First of all, Mel Robbins, you are baller. Your confidence alone is inspiring which is what makes this video impactful. And this helps so much. I am a musician, and when I try to find gigs, I notice a lot of men are getting live gigs and not women. I think it's because women are not confident. I myself realized I have cowered by the way men talk to me. Particularly, one night, I went out to play at an open mic night, and the whole bar went silent. I made eye contact with every single person in the bar, because all eyes were on me. People were dancing, crying. It was proof that I was good. But when I was done, this guy who was a talent scout (I think) talked to me. He told me I was too young (wtf I'm 19?), and that he didn't think I'd get anywhere, but maybe I would have fun doing it. And, honestly, I realized in that moment I cowered. I probably looked desperate and disappointed in my facial expressions. I let his words affect me too much. I spoke to him and with each word I became less and less confident. It ruined my night actually. So why are all the guys the ones playing live music when more girls study singing growing up? Because they don't have the confidence. That's why they don't get ahead. Thanks for this. Truth is: that guy was a jackass and more importantly, he was wrong. He was most likely jealous because I was 20 years younger than him and got the attention of the entire bar, probably something hes never done. Thanks so much for this!!
Katie Louise Geesh, 19 years old! Be damn proud of yourself! And you know the guy was jealous, he saw you do something he couldn't do when he was a lost 19 year old, that's why he said you are too young because you're already better than he was at that age and he couldn't wrap his head around it - jealousy and projection that's all. Also saying to someone of your age that they're never going to succeed - how the hell dares he?! - is not constructive criticism, only listen to constructive criticism and learn from it. If you managed to get up and perform at your age and people listened you are definitely succeeding, judging by your comment you're also smart and perceptive, you're only going to get better. Keep going, keep studying, ignore jealous idiots and be proud of yourself for following your dreams because that's true courage, not many do. Rant over.
Prelestnost2 Wow, thanks for taking the time to write that, it is very encouraging. I appreciate that you see the situation similar to me. It is one of the hardest things to do to believe in yourself. Thanks for helping me know how to deflect criticism like that. Feel free to head over to my channel and check out my music. I'm working one step at a time, but I hope that I get there😆😆😆😄😄
Your an absolute brave girl, keep on doing what you want to do and pursue you dreams since anything is possible! I'm 19 years old too and I'm also getting into a field where it's mostly male denominated which is engineering. But what's helped me to thrive is confidence, it helps to make people have more belief in you. I had a new interview for another engineering company a month ago which I'm hoping to start soon and the hiring manager told me how they liked me, were very impressed and liked how I'm confident so this video really does give some insight. Us girls can totally do this :)
*Caution! This practice of uploading conference recordings may directly violate your company's secrecy policies, especially if you Work outside the US!* Once Google (RUclips's mother) or ANY other US Server has your file, it IS Game to the NSA. ALready forgotten?
There are other tools that one can practice outside the meetings everyday to build confidence. Positive affirmations, meditation to calm fearful thoughts, physical health and 'feel good' dressing. You may not say much but people catch an energetic and positive vibe. Another word for confidence is faith. If you believe your life will turn out great whatever happens, you won't have much trouble expressing yourself.
Am ok on the confidence, speaking up, but I had some facepalm moments of recognition here for other aspects mentioned! Makes perfect sense, once realized and known! THANKS!
I once had a boss tell me, "I noticed you don't take any notes." I told her I'm listening and taking note of everything being said. She told me not taking notes was a sign of a lack of engagement. From that day forward, took notes. Then, I was told my emails were too long. So I shortened them. I was then told I wasn't "clear enough." So, if women are lacking confidence in the workplace, it's because the rules are constantly shifting. Everything we do is "wrong," we're doing it "wrong," and there is a better way to do it. Perhaps if we stop trying to mold ourselves to everyone else's expectations, we will have more self-confidence.
Permission To Exist she didn't say not to take ANY notes... that's irresponsible. she's saying to be more visibly engaged and be more efficient in how you take note in a meeting setting. listen beyond the words to the real message.She's encouraging us to believe in our own capabilities and to act like it,thereby inspiring other to believe as well
I understand that aspect, but I'm responding to the title of the video. She listed off a few reasons we're perceived poorly in the workplace, but fails to see that the constant "guidance" of women contributes to our low self-esteem in the workplace. Do this, don't do that. You're doing too much of that. Do less. No do more again. Don't wear that, it's intimidating. Wear this! And on and on and on. Maybe if we were coached more on business matters and less on perception, we'd "get ahead" in the workplace.
You're right. We as women do this to one another. The thing that helps me is not giving a damn. I have realized early on that opportunity came when I was just myself and the person on the other end liked me. Some people may like you and others won't nothing you can do other than know that what's for you will be yours.
Priyanka W ------ You are missing the point completely. Authentic confidence is a natural outgrowth of authentic competence. However many if not most woman (and men) are confident based on self delusion, not based on authentic skill or experience. Many attain achievement because they are plugged into governmental or corporate ""welfare systems"" that promote based on absurd criteria. So they walk around all confident based on nothing but the fact they they got a job or were promoted -- when in fact, if they were working within a true corporate environment, they would not survive a month. There are so many people walking around playing "make believe" thinking they achieved something when in fact they are just plugged into a corporate "welfare system".
Solar Ray I promise you that you are wrong...at my work place, people get ahead not based purely on competence but a combination of both...two programmers...they do the exact same thing, but one gets a promotion first because of he's confidence...it's so glaring everyone can see the difference
So true. You can can have a loud mouth at management meetings that conveys confidence in never shutting up but is not competent in the mgr position they hold.
Actually in the psychology of performance there's this thing called the competence-confidence loop: the more someone gains self-efficacy, which is the belief that they can take action and actually achieve desired results, the more they get confident. Now self-efficacy is the result of practice and past results. Think of it this way: can Beyonce be unconfident about her voice? It's impossible. Why? She has performed successfully enough times to have a level of competence that she can trust in. And it's this trust in your ability to perform successfully that we refer to as confidence. So confidence can't exist without competence. An increase in competence always, always, always drives an increase in confidence. So if there are women who are not confident this means that deep down they know that they actually haven't run the tough miles, spent considerable time practicing, and then been long enough on the battlefield to trust their abilities. It's literally that simple. To this day I haven't met someone who wasn't confident about taking a shower, or brushing their teeth, or browsing the internet. Yes I chose low level skills to show you clearly that confidence comes with mastery. These are things everyone has mastered so nobody is ever unconfident about them. So if you can even doubt yourself for a second, then you still have work to put in and room to grow. It's that simple. All the best. PS: If you killed it enough times at some point you sit back and realize that you actually slay. And you accept it. You own it. You realize that it's your identity. This is what confidence is all about. It's not about affirmations and wishful thinking. You can always game the system by throwing a "strategic" in every other sentence but at the end of the day do you respect and admire the achievements of the person you see in the mirror?
I really believe in developing confidence as a movement towards a more successful over all career. Creative people are so powerful and smart yet they don't know know how to be publically assertive. They also discount their own value to the world as an active contributor. Becoming more confident and visible is a skill we all need to develop more actively. It's not about ego, you certainly don't want to be the smartest person in the room, nor should you want to be in a room where your the smartest and most talented.. Instead listen to others and be a valued contributor to the conversations. Even if that means that you just acknowledge what someone else has taught you and how much you appreciated their perspective, Strategy and contribution.
One of the most important things to do is raise our girls with more confidence, like we do with the boys, teach the girls they don't need to change core things about them, that the main traits to be successful they already have. And also ...teach the boys the same, that they also dont have to fit in this tiny box of what is expected from them when it comes to becoming a men.
Some great advice here, but I still think it is telling women how to 'play at man's game' to be like them, instead of questioning the underlying patriarchal culture. Confidence is an indicator of nothing. It indicates nothing about the skills, aptitude or intelligence to do a job. Yet the patriarchal culture deems this important. So women get videos and lessons about how to be more confident ... and still nothing changes. The patriarchy is the problem, and changing us to be like them is trying to beat them at their game on their playing ground. Let us use our strengths and challenge the cultural norms dictated by a patriarchal order. I don't want to be told to be more like a man to be successful, I want to be in a world where women's different strengths are given the same consideration, are seen as valuable, are able to be leveraged in an environment that accepts the value of diversity instead of conformity.
I always try to “legally blonde” my way in. I try all the techniques Mel says but I don’t let it get in the way of my femininity. This is so fucking difficult because even re-applying lipstick can send a different message. But ya know we keep going at it
Oh o! Then you will loose the glamour dear! Results speak for itself though. 'Women's different strengths' as you say, would have already been in the criteria list of success had that yield results.
This is such an important reminder - thank you Lauralee. I absolutely adore Mel Robbins and so much of her ideas and advice have helped me in overcoming my fears and anxiety; but your comment reminded me of how important it is to step back and reflect on how much of this is actually conformity to a diseased system.
powerful information. I feel all women should get confidence. in everything they are doing , within my own perspective, if women don't have confident within themselves men will take advantage of them. mam this is my own philosophy to get good confidence in my self.T o all the women out there we should know this even if we don't know anything we have to worked hard to know things on our own. This is the reason our men from African country are treating us like we are so dumb enough to treat us . We will give them all the solid respect they deserves. as long as they know that you don't know any thing they will just act up ridiculously. Like yesterday in campus I meet with my advisor he asked me why you don't met with me to discuss about your remaining classes before you go out of the college. I told him you don't worry I have taken care of it because my days are numbered here. I told me I even add more subjects on them he was baffle and said what ? He said most t of them will follow me. because they will missed. me too much from their midst.I told them I have to move on as a lady my time is up to go to the real world and see what is happening in real life.Mam concerning about women should gets confidence I do have it big time I remember the first place I was working before everybody don't want me to go you can tell from their faces their eyes was dropping tears.The manager told me I can apply to them at any time to work with them. Unfortunately their companies had closed down. In Conclusion women we do need to gets confidence in every thing especially in our difficult times. powerful message.
I enjoyed this video very much.This set of skills sounds so obvious once you have them, but seemingly they are exactly the ones that most lack to people on general. I was once like that too, very extroverted but doubted myself too much getting nowhere really. I would very much like to encourage people to Invest in these qualities for themselves WITHOUT sounding arrogant and like I got it all figured out..any advice?
Fear of speaking in a group setting, the comments I’ve made or asked clarification for my job, the team gets upset at me, gives me dirty looks, I found out they’re talking behind my back negative things to manager.
I've been binging your videos for the past few days and all I want to say is: Thank you and I love you for sharing your knowledge on how to tackle these issues that no one else has taught me how to handle, even when I've asked over and over again.
I always speak in meetings. But whenever I want to speak I see ppl's facial expressions changing...like "ugh again she has to open her mouth!!!". I also know ppl (and not just one) telling me, don't ask doubts/share ideas cz that will prolong the meeting. Now I have stopped putting forward my doubts/ideas!!! :(
All are good points for woman starting out on a job when their manager has not seen their work that much yet. What do you do when you have tried showing your potential and that fell flat on face? What about when you do not value the opinion of your manager in the first place??
NOTES: Harvard studies says that the #1 reason women don't get promoted is their lack of confidence. 1) raise your confidence level 2) pay attention to visible work vs invisible work 3) use the 5 second rule to speak at meetings (at least once) 4) stop writing during meetings & listen, participate (record it & use a transcribing app) 5) use the word "strategic" more often in discussions
This really is great advice! Women sabotage themselves so much in the work place in so many subtle ways. I've had several female coworkers express concern that I never take notes during meetings. What they fail to understand is that there are usually only 1-2 key takeaways from meetings that you do not need notes for and EVERYTHING else is forgotten. Taking notes seriously lowers your perceived status and confidence in the meeting which is the most important thing. The worst part is I am UNCOMFORTABLE telling them this.
One reason women don't speak up in meetings or share ideas is because they're constantly interrupted or ignored in meetings. Can't count the number of times that happened to me, even when I'm asserting myself. It's exasperating.
This won't change until there are more woman at higher positions in work places and they don't act like bitches but value their female employees and help them reach their true potential. As long as men are in these positions they will always try to suppress, that is what they do best..
My female manager says that I'm too forward and to the point and I need to add a smily happy face at the end of the emails. And add more flowery s**t before I get to the point. I work for a Fortune 500 company.
Why is the brown haired lady even there? She barely said a word the entire time. Here's Mel talking about how you shouldn't leave a meeting without talking, but this woman never says a word. Did she not hear a word Mel said???
That's the co-host of the SUCCESS Insider podcast and interviewer for this episode. Be sure to check out the entire interview here: ruclips.net/video/ZcCXvVzqJ7I/видео.html. Thanks for watching!
First of all, Mel Robbins, you are baller. Your confidence alone is inspiring which is what makes this video impactful. And this helps so much. I am a musician, and when I try to find gigs, I notice a lot of men are getting live gigs and not women. I think it's because women are not confident. I myself realized I have cowered by the way men talk to me. Particularly, one night, I went out to play at an open mic night, and the whole bar went silent. I made eye contact with every single person in the bar, because all eyes were on me. People were dancing, crying. It was proof that I was good. But when I was done, this guy who was a talent scout (I think) talked to me. He told me I was too young (wtf I'm 19?), and that he didn't think I'd get anywhere, but maybe I would have fun doing it. And, honestly, I realized in that moment I cowered. I probably looked desperate and disappointed in my facial expressions. I let his words affect me too much. I spoke to him and with each word I became less and less confident. It ruined my night actually. So why are all the guys the ones playing live music when more girls study singing growing up? Because they don't have the confidence. That's why they don't get ahead. Thanks for this. Truth is: that guy was a jackass and more importantly, he was wrong. He was most likely jealous because I was 20 years younger than him and got the attention of the entire bar, probably something hes never done. Thanks so much for this!!
Katie Louise Geesh, 19 years old! Be damn proud of yourself! And you know the guy was jealous, he saw you do something he couldn't do when he was a lost 19 year old, that's why he said you are too young because you're already better than he was at that age and he couldn't wrap his head around it - jealousy and projection that's all. Also saying to someone of your age that they're never going to succeed - how the hell dares he?! - is not constructive criticism, only listen to constructive criticism and learn from it. If you managed to get up and perform at your age and people listened you are definitely succeeding, judging by your comment you're also smart and perceptive, you're only going to get better. Keep going, keep studying, ignore jealous idiots and be proud of yourself for following your dreams because that's true courage, not many do. Rant over.
Prelestnost2 Wow, thanks for taking the time to write that, it is very encouraging. I appreciate that you see the situation similar to me. It is one of the hardest things to do to believe in yourself. Thanks for helping me know how to deflect criticism like that. Feel free to head over to my channel and check out my music. I'm working one step at a time, but I hope that I get there😆😆😆😄😄
Your an absolute brave girl, keep on doing what you want to do and pursue you dreams since anything is possible! I'm 19 years old too and I'm also getting into a field where it's mostly male denominated which is engineering. But what's helped me to thrive is confidence, it helps to make people have more belief in you. I had a new interview for another engineering company a month ago which I'm hoping to start soon and the hiring manager told me how they liked me, were very impressed and liked how I'm confident so this video really does give some insight. Us girls can totally do this :)
Kemi116 I love it!!!
RUclips transcribes audio files?! Whaaaaat! I never knew! Top tip in an insightful interview 👌
Leone Ranger this is so cool, can i upload audio files in RUclips to get this done?
*Caution! This practice of uploading conference recordings may directly violate your company's secrecy policies, especially if you Work outside the US!*
Once Google (RUclips's mother) or ANY other US Server has your file, it IS Game to the NSA. ALready forgotten?
There are other tools that one can practice outside the meetings everyday to build confidence. Positive affirmations, meditation to calm fearful thoughts, physical health and 'feel good' dressing. You may not say much but people catch an energetic and positive vibe. Another word for confidence is faith. If you believe your life will turn out great whatever happens, you won't have much trouble expressing yourself.
Agreed
OMG! Thank you! Siri Memo + RUclips Transcriber! Where have I been?!
Am ok on the confidence, speaking up, but I had some facepalm moments of recognition here for other aspects mentioned! Makes perfect sense, once realized and known! THANKS!
FABULOUS! MEL IS AMAZING!THANKS FOR ALL THE GREAT VIDEOS AND INFORMATION!
I felt like she was talking to me. I've definitely improve this issue recently.
Wow so true about the notes!!!
I once had a boss tell me, "I noticed you don't take any notes." I told her I'm listening and taking note of everything being said. She told me not taking notes was a sign of a lack of engagement. From that day forward, took notes. Then, I was told my emails were too long. So I shortened them. I was then told I wasn't "clear enough."
So, if women are lacking confidence in the workplace, it's because the rules are constantly shifting. Everything we do is "wrong," we're doing it "wrong," and there is a better way to do it. Perhaps if we stop trying to mold ourselves to everyone else's expectations, we will have more self-confidence.
Permission To Exist like that doesn't happen to men too?!
TheMacocko Yes, but the video is about women not getting ahead.
Permission To Exist she didn't say not to take ANY notes... that's irresponsible. she's saying to be more visibly engaged and be more efficient in how you take note in a meeting setting. listen beyond the words to the real message.She's encouraging us to believe in our own capabilities and to act like it,thereby inspiring other to believe as well
I understand that aspect, but I'm responding to the title of the video. She listed off a few reasons we're perceived poorly in the workplace, but fails to see that the constant "guidance" of women contributes to our low self-esteem in the workplace. Do this, don't do that. You're doing too much of that. Do less. No do more again. Don't wear that, it's intimidating. Wear this! And on and on and on.
Maybe if we were coached more on business matters and less on perception, we'd "get ahead" in the workplace.
You're right. We as women do this to one another. The thing that helps me is not giving a damn. I have realized early on that opportunity came when I was just myself and the person on the other end liked me. Some people may like you and others won't nothing you can do other than know that what's for you will be yours.
Very useful, thank you!
I will be using and applying all of your advice in the new year to have a better life for my self🖒😂👍
Mel is amazing!
Let's keep things in perspective --- confidence does not equal competence.
Solar Ray
True. But the problem is that competent women are being perceived as less competent because of their relative lack of confidence.
Priyanka W ------ You are missing the point completely. Authentic confidence is a natural outgrowth of authentic competence. However many if not most woman (and men) are confident based on self delusion, not based on authentic skill or experience. Many attain achievement because they are plugged into governmental or corporate ""welfare systems"" that promote based on absurd criteria. So they walk around all confident based on nothing but the fact they they got a job or were promoted -- when in fact, if they were working within a true corporate environment, they would not survive a month. There are so many people walking around playing "make believe" thinking they achieved something when in fact they are just plugged into a corporate "welfare system".
Solar Ray I promise you that you are wrong...at my work place, people get ahead not based purely on competence but a combination of both...two programmers...they do the exact same thing, but one gets a promotion first because of he's confidence...it's so glaring everyone can see the difference
So true. You can can have a loud mouth at management meetings that conveys confidence in never shutting up but is not competent in the mgr position they hold.
Actually in the psychology of performance there's this thing called the competence-confidence loop: the more someone gains self-efficacy, which is the belief that they can take action and actually achieve desired results, the more they get confident. Now self-efficacy is the result of practice and past results.
Think of it this way: can Beyonce be unconfident about her voice? It's impossible. Why? She has performed successfully enough times to have a level of competence that she can trust in. And it's this trust in your ability to perform successfully that we refer to as confidence.
So confidence can't exist without competence. An increase in competence always, always, always drives an increase in confidence. So if there are women who are not confident this means that deep down they know that they actually haven't run the tough miles, spent considerable time practicing, and then been long enough on the battlefield to trust their abilities. It's literally that simple.
To this day I haven't met someone who wasn't confident about taking a shower, or brushing their teeth, or browsing the internet. Yes I chose low level skills to show you clearly that confidence comes with mastery. These are things everyone has mastered so nobody is ever unconfident about them. So if you can even doubt yourself for a second, then you still have work to put in and room to grow. It's that simple. All the best.
PS: If you killed it enough times at some point you sit back and realize that you actually slay. And you accept it. You own it. You realize that it's your identity. This is what confidence is all about. It's not about affirmations and wishful thinking. You can always game the system by throwing a "strategic" in every other sentence but at the end of the day do you respect and admire the achievements of the person you see in the mirror?
Great advice Mel I love all your advice your AWESOME 🖒😆👍
Loved this. I needed to hear it.
I really believe in developing confidence as a movement towards a more successful over all career. Creative people are so powerful and smart yet they don't know know how to be publically assertive. They also discount their own value to the world as an active contributor. Becoming more confident and visible is a skill we all need to develop more actively. It's not about ego, you certainly don't want to be the smartest person in the room, nor should you want to be in a room where your the smartest and most talented.. Instead listen to others and be a valued contributor to the conversations. Even if that means that you just acknowledge what someone else has taught you and how much you appreciated their perspective, Strategy and contribution.
One of the most important things to do is raise our girls with more confidence, like we do with the boys, teach the girls they don't need to change core things about them, that the main traits to be successful they already have. And also ...teach the boys the same, that they also dont have to fit in this tiny box of what is expected from them when it comes to becoming a men.
AWESOME VIDEO! GREAT TIPS! 5..4..3..2..1..TAKE ACTION
Some great advice here, but I still think it is telling women how to 'play at man's game' to be like them, instead of questioning the underlying patriarchal culture. Confidence is an indicator of nothing. It indicates nothing about the skills, aptitude or intelligence to do a job. Yet the patriarchal culture deems this important. So women get videos and lessons about how to be more confident ... and still nothing changes. The patriarchy is the problem, and changing us to be like them is trying to beat them at their game on their playing ground. Let us use our strengths and challenge the cultural norms dictated by a patriarchal order. I don't want to be told to be more like a man to be successful, I want to be in a world where women's different strengths are given the same consideration, are seen as valuable, are able to be leveraged in an environment that accepts the value of diversity instead of conformity.
I always try to “legally blonde” my way in. I try all the techniques Mel says but I don’t let it get in the way of my femininity. This is so fucking difficult because even re-applying lipstick can send a different message. But ya know we keep going at it
Oh o! Then you will loose the glamour dear! Results speak for itself though. 'Women's different strengths' as you say, would have already been in the criteria list of success had that yield results.
This is such an important reminder - thank you Lauralee. I absolutely adore Mel Robbins and so much of her ideas and advice have helped me in overcoming my fears and anxiety; but your comment reminded me of how important it is to step back and reflect on how much of this is actually conformity to a diseased system.
Thank you!! Valuable advice! :)
great advise, and to the point! thank you.
Wow! huge eye opener!
my confidence faded when i used to talk in group discussions but my opinion wasn't raised or furthered what do you say about that
Thanks mel
Thank you
Confidence comes from belief in ourselves, and belief in ourselves comes from constant practise in our work. At the end these all becomes a habbit.
powerful information. I feel all women should get confidence. in everything they are doing , within my own perspective, if women don't have confident within themselves men will take advantage of them. mam this is my own philosophy to get good confidence in my self.T o all the women out there we should know this even if we don't know anything we have to worked hard to know things on our own. This is the reason our men from African country are treating us like we are so dumb enough to treat us . We will give them all the solid respect they deserves. as long as they know that you don't know any thing they will just act up ridiculously. Like yesterday in campus I meet with my advisor he asked me why you don't met with me to discuss about your remaining classes before you go out of the college. I told him you don't worry I have taken care of it because my days are numbered here. I told me I even add more subjects on them he was baffle and said what ? He said most t of them will follow me. because they will missed. me too much from their midst.I told them I have to move on as a lady my time is up to go to the real world and see what is happening in real life.Mam concerning about women should gets confidence I do have it big time I remember the first place I was working before everybody don't want me to go you can tell from their faces their eyes was dropping tears.The manager told me I can apply to them at any time to work with them. Unfortunately their companies had closed down. In Conclusion women we do need to gets confidence in every thing especially in our difficult times. powerful message.
I enjoyed this video very much.This set of skills sounds so obvious once you have them, but seemingly they are exactly the ones that most lack to people on general. I was once like that too, very extroverted but doubted myself too much getting nowhere really. I would very much like to encourage people to Invest in these qualities for themselves WITHOUT sounding arrogant and like I got it all figured out..any advice?
Fear of speaking in a group setting, the comments I’ve made or asked clarification for my job, the team gets upset at me, gives me dirty looks, I found out they’re talking behind my back negative things to manager.
What is the study she refers to women using the word strategic in different settings? I'd love to read that one.
Where does RUclips transcribe these files.
I've been binging your videos for the past few days and all I want to say is: Thank you and I love you for sharing your knowledge on how to tackle these issues that no one else has taught me how to handle, even when I've asked over and over again.
How should I take notes?....the audio memo? RUclips? Didn't get it...am not good in technology lol
not true I have confidence galore and management won't even hire me because they are afraid for their jobs
so I created industry for my business.
So true. Management is afraid that strong women might take their job someday.
I always speak in meetings. But whenever I want to speak I see ppl's facial expressions changing...like "ugh again she has to open her mouth!!!".
I also know ppl (and not just one) telling me, don't ask doubts/share ideas cz that will prolong the meeting.
Now I have stopped putting forward my doubts/ideas!!! :(
i love her
All are good points for woman starting out on a job when their manager has not seen their work that much yet.
What do you do when you have tried showing your potential and that fell flat on face?
What about when you do not value the opinion of your manager in the first place??
Know when you're in the wrong place. Gained all the new things that you can for your resume and move to another place.
NOTES:
Harvard studies says that the #1 reason women don't get promoted is their lack of confidence.
1) raise your confidence level
2) pay attention to visible work vs invisible work
3) use the 5 second rule to speak at meetings (at least once)
4) stop writing during meetings & listen, participate (record it & use a transcribing app)
5) use the word "strategic" more often in discussions
Brilliant
Thank you for this tip
This really is great advice! Women sabotage themselves so much in the work place in so many subtle ways. I've had several female coworkers express concern that I never take notes during meetings. What they fail to understand is that there are usually only 1-2 key takeaways from meetings that you do not need notes for and EVERYTHING else is forgotten. Taking notes seriously lowers your perceived status and confidence in the meeting which is the most important thing. The worst part is I am UNCOMFORTABLE telling them this.
What's this lady's name?
Mel
One reason women don't speak up in meetings or share ideas is because they're constantly interrupted or ignored in meetings. Can't count the number of times that happened to me, even when I'm asserting myself. It's exasperating.
managers, womagers.
can someone pleas spell the word.
This won't change until there are more woman at higher positions in work places and they don't act like bitches but value their female employees and help them reach their true potential.
As long as men are in these positions they will always try to suppress, that is what they do best..
My female manager says that I'm too forward and to the point and I need to add a smily happy face at the end of the emails. And add more flowery s**t before I get to the point. I work for a Fortune 500 company.
2:10 - you've just breached confidentiality twice, _and_ given copyright on the discussion to both Apple and RUclips/Alphabet.
What was the word?
sHiNeOn305 thanks😊
Bawse.
Why is the brown haired lady even there? She barely said a word the entire time. Here's Mel talking about how you shouldn't leave a meeting without talking, but this woman never says a word. Did she not hear a word Mel said???
That's the co-host of the SUCCESS Insider podcast and interviewer for this episode. Be sure to check out the entire interview here: ruclips.net/video/ZcCXvVzqJ7I/видео.html. Thanks for watching!