THINGS WOUNDED WOMEN DO WITHOUT REALIZING by RC Blakes

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  • Опубликовано: 17 окт 2024

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  • @RCBlakesJr.
    @RCBlakesJr.  3 года назад +549

    THANK YOU FOR LIKING AND SHARING. Help me to make this message go viral. It’s needed.

    • @brileeb5527
      @brileeb5527 3 года назад +21

      Oh man this is right on time. I’m that person. And I don’t know how to fix it. I don’t know how to handle good men. Who want to do good things for me. I don’t know how to accept things without feeling like I owe them something. And I can’t ask him for anything because of my pride. I also don’t know how to talk about how I feel. I don’t know how to express my needs without feeling uncomfortable and shutting down… please address this. Please 😭🤦🏼‍♀️♥️

    • @kelleybright3113
      @kelleybright3113 3 года назад +9

      Father thanku 4 the word

    • @pampeace2900
      @pampeace2900 3 года назад +11

      Thank you R.C Blakes😊

    • @NursingHubPro
      @NursingHubPro 3 года назад +7

      Thank you so much!

    • @lisaharris5473
      @lisaharris5473 3 года назад +10

      Thank you and Lisa for your Wisdom, helping me through this Divorce process and shedding light and Life on situations... n court now over 30 years, n my 40s, God will favor, and I will Love again...blessings 💙

  • @darlenebarrett9286
    @darlenebarrett9286 3 года назад +698

    Everyone talks about how hard it is to be in a toxic relationship, but nobody really talks about how hard it is to have a healthy relationship after so many toxic ones. Thank you for this!!

    • @johnene
      @johnene 2 года назад +6

      I agree 👏🏽

    • @jesstruth7
      @jesstruth7 2 года назад +4

      Wow. So DEEP!

    • @sunkissed179q
      @sunkissed179q 2 года назад +16

      I wholeheartedly agree. The longer I work on myself & have allowed someone good to & for me into my life, I'm beginning to think it may be more difficult to have someone good after the poisonous.

    • @lizwacharo4932
      @lizwacharo4932 2 года назад +16

      The healthiest relationship starts with the one you have with yourself! Find peace, love and joy from within first...the rest will follow

    • @philyjay7457
      @philyjay7457 2 года назад +2

      Very true

  • @beverlyorlando8040
    @beverlyorlando8040 3 года назад +844

    I left a 33 year marriage with a very emotionally and verbally abusive man. I fell totally apart after leaving. The pain was almost unbearable. 💔
    I prayed for God to guide me, teach me and heal me. It's been 9 months since I reluctantly walked away. The nightmares are no longer nightly, bursting into tears happens less often and by the Grace of God, my soul is beginning to heal. Time alone along with self examination, self care and learning the process of "letting go" have gotten me to this point. I send loving prayers up for those struggling in the process. May God give you the strength, the clarity and focus to heal your soul. 🙏

    • @jacquemarsh595
      @jacquemarsh595 3 года назад +22

      Sending you love and healing vibrations as you journey through the valley that leads to your promised place.💜

    • @lisaharris5473
      @lisaharris5473 3 года назад +26

      God got u, growing thru the situation too...lay it on the alter,and God will do the rest it ain't easy🙏 trust the process

    • @gigishair4u
      @gigishair4u 3 года назад +5

      🤗💗

    • @carolynjo2578
      @carolynjo2578 3 года назад +7

      Amen sis 🙏🏾💪🏾

    • @Dr.J1972
      @Dr.J1972 3 года назад +15

      Keep praying 🙏🏾my sister and YES, trust God's process. He doesn't make mistakes.

  • @jazzsoul1695
    @jazzsoul1695 3 года назад +743

    Some of the things broken women do are: 1) getting too connected to a man and having sex too soon, 2) believing in him too soon, 3) Lying to yourself about things getting better when hes just using you, 4) attracting even female friends who want to know your problems so they can put you down, 5) after you have all this weak disconnected energy, you feel so abandoned...then other people start abandoning you! 6) Possibly your own family may turn against you.
    How do I know this? I was that woman that believed in others more than myself.
    No more! Had to get away from lots of people. The Revd is very good at explaining how this happens. Our lives are very important with or without a relationship!

    • @d.y.h.w.
      @d.y.h.w. 3 года назад +4

      💔❤

    • @heide-raquelfuss5580
      @heide-raquelfuss5580 3 года назад +6

      🌱🙏🌱

    • @cydneymetz
      @cydneymetz 3 года назад +8

      Sending you love

    • @jazzsoul1695
      @jazzsoul1695 3 года назад +15

      @@cydneymetz Thanks! You too! These guys dont like it when you leave...they never thought we would!

    • @casandrayoung9728
      @casandrayoung9728 3 года назад +25

      You can make a man wait a whole, hell 2 year's, its even men in friend zone waiting years & years just to hit & quit. Waiting, this just makes the chase more intensifying to conquer. & then more crazier. . possessive. Time means nothing, go watch a lion stalk his prey.

  • @KrystleLaughter
    @KrystleLaughter 3 года назад +590

    This is so deep and on point. I married two toxic and abusive husbands. I didn’t realize that it was a lack of self-love and self-esteem that made me settle for such treatment. I’m free now with my children and I’m helping other women heal. Thank you!

    • @DoesItReallyMatter25
      @DoesItReallyMatter25 3 года назад +7

      Thank you for sharing your testimony! 💚

    • @louid8
      @louid8 3 года назад +4

      Thank you for sharing your testimony 💗

    • @karenmcgee1869
      @karenmcgee1869 3 года назад +5

      Amen! Thank GOD for your growth and healing.

    • @irenewokabi2158
      @irenewokabi2158 3 года назад +4

      Thank you 😊

    • @TiffanyDanielle7
      @TiffanyDanielle7 3 года назад +6

      Me too sis!! Thank God for growth and healing!!

  • @mzjaqi5991
    @mzjaqi5991 3 года назад +170

    "sometimes you have to let your heart break so your soul can heal" whewwww what a word 🙌🏾

    • @sunshyne1962
      @sunshyne1962 3 года назад +2

      That was definitely a word.

    • @Ghostdancer5789
      @Ghostdancer5789 2 года назад +5

      OMG!! that quote was so powerful and true to me, I literally gasped when I heard it!

    • @jeanetterodriguez9482
      @jeanetterodriguez9482 2 года назад +5

      This is so true. I have my own testimony

  • @avionnecooper7120
    @avionnecooper7120 3 года назад +138

    At this stage of my life I've just learnt to stay holding on to God & just leave men alone. God gives you that kind of settling peace that no human being can ever give.

    • @anndavis2920
      @anndavis2920 2 года назад

      And women. I am a single woman but many women are attracted to me for the wrong reasons. They believe its love but i believe its jealousy n hate. Im not lesbian n ive abstained from guys bc of their falseness n lies, so now ive got another battle to fight w/women crushing on me. Will the fakery ever stop? I just want to be alone n unbothered.

    • @zee_lolaj7382
      @zee_lolaj7382 2 года назад

      Amen!

  • @fre2254
    @fre2254 3 года назад +63

    “Once you know better you have to choose to do better”

  • @Miamisbeauty77
    @Miamisbeauty77 3 года назад +179

    I left a 3 year relationship that was manipulative, verbally abusive and he was a pathological liar. I look back and I am hurt that I accepted such treatment. It wasn't easy leaving because I didn't want to be "alone" but I realize now I have peace and clarity to be creative and the person that God has called me to be. Good riddance DRAMA!

    • @hawaiigirl8089
      @hawaiigirl8089 3 года назад +5

      Three years isn’t much!!! Dust him off your shoes 👠 & dance to success

    • @karenmcgee1869
      @karenmcgee1869 3 года назад +1

      Amen!

  • @kylielogan8771
    @kylielogan8771 3 года назад +266

    I wondered about my vulnerability and why I was attracting these covert narcissists, what you explained makes sense. I ve not dated for three years I get asked I say no, because it doesn’t feel right. I’m tired of being treated like an object. I have feelings I deserve respect ✊

    • @ceekays_adventures
      @ceekays_adventures 3 года назад +5

      I resonate with this comment

    • @ceekays_adventures
      @ceekays_adventures 3 года назад +2

      How were you able to say no?

    • @Floetryful
      @Floetryful 3 года назад +12

      I can understand that totally. I'm feeling like an object, a possession. I fight it but then get bored and find myself entertaining the madness. I'm giving up on going back to this same guy. Now I have to start over again. I was refraining from everything for over a year. I kick myself because it was soo not worth it!!

    • @kylielogan8771
      @kylielogan8771 3 года назад +12

      @@ceekays_adventures hi the healing process for this type of trauma covert narcissist abuse plus physical takes a while to get through. I find peace my dog and being by myself. I was only married three years and was lucky to get out sooner. I miss companionship but until I feel right with myself and my light can shine again I’m not going to attract the right man. In my new town I’ve experienced toxic men asking for a date and when I say no they don’t like it! So I’m staying firm and true to myself I deserve better and does everyone. Not my job to fix anyone except me with the lords help.

    • @amarisrania1585
      @amarisrania1585 3 года назад +11

      Kylie Logan - exactly!!! The rejected men can really intolerable. Another type of predator who expects they have rights to you and therefore you should not reject them. I get so tired of navigating them. Sometimes they find new and inventive ways of creating trouble for you, especially the workplace ones. So thankful society is having a go of recognising the workplace is not a place for this type of predator behaviour.

  • @martacataniciu9007
    @martacataniciu9007 3 года назад +398

    I just want to tell you how thankful I am for your obedience to God and for your ministry. I found your videos when I was broken, depressed and stuck in an unhealthy relationship. My life didn’t change overnight but you planted so many seeds that have now sprouted and bloomed all over my life. I am now in a healthy relationship with a beautiful, Godly man. We have both dedicated our lives and our relationship to Jesus. I never would have thought that I could get here from where I started. I am so grateful to GOD for using you to plant the seeds of His fruit in our lives and I pray for all the women watching to receive His blessings! ❤️✨

    • @mz.sophisticatedlady8398
      @mz.sophisticatedlady8398 3 года назад +18

      Beautiful testimony.

    • @ladyzinada5341
      @ladyzinada5341 3 года назад +11

      Amen. Glad God blessed you with a Man walking in his likeness.

    • @mw7882
      @mw7882 3 года назад +9

      I am so happy for you Sis. You are a beautiful child of God. You deserve nothing less. Congratulations.

    • @martacataniciu9007
      @martacataniciu9007 3 года назад +4

      @@mz.sophisticatedlady8398 thank you, love - GOD IS SO GOOD! 🥰❤️✨

    • @martacataniciu9007
      @martacataniciu9007 3 года назад +4

      @@mw7882 thank you sis - I never knew that until I found my identity in Him and His Word! 🌹✨

  • @jeanettafraklin6540
    @jeanettafraklin6540 3 года назад +33

    43 and still broken it’s time for me to heal Lord🙏🏽🙌🏽

    • @veronica2523
      @veronica2523 Год назад

      Same here I am 43 and need healing. Help us Lord🙏🏾

  • @susan8576
    @susan8576 3 года назад +45

    It's so sad, but I know that I've let myself go. I became so indifferent to love, life, my weight, makeup but recently I decided to quit dating for two years, pick up my life, work on my dreams and rebuild my relationship with Jesus. Thank you Bishop RC Blakes and Lady Lisa.❤

    • @kamekamoore3770
      @kamekamoore3770 3 года назад +2

      Ommmm😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍

    • @susan8576
      @susan8576 3 года назад +1

      @@kamekamoore3770 😍😍😍😍

    • @Mindsetolympics
      @Mindsetolympics 2 года назад

      Wow!!!

  • @victorinedempsey3969
    @victorinedempsey3969 3 года назад +37

    Take time to heal.
    James 1:4. Don't go from one to another relationship if you are not healed yet.

  • @MzBentluvsluv
    @MzBentluvsluv 3 года назад +146

    Found a great man and I knowwwwwwww, I got some work to do, Bc I ain’t letting this King go.

    • @opalmaytoday5625
      @opalmaytoday5625 3 года назад +11

      @ Mz. Bent I heard that! 👌🏽
      He always has good things to help us women, I’m glad I came across his RUclips.

    • @kelleybright3113
      @kelleybright3113 3 года назад +9

      U go queen u deserve the best

    • @d.y.h.w.
      @d.y.h.w. 3 года назад +3

      Same!

    • @anastasiast.pierre188
      @anastasiast.pierre188 3 года назад +1

      Awesome. God bless.

    • @MzBentluvsluv
      @MzBentluvsluv 3 года назад +2

      @@opalmaytoday5625 yes his content is extremely helpful

  • @authorangielynn
    @authorangielynn 3 месяца назад +3

    Everything he's saying is the truth and nothing but the truth! 😢 From a God healed woman ❤

  • @wandajohnson288
    @wandajohnson288 3 года назад +169

    Amen Pastor, cuz the WRONG MAN will reflect the kind of man you DON’T want. Women must be introspective and be in tuned with the Holy Spirit. I always tell GOD I want my husband to possess the attributes of HIM🙏🏿.

    • @evka24
      @evka24 3 года назад +3

      Interesting way to look at that

    • @juneelle370
      @juneelle370 3 года назад +8

      Yes 🙌 intuition (Creator’s whisper) not emotions for decision making in relationships! Emotions are filled with our own yearnings not the reality of the situation.

    • @lorettasibley9203
      @lorettasibley9203 2 года назад

      What you are saying is true I'm sitting here and knowing you are talking to me and nowi see my granddaughter doing the same thing and I can't same to get her to listen to you or me

  • @lindsay5348
    @lindsay5348 3 года назад +7

    Single at 57 And God is with me and I have never felt happier and at peace !!!🙏🙏🙏

  • @Mindsetolympics
    @Mindsetolympics 2 года назад +15

    “When your heart breaks, you allow room for your soul to heal.”

  • @cherylmcleod6088
    @cherylmcleod6088 3 года назад +183

    I maybe broken but God is putting the pieces back together.... I've taken any issues from my past out any partner friend family members... looking forward to these messages

    • @quantinajones2857
      @quantinajones2857 3 года назад +9

      God is going to give you a new mindset. He will also give you a new life....in Jesus name....Amen

    • @cherylmcleod6088
      @cherylmcleod6088 3 года назад +6

      @@quantinajones2857 I'm claiming that...thank you God bless you and ur family...🙏👼🙏👼peace blessings prosperity

    • @ericawhitfield7876
      @ericawhitfield7876 3 года назад +2

      "You're on top, and you're going higher."God has more in store for you." Pastor R.C. Blakes

  • @brittanyb5942
    @brittanyb5942 3 года назад +59

    I knew I had let myself go last year when our church took the youth to the pumpkin patch and all the other ladies had on their fall sweaters and cute boots yet I was there in a t-shirt, sweat pants and dirty tennis shoes. It was just another confirmation that I had to end the relationship I had been in for 10 yrs! It had completely drained me!

    • @Heyu7her3
      @Heyu7her3 2 года назад +3

      You actually had sensible clothes LOL who is wearing cute clothes to a farm?

    • @deegirl6994
      @deegirl6994 Год назад +1

      No, she meant she could have done so much better as per her styling taste. But due to the mental fog she went thrugh in her relationship, she wasnt able to think properly and wasnt able to take Care of herself. So she wore something that showed what she felt on her inside. I have been there many times and can totally understand her situation. It is sad but glad that its not too late and we are here and aware of it.

  • @BlvckIvy
    @BlvckIvy 3 года назад +92

    You can’t “turn” a real man into a savage if that’s not who he is. A real man is self determining and will not allow someone else to “shift” is mind. That’s a weak man. A real man will simply pray for a broken woman and move on.

    • @jctv7602
      @jctv7602 3 года назад +1

      AMEN AMEN AMEN....TELL THEM LIKE IT REALLY IS!

    • @gloriousjohnson1807
      @gloriousjohnson1807 3 года назад +1

      Come on somebody!😉🙏

    • @keylacmckemp1309
      @keylacmckemp1309 2 года назад +1

      I hope this statement of a real man is coming from a man. You would be surprised after being cheated on and misused what anybody can become.

    • @directedbyja
      @directedbyja 6 месяцев назад

      Sadly, this is untrue.

  • @mw7882
    @mw7882 3 года назад +60

    This one broke the mask and brought tears to my eyes because EVERY word is true. It is so terrible to feel enslaved by your thoughts long after the toxic relationship. You really don't know what is real anymore. Some "good men" can appear to be benevolent but they are there to exploit your pain too. A truly good man would walk away and not stay to mistreat you. Just like you can't change an abusive man into a good man. Society places too much weight on women to fix everything and everybody even when she isn't well.

    • @barbarabarnes4398
      @barbarabarnes4398 3 года назад +2

      But we as broken women put that burden on ourselves as well in an effort to heal ourselves by trying to heal someone else, to feel good about ourselves.

    • @authenticme5708
      @authenticme5708 2 года назад +3

      @@barbarabarnes4398 that's Codependency not from love. Just recently learned this! Free from codependency, finally.

    • @Heyu7her3
      @Heyu7her3 2 года назад

      @@barbarabarnes4398... because of how we are socially conditioned, aka society

  • @Sojourner_TruthBW44
    @Sojourner_TruthBW44 3 года назад +26

    Yessss our facial expressions are always misunderstood. I always look serious but I'm a thinker and always trying to figure out what God's plan is for me. Yessssss look good for myself. AMEN AMEN

  • @weathamorris4251
    @weathamorris4251 3 года назад +16

    Some of us do the opposite and hide ourselves from attachments being afraid of making the wrong decision and meeting the wrong people.

    • @cassandrafleming7123
      @cassandrafleming7123 2 года назад +1

      that is so true sometimes you been hurt so many times and been pissed off so much you guard your heart this girl I still got a barbed wire fence around my heart and I've been in the world for a while now that's okay you playing it safe girl don't have time for them kids game all right amen amen sister

  • @TheTrevifountain
    @TheTrevifountain Год назад +2

    “You don’t need a man, you need a therapist, a counselor”….. lol!! You bring so much joy and understanding to my heart.

  • @Alwaysprofessional1
    @Alwaysprofessional1 3 года назад +53

    Damn this is definitely something I can relate to. I have a new man and I will not let my past ruin this.

  • @donzellaharris709
    @donzellaharris709 Год назад +3

    STILL LEARNING AND HEALING IN 2023.

  • @vs0063
    @vs0063 3 года назад +27

    I am embracing the pain and using the pandemic to heal, staying clear of relationships - the ultimate in social distancing, focusing on my family, my spiritual and physical health, finances and well-being. When the time is right, opportunities for a healthy relationship will happen. I will be better for actually taking the time I need.

  • @simonekaren8613
    @simonekaren8613 3 года назад +8

    Everytime I listen to you, I say where was this man all my life to teach me. If I knew about you before I got married, I would be single now and loving it. But God is in control and I have found peace in this marriage Being a Jamaican our black men and women we need this.

  • @nursesrock4264
    @nursesrock4264 3 года назад +46

    When you said "She's afraid he's not real" OMG. My worst nightmare is to meet the man made for me and I start thinking hes too good to be true...

  • @IwillOfficiate
    @IwillOfficiate 3 года назад +24

    Thank you. I am happy to have truly healed over the last 5 yrs ive been living a celibate life. I may marry again whatever Gods WILL is but for now. Im just content

  • @butnowamfound
    @butnowamfound 3 года назад +31

    I’m on top and, by God’s grace, I’m going higher. God has more in store for me ❤️

  • @angiepeace4830
    @angiepeace4830 3 года назад +13

    From pain to bitterness!! I didn’t understand why I started becoming jealous and bitter about my ex when I was over it…but the situationship that I landed myself in, left me unsatisfied. Jesus be talking don’t he 😍 I ended that pseudo relationship last week and I have soooo much peace now😍😍

    • @smilingface4761
      @smilingface4761 3 года назад +5

      God is awesome. I have been there. I know about hurt however when God heals you,, the peace comes and the happiness too and that person that hurt you will become a faint memory. You may have just made room for your blessing also. God bless you sister😊🙏🙏

  • @gblancoofficial2791
    @gblancoofficial2791 3 года назад +70

    I definitely need this just got out of a 13 year toxic relationship I am wounded and often see myself is not good enough due to the mental abuse

    • @dalcox3250
      @dalcox3250 3 года назад +2

      Were you married for some of those years?

    • @kareemakare29
      @kareemakare29 3 года назад +4

      You're beautiful my dear

    • @debbiepatterson6365
      @debbiepatterson6365 3 года назад +6

      Listen to the message again. Get out a notepad and take some notes. Then pray, my sister. You are a child of the most high God. You are royalty. Head up, shoulders back. Hang in there Queen! God bless. 👑

    • @kristinakellogg1732
      @kristinakellogg1732 3 года назад +1

      @@debbiepatterson6365 Amen to this

    • @cloudydays6277
      @cloudydays6277 3 года назад +5

      You are beautiful. And worthwhile, never let any man disvalue you.

  • @Vicki1951
    @Vicki1951 3 года назад +103

    Oh my, dearest RC and Lisa, you helped more women than you can possibly imagine. You think you got yourself in trouble but it’s just the exact opposite. You come into our homes, speaking through the Holy Spirit and courageously speak truth. I have listened to many of your conversations and I have learned something each time that I did not realize at the age of 70 years young. I guess I could say that all my marriages and relationships were abusive. I’m healing and growing now while living alone. Have turned down a few men because I knew I wasn’t ready. I’m working on getting myself together before I can be the whole woman I was meant to be. Thank you for your conversations. God Bless you and Lisa. Much love to both of you.

    • @elissaryan2876
      @elissaryan2876 3 года назад

      dear Mr Blakes , I think younare W

    • @RCBlakesJr.
      @RCBlakesJr.  3 года назад +8

      Thank you. Your testimony has energized my heart. I know I’m on the right track.😊

    • @Vicki1951
      @Vicki1951 3 года назад +2

      @@RCBlakesJr. you are most welcome. But again, it is I that thank you for speaking truth as a loving servant of our Lord to women and men of all ages. Please share my thanks to your wonderful wife Lisa. Much love ❤️

    • @sunnyg5168
      @sunnyg5168 3 года назад +2

      Vicki you have inspired me today along with the Bishop!

    • @Vicki1951
      @Vicki1951 3 года назад

      @@sunnyg5168 my goodness, thank you, for your wonderful comment. I’m not where I want to be yet, but, I’m much better than I used to be. Wasn’t there a song that stated something familiar to that? Sunny, just keep on praying for your life, know that our Lord is listening, finding scripture to help along the way, and think of the blessings instead of the hurts, because that’s exactly what it’s all about. Having a full filled life without the world bringing you down and boy, is that easy now with everything going on around us.

  • @glossybossy7470
    @glossybossy7470 3 года назад +33

    The man that I love left me last year and I hope I don't seem foolish when I say that it was the best thing he, with his current emotional capacity, could have done for me. Through the process of having my heart broken I got to really get to work on healing my soul through healing old wounds and really looking at myself. I was wounded and he didn't deserve it, he was a good 'mild mannered' man. Unfortunately some lessons just can't be learned without heartbreak and self examination..but I can honestly say that while I'm sorry, I wouldn't change this experience and the growth it has afforded me.
    Thanks for another great video 🙏

    • @cmarp066
      @cmarp066 2 года назад

      This situation sounds similiar to mine.

  • @Freeasf
    @Freeasf 3 года назад +16

    WOW You hit it on the nail. "Shes afraid its not real"...Im glad that battle is over. Only a Godly man can have the patience to withstand that trail....not only because he loves you...but because he see truly can see you...when you cant

  • @staceyminor4122
    @staceyminor4122 3 года назад +55

    Amen! Taking a year 1/2 off just to be with myself and God has been the Best Blessing I've done for myself!

    • @sunshine9426
      @sunshine9426 3 года назад

      and IT'S IMPOSSIBLE 4 GOD 2 EVER LEAVE "ANY OF HIS CHILDREN!" P & S! 🙏🙏🙏😇😍🌞

  • @marilynndunn9703
    @marilynndunn9703 3 года назад +17

    I am going through a divorce right now, and I appreciate stumbling upon this message! Thank you Bishop for obeying God in this area of ministry! I am willing to heal and let God do a work with me, heal and deliver me completely. The last several relationships that I endured have traumatized me in the worse way. I will spend time loving myself, getting and staying in the presence of God, and I am in counseling. With all of this I am sure I will be ready, and wiser to know what is real, and what is a replication! In the mean time, I will love me, and I will wait on the one man that will love me as Christ love

  • @Ang_Nicole
    @Ang_Nicole 3 года назад +122

    Lord knows I need this message in my life right now, I already know it’s going to be a blessing 😩👏🏽

  • @wandarosser7365
    @wandarosser7365 3 года назад +27

    I’m a black woman coming from a Catholic upbringing, which has been a love/hate relationship. Thank you for making me feel welcome in your church lessons 🙏🏽🙏🏽

    • @christinetyler7186
      @christinetyler7186 2 года назад +2

      I’m a white woman and Catholic too, and I appreciate Rev Blakes talking about real life issues that women experience. I am learning so much from him at the age of 65 and when I am still grieving the passing of my husband ( who was Black) nine years ago. I wish Catholic priests could be this real with us. I thank Rev. R.C. Blakes for blessing my life at a time when I really need God’s help.

  • @Astrologcomedy
    @Astrologcomedy 3 года назад +73

    This is my favorite RUclips channel. Unmatched content - Thank you. You’re changing lives❤️🙏🏼

  • @seymorepencilart
    @seymorepencilart 3 года назад +7

    Love in such a way that the other person feels free.

  • @astrochld4103
    @astrochld4103 3 года назад +46

    33:50, wow. I’m speechless. I relate 100%. A very very good God fearing man came into my life and what Pastor Blake described in that time frame was my situation. I messed it up with him due to fear of it being too good to be true, I still have a lot of work to do. Thank you so much for this incredibly powerful message. Ladies, take notes. ❤️

    • @hullabaloo6797
      @hullabaloo6797 3 года назад +2

      Very refreshing to read a comment that doesn't bash or blame the man. Thank you for your honesty 😊🙏

  • @d.y.h.w.
    @d.y.h.w. 3 года назад +76

    Been with my husband for 16 years and I'm sure I need this. Depression is kicking my butt right now and I've been so snappy towards him. Will listen while I fold laundry. Thank you as always!

    • @tiarabrown5056
      @tiarabrown5056 3 года назад +9

      Praying peace unto your mind… trust GODS process.. he knows exactly what you need .. trust him to do what he has already orchestrated before the foundations of the earth… anything that your experiencing is not a surprise to GOD… it’s a surprise to us… he knows what is needed .. TRUST HIM!

    • @d.y.h.w.
      @d.y.h.w. 3 года назад +2

      @@tiarabrown5056 I appreciate that WORD! You made my night! 🥰

    • @cydneymetz
      @cydneymetz 3 года назад +3

      Hang in there sister. It’s worth the fight. Sending you love and prayers that you may have the strength you need in this time. It’s gonna get better. Don’t give up

    • @d.y.h.w.
      @d.y.h.w. 3 года назад

      @@cydneymetz Thank you! 😘☺

    • @kellythrash3154
      @kellythrash3154 3 года назад +1

      May God give you wisdom, discernment, and the peace that passes understanding.
      I read your post and felt led to pray for you. Not because I've got it all together (Lord knows I don't), but because I believe that it takes a special kind of bravery to be vulnerable in public, and God will bless you for this.
      I don't know you, but I love you as a sister in Christ. Praise the Lord for strong, beautiful women like you! You and yours will be blessed. Amen.

  • @juanitawilliams3127
    @juanitawilliams3127 3 года назад +12

    I'm on top and I'm going higher. God has more in store for me. Thank you🙌🏽

  • @darlenepetriestuddard7970
    @darlenepetriestuddard7970 2 года назад +4

    Your honest truths have brought me from broken consciousness
    to the realization that I was in love with a man who was NOT in love with me.
    Taught me to love myself enough to be
    Broken but not destroyed 😔
    Thank you

  • @aprilhiggins5197
    @aprilhiggins5197 3 года назад +88

    Every message I have heard from you has been edifying. I'm so looking forward to hearing what's next. Thank you Pastor RC Blakes Jr. God bless 🙌

  • @samanthapitts1910
    @samanthapitts1910 2 года назад +5

    Preach Pastor preach! Broken women have the tendency to corrupt good men. They choose men below their value because it gives the woman more control in the relationship by having the man depend on the woman. A healthy relationship means the man has his own free will & that is threatening to to a broken woman because the man can choose to leave. This sermon was enlightening!🙌🏾

  • @victorinedempsey3969
    @victorinedempsey3969 3 года назад +3

    You have to heal, let God heal your heart. There is good man out there.

  • @x.7773
    @x.7773 11 месяцев назад +2

    #3 “She deprives a good righteous man, of everything she freely gave to the wrong man“.
    This wise man is PREACHING ain’t he?!

  • @ffurtado2760
    @ffurtado2760 3 года назад +14

    Amen, I’m in the process of embracing and allowing God’s will to be done in my life.
    He wants my good!
    I’ve chased what I thought was for my good, ended up being my wound.

  • @erlinebaby2602
    @erlinebaby2602 3 года назад +5

    I was crying the whole time with watching this video, this is me all the way I didn’t realize I was this broken 😞. God help me

    • @MaryHudson-dt4gu
      @MaryHudson-dt4gu Год назад

      Recognizing you have a problem and you want the help is the first step toward getting the help you need. Great job❤👍

  • @elizabethnguyo2774
    @elizabethnguyo2774 3 года назад +6

    Abstaining from sex and taking a break from dating will create room for healing your brokenness and you will be whole again and even be able to look at the mistakes you made in the past

  • @emilyn7572
    @emilyn7572 3 года назад +8

    WOW 😳😳😳 Didn't realize how many of these was me. Explain why he left and won't give me the reason but was cool apologizing for how he left. I threw it all away and I didn't even know it. Well I know now all I can do is continue improving myself mind, body and soul. Improving my connection with God is my #1 priority. #2 is working on myself mind and body. That's all I'm focused on right now. What God has is store will be amazing. I'm excited; I'm hungry enough to wait.

  • @renart2548
    @renart2548 3 года назад +40

    The self awareness is real tonight. Thank you Pastor!! 🙌🏿

  • @lorraineluckett
    @lorraineluckett 2 года назад +2

    I'm finally free from this toxic marriage, looking to God to live a life that pleases Him!!!!

  • @StephaniRoberts
    @StephaniRoberts 3 года назад +11

    This is so beautifully delivered with raw honesty and tender understanding. I wept as I listened. I’ve been out of an abusive relationship for 7 years. I got pulled into traps twice since then. Both extremely short, thankfully. I’m deep in the healing and focused on my daughters, business, and helping other women like me to heal and adopt self care and healing from within spiritually and mentally over searching outside ourselves. I see so many of us boomerang back into dating without healing only to repeat the pattern. I Live what you said, “When your heart breaks your soul heals.” Amen. 🙏🏼 Allowing ourselves to feel the pain and heal is essential to releasing these patterns. Thank you for pointing out all the things we do that keep us stuck. 💛💛💛

  • @blessed7871
    @blessed7871 3 года назад +10

    I can relate 200% to this video as a women of experience at age 50 years. Healing and learning starts with introspection 🙏🏾

  • @leeredman7586
    @leeredman7586 3 года назад +15

    Thank you sir 🙏 🙏. I'm not there yet but, I'm healing. My mind is being renewed and, I'm changing little by little. Your teaching is a tremendous help in the process. God bless you 🙏 🙏 🙏

  • @Resolved2010FAMLEE
    @Resolved2010FAMLEE 3 года назад +29

    Healing is a topic & process that very few are able to relate and effectively articulate. Thank God for your- Issues of the / from your heart - teachings! You are a tremendous blessing and I love your ability to communicate on various levels. PROCESSING is no joke, but oh...so rewarding for every stage of life. Blessings!

    • @cassandrafleming7123
      @cassandrafleming7123 2 года назад

      that's true it's important to articulate some people don't know how to do that but I always give thanks to my heavenly father and my Earthly mother and father my mother was a teacher for many years girl when you got a teacher in the house you going to get it right you going to speak correct English my mother was an English major girl little to old child I have to doubt all of my eyes and cross all of my teeth and on today I respect her for that and my dad my father he spoke so Florence Deacon in the church always a leader on his job certainly a man of God so I've just learned to be tough and I'm glad you're late for a little Rara I'm too old for that you know you know what the old folks say all that ring Monroe yeah you have to be able to articulate and let me know okay this is our boundaries here is the line you crossed over this line to stop start talking crazy to me keep it moving boo keep it moving I'm not the one got to draw a line you got to set boundaries amen amen I love that gospel song I thank God that I just been blessed with this voice I like a lot of different music but gospel is certainly one of my favorites and I love that song I Need a healing for my soul amen every woman you got to heal baby stop being haunted by the past that's the devil trying to keep you bound keep on bringing back that old stuff tell them I don't want to hear that this is a new day I'm going to do it God's way and you don't even have to deviate from his word that it says what it means what it says amen amen

  • @101MizzBeautiful
    @101MizzBeautiful 3 года назад +22

    I'm on top n im going higher, God has more in store for me!❤

  • @Delfina-Zafira
    @Delfina-Zafira 3 года назад +14

    So true, my God!
    If a man is too nice to me, and don't keep me in some level of uncertainty, then I can't appreciate him.
    Like he is loosing his value if he fully wants me all the time. If he is emotionally unavailable-I get excited and proud if he shows me affection
    😢

    • @indriadrayton1132
      @indriadrayton1132 3 года назад +2

      I want to fully love, but that usually means he will switch up and become distant. So... I stay somewhat distant. That seems attractive to men.

    • @Delfina-Zafira
      @Delfina-Zafira 3 года назад +1

      @@indriadrayton1132 Good advice, thank you 💙 I will try, not sure how it will go... If I can distance myself when I naturally wouldn't

    • @trinap.8904
      @trinap.8904 2 года назад +1

      @@indriadrayton1132 sounds like he's emotionally unavailable

  • @lindabest3184
    @lindabest3184 3 года назад +3

    Oh my goodness, Bishop Blakes this message finds me @72 yrs young,I am positive that this Word was ordained for my hearing for this time, it's not a coincidence, or by chance but,by Devine purpose for others also,I praise God for the anointing on your life, and your wife's, Lady Lisa, thank you Father Yahweh for your Love, protection and grace towards us in Jesus name amen 🙌🏼🙌👑💜✝️.

  • @jimmyaoxamub9607
    @jimmyaoxamub9607 3 года назад +7

    Word.. Thank for sharing this video.
    Many women need to hear all of this, it's enough emotional abuse and we need more men to advicate this message consistently. Starting with our daughters. 🙏🏽🙏🏽

  • @tamars_hope
    @tamars_hope 3 года назад +16

    I’m on top and going Higher! God has more in store for me. 🙌🏼🙌🏼❤️❤️🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

    • @tamars_hope
      @tamars_hope 3 года назад

      @Veronica Watt For your Maker is your husband- the LORD Almighty is his name- the Holy One of Israel is your Redeemer; he is called the God of all the earth. Isaiah 54:5 (Read the whole Chapter) 🙏🏼❤️

  • @fishchicken4188
    @fishchicken4188 3 года назад +5

    I've been chasing relationships all my life and I have found nothing but hurt and pain I'm now 31 yrs of age and I'm through. What I never got all these years was true love and I lived for so long without a man loving me guess what I finally realized that I can live the rest of my life without a man loving me I've been doing it so well up until now so I just decided to continue without it.

  • @reneearmstead5116
    @reneearmstead5116 3 года назад +4

    I just hope that a lot of the men are listening to this sermon as well, I know myself I have been all that to my long-term relationships in my long-term relationships I'm well-spoken I know how to carry on a conversation I get along with his family his friends quite a few times it was him that was afraid of a good woman Soul Sisters and make sure they are worthy of us

  • @thelmadouglas8942
    @thelmadouglas8942 8 месяцев назад +1

    You are so right
    It comes a time you just have to stop
    And see what you’re doing to yourself and you have to intentionally seek God for your healing ❤

  • @vlmcghee5444
    @vlmcghee5444 3 года назад +8

    Thank you God for sending me exactly what I need to hear when I need it.

  • @Im_A_Vibe1029
    @Im_A_Vibe1029 3 года назад +7

    Amen Pastor Blake. I dont judge people by facial expression or at first glance demeanors. Just cause some is smiley and talkative does not mean they are a nice person, a good person or happy. Get to know someone by applying grace to first impressions and take time to get to know the heart; you would be surprise what gems are covered by crusty pebbles.

    • @keylacmckemp1309
      @keylacmckemp1309 2 года назад

      I am quite surprised at the amount of depressed people or people contemplating suicide who are so bubbly.

  • @RhondaR4
    @RhondaR4 3 года назад +4

    I want to feel wanted! I want what I see from others. A hug, someone to visit me, to feel some kind of support.
    I know I am strong because I’m still making it!
    It’s getting harder and I’m isolating until I want something that’s not good for me.
    I’m crying out because I need help.

  • @cprwarrior2440
    @cprwarrior2440 3 года назад +9

    I have been listening to you for several years, even more in the last few years! I have learned a lot and continue to grow! I thank God for you my dear Brother in Christ!
    May our Lord Bless you more!!! ✝️✝️✝️

  • @carolrichards8608
    @carolrichards8608 3 года назад +9

    This message pierced my heart ❤️ 💔❤️ I personally identify with this message as a married woman. Thank you for your wisdom - it speaks volumes

  • @erikamonihen8873
    @erikamonihen8873 3 года назад +17

    Self reflection and healing is so hard for me. I am very grateful for how delicately you hold up that mirror. Certain topics you cover call to me more than others. This one hit home straight down the list.
    It is not enough to know that hurt people, hurt people. It is good to know why and how we do that. I am not sure how to digest all of this right now, but I took all my notes.
    Blessings to you all! 🙏

  • @simonephanord4939
    @simonephanord4939 3 года назад +38

    Once you know better you have to do better.

    • @cassandrafleming7123
      @cassandrafleming7123 2 года назад

      amen once you learn better you do better it take you to sleep with a thousand men so you get it right baby please go get back on your medication please now they're doing it on their own they're not relying on the holy spirit for anything they just rely on themselves who don't do that wrong turn wrong decisions but God still love you but you got to love yourself

  • @ericabenning3797
    @ericabenning3797 3 года назад +26

    Blessings coming down...cover us Heavenly Father! Amen! Amen! Amen!

  • @annemarietaube6335
    @annemarietaube6335 3 года назад +6

    Thank you for putting things into perspective. I Needed to hear that. I was on a path to healing, excercising, reflecting, meditating, feeling good. Several men I know we're persistently asking me out, I gave in, went out, 1 man I focused on. After spending time together I learned he was married, it was horrible. I had abandoned myself, my much needed self reflection & spiritual growth I was thriving at, & chose a temporary fix with a stranger. I feel when we're raising ourselves up, something is set in front of us to throw us off our focus. Don't look it's way, look at that light that's there helping you. Because That light knows your worth, even when u dont agree. Don't give that dark any of ur energy, it only makes it stronger. u & that light working together, illuminates you & no one can help but admire that light.

    • @morganhill5798
      @morganhill5798 10 месяцев назад

      Isn’t that true you can get pulled back from all your work if not careful. 🙏🏻❤️

  • @joanfolds1724
    @joanfolds1724 2 года назад +1

    This is an excellent teaching about what wounded women do unconsciously. My late mother was deeply wounded. She emotionally and verbally abused my father as well as her children. She left a sad legacy when she passed away on 1/21/2007. I'm in the process of healing and recovering all that I lost from having a toxic mother.

    • @cassandrafleming7123
      @cassandrafleming7123 2 года назад +1

      she was just hurt Ms Joanne she was hurt calling her so many times in her past sometimes you just don't know how to deal with you don't have but she should have seen some Mental Health not do her children the same way she's been done that's just a generation of curses and thank God I pray and hope that you can heal from this she passed in 2007 God bless her soul she couldn't find peace on this Earth so I'm hoping that she's resting but you got to put in the work you can't run your child's life because you did so many stupid things and a lot of mothers do that

  • @jnettesteward6772
    @jnettesteward6772 3 года назад +8

    This lesson was so good that I had to listen to it twice!!! Preach pastor!!!🙏🏽

  • @never4saken165
    @never4saken165 3 года назад +6

    Pastor is on point. I'm that woman that's always misunderstood bc of my countenance, always. I'm amazed with your knowledge, it's unbelievable.

  • @rosewhaley
    @rosewhaley 3 года назад +4

    Thank you !!! I learned this 30 years ago and wrote 5 BOOKS. I LEARNED (STILL LEARNING) more about how to LOVE, BE WITH, and VALUE MY BEING/SELF. I LOVE EVERYONE, BUT NOT ATTACH to ANYONE or ANYTHING, I DON'T NEED ANYONE to LOVE me, I NOW FEEL NOTHING but DIVINE LOVE, PEACE, WHOLENESS, and JOY WITHIN MY BEING and ALL AROUND ME. PLEASE GODDESSES REMEMBER YOU ARE DIVINE LOVE, By PRIME-CREATOR/GOD LAW, and ORDER the RIGHT MEN WILL COME. (TAKES WHAT RESONANCE NOW WITH YOUR LEVEL of CONSCIOUSNESS. Some people read my BOOKS and DIDN'T do their DEEP INNER HEALING WORK YES it's PAINFUL etc... YOU MUST REALIZE YOU ARE DIVINELY COURAGEOUS, LOVING, and POWERFUL. LOVE YOU ALL!!!!!!!!!

  • @cicirirideedeefuntime7837
    @cicirirideedeefuntime7837 Год назад

    I love how he describes how we look doesn’t really reflect who we are inside. Unfortunately I know my face shows my pain but I try to show how kind and loving I am. I can’t help my face

  • @refuge46
    @refuge46 2 года назад +6

    Thank you for your diligence to heal the broken hearted through the teaching of the word and counseling.

  • @rhondawyatt398
    @rhondawyatt398 2 года назад +1

    Pain of loosing is so hard to get over for a sensitive women to get over , the tears flow like rain

  • @lovethildah7340
    @lovethildah7340 3 года назад +5

    I'm gonna be the best Version of me Now because I'm a Super Woman who is determined to reach the top🥰
    Thank you Dr.Blakes

  • @sharonanderson6926
    @sharonanderson6926 3 года назад +2

    I would like to thank you and the First Lady for helping us through this. We love you .

  • @shesonfire_
    @shesonfire_ 3 года назад +7

    I knew Bishop was gone mention ice cream! Lol. Thats his favorite thing to say when he talkin bout lettin yourself go..lol all jokes aside tho this video blessed me. The anointing is definitely on it. I experienced freedom just watching it once. Will repeat. 🙏🏾

  • @delnitap
    @delnitap 3 года назад +2

    After two years, God has truly healed me🙏🏽, this video is confirmation I’m truly healed and can accept willingly all the blessings God has to offer on Gods will.

  • @jewishbride5010
    @jewishbride5010 3 года назад +6

    I was wounded but I am not anymore, thank you for this insight, in accordance with james 1:14-15, 2 corinthians 6:14'18 ad this word, I loosen myself of every unequal yoke and common share with those with a wounded soul, in the name and blood of Jesus Christ, amen and hallelujah!

    • @JT-sc4ke
      @JT-sc4ke 2 года назад

      So noted and Amen!

  • @elliekmultimedia
    @elliekmultimedia 2 года назад +2

    Brought me to tears with this one because you were speaking directly to me!!!! Thank you for letting God use you pastor!!!!! The fact that can point all of these as generalizations of a wounded women, helps me understand that I AM NOT ALONE & there really is a whole nother side. There is hope that I can heal actually I will heal and am healing right now in this season.

  • @annaangela5975
    @annaangela5975 3 года назад +3

    Thank you Mr. RC Blakes for saving my life and giving me something to play 20 times in the next week thank you very much.

  • @pinsneedles7941
    @pinsneedles7941 3 года назад +14

    I've probably said this regarding his last live message but this was so awesome and so needed. Thank you

  • @charmekiawhite3633
    @charmekiawhite3633 3 года назад +6

    Thank you for sharing that knowledgeable message. God said draw nigh to me and I shall draw nigh to you. Following close to God who helps you discern the spirit of deception. God said, "we must be wise as serpents and harmless as a dove" Well needed to hear this. Thanks very inspiring.

  • @joanholley8547
    @joanholley8547 3 года назад +12

    Pastor Blakes... I simply thank you for sharing that annointed message. May God continue to bless you and Lady Lisa in a mighty way.💖

  • @Unfold818
    @Unfold818 Год назад

    You are the father my dad could never be. You have brought me back to myself, to God, to an inner home I always knew was there. Through your passion and words I have felt so much inner peace and a sense of direction in my life after a painful divorce. Thank you, thank you, thank you. You are constantly in my ears.

  • @Pursuit4happiness
    @Pursuit4happiness 3 года назад +9

    Lol my face when he says you have to let your heart break for your soul to heal lol

  • @charleslawrence7309
    @charleslawrence7309 2 года назад +1

    Mr Blake's Jr. My wife of 8 years referred me to your vidio and frankly, I did so reluctantly! My reaction; this abusive woman is going to refer me to someone who's going to tell me I'm responsible for everything that worries her activates her fear etc. I listened anyway! Brother, I'm glad I did! My bride said Blake's is describing me! I'm drawn away now. But I will return and finish listening. I intend to get a copy and buy the book! Thanks! God bless you!

  • @deepdiveconversationskamil8116
    @deepdiveconversationskamil8116 3 года назад +11

    So profound! So accurate! Thank you for your knowledge, always!