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Stop Trying To Make Friends (you don't fit in)

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  • Опубликовано: 18 авг 2024
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  • @sir.confident
    @sir.confident Год назад +120

    If you have confidence, you don't need to fit in with any group. God made you unique and you don't owe it to anyone else to be any different.

    • @TJY_RISE_UP
      @TJY_RISE_UP Год назад +5

      Amen 🙏🏾 🙏🏾 🙏🏾

    • @Biblefirst
      @Biblefirst 7 месяцев назад +2

      Amen once I started standing for God more I was alone more Jesus is yo best friend

    • @joshuabuchanan1141
      @joshuabuchanan1141 6 месяцев назад

      No one has to be "unique" or "different" if they don't want to just because society forces everyone to do so, and also being "unique" and "different" has nothing to God, I'm pretty sure God wouldn't care at all if someone decided to be the same or if someone decided to be "unique" or "different"

    • @user-ky7pt8pp9i
      @user-ky7pt8pp9i 5 месяцев назад +4

      I definitely don’t fit in.
      I have a kind heart and soul. People seem to dislike people that are kind to others. They see it as a weakness. For years I’ve tried to blend in and have friends, but there must be something wrong with me as people, I sense can’t stand me. I’ve broke my heart over this for years now. It wasn’t so bad when my Mother was alive because she loved me unconditionally. She died in May 2023. I am so alone now. I really don’t see much point anymore for anything. I feel like I’m just a nobody. I know it must be me with the problem as I am now 57 and still dealing with the same stuff.
      I pray to God every day to help me through my day. I’ve never belonged or fit in. It’s s sad to feel unwanted.
      At least I have God.

    • @kisht7469
      @kisht7469 4 месяца назад

      @@user-ky7pt8pp9iYou’re not alone. God loves you 😊

  • @fittedconfidence2071
    @fittedconfidence2071 Год назад +44

    Fitting in is overrated. Be liminal stand out. Be unapologetically real to yourself because we live in a world where people are scared to be themselves. We live in a world where people are trying to impress others instead of impress themselves. In High School, I didn't fit it at all that's what made me stood out and memorable. Know your worth your value💯

    • @joshuabuchanan1141
      @joshuabuchanan1141 6 месяцев назад +2

      More like fitting in is actually very underrated, I'd rather fit in rather then feel alone, lonely and isolated because that's what being "unique" or "different" makes people feel like that

    • @kisht7469
      @kisht7469 4 месяца назад

      @@joshuabuchanan1141You’re a follower who would rather conform than be your true and authentic self.

  • @volpo5046
    @volpo5046 Год назад +46

    It feels like Kam has been instilling a spiritual transformation, getting less toxic with time and going from game and tactics to teaching what actually matters.

  • @xan8123
    @xan8123 Год назад +29

    Chasing material is an endless cycle.

  • @Sydonie-po8iq
    @Sydonie-po8iq Месяц назад +3

    I use to think like that and wanted to do things just to please people on social media😭, only because I felt lonely inside and and was desperate for love and attention. And that caused me to end up in shitty friendships and relationships that left me even worse lonely. But I came to a revelation and realize all along I never needed them, the only person I was looking for all along was me. It starts with us we are more important than we think we are, we don’t need to fit in, all we need to be is ourselves. Don’t follow social media!!, follow your truth and your calling and God-Given Gifts while here on Earth🙏🏽❤️

  • @TikyeWilliams
    @TikyeWilliams 7 месяцев назад +14

    Brah I be feeling SO alone like nobody feels my pain but then I come to videos like this and read everyone’s comments and I feel like I’m not really alone we all going through the same shit

    • @kisht7469
      @kisht7469 4 месяца назад +2

      You’re not alone. Trust me😔

    • @vogue_paris3106
      @vogue_paris3106 3 месяца назад +1

      You are not alone I'm so tired of this 😓

    • @pngo522
      @pngo522 2 месяца назад

      Just rememebr to be urself and things will naturally come. back in freshman i had no friends and i wasnt happy. first sem of sophmore i knew i needed change and made friends with people, i wasnt alone anymore but i still wasnt happy because i was trying to fit in the whole time. 2nd sem of sophmore i left the friend groups and became myself. i naturally let people come into my life and now i feel full and happy with comfort around them.

  • @UltimatexPcXGamer
    @UltimatexPcXGamer Год назад +41

    I relate with this … I ended up getting shot nd all I used to always roast folks nd be a class clown but even tho I made folks laugh nd crack up I was always still lonely… If you’re still in school brah focus on yourself fuck trying to get girls fuck trying to get “drip” focus on self improvement Get you a lil job and save up for a whip or some …. Don’t Graduate HIGHSCHOOL WITH NOTHING TO SHOW FOR IT Either get in those books for a scholarship or have enough to celebrate your accomplishment.. I’m 25 nd regret my Highschool decisions but I’m currently on the path to fix my self…. Anotha Thing Highschool Politics don’t apply after school … U will be looked at as corny if u still carrying that highschool demeanor… Yall stay up tho

    • @DrOrr
      @DrOrr Год назад +4

      This is big fax I wasted my high school years

    • @Henry-rh6gz
      @Henry-rh6gz Год назад +5

      @@DrOrr same, wasting high school only hits after you graduate

  • @r.i.c.otherapper5730
    @r.i.c.otherapper5730 Год назад +80

    I relate heavy to this topic only I stop trynna fit in after high school.I appreciate this channel and its simply becuz you put god first,I admire it.I’m new with practicing my faith, but your content is helping me evolve by analyzing my past mistake that I still never fixed. Feels like ur the big brother I needed. Much love g

  • @slumbermaster6932
    @slumbermaster6932 Год назад +32

    I’m a student dentist right now. I don’t have a lot of friends and seeing how my classmates are with each other. I’m here alone. I got into a huge drama thing at my school and the popular kids at school pretty much destroyed my reputation. It used to bother me but now it means that I have to do everything in my power where I’ve accepted that I’ll truly never fit in. That’s okay because I’ve been myself to get to this point in my life where I’ll be a dentist and I’ll be able to live the life I wanted.

  • @SChome100
    @SChome100 Год назад +62

    Thank you for making this video. This couldn't come at a more important point at my life. I always thought I was missing out but I realized that what may appear to be good is not necessarily good for your spirit and soul.

    • @ffuckts
      @ffuckts Год назад

      maybe cus ur a nerdy weeb

  • @Cosmefulanito2812
    @Cosmefulanito2812 Год назад +15

    I listen to metal (unpopular music) and I play the guitar as my only hobbie besides the gym. I don't play videogames and don't do drugs, and somehow I'm still popular, or at least respected. It's all about being assertive and dominant. You can literally make anime and league of legends cool and have women chase you if you are like that. The thing is that I don't really care what some idiot in the next classroom thinks of me. I don't even want his respect or appreciation, and that's how you should actually live, that's how you reach peace.

  • @KalebJackson
    @KalebJackson Год назад +39

    I can relate to your story Mr. Kam because, for me at 16 in my Junior year of high school now, I wanted to fit in with people and hearing some other kids say that I'm annoying and this that and the third and I wanted to fit in with them especially some of the kids on Instagram that go to my school and some that go to another high school in my town wanting followers, friends, and people to like me and right now it's been making me feel miserable and having social anxiety and feeling that I can't be myself anymore! I want my first girlfriend, but I don't want to make a fool of myself and get all anxious and getting jealous of other people anymore!

    • @WeLikePOVSoccer
      @WeLikePOVSoccer Год назад +7

      everything you just said right now, I am going through the 100% EXACT same thing

    • @stealthcreek
      @stealthcreek Год назад +22

      once u guys get out of school, graduate or whatever, i promise y’all will realize none of that stuff matters. don’t even worry about the girls either, waste of time

    • @DrOrr
      @DrOrr Год назад +10

      Just be yourself bro (this doesn’t mean don’t fix actual issues with who you are) don’t waste your time trying to be someone you’re not.

    • @billyg8259
      @billyg8259 Год назад +4

      be dumb and make mistakes while you are young or you will regret it later trust me

    • @novanity9611
      @novanity9611 Год назад +6

      Bro just stop caring about what people think and change the way you see yourself through self awareness and maturity

  • @vincenolfi2096
    @vincenolfi2096 Год назад +6

    We are set apart to focus on our higher self, the truth, and we must be able to live a humble, good life.

  • @flouserschird
    @flouserschird Год назад +4

    can’t relate to this video because I can’t even relate to the humble non popular people. I’m like this inbetween freak who fits in nowhere

  • @whooked
    @whooked Год назад +8

    we all fell too peer pressure at some point

  • @NarutoUzumakiofficial
    @NarutoUzumakiofficial 6 месяцев назад +2

    This hits hard. I used to be beloved, popular, and just admired. I'm still beloved by my real friends. I always tried to be myself and fit in. Be kind to all people but i guess that wasn't okay. I did make mistakes i tried to atone for them. I guess it was a false idol. I never cared for money, but just wanted to be loved. It's so confusing friendships, the crowd, etc. I know some of my views of questioning things aren't popular so maybe i deserve to be an outcast

  • @truzi
    @truzi Год назад +8

    Thanks so much for making this. I literally was accused of trying to fit in yesterday. Always perfect timing🤟🏾🙏🏾

  • @mr.ironmindset1973
    @mr.ironmindset1973 Год назад +7

    I often download your videos and listen until i sleep. But i had to click on the video to give thumbs up before downloading, i don't want to be ungrateful. Thanks for the informatice quality vids. My god bless you and your family.

  • @theabileneranchertar7882
    @theabileneranchertar7882 Год назад +1

    As a young man you have alot of wisdom. Keep preaching. You do it very well.

  • @yaboinellz
    @yaboinellz Год назад +9

    I really needed to hear this video I can relate heavy, thank you bro for the message nowadays in college I just do me I use to try to force myself to get along with everyone but after a while, most of those people stop talking to me for whatever reason and now I just am chilling by myself I have some people I talk to casually but I learned that I don't get along with everyone and there is no need for me to force friendships and interactions that aren't real

  • @uniform.001
    @uniform.001 Год назад +18

    Whats up kam. could you please make a video on how to be real. real with your self. how to act like yourself when you’re all alone. how to act like the same person arround everyone. and even how to define what being yourself even means. i been struggling with this and im defo not the only one and there is pretty much no advice of how to be 100% a real one with 0 gimmicks. if you could do a video on this it would be greatly appreciated by many people cuz i know that a lotta young kids struggle with this. love ❤

    • @uniform.001
      @uniform.001 Год назад +4

      also i feel like my default state is being kinda outgoing and spontaneous but i struggle being that arround people. how do i do that properly and how do i stop acting so robotic. man i swear like i’ve been trying to just look cool bc i see how other people are authentically and i somehow always imitate them 99% of the time. but rarely when i enter in a so called “flowstate” im myself. and everyone who im with feels included in the fun that im having but thats rareeee with me. whenever that happens i dont think how to act i just do so. how do i do that with everyone and more often. shi got me tight.

    • @luxury8346
      @luxury8346 Год назад +1

      I got the same exact thing brother

    • @uniform.001
      @uniform.001 Год назад

      @@luxury8346 slatt

    • @lidiagizaw3828
      @lidiagizaw3828 Год назад

      dude yourself is always evolving . it's not a set thing u learn things in life , u meet people, u accomplish things u change which is good .just as long u dont lose the core that ur fam and u have built for years beforehand and u still keep some of the good things they taught u

  • @DrOrr
    @DrOrr Год назад +18

    This reminds me of my story. I became sort of a bully my 8th grade year cause I hit a growth spurt from all the years I got bullied, that pretty much ended for me during sophomore year where I got caught taking some freshman’s laptop and hiding it in the restroom as a hazing prank, got fined 500 dollars because it got destroyed even though I didn’t do it, they launched some bs police investigation for who destroyed it but obviously they didn’t try to actually find out who did it because i was only in the restroom for 5-10 seconds but supposedly the laptop was completely destroyed and those things are really durable. They definitely only pinned it on me because it was easy, I was a kid from a poor family, with poor grades, and was a pretty bad kid. That fine and on top of other ones got me up to $1.3K in fines in turn I missed out on many activities after that. I didn’t do it to fit in though, mainly just did it after years of frustration from getting picked on cause I used to be a fat kid. Although yeah the school system and police department are garbage for not even trying, I could’ve just avoided the situation altogether myself, i never even paid for it cause near my graduation the fines disappeared so I feel even they knew the fines made no sense.

    • @jamestateIII
      @jamestateIII Год назад

      Did you learn from it.

    • @kimb6508
      @kimb6508 Год назад

      ya you don't sound like you learnt from it and you actually sound like you havn't taken any responsibility and still don't to this day.

  • @izzymillar4568
    @izzymillar4568 Год назад +4

    🙏👏👏yess! Tell em! Spread the message cause that's what they need to hear.

  • @nanaagyeman1702
    @nanaagyeman1702 Год назад +4

    Circle of influence is key in life 🙏

  • @dats.napoleon
    @dats.napoleon Год назад +3

    Thank you kam for these videos it’s the only thing keeping me going in college. Keep self improving the rest will come 🤝

  • @mechspectral3232
    @mechspectral3232 Год назад +25

    Kams definitely watching me with this timing 💀

  • @wwubblear8569
    @wwubblear8569 Год назад +6

    I got fake friends if I would call them that but I’m so scared to be alone and not be around people it’s such a horrific feeling don’t know what I am

    • @kisht7469
      @kisht7469 4 месяца назад +1

      Be yourself but most importantly, be TRUE to yourself.

  • @garry_productions
    @garry_productions Год назад +7

    yo Kam im a big fan of your videos id love to see one where you talk about starting a side hustle as a young man

  • @tzio3716
    @tzio3716 Год назад +1

    The best videos ive seen for the last couple months. Big ups!

  • @Bobe_Kyrant.42
    @Bobe_Kyrant.42 Год назад +6

    I'm Mexican and I know how that goes . I got caught stealing a 40oz from the grocery store when I was 16 and my dad was like the devil when we got home . Broke my guitar,amp, skateboard and when my mom came home she whooped my ass. Went full UFC on me .

  • @bryanunderground
    @bryanunderground Год назад +3

    It’s crazy because I’ll be judge for being to serious and never having any fun and that I grew up to fast.

  • @chidianblurts9818
    @chidianblurts9818 Год назад +3

    Another insightful video Kam...love the grind❤

  • @Rhude_tiller
    @Rhude_tiller Год назад +5

    Infinite tsukuyomi 😤😤😤

  • @Envy.az_
    @Envy.az_ Год назад +9

    This video is real as fuck man

  • @Sydonie-po8iq
    @Sydonie-po8iq Месяц назад

    You’ve just gained a subscriber!!

  • @KRLE2582
    @KRLE2582 Год назад

    Shalom.
    Ty for sharing

  • @voivod0160
    @voivod0160 Год назад +1

    This man deserves at least a million subscribers

  • @fromnowhere8131
    @fromnowhere8131 Год назад

    For some people every good things is good at first but then it becomes bitter and then worst.thats why i learned about making relation about friends

  • @Malik_Hoff
    @Malik_Hoff Год назад +3

    I used to skip all the time with people I ain't cool with No more.

  • @zootedeffect4082
    @zootedeffect4082 Год назад +6

    It’s weird I’m very good looking and a nice person but people just not interested in knowing me at all

    • @stealthcreek
      @stealthcreek Год назад +8

      they are intimidated. its not u, its them

    • @wxntta
      @wxntta Год назад +7

      If u black in a white area,it may be cuz of that

    • @Bobe_Kyrant.42
      @Bobe_Kyrant.42 Год назад +5

      You probably have to keep focusing on yourself and keep pushing,, maybe go out try to start convos with random people even if u get rejected. Get use to it and you will build up your social skills. Even if you feel like people don't notice you. Don't let any that break you down. Keep pushing.

  • @Klainnso4L
    @Klainnso4L Год назад +3

    I took notes on this part 7:47 because it hit even tho I don’t try to fit in I find myself lost in life and don’t know where to start

  • @israeljaimes8309
    @israeljaimes8309 Год назад +1

    I needed this bro thank you! 🙏🏻

  • @wxntta
    @wxntta Год назад +1

    Damn yo story hit hard bruh. Don't relate directly. but I how it feel getting in trouble n getting caught. Last time I did that was like 3 years ago.

  • @fatii8281
    @fatii8281 Год назад +1

    your an amazing story teller

  • @TikyeWilliams
    @TikyeWilliams 7 месяцев назад

    You have a lot of wisdom Kam

  • @isaacfitzpatrick8160
    @isaacfitzpatrick8160 Год назад

    Good video young man I think you're smart and wise keep doing what you do

  • @wxntta
    @wxntta Год назад +1

    Congrats on 50k. Did u get lighting equipment?

  • @qalv97
    @qalv97 Год назад +3

    Everyone wants to be better than everyone else after high school life is different. your girlfriend will think other guys are better than you

    • @TheZestySoul97
      @TheZestySoul97 8 месяцев назад

      Got the wrong GF if that’s the case lol

  • @youngniggasaucea6752
    @youngniggasaucea6752 Год назад +3

    keep grinding, W

  • @GR3YHOODCrypto
    @GR3YHOODCrypto Год назад +2

    Itachi got y'all tripping 👁️

  • @FvckEmWeUp
    @FvckEmWeUp Год назад +1

    I easily make friends but i test em first to make sure they aint fake or i cant fw em

  • @Funkylover-sl7ew
    @Funkylover-sl7ew 16 часов назад

    so how come other people fit in so easily

  • @user-wd9gf5td2j
    @user-wd9gf5td2j 7 месяцев назад

    I dont want to fit in. The stuff you have to get sounds exhausting still. I dont want to put on masks for different crowds yet (47 years) but still need my confidence. The INFJ or whatever is holding me back maybe time

  • @T.Y.L.E.R_777
    @T.Y.L.E.R_777 Год назад +1

    I can relate because I took a picture of a teacher during class and uploaded to ig story to fit in next day teacher call me out that I’ve been caught I regret it every day

  • @jayviensam2001
    @jayviensam2001 Год назад

    Even with family cousins too

  • @Nustart999
    @Nustart999 10 месяцев назад

    Hot take unpopular opinion if you have great credit and are good with finances “flexing” becomes a lifestyle it’s all about perception. God bless

  • @chrispy47
    @chrispy47 10 месяцев назад

    We are chasing greatness.

  • @jktavious4157
    @jktavious4157 Год назад +1

    U made this video at literally the perfect time for me

  • @noize8703
    @noize8703 Год назад

    SpiritualKam in the building 💯

  • @enternalkoto7073
    @enternalkoto7073 Год назад +2

    I have 0 friends ,_,

  • @Savemorespendless.
    @Savemorespendless. Год назад

    🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

  • @devin3607
    @devin3607 Год назад

    Lonely at the top

  • @prxsence
    @prxsence Год назад

    Congrats on 50k!

  • @skater_man4622
    @skater_man4622 Год назад

    Congrats on 50k🎉

  • @TheBrandBoostAcademy
    @TheBrandBoostAcademy Год назад +1

    Much love. Been watching since 7K

  • @itscnvulsins5384
    @itscnvulsins5384 Год назад +1

    So I don’t talk to no one? I just solo this shit out? Tbh idk what to do

  • @yungfary
    @yungfary Год назад

    3:24 Infinite Tsukuyomi

  • @anthonyejike5594
    @anthonyejike5594 Год назад

    Congrats on 50k

  • @emmanuel_sal
    @emmanuel_sal Год назад +2

    Bruh why do these videos always with the timing thooooo

  • @Kingholloween
    @Kingholloween Год назад

    How to let go would be a good vid topic

  • @milesjamal
    @milesjamal Год назад

    thank you brother

  • @jamestateIII
    @jamestateIII Год назад

    3:25....what? I gotta Google that

  • @beth9235
    @beth9235 8 месяцев назад

    And why the hell the popular kids should be unhappy with their life. Especially if they're rich and have everything they want and having the most fun in school instead of being teased and mocked like me😢. The popular rich kids are just spoiled just f****** spoiled 😞😭

  • @anushree8984
    @anushree8984 8 месяцев назад

    im losing myself every day

  • @famousm6
    @famousm6 Год назад

    Ive been a fan of ur videos for a while ever since Xo Carlos stopped posting videos I appreciate all the dating advice you’ve been putting out on the content but To be real with you I was that guy that was quiet but wasn’t really shy to be around ppl and fitting in but My problem is that I have a fear of stuttering to the point where I can’t get my words out like I know what to say to a girl I just can’t seem to get the word out so it brings down my confidence to the point it gave me social anxiety so I keep telling myself to not let it get to me but it still bothers me. I’ve been going through this since my life time and that’s the only insecurity I have and I don’t want them to think I’m nervous or weird or anything but my worries are how people react on the way I talk and I’ve never wanted to open up about this but I felt I should so any advice?

    • @HAHAHAHAHAHAHahHHA
      @HAHAHAHAHAHAHahHHA 3 месяца назад

      thats a matter of time and progress bro, you should know that 99% of people dont care about what you think is cringe/embarrassing. Just keep trying to have conversations with random people, try something new every single time so youre not stuck at a certain spot.

  • @thahzjj1
    @thahzjj1 Год назад +1

    I know I'm supposed to be different. I just don't know how or why?

  • @xan8123
    @xan8123 Год назад

    This is too real

  • @Savemorespendless.
    @Savemorespendless. Год назад

    Thx bro

  • @saint_apollo
    @saint_apollo Год назад

    needed this

  • @freeduolingo2730
    @freeduolingo2730 Год назад +1

    Yo so im on this college tour and I was walking down the hallway by myself to check out the area.
    This one girl was leaning on the wall talking on the phone and she was looking at me and when I passed her, she tilted her whole body towards me. When I came back she did the same thing again. Was she checking me out?

    • @dihny5168
      @dihny5168 Год назад +2

      Most def cause if she thought u was a creep then she wouldn’t have faced towards u twice I’d say make a move cause that was prolly her way of giving u choosing signals

    • @freeduolingo2730
      @freeduolingo2730 Год назад

      @@dihny5168 thx. The only reason why I didn’t go up to her was because she was talking on the phone

    • @wxntta
      @wxntta Год назад

      @@freeduolingo2730she thought u was a creepy ass nigha bc u keep commenting koldheartkammusy

  • @rando5618
    @rando5618 Год назад +2

    Damn, he nailed it thats me right now wtf and i had to think about dat shit to try to change

  • @jamestateIII
    @jamestateIII Год назад +1

    2:23..... that's what fresh and fit be talking about qnd Kevin samuels. High value .....it is pure crap..because they say you gotta make 60 70 100 grand a years consistently....and kevin says it comes from the past of women being with certain type of guys. Fellas....kam is correct....High value is more internal not external.
    who are you...what do you stand for...how you carry yourself..how you treat others. It's all internal.

  • @WhoisSayge
    @WhoisSayge Год назад

    50k yuhhh

  • @MicahBeatz
    @MicahBeatz Год назад

    Yessur

  • @TricksterLawlet
    @TricksterLawlet Год назад +4

    I don't like being alone

    • @23lurkin
      @23lurkin Год назад +3

      you should love it

    • @joshuabuchanan1141
      @joshuabuchanan1141 6 месяцев назад

      Same

    • @TricksterLawlet
      @TricksterLawlet 6 месяцев назад

      @@23lurkin Why should I?

    • @23lurkin
      @23lurkin 6 месяцев назад

      @@TricksterLawlet bc from bro people are not real they are fake nowadays it’s plus you gon die alone anyway bro you don’t need anybody

    • @TricksterLawlet
      @TricksterLawlet 6 месяцев назад

      @@23lurkin That still doesn't change the fact that being alone feels awful

  • @medmed5436
    @medmed5436 Год назад

    oh

  • @21domino2
    @21domino2 Год назад

    real

  • @gabartuVFX
    @gabartuVFX Год назад

    IshowSpeed posted...

  • @Marlononafridayy
    @Marlononafridayy Год назад

    3:53

  • @moneogklarakyllingbaby195
    @moneogklarakyllingbaby195 Год назад

    6:52

  • @narikdavido9335
    @narikdavido9335 Год назад

    100%

  • @The1JordanJohnson
    @The1JordanJohnson Год назад +1

    first

  • @adaswrath2783
    @adaswrath2783 Год назад

    Content used to be good until u started using more clickbait like titles. Shame and unsuscribed

  • @truzi
    @truzi Год назад

    Thanks so much for making this. I literally was accused of trying to fit in yesterday. Always perfect timing🤟🏾🙏🏾