10 QUESTIONS TO ASK IN THE EARLY STAGES OF DATING IN A SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP!
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10 Questions to ask in the early stages of dating
- [ ] What does he want out of this relationship serious or casual
- [ ] What happened in his last relationship and why did they break up.
- [ ] Does he want children or looking to have more and how many
- [ ] What is his financial situation
- [ ] And what are the expectations on finances as a couple, talk about your contribution too.
- [ ] What is his relationship with his family, parents and siblings
- [ ] Are his family going to be an issue m, u need to be prepared and know what you’re waking into. That includes baby mamas
- [ ] Where does he see himself in the next 5/10 years his ambitions and dreams?
- [ ] Is he open to relocating to another country if need be
- [ ] Who are his friends and request to meet them
- [ ] What are the things he will not compromise on, everyone has deal breakers! Believe him when he says it and do not try to convince home otherwise after the fact when you guys are married
- [ ] How important is sex to him and will he be prepared to wait while you take your time to access the situation
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10 Questions to ask in the early stages of dating
- [ ] What does he want out of this relationship serious or casual?
- [ ] What happened in his last relationship and why did they break up?
- [ ] Does he want children or looking to have more and how many?
- [ ] What is his financial situation?
- [ ] And what are the expectations on finances as a couple? talk about your contribution too.
- [ ] What is his relationship with his family, parents and siblings?
- [ ] Are his family going to be an issue? You need to be prepared and know what you’re walking into. That includes baby mamas.
- [ ] Where does he see himself in the next 5/10 years? What are his ambitions and dreams?
- [ ] Is he open to relocating to another country if need be?
- [ ] Who are his friends? and request to meet them.
- [ ] What are the things he will not compromise on, everyone has deal breakers! Believe him when he says it and do not try to convince him otherwise after the fact when you guys are married.
- [ ] How important is sex to him and will he be prepared to wait while you take your time to access the relationship. Hold on to the cookies 🍪 for now! 😃
This is as a really good one… keep guiding us u beautiful earth Angel 😇 Asanté Aunty 🙌🏾
Fumi, beautiful as always.
Awesome points
Love you fumi
Being inspiring
Have a blessed day 🙏🏾 🌟
Awwwwww Fumi! Merci beaucoup! You’re wonda-ful! Bizoux
Just today I let two men down gently on the online dating site, because they were not answering the question on what happened in their last relationship and what their good and lesser charactertraits were. So ... bye bye. I saved this episode and will revisit it a lot. Love from Belgium.
Ask them in person! This way you can see there reaction..it’s too easy to lie and hide behind a text❤️
Ah mellisa you are right, in person you can see how someone reacts to a question, can give you some insight.
They haven't ended their last / current relationship. That's why they struggling.
Hey good for you. If they can't even write about it... then imagine how they would avoid talking face to face. Next! You'll find someone who not only has the answers to your questions they will be glad you asked!
@@soulovelee_2433 I'm speaking of experience 😂😂. An Ex did that to me, while we were in a relationship he approached my friend online (dating app), he didn't know she was my friend, but i had previously shared his pic. She told me he approached her online, I told her to ask him why his last relationship ended.....he skipped that question and would change the subject.
No one ever sat me down to tell me how important it is to ask these questions & it’s resulted in me getting into relationships blindly and for the wrong reasons, even at this age.🤦🏾♀️
I got out of one some weeks back & I can already see lots of reasons why the relationship failed & areas where I went wrong.
I have to be able to answer these questions myself too. It’s not just for him.
I have a lot of work to do on myself. I also have to prepare to become a high value & virtuous women just like I’d like my future husband to be.
Thank you so much, mummy Fumi. This video has helped me much more than you can imagine.❤️
Ditto@66
So happy for you that you saw the truth!
My husband and I have 5 kids and i can agree with everything you've said. On the topic of sex, quickies are there for a reason! You have en suites, pantries, and closets for a reason. Y'all better put on paw patrol and make it happen for 15 min.
I love this! I'm single, in my mid-forties, my kids are grown and I now have grandbabies. Despite all of this, I fully agree with this! Keep passion alive!
OMG talking about relocate I remember when one guy I dated told me that as soon as we get married I should be ready to move to the rural with his mother. I did the best ran as fast as I could and never looked back.
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Aunty Fumi is really helping us out here. And her lipstick matches her dress so it's a win-win!
Yeah 😅
Am dressing up for a date and just got the notification of this video oh my gosh just at the right time thank you Fumi ❤❤
First time I noticed you didn't put the lady waking gif in these Sister2Sister talks. I agree with Ole about keeping Adrian out of the spotlight. Protect his privacy.
Fumi, could we possibly have a set of questions for us older folks who are dating and looking for that life partner? I just turned 60 and looking towards planning my retirement so many of these questions aren’t relevant for me. Dating is so difficult for all ages. I love watching you with all of your wisdom and knowledge. Thank you!
Absolutely my love, I dated and got married when I was older too. 😃 60 is still relatively young considering that we’re living longer into our 90’s, so yes! I’ll absolutely have an episode for you soon.
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Look forward to it 🙏💜💯🔥
Fumi...you are an 😇
I'm a sixties lady also. I'm so afraid of being hurt. When I meet men my age, they're so immature to the point I don't even want to date anymore. I don't want to be alone the rest of my life, but at the same time I'm tired of being disappointed with the losers I'm meeting. Any advice Ms. Fumi???
Yes. 52 yo and oh how dating has change! I’m not sure where to begin
Fumi I love you, but this is far away from what a relationship wants to be nice and lovely… I’ m really huge fan of you! I m married with my husband from 2009 and I did all of these questions! He gave me answers and I thought that he was the perfect one! He wanted two kids (he build a house with three bedrooms) and when the economic crises came, he barely wanted one. He was successful businessman with passion, and his job destroyed. He never gave up and he’s doing another job but it was a mess for a while. He had beautiful relationship with his family and his parents were so sweet until they moved near us when I gave birth my child. But I love him and all these stuff gave me the begging of finding my strength (I was very quiet person). So all of these questions are a little easy and easy to change. When you met someone the only question that should ask is by yourself. When the situation changes, will you care enough for him/her to carry on?
Thank you
Knowing his family and some hidden baby mama is very important 👌👌❤️❤️❤️
I'm living for your laugh miss Fumi. It's so contagious, so refreshing
Ms. Fumi! So happy to find this chat! It was a godsend and very authentic take, from a woman's experience, in comparison to the frequent male relationship coach advise. Very good, I appreciate this. 🙏🏽 looking for more of your chats!
Ohhh darling these streets are rough on us just praying we find love and it all works out for all of us 🙏❤️ thank you Fumi❤️
Fantastic video full of great advice. Thank you Fumi! Loving this wave of dating advice videos and all of them have great messages on how to manage yourself, stay emotionally safe as well as give yourself the best chance to find a suitable partner and sort the chaff from the wheat at the very least! My friends and I are eating up this content and implementing tips and reviewing results. My most recent date was pretty fun because I just felt more confident about asking questions about important things early. You are quite right, seeing how a guy responds is insightful and it is letting me see a bit more clearly who is and is not open to dating seriously. Loving the content and the way you express the key issues and ways to work through is absolutely my cup of tea. Your examples certainly have us girls giggling in awe and recognition. Many thanks as always and have a beautiful week to you and your family 💜 🔥 💫
The way I listened and hang on to every word, you would think I'm in a classroom prepping for an exam. Well said aunty fumi. Thank you!
I absolutely love, Love, LOVE your confidence! 💃 And, you are VERY insightful about the issues of life in terms of relationships.
I am 55 and never married. I've made ALL of the mistakes in relationships, and I've ignored ALL of the red flags (even the FLAMING flags that were burning bright red, yellow and orange)! 😥 🔥🚩 🔥
I know that I am wiser, stronger and better because of my past experiences, but sometimes I briefly reflect on the fact that, as a result of my own choices, I had to learn so many life lessons the hard way! The good news is that I acknowledged then separated myself from the toxicity I allowed in my life, and now my heart is open to begin a life with the man for which God has prepared me!
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Thank you for sharing your wisdom. I'll be watching! 🤗
How did I not find your channel sooner. I subscribed to you only a few weeks ago and I love every single bit about you. What a beautiful and wise and amazing woman you are. I needed this. So glad I found you!!! 🥰🥰🥰🥰
Am so happy to listen to this particular Episode of your videos,I really needed this at this point in my life.
Auntie Fumi 💕🎉🥰 This was the best!!! Cut & Dry… straight to the point and so relatable 🤩 Thank you 🙏🏿
I agree...about Adrienne being on social media...too many children on social media.
I also requested the same don't put my children (our) children on social media.
Fumi. Thank you! You just took us through premarital counseling 101
I’m learning so much & leveling up in my dating life, thanks to you Fumi. Love from Uganda🇺🇬
Me too.. same country as you Leila..@ Fumi is blessing us ladies big...
Mugyebale ko banyabo hihihi with love from Australia!
Me too from uganda
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Naye banae 😂
Happy to meet you all fumination UG.
True. Especially for Q4. What he makes is the least, the ambition, the drive and thrive is gonna take him farther 🙌🙌
Auntie Fumi has spoken 😇
This is probably the VERY BEST Relationships video I have ever watched on RUclips.
Thank you so much 💓
You are indeed a friend in a mother. Your advise is based on your experiences. Love you aunt Fumi.
Spectacular as always! ❤️ 💋Excellent questions. When I was single I went on a couple of dates with a gentleman from the Middle East. On the 2nd date we somehow got on the topic of children. Although it wasn’t my situation, I was curious so I asked him if he would consider marriage to a woman with children. He very quickly, and firmly answered that if he wanted to marry her she would have to give up the children because he could never accept another man’s children. Needless to say, it was our last date.
This is perfect. We made a year and some life changing things are about to happen. I have questions and this vid has more to ask that I didn't think of! Thank you.
I wish you, your husband, and child much love, health, & wealth. You bring light and value into this world. Hugs
Amen!
I love this episode. You are so young but you make me think of my mother. When I was a young teenager my mother spoke directly, truthfully and wisely as do you. My mother died in 2015, I miss her sorely. I am 68 years old and I made a good choice when I married because of my wise mother's words and my ability to listen. I am glad the young women have you to watch and listen to.
Auntie Fumi
Wow, wow I wish I knew this before I married.
Great questions,...so true !
Thank you for this segment!!
❤️ I loved it!
I’m soo obsessed with this lady wow
veeery grateful to youu i'm a 22 young girl and am very happy because i'm learning a lot about relationship and dating thanks
Girl I love your advice and your personality. Thank you so much for sharing your experiences.
Thank you Fumi, your wisdom and dating gems are the best! I love watching and learning from you! God bless and keep the great content coming! ♥️
I love your spirit Fumi.. Learning a lot from you even at 73. Thank you
Auntie Funmi you are indeed a role model every young girls need in a mother❤.. I love my mom with all my heart, she's very caring in her own way but she didn't give me courage or advice when it comes to relationships. I am 33 years old and dated a couple of mens but because of fear i feel insecure to be in a relationship. I'm always concerned if he is a good guy or is he just acting to trap me. I built myself a high wall that prevents men from accessing my heart and i don't know how to let go. Now a couple of years has passed and i was not approached or asked out by men. I always ask my myself if God is driving them away from me and wants me to wait for the right guy or was i meant to be single. Please make a video in regards to this issue🙏
P.s. my parents had a good relationship until my dad passed away but i have witnessed many friends who were in an abusive relationship which contributed to my insecurity
Auntie Fumi coming through as always with the fabulousness and fabulosity. Fumi you look GREAT! Love everything about you. #fumination ❤❤❤❤❤
My SISTA......you are a BEAUTIFUL breath of FRESH AIR! Straight up, to the point....LOVE your videos!! Keep up that GREAT ENERGY!!!
Great list, Fumi. I guess the question I have is, how to know if you are in a relationship? That's for my single and looking sisters.
These questions shouldn't be asked on the first date. A lot of these questions were revealed without me asking early on before we were in a commited relationship. I saw that the man I met had a good job, a home, and two automobiles. He introduced me to his (one) son, family, and friends, so I didn't have to ask. No baby mama drama here. My situation is different because I met my husband 37 years ago. I don't recall any guidelines for dating at the time. Thank you for providing some.
Some couples meet in college where you can see where his career is going just like your mother did. Good for Mother.
You made good points on children, religion, politics, finance, potential, and sex. Everything should be on the table so both people know what the other is bringing to the table. You have to be on the same page to have a solid foundation going forward together.
We have to remember that everything that glitters isn't gold, even though the man passes the question stage of the relationship. What people say and what they do are two different things.
Thank you for another informative video. ❣️
Fumi, this was awesome, thank you 😊
I just Love and Adore you! All the way from California USA! Thank you, for YOU, I appreciate and respect your wisdom and will be watching more! Much Love, Light, and Blessings 🙌🤗❤🙏⚘
Once again Auntie Fumi you have brought the right video for me. I'm looking to get back into dating, so will definitely use these. Love your fashion
Thanks so much Funmi for this segment. Much needed and I’ve made note. I’m 49 never married and dated per se it would be nice to have questions appropriate to our age group if you can. Much appreciated for all the good work you are doing to help us get it right. I like all these questions they are relevant to my situation.
Once a again great content,love the questions. Very informative. ❤️
Thanks sis I love watching your videos to the end because all of them are interested ❤❤❤
Fumi , I agree .everything does not need to be on social media. Some things should be private. Awesome 👌you both are working together
Aaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhh auntie Fumi, I love to listen to you and my uncle Ole story. Thank you very much for your insight and information as always. It’s very important to know all what you said. Sometimes they say one thing and find out other things. A man who doesn’t have respect for authority is not a good sign;he doesn’t respect his older siblings or a senior is a red flag too. Thank you very much and have a blessed week. Shalom 🙏🏾🙏🏾❤️❤️❤️🙏🏾🙏🏾
That reminds me of another question I need to incorporate : "Does he jaywalk". Jaywalking makes me extremely nervous. All my friends don't mind crossing the road when the sign is red. That just stresses me out.
Lipstick, blush, blouse/dress, and flower headband is absolutely gorgeous on you! Our deep chocolate skin makes bright colors POP!!!! Thanks for the tips! Wish I would of found you 5 yrs ago! All is well tho.
Thank you so much for the tips Fumi. Looking lovely as usual. Love the lipstick and the dress.
I didn’t know anything about relationship but I’ve really learned a lot from you Fumi 😍
Ooh my goodness, you’re just amazing🥰. I love love love watching and taking advise from you…thanks for been who you are🙏
I think it is also great to answer those questions ourselves. First because the other party might/will return the question. Second, we know ourselves better, what are values are and what you want/dont want
Wish I had found you when I was in my twenties, thirties! Love you.
Fumi love the make this week!!! On point!!
Thank you Mama.infact i got to know this channel at the right time.we really appreciate for what u share with us .i've been in dilemma asking myself many questions.but here i got the answers.may God bless you Mama.Thank you❤
That was very good information Fumi. Thank you.
Thank you so much for what you do and who you are, Fumi. It builds my mind
Notification gang ....tuning in from South Africa
Thank you so much Fumi,you are such a blessing,I wish everyone aspiring to settle in marriage.hears this.
Great job Fumi darling, straight from your heart and hour experience.! Thank you, thank you Thank you. Its rare for a you tuber of your amount of subscribers, but you are FUMI!!!!
Fumi you are so inspirational🙏🏾 thank you for sharing your wisdom with us!
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I could listen to you all day long and I don't get bored of your impeccable knowledge 👌 Thanks for sharing 👍 Nice work Fumination 👍
Re mmogo
Firstly, you look fabulous . Your hair is giving 😘🔥 everything about you is amazing 💯. Then I have died everyday waiting for this particular video. Thank you Fumi🥰
Wow, any time I watch your videos, I never remain the same.....
There must be something from your words that will hit me so hard, deep lessons to grab, deep lessons to learn.....
Thank you so much Ma, may your oil of wisdom never run dry....
Much love from Nigeria..
You're an awesome advisor Fumi. I appreciate your advise..
Absolutely fabulous episode, so are you!!! The dress is beautiful. Thanks
I had to rewind! "The marriage will TEST the both of you. WORD! Babes !!! Please listen to her ! The marriage will test you both. Make sure you are doing marriage with someone that can stand by you!!!!
So much wisdom and practical advice! Thank you🤗
Love this video.
All these questions I use in my vetting process.
I love your show.
I just came across it.
Very informative and enlightening.
I enjoyed!
God bless you!
Really needed this thank you fumi ❤️
Excellent advice !! Thanks for sharing
EXCELLENT ADVICE , NO LIES DETECTED!
Thoroughly Enjoyable! I LIVE! 💯💖
Thanks for the tips. Just found this channel. Love your energy!! New subscriber🙏🏿😊
Pure genius. I love you already! Very intelligent woman
Love your energy, I find Value in you content. Stupendous job ❤️🙏
What a powerful conversation,many thanks my lady.
Your advice are heartfelt, it's so genuine.💗❤️💗
Thank you Fumi you are a Godsend! God bless your RUclips channel. You are so beautiful and free spirited! God bless you and your family husband and family! Thank you very much for all your important information. Learning a lot from you. God bless your heart.🙏😇💖
PREACH AUNT FUNMI!!!
PREACH ON 🙏❤️😍
I love these questions and I am definitely going to ask them,thank you so much auntie Fumi💐💐❤️❤️🙏
Thank you sister Fumi. Awesome video
I love you, Fumi and all the topics. Stay Fabulous, My Love!!!
You showed up in my feed and I just LOVE everything about you!! A new subscriber here😘
My man answered all these questions thanks to you my girl friend, been single for 16 years, 63 years young.. He also speaks with kindness about his parents and ex girlfriends…
Thank you so much Fumi
For your knowledge and wisdom, above all your dress 👗 wow! The makeup ! Gorgeous, I’m trying to learn put makeup on my face professionally like you do , any way I need patience.
Dear this is so insightful ❤️ I needed this. Yesterday I was exploring RUclips to find such thing and I saw one of your videos just to be able to catch this one today ❤️🔥
Mama Fumi you never disappoint!!! I’m grateful for you.
I love that he walked by at the perfect time lol!!!
Lovee this!! What a Queen. Thank you for making these videos
Wow this is so practical and deep.
Thank you for being sincere.
Its my first time watching and lemme say oh my! This is amazing and I'm glad i come across it coz its gonna be of helping.Thank you.
I am listening to this like a younger sister picking so much knowledge from a big sister. Thank you so much Aunty Fumi, you are really a blessing to the world
I absolutely love you, your personality, your wisdom, etcYou are such a woman of grace and beauty and class. Bless to you and your family
This was a very good episode. You are just amazing!
Fumi..I LOVE YOUR CRAZY-SWEET DRAMATIC, FUN...PRESENTATIONS!!
Omg - Gorgeous! ❤❤this look!! 💋 😘 Thanks for the tips!
Amazing. Thank you Ma’ for this video. I’ll ask him a few more questions I just learnt here.
This video just made me feel better about walking away from someone i still lovedealy because he did not mesure up to most of these points.Thank you aunty