Thousands Of "Trans" Teens Want To DETRANSITION... (Women, Lesbians, Homophobia)
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- Опубликовано: 6 сен 2024
- Transitioning Was A HUGE Mistake For These Lesbians. Why are more females suffering compared to males? Gender Therapists Afraid Of Being Labeled Transphobic leads to over-diagnosing of trans kids and teens.
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How did we get from " DON'T LABEL ME" to " these are all my labels and they define me"
social media. the internet.
@@relaxingsounds1386 woke culture is so crazy,they’d cancel someone who doesn’t fit in their standard
At the end of the day,they’re no different from 1984 dictators bs
Remember back in the day when scouts earned badges? That was nice.
Wow. You NAILED IT. profound. My god. What are we doing??
Nailed it 💯
Imagine being a doctor and giving someone chemotherapy, even though you know they don't have cancer, because your afraid of being labeled "cancer-phobic".
Some doctors do this to make money 👀
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What do you mean imagine? They are giving everyone, healthy children included, an unnecessary, mrna gene treatment.......In case they catch the flu!.
Not for the "cancer-phobic" reason, but sadly some doctors do this already. They get loads of money off that.
@@orosedobheathaabhaile May I ask what kind of cancer you had? I knew someone with pancreatic cancer, Op, chemo, eating galangal, drinking verbena tea - and it was still no use.
I’m so glad I grew up in the time when I did rather than today. When I was a teen, I used to wish and pray *hard* that I was a female. This was something I hid from my family and friends. If I had been a teen today, I have little doubt I would have “transitioned” or at least felt a strong push that way. After some therapy, I came to learn the real issue. I wasn’t a trans woman - I just hated myself so much that I wanted to be someone else. That was such a breakthrough for me. I’m now in my mid forties, married to a great wife, and the father of three children.
You’ve lived such a true story that happens all the time, unlike you though most people won’t come to terms with themselves. I congratulate you as a human being able to reach such a point in your life.
Ya know Scott I don't think it's actually abnormal for a child to wish that, kids wish all kinds of silly thing's and I've wished the same for a duration. Everyone has days where they struggle with self-worth. I'm glad you've over come ur self-hatred and I'm also glad I didn't get pushed in that direction.
When I was growing up, most people would be called gay or lesbian. Somehow most young people now are being convinced they are trans and taking tragic steps. It's so sad. I agree with all your statements.
So glad you got a good therapist. Peace brother
Inspiring, so very thankful for your story
"therapy was not an option" EXCUSE ME ?? Even when someone is truly gender dysphoric , therapy is still very necessary
Therapy wouldnt teach you anything though? They don't teach you your place in society relative to others, as in, respect for the sex that you "feel like"? Or even respect for people who don't want to lie and say they believe you are the opposite sex.
So how can that be useful? They would just say you're valid, you're strong, you deserve to be wherever you want (opposite sex's spaces).
@Bill Skellorian exactly. I think everyone can benefit through therapy! But especially when your going through something like dysphoria and transition you need support.
Exactly. It should ALWAYS start there!
It's heartbreaking to think that children who have suffered trauma are potential having more trauma heaped upon them by transitioning, even though it may not be in their best interest, than actually treating their specific needs. It is equally heartbreaking to think that those children who really do need to transition are also not getting any therapy along the way. I can't imagine going through such a major life change with no therapy.
@@grilledcheeseandsoup1652 The irony, though, is that most do not actually have trauma, but just say they do, just like they say they are trans.
I was a tomboy growing up and still am in ways and I’m straight. You can remain your natural born gender and express yourself as you want.
I can relate.
🤫 or the alphabet mafia might hear you and REEEEEEREE at you!
Well yes, you should be able to express yourself as you feel without being made to think that it makes you anything except yourself period. The problem is that people want to believe that the physical is not just physical, that it’s connected in a predictable way to what’s underneath or inside (at the core of something or someone ) because humans hate unpredictability and the unknown and are extremely threatened by it) or they will say conversely that if it is indeed just physical (a person is a person and their body is just a vehicle for the soul, heart, mind etc) then that means that we should be able to do whatever we want with it to try and force it to “match” how we feel. At no point do most people want to accept that someone’s body not being a reflection of what the majority feels it should be is simply the majority’s problem to get over and deal with without the need for anyone to feel that things need to be made to “match” My question is match what? Others expectations or beliefs of how things are supposed to work? Why should I or anyone else try to conform to what others want in terms of our bodies or how we express ourselves ever? Are you going to pay me for that? Or will you just find a gazillion different ways to make me suffer if I don’t ???? That’s the real question as far as I’m concerned and it’s a question that many young people are not prepared to sit and really contemplate because the first 20-25 years of most peoples lives are comprised mostly of trying to find ones place in the world. I say try to find the worlds place in you and if you can’t then fuck the world and everything that it has or doesn’t have to offer. Just be you. It won’t be easy but it will be worth it.
In a nutshell people can’t accept difference plain and simple. They are cowardly and simple minded as it gets in this way. We are the only species on earth that tries to systematically control as much of reality or our own and others perceptions of it as possible. And the tragedy is that we see that as a feather in our hats instead of the sad failure to thrive spiritually that it actually is.
Tomboy is very normal female expression, and much appreciated by almost everyone, at least by the guys, I can't really speak for the girls. Always has been. It's crazy how it's now somehow labeled as gender-non-conforming and meaning that the girl really is a guy.
I cried my eyes out and WISHED I was a boy as a child. Not because I'm trans but because in my Catholic Italian family the boys had more freedom than I did. I had to go in a different room when they watched wrestling for example. It breaks my heart that little girls like me are encouraged to take T these days instead of just giving them the same freedom as little boys.
Anything other than Christianity they won't criticize because it would be rude or too colonizer of them to say something about it.
Right because trans men dont face discrimination
@@CelicaSNC What? Treating males better is embedded in societies around the world.
To be fair though, I highly doubt that in these super conservative societies where boys have significantly and noticeably more freedom than girls, that such societies would just lay down and accept a girl transitioning into a boy and be like “yeah this is fine, he’s a boy now so he can go out. All is good”. Like nah, they’re not gonna be accepting that person as a trans guy or as a guy in general. So I really really doubt that in these circumstances, anyone would transition for such a superficial reason. If they did transition, it’s probably because they had no other choice to maintain their happiness. Also most of these kids and young adults who transition and then detransition don’t come from unnaccepting or freakishly backwards families- which further illustrates the point that no one with actual high stakes in transition would do so unless it was their only foreseeable path to happiness (or to a chance for it)
@@Jksikeswag these super conservative societies? You mean America?
THIS IS ME. i identified as a trans male for 4 years, had a week long identify crisis and realized i was just a lesbian who had body dymorphia
June Bug very well actually :) i’m happier
Me too, I had a double mastectomy and nothing else and now I'm happy lesbian.🙂
You know its kinda fucked up as you figure yourself out. Demanding to be accepted people are losing jobs. For merely disagreeing. For you to say.. Oh its in my head..
I am confused about what you are, want to be, was, but heh what ever rocks your boat
I'm happy for you! I hope you continue to feel more comfortable with yourself. :)
I used to want to be called “he/him” and be seen as masculine as possible when I was a teenage girl. Back then I was put under a lot of pressure by my mother who told me that women are weak and being feminine is weak and if you want to be a strong and independent woman you have to be like a man. It was so horrible. Now I fully embrace my femininity and I love it. I could never in my life imagine what would have happened if I had gone through trans treatment. I’m so grateful I didn’t.
Your mother misguidedly raised you to internalize her own misogyny. How sad! It's great to hear you've learned to love your own femininity, however you express it.
I think misogyny plays and important role in this phenomenon, sometimes I can't understand if I want to be a men because I don't like women or if I don't like women because I want to be a man...
I guess I should just accept I am female even if I hate it and wait to grow out of my "phase"
A lot of 'grass is greener on the other side' in the detransitioner stories.
@Anna Anna
I'm guessing you didn't know what a "tomboy" was growing up. Because that was another option you could've taken. Dressing as a boy, while masking your femininity, as it's only seen by those you trust.
Regardless, I've been seeing that a lot lately where people are shown limited options of gender expression, or are given limited information on what gender is.
Glad you got away from that, because this is starting to remind me of the religious puritan '50s.
I'm sorry you had a caustic, leftard mother. Find some strong women with traditional values to be around.
Who would have thought that something you strongly felt or believed in your teens would not last into your adulthood. Must be some new thing.
Aye baby 😂😂😂 who knew.
Nail. Head. Hit.
Lol I know, right?
Astonishing huh?
Exactly 👏🏽
I identified as ftm trans for nearly 3 years, and this is the message I would've needed to hear back then. I'm a lesbian. Thank you for spreading awareness, it's so important!
I am surprised that you didn't hear it before and I am sad that you were making decisions uninformed
Yes it is ok to not transition. I am a trans female, knew since I was 5. I am trans and that is it. Not everyone experiences the amount of gender dysphoria as I did, that is ok. Teens need to be patient and understand themselves and never rush things. In most cases one needs 2 years of therapy before transition. It is time to make that mandatory. They need to be diagnose with gender dysphoria to transition.
@@kateofone Well said. Transition is so helpful for some people, but it can be harmful for other people. So each person should be patiently counseled and diagnosed so they're able to really understand what's going to be the right choice for them.
@@zxyatiywariii8 Yes I do not want someone with chronic anxiety, one who hates having big breasts or an ultra feminine gay man transitioning for the wrong reasons. When people tell me they are trans I ask them a very simple and yet an extremely direct question. Two examples are these. For MTF I ask do they want their male parts gone and to live as a woman forever. For FTM I ask do they want a male part and no breasts and to live as a man forever. If either hesitate for an extended period I know they have doubts and then they shouldn't transition. For those who are quick saying yes well they are very likely trans. You can also tell from their facial expression.
Thank goodness you were able to find your true self.
“When my son was 4 yrs old, he thought he was a Queen's Guard. He refused to wear anything but a red t-shirt and black trousers, a hat with a leaf taped to the side (the plume) and he marched everywhere. We didn't drop him off at Buckingham Palace and demand the Queen validate him.” Mia _CryMeARiver
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Too cute!! 😁😄😄
At the very least, write her a letter n see if the lil man can stop in for a visit! 😎
Would have been funny though
This is a FANTASTIC analogy omg!! Love.
I have a dear friend of 22 years that transitioned in the mid 1980s. Her transition was a huge issue and she and her wife were interviewed, articles were written, etc... During our last visit, she was talking about being over run by 15-25 year old people in the trans support groups. She said she was sick of hearing the "gender dysphoria" cry. Her opinion was, "Honey, you aren't have dysphoria, you're having a bad day and think being someone else will fix it. If you were really dysphoric, there would be questions being asked and not a bunch of whining that life is unfair." She recommends they get psychological help before they decide anything.
Such valuable advice coming from a long-time transwoman. What kind of questions would a truely dysphoric person be asking?
Scott Newgant talks about this in an article he wrote for Quille. He would have girls say they think they are boys, but upon further questions, he'd discover it was merely discomfort being female.
Well, shoot, I've been there. To call it dysphoria would be hyperbolic to say the least. It's more like a dissatisfaction, which went away once I grew up and became independent.
The problem is they are sent to gender affirming psychologists, not regular ones
TERRIFYING they took away all the necessary steps to confirm for yourself that you actually _are_ trans, in the name of affirming medical care! Imagine that for any other mental health issue!!!? Oh my gosh 😣
I used to want to be a boy because they had more freedom. So glad I was born 68 years ago. I still like bugs and snakes but I am all woman , married to a man and have five children.
My transgender sibling is going back to being a man and says he made a huge mistake and he is so glad that he decided to keep his penis. He will be having his breast removed this fall. I will be there for him being as no one else in the family has supported since he came out.
That's so sweet, stay with him. He will need you more than ever. That's a huge deal.
That's great, man.
Hope you make fun of him for the rest of his life
They're almost exclusively pre-op these days.
What extent of his junk did he keep?
I would think sometimes the extent of functions help with detransitioning and the perspective of the integrity of ones man hood. I know that people have some things transplanted due to loss in a accident.
No one is assigned a sex. Sex is a biological fact. It is recognized not “assigned”. Saying someone was assigned a sex is as asinine as saying someone was assigned 10 fingers and 10 toes.
facts
Yep!
I don’t buy it. makes too much sense.
I know people who were assigned female at birth but later found out they are XY chromosome, no uterus/ovaries, but have testicals having androgen insensitivity syndromes. So yes it can be assigned and not correct.
Jesse Watts false, it isn’t “assigned”. They didn’t assign anything, in rare instances in which the sex is not very obvious a doctor can initially make a mistake. You further illustrate my point by noting that they discovered the patient had male chromosomes and lacked female organs, this further bolsters my point that sex is a biological fact not an assigned social construct. .And in any case, exceptions don’t disprove a rule. The statement that humans have 10 fingers and 10 toes is a general truth. This is generally true because in some rare instances some humans are born with less or more than 10 fingers or toes. If sex was merely assigned then humans couldn’t reproduce and neither one of us would be alive to have this discussion. Every time you comment you refute your own position.
That hospital changes therapists more often than Hogwarts goes through defense against the dark arts teachers.
Best comment!
😂 yeah best comment for sure
Internet WIN
Spot on! 😂
Scary but on point 👍
We must all remember that the surgeons and doctors who perform these transitions for teens and adults are getting PAID, and probably very well.…let that sink in everyone.
At the end of the day, no one is gonna pass up the pay.
i mean doctors who operate on cancer patients are getting paid as well.. doctors are always getting paid,, it’s literally their job?
And yet doctors will still say 'no' or 'wait a little longer' to women needing breast reduction, and will have to prove it's actually damaging their backs and causing issues before they say yes. Happened to my best friend. She only recently was finally able to get it and she feels so much better.
Yes the doctors are going to do this they buy into it because they make lots of money off of it follow the money honey before you change your body
This is why proper therapy is important to make sure that someone is actually transgender before transitioning.
Everyone needs proper therapy, but not many people can afford it.
That's true, but there are still resources to help people get services. I hope we can get universal healthcare soon. You can also socially transition to start, and see if you like living as the opposite gender first.
@@emmacat3202 I was talking about every single human being on the planet, not just trans.
I live in Canada. We do have "universal" healthcare, at least in theory because they cut the budgets so much that public healthcare is now triage.
In our system, having been anxious and depressed all my life (44), i'm still not sick enough to get proper therapy. All i get are pills to keep me semi-functional.
"Proper therapy" is a pipe dream. If there were such a thing, there wouldn't be any transitioners. If there were such a thing, people wouldn't want to be chopping off perfectly good body parts.
@@kickinitwithmydawg wow, you really are an idiot.
Proper therapy is what helps people get out of depression. It's what helps people recover from eating disorders. It's what helps people live with crippling anxiety.
And it is what kids and teens need to know for sure that they have dysphoria and need to transition.
I just can’t believe people try to paint detransitioners as some kind of threat to their safety? A lot of them are women with unprocessed trauma who are victims of the system. But people silence them by accusing them of being dangerous just for speaking about their experiences. :( I just wish people would show empathy and support their recovery
i think it comes from the amount of detransitioners that turn against trans folks and claim we're mentally ill or faking it. because of those few bad eggs,people think ALL detransitioners feel that way
@@mrselfdestruct7605 The thing is that it is their experiences. They look back on what they experienced, think about what everyone else they knew, and make a decision based off of their emotional process through this issue and everything they know. And they decide that their feelings were based off of unprocessed trauma. And that is a threat, because they've come and gone through the community.
@@mrselfdestruct7605 they might exist but all the ones I've seen are pretty reasonable, they don't criticize everyone who transitions but they criticize the system for over-diagnosing people and for making doctors afraid to do their job properly for fear of backlash. I think ignoring detransitioners hurts trans people more because it makes it look like they have something to hide
The progressive church of woke will not tolerate blasphemy, the people that shout down these detransitioners are not trying to help they are full of hate.
jsksmancowxj Ejaondowendj It’s not just women- in my caseload i have 3 times the amount of males experiencing suicide ideation that believe they are trans as males particularly as males in a particular culture are no longer valued!
I'm trans and agree with Arielle. It's way too commercialized.
thanks babe
Such a key word 'commercialized'
I am 40 years old and always have identified as a man....but back in my day this trans stuff was seen mostly from male to female. I am very butch, called sir on a daily basis and I haven't used hormones or have had top surgery yet. I actually have a 40DD chest and people are apparently unable to see it. Or they may just be thinking that I am a fat boy that lost weight!! Lol
People out there have made a mess out of all of this Trans related subjects. The ambiguity of the subject now makes it very confusing for kids.
I totally support the view of Arielle and Flame Monroe about Trans subject.
My son is gay, feminine, yet not trans. But he has several trans friends. Me talking about the dangers of transitioning before adulthood gets him SO pissed at me. But I'm firm in this. No one, not even my beloved gay son, will bully me on this. 💯%✓✓
How on earth has he several trans friends? Transexuality used to be a rare condition. None of them is real trans kid, all of them will come out to be guy, hopfully they keep all their body parts by then
@@palomalopez8179 I hope so!!
He will thank you later.
@@palomalopez8179 how come none of them are real trans kids? even if he has several trans friends, he could've linked up with them online. and they might be genuine with their feelings
As a straight woman who grew up a tomboy, this is the stuff of horror
When I first came out as gay, I went through a period of time where I thought I might not be cis. I loved my short hair, wearing male clothes, and I’ve always been a tomboy. I’m so glad I didn’t buy into what a lot of these girls have. I’ve accepted that I am a woman, a very gay, almost butch, but still a woman. Different gender expression doesn’t equal trans.
I often see circular reasoning on this. Gender expression is being equated to gender identity which is rigidly defined by classic, stereotypical male/female gender roles. Any deviation is interpreted as being trans. It reinforces the 'problematic' stereotypes.
This is dangerous when applied to children and teens.
@@burger_kinghorn I definitely agree with you there!
@@weallhaveguns I'm a feminine guy and i agree with you, just because i have feminine interests that doesn't mean i want to be a woman
Same
'I went through a period of time where I thought I might not be cis.'
'Cis' is a term from organic chemistry that was never meant to refer to humans in common parlance. It's just 'male' or 'female.' Those are the correct scientific terms.
I'm so glad I didn't transition and came to realize that I didn't like my body because of trauma.
Same! I wore a binder for years and got a referral to an endo, but I'm so glad I stepped back and stopped myself from making any bigger steps. I was 19. I think if I'd been 14 or 16 or so I wouldn't have had that moment of doubt that ended up saving me. I was identified as male for another two years after that but slowly started to "see the cracks" as the woman in the video put it. I realized it was a response to trauma and internalized homophobia.
I actually have trauma and mental illness and i think i might be trans or ace but i know that it might because of the trauma so i will not transition or anything..
@@badpopmusic I also wore a binder for a bit. I was like 16/17 or something. My mom stopped me from taking the bigger step. I disliked her for it, now I'm grateful.
@@remi6668 it's good that you are aware of that. I wish you well.
I started hormones at 18 years old, after a 15 minute appointment. The longest part of the process was getting blood work and waiting for it for a week before my first appointment. Clinics that do this are called "informed consent clinics" and they basically just tell you the risks and what changes you MIGHT be able to expect.
Here are the prequalifying terms at my clinic:
-Blood work to asses base level hormones prior to HRT
-Age 18 without parental consent, 14-18 with a guardian present at first appointment
-read 2 sheets of paper and sign the bottom
That's literally it. That's not okay. I'm glad it worked out for me and I actually have gender dysphoria but there was a 16 year old girl who started hormones the same day as me. She has since detransitioned, but her deep voice/Adam's apple, enlarged clitoris, larger bones, facial and body hair, and facial structure are permanently changed without expensive intervention. Insurances typically do NOT cover detransition costs.
I needed to hear this. My adult child is detransitioning back to female after 10 years living as male, but she is now detransitioning and identifies as lesbian. From her age of 14, we began working with doctors and therapists, and I supported irreversible medical interventions starting at their age of 16 and they lived as male for 10 years. From what she tells me, it seems to be that she had internalized homophobia as an early teen. And in addition, she tells me that on the internet, she got the information that taking testosterone stopped your period, and that was in her eyes a real win. Oh how I wish the medical and psychological experts we saw for YEARS had gotten to the root of the issue. Our family is completely accepting and friends with many gays and lesbians. She would have been accepted with open arms. We are in a major city and saw expert doctors and therapists at a University Medical Center specializing in transgender care.
I sincerely hope you are doing well and your daughter is living the best life she can have 💜💜💜
It’s like being a tomboy/ butch/ gender non-conforming no longer exists. We do exist and nothing is wrong with that.
Angela Martinez maybe In America , I see butch lesbians all the times in streets and nobody think of them as men . They are simply masculine women .
Me, I'm a woman with a very masculine personality but who still likes some feminine things like jewelry and fashion, so I've literally been confused for a man in drag before. That's my situation. lol And I have been invalidated by gender wokies who see it as a threat to their ideology that I don't understand why anyone gives a flying fuck about pronouns. Being mad at others for what pronoun they see you as is pointless. They have as much a right to their perspective as we do, after all.
@Anon Name What point are you trying to make?
@Anon Name How so?
@Anon Name you’re a dumbass. i love trans people but i draw the line at “non-binary” because it simply isn’t real. being “non-binary” essentially means that you’re a normal human because everyone feels both masculine and feminine energies within their core. even the manliest-looking men with beards, huge cars and a beautiful wife at home can encompass enough feminine energy to be considered “non-binary” in the TRA-world because your appearance doesn’t define your gender identity, right? your community has no idea how much harm you’re doing to REAL trans people putting “non-binary” people at the forefront of the LGBTQ community. “non-binary” people have no right representing those with REAL trans issues. you’re all too wrapped up in being inclusive to the point where you’re going backwards. i remember what the original message was, i was there on tumblr when it made so much sense and i was such a supporter but now it’s toxic and disgusting.
Nothing in life can be figured out or learned w/o debate, discussion, and/or constructive criticism. All of which are becoming arrestable offenses.
Well said
💯 🙁
Proverbs says the wounds of a friend are faithful, but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful.
Arrestable offenses? By who? Please let me know. I didn't know twitter accounts could all of a sudden arrest you.
Legitimately this trend is probably what scares me the most about having a kid in this day and age. Not that they might be trans, but that they might THINK they’re trans and to try to dig deeper would make me “bigoted”. Malpractice insurance boutta go crazy over the next 10-20 years.
Children can’t make decisions over their body until they’re legal adults. Let your child think they are trans and accept them for it but clearly don’t make physical body changes until 18
When I was a younger teenager, I felt like I wasn't a boy or a girl. I felt like I was neither. But there wasn't a term for it back then. I think that now the term is non-binary. As I grew older and became an adult, I came to a conclusion that I am a woman (the gender I was born as). I'm glad I've never acted on my dysphoria and never made any changes as a teen because I now know I would have regretted it.
A girl that I was friends with in high school had her daughter "come out" as non-binary when she was 9. Except her daughter doesn't actually feel that way. She keeps telling therapists that she's only doing it because her mother WANTS her to. When the therapists tell the mom that her daughter wants to be herself, she quits that therapist and gets a new one, "one that's more sensitive to the needs of LGBTQ+ children." She calls herself "pansexual," and says her son "identifies as" pretty much whatever he's into at that moment- dinosaurs, robots, cars, etc. Except he's not allowed to have "boy" things. He has to wear skirts, can only wear pink, purple or rainbow tie-dyed clothing, and must play with dolls. If he asks for a "boy" toy, she tells him no, because "I'm not going to raise another straight, white male." I really, really wish I was making this up. Those kids are going to turn 18, move away and never speak to their parents again. It's 100% about her getting attention, about being "special" for being such an "understanding, supportive mother." I have a very, very good friend who's a trans man, and he was disgusted by this mother. What he said to me- "force is not supportive, she's no different than a parent who beats a boy for wearing a skirt, or won't accept a gay child, she's just as extreme but the opposite, nobody should support this."
I'm glad you've found yourself, and never had this kind of parent! I hope you have a long, wonderful and happy life full of love for who you are!
I also born as female, who internally always thought that I should have been born as a boy, because I'm not as "emotional" as other girls, i.e my friends. They love dolls and all other girls toys, but I didn't. I preferred to follow my brother, climbing trees, catching fishes, playing kites, marbles, etc. Also, I was class president in schools, all other girls usually asked me to protect them from naughty boys. I fought with boys and hit them.
It turned out I'm just a female INTPs who dislike seeing injustices. Compare to tears and emotional reactions, most of the time, like 99%, I always react logically. LOL.
And my true "puberty" was when I was in my early 20s. That's when I fell in love with skirts, heels, pink color, laces, silks, bows and make up. LOL.
I now work as a computer programmer, coming to office in my lovely dresses and heels, with laptop backpack and I'm lovin' it.
Non-binary people usually don't make any real physical changes to their bodies since gender is just a social construct (not the same as biological sex) and it is not trans. Trans people make changes to fit the gender and/or sex they transitioned to. And non-binary can be a variety of self-identification.
@@phoenixxena8194 I'm in my mid-20s and I'm still tomboyish (also bisexual). Sometimes I'm a bit feminine, and other times I'm a bit masculine, but most of the time I'm a bit of both combined at the same time if that makes sense but I don't really wear dresses since I'm not too into them. But I am an emotional but also a rational/logical person, not always at the same time though.
@@phoenixxena8194 this is beautiful, I hope you achieve everything you want in life
I’m a trans ftm 29 yr old I honestly think that transiting at an early age is also a problem because ppl aren’t 100% sure of them selfs yet.
Exactly so. And a child or young teen already has more than enough discovering to do about themselves, without asking themselves questions that baffle well-educated grown-ups, even.
It should definitely be a post age 25 situation when you could consider ones brain to be "fully developed". In my opinion.
Well said! And this is from a conservative, that dosnt care who you go to bed with or what clothes you want to wear (male/female)
I fully agree, you can't just let it happen you need to take some time to really make sure it's what you want.
No. No you aren't. No one has ever transitioned from one gender to another. Not even once. You're a woman who masquerades as an effeminate man. Not trying to be unkind, just honest.
How do I know? I am an actual man. Dick, balls, massive testosterone production and the muscle that goes with it. I know. Your girls are easy to spot.
The tattoo "valid" is so sad.
People shouldn't need validation from others.
That's where the whole thing starts.
True happiness and peace comes from within. These people haven't figured that out yet. This is mostly self hatred, that they project out to the rest of the world. They blame the world , that they hate themselves.
It shows there are more problems underneath it - neither would be being gay or trans most likely
When I was in primary school my parents send me to a child therapist on advice from the school, because I had some anxiety and anger management issues. The therapist had a conversation with my parents to ask about my background and they also mentioned an incident where I was playing with my sister and put on one of her dresses. My parents saw this as just kids playing around, but the therapist immediately jumped on this and try to convince my parents that I was trans and this was the root cause of all my problems. My parents told him this was bullshit and when he kept insisting eventually found another therapist.
I am a now 32 year old heterosexual male, without any gender doubts or whatever, so I am very happy that my parents told him off and did not let him give me hormones or convince me I was trans or something. I feel pretty strongly on this subject now, because I don't know how parents would respond in this day and age. You are doing great work Arielle, keep on protecting kids!
Loving your folks for this 👏
I'm worried about this for my daughter sometimes. She's 9, a bit of a tomboy, and has already expressed that she isn't sure if she's straight. I don't want her to think she's a boy just because she isn't classically feminine in every way.
Have a look at 4thwavenow. Lots of resources.
she just needs to know she is loved and supported and she doesn't have to worry or choose anything. Show her videos or movies or read books/ give her books or anything to let her know she is good enough as she is. anything girl power anything feminist and girl positive. She doesn't have to pick or choose anything. I was a tomboy and am a lesbian. I also know quite a few straight women who were "tomboys" and are still straight. lol.
Just let her express herself however she wants. It's a lot harder for children to diagnosis for gender dysphoria.
Isn't that obvious? Like, since what time is it ok to start thinking about yourself what other people expect you to be? Like be you! Be a woman if YOU think you are and be a man if you feel so. But remember that with freedom and decisions comes the responsibility. I thought it was obvious and natural to people, that transitioning is not a mood swing and you cannot fo it till you made sure it ix not misogyny or trauma or anything
I was a tomboy as a child, still am as an adult. My mother and I had a heart to heart on Christmas day where I voiced concern that had I been born to this generation and to to different mother I probably would've been sucked into trans ideology just for not conforming to BS gender stereotypes. My mother's response? "They'd probably think I was trans too."
As a child my mother didn't need to have any conversations with me. I liked what I liked, I dressed how I liked and at no point did my mother ever try and force me to be more "girly". She just let me be a kid without any stress of labels or conformity. It might have taken until I was 35 to ever wear a dress but it is what it is lol
If your daughter is a lesbian, normalise it for her. If your daughter is a tomboy, normalise it for her. As in, don't make a big deal out of it and just listen to her. Oh, and for the love of all things holy keep her away from the internet.
I'm so glad I wasn't expose to this side of the community when I was younger. I'm a very masculine lesbian, I'm a very masculine WOMAN and I've never felt confortable with the gender roles assigned to women, and I can only imagine that if someone wanted to convince me I was trans, then I would have probably believed it because I wasn't confortable with the "label" "lesbian". This is very dangerous, you are doing a great job doing this videos and informing people of the truth.
I can totally relate to your comment. I'm 65 yo lesbian and as a kid I was a tomboy and even told my parents to call me Bill. I am glad I didn't have to navigate trans questioning. I'm happy with who I am.
@Quazi Roberts probably more than you do asshole.
Being counter culture used to mean that you were going to school dressed as an Emo... and before that a Punk... and before that a Greaser. I suppose you can throw Hippie and Hipster in there as well.
Good part of being Emo, etc., is that you can grow or cut your hair, leave the makeup off and remove a few pieces of jewelry and go lead a "normal" life after the fad passes.
Exactly. And think about how many tattoos kids have gotten that they regret in adulthood. This is the “bad tattoo” of past decades, but much less reversible and much more regrettable.
@@carolynchavez9086 + SO true.
@@carolynchavez9086 agree
If they want to chemically sterilize themselves through hormones, society is much better off for it
Yep if your parents do something to your body that's going to change it at the age of 6 years old and as you get older you are so psychologically messed up that you don't know what you're going to do and your body is totally destroyed so there you go that's wokeness for you the future is full full of poor innocent people that will be totally messed up all because of a fad that will pass if you're truly trans you'll know it you don't have to destroy your body to find it out
In my day, long ago, it was pretty much okay to just be a tomboy. You could be female and like "boy stuff" and it was fine.
Tomboy here, liked boys toys, hated girly stuff. As adult, I'm still the same, but I'm a woman who just likes boys stuff.
It still is fine. We need more people to see that
I just feel like being trans is a “cool thing” now?? People want to be special so bad they’ll do anything!!
Same as non binary
People need to be part of something.
It used to be religion but now it could be the most crazy stuff you can come up with.
@@douglaskramer1853 wow I never thought of it like that. That’s so true
@@niamhballantyne6337 thats Nietzsche
True
And this ...is why you don't let children make life altering decisions for themselves. Chemical or surgical transition should have an age requirement
The problem arises for transgender individuals who are actually transgender, though. Transgender women have it worse. If they are not put on, at least, puberty blockers from a younger age, puberty and testosterone would have already made life-altering impacts on the body that are not irreversible if put on estrogen later on in life. Even then, with puberty blockers (keep in mind these have absolutely no effect on the body other than delaying puberty), there is only so much time you can keep someone potentially transgender on those blockers before moving onto HRT. I agree with your surgical statement, and your medical statement when it comes to female to male individuals, yet transwomen don’t have much of a choice.
Dammit, yes. There are so many things that should be discussed before the possibility of changing a still-growing body even comes up.
I am of 2 minds on this issue. There is a definite advantage for a REAL TRANS PERSON to transition young. They will not be clocked out in public and won't experience public harassment and discrimination. On the other hand, if they aren't really trans, they can have a lifetime of unwanted physical changes or alterations. There needs to be better screening and assessment of these kids.
Not a transition, just a body modification
Spirit Angelfish
But it would be more expensive.
I spent my childhood as a tomboy, quite literally seeing myself as boy, and experiencing dysphoria. I was definitely told i was trans and spent a while believing i was a trans man.
The reality was that I was dealing with a lot of misogyny (my dad is a male chauvinist and openly told me he wished i was a boy), i was dealing with internalized homophobia (cant date women unless i became a man), and it took my loving sister questioning whether my upbringing effected my desire to be a man, that caused me to realize i was just a woman dealing with my own issues.
Power and respect to you Mikah. thank you for sharing your story. the truth is most of the detranstioning women that I have talked with say the same thing. It is not all, but most of this is about misogyny, lesbophobia, Butch hating culture. what we do to girls and young women and how we treat them has a profound impact. Your voice needs to be heard.
Same I was raised to be a man. Eversince the drs showed my parents my ultrasound and said 'its a boy!' me being a girl didn't change that. In their heads I was still their baby boy. Got my brothers hand me downs, being told that it was my job to provide for my husband and children etc. It messed me up. I could only wear dresses to church no where else. My mom still calls me her 'henry'. It got so bad that strangers thought I was a boy (cause of my clothes) I got so confused cause everyone saw me as a boy but I knew I was a girl. Happy to say that I'm away from my parents and can be the girl I was meant to be.
I know a girl going through this and have no idea how to bring it up. She was raised by a misogynist single father who constantly told her she was evil because she’s a woman. Also she’s a lesbian. And this is obviously something she could work through, but instead she’s gonna get surgery and permanently change her body.
I am sorry you had to go through that . I hope you are more comfortable in your own skin.
Bless your sister 💘 and keep strong 💪🏻.
My cousin transitioned instead of accepting her homosexuality. It’s all been very sad.
I had an employee a few years ago who you could call butch lesbian. After she left and moved she decided to have 'top surgery' and changer her name to a masculine one. She suicided not too long ago. IMO a large number of people who present as 'trans' are just very unhappy with their current life and want to change it and pick this as a convenient 'reason' for their unhappiness that they then change. When the unhappiness doesn't go away, they are left in a worse circumstance than when they started. We do them no favors by 'validating their reality' without QUESTIONING IT FIRST. If it is true- it will withstand the scrutiny. If not, perhaps we can help them find happiness more effectively some other way.
So sad.
Keep up the scrutiny.
Well said
@@gugenko12 Thank you
My friend who has ADD, dyslexia and a bunch of issues at home started identifying as trans after a few years of me being trans. I think they saw how much happier I'd become in my own skin after socially, then medically, transitioning and therefore thought it might fix their own life. I don't think they really assessed why they're truly unhappy and just jumped straight into identifying as trans to 'change' into someone else, even though the entire point of transitioning is to be your true self without dysphoria crippling your life without having to change who you are.
I wouldn't be surprised if they detransition once they go on hormones and just claim they're still an 'uwu transboi' without needing hormones. So far they've identified as genderfluid, then nonbinary, then as a transman, changed their name twice after already using one gender neutral name for months, said wearing a binder was 'too hard', has joined an online trans group that claims there are multiple trans concentration camps around our town and has done a bunch of attention seeking bs related to their 'new gender'. Very frustrating. Soz just needed to rant.
@@chowchowchu8563 I am very glad you were able to find the right solution for your situation. Life can be difficult and complex and it is natural for people to search for a simple solution. Unfortunately it is often the wrong one. If people with troubles are given proper support and guidance they would more often find true solutions for their unique situations..
Again, happy you were able to.
definitely agree with ur POV. As a trans myself, I know there couldn't be other way for me but I'm glad I could experience many things before to be sure It wasn't something else. Sad for this girl, I guess but may be she didn't killed herself because she transitioned, but because her life became pure hell. I mean, other ppl are really bad toward me everyday, sometimes I even started to ask myself if I was sure to continue on this path. But I'm living for myself, not others.
I remember when I was young, I wanted to turn into a guy because I thought my parents would love me more if I was a man. They used to keep telling me that they were so upset I came out as a girl, and I saw how they treated my brothers in a much kinder way. Growing older, I wanted to stay as a woman because I wanted to be a mother.
I used to have the same feeling sometimes.
By 18 I was a very feminine girl. Still a very feminine woman.
Thank goodness I grew up in the 90 and early 2000s
Otherwise I’m today’s time I would have been pressured into this!!
it sucks how women have it this hard in this society that in some instances their last resort is to become a man to be liked.. it doesn’t help that some even contribute to the misogyny. i just really wish we wouldn’t be so seen as inferior so that girls would feel more comfortable in their bodies and not feel like they have to change their gender because of the way this world treats women. its fucked up.
Your parents should have transitioned into a cemetery. They’re the only ones with a problem.
I’m a male who seems feminine. But that doesn’t mean I’m a woman.
No it mean's you're a transphobe posting BS on youtube.
Yes and that is ok. Truly trans people like me wouldn't want anyone else to be trans. It sucks to experience gender dysphoria. Then people who are not trans transition and have to experience it like wtf.
@@kateofone Way to justify your internalized transphobia.... Not.
Drusilla Draconis ok zoomer
@@drusilladraconis4535 everyone is a transphobe cause they don't have dysphoria, amazing logic lol
If I was in middle school today I would absolutely identify as nonbinary or something. I would see it as a way to opt out of womanhood! Seeing the way women are treated, going through puberty, I definitely didn't want to be a women lol. I don't want to be ogled or treated differently. These poor kids.
Agree. Males are made fun of during puberty by girls for voice changes etc also. It’s a horrible time. Males also get oogled. No one speaks about this but older women often oogle teen boys. There is a whole book about it “the beautiful boy” where an older predatory woman writes a book about loving males at that age while then going into a misandrist rant about masculinity and men. Lol!
They have actually turned being trans into a social construct.
I am SO glad you are telling the truth. You will help many children and parents. It had to be you and Blaire of course. Thank you
I can’t stress this message enough.
I am one of these girls.
I was never feminine as a young teen. All my friends were boys and I identified with them more then girls. I got bullied for this and suffered early childhood abuse, with much abuse focused on the females in the family. I associated all this abuse with being a female and when I was sucked into a different friendship group all with which were woke non-binary or trans, I was told all my problems would go away is if I became a man. I came out as trans and supported the community but entering college a year and a half later... I leant to love my feminine side and enjoyed the idea of have a family one day. I got out early before I started anything medical. I grew my hair back, changed my name back. But people still call me out on it, say that I’m a traitor and that I lied about being trans. I wanted to be a man. No doubt about it but outside factors and being young played a huge part in making me think I wanted to be a man.
But I am a woman.
Everyone’s journey is different. I fully support anyone over 18 making such decisions but the youth are in a echo chamber of identity politics.
My ex is detransitioning and her story sounds pretty similar to yours (though she had top surgery and took T for 4 years which she's very depressed about now) and it makes me so fucking furious that you and she and people like her are accused of being traitors and liars for realising that they were wrong about something. It can't be an easy conclusion to come to and you all deserve support and love and respect not bullying and name-calling!
Well done to you for managing to find your path. Abuse on one side, peer pressure on the other. Enough to turn anyone inside out. And you were simply a confused young woman, who thought she wanted the wrong thing. Ridiculous to call that being a traitor. It's just being a teen.
@@Redrosewitch People are jerks.
Thank you for speaking out!
I have a similar journey. I identified as a ftm. And as time went on I became more uncomfortable due to the pressure I felt from the LGBT community. When I decided to identify as female again. I lost friends and and felt excluded from the LGBT community. My one friend hounded me for months about why I wasn't giving an answer about my detransition.
I was a raging tomboy growing up, when I started growing breasts I cried and prayed to God to make it stop! Then I got into my teens and presto, I was the most girly girl ever (Im am straight for the record) my point is when your young you don't know and all this insanity is not helping either, thank God it was not going on back then, puberty was tough enough without all this nonsense.
Same! Then the tomboy phase went away and I love being a lady but I do still enjoy some "boyish" activities, (boyish, as assigned by gender roles, goes only by name).
Wtf does this have to do with gender dsyphoria tho ? When did you start gender therapy?
@@yassine8935 what they are getting at is that by today's standards it would have been seen as gender dysphoria and they would have been encouraged to begin the transition process. But ultimately that was not the case, they were just a tomboy whose young, developing, mental and emotional health was overwhelmed by the biological changes to their body. But once they worked through those feelings they were happy with their biological changes and as they matured became more feminine over the majority of their tomboy preferences.
That's her whole point is that in today's society if that had happened she would probably have been misdiagnosed with gender dysphoria.
@Infu Exe I completely agree! That is why I fully believe any sort of transitioning should wait until adulthood.
Right, I don't know who goes through puberty and thinks wow this is amazing, I'm so thrilled. I was like Oh hell no! what's this hair think its doing I was trying to pull it out and I was trying to pound the breasts back in *crying* I didn't want any of it, to top it off I was the first one out of my friends to bleed and they came to my house to find out why I wasn't at school they jumped up and down and screamed 🥳congratulations🎉 trying to celebrate it I put my hand out and just said "No, it's not like that." 😂 what a nightmare that was.
I can't imagine thinking transitioning was a possibility when I was a young confused tomboy. When I was a teen I thought I was genderfluid, but I've grown up to realize I'm proud to be a woman and I can do anything the boys/men can. They say break gender roles then go on to define the gender roles 🤔 I'm a female welder and wish more kids would be exposed to things that are not boy things or girl things but basic life skills. We should all know how to cook clean and use tools. It hurts to see kids so confused about the cards we're dealt, life is hard enough. Womanhood ain't all it's cracked out to be and I'm sure the same could be said for manhood.
EXACTLY, I'm a really really small guy. As in 5'6 120 lbs small, I wear pink Tshirts, I have stuffed animals, I wear cat ear headphones, I also have very long hair but, I'm not a girl, I'm a straight white male that doesn't fit his gender role, but I've never believed in gender roles in the first place. If I started identifying as a woman just because I like "feminine" things, wouldn't that just be perpetuating gender roles?
These people don't have gender dysphoria, they're confused by gender roles, they think being dominant and aggressive means you're a man, and being submissive and passive is to be a woman. So they identify as "non-binary" not because they actually think they're "neither" but because they see "masculine" and "feminine" traits within themselves.
Gender dysphoria is a real issue, and it's a serious one, but it shouldn't be taken so lightly that anyone can just diagnose themselves with it.
@@citizenvulpes4562 I absolutely agree and am happy to hear you can accept yourself for who you are. This life is what we make of it and it's no use getting hung up on what others think we should be or do.
As a transgender male myself, looking at all of this I believe there needs to be more education about the difference of gender dysphoria and body dysmorphia. Educating myself on this difference brought me to realize that transitioning was best for me. It really helped me be fully assure of myself and discover who I was.
GOOD
Arielle Scarcella omg I have been watching you for 10 years now wow. Thank you keeping doing you !!!
Minty no I was born female and transitioned to male
@Minty are you going to be their doctor because unless you are this man's chromosomes really have no relevance and never will in any conversation.
@Minty the only times someone's biological sex/chromosomes matters is if you are that person's medical professional or their romantic partner.
If you are not either of those things to someone their chromosomes will never matter to when you're interacting with them.
If you can give me just one example of day-to-day life where someone's chromosomes matter, if you were not that person's doctor or partner. I'll admit your world view isn't completely full of shit.
It's a fad diagnosis. It happens. 30 years ago everybody had ADHD. Now everyone has Gender Dysphoria.
And again, it’s absolutely invalidating, and destroying the lives of people who actually suffer from the disorder. I was 22 when I was diagnosed with ADD. After nearly having failed high school, after having struggled for over a decade to overcome the symptoms. It took my therapist one visit to see what I was genuinely expressing the characteristics of the disorder but did not begin talking about treatment until a year later because I kept refusing to accept that it was a real disorder. Took three more years before I allowed them to prescribe medication.
Mary Poppins it probably is a valid disorder, but not represented as much in the population as people think. Not everybody has ADHD, some kids just need some discipline.
me likey it’s actually the TYPE of discipline used that often feeds children’s actions. Nothing will work the same way for everyone. But I agree that it has been over diagnosed in children who simply have not learned coping skills. Not an issue if it’s over diagnosed if the kids just got therapy. All cognitive therapy is, is learning ways to cope with whatever mental health condition is ailing them. The issue is when medications are presented. Same with transgender issues. Perfectly fine for kids to go to therapy. It’s probably be fantastic for any and all children to have the ability to learn from a therapist. But when medications are put into the mix, that’s when the issues happen.
Not really a fad diagnosis. More people are coming out because it's becoming more acceptable. Many still won't come out simply because they'll get disowned or lose their jobs. So when people think it's a fad, I'm actually astonished. Transitioning and risk everything...
@@rogueantful Both things are true. More people risk coming out, and that is good. But there are also people being convinced that they are trans when they are simply gender-non-conforming and sometimes gay or lesbians. And that is bad. The rise in the rate of detransitioning is a sign that the diagnosis is being done carelessly.
My 19 yr old niece brought 17 of her college friends over for a pool party. If I recall all but three said that they were trans and used they/them pronouns. Clearly by both appearance and behavior they were obviously all straight. Seems "trans" has become a fashion statement.
@AsHLiegH-MaRie HoPe The guys and girls all paired off. It was very very clear that they are all very very straight. I heard the word vegan tossed around a lot yet they all wolfed down the BBQ like guard dogs. It was all posturing.
@@NuclearGrizzly hmmmm, i wonder if the trans-fads are possibly depleting much needed resources from people actually dealing with dysphoria??? Hmmmm?
@@NuclearGrizzly again... being trans and being gay are different. Just because you're trans doesnt mean you're gay and vice versa.
I think you meant cisgender.
@@mynameisnike My point being none were gay or trans. Not in any way shape or form.
There's a lot of teen detransitioners who genuinely experience gender dysphoria but I believe that gender dysphoria can be caused by a variety of different things and have different treatments depending on the person. People need to be screened with proper therapy.
School bullies 1998: "hahaha, ur a guy who likes cooking, makeup & interior decorating? that means ur gay!"
Woke brigade 2020: "no, it means you're trans."
No not at all no one other than you can assign your gender .
@@yassine8935 thanks I didn't know that.
@@yassine8935 Gender is how people perceive you. Anything else is bullshit.
Transpeople are so woke they make huge steps backwards when it comes to gender roles.
I mean they’re not wrong
I was born with with really deep voice and have been called "sir" years before puberty.. I was into sports, hated dresses and loved playing with the boys. But damn, when I started skateboarding, I never thought about living as a boy.
these qualities don’t make you any less of a woman
Because you are not gender dysphoric or trans
That’s as to say that because not everyone had the same experience as you that they are all crazy 🙄
@@bperez8656 that’s what she’s saying though, all because she has masculine qualities, it didn’t mean she was trans/gender dysphoric. this can be said about many many many men and women because it’s normal to feel both masculine and feminine energy. we need people to stop thinking they’re “non-binary” for embodying both fem/masc qualities. men with big beards and big trucks can be feminine, and women who love pink dresses and makeup can be masculine. very very very normal stuff. in regards to gender dysohoria? for non-binary people, it’s most likely body dysmorphia - but also for women, it’s normal for us to feel uncomfortablein our growing bodies, especially as teenagers and young adults. i hated my boobs, my hips, i didn’t like being looked at as a beautiful girl, i wanted to be perceived as NOTHING, “genderless”, but the older i got i realised that i love my breasts and my femininity. regardless of my experiences with my body, i was also a BIG big tomboy because i wanted to be like my brother. i enjoy anime, games, my sense of humour is very masculine, i act like a guy around my guy friends, i’m very good at blending in among men despite my giant eyeliner wings and my cute outfits. it’s not a unique quality!!!!
@@bperez8656 Did u understand...
Please do not put Non-binary in quotations, it’s a little offensive. You are entitled to your opinion and I’m not saying that you can’t express it, but Enbies do exist.
Im only 17 and I'm still thinking about my career but I think I wanna be a therapist and help those people. I'm a lesbian and I feel bad for women who suffer from internalized homophobia and want to transition even though they don't have gender dysphoria. With a proper diagnosis they can avoid any future regrets.
You won’t be allowed to properly help these people as a psychologist/therapist nowadays. If you don’t encourage women to cut off their boobs and men to invert their penises, you lose your job and livelihood.
The problem is that right now anything but immediate affirmation is being called "conversion therapy."
as a lesbian grandmother, I'm terrified for my granddaughter being pulled into this cult. she's 8 and vulnerable. unfortunately her parents don't get updates from her teachers on what is going on in school. once they get ahold of a child, the parents never get them back.
2016: "It's not a phase, mom!"
2020: "Oh wait."
Trans is the new emo.
I'm trans and emo, at least I know why this video was in my recommended lol
ME
@@_scorpianina you're such a cishet
@@ravenecho2410 anything wrong with that when 95% of people are cishet? Nothing, same logic can be applied vice versa!
I am so glad I am old enough that I missed the “teen transtrender” era. I could see myself being swept up in this trans craze.
I am glad i am well informed so i can inform my children when i do have them. Only thing i am worried about is that my kids will hear this propaganda in school etc.
Yes and this is the issue is that it has been propagandized to such an extent that it's become almost like a cool or trendy thing to do and those most likely to be susceptible to this are hormonal, confused, and emotional teens who are going through a tough enough time as it is with identity (like most all of us did when we were that age) and trying to figure out who they are and where they fit in this world. If one of my 3 children came to me in the future (cuz they're still quite young as of right now) and said they felt like they were not.their biological gender I would support them fully in that but I would still not consent to any surgery or drug regiments to transition until they were mature enough to make that decision and had lived as that gender for long enough to know it is what they want. Impulsive choices usually end up being regretted years down the road and as a parent it is instinctual to protect your child from harm
Lmao this comment is so funny
Same 😭😭😭
It's not a craze. It's reality that some were born in the wrong body
Ever since I discovered the r/detrans subreddit my whole perspective on transitioning has completely shifted.
Yes, that subreddit is eye opening. There are more young men showing up lately as well as all the women.
Why did it shift? I mean why is this such an eye opening thing? I believe that it is pretty much expected in our society that people will try to use trans label as an explanation to misogyny snd all that, but still that doesn't prove that trans man do not exist, it just proves that there is not enough education on this, that before transitioning people should really examine everything and be responsible. And of course it is not possible in our super misogynistic society. I am not saying that it is ok. I am saying do not be si surprised
People transition without thinking. I went through 2 years of therapy and had gender dysphoria. What I did was mandatory. Therapy actually helps a lot too. They gave me a low does for anxiety and that really helped too.
Remember when there was a huge fight to get "Mz" accepted as an alternative to "Mrs" or "Ms"? I have NEVER met someone who goes by "Mz". In 10 years, we are going to do the same with pronouns once we realize how stupid it all is.
Good point!
It breaks my heart as an adult woman person to watch the harm towards those children unfold. It is important to talk about it
Absolutely vital. Makes you wonder what the hell their parents are playing at. They can happily see their child have potentially harmful hormone treatments and major, body-altering surgery. But the prospect that their daughter might simply be a butch lesbian or their son a feminine gay guy, doesn't figure as a possibility.
@@Redrosewitch it's virtue signalling and halo polishing. They care more about how others perceive them.
I’m so confused by these “professionals,” like- is a doctor fat phobic for suggesting a patient lose weight before the gastric bypass?? They’re concerned for the longevity of the patient!! The PATIENT comes first!!
As a straight white male, I really appreciate your videos. Relying on more mainstream sources for these answers has been far from fruitful. I am genuinely curious why/how this all came about. I had a feeling that underlying mental issues had a role in some cases. Keep up the good work. Parents doing this stuff to their children really needs to be brought into the spotlight, I would personally consider it child abuse. So sad.
The fact that your White is irrelevant
You’re so very right about that
The problem when the minority rules over the majority, the problem when the majority rule over the minority without representation. The problem with Mob Rule.
Most of these children after the medical system messes with them won't be able to have children later in life, let that one sink in
i’m really really glad that she mentioned body dysmorphia. I have body dysmorphia, it has severely affected my ability to gain weight and feel comfortable in my own skin. As an adult woman, I’ve had a lot of specific issues with my breasts. I had to do a bunch of mental gymnastics and really dig deep do you understand that I wasn’t experiencing gender dysphoria because I disliked my breasts; my body dysmorphia made me dislike my breast because I saw them as fat sacks. I saw men’s bodies being flat and not having curves as being indicative of being skinny or just less in the way or something. body dysmorphia is a real thing and it especially affects women; how horrifying is it to imagine these women with body dysmorphia like myself being told by doctors and therapists that they are correct in their feelings of hating their bodies. And then going as far as giving them options to do things like cut off their breasts… I have personally never considered cutting off my breasts because I know it wouldn’t really make me feel any better about my body; it’d probably be worse actually, because it would be a daily validation that i, myself, as i am, am wrong, bad, and disgusting, and my body is abhorrent. the best thing in my life is having people around me tell me i’m crazy for thinking that way. breaking me out of my own delusions. i’m so so sad for these girls.
“Internalized misogyny.” when I was a kid (Ontop of being attracted to girls instead of boys), I also felt like women had this role to be dainty (weak), into fashion (have anxiety about their clothing choices), and had to be careful how they dressed and acted (to not lure men). And I hated the thought of those restrictions (cause I thought they didn’t apply to boys), so at about 10 or 11 (2002ish) I started gravitating to more “male choices,” by 15 (2007) I wanted to be a guy more then anything (I had a secret girlfriend, I identified as male online, etc.). I never looked down on my female friends but I had a big issue with being female myself (and by that time I hated my female parts too). At 17 I wanted to transition when I was an adult, but it was 2009, so it wasn’t as common. I never did anything medically, but at 19 I started detransitioning my mental image (it took about 5 years to fully accept my body for what it was), but it took me until about 27 to understand why I used to have this hang up on being a girl. When I realized that I had these views that women had to be a certain way, I can really only think to label this as my own misogyny (and I’m upset at myself for ever thinking that way, but I realize that sometimes we get hung up on something we’ve been brainwashed into believing as a kid, and it carries into our adult life). This is really the first time I’ve heard someone else bring misogyny up in the same fashion and I just wanted to share.
I believe that your experience is valid but I also believe that true trans people which are not based on misogyny exist.
Thanks for sharing your very insightful story.
You're absolutely right: we've all been "brainwashed into believing" nonsense about gender roles. What does it mean to be a woman? I don't know. Nobody knows. It doesn't really mean anything. Maybe it is simply what we make of it.
thebatonmaster then why do so many people refuse to call trans women “women” because they don’t have female biology
Олежа Вонофага I agree that they do too. My experience is unique to me and not a representation of others.
@@thebatonmaster I would imagine most women would be able to explain what it means to be a woman. I can tell you what it's like like to be a man! The whole identity politics drama has got to stop. A gay man or trans woman can't tell you what it's like to be a woman... They can tell you from their own perspective what they feel about themselves but unless you are a woman, or you are a man respectively you can't truly say that you "know" being female is much more than identity it's just the way they were born and why they grew up doing things and experiencing life way differently than their male counterparts.
I consider myself lucky I was born before people we're transitioning children. Around the age of like 6-10 I was always saying I wanted to be a boy, but simply because I was always told 'you can't do that because you're a girl' 'act like a girl' 'girls are weak and boy's are strong' this couldve been me my god
Why all the apostrophes? we're? boy's? None of these are necessary.
When you ask a trans person "what does it feel like to be a wo/man?" All they can give are stereotypes of each gender. They even made their flag blue and pink (the traditional colors used to distinguish male from female.)
I love the shout-out to Blaire White. She gets a lot of hate but she is giving a platform to people who have detransitioned when RUclips was silencing their stories.
I agree with the stereotype part
Pink was a male associated colour. I’d say after that it became a female associated colour.
If you ask me, as a transgender person, the question "What does it feel like to be a wo/man?" I would answer "There is no feeling like a wo/man, I just feel that I align more closely to wo/men."
It is rather subjective whether my reasoning for doing so is rational. If all someone has is stereotypes for each gender, I agree, that is a rather weak rationalization, and this is where a lot of the controversy on the left is. If someone has medically transitioned due to gender dysphoria that doesn't go away with therapy, does it then become rational? Some think yes, some think no. I personally think it would be extraordinarily cruel to tell for example Hunter Schafer that they are simply a man, but plenty of hard line conservatives would feel that it is morally necessary to do so, ambiguity being the devil and all.
@@jehbeh4591 you're the first person I have heard say that and that makes sense. But obviously there are many different types of women and I am sure you wouldn't align with them all, you probably would also align with some men. But you want to be a woman, you like feminine culture. I can understand that.
Even more disturbing is that they’re baby colors
I live in the UK and there is such a long waiting list for people with actual mental illness because of Tiktok and the amount of young people who self diagnose these days because it makes them 'interesting' or they saw a post that says people who have strong emotions = bipolar, it's crazy.
Thank you for having this incredibly valuable conversation. 15 years ago I (Gen X lesbian) had a date with a beautiful young woman who told me that she "had considered transitioning because she was tired of being sexually objectified". That began my listening/researching/thinking about transgender issues. I noticed a disproportionate number of young women (esp. butch/tomboy women) transitioning at a very young age and making irreversible changes to their bodies at 18, 19, 20 years old . Since the frontal lobe (associated with impulse control) isn't even fully developed until age 25ish, I started worrying about my young lesbian friends doing something so drastic at such a young age. I think about who I was and where my head was at at age 18 compared with who I was at age 28 or even now at 50. I noticed transitioning happening like a wildfire spreading in a way that again proportionally didn't make sense. The dots I (and many other women I know) started connecting that intersected patriarchy/social media/social contagion/trends/self-esteem/mental health/ etc. now get me labeled as a "terf" "transphobe" "bigot" "hateful" etcetera. But it simply started out of concern and observation and my own growing understanding of myself as a human living in a very complex, ever-changing world. I have always had trans friends, as have the majority of my lesbian friends. We shared a commonality of being sexual outsiders (of the mainstream) and gender non-conforming folks. It's deeply frightening to me that my observations of what seems now to have become an almost fundamentalist transgender ideology that actively advocates violence against women , has me feeling unsafe,hated,and afraid to talk about these things publicly. I appreciate your willingness to thoughtfully and respectfully talk about these very important topics.
The sad thing is why do people have to be labeled anything? Instead of just trying to understand the other side the extremists in the trans community label others instead of being proved that their push for transitioning anyone who doesn't conform to the status quo is wrong. I don't know if it's some people's pride of "helping" or others inability to accept that they are "wrong" that keeps people from understanding the deeper issue; everything is way more complex than things seem their is mental health, brain development, a sense of self love/self respect that most young people/teens don't feel until they are older get out on their own and have learned about themselves. I am curious if part of what is going on is kind of like how cancer was treated where people were given chemotherapy. Doctors got more money because it was one of the most expensive treatment and doctors did get in trouble for this. If being trans is in the brain yes psychological analysis is one thing to be needed along worth therapy but what about an MRI or CT scan? I would imagine if the teams community states that there is physical evidence than that should always be taken into consideration. Even still though someone should never just jump in I would imagine that some people can accept themselves and be happy with who they are just as is and if you can't then after that time of being with a therapist and discussing all options then come to that consensus. In order to make a decision about your body one should be an adult and conscious about themself/who they are. It's a big decision and it should never be about another group accepting you. I agree it is sickening to see all this happen and I hope that it gets brought to light but in today's day and she there would have to be pulling thread piece by thread piece because no one wants to be called out. As a person who believes all people are equal and as someone who is a lesbian is sad to see how many people just can't come to self acceptance/self love. I live being a lesbian and being married to a wonderful supportive intelligent woman who loves me as I am and it's sad that some of these kids who doesn't get properly vetted might take longer to get that our even take a longer time to come to terms with that form of self love. Maybe that is the issue/the cry out we are seeing just the want to be accepted for who they are,but instead society shuns and gives a "cure all" that would put them back in that box of societal norms.
It's valid to be any sexuality one wants but what is never okay is to pressure someone into who they are not. Perhaps this is the message that should be shared instead of one that can further promote self hate in such young minds that are so easy to manipulate.
Jane Smith, Wow, thank you for putting so beautifully exactly how I have been feeling. We are of the same generation.
I get pounded so hard every time I bring up a loving concern for these children (re-: cutting off body parts, taking drugs). And what makes getting pounded so difficult is that it’s coming from lesbian feminists, friends of mine.
As an intercollegiate athlete, I fought for Title IX, and when Martina Navratilova came out with that article last year, and I was simply advocating for only girls to be allowed in girls sports, and having separate teams for intersexed or chemically altered people. I didn’t want to exclude anyone from being able to play. But you wouldn’t make 150-pounder compete against a 200-pound wrestler. Biology does matter.
When I was younger I actually thought I was trans, I dressed as a man, wore tight sports bras to flatten my chest, and I'd even picked a male name, and some years later it lessened.
Turns out, I was dealing with unresolved trauma and was moderately depressed and for some reason I'd just rejected everything feminine after this.
My parents were supportive, but wanted me to wait and see things through, they also had me calm down with it so I was mostly viewed as a tomboy, which I'm super thankful now.
I miss the times where there weren't 10k genders and we had terms like 'tomboy' lol
There are only 2 genders. There are thousands of gender identities. The longer it takes people to realise/ admit this truth the more confused and hopeless our children will feel.
Chris Hall No. 2 genders. 2 gender identities. Male and female. That’s it.
@@missxmarvel Quite a hateful comment. Transgender people exist; there's scientific back up for that. There is, however, no scientific back up for all the tumblr genders out there and that's what I take issue with. I'm a transman, I've been diagnosed with gender dysphoria and you'll never hear me go social justice warrior. In fact, most actual trans people are not one bit like everything you're hearing about.
User 123 But the freaks sure treat it like one.. dumbass.
Levi So you are woman pretending to be a man? That sucks because there is no being more beautiful than a woman who look after her figure. She’s like an artwork.
People used to say, "just be your self."
Using the word 'identity' is so dangerous but almost nobody puts any creedance in how powerful language is.
Everybody is told to have an identity all their own and to identify as something, which limits yourself to a category. Categories are easy to control and be changed, when we shouldn't even be asking the question of where you fit, and just learn to be happy doing what makes you happy.
How can soo many not remember all the phases we went through as children? I ask, how many reading this became what they wanted as a child?
Failure to transform into a dinosaur, or giant robot confirmed.
@@noneyaratman714 I never became an astronaut.
I was a crazy, defiant, boy crazy teenage girl.. I’m 40 now… it’s def not the same .. lol
I’m trans and I used to disagree w you when I was exclusively on the left. Now that I’ve had political shifts, I’m so grateful that you’re speaking on our behalf with such wisdom and clarity! Thank you for what you do. You and Blair and Rose all inspire me to start being vocal about lgbt politics on my own channel! We’ll see if it happens :)
It’s not even about being on the left or right. This stuff is crazy. Just takes common sense to see. This isn’t political.
This is not political and should not be politicised .
Has nothing to do with politics, if you switch political sides just because of one thing, then you are not really that knowledgeable about politics in general. Instead of abandoning your "own side" why not go against it from within? that's how you chance things, if everyone leaves the left that do not agree with this new agenda, then they will only get things changed that much easier.
Back in 2013 I was starting to get exposed to the lgbt community. I started identifying as bisexual because I had always had a feeling that I was attracted to women (rip math teacher crush) and finally saw myself in others. But it also made me question my gender. I cut my long hair off and became kinda rebellious (as you do). The early 2010s were the starting years when it got really trendy to be trans and I'm so thankful I never went down that road or got pulled into that manipulative community on tumblr. I never identified as trans or nb and am proud to say today that I'm a huge lesbian.
Also please make the video with detransitioned lesbians!
I'm a queer teenage girl who wants to be a psychologist some day. I hope I can save my patients from this.
Actuality the “valid” tattoo takes on more meaning now.. being valid as you are, as you were born, knowing you are enough “as is” without modification
R M.
Oh I like that take. Thank you for sharing that.
I like that.
Thats a nice way of thinking
Yes imma tell my cousin whose been born with
Scoliosis this .
Well modification can help some people be more comfortable with themselves so I personally disagree. :P
The stats I was seeing around 2011 was something like 1% of people would de-transition or expressed feelings of regret. When I started you had to do 3 months of therapy before they would even consider hormones. My therapist strongly pushed taking your time. Considering all aspects and deeply understanding yourself. I now know people who didn't even go to a therapist; they just told their doctor they wanted hormones and they got them.
They claim I am jealous because it wasn't so easy for me. But honestly I feel like I needed that therapy time to feel whole and I would not have been as successful without that time. I never felt like my therapist was pushing me one way or the other. Despite at the time really wanting him to just tell me the answer. He made me work for it and I am so appreciative that it was how I did this.
I was 42 the first time I told anyone I was transgender. It took me 2 more years to tell my doctor.
He sent me to the psychologist. After over a year of therapy I was finally diagnosed with gender dysphoria. And was allowed to start testosterone. I’ve been on testosterone for over a year. They won consider any surgery until I’ve been on testosterone for at least two years. I identified as lesbian most of my life. After talking to my mom she told me she worked it out on her mind and realized that I had been giving clues since I was 4. There are entirely too many people going on hormones too soon and not having medical and psychological treatment. I even had to take the MMPI to ensure I was 100% mentally stable to ensure my PTSD was not a factor and that I didn’t have any underlying psychological issues that could be a part of me being transgender. That was all before I was allowed to start testosterone. The test did show I thought as a male. And processed things as a male typically would. That made no sense to me but whatever.
Please keep talking with and about transgender issues. You have only ever spoken truth. If you didn’t get it 100% correct you ask questions and actually listen to what transgender people say.
I absolutely support people wanting to be who they are. Whatever that means.
HOWEVER WE ARE SCREWING UP OUR CHILDREN WITH THIS IDENTITY CURCUS!
I said something about the age of this and got “called out” as being a bad person and anti trans. We gotta just keep it real regardless of the backlash of the blindly ignorant and overly sensitive
I'm so proud of you Arielle you're doing so much for the LESBIAN community we need more famous lgb Voices to be this courageous & speak up just like you doing thank you so much for being our voice
bruh with that definition i could be trans. all i wear is dudes clothing and im barely feminine. but guess what? there is a better term for that. tom boy
But do you have medically diagnosed gender dsyphoria??? No oh then your not trans you idiot
@@yassine8935 you don't have to be rude.
OR just a regular woman who is not into typical female things.
Okay, but do people insist you are trans? No. I had never anyone telling me I was trans because I was an masculine girl, I came out as trans because I am, and I decided for myself that I am.
True and its a blessing that you realize that but even level headed intelligent (otherwise) people have a stereotype of women who remain "tomboys" into adulthood as being problematic/definitely lesbian and or bisexual or closeted/ not professional or appropriate etc and that's why so many young women have received the message that the only way to make being an adult tomboy acceptable.
Yes , and for the children. Not just because of any phobia. It takes a long time to come to terms with a pubescent body. As a 61 year old female. I was such a Tomboy! In today's climate I would have been a target for all of this identity fad. I saw myself as an athlete, a " never where dresses or skirts " girl. I detested prissy girly behavior. I didn't like that my rear end got softer, my body held onto fat... In high-school I was both fashion forward and tomboy. I was inundated with the radical feminist doctrine. Magazines, commercials. We were kids. By my twenties, I became a bit more comfortable with my body, and saw myself as attractive. Latter I started to like dresses, skirts, heels. Now I'm the most effeminate I've ever been!
The point I'm making is, leave kids alone. It is not societies role to indoctrinate, enlighten, support through deception. It is the parent's role to raise their child. Wait, watch, listen, love, and don't lead. As human beings we go through SO many stages, as children we are vulnerable, and so easily lead through trust.
The idea of aborting a child's puberty is abusive. Experimenting with children's lives is abusive.
It is truly unconscionable to usurp a parent's parental rights based upon what a child thinks at the moment , regarding this topic.
Thank you for speaking up
This is SO IMPORTANT. I am a trans guy and have known since I was like 15 but didn't start my medical transition until recently. I think if someone is going to medically transition, they need to have gender dysphoria and need to see a therapist for a considerable amount of time so they can assess your mental health, any traumas and whether or not they truly have dysphoria.
Also I waited until I had worked through the internalized homophobia towards being a "lesbian" and realized the gender dysphoria I've had was still there and it really was more than just internalized homophobia. It's important to ask yourself those hard questions before you come out.
Austyn Stone yeah same here. But I am now at a point where I actually know I am trans but am still so scared to make a mistake cause all of those cases of detransitioners. Even though I never experienced trauma, no eating disorder, I am not even in to women (so I cant be a confused lesbian) and still this discourse scares me.
Yea, that's the other end of this issue... The people who are actually trans have this fear of "oh but like what if this is a mistake for me tho"
Like i feel that too and it was part of the reason it took me forever to come out because I was like "but what if" but I eventually was like dude your trans
Well done for being so sensible about it. Wishing you all the best.
I really messed up my relationships with people because I came out as trans, and I recently realized that I don't identify as male, I just thought I did because I was told I should. I'm glad I realized before I took drastic measures.
Good for you.
AS a hetero just my POV..i never understand or understood this concept...I IDENTIFY as INSERT F/M
I'm just a person and my body is of a male and i am attracted to the opposite sex, but that doesn't mean i am attracted to every woman i meet..
So what i try to ask you ...How does this identification work..how can you say i am a male when you are a female...
When even me as a straight guy cannot identify what it is to be 'Male' when i am just being me..
It is an absurd idea for me to say such thing...
It is like saying i identify as a dog..but you have 0 clue what it is to be a dog..you can only have an idea how it is to be a dog and that is based on how the dog act/react. So on what do we base our assumption ..i don't understand it.
It is like a white man saying i feel more as an asian...
I dare you t o go ask asian people this question = how does it feel to be asian..??
They will look at you weird..because its a totally idiotic question to be asked in the first place..like asking how does air taste...how does blue feel ...etc
L K well, there’s a thing here. You identify as a “human”. Which is cool, we use language to describe ourselves and the world but at the end of the day- these words are just that. Words. Inside of you... “you” reside. And I think the community would call me a “trans med” because I believe you need gender dysphoria to be trans (Specifically, there’s no “identifying” as the opposite sex as much as there is just massive conflict between the biology of your brain + body). This can be observed. Your internal peace confirms that there is no conflict between your body + brain, which is wonderful. But some individuals were born differently and it can get dangerous without any help.
L K but I agree and see where you are coming from. I just wanted to add on top of that and explain my own opinions. I think and hope most of us know that we are simply individuals with a wide range of experiences that build who we are.
@@fakenamelol527 Sure we have all our own experiences. But to get back to what you said even if it is just an example.
I don't identify as a human...it just a word that means nothing to me. Because explain to me what is human...it is not to put into 1 definition that i am aware of or better said that i recognize myself in.
All i know is. I have thoughts, i have rationality and the other spectrum is i have emotions, i have hopes, dreams and fears. And that is what i can identify for sure.
But human is way too wide to specifically pin point what that even 'IS'
And the same goes for 'Male' i cannot pinpoint what that is.
The only thing i can pinpoint about male is the physical attributes...but when it comes to inner attributes...it is not the place to use that word 'male' in that space i believe...
But like you said it is not in my experience pool because there is no conflict there.
We all can identify each other emotions/thought/dreams and hopes even if the opposite sex or race or whatever is true..because its a common language we all are ruled by in some sort of way.
But i don't believe 'gender' is a common language in the same way as thought and emotions etc are...
Gender is specifically only for those who have gender dysphoria..
But what trouble me the most is the pushing of this agenda for everyone to accept this behavior as deemed 'normal'
And if you don't go along with it you are a bigot or trans phobic or whatever.
I say this is manipulation in a very wicked form.
Why would i accept depression as a normal thing when i see dysphoria also in the same spectrum. Something that for some odd reason imprison the individual thought and feelings from having a non conflicted life.
So for someone with depression..their only way out for a conflict free life could be suicide.
And for the gender dysphoria people it would mean 2 things..change sex and the need to be accepted by 'society/outside forces'
My worries lies when emotions overshadow facts and begin to lead unto a path that is far more destructive in the end...
When you stop call a disease a disease...that day you stop any invention or progress to get rid of that disease.
And when the disease becomes the norm..it opens new doors for other diseases to be overlooked as diseases.
This in the end will create a very unstable society, where people need to keep their mouth shut and cannot vent their own thought or opinion on what they deem right or wrong.
Either way you are with the new 'norm' or either way you are a 'insert all negative words' => .......
We can see it in the muslim world also for example.
It boils down to this..
Each party has a view of how he is viewing himself..and if this view is highly elevated in their own eyes..every form of criticism is to be shut down ...
And by this definition these groups or people are the direct opposite faction of freedom of speech...
You cannot call out actions of certain muslims because the actions itself are maybe portrayed as a good thing in their own pov.
And it is not about the muslims , don't get me wrong..
It is about not having a common ground on what is right and true anymore..and so there is no debate anymore..
Only shutting down and feeling BUTTHURT which is HIGHLY not RATIONAL but EMOTIONAL ..
And never should you build a society on EMOTIONS OR THOUGHTS.
You build it on facts..that the only thing that most of the time doesn't change.
You can take for example yourself..
I'm sure you once believed in something or felt something about certain things..but trough time and experience it has changed.
That is not what we call stable...
So our society is in for a lot of change...
Eventually there will be battle/suppression/etc and it will balance out but again blood will be spilled once again.
Because every new group that rises up...challenge the status quo..and sometimes you need to defend the status quo because it serves all men and women.
Can't wait till the next group arrives out of the box of pandora..
The pedophiles..shall we also seem them as normal and have respect for their feelings that they a re born this way ,therefore we should do anything we can to accommodate them.
Let us bring them children to satisfy their needs so their conflict goes away, this for sure will serve and creates better society where love is abundant and every individual needs are met.
When the majority bows down to a minority..don't expect something good to come out of it.
Proof is in 'migration' which is a fact in itself..you don't create assimilation at all..in fact you created dissimulation.
Because the main focus was people needs and feelings and in that path we neglected the bigger picture.
End of rant :D
At least on youtube sometimes you can have more meaningfull convo then in real life
I blame the parents for allowing this.
Yes. I'm a mother. And I simply can't imagine how a parent can do this to their child. If one of my sons comes to me when he's a man and says that he's actually a woman. Well, that will be entirely his own decision to make. Just as it would be if he's gay. But no way would I even think about hormones and surgery for a growing child or teen.
@@Redrosewitch
All mothers are beautiful & great parents.
It's the men & Patriarchal Structures are oppressing children & women.
We are surviving every day. Nazis & evil Capitalists around every corner.
Stay strong.
Stay alive.
#bernie2020
@@bestdjaf7499 you're an idiot and bigot. It's mostly women pushing their kids to go through with this transitioning. They're the ones taking them to the doctor and giving them hormones. You crazy man haters are calling men toxic and bad. These poor confused boys are being bullied out of being masculine from people like you.
@@bestdjaf7499 your one o them bernie bros aint cha? Hows it feels to have yo party kick dear ol bernie in his dried out nutters? America don't need your socialistic, communistic values. Why don't cha tell yo bros to go work fer a livin. Oi i hear Pres Trump raise job availability. So even ya dumbasses get get em some jobs.
The most that children should do is cut/ grow out their hair and wear different clothes, never should they take hormones
I'm incredibly impressed with the comments that I'm reading. I'm very proud of those of you being emotionally vulnerable and sharing what you went through. It sheds light on perspective and exactly what is actually going on with our youth. I thank you for sharing. I feel that what you have shared is going to reach people that need to know that they aren't alone. I feel This will be how positive change, healing, and unity begins. 👍💪❤️
I thought I was trans when I was little. I liked playing in the mud, with bugs, I hated girlie things, I wore baggie clothes and felt like I was a dude.
Then I hit puberty at 13. I embraced my feminine side once I was 16/17, and now I'm just a "normal" girl.
Things have gotten really out of hand with this whole thing, we've basically swung too far in the other direction.
Kitty Gentyl I was exactly the same - refused to wear girls clothes until 16, never went anywhere without a football, puberty at 12 was the worst day of my life (that reoccurs monthly for the foreseeable 😂) and at 16/17 I started to embrace it and realised I can be boyish when I want to and girly too. I don’t understand all these labels that get used now but remember watching a trans documentary with my mum at about 11 and she asked if that’s how I felt about myself and I’m so glad the alarm bells in my head went off and told me that transgenderism is wrong.
This presumably “well-meaning” of children as young as 12 making decisions that could render into incapable of one day having and raising children of their own- is scary. Unfortunately some side effects are permanent.
Liccy Fuentes when children want to transition at age 12, there is no medical measures taken. You are not allowed to medically transition at age 12 anywhere as far as I am concerned. Puberty blockers are the only thing they MIGHT give a 12 year old, but there are no permanent effects. What decision are you under the impression is so permanent?
@@jordanwarburton5800 you're wrong. There are places that allow children to make adult decisions. There are irreparable damages done to CHILDREN getting hormone blockers. Why are you wanting to hurt children? They are clearly not old enough to make these decisions. It's ominous that people are even allowing them to make life altering choices like that.
Ollie Foxx Ollie Foxx hormone blockers have no irreversible effects so.....not sure how I’m wrong. Not sure what the “irreversible” effects that are so damaging to children are. Please educate me if you figure it out.
@@jordanwarburton5800 so they don't have risk of sterilization, increase in osteoporosis in females, etc...
You think that giving a child hormone blockers is ethical? You think it's ok to perform irreversible surgeries on children is ok? What reason can you provide that justifies blocking a child's hormones?
I've never agreed with a video more since the beginning of RUclips! I've been saying all of these things for YEARS, but apparently I'm not allowed to have a voice because I'm a "cis" gendered, heterosexual woman. Thank you so much for making this video to bring awareness to this issue. You're very brave for doing so in this crazy society these days.
"Non-trans" ppl can talk about trans "issues" cuz they are being forced upon everyone and I am affected.
When did it go from "be free to be who you are" to "you act like this therefore we'll tell you who you are and you must behave the way we say"
You’re so right so many lesbians are doing this to appear and feel more “normal” to onlookers as a goal of being in a passable “heteronormative” relationship and also some for fear of being touched back bc of insecurity and lack of control. Thank you for this video!
One day, we will look back on this time and wonder what the hell we were thinking.
The natural hormone process should never be messed with
Imagine how difficult it is to stop when you've gone down that path for so long
To have the emotional strain of fighting for acceptance and support from your family and friends, take irreversible drugs and undergo irreversible surgeries and then, after all that, to have to turn around and admit you were wrong
I imagine there are many who simply can't by that point.
Likely one of the reasons the suicide rate amongst transgendered persons is so high...
Imagine the amount of courage they must muster to admit that they were wrong and detransition... How admirable 💪
@@NursingSoldier365 Exactly this.
I had a friend who around a year ago finally got a breast reduction because after a lot of thought she decided that was best for her as opposed to a double mastectomy. At one point thought she was trans because from the time she hit puberty and put on any feminine features she got a lot of inappropriate attention from older men, before I had even met her I heard her refereed to as having huge boobs. We live in a society that is passive when it come to harassment of women and even underage girls, of course they don't want to identify as their birth sex, of course they have body issues.
The pendulum is about to swing the other way. Hard. And that makes me really sad for trans people.
Yeah, you’re right :/ My history teacher taught my class about the pendulum thing 14 years ago when I was a high school freshman and it’s always stuck with me. The pendulum always swings from one side to the other every few years, swinging further and further to each side each time, until it does a full 360 revolution.
@@roxycocksey considering the support for lgbt people in the uk are dropping, i can see this coming. Mainstream people are starting to realize the ridiculousness of trans activism. Especially with JK Rowling who keep raise awareness against TRAs. She could be seen cancelled, but many lay people are actually agree with her.
@Nobody Owens it's the idea that in history, when the opinions of the day go too far to one extreme, the pendulum will swing full circle to the opposite extreme.
Only in this case, it truly saddens me, because I don't believe most trans people are extreme, but those who only know what the see on Twitter etc think they are...
The media has put out the most extreme things so both sides aren’t represented well. An honest media is what we need globally.
My sister was a pediatrician and was told to hide gender issues of her patients from parents. She never would comply with that.