“I Left The Non-Binary Cult” : Bisexual Exposes Queer Brainwashing
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- Опубликовано: 11 ноя 2023
- Ex Non-Binary speaks about college, woke students and leaving the left.
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Just a reminder that "walking on eggshells" is what abusers make you do
Also, threatened to "ki11 themselves" is a tactic that many abusers use.
It's also a common symptom for individuals on the Cluster B personality disorder spectrum: "MY feelings are more important than yours. You have to do everything you can to make ME feel validated. So let me undress in front of you, take your clothes off with me and prove to me that you are not a bigot!"
But it doesn't end there:
"If you refuse sex with me, you are a bigot!"
@@ElanaVital83 OH well done! And that's exactly how they destroyed the lesbian community, they still deny it though
THIS!!!!
@cupidcopia or not. I object to your movement
When you declare yourself non binary you create two classes of human, the non binary and the binary, which creates a binary, making you binary again.
Its like trying to not put yourself in a box by putting yourself in a box.
THIS!!!
It's good to know who to stay away from. We don't need all their drama baggage, unhealed traumas and the desire to be the center of attention all the time.
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IKR funny how that works ⭕️
Two years ago my niece brought her college friends over to swim. Of course they all were non-binary with a bunch of pronouns. Of course they were all paired off in heterosexual pairs. Now they are all graduated. Of course now all are straight and using correct pronouns.
I worry about my niece. She's currently a junior in a woke high school, and she's looking into colleges. She's a soft-spoken, shy girl as it is and I worry about her being sucked into all of this bull.
good for them lol
Sounds like they had some fun playing games acting (LARPing) as their personally-created personas then.
I did D&D with my friends, and met a group who kept the HEMA club at the university alive. Another roommate I had was into anime and went to cons, their outfits were amazing. I think I once met a furry? Didn't confirm it, and it could very well have been in jest.
Someone please tell me how pronouns and playing around with gender expression is any different than the above examples.
@@jewels.06 Not really. They still come over to swim. I screw with them non stop. Put their pics up as a slideshow in every screen in the house. That will teach them to try to school me on the proper use of preferred pronouns.
@@bonagrad92 My niece and her boyfriend (now husband) didn't fall into that trap. So there is hope.
My personal trainer is a gay woman. She presents as very masculine. Male clothing, deep voice, etc. She is beloved by all her clients. She also owns a large horse rescue operation. So glad no one ever told her she should be a man. To me she is a fantastic woman.
Butch lesbians are a rarity now☹️
Exactly! It's great this lady has just been what she is! A beautiful, strong, big, butch lesbian! She doesn't need to be 'explained' or 'diagnosed' or 'labelled' and then fixed and turned into something she isn't but told she's a man. Its OK to be gay, straight or trans but it's not OK to demand people pretend you really can change gender and may invade womens spaces, sports and trample all over womens rights.
@@sparagmos4748you know things gone sideways when gays and lesbians have to run to straight people for a normal convo
@@sparagmos4748butches are more masculine than many trans ‘men’
@@vvvnokk8309 I've noticed that ! 😏
I have some non binary coworkers. Most of us are afraid to talk to them because we don’t want to step in an HR land mine if we use the wrong pronouns. It’s crazy, and we are bigots if we say anything publicly.
So it is just better to be silent and allow it to grow
It's like they are the one who opress people who do not play their game :)
Liberalism, is based on religion. The Quakers to be exact. They were also kicked out of England during the Protestant reformation for being insufferable religious extremists. The first evangelicals.
The Quakers started the schools and wrote themselves out.
These people think they are superior for having morality without God. But it was a religious platform given to them.
They just replaced faith in God with faith in institutions.
They are proselytizing.
That is why when you win an argument, they call you a nazi and run. You are challenging religious dogma.
All the institutions have to do is declare someone is oppressed and the go apostolic.
Look up the history of the Quakers. It will help you deconstruct them.
exactly . for me ijust dnt waste my breath TRYINto "fight" people who are just adimantly🙉
but yes .people with common sense have said *THEY* ARE the ones who ARE the ones who opress and
idk man, i'm nb and i don't talk abt it at all or care what pronouns ppl use
Work with a non-binary and literally her entire personality is “I’m so queer! This person called me a girl and I need to educate! Someone called me sir earlier and it’s so queer!” It’s actually grating 🤦♀️
All of them are like that, it's exhausting
“I need to educate” that’s says it all. It’s just about asserting power over others and forcing them to comply with their delusional beliefs
They are exhausting, I’m so sick of the they/ them bullshit.
@@LeonM4c let's keep saying what we all know that there's no such thing as non binary especially if you grew up in the 90s when all this gender ideology wasn't around.
Non binary and queer people who think everything revolves around sex and gender are like. Granted not every person who is homosexual or bi is like that. You can be homosexual and not be queer like Arielle here.
When Kiyah talks about her fellow science students buying into gender-spectrum nonsense, that tells me the quality of science education is in decline. None of this nonsense would have passed muster with my professors when I was studying psychology.
As a biology major in college this gender crap would not have been tolerated either and this is in the early 2000 before some Idiot comes and calls me Boomer.
@@gissellest333 I graduated with a BS in physics in 2019. We got none of this gender/pronoun crap.
@@gissellest333Same, can confirm this, biology student in early 2000‘s! too!!
@@gissellest333 That's fascinating. I went back to school midlife, and I finished my degree in psychology in 2013. Even at that late date, things hadn't gone completely insane.
I feel like I graduated just in time :/ 2018, stem degree, there was not one whisper of this stuff... Well, I had one acquaintance that started identifying as NB in like '15 or '16 but we collectively rolled our eyes... and we were a very liberal gay/bi/ally bunch.
Made a "non binary" have a melt down when I told her she was a tomboy with extra steps. Mind this was after she tried telling me I was too and I refused to accept her statement. Sweety tomboy are real.
Good for you. They was in the wrong. It’s rude to assume someone’s pronouns. 😂😂😂
That girl definetly has some underlying mental issues, they all do
These people need more melt downs. This way they might actually get to realise that it´s all BS.
Tomboys are real, and awesome.
@lurkingllama8364 yes we are!
I get gay & trans but when we get into the nonbinary is when I'm lost. It's okay to be a manly woman or girly boy & be straight (or gay or bi) 🤷🏾♀️ I don't like when ppl make their "label" their whole personality
Bro same!
It really is pushing gender stereotypes further into place too. Like if you’re a girl that doesn’t like makeup or likes to wear her hair short that all of a sudden makes you not a girl? Or if you’re a boy that likes to wear makeup and paint his nails, you must not be a boy and must be something in between? No… you’re just a girl that doesn’t like makeup or a boy that does like makeup. I hate how womanhood has been boiled down to these arbitrary things like makeup and hair. Being a woman or being a man is so much deeper than that.
I am okay with trans, until they in insist they are not the sex they were born. Transwomen may feel more comfortable dressing as, and being perceived as a woman, but they aren’t female and never can be and they don’t need to be let into all women’s spaces.
hey i can speak to this. i have the physical dysphoria but it's like "half". it's only certain things, it's not all of my sexed characteristics
Yep.
She confirms what a lot of have been thinking, just how exhausting it is to be involved with this group on a daily basis. A full-time commitment to this lifestyle seems to be mandatory.
idk, i'm nb and rarely think or talk about it unless someone asks.
@@SpecialBlanket I think that's the difference between simply being something and being 2SLGBTQIA++++. One is simply a truth about a part of your self, and the other _is_ your entire self.
It is absolutely not exhausting. I'm a trans women nor within this affirmation cult bullshit. There are sane trans people out there. Lost of us are just too scared to speak out.
I’m non binary and I don’t make it my entire personality not every non binary person is like that
I think using the term nonbinary to deny the binary gender is a contradiction. you are defining yourself by what you' re trying negate, reinforcing binary gender stereotypes in the process
I can't take non-binary seriously. All I have seen is these non-binary folks trying to claim trans status while being difficult with their pronouns. It's not surprising why people find them annoying and unpleasant.
Exactly! They're hypocritical af.
@@ipaziamercury9942I don't think they are being consciously hypocritical - I don't think they think beyond what they think makes them cool and 'interesting'🙄
@@sparagmos4748yeah its just a trend tbh. This wasnt happening 10 years ago.
As a tomboy (which i feel are an endangered species at this point) these people mess things up for us too. I get mistaken for a dude sometimes. Sometimes people think im trans. I dont care. The only problem i have is when people mistake me for genderqueer/nonbinary, because when people think that they treat you like an alien and walk on eggshells just based on an assumption; i dont blame them for assuming but its irritating that the 'normal' gender nonconforming people get lumped in with the weirdos and have to suffer the consequences. I think the nonbinary project has caused a huge backslide in public opinion for both gay and trans people. Hopefully all these mfs grow out of it and some day we can all just do what we want without putting a label on it
I still don't believe in trans as it's shown today.
I don't see how they a transitioning from one to the other when I will always see it as the two sexes. If we were talking about intersex people/ truly someone with both sexes, that would be a different story, but those people got pushed to the side because of "gender".
To me, I do not have a gender if gender is "inner self"
I can identify that I'm female because the only thing female about me is my sex just like I can identify that I'm a human instead of a cat based on what those words mean. I find it obsurd that I can't even communicate what I mean by the words anymore because there's been a barrier in language and understanding. Or people are flat out dissociating from themselves based on bad experiences they've had whether its trauma or feeling restricted by expectations on the sexes.
Same, I still struggle with old friends (in my friend group but I don't engage with them) thinking "I'm in denial of my identity" after I came out as genderfuild. But in reality, i was mentally unwell and full of trama. Its awful how these leftist views can really frick up someone when they are mentally unwell, I almost transitioned. I was just in the wrong crowd and just liked wearing men's clothing. I've always been a tomboy and got confused. Can't stand when people see me in public and just use they/them pronouns because they are scared of misgendering a masculine presenting woman. It's sad that this is what we've come to.
I find a dose of masculinity in a woman sexy.
Gay liberation has been captured by "the Authorities"
We are now being forced into a world of Hetro'normative Fascism.
Shhiiiii i feel you. I’m an alt/goth boy that sometimes wears makeup and has a high pitched voice and people like to mistake me for other things even though I’m just a boy and I’m straight.
I am pretty sure that when we follow up with these kids in 10 years…..the VAST majority of these folks will be back to being regular old normal men, women, whether gay, straight or bisexual.
As long as these "Dr. Frankenstein" mad scientists leave the kids alone.
Except for the ones who unfortunately got butchered when gender dysphoria was projected unto them. Sadly they will never regain what they deserved to live as normal.
Exactly.
94% of them yes. The other 6% will just need a firmware update. Like a new *thing* on Twitter to care about.
Honestly...all the non binary I have ever met, were straight people. Also, 100% white, with ordinary lives and families (80% married straight parents), but also I noticed they have no abilities or nothing noticeable interesting by themselves. The weirder hobby they have is watching anime and is not something exclusive of them.
At uni I got caught up in a conversation with a trans male to female about sexuality, I said I am bi. I was asked "Why not pansexual?". I said "because I am bisexual. I like both sexes". They repeated the question again, this time sounding almost accusatory. I knew what was being gotten at, and I wouldn't have any of it 😂
Didn't pansexuality originally mean interest in towards many kind of sexual behavior and activities? This is what Sigmund Freud said.
I believe that bisexuals are only attracted to males and females, where as pan doesn't care what you are.
gosh, that's just outright biphobia at that point. Bisexuality is an umbrella term first of all, and some (not all, but some) group pansexuality into it, so the question is just so strange to me?? It's like if you said "I'm queer" and someone responded "Why not lgbtq+?" like, sure they aren't the same thing, but they're similar enough that it literally is such a silly thing to be genuinely mad about on their part. ALSO, NOT TO MENTION, you should not have to explain your sexuality to anyone!! smh, people are ridiculous.
So glad for her that she didn't get surgery.
The obsession part is true. My one friend won’t shut up about being either trans or nonbinary (she doesn’t even distinguish even though they are radically different). It’s really made it hard for me to connect with her anymore because she’ll rarely talk about anything else.
Sounds like it’s time to dump her
This is what happens when the entire culture starts having to worship and kowtow to one type of person. It creates a culture of people who want to identify as that thing.
Though I think there will always be some people who are just obsessed with their own boring little journeys of self-discovery. I’ve been stuck at dinner parties with people who just discovered mediation or keto who are just as self-absorbed. The problem is making such a big deal about it, since the people who want attention latch onto it.
@@hisime13 That’s true, but this is one of the few obsessions that’s forced on everyone else. Society is not forcing others to do or believe in keto like they are forcing gender ideology. If people want to be obsessed and delusional, that’s fine, but audience participation should not be required.
@@sheabutter94Interesting. Do you think this is uniquely forced on people? I feel like the non-binary (or trans) people in their 30s and beyond whom I know all have taxes to pay and dogs to walk. It’s just a thing about them, not the only thing about them. Like how everyone has a vegan friend who’s been vegan for years. But then there’s a specific subset of young people who seem uniquely susceptible to a particular narrative for why they feel discomfort, and it’s peer reinforced. But no more so than my aunt, who’s sure “toxins” in non-vegan food causes “inflammation.”
It's such a relief to know there are actually normal gay and bi people. I used to have gay friends and literally all of them went down the "gender identity" road and became so damn weird and judgemental as fuck. Suddenly I wasn't invited to stuff because I'm a "cis gender male and that problematic". Like bro, we've known each other since middle school but YOU changed and suddenly I'M problematic for existing? Ok bud. Obviously they were never my friend to begin with 🤷🏻♂️
Of course they need their own group, they have to be surrounded by yes men to feel validated.
Yeah us normal bisexuals are rare but exist haha. I’ve never gone down that crazy rabbit hole and I’m not a woman who likes dressing girly but I always knew my gender. I’ve seen a lot of my friends go down that rabbit hole and expect us to say yes you’re right we accept you and I don’t roll that way haha, I don’t like the word cis and I’m problematic 😂😂 not to mention being in a seven year relationship with someone of the opposite sex… oh boy… the LGBT group in my town is VERY small, they know me and I’m known as a red flag 😂😂 my community is people I know that don’t buy into the woke bs and we just have fun chatting about the most random things lol. I imagine the problematic ones having secret sessions of taking down ‘cis’ people 😂😂😂
I'm thinking after same-sex marriage was approved, they went to live their lives. Love is love and all that.
Meanwhile the loud ones these days live for hate, attention and perpetual victimhood. They embraced the circle of violence and became crybullies.
You dodged a brutal bullet bro, be thankful.
Sad
Bi-erasure is a thing.
Yes and the lesbians are pretty much gone now. Trans came for us first
Yes and I think a lot of young bi youth are trying out this non-binary thing because it can be lonely being bi. Where you're seeing someone who's the opposite gender ask your friends just assumed you were straight. Then if you are seeing someone who is the same gender, they think you were really gay all along. It's annoying.
@@ericah6546 You just gotta learn to say "fuck 'em"
Goodbye to the the bisexual tomboy 😢
Oh boy, here we go…
I’m a private music instructor who used to identify as pan (I am bi). In the past few years, I cannot even describe the amount of kids- like middle school- who are soooooo confused. Two have told me flat out “I’m confused” when they opened up to me. Breaks my heart. Edit: I wrote this comment very quickly so plz ignore any mistakes and please don’t take it the wrong way. I don’t know how to put into words how much I love and feel protective my students. I hate this.
I’ve been out as bi since way before it was cool (like, a good couple decades ago), and even I briefly said I was pan 😂 it wasn’t until someone really pushed me on the difference that I was like 🤔 I’m not pan, just bi and a lil stupid
You sound like such a good person. Bless you for loving those kids! ❤
There is nothing wrong with wanting safety for yourself over other's “feelings,” especially when you’re in the hospital or other places where you might feel vulnerable as YOUR feelings of wanting to feel safe and secure and NOT scared, especially again when you’re feeling vulnerable is more important than anything.
For example, as a biological female, wanting to have a female gynecologist for a pap smear and breast exam is not something to be ashamed of, especially NOW in 2023 and beyond.
I think she said she was afraid for the person she was asking, that THEY would harm themselves if she requested a female.
@@jamiejulian5618 Yup, and that's so screwed up.
In NYC we are not allowed as patients to ask for a specific gender for our gynecologists... It's very bizarre
@@priscillagrrr4405What? That is crazy. What if your religion has very strict rules?
@@jujutrini8412 Doubt their religion has stricter rules than the gender religion.
So true what she said about people who identify as non binary caring more about their pronouns then anything else.
I am also an androgynous bisexual woman who used to think she was trans or nonbinary for a few years. I consider myself socially detrans.
Good for this woman speaking out and sharing her experience!
I would consider there to be no transition, just gaining a new and much healthier perspective.
It is hard to get out of when being taught gender as social or a feeling for your entire life
No wonder it is confusing to hear someone identity/call them as something based on anatomy and then denying it.
Genuine question: Why not allow people to have your experience- trying out various identities, social transition, etc, and support them when they decide the shoe doesn't fit? Perhaps if we give people the space to explore their gender and sexuality, they don't feel pressure to double down when attacked.
@@eeeeeesandoooos9645 Or go back to the sexes instead of mental gymnastics that is "gender". Easy to just see false identities from people who cannot fathom being referred to as their sex.
@@eeeeeesandoooos9645The people doing the pressuring especially online all are behaving like groomers, I'll never forget the one time I had to chew this one guy out because of the way he (as someone a bit older) basically was trying to groom this like 16 or 17 yo (other one was, idk 19? 20? 22? Not a big difference, just the one was still in HS so) who was tripping hard on tussin. And that wasn't even that bad or that groomy. I've stumbled over some really degenerate shit, like you can practically cough wrong they tell you to transition, it is literally operating more like a cult, like the way pro-ana groups and otherkin did only more aggressively and way more manipulative, and it takes thes ekids and acts like they being inducted into some loving family, and given a new identity to those vulnerable youths when it's really predatory and the exact opposite to being helpful, it's confusing them not helping them.
Like I didn't ever feel pressured, there was no trans stuff when I was a kid and coming up, therefore I had a way easier time. Hell I didn't even know there was a thing as being bi back then, I ltierally just thought it was you're gay or you're straight, I only realized in like 11th grade or whatever oh there was a third option. I am so hostile toward this partly because I KNOW I'd have been groomed and targeted by these people, and I was on drugs and being really isolated and alienated with these predatory people they may have gotten me far enough down the path I might've caused damage to myself from it--unfixable, permanent damage that like right now I can still have a family. I'd want to take myself out if I was sterilized. The shit they're doing is malicious and cruel and trying to act like anyone who's even a little bitt femme or tomboyish or a bit on the queer side "has to be trans or nonbinary" which never was a thing before, and the big difference is this one "requires" very expensive medical intervention. Hence why it's a thing, like Adderall and Zoloft was a thing pushed on my generation--because the Dems are owned by the pharmaceutical and medical industry and it's 1.5 million dollars you can profit per trans kid. Profit off having a bisexual? Zero dollars.
When my son was 7 he sometimes put his shoes on the wrong foot, yet there are people out there that think kids can decide their own gender!
the same age groups that can't smoke, vote, join the military, get a tattoo, or drink are definitely mature enough to tell us they want irreversible body modification
They make students memorise the stupid flags?! Wow.
'Wall of genders.' 🤦
But "they" don't even know what countries border the USA.
I was in a place that had a load of flags up. I identified a few and then said 'i don't know what that one is'. The gay man there said ' it's the lesbian flag'. I'm a lesbian 😅
@@sparagmos4748 😂
I just use the classic one with the double headed axe on it. 👍
@@fokkerfilms560 Ah, the lovely old labrys!
This is false information: Even most non-binary don't even know more than five flags - including the non-binary flag itself. Most know of the colours, the intersex flag because of its unique design and the LGBTQ flag but try to ask any non-binary person on the street something like "Do you know how the [any non-binary gender] flag looks like?", and the answer will most likely be a no. This also expands to neo-pronouns and has the same reasons: There are a lot of genders, pronouns and sexualities, and since non-binary people are estimated to represent from 0,01 to 0,1% of society, it is quite uncommon to get regularly exposed to multiple non-binary people with different genders, pronouns and sexualities. Most of us know our own and perhaps two more that we encountered somewhere. Memorising flags is not a thing unless one is a professional political activist who talks about non-binary subjects every single day.
I'm so glad I've got such a good relationship with my tomboy teen, she loves a 90s hawian shirt and everyone assumes she lesbian non binary. Since she has been at college the woke are trying to real her in. Nope she runs away and is doing extremely well. Parents get your kids offline and spend lots of time with them and show them the world, don't let some weirdo online do it.
Thanks for sharing ❤
Is she lesbian / bi or heterosexual
@@caitlingill she is straight just a massive tomboy like me. We don't wear make up, like mens clothes, prefer go carting to shopping and like mens company over womens. We do have girl mates but we don't understand the gossiping. My other daughter is really feminine.
Exactly!
I've been pretty much raised by weirdos on the internet and can 100% vouch for getting kids offline. Don't let it start in the first place. For a long time, I was just parroting what my friend group was saying. I did not care if they were right or wrong, only about how they felt. It is good that I fell out with them when I did and met people with common sense.
Many people ARE still stuck in those circles, surround themselves with people that validate their delusion to where there is no hope that they will change their mind.
One lady I knew for over 6 years literally changed her mind about being a "trans man" after she fell in love with some dude that didn't believe in that junk.
And I met with an even older friend with mine (still talk to her and we are together now), when I first started talking to her again, she was calling herself "nonbinary".
I told her that I would respect her wishes, but let her know straight up that whenever I refer to you as "them", I do not mean it and I always mean "she" instead. It did not change her mind in one night. It took a long time. I told her that I would not treat her different for just calling her what she is.
Eventually she came around and actively speaks out against this insanity that she was also dragged into like me.
“Show them the world, don’t let some weirdo online do it.” ❤ Never a truer statement that could solve a lot of this social conditioning going on in these “non-binary” online circles. I definitely feel a lot of this is a new cry for attention and people in need of deep inner work and not just validation to their insanity. Treatment for clear dissociation from reality is viewed as the enemy now. That’s why also believe we get a lot of people entering into the transition space who just have self-worth and inner distress about appearance being treated as gender dysphoric cause it’s become the new trend and social media just amplifies that onto teens by creating these pocket communities where this mental distress and mentality thrives on each other and makes it way worse. Just further proving that being online and using the internet constantly in a youth’s formative years is highly destructive to their psyche. And what’s the scariest thing is activism has entered into the medical industry and monetarily incentivized professionals into pushing this stuff as science when it’s not. It’s basically similar to a religious cult ideology.
How can someone be lesbian non binary? Lesbian is female attracted to female.
My friend is almost 50, is bisexual and is very androgynous and always has been. She has been recently using the term ‘non binary’ to describe herself but simple uses this as an alternative word for being androgynous. Some younger students (she works at a university) called her it one day and she liked the sound of so she’s happy to use it. She still outwardly says (and knows) she’s female and a woman and all that but just uses ‘non binary’ to describe her style e.g: fashion, hair etc. I think this is the ONLY way we should use this word as a description because that’s literally all it means. She’s a woman but likes to present masc or fem depending on how she decides to style herself that day. Simple!!!
The amount of energy and time young people waste on their "gender journey" is astonishing to me. I cannot even keep up with the language, it's just not possible for me. I have worked with a trans female since 2000 and she never used this confusing language. We have had no problems working with each other. This is just on a completely different level now.
Long but relatable Story:
University and College campuses have always been a breeding ground for the sexuality cult. I went to Uni early 2000s. I identified as a lesbian and I was very much a tomboy. I had a serious girlfriend and we broke up. I wasn’t looking for a relationship at all.
I mainly had LGBT friends and I remember one time at a party I met a boy. I was feeling confused because I found myself very attracted to him. He was making me laugh and being cute. It was a nice respectful conversation. I was surprised because I was brainwashed that “MEN BAD! MEN EVIL!”
All we were doing was talking. We were flirting and it was a very nice experience. I liked him. Then in barge 3 of my lesbian friends SCREAMING at him to “Back off” “Leave her alone!” “We know what you’re doing!” I wasn’t even drunk.
I remember being angry telling them to leave him alone and we were just chatting. They PHYSICALLY REMOVED ME FROM THR PARTY. Grabbed my arms and pulled me out of the house.
“You are just drunk” “This isn’t you” “ (insert horrible things about men) “ “YOU ARE A LESBIAN”. I was so angry I eventually managed to get free and I walked home. I was so upset and disappointed. I didn’t go to any parties for a long time.
Fast forward a few months and we had a party at the apartment of said lesbians friends. Guess what? I WAS drunk at that one and THE LESBIAN crawled into the top bunk with me and sexually assaulted me.
I now identify as Bisexual and will never let another person bully me in to what they want. It’s absolutely disgusting how there are evil people in this world that will mentally abuse you for their selfish reason.
Non-Binary is a cult. You can’t convince me otherwise.
I am so sorry that a Lesbian sexually assaulted and violated you. I believe you. That happened to me, too. I hope more people believe you. It was wrong what she did to you and if you chose not to report I understand. It wasn't your fault. I hope you don't have to run into her in your social circle. I wish you healing but I will also share that IMHO revenge fantasies have their role. Every good wish to you, you're not the only one.
Woman on woman SA is never taken seriously either.
It proves one thing I have thought of for a long time. It's not actually true that "SA against men isn't taking seriously". The truth is that "SA committed by women isn't taken seriously."
Mate that makes my blood boil. The entitlement of some people to try to dominate other people’s lives and direct their desires. So twisted and hypocritical. I’m sorry you had these toxic and unsafe people in your life.
Sounds like political lesbianism, an extreme radical feminist thing popular in the 70s: as an happily active straight radfem, I truly despise those unsisterly and innerly misogynist women, they're as crazy as queerios/enbies, def another fakely progressive cult (which mocks and damages actual lesbians too, what a scourge)... I'm sincerely deeply sorry for what appened to you 🙁 And I'm glad you've full power on your life now and you're happy 💜
You had a terrible experience but I don't understand what this has to do with nb. You didn't say your lesbian 'friends' were nb?!
Any groups that don't allow free thinking leave immediately.
It's all about fighting against Groupthink.. Being a unique individual, instead of going along with a trendy, temporary, ignorant Mob. My personal credo has always been "The bigger the crowd, the lower the collective IQ ".
If you control language, you control thought. That is why things get called outdated and rebranded. So people can then insert their beliefs.
You nailed it
I'm also a bisexual female who owned a binder at one point. I realized my issue with my breasts came from two things: (1) not thinking as a woman I was allowed to be emotionally attracted to other women and (2) from a pretty bad eating disorder. I have worked on those issues, but now in my late 30's I still have yet to date another woman. I hope eventually, but I came from a strict Jewish household which caused me stress for a long time. Anyway, great interview and thank you Kiyah for sharing your story.
It is very scary that school systems are pushing this agenda. Teachers and professors are political activists now. They are too busy confusing kids to teach their subjects. The US keeps dropping in the list of education quality in the world. In college we were expected to question everything but never told what to believe. We figured it out on our own because we needed to know authentic selves. One professor was terrible and was complained about, he suffered the consequences of trying to force us to join an very extremist environmental group. He would give you no higher than a C+. Yeah that didn’t last long. I wish teachers would teach education these days. Hey, instead of gender ideology, Teach cursive writing again, it’s still relevant.
exactly!
like you are there to teach uuh geography but yet you are talking bout OTHERstuff
theeeeen people wonder why schools are in chaos .having SOME teachers/admin quit or even some students not wantin go school
I use cursive EVERY DAY! That's the only way I can write quickly, it's so important to be able to read/write in cursive, and once you learn and get comfortable, it's hard to go back.
Catholic school enrollment has sky rocked with waiting lists not seen in 30 years.
@@patrickahaus6570unfortunately they are not safe there, also. My daughter attends a Catholic School and they are teaching these things also. She came to me in Grade Four and informed me, she doesn’t know what she is yet. I asked her what does she mean, she went on to list all the different genders her friends are that she felt left out bc she hadn’t “decided” what she will be yet. We are teaching children they have a choice, a decision to make.
The young lady illustrates how impressionable a young person can be. Thank you for being brave and giving people a forum to talk about this.
Being a family that has travelled a lot and lived in different countries, I notice so much of my children's friends that live in different countries and have different education systems. In the places that have gender idealogy being taught from elementary age I could guarrentee that at least three or four of each of my child's friends are coming out as gay, bi or trans. Where we currently live it is not part of the curriculum and I see my youngest (11) really not understanding what her previous friends are talking about. Yes, it is important to support all sexualities and representations yet there is no need to force this on prepubescent children. Too young girls have so much to deal with in today's society we are just adding an unnecessary extra layer to the complexity of becoming a woman.
Hugs to you, Kiyah, for realizing you were being brainwashed, even though some of them may have been well-meaning. It's so odd that hetero, lesbian, gay, bi, and transsexual are no longer acceptable. It's like there is a need to be as unusual possible, and that's how you have to present yourself.
Exactly. My group of friends is actually very diverse (inmigrants, LGTB, noticeable handicaps...) I see many of these non-bies trying to engage with us, but they never fit in. They are ordinary people trying to being different so they became the same and are very socially akward. My group of friends are actually regular people who needed mental stimulation and ended creating this "weird" group because we have in common that we like to engage in conversations that change our perspectives, and it's easier with people from different backgrounds.
What are you talking about? Who said that other LGBTQ people were "no longer acceptable"? Of course they are, just like non-binary people are. What matters is the individual's experience in how they perceive their gender and sexuality. If somebody identifies as a lesbian cis woman, then that is fine. If they are a bisexual trans man, that is fine. If they are a bisexual genderfluid person, that is fine. All of them and more are fine because it is not up to others how to identify somebody else - it's a personal business.
I'm a 16 year old girl and I relate SO MUCH to Kiyah. I was also told that I "seemed nonbinary" and was told that I'd be happier if I changed my gender.
If you need a label instead of personality, introspection should be your first call
I am in medical school and I have non-binary classmates. My professors have put "female anatomy" in quotes in several of my lectures to say that "not all females will have female anatomy!" They start off lectures of genitourinary anatomy with statements indicating that sex is not a perfect binary, and that several variations and identities exist. Several of my classmates protested at our state capitol building when our state banned "gender affirming care" for minors. If people out here are hoping that this is just a college thing, and that medical schools will remain focused on the sciences, I am sorry to disappoint you.
Oh no, they are teaching this crap in medical school?? This makes me very uneasy to hear this about future physicians 😒
That is depressing. I'm wondering if your university properly vetted those professors, and whether the university imposes strict curricular standards. Universities are business offering a service, and the service is eduction. You're the paying customer, and you have a right to demand your money's worth. This is no First Amendment issue.
They should be banned from having medical licences.
@@HandgunSafe I have professors that are very intelligent about anatomy and physiology of their specialties, but remain committed to "affirmation" as an integral part of patient care. I recall day 1 of school in one of the opening speeches "as a physician, you will gain a substantial amount of influence and power over public health; make sure to use it for good." It was deeply unsettling, but they truly believe they are protecting their patients and helping to create a better world.
More unsettling was when one of my pediatric professors stated that her daughters are always teaching her new terminology around gender and sexuality, and she keeps up to date through them to help care for adolescents and teenagers. Her daughters are apparently 14 and 12 years old.
@@katryna1960 That's even more depressing. I wish I stayed out of the comments.
Considering this insane part of the community is so obsessed with how people label them and making sure people don’t miss label them- it’s highly offensive that they just go around labeling people “cis” and trying to tell other people what they are or aren’t. It’s the most judge mental group ever, and then they complain about being judged. They can’t accept someone who doesn’t want to be labeled.
On the subject of androgynity. I have for a long time thought that you can be andogynous in different ways. I'm a straight man and as a kids I had sterotypical boy interests - computers, fishing, technology ... - and I only had male friends. But bullies found my appearance and mannerisms so feminine that they thought I was gay. Which also opens the door for bullies today to think andogynous children are "trans".
I'm legitimately not even worried about the bullies at all at this point, I can survive bullying, bullying happens, it can be pretty bad but it won't physically destroy your one chance at real happiness and true love--that WILL be destroyed by going trans. Which is the cruelest, most viciously fucked up thing about these manipulative pieces of shit, "your child will off themself if you don't do this!" that is so typical for what those people are like and the way they operate. Meanwhile they've literally discarded Chloe Cole. Meanwhile if you lose your uterus, like the man you want is never going to marry you. Do you know how fucking hurtful and profound that is, to know and realize later on in life as a grown ass woman that the choices you made as a teenager forever blocked you from finding the one?
This is the worst thing I never knew and I wish to God people told this to us as liberals and boomers or conservatives or whoever else that is white is brainwashing us as kids with the disney shit, a majority of people do not find the one. A part of why the divorce statistic is so high is literally because premarital sex and hookup culture all but guarantees you will never be with The One. They don't tell you this but the stupid mistakes that you made, prevented you from being happy, there is a The One for you--it's just not only that person is not destined, but you doing stupid shit can forever block you from being together.
You can miss your one last chance at happiness. You can miss your ONLY real chance to ever being truly happy. Do you have any idea how wicked and pathetic and fucked up that is, these people be stripping that from children before they had the chance? That is some literal pedophile, child rpe type shit. Actually it's even worse than raping kids, even victims of child sexual abuse still get to have families and be happy in many cases despite the trauma, getting castrated is a literal 100% guarantee you don't ever get to be with the one, ever. And they are makign that choice before they're old enough to drive a car.
So no I'm not worried about the bullies--I'm worried about the adults and the activists. Having grown up bi and all my life the only thing I wanted was to lose my virginity to the one and be happy and married, in a lot of ways not only my own bad decisions but all the toxic morass of disgusting white liberalism is partly why I am not happy and I may not ever be happy, it's my background making me so openly vocally hostile and ready for war with this shit in the same way some ex-cult members are among the first and most vocal, ardent defectors, it is the people who got forced into abortions to be in Sea Org or the people that watched a childhood friend get shot by the Soviets that can and will do whatever is necessary to stop their despicable cult, the one who was raised JW and never got birthday parties who winds up hostile to religion.
In my case I have seen nothing but the most destructive societal damage thanks to progressivism's fucked up and unnatural gender politics which is steeped in self worship and nihilism, yet even worse, at least Nietzchseans believe in strength, they literally glorify weakness and disease. To take that from a child, I don't think I can imagine anything more vicious and cruel. And frankly, if I had been born two decades later, I know it could've easily happened to me. They'd try and twist me up and get me to believe I think like a female because I am one, they'd try and get me to believe I'm a lesbian like they are, they'd fuck me up and brainwash me into their retarded cult with the offer of promises of friendship and a circle of inclusion, all for the low cost of your biological future and ensuring these bum ass people who won't be my friends in two years get my balls and shaft as a burnt offering to Molech. Then NO woman is ever going to love me, and I will no longer have the sperm to have kids, and I'd probably kill myself in my parent's living room.
No. I am not worried about the school bullies. I am worried about the indoctrinators of this sick demented cult. I like how all my former liberal friends I talked to tried and blithely mumble something about bullying or some thought terminating cliche about fascism, half the fucking time they didn't even know someone trans it'll just be a bunch of white liberal pre-karens.
I promise you and you can quote me on this, over the next twenty years you're going to have wave after wave of 20 somethings and 30 somethings killing themselves. They are likely going to wait until about late 20s or most likely, their mid 30s, and then they are going to take their own lives. That's roughly the age it happens, where you finally fully grapple with the life you'd lead and mistakes you made you can't ever come back from and try to figure out how to settle down to the end half of your life, which makes it really brutal for some of us. And those in their mid to late 30s, and some people in their 40s, are goiong to be isolated and have no friends of all those same people who cruelly took from them their future, who banned them from reddit after grooming and pretending to befriend them when they shared their doubts, who inducted them to where they'd be alienated from anyone else but their cult, then cast them aside so they'd have no one, all the while talking like religion is some evil thing for doing what they literally just did to you. And you'll be alone, more uttrely alone than you've ever been, and you're going to have to fight every strength of will and courage to bear going on what you now know to be an utterly pointless sterile life devoid of any sexual pleasure or friendships. And they'll act like nothing happened and talk about whatever events of the day while all those people silently die alone in their apartments and in parks. And they'll die completely forgotten and discarded. All for quite literally being stupid and naive enough to open up and trust the adults around them, than hold it in and protect themself, and instead expressing their bicurious desires or lack of gender conformity. Sometimes I am sickly glad I was a bit neglected and abused. It permanently forced me into not naively trusting people and their institutions not to hurt me through negligence or malice. But many of these kids are going to be too naive to have the sense only to open up to their peers IRL and siblings and NOT base critical life decisions on strangers on the internet or some medical industry or interest group.
I relate to Kiyah so much. I used to identify as transman for six years, to the point of changing my name and all. I'm very fortunate that in my country you need to go through some very thorough psych evaluation to get HRT so I never got to that point since the doctors told me to wait and I came to my senses eventually. The cult mindset is really terrible, they lure in especially young girls and women who are traumatized or autistic or just don't fit in, and tell them they can feel better if they adopt this new identity, while these girls should hear that they are good enough as they are.
That whole "trans-racial" topic is really going to trigger both sides and divide the groups even more.
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I love these interviews so much.
As a Gen Z-er who grew up completely woke-free, I am addicted to hearing the stories from these young people who grew up in an environment I could never imagine growing up in myself.
Thank you so much for taking the time to talk to all these individuals and for letting us listen to their stories.
Where did you grow up if you don't mind me asking? If I ever raise kids I don't want them over exposed to "queer theory."
@@ericah6546 I grew up in Greece. The only reason I was exposed to this ideology was because I consume a lot of American content on the internet. Now, that isn't to say that this is an American problem, but Americans have a big influence on the rest of the world when it comes to new trends. If you are American I would suggest raising your kids away from the big cities and, if you don't homeschool them, make sure the school they go to has no red flags that would be indicative of activists' activity.
Also, do look up Miriam Grossman's work on this matter. She has a lot of resources for parents and has given numerous interviews that can be of help.
Lucky. I’m also Gen z and in my pre-teen years I was surrounded with a lot of woke stuff. Thankfully, I broke free from it and every time I see someone else who broke free from it (especially if they’re Gen z), it snakes me happy 😊
I love that she mentioned that it was other people already identifying as non-binary that pulled her into it. I had a friend that was hanging out with a non-binary friend for a while, and then all of a sudden she was identifying as non-binary. A few months later she asked me if I thought I might be non-binary because I was a tomboy and have more masculine personality traits. That really is how it spreads. Thankfully I've always been comfortable being a woman that just doesn't strictly adhere to gender stereotypes, so I wasn't tempted by it. But a lot of people who are maybe a bit confused about where they fit in are much more susceptible to it.
I think trans racial will be a thing and you will see more white people identifying as a monitory and demanding affirmative action so they can get preferred access to jobs and schools. It's more than just a trend. Driving this trans trend is a benefit.
Yeah, the white hate in America is insane. With everybody being racist towards white people because that's the only acceptable racism now, we have white people being racist towards their own race - so even white people hate white people. "White people bad" is even being taught in schools. I can foresee a lot of people trying to escape being white through trans-racialism.
Well, if "wrong body" is true, then trans race and trans age is possible too. After all both are just social constructs anyway, and we all know how we treat social constructs.
They already existe, transracial and transage. Transracial is heavily rejected because it's racist, and for transage Idk never seen the subject brought up
@@clarissat867 Trans age is just a cover for pedos.
Transracial is racist, and I assume is because they tell the transracial they can't deny reality... Hahahahahahahaha
Man, the mental gymnastics are out of this world, I'll give them that.
Could the tides be turning, as this young Lady is fact that their numbers are at least one (1) less? 🤔
Theres more and more turning away as the days go by, I was one of them years ago. Whats shitty is that they choose jobs that involves shaping young childrens and teenagers minds
Actor-vist are liars. Exposure is all that is needed to bring their house of cards down 💜
In AA there was a non-binary girl who went by the name "River" - of course. The reason she landed there was because of a court order. While intoxicated she assaulted a paramedic for referring to her anatomy. She was insufferable, we all had to take turns baby-sitting her essentially. She tried to get the men to babysit her claiming she's "one of them" but the men wanted nothing to do with her since she was clearly unstable. One share she was crying about how her cousin is training to be a paramedic and how "selfish" she is to trigger her trauma. She was found guilty of assault but she's still the victim. Totally lacking in self-awareness, totally delusional.
I feel that when we focus so much on labels all the good things like personality and character development just fall by the wayside ❤❤
At least its usually fun asking these people to actually elaborate on what they mean when they call themselves nonbinary. Gets them all worked up and panicked, only to spew nonsense about stereotypes which you think they would think is a bad thing, yet they're upholding those ideas.
The BIG difference between now and then...in the 80's college students wore buttons saying 'Question Authority'...it was ok to challenge ideas and engage in debates...almost daily there was a preacher on the quad condemning everyone to hell...we all survived...
Suicide blackmail, not good to teach kids. I've been over this.
The scary thing is that these people are not just getting degrees in 19th Century Lesbian Interpretive Dance but becoming teachers and doctors.
Any cult is unhealthy, regardless of their beliefs
I think the primary problem is that it has been ingrain in our mentality that certain behaviors and characteristics are either male or female or whatever sexual orientation when it’s not true. What fuels this is the need for labels and self understanding. Unfortunately labels / categories only divide society, because he creates a us versus them conflict. We should all except ourselves and each other for what we are and not by some sort of character model.
The radical feminists of the 70s wanted to ditch stereotypes completely, this cult enshrines them
I just can't be friends with people who come to me identifying as LGBT anymore, even though I am LGBT because they make it their entire worlds and its exhausting to be around. I have a lesbian friend who talks to me more about her queerness than her passions, and she makes certain to slide said "queerness" into said passions. Its inescapable and draining.
I know right! People who make their sexuality and gender their whole personality are insufferable. Back in the 90s my trans Aunt never carried on like that. She worked hard, protected her family and lived her life. I didn't even know she was trans until I was like 7. Seems like it's the younger ones who make it their whole identity.
I'm very glad that I'm old. I was a tomboy. I liked boy things. I still like stereotypically male things. But I am very much female and never thought of myself as anything other than female. If I was a kid now, goodness knows how things might have been pushed on me.
riiiiight!?
but i think .if my mom was here . ooooh she would uhm
knock out some people cause like
.nah . ya aint doin this to NOkids
Great conversation! Glad she was able to escape the cult. That certainly is what it is! It will fade in time, but unfortunately many people will be harmed in the meantime! It is also harming the LGBT movement! It is setting us back!
1) It's not a cult: Cults have a leader, an ideology, a purpose to isolate one from friends and family, enslaving conditions and some sort of company structure. This is just a gender identity which applies to millions of very different people who don't know each other and have different opinions like everybody else. 2) Harmed how exactly? 3) Why would it be harming other LGBTQ people or the Pride movement?
@@akumayoxiruma cults have a leader, the leader of the gender ideology was named John Money! Do you know anything about him?!? Why his gender ideology has been taken and run with is beyond me! Please know what you are talking about before you start shooting you mouth off!
I know quite a bit about cults! I know people have recovered from being in cults, and much more!
Gender ideology is based on on a pedophile study, of 2 twin boys who he sexually abused! He had the parents turn a boy into a female after a circumcision went wrong. Money sexually abused the twins. In the end as adults, both twins killer themselves. This study is what gender ideology is based on.
I can go on and on to give you the reason it a cult, but you’re not worth my time if you don’t even know what gender ideology is based on.
Please don't judge the rest of us gays for these idiots. The rest of us just want to exist quietly and be a normal part of society.
...so do most non-binary people. Influencers on TikTok and other platforms are not representative for the majority of society. This applies to us non-binary people just like the gays and everybody else. It's probably even more of a common mistake with us since non-binary people are estimated to represent only 0,01 to 0,1% of society, so encountering one on the streets is much more rare than meeting a gay man who can educate them on how things are done outside of TikTok.
You can’t be an ex something that isn’t even real, in the first place.
Exactly, there is no such thing as a 'cult'. Non-binary is simply a gender identity, and using 'ex' when identifying as a cis or trans man/woman afterwards is unusual. This can happen and they usually just say: "I used to identify as non-binary but then I realised later that I am actually [gender]." And the same applies to non-binary people too who don't call themselves ex-cis or something.
Hi Arielle, i would like to thank you for this video. I myself went through basically the same thing and i identified as nonbinary for about 3 or 4 years. I was so brainwashed by what i saw online and by the people that i surrounded myself with. It really is cult-like behavior and i'm glad i snapped out of it however it is really scary to see how more and more people are being brainwashed into this..
One of the most disgusting things I've seen/experienced are professors who are dogmatic and ideological....and not open minded intellectuals guides. This area of ideological capture is one of the most sick because it is so detached from the human experience
Some time over the last ten years ,I went to bed as a centrist, but woke up on the far right.
I want to see more ex-radicals (gender/kinks, racial, rad-fems, etc) come forward and tell their stories. This was great!
Shout out to Kiyah for sharing her own story in this video!!
As an ex-non-binary myself, I want to remind everyone 2 things:
1) The term "non-binary" was never ever a real term that existed in academia. It's a term made up on a random Tumblr account and was soon brought to gender-studies classes in the universities to be promulgated by the transsexual community & soon progressives & leftists alike. No scientific basis or research for it, whatsoever. The term itself is a walking oxymoron, as you dive into the gender ideology.
2) The non-binary community, especially when I was there, is a cult of men & women with a mixed bag of mental issues & emotional baggage from their childhoods. Yes, this includes primarily tomboys & femboys, and a small portion of straight grifters. Plus, you can't be a "non-binary trans" person when both terms don't mix with each other. This is why I fully agree with Blaire's frustration about that.
Exactly, non-binary and all of these made-up identities originated on TUMBLR, created by stupid teenage kids who have no real world experience of sex or relationships. It’s insane that this crap from Tumblr (and DeviantArt) has made its way into official government policy.
That's truth. If you divide actual sex into group men/women and others (non-binary), you just actually make a new binary system.
You cannot create something out of nothing. On/off, up/down.0/1. There is no third option.
I think it helps for people to know the history behind all this too. These ppl don’t even know where it came from or why it started. I recommend Lost in Transnation.
This kinda shifts my reality a bit because I'm thinking, that I could never buy into this stuff because it seems ridiculous and goes against things that I know/have experienced, but it made me wonder what about the things I haven't experienced? What if there are things that I've been taught, or made to believe, that aren't true because I have nothing to tell me otherwise?
I'm not sure exactly what it would be, but it's still interesting to think about and it makes me wonder if my whole life has been a lie.
Being open to the fact that there is always more to learn is the beginning of wisdom.
@@laurabryannan That's true.
"Believe nothing, no matter where you read it, or who said it, no matter if I have said it, unless it agrees with your own reason and your own common sense.” ― Buddha Siddhartha Guatama Shakyamuni
@@azimuth5620 I like that quote.
I’ve lived my whole life under one motto and that is that my gender isn’t determined by the clothes I wear or the hobbies I enjoy. It’s what’s in my body, genetically. I feel that being an androgynous woman and breaking gender stereotypes helps me feel more liberated and there is nothing wrong with cross-gender play. I like the concept of Jung’s animus and anima. We all got that masculine and feminine energy in us. I respect people who can be more flexible/fluid with their gender expression instead of worrying if it’s too “girly” or “manly” or not.
Many egocentric person has this idea: i'll only respect/approve you if you have these same specific characteristic that I do. It's a way to remind of themselves, to praise their own self being.
(It's also an very intense narcissistic trait 🙂)
do you have the FULL version of this? what an interesting conversation! even if this went on for 3 hours, i would listen to the whole thing
We had a young employee at my workplace a few years back call themself non-binary and in the first week, sent everyone an app that helps you conform to the wording they use. All of us, who are in our mid 30s and up and also huge LGBT(sans the rest) supporters, were not amused. We did, however, call her “they” to be nice. She was let go soon after for constantly fighting with customers and not doing her job.
As a gay man it saddens me to see that some people who are appropriating our cause is pretending to be part of us just to give us a bad name.
@@cungzjohnjohn122 they want to feel different and victimized. They’re using it as a club they can belong to instead of understanding it’s actually a movement for protection and equality of people who actually need it. People like you.
kiyah mentioning the weird need to spread their identities is so true. an ex-friend of mine apparently began identifying as a sapphic lesbian and hung around a group of chicks who were neo-trans and NB. started bleeding into sudden "dysphoria" that interestingly popped up after contact with the he/they female crowd. for some reason she felt it was her civic duty to make her friends "realize" they were sapphic lesbians which i specify because these chicks seem to be very adamant about WLW and hating men. whether the people she "helped" were or weren't lesbians, i couldn't tell you, but i thought identity was a personal journey. not something that other people assign to you when you didn't ask. this was one of the same people that tried to suggest that i was NB or trans which i outright rejected. before this group when she mainly spoke to me she was just a bisexual chick with no dysphoria that didn't hate dudes. i swear the cult is real.
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again;
If you identify as a can of tuna, are romantically attracted to sushi rolls, use It/It’s pronouns or wanna be referred to as Bean, both as a name AND pronouns(which a real person I’ve come across, actually did and might still do), I won’t validate you…
I’d validate seeking a professional therapist!!
The problem is therapists are being encouraged to "validate" whatever identity their patients claim 😒
get your kids out of college asap!!
Here's my theory on how so many kids buy into this stuff and t's a combination of over exposure to social media and the normal process of growing up.
When you're growing up and hit puberty, you begin to become VERY self aware. Obviously your body is changing, but this is when your sense of self identification begins. Who you are, how you act, and the things you like, ALL begin to matter. Couple this with social media where seemingly EVERYONE has something interesting or cool about them that makes them unique, but.... YOU. DON'T. This ramps up to it's fullest degree when you hit college because you are 100% in a space where your influential background is no longer influencing your growth and you are fully in charge of defining who you are.
Kids buy into this shit because they don't realize that they're SUPPOSED TO be boring and lifeless and unexciting, THEY'RE KIDS!! You haven't had enough experience in life to define who you are or what you're really passionate about, BUT.... if you make up an identity, something that sets you apart, or an "illness or affliction" you suffer from, THAT makes you unique.
They also identify with this culture of victimization BECAUSE being a teenager sucks. Your body is changing, your emotions are all over the place due to hormones, and your mind ability to view yourself and the world around you also changes. You think you're experiencing struggle, or oppression, or trauma, but it's just a part of life where most everything sucks and is awkward.
You're not boring, you're just a kid.
You're not depressed, you're a teenager.
You don't have PTSD, your friends suck and friend groups and people change.
You don't need to change your gender, you haven't even fully experienced your own.
You're not oppressed, your parents are just trying to protect you, teach you, and even still grow themselves.
You don't understand life fully enough to make these decisions, your brain isn't even fully developed until 25.
We HAVE to start viciously protecting kids at this vulnerable age where the process of self definition begins. People are being RUINED by being victimized and placing self restricting beliefs on themselves instead of just "embracing the suck" and learning to cope and overcome.
Well said!!!!!
The other problem is the "experts" your suppose to listen to are pushing this.
Mom praises kid because they're now special, reinforcing the behavior. Mom brags about it for social clout
Teacher show extra affection to "special" kids, reinforcing the behavior. Teacher brags about it for social clout
Doctors give "affirming care" further reinforcing the behavior. Doctors brag about saving kid from suicide... even though now statistically they more likely to commit it.
It's the affirmation of the findings of the Milgram experiment
I think there's a lot of pressure to pursue things professionally. For example, I write.
A question I get asked a lot is "are you going to get it published?" For whatever reason, they could not comprehend that I just like to write.
And that puts pressure on people to just not do things because they're just not good at them. So that makes it harder to be "interesting."
This only happens in rich countries! I wonder why?
Similar reason why we only see food allergies in white kids. It’s a first world problem.
Because poor countries usually have poor human rights and execute people who differ from the majority. This is also why they escape their country in hopes of being able to live freely without legal consequences such as several African, Middle Eastern and Central Asian countries impose.
What a lovely young lady. So happy she pulled herself out of that mindset. And what a beautiful name!
I've never understood the trend towards adopting someone else's way of doing things just to fit in. The whole 'I'm this thing and you remind me of me so you must be this thing too' never held much sway over me. Nope, I'm just me, accept me as me or not I don't really give a damn. Peer pressure never really had that big a grip on me growing up as it seems to be with other people. Maybe that's because I was never really all that social a creature and never minded being alone my own. When a group of so called friends one summer decided to have nothing much to do with me I just shrugged and continued doing my own thing.
They are teaching kids to pathologize every thought and feeling, which, over time, creates a state of psychosis. Then, they push certain stereotypes and/or destructive lifestyles as the cure.
I'm an ex-non binary bisexual too😅 too many of us i swear
If you tell me you are non-binary that is the perfect way to guarantee that I will do everything in my power to avoid ever referencing you again. I’m nearing that point with trans people as well. Just about fed up with all of it, done playing along with narcissism.
Absolutely 💯
Im autistic and have BPD both things can mess with id (lack of sense of self BPD),being in an LGBT social group made it worse,like many others I came out of it during the lockdown from watching certain youtubers.
I’ve noticed a lot of SJW people, at least in my university, are like in love with indigenous cultures. I have no problem with that whatsoever, but I bet there are going to be people actually identifying as trans-indigenous soon enough.
I know that there are already people who do that and are called “pretendians”, but it’ll probably become acceptable.
It's because of the stealing of that term by the modern governments and organisations, especially here in Australia.
I'm indigenous to this country, too. I was born here, same as they did. My parents were born here and their parents before them.
I can't blame people for wanting to feel like they actually belong to the place they live in, not just work for its government as worker drones and have to cowtow and listen to others because they're indigenous. And you're not.
For some reason...
I mean, we all came here at one point. What's the difference between the timings??
In Canada they call it the 2SLGBTQ+ because they gotta pander to the “2-spirit” indigenous people even though literally NOBODY identifies as 2-spirit - and those that do are white people appropriating and perverting indigenous cultures.
It's like a whole generation who are scared to just be average people. I'm an average boring gay woman but if someone asked me to describe or label myself i would just say Tomboy who loves live music and horror movies. That describes me way more than who i might be attracted to/fall in love with when i'm single at the moment.
Part of me envied those that took part in LGBTQ clubs and organizations in college. Looking at what is being produced today from liberal colleges makes me believe I DODGED A BULLET.
My kids elementary school doesn’t prescribe to this.. they don’t celebrate pride and so nobody complains this year they wouldn’t allow kids to come in costume… but I’d rather that than the opposite… my kids saw their older friends in the neighborhood go into the middle school and all of a sudden they were emo, or gay or non binary to the point that they want to be home schooled next year and I’m going to do it
I admit I'm a jerk. I've been trolling these folks pretty much since they started. Every year I take my three malamutes to Pride. Without fail dozens of people will address all three as "good boy" or "pretty boy." I then ask them to please not misgender my dogs. "These two go by she/her."
Depending on their reaction I usually just smile, as do they. But occasionally I get one who is obviously offended. In those cases, I continue with "Perhaps you should use they/them when you're uncertain, instead of just assuming." Then I sashay away.
"Then I sashay away." 🤣
The amount of overmedication and surgical procedures pushed on people these days is insanely dystopian. Be a more natural human and most of the time you will be a lot happier and healthier.
This girl just proves that these younger generations can't think for themselves at all. How sad is that?
Thank you Arielle for raising peoples' consciousness.
What I tell my daughter who is falling into this kind of rhetoric from people, is that, express yourself however you want. Be yourself. But you still have to acknowledge and accept reality. You have to play the hand you were dealt. You can be gay, straight, bi, whatever. But that’s a sexuality, not a gender. Embrace who you are and work with what you got. We’ll love you regardless. But we live in reality.
You are the authentic cool mom. Blessings to your family. Your daughter is fortunate to have you.
@@ddz1375 awwww that’s a really sweet compliment. I try to support her. She’s almost 13 and came to me and asked if she could cut her hair in a really androgens way but I she was nervous to ask lol. I made a salon appointment and she shaved half her head and the other side she left medium length. It actually looks pretty cool. But we do have a lot of conversations about how easy it can be to be influenced by others and I want her to make decisions because it’s what SHE really wants, not something someone else wants her to be. She’s never been super feminine. Hated dolls when she was little. Never wanted to wear dresses. Hasa pet snake. Etc. But thats ok. I hate how the world is trying to convince her because she doesn’t like makeup and dressing sexy, she’s non-bianary or a boy on the inside.
@@StayAtHomeMeme You are teaching her independent thought and instilling strong self reliance. Puberty is gross and angst is normal. We all went through it. A lot of us didn't have the guidance of an involved and invested parent. Let her stick her toe out and explore but make sure to continue to teach her to look before leaping. We are going to need strong leaders in the future and your daughter just might be one of them. Continued blessings. Have a wonderful holiday season and beyond.
There are 'non-binary' people branding themselves w/ they/them tattoos on their necks. It's the the latest trend on TikTok. I would hate for them to regret it a year down the line since it's permanent.
This gender stuff reminds me of when I was a teenager and I used to dress up like a ‘gangsta’, baggy pants, big oversized clothes etc.
It didn’t make me a ‘gangsta’
I'm glad that more and more are calling this situation for what it actually is, a cult.
EXCUSE ME.
I do not want to be re-titled by others.
I’m androgynous and I DO NOT want to groom kids or invade other people’s spaces.
I also respect my own genitals and we don’t live in a world where women can afford to stop fearing rape, assault, kidnapping or murder.
kiyah is so beautiful.
as a tomboy that sometimes comes off as nothing in particular for whatever reason, people tried to pin me as genderfluid and all that bs and i was so confused because it didn't make any sense that i HAD to be something else if gender doesn't matter and sex and gender don't coorelate. if my sex is not tied to my gender then how am i not a chick? if a female can identify as he/they while presenting an ultra-femme aesthetic then why can't i be a she/her female that presents as masculine or andro? make it make sense, people!
Dang Arielle, this guest was amazing! She needs to tell her story to more people! What a wonderful person
I don’t mean this sarcastically, but I wish that there was such a thing as being politically non-binary as a group of people that side with truth and not a political side. I would call this group: truth.