Thanks for the great video Joy. My children grew up in a frugal home. They are now 30, 28 and 26. They laugh a lot about the way in which their father and I used to try and save money and make them aware of the plight of others around the world. I am proud to say that they are all now well adjusted adults with wonderful compassion for others. I completely believe that their frugal and thoughtful upbringing is the reason why.
Ohh my gosh. You made me cry. Your kids are so blessed to have parents like you and your husband. Hearing about the neighbor kids not having food made me cry. Your kids are blessed. They dont need luxury to be happy. Im glad you are able to help out the kids in needs. God keep blessing you.
I am an atheist and I subscribed to your channel because you are extremely wise. Your children are not deprived. Your children have seen the world and most importantly, they know that they are loved. That's all children need and really want. You and your husband are awesome parents. There are plenty of children out there who have the latest gadgets and go on extravagant vacations twice a year but they walk around like empty shells due to the lack of of love and attention from their parents and their unstable home life. Your children are rich! They have two loving parents living with them under the same roof! Your children have seen how 3/4 of the world's population actually live. I was born and raised in Vietnam until I was 7 years old and I have seen the poorest of the poor. This experience has shaped my life for the better. I think those who are well off in wealthier countries like America, Canada, the UK and etc have lost touch with reality. They are living in an overindulgence world. Your children don't need to go out for dinner! They don't need dessert after every meal. They don't need a basement full of toys. They need love. That's all. Joy, your children are rich! I just want to give you my perspective of a non God-fearing working mom of 3 kids 5 and under.
Hello Hannah. What a heartfelt and kind comment. I so appreciate your perspective and your kindness towards me. It sounds fascinating that you were raised in Vietnam when you were young. It sounds like you are the wise one! You are very eloquent in your writing, you should def write a blog if you don't already. Blessings!!
I needed to hear this today!!! Thank you soooo much for sharing!❤ Sometimes I feel guilty (and a little jealous) when I see my friends and neighbors buy expensive things or take their kids on expensive vacations, that we can't afford due to many issues that came our way! I always tell my husband and kids that we need to be grateful for what we have, that there are others doing worse than us...but it us hard, and kids don't always understand!😞...but, I know that God is in control...ALWAYS!🙏🙏🙏
I am really happy I found your channel, I grew up in Mexico in a small village and the simplest things bring the most happiness, I would play with mud making "cakes" with my cousins and those are memories that I will cherish forever. I am very grateful for what I have now and the place I am, sometimes because we live up to the expectations of others we forget what is important. Blessings!
When I was a child I only went once out for a meal, and yes, it was special, but meals at home were always good, and meals at big family gatherings were most special, those I remember most! ❤️❤️
God bless you!! This just brought me to tears. My grandfather was a janitor and a landscaper, my grandmother was a maid and I thought they were giants. My mother was a phone operator for Southern Bell (now AT&T) and my father was an electrician. I was always the kid that didn't give a lick about brand name clothes. I was a tomboy until I was 16. I was abused physically, emotionally, verbally and sexually. The only thing I wanted was love, stability and care. We in the West have a corrupted view of life. You are an amazing woman doing exactly what God has called you to. Do we really think God is concerned about kids having "stuff" and going out to eat. lol No. The Father wants us to love each other. You are shining like a bright light of love in the darkness. Watching your videos makes me feel like I have a missionary friend. It makes me see firsthand what a missionary's life is like and because of that I'm going to give what I can to your ministry. We give to the missionaries at our church but I'm still encouraged to do something for your ministry. Hearing about the $8 rent of your neighbors.... wow. I'm a SAHM mom and we budget like Dave Ramsey to survive but we paid more than that buying our 2 year old a Daniel Tiger action figure for Christmas. I'm sure you can use whatever we can send.
I live in the states with our 8 kiddos, 10 and under and sometimes get the question about them being deprived because they don’t have their own rooms, huge wardrobes, and every toy/device they could imagine. It actually breaks my heart that so many people think those things are essential for joyful living! ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Joy, listening to you over the last week since I cam across your channel, I have been so incredibly encouraged in my walk with the Lord, raising my children, homeschooling, being a wife, keeping my home, helping others, and being content. Thank you for sharing your thoughts here...your time spent making these videos was not in vain!
I’ve noticed that kids that are raised with simplicity and love turn out to be great human beings without the entitlement mentality that young people seem to be suffering of nowadays!!!
Joy, what words of life you have spoken. We are too focused on material goods as the measure of enjoyment. What a blessing to be able to live simply in order to give to others and built for eternity. Thank you for speaking out.
Hi Joy, big hug for you. Don't mind what people said , you are great mother and your children absolutely not deprived. My child used to be spoiled princess ( she always got what her finger point to ) but since we start frugal living. Her personality change, she become more respect , grateful and responsible. We start to spend more family time together rather than before , so frugal life is amazing if you really want to have " real family".
Yes! You are such an inspiration. Thank you for sharing your wisdom :) God Bless you & your beautiful family. Thank you for doing what one day we hope to do.
I have experienced in some children that if they are loved and live minimally and spend time together turn out better than those that can have what they want but the parents are too busy to give them simple experiences. I love your videos ☺
I love this video! Your videos are so inspiring. I have always thought teaching our kids to be grateful is one of the best things we can teach them. Great job mama! Your children are getting some of the best experiences our world has to offer! Much love to you and your family!! 💕
So much yes! I'm still in the phase of parenting where I let others opinions get in my head and make me second guess what I think. I love that you were able to lovingly speak truth ❤
Yessss truth I love this video. We are so blessed by the Lord it's crazy. Your kids are being taught beautiful values and morals and I am sure they are extremely smart and guided by God. Awesome response 🤗
I have to agree with the other commenters, your kids don't sound deprived at all. Several years ago we moved into a small (for American standards) older home. We explained that we wanted to be able to save money, pay off debt. One day one of our boys said something about us being poor. (We lived in a lower income neighborhood.) We had a heart to heart talk with each of them about how poverty was as much a mindset as a standard of living. We explained that we were making certain choices to live a certain way for a period of time so that we could make other choices with our income. In those four + years, our boys have been on a family mission trip to Arizona, the oldest has been to Seattle on 2 mission trips. They have been individually to Mexico (3 of them), The Gambia (2 of them), and Panama. This year two will go to Panama and Peru. These were all trips that they worked and raised money for and have been life-changing. We made the choice to live a certain way so that we could invest in things that had eternal significance. I will never regret those 4 + years in that small house. God reminded me continually that while we were cramped at times, we had a solid roof over our head, heat and air, and clean water. Those are things that we can take for granted so easily in the states. At the end of the time, God provided us with a wonderful home that we are able to use for different ministry opportunities. We have more space and that is now a sweet blessing that I wouldn't have appreciated that if I hadn't had the past 4 years.
We didn't eat out when I was a kid. We went through a season in my own home, where we didn't have much, financially. What our kids "lacked" in terms of activities, they gained in quality time together as a family. I have young adults now, and not having money to do all the activities and go to all the places and do all the things has not deprived them in the least. They are incredible young people: competent, compassionate, servant-hearted, mature, reliable. They're just fine.
I am so glad and thankful I came across you today, I have been feeling so corned with everything these days and I really needed to hear every word you said in this video xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxox
Your videos are always such a wonderful reality check. You've helped me change.my perspective on possessions and living simply. I'm really making an effort to use up what I have before buying more. I'm currently working on turning a whole box of fabric I've hoarded away for years into new work dresses rather than just buying something totally new whilst that fabric just collect dust. You also inspire me to find ways I can help in my own community.
Such a good reminder. We're Church planters, and have a tight budget. I'll admit it's easy to feel like we aren't giving our kids enough experiences (eating out, music lessons, gymnastics, and fancy family vacations). Last week I was looking through pictures, and was reminded how truly blessed we are. It doesn't take money to make special memories. Praying your adoption goes smoothly! One of my two girls came through miracle of adoption, and I'm hoping/praying to adopt again!
Aw! I love this. I always gain perspective when I go back and look at photos and memories of the times we spent together. It is so good to do. It sounds like you are doing an amazing job at parenting. And how special that one of your littles came through adoption. I love adoption and thanks for prayers about ours!
Joy Forney Wow! Your Indonesian is very good! I'm impressed 😃. Saya tinggal di Serpong, Banten Jawa Barat. Gado gado is my favorite, too. Kapan kapan datang lagi ke Indonesia ya 😊
Thank you for sharing. I agree that our children are not deprived through simple living. Money can't buy contentment; contentment comes from the thankfulness of the heart. ☺
I can't say enough Amens for this post. Great job. You communicated simple living so sweetly without judgement for those who don't feel the same conviction, but also full of encouragement who do feel Jesus calling them to a life of simplicity. Heading to Uganda in May. Can't wait to be back in my second home. My oldest 2 kiddos are coming with me again this year. We make them pay for their own trip so I was super excited when they both said, "Yeah, Mom, I'm going." They worked hard, saved much, said no, and because of this will be in tow with me when I come. Love and hugs.
Lovely video! I think the BEST give you can give your kids is the awareness that they dont need "stuff" to be happy - i think you're a great Mom. Also, could you please, please post your rice and beans recipe?
Thank you for your kind words! I really appreciate it. I still plan to make a video about my beans and rice but in the meantime, here are my two go to beans and rice recipes: www.oursundaycafe.com/2016/06/carribean-rice-and-beans.html and this one: www.culinaryhill.com/chipotle-black-beans-copycat/ I use chili powder and taco seasoning instead of adobo in the last one. Enjoy!
Being frugal makes kids more appreciate. I just had an interesting experience where I helped cater a wedding. After, the cater was tired and threatened to throw away the leftovers if no one took them home from the kitchen staff. People took the big things but we're not taking things like mashed potatoes and couscous from a salad because their kids wouldn't eat it. I took those things. My kids were so appreciative. It was like Christmas. Being frugal undoes pickiness. We were grateful for the food
Glad you are back! We raised our kids simply so that we could send hubby back to uni to become a teacher and to send our kids to a Christiab school. It is interesting to me that they are all well and know how to make due and are content with their lot in life! I was brought up simply and my hubby remarks about how content I am with our life style! We have a nicer life than I did and have been able to give our kids things like piano lessons. Though they are all in their 20's now, we still have educational dollars that they can access and our married daughter has been very appreciative of the chance to better herself without it negativ vely impacting their budget as they are just starting out! 2/3 thrift and do clothes swaps and get quite a kick out of it! It's perspective! You Go Joy! You 're on the right track! xo
I loved this video... what is important in a child’s life or anyone’s life is love - not the material things. Your video was such a great reminder of this!
Wow, such a great video. Thank you, Joy! Besides the great message, I love the mentions of Guess jeans (my parents wouldn't buy them for me either) and the Sizzler (yes to the buffet!). Keep posting. You inspire me to be a better person, wife and mom.
Your kids are blessed and your wisdom and love for others bless many! I love your channel! Love and blessings to you and your family from the North East of Scotland ❤️
My mom always had this quote hanging in our home, "Tis a gift to live simply that others may simply live." My parents' example still impacts my thoughts and choices, today.
So happy to see a new video! I feel so encouraged after listening to this! As a single mom I have to be very frugal and know that sometimes my kids may not have as much as others. This brought tears to my eyes. It's all about perspective! Thank you for reminding me of that! I'm looking forward to more videos on simple living! You inspire me!
*Joy I am so thankful for your channel, it continues to be a blessing to my life and speak wisdom and peace whenever I watch your videos! I was thinking of this recently, because I want to lead this life but I have thought that my husband or children might feel "deprived" if I live the mission life. But ultimately it's in God's hands and a life without some "first world" items will not make your kids hate their life, if anything it'll save health problems and heart problems down the road. Also, I grew up similarly to you and I love camping, I can't wait to take my kids camping and swimming and let them go longboarding and climb trees.*
Good thoughts. Yes, I think that wherever God calls us to, He always provides what we need, and He is faithful to walk with us wherever it is!! Long boarding sounds really fun! :) Much love.
Thanks Joy. A great reminder to be thankful. You bring such a great perspective from Uganda into our western thinking and living. Living in Uganda and other places like that have changed me so much.Love from Berlin/Germany
It is a joy to see you making videos again. The way God is using you and your family to bless others is so encouraging. We could all be much better stewards of what we have been given as you have so wisely indicated. Thank you Joy. May God continue to richly bless your ministry in Uganda. Peace of the Lord be with you always.
I can’t wait for my kids to get home from their (Christian) school (which is hard to provide sometimes-but a priority to us) and show them this video!!! Thank you for sharing your heart!!!
Aw Sara, that's a huge encouragement to me. Well done for making sacrifices for what you believe it, too. I truly treasure my years at the Christian school I attended {also at our church}. I did forget to mention that I went to public high school, which was a great foundation and then a great transition. :) I don't know if my parents would make the same choice now. I guess it depends on where you live and the public schools in your area! :) Much love.
Hello joy! Glad your back.. Thank you for sharing, You're such an inspiration.Please do more videos of your faith.. I love to hear that too ❤️ Good luck and more video to come. God bless 😊
I so appreciate your videos and the message that you bring. I also grew up in a very frugal household and I have the best memories - a childhood filled with love, imagination, adventure and lots of family. I never think back and wish that I had been given more material things - I had everything I needed! I reflect often on the video that you made about how much a person really needs to survive. It is so easy to get sidetracked and caught up in the need to have "stuff" but the "stuff" is really not what is important. Thank you so much!
What a wonderful video, Joy. Thank you for the respectful, kind, and loving answer to remind all of us about how blessed we truly are. Your channel is such an encouragement to me! I'm thankful that someone was willing to post a tough question and that you were willing and able to answer with grace.
Hi! joy, I just wanted to say, I think it's great, the way you guys are raising your kids. Their getting to see parts of the world and be involved with all the cultural learning. You see, I'm a teacher and I know how important it is for kids to learn about other countries. How much better is the learning and growing when kids are immersed in the environment. They get to actually see a Lion in it's environment and not just at a zoo. Personally, I don't think your kids are deprived at all, if anything their blessed. By the way My daughter's name is Joy. Many blessing to your family... Peace be with you.
Thanks for this lovely comment! Thank you for teaching kids and raising up the next generation. You have a great perspective and we need teachers like you!!!
Happy to see you are making new videos! I think in Uganda it is easy for your kids to be grateful for the basic things they have. Here in America, with the extravagance on TV and people showing off on social media it is a different story. My friends who have older kids are already saying their kids are complaining because they want a new iPhone or they want Hollister clothes or the family car is so embarrassing. I feel stressed out thinking about my girls saying things like that when they are older. And my husband is an immigrant from a third world country and he thinks American kids are so spoiled and doesn't want our kids to be like that. He already plans to have our family volunteer at homeless shelters when they are older so they understand how blessed we are.
You make a good point, Stefanie. There is added pressure in the States for sure. I do think it is possible to do what your husband says and give your kids a different track...not easy, but possible. I have seen some friends manoeuvre it very well. Again, not easy, but doable. And I might say, worth it. :) Much love!
Well said!!!! I love watching your videos :) You are so inspiring and I can't thank you enough for opening up and giving wise advice. Also, not sure if you already said but would you be willing to share how you and your husband decided to do mission work? I would love to hear your story on that :) Thanks again!!!!
Joy, I am so glad I stubbled upon your channel. I adore you! I am attracted to simple living for the extras it allows. Extra time with my kiddos, and my husband. Extra money to be able to bless other. Extra space and room to move and think. (clutter is noise, and it drives me crazy). Thank you for sharing your bit of the world with us. You are a blessing, and a breath of fresh air.
I LOVE beans and rice. A favourite meal definitely. You’re a gorgeous person Joy. My kids aren’t deprived at all here in Australia - but they could do with being a bit more deprived! Keep doing what you’re doing. P.S I just finished reading the frugalwoods too 😊🌺
Thank you Jane! Where do you live in Aus? I would love to come visit one day...my daughter's best friend is an Aussie. :) I'm almost done with Meet The Frugalwoods! I would have finished it earlier if I didn't have to read the library's pub version on my computer...my eyes are crossed from so much screen reading!
Thank you so much for this video and the encouragement! One of my BIGGEST struggles is not feeling like I’m doing enough for my kids or that I am depriving them. It is ridiculous because well... if the standard is eating out we eat out probably too much 🙈 But really I know deep down our kids are fine. But everything I hear or see people doing for their kids (lessons, vacations, play dates, elaborate birthday parties, etc) I feel guilt. And for us it isn’t necessarily that we can’t afford those things -we could definitely afford some of those things but I get overwhelmed by a super busy schedule and am a serious introvert so I don’t feel like I can keep up. I need to let go of the guilt as I know it is truly stealing my joy.
Oooh! I hear you about the overwhelmed with too many activities thing. I am in that same boat here, if you can believe it. I have to limit myself or I get overwhelmed! Anyway, I feel like that guilt is straight from the pit. You are giving your kids a great, stable, calm, loving childhood. What could be better than that?! I think there is a epidemic of busy in the States and I feel it strongly when I'm back there. There is really nothing wrong with not being busy! So take that weight off of your shoulders, girl! You are doing a great job and your kids will look back and remember just how much time they had with you! :) And as my oldest will graduate next year, I am reminded of how quick it does go....it's so nice to look back and remember all the time we spent together...not all the activities I drove him to. :)
Hey! I was wondering do you know Katie Davis Majors? She wrote a few books about her mission work in Uganda and I just thought you would love it if you haven’t yet read it! 😊
I would love to know your thoughts on a minimal wardrobe while transitioning through the postpatum/nursing phase. I would love to pare down but am uneasy not knowing what size I will be wearing in the future. Thanks!
I love this video. I have worked with women coming out of poverty in other countries and had the chance to visit them. It definitely gives me a different perspective on parenting when surrounded by the often competitive mentality of the west.
Love your videos Joy. I was wondering if their are any local ministries there that we can give to for those families there that need food and shelter. Thanks!
Thanks! Probably the one I recommend the most, because I've seen exactly what they do and how they use their money is DOORS {doorsministries.org}. They do an amazing job with caring for street kids...honestly, I am amazed at the work they do. :) How that helps!
We eat out a lot lately and honestly I feel like my kids are deprived because they are not getting as many homemade meals and are not learning to cook. Going out to eat is not necessarily a good thing.
this is the problem here in US. Homecooked meal is way healthier and better value... Dont let anyone look down on you. We dont know what we eat outside. Rich people loves eating at home the only thing is they have their own Chef.
The person that says you should take them out to eat may be in debt, and doesnt care what they spend, up to them but that's what happens unfortunately, you are doing a food thing, money is for keeping a roof over your head not to waste on eating out
Raise your kids how you want and dont make anyone make you feel guilty ! Your a great mom
Thanks for the great video Joy. My children grew up in a frugal home. They are now 30, 28 and 26. They laugh a lot about the way in which their father and I used to try and save money and make them aware of the plight of others around the world. I am proud to say that they are all now well adjusted adults with wonderful compassion for others. I completely believe that their frugal and thoughtful upbringing is the reason why.
Ohh my gosh. You made me cry. Your kids are so blessed to have parents like you and your husband. Hearing about the neighbor kids not having food made me cry. Your kids are blessed. They dont need luxury to be happy. Im glad you are able to help out the kids in needs. God keep blessing you.
I am an atheist and I subscribed to your channel because you are extremely wise. Your children are not deprived. Your children have seen the world and most importantly, they know that they are loved. That's all children need and really want. You and your husband are awesome parents. There are plenty of children out there who have the latest gadgets and go on extravagant vacations twice a year but they walk around like empty shells due to the lack of of love and attention from their parents and their unstable home life. Your children are rich! They have two loving parents living with them under the same roof! Your children have seen how 3/4 of the world's population actually live. I was born and raised in Vietnam until I was 7 years old and I have seen the poorest of the poor. This experience has shaped my life for the better. I think those who are well off in wealthier countries like America, Canada, the UK and etc have lost touch with reality. They are living in an overindulgence world. Your children don't need to go out for dinner! They don't need dessert after every meal. They don't need a basement full of toys. They need love. That's all. Joy, your children are rich! I just want to give you my perspective of a non God-fearing working mom of 3 kids 5 and under.
Hannah Fox SO well said!
What an amazing comment!!!!!
Such a great comment 😊
Hello Hannah. What a heartfelt and kind comment. I so appreciate your perspective and your kindness towards me. It sounds fascinating that you were raised in Vietnam when you were young. It sounds like you are the wise one! You are very eloquent in your writing, you should def write a blog if you don't already. Blessings!!
Oh my goodness! You hit the nail on the head!!!
Wow. What a reality check! Bless you and your family for helping those around you in need.
I needed to hear this today!!! Thank you soooo much for sharing!❤ Sometimes I feel guilty (and a little jealous) when I see my friends and neighbors buy expensive things or take their kids on expensive vacations, that we can't afford due to many issues that came our way! I always tell my husband and kids that we need to be grateful for what we have, that there are others doing worse than us...but it us hard, and kids don't always understand!😞...but, I know that God is in control...ALWAYS!🙏🙏🙏
Thanks so much for this video. We, here in the US, need this grounding message to counter all the junk we are fed on tv and other media. ♥️
I am really happy I found your channel, I grew up in Mexico in a small village and the simplest things bring the most happiness, I would play with mud making "cakes" with my cousins and those are memories that I will cherish forever. I am very grateful for what I have now and the place I am, sometimes because we live up to the expectations of others we forget what is important. Blessings!
When I was a child I only went once out for a meal, and yes, it was special, but meals at home were always good, and meals at big family gatherings were most special, those I remember most! ❤️❤️
You have a heart full of love and kindness! I love how your family gives to people who truly need it. You are a breath of fresh air!😍
God bless you!! This just brought me to tears. My grandfather was a janitor and a landscaper, my grandmother was a maid and I thought they were giants. My mother was a phone operator for Southern Bell (now AT&T) and my father was an electrician. I was always the kid that didn't give a lick about brand name clothes. I was a tomboy until I was 16. I was abused physically, emotionally, verbally and sexually. The only thing I wanted was love, stability and care.
We in the West have a corrupted view of life. You are an amazing woman doing exactly what God has called you to. Do we really think God is concerned about kids having "stuff" and going out to eat. lol No. The Father wants us to love each other. You are shining like a bright light of love in the darkness.
Watching your videos makes me feel like I have a missionary friend. It makes me see firsthand what a missionary's life is like and because of that I'm going to give what I can to your ministry. We give to the missionaries at our church but I'm still encouraged to do something for your ministry. Hearing about the $8 rent of your neighbors.... wow. I'm a SAHM mom and we budget like Dave Ramsey to survive but we paid more than that buying our 2 year old a Daniel Tiger action figure for Christmas. I'm sure you can use whatever we can send.
I live in the states with our 8 kiddos, 10 and under and sometimes get the question about them being deprived because they don’t have their own rooms, huge wardrobes, and every toy/device they could imagine. It actually breaks my heart that so many people think those things are essential for joyful living! ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Joy, listening to you over the last week since I cam across your channel, I have been so incredibly encouraged in my walk with the Lord, raising my children, homeschooling, being a wife, keeping my home, helping others, and being content. Thank you for sharing your thoughts here...your time spent making these videos was not in vain!
I’ve noticed that kids that are raised with simplicity and love turn out to be great human beings without the entitlement mentality that young people seem to be suffering of nowadays!!!
Good observation! I pray that my kids will grow into humble, grateful adults who love the Lord. :) Thanks for your comment!
Joy, what words of life you have spoken. We are too focused on material goods as the measure of enjoyment. What a blessing to be able to live simply in order to give to others and built for eternity. Thank you for speaking out.
Thank you so much for sharing! I just let my 14 year old watch this. So encouraging.
Glad to see you again! You are such an encouragment! I agree a frugal life is a blessing!
Hi Joy, big hug for you. Don't mind what people said , you are great mother and your children absolutely not deprived. My child used to be spoiled princess ( she always got what her finger point to ) but since we start frugal living. Her personality change, she become more respect , grateful and responsible. We start to spend more family time together rather than before , so frugal life is amazing if you really want to have " real family".
Yes! You are such an inspiration. Thank you for sharing your wisdom :) God Bless you & your beautiful family. Thank you for doing what one day we hope to do.
I think your giving your kids the dream life !!
I have experienced in some children that if they are loved and live minimally and spend time together turn out better than those that can have what they want but the parents are too busy to give them simple experiences.
I love your videos ☺
This is the best video on RUclips! Such a wonderful reminder! I am so glad I found your channel.
I love this video! Your videos are so inspiring. I have always thought teaching our kids to be grateful is one of the best things we can teach them. Great job mama! Your children are getting some of the best experiences our world has to offer! Much love to you and your family!! 💕
So much yes! I'm still in the phase of parenting where I let others opinions get in my head and make me second guess what I think. I love that you were able to lovingly speak truth ❤
Love your video! I lived the same way and when I get or have anything I am very grateful. God bless you!
Yessss truth I love this video. We are so blessed by the Lord it's crazy. Your kids are being taught beautiful values and morals and I am sure they are extremely smart and guided by God. Awesome response 🤗
May God bless you Joy, first time here today but I can see that you are a good hearted person. I do believe that love is free
I am just falling in LOVE with your channel!!!
There is so much more to life than eating out and spending money. You can be so creative with "fun" and "blessings". Great message!
Thanks Bethany. :)
Your children are not deprived! Keep being yourself and loving others! I enjoy your videos, thank you!
Thank you for your kind words. They are greatly appreciated.
I have to agree with the other commenters, your kids don't sound deprived at all. Several years ago we moved into a small (for American standards) older home. We explained that we wanted to be able to save money, pay off debt. One day one of our boys said something about us being poor. (We lived in a lower income neighborhood.) We had a heart to heart talk with each of them about how poverty was as much a mindset as a standard of living. We explained that we were making certain choices to live a certain way for a period of time so that we could make other choices with our income. In those four + years, our boys have been on a family mission trip to Arizona, the oldest has been to Seattle on 2 mission trips. They have been individually to Mexico (3 of them), The Gambia (2 of them), and Panama. This year two will go to Panama and Peru. These were all trips that they worked and raised money for and have been life-changing. We made the choice to live a certain way so that we could invest in things that had eternal significance. I will never regret those 4 + years in that small house. God reminded me continually that while we were cramped at times, we had a solid roof over our head, heat and air, and clean water. Those are things that we can take for granted so easily in the states. At the end of the time, God provided us with a wonderful home that we are able to use for different ministry opportunities. We have more space and that is now a sweet blessing that I wouldn't have appreciated that if I hadn't had the past 4 years.
Hi from Texas! Great video. Glad to see you back on here. 😘
We didn't eat out when I was a kid. We went through a season in my own home, where we didn't have much, financially. What our kids "lacked" in terms of activities, they gained in quality time together as a family. I have young adults now, and not having money to do all the activities and go to all the places and do all the things has not deprived them in the least. They are incredible young people: competent, compassionate, servant-hearted, mature, reliable. They're just fine.
I am so glad and thankful I came across you today, I have been feeling so corned with everything these days and I really needed to hear every word you said in this video xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxox
Excellent.
God bless you
Mrs.O
What a gorgeous channel, so glad I found you! Hope the adoption goes smoothly ❤️
Your videos are always such a wonderful reality check. You've helped me change.my perspective on possessions and living simply. I'm really making an effort to use up what I have before buying more. I'm currently working on turning a whole box of fabric I've hoarded away for years into new work dresses rather than just buying something totally new whilst that fabric just collect dust. You also inspire me to find ways I can help in my own community.
Beautifully said!!💕
Such a good reminder. We're Church planters, and have a tight budget. I'll admit it's easy to feel like we aren't giving our kids enough experiences (eating out, music lessons, gymnastics, and fancy family vacations). Last week I was looking through pictures, and was reminded how truly blessed we are. It doesn't take money to make special memories. Praying your adoption goes smoothly! One of my two girls came through miracle of adoption, and I'm hoping/praying to adopt again!
Aw! I love this. I always gain perspective when I go back and look at photos and memories of the times we spent together. It is so good to do. It sounds like you are doing an amazing job at parenting. And how special that one of your littles came through adoption. I love adoption and thanks for prayers about ours!
Thank you for your videos, Joy. You are an inspiration and I love all your vids. Please keep 'em coming. Love and blessings from Indonesia 💕
Di mana kamu tinggal di Indonesia?! Hati saya rindu sekali Indonesia kecuali makanan Indonesia.....gado-gado..... mmmmmm. :)
Joy Forney Wow! Your Indonesian is very good! I'm impressed 😃. Saya tinggal di Serpong, Banten Jawa Barat. Gado gado is my favorite, too. Kapan kapan datang lagi ke Indonesia ya 😊
Kami belajar bahasa Indonesia selama satu tahun di Bandung. :) Kami semua rindu kembali ke Indonesia, tapi saya tidak tahu kapan bisa datang lagi. :(
Saya doakan suatu hari kamu dan keluarga bisa datang lagi ke Indonesia 💕
Joy, I am so happy you are back on RUclips! I have missed watching your videos and your presence! You are such a light❤❤
Wow, Elizabeth, what a kind thing to say. Thank you so much
Thank you for sharing. I agree that our children are not deprived through simple living. Money can't buy contentment; contentment comes from the thankfulness of the heart. ☺
I can't say enough Amens for this post. Great job. You communicated simple living so sweetly without judgement for those who don't feel the same conviction, but also full of encouragement who do feel Jesus calling them to a life of simplicity. Heading to Uganda in May. Can't wait to be back in my second home. My oldest 2 kiddos are coming with me again this year. We make them pay for their own trip so I was super excited when they both said, "Yeah, Mom, I'm going." They worked hard, saved much, said no, and because of this will be in tow with me when I come. Love and hugs.
So glad you are posting videos again! They are a breath of fresh air.
Aw, thank you so much!!
Lovely video! I think the BEST give you can give your kids is the awareness that they dont need "stuff" to be happy - i think you're a great Mom. Also, could you please, please post your rice and beans recipe?
Thank you for your kind words! I really appreciate it. I still plan to make a video about my beans and rice but in the meantime, here are my two go to beans and rice recipes: www.oursundaycafe.com/2016/06/carribean-rice-and-beans.html and this one: www.culinaryhill.com/chipotle-black-beans-copycat/ I use chili powder and taco seasoning instead of adobo in the last one. Enjoy!
Beautiful! We live similar to you in ways
Blessed children NOT deprived !
Being frugal makes kids more appreciate. I just had an interesting experience where I helped cater a wedding. After, the cater was tired and threatened to throw away the leftovers if no one took them home from the kitchen staff. People took the big things but we're not taking things like mashed potatoes and couscous from a salad because their kids wouldn't eat it. I took those things. My kids were so appreciative. It was like Christmas. Being frugal undoes pickiness. We were grateful for the food
Being frugal undoes pickiness!!! YES! That is so true. Well done for bringing that home and better yet, for having kids who happily eat it!
Glad you are back! We raised our kids simply so that we could send hubby back to uni to become a teacher and to send our kids to a Christiab school. It is interesting to me that they are all well and know how to make due and are content with their lot in life! I was brought up simply and my hubby remarks about how content I am with our life style! We have a nicer life than I did and have been able to give our kids things like piano lessons. Though they are all in their 20's now, we still have educational dollars that they can access and our married daughter has been very appreciative of the chance to better herself without it negativ
vely impacting their budget as they are just starting out! 2/3 thrift and do clothes swaps and get quite a kick out of it! It's perspective! You Go Joy! You 're on the right track! xo
Best video & answer to some questions that I've heard in a while! :) Greetings from Romania
Thank you!! Hello in Romania! I would love to come visit one day!
I loved this video... what is important in a child’s life or anyone’s life is love - not the material things. Your video was such a great reminder of this!
You are doing an awesome job. I so miss homeschooling and the simple things in life.
Wow, such a great video. Thank you, Joy! Besides the great message, I love the mentions of Guess jeans (my parents wouldn't buy them for me either) and the Sizzler (yes to the buffet!). Keep posting. You inspire me to be a better person, wife and mom.
Your kids are blessed and your wisdom and love for others bless many! I love your channel! Love and blessings to you and your family from the North East of Scotland ❤️
Thank you so much. Waving at you in Scotland!
Hi from Portugal! Obrigada (thank you) for your videos, they are good reminders of what is hapenning in so many places, God bless you all!
Wow Portugal! Hi! Thank you so much for your kind words, Olivia.
What a great video, Joy! Perspective is EVERYTHING!❤
My mom always had this quote hanging in our home, "Tis a gift to live simply that others may simply live." My parents' example still impacts my thoughts and choices, today.
Thanks so much for this video Joy! I have missed seeing you and I pray for you daily❤️ love and blessings
Joy you have really warmed my heart today. I am tempted to come and do medical work in uganda, thank you xx
Thank you Joy! Such an uplifting and encouraging video.
You are so welcome!
So happy to see a new video! I feel so encouraged after listening to this! As a single mom I have to be very frugal and know that sometimes my kids may not have as much as others. This brought tears to my eyes. It's all about perspective! Thank you for reminding me of that! I'm looking forward to more videos on simple living! You inspire me!
*Joy I am so thankful for your channel, it continues to be a blessing to my life and speak wisdom and peace whenever I watch your videos! I was thinking of this recently, because I want to lead this life but I have thought that my husband or children might feel "deprived" if I live the mission life. But ultimately it's in God's hands and a life without some "first world" items will not make your kids hate their life, if anything it'll save health problems and heart problems down the road. Also, I grew up similarly to you and I love camping, I can't wait to take my kids camping and swimming and let them go longboarding and climb trees.*
Good thoughts. Yes, I think that wherever God calls us to, He always provides what we need, and He is faithful to walk with us wherever it is!! Long boarding sounds really fun! :) Much love.
Thanks Joy. A great reminder to be thankful. You bring such a great perspective from Uganda into our western thinking and living. Living in Uganda and other places like that have changed me so much.Love from Berlin/Germany
Thank you! Have you traveled a lot?! It sounds like you have. How interesting and exciting. I'd love to get to Germany one day. Blessings!
It is a joy to see you making videos again. The way God is using you and your family to bless others is so encouraging. We could all be much better stewards of what we have been given as you have so wisely indicated. Thank you Joy. May God continue to richly bless your ministry in Uganda. Peace of the Lord be with you always.
Thank you for your kind words. Joyce. So nice to see you here. :) Blessings to you!
I can’t wait for my kids to get home from their (Christian) school (which is hard to provide sometimes-but a priority to us) and show them this video!!! Thank you for sharing your heart!!!
Aw Sara, that's a huge encouragement to me. Well done for making sacrifices for what you believe it, too. I truly treasure my years at the Christian school I attended {also at our church}. I did forget to mention that I went to public high school, which was a great foundation and then a great transition. :) I don't know if my parents would make the same choice now. I guess it depends on where you live and the public schools in your area! :) Much love.
Amen!
Hello joy! Glad your back.. Thank you for sharing, You're such an inspiration.Please do more videos of your faith.. I love to hear that too ❤️ Good luck and more video to come. God bless 😊
Thanks! I do love to share about my faith, and I try to bring it out in every video! I hope to keep doing that. I thank you for being here!!!!
Very thanlful!
I so appreciate your videos and the message that you bring. I also grew up in a very frugal household and I have the best memories - a childhood filled with love, imagination, adventure and lots of family. I never think back and wish that I had been given more material things - I had everything I needed! I reflect often on the video that you made about how much a person really needs to survive. It is so easy to get sidetracked and caught up in the need to have "stuff" but the "stuff" is really not what is important. Thank you so much!
Yes! You said it so well. Looking back and having wonderful memories instead of stuff. So true! Thanks for this comment!
What a wonderful video, Joy. Thank you for the respectful, kind, and loving answer to remind all of us about how blessed we truly are. Your channel is such an encouragement to me! I'm thankful that someone was willing to post a tough question and that you were willing and able to answer with grace.
Hi Joy! So happy you’re back sharing. I would still love to see how you make your beans and rice.
~Lorice
I will put it on the list to do very soon! Thanks for asking!
What a blessing! Praying for you and your family ❤️
Thank you!
I LOVE this!!!!!!!!!!!!
Hi! joy, I just wanted to say, I think it's great, the way you guys are raising your kids. Their getting to see parts of the world and be involved with all the cultural learning. You see, I'm a teacher and I know how important it is for kids to learn about other countries. How much better is the learning and growing when kids are immersed in the environment. They get to actually see a Lion in it's environment and not just at a zoo. Personally, I don't think your kids are deprived at all, if anything their blessed. By the way My daughter's name is Joy. Many blessing to your family... Peace be with you.
Thanks for this lovely comment! Thank you for teaching kids and raising up the next generation. You have a great perspective and we need teachers like you!!!
Happy to see you are making new videos! I think in Uganda it is easy for your kids to be grateful for the basic things they have. Here in America, with the extravagance on TV and people showing off on social media it is a different story. My friends who have older kids are already saying their kids are complaining because they want a new iPhone or they want Hollister clothes or the family car is so embarrassing. I feel stressed out thinking about my girls saying things like that when they are older. And my husband is an immigrant from a third world country and he thinks American kids are so spoiled and doesn't want our kids to be like that. He already plans to have our family volunteer at homeless shelters when they are older so they understand how blessed we are.
You make a good point, Stefanie. There is added pressure in the States for sure. I do think it is possible to do what your husband says and give your kids a different track...not easy, but possible. I have seen some friends manoeuvre it very well. Again, not easy, but doable. And I might say, worth it. :) Much love!
Well said.
Well said!!!! I love watching your videos :) You are so inspiring and I can't thank you enough for opening up and giving wise advice. Also, not sure if you already said but would you be willing to share how you and your husband decided to do mission work? I would love to hear your story on that :) Thanks again!!!!
Joy, I am so glad I stubbled upon your channel. I adore you! I am attracted to simple living for the extras it allows. Extra time with my kiddos, and my husband. Extra money to be able to bless other. Extra space and room to move and think. (clutter is noise, and it drives me crazy). Thank you for sharing your bit of the world with us. You are a blessing, and a breath of fresh air.
Yes! The extras!!! You said it so eloquently. I am glad you are here, Helen. :)
I LOVE beans and rice. A favourite meal definitely. You’re a gorgeous person Joy. My kids aren’t deprived at all here in Australia - but they could do with being a bit more deprived! Keep doing what you’re doing. P.S I just finished reading the frugalwoods too 😊🌺
Thank you Jane! Where do you live in Aus? I would love to come visit one day...my daughter's best friend is an Aussie. :) I'm almost done with Meet The Frugalwoods! I would have finished it earlier if I didn't have to read the library's pub version on my computer...my eyes are crossed from so much screen reading!
Joy Forney Hi Joy! I’m in Perth, Western Australia 🇦🇺😊
Absolutely love this video Joy! You have such a great message, thanks so much for sharing!
You are welcome, Rachel!
Thank you so much for this video and the encouragement! One of my BIGGEST struggles is not feeling like I’m doing enough for my kids or that I am depriving them. It is ridiculous because well... if the standard is eating out we eat out probably too much 🙈 But really I know deep down our kids are fine. But everything I hear or see people doing for their kids (lessons, vacations, play dates, elaborate birthday parties, etc) I feel guilt. And for us it isn’t necessarily that we can’t afford those things -we could definitely afford some of those things but I get overwhelmed by a super busy schedule and am a serious introvert so I don’t feel like I can keep up. I need to let go of the guilt as I know it is truly stealing my joy.
Oooh! I hear you about the overwhelmed with too many activities thing. I am in that same boat here, if you can believe it. I have to limit myself or I get overwhelmed! Anyway, I feel like that guilt is straight from the pit. You are giving your kids a great, stable, calm, loving childhood. What could be better than that?! I think there is a epidemic of busy in the States and I feel it strongly when I'm back there. There is really nothing wrong with not being busy! So take that weight off of your shoulders, girl! You are doing a great job and your kids will look back and remember just how much time they had with you! :) And as my oldest will graduate next year, I am reminded of how quick it does go....it's so nice to look back and remember all the time we spent together...not all the activities I drove him to. :)
Joy Forney thank you so much for that encouragement! I needed that! ❤️❤️
I will join the other ladies in saying thank you for your videos!
You are so very welcome. It is truly my pleasure!
Yes! Thank you!
Hi Joy I have you and family on my prayer list I enjoy your youtube
Thank you Lauri. That means so much to me!
Hey! I was wondering do you know Katie Davis Majors? She wrote a few books about her mission work in Uganda and I just thought you would love it if you haven’t yet read it! 😊
Erin, I DO know her. She is a sweet woman, and I am privileged to know her. We have read both of her books and love them both. :)
I would love to know your thoughts on a minimal wardrobe while transitioning through the postpatum/nursing phase. I would love to pare down but am uneasy not knowing what size I will be wearing in the future. Thanks!
Very lovely video! I grew up the same way.
Thanks!
Thank you for making videos again!
You are so welcome! It is a great pleasure.
I love this video. I have worked with women coming out of poverty in other countries and had the chance to visit them. It definitely gives me a different perspective on parenting when surrounded by the often competitive mentality of the west.
Love your videos Joy. I was wondering if their are any local ministries there that we can give to for those families there that need food and shelter. Thanks!
Thanks! Probably the one I recommend the most, because I've seen exactly what they do and how they use their money is DOORS {doorsministries.org}. They do an amazing job with caring for street kids...honestly, I am amazed at the work they do. :) How that helps!
Joy Forney Thank you so much!!!
I love your videos Joy!!! Very uplifting and encouraging 😊. Can you please share your beans and rice recipe??
It is coming soon! I promise! :)
We eat out a lot lately and honestly I feel like my kids are deprived because they are not getting as many homemade meals and are not learning to cook. Going out to eat is not necessarily a good thing.
Thanck you ❤️❤️❤️
I love what you say on here, thanks!
You are so welcome!
this is the problem here in US. Homecooked meal is way healthier and better value... Dont let anyone look down on you. We dont know what we eat outside. Rich people loves eating at home the only thing is they have their own Chef.
The person that says you should take them out to eat may be in debt, and doesnt care what they spend, up to them but that's what happens unfortunately, you are doing a food thing, money is for keeping a roof over your head not to waste on eating out
Joy I have emailed you. I am begging to be able to send you some money to send a child to school or pay someone’s rent for a year. Is this possible?
Amen!