💍 MY TOP 10 RULES TO FOLLOW WHEN DATING! A SURE GUARANTEE TO FINDING YOUR SOUL MATE FOREVER!!💍

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  • @kishataylor6963
    @kishataylor6963 Год назад +42

    You waited until your wedding night ?? Seriously???

    • @FumiDesaluVold
      @FumiDesaluVold  Год назад +87

      Yes, darling, ONE MILLION PERCENT SERIOUS! I slept with my now-husband for the 1st time on our wedding night! 😊💛

    • @kishataylor6963
      @kishataylor6963 Год назад +8

      @@FumiDesaluVold Wow!!! I really want to wait but thought I would never find a man who would.

    • @daniellescott477
      @daniellescott477 Год назад +5

      Omg, Beautiful❤️❤️❤️ FOR REAL!!💯💯🙏🏽🙏🏽Faith restored💙💙💙💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾🤗

    • @libralibra417
      @libralibra417 10 месяцев назад +3

      Definitely saving myself for marriage ❤️❤️❤️

    • @HerRoyalSmileness
      @HerRoyalSmileness 7 месяцев назад

      @@FumiDesaluVold I am MARRIED @ 35!!! 💃💃💃3weeks old now💃💃💃💃…. I followed your advice 💯💯💯 my husband is European, we dated and WAITED for 9month!!! I had always been celibate so waiting was a normal for me but not for my hubby but he waited still… Thank you mama!!! I always recommend people to your page!!! I follow you like kilode!!! My sis in waiting, trust me that man CAN wait if he is serious about you and you require it of him!!!

  • @jennyk1509
    @jennyk1509 2 года назад +213

    Rules:
    1. Know yourself. Be positive minded. Love yourself and confidence. Don't depend your happiness on someone else. Find yourself! People wants to be around happy people. People with good manners.
    2. Eat at home first before dinner. So you can concentrate on your company. Don't compromise your plate of food that you will poo in few hours
    3. Have your own money 💰.
    4. Set time. Don't be too available.
    5. Pay your bills.
    6. Date as many as you can with no physical touch.
    7. Don't be the first to call.
    8. Be hard-core and polite.
    9. Don't call him at all. Don't give him too much access.
    10. You can wait. Avoid sexual encounter.
    11. Protect yourself. Don't compromise.
    12. Don't sleep with your husband to be.
    13. Don't exclude friends

  • @roki5337
    @roki5337 2 года назад +103

    I love that. "God said I wont give you a daughter I will give you hundreds of daughters" So happy you feel that way. You are genuine.

  • @samanthavandusen
    @samanthavandusen 2 года назад +544

    My first husband I made all these mistakes. I finally left after 19 years. The man I'm with now, he was my friend first. I'm much happier 💯🥂🥰

    • @QueenMufasa552
      @QueenMufasa552 2 года назад +10

      Good for you, girl. Glad you're happier now❤️❤️🙏

    • @bellaapple2166
      @bellaapple2166 2 года назад +5

      Wow you lasted 19 year though so you must have done something right ?

    • @cynthiaedwards3716
      @cynthiaedwards3716 2 года назад +21

      I had a wonderful mother growing up, but unfortunately she didn't have discussions about how to date men. I learned the hard way . I'm in my 60's now and a lot wiser. I'm single but I'm ok with that because I will not settle for just ANYBODY!! Fumi God bless you. I hope that the women watching this video will take heed. You will save yourself a lot of disappointment and heartache. 🙂🙏❤️

    • @nelcialazar2884
      @nelcialazar2884 2 года назад +7

      Fumi i love your make up,u look very beautiful.

    • @maranatha6730
      @maranatha6730 2 года назад +3

      REMARRIAGE AFTER DIVORCE IS ADULTERY IF THE DIVORCED PARTNER IS STILL ALIVE, according to Jesus Christ, Who will judge the living & the dead on that DAY!

  • @thothobuthelezi2947
    @thothobuthelezi2947 2 года назад +144

    Liking these rules:
    Eat before date
    Have yr own money
    2hrs maxi en go back home
    Don't be the first to call
    Do not sleep w him,cross yr legs
    Don't ignore red flags
    Protect yourself don't go to his house

    • @juliahsilva1645
      @juliahsilva1645 2 года назад +5

      Thank you & to not forget the first one: know yourself 💖

    • @juliahsilva1645
      @juliahsilva1645 2 года назад +1

      I replied here so it’s saved in my comments 💖

    • @Embracejustice
      @Embracejustice 2 года назад +6

      I wonder what magic some women use .
      They sleep with the man during courtship and marry the same man.
      So confusing 🤔😵

    • @beautyflows7692
      @beautyflows7692 Год назад +2

      @@Embracejustice Don’t be fooled it won’t work in the end. My ex husband and I spelt together after 1week. He married me with no engagement after 6months. Everyone thought i won including me. He had a business etc. I Stay 4yrs only to find out he cheated the whole time. He never respected me because how we went about things in the BEGINNING. He told our divorce therapist he had grown and couldn’t trust how easy I was in the beginning.Do it the right and respectful way hun! It brings trust and respect!

  • @damilolaogundare2334
    @damilolaogundare2334 2 года назад +205

    I love the cartoon walk at the beginning of your videos… gives me happy vibes💯

    • @baibaiamani6627
      @baibaiamani6627 2 года назад +19

      Same here, there is something about it... The walk of life 🤣🤣🤣

    • @preshmaneli1563
      @preshmaneli1563 2 года назад +6

      Me too 😊

    • @estherbriggs8310
      @estherbriggs8310 2 года назад +5

      To me that is symbolic of a determined,focused woman who gives no hoot to achieving her goal,i always see her as a stubborn black go-getter girl.Lol.

    • @esk2006
      @esk2006 2 года назад +3

      It's brilliant..really brightens me up..😆

    • @Kari_Michele
      @Kari_Michele 2 года назад +7

      And the music too 💃🏾😍

  • @emmapetit6854
    @emmapetit6854 2 года назад +444

    I really enjoyed this episode!!!
    I’m 18 years old and I’m just starting to date. Dating is not easy when you want to wait for marriage😅
    We’re lucky to have you Fumi❤️

    • @TendainaTatenda
      @TendainaTatenda 2 года назад +51

      Then Fumi's advice is perfect for you. May I also encourage you not to date too much at your age. This will help you avoid the challenge of trying to wait unless you intend to get married right away. Do you for now.

    • @gatestimonymiracle1302
      @gatestimonymiracle1302 2 года назад +24

      Spend time building your career and studying. Don't be afraid to make mistakes

    • @ceecee366
      @ceecee366 2 года назад +20

      Emma don’t be in a rush! Live your life…become a spiritual being, learn about who you are,travel, have fun and follow your dreams. Love yourself and love will find you! ✨❤️✨

    • @proph2008
      @proph2008 2 года назад +19

      Please do not listen to the advice of "have fun, Build your career" these are women still in there 30/40s still not married!, If you desire marraige, and your wise enough to WAIT till marraige for sex, then GOD has put this on your heart and it will come to pass. Now is the time for preparing to be a wife, get books, work on your self esteem, have fun, work out, and when your husband comes, build the life you both want TOGETHER, This is how GOD intended. GOD bless you.

    • @gatestimonymiracle1302
      @gatestimonymiracle1302 2 года назад

      @@proph2008 lmao another angry red pill man who is running out of options because women want better.

  • @GABBRE1264
    @GABBRE1264 2 года назад +9

    The first rule is, make sure it's a man who loves God more than he love himself, put Him first and live by His principles found in the Bible. Once the man truly and sincerely loves God, everything else follows.
    Auntie Fumi is already married and not all men have the same qualities.
    And it's ok to call first, nothing is wrong with that.

  • @kabamijemimah9228
    @kabamijemimah9228 2 года назад +18

    WISDOM FOR FREE..."Don't exclude FRIENDS while dating"..that hit hard

  • @eldeepromax
    @eldeepromax 2 года назад +161

    This is pure gold! No wonder my ENTIRE dating life has been terrible (all 20 years of it!) Well, never too late to unlearn and get it right. Bless you Fumi 💕

    • @drina288
      @drina288 2 года назад +1

      Exactly 💕

    • @Apixi
      @Apixi Год назад +2

      100th comment lol
      It's never too late❣️✨

    • @florentinakissoon-weekes6738
      @florentinakissoon-weekes6738 Год назад +1

      @@Apixi I agree with you 💯%

    • @gavan1988
      @gavan1988 Год назад +1

      I agree my dating experience has been terrible. This is me 2023 follow # 10 rules.

    • @gavan1988
      @gavan1988 Год назад +1

      I am ready to Fuminize🎉.

  • @lionesslamb7049
    @lionesslamb7049 2 года назад +24

    👌🏾. And don't be afraid to lose him!

  • @DonnaInTheBlack
    @DonnaInTheBlack 2 года назад +65

    Fumi, these are rules to live by. #2 My parents always had us eat before leaving the house. I am a picky eater and I have discovered that to avoid being Hangry, I need to eat first. #3 When you order, plan on paying the bill and travel with enough money to pay for both meals. #4 I have a daylight rule for first few dates, meaning I will be leaving before the sun sets. Plan for another engagement after so you stick to allotted time. #8 No cookies- A man with self control will respect you. Self control goes beyond the bedroom and will spill into other aspects of his life. #9 In the words of the late Maya Angelou, " When people show you who they are, believe them". #10- The only thing I would amend on this, because I do believe where someone lives tells you a lot about them, show up with a couple of friends for a short visit. The people that know you best will see things that you may miss. When you first meet someone you are dating their representative. It takes time for them to show up. In the presence of your friends, who they are tends to surface more quickly.

  • @animelorrd
    @animelorrd Год назад +8

    I have been following the rule of having your own money on a date since a while. I went on a date with my boyfriend and he ordered food, drinks and ice cream. He paid for everything and also wanted to get ice cream and snacks for his kid brother as take-home. He wanted to pay with his card as he paid our food with cash, the card reader at the restaurant had issues and I offered to pay with the money I had with me. I took enough money with me that could get our foods before going on that date. It saved him the embarrassment of returning what he wanted to get for his kid brother. He transferred my money to me when he got home.

  • @crescentiajoseph5777
    @crescentiajoseph5777 2 года назад +5

    Talking about red flags. They are always there and God has bless all of us women with intuition. Some of us choose to turn a blind eye. When this tall dark and handsome guy asked me out on a date, I was so so excited. I chose Central Park in NYC, a quiet place, conducive for conversation. We were just strolling through the park when this kid, maybe 5 years old kicked a soccer ball towards my date. As if the kid who was there alone with his mom was looking for a play mate. Can you imagine, this guy just totally ignored the little boy who was waiting in anticipation of the ball being kicked back to him. I was shocked! Something like that should be a reflex action. Which human would not kick a ball back to a kid? That was my red flag. I run out of there with lightning speed.

  • @cherylhoyte2889
    @cherylhoyte2889 2 года назад +93

    My parents taught me this from a child.
    You are correct, self respect is the SUBJECT MATTER. No compromising!

    • @cherylhoyte2889
      @cherylhoyte2889 2 года назад +7

      That is what you called Honoring your assets. Today I am proud of my self.

  • @mleys3248
    @mleys3248 2 года назад +71

    A week ago I joined a dating site. Today I had a chat interaction and the guy hadn't even revealed his name yet and het was already asking to exchange phone numbers. I said no and that I didn't feel safe in giving my phonenumber to a stranger. Then two exchanges later he asked where I lived exactly. That were 2 red flags in less then 10 minutes. And I responded the following : "I don't feel at ease with your requests. I wonder how many women give their phonenumber and address to a random stranger they are chatting with for the first time. I wish you the best of luck in your search." I blocked his profile and removed the chat from the datingsite. I was relieved that I didn't ignore my gut instinct. Thanks for these tips. I will listen to them a few times.

    • @gatestimonymiracle1302
      @gatestimonymiracle1302 2 года назад +7

      You never know if he is a narcissist. Good thing you blocked him

    • @orubek355
      @orubek355 2 года назад +3

      You can give a google voice number. There are other apps as well.

    • @ariah457
      @ariah457 2 года назад

      Good for you, continue trusting your gut but online there are also more off people because they can hide a lot more

    • @nibabi
      @nibabi 2 года назад +8

      @@orubek355 I don’t give any number unless he passes muster. In my experience, men who actually take me out ask for my phone number a day or hours prior to the date. They send their number first then ask for mine just in case of emergency/lost/no WiFi.

    • @isabellopes890
      @isabellopes890 2 года назад +6

      Well done girl. Nowadays, many men want to live rent-free and want someone to feed them.I’ve watched a small documentary in Brasil, long time ago... One of the ladies was just talking to the guy through social media, gave him her address and one day he appeared at her house with many bags, to live with her without asking her permission. And he wasn’t working at all.

  • @Dr.GenXNaturalista
    @Dr.GenXNaturalista 2 года назад +41

    U BETTER Preach Sis! I followed these rules when I met my husband and it worked! I got married at age 37 and am 53 now. I always followed the 90 day rule before I met my husband, but rule #1 made the biggest difference for me. I became so comfortable in my own skin and fell in love with me . I REALLY got to know my Self with all of my greatness and all of my flaws, the tide turned. I felt fulfilled within myself when I met my husband and that alone helped me to follow all of these rules…well….except for #2! (But I’m a picky eater so I guess it made it look like I wasn’t hungry. If I don’t like it, I’m not eating it! 😂🤣😂)

  • @hashima-isisgordon6601
    @hashima-isisgordon6601 2 года назад +195

    Yes please Fumi, I think you should do the 10 rules for single moms, thank you so much Fumi, you taught me ALOT 💜💜💜

  • @nataliemukamimbewe6
    @nataliemukamimbewe6 2 года назад +94

    Never had a strong relationship with my aunties and I didn't wanna stress my mum after dad died when we were kids so I didn't learn somethings and I've made alot of mistakes dating, the best thing I can say came out of my last relationship is my three month daughter. I really appreciate you Aunty Fumi. You're such a blessing to me. Learning so many things from you. God bless you

  • @dr-k1667
    @dr-k1667 2 года назад +88

    500K is coming closer as the days go by. Keep moving forward with Grace; Beauty; and Wisdom Fumi!

  • @rowdybliss
    @rowdybliss 2 года назад +68

    Fumi ❤❤❤ Your daughters rise up and call you “Blessed.” 🙏
    Your advice is so well-timed. Thank you for being such a good mother/friend/sister/auntie to us; there is no force stronger in this world than women uniting and choosing to lift each other up.

  • @alexs8218
    @alexs8218 Год назад +12

    The eat before you go to dinner is a revolutionary idea. I never heard that before 😂❤️ Thank you so much for these relationship videos, they help a lot during my first experience dating. I feel more calm :)

  • @zichatsamaila8994
    @zichatsamaila8994 Год назад +26

    Thank you momma 🌹 this is a huge one for me. I’m 25 and dating and I’m ready to apply this principles in my relationship. I am so glad I found you,you are a great teacher and now my mentor ,I’ve found a mother too.
    I love you.

  • @bessiesimmonsmusic1368
    @bessiesimmonsmusic1368 2 года назад +8

    This woman is so wise. I will be limiting my dates to 2hrs from now on.😌 This was a good tip.

  • @bellaapple2166
    @bellaapple2166 2 года назад +85

    I know for sure if I had a mom talk to me this way, teaching me guiding me with this kind of certitude and positivity I would have been married already. I'm in my late 30's. I made mistakes because I honestly didn't know. No one told me anything about men, dating, touching, sex. So imagine the nativity and heartbreak that came with that. I watched a lot of my girlfriends get married along the years and one thing they all had in common was, they had really amazing mom's. Mother's that really guided them into women hood. Mother's that made sure they were maturing emotionally as well as socially. In my thirties is when I had an older woman take me under her wing, it was my doctor actually. It really changed my life. Thank you Fumi like you said you have many daughters. We appreciate you, you are a true Queen 🌟👑❤️

    • @EfiaSerwaa
      @EfiaSerwaa 2 года назад +6

      lucky you. You found someone to follow, I am yet to meet that person. I have the same problem as you have. My mom is alive but she doesn't give me no advice and all she does is to listen to people outside and every time I confront her she kept saying I am lying. I never had a good relationship with her and as a matter of fact, she doesn't even know anything about me. Can't talk to her as she won't even listen and most times it will end up in a fight so I stopped talking at all. I live with her but most time all we say is "hi" and "Bye" when we go to work. This woman never even thought me how to cook or clean or wash clothes with hands and when I confront her she goes on defence mode and says I am a stubborn child. I am in my late 20s and had to use youtube to learn the basics of everything as this woman didn't teach me anything. Even my grandmother tells her that she needs to teach me and my mom just replies 'oh she can cook already no need for that. I have neglectful parents. They do the bare minimum and that's it and I am sick and tired to see how my friends have good parents and I have these 2. When I was a child I went to the police so that I could get adopted but it didn't work. That's just to tell how bad these 2 are. They just gave birth to me and I have to raise myself alone. Very shameful

    • @isabellopes890
      @isabellopes890 2 года назад

      @@EfiaSerwaa I don’t know you, but my advice is: when it’s possible live your mother’s house. It will improve your mental health.

    • @maamee6251
      @maamee6251 2 года назад +1

      OMG!!!! I have the same experience and have been thinking about it a lot recently. It's like you are me. It makes me feel so sad and hopeless 😔.

    • @danief929
      @danief929 2 года назад

      @@EfiaSerwaa this is sad and worse of all I can relate to absolutely everything you said. Shameful situation indeed😞

    • @fbizLoveandPEACE
      @fbizLoveandPEACE Год назад

      I followed most of these rules tbh and ive been married 11 years. it's essential to be ready for marriage when you're confident happy and 100% in love with yourself. having these would help you choose with your brains and not just with your heart. no sex rule helps both of you focus on what's more important- the destination! Once you've established that you 2 can work/walk together because you agree ie. you have a similar/ common goals in life. REMEMBER YOU DON'T ALWAYS HAVE TO TEST-DRIVE BEFORE BUYING A CAR that you hopefully want to 'drive' till death do u part -__-

  • @jdubya9650
    @jdubya9650 2 года назад +111

    Fumi, you are looking fabulous!!! We need a GRWM video for this look! 😄 As always, very sound advice from A-Z. Congratulations in advance…Fumi Nation is almost 400k strong!!!!

    • @rogers5622
      @rogers5622 2 года назад +1

      Agree. Her whole look is fabulous.

  • @danielas3303
    @danielas3303 Год назад +2

    WHERE WAS THIS 7 YEARS AGO??????!!!!! "Eat before you go..." THAT IS GOLD!!!!

  • @nneki1
    @nneki1 2 года назад +4

    Anty funmi herself great advice but sometimes the rules don't always apply . I believe when you meet the right man that knows what he wants you won't need all this rules. My dad moved in with my mum after 1week of meeting in a party😁 and they were happliy married for 40yrs .they were 2peas in a pod..blessed memories.

  • @ahealingplace7350
    @ahealingplace7350 2 года назад +14

    Fumi please do a series on etiquette (instead of an episode) I think it's so important.... love you 💜💜

    • @brsugarbabe
      @brsugarbabe 2 года назад +3

      Yes I’ve been meaning to ask her to do the same.

  • @superwomanme
    @superwomanme 2 года назад +59

    Your channel is so diverse in such a wonderful way. This is like the reality show/talk show that all women need. Also, this makeup and hair are hot on fire 🔥

    • @wendymclaren8219
      @wendymclaren8219 2 года назад

      I really realy love the context that you put out pray that ypu will continue and grow stronger and stronger

  • @Bee_Vibes
    @Bee_Vibes 2 года назад +47

    Auntie Fumes you have no idea how much you're appreciated, i really learn so much from you ❤️

    • @preshmaneli1563
      @preshmaneli1563 2 года назад +3

      Lovely to see a South African here

    • @Bee_Vibes
      @Bee_Vibes 2 года назад +1

      @@preshmaneli1563 Hey sis❤️🇿🇦

  • @felnluvwithyou505
    @felnluvwithyou505 2 года назад +42

    This is SOLID advice ladies especially number 1. I am currently in that season where I am working on myself and it's a tedious process but it is very necessary because it can lead to an early end in your relationship if not addressed.

  • @sashanahall6768
    @sashanahall6768 2 года назад +14

    Please do one for single moms. Thank you!

  • @crystal-steelbutterfly
    @crystal-steelbutterfly 2 года назад +14

    You definitely are My “Mama Bear” Auntie Fumi, I keep coming back for your wisdom and all your class and goodness. Bless your heart 💕

  • @Candycanewish
    @Candycanewish 2 года назад +38

    Omg Fumi, I live for this look!!! The ponytail, the beige that makeup 😍 just amazing!!

  • @sybellhernandez9654
    @sybellhernandez9654 2 года назад +32

    Personally I plan on waiting till marriage anyway, but thats very smart. It'll show you what guys are serious and which guys want a hook up. Also red flags of trying to pressure you into it, manipulate you into it, or guilt trip you into it. Thank you so much Fumi!!! ❤❤❤

  • @whatsgoingon22
    @whatsgoingon22 9 месяцев назад

    How did I find you!! I’m so grateful. I’m 32, back on the dating scene and looking for a husband! I just spent the last 3 years waiting around and getting mentally and emotionally abused and drug around by a broke, unstable dusty. I thought he was the one, and overlooked so many red flags. It took me sooo long to finally let go!
    I had a wake up call when I realized I was gambling with my fertility.
    I’ve been alone enjoying my life for awhile now and I finally feel peace again-
    This week, I am putting myself out there and I’m so clueless how to date to get what I’m looking for.
    Thank you for this.

  • @WorthUrSalt
    @WorthUrSalt Год назад +4

    Yes! Yes! Yes! 😍🥰🥰😘😘 I did 80% of these and it worked. Met my husband mid 2021 via Facebook. We got married 3 weeks ago. I'm in my mid 40s. Told myself I was going to do things differently and follow certain rules: my no.1 being no sex until my wedding night. He later told me he was glad we waited...

  • @jasmingoddess1
    @jasmingoddess1 2 года назад +41

    Watching for that etiquette master class . I’m speaking it into existence!!! Love you Fumi 🥰🥰

  • @eleashadias9266
    @eleashadias9266 2 года назад +23

    This has definitely got to be one of the best videos. I was just about to give up on dating, but now I have some rules and guidelines to follow. I better get my dating dairy open to date 😊

  • @melanie.elizabeth
    @melanie.elizabeth 2 года назад +26

    Yes auntie! I took notes and wrote every single of these down. I would love to hear your tips for single mothers.

  • @ThrivingNotDying
    @ThrivingNotDying 2 года назад +25

    At this point, I'm so over dating. Having to date multiple people is exhausting for me! Multiple people have told me to do this but I don't like dating in general why or how do I date multiple? I would prefer to be friends first and foremost. I really need this friendship first relationship.

    • @africanbrowny
      @africanbrowny 2 года назад +10

      Sometimes the things we refuse to do, are the things that might change our lives.

    • @nibabi
      @nibabi 2 года назад +10

      It sounds as if you aren’t having fun on dates. Make sure your dates are fun and interests you. Be willing to try something new too (i.e. painting or pottery)!

    • @bilquisoyekan5480
      @bilquisoyekan5480 2 года назад +3

      @@nibabi EXACTLY!!! Change the environment.

    • @bilquisoyekan5480
      @bilquisoyekan5480 2 года назад +4

      Are you sure the guys are giving the same energy you are giving them on dates?

    • @cutie13581
      @cutie13581 2 года назад

      @@bilquisoyekan5480 hmmmm that parttttttttt!!!!!!!

  • @roki5337
    @roki5337 2 года назад +2

    Yes indeed hold back on the cookies and not being readily available at their every beckon and call.

  • @leigh-annoosthuizen6062
    @leigh-annoosthuizen6062 2 года назад +18

    I’ve had problems with my weight my whole life due to abuse and as a result I’m extremely uncomfortable eating in front of people (I’m fine eating in front of animals as they don’t judge). This regarding #2.
    Been in my current relationship for sixteen months now and on every date I barely touch the food and take it home because I didn’t want to waste. One day we got a sandwich and went to the beach and ate it there. We were so relaxed and then he looked at me with a huge smile on his face and said I must be very hungry, I had almost finished the sandwich without realizing it, and I had never realized that I had never had a meal in front of him in more than one year. The first time in my life that someone appreciated me eating in front of them.

  • @janepollard9092
    @janepollard9092 2 года назад +2

    I love the confident woman you have now at the beginning. It pulls my head up!

  • @jeniqueyearwood846
    @jeniqueyearwood846 2 года назад +41

    Yes. I love this outfit choice and can definitely see the progress of your health journey. ❤️ Thanks Aunty Fumi for the great advice as usual!😀

  • @ts3435
    @ts3435 2 года назад +6

    Thank you Fumi for sharing.. I'm 46 and have yet to find a match.. I wasn't raised with a mother figure, an aunt or a sister.. so I appreciate you speaking about this!!

  • @a.f.wonsley8288
    @a.f.wonsley8288 2 года назад +47

    🌻 Lady Fumi!!! I wish I had heard not giving a date more than 2 hours 20 years agooooo! Priceless advice that I learned the hard way. Any who, I would love tips for women specially over 50 even though these tips apply. Just curious if you had any for my age group. Keep up the great work 🌻

    • @Lizcat302
      @Lizcat302 2 года назад +1

      Yes me 2

    • @curiousone9944
      @curiousone9944 2 года назад +2

      Fumi there are so many older Women who need advice too. This video is great, just wondering if there's any added tips for us.

  • @AAGENHEAV
    @AAGENHEAV 2 года назад +5

    The information given is gold BUUUUTTTT.......we CAN NOT ease by this makeup look. Tutorial please and thank you ma'am!

  • @progress2success317
    @progress2success317 2 года назад +5

    I have watched so many so call gurus and this by far provides the most clarity. You are a friend, mother, aunt and sister indeed! Thanks 🥰

  • @Adaobichukwuma
    @Adaobichukwuma 2 года назад +6

    Thank you Fumi,I always eat at home before heading out to dates or even weddings

  • @michaelogbonnaya8040
    @michaelogbonnaya8040 2 года назад +7

    Beautiful piece. I am so sharing this with my sisters.
    The first point of loving yourself, knowing yourself, I think applies both to men too. Because it boosts your confidence as a man.
    May God continue to guide and direct you as you continue to impact lives.
    Well-done Ma.

  • @lizzybusyo
    @lizzybusyo 2 года назад +9

    I love this make up look!!! You look beautiful ! This is given me 90's Robin Givens. 😍

  • @KUSZPREM
    @KUSZPREM 2 года назад +10

    Fumi!!!!! I just noticed you were in the movie “Maid of Honor “ over the weekend. My husband thought I’ve lost my mind because I was screaming when you came in the scene 😂😂😂😂

  • @vanessaramos1528
    @vanessaramos1528 2 года назад +6

    Thank you Fumi for sharing please could you do rules for single mothers

  • @hildaackah8678
    @hildaackah8678 2 года назад +7

    This look is fire! The outfit, the accessories, the shadow, the lipstick, the hair! It’s giving 🔥

  • @tamia3573
    @tamia3573 2 года назад +10

    Thank you auntie Fumi! If you ever offered coaching or a group programme it would be super valuable because you’re so wise 💕

    • @Kari_Michele
      @Kari_Michele 2 года назад

      I agree and I would sign up for it.

  • @thequeenmidas
    @thequeenmidas Год назад +1

    My husband was a friend for 2 years before we started dating. Saw me date some frogs. We've been together for 18 years now and married for 17✨

  • @tykedasmith5888
    @tykedasmith5888 2 года назад +6

    Great advice Fumi! I love the makeup and ponytail just gorgeous!! I just made 42 and have been single for some years now! No children but was married a short time while in my early 20s. My mom didn’t really talk to me about having healthy relationships with men so I learned on my own as I moved forward in life. Now I have learned to be happy by myself and do what makes me content in life! I always say people come into your life when you least expect it! I stopped years ago seeking a relationship because if it’s in God’s plan then it will just happen naturally. My biggest issue these days is a lot of men expect women to pull out their money and spend on them! My first reaction is why should I invest in a man who is not proving to me that he is able to build a kingdom for the both of us?? It’s pretty sad that still happens nowadays and that is one of the things that concerns me that I have my stuff together and it’s difficult finding someone who matches that or better! Keep the faith and remember anything is possible if you are true believer ❤️

  • @EleiaRoddy
    @EleiaRoddy 2 дня назад

    Chile I made all these mistakes 😢 but I’m clearing my plate and starting afresh! Thank you Lord for restoring my Dignity ❤

  • @victoriagrullon2620
    @victoriagrullon2620 2 года назад +5

    Please do a video on etiquette and femininity!

  • @zeea6507
    @zeea6507 2 года назад +1

    Awesome points thanks for sharing. Need to not ignore the red flags, this man I am talking to online said his last relationship was 12 years and now wants to get married in less than a year. Need to not be available all the time, messages me whilst at work had to ask him if he isn't also at work.

  • @FAmazingGrace
    @FAmazingGrace 2 года назад +6

    And Mrs FDV does it again! Love the look today and the laughter always! Seriously though, NEVER IGNORE THE RED FLAGS! I did. Met my husband in my late twenties. Fast forward 20 years, I was blessed to be able to leave with my children and my life (or what was left of it). I thank God for that, but I can't lie, I saw the red flags and waved them away, but they didn't go!!!

  • @johnniejohnson6420
    @johnniejohnson6420 2 года назад +2

    Fuminize love it!! You glamorous lady you!!

  • @howcanyoudothistome1
    @howcanyoudothistome1 2 года назад +6

    I know for a fact that these rules are GOLD. Thank you Fumi xxxxx💋💅🏾

  • @Me_578
    @Me_578 2 года назад +6

    Fumi, your look here is Life🔥So classy and fresh!
    Hello from Moscow🇷🇺

  • @lolafashola4318
    @lolafashola4318 2 года назад +6

    Please details on the hair 😍😍😍 Love the suggestions, now that I am opened to dating I will apply all of it. Thank you

  • @phathiscreations8721
    @phathiscreations8721 2 года назад +27

    Please do the 10 rules for single moms.
    Greatly appreciate you Sis Fumi 💖

    • @ancestorbackforthelasttime
      @ancestorbackforthelasttime 2 года назад +2

      It’s the same thing. They don’t get introduced to your kids. Surely they can know you have kids when they ask but they are not the subject when dating only he and you

  • @ZED2.0
    @ZED2.0 2 года назад +4

    You have such a lovely spirit! But the eat before you go out took me out 😂

  • @thabilekumalo8111
    @thabilekumalo8111 2 года назад +3

    Your Husband is your number one fan ❤️❤️

  • @veereigns8660
    @veereigns8660 2 года назад +5

    I'm 30 years & my daughter is 9. I'm afraid of dating and end just chatting to some of the guys I kinda like.I feel like I'll be doing the same mistake I did back then💔. I've told myself that I'm better of single and focusing on my career and daughter.
    It wouldn't hurt to try this method Fumi😂❤️ (for fun,& who knows)& thank you so much 🙏🏼🎉You rock Fumi🔥Love from🇿🇦

  • @vulpeadejad7523
    @vulpeadejad7523 2 года назад +25

    Great video, Fumi! Big YES to the etiquette video plus another 10 rules. Love it. And thank you! ❤️

  • @chichetaramruth3989
    @chichetaramruth3989 2 года назад +3

    The brown lippie!!! 🔥🔥🔥🔥 Please we’d love to know the shade and brand. 🙏

  • @TheChelseaOShow
    @TheChelseaOShow Год назад +1

    Funmi! i am so glad i've found you. I never knew how much i needed you until now. This advice is going to save me so much heartbreak. You are amazing, like a fairy godmother. Im so proud to be now be one of your daughters

  • @lyrzartist
    @lyrzartist 2 года назад +3

    Yeah! As a small business owner and independent daughter I must find a good husband and pray that we're be helpful for each other passion and share more time to keep a great relationship together. I'm still waiting for the engagement while having devotional prayers to keep my plans for the future to be respected also, to have positive outlook also by having our Team. Maybe someday I'll be able to win him for a lifetime..by now I'm still making checklist to assure of it.. I want to rely my own version to see him as my great defender someday and will protect my profile so fine.

  • @pris8337
    @pris8337 2 года назад +1

    We need a video with uncle Ölle’s advice and his perspective

  • @xoliswakawuleza
    @xoliswakawuleza 2 года назад +14

    Hi Fumi, sending my love from South Africa 🇿🇦
    I love the entire look, from hair, make-up right down to the outfit.
    Thank you so much for being so wholesome, thoroughly enjoyed this episode and learned a lot too ❤
    Be blessed 🙌

  • @wamuhunjuguna
    @wamuhunjuguna 4 месяца назад

    This is such a big highlight in my life at the moment, I can now see the mistakes that I made with a guy who flew 35hrs in to meet me, and at the end of it all it never worked.
    Thank you, Fumi for keeping a watch on your daughters, these are the things I wish my mother taught me, learning the hard way is painful, but guess what I am finally breaking the cycle, I am done making these mistakes.
    Thank you💐

  • @betsy5889
    @betsy5889 2 года назад +3

    Wow 😮 I’m happy I watched this ♥️. Discerning The Difference Between A Red Flags 🚩 and Imperfections Is Important. We Are All Imperfect And You Don’t Want To Dismiss A Good Guy Over An Imperfection 👀

  • @SWEATVids
    @SWEATVids 5 месяцев назад

    Hi, I just discovered you, and already you have affirmed me on so many levels. I'm turning 39 this year and not married yet. Thank you so much Auntie Fumi. I am definitely part of Fumi-Nation 🤗

  • @missraissaali
    @missraissaali 2 года назад +5

    Wow😍😍 you look absolutely gorgeous Fumi!

  • @blaqquinz
    @blaqquinz 2 года назад +1

    Aunty Fumi thanks...much love from UGANDA 🇺🇬🇺🇬🇺🇬🇺🇬

  • @ajjudge7983
    @ajjudge7983 2 года назад +36

    Fumi, you are a godsend and so is your advice! Thank you so much and all the best to Ole, Adrian and you. 🥰

  • @purposepassionsisterhood
    @purposepassionsisterhood 3 месяца назад +1

    Fumi, i have been having these principles and i found my self single and lonely because all the guys i meet are all in it for 1 thing. i instantly have to cut off relationships and its draining

  • @naybaby86
    @naybaby86 Год назад

    OMG !! SHE IS SO FLY !! I am applying these rules !! I will send you an invite to my wedding !!

  • @tmar8959
    @tmar8959 2 года назад +5

    Early gang! The slickback hair and the crisp top, contrasted with that piercing eye look with that dark lip combo is just chefs kiss 👌👌👌 #FABULOUSITY OK back to the video 😁

  • @janetmayango4491
    @janetmayango4491 5 месяцев назад

    Thank you very much Aunty Fumi. I am guilty of most of this. Am always calling and if I don’t get response I get angry. I said to myself this stupid. I was married for almost 18 years and at the beginning I ignored all the red flags and I know what I passed through and am happily divorced now with seven beautiful children and I want to date again and I will teach this to my children. It is a very good lesson. God bless you ma. My self love and confidence first and knowing myself, is the most important. Am 38 and I will be turning 39 years old , next month.

  • @rachel475
    @rachel475 2 года назад +14

    This video is so timely and the advices so valid. Thank you so much for always pouring into us. I don't take the lessons I learn here for granted. I've been single for almost a decade and celibate as well. I just met someone who has the qualities I want in a life partner. He is serious and intentional. I really like him but I wish I watched this video before now. We talk a lot but I feel I've made some mistakes in the beginning (not setting clear boundaries sexually, too much access etc ). We haven't met yet so all we do is talk and getting to know each other better. Please can you advise on how to correct these mistakes. Is it too late to start implementing them?

  • @fbloy2
    @fbloy2 Год назад

    I liked the idea of eating before going to dinner. That concept is deceptively more complex than meets the eye. Like with the lady who got stranded. How is it you travel to a different country and not have enough money to get a ticket home? Bless the child that has their own. 😊

  • @maryparris9435
    @maryparris9435 2 года назад +5

    Everything you said make make sense I love it.

  • @marynathaniel4546
    @marynathaniel4546 2 года назад +1

    Thanks for this video.♥️
    Please Can you talk about how to keep a long distance relationship? I really want to learn more 🙂

  • @delphinenyirahabimanam.d.8510
    @delphinenyirahabimanam.d.8510 2 года назад +3

    Fumi ladies, the makeup of today is more than fire! It is inspiring me to wear something beautiful on my face! The best I have ever seen Fumi wearing!❤

  • @jala22
    @jala22 4 месяца назад

    Wait! Where is the etiquette video she mentioned? That would be such a good video/series idea! Also, the tip about eating before a date/conference/work dinner was so good I'm definitely adding that to my tool belt. Thank you aunty!

  • @moe_ramz
    @moe_ramz 2 года назад +4

    Number two almost sounds like a metaphor 😅

  • @barbaralagazzele1930
    @barbaralagazzele1930 Год назад

    Lol I love this lady ,, she teaching foreigners manners to American women.. you are awesome!!

  • @mariamogale132
    @mariamogale132 2 года назад +4

    Uncle Ula...... you are my hero, my relationship male model and wish God connects me with my one who is cut from the same cloth as you.
    I absolutely looooved your comment here. You killed it.
    🤣🤣🤣🤣
    Love you to bits. 😘

  • @tamarachilingaryan6689
    @tamarachilingaryan6689 2 года назад +10

    Love these rules. Please give those for single moms. It is ages I haven't dated any man as I was concerned more with protecting my daughter. But now she is telling me to go out for dates. But now I seem less experienced. ❤️

  • @laverncarryl2046
    @laverncarryl2046 5 месяцев назад

    I agree with eating before going to dinner. My father and late husband embraced #2.

  • @ellaben2497
    @ellaben2497 2 года назад +3

    These are definitely great tips that I've used and they work 100% BUT I have to add that I have male cousins and friends (buddies) that have told me that when women do stuff like these tips, they wait it out and once they've had the woman eventually, they dump her because they felt she was playing games. I think there are no real rules, it will work with some men and not with others... They're women who slept with men on the first date and got married, still married, while some others didn't.

  • @lesaadejola8136
    @lesaadejola8136 Год назад

    Why haven’t I heard of this woman before?!?!😩You are absolutely fabulous, witty, intelligent and classy! Bingeing on your videos now!!! Simple and wise instruction! God Bless!