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Trop contente de voir que la FumiNation a des citoyens en France aussi 😅🥰. @Fumi I didn’t regret that I click on that video suggested by youtube some days ago. You are wonderful and your advice are just 👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾. I live I love 🥰😆💝
What you said is 💯 percent right. I've been married for 35 years. I met my husband when I was 20 and he was 40. I wasn't serious but he was. He asked to meet my parents' right away. I met his with the quickness. He treated me like a queen then and he still does. We're been through thick, thin, and thinner. I have lots of health issues. He's right by my side. I'm right by his side with his health issues. We are going to renew our wedding vows next year. I can't wait to continue to be his bride for the rest of my life. My stepson is going to give me away and be best man. Yes, my husband was married and divorced before he met me. Not a deal breaker for me. His son is just as sweet as his father.
I’m 35 no bf never been maried and sick of people with weird and unstable relationship/marriage asking why I’m still single. Getting married is not the difficult part, staying is. I won’t rush into a bad marriage because of society and people. I know what I need and want and it takes time for some people to find it. In the meantime I’ve got a good job and travel the world everytime I can.Enjoy life and the right one will come along.🤩
I had sworn off dating. Then one day on a birthday vacation with my bestie I met a great guy. We are celebrating our anniversary tomorrow. Keep loving yourself and enjoying traveling, who knows, maybe your partner will find you on your travels. All the best of luck
Thank you Mrs. Facts!!! I’ve been married 37 years. Second marriage. I got it right this time. Been together over 41 years. Marriage is a serious thing, it is not a game.
You are SO Right!! I've been married for over 40 years and really saw myself 10 years ago thank God I married a Good man! It's not easy, but I love myself and my husband. My Husband never closed the kitchen cabinet so I just close it! pick your battles, I'm not losing my marriage over cabinets not being closed. js My husband loves my family deeply it's who he is.
God bless my husband. He taught me at the age of 19, what a relationship was. He was, and is the wind beneath my wings. I'm more educated than he is, yet he is comfortable in his skin, and we are going places by the mercies of God. Listen to what Aunty Fums says. I preach it to my young girlfriends. It's true.
Fumi, you are absolutely right on all points. That's how at 50 I'm about to get married for the first time. He's the right one, I waited...but can I say, it's the model walk-away at the end for meeeeeee👸...so elegant and sexy at the same time 'I live and I Love, Dahling'!!❤
One of your best episodes Fumi....you need to write a life encyclopedia full of advice on everything, relationships, style, make up etc etc. You are so precious to all of us.
Yess Queen, i got married at 21 divorce at 24. Have not gotten married since. Had a few engagements, but i called it off because if the red flags I didn't ask the right question but I've learned . Haven't found that person yet and i am 60...i am embracing my single life and loving it since then. If i never find him so be it. .i will not settle
I’m getting married in two weeks and I’m glad I started following your advice since I started dating my soon to be husband. I’ve made better choices thanks to you.
Mam I have watched this video more than 10 times and everything that you say is truth. Small things bring bigger, always trust your gut. I m 40 and single and I see so many red flags around me that I'm scared. I try to reach clarity. It is so difficult. I believe that only when you know what you want then you can find it or it will come to you. And if you love and accept yourself first and try to correct some of your flaws it will always something better will come. Today I bought a ring for me, I work very hard and I rarely take things for me like that. So I bought a ring in order to remember that I live and die as one single piece ,one package. I hope for the best. I trust my gut first. Thank you and thank you all ❤ ...
Hello Fumi You hit this out the park. Ask the difficult questions, I am 56 years young and everything you are saying is so correct. Thank you for this because I am single and I want to be married again, but it’s harder for a women of a certain age and it helps to hear this and remind myself the most importance of being able to love and live with another person, starts with loving myself first. Thank you❤
I was JUST having this conversation with a single friend of mine!! The wedding is but ONE day but your marriage vows are to be for a LIFETIME!! So many people I went to School with RUSHED into marriage, treating their Union like a pair of jeans to take off when they were uncomfortable or simply wanted to wear a new pair of pants. I am thankful, that despite the ROUGH terrain my husband and I have traveled in our soon to be 13 year Union on August 20th, we are still together. It has been WORK!!! We still wake up everyday determined to still make our marriage work AND be healthy not only for us but so our kids have a healthy example. We are 36 & 37 and I’m PRAYING to have a LIFETIME with one another!
Excellent Fumi. Real facts. My first marriage was all about the expensive wedding. I was more excited for the party & events then the man. Divorced in 7 years. My 2nd marriage I could care less about the wedding. We eloped, but I asked all the right questions and I was so excited about my marriage and my family. I did it right.
That statement you made about there are good looking brothers out there that is only good looking to look at,they have NO SUBSTANCE at ALL...agree 1,000000% and more.
I feel like my husband is coming and this video came right on time to get my head on straight and put my big girl panties on! I need to be fierce, fearless, and uncompromising with what I want and don't want. Thank you so much Fumi!
The best way to get married is to first learn how to be single. It is only when you learn how to be single, that is, know yourself, what you want, etc. that you will know what you're about so that you'll be able to identify the traits you want in a life partner that match yours. Dr Myles Munroe had a wonderful talk about it years ago called "How to be single" which should be available on RUclips.
Potential and ambition is a great foundation to build on. Looking at 17 years in November, better a man that would give you his last dollar than a man that will not share a $100.
A red flag 🚩is a red flag 🚩 PERIOD!!! True African Queen! Fumi thank you so much for your UNDILUTED words of wisdom this is so TIMELY and I am pleased to know we have SIMILAR wavelengths of reasoning and you are ABSOLUTELY ✅ RIGHT OLD TRADITION all the way!!! 🌍🌍👊😊💝
Thank you, Fumi, as always for this timely advice. As a 35 year old single mum of 3, I relate to a lot of things you've said. I should have made better choices in the men i dated. I'm putting myself first now and loving who I am. I am dating myself and loving the journey. It's never too late to reinvent yourself.❤
Dear Sis Fumi I have been a silent viewer of your vlogs since the start of this year. I listen to you every day and this vlog was one of the most impactful to me because I am desirous to get married. Everything you said resonated with me as a single 37 year old professional who is not perfect but I have done right and was 💯 in my past relationships. I wish I knew the things you shared years ago as I believe I wouldn’t have wasted years of my life with the wrong men. I am trusting God that the right person is out there and will find me. Continue shining your light to all of us women. Love and blessings to you and your family❤
A WORD. Auntie Fumi, this video is sooo important. I started watching your vids i was in my 20s, now that in my 30s i must say you give theee best advices! I watched your audience grow and it's sooo refreshing to see youtubers like you. Never change Fumi! You deserve all the success!❤❤❤
The sad reality nowadays is that most women want to be brides and not necessarily wives.😢😢... It's always the wedding they look forward to and not fulfilling their vows as wives. Being married is a life long commitment and it's no joke...so many compromises, so much settling, and dealing with things that will drive you crazy 🤦🤦🤦. Oh well... 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
@17:28 RHAPS!!!!! Ole was a whole Rhapsody!! Music to a woman's ears...let's hold the line, single ladies, and wait for that One who wants the TOTAL package, not just the packaging. Fums you are an inspiration. Keep giving us LIFE in these streets!
This is beautiful. What a well thought-out answer. Your viewers who have these questions are lucky to have you. And those of us who’ve got our own “Olas”, we’re grateful for you showing the way to our fellow women friends.
Hmm! I didn't want this episode to finish, you are so unpoint and i hope d single ones take them as gem and act on it. I'm almost 11yrs in marriage and those things u said was my guide and my values helps me a lot, we didn't have sex till our marriage night too.
Yes Fumi! You hit this one out of the park! I ask a lot of questions and guess what? I dodged a lot of bullets and possibly failed marriages! Thank you for confirming that I'm on the right track!
The best advice I've ever heard was, would you date or marry yourself? Work on yourself first before you start looking for a husband. That's just my two cents.
Auntie Fumi can you please talk about navigating relationships with in laws that may not like you on either side? I was nearly engaged until my ex’s parents voiced their disproval of me (interracial relationship too) 😭
I'm so sorry my love, but you dodged the bullet. He should have stood up to them, it's his life, his happiness, not theirs. The late Kobe Bryant had the same issue with his parents and the refused to come to his wedding. He didn't care and had 4 beautiful children before he past away to the deepest regret of his parents. Do u see what I mean? I'm disappointed in your boyfriend, not them. So i absolutely think you dodged the bullet. Count yourself LUCKY! 🍀 😊
Fumi beautiful said. I agree with you 100 percent. I got married I was in my early thirties this September it will be 37 years with my husband. It's hard work but you have to work through it. But before that you have to learn to love yourself. Sometimes when you're working hard and it's even best when you live on your own and your own place by yourself... If you cannot live on your own by yourself or love yourself first.... How would you expect to with your significant other. Fumi I love your channel all my heart.... From the first video I watch The view it was just something about your spirit you do not beat around the bush and you always be straight-up honest from your heart..... I truly appreciate that love you may God continue to bless you your beautiful family and your friends and always looking forward to seeing your next videos you have an amazing beautiful blessed evening or night 🙏❤️😊.
You are absolutely correct sis, thank you for your wisdom👍 Some women tend to look for "projects" (aka, Men to work on & improve☹️)!! We really should seek and attract potential partners who are willing to put in the work and love on us, with shared values. May God continue to bless your lovely family, and FUMInation 🙏😍
Good evening auntie Fumi, uncle Ole, Adrian and my S2S sisters. Awwwwwwww auntie there isn’t anything to add you said it all. Sometimes I wonder why some of our sisters hold on to troubled relationships. I always say if he shows you his true self that is full of red flags before he marries you why stay. If it’s your daughter or son would you encourage them to stay in broken relationships that makes them unhappy; NO. Then don’t accept garbage for yourself sisters or brothers. Good relationship is hard work but it pays to be HONEST with yourself. If he cannot respect his mum or his family HE CANNOT RESPECT YOU. RUN FAST. All of my love family. Thank you again auntie Fumi shalom. 🌹🌹🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🌹🌹
Mother Fumi. This video touched me where all other videos of yours that I've watched so far haven't. I only have this to say. "I wish we could scan and put a man through a lying detector machine before starting the dating process. "😢 Good luck to all the ladies out there on your dating and wanting to get married journey. 🙏
Aunty Fumms, you always hit the to the head it's like you know the situation that am faced with as a single mom, it's because I didn't ask the questions and I made excuses and now it has come back to bite me, but am grateful for you to keep me in check , I take your advises very seriously
Excellent content and 💯facts. Work on and know yourself. Recognize the red flags like extreme laziness outside of work and excessive TV watching, etc. that might be bothersome at first. It doesn’t go away it only gets worse. You have to decide what you’re gonna be content with and what will work in a relationship and what won’t. Those examples might seem minor but if they are a red flag for you, you should move on and keep looking. There’s such a thing as someone being overall a good person but NOT the Right person for you!!!
That excessive seeking of entertainment in TV watch, social media....it's so important to be honest about that. And honestly we have to check ourselves in this first.
YES! THAT PART! I agree w/ everything u said. If he ain't right, he's not right 4 me! I'm focused on me & my daughter. If God doesn't send my husband, the 🌍 won't stop spinning. But, trust & believe, if He does, he'll have all those qualities & I won't settle 4 less! THIS WAS A WORD!!!
Fumi you have given some sound advice 😌 Too often we don’t ask the question because we are afraid what the answer will be, if it means illuminating a potential partner 🤔 But you are so very right…we need to ask the difficult questions and find out sooner rather than later Then if it’s not a fit we can move on instead of wasting previous time… NEXT!!! 😍
Some people want a pretty party pretty wedding day sometimes they forget marriage is forever find the right characters and Personalities Not just for quick wedding.
Very timley video. I had the same conversation with my partner just this week where we asked each other those difficult questions. I think it's brought us even closer ahead of taking our relationship further.
Amen Fumi, be honest! I'm over here cracking up! You are so honest and what you are saying is so true. Yes you could marry, but he may not be right for you. Yes peep him out! I used to tell people marriage was work and they looked at me like I was crazy! Oh yes some man can not handle a women who makes more than him. Love you Sista tell it like it is!
I love you beautiful Sister! You are just so real ❤ God bless you and keep doing what you do. Truth - I got married again and this time I went back to the right way too. Put sex on the back burner. It works. It will show you who that man really is. I learned lessons from my failed relationships and a failed marriage. If you want something different, you have to be willing to do something different. Amen Fumi - on point.
Just starting the video. Love you Fumi. I always come here to cool off. Your words are like balm to the heart and your Joy is contagious. Love you aunty, from Cameroon😘
As always whenever Fumi speaks on relationship topics I can’t help but to clap, cheer, like, and comment. My husband and I started our relationship long distance so it made us truly TALK and TALK about all the things under the sun. We have asked each other so many questions that has truly made us get to know each other. Those questions is truly KEY. Women taking accountability is also KEY. My husband’s character is what does it for me. The fact that he’s caring , he puts in the EFFORT. On our first meeting he stopped on the side walk to tie my shoe laces, when we crossed the street he holds my hand and make sure I was lead out of traffic, he always put my needs first without me asking or even expecting it. I clutched my pearls because I’ve never experienced it. 😂 He pursued me and still is. Good men are out there, we got to do the self work and scout properly.
Sister Funmi!, thank you for grabbing a chair to really re-sound these wisdom! I appreciate you for sharing your experiences, life decisions you've made and learned from, pain, pleasure and growth. You are love embodied, and in the ways you uplift the essence of other humans, I'm grateful for you ❤. Bunmi.
Thank you Auntie Fumi for your wisdom and amazing advices. Thank you for being an amazing aunt to me😊 without knowing. Thank you for always reminding me to be true to myself. Thank you for all you do. I am happy and grateful to be a part of this beautiful fumination. May God continue to strengthen you , preserve you and your family 👪. Much ❤️ . You are fabulous. I am 27 years old and I have learnt a lot from you.
This is an on time video.. I’ve been going back and forth with decisions about my current plans and relationship. This has brought me clarity.. Thank you my dear sister.. God BLESS YOU FUMI!!! ❤❤❤❤❤
Fumi this is amazing, candid, thoughtful, scriptural, eye-opening..... I could go on and on! Thanks love for the sincerity in you not minding whether you'll be judged or not. Marriage was made by God to one of the most beautiful relationships that could possibly be enjoyed by a man and woman. Unfortunately it is a heartache for some. We need to consult the originator of marriage Jehovah to have the best possible results. Thanks for reflecting God's thoughts of abstinence and only having sex after marriage. It's a game changer! Really enjoy your videos. Wishing you all the best in marriage to your wonderful Ole!
Aunty Fumi, thithis may be an older video, but I needed it in this moment as these are the questions I need to be asking and thinking about. I'm 33 and I'm turning 34 son my the grace of God. And yes I do want to be married and I think you for your advice and love!!!! Love always from Jamaica🇯🇲💜🌹💛💕
Sista Fumi, as usual you are correct. These men have to be interviewed and they can do the same with us. I prayed for the kind of man I wanted in my life and I got him. He is such a good father. My daughters are 28 and 24 and he is still very supportive of them. He is a good provider and he has always been my biggest support system.I preach to my two daughters all the time that if you are with someone that makes you cry, has little time to spend and argues, you need to let him go. I have shared this video with them. Thank you as alway, your sis from NY❤️
Thank you for your advice and suggestions, I appreciate you. Love you like the aunt I never had but desperately needed. Blessings to you. I will work on myself and do better , this second time around in my life. 🙏🏾😘
You look so pretty Aunty. Always so gorgeous and regal. And excellent ❤ to ❤ conversation. Listen Ladies. Husbandry is differnt from boyfriends. And that is okay! But when you want a husband, get serious.
Thank you so much Aunty Funmi I know this video is old but your advise is timeless. I am at a point where I need to make a difficult decision so I came back to your videos for guidance.
Hey! I was renounced by my siblings bcoz of my introverted personality. One of my siblings' girlfriend is trying to get my approval of her by all means. I think she did not ask all the questions🤔.
HELLO SIS FUMI
WE,FRENCH WE ARE JEALOUS😂😂😂
SO JEALOUS WE WANT YOU IN FRENCH
WE USE GOOGLE TO TRANSLATE😂😂😂
BUT WE FOLLOW YOU 100/100
WE LOVE YOU HONEY ❤❤❤
Je suis tellement désolée mes belles soeurs françaises. Je t'aime tellement et je veux te rencontrer tous un jour. Je vais voir mon manager et voir si je peux faire traduire mes épisodes en français pour vous.
Merci pour tout l'amour et le soutien. 💖💓 💞💞💗💞💞💝💞💗👋🏽💛😃
@@FumiDesaluVold
OOIH QUE OUI MA FUMI
MERCI MERCI MERCI ENCORE POUR TES PRÉCIEUX CONSEILS
JE PLEURE PARCE QUE TU M’AS RÉPONDUE
JE SUIS BÉNIE REALY BLESSED
DIEU TE BÉNISSE
WE SHARED ALL YOUR VIDEOS ANR TRY TO TRANSLATE FOR OUR SISTERS AND BROTHERS IN FRENCH
MY FUMI YOU ARE A DONATION FOR GOD TO OUR GENERATION
WE ARE REALLY BLESSED WE GIVE LORD ALL THE MERCIES TO PUT YOU IN OUR MODESTY LIFE SO THAT WE CAN MOVE UP TOGETHER
THANK YOU SO MUCH OUR DEAR FUMI
WE LOVE YOU BLESSED WOMAN ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Elle est vraiment une bénédiction pour nous tous.
Trop contente de voir que la FumiNation a des citoyens en France aussi 😅🥰. @Fumi I didn’t regret that I click on that video suggested by youtube some days ago. You are wonderful and your advice are just 👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾. I live I love 🥰😆💝
What you said is 💯 percent right. I've been married for 35 years. I met my husband when I was 20 and he was 40. I wasn't serious but he was. He asked to meet my parents' right away. I met his with the quickness. He treated me like a queen then and he still does. We're been through thick, thin, and thinner. I have lots of health issues. He's right by my side. I'm right by his side with his health issues. We are going to renew our wedding vows next year. I can't wait to continue to be his bride for the rest of my life. My stepson is going to give me away and be best man. Yes, my husband was married and divorced before he met me. Not a deal breaker for me. His son is just as sweet as his father.
🥺💓 This is so beautiful!!
I love it 🥰
Yes beautiful story! Congratulations again!
Beautiful! ❤️❤️
You’re so beautiful!!
"you go to a club, you'll get a Darnell. You go to a dinner, you'll get a Dr. Darnell" I love that!
I’m 35 no bf never been maried and sick of people with weird and unstable relationship/marriage asking why I’m still single. Getting married is not the difficult part, staying is. I won’t rush into a bad marriage because of society and people. I know what I need and want and it takes time for some people to find it. In the meantime I’ve got a good job and travel the world everytime I can.Enjoy life and the right one will come along.🤩
Exactly! I was engaged twice n cut both off. Marrying is not hard. It is staying married that is d difficult part
I had sworn off dating. Then one day on a birthday vacation with my bestie I met a great guy. We are celebrating our anniversary tomorrow.
Keep loving yourself and enjoying traveling, who knows, maybe your partner will find you on your travels. All the best of luck
Thank you Mrs. Facts!!! I’ve been married 37 years. Second marriage. I got it right this time. Been together over 41 years. Marriage is a serious thing, it is not a game.
Getting married is awesome but staying married is a blessing especially in this day and age!
You are SO Right!! I've been married for over 40 years and really saw myself 10 years ago thank God I married a Good man! It's not easy, but I love myself and my husband. My Husband never closed the kitchen cabinet so I just close it! pick your battles, I'm not losing my marriage over cabinets not being closed. js My husband loves my family deeply it's who he is.
Love yourself first. Don’t settle for anything. Sustainability and communication is key. I just buried my husband of 35 years in May.
So sorry for your lose. Happy you had your special man to love til his passing. Celebrate your memories and live.😊
My condolences
Blessings and so sorry for you loss
My deepest condolences to you and your family I’m glad you found your forever ❤
So sorry
Please take heart and know he is with you always
God bless my husband. He taught me at the age of 19, what a relationship was. He was, and is the wind beneath my wings. I'm more educated than he is, yet he is comfortable in his skin, and we are going places by the mercies of God. Listen to what Aunty Fums says. I preach it to my young girlfriends. It's true.
Fumi, you are absolutely right on all points. That's how at 50 I'm about to get married for the first time. He's the right one, I waited...but can I say, it's the model walk-away at the end for meeeeeee👸...so elegant and sexy at the same time 'I live and I Love, Dahling'!!❤
One of your best episodes Fumi....you need to write a life encyclopedia full of advice on everything, relationships, style, make up etc etc.
You are so precious to all of us.
Yess Queen, i got married at 21 divorce at 24. Have not gotten married since. Had a few engagements, but i called it off because if the red flags I didn't ask the right question but I've learned . Haven't found that person yet and i am 60...i am embracing my single life and loving it since then. If i never find him so be it. .i will not settle
I’m getting married in two weeks and I’m glad I started following your advice since I started dating my soon to be husband. I’ve made better choices thanks to you.
Congratulations!
Early congratulations! 💗
Congratulations. Many blessings 🙏🏽
Congratulations 🎉
Congratulations 🎉
Mam I have watched this video more than 10 times and everything that you say is truth. Small things bring bigger, always trust your gut. I m 40 and single and I see so many red flags around me that I'm scared. I try to reach clarity. It is so difficult. I believe that only when you know what you want then you can find it or it will come to you. And if you love and accept yourself first and try to correct some of your flaws it will always something better will come. Today I bought a ring for me, I work very hard and I rarely take things for me like that. So I bought a ring in order to remember that I live and die as one single piece ,one package. I hope for the best. I trust my gut first. Thank you and thank you all ❤ ...
Hello Fumi
You hit this out the park. Ask the difficult questions, I am 56 years young and everything you are saying is so correct.
Thank you for this because I am single and I want to be married again, but it’s harder for a women of a certain age and it helps to hear this and remind myself the most importance of being able to love and live with another person, starts with loving myself first.
Thank you❤
I was JUST having this conversation with a single friend of mine!! The wedding is but ONE day but your marriage vows are to be for a LIFETIME!! So many people I went to School with RUSHED into marriage, treating their Union like a pair of jeans to take off when they were uncomfortable or simply wanted to wear a new pair of pants. I am thankful, that despite the ROUGH terrain my husband and I have traveled in our soon to be 13 year Union on August 20th, we are still together. It has been WORK!!! We still wake up everyday determined to still make our marriage work AND be healthy not only for us but so our kids have a healthy example. We are 36 & 37 and I’m PRAYING to have a LIFETIME with one another!
Excellent Fumi. Real facts. My first marriage was all about the expensive wedding. I was more excited for the party & events then the man. Divorced in 7 years.
My 2nd marriage I could care less about the wedding. We eloped, but I asked all the right questions and I was so excited about my marriage and my family. I did it right.
That statement you made about there are good looking brothers out there that is only good looking to look at,they have NO SUBSTANCE at ALL...agree 1,000000% and more.
I had to learn not to get caught up in a man's looks. Best thing I ever did!!
I feel like my husband is coming and this video came right on time to get my head on straight and put my big girl panties on! I need to be fierce, fearless, and uncompromising with what I want and don't want. Thank you so much Fumi!
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The best way to get married is to first learn how to be single. It is only when you learn how to be single, that is, know yourself, what you want, etc. that you will know what you're about so that you'll be able to identify the traits you want in a life partner that match yours. Dr Myles Munroe had a wonderful talk about it years ago called "How to be single" which should be available on RUclips.
Potential and ambition is a great foundation to build on. Looking at 17 years in November, better a man that would give you his last dollar than a man that will not share a $100.
Fumi lifts everyone spirit with her personality. I look forward to your videos every day.
A red flag 🚩is a red flag 🚩 PERIOD!!!
True African Queen! Fumi thank you so much for your UNDILUTED words of wisdom this is so TIMELY and I am pleased to know we have SIMILAR wavelengths of reasoning and you are ABSOLUTELY ✅ RIGHT OLD TRADITION all the way!!! 🌍🌍👊😊💝
Thank you, Fumi, as always for this timely advice. As a 35 year old single mum of 3, I relate to a lot of things you've said. I should have made better choices in the men i dated. I'm putting myself first now and loving who I am. I am dating myself and loving the journey. It's never too late to reinvent yourself.❤
Dear Sis Fumi I have been a silent viewer of your vlogs since the start of this year. I listen to you every day and this vlog was one of the most impactful to me because I am desirous to get married. Everything you said resonated with me as a single 37 year old professional who is not perfect but I have done right and was 💯 in my past relationships. I wish I knew the things you shared years ago as I believe I wouldn’t have wasted years of my life with the wrong men. I am trusting God that the right person is out there and will find me. Continue shining your light to all of us women. Love and blessings to you and your family❤
I’m 23yrs old and a Ugandan. I’ve been in fumi nation for six months now… I really enjoy your videos Fumi❤️❤️❤️❤️
We are here to learn my dear
Am also in Uganda.fumination to the world
U will come out small small 😍
Me too Fumi to the world for ladies
A WORD. Auntie Fumi, this video is sooo important. I started watching your vids i was in my 20s, now that in my 30s i must say you give theee best advices! I watched your audience grow and it's sooo refreshing to see youtubers like you. Never change Fumi! You deserve all the success!❤❤❤
Well well Mrs FUMI. Great talk. Imagine the young ladies staring at you wide awake. I’m 50+.
These gems are priceless.
The sad reality nowadays is that most women want to be brides and not necessarily wives.😢😢... It's always the wedding they look forward to and not fulfilling their vows as wives. Being married is a life long commitment and it's no joke...so many compromises, so much settling, and dealing with things that will drive you crazy 🤦🤦🤦.
Oh well... 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
You can’t believe l have a big sister but l come to Fumi for her advice as a distant big sister that is respected and cherished ❤
@17:28 RHAPS!!!!! Ole was a whole Rhapsody!! Music to a woman's ears...let's hold the line, single ladies, and wait for that One who wants the TOTAL package, not just the packaging. Fums you are an inspiration. Keep giving us LIFE in these streets!
This is beautiful. What a well thought-out answer. Your viewers who have these questions are lucky to have you. And those of us who’ve got our own “Olas”, we’re grateful for you showing the way to our fellow women friends.
You're so right Fumi, the truth is we women have a 'shelf life' and so we cannot afford to have our time wasted.
Hmm! I didn't want this episode to finish, you are so unpoint and i hope d single ones take them as gem and act on it. I'm almost 11yrs in marriage and those things u said was my guide and my values helps me a lot, we didn't have sex till our marriage night too.
Yes Fumi! You hit this one out of the park! I ask a lot of questions and guess what? I dodged a lot of bullets and possibly failed marriages! Thank you for confirming that I'm on the right track!
This video is a pure gem. Thank you auntie Fumi. Its so true!
The best advice I've ever heard was, would you date or marry yourself? Work on yourself first before you start looking for a husband. That's just my two cents.
Auntie Fumi can you please talk about navigating relationships with in laws that may not like you on either side? I was nearly engaged until my ex’s parents voiced their disproval of me (interracial relationship too) 😭
I'm so sorry my love, but you dodged the bullet. He should have stood up to them, it's his life, his happiness, not theirs. The late Kobe Bryant had the same issue with his parents and the refused to come to his wedding. He didn't care and had 4 beautiful children before he past away to the deepest regret of his parents. Do u see what I mean? I'm disappointed in your boyfriend, not them. So i absolutely think you dodged the bullet. Count yourself LUCKY! 🍀 😊
Fumi beautiful said. I agree with you 100 percent. I got married I was in my early thirties this September it will be 37 years with my husband. It's hard work but you have to work through it. But before that you have to learn to love yourself. Sometimes when you're working hard and it's even best when you live on your own and your own place by yourself... If you cannot live on your own by yourself or love yourself first.... How would you expect to with your significant other. Fumi I love your channel all my heart.... From the first video I watch The view it was just something about your spirit you do not beat around the bush and you always be straight-up honest from your heart..... I truly appreciate that love you may God continue to bless you your beautiful family and your friends and always looking forward to seeing your next videos you have an amazing beautiful blessed evening or night 🙏❤️😊.
You are absolutely correct sis, thank you for your wisdom👍 Some women tend to look for "projects" (aka, Men to work on & improve☹️)!! We really should seek and attract potential partners who are willing to put in the work and love on us, with shared values. May God continue to bless your lovely family, and FUMInation
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Good evening auntie Fumi, uncle Ole, Adrian and my S2S sisters. Awwwwwwww auntie there isn’t anything to add you said it all. Sometimes I wonder why some of our sisters hold on to troubled relationships. I always say if he shows you his true self that is full of red flags before he marries you why stay. If it’s your daughter or son would you encourage them to stay in broken relationships that makes them unhappy; NO. Then don’t accept garbage for yourself sisters or brothers. Good relationship is hard work but it pays to be HONEST with yourself. If he cannot respect his mum or his family HE CANNOT RESPECT YOU. RUN FAST. All of my love family. Thank you again auntie Fumi shalom. 🌹🌹🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🌹🌹
Mother Fumi. This video touched me where all other videos of yours that I've watched so far haven't.
I only have this to say.
"I wish we could scan and put a man through a lying detector machine before starting the dating process. "😢
Good luck to all the ladies out there on your dating and wanting to get married journey. 🙏
Aunty Fumms, you always hit the to the head it's like you know the situation that am faced with as a single mom, it's because I didn't ask the questions and I made excuses and now it has come back to bite me, but am grateful for you to keep me in check , I take your advises very seriously
You have a beautiful name Sisi. Sending you love from Durban
Thank you so much mommy Fumi 😢
You’ve saved a daughter, much love from Nigeria ❤
Excellent content and 💯facts. Work on and know yourself. Recognize the red flags like extreme laziness outside of work and excessive TV watching, etc. that might be bothersome at first. It doesn’t go away it only gets worse. You have to decide what you’re gonna be content with and what will work in a relationship and what won’t. Those examples might seem minor but if they are a red flag for you, you should move on and keep looking. There’s such a thing as someone being overall a good person but NOT the Right person for you!!!
That excessive seeking of entertainment in TV watch, social media....it's so important to be honest about that. And honestly we have to check ourselves in this first.
I wish I had known sooner to look through this perspective. we are not a match, at all. But, we're trying to make it work, the hard way.
YES! THAT PART! I agree w/ everything u said. If he ain't right, he's not right 4 me! I'm focused on me & my daughter. If God doesn't send my husband, the 🌍 won't stop spinning. But, trust & believe, if He does, he'll have all those qualities & I won't settle 4 less! THIS WAS A WORD!!!
I enjoy listening to how you speak to and about your husband.
Wow you look amazing, and your arms are all toned up ❤. Thank you for this video, needed to hear this before I get married.
Yes sister! Calling it like it is. Love & prayers for the beautiful trio. 😊🌸💖🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
A true African 😂
Answer to everything: "Wait, I'm eating!" 😂
Fumi you have given some sound advice 😌
Too often we don’t ask the question because we are afraid what the answer will be, if it means illuminating a potential partner 🤔
But you are so very right…we need to ask the difficult questions and find out sooner rather than later
Then if it’s not a fit we can move on instead of wasting previous time…
NEXT!!! 😍
Some people want a pretty party pretty wedding day sometimes they forget marriage is forever find the right characters and Personalities Not just for quick wedding.
Love that red blouse on you! Gorgeous…
Very timley video. I had the same conversation with my partner just this week where we asked each other those difficult questions. I think it's brought us even closer ahead of taking our relationship further.
Amen Fumi, be honest! I'm over here cracking up! You are so honest and what you are saying is so true. Yes you could marry, but he may not be right for you. Yes peep him out! I used to tell people marriage was work and they looked at me like I was crazy! Oh yes some man can not handle a women who makes more than him. Love you Sista tell it like it is!
I love you beautiful Sister! You are just so real ❤ God bless you and keep doing what you do.
Truth - I got married again and this time I went back to the right way too. Put sex on the back burner. It works. It will show you who that man really is. I learned lessons from my failed relationships and a failed marriage. If you want something different, you have to be willing to do something different. Amen Fumi - on point.
Just starting the video. Love you Fumi. I always come here to cool off. Your words are like balm to the heart and your Joy is contagious. Love you aunty, from Cameroon😘
As always whenever Fumi speaks on relationship topics I can’t help but to clap, cheer, like, and comment.
My husband and I started our relationship long distance so it made us truly TALK and TALK about all the things under the sun. We have asked each other so many questions that has truly made us get to know each other.
Those questions is truly KEY. Women taking accountability is also KEY.
My husband’s character is what does it for me. The fact that he’s caring , he puts in the EFFORT.
On our first meeting he stopped on the side walk to tie my shoe laces, when we crossed the street he holds my hand and make sure I was lead out of traffic, he always put my needs first without me asking or even expecting it.
I clutched my pearls because I’ve never experienced it. 😂 He pursued me and still is.
Good men are out there, we got to do the self work and scout properly.
Sister Funmi!, thank you for grabbing a chair to really re-sound these wisdom! I appreciate you for sharing your experiences, life decisions you've made and learned from, pain, pleasure and growth.
You are love embodied, and in the ways you uplift the essence of other humans, I'm grateful for you ❤.
Bunmi.
Thank you Auntie Fumi for your wisdom and amazing advices. Thank you for being an amazing aunt to me😊 without knowing. Thank you for always reminding me to be true to myself. Thank you for all you do. I am happy and grateful to be a part of this beautiful fumination.
May God continue to strengthen you , preserve you and your family 👪. Much ❤️ . You are fabulous. I am 27 years old and I have learnt a lot from you.
There are alot of good looking guys...only good for looking at...go for potential...love it!
Aunty Fumi put on a fabulous red dress for the love talk. Absolutely gorgeous. And the advice, always on point and on time. Que Dieu vous bénisse
Lord, help us ask the hard and uncomfortable questions!! 🙏🏽🙏🏽
Pastor Patty
This is an on time video.. I’ve been going back and forth with decisions about my current plans and relationship. This has brought me clarity.. Thank you my dear sister.. God BLESS YOU FUMI!!! ❤❤❤❤❤
Me too!!
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Ummmm, explain this dress!!! It is absolutely gorgeous!!!❤🔥❤️🔥❤️🔥💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾
YOU ARE SO GORGEOUS 😍😍😍
❤❤❤ Thanks for thé advice! Your wisdom is unmatched
❤❤❤❤ you my dear Fumi. Our daughters need to heal this!!! Girl you are so right ✅️ 👏. ❤❤
Aaaaah this is the Gospel Truth. I love it. Thank you for sharing
Hello Fumi, my name is Anu.
Please can you mentor me.
I am a lonely 50 year old woman.pls help me
Thanks Fumi just love you for being so real.
🎉🎉🎉take your fireworks flowers Aunty Funmi. You rock
Fumi this is amazing, candid, thoughtful, scriptural, eye-opening..... I could go on and on!
Thanks love for the sincerity in you not minding whether you'll be judged or not. Marriage was made by God to one of the most beautiful relationships that could possibly be enjoyed by a man and woman. Unfortunately it is a heartache for some.
We need to consult the originator of marriage Jehovah to have the best possible results. Thanks for reflecting God's thoughts of abstinence and only having sex after marriage. It's a game changer!
Really enjoy your videos. Wishing you all the best in marriage to your wonderful Ole!
If you go to the club, you’ll get a Darnel!😂😅🤣
Aunty Fumi, thithis may be an older video, but I needed it in this moment as these are the questions I need to be asking and thinking about. I'm 33 and I'm turning 34 son my the grace of God. And yes I do want to be married and I think you for your advice and love!!!!
Love always from Jamaica🇯🇲💜🌹💛💕
This episode hits home.......damn it Fumi, you are always right.
Speaking truth to the Fumi Nation. ❤
I wish I knew you or if you before I made so many mistakes. 3 kids later and it’s not looking good in this current market.
Absolutely I love you thanks so very kindly ❤God Blessed you 😍
I just love fummi , she is my teacher
Fumi, you are FDV Approved!!!!! Keep up the good work! ~Muzette
Sista Fumi, as usual you are correct. These men have to be interviewed and they can do the same with us. I prayed for the kind of man I wanted in my life and I got him. He is such a good father. My daughters are 28 and 24 and he is still very supportive of them. He is a good provider and he has always been my biggest support system.I preach to my two daughters all the time that if you are with someone that makes you cry, has little time to spend and argues, you need to let him go. I have shared this video with them. Thank you as alway, your sis from NY❤️
We need the support group platform
Fumes, you hit this one out of the Ballpark. You dropped some gems!! 💎💎💎💎💎💎💜💎💎💎💎
Thank you for your advice and suggestions, I appreciate you. Love you like the aunt I never had but desperately needed. Blessings to you. I will work on myself and do better , this second time around in my life. 🙏🏾😘
Wooooo🎉🎉🎉 I'm early today. Sending lots of love Sister Fumi 😘😘😘
Fumi .... This is a class!! I'm glad I am here!💯
hi Fumi Yes we have to love this little talk to the Fumi nation watching from Sint Maarten Dutch Island
You look so pretty Aunty. Always so gorgeous and regal. And excellent ❤ to ❤ conversation. Listen Ladies. Husbandry is differnt from boyfriends. And that is okay! But when you want a husband, get serious.
Hi Fumi. The red flag awareness will save lives. Is crucial.
🙌🏽And another one Sis!🙌🏽 Love your dress!🥰🤗💋💋💋
Thank you so much Aunty Funmi I know this video is old but your advise is timeless. I am at a point where I need to make a difficult decision so I came back to your videos for guidance.
Fumi you are a smart and wise women love listing to you on all of your topic what ever it is you got my attention you are so real stay bless.❤
Thank you for speaking to my heart.i need to love myself 1st before I can extend it to someone else.
Aunty fumi, how can u be honest with who you are when you don't know (discovered) who you are
Another banger thank Fumi, I have been waiting 4 years now , I refuse to to shack up , I really need to start going out now 😃
Fumi girl!!!! U serving wisdom up in here.....🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉 got me in here screaming
Hey! I was renounced by my siblings bcoz of my introverted personality. One of my siblings' girlfriend is trying to get my approval of her by all means. I think she did not ask all the questions🤔.