💍🎩GETTING MARRIED IS ONE THING, STAYING MARRIED IS SOMETHING ELSE! QUESTIONS YOU SHOULD’VE ASKED!

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  • @amyestherndiaye4436
    @amyestherndiaye4436 10 месяцев назад +95

    HELLO SIS FUMI
    WE,FRENCH WE ARE JEALOUS😂😂😂
    SO JEALOUS WE WANT YOU IN FRENCH
    WE USE GOOGLE TO TRANSLATE😂😂😂
    BUT WE FOLLOW YOU 100/100
    WE LOVE YOU HONEY ❤❤❤

    • @FumiDesaluVold
      @FumiDesaluVold  10 месяцев назад +49

      Je suis tellement désolée mes belles soeurs françaises. Je t'aime tellement et je veux te rencontrer tous un jour. Je vais voir mon manager et voir si je peux faire traduire mes épisodes en français pour vous.
      Merci pour tout l'amour et le soutien. 💖💓 💞💞💗💞💞💝💞💗👋🏽💛😃

    • @amyestherndiaye4436
      @amyestherndiaye4436 10 месяцев назад +18

      @@FumiDesaluVold
      OOIH QUE OUI MA FUMI
      MERCI MERCI MERCI ENCORE POUR TES PRÉCIEUX CONSEILS
      JE PLEURE PARCE QUE TU M’AS RÉPONDUE
      JE SUIS BÉNIE REALY BLESSED
      DIEU TE BÉNISSE
      WE SHARED ALL YOUR VIDEOS ANR TRY TO TRANSLATE FOR OUR SISTERS AND BROTHERS IN FRENCH
      MY FUMI YOU ARE A DONATION FOR GOD TO OUR GENERATION
      WE ARE REALLY BLESSED WE GIVE LORD ALL THE MERCIES TO PUT YOU IN OUR MODESTY LIFE SO THAT WE CAN MOVE UP TOGETHER
      THANK YOU SO MUCH OUR DEAR FUMI
      WE LOVE YOU BLESSED WOMAN ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

    • @DUCKYRICHY
      @DUCKYRICHY 10 месяцев назад +8

      Elle est vraiment une bénédiction pour nous tous.

    • @waawcoumba52
      @waawcoumba52 10 месяцев назад +3

      Trop contente de voir que la FumiNation a des citoyens en France aussi 😅🥰. @Fumi I didn’t regret that I click on that video suggested by youtube some days ago. You are wonderful and your advice are just 👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾. I live I love 🥰😆💝

  • @VIsidore
    @VIsidore 10 месяцев назад +232

    What you said is 💯 percent right. I've been married for 35 years. I met my husband when I was 20 and he was 40. I wasn't serious but he was. He asked to meet my parents' right away. I met his with the quickness. He treated me like a queen then and he still does. We're been through thick, thin, and thinner. I have lots of health issues. He's right by my side. I'm right by his side with his health issues. We are going to renew our wedding vows next year. I can't wait to continue to be his bride for the rest of my life. My stepson is going to give me away and be best man. Yes, my husband was married and divorced before he met me. Not a deal breaker for me. His son is just as sweet as his father.

  • @Eiramilah
    @Eiramilah 10 месяцев назад +28

    "you go to a club, you'll get a Darnell. You go to a dinner, you'll get a Dr. Darnell" I love that!

  • @valouchoo7815
    @valouchoo7815 10 месяцев назад +69

    I’m 35 no bf never been maried and sick of people with weird and unstable relationship/marriage asking why I’m still single. Getting married is not the difficult part, staying is. I won’t rush into a bad marriage because of society and people. I know what I need and want and it takes time for some people to find it. In the meantime I’ve got a good job and travel the world everytime I can.Enjoy life and the right one will come along.🤩

    • @aeiou0123
      @aeiou0123 10 месяцев назад +1

      Exactly! I was engaged twice n cut both off. Marrying is not hard. It is staying married that is d difficult part

    • @aqua8697
      @aqua8697 10 месяцев назад +3

      I had sworn off dating. Then one day on a birthday vacation with my bestie I met a great guy. We are celebrating our anniversary tomorrow.
      Keep loving yourself and enjoying traveling, who knows, maybe your partner will find you on your travels. All the best of luck

  • @victorioussisters3307
    @victorioussisters3307 10 месяцев назад +11

    Getting married is awesome but staying married is a blessing especially in this day and age!

  • @carolnewman8590
    @carolnewman8590 10 месяцев назад +66

    Thank you Mrs. Facts!!! I’ve been married 37 years. Second marriage. I got it right this time. Been together over 41 years. Marriage is a serious thing, it is not a game.

  • @dorothyupshaw684
    @dorothyupshaw684 10 месяцев назад +88

    Love yourself first. Don’t settle for anything. Sustainability and communication is key. I just buried my husband of 35 years in May.

    • @spirit5228
      @spirit5228 10 месяцев назад +5

      So sorry for your lose. Happy you had your special man to love til his passing. Celebrate your memories and live.😊

    • @river166
      @river166 10 месяцев назад +3

      My condolences

    • @latoya886
      @latoya886 10 месяцев назад +5

      Blessings and so sorry for you loss

    • @asaasura6901
      @asaasura6901 10 месяцев назад +1

      My deepest condolences to you and your family I’m glad you found your forever ❤

    • @josephineoikeh6341
      @josephineoikeh6341 10 месяцев назад +2

      So sorry
      Please take heart and know he is with you always

  • @Baraka_SYP
    @Baraka_SYP 10 месяцев назад +117

    I’m getting married in two weeks and I’m glad I started following your advice since I started dating my soon to be husband. I’ve made better choices thanks to you.

    • @nancykerrigan
      @nancykerrigan 10 месяцев назад +2

      Congratulations!

    • @t_harris2_489
      @t_harris2_489 10 месяцев назад

      Early congratulations! 💗

    • @yr5425
      @yr5425 10 месяцев назад

      Congratulations. Many blessings 🙏🏽

    • @nicolataylor536
      @nicolataylor536 10 месяцев назад

      Congratulations 🎉

    • @jackiea7965
      @jackiea7965 10 месяцев назад

      Congratulations 🎉

  • @DUCKYRICHY
    @DUCKYRICHY 10 месяцев назад +8

    God bless my husband. He taught me at the age of 19, what a relationship was. He was, and is the wind beneath my wings. I'm more educated than he is, yet he is comfortable in his skin, and we are going places by the mercies of God. Listen to what Aunty Fums says. I preach it to my young girlfriends. It's true.

  • @eleniprovia7667
    @eleniprovia7667 10 месяцев назад +66

    One of your best episodes Fumi....you need to write a life encyclopedia full of advice on everything, relationships, style, make up etc etc.
    You are so precious to all of us.

  • @kimbelt1369
    @kimbelt1369 10 месяцев назад +45

    You are SO Right!! I've been married for over 40 years and really saw myself 10 years ago thank God I married a Good man! It's not easy, but I love myself and my husband. My Husband never closed the kitchen cabinet so I just close it! pick your battles, I'm not losing my marriage over cabinets not being closed. js My husband loves my family deeply it's who he is.

  • @user-zn9jz3zg3f
    @user-zn9jz3zg3f 8 месяцев назад +5

    Mam I have watched this video more than 10 times and everything that you say is truth. Small things bring bigger, always trust your gut. I m 40 and single and I see so many red flags around me that I'm scared. I try to reach clarity. It is so difficult. I believe that only when you know what you want then you can find it or it will come to you. And if you love and accept yourself first and try to correct some of your flaws it will always something better will come. Today I bought a ring for me, I work very hard and I rarely take things for me like that. So I bought a ring in order to remember that I live and die as one single piece ,one package. I hope for the best. I trust my gut first. Thank you and thank you all ❤ ...

  • @Tomar1226
    @Tomar1226 10 месяцев назад +14

    Fumi, you are absolutely right on all points. That's how at 50 I'm about to get married for the first time. He's the right one, I waited...but can I say, it's the model walk-away at the end for meeeeeee👸...so elegant and sexy at the same time 'I live and I Love, Dahling'!!❤

  • @stephaniebrooks8044
    @stephaniebrooks8044 8 месяцев назад +2

    I had to learn not to get caught up in a man's looks. Best thing I ever did!!

  • @wannarobinson5033
    @wannarobinson5033 10 месяцев назад +68

    Hello Fumi
    You hit this out the park. Ask the difficult questions, I am 56 years young and everything you are saying is so correct.
    Thank you for this because I am single and I want to be married again, but it’s harder for a women of a certain age and it helps to hear this and remind myself the most importance of being able to love and live with another person, starts with loving myself first.
    Thank you❤

  • @gracejackson-seivwright3880
    @gracejackson-seivwright3880 10 месяцев назад +11

    That statement you made about there are good looking brothers out there that is only good looking to look at,they have NO SUBSTANCE at ALL...agree 1,000000% and more.

  • @juanitayoung7541
    @juanitayoung7541 10 месяцев назад +7

    I was JUST having this conversation with a single friend of mine!! The wedding is but ONE day but your marriage vows are to be for a LIFETIME!! So many people I went to School with RUSHED into marriage, treating their Union like a pair of jeans to take off when they were uncomfortable or simply wanted to wear a new pair of pants. I am thankful, that despite the ROUGH terrain my husband and I have traveled in our soon to be 13 year Union on August 20th, we are still together. It has been WORK!!! We still wake up everyday determined to still make our marriage work AND be healthy not only for us but so our kids have a healthy example. We are 36 & 37 and I’m PRAYING to have a LIFETIME with one another!

  • @danielledavis9876
    @danielledavis9876 9 месяцев назад +6

    Yess Queen, i got married at 21 divorce at 24. Have not gotten married since. Had a few engagements, but i called it off because if the red flags I didn't ask the right question but I've learned . Haven't found that person yet and i am 60...i am embracing my single life and loving it since then. If i never find him so be it. .i will not settle

  • @ddrix949
    @ddrix949 9 месяцев назад +4

    Excellent Fumi. Real facts. My first marriage was all about the expensive wedding. I was more excited for the party & events then the man. Divorced in 7 years.
    My 2nd marriage I could care less about the wedding. We eloped, but I asked all the right questions and I was so excited about my marriage and my family. I did it right.

  • @hrhsophiathefirst4060
    @hrhsophiathefirst4060 10 месяцев назад +5

    Potential and ambition is a great foundation to build on. Looking at 17 years in November, better a man that would give you his last dollar than a man that will not share a $100.

  • @yr5425
    @yr5425 10 месяцев назад +14

    Fumi lifts everyone spirit with her personality. I look forward to your videos every day.

  • @MJCreative-Bleu96
    @MJCreative-Bleu96 10 месяцев назад +8

    1. Could you do a very simple makeup routine using no more than 4 products: eyes, lips, foundation, bronzer. Very simple, very fresh, almost natural. 2. What's the difference between BB creams and CC creams? 3. What's best for a woman 50+? Are we supposed to always wear a powder or is a finishing mist or spray sufficient? 4. Do a list for best make-up for sensitive skin. 5. Perhaps drug store brands that are economical but still worth buying

  • @Carpathianpixie
    @Carpathianpixie 10 месяцев назад +23

    I feel like my husband is coming and this video came right on time to get my head on straight and put my big girl panties on! I need to be fierce, fearless, and uncompromising with what I want and don't want. Thank you so much Fumi!

  • @thequeenmidas
    @thequeenmidas 8 месяцев назад +2

    The best way to get married is to first learn how to be single. It is only when you learn how to be single, that is, know yourself, what you want, etc. that you will know what you're about so that you'll be able to identify the traits you want in a life partner that match yours. Dr Myles Munroe had a wonderful talk about it years ago called "How to be single" which should be available on RUclips.

  • @EstherAivinhenyi
    @EstherAivinhenyi 10 месяцев назад +23

    A red flag 🚩is a red flag 🚩 PERIOD!!!
    True African Queen! Fumi thank you so much for your UNDILUTED words of wisdom this is so TIMELY and I am pleased to know we have SIMILAR wavelengths of reasoning and you are ABSOLUTELY ✅ RIGHT OLD TRADITION all the way!!! 🌍🌍👊😊💝

  • @MrGansters2
    @MrGansters2 10 месяцев назад +7

    As always whenever Fumi speaks on relationship topics I can’t help but to clap, cheer, like, and comment.
    My husband and I started our relationship long distance so it made us truly TALK and TALK about all the things under the sun. We have asked each other so many questions that has truly made us get to know each other.
    Those questions is truly KEY. Women taking accountability is also KEY.
    My husband’s character is what does it for me. The fact that he’s caring , he puts in the EFFORT.
    On our first meeting he stopped on the side walk to tie my shoe laces, when we crossed the street he holds my hand and make sure I was lead out of traffic, he always put my needs first without me asking or even expecting it.
    I clutched my pearls because I’ve never experienced it. 😂 He pursued me and still is.
    Good men are out there, we got to do the self work and scout properly.

  • @snsn7251
    @snsn7251 10 месяцев назад +9

    Desire the right partner but also work on yourself and be the right person for someone else.

  • @KeziahMuthoni
    @KeziahMuthoni 10 месяцев назад +18

    Thank you, Fumi, as always for this timely advice. As a 35 year old single mum of 3, I relate to a lot of things you've said. I should have made better choices in the men i dated. I'm putting myself first now and loving who I am. I am dating myself and loving the journey. It's never too late to reinvent yourself.❤

  • @BirungiZura-kq2nm
    @BirungiZura-kq2nm 10 месяцев назад +19

    I’m 23yrs old and a Ugandan. I’ve been in fumi nation for six months now… I really enjoy your videos Fumi❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @skqq3250
    @skqq3250 10 месяцев назад +7

    Well well Mrs FUMI. Great talk. Imagine the young ladies staring at you wide awake. I’m 50+.
    These gems are priceless.

  • @michelleclarke5218
    @michelleclarke5218 10 месяцев назад +8

    Dear Sis Fumi I have been a silent viewer of your vlogs since the start of this year. I listen to you every day and this vlog was one of the most impactful to me because I am desirous to get married. Everything you said resonated with me as a single 37 year old professional who is not perfect but I have done right and was 💯 in my past relationships. I wish I knew the things you shared years ago as I believe I wouldn’t have wasted years of my life with the wrong men. I am trusting God that the right person is out there and will find me. Continue shining your light to all of us women. Love and blessings to you and your family❤

  • @QueenMufasa552
    @QueenMufasa552 10 месяцев назад +6

    The sad reality nowadays is that most women want to be brides and not necessarily wives.😢😢... It's always the wedding they look forward to and not fulfilling their vows as wives. Being married is a life long commitment and it's no joke...so many compromises, so much settling, and dealing with things that will drive you crazy 🤦🤦🤦.
    Oh well... 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

  • @nellykh1900
    @nellykh1900 10 месяцев назад +5

    You can’t believe l have a big sister but l come to Fumi for her advice as a distant big sister that is respected and cherished ❤

  • @snsn7251
    @snsn7251 10 месяцев назад +7

    People just need to stop playing gsmes. Show up as your true self. Its either they accept it or don't. In marriage you have to be willing to be adaptable and vulnerable.

  • @IbeLiveINyou
    @IbeLiveINyou 10 месяцев назад +4

    A WORD. Auntie Fumi, this video is sooo important. I started watching your vids i was in my 20s, now that in my 30s i must say you give theee best advices! I watched your audience grow and it's sooo refreshing to see youtubers like you. Never change Fumi! You deserve all the success!❤❤❤

  • @Jessicalovesmichael
    @Jessicalovesmichael 10 месяцев назад +23

    This is beautiful. What a well thought-out answer. Your viewers who have these questions are lucky to have you. And those of us who’ve got our own “Olas”, we’re grateful for you showing the way to our fellow women friends.

  • @taiwograce3547
    @taiwograce3547 10 месяцев назад +3

    Hmm! I didn't want this episode to finish, you are so unpoint and i hope d single ones take them as gem and act on it. I'm almost 11yrs in marriage and those things u said was my guide and my values helps me a lot, we didn't have sex till our marriage night too.

  • @dorothymatthews6690
    @dorothymatthews6690 10 месяцев назад +10

    Yes Fumi! You hit this one out of the park! I ask a lot of questions and guess what? I dodged a lot of bullets and possibly failed marriages! Thank you for confirming that I'm on the right track!

  • @elizabethb988
    @elizabethb988 10 месяцев назад +4

    You are absolutely correct sis, thank you for your wisdom👍 Some women tend to look for "projects" (aka, Men to work on & improve☹️)!! We really should seek and attract potential partners who are willing to put in the work and love on us, with shared values. May God continue to bless your lovely family, and FUMInation
    🙏😍

  • @darlenebond-ci6nq
    @darlenebond-ci6nq 10 месяцев назад +6

    Fumi beautiful said. I agree with you 100 percent. I got married I was in my early thirties this September it will be 37 years with my husband. It's hard work but you have to work through it. But before that you have to learn to love yourself. Sometimes when you're working hard and it's even best when you live on your own and your own place by yourself... If you cannot live on your own by yourself or love yourself first.... How would you expect to with your significant other. Fumi I love your channel all my heart.... From the first video I watch The view it was just something about your spirit you do not beat around the bush and you always be straight-up honest from your heart..... I truly appreciate that love you may God continue to bless you your beautiful family and your friends and always looking forward to seeing your next videos you have an amazing beautiful blessed evening or night 🙏❤️😊.

  • @flashyone
    @flashyone 10 месяцев назад +7

    Excellent content and 💯facts. Work on and know yourself. Recognize the red flags like extreme laziness outside of work and excessive TV watching, etc. that might be bothersome at first. It doesn’t go away it only gets worse. You have to decide what you’re gonna be content with and what will work in a relationship and what won’t. Those examples might seem minor but if they are a red flag for you, you should move on and keep looking. There’s such a thing as someone being overall a good person but NOT the Right person for you!!!

    • @AyaEgbuho
      @AyaEgbuho 10 месяцев назад

      That excessive seeking of entertainment in TV watch, social media....it's so important to be honest about that. And honestly we have to check ourselves in this first.

  • @donnambamy-conci6138
    @donnambamy-conci6138 10 месяцев назад +3

    Auntie Fumi can you please talk about navigating relationships with in laws that may not like you on either side? I was nearly engaged until my ex’s parents voiced their disproval of me (interracial relationship too) 😭

    • @FumiDesaluVold
      @FumiDesaluVold  10 месяцев назад +8

      I'm so sorry my love, but you dodged the bullet. He should have stood up to them, it's his life, his happiness, not theirs. The late Kobe Bryant had the same issue with his parents and the refused to come to his wedding. He didn't care and had 4 beautiful children before he past away to the deepest regret of his parents. Do u see what I mean? I'm disappointed in your boyfriend, not them. So i absolutely think you dodged the bullet. Count yourself LUCKY! 🍀 😊

  • @ronnieb9540
    @ronnieb9540 10 месяцев назад +20

    This video is a pure gem. Thank you auntie Fumi. Its so true!

  • @carlaclement4229
    @carlaclement4229 10 месяцев назад +4

    Good evening auntie Fumi, uncle Ole, Adrian and my S2S sisters. Awwwwwwww auntie there isn’t anything to add you said it all. Sometimes I wonder why some of our sisters hold on to troubled relationships. I always say if he shows you his true self that is full of red flags before he marries you why stay. If it’s your daughter or son would you encourage them to stay in broken relationships that makes them unhappy; NO. Then don’t accept garbage for yourself sisters or brothers. Good relationship is hard work but it pays to be HONEST with yourself. If he cannot respect his mum or his family HE CANNOT RESPECT YOU. RUN FAST. All of my love family. Thank you again auntie Fumi shalom. 🌹🌹🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🌹🌹

  • @SpiritLedLisa
    @SpiritLedLisa 10 месяцев назад +3

    You're so right Fumi, the truth is we women have a 'shelf life' and so we cannot afford to have our time wasted.

  • @AnnastaciaGlam
    @AnnastaciaGlam 10 месяцев назад +9

    Thank you so much mommy Fumi 😢
    You’ve saved a daughter, much love from Nigeria ❤

  • @SMKajee
    @SMKajee 2 месяца назад

    Mother Fumi. This video touched me where all other videos of yours that I've watched so far haven't.
    I only have this to say.
    "I wish we could scan and put a man through a lying detector machine before starting the dating process. "😢
    Good luck to all the ladies out there on your dating and wanting to get married journey. 🙏

  • @mnw1555
    @mnw1555 9 месяцев назад

    YES! THAT PART! I agree w/ everything u said. If he ain't right, he's not right 4 me! I'm focused on me & my daughter. If God doesn't send my husband, the 🌍 won't stop spinning. But, trust & believe, if He does, he'll have all those qualities & I won't settle 4 less! THIS WAS A WORD!!!

  • @Liu.g
    @Liu.g 10 месяцев назад +9

    I enjoy listening to how you speak to and about your husband.

  • @IdaAJ
    @IdaAJ 10 месяцев назад +1

    @17:28 RHAPS!!!!! Ole was a whole Rhapsody!! Music to a woman's ears...let's hold the line, single ladies, and wait for that One who wants the TOTAL package, not just the packaging. Fums you are an inspiration. Keep giving us LIFE in these streets!

  • @lisanelson7937
    @lisanelson7937 10 месяцев назад +3

    Thanks Fumi just love you for being so real.

  • @mudiwatm9131
    @mudiwatm9131 10 месяцев назад +1

    Gems, gems, gems!!! Thank you Sis Fumi!🙏🏽

  • @beverlycraigg9067
    @beverlycraigg9067 10 месяцев назад +7

    ❤❤❤❤ you my dear Fumi. Our daughters need to heal this!!! Girl you are so right ✅️ 👏. ❤❤

  • @AiriniMustapa
    @AiriniMustapa 10 месяцев назад +1

    I wish I had known sooner to look through this perspective. we are not a match, at all. But, we're trying to make it work, the hard way.

  • @laticiabrown
    @laticiabrown 10 месяцев назад +2

    Fumi girl!!!! U serving wisdom up in here.....🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉 got me in here screaming

  • @jnu-fw6ls
    @jnu-fw6ls 10 месяцев назад +8

    ❤❤❤ Thanks for thé advice! Your wisdom is unmatched

  • @ChisomAkahTV
    @ChisomAkahTV 10 месяцев назад +4

    🎉🎉🎉take your fireworks flowers Aunty Funmi. You rock

  • @PrincessSharifa434
    @PrincessSharifa434 10 месяцев назад +1

    Thank you, thank you, thank you for this video, Auntie Fumi. Very detailed and chock full of wisdom and tips. We love and appreciate you!

  • @dianamwila9589
    @dianamwila9589 10 месяцев назад

    Thank you for speaking to my heart.i need to love myself 1st before I can extend it to someone else.

  • @tianasauni4051
    @tianasauni4051 9 месяцев назад +1

    Yes sister! Calling it like it is. Love & prayers for the beautiful trio. 😊🌸💖🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

  • @kemiakerele885
    @kemiakerele885 10 месяцев назад +1

    I love your words of wisdom and your laughter ❤❤❤❤❤

  • @oneontumetse7900
    @oneontumetse7900 10 месяцев назад +1

    You look so great ! So bright and glowing

  • @mariascott3424
    @mariascott3424 10 месяцев назад +1

    Yes Fumi you should come up with your own makeup line

  • @lifewithjullie21
    @lifewithjullie21 10 месяцев назад +1

    Another banger thank Fumi, I have been waiting 4 years now , I refuse to to shack up , I really need to start going out now 😃

  • @clarambachu3152
    @clarambachu3152 10 месяцев назад

    You are a real gem,you enlighten me up by all your saying,I keep telling my children this same thing,each time I watch you I learn a new thing

  • @muzettejones3002
    @muzettejones3002 10 месяцев назад +1

    Fumi, you are FDV Approved!!!!! Keep up the good work! ~Muzette

  • @masemotha3373
    @masemotha3373 9 месяцев назад

    I love the look❤. And yes I am listening to the wisdom too.

  • @carol7roberts
    @carol7roberts 10 месяцев назад

    Fumes, you hit this one out of the Ballpark. You dropped some gems!! 💎💎💎💎💎💎💜💎💎💎💎

  • @marlajones2514
    @marlajones2514 10 месяцев назад +13

    I love you beautiful Sister! You are just so real ❤ God bless you and keep doing what you do.
    Truth - I got married again and this time I went back to the right way too. Put sex on the back burner. It works. It will show you who that man really is. I learned lessons from my failed relationships and a failed marriage. If you want something different, you have to be willing to do something different. Amen Fumi - on point.

  • @linedafelix2800
    @linedafelix2800 10 месяцев назад

    My dear, you are preaching 100% facts. I could not agree with you more.

  • @buciemaphosa3954
    @buciemaphosa3954 10 месяцев назад +2

    This one hits harder,thank you somuch Our Queen,much love❤❤❤❤

  • @ceciliaparker6291
    @ceciliaparker6291 10 месяцев назад +3

    🙌🏽And another one Sis!🙌🏽 Love your dress!🥰🤗💋💋💋

  • @jan854
    @jan854 10 месяцев назад +1

    Your laugh just puts a smile on my face ❤❤❤

  • @ladybeecreation3342
    @ladybeecreation3342 10 месяцев назад

    Hi Fumi and your family, you are so right we see things, red flags, that bothers us but we ignore them. I appreciate you.❤ Real talk for us women and men.

  • @cathyrobinson5959
    @cathyrobinson5959 10 месяцев назад +6

    Sista Fumi, as usual you are correct. These men have to be interviewed and they can do the same with us. I prayed for the kind of man I wanted in my life and I got him. He is such a good father. My daughters are 28 and 24 and he is still very supportive of them. He is a good provider and he has always been my biggest support system.I preach to my two daughters all the time that if you are with someone that makes you cry, has little time to spend and argues, you need to let him go. I have shared this video with them. Thank you as alway, your sis from NY❤️

  • @claudiangonguinya9335
    @claudiangonguinya9335 10 месяцев назад +8

    Just starting the video. Love you Fumi. I always come here to cool off. Your words are like balm to the heart and your Joy is contagious. Love you aunty, from Cameroon😘

  • @SignedbyOlivia
    @SignedbyOlivia 10 месяцев назад +1

    Thank you for your advice and suggestions, I appreciate you. Love you like the aunt I never had but desperately needed. Blessings to you. I will work on myself and do better , this second time around in my life. 🙏🏾😘

  • @MMSCOTT-mx8dm
    @MMSCOTT-mx8dm 10 месяцев назад +1

    Amen Fumi, be honest! I'm over here cracking up! You are so honest and what you are saying is so true. Yes you could marry, but he may not be right for you. Yes peep him out! I used to tell people marriage was work and they looked at me like I was crazy! Oh yes some man can not handle a women who makes more than him. Love you Sista tell it like it is!

  • @shernitathornton2721
    @shernitathornton2721 10 месяцев назад

    Absolutely Amazing!!! I just shared this video with five Women you are on 🔥 I live for it.

  • @SilviaSamaLambiv
    @SilviaSamaLambiv 10 месяцев назад +1

    Aaaaah this is the Gospel Truth. I love it. Thank you for sharing

  • @michelepryor2777
    @michelepryor2777 10 месяцев назад +2

    Fumi .... This is a class!! I'm glad I am here!💯

  • @bume.e7280
    @bume.e7280 10 месяцев назад +2

    Sister Funmi!, thank you for grabbing a chair to really re-sound these wisdom! I appreciate you for sharing your experiences, life decisions you've made and learned from, pain, pleasure and growth.
    You are love embodied, and in the ways you uplift the essence of other humans, I'm grateful for you ❤.
    Bunmi.

  • @TumikaPatrice
    @TumikaPatrice Месяц назад

    Speaking truth to the Fumi Nation. ❤

  • @reginatabb4068
    @reginatabb4068 10 месяцев назад +1

    Yaaasss Fumi you always give the best advice..I learned you have to spend time with yourself and know what you want in a partner and what you want in him you have to become yourself. Fumi you are on POINT❤

  • @sabrinabailey3103
    @sabrinabailey3103 10 месяцев назад +4

    Very timley video. I had the same conversation with my partner just this week where we asked each other those difficult questions. I think it's brought us even closer ahead of taking our relationship further.

  • @SirriFru
    @SirriFru 10 месяцев назад +3

    Thank you Auntie Fumi for your wisdom and amazing advices. Thank you for being an amazing aunt to me😊 without knowing. Thank you for always reminding me to be true to myself. Thank you for all you do. I am happy and grateful to be a part of this beautiful fumination.
    May God continue to strengthen you , preserve you and your family 👪. Much ❤️ . You are fabulous. I am 27 years old and I have learnt a lot from you.

  • @theladyandsonplus2
    @theladyandsonplus2 10 месяцев назад +1

    Best advice I've ever heard on dating. ❤

  • @emmanuellatieku2901
    @emmanuellatieku2901 8 месяцев назад +2

    Wow you look amazing, and your arms are all toned up ❤. Thank you for this video, needed to hear this before I get married.

  • @bomikazinomzanga6835
    @bomikazinomzanga6835 10 месяцев назад +8

    Aunty Fumms, you always hit the to the head it's like you know the situation that am faced with as a single mom, it's because I didn't ask the questions and I made excuses and now it has come back to bite me, but am grateful for you to keep me in check , I take your advises very seriously

    • @kudalavida3494
      @kudalavida3494 10 месяцев назад

      You have a beautiful name Sisi. Sending you love from Durban

  • @deborahreeder8114
    @deborahreeder8114 10 месяцев назад +8

    Love that red blouse on you! Gorgeous…

  • @jackiea7965
    @jackiea7965 10 месяцев назад

    Wow Fumi you were on point with this episode so good I had to watch it twice and take notes ❤😊😊

  • @radhasaraswati3149
    @radhasaraswati3149 10 месяцев назад

    Mama Fumi is talking facts!!!

  • @sandrex1978
    @sandrex1978 10 месяцев назад

    Hi Fumi. The red flag awareness will save lives. Is crucial.

  • @RT-pt6dy
    @RT-pt6dy 10 месяцев назад

    This is so apt and will cost a lot if monetized.
    Thank you so much Aunty Funmi😘

  • @DumebiLea
    @DumebiLea 10 месяцев назад

    Aunty Fums!!!!! Your advice is pure gold as usual ❤

  • @YvonneSommerville
    @YvonneSommerville 10 месяцев назад +1

    I just love fummi , she is my teacher

  • @shuksy2915
    @shuksy2915 10 месяцев назад +4

    Fumi you have given some sound advice 😌
    Too often we don’t ask the question because we are afraid what the answer will be, if it means illuminating a potential partner 🤔
    But you are so very right…we need to ask the difficult questions and find out sooner rather than later
    Then if it’s not a fit we can move on instead of wasting previous time…
    NEXT!!! 😍

  • @shawnmatthews9594
    @shawnmatthews9594 10 месяцев назад +5

    If you go to the club, you’ll get a Darnel!😂😅🤣

  • @hannahkai1882
    @hannahkai1882 10 месяцев назад +2

    The best advice I've ever heard was, would you date or marry yourself? Work on yourself first before you start looking for a husband. That's just my two cents.

  • @kudalavida3494
    @kudalavida3494 10 месяцев назад

    God I love this woman. I could listen to her all day 😍.