Managing A Narcissist | Ann Barnes | TEDxCollingwood
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- Опубликовано: 7 ноя 2017
- Narcissists are on the rise, especially in the workforce. While the research is still out on why this is happening; Ann Barnes outlines the different kinds of narcissists, and provides a framework on how to work with them (or not!). Ann began her legal career acting as a lawyer and business advisor for numerous private and publicly held companies. She specialized in corporate securities and intellectual property law within the entertainment and consumer packaged goods industries.
Her parallel passion for health and wellness led her to quit law and found and operate a number of superfood companies. Ann is a well-respected public speaker and health advocate and has written two health based recipe books: “Be a Better Being” and “Eat Super, Be Super”.
Over 6 years ago, Ann’s passion for plant-based wellness and entrepreneurial opportunities resulted in her funding, co-founding and acting as Chairman for the first Canadian licensed Medical Cannabis Company: Peace Naturals Project. A year ago she sold the majority of her interest to the medical cannabis public company.
Her greatest accomplishment is being a Mom to her 2 teens, who keep her on her game at all times. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
I always thought a narcissist was just self absorbed. I had no idea they were so capable of such pain and manipulation until I met one.
Isn't it amazing how most have no real idea what narcissism is about? They think its just selfishness or grandiosity. They have no idea how manipulative, dishonest and abusive they are. And even worse, they really don't care (unless, of course, they have had a relationship with a narcissist).
Oh yeah, there’s a spectrum of the narcissist from the self absorbed to the malignant narcissist that will destroy anyone in there path.
You can't even imagine how much agony they are in. Every minute they feel gelousy, guilt, defeated it's like Dementor living inside their heads
You have met more than one, trust me you have a few in your family and just haven't identified them yet . They are everywhere .
Try meeting like 20.
Narcissists are exhausting!! They chip away at your soul until you feel hollow inside. Don’t walk, RUN as fast as you can!!!
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Stab them first to make sure they cant follow you.
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Why do these do what they do? Why?
Why cant they jus move to the person they vld love to live vth....
Must be tiring for them too
Don't allow narcissist in leadership positions.
Mark Caseon narcissists florish in top corporate environment
good advice
Trump has made that point crystal clear.
Too late they run this country. Have for years.
Write a book on how to be a narcissist. Tear off the cover and give the book to a business management major as a how-to succeed.
If they follow it, they will be successful
Managing narcissists: good luck, you’re going to need it.
I think the best approach is to never openly disagree with them as it's a waste of time. Let them believe they're as powerful as they think they are. If they challenge you on anything just say "yes sir, I'll get on that right away". Nothing more frustrating to a narcissist than you taking them at face value. They know their identity is false and want to torture people by confusing them as they sniff out the difference between the fantasy and the reality. That's where the gaslighting begins. Just let them have the fantasy. Agree between everyone that you'll just humour them. They'll probably leave for lack of supply.
RealityCheck6T9 This pains me, but it’s so true. The only method I’ve been able to use with success is to leave them and ignore them. I want them to get better but I can’t help someone who doesn’t want to be helped...
@@RealityCheck6T9 They will never admit their faults
Waste of time and energy, no thanks
Almamater8888 no such thing as management,I only ever had a shot at educating myself more about protecting myself.
My parents were narcissist. It took me sixty years to figure it out. I lived through it. They did not break my spirit but they did break my heart.
I’m currently dealing with that right now... I just found out what “gaslighting” is and I was going to harm myself because they constantly do it making me feel like I was crazy
Rian Searcy omggg I need to talk to aint about this my mums closest sister who is my aunt she is a narc I did soo much research She doess soo muc gaslighting that I forget the bad thinngs shes done to me but I remember my own emotions and feelings I dont know how to avoid herr 😭😭
Mine broke my spirit.
I had and have a few narcissists as family members. I can see now how I could have become one. I desire not to. One thing going for me, I never like being in the spotlight. Interestingly enough, I discovered this week that I could tell a story about myself that included my faults, mistakes, etc., and what I learned through the experience. I'm actually more comfortable with that than trying to say how great I am. My nature default is to not talk about myself at all. My narcissistic family members have to tell stories that make them look good. I'm glad to say, that I don't have to do that.
@@riansearcy6652 I discovered what gaslighting was about a year ago. As soon as I saw what that person was trying to do, I lost all ability to trust that person. I'm now suspicious of everything they do. And I minimize anything they can do to me including their words that could harm me.
This is how I managed mine- I dumped him.
End of story. Now my children and I are happy.
Wendy Rosen 🤣😂😅
How do you leave with a baby on the way ?
This is a genuine question lol
Great
Congratulations to you. You are a brave woman 💜
How to manage a highly narcissistic person.
1. Document their behavior
2. Terminate their employment
Seriously, those who are highly narcissistic don't work well with others and are a walking lawsuit waiting to happen.
Actually that’s not true. Most narcissist keep their job and are master manipulators. Most ppl like narcissist bc they’re like superstars. The ones who were bullied as kids are bullied as adults set up lied on etc and their the ones who are walking lawsuits.
@@adithalee8660 Ridiculous gaslighting. In today's business environment, you need to work well with others. Narcissists CANNOT work well with others, period. You are explaining away their behavior and should seek out a good therapist.
Furthermore, you may want to check out the OWL website and brush up on your grammar.
I second that.
R Feyman get out as safely and quickly as possible.
The absolute WORST type of people to manage or employ are narcissists with "High Conflict" personality traits. THOSE ones are the lawsuits waiting to happen. They thrive on conflict & they love litigation. They'll go out of their way, making things 10 times more difficult, even for themselves, in an attempt to gain control, or simply not lose it. Control for them equals winning.
Ask anyone who's dealt with a narcissist how you can manage them, and they will tell you, "R.U.N."
There is no managing that's for sure. Best thing to do is go no contact.
Amen
Yep too me me focus
You don't manage one. You attack them using deception.
True ive lived with them for 33 years im drained ive gotten autoimmune diseases ive had thyroid cancer soon inshallah im running 🏃♀️ hope all narcissist die soon and hope they all meet in hill and burn there together 🙏 amen
I've listened to this before, but this time I really found it offensive that people were laughing. Narcissm is NOT a joke! Those of us who have lived with a narcissist know that they cause a tremendous amount of pain!
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Very much agree with you
They feed off of the drama they created
Very true.😔
What's even more disappointing is when you are not aware of it because you never experienced this sort of behavior before in your life. You second guess yourself, questioning your sanity, thinking your doing everything right, meanwhile you just fell into clutch of their toxic tactics.
Managing a narcissist- YOU DON’T!!!! You quickly leave and have NO CONTACT- no other way
E X A C T L Y ‼️
Not Easy when the narsisists has my daughter, because I struggled with sleep the Child service put my prescious daughter with my Sister and her terrible narsisist man😳
EXPERIENCED IT
YOU ARE CORRECT.
THANKS 😊
It's very difficult in some situations though. I am desperately trying to leave my father and grandmother but right now with the freaking cost of living being so high I just can't do it on my own. So I'm quietly saving up. I'm going to tell them that I'm going on vacation to Indonesia but I don't intend on returning.
That is the fastest answer however some might be in a thicker situation. I hope to retire in 6 years and I'm in a bad narcissist CEO situation. Can't just dump and start over. It's scary and uncertain so I'm trying to manage my best thru it.
We have a narcissist (female) in our family who always looks for ways to make you feel insignificant. My most effective approach with her is to make her see that I'm ignoring her. The reaction is priceless.
It works! I was the target person for no known reason - all I had to say was one thing and they would jump on me with how wrong I was and the truth was the total opposite of what I said. etc. So I didn't say hello, have conversations, react to comments, no eye contact or interact in any way. It takes some strength , but less strength than being a target constantly. I Just acted like I would if they weren't present. If they started with the putting down comments. I would jus continue with the conversation I was having and talk over them as if they hadn't spoken at all. I developed it as a coping mechanism when I was anxious about having to be around them, without knowing how surprised they would be. I know what you mean about their reaction. It was that or stop seeing the people I wanted to see.
@@thriftflipfire3501 Yes. Good tactic. Because they see themselves as supremely significant, the one and only thing that an egomaniac cannot stand is to be ignored. They feel insignificant.
My step son and his gf are expecting. His mother is definitely a narcissist. The young couple has moved in with us now and the mother ( my husband’s ex) will NOT be coming into my space. She better figure something out. I’m not inviting her to the shower either. She’s gonna go nuts and it’s HILARIOUS!!! She literally is so clueless and runs on self will, ambien, and tires that she gets replaced by giving blow jobs in return.
The grey rock approach. 👍 Stay bland and emotionless.
@@mulekickhandmadeguitars8465
Shoutout to the people recovering from narcissistic parenting. I get you
You can't manage them. If you spot one, run for your life.
My experience with narcissists has all been bad. Even when I thought it was going well it turns out he was just lying. Stay away from them. You can't manage them or control them. Nothing good comes out of any relationship with a narcissist. P.S. Stop generalizing millennial as narcissists.
Sam C Narcissism is on the rise, though, seemingly starting with them.
Someone didnt listen. There are many different levels to a narc. not to mention there is a difference between having traits and having a disorder. theres a difference between being toxic and not. She didnt generalise. She provided stats for traits of a narc in college students
Exactly!!
@@Almamater8888 Started with the baby boomers and moved on from there. Its learned behavior. Unless as a person you recognize narccism, want to change and put in the work, narcs will be on the rise.
Sadly, many millennial's have strong Narcissistic personality traits!
No, we don't need to coddle them and feed them praise and "water" them. That's a lot of the problem. They need to learn that there are consequences for their behavior and treatment of others. You need to shatter their own perception of themselves.
Sounds right in theory and it is right actually but I tried that and they just left....
constantly feed and appraise them? thats only gonna make them worse and incentivize their behavior
I think that's the idea; so when they get worse they become complaisant; when they become complaisant they slip up. When they slip up there own noose gets them. This is then the good time to strike if you get my drift. Good people just need a little patience; "Patience is power".
if a work environment it is much different than in a personal relationship, the goal in a work relationship is to accomplish the goals in front of us.
B Smith they disrespect you in private so that you take the bait and disrespect them in public. This is what they want: to destroy your reputation by manipulating you on taking self destructive actions. If you do take the bait, you’ll surely end up looking like the bad and mad person in the whole story.
The right way to deal with it? By reversing back their upside down reality, and making a point to greet them and treat them well among those who they are trying to impress at all cost. Usually, those are the same people to whom they are trying to destroy your image, like your boss or close friends, for example.
So, pick the people you trust the most and show them by your actions that you respect the narcissists no matter what. This will in effect take all the power from the narcissist back to your hands. He will hate you for it, and he will make his best to also behave good in public. You can take it for granted: narcissists praise their own image above everything else, so they won’t allow anyone, not even themselves, to make them look bad before important people. They will thus treat you the way you always wanted them to do. Just in public, of course, but this way you send them a strong message that you know what they are up to, you know it’s a game and you know how to make them loose if you need so.
They will respect you and even be afraid of you. When you finally find out this impression management thing is all they have, it remains nothing anymore for them to use against you.
You are then a successful, happy and strong person against narcissists and manipulators.
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Perhaps feeding weeds and then appraise how they manage others as documented? They must be able to learn a little. Some people feel that they are entitled as God - with a giggle and a laugh to run their spouse and their underlings like a queen. That is unacceptable. One can catch this when they realize that they are given the option of X or an impossible task. So be sharp and on task for your opinion counts!
I was married to a malignant narcissist for 5 years to say that they are detrimental and toxic is an understatement after my experience I look back at my ex-wife and realized that wasn't a human being that was a demon they literally Drive off of other people's pain and suffering it just gives them Joy
You just described the torment, trauma , and
Irreparable damage the malignant narc I divorced caused
some actually are demonic, imo
Yeah there are so much of them in society! They humiliate others to get higher...working place also.
15 years and 3 kids into it and I find out. God help us.
I just told my sister that my joy is my husband's kryptonite.
Narcs are a lot of work. You need to weigh thier actual value to the work they require. Most of the time they are not worth the investment, emotionally or financially. Imo You will always lose your most valuable people in the end. Spoken from a successful business owner.
Heather B I think it is so great to hear that managers and bosses are actually realizing that narcicissists exist and they are recognizing these individuals. A narcissist I knew worked at Intel and manipulated his boss as much as possible and I always hoped his boss saw through it, I always hoped he would see that this person was not genuine, was only thinking of himself, and such a toxic person to others on his team.
Expose the Narcissist They have their place but not in a team setting as they will definitely make the work environment toxic, hence you lose your most valuable people.
What she is saying is there are different kinds of narcs...some are mildly narcs highly skilled and employable...there are to many of them on the job market so there is not that much of a choice to stay away of them...here is the catch: even if you get them to work for you and there are too many of them working for the same company their manipulations can destroy social fabrics of the company/organisation....
Thank you Heather B.!!! Now, can you tell the rest of the "know it all" business world exactly what you said!!! Brovo!!!👏👏👏👏👏 It would be so nice if they invested the time, etc. to implement that fact.😀
@@TheSahand68 sounds like they're just plain ...."bad for business." Guess the best thing to do is just dont hire them..., (IF YOU CAN HELP IT)😬 - and if you did .....😬try to find a way to get rid of them! Yicks!!!! My brothers a slick Narcissist and he used to brag about how he could manipulate employers into paying workman's comp, unemployment, etc..... How he ensited incidents, etc. Oh, he clearly enjoyed himself.- A real game for him, and he's very skilled at it. He knows how to manipulate people. When I think of the many things he has done, and bragged about to harm people, and our own family (especially own father),.... I wish I could say we weren't related!!! It's despicable!!!!!!!! Gets me sick thinking of what he's done!!!!! -I think in my dad's last year's of life he saw the truth of who his son was. I think it broke his heart. To see my dad realize this.... also broke my heart to see my dads realization. - My brother has no conscience, no remorse, only PRIDE. Thank you for your post Marina. Sorry I rant, but you are so right.
The only antedote for surviving contact with a Narcissist is to run away as fast as you can and never look back.
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My ex is a narcissist. I'm 38 years old and the relationship from the start to the end and everything in between was absolutely the hardest things I've ever be thru.. it has change me and my soul.
I wasted 21 yrs with one and i know firsthand how draining it is.....my best advice is dont take it personal.....they are truly incapable of caring and youll never win sweetie...respect yourself for once because lord knows they cant help but disrespect you...they are all the same....
I understand 💘
I truly feel for you.x
You should be grateful and thankful..You are the person you are today., Strong and Aware!!! -An Active and Engaged Narcissist
I’m married to 1 and it is indeed draining
Narcissists will stop at nothing to get what they want. Abusing people such as their loving parents, brothers and sisters, children and even their own children and even the family pet are not at all off limits to these SOCIOPATHS AND PSYCHOPATHS. Take the necessary steps to walk away from these people.
calm down
sojourn solar: Spot on!
sojourn solar Wrong about “loving” parents as it is Always the failure in one form or other of the parent(s) or caregiver. Narcissists are created not born. They carry on from one generation to the next unless bred out with one good parent or they die off.
@@DominiqueJeune if you had seen this in real life, like I and obviously Sojourn Solar have, you would not be saying calm down. Literally, pets are loved by others and therefore a target too.
@@deborahcarder4270 sorry, some are born. Seen it in my own family. Total wildcard - not like anyone else. From a baby, always difficult. Not created at all.
The best way to manage a narcissist is to detect them early. Once detected, leave. If you cannot leave, keep a low profile. Do not draw attention to yourself. And plan your way out.
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I don't think this woman has personally dealt with a narcissist.
potato crisps
I had two my mom and ex ! There all over my building as “handymen” to.
potato crisps I AGREE
@@ZenithAstrology it’s not all about you, narc
Agreed
Narcissist don't lash out they love to criticize and use intimidation tactics. The more the merrier a cult to gang stalking. Witchcraft
Not catering to toxic people who lack empathy in any shape or form.
I respectfully disagree. Don't accommodate them. Society is going to think this is normal and we'll get used to it.
I agree. This society now would rather take punches instead of punching back. It’s disheartening
@@thecoyote9866 I thought the same. they are saying narcissism is toxic at the same time they are employing them. It's like big companies need them. they are not realising narcissists get success by stepping on others. what if they stoppped stepping wouldn't they rise and give more success to company?
My heart goes out to all the Victims in this world It's uncalled for and breaks my heart to know so many are losing their lives over this. The Narcissist is uncalled for. *Minslegend* , don't stop doing you we here to support you 💯%..
I whole-heartedly disagree that you should "give a narcissist constant praise and raises." WTH??? Do the exact opposite and in fact, can them and the sooner, the better.
to my understanding narcissists are innately anti-social and unmanageable. They cause disruption, misery and toxic work environments. In the long run they are bad for business and the well-being of fellow staff. They are also most likely to be the boss. It think it would be more useful to have a talk about how to manage with a narcissistic/sociopathic boss.
LOL
a great example of workplace narcs which sounds all too familiar. Sorry to hear you went through that. I think workplace culture and HR is a major reason this happens. Narcs thrive in work environments which do not have a clear value system, other than 'let's make profit', so bullying can become prevalent. If the company's values are about competition and 'dog-eat dog', narc behaviour will sit comfortably within this without seeming problematic. HR can fail to deal with it because they often don't understand about personality disorders or narcissism - even though this is likely to be the cause of most conflicts at work with about 10% of the population, therefore each workplace, having high conflict personalities. HR are answering to organisational leaders who are likely to have modeled the toxic culture the narcs thrive in and are likely to be narc bosses themselves. Plus the company doesn't want any embarrassment, so likely to just suppress and ignore the issue. Therefore the person being bullied by narcs is likely to leave. I have lived this experience myself.
emsiewemsieful bingo
Please and thank you! Need this
@Creatine Rea I disagree. Narcissism plays an important role in chaos, misery, and the destruction of society as a whole.
I happen to be one who is "allergic" to narcissists. I've been feeding one for most of my life....just in order to minimize the punishment for refusing to do so. It's really an awesome thing that I don't have to work with them, because I'm self employed...have no employees and can choose my clients. I understand that even narcissists have to make a living...and so must work somewhere...I just thank God it's not with me!
They are parasites, they have nothing of theirs except for chaos, dramas and crisis
They divide to rule
We should try over best to cause awareness of this personality
Its been known that sociopaths and pathological narcissists are the ones who are at the top. One trait is the lack of empathy that propels them to take risks that others cannot. Just imagine if you didn't have a conscience and you thought you were a god, what would stop you?
@@shabnamrafique3638 Narcs hate the Truth (aka Jesus). "All they that hate Me ( Jesus ) love death.:" Proverbs 8:36
I think I've spotted a narc that lacks empathy lmao.
The manipulation, taunting, and the down grading put me in such a dark bad place
As the victim of a narcissistic boss, navigating the workplace with this type of personality is much harder than presented, and I'm not sure the advice to nurture these people is good advice. My former narcissistic boss has gone unchecked for 5 years with devastating effects in the people and productivity of the department. Narcissists tend to be in leadership positions so when you seek help from management, it goes unheard and unresolved, and in my case the reporting led to being retaliated against. Narcissists in the workplace are lethal. I'm having a hard time wrapping my head around how I should "manage" them when they are so decidedly manipulative.
Keeping tab on your husband or Narcissist partner isn't something i'd suggest you dive into, notwithstanding, if you need to clear any doubt concerning what secretly goes on in your relationship, he is quick to accomplish results without fail just like he did the last time when i hired him, so i have to make reference to him. He paid great attention to fact as a legit expert and aided me to catch a cheat and his fee is affordable. Contact (geniustracker) on Whatsapp +1 (724) 330-3252 or you can text/call him on +1 (415)323-6758 and also write to Via Gmail (geniustracker701) thank me later...
Keeping tab on your husband or Narcissist partner isn't something i'd suggest you dive into, notwithstanding, if you need to clear any doubt concerning what secretly goes on in your relationship, he is quick to accomplish results without fail just like he did the last time when i hired him, so i have to make reference to him. He paid great attention to fact as a legit expert and aided me to catch a cheat and his fee is affordable. Contact (geniustracker) on Whatsapp +1 (724) 330-3252 or you can text/call him on +1 (415)323-6758 and also write to Via Gmail (geniustracker701) thank me later...
My brother in law is married to one of these. I never really understood how messed up and torturous a narcissist is until this one came into our family. Absolutely Unbelievable
It is sad that the world are yet to know or underestimate the destruction that even the minor narcissist can make.
What kind of slavery is this? We're supposed to coddle these demons? I refuse. I will not "manage" a sociopath for any reason whatsoever. Evade and avoid at all costs!
Just stay away when you find out they are a narcissist that's it
My cousin is a narcissist and I did everything this lady did and the result?
You can't take this person anywhere without getting into some agrument or conflicy especially when they are not center of attention and admiration. These people hardly ever change . This lady is Ludacris , narcs do well in business and the entertainment because they don't care about anyone but them selves and that's a way to ruin society
Keeping tab on your husband or Narcissist partner isn't something i'd suggest you dive into, notwithstanding, if you need to clear any doubt concerning what secretly goes on in your relationship, he is quick to accomplish results without fail just like he did the last time when i hired him, so i have to make reference to him. He paid great attention to fact as a legit expert and aided me to catch a cheat and his fee is affordable. Contact (geniustracker) on Whatsapp +1 (724) 330-3252 or you can text/call him on +1 (415)323-6758 and also write to Via Gmail (geniustracker701) thank me later...
They don’t ruin society, they run this world
This woman seems to not have had ANY actual real life experience with one of these demon spawns. She really shouldn’t even be allowed to address this subject to the masses when she’s clearly giving advice that is not only detrimental but extremely dangerous.
Narcissists systematically destroy everything that brings you happiness. This is how they live.
Just. Get. Away. Fast.
@@h.dimova3708 wtf
I A G R E E ‼️
Been there. Not going back.
Exactly! One should not “handle” a Narcissist. One should run fast!! I’ve had close to 20 yrs dealing with one.
I agree. My mother is one.
Sounds like ur one
Praising them and give them raises and constantly acknowledging them just feeds more into their narcissistic behavior. They are almost impossible to deal with. It takes a DIVINE act of POWER to deliver them! God help us!!!
Theres just NO way of engaging with a narcissist, unless you want to match the chaos they create!!!
I have a narcissist neighbor living below me. A true nightmare. She doesn't respect anything the property mgr tells her, even when given fines. If she is challenged in anyway she resorts to vandalizing property.
Narcissists often lack empathy and have an inflated sense of self-importance, which can lead to a disregard for the feelings and needs of others. They may also manipulate and exploit those around them to fulfill their own desires.
I don't agree with constant praise and raises. It's rewarding bad behavior
@Jessica Sanchez, I second that. Praising them legitimizes their bad behavior. A narcissist will only take that as permission to go on with the toxic behavior and do worse harm than before!
Yep... I got messed up pretty bad with one. It feels weird now when people are nice and sympathetic with me.
Step 1: Run to the hills.
Step 2: Run for your life.
Just get a away from them
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If you can get away in the end that's good to it's called "going no contact".
So agree,I've been around these type of people and the less your around them the better.its one mental illness you cant help fix,not like w bipolar or depression.
How? my father is like that
I’m trying, I need money
Not easy if you are living with them under one roof. it is a constant battle. If I had the option to leave and be somewhere happy, then that is simple. But not my case.
Absolutely bang on.
In my workspace alone their are 3 dangerous narcissists.
I have been triangulated by all 3 .
I was nearlly hospililised by my breakdown ending up on anti depressants and heart tabkets, loosing my memory to which has taken me months to save whats left of me.
With people like you, you can save lives by exposing these psychopaths and raising awairness.
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How to deal with narcissism in the work place:
1.Staple their lips shut so they can’t talk.
2. Duct tape them to an office chair and wheel them out into traffic.
3. Send them on a business trip with a one way ticket.
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Reading these comments, wow. Good that you are here getting informed on what a narcissist is as your defense against the narcissist is being educated on narcissist behavior. Once you identify narcissist behavior in someone cut them out of your life. There is no in-between, read other's comments. The more you know about the narcissist, the less pain and suffering the narcissist will be able to inflict on you. One more thing, set your boundaries with people.
This advice seems overly optimistic. I doubt narcissists can be managed- only avoided. They wear masks and therefore are difficult to screen out in the hiring process.
Unfortunately they can't be avoided either. Like the speaker in the video said; Narcs are everywhere like the plague. Just don't let them in your home and if you have to let them in chuck them back out. Keep contact to a minimum.
J & R Cameron
As the narc population grows... soon empathy will be in such scarce supply that many business owners will have no choice but to hire narcs
There is a difference between "a bit narcissistic" and "psychopath".
Keeping tab on your husband or Narcissist partner isn't something i'd suggest you dive into, notwithstanding, if you need to clear any doubt concerning what secretly goes on in your relationship, he is quick to accomplish results without fail just like he did the last time when i hired him, so i have to make reference to him. He paid great attention to fact as a legit expert and aided me to catch a cheat and his fee is affordable. Contact (geniustracker) on Whatsapp +1 (724) 330-3252 or you can text/call him on +1 (415)323-6758 and also write to Via Gmail (geniustracker701) thank me later...
Everyone wears a social mask
Once you understand some of these things dealing with the narcissist is so much easier to accept
I've always drawn narcs like flies to honey. Seems like that's all I've ever had to call "friends."
What I do, I call "The Whip! - I get them enthusiastically running, metaphorically, alongside me, then I pull an unexpected U-turn. They're still running ahead, and I'm already running in the opposite direction.
That one is funny 🤣 I like that..
Very smart!
I told my mother I was undergoing therapy and so would require some isolation until the process was done and that I would be in touch when I was finished. Some weeks later and I’m getting threats of her going to the police to check my welfare. Narcs don’t want you fixed or better.
Omg keep praising them? She has NEVER met one or else she would know how horrible that works out, this is terrible advice. If a narc sees one employee getting in trouble but they are always getting praised the narc is going to create some cutting drama.
Tiahna Grace this lady is either a narcissist or thinks people are inherently good
Lauren Wells how true!
Depends on how you look at it; constant fake praise can also mean giving the Narc the rope by which they hang themselves. saving everybody else the effort and energy. Remember these people are beyond any kind of help but nothing we do or say; will ever get through to them. Think about it why are drug addicts given a constant supply of their drug of choice? Those who really want to stop being narcy; will do so but those who want to take it to the next level will eventually self-destruct.
@Monica and @ Shabnam Rafique
YES! YES! THIS! A THOUSAND TIMES, THIS!!
Seriously!! They need to be starved of attention and praise .. idk what this lady is talking about
I know more than I want to know about narcissism. my husband was diagnosed with it, but I did not know the full impact of what that meant until...The love of my life, the only man I have ever loved and been married to for 38 years, decided he wanted to date while married. He went online and started dating up a storm without my consent or knowledge. That old Knucklehead does not even "have it like that" in the love department if you know what I mean. Well, to make a long story short and sweet, he moved in with one of the side-chicks in Georgia and I am here in California living my life like it is Golden. Every day, I wake up and I asked myself, "Martha, what wonderful thing will you do for yourself today?" God has let me know I don't have to understand all the foolishness and "carrying on" that happens in this earthly realm. Just keep moving, so I am moving my mind and body to a higher realm of joy. Thank you, Jesus!!!
Narcissistic people.....abuse can slowly kill you. I know......I am living with one now. I have been, for the past 24 years. I met him a couple of months after my father passed. Being orphand by my father after my mother passed when I was 8, I grew up thinking that there was something wrong with me because my father did not want me. With this being said and with hindsight being 20/20 as well as 3 stints locked up in a mental ward on 51/50's plus 4 visits to the Hospital with a BP reading of 221/119+ all because I couldn't find out what was wrong with me, why I was never good enough, why I kept doing everything wrong, why I was always punished with weeks of the silent treatment ( the most recent I'm dealing with now is going on 7 months of silence and stares). Now.....with the help of LCSW....Dr's..... Therapist and Psychologist I'm trying to break free. It hurts..... Is hard.... The reason I endured this for sooooo long was because two days after I left him my then 5 year old daughter and woke up one night crying for her father, it was at that moment when I was transported back to the little girl.... On the steps..... Being left alone on the concrete steps time after time after her father left her. I told myself that no matter what pain I have to endure I will make sure my daughter never cries for her father ever again.
Please forgive me for babbling on.
Simply me drama free thankyou so much for sharing your story. Absolutely devastating you had to endure this as a child from your dad after losing your mother!!
It's not surprising you ended up with a narcissist. They select people who are vulnerable. It's all bad.
I hope you are healing. It takes a long time. Take care xo
Run as fast as you can.
Keeping tab on your husband or Narcissist partner isn't something i'd suggest you dive into, notwithstanding, if you need to clear any doubt concerning what secretly goes on in your relationship, he is quick to accomplish results without fail just like he did the last time when i hired him, so i have to make reference to him. He paid great attention to fact as a legit expert and aided me to catch a cheat and his fee is affordable. Contact (geniustracker) on Whatsapp +1 (724) 330-3252 or you can text/call him on +1 (415)323-6758 and also write to Via Gmail (geniustracker701) thank me later...
I dont think you have ever been around a narc..
You dont know what your talking about..
She was married to one😢
Isha Ali They are soul destroying. I have ruined the last 16 years of my life being married to one.
@@TheJoshGalt I was raised by one. I am so sorry all those years were stolen from you. There are no words I can think of to lend comfort.
Isha Ali I got stuck, my dad was dying and I just missed so much before it was too late.
@Isha Ali: You don't know what you're talking about either.
Avoid avoid avoid
Wow, let’s cater to the narc and make sure their comfy in their work environment. This lady must be a narc. U do realize these people lack empathy and remorse. People with no conscience
This speech is void of any empathy what so ever...
you have no idea what you're talking about nor did you listen to what she said
very bad advice in dealing with a Narc!
I was thinking the same. Load of tosh from this speaker. Plus where are these near super human managers/leaders coming from? I’ve had some great mangers over the years and I don’t think any of them tick more than half these boxes.
not all lack empathy and remorse...ALL have a conscience..which is the epicenter of their narc ways. Narc HAVE empathy...its just the empathy that may have been triggered....ALWAYS fads away. Keep researching.....narcs are not as simple as one lacing empathy..
A Narcissist is like an F4 tornado that only leaves chaos & destruction in its path.
How about raises for the non-narc? If fact they need more praise because of the passive aggressive nastiness of narcs.
Keeping tab on your husband or Narcissist partner isn't something i'd suggest you dive into, notwithstanding, if you need to clear any doubt concerning what secretly goes on in your relationship, he is quick to accomplish results without fail just like he did the last time when i hired him, so i have to make reference to him. He paid great attention to fact as a legit expert and aided me to catch a cheat and his fee is affordable. Contact (geniustracker) on Whatsapp +1 (724) 330-3252 or you can text/call him on +1 (415)323-6758 and also write to Via Gmail (geniustracker701) thank me later...
People with a narcisistic personality disorder are very wounded people. It has nothing to do with "Every kid gets a trophy ".
They aren't nearly as "Wounded" as those they target!
Lashing out at criticism, their number are increasing....ugh! 70% have "high narcissitic traits." I KNEW IT. The workplace has weirdos and more than ever.
Encourage narcissists in the workplace, no thanks!
Dealing w/ a narcissist at work is not only stressful but it can cause you physical ailments. I’m bedridden now bc I wasn’t taking care of myself. I was distraught last week due to the behaviors I was encountering. The narcissist’s behavior left me feeling
confused, worried & upset but I’m not sure why. They put a lot of work on me bc I’m a diligent worker. The pressure got to me bc I don’t want to disappoint my manager. I don’t want to leave my job. I love the work I do.
Voice out to your manager, says though you like your job, people have you too much.
And also simultaneously begin
sending CVs.
After 5 minutes I finally realized this is about managing a narcissist in the workplace, not in everyday life. Yet, this does apply to everyday relationships, useful techniques if you have to live with one of these "narci-cysts".
Is anyone else getting tired of millenials being called narcissists? The baby boomers were nicknamed the "me" generation.
Lauren Wells Lauren Finally someone said it!, thank you kind human!
Yes. There's nothing like taking a relatively rare clinical condition that mental health professionals have trouble diagnosing correctly and applying it to an entire generation.
narcissists are usually children of narcissists.
in past generations narcissists fit better into the social model. the people have not changed but the social model has and so the narcisism sticks out more.
Lauren Wells yes generation blaming is non productive. This generation inherited the problem literally. Angel speaks chanel has lots of insights obout the narc problem. Love peace
I have yet too meet a narcissist who actually looks good
Candice Williams most narcissists look good because they care more about their appearance than others emotion.
They're laughing about it while were crying about how to escape them
They addressed so many issues lots of people had with the narcissists and that makes me extremely happy to know that he is really listening to their community like they did so many years ago. Thanks *Leapnotch*
*Honestly, just owning it and not trying to hide it is partially why I watch you. It's the honorable thing to do and it make the rest of the jobs much more believe when you are call out of the spots like that, so thank you leapnotch*
Is she teaching us to work with demons wtf
If she ever dealth with one in person, she wouldn't be talking like this !
John Davis IV. Maybe she is one and has empathy for other narcissists...or is just talking about herself. Why we should hire her.
I agree with Sanela Sani If she ever dealt with one in person, she wouldn't be talking like this !
@earth ocean Only thing is that most of the narc's are in management/supervisor roles. Usually with fake degrees purchased online.
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I’m a millennial and I don’t feel special, and that doesn’t bother me. I don’t think anyone is special, really. Very rarely do I meet people who are very different from one another. Especially myself. I’m not unique at all.
I like being special to my boyfriend, but I’m pretty sure that is normal. He is, after all, special to me.
Yesssss I don't get this need for my generation to be like the best or special. Everyone should be treated equally.
My son dated a narcissistic person and now she’s trying to control the way others see him by lying about him.
This behaviour in psychology is called flying monkeys. She is creating flying monkeys. Search about that in RUclips. It's a handbook typical behaviour of narcissists.
If this is a supervisor or a boss, it's a lot harder to cultivate the environment you want to work in
This woman wouldn't see the narcs I've known coming. They'd eat this woman for breakfast. This is ridiculous - there is no screening for narcissists at a job interview!?! I agree with every "wtf!?"
@0 .0 Yep. And nothing is EVER their fault! Always someone else's fault.
*Honestly, just owning it and not trying to hide it is partially why I watch you. It's the honorable thing to do and it make the rest of the jobs much more believe when you are call out of the spots like that, so thank you leapnotch*
I see so many comments on here from people saying “Run Away” that is a huge form of weakness and surrender. Stand your ground, shut them out and make them feel insignificant. Protect yourself and be strong!
Dealing with this bs right now. So tired of it.
They are the most horrific people I have ever had to deal with.
Narcissists are like psychopaths, but without self esteem
i know bunches and bunches of them. I keep them far far away.
I am in the process of dismissing (firing) a narcissist at work after years worth of issues.
My biggest regret is that i treated them with too much empathy and that i tried to resolve things informally instead of documenting the numerous occasions where they have underperformed, been insubordinate or confrontational. This all could have been over months ago and far easier than it currently is.
And this is why the world is in such a mess.. ie; most world leaders these days
Jo O Reilly (smirk)
Just as in the days of Noah...........right before God destroyed all the wicked.
Wow, work presentation! I only have personal experience. I try to set clear boundaries & leave when unacceptable behavior occurs.
Walk or Run away from them.... You cannot deal with them.... they bully you and make you feel worthless. Now run, run as fast as you can....
Why you should hire a Narc in the first place unless your a therapist? That’s like the emotionally drain Full Time Job... I don’t think that she meet or know any Covert Narc cluster b for real....being marry to one and still in recovery/survival mode and is very exhausting between the gaslighting and emotional abuse... we empath are to them like bees to honey... Poison Ivy is the right word ...run run run
The only way to deal with a narcissist is impeachment.
They should be impeached from the planet. Send them all to Mars and leave them. We would have peace on earth within a very short time afterward.
IMPEACH BIDEN!
@@johnatwell2753 Impeach the entire Senate.
@Juve For using the office for his own enrichment, defying the emoluments clause and inciting and angry mob, that resulted in 5 people dead. Biden, is no better. This is a two party duopoly, ruled by corporate oligarchy.
@Juve You're still believing that bs? Who the f cares, if he gave up his paycheck? The guys been laundering money through his hotels, using the office. That paycheck is chump change he sold to you as an investment for your vote.
Amazing. Real solution to the inevitable encounters.
This is actually the only video where there are concrete instructions how to practically manage a narcissist and not allow him or her to destroy the company culture.
Vida CK keep looking there are lots of better ones.
Vida CK,your pretty smile ☺️ can make the news!
I get the feeling she isn't qualified to lead this subject. dehumanisation, lack of deeper causes and stereotypes mark this ted-talk and her ideas on what or who a narcissists is are pretty dated.
You’re one
My brother is a great narcissist and abusive person... My biggest aim in life was to get away from him as far as possible.
Did you get away
Same !
They literally think they’re perfect that’s where my headache comes from
Wait... so if narcissists are now the majority, shouldn't there be a ted talk for narcissists on how they should manage empaths in stead of the other way around?
Curacaovacation you think a Narc will listen to anyone's advise but their own? Not gonna happen
Narcs are master manipulators. They seek to benefit from others by tearing them down and you want to support that?
Narcs appear as empaths and nice people.. that is the problem.. they are master manipulators..
Curacaovacation That exists. Its any online chatroom of the Alt-Right.
Narcissist tendencies are high not necessarily pathological or "extreme" narcissists.
She’s Under the impression that narcissist respect boundaries... hahahahah
I think it's really important to learn about how to identify and protect oneself from people with Narcissistic Personality Disorder from people who truly understand them, and have appropriate education in Psychology. This person seems like her background in mostly in business and law. She outlines strategies that are actually just common sense strategies to being a responsible business owner, and it kind of sounds like she is making biased generalizations about Millenials. No impressed with this talk.
Shawnee Ry
Yesssss! Thank you! I think you hit the nail on the head. It seems like she mixed in some "Buzzwords" with how to run a decently sustainable business. This woman has with no real concrete understanding of the vast spectrum of narcissism and then gave in to the "trend" of attacking millenials. I expected more of an educated slant from a ted talk.
The only way to protect yourself is to never leave your home.
Such a fantastic presentation. Thanks
Who has disiplinary processes for Narcisistic behavior? ...For the undermining, malignant, covert behaviors? Isnt that a wonderful fantasy.
Absolutely.
Thank you! Simply not possible!!
plot twist: she is a narcissist
mel dalili LOL !!!!!!
Keeping tab on your husband or Narcissist partner isn't something i'd suggest you dive into, notwithstanding, if you need to clear any doubt concerning what secretly goes on in your relationship, he is quick to accomplish results without fail just like he did the last time when i hired him, so i have to make reference to him. He paid great attention to fact as a legit expert and aided me to catch a cheat and his fee is affordable. Contact (geniustracker) on Whatsapp +1 (724) 330-3252 or you can text/call him on +1 (415)323-6758 and also write to Via Gmail (geniustracker701) thank me later...
Haha Haha thanks for the levity. You're awesome 😁🤣
Lol
mel dalili 🤣😂🤚🏽
You can not managed a narcissist. All you can do is stay as far away from them as possible. A rather unenlightening video made by a woman from an extremely passive agressive part of the world.
Heather Whittaker YOU ARE RIGHT
LOL. Agree with the passive aggressive part. I am Canadian. But this is a good talk.
Heather Whittaker I disagree. Narcissists can be managed because they need you more than you need them. They can be managed just like children and it's really easy. It's all about positive and negative reinforcement.
Jack McCartney The obvious answer is that people deal with them because they care/love them. Those who care about narcissists want to learn how to deal with them without getting hurt. It is possible.
Heather Whittaker Or impeachment.