thank You, Hamza
Wow, this is one of the most valuable and important video of Hamza to this date. From the bottom of my heart, I am grateful for the work that you do, Hamza.
This one hit different
This is the kind of learning that I needed all those years ago, and am forever grateful for hearing this. Everything makes sense to me now, so best to get to it before I begin to regret it anymore.
Brooooo you got me in tears when you said it’s you and your mom against the world
This is single handily the most impactful video for my journey of self-improvement. Thanks a lot, Hamza I'll appreciate your informative videos.
Best video in the last month, thanks hamza
This is so essential. I just had a retreat with 25 college students to study identity, and how the messages from our culture conflict with truth. We specifically looked at Christian identity, but your message here still fits. That's why throughout time, people have prayed, repeated, the Psalms over and over again. It's intentional identity formation. It's choosing what will dictate your identity, and thus, your future.
Hello wise man(KidQuentin)
2:42 self image incongruency makes everything you try to do feel like an “upstream battle”
5:29 your identity will always reign power over the real world changes that you aim to make
9:27 Self image is like an elastic band, you always snap back to it
29:55 self image is a baseline, so you don’t need to constantly muster up willpower
I have been practicing affirmations for 3 months by righting every morning and it improved my life like I said I am an athlete and I started training 6 times a week and dieting I said I am the best student and my grades started going up right everyday what you wanna be and see how your beliefs changes .
The value of this video is one of your highest. Hamza, you might want to consider making a full guide on this topic; it could help many young guys out there.
PLEASE WE WANT A FULL GUIDE
This is very important advice, when I started nofap I went 220+ days on my first try, and the only reason I was able to do it is because I believed that I’m drastically superior to the average guys when it comes to discipline and self control, that mentality if you manage to apply to any area in your life, it would literally make you unstoppable unstoppable, others won’t be able to compete with you because fundamentally they’re not competing against a normal guy like them, in reality they’re competing with a tier-one guy in that given field
Fascinating
Bro I struggle with quitinf weed
I'm not going to watch RUclips anymore, you were the only person I've been watching recently, but I occasionally went on shorts and wasted time. I started watching you around 8 months ago, and your advice was hard to do at first, and I was making slow progress. I knew that identity was important and I myself researched on this, but you tied the whole concept together perfectly. This advice is the best I've ever heard. I'm implementing this now. Thank you, Hamza, you will see me rich in a few years. Thank you.
I will leave a comment to remember when I started believing in my identity and staying consistent with my progress.
did you bro
@ I feel like I did, but I have more to do, I am not close to my full potential yet so thats what I strive for
This is the greatest video you’ve ever made. THANK YOU!
Pausing the video a bit before 25:55
I was thinking about how good my life could be if I only thought in ways that made me better.
And my first gut reaction was a feeling of abnormality because "that would be too good".
That, right there, is my old identity trying to come up, he wants me to be a nerd, a loser. But I don't want to be that.
Massive lightbulb just then, thanks for the video!
This is probably the best hamza video out of them all cause self identity is the route of everything of what and why you do things.
This is how I quit smoking poppers (weed and cigarettes) from a 6+ year long addiction. I am now 107 days sober going strong with absolutely no desire to go back. It's entirely in the mindset, I couldn't even handle 24 hours without getting high, it was everything to me and the only thing I could look forward to as much as I hated it and how it made me feel. The limited beliefs,self hate/neglect and negative self talk kept me in the same spot. Smoking was my comfort place as much as it was destroying me mentally, physically, spiritually and socially. I knew I needed to change but I was holding onto who I was because I was scared of change I didn't believe I could change. I had no self esteem, my anxiety over took me and my depression was my identity. Since I quit with various youtubers, working on my self talk, changing habits/routine and the things I consumed on a daily basis I've made a lot of progress and continue to be the best version of myself even when it feels like I'm not going anywhere. I remind myself who I was and how it felt and it motivates me to stay clean and keep pushing forward. I am only human and I still make mistakes. I forgive myself and let it go because I know what it feels like to hold on to so much and it doesn't feel good nor benefit my life.
Hamza im watching this vid in tears, im s happy that i found ur youtube chanel
Thank you for sharing about your binge eating history. i’ve struggled with this too and never really figured out how to overcome it. thank you for enlightening us, you’re a blessing to mankind ❤
this is the best you've done so far Hamza, please post more about identity on the main channel more people need to hear this.
love from Jordan
Hamza i just want to say from the bottom of my heart, thank you. thank you for everything you’ve shared with all of us, i truly don’t think you understand the difference you’ve made in our lives. it’s unreal.
im so grateful for this version of hamza
Yo Hamza, this video reminded me of that scene from 'The Pursuit of Happyness', when Will Smith' s character says to his son "You'll never be good at Basketball, cos I never was". He then realises what he said and tells his son "Dont ever let anybody ever tell you, you can't do something, not even me" - I will definetly try and replicate this scene with my kids (when I have them).
do the hardwork especially when you dont feel like it. mwah
You are gem bro.literally you are a life saver....Great Salute for Your Work towards youth...
This is the most important video he has ever made. Just this covers all that truly matters
exactly 💯
This is such valuable advice because it's so foundational to self-improvement. I never realized just how vital identity is to our behaviour, but now I know what to focus on. Thanks for this video, Hamza. I'm going to absorb and implement this ASAP.
You saved my life, thank you :)
These long format unfiltered videos are the only reason I am still on YT
You look good love.🖤
This video truly made me realize that the reason I am constantly skipping the gym or stop going to the gym after a period of time is really because I don’t see myself as someone who gets in shape through workout.
I always saw myself as someone who gets in shape doing boxing and kickboxing because I trained a lot of martial arts as a kid and teenager.
I am 32 years old now and constantly struggling with going to the gym since three frickin years.
This video now makes me belief that I should quit the gym and start training martial arts again because that’s just who I am
I'm pretty sure the message of the video is to change 'who you are' for the better.
Changing your identity instantly changes the way you think. Happened to me a few weeks ago and I feel incredibly different and have noticed a lot of changes
Wow. Chick here ✋🏻[I love the clarity of this channel] I came to the same conclusion today. It's not that I was incapable of the habits/tools I needed to make my goals happen. It was that I identified myself as "a mess". "A person who can't maintain the progress". It's not true. That was where I was, not who I was. I did the work I needed to. I got the help I needed (praise God). And now, I'm revisiting so many tools & habits thanks to this channel's motivation.
Y'all, keep up the good work 👍🏻🎉
By far the most insightful video I've watched on RUclips and anywhere else for that matter.. thank you Hamza!
May the Force be with you!!
im impressed by how he can speak for 30min without stuttering or any cuts great mental focus ❤
Yeah he in the flow state
bro this is the f*ckin truth. your belief system is everything
I was preaching this for a while on reddit before I deleted it. I started effortlessly losing fat once I saw myself as a man who has a perfect body.
I'm glad you have a second channel with longer content where you're just being real. It tailors more to an older audience!
I’ve realised that I’m the second person who’s comfortable not taking responsibility for the things that happen and I tend to blame it on other things like school or my environment.
This is something that I definitely would like to change and this video has really helped me, especially as my mum used to tell me all the time ‘ it’s your mind you need change how you think’ this video reiterated that message so thank you❤
This video is amazing
It helped me learn of a problem I didn't even know I had
And actually gave me practical advice
Thank you, Hamza
It's me, Mark
Thanks Hamza.
I'll go apply this
how is it been brother
the comforting part is so fucking true dawg
I believe I am Addonis. I am not a gamer. I am a hard worker. I am an athlete. Thank you Hamza for making making me realise this
No one can change your mind until you!
The part where you said “it’s you and your mum against the world so why would you put yourself at a handicap?” made me tear the fk up.
I’m glad and very grateful to have an actual family that loves, supports, and cares for me - fuck a lot would kill to be in my spot.
Don’t waste your time with pointless sexcapades with girls, going out clubbing until you get batshit drunk, or grind for 24 hours on a videogame for that next hit of dopamine expecting an achievement in real life because I know I did and the lows of such an extremely dopamine-dependent life sucked so fucking much - spend your precious time on your fucking family cuz you don’t know how much time they have left in this world.
Thank you, Hamza.
“Think of all who’s counting on you, got they hopes up.” - COTIS in Up and Away.
Hamza your the best RUclipsr of this era
This is the best advice I have ever heard. When I look back at all my successes in life, the 6 months prior to achieving them I went through a positive identity change. I have a wife and a child because after my last breakup (4 yr LTR) I used to sit against my bedroom wall and repeat over and over in my brain "thank you for my beautiful wife and children". The way you talk about "forcing" things into you brain I see as planting identity seeds. Thanks for this unfiltered channel, best channel on youtube by far at the moment.
I’ve been listening to the mindset mentor for years but your unfiltered version really hits different for some reason
The Book ,, Atomics Habbits by James Clear,, is a lifechanger. I learned so much already. The goal isn´t to read this book, it is to become a reader. The goal isn´t to work out, it is to become a athelete. I am shure Hamza has already read that book
yeah he did
and he also has recommended it in some videos
@@s.k_7186 ah ok. The facts he said sounds familier to my
Wow, this is absolute million dollar advice. Thank you very much, Hamza
It's hard to stay disciplined without the guidance of religion
omg man, its like you're in my head, I feel like you're reading my mind, you describe exactly how I feel about my consistency
You aren’t wrong as a wrestler when I was in high school everyone else on my team would cry and complain about cutting weight when I had the mindset of never struggling to cut weight. I believed literally I’d lose 10 lbs in a day barely doing anything and still eating throughout the day. All my teammates would be mad cuz they couldn’t do the same 💀 not only that but I changed my sleep with my own belief. I used to sleep 10-14 hours after work and now I’m down to 5-8 hours easily without an alarm. The identity of oneself is a very powerful concept and ngl I still have work to do